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People hate what they could never be. Periodt.

I'm an ENFJ, but I'll be coming off as an INFJ because I gotta be a gray rock around everyone nowadays. I do feel there's something spiritual about this topic that may help us empaths connect more to God. I think one of the main reasons we're hated is envy. They seem to hate our joy de vivre the most. See Julie Andrews (who ended up in therapy as an adult) singing, "I go to the hills when my heart is lonely ~ ~ ah aah ahh ahh" The nature cure

Thanks for this. 🕊

Yep, a stubborn INFJ. Walking through the lady embers to some peace 😂. Oh my. Beautiful feeling here. Thank you

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I don’t understand, how can someone ‘understand’ the pain/feeling but not agree with the why or the how? If they don’t then isn’t that invalidation? Because if the person doesn’t agree with the why then won’t that invalidate the person’s feelings? Like if someone gets hurt how can someone not agree with the cause/experience of the person’s hurt? Because if the person doesn’t agree with the why (not saying they have to) won’t that tell the person that how they feel is wrong?

I just wish I knew how to control mines. It's been driving me crazy since a child. And nobody near me will bother to help me without lots of $$$. I hate it but that's just me.

It's called "The Switch". Prof. Dr Sam Vaknin made an entire, fascinating video about the borderliner's and the narcissistic's Switch.

THANK YOU...I needed this so much.

Thank you very much!!!!!!

Yes! Thank you for this! I have always felt like a mirror reflecting people’s bad qualities and behaviors back onto them when they so often accuse me of the things that I know they are doing and just hate, resent, or despise me for no apparent reason! I even get this from close family members and have been baffled by it. I am often shocked by this when accused and deduced on my own some time ago that they are simply projecting onto me their own negative behaviors! I have often thought of researching this phenomenon but didn’t, and am so glad to hear that it is a real phenomenon and I’m not the only person who has experienced it.

When I realise other people experience what you are going through… We are not alone - and I can continue being me unapologetically!!! I don’t understand how we are hated for being contented with our lot!!! 🤷🏽‍♀️

Sadistic psychological torture acheived in some cases through WITCHCRAFT!! Jesus is Lord! Praise him as he will heal me fully in his time.

So true. Thank you!

My Dear Bryan, I can't write to you directly. You abandoned and betrayed me; replaced me. You went from being my best friend, to being someone who deeply-profoundly traumatized me. On a soul level, you raped me. You're much worse than an enemy. You're a stranger now. And I could weep endlessly, as I type this. My soul, she silently wails, for the loss of you, and for the hell that you've put me through. And because I can't write to you, I leave this comment here. I don't know what else to do. I'm lost and alone. With not a soul to talk to. Is it true? Did we come here together with some sort of soul contract? Is this just some karmic bullshit? Do we have different relationships to one another, in parallel/past/future lives? Or is this story far more simple? Am I still just the little abused and bullied girl, with zero self esteem, who fell for the covertly-abusive man, offering little more than breadcrumbs? Either way, we end up in the same place. You: off making your wildest dreams come true, with my replacement. Me: traumatized broken-hearted, in agony. What fairness is this? Where is the justice? Where is God in all of this?

I am absolutely not the narcissist. Been through enough counselling ... my situation is familial. Yea Ive had some really horrid relationships with some seriously psychologically dysfunctional people. More counseling. My fave was the Asian woman who took one look at me and started screaming..were you abused as a child? I couldn't believe her style. Ive been exploring the core of me for what feels like forever and I know we all have some narcissistic traits so we can get jobs n etc. No. I swear on the Bhagavad Gita that I am most assuredly not a narcissist or have borderline personality disorder. Many blessings n have a nice day. 😊

I’m so grateful to have found you! Just over the past week you’ve helped me greatly. It has given me more confidence with helping those that are my assignments. Never been told I was a narcissist to me face be definitely felt the negative energy for being an empath. Not attending funerals especially has been the most challenging boundary placed. Being both a physical and emotional empath it very sickening for me. Thankful the Aquarian Age.

