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she is sharing to help everyone, plz do not judge or criticize this young girl . We all have mistakes, everyone can fall under this trap even in your own country. I thank God she came back home safe.
There aren't really mistakes there. Everyone that gets into a relationship or marriage gets into it with the hope of it working out and for the rest of their lives but sadly for some like her, things unfortunately don't work out. It would really have happened to anyone. Life is unpredictable. Those that are judging are just doing so to make themselves feel good about their own issues in their own lives. I pray this young woman gets to rebuild her life and that of her son. God is not yet done with her story
@jayjacobs8486 even people in kzn or eastern cape and the likes find themselves in similar if not worse situations. These things can happen to anyone regardless of geographical location.
Thank you for trusting us with your story. 🤍 I’m so sorry that you have to deal with judgemental people in the comments. People always have a lot to say until things happen to them or their loved ones. I wish you all the best and I hope your son grows to be a humble, kind and loving boy.🥰
Marring a foreigner and moving abroad is such a huge risk if you don’t have a well paying job, don’t know the local and don’t have a good support system…especially when there’s kids involved. They have the advantage because it’s their home ground … I’m grateful that she’s home safe❤
I feel for you girl. Thank God you arrived home safely. I am a student abroad, currently doing my final year. All i can say is, life abroad isn't as glamorous as it seems. As soon as i complete I am going straight back home. Life abroad will humble you. Trust me, I have learnt to love and appreciate my own country the hard way. 😢
I understand you, I am living in Germany and I am also going back home. I am tired of Europe. I have travelled cheap around Europe though, u have seen it all
At least you were warned by his friends, and you still went several times! Girl, never think you can change anyone on this Earth. It has to come from within. Glad you are back home.
I am writing this in another country as a South African just know that there is no country that will favor a foreigner over their own people. I am glad you back home safely I saw your story on TikTok.
@@Careless-sv1md South Africans do travel a lot as they apply for jobs in those countries,get them,get visas and move wherever their jobs take them.They dont just go to these countries unannounced and find themselves doing as they please as if they are entitled to what ever privilege that is meant for that particular country's citizens.South Africans are well behaved,they abide by the rules of different countries they travel to and they hardly find themselves on the wrong side of other country's laws.They don't demand what doesn't belong to them,they don't invade other people's spaces.
@@Careless-sv1md South Africans don't travel the way amakwerekwere do but they travel legally.They apply for jobs as well as visas and they behave themselves very well in foreign countries that's why they become pissed off by people who will flock here illegally and act very much entitled.
I am a South African living overseas. I have noticed a growing number of South African ladies coming here on love missions. Non South Africans see us differently and treat us differently. Because we tend to be calmer, we are expected to maintain that demeanor even within abuse. Also noone wants to hear you've been in an abusive situation incase you qualify for assistance and are able to live like a human being. The only advice I can give you is investigate the countrie's legal system before you get there.
@@SONIA-q5i The reason people travel is to open their minds and learn new stuff. This young lady was just unlucky. This should never stop her from exploring the world. Try it...
I know what its like to be in a foreign country and feeling like your rights are being violated. I was recently in the US and had the worst treatment ever. When I touched down at OR Tambo I thanked God 😢
The problem of most South African ladies believe that foreigner men are better than South African men, but they don't know how they are or behaving in there own country.
One thing I've realized is that there's no ubuntu and democracy to black people in foreign lands outside of Africa. Seen it with English teachers in China and now this. Their laws are definitely different from ours and they hardly protect foreign nationals. Im so sorry you had to go through this ❤
@@SibsM93You are right, but look at our own country too. No one gets justice unless they know someone or have plenty of money to pursue their cases. This world is f*ck up.
I think it's the same all over,women are being killed at the hands of their husband's in SA and nothing happens unless your case goes viral,women are seen and not heard everywhere,I think it's a matter of luck
SA is worse than abroad, I stay in Switzerland since 2005 with my daughter and she was 2 yrs when we gets here and now she’s 21 married with a Swiss men I am married with a German men so we never had any problems since we came and now we are citizen and life is really kind to us. We were never being abused or discriminated because we are South Africans or black but o can’t say much it’s not everywhere the same I guess but Swiss and German is almost the same. I can’t complain.
@@itzzmimi8357you lucky or blessed which one you choose. I live Greece for the past 7 years and watch how mean spirited the people are being, church set is none the better, here it's fueled by the increase of refugees as they say. Diversity is beautiful if only people would give it a chance
For anyone here considering an international relationship here are some tips: 1. One red flag? Don’t even consider moving abroad. 2. Got married? Wait *at least* one year to have a child. This is incredibly important!!! 2. Have your own money - ALWAYS. 3. Get a local bank account. NEVER have a joint/shared account. 4. Have a back up plan: plan B, and plan C. 5. Know the local laws and your rights before even leaving your home country: immigration, work, real estate/rental. 6. Connect with other immigrants from your home country as soon as possible. 7. If things get bad when you’re in the new country, enact plan B.
To everyone speaking ill, you clearly leave perfect lives here at home i guess. This lady suffered exactly what what many ladies go through here in our home grounds and just because she was in Europe you feel entitled to speak ill. For your information Europeans ladies endures exactly what the poor lady went throw. It is a norm just as it is in SA but they do not tell. As long as you have never been in her shoes, think twice before you pass judgement.
