I'm golden child gone copper, I youngest, I'm next of kin watching dementia diva's back, they're all so dumb, I'm even executrix and scapegoat written out of the will, an overt coke head sis almost 70 an even worse mom than ours was, killed both husbands with pure meanness, run 🏃 they'll take you down too, it's all they know!
I have no idea how i found this in my time of need. But thank you for this video. "You dont heal a missing leg" that put all this pain in perspective. Ive spent hours doing research trying to heal. But it has made me an addict keeping me connected to the trauma and the narcissist by recreating the pain as a dopmine as self abuse. Emotional Management
I am a Highly Sensitive Preordained Empath. I was born an Empath.. I was abused in childhood this lifetime and experienced exceptional amounts of pain in various forms and extremely traumatized. I am not and have not developed any addictions and do not consume any pharmaceuticals. During times of my life I feel healed but know that the trauma will resurface and that it must be dealt with again and again. In my experience, in my honesty, sharing my truths of my life with others, was used against me by people even in spiritual circles. I have learned to isolate and not share for reasons of judgements by others in our societies. Our societies are not sophisticated enough to get past their own judgements of others.
Oh that's just lovely, I find with many who downplay my trauma or plain bad luck that they'll bunch it up with "Ah families" or "Shit happens", truly bewildering that persons choose to conform with so much despair around us, I'm such an empath that I 1) Left my career at his request 2) Became a stay at home mom at mine 3) Screw with me and live to regret it 4) Have a nice day, best wishes from Montreal! ❤
Being honest and open about your trauma, but being judged by an uneducated society. I recognize this all too well and feel sorry this happened to you and others just like us. They take away your perfectly valid reasons to struggle with life. It's sad most people lack the knowledge about trauma to fully understand this.
I was born empathic and had to be brutalised into submission by narcissists in my family. I've spent the last 43 years recovering my lost true self. I understand the pressures to become a narcissist, as that is the dominant culture we live in. However, the truth will out and peace can be reclaimed. Not easy but worth the effort.
Thank you. Ive been trying to "heal" for years now and have ended up in a worse spot then I seemed to be before and all It did was make me feel more shame and more "broken", that something was wrong with me than before.
Great Grandfather is William the Conqueror. I was born as an empathy, DNA. I too was abused greatly. Emotional, neglect, abandonment, sexual. I am not an addict, though I've tried to be. Thank you for your shared experience.
Thank you for your vulnerability and courage to share. I am sorry to hear you experience these horrible things. They can be soul-crushing. We are nonetheless, not alone.
Thank you for what you said about "healing". I have CPTSD, Autism and ADHD. When it came to my ADHD I kept thinking taking medication would "fix" the ADHD. The ADHD medication just made my anxiety worse. It was only when I realised my ADHD was a part of myself and not something to be "fixed" but something to be accepted that the symptoms became more manageable, or actually, I just realised they were only upsetting me because other people in my life growing up (especially my family and npd mother, that family, is as you said, traumatised) had labeled them as "wrong". Once I shed that label that I was wrong, or those symptoms were "wrong" I began to accept. Hey, I forget things, and that's okay. My ADHD ceased to be a problem because I accept it within myself. Yes sometimes it causes minor inconveniences but I give myself love and compassion around it. Maybe we ought to approach our trauma in the same way and accept it instead of thinking it's "wrong" about us.
Thank you for your courageous and vulnerable share. I have my opinions on medication, but each person must decide what is best for them by doing research and asking questions.
I have all the same diagnosis and yup once I finally got diagnosed with ASD, the path to self acceptance opened up and my life just keeps getting better the more I accept myself ❤
I'm an empath, the amount of traumas and abuse I went tru as kid,is not acceptable, but I have to accept it because I learned it's my path,im 43 now it got better ,but still go thru a lot.i feel like all My family hate me,now matter how good I'm to them ir treated them.
Your environment can bring out either. Could be the type of narcissism you were abused by and the significant wounds. Hence therapy. Thank you from a fello hyper vigilant child, just learning
7:20 This is accomplished as a kid by the mental gymnastics of getting outside of your undeveloped self, to feel better by helping others to feel better. Literally, as a child, you subjugate your needs for the needs imposed upon you.
