I understand that she’s a modern woman, attempting to address the issues faced by Pakistani men and the traditional mindset of Pakistani society. However, this is where I feel a disconnect. I grew up as a first-generation British Asian woman with Pakistani parents, but I was raised in the UK, balancing my belief system with a Westernized upbringing. For the first 35 years of my life, I followed a mix of cultural values that stemmed from both Pakistani and Indian influences, which I initially thought was synonymous with being Muslim. However, to truly understand my faith, I had to start from scratch as an adult, reading the Quran with knowledge and tafseer, learning my rights and responsibilities, as well as my husband’s, as outlined in Islam. These roles are distinct yet straightforward, much simpler than what culture imposes on us. What she’s advocating aligns with the perspective of a modern British woman, which isn’t inherently wrong, but it doesn’t necessarily apply in Pakistan, a country sharply divided between the wealthy, Westernized elite and those deeply religious or unaware of true Islamic teachings. This divide is enormous, and it’s unrealistic to impose these modern ideas on those who either don’t understand or follow Islam from a cultural standpoint rather than with knowledge. Islam is clear and unchanging, and as Muslims, we’re accountable to Allah alone. Good intentions aside, we can’t alter the rules set out in our faith. We need to revisit the Quran and Hadith with an open mind to realign ourselves. Otherwise, we’re at risk of losing our way. I do however agree heavily on therapy and this is allowed in deen. Unfortunately the cost of it here in uk would be £70 an hour it’s not viable with the average man or woman’s pay check unfortunately. And one does have to find the perfect fit. Kudos to those who make enough and lucky enough to find one! Allah bless u all and wish all happiness and healthy families always . And woman we do need to look after our own health and well being. No one else will !
Pakistan main masla hai ke jahan aurat ke hakook ki baat aegi wahan shut up call kardaingay... Pakistan main kis ne Quran parha hai tafseer se? Kis ne Ap S.A.W.W ki seerat parhi hai? Kis ne apne upar kaam kiya hai? Wahan to keh detay hain shadi hogi to thik hojaega ya hojaegi.. u think marriage is a counselling place? No she is right u have to do it before and there is nothing wrong...and most of the ppl in Pakistan only know boy's rights no one stands for girl's right
Talking with ur daughter about her periods is not new or modern or rich ppl thing...every girl has periods ...talking about everything with ur kids is not wrong...when they ll learn that from someone else then it will be wrong.
Stupid advice. A girls most fertile years are 20's ... in 30's downward spiral towards health begins, guys remain young but women suffer alot of health issues if she conceive in later ages
Bilkul Bakwas. Aurat bache older age main bache paida kar sakte hai. Mard ki fertility expose karo! 30+ mard ka sperm quality drop ho jati hai aur phir health issues like autism aur disability bachon pe ajata hai. Pakistan ki jungli awam kabhi ni educate karte apne apko. 'Guys remain young' my foot. It' is so shameful that you are a woman and spreading this nonsense.
Hey girl your country is giving birth not to save Palestine so just keep your opinion to yourself jangg tou larty ni jihad krtay ni world is destroying n they want toxic generation to build
People don't drag religion in this talk.. Honestly how many people are living with true Islamic values? How many people have read entire Quran themselves with tafseers and complete Hadith? Other then experts on net of Dr.Israr, Naik and Maulan etc? Religion teaches strength of character and sincerity and commitment etc.
She lives abroad probably in America or uk whn ye cheexain normally discuss ki jatee hain even k chote bachon who are like 12 yrs old they know that tu un k liye matter ni krta aur krna b ni chaiye cuz ye real h . Aur movies main ana aur gay hona is a different thing. Pakistan main inn cheezon ko pta ni kia smja jata h
@ZlogsUK it's not about Pakistan. Its about your religion. Prophet Muhammad once in his hadith said that don't go even near to vulgarity. Not being vulgar but being the part and applauding a movie which promotes sinful act ,isn't it same?We should avoid those people conversations who are taking part in the normalisation of LGBTQ agenda in Pakistan.
@faizasiddique6201 if you take her marriage advices seriously although they are worth listening would lead you towards her those advices which could shake your religious believes.
Work on making the boys and girls mature in their 20s. 20s is not early to get married. The girls and boys in Pakistan are not mature enough in their 20s.
Don't take what this woman says seriously. Congratulations on getting married young. May you have many happy years together being young lovers with your spouse and young parents is a big blessing.
