Are Women Happier as Stay-At-Home Housewives? | Japan Street Interviews
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Jack, This channel is very informative but in a fun way. I look forward to your next video and Thank you for helping me learn Japanese. Sugoi!!!
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if both parents work, you need a place to put your children. i dont know how expensive that is but in switzerland its very expensive. and in the end your children get raised by strangers until you get home, tired from work.
Mariage is like a workshop,man works woman shop 😊
The answer to this will always depend on whether you're asking pre or post epiphany phase. Post epiphany phase will say things like, "I'm just sooo tired. I'm ready to settle down. I'm tired of being strong and independent all the time, I want someone to take care of me."
Personally, I think women should work 60+ hrs/week while the man stays home and chills out with the kids. Kids deserve to have their parents around, so somebody has to sacrifice to make it happen.
You know, in many countries a normal working week is 40 hours per week. And usually both men and women work, as well as share the responsibilities at home and both take care of their children.
@MayaTheDecemberGirl that's why birthrate have dropped like a lead balloon. But hey, who cares? As long as ppl are free and do whatever they want with no accountability, it doesn't matter
@@ruleoftwo6174 It's not the reason. It's obvious, because in many countries also in earlier decades (after the WW II), when there was much more children being born, there were even periods of so-called demographic boom - women were actually working, for instance as teachers, doctors, accountants, and in many other proffessions. And there was much more children than today. So the reason is not if parents work or not.
Human obsession with "stuff" has polluted so many beautiful things. It also made the control freaks powerful.
I love that your interviewees supported you like that. Fantastic subject. Feels a bit surreal to hear some of the responses, particularly if they would be ok being stay at home moms assuming their husband is rich. I think a lot of the female responses weren’t 100% genuine there. Very interested to understand it firsthand.
Lol no those are pretty genuine. Most of them actually go back to work after birth since they dont wanna be stay at home moms anymore
In Japan, where birth rates are low and the economy's struggling, here's an idea: Let women work only part-time and handle most of the household stuff. They help pay the bills and take care of the kids. Also, reducing men's overtime hours to prioritize family time and child-rearing would foster a more balanced and supportive family dynamic. Win-win.
No it doesn't work. Just ban free love and legalize only arranged marriages. The more freedom you give people, the more people won't marry and live selfishly. The declining birth rate is not only a problem in Japan, but in the entire western world. The reason why the birth rate is declining in all Western countries is because these countries have freedom. The higher birth rates in Africa, the Middle East, and other 3rd world countries that have no human rights prove it all. i mean I am not saying that freedom is bad I'm just saying that this is the only way to increase the birth rate.
@@asdfghjjhgf Go back into your cave, you ultra-conservative nutjob.
@@asdfghjjhgf This is the most ridiculous thing I've read in a long time.
@@strife2746Yes. Such ideas (I mean not of Yours, but like in the comment above, of this other person) also were during the WW II - like the German Nazists had special centers to produce children for the state, called Lebensborn. So instead of being humans, with human rights, treat women, so half of the humanity, similar to just reproductive cows, with no rights. Wise idea.
@@strife2746but it's true, Korea spent 270bn on incentives and their birth is at a all time low. Freedoms don't lead to better choices.
I would say women the world over would be best looking after their own young children from 0-6 years of age at least give or take. The attachment of the child, developing good habits and routines and unconditional love and attention from the primary care-giver who should become a skilled mother and nurturer are invaluable to children's positive development.
Naturally after these early years women/mothers should look to find work if they wish to combine family life and work life or continue to be a home-maker and care-giver if their husbands' salary is sufficient to live off and they both agree.
I'd say the importance of looking after complex young developing human children is severely undervalued in economic models of modern society.
Traditionally women in Japan have been highly educated, start a career but around the time of marriage/pregnancy switch roles. It's not a bad system at all compared to other cultures though perhaps finding part-time or full-time work if they want after those above toddler and young child years is a good addition to the standard. Albeit modern economic conditions means 2-incomes are needed in a household to be able to pay living costs and grind away making a living... which seems a deep flaw of an over-emphasis of the economic principle operating in human lives.