It has taken me a lifetime (I'm 62) to come to terms with my childhood issues (good old stepfather crap) and how it affected my self esteem, my relationships, my career. I'm not sure that is considered "healing" but rather self awareness. I've been sober 25 years (this Friday) but working on that did not uncover co-dependency issues which, I must admit, was probably the core issue of my drinking. AA must be combined with independent therapy, in my opinion. On the bright side, I'm feeling more liberated and relaxed after unloading toxic relationships and realizing my true strengths. I am happy today and look forward to living my life with this gratitude.
Good day to you and everybody else very grateful for your message. What you’re saying is so true I was in foster care. I was told since we were 11 months old from five years old severe abuse all the way till now I’m 61and 61 is turning into bullying now. i’m highly sensitive. I was told weak people will not make it in this world. I am not weak. I’m just I will not hate my abusers. I will not hate others. I just have to keep forgiving what I’ve learned was just to stay away from people, but I know that’s hard. I just want to say I’m very very grateful for your message. Make everybody have a beautiful and blessed day misunderstood. Like a lot of other people. And I wanna thank you for your amazing message. I am very grateful.🕊️🙏🏽🌟🌿🕊️🌎🕊️🌿🌟
I'm not weak but know what hating them takes energy and they're not worth another drip! Haven't seen dementia diva in 10 yrs, no longer my problem nor her horrible family either, you do have to be strong enough to make a buck but should be able to relax, find pleasure in the day also, at family gatherings (I eloped, didn't want them there seeing drip their caused at older siblings' weddings, all want of drama and feeling of importance, they all got their audience of one still happening, you can still love them, luckily there's plenty to go around and proof is we love ourselves most of all!
Hi I like your fresh outlooks, empath 'till I die, only way to be, narcs all around and no contact too, sucks to be them they can shake their crazy elsewhere done is done! 🎉
No. There is no healing, there is adjustment. Pathways formed in the brain to minimize the damage, and yet, the child has the choice on which way to turn. I went with family friend's children to Catechism and was introduced to the concept of Unconditional Love. I then, in turn, turned my pain into empathy, strength and compassion to other kids, who were in emotional stress.
Nurture and nature: empaths are born, has to do with the gene also. during pregnancy, it matters what the mother did and the father or whom was around the mother. So it's a mixture of nurture and nature, same as it is for a psychopath. It matters how the mother processed the environment...this as a baseline.
.For us survivors you give hope .Thank you fo r sharing your humanity I'm sorry fo r the horrible done to you.❤ Ignore the naysayers dnt give narc supply, its draining.
I totally agree has lve come from child abuse by my so called father but l used my experiences for good to help and to give a better understanding in themselves has it took me years to deal with what had happen but l walk with TMH lord and turned my life around in a positive way and manner speak my truth and lm grateful for blessing and support l get from TMH but 4 yrs its been l go to counselling lve learnt the tools to get me by in my life in Jesus's mighty name amen thankyou for the reading godbless lm a survivor forgive and move on
Yes, but what if there were empath therapists who know the inner landscape that could then minister to their wounded empath brothers and sisters? Wouldn't that be nice.
Mr. Germaine, I admit I was skeptical at first. But then I anchored my attention on the fact that you are an expert of your own life, just like we all are, and that your perspectives and writings are based on that (as well as the reading and research you've done). I was fascinated by the brief mention of the empath spirit being born to a child in an abusive situation/family, with the purpose to heal. I'm assuming you mean to heal others? I'm going to try to find out more about this topic. Thank you.
1:33 Imo that part is true from my experience, but the first piece isn't. Imo when you are afflicted with this kind of confusing abuse, you internally make a choice to be in a space of hate or love. If in the latter, you feel excruciating pain and loss and you DON'T want others to feel the same thing. That is my experience, having been exposed to this kind of covert, insidious abuse since early childhood.
I cannot even wait until the end of the video to say that no, you have no idea about Psychology. First of all, Freud didn't follow the scientific method, so why are you concluding that because Freud said something wrong, then that means that the science did something wrong? He was not a scientist, but a psychoanalist.
