Look, if you want to be a better person,if you're looking for confidence, advantage, meaning in life, whatever it is you want I make videos on it. *Come watch my videos* simple. Easy. I make this videos easy to grasp, you just gotta come to the channel!
My father always told me "It's better to be stupid for a minute than to be stupid your whole life". So when there's something you don't know, you shall ask despite of your anxiety, rather than to remain ignorant forever.
This is true. I have a feiend who asks when he doesn't knkw instead lf thinking "ill google it later" or being afraid of people thinking hes dumb. And we all admire how brave he is for it
So true. Tho those flaws are still flaws. If you have been aware of these, then it's also your opportunity to make a change. I feel like accepting who you are isn't the only thing that is encouraged, but also paying efforts and being who you wanna be :)
hamu Agreed! Shared a personal story on a video i made recently about how even a kid like me gained confidence. I don't think confidence is what we're after; it's self-esteem.
Please don't be rude :l You don't have to attack another person if you didn't think the video was funny. You could have just said so and maybe state your reasons why. Like, "Oh, I dunno, I didn't really find the the video all too funny. Probably because I have a really boring and shitty sense of humor." I'm sorry for my example. I know it's hypocritical, but I'm merely using your own words against you? It isn't too nice the other way around, is it? So let's all please be nice and respectful. Thank you ^_^
my whole life I've tried to always avoid failures & be perfect, because I want to be respected. but this video is prefection itself, I'm coming out of the closet now, I'm an idiot 🤣.
Hurray, I was toiling my entire life to preserve my dignity, overcome my faults, build physical strength and strength of character, to conquer my innate shyness only to find, that in the end I’m still a sore looser, idiot and buffoon.
@Mynameisyamell I forgot about posting this comment, 92 likes wow people either support my idiotic nature or think I'm gay lol. I mean't I was coming out of my idiot closet 🤣. I'm a straight male that is currently engaged to a female, But I still appreciate your support & thank you 😂😂😂.
The quality of the content on this channel is extremely impressive. The editing, choice of words and humorous enthusiasm about serious topics is well beyond anything else I've seen on TH-cam. The creator deserves credit for this.
@Josip Not really, based on my personal experiences I've seen people who aren't that much attractive really confident based on the way they talk, the way they perform, and their way of pursuing people in terms of sales and debates. I think what you're saying is purely your opinion and you shouldn't force me to it. And this is also my opinion so whether you agree or disagree with it is not my problem anymore but yours. Argument aside I respect whatever your point of view is. HAGD :)
@Josip Lots of strawman arguments buddy. Eloquence doesn't make you immune to your apparent cognitive disability. Multiple women just provided you with actual information on their opinion. What they said can perfectly co-exist and doesn't necessarily contradict any of the "science" you mentioned at all which, by the way, you are only cherrypicking with confirmation bias. As women and individuals, they might be, but also aren't wholly, representative of their gender at large. So it might be wise and actually more scientific to fucking listen to an actual person of the gender you're trying to impress, and not form her opinion for her because she is entirely capable of doing so herself. Since you are not a woman, you have no authority or insight into what any given woman in front of you actually thinks, feels, or finds attractive, regardless of whatever empirical 'evidence' or psychology statistic you pull from elsewhere. If you were actually concerned with real science instead of cherrypicking incel-bait to accomodate your skewed views, you would realize that when dealing with individual cases (which is always when dealing with another human being - you know, there's a reason people are called individuals and yes that includes women) you shouldn't lump all women in the same boat based on statistics and start thinking about them as actual persons with actual emotions, opinions and preferences, just like you have yourself. Once you succeed at that then perhaps you might be able to grow into a mindset which allows you to not generalize an entire gender, and have an actual back-and-forth conversation with someone (instead of holding reactionary monologues where you constantly go against whatever your conversational partner is actually saying without even trying to consider their point of view) because you're honestly just being pitiful, bitter, and needlessly dismissive. Not very sexy qualities indeed because you're just being self-absorbed in giving in to your own prejudice, unwilling to step out of the train of thought you've grown accustomed to, which is inattentive to the other person. If you're going to confidently be a misogynistic asshole than yeah, good luck with impressing any woman with 'confidence'. In the meantime, lots of women are indeed attracted to confidence and positivity which you, entirely regardless of how you look, simply fail to provide. Dickweed.
Great video! Thank you. Here is summary: 1. We hold back from opportunities in which there is any risk of ending up looking ridiculous. In a concerted bid never to look foolish, we don't venture very far from our cocoon. 2. Everyone, however important and learned they might be, is a fool. 3. Once we learn to see ourselves as already, and by nature, foolish, it doesn't matter to us if we do one more thing that might make us look stupid.
My therapist told me that not all people can go easily to therapy and that it is natural however it is a matter of finding a person with who you can click and find yourself comfortable talking to! Give it another shot! I also went to another before and she wasn't that great but the one I have now is really a gift and she has helped me more than I could imagine
Embarrassed? Try to think like this: 1. If you are feeling down about something that makes you think “What will he/she/they think of me now?” try to calm yourself down and understand that you cannot know what others are thinking. It is IMPOSSIBLE!!! There is a good chance other people don’t think about you or what you said or did that you find embarrassing AT ALL - they have probably forgotten it already! So cheer up and move on :) 2. If you are in a situation where you are trying to prove yourself and it ends up showing your weakness instead, remember the message of the video: EVERYONE is like this! We are all both strong AND weak at times, and showing your weakness is nothing bad, it is a proof that you are human and not alien (which is a good thing, assuming you don’t want to be an alien of course)! 3. If you made people laugh at you for some reason, don’t feel sad about it. Think about how at least you made them happy! And if you hate these people that laughed at you, you shouldn’t even bother, because you don’t want their approval anyway. And I bet you can find lots of stuff about them to ROFL about! 4. If someone have spoken ill of you or one of your character traits, remember that either the person was right and you can learn from the critique OR the person wasn’t right and in that case, what the hell, there’s nothing to be sad about! You shouldn’t feel embarrassed about something that isn’t true! So stay strong and keep being brave
Bernhardina Hörnstein this is exactly what I was saying to myself yesterday, I said something really stupid at school and I was thinking about it too much. Now I'm like, nah I don't really care 😊😅
Yah I like this a lot! With your first point, though, I think you can go even further. Instead of thinking "they probably don't even think that about me," it's even better to not even value others' opinions in the first place. The only opinion to listen to is your own, and how you act authentically (without deceiving them and pretending) is the best you can do. Accepting that mistakes will be made, but making the conviction that you'll always tell the truth, i.e. be authentic, makes you immune from the opinions of others and allows you to improve.
