I feel like the real key to a quality lazy day is making acknowledged choices instead of moving from one thing to another mindlessly. When you do things mindlessly you feel you’ve wasted the day: “Ugh, I was so lazy today!” But of you take a moment and ask yourself what you want to do next, then decide, by the end of the day you can feel really recharged from a lazy day. 🎉
Evening showers/baths are so you get to wash off any dirt and grime from the day away before you get into bed, and relax in hot water. And it saves time in the morning! :D
i usually can't sleep properly if i don't have a pre-bed shower! nothing like clean skin on clean sheets mmm. i also can't get warm enough in the bed, like i need to be preheated in the shower 😅
Fun fact for other sweaty people: antiperspirant works best if applied at night because that’s when sweat glands are least active! The product has more time to get in and do what it’s meant to do instead of being sweat out immediately which can happen in the morning :~)
“I don’t understand evening shower people” Me about to go for a shower after watching this… I’m so knackered after work and I have no energy left to cook/eat/do anything. A shower around 5-6pm can help give me that little bit of extra energy I need to get through the evening and actually eat properly
I don't "Get" showering in the morning. At the end of the day, a shower is relaxing; you're washing the day of, coming out with fresh, clean skin and hair, which makes even a bad day instantly better. You go to bed clean, which is one of the biggest things for me. Going to bed after a full day without showering makes me just think of lying in my own grime, and that makes it difficult to get to sleep.
I don't "get" people who shower before going out-- where they will literally get dirty-- and then do not shower when they get home and just... luxuriate in the dirt and grime and pollution in their own house. I know this is stereotypical East Asian of me, but that is disgusting behavior lol
@@AllTheArtsy disgusting is pretty rough to me. There are obvious pros and cons to both sides and no one is disgusting for preferring or needing one over the other. I need to do both (personally) unless I'm too unwell for the luxury.
My husband and I shower every OTHER day... so I'm over here looking in the comments for people who are baffled at showering every day. 😂😂 Guess I'm alone in that one. 🤷♀
I’m an evening shower person because getting up in the morning is already hard enough for this non morning person. Plus it helps me wind down before bed
I'm an evening shower person! it helps me wind down/relax before bed, plus I like feeling clean when i get into bed. It keeps my bed cleaner cause i don't feel like i'm getting in with the grime of the day and then letting that run all over my sheets all night
I do not have a "self-care day," instead I have worked to have a self-care life. I have built my life up to the point where I work when I want, the hours I want, with people I like. In a walkable city that I love being in, with infrastructure, culture and nature. It's not luxurious in a materialistic sense, but it is rich in everything that matters. I wish the same for you all.
I like that you talked about different kinds of self care. I find as a disabled mum I have to balance it between things I want to do and things that are actually good for me. Because like lying in bed all day might be what I want to do, but it makes my mental and physical health rubbish and I get more pain in the long run. Whereas if I balance in a bit of exercise and healthy eating then I feel so much better (which is really annoying obviously lol)
As a pregnant Mum of a toddler, THANK-YOU for acknowledging the difficulty of juggling part-time work with baby, housework and life admin. So often self-care is bottom of the list. Society should definitely be set up differently so we value all of the unpaid work parents do! Loved this style of video would love to see more self-care days to inspire Mums/parents how to fit it in!! 🤞🏻❤️
I love evening showers because it's one less thing to rush around doing in the morning but more importantly, I love been squeaky clean then getting into a fresh set of sheets. If you shower before bed your bed will be less gross imo
When my baby was a lot younger I always made time to wash my hair every day. I didn't always have time to dry it or style it or have it cut regularly but having clean hair was the one thing I could do to make myself feel better about myself.
So interesting seeing what other ppl do to unwind/relax/do self care! I defs think baking is a great self care activity ☺️ I’m neurodivergent + disabled so my dishes are literally never all done - but weirdly, if I’m having a bad day it helps to wash a few dishes, slowly and lazily with a fav tv show on in the background. Doesn’t matter if it takes me an hour to wash 3 cups, it feels like a huge win!! It feels like self care in those times because it’s a reminder I deserve clean dishes and a decent living space. It’s something I don’t necessarily want to do or enjoy doing, but I do it in a way that I can manage as an act of self love. That was a tangent but yeah like I said, fascinating how individual and personal stuff like that is!
I have "Laziness does not exist" by Devon Price on my to read list. Found it because I googled my theory of laziness literally not existing. Turns out I'm quite probably not wrong. I have ME, ADHD and EDS - all of which have "laziness" attached to it in different ways. I call BS.
Your introduction about self/structural/community care is sooo interesting. I recently understand that doing some stuff that my future me will be thankfull for (cooking, admin, home care...) is also self-care, and it's life changing
Chronic illness renders all my days into a frustrating combo of low activity/lots of rest while still being utterly exhausting. If there were no negative health consequences I would absolutely be doing the adventurous option...
Yes! I have severe fatigue unless I manage my sensory input (I'm autistic), so most days have to be restful! The worst thing is when I'm too tired to focus and I end up stressed and depressed.... But the best is when I see my OT (via zoom), have enough energy to work on an art project, eat leftovers for dinner with my friend, and go for an evening walk. That's a perfect day at home!