Red flags are always there about these abusive men . Mara women don't put themselves first .. they want Marriage at all cost.. glamorous lifestyle at all cost... Women don't learn. If someone says or does something even remotely abusive leave right then and then ..don't wait and say we are jealous and then when shit hit the fans you expect people to feel sorry ... Leave abusive men ..don't don't become abusive out of the blue ...the red flags are ALWAYS there ..mara le in love akere and Rena we are jealous and single.
I used to judge people with depression until 2021,nganya nyi nyi istress for 6months. Jus b4 i commit suicide,i fell into deep sleep and i dream of Jesus.He looked at me and waved goodbye ,smiled and walked away.Since that day i never had suicidal thoughts and i never judge any1😮
I cant stress enough how we as BLACK WOMAN are on our own. We are constantly abused , mistreated and all the bad things happening to us. I have seen a number of people specifically BW and this is so painful because now its like we are nothing in the eyes of anyone who isnt a BW. This lady didnt deserve what happened to her and my heart pours out to her. I hope she heals. Askies Mtase.
@@khathutshelo051 people should take responsibility of their lives and accept consequences of their choices. This lack of accountability and wanting to be victims at all times is equally toxic!
Enduring so much pain, traumatic experience Bassie, you're a strong young lady. Glad you and your son are all well now. May God continue to strengthen you❤
The fact that there are women here judging this lady that harshly is so sad. At least some people's lives are so perfect. I hope it stays that way. Bassie you will be okay. Just stay at home and you and Christian will be safe.
She would have had her life perfect if she stayed home , she volunteered a couple of times for this abuse . Women need to learn to love themselves ,accept your struggle and deal with them accordingly and not jump ship. If you don't like learn from people who says "NO" how else are you going to learn , be a victim , coz you want what you want Akere. She decided to be a victim ,she laid her bed and she must lye in it
I remember wanting to work in ﹰEuro so much and the doord wouldn't open. Later I went for the vacation yhooooo🤦♀️😭🙆♂️ on the flight back home I decided that vacations ONLY are enough for me. Yhoooo devils those ppl their faces in the streets,restaurants and at the stores and beaches...my friend would say straight to their faces " Bekezelani bakwethu we are only here for few weeks futhi angazi yhini because we are eat our money nobusha bethu" bese atwerke😂😂😂😂
My husband went to Romania with work for about two weeks and just three days I'm.he already wanted to come back home. Those people are not nice people at all. They are overly racist and intentionally racist towards us black people
The day SA women stop acting like dating and moving overseas with umlungu is a flex and achievement is the day that things will change. The same thing happened to my friend who was abused by her husband in a European country. He even locked her outside,whole night in this extremely cold country. When will we ever learn???
I agree... Even the way a khuluma ngakhona, you can hear ukuthi that the whole situation brought her a lot of pride. Even if Croatia is a whole 3rd world country
Thank you Bassie for sharing your story as a means to educate others Uyimbokodo gal You are a very strong woman You have gone through a lot, and you are still standing From hear you can only go higher and may all you wish as an outcome come through fie you and your family Your child that you had continuously fought for is indeed very lucky Strength gal
Basetsane thank you for sharing your story,many people will watch and atleast be aware and hopefully not find themselves in a similar situation. Not everyone will understand,some will judge. Im in Eastern Europe for 6 years and have experience horrors too. When im safe I'll too share my story for awareness
We thank God that you finally came back home alive. Please don't go there again. Allow yourself to heal gradually. The best in life is all I wish for you Base'
I really want to encourage people. Leave and dont go back once abuse starts. Am sorry Basi that even the embassy did not help you. Europe is not easy. I am in Budapest right now i stay in my lane and cant wait to go home
I always ask myself how someone can stay when there’s so many red flags. Like I feel sorry for her situation but it seems like she also played with help when it was being offered to her on many occasions and that is WILD.
True, I don't know if I'm overreacting but I also noticed she's fidgeting in the video which shows the abuse and her overall experience really traumatized her 🥺🥺. I wish her healing and recovery. Since her father is now sort of in her life, she can let her bio dad be a father figure to her son, if possible. ❤❤
I sincerely hope that you are healing. If possible it’s important to find a trauma aware therapist. I also recommend the book “The Body Keeps The Score” by Bessel van der Kolk. Lastly, focus on you and your child for the next few years. Get yourself where you’d like to be economically and psychologically. Surround yourself with positive, productive, and focused people. Succeed! You got this!
i started to cry before she cried, as a woman most of us females can relate, not necessarily with a foreigner or different race, men in general can squeeze your heart like a lemon
Joh this lady and her baby was going through hell😢ppl can judge so easily but they never experienced the same hell. Especially if there is a child involved. Im married to a foreigner, one baby but thanks God his family adore me and my baby. And all that us women wish is for our children to know their father. Bassie u are a very brave lady. Strongs my sister❤
I am watching this and thinking about the pain you felt, away from home. I am so sorry 💔. Thank you for coming back home usaphila. Thank you for bringing our son home too❤
Yeap if u have a chance stay in your country..its soooo hard rasing a child in a foreign country..my partner and I are both South African but we live in America and have a 1 year old daughter, its so hard raising a child with no family ih a foreign country, literally just the 2 of you guys..but im grateful he is supportive. God will bless you sisi
Kids grow,they don’t stay young forever as long as both partners are on same page it is doable to take care of a child even if you are abroad,also build a community around you and there are nurseries and day care to cater for kids.
