It's nice to know that it's A Christian mother saying this. My parents are SUPER Christian and it's so scary to say that I'm Bi. I'm only 16 but I really realized that i'm bi when I was about ten. They are always wondering why I want to cut my "beautiful" hair. And why I don't "dress like a girl." I'm super scared to come out, but I have a plan. I think I'm going to tell my friend Kristyn first, just to get it out of my system. And if I'm ready after that, I'll tell my family. Update: They disowned me. I’m living with Kristyn.
@Jane Dough what i meant when i said " that is Christian" is that acceptance,no matter if you like lgbtq+ or not is what Christianity is about, Acceptance. I was taught to never exclude or treat someone bad based on their sexuality,race, skin color or appearance. So i follow by that rule. I just dont see the harm in accepting everyone equally.
Maybe make a Pansexual pun or something (Because puns are the best :’D) or make them pancakes with a note saying you’re pan? Idk- everything is food related with me o o p s
It’s absolutely sucks that we have to even think of what can go wrong, a backup plan, a bag, etc. Like this is ridiculous. You should be able to be who you are, be loved and accepted no matter who/what your sexual orientation is. Smh
@Jane Dough He also believes lies, cursing, murder in your heart, worrying and lust are abominations. Why don't we complain about that? Maybe because as humans we worry, we lie, we have murder in our hearts, and we lust. So I guess we couldn't complain about that even though all sins are equal and everyone is equal. You can't change from being gay. You can change from being bi, pan, poly, ace, etc. You can't change from being straight either. Goodbye now.
@Jane Dough Jesus= God. Jesus was never wrong. Jesus never said homosexuals go to hell. He didn't say anything about gay people, bi, pan, poly, ace people. So what's your point? Also, with having you in quotation marks, would mean I'm not actually a person or just faking being a person. Bye bye, moron.
It is starting to become the norm in the 2000s but some people still don’t understand that times are changing and it’s finally legal for a man to marry a man or a woman to marry a woman
Once I was eating out with my mom and started talking about the lgbtq+ club at my school and my queer friends Then told her I dont know what I am She said "just remember god made Adam and eve not Adam and Adam and not eve and eve" I almost cried I'm bi I was planning on coming out that day But the decide no
I’m catholic, male and female was to reproduce, SO WHAT! We have enough people in the world currently I am bi and don’t care who you are attracted to, yes male and female bodies are meant to be together physically but it is our mind that truly matters
That really sucks. In a way, it was a gift that she told you who *she" was before you told her who *you* were. I really hope that you're doing well and safe!
Me: chilling in bed with my wife My son: moms, I have something to tell you... My wife: what is it honey? My son: I-i-I think I’m straight My wife and I: *gasp*
This was honestly one of the most practical, and realistic coming out videos I've seen yet. I think too many lgbt+ people my age (I'm 19) assume that just because it's 2018, or 2017, or whatever year, that their parents will somehow be okay with it; simply because society has come a long way in the past decade or so. I think this has led to the epidemic of young homeless lgbt people, because they are coming out to the wrong people too early.
I just wanted to comment this for anyone who's in need. You matter. Your feelings matter. You are perfect just the way you are. Don't ever from to oppress your feelings. Walk with pride🌈 If you suffer from PTSD/depression/Anxiety/etc Know that it will get better. Just keep staying strong. I've suffered from all those thing and I try my best to help others. Please try to talk to someone about how you feel♡ Stay safe
my middle school would say this every single day in the morning; "you are important. You matter no matter what, we believe in you,and you belong here. Have a great day [my school name]" it was so nice to hear honestly!
I'm bi and I'm so scared to tell my parents even though me and my friends are bi and they told their family already. And i have 4 gay uncles 2 married in all on my mom's side and their very bonded. But my sister has freinds in high school that are lesbian. And i cant even think about it with out crying.😢😢😓😓😢😢😢😢 I'm crying so hard right now.
Jane Dough oh for fucks sake man why are you on a video that’s about people coming out? all the comments on here are from people who identify as lgbt. i don’t think you’re going to be changing anyone’s sexual orientation by preaching, you’re just causing drama.
I plan on coming out to my parents in 2-3 years later in the future. Thanks for you're advice. I don't know how my parents would react but I'll try my best. Edit: I talked about LGBTQ+ with my parents. My friend is Bisexual, I asked if it was okay being Bisexual. My parents said being any other sexuality besides straight is not okay. So I'm sad, I don't think my parents will except me, so I'll never tell them.
