The poor kid suffered. Sometimes its okay to be a single parent guys. Being with the dad doesn't mean the child will be happy and not being with him doesn't mean the child won't be happy.
@@LM-he7eb COMMENT WITH INSULTING WORDS WONT MAKE YOU GRATER, HERE WE ARE SHARING THE THINGS THAT WE WENT THROUGH. SOMETIMES THERAPY IS NOT FOR ALL OF US.
I think if Bassy start a movement called Friends of Bassy, I'll join to put pressure on UN women desk which South African women heading it to check how can we sanction that country. This is GBV at its worst shape and can't just be left, Perseverance. The whole world should be against GBVF because women from all these countries are somehow experiencing 💔
@@moedermolatlhiwa4475 hey my molatlhiwa that sounds like a great idea, it would help so many of our sisters that are that side and still going through what I went through, but I don’t know how to go about it
The UN is useless,ruled by governments and governments don’t care about their people only their interests,the UN can’t even Sanction Israel months into the atrocities and the loss of so many lives in their hands.
The first thing one can do in a foreign country. Help yourself by learning the language as possible, it will save you a whole lot, trust me. It makes the whole experience a bit bearable, you will be able to advocate for yourself and no matter how much they hate us , they respect someone who speaks their language. They are offended by us for not speaking their native language in the their own land. Basetsana be proud of the fact that you had money to move around and look after yourself. You are a mbhokodo love 🤗
Yhooo this experience is heartbreaking, thinking how our country shows ubuntu towards them😢😢😢 this is also scary and an eye opener for us to think twice before we go overboard. I pray for Bassie and her son to get justice and healing ❤🙏
Ladies...what she went through happens more than we can imagine. I would advise that: DO NOT go to his country with him as a newly wed excited about coming here. Date for at least three years, visit once or twice to check him out, his friends and living situation. Thereafter, introduce him to your own network which you MUST at least have prior to coming. And...please when people see red flags..dont dismiss it.
I always tell my husband he is lucky he came to SA for the first 5 years of our marriage, because if I lived in his country first we would be divorced in a few months. His people are mean people
How i wish she could have listened to the friends of this evil man when they told her about this man in south africa or at least move out when she saw the red flags. Nana may God heal and bless you and your baby. You are a strong beautiful young intelligent girl, God will send you a good husband who will treat you like a queen one day just pray for your healing and wait on the lord my girl.
It is important to acknowledge that individuals possess diverse perspectives, which may differ from our own. These variations can be attributed to societal backgrounds and upbringing. If you encounter a negative or judgmental comment, it is advisable to ignore them and pass.
Sis Perseverance, thank you for holding space for us women to be comfortable enough to share such stories. Emotionally I know it might drain you but you keep on. This is you sharing experiences from women from all works of life. I could hold my tears feeling for both of you.
The likes of Moldova, Belarus, etc, are the poverty-stricken ones due to being outside the EU. The likes of Estonia, Latvia, Czech Republic etc are doing very well & their economies & standard of living are way better than most countries.
You can even be abused by the same man who is from the same country, province,village 😢so this lady yes somewhere the red flags were there...but because she was hoping for better she continued to travel back...people must stop saying nasty comments....we are living in a cruel world...😢
Sorry my sister - what matters is that you are back home, Just find time to speak to someone professional, this expereince has traumatize you and you are still hurting, even when you narrating now you have a bit of trauma. May God give you stregnth.
The lady at the embassy should be dealt with as well….they should be our saviours or rather intervene to assist us “hence why they are there”. One other thing; the officers didnt even wish to accomodate her, where was ubuntu?? This is sad guys😢😢😢
@@charlottenxumalo9092they should have made their own investigation, especially that he took her identification card and other personal things. They are there to assist SA citizens
@@sibongilengini4623i understand it very well because thats part of my job…i know all about foreign affairs. I know what im talking about, the dos and don’ts as a foreign affairs officer
@@charlottenxumalo9092we mostly definitely can and do blame that particular woman who this young lady spoke to! She clearly believed the allegations that were made to her about the young lady, which is absolutely ridiculous!