It's my first time to hear about this country Croatia🤦♀️but anyway l hope others will listen and learn. It's painful that you went through hell, praying for you to heal❤
No it's different this is pure racism.a man hitting you in your home with his family then later with his friends without police interference. Not in SA.abuse is everywhere not like this one.
l am glad that you survived ,we feel your pain as mothers and South Africans but you saw the red flags ,several times, lets learn to put us first, love ourselves and walk away ..heal ,GOD is the greatest comforter...nawe sis .mmm no
Yhoo, this girl went through so much. Those people are animals at least they should have felt sorry for the child. Cruel people. Am glad she survived and is now better home
My big sister used to say she wish to relocate to overseas one day.....and I always says to her ...'Me' I will Never...I'm ok to stay here in my Country ..I love my South Africa with all of my heart....and I mean it ..I don't wish to go to overseas I don't knw why....but I hve this bad feeling about going there😅
I also want to explore Europe and North America a bit. Maybe a year or two then come back. The feeling can be unsettling since it's a new territory the laws are different and the atmosphere.
Do it,life is for the living you can’t live in fear all you have to do is make wise decisions for yourself and don’t settle in situation that are not favourable to you.
@LangelihleNgema I will🤍🥺 but I'm still trying to get my coins. Hopefully, I will secure a job. Now I'm still unemployed and living at home. But that dream isn't going away. It's part of my long-term goals.
In 2021 I took my son home in SOUTH AFRICA from Botswana.We over stayed and he was suspended for 5 years. Am here waiting for 2026 for the 5 years to end....😂😂😂😂😂😂 Guys given chance stay in your country.😂
Apply for a South African passport for him if Dual citizenship is allowed in Botswana,once he has a South African ID and birth certificate you will not have to wait for 2026 to enter SA with him,I went theough the same with my son.
@@LangelihleNgemaincorrect information you're dishing out. She needs to go to VFS to find out what it is that is required for her to be able to travel and live between the two countries. If she has money, she can appeal the suspension/ban because even waiting for the 6 years to pass won't suffice. It's just that she did not give much information on her experience so I can't advice any further. And Botswana doesn't permit dual citizenship.
@@mayumimolotv8523 oh please,Iam talking about facts here,same thing happened to my son overstayed his 3 months visa in SA,when we finally left they banned him at OR Tambo for 5 years,the guy even asked why did I not register his birth is SA if he had atleast a birth certificate they would have not given him a ban,so I later applied for his passport which at the same time his birth was registered and he now has a SA birth certificate but it states where he was born and got SA passport too,3 years into the ban we travelled to SA and he was let in and Ban cancelled at point of entry,this ban has nothing to do with VFS but Home affairs the appeal you are talking about you are only given 10 days to appeal and half of the time it does’nt change anything.
@@mayumimolotv8523 Get your facts straight,VFS has nothing to do with Home affairs,Iam talking about real experience here same thing happrned to my son and after I registere his birth with HOme affairs he was issues a birth certicate and SA passport the ban was lifted.
@@mayumimolotv8523You are the one who is dishing out wrong information VFS is only a contrac this a Home affairs issue,my daughter was in a same fate only had a french passport overstayed her SA visa but when she was banned we registered her birth and was issued with birth certificate and SA passport and was able to travel to SA again with her SA passport and at the Airport they lifted the ban,if Botswana does’nt do dual citizenship then she can wait until the 5 years is over and the ban will be lifted.
But this lady is blessed in the area of money...to just be able to get money to fly and move around with your kid like this means obviously your hands are blessed. Imali iyahla esandleni. Yena she made really poor decisions but she will learn I'm sure
I am looking forward to part 2. I love her voice, and I like that she is sharing her story and not allowing people to push her down. I am proud of her!
All i can say is, in all this situation of struggling and abused beating up, give glory to Jesus he was there with you potecting you and your son's lives, someone out there will learn something from your struggling, we learn from our mistakes, its never too late to start new life again, may God bless you and your son❤
I believe that a person who is obsessed wit gambling and drugs needs helped. This girl is lucky to be alive cos her husband was obsessed wit gambling.she is been through a lot. Bt stil go back to him.she is lucky to be alive
Lovely to see a Tswana person in Podcast ,happy you save ,ladies from Kenya are going through to he'll in the other country, I watch thy true story, it's will tear your heart broken.
firstly Madam thank you for such a platform ... you are great at what you do .... yhooo so sorru Basie ... it gets better , one day i will also tell my story ...
Basetsana, baby girl, be strong, work on healing 💖 I pray he doesn't manipulate you to going back. God gave you 🚩🚩to protect you, now you must protect your son.
There's no place like home SA is most beautiful country in the whole wide world my opinion though 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦my country im not relocating anywhere 💃💃💃❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕🤞🤞🤞
@@SimplyBassy her statement doesn’t necessarily take away anything from your “personal experience” but rather educates you that not everyone in a psych ward is crazy. & to be frank, even if they were crazy, as you said, it’s mental illness. Instead of trying to defend yourself, just as you want to share your story & people to listen, maybe try listening & learning from others.
@@92Kandee I didn’t try to take away from her’s either and she said “we are not crazy lady” I never said she was crazy, I said I was at that time-surrounded by clear crazy people, she made this about her and you trying to make me look and sound dumb, no.
