Therapist Breaks Down Milton from Love is Blind 5 | The Computing Communication Style

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    Milton is one of the most talked about people from this season of Love is Blind. What stood out the most to me was his communication style and evolution with vulnerability. There's a lot to explore with his family dynamics as well. Did you perspective on Milton change over time?
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  • @StephAnya
    @StephAnya  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

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  • @melh7909
    @melh7909 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +940

    Ulche's confused pikachu face when Milton hits him with the multidimentional perspective was gold to me.

    • @Olivia-bl8ez
      @Olivia-bl8ez 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +83

      Oh yeah Uche totally thought he could easily manipulate* Milton since Milton is the youngest. And Milton very quickly shut that down.

    • @MacBigUSA
      @MacBigUSA 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +121

      I also loved when Milton closed out the conversation with Uche by saying I’ll catch you on the group chat, instead of saying I’ll call or text individually. It was Oscar-worthy shade.

    • @carladraffen9145
      @carladraffen9145 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😂😂😂

    • @greymatters7039
      @greymatters7039 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      YES. Uche wanted a reaction from Milton in the Pods.
      Milton and Lydia had a dispute and Uche wanted to “school” Milton on the situation and get some insight. Milton shut him down and said he’d handle it. Uche looked SO outdone by his reaction. 😂

    • @greymatters7039
      @greymatters7039 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      That waiter was ear hustling 😅. The venue was perfect for both of them. One of my fav places to be is a certain St Louis, MO museum. I get it, Milton. 😂

  • @Olivia-bl8ez
    @Olivia-bl8ez 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +948

    In the pods I really thought there was no way Milton could handle Lydia. Standing up to her so calmly with the shorts was the first moment I realized maybe he can handle her. Then at the party with Uche is when I realized Milton is perfect for Lydia. Milton grounds and calms Lydia. Lydia helps Milton see the world more passionately. And I think it works beautifully from what we have seen

    • @blaqmermaiid
      @blaqmermaiid 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +81

      OK, outside of the uche, lydia, and Aliyah debacle... this is the BEST way anyone has explained their union. Because I still struggle to this day to understand it.. but I can see it clearer now.

    • @NichelleSullivan
      @NichelleSullivan 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +77

      Milton is very protective of Lydia and thinks ahead - which was evident during the reunion when he revealed they code they had to leave when things got too intense.

    • @jaejae444
      @jaejae444 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      beautifully said O! 🎉

    • @kreativekollective5284
      @kreativekollective5284 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Exactly. These are my thoughts too, they balance each other out. You are spot on o

    • @nanapance3116
      @nanapance3116 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wonderfully said ❤

  • @monzorella1
    @monzorella1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +346

    Maturity doesn't come with age. It comes from growth , empathy and emotional intelligence.

    • @eugeniaventura1326
      @eugeniaventura1326 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Sooo true

    • @Moi_81
      @Moi_81 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This

    • @KE-hr4sb
      @KE-hr4sb 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      And sometimes, sadly, from trauma.

    • @monzorella1
      @monzorella1 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@KE-hr4sb 😞

    • @welliminitnowso
      @welliminitnowso 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Exactly! I hate when people “ you too young …. No😊

  • @NoSoupForYou-zu9dj
    @NoSoupForYou-zu9dj 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +616

    I wrote this in the chat already, and I’m gonna write this here too.
    My favorite quote from Milton was, “Your perception is your reality.” This is so true. People can view the same situation, but interpret it differently.
    I am even seeing this with all the different Love is Blind commentaries, breakdowns, reviews, recaps, reactions etc… This is so fascinating.

    • @noelle9685
      @noelle9685 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      THIS. i actually didn’t realize that that mindset was a quality I was attracted to in a partner until he said that. Very understanding and emotionally intelligent.

    • @joykaren0314
      @joykaren0314 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Ive been repeating this to myself ever since!

    • @jsuarmy08
      @jsuarmy08 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Very true

    • @Sough
      @Sough 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      Meh, it's lazy philosophy and sometimes is wrong or unhelpful. For instance, it's an easy deflection from taking responsibility or addressing a problem

    • @Factsoverfeelshouston
      @Factsoverfeelshouston 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Soughthank you … passive and not fully doing a deep dive into that thought process… it’s an incomplete resolution….there’s only one truth… u can take it how u want but the resolution has to be based on ONE reality… (leadership…decision makers will understand) one decision for one reality… it cannot be open ended

  • @elenakalliste
    @elenakalliste 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +413

    Milton’s family dynamics are fascinating. Mom and sister are so firm, dad and brother in law seem much more gentle and open. Milton clearly craves the openness that he got to glimpse with his father, but his mom seems to be the one in charge of the household . It totally makes sense as a black family in the south, especially with the size of Milton and his father, but it’s just so interesting to see a young man reject that coldness so definitively and be so emotionally intelligent with no obvious source of that wisdom. Great video!!!