I sleep until I wake up by self (granted it's 8 at the absolute latest XD), make a cup of tea, feed the cat and then I do as little physical acitivity as possible. I can watch something but I will keep still. I then wait until I am bursting to do something and I allow myself to do what that is. No matter if it's going out getting a pastry or doing a craft or even cleaning - what it is doesn't' matter. The important part is that it is what I feel like doing. If I end up doing nothing all day, that is what was needed. No guilt or shame,
I tried to think of what my ultimate self care day would look like, and it's so hard to decide. I've got a two year old, and I'm 40 weeks pregnant, so my brain is just thinking about all that (I do have a very very good partner, but we've both let self care slide recently). It doesn't help that I live in a place where we've had snow for the past two weeks, so we've been snowed it at home for most days and I desperately miss the sun. I think my ideal self care day would start with a take-out breakfast and some thrifting. Then, time out in nature taking photos - not happening in the winter, but my dream day would be in spring or summer. After that, spending time in the garden, or reading a book. Maybe watching some uninterrupted shows on Netflix. Eating whatever I wanted for lunch and supper without having to share. Ending the day with a nice bath. Or - having a full day to just work on whatever diy or sewing project I have on the go. That would be great too
I have 4 girls now so have so little time for a lazy day. I totally empathise with the having to watch series in 10 minute bursts - I pop something on and just watch what I can in the small snippets of time I might find. I try and get a bath once a week just so I can lock myself away in the quiet and watch something in the bath but I have to hope the baby doesn't wake up when I do. Reading is one of my favourite things but I cannot stay awake to read a book at the moment- the sleep deprivation is real.
To me there's still a difference between a rest day and a lazy day. It might be because I'm also chronically ill, but the difference to me is that a lazy day is a choice, a rest day is not. So on a lazy day I might still go out for a walk and do some things around the house, but not with a sense of urgency. A rest day is when I don't do that.
The best advice I was given when I was a very tired new mum was, when the baby sleeps, you sleep. I was able to carry that on when I went back to full time work when the baby was 16 weeks old by going to bed when I put the baby down. Sleep matters more than dusting.
"Sleep matters more than dusting": Love this! I also encourage anyone who is able to do that to sleep when baby sleeps. Though that can be hard when other priorities (like caring for siblings) come up
We fill up one bath tub and the three of us (son, husband and I) bathe after each other in no particular order before bedtime. Done for the day, clean, and ready to wake up early the next day. Saves time, water and resources. x
I shower in the evening. A. It gives my thick hair the time it needs to air dry without forcing me to get up so early. B. It cleans all of the germs I bring home from working with kids before I relax with my family. C. The hot shower helps me decompress from the day and relax as I transition to evening times.
I just want to say that I really enjoyed how you blended the sponsored content into this video! I'm going to be honest I don't enjoy a lot of sponsored videos as the sponsored segment can feel a bit forced, but I really enjoyed the way you blended it throughout the video instead! Loved this video and all your self care tips - I'm an evening shower person myself - helps me wind down after a long day and feel clean before bed
Evening showers are the best. Just wash down the entire day down the drain and blow dry out the day 😌 (can't go to bed with wet hair). Moisturize your body, get on your clean jammies, cuddle up with tea, a blanket, and some chill night time music with the lights low. Ahhhhhhh.
Showering in the evening can help if you have allergies (not bring allergens to bed), want to raise your body temperature a bit so the cooling off process makes you sleepy, or just find running shower water soothing. If I had the day to myself, I'd rest mind and body in bed a lot with ice packs, and take little excursions to the couch, desk, or kitchen to journal, read, do something artsy, or listen to comforting videos. I'd want to reheat leftovers or order delivery.
This was a hard watch for me 😕 Your lazy day looks like most of mine (with my work added on top) - but I'd long for it to not be that way. I'm filling time with these activities, whilst you're struggling to fit them in. Hoping that one day I can also be so busy looking after a wee one that I have to make effort and find time to be lazy.
This sounds like you and Dan need a little romance weekend. And Rowan stays with Grandparents, uncles, aunts, friends etc.. My sister and her husband do that once in a while. First time was hard for them. But now they love it. And I get a crazy fun weekend with my nephews. Party aunty 😎
Love this suggestion. But as a new parent who gets lots of unsolicited advice, I appreciate when people phrase things as suggestions rather than telling me what I "need/ should/ have to do". Food for thought. :)
@@julypatchouli9719 fair point. ;) I was just letting you know how I received your comment. But I can understand if it felt like lecturing. It's up to everyone's sensibilities, of course, and I'm sure you didn't mean to tell Hannah (or other parents) what she and her partner need, but rather meant to offer a helpful suggestion. Take care!
Stormlight Archive is one of my favorite series ever. Hell yeah! And hell yeah to being lazy, it's my favorite - no guilt bc I'm here to ENJOY MY LIFE 😘😘 GL getting that dream self-care day in the near future
So interesting this concept of 'laziness' or a 'lazy day' and how our society truly is driven by this notion that anything other than chaos and maxed out 'productivity' in service of others is somehow immoral or a sign of weakness/weak character. I also cringe thinking about how people dealing with depression, chronic illness, etc. could easily be labeled as lazy for doing things like spending the day in comfort clothes and not cooking bc it helps them save their energy, when there is nothing lazy at all about taking care of yourself and doing what you need to do for your body/mind/spirit to recover. ❤️
I also think it's so awful how many moms I see online or even supposed 'resource' accounts geared towards moms label something as simple as taking a shower as some really special form of self care when it's really just a basic hygiene need! It doesn't say anything good about our world that moms taking a shower or being able to have time for themselves is considered a novelty luxury. All moms/parents deserve more than just being able to get their basic needs met.