This video taught me that to be truly confident is not to act confident. Just accept and love who you really are, no matter how weird people may view you.
During a time in my life when I was kinda down, I was only able to get back on my feet and say, "screw this, I'm going to have fun". And I did. It was tough at first, but soon I was able to let myself go. I stopped caring about what others thought about me and began to enjoy life. Everything is fun now!
Julie Ahouse Does your solution work if you have a face like a nuclear bombing site (i have a terrible acne and also some scars left from when it began)
Sobakatron 9000 yeah, just have fun. You and everyone around you is an idiot and we all fail all the time whether it is evident or not, so just do what you wanna do! Who cares who's watching or what people think. Failure is the norm.
Good for you but be careful , caring only about youself is good for you but not for your country , western civilization is destroying itself because newer generations care about their desires before their obligations as citizens ...
I was an imbecile today, actually. I’m trying to learn a new language and failed at communicating at those fluent in it. It was embarrassing to realize they didn’t understand me, but I still will keep trying and learn from this mistake. I love the language too much to give up.
I admire the quality of your videos. It is really useful to me. This critique mix of culture, philosophy, psychology is enriching and makes sens in the evryday life. Thank you so much
I know right !? Imagine the kind of society we'd get if more people tuned in on this kind of content.... A world of mutual understanding, polite high-spirited dialogue, kindness , love and scientific reasoning... et pourtant, et pourtant..
The "pop" side of the school of life is also nice for this reason, according to me, it makes affordable and entertaining ideas that usually are presented without any concerns of being enjoyable. As Bukowski said "Genius might be the ability to say a profound thing in a simple way".
This is so beautiful, charming, and comforting. I hope everyone who lacks confidence understands the message behind this video and embraces their idiocy.
@@GoblinAttacForce i think what they're trynna say is that.. it is totally normal for a person to fail at anything. not something new right? but that person should not think ..that i am gonna fail..this is not gonna work..just do your best and leave the rest to fate. idk i perceived it this way .hope it helps
Someone put it in words!!!! In some way I got into this conclusion right in the beginning of this year and I started experimenting with this: "feel ridiculous? Do it. Feel afraid? Gooo. Did I just think about what others would think? Oh I've gotta do it now. I'm afraid of oral exams and the teachers are really mean and Idk enough. Still going cause who cares? What's the worst than can happen? I already know that I suck" (btw Passed all of them 💪🏻) And it gets so addiciting! for some reason it just made me more and more confident! A lot of my friends started seeing a side of me they didn't know and they praised me for it! When in fact I'm just being myself with no fears of ridiculousness. I already know 2017s gonna be life changing 👀
PM I am also having this kind of "who cares?" mentality now... And what you say is so true. I'm more confident about what I do and who I am. And that change has been huge for me, because last year I was struggling with anxiety and overthinking everything all the time, which was emotionally draining for me. I also noticed that I'm more sociable and open to people without caring whether I like them or not.
The video essentially tells us that the key to being confident is to not fear failing. It is okay to fail, just don't be afraid to fail or get ridiculed. What is important is to back ourselves and keep trying.
All you guys have picked very poor explanations for why this channel doesn't have 10 million subscribers. The real answer: It is too new to have 10 million. They're getting 5 thousand subscribers a day. You don't hit 10 million overnight.
Good reminder that we're all in the same boat; but for those who have low self-esteem (exhibited in lack of self-confidence) negative self-talk is not a great piece of advice. Calling oneself a cretin, nitwit or otherwise is counter-productive. Try some positive affirmations in the morning, instead!
But don't those positive affirmations increase your feeling of self importance? Leading to the fear of failure? I don't know where to draw the line as far as this video is concerned.
I'm drawing the line at self-esteem issues; if you have them, you're not likely to suffer from a feeling of self-importance - just the opposite, in fact. Generally, the message "we're all going to look like fools sometimes" is a good one; but they went a bit overboard with the reco for negative self-talk. It's just not helpful.
Yesssss, love that so much! We are the same!! We actually launched a TH-cam channel where we unleash our creative weirdos haha 😂 Our mission is to make self-improvement fun, so if you are into personal growth we would love for another weirdo to join our little community 💛
So in other words, don't give a shit about what other people think, cos you're not going to be able to change their thoughts, so just go for it in whatever you want to do in life.
I love being average! If I don't try my very very best, I'm painfully, painfully average. And that's great, being average is a great place to be. Being average keeps me humble and down to earth and makes me ambitious and terrified of failure. There's no other way to boost my own productivity than to remind myself of how average I am. Because average people have to put in work to reach their goals, they're not naturally gifted so they get nothing for free. And whenever I think I've progressed past being average, there's another - higher - goal to reach and another score to settle and I'm back to being average.
I'm 14 years old,I love to write my own song,and I usually sang them.Unfortunately, I'm scared to perform anything in front of everyone.I'm trying so hard to be brave but I can't, I kept making a song everyday hoping that one day I will be able to sing them confidently.Sorry for being dramatic 😅
i remember when i had a presentation in year 10 and my friend told me to imagine everyone having fish eyes and funny faces and it helped SO MUCH lol i was silently laughing at them in my head and i got the top marks for my presentation ( i have social anxiety so IDK HOW BUT IT WORKS LOL)
@Hal - It's what the video says at the beginning, the common thing people (and motivational videos) tell you is to just push through challenges like speaking on stage (the example in the beginning) by thinking of what matters to you, maybe encouraging yourself or pumping yourself up. But this video is saying this can lead to other problems and not be a healthy response to the original problem, which is the anxiety. It's better to understand the true nature of the situation and the root of the feeling, which arises from you not wanting to make a mistake because you think that other people in your situation would not make the same mistake. But reality is that they do. Noone is perfect and everyone is a fool. So it makes little sense in being afraid of making mistakes. So say, "it's okay if I make a mistake" instead of "you can do this, you're going to rock it".