    • @Ladybugginit
      @Ladybugginit 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Such a great interpretation, I love this!

    • @lauragilbert7780
      @lauragilbert7780 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      I think he mentioned that they are a military family, which also makes a lot of sense

    • @elenakalliste
      @elenakalliste 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@lauragilbert7780 ah I didn’t catch that, but I’m assuming mom was the one in the military, and it gives even more nuance to the whole dynamic

    • @alnsubuga
      @alnsubuga 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      I get the impression that, while they might not be an emotionally demonstrative family, they have taught their children healthy personal boundaries and expectations. I’m curious what Milton’s grandparents and other extended family are like. I suspect they’ve also played a huge part in his personal development.

    • @vera916
      @vera916 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I don't agree they are cold, I see them clearly in distress when he can't give any answer why he wants to marry her. They don't pretend cold. I see emotions on their faces, wtf emotions. And neither he nor Lydia give affirmations and reassurance to his family. Emotinal intelligence works both ways because you cant call yourself emotionally intelligent dismissing negative feelings of the family members. I dont' see wisdom here nope

  • @xChloexElizabethx
    @xChloexElizabethx 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +394

    That scene where Milton consoled Lydia made me cry. We need more emotional maturity and examples of healthy partner support on these relationship shows.

    • @Dev-kw6ym
      @Dev-kw6ym 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      So Lydia stalked him and went on there for uche and manipulated him. Imagine your ex stalked you onto a tv show ? 🤣 then when you tell your ex no he sabotages other relationships telling your business to other dudes. Make it make sense. Then she preys on Milton cause he’s younger and more easier to manipulate as well. Lydia is a crazy women no parent would want there son to be with her. Milton should’ve never married her and y’all will see one day.

    • @not.valentina
      @not.valentina 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      @@Dev-kw6ymuche? is this you?

    • @shelleyyas9712
      @shelleyyas9712 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      😂😂😂😂​@@not.valentina

    • @dysmissme7343
      @dysmissme7343 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@not.valentina😂😂😂💀💀
      Fr tho- the haters in these comments are all just Uche with his 800 spam accounts

  • @rainew.4447
    @rainew.4447 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +230

    I love how Milton thinks, it's mathematical yet also spiritual. He keeps his ego in check. I have huge respect for him

  • @Zahra_sama
    @Zahra_sama 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +181

    Great analysis. Please don't make the videos shorter, we don't see time passing and you are so thorough. Thank you

  • @gignock
    @gignock 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +130

    Lydia is pretty forceful, so I think establishing his boundaries with the shorts was really important.

    • @dysmissme7343
      @dysmissme7343 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      He does a good job of consistently reinforcing his boundaries but also reminding her of how much he loves her
      It’s just mad impressive communication

  • @aprilflowers2297
    @aprilflowers2297 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +313

    I hear so much criticism that Lydia just wanted to get married so she’d take anyone, but I think Milton did too, and it works for them and they love each other and grow together because of it.

    • @Discrete1998
      @Discrete1998 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

      I think people notice it less with Milton because he is so level headed vs Lydia’s super expressive.

    • @oihcam22
      @oihcam22 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

      Being desperate for marriage never works for anyone in the end.

    • @ms.shineray
      @ms.shineray 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +73

      People are speaking stupid at this point, everyone that goes to a show that the goal is getting married wants to desperately be married that is what the show is about lol

    • @ri3706
      @ri3706 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@oihcam22😂😂😂

    • @lisah8438
      @lisah8438 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@oihcam22 How would you know it is out of desperation? I think they genuinely love each other. Plus wanting to be married isn't a crime. People are really rooting for this couple to fail.

  • @passions329
    @passions329 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +92

    I love Milton so much. I felt like he was too young at first, but he quickly became my fav. Im just mad that I’m in Houston and I didn’t find him first lol

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      😭😂 dang

    • @copiouscat
      @copiouscat 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      💀🤣

    • @aselyne5631
      @aselyne5631 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      He is a catch

  • @lauragilbert7780
    @lauragilbert7780 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +57

    My partner thinks this is a trash show that I love and he does not care at all about love is blind. But with your videos I can guarantee hes going to benefit from me watching the show. I learned so much in this video so the trash reality tv will have a net positive on my relationship.
    As an aside that I think youd appreciate as a therapist.... like i said, he hates this show. We were in mexico for a week in between the episodes dropping, so I told him that my gift to him for a good vacation was that i was not going to talk about love is blind at all while we were away. however, later on in the trip we encountered something that he knows is very triggering for me while at a restaurant. Immediately, he said 'lets talk about love is blind. fill me in on what is happening". So he listened and asked questions about the show for 45 min through the rest of the meal to help me manage my anxiety. He's an absolute gem.