I've finished my relationship with a cover narc, i think, not even sure what cluster of narc type she was. But hear me out, it started magically, it was all a bliss, i've said to everyone that i will marry this woman, this happy i was, heck i even got a tattoo on my wrist with an infinite sign, it was our " thing ". I cringe when i think about that. It all started with control, small things, small accusations, it was 4 or 5 months in relationship, we were in the park, first day of spring, first day when we were in the park, enjoying sun after a long winter and cold, i was so happy and in love, when i got home, i received a long wall of text accusing me that i was looking after 2 girls, even if she was extremly good looking, model waist, pretty face, long black hair, big lips, superb woman. Yet, she accused me that i was looking after 2 girls that were in my eyesight, i don't even remember how they looked, because i was so deeply in love with her, i didn't even noticed who the heck was going in front of me. Then it started even more, the constant break ups, i think every month i was crying like a stupid, imagine a muscular man, fit, ripped, abs, crying over a girl, because the pain i felt all the time was real from the break ups, I've fell into a huge depression, stopped taking care of myself, stopped hitting the gym. I begged her to stop doing these things, cuz it's hurting me, she broke up with me for the most insignifiant reasons possible. I've been called a toxic that i don't wanna share my phone password, always she felt the need to control me, i've never slipped not even 0,1%, putting likes on a photo or something, i even said to her i will give you my phone at any hour!!! but i don't feel comfortable to sleep and you to search through my phone, since she find an argument from everything. we started having fights for 3 years old photos from my social accounts, she made me remove all my friends, gaslight me, torture, silence treatment, i started doing the same shit, i said stop, i don't wanna do this anymore. Every time she broke up with me, never said sorry next day or day after, she was manipulating me that she is sick, and she is passing out and to come rescue her. I have a cat, she has a dog, she wanted to move in together, but to keep my cat alone in an apartment, every time i went to take care of my cat and if i remained overnight, everytime was a break up threat, or a silence treatment till next day. Heck one time she even told me she breaks up with me because she assumes that i did something in 10 hours while SHE didn't speak to me or RESPONDED to my messages. When i stopped begging for her to text me, she was the victim, why i didn't kept begging. Fuck i am so frustrated i can't even comprehened. I need a therapist.

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Actually, my malignant narcissist sister hasn’t tried this tactic, because she’s unaware of the topic. For me, however, even as what most would consider the scapegoat, the codependent, the empathic one and all those other low spectrum names, I question at times, if I’m the psychopath. As is said, there are many psychopaths walking around, that have never hurt anyone. I’ve always been considered a kind person. Could be be because no one really knows anyone else really. But then, there’s those designations of super/sigma/dark empaths. I may fall into one of those designations which, although maybe not associated with psychopathy, feels much like it, at times. Merely because, when targeted by a narcissist, I don’t just have compassion fatigue. My empathy flatlines. If they’ve hurt me and I can spare the time, I may ensure they suffer, long after they’ve wiped their hands of their destruction. I don’t feel proud of it, but I also went no contact with my narcissistic mother, knowing full well, she’d have a miserable existence, leading to a miserable death, under the “care” of a malignant sister. But, I was abandoned by betrayal, by my mother, left, and locked the door behind me. I feel I have cognitive empathy sometimes, for the fate she chose, knowingly or not. Other times, I reconnect to earlier years, where I felt I was loved and I loved her dearly. But, since she discarded me and with what she said to me, indicating she wanted, very much, for my sister to abuse me, it was like a horror movie, where the door slams shut, in its own, between two people. But, it’s as if, once you learn about narcissism, it feels as if you can ending flipping to the other side of the coin. That, sometimes, unlike many, who have SLDD (self love deficit disorder), when you catch wind of a narcissist, they’re doomed.

The "good guy" is infinitely more attractive to HEALTHY people. She has to be healing herself and appreciative of his human-ness. Only time and patience allows any of us to truly know ourselves and others. Put the time in.

In conflict -who said the words i'm sorry ,took ownership or admitted wrongdoing ? - Who remembered grudges and rehearsed them as mental weapons. - Who used everyday situations and standard things as manipulation -And lastly ,who analysed themselves to better themselves, questioned what they were told and became a solution person rather than a problem driven person. The correct answers are 1 and 4 I'm sure that you know who you were now. I was very relieved after finding this peace.