Oh no 😂 I made the same cookie mix a few days before Christmas. We didn't really like them that much and I think half of them are still in a cake tin... I should probably go deal with that now.
I used to be an evening shower person (until my husband converted me to mornings). For me, I used to have to leave the house relatively early, so didn't have as much time for a morning shower. Plus, I have very long hair, and prefer to let it air dry. Washing at night gave me the freedom/time to do that.
I love evening showers! Part of it grew out of a summer of manual labor lol I didn't want to bring paint and saw dust or just straight up grime and dust and mud into bed haha so I'm just used to it now but it does mess with my hair so I have to take a shower pretty early in my bedtime routine so my hair has time to dry
Audiobook recommendations to fuel your walks - My Year of Rest and Relaxation, Shrill, The Testements, Hunger, anything by Samantha Irby, anything by Mindy Kaling, I'm Glad My Mom Died, Big Magic, You'll Grow Out of It, and Little Weirds
Lazy days are the #1 thing I miss as a mum 😅. I will say though that they do happen again, slowly, the older they get. I get to have naps on the weekend sometimes, or read for a while etc. It's not with the same kind of abandon as before, but it's close.
I know this was more than likely part of the brand deal situation so this is more at Lush than Hannah and they probably won't see it, but I've been starting to see QR codes online recently and I genuinely do not understand. The entire point of QR codes is for a phone to scan something physical to go to a virtual thing. If you're already virtual, that's literally what links are for. If a QR code is a virtual graphic you need an entire second device with a camera that can scan QR codes. Vs a link is infinitely easier. Yes I may be watching this on my computer with a smartphone next to me, but that's probably not the case for most people, and even if it was, what kind of scenario makes it easier to open a second device's camera, scan it, and get the site open on the device you might not even be using in that moment? Like even if i wanted to continue watching youtube while looking at the link I'd just open a new tab lol. It just doesn't make any sense and kinda makes it look like whoever created it (in this case someone at Lush I would assume) doesn't get how technology works. ...Sorry that turned into a weird rant, this is just not the first time I've seen an online QR code in the past few weeks and I'm very confused
This video makes me really sad for Hannah. I think she clearly does need a day to herself, and it seems like she thinks that's something she can't have. Also a shower where you are trying to make sure the baby doesn't escape, or taking your baby for a walk isn't really a self care day. That's still caring for a baby. I hope she manages to schedule someone to care for Rowan and have an actual rest day (that she doesn't film) sometime soon.
I just want to say, as a mom of a seven month old, evening showers are great! I just hand off baby to dad and get that time to clean myself and be aLoNe. It’s marvelous ✨
Here in Belgian the childcare has a pretty bad reputation going on. A year ago a bad thing happend and since then pretty much every 2 weeks or even weekly a story would come out on the national news outlets about some other daycare now being closed due to a backclash on complaints suddenly being acted upon due to that one bad thing that happend. And there is already a shortage of daycare spots...
I hear the cry for help. I would love a video about Rowan's sleep problems and what you've tried. Try a sleep consultant and vlog it? Interested to hear your thoughts on CIO/Ferber etc.
It’s funny I don’t really understand how morning shower people can get into bed after collecting the germs and basic body functions from an entire day!
I play sport most evenings so I always need to shower after that which has made evening/night showering my routine. That said I will often shower earlier or mid morning on the weekends if I'm not playing.
Maybe I'd be an evening shower person (like my bf) if I didn't sweat at night (thanks SSRIs!). In an ideal world I'd shower twice a day, but I don't want to do that to the environment.
I don't understand people who only shower once per day 😂 I have both evening and morning showers because I live in Queensland, Australia where you are permanently sticky from humidity. Sometimes I'll even throw in an afternoon shower on those particularly bad hot humid summer days.
I became an evening shower person when my baby became mobile and I could no longer ‘dock’ her while I showered 😂 The only time I can shower is when she’s in bed at night
Yeah although it had its challenges I really hit my stride and miss my maternity leave days. Shower and sometimes a yoga video each day, walk with the pram along the canal most days...Back at work full time now and I defs am struggling to fit in any of these basic activities 🤦🏻♀️ But, Ah well 🙂
It's tough! Hope you find a way to fit in a little self care here and there. Perhaps you have friends who would be willing to take the baby for a short walk or similar. :)
I hate self care because for me it's very frustrating but I feel better when it's done, for me it would a self care day would be swimming, sort meds , medical admin , read , eat , wash , tidying idk
I am decidedly a morning shower person because I always feel gross when I wake up. That being said when I have work at 8am I'm probably gonna shower at night so I can sleep longer
I like idea of wake-up shower, but like an adition to evening shover, because who want to go to bed dirty? Nonono! Aslo, when i go to work i need to wake up 5:20 when i dont have shower at morning....