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      That is so thoughtful of him 🥺. I love that for you!

    • @L0VEisAmixtape
      @L0VEisAmixtape 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That's SO sweet 😢❤

  • @youngretireesclub
    @youngretireesclub 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +196

    I love that this episode is just about Milton 😂

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +75

      And it’s so long 😭😂

    • @aquaabundance4077
      @aquaabundance4077 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      ​@@rethinkcps2116it's her video lol

    • @blaqmermaiid
      @blaqmermaiid 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Amen!

    • @hodelhophopp9386
      @hodelhophopp9386 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@StephAnyathat’s what I love about it too

    • @ayeeshahm9078
      @ayeeshahm9078 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      ​@@StephAnyawe love long videos. They help us get through our chores 👏🏾

  • @carolicesporcarolvieira7322
    @carolicesporcarolvieira7322 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

    When Lydia meet Milton’s parents, it felt like they were interviewing her for a job, not actually trying to know her as person

  • @rachelrogers7517
    @rachelrogers7517 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +100

    The book you talked about, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, is such a good one. It is so HARD to get through (still not done with it) because it opens your eyes to how much you were emotionally neglected and how much that has affected you as an adult. Highly recommend that to anyone who struggles having a relationship with their parents.

    • @klaudiagiezecka6861
      @klaudiagiezecka6861 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Is it also recommendable to check it as parent?

    • @rachelrogers7517
      @rachelrogers7517 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@klaudiagiezecka6861 yeah, parents who are emotionally immature usually learn it from their parents.

  • @msliltrinity
    @msliltrinity 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    Regarding the black vs. gray shorts scene, I feel like Lydia was being a little too adamant even though she was bringing humor and silliness to it. I appreciated the way Milton handled it. He was firm but still showing her affection and using a respectful tone of voice. It felt like he was saying, “I disagree, and I’m firm on that, but I still love you.” I thought it was wise beyond his years to have a moment to stand up for himself and set a precedent while still being kind and loving.

  • @pagesofkenzie
    @pagesofkenzie 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    The reason why the party had people we didn’t think had gotten engaged is because two other couples did get engaged but they couldn’t air their stories because it was dangerously toxic. One women is suing the production company because she was sexually assaulted by the guy she got engaged to and they never stepped into stop it even though it was clearly a dangerous environment.

  • @tshegokhatle8253
    @tshegokhatle8253 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    They should bring you on the show as an advisor for the couples on Love is Blind

  • @kreativekollective5284
    @kreativekollective5284 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    Lydia may have been the most dramatic on the show, but i truly believe things worked out as they should have. She and Milton balance each other out. Because they are both strong-willed, she couldn't bully him, and he was able to ground her. It's an interesting dynamic, but it works

    • @Dev-kw6ym
      @Dev-kw6ym 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No they both felt like they need to prove people wrong. Milton said at the reunion “ cause I’m 24 everyone thought I wasn’t gonna get married “ convincing his parents because they saw through the BS. Lydia literally went there with bad intentions. Milton doesn’t deserve someone that only went on the show to lie & manipulate try to get back with her ex and when she gets turned down she tries to sabotage his other connection. Make it make sense. Oh but they’re good for each other right. She would’ve married anyone she’s over 30 of course she just wants to get married. She don’t care as long as it’s someone with money

    • @frizzyrascal1493
      @frizzyrascal1493 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@Dev-kw6ymIs that you, Uche? Stop hiding behind the burner account big boy

  • @BigFanOfJustice-31
    @BigFanOfJustice-31 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

    I’m looking forward to Lydia and Stacey’s analysis 🤓

  • @brittanyb6889
    @brittanyb6889 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +57

    I like Milton but the dinner between them at the crystals museum bothered me a bit because Lydia was trying to connect with him but he was continuing to eat and “stonewall” her non verbally. Kind of reminded me of my (unhealthy) family when we’re communicating while angry

    • @Olivia-bl8ez
      @Olivia-bl8ez 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      I really like Milton but was so disappointed how he handled that dinner. I wonder if deep down he was freaking out a bit about marrying a woman he knew for a month, which is normal. But he expressed those fears in not the best way by taking it out on Lydia instead of diving into his own feelings.