Wow 💔 this is so heartbreaking, I’m just glad she’s back home with her life and not in a coffin 😭 mara those men are evil! The gaslighting from those police officers is absolutely disgusting!!!
Your story is so heartbreaking 💔💔. Those men and their so called police are racist. They thought they were breaking you, little did they know that they were forcing you to unearth the strength in you. You are home, Bassie, that's all that matters.
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Madame speaker was born for this. She listens, calm and gives the guest time to speak
true! communication skills is more important for me in interviews
she is sharing to help everyone, plz do not judge or criticize this young girl . We all have mistakes,
everyone can fall under this trap even in your own country.
I thank God she came back home safe.
@@mpholetlaka6490 okay
There aren't really mistakes there. Everyone that gets into a relationship or marriage gets into it with the hope of it working out and for the rest of their lives but sadly for some like her, things unfortunately don't work out. It would really have happened to anyone. Life is unpredictable. Those that are judging are just doing so to make themselves feel good about their own issues in their own lives. I pray this young woman gets to rebuild her life and that of her son. God is not yet done with her story
Gosh how did u find urself in third world eastern Europe?We happy to have u back tho.
Thanks cc for informing that stupid commenter our sister fall in love it was not about status the commenter never travel out of South Africa
@jayjacobs8486 even people in kzn or eastern cape and the likes find themselves in similar if not worse situations. These things can happen to anyone regardless of geographical location.
Thank you so much for allowing me the opportunity to share my story queen!❤
God be with you😢
Thank you for trusting us with your story. 🤍 I’m so sorry that you have to deal with judgemental people in the comments. People always have a lot to say until things happen to them or their loved ones. I wish you all the best and I hope your son grows to be a humble, kind and loving boy.🥰
@@neosjournal_ thank you!😊
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God be with you mama❤
Marring a foreigner and moving abroad is such a huge risk if you don’t have a well paying job, don’t know the local and don’t have a good support system…especially when there’s kids involved. They have the advantage because it’s their home ground …
I’m grateful that she’s home safe❤
Oh wow thank you for bringing light , most of the men there are abusive and dnt respect women
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You could be a woman from Eastern Cape, marrying a man from Limpopo; He'll have home ground advantage
@@LM-he7eb but your under the same justice system at least and your family can just drive to help and protect you 😅
It's like helping them kidnap you.
Although not everyone is the same, some are married and are doing well..
I feel for you girl. Thank God you arrived home safely. I am a student abroad, currently doing my final year. All i can say is, life abroad isn't as glamorous as it seems. As soon as i complete I am going straight back home. Life abroad will humble you. Trust me, I have learnt to love and appreciate my own country the hard way. 😢
I’m so sorry that you’re having a bad experience. All the best with your final year and studies.
I ALSO ENDED UP AT THE SAFE SHELTER 10 YEARS AGO IN 🇨🇦 I M STILL HERE ALIVE AND MAKING 😂❤
Sorry babes. How long is your study program?
You took my words! Life abroad is indeed a struggle and horrible 😅
I understand you, I am living in Germany and I am also going back home. I am tired of Europe. I have travelled cheap around Europe though, u have seen it all
She has been through so much 😔wishing her a healing journey and happy life❤
My aunt was killed by a German man in a gruesome manner,seeing this brings me tears 😢
Comfort and strength to you.
Ncese sesi. That's so tragic. May you be comforted by the Most High ❤
Pasta and lobster, askies sisi 💔 kodwa may her soul rest in peace 🙏
We are the gbv capital of the world thanks to black men @@SONIA-q5i
Oh no😢
At least you were warned by his friends, and you still went several times! Girl, never think you can change anyone on this Earth. It has to come from within.
Glad you are back home.
She had plenty warnings. Silly woman
I am writing this in another country as a South African just know that there is no country that will favor a foreigner over their own people. I am glad you back home safely I saw your story on TikTok.
@@winstonchirombe4948
So says Chirombe...kwerekwere.
Eish,YET we have People from all over the world in MZANSI 😢
Thought SA people don't travel the way they treat the so called "Kwerekwere"
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South Africans do travel a lot as they apply for jobs in those countries,get them,get visas and move wherever their jobs take them.They dont just go to these countries unannounced and find themselves doing as they please as if they are entitled to what ever privilege that is meant for that particular country's citizens.South Africans are well behaved,they abide by the rules of different countries they travel to and they hardly find themselves on the wrong side of other country's laws.They don't demand what doesn't belong to them,they don't invade other people's spaces.
@@Careless-sv1md
South Africans don't travel the way amakwerekwere do but they travel legally.They apply for jobs as well as visas and they behave themselves very well in foreign countries that's why they become pissed off by people who will flock here illegally and act very much entitled.
Thank you for sharing Basetsana I'm also living in Europe i wish you a speedy recovery from these 🙏
How’s your experience been my dear?
One thing I am learning from these stories is that red flags will never turn green. The first time you see them.... run.
Now my thing is I think only 2 out of 1000 men won’t have red flags 😭
and sometimes we can be so adamant 😢, we need to be strong let us not be blinded by love
Yeeesss. We ignore red flags and convince ourselves we can change people.
😂😂😂
Well said
I am a South African living overseas. I have noticed a growing number of South African ladies coming here on love missions. Non South Africans see us differently and treat us differently. Because we tend to be calmer, we are expected to maintain that demeanor even within abuse. Also noone wants to hear you've been in an abusive situation incase you qualify for assistance and are able to live like a human being. The only advice I can give you is investigate the countrie's legal system before you get there.