I think that "lazy" just gets thrown around a lot, including times when people do just mean taking some necessary rest, and I don't think that's a correct use of the word. Let's get rid of that use of the word. To me, "lazy" should only be used for when we means someone is perfectly able to do something, probably something they're responsible for, but they just can't be bothered. No particular reason. They're not tired or busy or whatever. They just are shirking their responsibilities. And honestly, I don't encounter that real kind of lazy very often.
So funny. I think the exact same thing about morning shower persons...what is that?why would you take a shower in the mornings? Haha so funny how different people are...but its ok as long as we even take showers ;)
"I do not understand evening shower people" I do not understand MORNING shower people!! In my country it would be really weird to shower in the morning becuase you want to be clean right before you get into bed!! If you shower in the morning, you just get oily, sweaty, dusty, dirty and then you get into BED with that??? EW! But also, I live in a country with pretty bad housing, so having a shower allows you to get to a good temperature to go to sleep. If it's 30 degrees at night, taking a cool shower before you get into bed is very soothing, if it's 6 degrees at night, you want a really hot shower so you can be nice and warm before you sleep. Or at least, that's how my reasoning is!!
The struggle is SO REAL Hannah, single girls or ladies without kids have no idea of the simple luxuries they have that I’m missing😅 like combing my hair in peace, 💩 in peace, reading a chapter of a damn book, randomly going to the grocery by myself, going anywhere or doing anything in a matter of minutes… a winter trip with kids, wether car rides, walks around the block etc. take an whole half hour routine to prep for-for what 5 mins outside or 20 mins down the road🤣that or u can just sit at home and rot🤣🤣🤣not really but SAHM have a lot of mental strength that ppl don’t even know about😅☮️
Trust me, some of us know and for me it is at least part of the reason I choose to be child free, but also why I always offer to babysit for my friends that do have kids.
We do have an idea of what's missing - and for some of us what's missing is a child. Living through quiet, lazy days is yet another reminder that I long to be busy and looking after a mini human. Hats off to you as I know it's not easy at all, but please remember this when posting somewhere where those going through sub/infertility can read it!
I'm an evening shower person because I don't want to get into my nice bed with all the dirt and sweat of the day on me! I like a morning shower too but given the choice I'm an evening bath/showerer all the way :D I love the idea of having children but as a childless person most of my weekends look like this already and I don't know if I'm ready to sacrifice that yet!
You deserve a self care Hannah it is so important for all moms and relax 💜❤️🩹❣️💖💖❣️💕💘💘💕🖤💛💚🖤🤎🤎💙❤️🔥❤️🔥🤎💙💝💜💜💜❤️🩹💛💚💛💕💘💘💘💘💘🖤💚💖💖❣️🤍💙💙🤎🤎💝❤️🩹💘💘💕💛💚💛🖤💕❣️💖❤️🧡🤎💙❤️🩹💕
This actually seems quite sad to me, if the only self care a mum with a baby gets is showers and walks. I don't think we're supporting parents enough in our society and definitely not supporting mothers!
Lazy days are so important for everyone and it helps so much and especially after working so hard and taking care of people and family and lazy days are just decompress and relax ur mind and body and force yourself and and etc xoxo 😚 💖💙💛🖤💕❤️💘💘💘🤍🖤🖤🖤🖤💛🤎🤎💓❤️🔥🧡💜💔💔🧡❤️🩹❣️❤️🔥💓🤎💙🖤🖤🖤🖤🤍❤️💘💘💘💕🤍🤍🖤🖤💕💘❤️🤍🖤💛💛💔💔💜❤️🩹❣️💓💘❤️💕🖤🖤💕
You deserve a self care day you are most greatest and amazing mom and need one always xoxo 😚💝❣️🖤💕💘💛💙💖💖💛💕💕💘💙💖💙🖤🤎❤️❤️❣️🧡💓❤️🔥🤍🤍🤍💜💝❣️🖤🖤🖤🤎🤎💛💛💘💕💘💙💖💖💖💙💙💘💕💕💕💛🖤🖤🤎💚🖤❤️❤️💝💔💓❤️🔥🤍🤍🤍
I feel like the real key to a quality lazy day is making acknowledged choices instead of moving from one thing to another mindlessly. When you do things mindlessly you feel you’ve wasted the day: “Ugh, I was so lazy today!” But of you take a moment and ask yourself what you want to do next, then decide, by the end of the day you can feel really recharged from a lazy day. 🎉
yes so true!!
Evening showers/baths are so you get to wash off any dirt and grime from the day away before you get into bed, and relax in hot water. And it saves time in the morning! :D
i usually can't sleep properly if i don't have a pre-bed shower! nothing like clean skin on clean sheets mmm. i also can't get warm enough in the bed, like i need to be preheated in the shower 😅
Fun fact for other sweaty people: antiperspirant works best if applied at night because that’s when sweat glands are least active! The product has more time to get in and do what it’s meant to do instead of being sweat out immediately which can happen in the morning :~)
“I don’t understand evening shower people” Me about to go for a shower after watching this… I’m so knackered after work and I have no energy left to cook/eat/do anything. A shower around 5-6pm can help give me that little bit of extra energy I need to get through the evening and actually eat properly
I don't "Get" showering in the morning. At the end of the day, a shower is relaxing; you're washing the day of, coming out with fresh, clean skin and hair, which makes even a bad day instantly better. You go to bed clean, which is one of the biggest things for me. Going to bed after a full day without showering makes me just think of lying in my own grime, and that makes it difficult to get to sleep.
