I was so mad after reading this. My daughter jamine was loved by her brothers, sister, nieces, nephews and all their friends. She had cerebral Palsy. When she passed January 31 2020. I received so messages over Facebook, messaged and mail. She went everywhere with us. Their are who say the stupidest things, but we ignored them. My oldest was 9 when he was suspended from school for beating up a school mate for talking about his little sister. I was very proud that he stood up for her.,❤️
Sorry for your loss, but I believe those who knew her were lucky people. I went to school with a young lady with same issues and the most sweetest person I knew. We always celebrated her birthday each year with a special gift, card and her favorite type boxed cupcakes to take home to enjoy with her two siblings. Her family struggled a bit with medical bills, so holidays and Birthdays would be the same for the siblings too. The parents were always appreciative. They moved before we all graduated to be closer to the hospital.
Story 4: is this how the husband is gonna treat any future children that are disabled? I wouldn’t even marry that pos that enables the abuse of his sister
I worked in an ER for twenty nine years. Sadly, I have seen EXACTLY that situation occur on more than one occasion, where an entitled parent brings a child in with a fever or minor cut and makes a scene because the patient with major trauma is seen first. I wish I could say it was rare, but it was a common event. Interrupting a notification is not even the worst; I have seen Kens and Karens actually interrupt a defibrillation team during a code because their little baby had the sniffles, and they were here first! Compare this to the old lady having a heart attack who doesn't want to cause a fuss, which happens less often but still manages to restore my faith in human kindness after the parade of self important idiots who refuse to appreciate triage.
I remember once years ago my little brother who was maybe 4-5 at the time had clocked himself in the back of the head with the claw of a hammer, and he was bleeding pretty badly and throwing up. My mom rushed him to the hospital. My sister and I stayed home with our dad so the rest of this is just from what I overheard my mom complaining about to my dad after they got back home with my brother all stitched up and bandaged. Apparently, there was another parent in the ER who's kid had the sniffles. They had gotten there first but when my mom came running in with her baby with hair matted with blood, he was taken back immediately. This upset the other parent who had been waiting because they had been there first. The nurse had to explain to the parent that a head injury was much more of an emergency than a kid with the sniffles, please step aside and let them do their job.
Geez! I thought everyone knew that in the ER it is not first come first served but most injured first and downward from there. With least injured or sick being last. But may e it could be that during my youth there were much more medical shows than recently. Now the trend is cop shows. Growing up with shows like M.A.S.H., Dr. Welby, M.D. and General Hospital makes a difference. Even some of the mysteries were medical, like Quincy, M.E., and Diagnosis Murder. They all showed versions of triage. Especially M.A.S.H. It was definitely a comedy but they also showed how an ER works. Just a thought.
@@TiBunCosplay There is entitled people everywhere unfortunately. I am sorry you had that on top of worry for your son. I hope he was ok and recovered well. Sometimes with head injuries you get chronic headaches and I sincerely hope he did not get that.
Story4: I would of backed out the the wedding and changed the honeymoon to a "girl's vacation " and treated "Cindy" to some pampering that she obviously needs and deserves!
@@rebeccacardy6070 If she is severely disabled, as they indicated, that may not be the case. It is possible, maybe even likely, that she is not emancipated and her parents are her legal guardians.
Agree. Tell the family that I want her part of the wedding at least to guarantee she'd be there. Cindy needs at least one person to stand up and say she's wanted around.
When I was in the ER with sepsis and another guy was having a heart attack an EM was bitching that her kid with a cold had to wait. They did tell her off and I ended up in the ICU. I looked it up later and I had a 1 in 4 chance of dying, according to EM her kid’s sniffles trumps that.
Story 2:: If I was the mother getting news about my son dying. Security would have been called to get me off of her before I hurt her enough to need the hospital for real. I say this because my husband and I were in one of those rooms getting news about our son, who was on life support couldn't breathe on his own. I made the decision to take him off. We were with him when he took his last breath. Thank you for reading this.
Indeed, his behavior and backing his mother on that horrid behavior on Cindy just shows the type of person he is! "Mommy's little boy champ" indeed! MIL will be entitled cause she knows her son won't side against her. Likely cause she "Golden Boy" him that he has zero sympathy towards Cindy cause he knows "he won't be golden boy anymore".....why you want to be that as an adult male getting married is beyond me!) I feel she'd be staying on for Cindy case! (Though I feel there are better ways then staying married to Horrid Monster Jr. And dealing with MIL HORRID Monster Sr. and hopefully she finds em and uses them for Cindy sake and her own)
Story 3; while it's nice to have a "man" that can fix a hinge, I've learned how to do it myself. When my son was growing up I taught him how to basic cook, wash dishes/laundry, hand sew a button, put gas in the car, tighten/loosen screws/pipes, check the fluids of my car, etc. Basically I taught him how to take care of himself, it's nice to have someone around to "help" but also nice to do it yourself. When the internet became a "thing" I taught him how to look up "how-to" do, like change the oil, make home made bread, etc. A few years ago I bought myself a brand new, right out of the crate 50cc TaoTao scooter, I looked on TH-cam to change the oil when it came time. My neighbor offered to do it for me, but he never came over, so I did it myself. He then decided to do it 3 days after I already did it, then got pissed at me when I told him I already had done it. 🤦♀️
Good for you! I raised both of my sons the same way. They can do most everything around the house. I'm huge into gardening, but they weren't when they were young. Now they love to grow their own veggies and such.
Ms. Tammy I totally agree. I've told my daughter not to be like so many women who THINK they need to depend upon a man to get things done. NOPE! I too taught my son everything you described so he can take care of himself as well. He is grown up now and cook and clean with the best of is women lol. And of course my daughter isn't like the women of her age group she keeps a clean home and cooks delicious meals for her husband and children. Stay safe ma'am
Yep! My daddy did that, I did the same for my son and then daughters. My husband can fix things but if it happens when he's at work I'll do it myself. It just seems like if they watch you they know how to do things too! My middle daughter always loved watching me so the first time she made pancakes she's now become the official pancake maker when she comes to visit, lol.. Been that way for 10yrs 🤣
My mother taught my brothers to cook as well. There is something very wrong with a grown man who doesn't know how to feed himself. LOL I on the other hand, loved to help my dad with car repair when I was growing up. My own daughter got an A in high school mechanics - she took apart and reassembled a car engine no problem. And in turn, my granddaughter got under the sink with tools and fixed my daughter's garburator when she was 10. We're all kinda girl, no tomboys, just...normal people who can do stuff. My grandson can cook, and contributes to the housework so he's not helpless either. Parents need to teach their kids as much as possible, and not split it based on gender.
It didn't sound to me like the GF's parents were berating him for not "being a man". They simply stated every man should know how to fix things around the house. I would go further to say that everyone (man or woman) should know how to fix things around the house. They SHOULD know. That doesn't mean they HAVE to know. While what they said was technically correct, it was rude and implied he was less of a man because he didn't know how. I love his response. "Well, I need to start focusing on 'manly' things so I wont be doing the womanly tasks any longer"
A lot of people, mostly from those who want to think that they’re ‘upper class’ are embarrassed by having a child that they see as ‘defective’. Too bad they don’t realize how terribly low class that makes them.
