She needs to realise that her husband has been violating her niece since she was a school girl age 12 or 13 in the 6th grade. But she still talks about her niece as the other woman rather than a victim of her husband.
@@lilirose1865 ohh you don't know us baby you don't know the us ama2ks we envy at a very young age but it could be what you're saying kodwa fear ama2000 nana
@@lilirose1865she isn't a victim the young girl..she encouraged it kanjalo nje....if the husband approached her at that age she should have told her mom n her aunt klaar...
Please! Can we vote for the guest speaker of the year , its Asnath, her articulation, delivery, emotion is on point, the year hasn't ended and I believe she is. She is a natural born narrator. Love and light to you sis ❤
Used to work with her, what a humble Nurse and human being, always loving and friendly, used to see the husband fetching her and you could see his a jealous boy friend by then and that how you see that a man is a naughty person in most cases. God bless her and heal her broken heart.
Rule number 5: *Never love too deeply until you make sure that the other person loves you with the same depth. The depth of your love today is the depth of your wound tomorrow*
It was her first love, thats where the problem was. Women always stay for things because they love the first boyfriend with everything. Especially when there's kids involved
lol but love is hard to quantify. And sometimes our heart breaks as a result of our trauma. We may be loving from a place of trauma therefore not loving ourselves. I’ve never seen somebody successfully managing how much or how little they love.
There will be a time where women will say "Enough" and start putting themselves first. We can't allow men to waste our resources (time, money, wombs, dreams and goals, mental sanity and self) anymore we really cannot its too expensive a price to pay.
@bokamosomcephe2965 its slowly going to infiltrate the whole world its only a matter of time. And you will see these men will throw tantrums or become more violent. The birth rate in Korea is so low that day care centres are closing and they are trying to give benefits in order for women to give birth but the women are saying andizi
You are strong my sister❤ I'm in tears. My niece had an affair with my boyfriend (baby daddy) while she was staying with me. She would leave my place and go to baby daddy for days, come back and life continued(because i didn't know). The day i found out,I broke up with baby daddy, she moved in with him, she packed her clothes and left while i was at work. I was not ok, i even went for counselling. I loved my niece, she was like my baby sister. They had a child. Baby daddy passed on September 2023. Niece moved back to her parent's house after the guy passed on. My sister and i are ok,but i don't go to her house because i don't want to see my niece. It still hurts.
The more I see these stories, the more I am learning that men are not everything and I must learn not to put men on pedestal they don't deserve, I hope things will work out for her and I know it will..God bless... sisi Perseverance you are doing a great job Makukhanye.
Never ever put anyone on a pedestal...!!! Put you instead... Love yourself, empower, advance you...!!! Guard your peace & sanity... Anyone that you allow to come into your life must make a deposit... bring value and never deduct nor reduce any aspect of you...!!! Amen!
yazi abazi uba sithandaza every day to get that specification in order ,kubekho aba abamoshayo .When we good we should acknowledge,kodwa xa simoshayo we should call each other into order,cos we raising destroyed kids .This is so sad r@@avelamki7055
When she said, “a man who has loved you your whole life can wreck you”, I felt it! I was there, and you will be fine my dear. You are stronger than you think, you will rise above the situation. And one day, he’ll come begging. He will regret this, you can count on that!
She will be fine ❤❤ I was told I will never amount to anything I am from a poor family The guy mocked me. As I speak am an auditor and am happily in love...my sister said use prevention mma. I don't trust this guy. That hit me so hard. He dated everything that he saw. When he was done with me he sent me out 😂😂. I was sad but I am so glad he did. She will be ok❤
Based on the story she narrated, this man never loved her or maybe he did at some point but it was actually her who loved him with her whole life. The ex husband also seemed like a mama's boy but anyway I'm happy she is finally choosing herself this time around
i left 16 years ago even today he has never saw a reason to apologise if we did not have a daughter he wouldnt even exist in my life but because of her i try to be civil
Our daddy did the same to us.. we were a laughing stock in our community bt quess what I’m now an artisan, my brother is a mining engineer and last born is doing his final year at varsity. We are all successful nd having our own things.. be strong ur kids will grow ❤
Men can be very cruel, love yourself. Be selfish, I went through this hell, 40 years ago. Go to church, God carried me all these years. I have 2 sons who are young adults now. God will carry you through all this, you just need to down grade. The children grow so fast. Thank God that you have a job and support. He will get his day, karma never forgets the address. Strength to you my sister.
My dad did the same thing to my mom,left her with 3 children and we had to go back to Riverpark. It was hard to downgrade but we survived. You will be fine 🫂
She’s not alone ….i went thru almost the same situation Nkulunkulu amuhle Nkulunkulu blessed me with a beautiful work my daughter is attending a good private school I bought a car and building my daughters home in the other hand guy lost his good job and he lost his house and all cars and now living on the streets…..Don’t forget God cc in your struggles uThixo ukhona 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
For 4 years you supported him and never once called him a parasite. I am so mad on your behalf! Love and light to you, your kids and your sisters. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yohh I found myself crying at the end when she said "I don't know what I did to him so bad". You didn't do anything Asi, that man never loved you and hence the horrible treatment. He loved the idea of the comfortable life he had, just not with you. You are going to be fine with the kids, oska wara. God will definitely see you through this storm. He's going to change those lemons you sucked all this years into a sweet lemonade. Trust in Him, O tla bona. All the love to you and the kids sisi❤️❤️❤️
"I don't know what I did to him so bad" I will tell you. You cheated by taking revenge. You made yourself something that is like him. You demeaned yourself. You showed that you're not better than him, that the two of you are the same kind of human beings: untrustworthy, uncommitted, gutter people. He sleeps with his niece and other women and looks in the mirror and doesn't like the man he sees. Now he looks at you and sees himself: the person he is running away from. You are not better than him. My take: Do not let anyone make you what you are not. Always maintain your standard and integrity because in the end they will speak for you. Even if they parted ways, he would have so much respect for her because she is a better person, and would try to please her from a distance. See how a 3 months fling brought the lowest points in her life to the whole world, crying on camera. That's lower than lowest. Not that it matters in this age and time, men have evolved (I dare say genetically evolved) to look for and stay with a woman who is a better person than he is. He wants that to rub off on him.