Spot on 👌 That's exactly how I feel too :D
I don't "get" people who shower before going out-- where they will literally get dirty-- and then do not shower when they get home and just... luxuriate in the dirt and grime and pollution in their own house. I know this is stereotypical East Asian of me, but that is disgusting behavior lol
@@AllTheArtsy disgusting is pretty rough to me. There are obvious pros and cons to both sides and no one is disgusting for preferring or needing one over the other. I need to do both (personally) unless I'm too unwell for the luxury.
My husband and I shower every OTHER day... so I'm over here looking in the comments for people who are baffled at showering every day. 😂😂 Guess I'm alone in that one. 🤷♀
I sweat in my sleep so I like to shower in the morning so I'm not smelly when I go out for the day! It also helps me to wake up
I’m an evening shower person because getting up in the morning is already hard enough for this non morning person. Plus it helps me wind down before bed
I'm an evening shower person! it helps me wind down/relax before bed, plus I like feeling clean when i get into bed. It keeps my bed cleaner cause i don't feel like i'm getting in with the grime of the day and then letting that run all over my sheets all night
I do not have a "self-care day," instead I have worked to have a self-care life. I have built my life up to the point where I work when I want, the hours I want, with people I like. In a walkable city that I love being in, with infrastructure, culture and nature. It's not luxurious in a materialistic sense, but it is rich in everything that matters. I wish the same for you all.
night shower person because I must get the grime/germs off me before getting in my bed!
so glad you took the time for yourself!
I like that you talked about different kinds of self care. I find as a disabled mum I have to balance it between things I want to do and things that are actually good for me. Because like lying in bed all day might be what I want to do, but it makes my mental and physical health rubbish and I get more pain in the long run. Whereas if I balance in a bit of exercise and healthy eating then I feel so much better (which is really annoying obviously lol)
So true! Maintaining our physical and mental health is hard work!
It is so annoying! But we try!
Yes so true, as someone with chronic migraine staying in bed or watching tv for a long time triggers my headache but I love doing it
As a pregnant Mum of a toddler, THANK-YOU for acknowledging the difficulty of juggling part-time work with baby, housework and life admin. So often self-care is bottom of the list. Society should definitely be set up differently so we value all of the unpaid work parents do! Loved this style of video would love to see more self-care days to inspire Mums/parents how to fit it in!! 🤞🏻❤️
I love evening showers because it's one less thing to rush around doing in the morning but more importantly, I love been squeaky clean then getting into a fresh set of sheets. If you shower before bed your bed will be less gross imo
When my baby was a lot younger I always made time to wash my hair every day. I didn't always have time to dry it or style it or have it cut regularly but having clean hair was the one thing I could do to make myself feel better about myself.
So interesting seeing what other ppl do to unwind/relax/do self care! I defs think baking is a great self care activity ☺️
I’m neurodivergent + disabled so my dishes are literally never all done - but weirdly, if I’m having a bad day it helps to wash a few dishes, slowly and lazily with a fav tv show on in the background. Doesn’t matter if it takes me an hour to wash 3 cups, it feels like a huge win!!
It feels like self care in those times because it’s a reminder I deserve clean dishes and a decent living space. It’s something I don’t necessarily want to do or enjoy doing, but I do it in a way that I can manage as an act of self love.
That was a tangent but yeah like I said, fascinating how individual and personal stuff like that is!
Evening showerer- I don’t wanna be in bed dirty? If that makes sense. Like a wind down for the day and warm up and get into fluffies nice and clean.
I have "Laziness does not exist" by Devon Price on my to read list. Found it because I googled my theory of laziness literally not existing. Turns out I'm quite probably not wrong. I have ME, ADHD and EDS - all of which have "laziness" attached to it in different ways. I call BS.
That is a very good book! I highly recommend it!
@@feedtheflameforfacts Thanks :) Just purchased the audiobook.
Your introduction about self/structural/community care is sooo interesting. I recently understand that doing some stuff that my future me will be thankfull for (cooking, admin, home care...) is also self-care, and it's life changing
Chronic illness renders all my days into a frustrating combo of low activity/lots of rest while still being utterly exhausting. If there were no negative health consequences I would absolutely be doing the adventurous option...
Yes! I have severe fatigue unless I manage my sensory input (I'm autistic), so most days have to be restful! The worst thing is when I'm too tired to focus and I end up stressed and depressed.... But the best is when I see my OT (via zoom), have enough energy to work on an art project, eat leftovers for dinner with my friend, and go for an evening walk. That's a perfect day at home!
I personally would enjoy a political rant about parenting!
I sleep until I wake up by self (granted it's 8 at the absolute latest XD), make a cup of tea, feed the cat and then I do as little physical acitivity as possible. I can watch something but I will keep still. I then wait until I am bursting to do something and I allow myself to do what that is. No matter if it's going out getting a pastry or doing a craft or even cleaning - what it is doesn't' matter. The important part is that it is what I feel like doing. If I end up doing nothing all day, that is what was needed. No guilt or shame,
I tried to think of what my ultimate self care day would look like, and it's so hard to decide. I've got a two year old, and I'm 40 weeks pregnant, so my brain is just thinking about all that (I do have a very very good partner, but we've both let self care slide recently).