When I got my first apartment, my dad said "No daughter of mine will have her own place without basic tools". He bought me a toolset as a housewarming gift, a real set and not one of those flimsy pink sets for women. I've learned how to do many basic repairs and put together small furniture myself. He was very handy himself and I'm glad I'm able to do a lot on my own. My dad and I both have significant physical disabilities and still do as much as we can on our own. My boyfriend has Asperger's, is high functioning and his parents do EVERYTHING for him and he still lives at home, but fortunately has his own apartment as it's a huge house. There were some things I needed done that I was planning on doing myself and he says "My dad can do that. No offense but he can do a better job". I get very frustrated when he asks his dad to help me with something even though I can do it on my own and I wasn't asking for any help. Once his dad said I needed certain repairs on my car and he said "You need to have x-y-z done and I'm sure you don't know about this, but this is what you need to ask for". I told him that I already knew that I needed it and planned on having it done. He was talking down to me and barely knows me as I've only interacted with him a few times. Instead of teaching their son how to do different things, they just do it for him because it's easier and quicker for them. My parents taught me how to be as independent as possible, even with my disabilities so all of this is mind boggling to me.
Story #4. That marriage is not going to last long. Can't believe that she actually carried through with it at that point. What kind of family tries to hide their child and or siblings in this day and age? They should get 1-2 in county lockup and 3 yrs mandated counciling.
Story 1: I lived at home with my son until he was almost 5. My dad is a heavy smoker. He kept smoking on the steps to the basement next to the kitchen. My son kept ending up with ear infections due to the second hand smoke. He didn't believe me when the doctor insisted he smoke outside. Eventually the doctor was able to get it through to him when my son was one ear infection away from needing tubes and delaying his speech from the ear infections. Story 3: my husband can do minimum home repairs, but says he can just pay someone to do the bigger repairs he can't do.
Obviously MIL didn’t know that her own grandchild was going to have an allergic reaction to the second hand smoke but still continue with her disgusting habit
The first story was a yeeeesh as I had lung problems as a child and two of my fam smoked so I can 100% understand wanting to set boundaries on the grandma (and eventaully cutting contact with the grandma)
On The last story.... Maybe she went through with the wedding to save Cindy. If Op keeps us updated we are going to discover that in some form Cindy ends up with her.
I've been sitting in the emergency room when people start complaining about how long they are have been there. I inform them that it's not first come first serve. It's whoever is in the most medical need is first, the least is last. And then remind them that they are at a level 3 trauma center. That shuts them right up. lol I'm sorry, but I really do feel that everyone should learn how to do minor repairs around their own home. I can, and I had a husband who did those things also. I taught my sons to cook, clean, do minor sewing repairs by hand, etc... I wanted to raised independent men.
I fully agree with you that EVERYONE should be able to do minor repairs around their home & on their car. As well as cook, do laundry, sew on buttons, etc. SO many people are just completely unprepared to live life on their own
Story Four: I think the husband is ALSO ashamed of his sister, he's been trained by his parent's that being ashamed of anyone not normal is the right attitude to have. If this goes on for a bit longer, OP may look into taking Cindy into her house & getting the marriage annulled, as it's clear her husband would have the same reaction if one of their kids were ever to become disabled.
I see so many commenters saying OP should just take Cindy. You can't do that. Her parents are her legal guardians. If OP took her, she would be arrested for kidnapping. You may disagree with how parents treat their children, but it isn't your place to take them and "save" them any more than if someone else didn't agree with your parenting style and tried to take your children. OP shouldn't marry into that family, but she has no say in how her in-laws choose to raise THEIR daughter. She can try to petition the court for custody, but I can pretty much guarantee that would not be successful.
1st beautifully done Op. 2nd, damn I feel for doctors that has to deal with people like that. 3rd, Op said the right thing. But, Op needs to get out now. Red flags everywhere. 4th, I hate how people treat their own disable children. My cousin is disabled. And, I can't ever imagine treating anyone badly. Op should have ran because op has a heart and cares more about husband sister than the darn husband. Run! ✌️Red
I have always felt that the hardest thing for a doctor or surgeon to do, is tell the anyone that despite their best efforts, the patient is gone. I just has to take as much of a toll on the medic, but so often, that is not taken into consideration. The reason I say this? My friends wife is a surgeon, and she lost a patient. The patients family went to one of those medical malpractice leeches (with no medical credentials) to sue. It's been ongoing for a year now, and despite all the evidence of non survivable catastrophic injuries to the patient, the leech still tries to press that they could have been saved. It's sickening. I am not talking about any kind of monetary gains here, I am talking about what it does to medics that dedicate their lives to saving people, that may be lost due to no fault of their own.
Last story, the fact that op called it mil and husband means she willingly went into the marriage where this is acceptable. What if they have a child who's disabled will she cry and say he treats the child poorly? In my opinion op is an AH for knowingly entering into a marriage with someone who thinks it's okay to treat people the way they do . 🤷♀️
3rd story... tell MIL she obviously miserably failed to raise her daughter to be a proper housewife as she can neither cook, nor do laundry ad cleaning. As soon as she fixed this lapsus op is willing to become the "man" they so desperately want him to be. 4th story... get this annulled and call CPS or whoever is responsible to have a closer look on Cindy's situation! Press charges for abuse on ex-husband and ex-MIL.
I don't think I would be able to go through with marrying an ableist, and Last OP's fiancee/husband and his mother are definitely ableist aholes. They're not concerned for Sis's feelings, they're ashamed to be associated with her. 😡
I never learned to be a handyman, too. One usually learns with their father doing things. My dad always hired people to do work on our house. Dad had his own business (service station). I did learn to do simple things on my vehicles from him. If l tried doing work at home, my mother would interfere. I gave up over time trying. My mother is the epitome of a “Karen”.
3. If fixing the hinges was so trivial why did the wife not do it herself? Oh and "men" do not need to know how to fix things, homeowners do. Though if they don't know how to or want to fix things thats fine, there are people they can hire to do that for them.
She's a coward that can't stand up to her parents (nor wants to) and it's easier to side with the "winning side" (AKA The two entitled adult brats that need to get with the times that created her over her husband) then her man. Despite benefiting HARD from him doing all those other "unmanly things" for her! She knows her parents wouldn't do any of the things that husband does for her as they'll cling to their "what a man and woman should be" mindset! Yet likely is appealing to them cause she knows they have something for her if anything happens to them, so wants to keep them happy no matter what (Best way to enslave your kids to the "side with you over even their lover/spouse/kids" is to show them what you'll leave them when you go to the "great beyond!" If it's alot and they have zero shame! They'll even ask you "how deep do you want them to stab the dagger into the betrayed" with no shame!) Hope she has fun missing all those perks she's going to have to do "as the woman" and her work! I don't see it lasting before she's trying to weasel her way into getting them back without admitting her parents are full of shit out of stubborn pride before caving or the relationship falls apart (out of fear and pride I guess that she thinks if she ever thinks outside the program, she'll reveal "her true thoughts" towards her parents!)