My fellow sisters, I am a South African based in the Nordics. My sister dated a eastern eu Guy. I told her to run. Do not bet on Eastern Europe people. Rasisim is baaddddd. Dont send your kids to eastern europe is rasist. Our international embassy’s are not there for us. Wish you and your well.
I used to work for a well known eu airline and used to tell our African sisters rather make life in Africa than coming to EU. Its tough out hear. UK is the ghetto
This is a very sad story. It's my first time to see Madam Speaker so devastated and speechless. I feel sorry for this beautiful young woman for going through this horror. I can imagine the trauma she went through, but thanks to God for making it possible for her and her son to get back home.
What you went through is so sad😢. Being in a foreign country can be traumatic especially if there is no one you know there. Thank the Almighty God for protecting you and now you are safe home with your loved ones. If you dont win this battle just give it to God and let his wrath to deal with them. Fight for your healing and live for your son. Please join therapy and find your healing to put this behind you. Its clear Croatians fight for one another. For that your husband did not even have empathy to fight for his family and be there for you when you needed him most. Just leave them as they are they will answer to God. All the best my sister. Sending you hugs 🫂 ❤
I think she really loved him besides her wanting a family for her son she was in love and its really hard to leave abusive relationships because of all the manipulation involved
Bassy may not get justice. Navigating the justice system of another country is very difficult. It is victory that she and her son are alive. It is victory that she was resourceful enough to pay her way back home.
Can this lady stop home please, because some countries still have racism & people are getting killed. Try to stay single love to have a peace of mind i just want this baby to just enjoy you alone as his mother he deserve to be happy bathong.God is giving you a chance to live please see it that way 🙏 a lot is happening abroad.
So sorry mommy, I wish I could do something. This is terrible and no human being should go through this experience. God will take you through this season. Be strong and have courage for your boy.
That embassy woman is what's wrong with the world and all negative and unsupportive women blaming the victim. Basetsana is very strong and her actions is what saved her and her son.She's a lioness and wish her all the best❤
@@LM-he7eb South African men are the best option for South African women. Always have been always will be. You must be in a relationship with a foreigner. Probably why you typed this nonsense.
South African government is falling us.and it is so painful. I am asking myself why.may be our government invested much outside sa.were by our lives don't matter
Dear Basi, I'm so sorry that you had to go such inhumane experience. May God give you strength to continue with this life and recover everything you have lost. Welcome home sis. Once again askies
I am utterly disgusted 😢 where he referred to his wife as monkey 🐵 I M soo sooooo angry 😡 I am so sorry to u Mama and your Son🙏🏻 May God give u Strenght , Peace and Healing 🩷🙏🏻😊
@@Thee740To think that they think we are uncivilised, and referring to us as monkeys, they are backward disrespectful animals. It’s actually an insult to animals animals don’t treat their own like this. I am sooo angry…the effing nerve of these people
Yhooooo 😭😭😭😭😭 this is so painful but this lady is strong betuna, you are a strong lady Nana and I'm happy you can breathe now and let of that out you are home and we love you so so much 🫂♥️♥️♥️♥️
Pls accept that u may not get the justice that u deserve but let God heal u, He will deal with them, as 4 the husband he will be dead soon, the police God will definitely let them taste their medicine, heal my dear, ur young and beautiful and a gud Mom, so pls pray God will not fail u. I'm touched en I'm happy ur safe.❤
If it's possible she should get justice. But then I believe God is able to heal . I almost cried bcz I went through abusive marriage at the same age . I was 28 when I became single mum
Thanks God you are now safe at home and I don't think you will get justice because even the police were not on your side because they refused to take your statements and even to consider them. Just take time to heal and focus on getting your son healed
You honestly need to go for counselling together with your son. I get you about getting justice but for the time being, please go for counselling for you and your son. You really need counselling
Getting justice will make her feel better about the situation but therapy will definitely help her make peace, release the anger and forgive herself and the perpetrators so definitely, if at all possible , she must push both. Good advice madam speaker and sending lots of love to Basi❤️❤️
After the previous comments, I don't think Bassie will comeback to the comment section. But, I hope she does. 1. 20:55 I love the realisation, it is maturity. Therapy will help you spot these things from afar and protect yourself against them. 2. 21:54 you were a prisoner of that dream. And needed to be freed from it. You now need to be freed from the dream of ever getting justice. 3. Therapy helps you realize the part you played in it. Not to cede them off their responsibility. But, to empower you to realize that this can only happen when you permit it, making you the authority of your destiny. You have no power to induce justice, you're once again putting yourself in a situation where you have no power
May the good Lord give you peace that surpasses ALL human understanding. Unfortunately for Us Christians... forgiveness it's an obligation. Forgive and move on. Karma never forgets the adress😭
I have a different take on this. You say the red flags were there and you ignored them. You went back to him twice after all the experiences with him. So at times, things became harder so we can leave and never look back because the universe has a better plan for us. Those people leave them to Karma it will show up for you. When it comes to your police experience am sure the South African police does the the same to foreigners too.