The best thing I’ve seen on TH-cam in a while. I’m so happy Pakistan is finally progressing where a woman is able to talk about such bold topics kudos Sarwat we need more podcasts like this TALK ABOUT IMPORTANT ISSUES THAT ARE TABOO IN PAKISTAN BUT THEY NEED TO BE TALKED ABOUT
Ek to Meri ye samajh NAHI ata when these women says I come from a very strict background Bhai ye Konsa strict background he jis me ap media pe a k sleeveless or backless pehen k ghoom sakti hen apka brought up agar itna strict he 😂 normal middle-class women can't even go in a Chadar by her choice agar Inka strict background he to hamara Kya he phr?
Thats probably before their stardom. Once they make their money, they distant themselves from restrictive parents. Last time i went to pakistan in 2021, tons of women in the nicer parts of Lahore that wore crop tops in the upper middle class and elite neighborhoods. Even in the slums, casual dating and sex is happening more commonly.
@@Azda-emina Noone becomes a spinster get real! it is the society in Pakistan that makes women feel bad. Abroad they have freedom and are not tying self worth to a man who controls EVERYTHING.
Strict Background ?? These elites can not even fathom to relate the struggles of middle class women/men, especially women. These actresses and actors should remain limited to dramas/movies/songs/fashion. The more they speak, the more it reveals about how little do they know.
9 years is not appropriate age to tell him how a baby come .dnt spoil his childhood ..i dnt know bachn ka bachpan q brbaad krna .unko mentally distrac krna ..let them live their precious time period which will never come again ..let them enjoy this life until become adult ...
It's better to inform a child the truth esp in this day and age , do you think how confused the little minds get when they see pregnancy and other such aspects on social media and then end up searching for information online and get more confused
What if a girl has her periods at 9? She should know that she can be pregnant and she should know the boundries and what can be done and not..and also boys should know about it and the boundries to keep otherwise till 15 they ll all mess up
@@GLau9494 that is a stupid comment and justification for marrying late. I am not giving interview and using my celebrity status to pass advice. Most people in older generations got married young and never divorced. The issue about divorce is a different topic, certainly if you are the self centered kind and cannot compromise in life or the kind that cannot make good judgement call of what qualities to look for in a marriage partner, abstain from marrying. But to say you shouldn't marry in 20s as it will end in divorce is a very shallow ignorant thought. I myself got married in 20s had my kids in 20s and have seen all of my friends and families do the same, still married and living meaningful lives in our 50s. Not a single divorce in my age group. Neither in my mothers age group most of who got married in their teens. If you marrying out of 'infatuation' surely that will end up bad.
@@sn8597 The best marriage advice comes from people of experience and from people who have lived the horror side of marriage. People who are just past 5 years in their marriage are in the initial stage nothing more. Ask people after they complete a decade with their spouse. Marriage requires work. I am just saying it is a responsibility and not fairytale which makes love not the main ingredient for successful marriage. “Peace” is what is required in a marriage for it to last. Even quran mentions the primary purpose of marriage is “peace”. Which is definitely not even in the slightest among todays couples. They are in marriages for their kids for money for status for sex but not for peace. Peace they find in their drinks or parties or maybe not even there.. there is no peace in todays marriages. Agree or disagree but talk to as many couples as you can and you will know.
@@GLau9494 I am a person of experience married for 30 years and speaking from my and experience of those in my circle. I am not sure why you are lecturing me about who is best to give advice, did you read my previous response?
Most of the men have impotency issues medically and bad sperm counts and quality after 30. most of the time its men who have reproduction problems including genetic issues. But its all brushed under the rug. In clinics mothers of 40 year olds dont feel ashamed of coming to fertility clinic with out wife and men are mamas boys there.. even as doctors we feel ashamed when a mother of a 40 year old man asks about her sons impotency.. asking "Bahu main masla nahen hai? We dont see religion and basic manners here!
She just talk about this life but not for after that? Y she is not teaching her sons about life after death? She is away from islam thats why she needs therapist
Such a negative spin on most things.. if the culture and upbringing was so bad, she would not have ended up on a world stage A system of network with family has survival benefits
5:30 the mindset argument is utter nonsense just because your experiences were bad doesn’t mean everyone would have had a ruinous experience. There are many people who have been inspired by their older generations and perpetuated their beliefs that have benefited them and their families.
@@neeli29most of them are from the Quran and no learn how to critique things instead of just being mindlessly and cluelessly being averse to everything
We have a broken society and homes today because we didn’t understand our religion properly. We have understood many things in a complicated ways . Kindness ,compassion and fairness has been misunderstood completely. There wouldn’t have been cheating if 2nd or 3rd marriage was made easy and a man knew his role that he was obligated to keep balance and fairness. Unfortunately emotions,love ,lust and greed took over and changed the Muslim society. I don’t believe in self as long as it is not aligned with the will of Allah, once the self is Aligned to higher power and his commands otherwise today everything seems good only later in life with self reflection you will find the truth.