@@greatergodage5219🎯🎯🎯 truth of the truths, as a woman you don't cheat on a man, they don't want that, if they claim to forgive you, they'll frustrate u coz it's not his nature to forgive a lady Fr cheating(it destroys his ego) hence the abuse nd him wanting a DNA test. A woman's biggest protection is fidelity, no man can tell you sh*t if you've always be loyal to him and he can literally do anything fr you.
Hi Asnath, the word of God says “a living dog is better than a dead lion” as long as you are still alive nwana wa hashu,something great will come out from you. Keep on praying for the Almighty God to strengthen you and live for your children. I will also put you in my prayer. With God everything is possible. There is still hope
I want to cry, hearing this sad story. BUT GOD!! GOD Will restore what the canker worm has eaten. GOD will wash away your tears, young lady. His mom will beg your forgiveness on her death bed and he will be calling on you to take care of him, soon... I pray for you dear. I have been through alot. BUT GOD!! You will laugh again! GOD bless you and your children exceedingly and abundantly. Will be praying and thinking of you... You are Beautiful ❤️🌺🌿
Asnath's story is a story of many other women. So relatable but once you move on so many doors and windows open. There is so much peace without toxicity.
This woman is strong. She did not cry all thru her story, only whn she talked about her kids, she lost it. Now thats being a woman. I really love the advice given by the host. Madam Speaker you are wise❤. I was told i was not the 1st and the last woman to start from scratch. Women hv been doing it. Asnathi is going to make❤
I have a son and i pray for wisdom to raise a better man😢....may i be a truthful mom and never allow my son to destroy another woman's daughter ❤ You are beautiful and u will heal trust me😊..... But yoooo this is painful 😣
I will also keep her in my prayers because I was kicked out my home by my husband and his mom last year. I'm unemployed and had to move back home with 2 kid's. I've had to start from 0 zero!!! I keep going because of GOD and children.
Yoh, I saw my mother in law do this to my husband's brother's wife. So bad and the husband was like he never knew her, just kept quiet 😢. So sad. She also don't like me😊
As young man I'm really disappointed💔for what our brothers are teaching us.. I can see now that our brothers are cowards and selfish🚮what shame as man.
@@robbylebotha At least she admitted she did but check yourself. Are you one of those prideful men who treat women with such disgrace or commit sins too shameful to even talk about but here trying to put down a woman who lashed back at those who wrongly and wickedly hurt her?
Asnath, you are so beautiful and ambitious and nothing will stop you. Step on those hurdles and make them your platform. You are such a strong young lady.
Love and light to you mama🙏🏾🙏🏾 …my biggest takeaway from this is as women we need to learn to love ourselves and take accountability for the role we play in our own suffering
I hate how they handled the niece. She was a victim of grooming and sexual abuse. He groomed a child, he’s a paedophile and a rapist. How tf can a child in grade 8 consent to a full grown man?! Disgusting behaviour, he’s scum of the earth and the family failed to protect that girl. She needed protection and he needed to go to jail for statutory rape.
That part broke my heart. They failed that girl - she was 13/14 when it started 💔. A child. Little girls are not safe anywhere, even with their families.
When u said the youngest could notice u were not ok. As a mom this made me realize It's better I leave now, 1 baby, my career just starting out, so that I am a happy and a healthy mom for my son❤❤❤ aaaarh as a mom I am soooo sorry u had to go through this. You can start over and be the best version of urself as an independent woman, mom❤
I was going to say the same thing, what he did to her niece is rape since she was still a minor. He took advantage of her, her niece is like her own child. What is stopping him from doing the same to his kids.
God is nooot a fool. We will all pay for the things we do to people. I love that the mother in law has daughters. That's exactly where the karma will hit her. God will pull through for you mama. Your kids' tears will find justice my dear. You are still young.
So touching, God will take care of you and the children. He'll come back begging but it will be too late. You deserve a better life and family for the kids. God bless u
Madam Speaker!!! Here here!! I felt it when you held her hand in yours. We cannot give up. Some of us are cutting and chopping through. This man will suffer!! Do not worry Asnathi!!!
While watching, at some point I started jubilating because I could see that wena Asnath, you, are the hero of all the times. Continue praying, continue being strong, continue the fight at the forefront. Our good Lord Jesus Christ will never leave you. Very soon, I repeat very soon some people somewhere will openly envy you. You are blessed. You have your family that loved you even before the foundation of the earth was laid down and on top of aaall these, you have Jesus. You children are the everlasting blessing. LOTS AND LOTS OF LOVE FROM TANZANIA!
I love the fact that she has her lovely and supportive sisters❤oh my God I can imagine the love. That's what gives her more strength. I wish I had one like hers. Take heart sisi nxase❤❤❤
Women go through alot, we are lovers by nature, we give in... This remind me of me relocating to where my boyfriend was and the first message I receive when I landed to where he was, was that it won't work😂😂😂😂🤦 imagine he was supposed to pick me up 🤭 you will heal my dear, you will be okay🥰🥰 his day is coming 🌹 stay strong and love yourself whole heartedly
That niece of your will never have it all, Be grateful that u got out alive, some dey don't get de chance see another day or even raise their kids...u are a very brave and strong women.
As a man I really don't understand men who abandon their children, even when you don't get along with their mother, you must always support and be there for your kids. It's a shame that there are men who do not want to be part of their children's lives while the mothers desperately want them to be involved in their children's lives. There's men out there who are fighting to be in their children's lives but they are denied that right nxa.
Asnathi lovey, I knew that seeing your face I know u from somewhere, u such a bubbly person even at your work place u always smiling with this heavy situation my love, u r a strong woman God strengthen u nd stay humble as u r, you r loved... Full of emotions yhooo😭😭❤️
This story is just wrong on every level! She ignored all of his red flags. I thank God she was able to get out of this nightmare, she’s beautiful and I know that God Will restore everything that happened to her🌻💕🙏
😭😭😭😭😪😪😪Yooh I hope this guy never finds peace sham cause it’s sick that he is out there having the time of his life while 4 people are suffering cause of him 😢Yooh I pray this lady finds peace and the strength to conquer this hey.