My automatic response to anyone making the kind of claims made in the story is usually “do you have a Computer and wifi at the house? What do you do it it stops working right? If you have these things, you should be able to fix them.”
I agree 100%. There's no reason why women can't also learn how to do these things. If they expect him to do all of the basic repairs and don't expect the wife to, it's awfully one sided. Gender equality goes both ways...
Story 1: What is it with relatives that call BS on allergies? Why take the risk? Story 2: Taking a break? Just bursting into rooms, beyond entitled. Story 3: "Be a man" as in "fit neatly into our box". Why? Story 4: It sounds like the whole family, hubby included are toxic and judgemental. Sindy has done nothing wrong, I don't think. I'd go to visit Sindy a lot and invite her out a lot to eat and try new things. New Bestie for Sindy.
I've heard stories about the allergies thing. Like one where grandma slips grandchild whose allergic to peanut butter, a PB&J sandwich, or one where someone's slipping shellfish into someone's food when that person says their allergic to it. Always the same excuse too. "They're not allergic, they're just being a picky eater".
Early in our marriage (26.5 years asxof last week), my husband and I decided to invite some friends over for dinner. We had just purchased a new hutch for the dining room. So, I set about putting the hutch together, and he went to start cooking. Personally, I find his lack of "handyman" skills amusing, but it doesn't make him less of a man. BTW, I can and do cook quite well, but we don't get hung up on "gender roles".
Story1: I'm sure OP realizes this loud and clear, but he should have pressed charges against MiL. She needed to face consequences for her false accusations, and it would have forced his doormat wife in a position of having to choose sides. If she chose mommy, at least he might have wasted less years on her.
In the fourth story, I'm so angry at Op's husband and mother-in-law. If I was in op's shoes I would just divorce him and tell everyone on his side of the family what they are doing to his disabled sister.
Our son is autistic and we take him wherever we go, we’re not embarrassed or ashamed of him, he’s very verbal and likes to talk to everyone and anyone, we have some family members who don’t like being around him, they live in California we live in Missouri, when we go to California we don’t go see them
smoke allergies suck SO MUCH. my mom smoked every day around me, and several other family members smoked. I have permanent issues with my sinuses. it's so bad that even a wiff of smoke makes my nose hurt, try to close up, and run. glad dad stood up for his kid!
Story 4- OP should get a divorce from her husband immediately. He’s shown what kind of person he is. What if any of their children are disabled? He’s going to hide them too.
OP’s family had a remarkable lack of squirt guns or seltzer bottles in the house. I’d the kid was old enough, I’d have loaded her up with the best squirt gun I could find and told her that anyone that comes in the house it’s her job to put it the cigarette
Story 4- Cindy is a person, NOT a house plant. She has been in a wheelchair since she was 7, she's 19 now....that poor girl, how much has she missed out on? They leave her at home like she's a pet. That's disgusting. Regardless of what happened to put Cindy in the current condition she is in, it seems that her own Mother is ashamed of her. That is NO Mother at all.
Last story. I would have refused to marry the guy at that moment. OP is a fool to continue with marriage. Forget red flags this was a whole marching band and color guard of red flags. OP better get out NOW before bringing some poor children into this abusive mess.
Story 1 my daughter used to have allergic reactions to her Daddy smoking but he didn't smoke around her just him smoking outside and the smell of it like on his clothes she would start wheezing really bad so he stopped smoking he just stopped because he knew that if he didn't he couldn't be around our daughter and she was a baby at the time and it took us a little while to figure out what it was taking her back and forth to the doctor
I was taken to that room once and before that . I never know it was there and ask to call some to be with me . What a nightmare it was . Having to go into a room and scream stop no more. Then them say you had to say that . Time of death !
Real Man Story: My wife's dad was a mechanical engineer and did wood working as a hobby. She grew up being taught how to do basic construction and how to fix things. I am inept at those things. When we had our first kid she made me put the crib together. It would have taken her about 20-30 minutes (I have seen her blow through Ikea furniture in that amount of time.) The crib took me almost 3 hours. She said it was good for me. 😄
Last story: my ass would have walked right to the court house and served him divorce papers. How On earth did she stay with him knowing that’s how him and his family treated his own sister. The family didn’t want her around because they didn’t want to be “embarrassed” of having a child with a disability. She’s literally a burden to them in their mind
People who smoke often feel entitled to smoke anywhere they go. I, too, am allergic to cigarette smoke. I used to know a woman who was not my friend, especially, but the wife of a friend of my SO. She would come to our house and clap her hands over her nose and mouth while demanding that our cat be removed and locked in the basement, because she was allergic to cats. Then she'd light up and blow smoke in my face all evening, until my eyes were red and teary, both my nostrils swollen shut, and my throat sore and raw. She would grandly claim that I just didn't LIKE smoking, and that once I had "gotten used to it," I wouldn't have any more problems. I finally responded with, "Okay, then. Just let me get the cat, and we'll start curing YOUR allergy right here." She then went into hysterics about how HER allergy was REAL, and mine just wasn't possible, or I couldn't "survive in the world." I wasn't sorry to finally see the last of that heifer.
in response to story 1... i'm a heavy smoker and a grandmother too, but i will NEVER smoke in a house where smoking is prohibited by the occupants of said house! my parents used to be smokers too untill my mother developed lungcancer, they stopped immediatly and smoking was from than on prohibited there. (mom did survive the lungcancer and lived on for another 12 years, the pancreatic cancer she got at that time did her in.) if i'm visiting my granddaughter in my former son in law's house and i want to smoke, i step outside, just like he does. (son in law smokes too, but never in the house!) when the weather is foul, we step into the shed with the door wide open to smoke...
When my mom was in a car accident many years ago, I had to wait a long time in the ER waiting room. There was a security guard checking in each person. He literally had to hit a button for you to go through the door. That is what that doctor needed in that hospital. The security guard wouldn't let me through until he assessed I wouldn't freak out seeing my mother. Turns out he made it sound worse than it was.
Basically I'm kinda a handy woman. I would be delighted to have a house husband. I don't need a handy man after all. 😃 Actually I've done much more complicated repairs than door hinges. I can do the housework too. I guess what I need is someone that can do both too. 😀
Last story how old is Cindy? If she is an adult there is a possibility that she could move out and call social services to report the in-laws for abuse because they are holding her prisoner at home.
My youngest daughters husband can’t do household repairs, he couldn’t even put a new door knob on the bathroom door, my middle son in law went over and fixed it
Story 3: I absolutely LOVE what the OP said!! You want a handy man type of man fine, that means you get to be the 1940s wife. You can do all the domestic chores and I will fix hinges. I'm glad you decided to take over all the household chores, because a MAN shouldn't do that! I absolutely love that he fired back to her. Thoughts like that are soo incredibly toxic.