  • @jamieboncimino1042
    @jamieboncimino1042 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    Milton really got my heart. He made me proud of him. ❤ u can pass on that Uche guy, he’s a waste of space in my eyes. He was a total manipulator and an asshole.

  • @MacBigUSA
    @MacBigUSA 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Lydia dodged a bullet when Izzy backed out. Izzy is a phony who used fake tears to manipulate Stacy. In contrast, Milton is a genuine person who was willing to get in touch with his real emotions even though it wasn’t 100% natural for him to do so. In fact, Milton’s genius was his ability to separate how he was raised from who he truly is inside. Lydia is lucky to have him. And Milton is lucky to have her.

  • @aliciajoy731
    @aliciajoy731 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I actually really liked the moment between them with the shorts. I appreciated that he didn't back down and just give in to her, but also kept things playful and didn't escalate it into a fight disproportionate to the issue at hand.

  • @blaqmermaiid
    @blaqmermaiid 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    I know this is really NOT on topic, but i love your bouncy curls. 😮 Great analysis btw👍🏽

  • @mek0411
    @mek0411 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I think you were spot on about the shorts. I'm glad he had enough emotional awareness to clearly know that this would be a boundary setting moment and handled it well

  • @ArielLVT
    @ArielLVT 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    Milton was my favourite participant out of all the individuals who made it to the altar.
    Aaliyah and Taylor are my other two favourites 😊

  • @crystalh1612
    @crystalh1612 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    I prefer your videos to the actual show,
    Can't wait for more!

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      That’s so sweet. Thank you!

  • @slondiletshabalala5709
    @slondiletshabalala5709 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Milton. My fav this season. So level headed and calm❤️

    • @joyous1011
      @joyous1011 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same! As well as cute and funny in a geeky kind of way 🤓❤

  • @her28
    @her28 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    Can you please make a reel about what you said about cleanliness in a realtionship and how it's disregarding your partner's discomfort when you put it off as trivial?! Ppl need to hear that. 😄 Thank you! ❤

  • @justjustjusification
    @justjustjusification 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Thanks for putting the timer on the advertisement part 😂 I haven't skipped because I knew how long it was gonna take

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Haha thanks for hanging around for it!

  • @jaysh629
    @jaysh629 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Interesting point - They threw in that party scene because there were actually 4 engaged couples, but production had to edit the scenes in a way to keep 2 of the couples out due to one's story being left out because of violence and the other because of a lawsuit.

  • @harrylederman1679
    @harrylederman1679 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    I can't wait to see the videos of the hostile men and particularly how you perceive their levels of disrespect when talking to women

  • @Booklovergia
    @Booklovergia 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Milton and Lydia did briefly speak about kids 😊 They were in the pool if I recall correctly and Lydia said kids in the next five years and Milton said at least ten so they disagreed in a sense about that

  • @Immvi
    @Immvi 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Would also be really interested to see a short video on JP! I don't think we've ever had such a character on LIB.

    • @MissMadelineMM94
      @MissMadelineMM94 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes!! His switch up was so odd

  • @GG-kn2se
    @GG-kn2se 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Can’t wait for the Izzy/Stacy video. I was baffled by them.

  • @greymatters7039
    @greymatters7039 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I luv, luv, luv Milton. He has very similar attributes to my guy. He’s a cool nerd that has a lot of personality. He has a level head and is a planner. He literally broke away from his parents like my guy bc he felt they stiffed his growth and he wanted to live life on his terms vs pattern after his parents. Congratulations to Milton and Lydia. They compliment one another.

  • @e11esounds
    @e11esounds 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

    If Milton listened to his intuition and gut instinct - which is just as valuable as rationale - he wouldn’t have married Lydia.

    • @terickastidbits2342
      @terickastidbits2342 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      True. Think he just rushed through

    • @charmaineespeut4627
      @charmaineespeut4627 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      He did it to prove his family wrong

    • @sofsings101
      @sofsings101 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@charmaineespeut4627 so true

  • @jonhinged
    @jonhinged 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    I was waiting on you for this season. Just watched your video on Johnie and Chris and it came across as one of your more insightful videos with information that seemed intent on helping us navigate in relationships. Took you awhile to hop on this season but worth the wait. (Unpauses , thumbs up)

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Thanks for your patience!