03:31 Once we learn to see ourselves as already, and by nature, foolish, 03:34 it really doesn’t matter so much if we do one more thing that might make us look a bit stupid.
:D Thats really nice. Sir Peter Ustinov said something like: 'We are not loved for our strong characteristics, but for our flaws.' Probably, we should love ourselves for the same reason;)
This is so true! After I accepted that I'm a hot mess, I slowly became a cool clutter. Now I got it together. Kind of... My mess warms and cools like the seasons.
I don't find calling yourself a fool helps at all. . Been doing it most my life and ended up a near skilless, middle aged, over weight underachiever. It's only until recently that, as I've been telling myself that I can do things and not think of my negatives, that I even found hope in becoming anything else that what I find myself to be now.
the point though, is to get comfortable with your failures and awkward moments so as to not let them hinder your attempts at improvement. Then you will have less to lose and more to gain by trying. Don't see yourself as a fool compared to everyone else, but as a fool because everyone is a fool. This will guard you against the prejudices of those who look down on you.
Oracle Wyrd i think you are misinterpreting the message here. the message is to embreace your flaws, and forgive yourself when you fail not to belitle or degrade youreslf.
So I’ve felt both ways about this and I’ll just give thoughts on what changed for me and made me fine with it. I can’t speak for anyone else... When I start talking down to myself for making a mistake or not doing something quick enough or whatever reason...It’s because I’m frustrated or somehow dissatisfied with myself - and usually a lot. This isn’t that. First, I think it was my intent that hurt me and my potential. I’ll similarly at times now think myself a doofus - the difference is the intent, I’m usually chuckling to myself if I’m thinking like that now. I think what this video says to frustrated me is: if I’m a fool for making that common mistake that everyone makes, then everyone is a fool. That was enough for me to realize my self sabotage. I did realize this a few years back (again!! I was hard on myself in my early 30’s) and a lot of the negative intent behind what I thought or said about myself went right out the window. So while I agree if we’re calling ourselves fools out of frustration or failing in some way, and the intent is negative it’s no good...the video for me is just one out of several possible techniques to change and improve the mindset that leads me to have that negative intent toward myself.
The older I am the more I realize how imperfect I really is. I've been chasing perfection since I was young. And here I am being a mess, stupid, lonely, and scared. Change it isn't going to be easy since this is the character I've "played" on since I was young. Charismatic person is an out of reach goal. And yet again... i'm afraid of change because of the dignity I have towards people I've talked with. I'm too afraid of other's opinion towards me...
I don't consider myself an idiot or a cretin (I state confidently hehe) but like everyone I do stupid things all the time out of just human error which I know in my head is a universal thing. Nobody's perfect. Just imagine, even the Queen must sit on the toilet and take a poo. Well maybe don't imagine the act itself but the idea is enough to make me laugh and forget about my own foolish pride and self imposed dignity. Being able to laugh at ones self is more important than most people realise. Also what this video didn't point out is the fact that no matter how "cool" we all will die one day, so why care so much about what others think about us. Plus confidence is extremely sexy :) Thanks School of Life btw you're a force for good
The fact we all die one day doesn't help me much, since it reminds me that I'll be forgotten with nothing to remember me by. Everything else about ypur comment was great, it's that bit I had issue with.
How truthful all your videos are and how uncannily things connect in the real world to the videos astound me. The fact that you’ve been able to see the underlying causes to everyday problems that are just there is insane. I never knew how much childhood affects daily life or how we think of ourselves affect others. It’s like your channel is magical with all the truths spilling out
I think it's fantastic advice, too often do you see people unwilling to communicate or participate due to fear of embarrassment. We're all people yet we tend to place worth on a phantasmagorical image of ourselves, then in a circumstance where this image is contradicted we shame ourselves for not living up to the expectations set in our head. Simply allowing yourself to not take yourself too seriously allows you to take the stress off and grants you more freedom to express yourself honestly, then in the circumstance where you fail you have the option to laugh and learn from the experience instead of loathing it. Reminding yourself that you have an inkling of foolishness inside of you helps in appreciating the absurdity of the world, turning a hard situation into a joke that everyone's taking part in.
This is spot on. To go a step further, it's important that we also become intimate with the accompanying emotions. When we do experience an embarrassing moment, it's important to be mindful of our emotions at the precise moment it happens. A burning shame will come up. With practice, we learn to see that it is just an emotion. Accepting that we are inherently screw ups AND that shame will arise when we do screw up AND that it's perfectly ok is all we need to rise above our limits.
I love this video, it gives a positive outlook on life. We're all flawed humans underneath the perfection facade we put up, so why not embrace your flaws? I think the moral here is don't take yourself or life too seriously 😝
This is a topic I'm very passionate about and just did a video about it as well! I must say for me it has to be affirmations. I speak how I want to be! I eventually believe my own words (lol) and gives me a HUGE CONFIDENCE BOOST! Love your channel!
Great video as always, but I think is important to have a balance, one might think that this can justify laziness or not putting effort into anything! We just need to reduce some expectations while trying to surpass them, at the same time we tell ourselves it's not the end of the world if we don't succeed. A lil bit complicated but that's just me haha
Therapist: What is our motto for self-motivation? Me: *Screams* We are idiots now, We have been idiots in the past, and we will be idiot again in the future.
I remember a quote and try to always remember it when I’m embarrassed or anxious about something it’s simply “Others opinion about you is none of your business.” It shouldn’t matter what they think about you cause you’re you and no one else will ever be like you, it’s quite amazing really.
I have acne and one time i held a knife on my hand thinking about killing myself but im now taking sessions with dermatologist to clear my skin im glad i didnt kill myself
I'm *Muttonhead*. I'm *Cretin*. I'm *Dumbell*. I'm *Imbecile*. *Thank* *you!* now i don't need *alcohol* or *LSD* to take an action, this video was incredibly helpful. P.S: I wrote this more than 10 minets
This is advice I wish I knew 10-15 years ago when I was still in my early 20’s. The difficulty I found is growing up with not much money, makes you risk averse sometimes. Easier to take risks and fall on your ass when there’s a safety net. Or a parent that’s says don’t worry. I didn’t feel I had much of that!