Disabled daughter. Why did she go through with that wedding. Husband showed his true colours, siding with mummy, then sulking. In laws showed their true colours, cruelly treating their own daughter, lying, arguing with op and expecting husband to side with them against wife. That whole family is one giant red flag. Oh, and ring CPS on them for the way they’re isolating and disregarding their disabled daughter.
Imagine the Audacity & Entitlement to Try & Do Whatever you Want in SOMEONE ELSE’S HOME!!! I QUIT Smoking in order to be able to see & be around my Grandsons!!! It wasn’t just the actual Smoke..it was also the Smell. My 2 Grandsons are on the Spectrum & never wanted to Hug me because I “was Stinky GeeGee”..lol I used Vaping to Quit & I still GO OUTSIDE when I’m at my Daughter’s House.
Story #2 Get that marriage annulled ASAP,.report them to CPS for mental abuse and see if you can get custody of her. Those people don't deserve to get near a child, let alone have one.
When I was 16 I was shot. The other person was way worse than I was. She was sent by ambulance to the hospital. I was cleaned up and my left arm bandaged, but I would not go by ambulance to the hospital. Instead I had two friends take me to the hospital. When we got there the nurse said to me " you will have to take a seat, we just had a bad shooting and 2 victims here in ambulances". I told the nurse that I won't take a seat because I am one of the victims. She finally took her eyes 👀 off the window and looked at me and me bleeding arm. She took me straight back. That Dr had every right to be that angry with that women.
Story 3. OP should've said "Fine. Since you feel that way, you can carry your ass out the door and move back with mommy and daddy. I'm done with your ungrateful ass."
When he said no smoking that's what he meant. It's a good thing he put his foot down. MIL could have visited her grandchild at the graveyard. Having been a highly sensitive asthmatic,.....I know.
Story 3. OP has a good head on his shoulders. I love my husband, but it took me 10 years of marriage to covince him to stop trying to do every repair himself. One time he got tired of the spray focett sticking, so he broke it off. This made the problem worse as the broken faucet started gushing water. Then there was the time something got stuck in the phone jack. He decided to fix the problem with a hammer. While he was looking for a hammer, I fixed the problem with a hair tie. I used and old hair tie to pinch the offening object close and pulled it out. Growing up my father taught me how to do minor repairs and how to assemble furniture. Women have just as much rights and responsibilities as men.
Door hinge story: She would get nothing from me ever again. She knows how her family is and their antiquated thought process on masculinity. You know what a man does, he gets shit done. He has the self awareness he can't complete a task because he does not have the aptitude and he outsourced like a smart person. Her comment was completely unsolicited & unnecessary. She displayed pick me behavior in her own family dynamic & now she doesn't like the outcome. She'll get over it or she wont.
My husband of 42 years was a deeply religious and faithful husband. He was very good understanding theology and economics. He was a fantastic nurse. He knew how to change a tire, but could NOT do any other repairs. In fact if he picked up a hammer, he could injure himself! LOL! We would call repair men to fix things in the house. If our neighbors knew how to do stuff, we'd pay them or do other things for them in exchange. This family did not have to ridicule the young husband, he just had to be taught. Also, not knowing how to fix things DOES NOT mean you are not a man! My husband was the most perfect wonderful MAN on earth. I will ne er marry again because no man alive could e er fill his shoes, and he couldn't repair anything in the house. I loved him greatly still.♥️
The abbreviation “i.e.” stands for id est, which is Latin for “that is.” The abbreviation “e.g.” stands for the Latin phrase exempli gratia, meaning “for example.”
My comment for the last story, the advice I would give the OP would be something my brother told me, the only person's consent is the one that it affects. In other words I would have simply said that I would like if Cindy would come then I would have asked Cindy if she felt she would be comfortable being there for the wedding even if there might me looks and possibly ugly comments directed toward her since she is a teen she should be able to make up her own mind. The reason that the MIL and BF didn't want her there is what I would mention (odd looks and mean comments) using those words to warn Cindy about that way they have few arguments to stand on if she knows the possible consequences. By leaving the option completely up to Cindy it would help her feel included and a bit of empowerment over herself. Just my two cents on the situation.
I was so mad after reading this. My daughter jamine was loved by her brothers, sister, nieces, nephews and all their friends. She had cerebral Palsy. When she passed January 31 2020. I received so messages over Facebook, messaged and mail. She went everywhere with us. Their are who say the stupidest things, but we ignored them. My oldest was 9 when he was suspended from school for beating up a school mate for talking about his little sister. I was very proud that he stood up for her.,❤️
Sorry for your loss, but I believe those who knew her were lucky people. I went to school with a young lady with same issues and the most sweetest person I knew. We always celebrated her birthday each year with a special gift, card and her favorite type boxed cupcakes to take home to enjoy with her two siblings. Her family struggled a bit with medical bills, so holidays and Birthdays would be the same for the siblings too. The parents were always appreciative. They moved before we all graduated to be closer to the hospital.
Story 4: is this how the husband is gonna treat any future children that are disabled? I wouldn’t even marry that pos that enables the abuse of his sister
Exactly, OP is NTA! She's the hero!
Not only that, it goes to show if she got paralyzed from like a car accident or something, he would leave her or not help and care for her anymore!
I worked in an ER for twenty nine years. Sadly, I have seen EXACTLY that situation occur on more than one occasion, where an entitled parent brings a child in with a fever or minor cut and makes a scene because the patient with major trauma is seen first. I wish I could say it was rare, but it was a common event.
Interrupting a notification is not even the worst; I have seen Kens and Karens actually interrupt a defibrillation team during a code because their little baby had the sniffles, and they were here first! Compare this to the old lady having a heart attack who doesn't want to cause a fuss, which happens less often but still manages to restore my faith in human kindness after the parade of self important idiots who refuse to appreciate triage.
I remember once years ago my little brother who was maybe 4-5 at the time had clocked himself in the back of the head with the claw of a hammer, and he was bleeding pretty badly and throwing up. My mom rushed him to the hospital. My sister and I stayed home with our dad so the rest of this is just from what I overheard my mom complaining about to my dad after they got back home with my brother all stitched up and bandaged. Apparently, there was another parent in the ER who's kid had the sniffles. They had gotten there first but when my mom came running in with her baby with hair matted with blood, he was taken back immediately. This upset the other parent who had been waiting because they had been there first. The nurse had to explain to the parent that a head injury was much more of an emergency than a kid with the sniffles, please step aside and let them do their job.
Wow just wow.. My education is in Forensic Psychology and Applied Behavior and even I cannot understand that much entitlement! Sheesh😳
Geez! I thought everyone knew that in the ER it is not first come first served but most injured first and downward from there. With least injured or sick being last. But may e it could be that during my youth there were much more medical shows than recently. Now the trend is cop shows. Growing up with shows like M.A.S.H., Dr. Welby, M.D. and General Hospital makes a difference. Even some of the mysteries were medical, like Quincy, M.E., and Diagnosis Murder. They all showed versions of triage. Especially M.A.S.H. It was definitely a comedy but they also showed how an ER works. Just a thought.