I live in Denmark were the lgbtq community is accepted and my parents have a friend whose trans and a friend whose gay. It can still be scary to think about coming out to them even tho I already have come out to my class. Guess it's just a natural reaction. 🤷🏼♀️
I havent come out to my parents yet but i plan on coming out when we go to Hershey Park. My plan is to yell it when me and my faimly are on a rollercoaster. I know it sounds crazy but i jave things planned out (i think) And that trips in 2 weeks so i have to prepare for the best and the worst
Charlotte Cole: Welp that was the plan. Untill i found out that my dad was making me ride the GreatBear. I ended up screaming the whole time so it dident work. Ill tell him another time though
I came out to my mother before watching this video and I just did it straight to the point and said that I am bi. I was hiding it for quite a long time and she literally said "it's okay, it's not your fault if you feel that way." I literally cried because she said she already knew it before but she just feels offended to ask if I liked girls 😂 To all of those who are yet to come out, I just wanna say that ya'll go for it because they deserve the truth and they deserve to love you for who you truly are 💜😌 and whatever may happen, I am proud of you all for taking the risk and being so brave. Have a nice day my rainbows! 💜
I did hear this... The pope says that when it comes to being gay, “Who am I to judge?” And the pope represents God! So, I think he’ll accept you since he wouldn’t go against God since it’s apart of your religion 😉
My coming out story: this was a few months ago. I had realised I was bi and started to really accept it. The. The next step was coming out. I came out to my friend and I got more nervous about coming out to my parents. I was planning on staying closeted until 14 (I’m 11). But I was doing pride art while my parents weren’t home. I was wearing a headset so I didn’t hear them come in to my office. I thought they saw my art so I ran upstairs crying. When I came down. I told my mum and she went on abt how it was the devil playing with my mind and how it was a phase and all that. Then I talked to my father. He has a brother who is gay so he was more understanding. :)
Ok I absolutely welled up with your closing. I am a 37 year old woman with a mother I love dearly, but if I was every looking for a backup would you be it (even though you are far too young :-) ) Your ability to help be a translator between Christian teachings and culture and acceptance of the LGBTQ+ community just makes my heart happy.
I’m so glad to be hearing this from a Christian mother.. I have been struggling so much ever since I realized my sexuality last year.. I want to come out already, but I know I’m not ready.. I’m trying so hard to wait.
Thank you so much this helped me. I’m about to come out to my homophobic parents. I have really bad depression and anxiety. I once yelled I’m bisexual and I’m proud! At school. Everyone was whispering rude things about me..
I love that there is a mother out there who made a video just to help those that are confused and scared. There need to be more people in the world who accept their children and help children prepare for when they’re ready. You know this is probably the truth, because she’s gone through it twice. Edit: Sorry I don’t make short comments :P
The ending made me sob. My parents don't know much about the LGBTQ community, and when I asked them if they supported it they said they didn't care because it "wasn't like it concerned them". They aren't religious so I don't think they'd care. I know they'd support me if I came out as a lesbian, but I don't think they believe in bisexuality. Idk what to do. They'll probably say that I'm "too young to understand and that "I'm just confused or that I "think I'm being cute and I'm just doing it for attention" like they always do with everything. Every time I think about it I can imagine what I know their reaction will be like: they'll glance at each other with their "lets humor her for now" looks, and pretend to go with it until they think I've "outgrown my bisexual phase". And that's the best outcome I can think of. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if I was kicked out of the house. The only person who knows about this is my sister, and I know she thinks I'm lying. She straight up told me that I'm "overthinking" it even though there's nothing to think about, I KNOW that I'm bisexual. Sorry for the rant, I'll just stop here. I'm lost and I don't have anyone to talk to about all of this.
I'm 25. I tried to come out as a transman to my family 11 years ago. They effectively billed me back into the closet and my parents said they'd never see me as a man until I got all the documents and "surgeries" to prove it. I'm going to try to come out to my mom again tomorrow, now that I'm living at my grandparents and I won't be homeless if it goes wrong. I'm so scared, but I can't do this without my mom anymore. I started crying at the end. I'll update with how it went later. Wish me luck...
This scares the hell out of me!😵 I thought of coming out to my parents when I'm 18 but this scares me so damn much... I think I need time to prepare for the worst... I hope they will accept me for who I am
This lady has a Ted talk about her choosing her daughter over the church they went to at the time I watched it and ITS AMAZING it gave me chills and I was so happy to see a Christoan mom react this way. I know many do but she seems very supportive. Thank you!!
Coming out to your parents that you're LGBTQ is definitely a challenge, yet can be a very important step in your personal development. I wish everyone who comes out the best. As the final message, "you are worthy"
I wasn’t expecting to tear up alike that ending felt really personal. Ive been going by she/her to my friends for a while now and everytime I go back to my family I’m reminded of the lie I’ve been living just to please my parents. They raised me well but I’ve seen them put down the lgbt community sometimes not knowing I’m in it and it scares me the more they do it.
Here are my tips: Find out if your parents are homophobic If they are, make sure that you have a balanced job and income. Prepare youself for chances of getting kicked out. Make sure you're legally old enough to move out. If they are not homophobic, just tell them.
This is beautiful, I've been waiting for months to finally come out to my parents, But they are massive Christians, and they always tell me that "if you were to tell us you were gay, we'd consider disowning you, being gay is a sin" I plan to tell them in June, wish me luck.
