3:50 Do you want to become skilled at worrying, do you want to be skilled at judging other people, do you want to be skilled at hating yourself, or road rage, skilled at worrying what others think...
That's so very true! Lately I'm practicing to focus in the things I do want to be skilled like drawing and painting, I started with coloring pages for adults and that usually keeps me away from anxiety and depression and leads me to want doing more.
+Daniela Ravenous Have fun with those! Getting that positive feedback loop going of doing things you're interested in, getting better at them, and enjoying them more, is so useful!
This is so helpful! I think i might be good at practising to hate myself. Very useful realisation, i definitely was happier when i was practising my music. Thank you for your helpful video
Whenever I think of what I'm doing as a practice, it feels like I'm hyperaware.. I feel very stressed about whatever that is I'm doing; is it the right thing, is it the more effective use of my time, etc.
Would you say that if your ocd had been more severe that you would still have been able to have recovered the way you did ? Or does the degree of severity determine the degree of maintenance cost ?
I think it actually helps for it to be severe. I had no other choice but to get over it. When people can manage to sorta get by without cutting out their compulsions and they just slowly limit their lives to avoid feelings they don't like and they keep coming up with reasons not to get rid of their compulsions and they can afford to cover them up and they get enabled by people or systems around them, etc, that's when it takes longer to recover. Over the long-term, that's probably more costly.
I have a feeling mine is severe enough that it will destroy everything if I don't switch my life over from seeking comfort to seeking anxiety and presence. It is only now that I see how all-pervasive that pattern is. For me I know my only chance is to live the rest of my life on that side.. with a lot of adrenaline and strong feelings.
So I've been watching your videos and I'm a little confused by what you mean when you say don't think. I understand ok you try to keep all thoughts the same. But when you're trying to understand the reason by asking yourself "why" wouldn't that require you to well respond to your thoughts? And if you're trying to find ways of accepting like reminding yourself "I'm not my thoughts" then you would have to think. So can you redefine what you mean by when we choose not to ruminate and think? I understand we let the thoughts flow by but if we don't respond to them how will I expand my ways of accepting. Is it like responding to thoughts in a way that will help you learn and is health as oppose to responding in reaction? Can you go through that a little please.
Reminding yourself that you aren't your thoughts or x y z thing he has said is just another compulsion. The ultimate goal is to treat the thoughts you'd normally label "intrusive" or "anxious" the same way you treat every other thought. That means not feeding energy into it and giving it importance whether it be performing overt or mental compulsions or reminding yourself of your judgment about the validity or necessity of that thought. The goal is to treat it like a cloud in the sky. You don't label clouds and spend all your energy hating and trying to get away from clouds, you are aware of and don't react to them.
3:50 Do you want to become skilled at worrying, do you want to be skilled at judging other people, do you want to be skilled at hating yourself, or road rage, skilled at worrying what others think...
You have no idea how much this video helped me realized things. I always remind myself this. This makes things make so much more sense!
Wow, you have such great insight. God bless you my man
That's so very true! Lately I'm practicing to focus in the things I do want to be skilled like drawing and painting, I started with coloring pages for adults and that usually keeps me away from anxiety and depression and leads me to want doing more.
+Daniela Ravenous Have fun with those! Getting that positive feedback loop going of doing things you're interested in, getting better at them, and enjoying them more, is so useful!
This is so helpful! I think i might be good at practising to hate myself. Very useful realisation, i definitely was happier when i was practising my music. Thank you for your helpful video
Enjoy practising your music!
Great video! Makes you think...
Whenever I think of what I'm doing as a practice, it feels like I'm hyperaware.. I feel very stressed about whatever that is I'm doing; is it the right thing, is it the more effective use of my time, etc.
Then don't make it a practice. We can simply do things and give our time and energy lightly
Thank You again :)
Would you say that if your ocd had been more severe that you would still have been able to have recovered the way you did ?
Or does the degree of severity determine the degree of maintenance cost ?
I think it actually helps for it to be severe. I had no other choice but to get over it. When people can manage to sorta get by without cutting out their compulsions and they just slowly limit their lives to avoid feelings they don't like and they keep coming up with reasons not to get rid of their compulsions and they can afford to cover them up and they get enabled by people or systems around them, etc, that's when it takes longer to recover. Over the long-term, that's probably more costly.
I have a feeling mine is severe enough that it will destroy everything if I don't switch my life over from seeking comfort to seeking anxiety and presence. It is only now that I see how all-pervasive that pattern is. For me I know my only chance is to live the rest of my life on that side.. with a lot of adrenaline and strong feelings.
This!!
So I've been watching your videos and I'm a little confused by what you mean when you say don't think. I understand ok you try to keep all thoughts the same. But when you're trying to understand the reason by asking yourself "why" wouldn't that require you to well respond to your thoughts? And if you're trying to find ways of accepting like reminding yourself "I'm not my thoughts" then you would have to think. So can you redefine what you mean by when we choose not to ruminate and think? I understand we let the thoughts flow by but if we don't respond to them how will I expand my ways of accepting. Is it like responding to thoughts in a way that will help you learn and is health as oppose to responding in reaction? Can you go through that a little please.
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Reminding yourself that you aren't your thoughts or x y z thing he has said is just another compulsion. The ultimate goal is to treat the thoughts you'd normally label "intrusive" or "anxious" the same way you treat every other thought. That means not feeding energy into it and giving it importance whether it be performing overt or mental compulsions or reminding yourself of your judgment about the validity or necessity of that thought.
The goal is to treat it like a cloud in the sky. You don't label clouds and spend all your energy hating and trying to get away from clouds, you are aware of and don't react to them.
how do you apply this to a physical sensation? notice it and do a healthy action/practise? because now if i reflect i practise checking for dizzyness.
Sorry, I don't understand what you mean
@@everybodyhasabrain i am Dizzy alot and do alot of ruminating and checking around that. How does this apply to that situation
@@wutru20 You don't have to do those compulsions and invest in that compulsion practice of all the judging and checking.
@@everybodyhasabrain thanks.