My aunt works in a doctors surgery as a receptionist and often tells me stories about the entitled people who come in.
@@TiBunCosplay There is entitled people everywhere unfortunately. I am sorry you had that on top of worry for your son. I hope he was ok and recovered well. Sometimes with head injuries you get chronic headaches and I sincerely hope he did not get that.
Story4: I would of backed out the the wedding and changed the honeymoon to a "girl's vacation " and treated "Cindy" to some pampering that she obviously needs and deserves!
I couldn't have said it better. Cheers!
I doubt you would have been allowed to take Cindy. Especially against her guardians wishes.
@@rolandhansen812 I think in the vid it said Cindy was 18.....no parental consent needed
@@rebeccacardy6070 If she is severely disabled, as they indicated, that may not be the case. It is possible, maybe even likely, that she is not emancipated and her parents are her legal guardians.
Agree. Tell the family that I want her part of the wedding at least to guarantee she'd be there. Cindy needs at least one person to stand up and say she's wanted around.
Last story-I would've made a speech right then exposing their behavior, wished them good luck, and left.
Story 4. OP needs to do something about husband and MIL (preferably permenantly) and then needs to rescue Cindy from her abusive family.
When I was in the ER with sepsis and another guy was having a heart attack an EM was bitching that her kid with a cold had to wait. They did tell her off and I ended up in the ICU. I looked it up later and I had a 1 in 4 chance of dying, according to EM her kid’s sniffles trumps that.
Story 2::
If I was the mother getting news about my son dying. Security would have been called to get me off of her before I hurt her enough to need the hospital for real.
I say this because my husband and I were in one of those rooms getting news about our son, who was on life support couldn't breathe on his own. I made the decision to take him off.
We were with him when he took his last breath.
Thank you for reading this.
I am so sorry for your loss. 😭💝
@@baffledanderanged2101 thank you
Sorry for your loss my daughter is fighting cancer they say we will lose her before her 5th birthday
I am soo sorry for your loss! I hope you and your family were able to grieve and that everyone allowed you to do so.
@@brandypebler2054 I'm soo sorry for your loss. That must have been soo difficult.
Last story. Dump him! He’s a monster!! His mil will be interfering all your lives! You can still get an annulment. RUN!!!!
Indeed, his behavior and backing his mother on that horrid behavior on Cindy just shows the type of person he is! "Mommy's little boy champ" indeed! MIL will be entitled cause she knows her son won't side against her. Likely cause she "Golden Boy" him that he has zero sympathy towards Cindy cause he knows "he won't be golden boy anymore".....why you want to be that as an adult male getting married is beyond me!)
I feel she'd be staying on for Cindy case! (Though I feel there are better ways then staying married to Horrid Monster Jr. And dealing with MIL HORRID Monster Sr. and hopefully she finds em and uses them for Cindy sake and her own)
Story 3; while it's nice to have a "man" that can fix a hinge, I've learned how to do it myself. When my son was growing up I taught him how to basic cook, wash dishes/laundry, hand sew a button, put gas in the car, tighten/loosen screws/pipes, check the fluids of my car, etc. Basically I taught him how to take care of himself, it's nice to have someone around to "help" but also nice to do it yourself. When the internet became a "thing" I taught him how to look up "how-to" do, like change the oil, make home made bread, etc.
A few years ago I bought myself a brand new, right out of the crate 50cc TaoTao scooter, I looked on TH-cam to change the oil when it came time. My neighbor offered to do it for me, but he never came over, so I did it myself. He then decided to do it 3 days after I already did it, then got pissed at me when I told him I already had done it. 🤦♀️
Good for you! I raised both of my sons the same way. They can do most everything around the house. I'm huge into gardening, but they weren't when they were young. Now they love to grow their own veggies and such.
Ms. Tammy I totally agree. I've told my daughter not to be like so many women who THINK they need to depend upon a man to get things done. NOPE! I too taught my son everything you described so he can take care of himself as well. He is grown up now and cook and clean with the best of is women lol. And of course my daughter isn't like the women of her age group she keeps a clean home and cooks delicious meals for her husband and children. Stay safe ma'am
Yep! My daddy did that, I did the same for my son and then daughters. My husband can fix things but if it happens when he's at work I'll do it myself. It just seems like if they watch you they know how to do things too! My middle daughter always loved watching me so the first time she made pancakes she's now become the official pancake maker when she comes to visit, lol.. Been that way for 10yrs 🤣
My mother taught my brothers to cook as well. There is something very wrong with a grown man who doesn't know how to feed himself. LOL I on the other hand, loved to help my dad with car repair when I was growing up. My own daughter got an A in high school mechanics - she took apart and reassembled a car engine no problem. And in turn, my granddaughter got under the sink with tools and fixed my daughter's garburator when she was 10. We're all kinda girl, no tomboys, just...normal people who can do stuff. My grandson can cook, and contributes to the housework so he's not helpless either. Parents need to teach their kids as much as possible, and not split it based on gender.
It didn't sound to me like the GF's parents were berating him for not "being a man". They simply stated every man should know how to fix things around the house. I would go further to say that everyone (man or woman) should know how to fix things around the house. They SHOULD know. That doesn't mean they HAVE to know.
While what they said was technically correct, it was rude and implied he was less of a man because he didn't know how. I love his response. "Well, I need to start focusing on 'manly' things so I wont be doing the womanly tasks any longer"
A lot of people, mostly from those who want to think that they’re ‘upper class’ are embarrassed by having a child that they see as ‘defective’. Too bad they don’t realize how terribly low class that makes them.
When I got my first apartment, my dad said "No daughter of mine will have her own place without basic tools". He bought me a toolset as a housewarming gift, a real set and not one of those flimsy pink sets for women. I've learned how to do many basic repairs and put together small furniture myself. He was very handy himself and I'm glad I'm able to do a lot on my own. My dad and I both have significant physical disabilities and still do as much as we can on our own.
My boyfriend has Asperger's, is high functioning and his parents do EVERYTHING for him and he still lives at home, but fortunately has his own apartment as it's a huge house. There were some things I needed done that I was planning on doing myself and he says "My dad can do that. No offense but he can do a better job". I get very frustrated when he asks his dad to help me with something even though I can do it on my own and I wasn't asking for any help.
Once his dad said I needed certain repairs on my car and he said "You need to have x-y-z done and I'm sure you don't know about this, but this is what you need to ask for". I told him that I already knew that I needed it and planned on having it done. He was talking down to me and barely knows me as I've only interacted with him a few times. Instead of teaching their son how to do different things, they just do it for him because it's easier and quicker for them. My parents taught me how to be as independent as possible, even with my disabilities so all of this is mind boggling to me.
Story #4. That marriage is not going to last long. Can't believe that she actually carried through with it at that point. What kind of family tries to hide their child and or siblings in this day and age? They should get 1-2 in county lockup and 3 yrs mandated counciling.