If your parents don't accept you or your friends, I'll be here for you. I'll be your pan mom who you can talk about your problems and will support you. Just know that you do have someone that will accept you and love you. I don't have IG or SC, but I have my Pinterest account in my bio if you need to talk or need advice. Good luck luv ❤
I'm one of many who is straight up afraid of coming out, my mom is both a Christian and teacher so those two combined means more risk of being denied when coming out, since my mom believes any lgbt signs are seen right away, she always says I've always been straight. And it isn't even about me liking a certain gender, it's about my gender identity [ Genderfluid to be specific ] and when giving her hints like asking what she would think if I came out as lgbt, her opposing statements are always on the lines of "but it goes against how you've been since you were little" or "but you wanted to marry [insert name here] when you were little" and it makes me afraid of coming out, but I've decided to give little hints like putting the Genderfluid flag as my wallpaper, using certain color schemes, or asking for certain haircuts. The video actually helped me build up confident and I may come out sooner than I thought before If I decide to come out I may edit this comment to describe the response I got from my mom.
After watching this I think I'm finally gonna come out to my mom though im going to wait to come out to my dad since I want to make preperations in case it goes badly
I’m turning 12 this year and next year I plan to come out as lesbian to my parents at my birthday party by giving THEM a little gift 😉 (gift me and my two bffs make which has a card that they open after the rest and inside the bag it will have a lesbian pride flag and in the card it will just say “I hope you accept me” even tho I know they are okay with this stuff, and me and my friends will say it) TLDR: I’m coming out to my parents on my 13th birthday party with my two best friends with a creative gift to them (my parents)
i never thought that i’d be in the position where i’m about to come out to my parents, but here we are. i always assumed that i was straight for 19 years, but i’m bisexual. at the beginning of the year, i was scrolling through tiktok and i saw this really pretty girl. needless to say, i experienced the textbook version of gay panic. after getting over that feeling, i realized that my whole life could change drastically. looking back at the past after realizing this about me, it was kind of obvious.
To all the kids like me watching it before(/to see if) you show your parents: You are special and amazing. Your parents should support you fully lbgtq+ or not. Except for who you are attracted to you are still the same person as you were five seconds before you came out. If it goes badly go spend a week at a supporting friend or family member’s home.
I came out to my mom as trans and she said it's just a phase. She told me she is not taking me to get surgery because it's a ''Sin''. She said if I want to have a woman's body then I am paying for everything because she doesn't want to have people condemn her. She also told me that she wants me to grow up as a ''man'' but I don't identify as a man. I identify as a ''woman''. I desperately wanna be a woman because I hate my body and I feel like I was born in the wrong body.
I understand as well, I’m young and I feel like if I told this to them that they would tell me that I am too young to make decisions like this. It’s hard. I hope my parents will be like this woman.
I'm actually happy I was able to find this💜... As a very young kid I'm really really happy💕 I think I'm going to come out next week or so? Hope it goes well😔
I'm going to tell my dad today, I'm so scared... My mom already knows, and supports me, but I packed my back, I don't hope I need it. But better having a bag, that I don't need, than Don't have a bag, and have needed it. I'm packing my bag rn, so I hope my dad will accept me.🙏
It's nice to here a parent saying this stuff because you get to know that parents are supporting you in all ways and that your not alone. I'm a boy at least I want to be. I have allways felt that makeup dresses long hair girly collors didn't fit me. As a child I allways loved t-shirts baggy jeans short haircuts were what I loved. I was grown around boy cousins I have no siblings so I don't really have anyone to talk to about this in my family but I know being a boy is what I want. I want to were boy clothes hang with the dudes have a flat chest be called a boy he or him anything a boy would do, I'm scared yeah but I know I can do it I can come out. Come out when your ready not when others do and you thing you should . Even if it takes a week a month or even a year do it when the time is right.❤️🏳️🌈💕
Goodness, this is so comforting coming from a Christian mom. My parents are really religious, and I realized I’m pan and genderfluid when I was 11. One time, my mom said she’d break my legs if I was gay, and having a gay brother, I had a panic attack, right then and there. I already had a surgery on one (costed at least 8,000$) and didn’t want to ruin it. So uh, yeah. If you’re a kid wanting to come out to your parents, I really hope your parents accept you. Good luck.
For me (I came out half a years ago) remembering my truth was/is such an important tip because in the beginning everytime my mum would say that I can`t be gay, that I`m just Holding on to my last hope of love and just talk myself into liking Girls she really got to me. I started to doubt the relationship and love I shared with my girlfriend eventhough deep inside I knew/knew that the Feeling I feel for her IS love. You should`t let someone make you feel like they know you and your Feelings better than you do yourself. Even if it is your mum who has known you all your life. ONLY YOU KNOW YOUR TRUTH!
I first saw Susa Cotrell when she gave her TED talk about choosing her child over her church. It's so awesome to know that there are Christians like her who can love their LGBTQ+ children, even if they can't totally reconcile that with the less tolerant verses of the Bible.
I’m in an unsafe environment to even come out cause my parents have that church stuff drilled in their heads, I’ve tried several times but just not confident enough to do it. Thanks to them I can’t fully be my self for who I am, I don’t have many friends cause my mom will automatically assume they are gay or lesbian which isn’t right on her part. And that let’s me know who she really is and I can’t come out cause I may be dis owned if I do. I’m the one on the right in my profile picture holding the belt, the guy next to me is a good friend of mine who supports me.