Bore wali reason is such a sham why get bored that means the problem is in the person who gets bored . Relationship isn’t all exciting at times or most of the times but to leave a relationship just because you are bored sounds problematic because the other person isn’t your entertainment and that’s means hon you’re not ready for marriage because it’s full of compromises
men have difficukty after 32 aswell. Read all science. Sarwat is in her 40s and had a daughter. In our community we see women in 40's and 50's getting pregnant
These feminist are the ones why 10 million women above 35 are waiting to get married 😂these women are actresses top of the elite class ad beautiful and average women life is unrelated to her. Go to 30s and thne see how easy it is to get married
i did not know Sarwat is so wise and got a sucha awonderful exposure.Thank youuu guys ,this topic is soooo important for everyone ,bcz you are talking about a process that is a must in life.I like the host too,he is asking very question raising in every young person's mind during mating or finding a life partner.
Quran told clearly relashionship importance. If husband is on deen why he will cimmit zina? If women is in parda hijab why men will need to do cheating. Understand quran and have tawaqal on Allah.
Agar ap 2nd grade actress se life lessons le rahe ho to apse bara koi bevkoof nai. Is actress ki baato main koi rabt flow aur quality nahi hai. Ulti seedhi opinion de rahi hai
Religion teaches you to choose a righteous person with good character and commitments be it any age in adulthood. Hazrat Khadija married Rasool Allah at 40 after beig a widow for very long.
the lesson of life is different and vary from individual to individual , once we stop copying west and indian culture everything will be sorted out,, everything is mentioned in detail regarding marriage, sex , brought up of kids etc,, once people learn quran and hadith in detail ,, we dont need hippocrat people of media like you ,,
Aghlab please bring someone with Experience in dating girls or dating boys, that'd be helpful. Arrange marriages is a lost cause, ain't falling for that....
How about interviews and selecting someone who's competent and a good parent? Idiots don't know how to raise kids and how to keep the environment of house productive and respectful!
Conservative relationship still works nothing is perfect in the world mistakes do happen it is important we learn from them be a better version of ourselves by taking people along with us who we love
You must invite real.struggler woman who is common educated woman who takes stand against cheating husband and she prefers to start over n raise kids on her own while facing court matters..
Truth? Her opinion becomes truth? Shame! Follow Allah's commands and teachings of our beloved Prophet Muhammad pbuh and marry your kids in young life. Not after 30s! Allah knows best! end of discussion.
yah im in this situation pehle husband pir bache apni duties kro pori apne apko mar k pir sunno kiya kya ha im 42 ab mujhe smajh aya k ma b ek insan hon mujh pr b mera haq ha ab ma apne liye g rahi hon alhamdulillah meri shadi 16 age ma ho gai ti ab bache b bare hi gay ha aj kl k bache b yegi bolte ha humme hamari life apne hisab se jine do smjha smjha kr thak jate parents
Hadees mai saaf saaf byaan ker dia gia maal darr orat ya khobsoorat ya deen dar orat mai say kis say say shadi kerna acha hay to deendar orat ko pasand karo kiu k wohi tumhary achy bury waqt ki sathi ho bany gi apki naslon ko sanwar day gi maal khatam ho jata hay husn khatam ho jata hay achy iklaq wali or deendar orat sath nibye gi
not every one needs.. but some people cant sort on their own..dont bring religion into every thing..didnt you see what happened to Mevlana Tariqs son????????????