A man that you've love your whole life will wreck you especially if that was your 1st love. What makes things worse is you persevering in the hope that "things will get better". You work your butt off building a family, you love him, his parents, siblings & relatives more than your own. Every affair you find out about, you forgive & soon another will surface. Unfortunately, (as much as everyone will be trying to convince you that this is not working) it is only you that will make a decision to leave. You definitely will cry for a long time BUT time will come whereby you'll be narrating the story as if it happened to someone else. At that time you'll be saying "Thanks God for taking me out of that". As a mother you have no choice but to be strong for your kids. Channel all that love to them & only them. ❤❤❤❤
Wow...such a beautiful articulated lady...you are wise and knowledgeable beyong your years..stay strong...you'll rise from ashes...you saved your kids by moving out of that house so you can reach your destiny..now is your time to rise...go and make the world a better place..you have soo much to offer..great lady..you are going to make it big out there ..God bless ...praying for you.
The puppy part made me laugh so hard and stopped sympathising 😂😂😂😂 but when she continued from there she made me cry 😢😢God restore the years that the locusts has stolen from her like you did Joel 2 :20 -22
I am in a very similar situation. These podcasts are my therapy. On the part that breaks Asnath about the man severing ties with his children in every form, I can identify. It used to make me ask myself questions to which I didn't have answers until one day I came across this quote. " A narcissist will never co-parent with you. They will counter parent. They don't care about the emotional damage that the constant drama inflicts upon the children as long as it causes emotional drama to you."
U actually took me back and u know what!! After all the struggle and the pain ,I achieved so much in my life after the divorce and I know u going to make it,with God by your side.Keep on praying,prayer is so powerful and will pray for u aswell My dear,so touched,your kids and yourself don't deserve all of that.
At 1h15min, she mentioned she doesn’t go to church but she prays now… I recommend to start attending church and find comfort in the community. It helps
Church is where they laugh at women who are divorced. Church is where women are manipulated to stay in abusive relationships while praying for men who are not praying for themselves.
I was just thinking the same. How can the niece be blamed when she was a CHILD when this man took advantage of her. He was responsible not the niece. 😢 Sad
Actually this was child abuse . Her husband sexually molested this child . This is so sad for the niece , the poor girl was raped at such a young age . May God help the niece and heal her .
The mother in law has always hated you. Don't stress about regrets it's made you a stronger woman and mum. The mental abuse has been crazy from the start. All you did was love an unlovable selfish cheat. Don't blame yourself. Your children are your blessings, and they will make you proud. Trust God trust what is happening
😂😂😂😂Pablo oh my God i love your guest she is a good story teller Very sad story though very touching the kids will be fine my ccta must go for mantainance
They actually love us to our death, nothing else. Too many of our sisters died bcos of the phrase "I Love You". They died, they hv bn buried. Be strong my sis, life will work itself out while they are growing up. As for stock-sweet, those who has it in their mouth forget that it's getting finished. I promise you, one day will be one day.
I want to hear your story after 5 years again.. You are strong woman I know this too shall pass and you will prosper.. Revenge with success, start them make up companies and cook as much as you can and others, you got this..Keep on praying too, even harder. Woman you are a super hero..❤❤❤
You are alone, My ex went from an involved father to a non-existent father. Yesterday our 8-year-old was asking me what his father looks like. I showed him the picture of his father and the way my son looked at that Photo. Our Firstborn is 24, Middles 19 and the baby 8 and he has no contact and does not even maintain the two because the 19-year-old is in college. A lot of women are going through this pain.
So Glad to watch this, I've been avoiding it because I saw it's gonna make me so emotional. Started by praying and trusting in God to make me strong for this episode. I came to the end of it but crying all the way. God is with us as South African Women. cc abantwana, your family and yourself nizoba right in life, don't be shy to share your story and struggles. We hope to assist where we could. We are all born to be great, and you'll be greater. ❤❤❤❤
Us as mothers needs to teach our daughters that men are not nice or good human beings there for be independent....work for yourself....love yourself and by all means love yourself first.....I pray that God will hold your hand and guide you at all times my love ❤ you're a strong beautiful woman ❤love you and keep well my darling ❤
When the time comes we will talk about how VENDA mother in laws are cruel and raise their sons to be “pseudo husbands “ because WTF. To be honest this lady’s husband was abusing her with his family. There’s no ways this guy will ever see peace in his life.
Babe. Limpopo men nje...My mom loved my granny aka her MIL cos she was treated like an egg mara Ive seen how limpopo mothers act like their sons are husbands...they never cut the cord. Its a pandemic at this point..
I highly recommend church my sister, a community of believers that will walk this journey with you and help you carry the cross. I wish you and your children healing!
Just to add my sister, please make it a point to forgive your ex husband. It might be difficult but ask God for strength to forgive him so that you can succeed in your ways. God has a beautiful plan for you my sister and this is not the end of your story!
Asnath I love you. I'm proud of you. I wish we can meet. During my interview with madam Speaker, I've realized that I really needed to speak about things I've went through. And after the podcast shooting I felt a sense of relief that I've never felt before. Yes I received negative comments from our fellow woman, but that made me even stronger. Madam Speaker you're doing a very great and excellent job by inviting woman we can relate too. May God give you strength not to get tired. See you at Soweto theatre ❤️❤️❤️
Asnathi, please go to Maintenance Court; you don’t need a lawyer. That money will come straight from his salary before it goes into his account. All the best and may God heal and uplift you ❤
You will do this life gal. Some of us are trying to rebuild again after being in similar situations like yours. Trust me you will get through this. Strength to you. You are in our prayers 🙏🏾
I pray a lot of women that worship broken marriage just in the name of the kids or the years gained may learn.....leaving a toxic relationship Is being strong even from cutting off from the engagement stage is strength....I left my marriage after being married for a year which felt like 50 years of misery and I told my self l would rather do this earlier than later and I wish cut off the bullshit from when I was engaged.
am literally in tears right now, you so beautiful Asnath, very humble bbs. you not alone my angel. don't give up sis❤this is your beginning with your 3 angels be strong for them and you got this 🤍
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I love how madam speaker doesn’t interrupt her guests. Asnath is a really a strong woman
Thank you so much
I love her for that 🥰
Right,that’s the reason I look forward to her podcast 🙌🏽
Me too she’s therapeutic 👌🤞🤞
Oh yes!!