It's nice to know that it's A Christian mother saying this. My parents are SUPER Christian and it's so scary to say that I'm Bi. I'm only 16 but I really realized that i'm bi when I was about ten. They are always wondering why I want to cut my "beautiful" hair. And why I don't "dress like a girl." I'm super scared to come out, but I have a plan. I think I'm going to tell my friend Kristyn first, just to get it out of my system. And if I'm ready after that, I'll tell my family.
Update: They disowned me. I’m living with Kristyn.
That gamertag though
@Jane Dough that is Christian, my parents are strong Christians yet they go to a church that supports lgbtq+. Heck, im Christian and I'm bi
@Jane Dough im not saying that being gay is Christian, im saying that being straight dosent define if you are Christian or not.
@Jane Dough what i meant when i said " that is Christian" is that acceptance,no matter if you like lgbtq+ or not is what Christianity is about, Acceptance. I was taught to never exclude or treat someone bad based on their sexuality,race, skin color or appearance. So i follow by that rule. I just dont see the harm in accepting everyone equally.
Jane Dough Gods main message is to be good, if by being good you hurt people and tell them they are living sins then you have failed as a christian.
Why am I having trouble coming out as Pan?? I HAVE GAY DADS WTF 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Adrianna jarvis if you have gay dads and you want to come out chances are they will except you
Adrianna jarvis just say “hey dads I know ur gay and stuff right well I’m pansexual please don’t get mad” idk something like that maybe
Maybe make a Pansexual pun or something (Because puns are the best :’D) or make them pancakes with a note saying you’re pan? Idk- everything is food related with me o o p s
Just come home with a lover. Since they’re gay they probably won’t care.
Just come home with a lover. Since they’re gay they probably won’t care.
Damn this scares me
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@@tommarvoloriddle3338 I'm pretty sure my whole family is homobic and my parent too
Sylla Atlas lets keep this at 400 likes
Sydney McQueary same
@Sydney McQueary saaaaaaaaaaaaaame
I’m black, gay and PROUD and I LOVE 💗 💖 💕 my LGBTQ+🏳️🌈 family
@@trevork5547 thank you ☺️ 😊 🙏🏾
k cool but being black doesnt change anything so why even care?
YOU ARE BEING PAID
Go you
@@domincgavito4955 thx 😊 ☺️ 🙏🏾
It’s absolutely sucks that we have to even think of what can go wrong, a backup plan, a bag, etc. Like this is ridiculous. You should be able to be who you are, be loved and accepted no matter who/what your sexual orientation is. Smh
@Jane Dough He also believes lies, cursing, murder in your heart, worrying and lust are abominations. Why don't we complain about that? Maybe because as humans we worry, we lie, we have murder in our hearts, and we lust. So I guess we couldn't complain about that even though all sins are equal and everyone is equal. You can't change from being gay. You can change from being bi, pan, poly, ace, etc. You can't change from being straight either. Goodbye now.
@Jane Dough Jesus= God. Jesus was never wrong. Jesus never said homosexuals go to hell. He didn't say anything about gay people, bi, pan, poly, ace people. So what's your point? Also, with having you in quotation marks, would mean I'm not actually a person or just faking being a person. Bye bye, moron.
@Jane Dough John 3 :16. Oh look, a big kid knows how to research things in a Bible. You're growing up so fast.
@Jane Dough you would fit right in with the Westboro Baptist Church.
@Jane Dough mocking? I'm mocking you? Really? I'm just saying the truth. Like i said, you would fit right in with the Westboro Baptist Church.
I bust into tears at the message at the end.
I was in tears from the start
same
Me too!
Me too
Same omg
It’s sad children have to even take the precautionary measures. I hope I’m the future it’s more of a norm and a whatever moment.
It is starting to become the norm in the 2000s but some people still don’t understand that times are changing and it’s finally legal for a man to marry a man or a woman to marry a woman
how is it sad lmao isn’t it common
Don’t mind me :,D not really in some countries they will strangle you for being part of the LGBT community
arina rashed - (I meant in America, gay marriage became legal in ALL states in 2015)
Well well well How the turntables u did it?
Once I was eating out with my mom and started talking about the lgbtq+ club at my school and my queer friends
Then told her I dont know what I am
She said "just remember god made Adam and eve not Adam and Adam and not eve and eve"
I almost cried
I'm bi
I was planning on coming out that day
But the decide no
I know that this was posted a year ago, but I'm sorry ❤❤
It's Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. Please do not deadname Eve.
I’m catholic, male and female was to reproduce, SO WHAT! We have enough people in the world currently I am bi and don’t care who you are attracted to, yes male and female bodies are meant to be together physically but it is our mind that truly matters
That really sucks. In a way, it was a gift that she told you who *she" was before you told her who *you* were. I really hope that you're doing well and safe!
Adam and Eve is scientifically incorrect. We come from evolution.
Her: Hey kids!
Me a 22 year old: Meeeee
Ahhhhh🤣🤣🤣 21 years old for me.