Main aap Sabko Kahana Chahta Hun Ki Inki Baton Mein mat Aana yah nafs ki Gulam log Hain Allah Tala Ne Inka Kuran mein jikr kiya hai aise logon ka yah apni Khwahish ke liye Apne bacchon Ko Bhi Nahin dekhenge aap is function andaza Laga Lo Ki Koi Sharif Aurat Apni sex life ke bare mein baat karegi😢 UNESCO Gulam Hai yah Chahte Hain ki sari Khwahish Duniya Mein Hi Puri ho jaaye
I know she has the liberty to talk all that but honestly speaking it does not sound that average Pakistani families are like that . Where is the religion and it was not quoted? For Gods sake do not compare western society , believe me you know nothing about it
Talking about sex isn't bad but atleast let it be a girl's talk. Talking to a guy about sex just means Talking about food constantly and expect him not be aroused. She's right hum confused nation hain coz we want to normalise Talking about sex to a guy nd want them to behave normal
Islam mein jaldi shadi ka hukam h aur os ki medically hi kafi reasons hein to prove that..the issue is hum log apni ulad(beta and beti)ko choti age mein Independent ni krty.like mothers ya house help hi sab kaam kr rahi hoti h.physically aur mentally sab bachy teens mein mature ho jaty hein but responsibility k leay mature ni hoty.wo sirf es waja sy k parents hi un ki responsibilities utha rahy hoty hein.aur phr ye feminist khti hein 30+ mein maturity ati h..teen age mein larka larki sab ko sab kuch pta hota h.tow kon c maturity chaey en logo ko…
Horrific advices. allot of what she suggested can be refuted too easily including her ridiculous ideas about understanding ones self by proxy of a damn therapist. Self discovery is supposed to be an inner challenge for you to face alone. Seeking out a therapist to offset the challenge of thinking for ones own self is like cheating on life itself.
Very Bold for a Pakistani to speak about this topic openly Kudos to her
I understand that she’s a modern woman, attempting to address the issues faced by Pakistani men and the traditional mindset of Pakistani society. However, this is where I feel a disconnect. I grew up as a first-generation British Asian woman with Pakistani parents, but I was raised in the UK, balancing my belief system with a Westernized upbringing. For the first 35 years of my life, I followed a mix of cultural values that stemmed from both Pakistani and Indian influences, which I initially thought was synonymous with being Muslim.
However, to truly understand my faith, I had to start from scratch as an adult, reading the Quran with knowledge and tafseer, learning my rights and responsibilities, as well as my husband’s, as outlined in Islam. These roles are distinct yet straightforward, much simpler than what culture imposes on us. What she’s advocating aligns with the perspective of a modern British woman, which isn’t inherently wrong, but it doesn’t necessarily apply in Pakistan, a country sharply divided between the wealthy, Westernized elite and those deeply religious or unaware of true Islamic teachings.
This divide is enormous, and it’s unrealistic to impose these modern ideas on those who either don’t understand or follow Islam from a cultural standpoint rather than with knowledge. Islam is clear and unchanging, and as Muslims, we’re accountable to Allah alone. Good intentions aside, we can’t alter the rules set out in our faith. We need to revisit the Quran and Hadith with an open mind to realign ourselves. Otherwise, we’re at risk of losing our way.
I do however agree heavily on therapy and this is allowed in deen. Unfortunately the cost of it here in uk would be £70 an hour it’s not viable with the average man or woman’s pay check unfortunately. And one does have to find the perfect fit. Kudos to those who make enough and lucky enough to find one! Allah bless u all and wish all happiness and healthy families always . And woman we do need to look after our own health and well being. No one else will !
Pakistan main masla hai ke jahan aurat ke hakook ki baat aegi wahan shut up call kardaingay... Pakistan main kis ne Quran parha hai tafseer se? Kis ne Ap S.A.W.W ki seerat parhi hai? Kis ne apne upar kaam kiya hai? Wahan to keh detay hain shadi hogi to thik hojaega ya hojaegi.. u think marriage is a counselling place? No she is right u have to do it before and there is nothing wrong...and most of the ppl in Pakistan only know boy's rights no one stands for girl's right
Talking with ur daughter about her periods is not new or modern or rich ppl thing...every girl has periods ...talking about everything with ur kids is not wrong...when they ll learn that from someone else then it will be wrong.
Stupid advice. A girls most fertile years are 20's ... in 30's downward spiral towards health begins, guys remain young but women suffer alot of health issues if she conceive in later ages
Bilkul Bakwas. Aurat bache older age main bache paida kar sakte hai. Mard ki fertility expose karo! 30+ mard ka sperm quality drop ho jati hai aur phir health issues like autism aur disability bachon pe ajata hai. Pakistan ki jungli awam kabhi ni educate karte apne apko. 'Guys remain young' my foot. It' is so shameful that you are a woman and spreading this nonsense.
Get your facts checked, stop spreading false information. I conceived at 35. No health issues.
Marriage is not only about having children babe.
@@UnsentLetters793 preach🎉
Hey girl your country is giving birth not to save Palestine so just keep your opinion to yourself jangg tou larty ni jihad krtay ni world is destroying n they want toxic generation to build
This video can be a mirror for male community when it comes to treating women 🙌.