Spot on! On being expected to be calm even when experiencing abuse
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Bayaphapha bona baya kwi
@@SONIA-q5i The reason people travel is to open their minds and learn new stuff. This young lady was just unlucky. This should never stop her from exploring the world. Try it...
@@mamakalami what was she doing with a Croatian man in the first place?
She is sooo brave. It is hard to believe that one person in a foreign land can fight this much
I know what its like to be in a foreign country and feeling like your rights are being violated. I was recently in the US and had the worst treatment ever. When I touched down at OR Tambo I thanked God 😢
You people learn the hard way that your skin is the source of hatred all over the world
What i took from the story. Its important to have a skill.... branding ppl really saved you alot of times.
The problem of most South African ladies believe that foreigner men are better than South African men, but they don't know how they are or behaving in there own country.
One thing I've realized is that there's no ubuntu and democracy to black people in foreign lands outside of Africa. Seen it with English teachers in China and now this. Their laws are definitely different from ours and they hardly protect foreign nationals. Im so sorry you had to go through this ❤
@@SibsM93You are right, but look at our own country too. No one gets justice unless they know someone or have plenty of money to pursue their cases. This world is f*ck up.
I think it's the same all over,women are being killed at the hands of their husband's in SA and nothing happens unless your case goes viral,women are seen and not heard everywhere,I think it's a matter of luck
Racism
SA is worse than abroad, I stay in Switzerland since 2005 with my daughter and she was 2 yrs when we gets here and now she’s 21 married with a Swiss men I am married with a German men so we never had any problems since we came and now we are citizen and life is really kind to us. We were never being abused or discriminated because we are South Africans or black but o can’t say much it’s not everywhere the same I guess but Swiss and German is almost the same. I can’t complain.
@@itzzmimi8357you lucky or blessed which one you choose. I live Greece for the past 7 years and watch how mean spirited the people are being, church set is none the better, here it's fueled by the increase of refugees as they say. Diversity is beautiful if only people would give it a chance
For anyone here considering an international relationship here are some tips:
1. One red flag? Don’t even consider moving abroad.
2. Got married? Wait *at least* one year to have a child. This is incredibly important!!!
2. Have your own money - ALWAYS.
3. Get a local bank account. NEVER have a joint/shared account.
4. Have a back up plan: plan B, and plan C.
5. Know the local laws and your rights before even leaving your home country: immigration, work, real estate/rental.
6. Connect with other immigrants from your home country as soon as possible.
7. If things get bad when you’re in the new country, enact plan B.
Thanks for sharing, much appreciated ❤
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They are not going to listen to you
Thank you for this
To everyone speaking ill, you clearly leave perfect lives here at home i guess. This lady suffered exactly what what many ladies go through here in our home grounds and just because she was in Europe you feel entitled to speak ill. For your information Europeans ladies endures exactly what the poor lady went throw. It is a norm just as it is in SA but they do not tell. As long as you have never been in her shoes, think twice before you pass judgement.
Spot on my dear, they just never tell...
Thank you ❤️❤️🙏🏿🙏🏿
Red flags are always there about these abusive men . Mara women don't put themselves first .. they want Marriage at all cost.. glamorous lifestyle at all cost... Women don't learn. If someone says or does something even remotely abusive leave right then and then ..don't wait and say we are jealous and then when shit hit the fans you expect people to feel sorry ... Leave abusive men ..don't don't become abusive out of the blue ...the red flags are ALWAYS there ..mara le in love akere and Rena we are jealous and single.
Yhoo my daughter stays in Europe she got to Witness how European ladies go through the most like any other ladies worldwide
Thank you 🎉❤
I used to judge people with depression until 2021,nganya nyi nyi istress for 6months.
Jus b4 i commit suicide,i fell into deep sleep and i dream of Jesus.He looked at me and waved goodbye ,smiled and walked away.Since that day i never had suicidal thoughts and i never judge any1😮
I also didn't; believe it until I experienced it myself
Hai wena! How did HE look like? Was he black or white? I'm really interested to know
Please explain more about Jesus
How does Jesus look like?😂😂
@@FatimaMalaza-t8e Lol. ungahleki yaz, I honestly would like to know
It's always good to come back home when things don't go well 🙏🏾
Young ladies this is why older men with baggage will go for you.
Streagth to this young lady to start a new chapter
Good that you sharing your story and the dangers of being in a bad situation in a foreign country
I'm so proud of you for always doing something for yourself and getting yourself out of undesirable situation❤ ❤
Thank you sisi!❤
I cant stress enough how we as BLACK WOMAN are on our own. We are constantly abused , mistreated and all the bad things happening to us. I have seen a number of people specifically BW and this is so painful because now its like we are nothing in the eyes of anyone who isnt a BW.
This lady didnt deserve what happened to her and my heart pours out to her. I hope she heals. Askies Mtase.
Her ambition got in the way of common sense. With a little more caution, one can avoid a lot of unnecessary hustle.
@@Mamaafrica-r9r You are victim blaming. you sound very toxic. Please do better.
@@khathutshelo051 people should take responsibility of their lives and accept consequences of their choices. This lack of accountability and wanting to be victims at all times is equally toxic!
The white men who are apparently better than black men. Nazo ke
Shame, even white men don't y'all any good 😂😂
Girl, you went through a lot, but thank God you came back home. Your story is so emotional 😢
Thankfully you survived and can tell the world what you experienced. Please take care of your son and yourself.