Another thing that I believe you don't get right: science can PREDICT, while pseudo-science can not. That's why we have theories that explain why things happens. It is not only a suposition or believe, but something that needs to be proved and replicated study after study.
You may not agree or subscribe to Freud because he didn't play by the rules that you subscribe too, however, he opened the door to a knew way of trying to understand the human condition and let's not forget, he is considered the grandfather of psychology! So quoting him and highlighting his own self admitted error, is valid whether you agree or not. The current scientific method will one day be challenged and potentially be "proven" wrong tomorrow, because that's how we evolve... by challenging conventions whether YOU agree or like it or not. With evolution, we realize what we once believed to be "true" was only "true" in alignment with the known and accepted standards (or methods) of the day. This applies to today's scientific method.. it's basically an intellectual term for speculation based on the study and observing of patterns that then turn into conclusions... still not making it a necessary truth. Thanks for sharing your OPINION. I value differences, understanding that it's not a question of right or wrong... just a different opinion based on different beliefs and criteria. As much as those who blindly subscribe to science hate people like me. Both Descartes and Einstein challenged science!!! In fact Descartes said, "understanding the natural world through reason and skepticism" - hmmm, skepticism??? Meaning we should not blindly believe in it but always be skeptical to inspire growth, improvement and evaluation. So I invited to respectfully keep believing blindly in the "scientific method" and I will reserve my right to challenge science and be infinitely curious and skeptical.
@@VitalMGermaine Thanks for your reply. The scientific method works by establishing an hyphotesis and challenging it to see wether it is true or not. The method implies that your assumptions may be wrong, and that's why you test your hypothesis, to see if your ideas are correct or not. If they're not, then you need to look for another explanation. I would recommend that you search for the different phases of the scientific method beacause I don't think you quite understand what you're critizicing. If you understood it, you wouldn't say what we once believed to be true then can be wrong. OF COURSE. That's what the scientific method is.
@@carolovesteven You don't know anything about me. You don't remotely know why I may have used that hand gesture as a speaker. IT'S blatant judgment. And it's your right to do so. Jus be aware that you are doing it. I have zero affiliation with whatever entity you suggested. So, if i had put my hands together it would have meant religious, negating atheism??? Hahaha, again, you don't know me to judge me. The shame is on YOU.
@@VitalMGermaine I don’t need to know anything about you to observe your occult/satanic hand symbolism. The close ups. One would be blind not to see it. It was so disturbing I couldn’t continue watching your content. I’m not religious. I know who my Lord is. He’s Jesus. Who’s yours?
@@carolovesteven well then, be disturbed. My intentions are pure, good and authentic. Your opinion will not dilute my work. Thank you for engaging and expressing your opinions. Though I disagree I welcome ALL takes for the sake of healthy debate.
Wow, thank you this is incredible. I’ve never even really listen to somebody who makes perfect sense to me. Thank you your friend and fan from California medication.🐶🤍😇🤍🩵👼💋
Never underestimate the trauma created by sibling bullies
I'm golden child gone copper, I youngest, I'm next of kin watching dementia diva's back, they're all so dumb, I'm even executrix and scapegoat written out of the will, an overt coke head sis almost 70 an even worse mom than ours was, killed both husbands with pure meanness, run 🏃 they'll take you down too, it's all they know!
Spot on!
Narc siblings.
I have no idea how i found this in my time of need. But thank you for this video. "You dont heal a missing leg" that put all this pain in perspective. Ive spent hours doing research trying to heal. But it has made me an addict keeping me connected to the trauma and the narcissist by recreating the pain as a dopmine as self abuse. Emotional Management
Honored to know I could provide value and help along your healing journey. Thank you for sharing.
I am a Highly Sensitive Preordained Empath. I was born an Empath.. I was abused in childhood this lifetime and experienced exceptional amounts of pain in various forms and extremely traumatized. I am not and have not developed any addictions and do not consume any pharmaceuticals. During times of my life I feel healed but know that the trauma will resurface and that it must be dealt with again and again. In my experience, in my honesty, sharing my truths of my life with others, was used against me by people even in spiritual circles. I have learned to isolate and not share for reasons of judgements by others in our societies. Our societies are not sophisticated enough to get past their own judgements of others.