@@sagegrace oh god i have aged
Guys, I'm gonna tell my mom tomorrow. Wish me luck eep!
Alexander Hamilton how’d it go?
Good! She’s fine with it
Alexander Hamilton I'm really happy for you!
Ayyy
😂😂
I’m coming out on June 1st because its the first day of pride month.
Dylan O’Connell im 11 and i need help
Dylan O’Connell tou should come out on September 23... Its national coming out day lol
@@miawilliams3867 September 11th*
Bloody Stuffing my Bday is in June so MIGHT come out.
@@MBTAMoreRailfan fuck bday is in june too im on the fence of coming out
This video made me cry, I'm gonna come out to my dad tomorrow! Ill finally be able to say that I'm bi!
Molly - C - 123 good luck!
Molly - C - 123 howd it go??
Yeah, how did he respond?
If it goes bad say BI BI SUKAH
The Commenter good luck ;-;
Me: chilling in bed with my wife
My son: moms, I have something to tell you...
My wife: what is it honey?
My son: I-i-I think I’m straight
My wife and I: *gasp*
Why gasp?? Women are pretty and amazing and breathtaking so it's understandable
@@lusiamei8518 best comment there is
@@ezra8177 ikr
This was honestly one of the most practical, and realistic coming out videos I've seen yet. I think too many lgbt+ people my age (I'm 19) assume that just because it's 2018, or 2017, or whatever year, that their parents will somehow be okay with it; simply because society has come a long way in the past decade or so. I think this has led to the epidemic of young homeless lgbt people, because they are coming out to the wrong people too early.
2019 now. But yes, THINGS CHANGE OVER TIME. Something our religious BIBLE does, too.
Lol it’s 2022 now
@@gameshowguy2000 Finally someone recognizes that the bible has changed over time. I hope you mean it in a good way lol.
I just wanted to comment this for anyone who's in need.
You matter.
Your feelings matter.
You are perfect just the way you are.
Don't ever from to oppress your feelings.
Walk with pride🌈
If you suffer from PTSD/depression/Anxiety/etc
Know that it will get better. Just keep staying strong.
I've suffered from all those thing and I try my best to help others.
Please try to talk to someone about how you feel♡
Stay safe
Thank you
my middle school would say this every single day in the morning; "you are important. You matter no matter what, we believe in you,and you belong here. Have a great day [my school name]" it was so nice to hear honestly!
I'm freaking crying this is the most beautiful thing.
Love the pride earrings
I'm bi and I'm so scared to tell my parents even though me and my friends are bi and they told their family already. And i have 4 gay uncles 2 married in all on my mom's side and their very bonded. But my sister has freinds in high school that are lesbian. And i cant even think about it with out crying.😢😢😓😓😢😢😢😢 I'm crying so hard right now.
I'm bi 2, it sounds like you haven't accepted yourself properly.
That just means you need to take more time. Its whenever your ready! It will get better.
I think I'm coming out this weekend pray for me that everything goes right
@Jane Dough And I pray that someone helps you realise how stupid and disgusting you are
Yeah pray for us, we have to deal with idiots like you pushing religion on us.
@Jane Dough I am not at all mocking him, I can't decide who to love it's just who I am.
Jane Dough oh for fucks sake man why are you on a video that’s about people coming out? all the comments on here are from people who identify as lgbt. i don’t think you’re going to be changing anyone’s sexual orientation by preaching, you’re just causing drama.
@@MudkipGirl111 A M E N🙏
I plan on coming out to my parents in 2-3 years later in the future. Thanks for you're advice. I don't know how my parents would react but I'll try my best.
Edit: I talked about LGBTQ+ with my parents. My friend is Bisexual, I asked if it was okay being Bisexual. My parents said being any other sexuality besides straight is not okay.
So I'm sad, I don't think my parents will except me, so I'll never tell them.
THIS WOMAN IS A GIFT AND I LOVE HER
Thank you so much. I’m planning coming out today. 😊 I’m pansexual and I’m ready
💗💛💙 I’m 11 and I’m so glad
How did it go? I'm pansexual as well and planning on telling my parents
Wow I'm bi and planing to come out
Im lesbian but I'm really scared to come out.
I’m also 11 and bi! Hope it went well for you!! I haven’t come out yet so.
Im 12 and bi and im coming out when i move out
I live in Denmark were the lgbtq community is accepted and my parents have a friend whose trans and a friend whose gay. It can still be scary to think about coming out to them even tho I already have come out to my class. Guess it's just a natural reaction. 🤷🏼♀️
ditte manstrup kruse coming out to parents is always tough!
Denmark is cool it’s where they make the Hitman games which are very good games
I havent come out to my parents yet but i plan on coming out when we go to Hershey Park. My plan is to yell it when me and my faimly are on a rollercoaster. I know it sounds crazy but i jave things planned out (i think) And that trips in 2 weeks so i have to prepare for the best and the worst
Miss. Creepypasta how’d it go? Did u do it?!