Holy stuff bro this was the pep talk/break down I needed thanks

You are helping immeasurably; thank you. It's been a decades long struggle. Fortunately a therapist walks me through this every time I revisit this question. Reading your books now.

You are helping immeasurably; thank you. It's been a decades long struggle. Fortunately a therapist walks me through this every time I revisit this question.

Being child-like, playful 😊 i noticed when connecting with my inner child the shift of energy is endless

Yep, been there, I have asked that of myself for sure.

THANK YOU brother! For years I felt like that. And your absolutely right about self evaluation! Your the truth! Respect and Peace to all Empaths. Thanks again. 👍

Thank you!!!!

Thank you for this info and sorry for your bad experiences. In my case my parents are both narcissists. I had no childhood and I still struggle to "imagine" or "day dreaming" what I wish. How can I gain a child like hopefulness?

My husband I walked away from toxic people, family and friends, by moving to an affluent area where we live with peace and quiet.We chose the area for its proximity to my husbands work and the peace and quiet. It just happens to be described as an affluent area. We know people, ie family and friends, criticise our choice. We feel they dislike us. We actually dont care what they say. They don't pay for the food on our table or our mortgage. They don't define how we ought to live our lives. We do. We are too busy navigating life to worry about what they say about us. We focus on self improvement and encourage each other. We raised a daughter who we are supporting with her exporting business. We also donate to children with cancer and disabilities and various other charities. The other day, we saw a man looking for food in a rubbish bin outside McDonalds. We drove up and gave him some food. These are things we pay attention to, not back stabbers and jealous trash talk about us. Envy and jealousy does not live on the same street as courage and compassion. We are big supporters of children. We both grew up in the poor area of the city and we know what its like to go without. Living in a quiet peaceful neighbourhood helps me recharge and get protection from negative toxic energy.

Thank you Father God for vindication- I needed to hear this message from a complete stranger. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Yes, this right here!!! I was so confused by being called a narcissist- especially when all I do is look out and help people. Then when I took up for myself, I was called a narcissist. Then I realized that I wasn’t a narcissist when I was giving them money to eat but once I stopped giving them money - then I was the worst person in the world. Definitely heartbreaking- narcissists seem to thrive in work environments. The book Emotional Intelligence really helped me with understanding myself. I have your book in my Amazon cart, I will purchase it in the next few days! Thank you for these videos, I was feeling alone - it always seemed like no one understood what I was going through and how they made me feel.

Thank you. I recently found your channel and am glad to be subscribed. This message today was well-timed and very much needed 🙏🩷

My Narc Mother played that game with me. Even as a child, she would pick at me until I exploded... then she would suddenly become serene. Seeing me blow up always made her feel better. So sick.

When they know and speak it comes off as a know it all and arrogant depends on how people see your gift.

Because they know to much and dont hold there tunge when they should especially when the person is no good

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I found $ 15 in front of an atm, nobody believes me but atm fixes everything

And you know the sad part - when an empath is done with you, they NEVER turn back They are the masters of loving from afar and safely And then when you do that - they gaslight you and mistreat you

Being instantly able to read people scares them. They think you're judging them if you say what you feel. Although it can be overwhelming when I resonate on their frequency. Feel what they feel. 😅

People of the lie

Empaths get toxic too imo we let stupid shit happen . Narcissist lies become comfort because the truth would kill us because we are so trama bonded

Sadism . Full stop.

I know it's hard loves but YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! I love you your beautiful they picked you because they are jealous of you! YOU ARE SPECIAL.. please I beg you get out

Im back still a good kind person BUT I shut you the fuck down if I see disrespect OR red flags! It's too dangerous

You must be speaking of a woman. I moved two states away to make sure this will never happen. Quit dating to make sure no other woman does this to me again. I checked out.

dude just explained my whole childhood! I loved creating imaginary friends with animals, any opportunity to be silly, play and make people laugh.

Reactive abuse they love it ...get out fast

Basically. He is in total denial that he is the narcissist…says that I am. Typical.