Thank you for this beautiful, vulnerable and courageous share. I am sorry you went through the pains of being born an empath.
Oh that's just lovely, I find with many who downplay my trauma or plain bad luck that they'll bunch it up with "Ah families" or "Shit happens", truly bewildering that persons choose to conform with so much despair around us, I'm such an empath that I 1) Left my career at his request 2) Became a stay at home mom at mine 3) Screw with me and live to regret it 4) Have a nice day, best wishes from Montreal! ❤
Isolation seems to be a common recourse.
I can so relate to you!
Being honest and open about your trauma, but being judged by an uneducated society.
I recognize this all too well and feel sorry this happened to you and others just like us.
They take away your perfectly valid reasons to struggle with life. It's sad most people lack the knowledge about trauma to fully understand this.
I was born empathic and had to be brutalised into submission by narcissists in my family. I've spent the last 43 years recovering my lost true self. I understand the pressures to become a narcissist, as that is the dominant culture we live in. However, the truth will out and peace can be reclaimed. Not easy but worth the effort.
❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Thank you. Ive been trying to "heal" for years now and have ended up in a worse spot then I seemed to be before and all It did was make me feel more shame and more "broken", that something was wrong with me than before.
I totally understand that feeling of "broken"
Great Grandfather is William the Conqueror. I was born as an empathy, DNA. I too was abused greatly. Emotional, neglect, abandonment, sexual.
I am not an addict, though I've tried to be.
Thank you for your shared experience.
Thank you for your vulnerability and courage to share. I am sorry to hear you experience these horrible things. They can be soul-crushing. We are nonetheless, not alone.
Thank you for what you said about "healing". I have CPTSD, Autism and ADHD. When it came to my ADHD I kept thinking taking medication would "fix" the ADHD. The ADHD medication just made my anxiety worse. It was only when I realised my ADHD was a part of myself and not something to be "fixed" but something to be accepted that the symptoms became more manageable, or actually, I just realised they were only upsetting me because other people in my life growing up (especially my family and npd mother, that family, is as you said, traumatised) had labeled them as "wrong". Once I shed that label that I was wrong, or those symptoms were "wrong" I began to accept. Hey, I forget things, and that's okay. My ADHD ceased to be a problem because I accept it within myself. Yes sometimes it causes minor inconveniences but I give myself love and compassion around it. Maybe we ought to approach our trauma in the same way and accept it instead of thinking it's "wrong" about us.
Thank you for your courageous and vulnerable share. I have my opinions on medication, but each person must decide what is best for them by doing research and asking questions.
I have all the same diagnosis and yup once I finally got diagnosed with ASD, the path to self acceptance opened up and my life just keeps getting better the more I accept myself ❤
Congrats on such a powerful realization and share 🤍🤍🤍
I'm an empath, the amount of traumas and abuse I went tru as kid,is not acceptable, but I have to accept it because I learned it's my path,im 43 now it got better ,but still go thru a lot.i feel like all My family hate me,now matter how good I'm to them ir treated them.
❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Your environment can bring out either. Could be the type of narcissism you were abused by and the significant wounds. Hence therapy. Thank you from a fello hyper vigilant child, just learning
7:20 This is accomplished as a kid by the mental gymnastics of getting outside of your undeveloped self, to feel better by helping others to feel better. Literally, as a child, you subjugate your needs for the needs imposed upon you.
Indeed
Thank you for your insight into dealing with trauma.
It has taken me a lifetime (I'm 62) to come to terms with my childhood issues (good old stepfather crap) and how it affected my self esteem, my relationships, my career. I'm not sure that is considered "healing" but rather self awareness. I've been sober 25 years (this Friday) but working on that did not uncover co-dependency issues which, I must admit, was probably the core issue of my drinking. AA must be combined with independent therapy, in my opinion. On the bright side, I'm feeling more liberated and relaxed after unloading toxic relationships and realizing my true strengths. I am happy today and look forward to living my life with this gratitude.