Enduring so much pain, traumatic experience Bassie, you're a strong young lady. Glad you and your son are all well now. May God continue to strengthen you❤
Thank you so much Jean!
It’s important to be able to take care of yourself and not depend on people
The fact that there are women here judging this lady that harshly is so sad. At least some people's lives are so perfect. I hope it stays that way.
Bassie you will be okay. Just stay at home and you and Christian will be safe.
She would have had her life perfect if she stayed home , she volunteered a couple of times for this abuse . Women need to learn to love themselves ,accept your struggle and deal with them accordingly and not jump ship. If you don't like learn from people who says "NO" how else are you going to learn , be a victim , coz you want what you want Akere. She decided to be a victim ,she laid her bed and she must lye in it
@nikitaletsie9086 You could not have said it better 🙌🏾🙌🏾. I just love how perfect people are when it comes to other people's situations.
I remember wanting to work in ﹰEuro so much and the doord wouldn't open. Later I went for the vacation yhooooo🤦♀️😭🙆♂️ on the flight back home I decided that vacations ONLY are enough for me. Yhoooo devils those ppl their faces in the streets,restaurants and at the stores and beaches...my friend would say straight to their faces " Bekezelani bakwethu we are only here for few weeks futhi angazi yhini because we are eat our money nobusha bethu" bese atwerke😂😂😂😂
Molo Mfundisi. Unjani kodwa? We are praying for you
Their faces alone tells a lot!
Kunzima ngihlale 24 yrs ngibuyile kukwa hell on earth.
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My husband went to Romania with work for about two weeks and just three days I'm.he already wanted to come back home. Those people are not nice people at all. They are overly racist and intentionally racist towards us black people
The day SA women stop acting like dating and moving overseas with umlungu is a flex and achievement is the day that things will change.
The same thing happened to my friend who was abused by her husband in a European country.
He even locked her outside,whole night in this extremely cold country.
When will we ever learn???
I agree... Even the way a khuluma ngakhona, you can hear ukuthi that the whole situation brought her a lot of pride. Even if Croatia is a whole 3rd world country
Thank you Bassie for sharing your story as a means to educate others Uyimbokodo gal You are a very strong woman You have gone through a lot, and you are still standing From hear you can only go higher and may all you wish as an outcome come through fie you and your family Your child that you had continuously fought for is indeed very lucky Strength gal
Basetsane thank you for sharing your story,many people will watch and atleast be aware and hopefully not find themselves in a similar situation.
Not everyone will understand,some will judge.
Im in Eastern Europe for 6 years and have experience horrors too.
When im safe I'll too share my story for awareness
Ohh maan she's been through a lot and she looks young 😢😢😢 but I'm glad that she's back at home ❤❤
I’m afraid she will go back to that man😢
We thank God that you finally came back home alive. Please don't go there again. Allow yourself to heal gradually. The best in life is all I wish for you Base'
It's that mindgames and gaslighting. The physical abuse. Wishing you healing Sis. So sorry you went through this🌷🌷🌷
No words…. yhooo. I just wanna give her a hug. She has been through so much, I can’t imagine. Yhooo…. 💔
Listening to this story breaks my heart.
I really want to encourage people. Leave and dont go back once abuse starts.
Am sorry Basi that even the embassy did not help you.
Europe is not easy. I am in Budapest right now i stay in my lane and cant wait to go home
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Different country, same person. Nothing will changed.
I always ask myself how someone can stay when there’s so many red flags. Like I feel sorry for her situation but it seems like she also played with help when it was being offered to her on many occasions and that is WILD.
ask again...why
Her mother died whilst she was young. She only met her father at age 18. The trauma is right there. I am annoyed by o somajaji who are judging her.
Thank you 🥺😌🙏🏿
True, I don't know if I'm overreacting but I also noticed she's fidgeting in the video which shows the abuse and her overall experience really traumatized her 🥺🥺. I wish her healing and recovery. Since her father is now sort of in her life, she can let her bio dad be a father figure to her son, if possible. ❤❤
@@theemapsmash 🥺🥺🥺the whole time
Im happy that you came back with your son. May God give you strength to forgive that racist landlord for your own peace.
I sincerely hope that you are healing. If possible it’s important to find a trauma aware therapist. I also recommend the book “The Body Keeps The Score” by Bessel van der Kolk. Lastly, focus on you and your child for the next few years. Get yourself where you’d like to be economically and psychologically. Surround yourself with positive, productive, and focused people. Succeed!
You got this!
I work as a tables dealer at a casino and I know exactly how aggressive and rude gambling "men" can be, even to us the employees.
Yo I can imagine
I experienced what i deem to be aggressive racism in Croatia. This doesn't surprise me, sadly.
Thank God you survived ❤
Are you still there? I believe racism is everywhere. We do it white to black . Black to black ⚫️. We just have to make peace with it .
@@lindalolly6318 spot on.
Please do elaborate more on that as I am from that country.