Bassie you are beautiful, strong and articulate! God will heal you. Love you Sis ❤This will be a great testimony in your life and that of your son, God will restore you!!!!!
These people literally dehumanized this lady, racists are so scary because it just doesn't make sense to me why the land lord did all this because he clearly doesn't like black people, he should have refused to give her shelter from the start maybe she would have gotten a different place to stay. It's the fact that he thought it was okay for you to live on a place that had a leaking shower maybe I'm an overthinker but he probably didn't see you as human enough to deserve a decent place to shower. I wish you had the strength to leave. I also wonder how your son is right now because it's honestly so traumatic to hear all this now imagine a small boy having to so it happened in time. I hope you heal as well and know that you don't deserve any of it, no one does. ❤
Ladies please let's stick to our own because exploring is dangerous especially in a foreign country alone definitely it was traumatizing know that we love you, forget about them you are safe here with your family to support you and take care of yourself and our little man ❤
Sorry baby girl pray for that one day you will get peace some of the situation are making you strong for the future sorry again sesi but it's good to cry you will get over this , n I like the fact that you were strong for your kid
Most South African embassies employed non south africans,those people have no empathy for us . I remember calling a embassy in Washington dc a phillipino guy that worked there was soo rude . I feel sorry for what she went through
Sorry about that , I lost my passport in Chicago last September but the guy I was talking to ko DC was so helpful he even sent forms on WhatsApp and assured me to relax his na is Siya , a Xhosa guy. And within a day I got my travelling documents
@@kabeloramavhoya5004 thank u , i wish they can employ more people from South Africa ,this year i got a very good service from embassy in new York , i was served by a South African lady 👍🏽
It’s South African dear they just incompetent. I lost my passport in Europe and it took them 6 months luckily I stay here but needed to replace it, they kept giving me a different dates, sometimes they will tell me they are about to close. . it’s bad trust me
Bassy we happy you are back home😢, such trauma is not good for your mental health, it possible that you won’t get justice but you can get one for your mental health 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
I'm few minutes in, didn't know his age but I immediately thought he had to be way older. It seems a bit common nowadays for old foreign men to prey on very young black African women by taking them abroad and abuse them all sorts of ways
@palesa_elisa and there is a lot of these stories where an African woman thinking they get love from other racial and it will be a happy ending. These men will either be alcoholic, drug user or being gamblers. These ladies now live to tell their stories😢
U are so out of line. You can get this abuse from SA man also. It doesn't matter which race. You make it as if marrying a white person is all bad. Look, you are so judgemental it's sickening.
Happy you got out in one piece physically, wishing you emotional healing. Please stop beating yourself, because no amount of research can protect a normal person from being a narcissist. You did nothing wrong. Sending hugs and love.
Just finished watching part 2 and the only thing lengijabulisile that time she laughed 🥺😘i hope you get the justice you want ❤love you bassie be strong baby girl
What happened to you is horrendous, to say the least. But you are a strong and beautiful young woman who has to pick herself up and become who/what she believes she can be. Good luck !!!