It doesn't help that I live in a place where we've had snow for the past two weeks, so we've been snowed it at home for most days and I desperately miss the sun.
I think my ideal self care day would start with a take-out breakfast and some thrifting. Then, time out in nature taking photos - not happening in the winter, but my dream day would be in spring or summer.
After that, spending time in the garden, or reading a book. Maybe watching some uninterrupted shows on Netflix. Eating whatever I wanted for lunch and supper without having to share. Ending the day with a nice bath.
Or - having a full day to just work on whatever diy or sewing project I have on the go. That would be great too
I have 4 girls now so have so little time for a lazy day. I totally empathise with the having to watch series in 10 minute bursts - I pop something on and just watch what I can in the small snippets of time I might find. I try and get a bath once a week just so I can lock myself away in the quiet and watch something in the bath but I have to hope the baby doesn't wake up when I do. Reading is one of my favourite things but I cannot stay awake to read a book at the moment- the sleep deprivation is real.
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To me there's still a difference between a rest day and a lazy day. It might be because I'm also chronically ill, but the difference to me is that a lazy day is a choice, a rest day is not. So on a lazy day I might still go out for a walk and do some things around the house, but not with a sense of urgency. A rest day is when I don't do that.
As a mom of a 5 month old who prefers to sleep on me i would definitely also do a lazy day but would go to my favourite burger place in the evening
The best advice I was given when I was a very tired new mum was, when the baby sleeps, you sleep. I was able to carry that on when I went back to full time work when the baby was 16 weeks old by going to bed when I put the baby down. Sleep matters more than dusting.
"Sleep matters more than dusting": Love this!
I also encourage anyone who is able to do that to sleep when baby sleeps. Though that can be hard when other priorities (like caring for siblings) come up
We fill up one bath tub and the three of us (son, husband and I) bathe after each other in no particular order before bedtime. Done for the day, clean, and ready to wake up early the next day. Saves time, water and resources. x
I shower in the evening. A. It gives my thick hair the time it needs to air dry without forcing me to get up so early. B. It cleans all of the germs I bring home from working with kids before I relax with my family. C. The hot shower helps me decompress from the day and relax as I transition to evening times.
I just want to say that I really enjoyed how you blended the sponsored content into this video! I'm going to be honest I don't enjoy a lot of sponsored videos as the sponsored segment can feel a bit forced, but I really enjoyed the way you blended it throughout the video instead! Loved this video and all your self care tips - I'm an evening shower person myself - helps me wind down after a long day and feel clean before bed
Rest as a new parent is hard! Sending love to everyone who needs a good nap and an hour to themselves.
Evening showers are the best. Just wash down the entire day down the drain and blow dry out the day 😌 (can't go to bed with wet hair). Moisturize your body, get on your clean jammies, cuddle up with tea, a blanket, and some chill night time music with the lights low. Ahhhhhhh.
Showering in the evening can help if you have allergies (not bring allergens to bed), want to raise your body temperature a bit so the cooling off process makes you sleepy, or just find running shower water soothing. If I had the day to myself, I'd rest mind and body in bed a lot with ice packs, and take little excursions to the couch, desk, or kitchen to journal, read, do something artsy, or listen to comforting videos. I'd want to reheat leftovers or order delivery.
This was a hard watch for me 😕 Your lazy day looks like most of mine (with my work added on top) - but I'd long for it to not be that way. I'm filling time with these activities, whilst you're struggling to fit them in. Hoping that one day I can also be so busy looking after a wee one that I have to make effort and find time to be lazy.
This sounds like you and Dan need a little romance weekend. And Rowan stays with Grandparents, uncles, aunts, friends etc.. My sister and her husband do that once in a while. First time was hard for them. But now they love it. And I get a crazy fun weekend with my nephews. Party aunty 😎
It definitely sounds like they're not really getting time together or time for themselves!
Love this suggestion. But as a new parent who gets lots of unsolicited advice, I appreciate when people phrase things as suggestions rather than telling me what I "need/ should/ have to do".
Food for thought. :)
@@cariiinen Okay. Note taken. And since you just lectured me, I SUGGEST you follow your own advice first. Better?
@@julypatchouli9719 fair point. ;)
I was just letting you know how I received your comment. But I can understand if it felt like lecturing.
It's up to everyone's sensibilities, of course, and I'm sure you didn't mean to tell Hannah (or other parents) what she and her partner need, but rather meant to offer a helpful suggestion.
Take care!
Evening showers I like because I can let my hair air dry, it's one less thing to worry about in the morning & I get to go to bed clean lol
Stormlight Archive is one of my favorite series ever. Hell yeah! And hell yeah to being lazy, it's my favorite - no guilt bc I'm here to ENJOY MY LIFE 😘😘 GL getting that dream self-care day in the near future
So interesting this concept of 'laziness' or a 'lazy day' and how our society truly is driven by this notion that anything other than chaos and maxed out 'productivity' in service of others is somehow immoral or a sign of weakness/weak character. I also cringe thinking about how people dealing with depression, chronic illness, etc. could easily be labeled as lazy for doing things like spending the day in comfort clothes and not cooking bc it helps them save their energy, when there is nothing lazy at all about taking care of yourself and doing what you need to do for your body/mind/spirit to recover. ❤️
I also think it's so awful how many moms I see online or even supposed 'resource' accounts geared towards moms label something as simple as taking a shower as some really special form of self care when it's really just a basic hygiene need! It doesn't say anything good about our world that moms taking a shower or being able to have time for themselves is considered a novelty luxury. All moms/parents deserve more than just being able to get their basic needs met.