The only time she broke down was for her kids and not the man. My heart broke. May God take her where she needs to be❤
I saw that 😭💔
It hit hard
She needs to realise that her husband has been violating her niece since she was a school girl age 12 or 13 in the 6th grade. But she still talks about her niece as the other woman rather than a victim of her husband.
@@lilirose1865 ohh you don't know us baby you don't know the us ama2ks we envy at a very young age but it could be what you're saying kodwa fear ama2000 nana
@@lilirose1865she isn't a victim the young girl..she encouraged it kanjalo nje....if the husband approached her at that age she should have told her mom n her aunt klaar...
Please! Can we vote for the guest speaker of the year , its Asnath, her articulation, delivery, emotion is on point, the year hasn't ended and I believe she is. She is a natural born narrator.
Love and light to you sis ❤
100%
Oh yes she gets my vote ❤
Yoh a lady this one... learned.
She is natural indeed I love here she got lots of joke oooh at the same time continue sharing queen 👑 ❤
She is the best guest speaker 🎉🎉
Can we just mention just how beautiful Asnathi is😍
And very well spoken
She is very beautiful hle ❤️❤️❤️
Yerrrrr o montle this lady
I am literally saying it out loud, "Umuhle kodwa"
She’s stunning
The number one Narcissists enabler is the mother for a son.
Exactly
Its actually the woman in the relationship with the narcissist whom is the enabler
Worst ppl ever those ones biggest enablers of chauviniztic behavior... Mncmm
An asshole if note
That is 💯
*marriage does not change a person, it amplifies their character and morals*
I believe you here.
True I heard that from my therapist
True
Very correct
Because after the 1st ordeal of finding her boyfriend with a girl & STILL accepted lobola & stuff, she knew exactly what she was signing up for.
The minute she broke down! After narrated her story as a brave woman, i shed a tear. We are going through a lot 😢
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Going through a lot sheim, believe me.🤞
Rubbish
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Phephi Sesi..it will be Okay..You haveaGod that listens.. The father must maintain the Kids. That must HAPPEN..🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💖💖
Used to work with her, what a humble Nurse and human being, always loving and friendly, used to see the husband fetching her and you could see his a jealous boy friend by then and that how you see that a man is a naughty person in most cases. God bless her and heal her broken heart.
What ever red flags 🚩 you see during the dating phase, it multiplies 3x more when married
10 x I always say and shall make u crazy
Your mother inlaw destroyed your marriage 😢..may the good lord punish her for her sins
Where you married before?
You can say that again
Kabisaaaaaaa
Rule number 5: *Never love too deeply until you make sure that the other person loves you with the same depth. The depth of your love today is the depth of your wound tomorrow*
It was her first love, thats where the problem was. Women always stay for things because they love the first boyfriend with everything. Especially when there's kids involved
Period!!! 👏🏼👏🏼
lol but love is hard to quantify. And sometimes our heart breaks as a result of our trauma. We may be loving from a place of trauma therefore not loving ourselves. I’ve never seen somebody successfully managing how much or how little they love.
There will be a time where women will say "Enough" and start putting themselves first. We can't allow men to waste our resources (time, money, wombs, dreams and goals, mental sanity and self) anymore we really cannot its too expensive a price to pay.
I wish that I could like this comment a hundred times.
This is why the Korean women started the 4B movement 😢😢😢😢.
@bokamosomcephe2965 its slowly going to infiltrate the whole world its only a matter of time. And you will see these men will throw tantrums or become more violent. The birth rate in Korea is so low that day care centres are closing and they are trying to give benefits in order for women to give birth but the women are saying andizi
Amen 🙏
Louder because most of her misery was because she didn’t have self love
You are strong my sister❤
I'm in tears. My niece had an affair with my boyfriend (baby daddy) while she was staying with me. She would leave my place and go to baby daddy for days, come back and life continued(because i didn't know). The day i found out,I broke up with baby daddy, she moved in with him, she packed her clothes and left while i was at work. I was not ok, i even went for counselling. I loved my niece, she was like my baby sister.
They had a child. Baby daddy passed on September 2023. Niece moved back to her parent's house after the guy passed on. My sister and i are ok,but i don't go to her house because i don't want to see my niece. It still hurts.
Tjooo I am so sorry Mommy 😢🫂
😢😢yooo it's too much I'm so sorry sis
So sorry about this sis,its alot! It will get better. Sending love
I never thought people do these things yaz. Uxolo sthandwa sam❤😢❤
@@botshelotong6403 thank you
The more I see these stories, the more I am learning that men are not everything and I must learn not to put men on pedestal they don't deserve, I hope things will work out for her and I know it will..God bless... sisi Perseverance you are doing a great job Makukhanye.
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Never ever put anyone on a pedestal...!!! Put you instead... Love yourself, empower, advance you...!!! Guard your peace & sanity... Anyone that you allow to come into your life must make a deposit... bring value and never deduct nor reduce any aspect of you...!!! Amen!
First learn to LOVE YOURSELF
Too many red flags,i pray when i get married one day to respect my wife n loved her wholeheartedly, never cheat to her
True man😢❤
U a the man, big up to u
If your a prayerful person. Pray about your character and ask God to help you .