When i try to approach people i always get anxious but they are nice to me and they don't consider me an ignorant loser. Maybe i should be more confident and approach more.
Of all the “alpha male” strategies and TH-cam videos on confidence this makes the most sense. I finally don’t have to learn how to bungee jump with a specific lotion and cologne from an airplane while going to the gym to be a confident guy
the thing that makes the world even more conscious today is the constant pressure to fit an ideal image or this idea of being perfect or living a perfect life.
THANK YOU so much! I watched this right before having an important day, interacting with lots of people. And you know what, I feel exactly what I once feared - absolutely idiotic - and now I embrace it for being a nitwit. :)
this was the video equivalent of getting a hug. It was so reassuring. I have never thought of it that way and this makes me so happy.
This video has made my day - and then to top it off - your comment - thank you
1337 thumbs up .. this comment is lit
Look, if you want to be a better person,if you're looking for confidence, advantage, meaning in life, whatever it is you want I make videos on it. *Come watch my videos* simple. Easy. I make this videos easy to grasp, you just gotta come to the channel!
Exactly what I felt. Thanks for putting it into words
And hugs just fucking solve everything right?
My father always told me "It's better to be stupid for a minute than to be stupid your whole life". So when there's something you don't know, you shall ask despite of your anxiety, rather than to remain ignorant forever.
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Thank you
you father was indeed wise.
your father is a wise man, thank him.
This is true. I have a feiend who asks when he doesn't knkw instead lf thinking "ill google it later" or being afraid of people thinking hes dumb. And we all admire how brave he is for it
I'm an idiot to think that everyone cares what I do 🌚
Father Louis Williams Suga Adams Junior the third same
What a royal name you got there mate. And about that, "fake it until you make it"
me tooo
Father Louis Williams Suga Adams Junior the third ARMY
ARMY!!
Confidence isn’t “I know they’ll like me”, it’s “I’m okay if they don’t”.
Just what I needed.
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Facts
Powerquote!!!
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"Once you've accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you" - Tyrien Lannister
But how can you accept yourself if you don't even love yourself
@@soseikiharagatatsu7859 that's a very sad but common line
So true. Tho those flaws are still flaws. If you have been aware of these, then it's also your opportunity to make a change. I feel like accepting who you are isn't the only thing that is encouraged, but also paying efforts and being who you wanna be :)
@@Diana-eh1rf no really I wanna know the answer to what I said
@@Diana-eh1rf if you know the answer please tell me
No one has ever insulted me with such delicacy!
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Haha nice one.
So all we need is to accept that we are ridiculous
when you risk nothing , you risk everything
Solid TL;DR.
a paradox isn't supposed to make sense
Ahmed Elshiekh y r u even here ur too confident
When you don't risk, you forfeit the possibility to win. That's would be better way of putting it.
What
This one might be my favorite so far, well illustrated, extremely helpful and funny as hell. I love this channel
hamu Agreed! Shared a personal story on a video i made recently about how even a kid like me gained confidence. I don't think confidence is what we're after; it's self-esteem.
and simple at the same time, I love it :D
hamu really funny? You must have a really boring and shitty sense of humour
it's not having a boring sense of humor, it's more you being boring and depressed so that you can't even laugh/smile at the simplest of jokes
Please don't be rude :l You don't have to attack another person if you didn't think the video was funny. You could have just said so and maybe state your reasons why. Like, "Oh, I dunno, I didn't really find the the video all too funny. Probably because I have a really boring and shitty sense of humor."
I'm sorry for my example. I know it's hypocritical, but I'm merely using your own words against you? It isn't too nice the other way around, is it? So let's all please be nice and respectful. Thank you ^_^
my whole life I've tried to always avoid failures & be perfect, because I want to be respected. but this video is prefection itself, I'm coming out of the closet now, I'm an idiot 🤣.
I assume we all relate.
Hurray, I was toiling my entire life to preserve my dignity, overcome my faults, build physical strength and strength of character, to conquer my innate shyness only to find, that in the end I’m still a sore looser, idiot and buffoon.
@Mynameisyamell I forgot about posting this comment, 92 likes wow people either support my idiotic nature or think I'm gay lol.
I mean't I was coming out of my idiot closet 🤣.
I'm a straight male that is currently engaged to a female,
But I still appreciate your support & thank you 😂😂😂.
@Mynameisyamell no need to apologize,
Appreciate your comment.
I support you too, live bravely 🤘.
Haha same this made me realize it is okay and I feel better now thank god really.
Bro his voice....
So soothing
Can u read me a bedtime story
thats gay
You want a bald man read you a bedtime story?
Agree tis a beautiful voice
I prefer Morgan Freeman to read me a bedtime story.
Bro. This channel is my bedtime story.
"Life is far too important to be taken seriously."
- Oscar Wilde
"Don't worry about life, you're not going to survive it anyway"
-Anonymous
Alexander Schirmer " I'm a goofy goober (rock) we're all goofy goobers(rock)"
-Spongebob Squarepants
loll wow are you 11 years old?
dudesqr XD
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The quality of the content on this channel is extremely impressive. The editing, choice of words and humorous enthusiasm about serious topics is well beyond anything else I've seen on TH-cam. The creator deserves credit for this.
Oliver Dylan Alain de Botton. hes amazing.
Well said. Excellent video. Endearing.
I have to give a presentation today and this is just what I needed to hear.
Good luck *=)*
The most scary and hated part on school is presentations... yay!
Gamer 89 Good luck!! Tell us later how was it, and if it worked!!
I hope that it goes well for you!