Could you please tell us your story.
i started to cry before she cried, as a woman most of us females can relate, not necessarily with a foreigner or different race, men in general can squeeze your heart like a lemon
Joh this lady and her baby was going through hell😢ppl can judge so easily but they never experienced the same hell. Especially if there is a child involved. Im married to a foreigner, one baby but thanks God his family adore me and my baby. And all that us women wish is for our children to know their father. Bassie u are a very brave lady. Strongs my sister❤
I am watching this and thinking about the pain you felt, away from home. I am so sorry 💔. Thank you for coming back home usaphila. Thank you for bringing our son home too❤
That's pure racism I don't care who says what.I hope this young lady learnt a lesson
They want greener pastures from makgowa
Those people are not used to black people only few black people there .
Sorry to say this but we black people we don't want to learn we always give White's Chinese and Indianes special treatment in our country's
That’s exactly what I was thinking
I'm glad you are home safe dear❤❤❤Sending virtual hugs😊
Yeap if u have a chance stay in your country..its soooo hard rasing a child in a foreign country..my partner and I are both South African but we live in America and have a 1 year old daughter, its so hard raising a child with no family ih a foreign country, literally just the 2 of you guys..but im grateful he is supportive. God will bless you sisi
So come back , we also want to experience gold in America 😅
Kids grow,they don’t stay young forever as long as both partners are on same page it is doable to take care of a child even if you are abroad,also build a community around you and there are nurseries and day care to cater for kids.
Daycare?
The lady has beautiful fingers and nails. Very well spoken❤
She's not very clear. In attempting to twang she clenches her jaw and lips a lot
I better suffer in mzansi.I am going nowhere
Vele you have no other option…😅 Ngiyadlala.
😂😂😂😂@@MotherOfBlackStars
@@MotherOfBlackStarsSavage😅😅
True
Sidlala eMzansi waya waya.
Yhooooooo!!!
Love and light to you Basi ❤ and thanks for sharing this!
Shame ngwana ko gae banna, I Am sorry for all ur bad experience abroad, phephi. We thank God you home safe
That's all that matters. She's home and safe.
Such Heartbreaking ordeal yet powerful and well executed!! Strength to you sis 😇❤
It's my first time to hear about this country Croatia🤦♀️but anyway l hope others will listen and learn. It's painful that you went through hell, praying for you to heal❤
Don't you remember ka Soccer world cup .....the team with names all ending with "vic"..
My friend went through same thing at Croatia n she back with child 😢😢the guy was abusive
This is a difficult situation I understand but don't want to judge many woman in SA go through this daily without even leaving SA so be kind.
No it's different this is pure racism.a man hitting you in your home with his family then later with his friends without police interference. Not in SA.abuse is everywhere not like this one.
Thank God foreigners are putting y'all through it too
So painful,be healed,our blood we love you
l am glad that you survived ,we feel your pain as mothers and South Africans but you saw the red flags ,several times, lets learn to put us first, love ourselves and walk away ..heal ,GOD is the greatest comforter...nawe sis .mmm no
Yhoo, this girl went through so much. Those people are animals at least they should have felt sorry for the child. Cruel people. Am glad she survived and is now better home
My big sister used to say she wish to relocate to overseas one day.....and I always says to her ...'Me' I will Never...I'm ok to stay here in my Country ..I love my South Africa with all of my heart....and I mean it ..I don't wish to go to overseas I don't knw why....but I hve this bad feeling about going there😅
I also want to explore Europe and North America a bit. Maybe a year or two then come back. The feeling can be unsettling since it's a new territory the laws are different and the atmosphere.
Do it,life is for the living you can’t live in fear all you have to do is make wise decisions for yourself and don’t settle in situation that are not favourable to you.
@LangelihleNgema I will🤍🥺 but I'm still trying to get my coins. Hopefully, I will secure a job. Now I'm still unemployed and living at home. But that dream isn't going away. It's part of my long-term goals.
@@palesasefurutshe6832go ahead Pale and don’t limit yourself.Also,I can say is that do you and be alert.
Palesa go for it love, you will come back when you are enough. Southa will always be there
What a heartbreaking story. So glad you are home safe 😭🫂
The hurt in her voice.. omg. I am so sorry Basi.
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In 2021 I took my son home in SOUTH AFRICA from Botswana.We over stayed and he was suspended for 5 years.
Am here waiting for 2026 for the 5 years to end....😂😂😂😂😂😂 Guys given chance stay in your country.😂
Apply for a South African passport for him if Dual citizenship is allowed in Botswana,once he has a South African ID and birth certificate you will not have to wait for 2026 to enter SA with him,I went theough the same with my son.
@@LangelihleNgemaincorrect information you're dishing out. She needs to go to VFS to find out what it is that is required for her to be able to travel and live between the two countries. If she has money, she can appeal the suspension/ban because even waiting for the 6 years to pass won't suffice. It's just that she did not give much information on her experience so I can't advice any further. And Botswana doesn't permit dual citizenship.
@@mayumimolotv8523 oh please,Iam talking about facts here,same thing happened to my son overstayed his 3 months visa in SA,when we finally left they banned him at OR Tambo for 5 years,the guy even asked why did I not register his birth is SA if he had atleast a birth certificate they would have not given him a ban,so I later applied for his passport which at the same time his birth was registered and he now has a SA birth certificate but it states where he was born and got SA passport too,3 years into the ban we travelled to SA and he was let in and Ban cancelled at point of entry,this ban has nothing to do with VFS but Home affairs the appeal you are talking about you are only given 10 days to appeal and half of the time it does’nt change anything.
@@mayumimolotv8523 Get your facts straight,VFS has nothing to do with Home affairs,Iam talking about real experience here same thing happrned to my son and after I registere his birth with HOme affairs he was issues a birth certicate and SA passport the ban was lifted.