  • @zolamagwood2415
    @zolamagwood2415 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Just wanna say that you have become one of my favourite things about every new season of Love is Blind xx

  • @nikkilove6128
    @nikkilove6128 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I loved their connection on the reunion...looks like they've come a long way❤

  • @TheJSTash
    @TheJSTash 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Milton did seem calm and level headed amongst the chaos but like you said based on his personally type and what we saw, he just avoided opening up and expressing any emotion at all.
    I was shocked that he said yes too and even proposed in the first place. The way he was so hesitant it seemed like the hardest decision he's had to make. I can't help but think he got married to prove a point especially to his parents. We saw in the scene with his father on the wedding day. Milton was very dismissive even though his father was actually trying to give him good insight on what marriage could be.

    • @copiouscat
      @copiouscat 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      THIS! 🎯🎯

    • @aselyne5631
      @aselyne5631 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      He took time because he processes things logically that why he's so successful at such a young age

  • @elidailey40
    @elidailey40 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Even though there isn’t much there, I would LOVE to see your take on Taylor and JP!

  • @ilhuicatlamatini
    @ilhuicatlamatini 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I think the clothing moment with the shorts was super pivotal for Milton. As someone who’s ex was super controlling (because he also came from a family with a mom that suuuuper controlling) I had a hell of a time asserting my autonomy and my right to choose my own damn clothes because it was a constant fight and I was tiredddd. I was also super young so it took me a bit to fully make him know I’m not gonna be controlled like that, but of course as time went on it was just always something else to deal against and I’m so glad I’m out of that old relationship lol.
    I’m also glad to see them happy at the reunion, and to hear that Lydia (unlike me in that old relationship) is strong enough and old enough in her sense of self to be herself no matter what, and that it has actually, in Milton’s words, warmed up not only his mom but his whole family!! Love that ♥️

  • @isagoldenjewels
    @isagoldenjewels 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I was so sure that Lydia will be able to manipulate Milton so easily and the shorts clip was a great exemple of her trying to set the tone

  • @dignature123
    @dignature123 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    OH THIS VIDEO CAME RIGHT AFTER I SET UP MY FOOD. I'M LOCKED IN STEPH ANYA!

  • @destinylo_
    @destinylo_ 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    I hardly ever comment on videos but I faithfully watch your videos. Initially my thoughts on Milton & Lydia were very different. I love the perspective you bring when analyzing the couples & situations. You really make me think and challenge my views. Excited for the next episodes to come!

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Thank you so much for letting me know! 🫶🏽

  • @Isabel_fit
    @Isabel_fit 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    You’re right! I was attracted to my husband because he was himself and didn’t let anyone walk all over him. However, now in marriage, he’s super stubborn and refuses to compromise over any little thing 🙃

  • @alyssalauren24
    @alyssalauren24 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Ugh i love this series. You always mention things from an angle i don't even consider!

  • @laurad324
    @laurad324 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Hey Milton my grandpa lived to 81 and was 6 ft 7 and he was overweight. Being tall doesn’t mean short lifespan unless you have some sort of disorder with it like Marfans .

    • @terickastidbits2342
      @terickastidbits2342 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I think he might

    • @Ola_Stawinska
      @Ola_Stawinska 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Well he was looking at the statistics. Of course there will be people who live longer and ones who live shorter than average

    • @tOKIEification
      @tOKIEification 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I too know very tall men well in there 80s. There are people with genetic abnormalities that have health issues related to their height. The sample size maybe too small to account for healthy individuals vs. with gland issues that cause abnormal growth.

    • @Alyssa-yp9jt
      @Alyssa-yp9jt 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ⁠​⁠it is a statistical fact that taller people live shorter lives on average. there will always be exceptions, but take a look at most centenarians and you’ll see that they’re mostly short. 81 is also not a super old age to die, it’s about average. my grandfathers lived to 93 and 103 and they were both short.

    • @DeeRio9546
      @DeeRio9546 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My brother in law who’s 6”7 had brain cancer but he’s still alive and kicking so we will see (not tryna be mean but we all know his cancer could come back)

  • @zv7588
    @zv7588 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I cannot wait for a breakdown on Lydia!🎉

  • @nikkilove6128
    @nikkilove6128 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I'm glad Milton wore the shorts he wanted.
    Household duties are important in a relationship I agree...no one wants to feel like they're constantly cleaning up after another adult. A compromise needs to be made.

  • @sammcdonough7241
    @sammcdonough7241 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Omg YES! I didn’t think people commented on the black vs pink shorts debacle enough! I’d love for you to do Stacey’s video next!

  • @nellybarrett7
    @nellybarrett7 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Milton is just adorable I do hope things work out for him!

  • @lilahphillips7145
    @lilahphillips7145 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Milton choosing his own clothes and making it clear - 100% a great thing. More importantly is how both he and she each handled the tension and disagreement. They didn’t make the “clothes selection” a bigger choice than the integrity of the relationship itself. Seems that they realize the quality of their whole relationship in total is more important than that small detail.