Too many man💔, I don't know how these ningaz get these powerful women and just waste them like that. Ngoku thina sisaba thandazelayo abafazi abanje.
yazi abazi uba sithandaza every day to get that specification in order ,kubekho aba abamoshayo .When we good we should acknowledge,kodwa xa simoshayo we should call each other into order,cos we raising destroyed kids .This is so sad r@@avelamki7055
This lady is well spoken,and so beautiful.May the lord see her through.
When she said, “a man who has loved you your whole life can wreck you”, I felt it! I was there, and you will be fine my dear. You are stronger than you think, you will rise above the situation. And one day, he’ll come begging. He will regret this, you can count on that!
She will be fine ❤❤
I was told I will never amount to anything
I am from a poor family
The guy mocked me. As I speak am an auditor and am happily in love...my sister said use prevention mma. I don't trust this guy. That hit me so hard. He dated everything that he saw. When he was done with me he sent me out 😂😂. I was sad but I am so glad he did. She will be ok❤
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Based on the story she narrated, this man never loved her or maybe he did at some point but it was actually her who loved him with her whole life. The ex husband also seemed like a mama's boy but anyway I'm happy she is finally choosing herself this time around
Sometimes you will even question if someone ever loved you 😢
i left 16 years ago even today he has never saw a reason to apologise if we did not have a daughter he wouldnt even exist in my life but because of her i try to be civil
I went to the same primary with her, she was and still is a very calm person, hugs babes🫂🫂🫂
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She is so down to earth,I don't know her, but I love her energy ❤😊
You are not alone cc, I was left with three children as an Intern then with no shelter but now God blessed me. Cry to God to carry you through
Thank you for sharing ❤ I don't feel any guilt of not wanting children in this marriage
Esnath you are a very strong young lady this will come to pass God is with you His light will shine upon you
She breaks my heart when she starts talking about her kids.....it's not easy being a mom I tell you❤🎉
Our daddy did the same to us.. we were a laughing stock in our community bt quess what I’m now an artisan, my brother is a mining engineer and last born is doing his final year at varsity. We are all successful nd having our own things.. be strong ur kids will grow ❤
I'm so happy for you guys. I guess the trauma from childhood prompted you to NEVER do the things your dad did.
I feel like the lady is as powerful as madam speaker ❤❤....2 beautiful ladies in one room
A man can destroy you more than the devil can😢
Yey say that again atleast we know the devil and snake can harm us but human beings. I fear.
@@nontsikelelonoruwanahealth8035 too bad. Extremely bad.
Men can be very cruel, love yourself. Be selfish, I went through this hell, 40 years ago. Go to church, God carried me all these years. I have 2 sons who are young adults now. God will carry you through all this, you just need to down grade. The children grow so fast. Thank God that you have a job and support. He will get his day, karma never forgets the address. Strength to you my sister.
Yrue
@kgadiaphane177 some people are so evil 😢
My dad did the same thing to my mom,left her with 3 children and we had to go back to Riverpark. It was hard to downgrade but we survived. You will be fine 🫂
You are sweet
Downgrading is a bold step towards moving on.
I can relate.🫂
She’s not alone ….i went thru almost the same situation Nkulunkulu amuhle Nkulunkulu blessed me with a beautiful work my daughter is attending a good private school I bought a car and building my daughters home in the other hand guy lost his good job and he lost his house and all cars and now living on the streets…..Don’t forget God cc in your struggles uThixo ukhona 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
For 4 years you supported him and never once called him a parasite. I am so mad on your behalf! Love and light to you, your kids and your sisters. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Partners dont call each other parasites, thats rude of you
@@avuazahc1966you sound like one! Why are you triggered!
That man should not be trusted around minors, he’s a predator
He must get arrested just like this pastor who is trending!! Yooo plus he is not supporting the children.
Trust, ne he needs be be charged and arrested.
Don't trust one side of a story next time
@@jospatmutandwa6636What could she have done for a man to sleep with a minor, he's a predator.
My cousin's husband tried to get me to bed with him. He was totally pants down and I refused. Thank God for that.
She tells her story so eloquently with such grace. I wish you peace Mommy. ❤
She was married to her enemy 😢😢😢
Exactly
Deep.
Women tend to be more attached to men who are toxic to them. Ya'll get bored with good guys
You are very right
This lady has opened a lot of wounds for other women. Story of my life. Stay strong sis.❤❤
Yohh I found myself crying at the end when she said "I don't know what I did to him so bad". You didn't do anything Asi, that man never loved you and hence the horrible treatment. He loved the idea of the comfortable life he had, just not with you. You are going to be fine with the kids, oska wara. God will definitely see you through this storm. He's going to change those lemons you sucked all this years into a sweet lemonade. Trust in Him, O tla bona. All the love to you and the kids sisi❤️❤️❤️
"I don't know what I did to him so bad"
I will tell you. You cheated by taking revenge. You made yourself something that is like him. You demeaned yourself. You showed that you're not better than him, that the two of you are the same kind of human beings: untrustworthy, uncommitted, gutter people. He sleeps with his niece and other women and looks in the mirror and doesn't like the man he sees. Now he looks at you and sees himself: the person he is running away from. You are not better than him.
My take: Do not let anyone make you what you are not. Always maintain your standard and integrity because in the end they will speak for you. Even if they parted ways, he would have so much respect for her because she is a better person, and would try to please her from a distance. See how a 3 months fling brought the lowest points in her life to the whole world, crying on camera. That's lower than lowest. Not that it matters in this age and time, men have evolved (I dare say genetically evolved) to look for and stay with a woman who is a better person than he is. He wants that to rub off on him.
He is a narcissist off the mom
@@greatergodage5219🎯🎯🎯 truth of the truths, as a woman you don't cheat on a man, they don't want that, if they claim to forgive you, they'll frustrate u coz it's not his nature to forgive a lady Fr cheating(it destroys his ego) hence the abuse nd him wanting a DNA test.
A woman's biggest protection is fidelity, no man can tell you sh*t if you've always be loyal to him and he can literally do anything fr you.
I love her, such a great story teller and she is so beautiful.
I am glued.
Glad you enjoyed it!