Congratulations on your personal revelations and growth. It is a very personal on-going journey.
Wow, I could have written your comment. Only 1 difference is that I will be 57 this month.
Good day to you and everybody else very grateful for your message. What you’re saying is so true I was in foster care. I was told since we were 11 months old from five years old severe abuse all the way till now I’m 61and 61 is turning into bullying now. i’m highly sensitive. I was told weak people will not make it in this world. I am not weak. I’m just I will not hate my abusers. I will not hate others. I just have to keep forgiving what I’ve learned was just to stay away from people, but I know that’s hard. I just want to say I’m very very grateful for your message. Make everybody have a beautiful and blessed day misunderstood. Like a lot of other people. And I wanna thank you for your amazing message. I am very grateful.🕊️🙏🏽🌟🌿🕊️🌎🕊️🌿🌟
I'm not weak but know what hating them takes energy and they're not worth another drip! Haven't seen dementia diva in 10 yrs, no longer my problem nor her horrible family either, you do have to be strong enough to make a buck but should be able to relax, find pleasure in the day also, at family gatherings (I eloped, didn't want them there seeing drip their caused at older siblings' weddings, all want of drama and feeling of importance, they all got their audience of one still happening, you can still love them, luckily there's plenty to go around and proof is we love ourselves most of all!
Hi I like your fresh outlooks, empath 'till I die, only way to be, narcs all around and no contact too, sucks to be them they can shake their crazy elsewhere done is done! 🎉
Indeed indeed!
No. There is no healing, there is adjustment. Pathways formed in the brain to minimize the damage, and yet, the child has the choice on which way to turn.
I went with family friend's children to Catechism and was introduced to the concept of Unconditional Love. I then, in turn, turned my pain into empathy, strength and compassion to other kids, who were in emotional stress.
A choice indeed... tough! Conscious, subconscious???
7:59 I recommend Marc Lewis' book "The Biology of Desire"
Thank you
Nurture and nature: empaths are born, has to do with the gene also. during pregnancy, it matters what the mother did and the father or whom was around the mother. So it's a mixture of nurture and nature, same as it is for a psychopath. It matters how the mother processed the environment...this as a baseline.
Agree.
.For us survivors you give hope .Thank you fo r sharing your humanity I'm sorry fo r the horrible done to you.❤
Ignore the naysayers dnt give narc supply, its draining.
It is indeed very draining. Sorry you went through it.
I feel so much better after seeing this video. Thank you. What a breath of fresh air with this new perspective.
Thank you Vital. For ALL that you do to bring enlightenment, education and . . . HOPE.
Thank you very much!
I totally agree has lve come from child abuse by my so called father but l used my experiences for good to help and to give a better understanding in themselves has it took me years to deal with what had happen but l walk with TMH lord and turned my life around in a positive way and manner speak my truth and lm grateful for blessing and support l get from TMH but 4 yrs its been l go to counselling lve learnt the tools to get me by in my life in Jesus's mighty name amen thankyou for the reading godbless lm a survivor forgive and move on
Sorry you went through it all, and congrats on facing your demons.
Yes, but what if there were empath therapists who know the inner landscape that could then minister to their wounded empath brothers and sisters? Wouldn't that be nice.
I’m not therapist but ivan trauma certified and an empath empowerment coach
Mr. Germaine, I admit I was skeptical at first. But then I anchored my attention on the fact that you are an expert of your own life, just like we all are, and that your perspectives and writings are based on that (as well as the reading and research you've done). I was fascinated by the brief mention of the empath spirit being born to a child in an abusive situation/family, with the purpose to heal. I'm assuming you mean to heal others? I'm going to try to find out more about this topic. Thank you.
Thank you... yes, to heal others Elizabeth.
Becoming either the angel or the demon ...
Indeed
I wrote about this many years ago
Spot on
Thank you!
Preach.
Thank you.
