3:28 "if you doubt your relationship, your brain will start seeing it as a goal. Our brain is a goal seeking mechanism. Our brain always interprets the thing we're thinking the most about as *THE goal*"
I broke up with my ex because of this and it was so painful because I actually still loved her but was doubting the relationship. You live and you learn I guess. Love the videos bro!
And how are you now? did you found someone else? do you still think of her from time to time? are you sometimes comparing her to your actual girlfriend? Did you ever told her that you regret your decision?
10:32 "Hey, I'm not satisfied because of this, this and this" That's what you can figure out. It's a continuous process. Do this one time, hours reflecting. Do it over & over, every time you have these doubts. Or randomly through your free time.
Why don't you brainwash yourself to see the GOOD things? Instead of the bad ones. Why do you let your mind give you thoughts that don't actually lead you to your goal? Feed the GOOD wolf.
Hi. Me and my ex broke up 4 months ago..no drama involved (12 years together, i still have feelings for her..) and she is dating some1 new.. We should have our 2nd meet up with a drink next week to catch up how life is going. Do u think its ok to text him that "can we cancel the meet up and do it somewhere in the future... cause im just doing this harder for me to let go and going forward with my life."
That's 100% what you should do, if he's already with someone you should give space, he made his decision, and now you have to stay a bit off, and detach from him, until you get of this spiral (that i know also the feeling..) and then, when you feel good about yourself, you can meet him again, with the assurance that you will see him as a good friend, and feel nothing more.
@@mysteriousme3006 also you'll improve yourself with this new lessons you took from this relationship, and improve yourself, and eventually you'll find someone ( and someone finds you) because improvement and being happy and feeling good about yourself will attract people. Wish you a good and nice path for life!
Does he fit into my life?" "Is he the man that I want to be with?" "Does he fulfill my needs?" these questions are too hard to answer tbh🥲 trying since 2 years... i conclude that either am being more demanding or either adjusting is what all i ve to do or either needs are actually sensibly to ask for/ not , or either am focusing only on negative sides....... mainly what are needs can u explain in some video?
3:28 "if you doubt your relationship, your brain will start seeing it as a goal. Our brain is a goal seeking mechanism. Our brain always interprets the thing we're thinking the most about as *THE goal*"
6:53 reflecting for hours & saying "this relationship is much better than my brain made it to be"
I broke up with my ex because of this and it was so painful because I actually still loved her but was doubting the relationship. You live and you learn I guess. Love the videos bro!
And how are you now? did you found someone else? do you still think of her from time to time? are you sometimes comparing her to your actual girlfriend?
Did you ever told her that you regret your decision?
"Does she fit into my life?"
"Is she the woman that I want to be with?"
"Does she fulfill my needs?"
10:32 "Hey, I'm not satisfied because of this, this and this"
That's what you can figure out.
It's a continuous process.
Do this one time, hours reflecting.
Do it over & over, every time you have these doubts.
Or randomly through your free time.
Why don't you brainwash yourself to see the GOOD things? Instead of the bad ones. Why do you let your mind give you thoughts that don't actually lead you to your goal? Feed the GOOD wolf.
And then, you need to talk about these doubts to your woman
8:58 spend 55 mins asking yourself the right questions (or find someone who does it for you) and you'll find the answer in 5 mins
I just stumbled on to the chanel and video.... I love what you have to say, will be watching more... I absolutely agree with your measage.
Hope you don't delete all my notes man LOL, I'm really studying
5:43 about breaking up: what's worse: short term pain from doing it? or long term pain when you already have 3 kids?
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Hi. Me and my ex broke up 4 months ago..no drama involved (12 years together, i still have feelings for her..) and she is dating some1 new.. We should have our 2nd meet up with a drink next week to catch up how life is going. Do u think its ok to text him that "can we cancel the meet up and do it somewhere in the future... cause im just doing this harder for me to let go and going forward with my life."
I would think your ex should understand this.
That's 100% what you should do, if he's already with someone you should give space, he made his decision, and now you have to stay a bit off, and detach from him, until you get of this spiral (that i know also the feeling..) and then, when you feel good about yourself, you can meet him again, with the assurance that you will see him as a good friend, and feel nothing more.
Yes, you're not a back up plan. Live your life and leave him in the place where he moved to. 😊
@@mysteriousme3006 also you'll improve yourself with this new lessons you took from this relationship, and improve yourself, and eventually you'll find someone ( and someone finds you) because improvement and being happy and feeling good about yourself will attract people. Wish you a good and nice path for life!
Does he fit into my life?"
"Is he the man that I want to be with?"
"Does he fulfill my needs?"
these questions are too hard to answer tbh🥲 trying since 2 years... i conclude that either am being more demanding or either adjusting is what all i ve to do or either needs are actually sensibly to ask for/ not , or either am focusing only on negative sides....... mainly what are needs can u explain in some video?