Story 1: I lived at home with my son until he was almost 5. My dad is a heavy smoker. He kept smoking on the steps to the basement next to the kitchen. My son kept ending up with ear infections due to the second hand smoke. He didn't believe me when the doctor insisted he smoke outside. Eventually the doctor was able to get it through to him when my son was one ear infection away from needing tubes and delaying his speech from the ear infections.
Story 3: my husband can do minimum home repairs, but says he can just pay someone to do the bigger repairs he can't do.
Story 1: No need for a no smoking sign in your own home! Anyone that tries to smoke would no longer be welcome over period!
Last story; she should have gotten a divorce the next day and done no contact!
Obviously MIL didn’t know that her own grandchild was going to have an allergic reaction to the second hand smoke but still continue with her disgusting habit
Cindy's story. The family's treatment of Cindy is appalling, and the poor woman is probably overwhelmed by her new s-i-l's kindness.
I'm autistic and the way my family has treated me like I'm a dirty secret to hide away like the disabled Sil
The first story was a yeeeesh as I had lung problems as a child and two of my fam smoked so I can 100% understand wanting to set boundaries on the grandma (and eventaully cutting contact with the grandma)
On The last story....
Maybe she went through with the wedding to save Cindy. If Op keeps us updated we are going to discover that in some form Cindy ends up with her.
I've been sitting in the emergency room when people start complaining about how long they are have been there. I inform them that it's not first come first serve. It's whoever is in the most medical need is first, the least is last. And then remind them that they are at a level 3 trauma center. That shuts them right up. lol
I'm sorry, but I really do feel that everyone should learn how to do minor repairs around their own home. I can, and I had a husband who did those things also. I taught my sons to cook, clean, do minor sewing repairs by hand, etc... I wanted to raised independent men.
Do you have any phobias? How would you feel if you were terrified of spiders and someone told you you should be able to handle taking care of them?
@@brianbarber5401 What does that have to do with anything?
I fully agree with you that EVERYONE should be able to do minor repairs around their home & on their car. As well as cook, do laundry, sew on buttons, etc. SO many people are just completely unprepared to live life on their own
Story Four: I think the husband is ALSO ashamed of his sister, he's been trained by his parent's that being ashamed of anyone not normal is the right attitude to have. If this goes on for a bit longer, OP may look into taking Cindy into her house & getting the marriage annulled, as it's clear her husband would have the same reaction if one of their kids were ever to become disabled.
I see so many commenters saying OP should just take Cindy. You can't do that. Her parents are her legal guardians. If OP took her, she would be arrested for kidnapping. You may disagree with how parents treat their children, but it isn't your place to take them and "save" them any more than if someone else didn't agree with your parenting style and tried to take your children. OP shouldn't marry into that family, but she has no say in how her in-laws choose to raise THEIR daughter. She can try to petition the court for custody, but I can pretty much guarantee that would not be successful.
1st beautifully done Op. 2nd, damn I feel for doctors that has to deal with people like that. 3rd, Op said the right thing. But, Op needs to get out now. Red flags everywhere. 4th, I hate how people treat their own disable children. My cousin is disabled. And, I can't ever imagine treating anyone badly. Op should have ran because op has a heart and cares more about husband sister than the darn husband. Run! ✌️Red
I have always felt that the hardest thing for a doctor or surgeon to do, is tell the anyone that despite their best efforts, the patient is gone. I just has to take as much of a toll on the medic, but so often, that is not taken into consideration. The reason I say this? My friends wife is a surgeon, and she lost a patient. The patients family went to one of those medical malpractice leeches (with no medical credentials) to sue. It's been ongoing for a year now, and despite all the evidence of non survivable catastrophic injuries to the patient, the leech still tries to press that they could have been saved. It's sickening. I am not talking about any kind of monetary gains here, I am talking about what it does to medics that dedicate their lives to saving people, that may be lost due to no fault of their own.
if i was op in the last story i would say " hey mil you dont want sil ok ill take her you can have your spineless brat back"
Last story, the fact that op called it mil and husband means she willingly went into the marriage where this is acceptable. What if they have a child who's disabled will she cry and say he treats the child poorly? In my opinion op is an AH for knowingly entering into a marriage with someone who thinks it's okay to treat people the way they do . 🤷♀️
3rd story... tell MIL she obviously miserably failed to raise her daughter to be a proper housewife as she can neither cook, nor do laundry ad cleaning. As soon as she fixed this lapsus op is willing to become the "man" they so desperately want him to be.
4th story... get this annulled and call CPS or whoever is responsible to have a closer look on Cindy's situation! Press charges for abuse on ex-husband and ex-MIL.
I don't think I would be able to go through with marrying an ableist, and Last OP's fiancee/husband and his mother are definitely ableist aholes. They're not concerned for Sis's feelings, they're ashamed to be associated with her. 😡
I never learned to be a handyman, too. One usually learns with their father doing things. My dad always hired people to do work on our house. Dad had his own business (service station). I did learn to do simple things on my vehicles from him. If l tried doing work at home, my mother would interfere. I gave up over time trying. My mother is the epitome of a “Karen”.
Story 4: Husband isn’t actually spineless, he and MIL are in fact both ableist
It’s just as disgusting as racism or sexism
Love listening to these while I do other things
3. If fixing the hinges was so trivial why did the wife not do it herself? Oh and "men" do not need to know how to fix things, homeowners do. Though if they don't know how to or want to fix things thats fine, there are people they can hire to do that for them.
She's a coward that can't stand up to her parents (nor wants to) and it's easier to side with the "winning side" (AKA The two entitled adult brats that need to get with the times that created her over her husband) then her man. Despite benefiting HARD from him doing all those other "unmanly things" for her! She knows her parents wouldn't do any of the things that husband does for her as they'll cling to their "what a man and woman should be" mindset! Yet likely is appealing to them cause she knows they have something for her if anything happens to them, so wants to keep them happy no matter what (Best way to enslave your kids to the "side with you over even their lover/spouse/kids" is to show them what you'll leave them when you go to the "great beyond!" If it's alot and they have zero shame! They'll even ask you "how deep do you want them to stab the dagger into the betrayed" with no shame!)
Hope she has fun missing all those perks she's going to have to do "as the woman" and her work! I don't see it lasting before she's trying to weasel her way into getting them back without admitting her parents are full of shit out of stubborn pride before caving or the relationship falls apart (out of fear and pride I guess that she thinks if she ever thinks outside the program, she'll reveal "her true thoughts" towards her parents!)
My automatic response to anyone making the kind of claims made in the story is usually “do you have a Computer and wifi at the house? What do you do it it stops working right? If you have these things, you should be able to fix them.”
I agree 100%. There's no reason why women can't also learn how to do these things. If they expect him to do all of the basic repairs and don't expect the wife to, it's awfully one sided. Gender equality goes both ways...
Story 1: What is it with relatives that call BS on allergies? Why take the risk?
Story 2: Taking a break? Just bursting into rooms, beyond entitled.
Story 3: "Be a man" as in "fit neatly into our box". Why?