And for women as well
it's soo important to have such conversations openly. thank you for talking about this
daym she makes me realize i like older woman with same attitude
Dude older women is where it's at 😍 kasam se choro ye young bakriyan
My wife is elder to me 5 yrs n u r right I'm happy the most❤
Brilliant talk 🙌🏻
What a beautiful way of portraying everything.💯
People don't drag religion in this talk..
Honestly how many people are living with true Islamic values?
How many people have read entire Quran themselves with tafseers and complete Hadith?
Other then experts on net of Dr.Israr, Naik and Maulan etc?
Religion teaches strength of character and sincerity and commitment etc.
Absolutely agree with you... finally someone said that...jahan aurat parenting ki baat ati hai to in logoun ko Islam yaad ajata hai
Zabardast, outstanding conversation
Kudos 👏 to the sophisticated, well-considered, professional host! Such a well managed conversation! Great listening to this, thank you
Remember she was a part of joyland movie which was banned in pakistan for promoting LGBTQ .? Be well aware guys these days😮
So what that has to do with this 🤔
She lives abroad probably in America or uk whn ye cheexain normally discuss ki jatee hain even k chote bachon who are like 12 yrs old they know that tu un k liye matter ni krta aur krna b ni chaiye cuz ye real h . Aur movies main ana aur gay hona is a different thing. Pakistan main inn cheezon ko pta ni kia smja jata h
@ZlogsUK it's not about Pakistan. Its about your religion. Prophet Muhammad once in his hadith said that don't go even near to vulgarity. Not being vulgar but being the part and applauding a movie which promotes sinful act ,isn't it same?We should avoid those people conversations who are taking part in the normalisation of LGBTQ agenda in Pakistan.
@faizasiddique6201 if you take her marriage advices seriously although they are worth listening would lead you towards her those advices which could shake your religious believes.
@@ZlogsUKPakistan kon sa bara backward hai 😅😅😅 wahan ke bachoun ko sb pata hai jo even yahan ke bachay nhi jantay😅
Work on making the boys and girls mature in their 20s. 20s is not early to get married. The girls and boys in Pakistan are not mature enough in their 20s.
I got married this year ,,at 26 🎉 it is one of the bestt and tough decision I made ✨✨✨
Don't take what this woman says seriously. Congratulations on getting married young. May you have many happy years together being young lovers with your spouse and young parents is a big blessing.
The best thing I’ve seen on TH-cam in a while. I’m so happy Pakistan is finally progressing where a woman is able to talk about such bold topics kudos Sarwat we need more podcasts like this TALK ABOUT IMPORTANT ISSUES THAT ARE TABOO IN PAKISTAN BUT THEY NEED TO BE TALKED ABOUT
Well done guys, such a good podcast 👍
What an amazing podcast! Thank you for raising such necessary
topics for discussion.
Why we need media to discuss these topics..we can discuss separately with our relatives or friends or family members…
@@maleehakhalid9375 but nobody does, honestly.
Great to hear ❤❤❤❤
I was not expecting sarwat gilaani to be this much bold😂😂😂
Ek to Meri ye samajh NAHI ata when these women says I come from a very strict background Bhai ye Konsa strict background he jis me ap media pe a k sleeveless or backless pehen k ghoom sakti hen apka brought up agar itna strict he 😂 normal middle-class women can't even go in a Chadar by her choice agar Inka strict background he to hamara Kya he phr?
Thats probably before their stardom. Once they make their money, they distant themselves from restrictive parents. Last time i went to pakistan in 2021, tons of women in the nicer parts of Lahore that wore crop tops in the upper middle class and elite neighborhoods. Even in the slums, casual dating and sex is happening more commonly.
@@asadb1990 true in slums s word is no big deal...married people elope
@@drteaches yeah sex in poorer neighborhood is a decent way to make money specially for girls.
Oh hello, even in the village women want to dress freely like that. A lot of women want to
Its best to get married at 25, 26, 30s is too late.
Early marriage is better
These people will want to trick women into becoming lonely spinster.
@@Azda-emina Noone becomes a spinster get real! it is the society in Pakistan that makes women feel bad. Abroad they have freedom and are not tying self worth to a man who controls EVERYTHING.
it is never too late. Go ask those women who get abused by husbands who WISHED they waited and checked everything.
Islam mei koi umr ni shadi ki if u found the best partner then get married only❤
Thank you so much for your content. Have a blessed day to you and your team.❤
Strict Background ?? These elites can not even fathom to relate the struggles of middle class women/men, especially women. These actresses and actors should remain limited to dramas/movies/songs/fashion. The more they speak, the more it reveals about how little do they know.