Charlotte Cole: Welp that was the plan. Untill i found out that my dad was making me ride the GreatBear. I ended up screaming the whole time so it dident work. Ill tell him another time though
I hope it goes well for you!
Ren_ Zero Did you get a new plan? If so how’d it go, I’m scared to come out to my parents
I came out to my mother before watching this video and I just did it straight to the point and said that I am bi. I was hiding it for quite a long time and she literally said "it's okay, it's not your fault if you feel that way." I literally cried because she said she already knew it before but she just feels offended to ask if I liked girls 😂
To all of those who are yet to come out, I just wanna say that ya'll go for it because they deserve the truth and they deserve to love you for who you truly are 💜😌 and whatever may happen, I am proud of you all for taking the risk and being so brave.
Have a nice day my rainbows! 💜
I’m watching this really late at night and now this gave me the idea to come out tomorrow morning
My anxiety is choking me when i want to
I really need advice. My dad is a pastor.
Jacob Mullens sAcRiFiCe HiM tO tHe DeViL
I did hear this...
The pope says that when it comes to being gay, “Who am I to judge?”
And the pope represents God!
So, I think he’ll accept you since he wouldn’t go against God since it’s apart of your religion 😉
Jacob Mullens
My grandpa is a pastor haha..
I came out to parents yesterday and they were accepting! One of the best days of my life.
My coming out story: this was a few months ago. I had realised I was bi and started to really accept it. The. The next step was coming out. I came out to my friend and I got more nervous about coming out to my parents. I was planning on staying closeted until 14 (I’m 11). But I was doing pride art while my parents weren’t home. I was wearing a headset so I didn’t hear them come in to my office. I thought they saw my art so I ran upstairs crying. When I came down. I told my mum and she went on abt how it was the devil playing with my mind and how it was a phase and all that. Then I talked to my father. He has a brother who is gay so he was more understanding. :)
I was forced out but I hope other people like me do it in their own time.
Ok I absolutely welled up with your closing. I am a 37 year old woman with a mother I love dearly, but if I was every looking for a backup would you be it (even though you are far too young :-) ) Your ability to help be a translator between Christian teachings and culture and acceptance of the LGBTQ+ community just makes my heart happy.
I have two moms and I don’t no why it’s so hard but I absolute just *shit my pants* whenever the topic of a girlfriend is brought up. I’m gay btw.
I’m so glad to be hearing this from a Christian mother.. I have been struggling so much ever since I realized my sexuality last year.. I want to come out already, but I know I’m not ready.. I’m trying so hard to wait.
Thank you so much this helped me. I’m about to come out to my homophobic parents. I have really bad depression and anxiety. I once yelled I’m bisexual and I’m proud! At school. Everyone was whispering rude things about me..
When she started saying that I was worthy and deserve to be loved I treated up.
"Hope for the best but prepare for the worst" is good and important advice, but God is it scary to thing about
I love that there is a mother out there who made a video just to help those that are confused and scared. There need to be more people in the world who accept their children and help children prepare for when they’re ready. You know this is probably the truth, because she’s gone through it twice.
Edit: Sorry I don’t make short comments :P
The ending made me sob. My parents don't know much about the LGBTQ community, and when I asked them if they supported it they said they didn't care because it "wasn't like it concerned them". They aren't religious so I don't think they'd care. I know they'd support me if I came out as a lesbian, but I don't think they believe in bisexuality. Idk what to do. They'll probably say that I'm "too young to understand and that "I'm just confused or that I "think I'm being cute and I'm just doing it for attention" like they always do with everything. Every time I think about it I can imagine what I know their reaction will be like: they'll glance at each other with their "lets humor her for now" looks, and pretend to go with it until they think I've "outgrown my bisexual phase". And that's the best outcome I can think of. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if I was kicked out of the house. The only person who knows about this is my sister, and I know she thinks I'm lying. She straight up told me that I'm "overthinking" it even though there's nothing to think about, I KNOW that I'm bisexual. Sorry for the rant, I'll just stop here. I'm lost and I don't have anyone to talk to about all of this.
I'm 25. I tried to come out as a transman to my family 11 years ago. They effectively billed me back into the closet and my parents said they'd never see me as a man until I got all the documents and "surgeries" to prove it. I'm going to try to come out to my mom again tomorrow, now that I'm living at my grandparents and I won't be homeless if it goes wrong. I'm so scared, but I can't do this without my mom anymore. I started crying at the end. I'll update with how it went later. Wish me luck...
It went well! She's accepting now and she's even apologized for the past decade. Hold on to hope loves. ❤
@@DannyCraftWitch Congratulations!❤️
Me: *hears that alot of the time parents stop carring for their children after coming out* . . . . . *cries*
This scares the hell out of me!😵
I thought of coming out to my parents when I'm 18 but this scares me so damn much... I think I need time to prepare for the worst... I hope they will accept me for who I am
This lady has a Ted talk about her choosing her daughter over the church they went to at the time I watched it and ITS AMAZING it gave me chills and I was so happy to see a Christoan mom react this way. I know many do but she seems very supportive. Thank you!!