Story 4: It sounds like the whole family, hubby included are toxic and judgemental. Sindy has done nothing wrong, I don't think. I'd go to visit Sindy a lot and invite her out a lot to eat and try new things. New Bestie for Sindy.
I've heard stories about the allergies thing. Like one where grandma slips grandchild whose allergic to peanut butter, a PB&J sandwich, or one where someone's slipping shellfish into someone's food when that person says their allergic to it. Always the same excuse too. "They're not allergic, they're just being a picky eater".
Early in our marriage (26.5 years asxof last week), my husband and I decided to invite some friends over for dinner. We had just purchased a new hutch for the dining room. So, I set about putting the hutch together, and he went to start cooking. Personally, I find his lack of "handyman" skills amusing, but it doesn't make him less of a man. BTW, I can and do cook quite well, but we don't get hung up on "gender roles".
I work hospital security. Trust me happens way more than you think.
Story1: I'm sure OP realizes this loud and clear, but he should have pressed charges against MiL. She needed to face consequences for her false accusations, and it would have forced his doormat wife in a position of having to choose sides. If she chose mommy, at least he might have wasted less years on her.
In the fourth story, I'm so angry at Op's husband and mother-in-law. If I was in op's shoes I would just divorce him and tell everyone on his side of the family what they are doing to his disabled sister.
Love OPs answer in the door hinge story!
Our son is autistic and we take him wherever we go, we’re not embarrassed or ashamed of him, he’s very verbal and likes to talk to everyone and anyone, we have some family members who don’t like being around him, they live in California we live in Missouri, when we go to California we don’t go see them
smoke allergies suck SO MUCH. my mom smoked every day around me, and several other family members smoked. I have permanent issues with my sinuses. it's so bad that even a wiff of smoke makes my nose hurt, try to close up, and run. glad dad stood up for his kid!
Story 3: And that's on not biting the hand that feeds you. Quite literally in this case, he made her food for her.
Story 4- OP should get a divorce from her husband immediately. He’s shown what kind of person he is. What if any of their children are disabled? He’s going to hide them too.
Sounds like Grandma was being super intitled with her smoking puting her need for a cigarette over the health of her grandchild.
OP’s family had a remarkable lack of squirt guns or seltzer bottles in the house. I’d the kid was old enough, I’d have loaded her up with the best squirt gun I could find and told her that anyone that comes in the house it’s her job to put it the cigarette
I love your content, thanks for the time and effort you put into your videos 💖💖
Story 4- Cindy is a person, NOT a house plant. She has been in a wheelchair since she was 7, she's 19 now....that poor girl, how much has she missed out on? They leave her at home like she's a pet. That's disgusting. Regardless of what happened to put Cindy in the current condition she is in, it seems that her own Mother is ashamed of her. That is NO Mother at all.
Story 3: Why do some people think there are "man" jobs and "woman" jobs? It's stupid.
Last story. I would have refused to marry the guy at that moment. OP is a fool to continue with marriage. Forget red flags this was a whole marching band and color guard of red flags. OP better get out NOW before bringing some poor children into this abusive mess.
She would have needed a doctor when I was done if she did that around me..selfish entitled people make me sick..me me me...all they think about.
I love the voice. It makes the stories very enjoyable.
Good evening Mr Reddito. Thanks for the stories. Have a great day
Last story. WTF is this 1920s hide the disabled kid from the world shit? That story pissed me off so much. I would call CPS.
Story 1 my daughter used to have allergic reactions to her Daddy smoking but he didn't smoke around her just him smoking outside and the smell of it like on his clothes she would start wheezing really bad so he stopped smoking he just stopped because he knew that if he didn't he couldn't be around our daughter and she was a baby at the time and it took us a little while to figure out what it was taking her back and forth to the doctor
Story 4 husband and mil are just awful. I would have really looked at the type of family i was joining. Disgusting
Story 4 I don't think that marriage is going to last long. That poor girl
For Cindy in the wheelchair, I would have called authorities for family neglect, emotional abuse, etc.
Last story: trade Cindy for husband.....you'll probably have a much better life.
I was taken to that room once and before that .
I never know it was there and ask to call some to be with me .
What a nightmare it was .
Having to go into a room and scream stop no more.
Then them say you had to say that .
Time of death !
Real Man Story: My wife's dad was a mechanical engineer and did wood working as a hobby. She grew up being taught how to do basic construction and how to fix things. I am inept at those things. When we had our first kid she made me put the crib together. It would have taken her about 20-30 minutes (I have seen her blow through Ikea furniture in that amount of time.) The crib took me almost 3 hours. She said it was good for me. 😄
She was right. Practice makes perfect.
I bet you felt really good once it was completed! When I successfully put something together by myself, it's so satisfying.
@@dragonfliesnh4204 You are correct. What would be nothing for one can be a victory for another.
@@dmikewilcox That's so awesome! Your children are lucky to have wonderful parents!
@@dragonfliesnh4204 Thank you for the kind words. Bless you.
Last story: my ass would have walked right to the court house and served him divorce papers. How On earth did she stay with him knowing that’s how him and his family treated his own sister. The family didn’t want her around because they didn’t want to be “embarrassed” of having a child with a disability. She’s literally a burden to them in their mind
Turn them in for abuse and make it clear that mother does it
Story 2: one of a few times it’s ok to smack someone
People who smoke often feel entitled to smoke anywhere they go. I, too, am allergic to cigarette smoke. I used to know a woman who was not my friend, especially, but the wife of a friend of my SO. She would come to our house and clap her hands over her nose and mouth while demanding that our cat be removed and locked in the basement, because she was allergic to cats. Then she'd light up and blow smoke in my face all evening, until my eyes were red and teary, both my nostrils swollen shut, and my throat sore and raw. She would grandly claim that I just didn't LIKE smoking, and that once I had "gotten used to it," I wouldn't have any more problems. I finally responded with, "Okay, then. Just let me get the cat, and we'll start curing YOUR allergy right here." She then went into hysterics about how HER allergy was REAL, and mine just wasn't possible, or I couldn't "survive in the world."
I wasn't sorry to finally see the last of that heifer.
in response to story 1...
i'm a heavy smoker and a grandmother too, but i will NEVER smoke in a house where smoking is prohibited by the occupants of said house!
my parents used to be smokers too untill my mother developed lungcancer, they stopped immediatly and smoking was from than on prohibited there. (mom did survive the lungcancer and lived on for another 12 years, the pancreatic cancer she got at that time did her in.)
if i'm visiting my granddaughter in my former son in law's house and i want to smoke, i step outside, just like he does. (son in law smokes too, but never in the house!)
when the weather is foul, we step into the shed with the door wide open to smoke...
Last Story:
As soon as they confessed. I would have taken off the engagement ring thrown it in his face and said...WE'RE DONE and I'm TAKING CINDY.
MIL CANNOT COME IN YOUR HOME WITHOUT ADDRESSING HOMEOWNER
Last story: Get annulment and call disability services in the county because being put in isolation is a form of abuse.