I love her, she’s fun 😅and jolly
you can say it again.shes pretty
Very beautiful
Hi Asnath, the word of God says “a living dog is better than a dead lion” as long as you are still alive nwana wa hashu,something great will come out from you. Keep on praying for the Almighty God to strengthen you and live for your children. I will also put you in my prayer. With God everything is possible. There is still hope
5 years ago I needed someone to hold me like that and tell me those words of encouragement.😢😢 I fought the battle all alone.
😢Sorry sisi. Stories like this, just tear me deep! You know when she said "He kept on saying I'm a parasite" 😭 That's what I'm hearing as well😭😭
When you thought you were alone God was always with you sis.
I want to cry, hearing this sad story. BUT GOD!! GOD Will restore what the canker worm has eaten. GOD will wash away your tears, young lady.
His mom will beg your forgiveness on her death bed and he will be calling on you to take care of him, soon... I pray for you dear.
I have been through alot. BUT GOD!! You will laugh again!
GOD bless you and your children exceedingly and abundantly.
Will be praying and thinking of you... You are Beautiful ❤️🌺🌿
I know her very well she's a nurse from the clinic I used to attend while I was pregnant so humble
Asnath's story is a story of many other women. So relatable but once you move on so many doors and windows open. There is so much peace without toxicity.
This woman is strong. She did not cry all thru her story, only whn she talked about her kids, she lost it. Now thats being a woman. I really love the advice given by the host. Madam Speaker you are wise❤. I was told i was not the 1st and the last woman to start from scratch. Women hv been doing it. Asnathi is going to make❤
I have a son and i pray for wisdom to raise a better man😢....may i be a truthful mom and never allow my son to destroy another woman's daughter ❤
You are beautiful and u will heal trust me😊.....
But yoooo this is painful 😣
I will also keep her in my prayers because I was kicked out my home by my husband and his mom last year. I'm unemployed and had to move back home with 2 kid's. I've had to start from 0 zero!!!
I keep going because of GOD and children.
Wishing you the best ❤
Trust God everything will be ok
Sending love😢❤ I pray you get a job🙏
Why is thqt house still standing? 🔥🔥
Yoh, I saw my mother in law do this to my husband's brother's wife. So bad and the husband was like he never knew her, just kept quiet 😢. So sad. She also don't like me😊
I’m watching in my TV but I needed to come here and like this video, the host is an angel for allowing her guests to speak!
The way i was laughing when she narrates her story, at the end i was crying... I love you Asnath❤
Bro🥹🥹 same here man u know all this time ngithi she’s strong but eix💔💔💔
As young man I'm really disappointed💔for what our brothers are teaching us.. I can see now that our brothers are cowards and selfish🚮what shame as man.
You can say that again they are even showing their sons so it's a never ending cycle
@@busisiwemichelle5391how can u jss leave ur children jst like that..
Noble young man. Learn and choose the right woman do the right thing and respect your family. Keep it up❤❤❤
I feel like the mother is the cause of all this chaos
@@sihlendwandwe5777everything is blamed on women 😢 we're even used to that now
I learned the fact that we shouodn’t ignore red flags from the beginning
It hard to do when u are loving tht person
Me too
Red flags were even dripping blood but she just kept going.loving someone is a complicated matter.😮
Dont forget she threw bricks in cars and nearly killed a dog out of anger. And yall find it funny
Patricia.. very true
@@robbylebotha At least she admitted she did but check yourself. Are you one of those prideful men who treat women with such disgrace or commit sins too shameful to even talk about but here trying to put down a woman who lashed back at those who wrongly and wickedly hurt her?
When do these people with so much love give this same love to themselves?
How can the niece be blamed when she was a CHILD? This man took advantage of her. He was responsible not the niece. 😢 Sad
I'm suprised people keep saying a affair, sounds like rape
@@retsebilemalele1715 Exactly 💯
It's wanting someone's life that lead people to and young woman to a devil's world. She wanted her Aunties life.
She should have said something.. not innocent here. What is the worst that could have happened to her to speak out??!!
@@angiebaks2859She wanted her aunties life
Asnath, you are so beautiful and ambitious and nothing will stop you. Step on those hurdles and make them your platform. You are such a strong young lady.
Take Him to court. He must deal with the law.
Tht what am thinking
How? Please elaborate
Love and light to you mama🙏🏾🙏🏾 …my biggest takeaway from this is as women we need to learn to love ourselves and take accountability for the role we play in our own suffering
"take accountability for the role we play in our own suffering..."
I hate how they handled the niece. She was a victim of grooming and sexual abuse. He groomed a child, he’s a paedophile and a rapist. How tf can a child in grade 8 consent to a full grown man?! Disgusting behaviour, he’s scum of the earth and the family failed to protect that girl. She needed protection and he needed to go to jail for statutory rape.
That part broke my heart. They failed that girl - she was 13/14 when it started 💔. A child. Little girls are not safe anywhere, even with their families.
@@DM135__Exactly! She was a baby being groomed by this evil man. I hope she heals and finds peace and also knows that it wasn’t her fault💔
I concur, I hope she can forgive her cause she was also a victim❤
Same thing I said. How can you make the niece the villain?!! The husband is a pedo
We need a part 2 please, you are a strong woman, kids know and sometimes they can't express themselves cause they don't know what words to use......
When u said the youngest could notice u were not ok. As a mom this made me realize It's better I leave now, 1 baby, my career just starting out, so that I am a happy and a healthy mom for my son❤❤❤ aaaarh as a mom I am soooo sorry u had to go through this. You can start over and be the best version of urself as an independent woman, mom❤
A man like that should not be trust with children be very careful be strong for your children
I was going to say the same thing, what he did to her niece is rape since she was still a minor. He took advantage of her, her niece is like her own child. What is stopping him from doing the same to his kids.
Exactly what I thought.
Madam speaker those words of encouragement at the end was something else❤you deserve your flowers girl
If theres a Podcaster who knows how to ask relevant questions ... Madam Speaker! 🎉🎉
Thank you so much
God is nooot a fool. We will all pay for the things we do to people. I love that the mother in law has daughters. That's exactly where the karma will hit her. God will pull through for you mama. Your kids' tears will find justice my dear. You are still young.