Can't believe this a channel like this exists.
You're doing great work by discussing on taboo topics and current scenarios. Very sensible. Keep doing it!. Your regular viewer.
Amazing podcast👏🏻
Watch her in “Don’t tell my mother i am in Pakistan “ video and then comment 😪
9 years is not appropriate age to tell him how a baby come .dnt spoil his childhood ..i dnt know bachn ka bachpan q brbaad krna .unko mentally distrac krna ..let them live their precious time period which will never come again ..let them enjoy this life until become adult ...
These type of people are funded to ruin our family system and society.
It's better to inform a child the truth esp in this day and age , do you think how confused the little minds get when they see pregnancy and other such aspects on social media and then end up searching for information online and get more confused
It's better if an adult tell them. Coz ajkal to itni umer kai bacho ko school mai dosto sai hi sab pata chal raha haiii
App nai bataye gi to us ko us kay school friends bata dain gay. Choice is yours
What if a girl has her periods at 9? She should know that she can be pregnant and she should know the boundries and what can be done and not..and also boys should know about it and the boundries to keep otherwise till 15 they ll all mess up
A very good podcast. A very good and professional host.
Marry and have children in your 20s. These celebrities are not the authority on this subject.
Nobody is! Not even you! Ask people who are getting divorce in their early 30s because they married out of infatuation in their early 20s.
@@GLau9494 that is a stupid comment and justification for marrying late. I am not giving interview and using my celebrity status to pass advice. Most people in older generations got married young and never divorced. The issue about divorce is a different topic, certainly if you are the self centered kind and cannot compromise in life or the kind that cannot make good judgement call of what qualities to look for in a marriage partner, abstain from marrying. But to say you shouldn't marry in 20s as it will end in divorce is a very shallow ignorant thought. I myself got married in 20s had my kids in 20s and have seen all of my friends and families do the same, still married and living meaningful lives in our 50s. Not a single divorce in my age group. Neither in my mothers age group most of who got married in their teens. If you marrying out of 'infatuation' surely that will end up bad.
I got married at 26 ,,ND it is the bestttttttttt 🎉 also tough some time ,,but marriage teaches alot ✨ very amazing for personal growth
@@sn8597 The best marriage advice comes from people of experience and from people who have lived the horror side of marriage. People who are just past 5 years in their marriage are in the initial stage nothing more. Ask people after they complete a decade with their spouse. Marriage requires work. I am just saying it is a responsibility and not fairytale which makes love not the main ingredient for successful marriage. “Peace” is what is required in a marriage for it to last. Even quran mentions the primary purpose of marriage is “peace”. Which is definitely not even in the slightest among todays couples. They are in marriages for their kids for money for status for sex but not for peace. Peace they find in their drinks or parties or maybe not even there.. there is no peace in todays marriages. Agree or disagree but talk to as many couples as you can and you will know.
@@GLau9494 I am a person of experience married for 30 years and speaking from my and experience of those in my circle. I am not sure why you are lecturing me about who is best to give advice, did you read my previous response?
She did mention brilliant stuff on parenting!
Beautiful ❤️ conversation
Most of the men have impotency issues medically and bad sperm counts and quality after 30.
most of the time its men who have reproduction problems including genetic issues.
But its all brushed under the rug.
In clinics mothers of 40 year olds dont feel ashamed of coming to fertility clinic with out wife and men are mamas boys there..
even as doctors we feel ashamed when a mother of a 40 year old man asks about her sons impotency..
asking "Bahu main masla nahen hai?
We dont see religion and basic manners here!
Exactly!! it is the men who have the issues with fertility.
She just talk about this life but not for after that? Y she is not teaching her sons about life after death? She is away from islam thats why she needs therapist
And u r so close to islam that u exactly know how to judge her
Thank you so much 💝🤲🏻🌻
Kudos to her ❤ she talks so well and about things that no one will tell their kids ..love this talk show
This podcast for mature mindset,
Such a negative spin on most things.. if the culture and upbringing was so bad, she would not have ended up on a world stage
A system of network with family has survival benefits
She went again all cultural norms though
😅😅😅 yeah yeah sure
5:30 the mindset argument is utter nonsense just because your experiences were bad doesn’t mean everyone would have had a ruinous experience. There are many people who have been inspired by their older generations and perpetuated their beliefs that have benefited them and their families.