Wishing you a great presentation, a few mistakes and an abundance of confidence haha fellow nitwit
Ok. I just gotta remember, *confidence is extremely sexy*
@Josip Nah it's confidence
@Josip Not really, based on my personal experiences I've seen people who aren't that much attractive really confident based on the way they talk, the way they perform, and their way of pursuing people in terms of sales and debates. I think what you're saying is purely your opinion and you shouldn't force me to it. And this is also my opinion so whether you agree or disagree with it is not my problem anymore but yours. Argument aside I respect whatever your point of view is. HAGD :)
@Josip With that mindset, of course its gonna be that way
It's not one or the other, it's a combination of both.
@Josip Lots of strawman arguments buddy. Eloquence doesn't make you immune to your apparent cognitive disability. Multiple women just provided you with actual information on their opinion. What they said can perfectly co-exist and doesn't necessarily contradict any of the "science" you mentioned at all which, by the way, you are only cherrypicking with confirmation bias. As women and individuals, they might be, but also aren't wholly, representative of their gender at large. So it might be wise and actually more scientific to fucking listen to an actual person of the gender you're trying to impress, and not form her opinion for her because she is entirely capable of doing so herself. Since you are not a woman, you have no authority or insight into what any given woman in front of you actually thinks, feels, or finds attractive, regardless of whatever empirical 'evidence' or psychology statistic you pull from elsewhere. If you were actually concerned with real science instead of cherrypicking incel-bait to accomodate your skewed views, you would realize that when dealing with individual cases (which is always when dealing with another human being - you know, there's a reason people are called individuals and yes that includes women) you shouldn't lump all women in the same boat based on statistics and start thinking about them as actual persons with actual emotions, opinions and preferences, just like you have yourself. Once you succeed at that then perhaps you might be able to grow into a mindset which allows you to not generalize an entire gender, and have an actual back-and-forth conversation with someone (instead of holding reactionary monologues where you constantly go against whatever your conversational partner is actually saying without even trying to consider their point of view) because you're honestly just being pitiful, bitter, and needlessly dismissive. Not very sexy qualities indeed because you're just being self-absorbed in giving in to your own prejudice, unwilling to step out of the train of thought you've grown accustomed to, which is inattentive to the other person. If you're going to confidently be a misogynistic asshole than yeah, good luck with impressing any woman with 'confidence'. In the meantime, lots of women are indeed attracted to confidence and positivity which you, entirely regardless of how you look, simply fail to provide. Dickweed.
Great video! Thank you.
Here is summary:
1. We hold back from opportunities in which there is any risk of ending up looking ridiculous.
In a concerted bid never to look foolish, we don't venture very far from our cocoon.
2. Everyone, however important and learned they might be, is a fool.
3. Once we learn to see ourselves as already, and by nature, foolish, it doesn't matter to us if we do one more thing that might make us look stupid.
Pretty much the conclusion of my 10 months therapy
Get well soon!!
Amarina E. I need therapy
I stopped going to my therapist after like 4 sessions
It just didn't feel right and I got scared and uncomfortable opening up.
My therapist told me that not all people can go easily to therapy and that it is natural however it is a matter of finding a person with who you can click and find yourself comfortable talking to! Give it another shot! I also went to another before and she wasn't that great but the one I have now is really a gift and she has helped me more than I could imagine
Amarina E. Same here omg!!
Embarrassed? Try to think like this:
1. If you are feeling down about something that makes you think “What will he/she/they think of me now?” try to calm yourself down and understand that you cannot know what others are thinking. It is IMPOSSIBLE!!! There is a good chance other people don’t think about you or what you said or did that you find embarrassing AT ALL - they have probably forgotten it already! So cheer up and move on :)
2. If you are in a situation where you are trying to prove yourself and it ends up showing your weakness instead, remember the message of the video: EVERYONE is like this! We are all both strong AND weak at times, and showing your weakness is nothing bad, it is a proof that you are human and not alien (which is a good thing, assuming you don’t want to be an alien of course)!
3. If you made people laugh at you for some reason, don’t feel sad about it. Think about how at least you made them happy! And if you hate these people that laughed at you, you shouldn’t even bother, because you don’t want their approval anyway. And I bet you can find lots of stuff about them to ROFL about!
4. If someone have spoken ill of you or one of your character traits, remember that either the person was right and you can learn from the critique OR the person wasn’t right and in that case, what the hell, there’s nothing to be sad about! You shouldn’t feel embarrassed about something that isn’t true! So stay strong and keep being brave
Bernhardina Hörnstein well explained 🌞
Bernhardina Hörnstein this is exactly what I was saying to myself yesterday, I said something really stupid at school and I was thinking about it too much. Now I'm like, nah I don't really care 😊😅
"You'll worry less about what people think of you when you realize how seldom they do"
-Eleanor Roosevelt
Yah I like this a lot! With your first point, though, I think you can go even further. Instead of thinking "they probably don't even think that about me," it's even better to not even value others' opinions in the first place. The only opinion to listen to is your own, and how you act authentically (without deceiving them and pretending) is the best you can do. Accepting that mistakes will be made, but making the conviction that you'll always tell the truth, i.e. be authentic, makes you immune from the opinions of others and allows you to improve.
actually it would be cool If I was an alien.
The fear of what other people think of us is one of the biggest barriers to success. But it can be overcome.
Jeffry C. Larson It can be overcome by propper grammar
Martin Wilson certaindly
this is good!
This video taught me that to be truly confident is not to act confident. Just accept and love who you really are, no matter how weird people may view you.
IM UGLY AND IM PROUD! IM UGLY AND IM PROUD!
Sauce Man You did nothing to bring about your looks so theres nothing to be proud of. Better to be content
Ademola Owoeye idk if your joking but it’s a spongebob reference
"Is that what he calls it?" - Squidward 🐙
Love's gonna get you killed,
But pride's gonna be the death of you
@@ademolaowoeye7664 guy, no reason am like that. Na for inside SpongeBob dey talk that one
"We don't venture very far from our cocoon" - perfect line.
Charisma Academy th-cam.com/video/ox3XURupdfQ/w-d-xo.html
I didn't notice it until you pointed it out! I did hear it, though, but I guess my brain just ignored it.
Please explain this line
@@BPDrevolution He's talking about how we *keep ourselves* into our *comfort zones* ( cocoons) and *do not bother taking risks* .