@@mayumimolotv8523You are the one who is dishing out wrong information VFS is only a contrac this a Home affairs issue,my daughter was in a same fate only had a french passport overstayed her SA visa but when she was banned we registered her birth and was issued with birth certificate and SA passport and was able to travel to SA again with her SA passport and at the Airport they lifted the ban,if Botswana does’nt do dual citizenship then she can wait until the 5 years is over and the ban will be lifted.
Wishing you and your boy some healing. ❤
But this lady is blessed in the area of money...to just be able to get money to fly and move around with your kid like this means obviously your hands are blessed. Imali iyahla esandleni. Yena she made really poor decisions but she will learn I'm sure
Nice comment ❤
Thank you mellow, how sweet of you!
Thank u girl for alloeing us to learn from ur story. I hope ladies are truly taking notes of this lesson. May the Lord heal u
They ain't taking any notes those one's,as we speak some is planing to move to romania or czechoslovakia
I am looking forward to part 2. I love her voice, and I like that she is sharing her story and not allowing people to push her down.
I am proud of her!
@@bridgem_m she’s soothing. I wish her all the best in her future endeavours.
All i can say is, in all this situation of struggling and abused beating up, give glory to Jesus he was there with you potecting you and your son's lives, someone out there will learn something from your struggling, we learn from our mistakes, its never too late to start new life again, may God bless you and your son❤
I believe that a person who is obsessed wit gambling and drugs needs helped. This girl is lucky to be alive cos her husband was obsessed wit gambling.she is been through a lot. Bt stil go back to him.she is lucky to be alive
Everything that involves a child is so sensitive 💔😢😭Im hurt💔 imagine 9month without your child, I won't survive 🤞😭💔thanks God you back home🙏❤️🙌
Thank god ,through all suffering, you used your head to come out alive n come back home,am so 😞 😔 ❤❤
Lovely to see a Tswana person in Podcast ,happy you save ,ladies from Kenya are going through to he'll in the other country, I watch thy true story, it's will tear your heart broken.
That social worker was unprofessional and deserves to be reported and lose that job!!!!!
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Sorry girl we are happy dat you are safe,we experience a lot but God is good all the time be strong
firstly Madam thank you for such a platform ... you are great at what you do .... yhooo so sorru Basie ... it gets better , one day i will also tell my story ...
❤❤ I hope you do, until then I wish you all the best, love and healing
I wish you love and healing too ❤
We are getting too brave with our lives guys to go overseas in the name of love is a red flag on its on, and you so young 😢thank God you back
Basetsana, baby girl, be strong, work on healing 💖 I pray he doesn't manipulate you to going back. God gave you 🚩🚩to protect you, now you must protect your son.
There's no place like home SA is most beautiful country in the whole wide world my opinion though 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦my country im not relocating anywhere 💃💃💃❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕🤞🤞🤞
The pain in her voice😢😢Oh Modimo 😭
Ncese Sisi, i can hear pain through your voice, but we thank God that you got your child and you are now home safe.
I'm glad she came back safe and the child
Ausy your story is painful, I pray that you heal and love your son, and welcome back home my love
Yoh i remember the lady from tik tok hle😢 eish. The child went through a lot too i hope they healed ❤
Just after a c-section she had to up and down. Oh Lord. No 😢😢😢
We will also be racist to those people, personally Mina I’ll be!!!
And they always come here and we are nice mxm
@@godsfavouritedaughter3476 we are created like that unfortunately, we are forgiving ppl, and we luv very easy
Good that you went back to your country. Angithi niyabathanda laba abantu
I'm from a psych hospital, I'm not crazy or mad, still not. We get admitted for different reasons and different illnesses. We are not crazy lady.
I slept at a hospital were people were scary and mentally disturbed, I was talking about my personal experience here ma’am, not yours.
Maybe in the room she slept in. I've been to a psychiatric hospital as well. The psychological conditions of people differ.
@@SimplyBassy her statement doesn’t necessarily take away anything from your “personal experience” but rather educates you that not everyone in a psych ward is crazy. & to be frank, even if they were crazy, as you said, it’s mental illness. Instead of trying to defend yourself, just as you want to share your story & people to listen, maybe try listening & learning from others.
@@ayandabaca7545even if that is true, it’s insensitive to use the word “crazy”
@@92Kandee I didn’t try to take away from her’s either and she said “we are not crazy lady” I never said she was crazy, I said I was at that time-surrounded by clear crazy people, she made this about her and you trying to make me look and sound dumb, no.
Wow 💔 this is so heartbreaking, I’m just glad she’s back home with her life and not in a coffin 😭 mara those men are evil! The gaslighting from those police officers is absolutely disgusting!!!
Oh my baby ❤️❤️I’m sorry you went through all of that.
Wow this is so sad 😢 but thank you for sharing your story.
Your story is so heartbreaking 💔💔. Those men and their so called police are racist. They thought they were breaking you, little did they know that they were forcing you to unearth the strength in you. You are home, Bassie, that's all that matters.
Thanks for sharing your story❤❤
Madam speaker looking 👌
Mother in law didn't approve ur marriage how could she say ur demonic askies dear kuningi kuningi but heal u r back home 🙏🙏🙏💃💃💃💕💕💕
For me never to endure udoti. And leave where I am not wanted 😭. I am sorry sisi.