So touching, God will take care of you and the children. He'll come back begging but it will be too late. You deserve a better life and family for the kids. God bless u
Galatians 6:7 is the scripture that relates to your post .
Madam Speaker!!! Here here!! I felt it when you held her hand in yours. We cannot give up. Some of us are cutting and chopping through. This man will suffer!! Do not worry Asnathi!!!
Sis! Gather up strength to go to family court! God is with you. He will NEVER leave you nor forsake you!
Why is he not paying child support, take him to court. Fight for a better life for your kids, he can't be enjoying life & the children are suffering.
Yebo
The marriage should have been never took place😢
It's late for that
@@MMAJWALASOOTHO
We know
We are just saying the facts
She forced it and she got what wanted, a HUSBAND
@@Lelough_ true😔
She is a funny story teller, a brave woman, until she breaks down for her kids😭😭😭 God is with you Asnath❤❤you will be fine
While watching, at some point I started jubilating because I could see that wena Asnath, you, are the hero of all the times.
Continue praying, continue being strong, continue the fight at the forefront. Our good Lord Jesus Christ will never leave you. Very soon, I repeat very soon some people somewhere will openly envy you. You are blessed. You have your family that loved you even before the foundation of the earth was laid down and on top of aaall these, you have Jesus. You children are the everlasting blessing.
LOTS AND LOTS OF LOVE FROM TANZANIA!
This woman has beautiful skin and smile. This life is hard for many people through no fault of their own. God bless Madam Speaker! 🙏🙏🙏
I love the fact that she has her lovely and supportive sisters❤oh my God I can imagine the love. That's what gives her more strength. I wish I had one like hers. Take heart sisi nxase❤❤❤
Women go through alot, we are lovers by nature, we give in... This remind me of me relocating to where my boyfriend was and the first message I receive when I landed to where he was, was that it won't work😂😂😂😂🤦 imagine he was supposed to pick me up 🤭 you will heal my dear, you will be okay🥰🥰 his day is coming 🌹 stay strong and love yourself whole heartedly
That niece of your will never have it all, Be grateful that u got out alive, some dey don't get de chance see another day or even raise their kids...u are a very brave and strong women.
As a man I really don't understand men who abandon their children, even when you don't get along with their mother, you must always support and be there for your kids. It's a shame that there are men who do not want to be part of their children's lives while the mothers desperately want them to be involved in their children's lives. There's men out there who are fighting to be in their children's lives but they are denied that right nxa.
Asnathi lovey, I knew that seeing your face I know u from somewhere, u such a bubbly person even at your work place u always smiling with this heavy situation my love, u r a strong woman God strengthen u nd stay humble as u r, you r loved... Full of emotions yhooo😭😭❤️
This story is just wrong on every level! She ignored all of his red flags. I thank God she was able to get out of this nightmare, she’s beautiful and I know that God Will restore everything that happened to her🌻💕🙏
The relationship was just a red flag as a whole
😭😭😭😭😪😪😪Yooh I hope this guy never finds peace sham cause it’s sick that he is out there having the time of his life while 4 people are suffering cause of him 😢Yooh I pray this lady finds peace and the strength to conquer this hey.
Trust me... It will start with him loosing his job... Then he will remember he has a family...
Sis 😰
A man that you've love your whole life will wreck you especially if that was your 1st love. What makes things worse is you persevering in the hope that "things will get better". You work your butt off building a family, you love him, his parents, siblings & relatives more than your own. Every affair you find out about, you forgive & soon another will surface. Unfortunately, (as much as everyone will be trying to convince you that this is not working) it is only you that will make a decision to leave. You definitely will cry for a long time BUT time will come whereby you'll be narrating the story as if it happened to someone else. At that time you'll be saying "Thanks God for taking me out of that". As a mother you have no choice but to be strong for your kids. Channel all that love to them & only them. ❤❤❤❤
Self esteem and self respect is so very important in this life. Being so desperate for love wont get you anywhere in this life.
Wow...such a beautiful articulated lady...you are wise and knowledgeable beyong your years..stay strong...you'll rise from ashes...you saved your kids by moving out of that house so you can reach your destiny..now is your time to rise...go and make the world a better place..you have soo much to offer..great lady..you are going to make it big out there ..God bless ...praying for you.
The puppy part made me laugh so hard and stopped sympathising 😂😂😂😂 but when she continued from there she made me cry 😢😢God restore the years that the locusts has stolen from her like you did Joel 2 :20 -22
The puppy situation made me laugh too😂
I am in a very similar situation. These podcasts are my therapy. On the part that breaks Asnath about the man severing ties with his children in every form, I can identify. It used to make me ask myself questions to which I didn't have answers until one day I came across this quote. " A narcissist will never co-parent with you. They will counter parent. They don't care about the emotional damage that the constant drama inflicts upon the children as long as it causes emotional drama to you."
This is wise!!
U actually took me back and u know what!! After all the struggle and the pain ,I achieved so much in my life after the divorce and I know u going to make it,with God by your side.Keep on praying,prayer is so powerful and will pray for u aswell My dear,so touched,your kids and yourself don't deserve all of that.
I've lost count of how many times I watched this episode bathong this lady is so smart and outspoken I love her❤
The best guest ever, the Pablo part killed me 😂😂😂😂😂
I'm sorry about her marriage though❤
😂😂😂 Pablo was just at wrong place at the wrong time.
At 1h15min, she mentioned she doesn’t go to church but she prays now… I recommend to start attending church and find comfort in the community. It helps
A lot GOD will heal her and she and her kids will be just fine 😢
Chruch is toxic
Do u think if she was in a chruch community they would advise her not to leave?
I dont think church helps with most matters. It's kinda like family. You will be lucky to get help without being a hot topic of some sort.
Let her do what works for her. Church is not always the solution.
Church is where they laugh at women who are divorced. Church is where women are manipulated to stay in abusive relationships while praying for men who are not praying for themselves.