In general the answers fail to make the above distinctions before considering an overt Work OR Stay-At-Home answer ie the dynamic changes over time from essential near the beginning to extremely important for toddlers to significant for young children to positive or stabilizing to older children. Equally the reality of economic conditions works against division of roles with the natural mother prioritizing the childcare and development and family or home environment.
Naturally as the children age, different input and required parenting presence will change. For example children's school and peer-groups/friends and the wider community and culture become more prevalent influences on their lives as well. Thus the maturnal influence is lowered over time. One of the respondents, the man on the right points out that women after the critical early years can then time-share when the children spend more time at school they can find such work to be productive of diversity their time-tables and that was a very constructive observation.
18:03 Damn them boys was really thinking long, and hard about that fairytale!!!
I have watched many Japanese movies and the housewives have lots of fun meeting and interacting during the day with like the plumber or the electrician or even the delivery man, so it looks more fun for them rather then working at some dead end job with a bunch of smelly guys.
Your sarcasm is hilarious! 😅
You should've mentioned part time work. working as a fulltime employee and working 4 hrs a day 3x a week is totally different.
Past experience in working in largely female environments in the West there are generally three categories of women in the workforce 1/ The one whose sole goal is to get married and have kids as quick as possible, 2/ Those that will give the career path a go but if they haven't gotten anywhere by the time they hit their late 20's or early 30's then they'll be looking to join the first group as quick as possible. 3/ The smallest of the three categories these women are in it for the long haul, climbing the corporate ladder is everything - Wondering if those young women were interviewed in five years what their answers would be.
In many countries it's not like this that it's a choice - family or job. Because women go on some paid leaves, like maternity leave and later there's another one (called parental leave), when a child is very little. But later almost all of them come back to work. And it's normal. In my country almost all women work, up till the age of 60 (it's obligatory to get a retirement pension) or even longer.
@@MayaTheDecemberGirl
Are they happy
@@missplainjane3905 Yeah, they are. We have a different working habits than for instance in Japan. So people come back home usually after 8 hours of work. There are weekends, so it's the time for the family. And vacations, etc. Normally, according to the labor code, if some works more than 10 years, he has at least 26 days of paid leave annualy (in some proffessions it's even more). Even less than 10 years - it's 20 days. So there are solutions to support work-life balance.
@@MayaTheDecemberGirl
Btw, who is taking care of the children while both parents are working ?
@@missplainjane3905 Usually, they go to kindergarten. In the afternoon parents pick them up. And kindergartens are not bad, children can play with others kids, so learn how to socialize with the others, and they also start to learn there a bit. Sometimes, when grandparents live close, they also help. It's normal.
Wow not one traditional woman that puts family first, company before family or country. Hello kitty 😉
You can bet when they are in their 40s they'll do a full 180 and go full traditional looking for a simp to settle down with and pay their bills. Problem is no man with a drop of dignity would take care of a woman who gave her best years to other men (which is what these career women are actually doing).
lmao what do you expect? I hate seeing people thinking just because countries had these types of standards/people that they would automatically all be like that
Those two men in suits were perfect HR representative candidates.
I wonder what the interviewees think of his Japanese speaking skills? They don't seemed shocked, but are actually super engaged. I guess that means it's at native level yes?
I think it also depends on the earning bracket of the husband alone. If he's making an above average income and the family lifestyle is compatible with that, that could change a lot of women's views on this topic
Well theres one of your answer for the declining birth rate.
Tell them of a self-report survey of STAHM being happier and they still blame men lol
Context is important here because Japan is one of few countries in the world that regard being a housewife/raising children as a Profession (with a capital "P"). That makes a housewife (skill and status wise) higher up than a fast-food worker, retail store person, or a gig driver. It's an interesting dynamic.
how does that even work? do they get paid by the goverment for it?
I thought Japanese women were kind of weak and agreeable, but after watching a few of your videos where you ask relevant questions I've changed my mind.
They look like normal women to me.
Not as feminist or crazy as in some western countries, but things are changing in Japan.
I thought all women would want kids and sacrifice their careers, but now I think many of them probably gave up on having kids in favor of career.
1:17 is that light yagami?
Great topic, interesting views.
Child rearing is very difficult and time consuming. Japan has a great child care system (despite all the critics).