  • @MaryJoHeadrick
    @MaryJoHeadrick 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    the reason that some of those people were at the bbq is because there were at least 2 other couples that got engaged! Renee and Carter made it all the way to the altar. Both the other couples went to Mexico but were cut from the edit (that's why there wasn't that much honeymoon footage this season)

  • @slya9547
    @slya9547 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I love how you get to the crux of the matter, the person, the issue. Great job. Cant wait for the next one. Thank you😊

  • @ArethaRenee
    @ArethaRenee 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I like Milton, but still thinks marrying Lydia was not a good decision. I think it was an act of defiance and he wants to live in the honeymoon and not reality. They don’t live together which I found odd that it was not mentioned in the reunion.

  • @Joannachin
    @Joannachin 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I would love you to watch Stranded with My Mother in Law. It's a new reality show on a deserted island, where six anonymous couples enter a competition where they will work together to win a prize of 500,000 Brazilian reals. But the game takes an unexpected turn, revealing the actual stakes, when an extra suitcase appears and they discover that actually, both sons- and daughters-in-law will be stuck with their mothers-in-law, their true partners in the competition.
    All this families have issues and they work together to overcome it

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Omg that sounds amazing lol. Thank you!!

    • @sintara8442
      @sintara8442 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Oo that sounds great, on what streaming platform can I find it?❤

    • @regularity2556
      @regularity2556 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It was an amazing show

    • @Joannachin
      @Joannachin 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@sintara8442 Its on Netflix

  • @FirstLadyBerard
    @FirstLadyBerard 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’m a MFT student, you are my inspiration, thank you. I love you, may God bless you more in every areas of your life

  • @nikkilove6128
    @nikkilove6128 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I love how Milton handled the situation with Uche...Milton is so mature for his age. Uche on the other hand is a childish manipulator and it seemed Uche was jealous of Milton and Lydia's bond hence wanted to stirr up trouble.

    • @melissaherrera940
      @melissaherrera940 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Honestly I don’t think he was jealous, he didn’t seem like he was very interested in Lydia. I felt he wanted more petty revenge because he felt Lydia sabotaged his potential relationship with Aaliyah, which she did cross boundaries with Aaliyah and told her about her relationship with Uche when Aaliyah clearly told her she didn’t want to know the details.

    • @Dev-kw6ym
      @Dev-kw6ym 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No they both felt like they need to prove people wrong. Milton said at the reunion “ cause I’m 24 everyone thought I wasn’t gonna get married “ convincing his parents because they saw through the BS. Lydia literally went there with bad intentions. Milton doesn’t deserve someone that only went on the show to lie & manipulate try to get back with her ex and when she gets turned down she tries to sabotage his other connection. Make it make sense.

    • @DeeRio9546
      @DeeRio9546 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Dev-kw6ymto be fair uche didn’t even go on the show with good intentions cause he was always gaslighting and being cruel

  • @Mecctacular
    @Mecctacular 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Nah, I agreed with Milton regarding Lydia's behavior at that BBQ. She was literally screaming his name like he was her child. It was cringey and embarrassing. I get that Uche triggered her, but how she talking to Milton was ridiculous. Thankfully, Milton was as logical and as calming for her as he was because her behavior towards him was unacceptable, including the snide comments she made and passive-aggressive "apology" she gave Milton at their dinner date.

  • @dumendlovu3629
    @dumendlovu3629 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    22:37 he did the right thing to show he’s not going to be easy to control because of the age gap or because he’s whipped I could see Lydia begging him with that cute face she’s not slick. It’s small and early enough to set the president on how their dynamic works in real life that he won’t bend to every little demand"

  • @CabinFever52
    @CabinFever52 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You've got me looking at these two as a couple in a whole new light.

  • @limegreenqueen
    @limegreenqueen 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    i cant wait to see what you think of Lydia!

  • @karenmarshall2742
    @karenmarshall2742 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    I would like to see Lydia, Uche, and Aliyah in that order. It’s great to hear your perspective. It makes me think of how I could do things differently in my relationships.

    • @sarahdelale3242
      @sarahdelale3242 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes and it would be very interesting if your (amazing) thoughts could combine what is shown on the show with what some participants said on podcasts - for example Aaliyah and Miriam about Uche on Jessie Woo’s podcast. Not that it brings more « truth » to the show (it’s always subjective), but it brings another perspective on what we see in the edited show.