Pray about forgiveness God will help you and don't rush , it comes slowly ❤❤❤. From my own experience i can say give yourself time and go fir support groups it helped me 😊
I wish all those who like to insult single mums should hear this . What can one do in this situation if not to leave and stay single mum and safe. Dear lady don't worry time will heal . Some of us didn't even speak out our own stories but with time we got better ❤❤ God be with you and heal your heart🤗🤗🤗🤗
May God heal you and your son, I know it's difficult to forgive them but it's a start. You are doing it for yourself not for them. Thank God you are both still alive, it's still the grace of God that kept you alive God wanted you to tell your story to help other black women who are trap and don't have a voice in those countries.
The storm is over girl ♥️♥️♥️ welcome home 🤗
Exactly
You are loved here❤️❤️❤️
njeee
This guy failed you gorgeous. You look like a strong woman, you are definitely going to rise above this whole ordeal.
The poor kid suffered. Sometimes its okay to be a single parent guys. Being with the dad doesn't mean the child will be happy and not being with him doesn't mean the child won't be happy.
Amen. I think she was in denial that it was over
@@sekoaibis it my English u couldn’t understand or u just slow?
@@unmaskwithbasi8897it’s your English
@@sekoaib i figured, bless your heart.
So true
Those people who saw this lady struggle may God deal with them one by one. 😢😢😢
Amen
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Amen
Amen
We must also not worship them when they come to the continent.
The safe way to move on baby girl is under the blood of Jesus. He will give you peace that supercedes any understanding
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Justice you won’t get, but therapy can help you find closure! Worth trying….
Justice you will never get my lady.. Therapy to move on is what you must strive for
Therapy never really helps sometimes
@@NombuleloKhoathane If you're hard headed & getting therapy from a wrong person
@@LM-he7ebhard headed 😂😂😂
@@LM-he7eb COMMENT WITH INSULTING WORDS WONT MAKE YOU GRATER, HERE WE ARE SHARING THE THINGS THAT WE WENT THROUGH. SOMETIMES THERAPY IS NOT FOR ALL OF US.
Her voice says a lot she want to cry but she is trying by all means 😢😢😢
I'm seeing a movie coming out of this story, could also bring some justice .😢
U make me cry Bassie, m so sorry u went through this pain alone in that country, 😭😭😭
I think if Bassy start a movement called Friends of Bassy, I'll join to put pressure on UN women desk which South African women heading it to check how can we sanction that country. This is GBV at its worst shape and can't just be left, Perseverance. The whole world should be against GBVF because women from all these countries are somehow experiencing 💔
This is so sick, I totally agree with you
@@moedermolatlhiwa4475 hey my molatlhiwa that sounds like a great idea, it would help so many of our sisters that are that side and still going through what I went through, but I don’t know how to go about it
❤this is a good idea❤
The UN is useless,ruled by governments and governments don’t care about their people only their interests,the UN can’t even Sanction Israel months into the atrocities and the loss of so many lives in their hands.
I fully agree with you 😢
Cry my baby, you're slowing healing. I'm crying now. You didn't know. But now you know😢
I almost cried too bcz I remember went through bad moment at the same age 28 😢
But Gid is good ,she will heal ❤
The first thing one can do in a foreign country. Help yourself by learning the language as possible, it will save you a whole lot, trust me. It makes the whole experience a bit bearable, you will be able to advocate for yourself and no matter how much they hate us , they respect someone who speaks their language. They are offended by us for not speaking their native language in the their own land. Basetsana be proud of the fact that you had money to move around and look after yourself. You are a mbhokodo love 🤗
Thank you, your words are powerful!🫂🫂
Can Mr Clayton Monyela get a promotion please.
I've never seen such a strong women basetsane . ❤ welcome home 😇
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Yhooo this experience is heartbreaking, thinking how our country shows ubuntu towards them😢😢😢 this is also scary and an eye opener for us to think twice before we go overboard. I pray for Bassie and her son to get justice and healing ❤🙏
Ladies...what she went through happens more than we can imagine.
I would advise that: DO NOT go to his country with him as a newly wed excited about coming here.
Date for at least three years, visit once or twice to check him out, his friends and living situation.
Thereafter, introduce him to your own network which you MUST at least have prior to coming.
And...please when people see red flags..dont dismiss it.