Funny fact: Women do not want to work for another woman because they cannot use their "pretty power" or "helpless/weak female" . The "power harassment" from a female boss will be exponentially higher.
Next Interview topic: Ask women if they prefer a male or female boss.
Wow, what a stereotype.
@@MayaTheDecemberGirl
Stereotypes exist for a reason.
Watch the latest video uploaded today about Power Harassment and clearly a few young ladies commented on their awful female boss.
@@mztokyo7630 Yeah, I've watched this other video already yesterday. And stereotypes are just prejudices, that can be often harmful. Well, You are not a woman and You don't experienced how the relations between women in such cases may look like, and what may be the reasons of that. I don't agree with Your statement that women don't like to have a female boss, because they "cannot use their pretty power" or act as a "helpless/weak female". It's obvious that there's not such a reason. In my life I had female as well as male bosses. And for sure, people are different, there are good and bad people, regardless of their gender. And in my work no male boss ever treated a female employee better or worse because of some "pretty power" or pretending to be "helpless/weak", as You call it. It's rather the opposite. If someone, a man or a woman, behaves as being "helpless or weak", such person would just not be considered a good, reliable employee, whether it's a man or a woman (in fact, I've met some male colleagues that sometimes behaved like this, pretending helpless, so that they will get easier tasks). And also pretty - it's maybe in cases of some secretaries, but in most of the responsible proffessions it doesn't play any role. And in my country women work in many responsible proffessions, not just as some kind of secretaries, and are treated in the same way, with regard to obligations and tasks, as men. In my current job, they even nowadays get more often than men tasks that require reliable, serious, professional work. And all the employees equally, a man or a woman, have to complete all the given tasks within a certain deadline - so there's no place for any "pretty", or things like that, for sure. Something like this maybe happens in societies that don't really treat women equally with regard to access to proffessions and job posts. And regarding a female boss, it may happen that women sometimes don't like having a female boss. The reason is that women, in such relations, can be sometimes mean and unpleasant towards other women (being a subordinate). Also the relations in a group of women, between them, can unfortunately sometimes (only sometimes, not always) look like that, women can be for instance more jealous or mean towards each other (with regard to promotions, position at work etc.), they can also be more competitive than men between themselves, they tend to compare themselves more to the others etc. But as said in the beginning, there's no rule and everything depends on people, how they behave and also what behaviours towards employees are generally accepted in a society.
@@MayaTheDecemberGirl I appreciate your detail and am happy you have not faced the "mean female boss" in your lifetime.
I always say, the exception does not make the rule. I hope that you continue to prosper and grow in your company and are treated well.
I appreciate your honesty about women's competitive and jealous nature.
Men are generally magnanimous, and truly want our colleagues to succeed regardless of the level of competition and outcome. We thrive on competition. Most of us are not sore losers when things don't work out. Most of us try not to blame the outcome on someone else, but reflect on how we can win next time. best of luck to you!
@@mztokyo7630 Actually, You've just replaced one stereotype with some other stereotypes, about so-called the "nature of genders", so of men and women in general. Which is completely in opposition to what I wrote earlier, where it was emphasized that it's about individual cases that may happen sometimes, because there are people, regardless of gender, who are bad and who are good towards employees. And You ended up in conclusion similar to saying that these are women who generally have bad features, are mean and jealous, while men are like "magnanimous" angels, with great virtues, bringing only good, peace and harmony to their work environment (which sounds like a joke, from another planet actually). And as about real world and real life experiences, I actually know at least few cases when men, in their jobs, where plotting really ugly intrigues against other men as well. I know examples when male colleagues knowing each other for long years, pretending to be friends, knowing their families and visiting each other at homes often, betrayed one of them, having a higher post, in an ugly way to take his place at work. I also know male colleagues that love to gossip, much more than women, who envy the others a lot etc. So people are just people, and may have different flaws and weaknesses, regardless of gender. And such problems in work relations as abuse, mistreatment, harrassment, including sexual, aggresion etc., concern in vast majority of cases men, as number of real cases in labor or other courts show. And such violent behaviours are of course much worse than saying mean things to each other, like some women sometimes may do. I can add that in my world women are often equally, or even more (which can be an advantage actually), competitive than men at work. They are also much better in multi-tasking, so they can concentrate well on more than just one thing at one time. Apart from professional work, they also have families and children, and it's normal in my society. There are always a lot of women in politics, including the government. Women very often work at the universities, being academic professors, in all the disciplines (I know personally more women being acknowledged professors in science, even in my family). So it's really not good to use such general labels towards the others, not to generalize, not to use stereotypes - with regard to anyone, the opposite gender, or other race, or other nationality etc. Because such general labels often lead to nothing more than unnecessary hateful prejudices between human beings. And just not to categorize people like that, because, as said above, there are just different individuals among human beings, in every gender (by the way, by gender I mean only man and woman), race, country wtc. But important is also what kind of behaviours towards employees are generally accepted (or silently accepted, by pretending not to see them) and which are condemned in a given society. Anyway, best wishes to You.