From whom they got these values??? Does the Quran tells those values? Does Allah S.W.T tell them to do that? Stop these older generations values
@@neeli29most of them are from the Quran and no learn how to critique things instead of just being mindlessly and cluelessly being averse to everything
Really great topic
We have a broken society and homes today because we didn’t understand our religion properly. We have understood many things in a complicated ways . Kindness ,compassion and fairness has been misunderstood completely. There wouldn’t have been cheating if 2nd or 3rd marriage was made easy and a man knew his role that he was obligated to keep balance and fairness. Unfortunately emotions,love ,lust and greed took over and changed the Muslim society. I don’t believe in self as long as it is not aligned with the will of Allah, once the self is Aligned to higher power and his commands otherwise today everything seems good only later in life with self reflection you will find the truth.
Bore wali reason is such a sham why get bored that means the problem is in the person who gets bored . Relationship isn’t all exciting at times or most of the times but to leave a relationship just because you are bored sounds problematic because the other person isn’t your entertainment and that’s means hon you’re not ready for marriage because it’s full of compromises
After 30 a girl has difficulty getting pregnant
Yea I had too
Yeah this is the deception that feminism gifts you...a future as a lonely cat lady
men have difficukty after 32 aswell.
Read all science.
Sarwat is in her 40s and had a daughter.
In our community we see women in 40's and 50's getting pregnant
@drteaches you read all science.
Really? I married at the age of 32 and have 3 healthy kids alhumdulillah
Very well conversation 👌 classy
These feminist are the ones why 10 million women above 35 are waiting to get married 😂these women are actresses top of the elite class ad beautiful and average women life is unrelated to her. Go to 30s and thne see how easy it is to get married
Hell difficult for a girl to get married if she is above 30. U r right
No, it''s all about the mindset
it's good to not marry than to marry a wrong person or family
@@lifeinkarachi123 not always true u dont need a man who thinks like this anyways eww
Yeh formula ziyada boys pe chalta haie 30s main shadi wala girls KO phir BHI 26 tak kerleni chiye
Very well said
i did not know Sarwat is so wise and got a sucha awonderful exposure.Thank youuu guys ,this topic is soooo important for everyone ,bcz you are talking about a process that is a must in life.I like the host too,he is asking very question raising in every young person's mind during mating or finding a life partner.
Quran told clearly relashionship importance. If husband is on deen why he will cimmit zina? If women is in parda hijab why men will need to do cheating. Understand quran and have tawaqal on Allah.
Agar ap 2nd grade actress se life lessons le rahe ho to apse bara koi bevkoof nai. Is actress ki baato main koi rabt flow aur quality nahi hai. Ulti seedhi opinion de rahi hai
A new movie on Netflix called “In her place” is close to the subject in discussion.
Actually they cheat all the content from somewhere and pretend they are doing first time.
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Now such people are responsible to spread awareness? How funny 😂
Sahi keh rahi hai
Most of her thought are well said but there is no role religion. What religion suggest about marriage , kidz training etc
Religion ki baat Nauman Ali Khan se jaake suno!
Religion teaches you to choose a righteous person with good character and commitments be it any age in adulthood.
Hazrat Khadija married Rasool Allah at 40 after beig a widow for very long.
Read the Quran and Hadeeth by yourself and teach ur kids
the lesson of life is different and vary from individual to individual , once we stop copying west and indian culture everything will be sorted out,, everything is mentioned in detail regarding marriage, sex , brought up of kids etc,, once people learn quran and hadith in detail ,, we dont need hippocrat people of media like you ,,
True !
Aghlab please bring someone with Experience in dating girls or dating boys, that'd be helpful. Arrange marriages is a lost cause, ain't falling for that....
How about interviews and selecting someone who's competent and a good parent?
Idiots don't know how to raise kids and how to keep the environment of house productive and respectful!
She is not the right person to ask those questions !
Well done for open communication
Conservative relationship still works nothing is perfect in the world mistakes do happen it is important we learn from them be a better version of ourselves by taking people along with us who we love
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Dozakh main hazrat Muhammad s.w.t nai zaida aurton ko daikha. Sab mard bhe buray nhe hotay. Aurtain zaida badmash ban gye hain.
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What about after her death? She needs to learn and understand quran.
Astaghfaar how can u say google alayhe salam. Dont make fun of religion
You must invite real.struggler woman who is common educated woman who takes stand against cheating husband and she prefers to start over n raise kids on her own while facing court matters..
Early marriages are better.
Confused so funny because we love copying different cultures indian or western
Because there is no such thing as Pakistani culture
When Mevlanas talk about it openly about need for polygammy, people dont find that questionable.