I always tell my husband he is lucky he came to SA for the first 5 years of our marriage, because if I lived in his country first we would be divorced in a few months. His people are mean people
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How i wish she could have listened to the friends of this evil man when they told her about this man in south africa or at least move out when she saw the red flags. Nana may God heal and bless you and your baby. You are a strong beautiful young intelligent girl, God will send you a good husband who will treat you like a queen one day just pray for your healing and wait on the lord my girl.
Guys, if your soul tells you to be a judgemental snob, then don't watch this
So true😢
Judgemental snob
It is important to acknowledge that individuals possess diverse perspectives, which may differ from our own. These variations can be attributed to societal backgrounds and upbringing. If you encounter a negative or judgmental comment, it is advisable to ignore them and pass.
Sis Perseverance, thank you for holding space for us women to be comfortable enough to share such stories. Emotionally I know it might drain you but you keep on. This is you sharing experiences from women from all works of life. I could hold my tears feeling for both of you.
Forgot to mention. These Eastern Europe countries are bad, i mean poverty
Nowonder they so evil...poverty makes people nasty
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The likes of Moldova, Belarus, etc, are the poverty-stricken ones due to being outside the EU. The likes of Estonia, Latvia, Czech Republic etc are doing very well & their economies & standard of living are way better than most countries.
Extremely hey, racism too
That baby getting spooked by a flushing toilet💔💔 trauma
You can even be abused by the same man who is from the same country, province,village 😢so this lady yes somewhere the red flags were there...but because she was hoping for better she continued to travel back...people must stop saying nasty comments....we are living in a cruel world...😢
Now this girl is so brave many would have left their kid and move on.. She fought to be with her son ❤
All we have is our African brothers and sisters, Europeans never loved us.
The racism in SA is a constant reminder. We don't even have to leave the continent.
The lady from the embassy, she is only there for a salary, Botho doesn't register ,even if someone is a prostitute ,that person is human first.
The woman at the embassy, is she from RSA or Croatia?
Sorry my sister - what matters is that you are back home, Just find time to speak to someone professional, this expereince has traumatize you and you are still hurting, even when you narrating now you have a bit of trauma. May God give you stregnth.
Something has to be done about this it can’t be brushed under the carpet South African government do something please!!!!
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I'm I the only one chopping onion 😢😢😢😢. Wish you well in life my sister. God bless you ❤
Shuu Ive never cried like this en listening to this while at work
I am too. Its heartbreaking but Im glad she made it out alive together with her child. Some people are animal in human form.
Shes so well spoken and beautiful,life goes on mama you will be okay.We learn everyday,its painful but it shall come to pass.Virtual hugs 🫂 ❤
The lady at the embassy should be dealt with as well….they should be our saviours or rather intervene to assist us “hence why they are there”. One other thing; the officers didnt even wish to accomodate her, where was ubuntu?? This is sad guys😢😢😢
We can blame the embassy workers, but if the embassy has not made provision for these kinds of cases, what can the worker do?
@@charlottenxumalo9092they should have made their own investigation, especially that he took her identification card and other personal things. They are there to assist SA citizens
You must understand the job of the people at the embassy firstly before passing judgment. There are certainly cases which are beyond them .
@@sibongilengini4623i understand it very well because thats part of my job…i know all about foreign affairs. I know what im talking about, the dos and don’ts as a foreign affairs officer
@@charlottenxumalo9092we mostly definitely can and do blame that particular woman who this young lady spoke to! She clearly believed the allegations that were made to her about the young lady, which is absolutely ridiculous!
You are absolutely correct about the South African Embassy, they DO Not help! ... I have experienced this too.
My fellow sisters, I am a South African based in the Nordics. My sister dated a eastern eu Guy. I told her to run. Do not bet on Eastern Europe people. Rasisim is baaddddd. Dont send your kids to eastern europe is rasist. Our international embassy’s are not there for us. Wish you and your well.
Including Russia?
Yes
Dont go there, We are monkeys to them and with the ongoing war its bad
I used to work for a well known eu airline and used to tell our African sisters rather make life in Africa than coming to EU. Its tough out hear. UK is the ghetto
@@BUHLEBUZILE
You're so naive if you think that the Russian people like black Africans.