    • @emphasisonafro
      @emphasisonafro 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@sarahdelale3242I also want to hear about what was said about Lydia behind the scenes. Crazy af

  • @MsMockingbird06
    @MsMockingbird06 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Great review! Milton was my favorite this season. I do think that he had a point about Lydia’s behavior when she’s highly emotional although the way that he communicated it wasn’t the best. It did come off as a little judgmental and dismissive of her feelings. However, I think that he voiced concern about how they would teach their children to address conflict and doesn’t want them to try to get their point across by blowing up. I don’t think that he was trying to change who she was as a person, instead give her feedback on better managing those emotions and behaviors.

    • @sheikay3380
      @sheikay3380 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I also feel, regardless of his "computer " personality, that it is a worry to censor your own feelings because of your partner's highly emotional state/tendency. It becomes unfair and challenging as you'll often be the person that tries to comfort than be comforted. That was honestly my biggest concern in their relationship as I can relate with mine. I've become a computer because of my relationship with someone so emotional.

  • @louniegermain1663
    @louniegermain1663 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I believe Lydia and Milton did talk about children because in Mexico, when they were sitting by the pool, Lydia was like we said 5 years before we start having kids right, Milton said yes.

  • @tumifab4679
    @tumifab4679 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love your editing. Also love how you call yourself out and are quick to rectify yourself. I would book an appointment with you for sure.

  • @madyleighdecker
    @madyleighdecker 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    So as for the party having other castmates, there were quite a few couples who made it out of the pods that got edited out; Renee being my favorite of the entire season, and a total of 3 couples I believe; 1 of which seems to still be together

  • @ccp372
    @ccp372 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I don’t know if you are aware already but there was a couple that were cut due to the guy’s abusive outbursts. Another couple ended in charges being pressed for SA. This season in insanely toxic

    • @LifeisaBeautifulting
      @LifeisaBeautifulting 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Wow I had no idea. Where can I read about this?

    • @brileonn
      @brileonn 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ​@@LifeisaBeautifultingNatalie and Deepti from a previous LIB season have a podcast episode on youtube where they speak to one of the women whose story was cut. She actually made it to the altar and was there the whole time but the show dropped her story completely. This show is sketchy af

    • @ccp372
      @ccp372 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@LifeisaBeautifulting it was on Out of the Pods episode with Renee th-cam.com/video/rLIASlJh6Nc/w-d-xo.htmlsi=xyfAi2XkTdoLcwKF

  • @kebonekhunou9431
    @kebonekhunou9431 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video as always Steph. I learners something new again, which has become something I've come to look forward to in your video. Lots of love from South Africa🇿🇦🌺

  • @ClarinetsForever223
    @ClarinetsForever223 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Per usual, your observation of Milton was spot-on, in my opinion. Thank you, Stephanie.

  • @RGB1986
    @RGB1986 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    They used to do the parties in previous seasons too . Like season 2 Shayna met Shane at a beach party and there was a lot of the pod squad people there too .
    We might not notice too much cause there were more couples

  • @niaa20
    @niaa20 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I really appreciate the individual analysis, but I also want to know about the relationship dynamics of Milton and Lydia as a couple.

  • @cindybear2689
    @cindybear2689 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Best analysis I have seen and heard...Thank you. 👋👋👋

  • @mydreamsarefunny
    @mydreamsarefunny 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for these. I love hearing your insight ❤

  • @BagLadyy_
    @BagLadyy_ 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What a breakdown, love your content❤

  • @julest5767
    @julest5767 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    love your thoughts. For Milton's family, it wasn't just Lydia coming in but the whole world looking and commenting on their family style of talking to each other! So they got some feedback that fortunately, they took in and softened. I also think Lydia will benefit from some of their analytic, level-headed approach to life

  • @krispyxtine
    @krispyxtine 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Really appreciate how detailed and practical your analysis is of Milton 👏🏽 loved your tip about having boundaries set about teasing in relationships. My husband loves to tease and I’m generally sensitive. I know I need to lighten up and he needs to know where to draw the line. I’m wondering what your tips are to navigate this? Thanks 🙏🏽

  • @EatYourFruitsAndVeggies
    @EatYourFruitsAndVeggies 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Another great video! Thank you!

  • @delachaks
    @delachaks 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love your analyses ! Keep it up ❤

  • @annlisek7061
    @annlisek7061 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was waiting for your review!!!

  • @edlakaumbi8619
    @edlakaumbi8619 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Your opinions are INCREDIBLE!!!

  • @maggiebrooks2550
    @maggiebrooks2550 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Im so grateful that your channel was recommended for me. 😀

  • @iseefire5565
    @iseefire5565 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm excited for all of the videos you mentioned. But I honestly found the things you said about family dynamics very interesting as well! Maybe you could also make a video about typical family dynamics?