They do it’s problematic here too
Pakistani male dont want 30 years old women to get marry. Every man wants 18 years old.😂
Truth? Her opinion becomes truth? Shame! Follow Allah's commands and teachings of our beloved Prophet Muhammad pbuh and marry your kids in young life. Not after 30s! Allah knows best! end of discussion.
Plz give ur therapist name
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yah im in this situation pehle husband pir bache apni duties kro pori apne apko mar k pir sunno kiya kya ha im 42 ab mujhe smajh aya k ma b ek insan hon mujh pr b mera haq ha ab ma apne liye g rahi hon alhamdulillah meri shadi 16 age ma ho gai ti ab bache b bare hi gay ha aj kl k bache b yegi bolte ha humme hamari life apne hisab se jine do smjha smjha kr thak jate parents
Hadees mai saaf saaf byaan ker dia gia maal darr orat ya khobsoorat ya deen dar orat mai say kis say say shadi kerna acha hay to deendar orat ko pasand karo kiu k wohi tumhary achy bury waqt ki sathi ho bany gi apki naslon ko sanwar day gi maal khatam ho jata hay husn khatam ho jata hay achy iklaq wali or deendar orat sath nibye gi
Husband galiyan dy...biwi bardhasht kry...Q k US pr sab farz howa hai...
@@nousheenali4847 yeh kis nay kaha
Par dekhte to khuvzurti h sare mard
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Hamay koi mil ny ry
What nonsense that everyone needs therapy. Root yourself in faith
In Olden days it was called faith Modern day callsspirituality ity and therapy
not every one needs.. but some people cant sort on their own..dont bring religion into every thing..didnt you see what happened to Mevlana Tariqs son????????????
Main aap Sabko Kahana Chahta Hun Ki Inki Baton Mein mat Aana yah nafs ki Gulam log Hain Allah Tala Ne Inka Kuran mein jikr kiya hai aise logon ka yah apni Khwahish ke liye Apne bacchon Ko Bhi Nahin dekhenge aap is function andaza Laga Lo Ki Koi Sharif Aurat Apni sex life ke bare mein baat karegi😢 UNESCO Gulam Hai yah Chahte Hain ki sari Khwahish Duniya Mein Hi Puri ho jaaye
Marry in 30s and be geriatric moms .
Good job
I know she has the liberty to talk all that but honestly speaking it does not sound that average Pakistani families are like that .
Where is the religion and it was not quoted?
For Gods sake do not compare western society , believe me you know nothing about it
Talking about sex isn't bad but atleast let it be a girl's talk. Talking to a guy about sex just means Talking about food constantly and expect him not be aroused. She's right hum confused nation hain coz we want to normalise Talking about sex to a guy nd want them to behave normal
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Marry after 25
With a solid guys who is committed and duriful and established if you want to raise your kids
Mujhy sarwat gillani ko dekh k bar bar imran khan k expression q zehen mai arahay hain...
Boy producast bakwas
Ok so can i say somehing we are NOT a gora society so let's keep a few things as discreet as they are 🙄
un ka y gora complex khatam honay ka naam hi nahi leta.
Its so foolish to even listen to them. What she has done ?nothing. Y should i listen. Ok cant waste my time
Yeah pakistani Carrie Bradshaw he 😅😅😅😅
She got Margot in her 40’s lol
Islam mein jaldi shadi ka hukam h aur os ki medically hi kafi reasons hein to prove that..the issue is hum log apni ulad(beta and beti)ko choti age mein Independent ni krty.like mothers ya house help hi sab kaam kr rahi hoti h.physically aur mentally sab bachy teens mein mature ho jaty hein but responsibility k leay mature ni hoty.wo sirf es waja sy k parents hi un ki responsibilities utha rahy hoty hein.aur phr ye feminist khti hein 30+ mein maturity ati h..teen age mein larka larki sab ko sab kuch pta hota h.tow kon c maturity chaey en logo ko…
where it says early marriage?
Quote that ayat and hadees.
Medically after 30 men have more reproductive issues
Very bad talk.....please dont mislead the youth
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Kia lelo😂
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Toxic feminism , this is the mera jism meri marzi lot
apki naak boht behta hai.maza hi ni aya
As if you never got cold. 🤷♀️
@@ammykins5241 mujy zukaam ho to ma aram sa ghar pa bethta hu tamam logong ki modd kharab ni krta
Nonsense talk
Horrific advices. allot of what she suggested can be refuted too easily including her ridiculous ideas about understanding ones self by proxy of a damn therapist. Self discovery is supposed to be an inner challenge for you to face alone. Seeking out a therapist to offset the challenge of thinking for ones own self is like cheating on life itself.
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