This is a very sad story. It's my first time to see Madam Speaker so devastated and speechless. I feel sorry for this beautiful young woman for going through this horror. I can imagine the trauma she went through, but thanks to God for making it possible for her and her son to get back home.
Love and light to you darling ♥️... May God gives you strength to be the best mom to your Son(hugs and kisses) 🥰🥰🥰
That husband is the worst 😢 this is honestly heartbreaking
What you went through is so sad😢. Being in a foreign country can be traumatic especially if there is no one you know there. Thank the Almighty God for protecting you and now you are safe home with your loved ones. If you dont win this battle just give it to God and let his wrath to deal with them. Fight for your healing and live for your son. Please join therapy and find your healing to put this behind you. Its clear Croatians fight for one another. For that your husband did not even have empathy to fight for his family and be there for you when you needed him most. Just leave them as they are they will answer to God. All the best my sister. Sending you hugs 🫂 ❤
I heard his done podcast with promise makunyane after our attack
I think she really loved him besides her wanting a family for her son she was in love and its really hard to leave abusive relationships because of all the manipulation involved
This guy never loved Bassie. 😢
Askies Bassy Thank God 4 protecting you
There are a lot of stories about Africans abused in that country(usually those who work as maids), it’s the culture of the people there.
It's sad shem I wish they stop going there
Especially arab countries 😢😢
Especially in those Arab countries
Makes you just side eye interracial relationships..
Big time!!!..hugely..
Yhoooo
This is just a bump in the road my dear God sees your tears and he is close to the broken hearted.
Bassy may not get justice. Navigating the justice system of another country is very difficult. It is victory that she and her son are alive. It is victory that she was resourceful enough to pay her way back home.
Can this lady stop home please, because some countries still have racism & people are getting killed. Try to stay single love to have a peace of mind i just want this baby to just enjoy you alone as his mother he deserve to be happy bathong.God is giving you a chance to live please see it that way 🙏 a lot is happening abroad.
So sorry mommy, I wish I could do something. This is terrible and no human being should go through this experience. God will take you through this season. Be strong and have courage for your boy.
That embassy woman is what's wrong with the world and all negative and unsupportive women blaming the victim. Basetsana is very strong and her actions is what saved her and her son.She's a lioness and wish her all the best❤
Please don't delete those videos leave them there Basile laba let them involve those police so that the truth can be reviled
She must even repost them
May the good Lord that protected you and your son heal both of you moving forward. ❤❤🫂
not those countries Please, I have never been there but I know how they are, we work with them here in the UK, racists
i feel sorry for her let be a lesson that never date a foreign guy no good intentions
South African men do this to their partners ALL THE TIME
@@LM-he7eb South African men are the best option for South African women. Always have been always will be.
You must be in a relationship with a foreigner. Probably why you typed this nonsense.
@@mdengentongaxhamini lol. I'm not in a relationship with a foreigner. But, remember, South Africa has the highest femicide rate.
South African government is falling us.and it is so painful. I am asking myself why.may be our government invested much outside sa.were by our lives don't matter
So sorry gal. There's healing in Jesus. He love you and wants to make you whole. Just open your heart and receive him as your Lord and savior.
Dear Basi, I'm so sorry that you had to go such inhumane experience. May God give you strength to continue with this life and recover everything you have lost. Welcome home sis. Once again askies
I am utterly disgusted 😢 where he referred to his wife as monkey 🐵 I M soo sooooo angry 😡 I am so sorry to u Mama and your Son🙏🏻 May God give u Strenght , Peace and Healing 🩷🙏🏻😊
@@ayandankundla7850 Imagine being called a Monkey by someone who should be protecting you? It’s disgusting….
I always say white people don’t love us and have never loved us and singazi featurisher nje kubo kodw noooi forget it
I think he took her to the zoo intentionally with the aim of calling her a monkey
@@Thee740To think that they think we are uncivilised, and referring to us as monkeys, they are backward disrespectful animals. It’s actually an insult to animals animals don’t treat their own like this. I am sooo angry…the effing nerve of these people
Yhooooo 😭😭😭😭😭 this is so painful but this lady is strong betuna, you are a strong lady Nana and I'm happy you can breathe now and let of that out you are home and we love you so so much 🫂♥️♥️♥️♥️
Pls accept that u may not get the justice that u deserve but let God heal u, He will deal with them, as 4 the husband he will be dead soon, the police God will definitely let them taste their medicine, heal my dear, ur young and beautiful and a gud Mom, so pls pray God will not fail u. I'm touched en I'm happy ur safe.❤
Thank you.❤
If it's possible she should get justice.