@@gamechep Same, my brain ignored it wtf
During a time in my life when I was kinda down, I was only able to get back on my feet and say, "screw this, I'm going to have fun". And I did. It was tough at first, but soon I was able to let myself go. I stopped caring about what others thought about me and began to enjoy life. Everything is fun now!
Jacketeer : i just need the mo ey to do what i want to do. Without taking loans and debt. Thats all. :(
Julie Ahouse Does your solution work if you have a face like a nuclear bombing site (i have a terrible acne and also some scars left from when it began)
Sobakatron 9000 yeah, just have fun. You and everyone around you is an idiot and we all fail all the time whether it is evident or not, so just do what you wanna do! Who cares who's watching or what people think. Failure is the norm.
I should pick this advice up! Quick!
Good for you but be careful , caring only about youself is good for you but not for your country , western civilization is destroying itself because newer generations care about their desires before their obligations as citizens ...
/sighs in crippling anxiety/
creeper alert :(
It takes time but if you try you can grow more comfortable in your own skin and that is where confidence comes from
Nachelle Baylon You'll realize that anxiety is a discomfort of oneself more than a discomfort of others.
Nachelle Baylon
that was so... precise. thank you!
/ sighs in crippling anxiety / paranoia / depression / no confidence / no self-esteem / no social skills /
I was an imbecile today, actually. I’m trying to learn a new language and failed at communicating at those fluent in it. It was embarrassing to realize they didn’t understand me, but I still will keep trying and learn from this mistake. I love the language too much to give up.
For your baby. To eat.
When ever i can't sleep, the school of life is my destination
Smart move.
Programmer sleeps at 3am
Is there a transcript of this video? I need to make it into a bible
There is, always look for the transcript in the MORE section.
Tf
The School of Life I might look stupid 😊...but where is the MORE section?
@@69LOLIN you're into a great start
Idk why i laughed for you 🤣🤣
I admire the quality of your videos. It is really useful to me. This critique mix of culture, philosophy, psychology is enriching and makes sens in the evryday life. Thank you so much
I know right !? Imagine the kind of society we'd get if more people tuned in on this kind of content.... A world of mutual understanding, polite high-spirited dialogue, kindness , love and scientific reasoning... et pourtant, et pourtant..
The "pop" side of the school of life is also nice for this reason, according to me, it makes affordable and entertaining ideas that usually are presented without any concerns of being enjoyable. As Bukowski said "Genius might be the ability to say a profound thing in a simple way".
This is so beautiful, charming, and comforting. I hope everyone who lacks confidence understands the message behind this video and embraces their idiocy.
Olivia Hesson I didn’t get it
Too many times, we waste a lot of time while eventually making the decision anyway!
I like to think of it this way: normalize the idea of failure but don’t predict it
I don’t understand it?
@@GoblinAttacForce i think what they're trynna say is that.. it is totally normal for a person to fail at anything. not something new right? but that person should not think ..that i am gonna fail..this is not gonna work..just do your best and leave the rest to fate. idk i perceived it this way .hope it helps
How to gain confidence:
*Look at the view count and realize how many other people need confidence*
your voice makes me less depressed
Someone put it in words!!!! In some way I got into this conclusion right in the beginning of this year and I started experimenting with this: "feel ridiculous? Do it. Feel afraid? Gooo. Did I just think about what others would think? Oh I've gotta do it now. I'm afraid of oral exams and the teachers are really mean and Idk enough. Still going cause who cares? What's the worst than can happen? I already know that I suck" (btw Passed all of them 💪🏻)
And it gets so addiciting! for some reason it just made me more and more confident! A lot of my friends started seeing a side of me they didn't know and they praised me for it! When in fact I'm just being myself with no fears of ridiculousness. I already know 2017s gonna be life changing 👀
PM YES! Keep growing 🌱
PM I am also having this kind of "who cares?" mentality now... And what you say is so true. I'm more confident about what I do and who I am. And that change has been huge for me, because last year I was struggling with anxiety and overthinking everything all the time, which was emotionally draining for me.
I also noticed that I'm more sociable and open to people without caring whether I like them or not.
PM I
PM
Started with caring less...
Now I'm at Nihilism.
f*ck
OMG THANK YOU FOR THIS
Oh my god! I feel so confident right now after watching this. Thank you 😊
RJ and PAULA hahaha! I feel confident now too.
RJTroncoso I feel like i'm level 9000 right now.
RJ and PAULA me too! How crazy!!!😀
Pakalolo smkr. jealous or what?
If that is you in your profile picture then let me tell you you're so beautiful
About to have my university interview wish me luck
How did it go
2 yrs later how did it go?
2 years later, what's up now?
The video essentially tells us that the key to being confident is to not fear failing. It is okay to fail, just don't be afraid to fail or get ridiculed. What is important is to back ourselves and keep trying.
I've never felt so empowered by being degraded. Thanks
Why doesn't this channel have 10 million subscribers?!?
daniel henderson because people are dumb idiots.
Have you advertised it?
Because people prefer looking at pranks in the hood.
All you guys have picked very poor explanations for why this channel doesn't have 10 million subscribers. The real answer: It is too new to have 10 million. They're getting 5 thousand subscribers a day. You don't hit 10 million overnight.
Good reminder that we're all in the same boat; but for those who have low self-esteem (exhibited in lack of self-confidence) negative self-talk is not a great piece of advice. Calling oneself a cretin, nitwit or otherwise is counter-productive. Try some positive affirmations in the morning, instead!
True... As a person with low self-esteem I already call myself all these words daily but it doesn't help at all..
But don't those positive affirmations increase your feeling of self importance? Leading to the fear of failure? I don't know where to draw the line as far as this video is concerned.
I'm drawing the line at self-esteem issues; if you have them, you're not likely to suffer from a feeling of self-importance - just the opposite, in fact. Generally, the message "we're all going to look like fools sometimes" is a good one; but they went a bit overboard with the reco for negative self-talk. It's just not helpful.
nah, I think I'll stick with self deprecating statements
Nullik Yep, the point was totally clear. My comment is merely to disagree with their last little bit of advice.
I’m a confident weirdo. I know I’m a weirdo. I love it.