10:50 The thing is, what are the statistics of happy men? what are the statistics of sui**des due to too much work? who commits sui**de more men or women? what are the statistics of people who enjoy their vacations more? men or women? Japanese women put too much pressure on Japanese men to the point of squeezing them and taking from them all the energy and youth they have and that is very unfair.
Learn to harden the fk up ! 😂
Apparently japanese women are "popular" and japanese men are "unpopular". Women think men should just be grateful or else they could marry westerners.🙄
It will be interesting to see how Japan will deal with this. They are still in a phase where the majority of young women wants to pursue a career at the same time as having a family and a partner that has a higher income than her, on top of being the ones doing the majority of the household work. I personally think that unless they figure it out by time or by getting older, it's going to be a very difficult change in culture in the years to come. Women will be completely burnt out and an even steeper reduction in population will happen.
I think they just need to swallow their pride and look at countries like here in the Nordics, where household work and income usually is split 50/50, if one part earns a lot more than the other they might consider the one with less income to stay home with the children (even if it's the man).
働いている女性の方が若くてきれいなのはある。
Bushido wasn't strong enough to repel feminism.
Yeah, this decease keeps spreading.
But I think that more than feminism, this kind of thinking was bound to happen as society evolves.
The more confortable it is to live alone and work, the less women will want to have to bear the burden placed on them by our biology.
@@rafae5902 so true...the industrial revolution and its consequences
I bet when this cultural shift happened in Japan we could see a population decline following the years after. If Japan wants to fix the problem, Japan has to shift their priorities.
The government only cares about taxes. They want as many people as possible working. It's hilarious those women think they'll get to the high positions they want. Most won't and they'll shift when they are in their 40s, but that's too late. No man with any self respect wants to pick up the tab of someone who has given her best years to other men (and her company) rather than her own husband.
Kind of delusional, after 35 they are going to have problems having children and they will probably postpone marriage due to higher standards and a man doesn't want to get home and find an exhausted wife that just wants just to sleep and probably are going to end up alone without a husband or kids or they will get pregnant from a stranger and end up raising a depressed kid with no male role model.
Being a housewife is a very important job even though is not considered a job but allows a women to organize her time take breaks and rest, an office job doesn't allow that, and in Japan culturally most women handle all of their husbands salary. There is the main reason for the low birthrate
ik pitch is hard but can u at least stop saying ”なるほ＼ど”……”なるほど￣”ね？
You understood what he said...pitch is not as important as context
Something to keep in mind is Japan does not have alimony. House wives are at risk of having no income in the case of a divorce or potentially being stuck with a bad husband. Though it is possible to collect a husband's pension if he's retired. Hence the high divorce rates among seniors.
Yes, but the woman is usually favored by the law. If divorced they have the right to keep the kids from the man and not allow him to meet them, and can take away the man's property
"possible to collect a husband's pension" that sounds like alimony to me. And besides, if you go to Japan you don't see a single homeless female. The government takes care of women in the worst case scenario (but doesn't give a damn about men).
@@ElVerdaderoAbejorro well if you don't have a pension then you don't pay anything. It's not exactly the same but divorce among seniors is higher because of it.