The niece was just a baby💔
I’m asking myself if he can be trusted with his own daughters 🥴
I was just thinking the same. How can the niece be blamed when she was a CHILD when this man took advantage of her. He was responsible not the niece. 😢 Sad
Actually this was child abuse . Her husband sexually molested this child . This is so sad for the niece , the poor girl was raped at such a young age . May God help the niece and heal her .
Yes the baby was groomed 😭😭
The mother in law has always hated you. Don't stress about regrets it's made you a stronger woman and mum. The mental abuse has been crazy from the start. All you did was love an unlovable selfish cheat. Don't blame yourself. Your children are your blessings, and they will make you proud. Trust God trust what is happening
I was sleepy, I thought I was going to skip this conversation to find juicy parts. Ohhhhhh my God 😢😢😢😢. I am listening to every word
😂😂😂😂Pablo oh my God i love your guest she is a good story teller
Very sad story though very touching the kids will be fine my ccta must go for mantainance
😂😂😂Pablo ke stress, Her story telling is on another level.
Not pablo catching the smoke 😂😂😂😂
@@leboganglekgoathi1560 😂😂😂Where was he going le yena
They actually love us to our death, nothing else. Too many of our sisters died bcos of the phrase "I Love You". They died, they hv bn buried. Be strong my sis, life will work itself out while they are growing up. As for stock-sweet, those who has it in their mouth forget that it's getting finished. I promise you, one day will be one day.
Wow I’m already saying she is strong woman of God💕🌻🙏
Indeed she’s strong
I suspect the mother is behind him moving on, karma is relocating him, watch de space.
Definitely the mother
True
This was my suspension as well. A very horrible mother of tou ask me.
Definitely
Yes de mother in law knows a lot,she's not enough with the husband but y is she doing ths to his son
I want to hear your story after 5 years again.. You are strong woman I know this too shall pass and you will prosper.. Revenge with success, start them make up companies and cook as much as you can and others, you got this..Keep on praying too, even harder. Woman you are a super hero..❤❤❤
He even robbed the children of health insurance wow!!
Madam Speaker that monologue at the end, I cried😢😢
I love how u held her hand madam 😭
I cried 🥹
You are alone, My ex went from an involved father to a non-existent father. Yesterday our 8-year-old was asking me what his father looks like. I showed him the picture of his father and the way my son looked at that Photo. Our Firstborn is 24, Middles 19 and the baby 8 and he has no contact and does not even maintain the two because the 19-year-old is in college. A lot of women are going through this pain.
So Glad to watch this, I've been avoiding it because I saw it's gonna make me so emotional. Started by praying and trusting in God to make me strong for this episode. I came to the end of it but crying all the way. God is with us as South African Women. cc abantwana, your family and yourself nizoba right in life, don't be shy to share your story and struggles. We hope to assist where we could.
We are all born to be great, and you'll be greater. ❤❤❤❤
Us as mothers needs to teach our daughters that men are not nice or good human beings there for be independent....work for yourself....love yourself and by all means love yourself first.....I pray that God will hold your hand and guide you at all times my love ❤ you're a strong beautiful woman ❤love you and keep well my darling ❤
When the time comes we will talk about how VENDA mother in laws are cruel and raise their sons to be “pseudo husbands “ because WTF. To be honest this lady’s husband was abusing her with his family.
There’s no ways this guy will ever see peace in his life.
I just fear for the girl he will remarry
@@dineochokoe9532 eix you know especially since we still live in a patriachal society.
Babe. Limpopo men nje...My mom loved my granny aka her MIL cos she was treated like an egg mara Ive seen how limpopo mothers act like their sons are husbands...they never cut the cord. Its a pandemic at this point..
Women raise their daughters to be wives but not their sons to be husbands!
Toxic!!!
Thank you for saying this cos when we do they say we are lying
I highly recommend church my sister, a community of believers that will walk this journey with you and help you carry the cross. I wish you and your children healing!
True
Just to add my sister, please make it a point to forgive your ex husband. It might be difficult but ask God for strength to forgive him so that you can succeed in your ways. God has a beautiful plan for you my sister and this is not the end of your story!
Asnath I love you. I'm proud of you. I wish we can meet. During my interview with madam Speaker, I've realized that I really needed to speak about things I've went through. And after the podcast shooting I felt a sense of relief that I've never felt before. Yes I received negative comments from our fellow woman, but that made me even stronger. Madam Speaker you're doing a very great and excellent job by inviting woman we can relate too. May God give you strength not to get tired. See you at Soweto theatre ❤️❤️❤️
How do i get hold of you
I am so sorry. I saw your interview, Musa. May God bless you and your children
@@Asnathmatheba Thank you for sharing . May God bless you and your children
@@Asnathmatheba❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@Asnathmatheba ❤❤❤
Asnathi, please go to Maintenance Court; you don’t need a lawyer. That money will come straight from his salary before it goes into his account. All the best and may God heal and uplift you ❤
My sister I’ve been there keep pushing one day you’ll look back and say it can only be God,indeed you are not alone and you are loved❤️❤️❤️
You will do this life gal. Some of us are trying to rebuild again after being in similar situations like yours. Trust me you will get through this. Strength to you. You are in our prayers 🙏🏾
I pray a lot of women that worship broken marriage just in the name of the kids or the years gained may learn.....leaving a toxic relationship Is being strong even from cutting off from the engagement stage is strength....I left my marriage after being married for a year which felt like 50 years of misery and I told my self l would rather do this earlier than later and I wish cut off the bullshit from when I was engaged.
I did the same early n never regret it coz wow that guy was going to drown me in pain for my entire life
May his sister marry into the family that will treat her like her mom treated you. May he find his match. May God heal and bless you.
am literally in tears right now, you so beautiful Asnath, very humble bbs. you not alone my angel. don't give up sis❤this is your beginning with your 3 angels be strong for them and you got this 🤍
Im just amazed as to how I relate to Asnath's story. Giving up is not an option Queen!!
Couldn't wait to hear this story. I think he is bitter cos he never thought you would eventually burst him. Kerp strong gal. God will heal you