Yesssss, love that so much! We are the same!! We actually launched a TH-cam channel where we unleash our creative weirdos haha 😂 Our mission is to make self-improvement fun, so if you are into personal growth we would love for another weirdo to join our little community 💛
"At the heart of underconfidence is a skewed picture of how dignified it is normal for a person to be" - says it all.
So in other words, don't give a shit about what other people think, cos you're not going to be able to change their thoughts, so just go for it in whatever you want to do in life.
Thank u
I am too dumb to understand this vid
Ladies and Gentlemen, this is indeed a philosophical video with a poop emoji in it.
We've come far as a species.
Understanding how weird we all are is great, but there should also be another video about how to come to terms with being an average idiot.
Dega Westerhoff-Mason Oh my god you could not have said it better
Dega Westerhoff-Mason , read the book. The subtle art of not giving a fuck - Manson
I love being average! If I don't try my very very best, I'm painfully, painfully average. And that's great, being average is a great place to be. Being average keeps me humble and down to earth and makes me ambitious and terrified of failure. There's no other way to boost my own productivity than to remind myself of how average I am. Because average people have to put in work to reach their goals, they're not naturally gifted so they get nothing for free. And whenever I think I've progressed past being average, there's another - higher - goal to reach and another score to settle and I'm back to being average.
I fucking lost it when that banana slammed open the door
I'm 14 years old,I love to write my own song,and I usually sang them.Unfortunately, I'm scared to perform anything in front of everyone.I'm trying so hard to be brave but I can't, I kept making a song everyday hoping that one day I will be able to sing them confidently.Sorry for being dramatic 😅
So just tell yourself everyone in the audience is a cretin, just don't do it out loud
i remember when i had a presentation in year 10 and my friend told me to imagine everyone having fish eyes and funny faces and it helped SO MUCH lol i was silently laughing at them in my head and i got the top marks for my presentation ( i have social anxiety so IDK HOW BUT IT WORKS LOL)
Basically don't over think things
I love this kind of animator, nice video :)
The best I've seen so far in this channel.
Yeah, this animation was top notch. And it had a lot of nice visual jokes too
Wait, you're telling me that I, A BUNDLE OF MESS, AWKWARDNESS AND ANXIETY, am confident by this video's standards?
Thank you!
This is very liberating! Thank you for delivering such a great message. “Everyone’s an idiot.(including myself)”
Failure is the acceptable normal
love this quote, material for wallpaper
The editing in this video is low-key groundbreaking.
yeppp
This channel completely goes in the opposite direction of the philosophy of other motivational channels!
What do you mean ? (did you mean perhaps haha)
@Hal - It's what the video says at the beginning, the common thing people (and motivational videos) tell you is to just push through challenges like speaking on stage (the example in the beginning) by thinking of what matters to you, maybe encouraging yourself or pumping yourself up. But this video is saying this can lead to other problems and not be a healthy response to the original problem, which is the anxiety. It's better to understand the true nature of the situation and the root of the feeling, which arises from you not wanting to make a mistake because you think that other people in your situation would not make the same mistake. But reality is that they do. Noone is perfect and everyone is a fool. So it makes little sense in being afraid of making mistakes. So say, "it's okay if I make a mistake" instead of "you can do this, you're going to rock it".
I love it
And I like that, I've always valued honesty over "a beautiful lie".
"Looking like a prick" with the banana walking through the door made me laugh my ass off for some reason.
03:31
Once we learn to see ourselves as already, and by nature, foolish,
03:34
it really doesn’t matter so much if we do one more thing that might make us look a bit stupid.
:D Thats really nice. Sir Peter Ustinov said something like: 'We are not loved for our strong characteristics, but for our flaws.'
Probably, we should love ourselves for the same reason;)
This is so true! After I accepted that I'm a hot mess, I slowly became a cool clutter. Now I got it together. Kind of... My mess warms and cools like the seasons.
You guys are making the very best videos in the world.
Thank you! :)
I don't find calling yourself a fool helps at all.
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Been doing it most my life and ended up a near skilless, middle aged, over weight underachiever. It's only until recently that, as I've been telling myself that I can do things and not think of my negatives, that I even found hope in becoming anything else that what I find myself to be now.
the point though, is to get comfortable with your failures and awkward moments so as to not let them hinder your attempts at improvement. Then you will have less to lose and more to gain by trying. Don't see yourself as a fool compared to everyone else, but as a fool because everyone is a fool. This will guard you against the prejudices of those who look down on you.
Oracle Wyrd i think you are misinterpreting the message here. the message is to embreace your flaws, and forgive yourself when you fail not to belitle or degrade youreslf.
So I’ve felt both ways about this and I’ll just give thoughts on what changed for me and made me fine with it. I can’t speak for anyone else...
When I start talking down to myself for making a mistake or not doing something quick enough or whatever reason...It’s because I’m frustrated or somehow dissatisfied with myself - and usually a lot.
This isn’t that. First, I think it was my intent that hurt me and my potential. I’ll similarly at times now think myself a doofus - the difference is the intent, I’m usually chuckling to myself if I’m thinking like that now.
I think what this video says to frustrated me is: if I’m a fool for making that common mistake that everyone makes, then everyone is a fool. That was enough for me to realize my self sabotage. I did realize this a few years back (again!! I was hard on myself in my early 30’s) and a lot of the negative intent behind what I thought or said about myself went right out the window.
So while I agree if we’re calling ourselves fools out of frustration or failing in some way, and the intent is negative it’s no good...the video for me is just one out of several possible techniques to change and improve the mindset that leads me to have that negative intent toward myself.
Your grammar/spelling is well above average, so you’ve achieved something for sure!
Main idea = don't feel bad about your mistakes..
The older I am the more I realize how imperfect I really is. I've been chasing perfection since I was young. And here I am being a mess, stupid, lonely, and scared. Change it isn't going to be easy since this is the character I've "played" on since I was young. Charismatic person is an out of reach goal. And yet again... i'm afraid of change because of the dignity I have towards people I've talked with. I'm too afraid of other's opinion towards me...