1st story. Know i guy who blasted his FIL in the face with a fireextinguisher after he still smoked in his house after 3 warnings.
Fun times.
S3 NTA tell gf if fixing the door hinge is so easy she can do it since she's the man. Then dump her.
I would have walked out of that Wedding! He showes no respect for his Sister, I doubt he'll respect his wife
Story 1 I'm really glad to know that I'm not the only one allergic to cigarette smoke
Last story: OP should adopt the girl and ditch the husband.
When my mom was in a car accident many years ago, I had to wait a long time in the ER waiting room. There was a security guard checking in each person. He literally had to hit a button for you to go through the door. That is what that doctor needed in that hospital. The security guard wouldn't let me through until he assessed I wouldn't freak out seeing my mother. Turns out he made it sound worse than it was.
Agree with you 😊
Last story I would definitely want the girl tere so she can b apart of a special day
Basically I'm kinda a handy woman. I would be delighted to have a house husband. I don't need a handy man after all. 😃 Actually I've done much more complicated repairs than door hinges. I can do the housework too. I guess what I need is someone that can do both too. 😀
Last story how old is Cindy? If she is an adult there is a possibility that she could move out and call social services to report the in-laws for abuse because they are holding her prisoner at home.
Damn, all these stories have guys with shiny spines.
My youngest daughters husband can’t do household repairs, he couldn’t even put a new door knob on the bathroom door, my middle son in law went over and fixed it
Story 3: I absolutely LOVE what the OP said!! You want a handy man type of man fine, that means you get to be the 1940s wife. You can do all the domestic chores and I will fix hinges. I'm glad you decided to take over all the household chores, because a MAN shouldn't do that! I absolutely love that he fired back to her. Thoughts like that are soo incredibly toxic.
Right on
@@Mr.Reddito thank you for replying! I have never had a creator reply any of my comments! Thank you for reading it!
#2. I'd not marry him. Now that you did, annul this marriage. They're treatment of Cindy should be reported to CPS
Story #4: How old is Cindy? She needs Adult/Child Protective Service. Neglect is abuse. Oh, and runaway from them. Their Narcissistic and insane.
DO NOT MARRY HIM!! if they treat family like this... you don't stand a chance
Disabled daughter. Why did she go through with that wedding. Husband showed his true colours, siding with mummy, then sulking. In laws showed their true colours, cruelly treating their own daughter, lying, arguing with op and expecting husband to side with them against wife. That whole family is one giant red flag. Oh, and ring CPS on them for the way they’re isolating and disregarding their disabled daughter.
Imagine the Audacity & Entitlement to Try & Do Whatever you Want in SOMEONE ELSE’S HOME!!! I QUIT Smoking in order to be able to see & be around my Grandsons!!! It wasn’t just the actual Smoke..it was also the Smell.
My 2 Grandsons are on the Spectrum & never wanted to Hug me because I “was Stinky GeeGee”..lol
I used Vaping to Quit & I still GO OUTSIDE when I’m at my Daughter’s House.
I like how you’re doing your hair atm Mr R
Story #2 Get that marriage annulled ASAP,.report them to CPS for mental abuse and see if you can get custody of her. Those people don't deserve to get near a child, let alone have one.
Just because she is in a wheelchair does not mean she has to stay at home how cruel of the parents to treat her this way
When I was 16 I was shot. The other person was way worse than I was. She was sent by ambulance to the hospital. I was cleaned up and my left arm bandaged, but I would not go by ambulance to the hospital.
Instead I had two friends take me to the hospital.
When we got there the nurse said to me " you will
have to take a seat, we just had a bad shooting and 2 victims here in ambulances". I told the nurse that I won't take a seat because I am one of the victims. She finally took her eyes 👀 off the window and looked at me and me bleeding arm. She took me straight back.
That Dr had every right to be that angry with that women.
Story 3. OP should've said "Fine. Since you feel that way, you can carry your ass out the door and move back with mommy and daddy. I'm done with your ungrateful ass."
When he said no smoking that's what he meant. It's a good thing he put his foot down. MIL could have visited her grandchild at the graveyard. Having been a highly sensitive asthmatic,.....I know.
Last story reminds me of Rosemary Kennedy. The difference is that it was 50-60 years ago. I thought things had changed since then.
I'm happy! The images in the background are from Portugal 🇵🇹 , more specifically from Lisbon and Oporto! Come and visit!
Story 3. OP has a good head on his shoulders. I love my husband, but it took me 10 years of marriage to covince him to stop trying to do every repair himself. One time he got tired of the spray focett sticking, so he broke it off. This made the problem worse as the broken faucet started gushing water. Then there was the time something got stuck in the phone jack. He decided to fix the problem with a hammer. While he was looking for a hammer, I fixed the problem with a hair tie. I used and old hair tie to pinch the offening object close and pulled it out. Growing up my father taught me how to do minor repairs and how to assemble furniture. Women have just as much rights and responsibilities as men.
I don't allow smoking in my house. I've never had a problem with my friends because of this.
Good afternoon Mr Reddito
I'd keep Cindy and lose the husband and mom
Door hinge story: She would get nothing from me ever again. She knows how her family is and their antiquated thought process on masculinity. You know what a man does, he gets shit done. He has the self awareness he can't complete a task because he does not have the aptitude and he outsourced like a smart person. Her comment was completely unsolicited & unnecessary. She displayed pick me behavior in her own family dynamic & now she doesn't like the outcome. She'll get over it or she wont.
Gf would get the boot. She can go live with her misogynistic family.
S2: This is what love about doctors, they give zero fucks about Karen behavior.
My husband of 42 years was a deeply religious and faithful husband. He was very good understanding theology and economics. He was a fantastic nurse.
He knew how to change a tire, but could NOT do any other repairs. In fact if he picked up a hammer, he could injure himself! LOL! We would call repair men to fix things in the house. If our neighbors knew how to do stuff, we'd pay them or do other things for them in exchange. This family did not have to ridicule the young husband, he just had to be taught. Also, not knowing how to fix things DOES NOT mean you are not a man! My husband was the most perfect wonderful MAN on earth. I will ne er marry again because no man alive could e er fill his shoes, and he couldn't repair anything in the house. I loved him greatly still.♥️
The abbreviation “i.e.” stands for id est, which is Latin for “that is.” The abbreviation “e.g.” stands for the Latin phrase exempli gratia, meaning “for example.”
The only thing more entitled then an entitled parent is an entitled addict.
My comment for the last story, the advice I would give the OP would be something my brother told me, the only person's consent is the one that it affects. In other words I would have simply said that I would like if Cindy would come then I would have asked Cindy if she felt she would be comfortable being there for the wedding even if there might me looks and possibly ugly comments directed toward her since she is a teen she should be able to make up her own mind. The reason that the MIL and BF didn't want her there is what I would mention (odd looks and mean comments) using those words to warn Cindy about that way they have few arguments to stand on if she knows the possible consequences. By leaving the option completely up to Cindy it would help her feel included and a bit of empowerment over herself. Just my two cents on the situation.