But then I believe God is able to heal .
I almost cried bcz I went through abusive marriage at the same age .
I was 28 when I became single mum
@Favour3558 hope ur in a gud space now cc. We're tormented but not crushed.
Thanks God you are now safe at home and I don't think you will get justice because even the police were not on your side because they refused to take your statements and even to consider them. Just take time to heal and focus on getting your son healed
Thank god because you were able to do peoples hair and save money, I would have died coz I can’t even do my baby girl’s hair, welcome home ❤
You're a woman. You would've made a plan. We always do.
You honestly need to go for counselling together with your son. I get you about getting justice but for the time being, please go for counselling for you and your son. You really need counselling
I am crying with you, baby girl. No person is supposed to go through such hardship
Getting justice will make her feel better about the situation but therapy will definitely help her make peace, release the anger and forgive herself and the perpetrators so definitely, if at all possible , she must push both. Good advice madam speaker and sending lots of love to Basi❤️❤️
Do we have a Croatian Embassy in South Africa? If so how about contacting them and give them your story.
Its about time we treat them how they treat us
I'm with you!!....I hate them sooo much right now.
After the previous comments, I don't think Bassie will comeback to the comment section.
But, I hope she does.
1. 20:55 I love the realisation, it is maturity. Therapy will help you spot these things from afar and protect yourself against them.
2. 21:54 you were a prisoner of that dream. And needed to be freed from it. You now need to be freed from the dream of ever getting justice.
3. Therapy helps you realize the part you played in it. Not to cede them off their responsibility. But, to empower you to realize that this can only happen when you permit it, making you the authority of your destiny. You have no power to induce justice, you're once again putting yourself in a situation where you have no power
I heard u and thank u the incredible advice!😊
@@unmaskwithbasi8897be strong Bassie, the Lord is with you. I'm praying for you and the baby. You ll be healed. Hugs
May the good Lord give you peace that surpasses ALL human understanding. Unfortunately for Us Christians... forgiveness it's an obligation. Forgive and move on. Karma never forgets the adress😭
I have a different take on this. You say the red flags were there and you ignored them. You went back to him twice after all the experiences with him. So at times, things became harder so we can leave and never look back because the universe has a better plan for us. Those people leave them to Karma it will show up for you. When it comes to your police experience am sure the South African police does the the same to foreigners too.
Bassie you are beautiful, strong and articulate! God will heal you. Love you Sis ❤This will be a great testimony in your life and that of your son, God will restore you!!!!!
Tell us when he comes to SA please .
Assomblief!..we just need to talk to him.
Sorry Nana l ❤❤❤❤you the storm is over
These people literally dehumanized this lady, racists are so scary because it just doesn't make sense to me why the land lord did all this because he clearly doesn't like black people, he should have refused to give her shelter from the start maybe she would have gotten a different place to stay. It's the fact that he thought it was okay for you to live on a place that had a leaking shower maybe I'm an overthinker but he probably didn't see you as human enough to deserve a decent place to shower. I wish you had the strength to leave. I also wonder how your son is right now because it's honestly so traumatic to hear all this now imagine a small boy having to so it happened in time. I hope you heal as well and know that you don't deserve any of it, no one does. ❤
Ladies please let's stick to our own because exploring is dangerous especially in a foreign country alone definitely it was traumatizing know that we love you, forget about them you are safe here with your family to support you and take care of yourself and our little man ❤
Bassie 🫂🥰❤, heal my child ❤
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Pls don't ever leave S and yo family at least until ur healed and I'm happy u doing everything 4 yo child, pls seek therapy that child needs it.