I don't consider myself an idiot or a cretin (I state confidently hehe) but like everyone I do stupid things all the time out of just human error which I know in my head is a universal thing. Nobody's perfect. Just imagine, even the Queen must sit on the toilet and take a poo. Well maybe don't imagine the act itself but the idea is enough to make me laugh and forget about my own foolish pride and self imposed dignity. Being able to laugh at ones self is more important than most people realise.
Also what this video didn't point out is the fact that no matter how "cool" we all will die one day, so why care so much about what others think about us. Plus confidence is extremely sexy :)
Thanks School of Life btw you're a force for good
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The fact we all die one day doesn't help me much, since it reminds me that I'll be forgotten with nothing to remember me by.
Everything else about ypur comment was great, it's that bit I had issue with.
This is perhaps the best video you've ever made. I guess I'll be returning back to it from time to time.
Thanks for uploading it!
Just in time when all of my confidence is lost
I was a idiot to think that I wasn't
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You pretend when u try to be perfect, You live when you embrace your imperfections.
How truthful all your videos are and how uncannily things connect in the real world to the videos astound me. The fact that you’ve been able to see the underlying causes to everyday problems that are just there is insane. I never knew how much childhood affects daily life or how we think of ourselves affect others. It’s like your channel is magical with all the truths spilling out
I am an idiot... and that's OK. Thanks SoL :)
I think it's fantastic advice, too often do you see people unwilling to communicate or participate due to fear of embarrassment. We're all people yet we tend to place worth on a phantasmagorical image of ourselves, then in a circumstance where this image is contradicted we shame ourselves for not living up to the expectations set in our head. Simply allowing yourself to not take yourself too seriously allows you to take the stress off and grants you more freedom to express yourself honestly, then in the circumstance where you fail you have the option to laugh and learn from the experience instead of loathing it. Reminding yourself that you have an inkling of foolishness inside of you helps in appreciating the absurdity of the world, turning a hard situation into a joke that everyone's taking part in.
This is spot on. To go a step further, it's important that we also become intimate with the accompanying emotions. When we do experience an embarrassing moment, it's important to be mindful of our emotions at the precise moment it happens. A burning shame will come up. With practice, we learn to see that it is just an emotion. Accepting that we are inherently screw ups AND that shame will arise when we do screw up AND that it's perfectly ok is all we need to rise above our limits.
I love this video, it gives a positive outlook on life. We're all flawed humans underneath the perfection facade we put up, so why not embrace your flaws? I think the moral here is don't take yourself or life too seriously 😝
This is a topic I'm very passionate about and just did a video about it as well! I must say for me it has to be affirmations. I speak how I want to be! I eventually believe my own words (lol) and gives me a HUGE CONFIDENCE BOOST!
Love your channel!
I think this is your most beautiful animation so far!
Great video as always, but I think is important to have a balance, one might think that this can justify laziness or not putting effort into anything! We just need to reduce some expectations while trying to surpass them, at the same time we tell ourselves it's not the end of the world if we don't succeed.
A lil bit complicated but that's just me haha
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It put a grin on my silly face! Hope u are all doing well fellow earthlings!
"We are idiots we always will be" -Erasmus(the school of life)
_Joe Biden approves this message._
"Placing ourselves beyond mockery" - Honestly that sounds pretty nice! No but I definitely agree with everything being said here!
Never have I ever been so reassured through being called an idiot, in my entire life. Into it
I liked that a lot! Earlier today I was just thinking that when you acknowledge and accept your weaknesses you just gained a strength.
This is why idiots are good at talking :3
Therapist:
What is our motto for self-motivation?
Me:
*Screams*
We are idiots now, We have been idiots in the past, and we will be idiot again in the future.
I remember a quote and try to always remember it when I’m embarrassed or anxious about something it’s simply “Others opinion about you is none of your business.” It shouldn’t matter what they think about you cause you’re you and no one else will ever be like you, it’s quite amazing really.
One of my favourite "How to" videos from this channel.
I'm an idiot and I admit that with grace.
Well, allright then....
What an idiot
Life would be much easier if we were all like fools - beginners, learners and always curious. Thank you for the beautiful video! 🙏🏻
the most cheering thing I've watched in a very long time!
I have acne and one time i held a knife on my hand thinking about killing myself but im now taking sessions with dermatologist to clear my skin im glad i didnt kill myself
Omg😟 Acne is totally normal❤️ you shouldn’t feel any kind of way for having it!!!
Josip Many people with severe acne are suicidal.
Everyone had acne at some point
I'm not who to judge, but killing yourself for having acne? Really? I wish my problems could be eliminated with just putting a lotion.
I take Xanax to be around all you who make me nervous
Lots of us do!
I'm *Muttonhead*. I'm *Cretin*. I'm *Dumbell*. I'm *Imbecile*.
*Thank* *you!* now i don't need *alcohol* or *LSD* to take an action, this video was incredibly helpful.
P.S: I wrote this more than 10 minets
This is advice I wish I knew 10-15 years ago when I was still in my early 20’s. The difficulty I found is growing up with not much money, makes you risk averse sometimes. Easier to take risks and fall on your ass when there’s a safety net. Or a parent that’s says don’t worry. I didn’t feel I had much of that!
I've struggled with self confidence most of my life, and is by far one of my favorite takes on the subject.
And how has it changed you
When i try to approach people i always get anxious but they are nice to me and they don't consider me an ignorant loser. Maybe i should be more confident and approach more.
I'm not afraid of looking stupid. I'm Just too shy
2:22 that's me
Me too
Lol
Got the idea, though applying it is another story.
Of all the “alpha male” strategies and TH-cam videos on confidence this makes the most sense. I finally don’t have to learn how to bungee jump with a specific lotion and cologne from an airplane while going to the gym to be a confident guy
The sad reason im looking this up is bc of school
Rick Sanchez is my idol when it comes the self confidence.
"They'd only be confirming what we've already accepted in our hearts." ❤️
2:40 FLEET FOXES
the thing that makes the world even more conscious today is the constant pressure to fit an ideal image or this idea of being perfect or living a perfect life.
THANK YOU so much! I watched this right before having an important day, interacting with lots of people. And you know what, I feel exactly what I once feared - absolutely idiotic - and now I embrace it for being a nitwit. :)