  • @thecomfort-zone
    @thecomfort-zone 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I LOOOOVVVEEEE Milton!!!! He is the most amazing young man and I would love to be a little more like him! Lol

  • @tochiangel
    @tochiangel 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yay you’re back!😊

  • @UnaSolaEstrella
    @UnaSolaEstrella 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I enjoyed this video so much. Thank you!

  • @KJ-jd5ko
    @KJ-jd5ko 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Milton was actually closer to his other connection, the girl that is suing kinetic for the SA. Lydia really manipulated that girl also and took Milton.

    • @regularity2556
      @regularity2556 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Nobody "took" anybody, if that girl was really into Milton like that, she wouldn't have backed off. Cause in real life, if anything gets hard, are you just going to back off and walk away. Nope,plus Lydia didn't make her go off with that guy anyway. Let's not be ridiculous 🙄

    • @KJ-jd5ko
      @KJ-jd5ko 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@regularity2556 Some people have different personalities and not aggressive

    • @lullabyluna7170
      @lullabyluna7170 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@KJ-jd5koyeah but you can be strong willed without being aggressive. Plus she didn’t have to be truthful to Lydia, she could’ve seen him behind her back anyways. There was multiple ways to go about it, and she chose to back out so…

    • @KJ-jd5ko
      @KJ-jd5ko 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lullabyluna7170 True. But regardless she manipulated the situation telling his other connection that he was the only man she had left and acting desperate and aggressive and this was it for her instead of letting it play naturally and seeing who he chooses

  • @olik6142
    @olik6142 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love your analysis videos. I learn so much from them

  • @psiquepanchis
    @psiquepanchis 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Ohh im si glad you mention thw shorts situation ❤ he was super asertive in saying no, you are not gonna mother me. I choose how to look. I am capable ❤

  • @AnaBeatriz-sh6mf
    @AnaBeatriz-sh6mf 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I'm so glad that you did ths video. I'm so exciting, cuz the dynamic between Milton and Lydia remind me of my fiance and I. I'm passionate and he is more analytical. I just love hear your thoughts about this. Kisses from Brazil! I love your channel!

  • @EatWell23QWB
    @EatWell23QWB 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Excellent commentary and review!

  • @Abie_Irabor
    @Abie_Irabor 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I haven’t watched the last two seasons of LIB (including this one), but I indulge on the reaction videos especially yours; they are much more entertaining (and more educational) to me😆. Love this breakdown and I hope this couple works out. 💙

  • @samgreenham7030
    @samgreenham7030 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    i know i’m late & this may not even count, but the scene with the black pants & Lydia wanting them to match, i remember saying aloud, “don’t give in. stand your ground.” i wanted him to assert his dominance over his own body. yes there is an age difference, but that doesn’t mean that he’s incapable of making his own fashion choices or having & voicing his own opinions in their partnership. that was a very important line to have been established very early on as it would serve as a template for how they would proceed with like situations. the way she was talking to him sounded very demanding & laced with the tone of “listen to your mommy.” i appreciated his self assuredness in that moment. i also cheered audibly when he made the decision verbally & cheered even louder when he wore it to the beach. proves that he isn’t easily swayed; we only saw moments of them when they were in the hotel & he could have been persuaded then to change. but he didn’t! i love his mind.

  • @lydia-roseaigbedion6025
    @lydia-roseaigbedion6025 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    After watching Jessie Woo's Black Wimmenz of Love is Blind video, I'm convinced that this whole season should be thrown away. However, I would love to hear what you think about the situationwith each cast mate. Also, how do you feel about the additional content, such as the podcasts and interviews, that is coming out from pod members? Has your opinion on any of the members changed?

    • @alnsubuga
      @alnsubuga 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Great suggestion!

    • @copiouscat
      @copiouscat 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yess I loved Jessie’s interviews had me cracking up and noticing a myriad of things and the details of how independent and strong thinking women can still be susceptible to the madness even when making the choice to prioritize and protect oneself

  • @literalmentelia
    @literalmentelia 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’d love to see you reacting to love is blind Brazil! As a Brazilian I wonder if our culture plays a different role when it comes to relationships or not really, in your pov. I’ve been watching all your videos and it helped me think better about myself and my relationships in general. You make me a better person for free, thank you very much. God bless you ❤

    • @fabioexplores
      @fabioexplores 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It 100% does! As a person who is learning Brazilian Portuguese and thinking about moving to Brazil…

  • @Rhenadhis
    @Rhenadhis 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Do Uche next. This was a very good breakdown of Milton