As a SAHM/housewife. I would much rather work 😅 maybe when they all finally go to school. It’s really lonely and you get tired of cleaning up after everyone else because they take advantage of you no matter how much you teach them to clean up after themselves. 😩
yeah how awful. why won't these little kids clean while I watch youtube videos about Japan all day!
@@bushy9780 you’re kind of a douche huh…
Obviously you don’t have kids. Tiny humans rarely make messes.
Okay but work like at a café 20 hours a week to get out of the house or work 80 hour/ week in an office or in a powerplant to keep all the bills paid and the kids fed? Theres "work" and theres work. The former isn't gonna keep your household running.
You are right. And in many countries it's normal that after a certain period when a woman stays at home with a very little child (in my country it's usually after the paid maternity leave - which lasts 20 weeks and parental leave - which lasts up to another 32 weeks; there's also unpaid leave up to 36 months if someone wants) - she just comes back to work. And later both of the parents work and take care of their children. And above mentioned parental leave (that can be taken until a child is 6 years old), it's 32 weeks for a mother and there's also 9 additional weeks for a father. And also later, apart from this maternity and parental leaves, there are days of leave (paid in 80%) to take care of a child if he/she is sick (both of parents can take it). So there's a whole system to enable women to come back to work, after having a child.
@@darkdrake13 yeah, sadly that 20 hours a week type of job doesn’t usually pay enough to cover the 20 hours of daycare unless in a country with free daycare.
But it is possible in Japan, because daycare is currently free to most people with a kid. I know a lady in Shizuoka who doesn’t even work and she uses the free daycare to… get errands done or something?
These interviewee girls just need to admit that they just really don’t want to get married or have kids.
Its incredible to me how the men (and most of the women) simply assume that "housework" and "taking care of children" automatically falls under the responsibility of the woman.
I understand you need someone at home when you have a child - but what if the woman has the capacity to work as a high paying executive while the man can only work a blue collar job? Wouldn't it be better for the family as a whole if the woman goes out to earn and the man stays home to take care of the household?
It's no wonder Japan's birth rate is in a steep decline.
There is a reason women have breasts and men don't. Modern women act like taking care of her own child is a burden rather than a gift. I'd happily stay home, cook and look after the kids if she pays all my bills and I don't have to worry about making money. But ask those "career" women if they would accept such a dynamic and I guarantee they wouldn't either. They just think about themselves at all times and even their own kids aren't a priority to them anymore.
not really.
The only person that assumes that nowadays is the government, in order to justify ever more privileges for females. Governments assume women as helpless oppressed housewives victims.
The woman will never respect the man
I believe women should be stay at home wives as long as they have children, without then sure work, but once children come into the picture, home it is. I honestly feel this whole thing is missing the actual problem. Is that being a stay at home mother isn't valued. At least not in the west, of course women are going to want to work if their only option is to be a domestic slave unappreciated and forgotten. We need to appreciate housewives the same as we do work.
In many countries women, when they have a child, they go on a paid leave (maternity leave, later there's also so-called parental leave, and if they want there's also some period of unpaid leave they can have) - but later they usually come back to their work. And most of the women have to work (at least up to the age of 60) to get a retirement pension. If not working at all, women cannot feel secure. Because if they are dependent only on their husband's income, and if sth bad happens like illness of their husband, death, accident and disability, divorce, or cases of violence, abuse etc. - they will just stay with nothing, no ways to live further, with no job, no work experience, no money of their own etc.
"domestic slave" your perception of what is to be a mom is the problem. Modern women see kids as a burden rather than a gift and act like you, thinking they should be rewarded for giving birth, which is ludicrous (even though that's exactly what Western governments try to do). Go on and be a career oriented woman without kids then. Just don't blame anyone else on YOUR decision later on when you regret it.
@@ElVerdaderoAbejorro In my country (within the EU) most of the woman have children as well as they do work (after paid leaves, they come back to work). And a child should be actually seen as a gift by two parents equally. A child has two parents, so both of them should be a part of a child life, participate in raising up their child, spending time with them. Definitely not only mother, but father as well. And both parents also usually have to work, to earn money for the living as well as to be able to get retirement pension later. And it works well like this since many decades. Both man and woman share responsibilities, both take care of a child, both work. So it's not like You write.