What if they think I’m too young to know. I really want them to know but, they’re gonna just say I’m to young to know
Imma disown them as my parents before they can disown me as their daughter. Problem solveddd
Queen KittyCat nicely said
Coming out to your parents that you're LGBTQ is definitely a challenge, yet can be a very important step in your personal development. I wish everyone who comes out the best. As the final message, "you are worthy"
I wasn’t expecting to tear up alike that ending felt really personal. Ive been going by she/her to my friends for a while now and everytime I go back to my family I’m reminded of the lie I’ve been living just to please my parents. They raised me well but I’ve seen them put down the lgbt community sometimes not knowing I’m in it and it scares me the more they do it.
My parents are pro lgbt but I'm still nervous to tell them that I'm pan
Here are my tips:
Find out if your parents are homophobic
If they are, make sure that you have a balanced job and income. Prepare youself for chances of getting kicked out.
Make sure you're legally old enough to move out.
If they are not homophobic, just tell them.
This is beautiful, I've been waiting for months to finally come out to my parents, But they are massive Christians, and they always tell me that "if you were to tell us you were gay, we'd consider disowning you, being gay is a sin" I plan to tell them in June, wish me luck.
How did it go when you told them
If your parents don't accept you or your friends, I'll be here for you. I'll be your pan mom who you can talk about your problems and will support you. Just know that you do have someone that will accept you and love you. I don't have IG or SC, but I have my Pinterest account in my bio if you need to talk or need advice. Good luck luv ❤
"how to come out, step 1 pack your bags just in case! :D"
oh now im sad
Guys I’m coming out this week, please wish me luck
Good luck
I need help coming out
Hello, I do too.
You guys have to provide a bit more information though so I can know if and how I can help :)
I just yelled it from the top of the stairs when it was just me and my mom home 😂
same
SXFlyer ok
my parents r divorced man so live w/ my mum
my family is muslim
hope this helps ;)
I'm one of many who is straight up afraid of coming out, my mom is both a Christian and teacher so those two combined means more risk of being denied when coming out, since my mom believes any lgbt signs are seen right away, she always says I've always been straight. And it isn't even about me liking a certain gender, it's about my gender identity [ Genderfluid to be specific ] and when giving her hints like asking what she would think if I came out as lgbt, her opposing statements are always on the lines of "but it goes against how you've been since you were little" or "but you wanted to marry [insert name here] when you were little" and it makes me afraid of coming out, but I've decided to give little hints like putting the Genderfluid flag as my wallpaper, using certain color schemes, or asking for certain haircuts. The video actually helped me build up confident and I may come out sooner than I thought before
If I decide to come out I may edit this comment to describe the response I got from my mom.
i literally started crying when she said "youre worthy" because i know i would never hear that from my own parents if i came out
Mommy?
Not in a weird way I think i just need an actual mother
BABSVAVGAHAHAHAHHA 😭 MOMMY
After watching this I think I'm finally gonna come out to my mom though im going to wait to come out to my dad since I want to make preperations in case it goes badly
I’m turning 12 this year and next year I plan to come out as lesbian to my parents at my birthday party by giving THEM a little gift 😉 (gift me and my two bffs make which has a card that they open after the rest and inside the bag it will have a lesbian pride flag and in the card it will just say “I hope you accept me” even tho I know they are okay with this stuff, and me and my friends will say it)
TLDR: I’m coming out to my parents on my 13th birthday party with my two best friends with a creative gift to them (my parents)
OMG THATS A GREAT WAY OF DOING IT! Im turning 13 next month so maybe I'll try that! Hope it goes well for you!
i never thought that i’d be in the position where i’m about to come out to my parents, but here we are. i always assumed that i was straight for 19 years, but i’m bisexual. at the beginning of the year, i was scrolling through tiktok and i saw this really pretty girl. needless to say, i experienced the textbook version of gay panic. after getting over that feeling, i realized that my whole life could change drastically. looking back at the past after realizing this about me, it was kind of obvious.
Thank you! I’ll wait until my sister is in college, then I’ll have her with me when I come out.
She is charming, I wish my mom is like her
Tysm
To all the kids like me watching it before(/to see if) you show your parents: You are special and amazing. Your parents should support you fully lbgtq+ or not. Except for who you are attracted to you are still the same person as you were five seconds before you came out. If it goes badly go spend a week at a supporting friend or family member’s home.
I came out to my mom as trans and she said it's just a phase. She told me she is not taking me to get surgery because it's a ''Sin''. She said if I want to have a woman's body then I am paying for everything because she doesn't want to have people condemn her. She also told me that she wants me to grow up as a ''man'' but I don't identify as a man. I identify as a ''woman''. I desperately wanna be a woman because I hate my body and I feel like I was born in the wrong body.
Coming out to my parents later I’m scared asf rn I’m practicing in the mirror
SAME
Gonna come out as pan to my parents soon :) I feel kinda nervous but I have so many supportive friends who help me !!
it’s weird how i can come out to thousands of people here, but can’t come out to two people at my own home
But I'm 11 so how can I do it
CreativeStarSisters21 same I’m young to and I’m bi...
Same here.