My days off from work in the rota system are called Rest Days. And yeah, the point is to rest lol
Oh no 😂 I made the same cookie mix a few days before Christmas. We didn't really like them that much and I think half of them are still in a cake tin... I should probably go deal with that now.
I used to be an evening shower person (until my husband converted me to mornings). For me, I used to have to leave the house relatively early, so didn't have as much time for a morning shower. Plus, I have very long hair, and prefer to let it air dry. Washing at night gave me the freedom/time to do that.
I have recently learned the term 'no bones day', and I think it perfectly explains lazy days :)
I love evening showers! Part of it grew out of a summer of manual labor lol I didn't want to bring paint and saw dust or just straight up grime and dust and mud into bed haha so I'm just used to it now but it does mess with my hair so I have to take a shower pretty early in my bedtime routine so my hair has time to dry
Audiobook recommendations to fuel your walks - My Year of Rest and Relaxation, Shrill, The Testements, Hunger, anything by Samantha Irby, anything by Mindy Kaling, I'm Glad My Mom Died, Big Magic, You'll Grow Out of It, and Little Weirds
Lazy days are the #1 thing I miss as a mum 😅. I will say though that they do happen again, slowly, the older they get. I get to have naps on the weekend sometimes, or read for a while etc. It's not with the same kind of abandon as before, but it's close.
I know this was more than likely part of the brand deal situation so this is more at Lush than Hannah and they probably won't see it, but I've been starting to see QR codes online recently and I genuinely do not understand. The entire point of QR codes is for a phone to scan something physical to go to a virtual thing. If you're already virtual, that's literally what links are for. If a QR code is a virtual graphic you need an entire second device with a camera that can scan QR codes. Vs a link is infinitely easier. Yes I may be watching this on my computer with a smartphone next to me, but that's probably not the case for most people, and even if it was, what kind of scenario makes it easier to open a second device's camera, scan it, and get the site open on the device you might not even be using in that moment? Like even if i wanted to continue watching youtube while looking at the link I'd just open a new tab lol. It just doesn't make any sense and kinda makes it look like whoever created it (in this case someone at Lush I would assume) doesn't get how technology works.
...Sorry that turned into a weird rant, this is just not the first time I've seen an online QR code in the past few weeks and I'm very confused
This video makes me really sad for Hannah. I think she clearly does need a day to herself, and it seems like she thinks that's something she can't have. Also a shower where you are trying to make sure the baby doesn't escape, or taking your baby for a walk isn't really a self care day. That's still caring for a baby.
I hope she manages to schedule someone to care for Rowan and have an actual rest day (that she doesn't film) sometime soon.
Love that you were able to have a lazy day as part of your job, ultimate mum goal lol 😴 x
I just want to say, as a mom of a seven month old, evening showers are great! I just hand off baby to dad and get that time to clean myself and be aLoNe. It’s marvelous ✨
Here in Belgian the childcare has a pretty bad reputation going on. A year ago a bad thing happend and since then pretty much every 2 weeks or even weekly a story would come out on the national news outlets about some other daycare now being closed due to a backclash on complaints suddenly being acted upon due to that one bad thing that happend. And there is already a shortage of daycare spots...
I hear the cry for help. I would love a video about Rowan's sleep problems and what you've tried. Try a sleep consultant and vlog it? Interested to hear your thoughts on CIO/Ferber etc.
It’s funny I don’t really understand how morning shower people can get into bed after collecting the germs and basic body functions from an entire day!
I evening shower as I work at the hospital and would never get into bed after working and sweating all day haha.
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I have all the time in the world to watch a More Hannah video ❤️
I play sport most evenings so I always need to shower after that which has made evening/night showering my routine. That said I will often shower earlier or mid morning on the weekends if I'm not playing.
im in love with those PJs! 💙💚
Maybe I'd be an evening shower person (like my bf) if I didn't sweat at night (thanks SSRIs!). In an ideal world I'd shower twice a day, but I don't want to do that to the environment.
I don't understand people who only shower once per day 😂 I have both evening and morning showers because I live in Queensland, Australia where you are permanently sticky from humidity. Sometimes I'll even throw in an afternoon shower on those particularly bad hot humid summer days.
I became an evening shower person when my baby became mobile and I could no longer ‘dock’ her while I showered 😂 The only time I can shower is when she’s in bed at night
Yeah although it had its challenges I really hit my stride and miss my maternity leave days. Shower and sometimes a yoga video each day, walk with the pram along the canal most days...Back at work full time now and I defs am struggling to fit in any of these basic activities 🤦🏻♀️ But, Ah well 🙂
It's tough! Hope you find a way to fit in a little self care here and there. Perhaps you have friends who would be willing to take the baby for a short walk or similar. :)
I hate self care because for me it's very frustrating but I feel better when it's done, for me it would a self care day would be swimming, sort meds , medical admin , read , eat , wash , tidying idk
I am decidedly a morning shower person because I always feel gross when I wake up. That being said when I have work at 8am I'm probably gonna shower at night so I can sleep longer
I find it relaxing to bathe at night. It is a good way to wind down.