Neglect
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1:33 Imo that part is true from my experience, but the first piece isn't. Imo when you are afflicted with this kind of confusing abuse, you internally make a choice to be in a space of hate or love. If in the latter, you feel excruciating pain and loss and you DON'T want others to feel the same thing. That is my experience, having been exposed to this kind of covert, insidious abuse since early childhood.
Yes ageeed ❤
♥
8:03 addiction has many forms. You may have addiction you do not yet see.
So this means that psychopaths are created to cause destruction
I think a lot of empaths are wrongly diagnosed as autistic
Very very possible if not probable
What if the empath turned into belligerent and anti-social in the process?
Possible
Skills
I cannot even wait until the end of the video to say that no, you have no idea about Psychology. First of all, Freud didn't follow the scientific method, so why are you concluding that because Freud said something wrong, then that means that the science did something wrong? He was not a scientist, but a psychoanalist.
Another thing that I believe you don't get right: science can PREDICT, while pseudo-science can not. That's why we have theories that explain why things happens. It is not only a suposition or believe, but something that needs to be proved and replicated study after study.
You may not agree or subscribe to Freud because he didn't play by the rules that you subscribe too, however, he opened the door to a knew way of trying to understand the human condition and let's not forget, he is considered the grandfather of psychology! So quoting him and highlighting his own self admitted error, is valid whether you agree or not.
The current scientific method will one day be challenged and potentially be "proven" wrong tomorrow, because that's how we evolve... by challenging conventions whether YOU agree or like it or not. With evolution, we realize what we once believed to be "true" was only "true" in alignment with the known and accepted standards (or methods) of the day. This applies to today's scientific method.. it's basically an intellectual term for speculation based on the study and observing of patterns that then turn into conclusions... still not making it a necessary truth.
Thanks for sharing your OPINION. I value differences, understanding that it's not a question of right or wrong... just a different opinion based on different beliefs and criteria. As much as those who blindly subscribe to science hate people like me. Both Descartes and Einstein challenged science!!! In fact Descartes said, "understanding the natural world through reason and skepticism" - hmmm, skepticism??? Meaning we should not blindly believe in it but always be skeptical to inspire growth, improvement and evaluation. So I invited to respectfully keep believing blindly in the "scientific method" and I will reserve my right to challenge science and be infinitely curious and skeptical.
@@VitalMGermaine Thanks for your reply. The scientific method works by establishing an hyphotesis and challenging it to see wether it is true or not. The method implies that your assumptions may be wrong, and that's why you test your hypothesis, to see if your ideas are correct or not. If they're not, then you need to look for another explanation. I would recommend that you search for the different phases of the scientific method beacause I don't think you quite understand what you're critizicing. If you understood it, you wouldn't say what we once believed to be true then can be wrong. OF COURSE. That's what the scientific method is.
You are SO RIGHT. Thank you@@yusepp
@@yusepplet me ask you this…did you trust the science in 2021?
The occult hand symbolism is disturbing. I couldn’t even finish watching the message. My goodness. This place is infested with occult worshippers.
Without knowing me, you are ASSUMING much and being very judgmental.
@@VitalMGermaine no I’m not judging. I see it. I call it as I see it.
@@carolovesteven You don't know anything about me. You don't remotely know why I may have used that hand gesture as a speaker. IT'S blatant judgment. And it's your right to do so. Jus be aware that you are doing it. I have zero affiliation with whatever entity you suggested.
So, if i had put my hands together it would have meant religious, negating atheism??? Hahaha, again, you don't know me to judge me. The shame is on YOU.
@@VitalMGermaine I don’t need to know anything about you to observe your occult/satanic hand symbolism. The close ups. One would be blind not to see it. It was so disturbing I couldn’t continue watching your content. I’m not religious. I know who my Lord is. He’s Jesus. Who’s yours?
@@carolovesteven well then, be disturbed. My intentions are pure, good and authentic. Your opinion will not dilute my work. Thank you for engaging and expressing your opinions. Though I disagree I welcome ALL takes for the sake of healthy debate.
Wow, thank you this is incredible. I’ve never even really listen to somebody who makes perfect sense to me. Thank you your friend and fan from California medication.🐶🤍😇🤍🩵👼💋
Thank you Frankie!!!