I think we all need to wait.. and love our family. And ask our parents "Will you love me forever, if anything happens?"
Same :(
I understand as well, I’m young and I feel like if I told this to them that they would tell me that I am too young to make decisions like this. It’s hard. I hope my parents will be like this woman.
I'm 13, and I want to tell my mom but I feel like she'll tell me it's phase or something.
I’m so happy this is a thing! My parents are Christian and this might help me a lot! Hoping for the best bit preparing for the worst
the ending made me cry,, thanks for this video
I have a mom and dad (divorced) I want to tell my Mom tonight, wish me well 😅 (I'm pan)
GalaxyPotato 101 how did it go?
It went really well!! They excepted me for who I am and they love me the same. 😁💚💙🧡💜❤️
I was having a anxiety attack and about not being accepted
My parents were super chill
I'm coming out tomorrow to my parents! This video gave me that last push I needed. Thank you!
How did it go?
thank you so much. helped in my 5 year journey of coming out to my parents, wish me luck. Slay queen 🙏🙏🙏🙏
im coming out to my parents today 🤕. there strict so i dont know how this will go 😕.
How did it go?
I started crying half way through and I just realized how scared I am to come out
My brother cried when he came out because he thought our parents would disown him. Seeing how they hugged him really touched my heart
I just casually implied I was gay until I was asked about it, it worked.
I'm actually happy I was able to find this💜...
As a very young kid I'm really really happy💕
I think I'm going to come out next week or so?
Hope it goes well😔
Who should I come out to first?
Mom?=Will litteraly disown me because she wants me to like boys
Dad?=will probably tell my mom
maybe your dad because you can tell him to not tell your mom cause its something you want to tell her?
idk
@@spyman_rocks and after that I he yk doesn't disown you u can tell him to protect u from ur mom
I'm going to tell my dad today, I'm so scared...
My mom already knows, and supports me, but I packed my back, I don't hope I need it. But better having a bag, that I don't need, than Don't have a bag, and have needed it.
I'm packing my bag rn, so I hope my dad will accept me.🙏
I just did it. I was really scared, but he accepted me.😃
my tip is to come out to your friends first. it helps build up your confidence
It's nice to here a parent saying this stuff because you get to know that parents are supporting you in all ways and that your not alone. I'm a boy at least I want to be. I have allways felt that makeup dresses long hair girly collors didn't fit me. As a child I allways loved t-shirts baggy jeans short haircuts were what I loved. I was grown around boy cousins I have no siblings so I don't really have anyone to talk to about this in my family but I know being a boy is what I want. I want to were boy clothes hang with the dudes have a flat chest be called a boy he or him anything a boy would do, I'm scared yeah but I know I can do it I can come out. Come out when your ready not when others do and you thing you should . Even if it takes a week a month or even a year do it when the time is right.❤️🏳️🌈💕
'Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst' That's what I say. But switch it.
I'm indian n I still can't :)
Goodness, this is so comforting coming from a Christian mom. My parents are really religious, and I realized I’m pan and genderfluid when I was 11. One time, my mom said she’d break my legs if I was gay, and having a gay brother, I had a panic attack, right then and there. I already had a surgery on one (costed at least 8,000$) and didn’t want to ruin it. So uh, yeah. If you’re a kid wanting to come out to your parents, I really hope your parents accept you. Good luck.
Fun fact
This lady has a ted talk it’s real great
If you haven’t seen it yet I strongely suggest ya do it’s great
damm this is scary. my gran smells i don't want to live with her
This video makes me feel so proud to be a furry 💗🐶🌈
this gave me the strength i needed to come out tomorrow to my parents. wish me luck yall!
For me (I came out half a years ago) remembering my truth was/is such an important tip because in the beginning everytime my mum would say that I can`t be gay, that I`m just Holding on to my last hope of love and just talk myself into liking Girls she really got to me. I started to doubt the relationship and love I shared with my girlfriend eventhough deep inside I knew/knew that the Feeling I feel for her IS love. You should`t let someone make you feel like they know you and your Feelings better than you do yourself. Even if it is your mum who has known you all your life. ONLY YOU KNOW YOUR TRUTH!
I’m coming out to my parents tonight wish me luck
i didn't even think of the fact my parents would think of disowning me- that made this 10000% harder oml. but i'll try these and see if they work :D
I first saw Susa Cotrell when she gave her TED talk about choosing her child over her church. It's so awesome to know that there are Christians like her who can love their LGBTQ+ children, even if they can't totally reconcile that with the less tolerant verses of the Bible.
I’m in an unsafe environment to even come out cause my parents have that church stuff drilled in their heads, I’ve tried several times but just not confident enough to do it. Thanks to them I can’t fully be my self for who I am, I don’t have many friends cause my mom will automatically assume they are gay or lesbian which isn’t right on her part. And that let’s me know who she really is and I can’t come out cause I may be dis owned if I do. I’m the one on the right in my profile picture holding the belt, the guy next to me is a good friend of mine who supports me.
Is it weird that I got a little choked up by her message at the end?
She is soooo sweet! This video helped so much! Thank you so much!