It Hurts to Move On, Healing is Painful
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.พ. 2023
- Acts of self-love and healing are always painful.
Getting rid of toxic but addictive people in your life;
Imposing discipline, goals, and structure on a dissolute and carefree life;
Saying “no” to temptations and seductions;
Gaining insights into your shortcomings, self-inflicted wounds, and failures;
Confronting trauma and abuse;
Investing hard work in introspection and therapy.
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He's right and I gladly suffer through my healing.
There can be no true healing unless suffering happens
Your intellectual insights into NPD ease the suffering of our healing as we revisit our trauma with eyes wide open to see the truth
My narcissistic ex did me the greatest of favours by exploding my heart and life apart. I was forced to examine myself and my life, to seek therapy and burst out of destructive patterns. I shed old toxic friends, confronted close family and learnt boundaries. Confronting the trauma and abuse I suffered at his hands was the best thing that happened to me. Healing is messy but ultimately beautiful.
"Suffering is the coinage of healing." Love this guy.
Yeah so that was a kick in the gut. Really resonated that the no pain no gain saying is so true in many aspects of life's trials and tribulations. It really stuck.
Ripping off the bandaid hurts. But the wounds must be exposed to heal. Thanks Sam
Sam, YOU, have taught me SO MUCH through out the years. You're knowledge is GOLDEN! You're also looking great these days!
Your daddy jokes make my day 😂
Unfortunate truth
I’m 2 years into my journey and I desperately needed to hear this message today.
5 years into the journey I can certify this message, I have moved on, gained my self-assertion and control back over my life. It was arduous, people were abandoned, but was worth it.. the path paved by me and aided by professor Sam.
Thank you for making this video. I've been an emotional wreck this past few days while trying to heal from a childhood trauma. You video dropped at the right moment & I can't thank you enough. Really its much appreciated, thank you so much!
"This is..old....daddy jokes " 😂
Better to suffer and heal, then to continue to suffer and heal very little.
Thank you for your encouraging sarcastic lessons professor, you are a blessing to me and surely for so many of us, thank you for your work
Good summary and checklist 🍀 It is hell, and is why so many don't do it (the pain during healing and memories of that pain after healing gives reason to not want anything to do with them by the way). Once you come out to the other side and stay on the path of accountability and improvement, you'll find your peace of mind and focus shot up and questionable people stick out like sore thumbs- so you'll just stay away or cut it off then and there.
Choose your pain. leaving hurts for a season, staying will hurt you forever ❤️🩹
Truth 🦋 thank you Professor
Thank you Sam, hope your day goes well. .
Yes!!
Please let me add.
Knowledge is the first step in the direction of healing.
Second observe, reflect on your own reaction and why is triggered by anything perceived whatsoever it is people, whether etc.
Constantly observing your mental patterns and the how are repetitively reinforced.
All leads to childhood memories most of them.
Is very hard it takes years of reflection because are very subtle and are reinforced by a chain of thoughts and feelings again and again automatically even if they are justified.
Healing yourself through self observations and with impersonal reflection on any outside stimulation either people or places etc.
You can read for years knowing is not enough.
Catch yourself on your reaction by being aware , acceptance and release and with practice you heal and are more than one pattern than you can imagine and are so automatically developed that are as fast as scratching a itch.
Thank you Professor Sam.
I needed this! Two months no contact and I need a pep talk so I don’t go back for another round!
Thank you so much Dear Professor. I love learning.
It's a war against our selves
Healing is not easy during that process your suffer pain gain 2× but once you face it.. Your become 100x time stronger n power mature n mindset 🎉🎉
I settled in for a long video and BOOM it was over in a instant!
Mee too. Brought my notebook to the desk ready to take notes😅
Prof Sam. So glad you are back! Up and running - you are the Original and always with insights and imparting knowledge! Thank you
100% true a lot of pain a lot of hard work a lot of time in a lot of years
Transformed all right.
Your words are hards, but are necessary… I need to do this
Healing is still easier than the abuse. At least I'm in control. Thank you doctor
Thanks for the warning.
More! Encore! Bis!
😂🤣 Love your work! Recently discovered it, excellent insight with that dash of humor. Thank you! 🙏💪
thank you for saying that (the title), it helped me gain better perspective right now. we need those reminders
Yes...time to work lol
These are words I'll try to remember anytime healing seems too tough
This is bang on the money doc and refreshing. There is so much utter nonsense out there when it comes to relating, trauma and healing. Lots of it is based of zero evidence, therapists promising quick fixes for big bucks. I always spot then a mile off. They normally mention the word 'empath' in the text somewhere. They tell the viewer that they are perfect, a pure inicorn who plays no role in their past relationship failures, that they have so much empathy so therefore they are entitled to the best. I like your approach. It's real. We are after all just walking talking apes feeling around in the dark, trying to make sense of the world when we were never given a manual as children RE how to relate and how to self regulate.
very. well said , it was good too be educated on these people however the insights into my own make up was just as. valuable 👍
Thank you 👍🙏 a lot of work to do, it sounds quite complex 🙄🙄
Deep down I know that it is worth to do it, to experience better quality of life 😊🌟
Thanks 🙂
Thank you 💕
I LOVE your intro's!! Thank you for this very important messege. Yes, it hurts but it will never harm you!
🏵🌺🐝🐞Appreciate You Sam 🦋🌸💐🏵
The work is worth it.
know thyself.
Thank you I needed to hear that
Thank you, Professor. This was very timely.
Thank you for these words!
Wise words... this has helped me enormously. Thanks
My hero
You bet!
You’re the best, Professor. Thank you.
Sigh 😥
I needed to hear this.
Thx Sam 😭
Absolutely)
Thank you 💕 I needed this
Thank you as always professor.
THANKS!
Yes Sir 👉🏼 and 🦻 Hearing You Loud and Clear 👍 Thanks Captain Vat and Cheers 🍻 Ooops Sorry 🍷 👈 (Your Prefered Drop) Cheers To Ya Mum ✌
Thanks
Thank you Professor Vaknin
Love your insight always, Mr. Vaknin
Thanks Sam. That was strangely motivating for me to hear
Very timely reminder. 🙏
No TikTok for me
nice intro!
Thank you. It's true. I've been trying to do this through reading the Bible, while it does help. I believe that EMDR or ART would help also. I'd like to know more about your cold therapy. I don't think any professional in the US knows about it and if they do don't offer it or can administer it.
Damn... Straight like that 😅
dam I wish the healing would commence
Hello dear exalted and wise professor, I would love to hear from you your opinion on trauma bonding and its relationship (or not) with narcissism and borderline personality in a video if possible! Greetings from Spain
I would love for you to search the channel.
Could you make a video on the psychology of a bully please
I have been with him for 2 years,how long should the healing last after the break up
Who i can talk to you please?
No shortcuts whatsoever in that regard, indeed. My only hope remains I am not going to write a book with the title of 'Waagh' or anything of the likes
Arggghhhh...
Indeed ❤️🩹
Thank you for saying this, it really is work and it really is painful 🙏🥲 but experiencing this pain does help to move on