I’m so scared I’ll never be able to have kids because I literally nap after work and watch tv all weekend and I’m still tired
Evening shower so I’m clean going into bed!
I like idea of wake-up shower, but like an adition to evening shover, because who want to go to bed dirty? Nonono! Aslo, when i go to work i need to wake up 5:20 when i dont have shower at morning....
I miss "resting" and "being still" and "moving at a slower pace"
Cookies look great :)
They were delicious!
Thanks
Great video hannah
Btw evening showers are the best 😂
we have the same mixing bowl! bakers unite
I think that "lazy" just gets thrown around a lot, including times when people do just mean taking some necessary rest, and I don't think that's a correct use of the word. Let's get rid of that use of the word. To me, "lazy" should only be used for when we means someone is perfectly able to do something, probably something they're responsible for, but they just can't be bothered. No particular reason. They're not tired or busy or whatever. They just are shirking their responsibilities. And honestly, I don't encounter that real kind of lazy very often.
I take a shower after work cause I work on a dock and like to be clean when I get into bed
So funny. I think the exact same thing about morning shower persons...what is that?why would you take a shower in the mornings? Haha so funny how different people are...but its ok as long as we even take showers ;)
"I do not understand evening shower people"
I do not understand MORNING shower people!! In my country it would be really weird to shower in the morning becuase you want to be clean right before you get into bed!! If you shower in the morning, you just get oily, sweaty, dusty, dirty and then you get into BED with that??? EW! But also, I live in a country with pretty bad housing, so having a shower allows you to get to a good temperature to go to sleep. If it's 30 degrees at night, taking a cool shower before you get into bed is very soothing, if it's 6 degrees at night, you want a really hot shower so you can be nice and warm before you sleep.
Or at least, that's how my reasoning is!!
Who is your favourite stormlight character so far?
not having kids is self-care
Seems like you just begin a "shower gate" xD
The struggle is SO REAL Hannah, single girls or ladies without kids have no idea of the simple luxuries they have that I’m missing😅 like combing my hair in peace, 💩 in peace, reading a chapter of a damn book, randomly going to the grocery by myself, going anywhere or doing anything in a matter of minutes… a winter trip with kids, wether car rides, walks around the block etc. take an whole half hour routine to prep for-for what 5 mins outside or 20 mins down the road🤣that or u can just sit at home and rot🤣🤣🤣not really but SAHM have a lot of mental strength that ppl don’t even know about😅☮️
Trust me, some of us know and for me it is at least part of the reason I choose to be child free, but also why I always offer to babysit for my friends that do have kids.
@@TheMarjolein96 that’s very sweet of u😁 I also thought u would be child free but life happens 🤣
@@TheMarjolein96 me too!
Not all people without kids..
We do have an idea of what's missing - and for some of us what's missing is a child. Living through quiet, lazy days is yet another reminder that I long to be busy and looking after a mini human. Hats off to you as I know it's not easy at all, but please remember this when posting somewhere where those going through sub/infertility can read it!
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I'm an evening shower person because I don't want to get into my nice bed with all the dirt and sweat of the day on me! I like a morning shower too but given the choice I'm an evening bath/showerer all the way :D I love the idea of having children but as a childless person most of my weekends look like this already and I don't know if I'm ready to sacrifice that yet!
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You deserve a self care Hannah it is so important for all moms and relax 💜❤️🩹❣️💖💖❣️💕💘💘💕🖤💛💚🖤🤎🤎💙❤️🔥❤️🔥🤎💙💝💜💜💜❤️🩹💛💚💛💕💘💘💘💘💘🖤💚💖💖❣️🤍💙💙🤎🤎💝❤️🩹💘💘💕💛💚💛🖤💕❣️💖❤️🧡🤎💙❤️🩹💕
I hope you were able to *actually* nap a bit while filming lol
Showering in the evenings because then my hair can dry overnight
People who take everyday showers frighten me
This actually seems quite sad to me, if the only self care a mum with a baby gets is showers and walks. I don't think we're supporting parents enough in our society and definitely not supporting mothers!
hannah my mum ros likes to do a clothes wash in order to keep up with all the loads
You’re a mom we don’t sleep get real
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Lazy days are so important for everyone and it helps so much and especially after working so hard and taking care of people and family and lazy days are just decompress and relax ur mind and body and force yourself and and etc xoxo 😚 💖💙💛🖤💕❤️💘💘💘🤍🖤🖤🖤🖤💛🤎🤎💓❤️🔥🧡💜💔💔🧡❤️🩹❣️❤️🔥💓🤎💙🖤🖤🖤🖤🤍❤️💘💘💘💕🤍🤍🖤🖤💕💘❤️🤍🖤💛💛💔💔💜❤️🩹❣️💓💘❤️💕🖤🖤💕
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You deserve a self care day you are most greatest and amazing mom and need one always xoxo 😚💝❣️🖤💕💘💛💙💖💖💛💕💕💘💙💖💙🖤🤎❤️❤️❣️🧡💓❤️🔥🤍🤍🤍💜💝❣️🖤🖤🖤🤎🤎💛💛💘💕💘💙💖💖💖💙💙💘💕💕💕💛🖤🖤🤎💚🖤❤️❤️💝💔💓❤️🔥🤍🤍🤍