Askies baby gal.. This is too much even to the listeners.. You make me cry too 😢😢😢
She's such a brave doll 😭❤️ it's all over sweetheart don't be too harsh on yourself it will pass❤😢
Sorry baby girl pray for that one day you will get peace some of the situation are making you strong for the future sorry again sesi but it's good to cry you will get over this , n I like the fact that you were strong for your kid
You are such a strong woman and a great mom, Bassy. I wish you & Christian healing. ❤️🩹🫂
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Most South African embassies employed non south africans,those people have no empathy for us . I remember calling a embassy in Washington dc a phillipino guy that worked there was soo rude . I feel sorry for what she went through
Sorry about that , I lost my passport in Chicago last September but the guy I was talking to ko DC was so helpful he even sent forms on WhatsApp and assured me to relax his na is Siya , a Xhosa guy. And within a day I got my travelling documents
@@kabeloramavhoya5004 thank u , i wish they can employ more people from South Africa ,this year i got a very good service from embassy in new York , i was served by a South African lady 👍🏽
It’s South African dear they just incompetent. I lost my passport in Europe and it took them 6 months luckily I stay here but needed to replace it, they kept giving me a different dates, sometimes they will tell me they are about to close. . it’s bad trust me
Bassy we happy you are back home😢, such trauma is not good for your mental health, it possible that you won’t get justice but you can get one for your mental health 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
A 21 year old n a 41 year old that’s why he took advantage of you he wouldn’t do what he did to you to his age mates justice must be served
I'm few minutes in, didn't know his age but I immediately thought he had to be way older. It seems a bit common nowadays for old foreign men to prey on very young black African women by taking them abroad and abuse them all sorts of ways
@@palesa_elisa yes they marry them n take them to their countries to make them slaves
@palesa_elisa and there is a lot of these stories where an African woman thinking they get love from other racial and it will be a happy ending. These men will either be alcoholic, drug user or being gamblers. These ladies now live to tell their stories😢
U are so out of line. You can get this abuse from SA man also. It doesn't matter which race. You make it as if marrying a white person is all bad. Look, you are so judgemental it's sickening.
It's really not about age, if he is a monster in general there is nothing that you can do. So at this point age is invalid it's a non fact
Bassie, I'm hurt and paining with your ill treatment at Croatian people.
Name the lady at the embassy. She doesnt deserve that job. She must be removed form that position
It's so good to hear you laugh at the end baby girl. Iyhooo sorry Babes that was rough 😢😭🤦🏾.
That lady must immediately be recalled because she is useless there she is very much incompetent with no compassion at all
Brave young woman.glad you back home.god bless you
Please my lovely sister pray and cry those tears to God he will answer your prayers and defend you to those evil and heartless people 😢
I truly admire your courage and strength to overcome that ordeal, love and light to you my sister
Eish 😢askies baby girl, uzophola sthando❤
This is so hard to watch 😢😢😢😢
Happy you got out in one piece physically, wishing you emotional healing. Please stop beating yourself, because no amount of research can protect a normal person from being a narcissist. You did nothing wrong. Sending hugs and love.
The wait is over ❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I am so sorry Bassie hle, may God almighty heal you baby girl
Just finished watching part 2 and the only thing lengijabulisile that time she laughed 🥺😘i hope you get the justice you want ❤love you bassie be strong baby girl
I love you too sisi!❤
What happened to you is horrendous, to say the least. But you are a strong and beautiful young woman who has to pick herself up and become who/what she believes she can be.
Good luck !!!
Pray about forgiveness God will help you and don't rush , it comes slowly ❤❤❤.
From my own experience i can say give yourself time and go fir support groups it helped me 😊
I wish all those who like to insult single mums should hear this .
What can one do in this situation if not to leave and stay single mum and safe.
Dear lady don't worry time will heal .
Some of us didn't even speak out our own stories but with time we got better ❤❤
God be with you and heal your heart🤗🤗🤗🤗
May God heal you and your son, I know it's difficult to forgive them but it's a start. You are doing it for yourself not for them. Thank God you are both still alive, it's still the grace of God that kept you alive God wanted you to tell your story to help other black women who are trap and don't have a voice in those countries.
I can still hear the trauma in her voice
You will get justice baby, God saw all that happened and He will answer those tears that you and your boy cried.
That was pure xenophobia
M sorry sis...ur story just taught me the importance of saving money