One of the best lines I ever heard was a narcissist being called a hobo-sexual. Because nobody falls in love faster than a narcissist who needs a warm bed to sleep in. Haha 😂
Oh you never take a narcissist back, ever! Once you make that decision to leave then you make sure that you aren't going back because if you do the abuse will escalate and they will have a whole plan to destroy your life (often things with permanent consequences) all while smiling in your face saying they love you and stabbing you in the back! Never take them back ever!
After 23 years I moved 250 miles with my kids to find myself and brake the bond but I still feel the need to text call see him been apart 5bweeks and I'm finding it so hard
@@x13afluffycloud31 I know it's hard...but don't go back whatever you do or you will live to regret it, he wants revenge now...one of the biggest narcissistic injuries you can ever cause is abandonment/rejection and he will make you pay for that I promise, he will make sure you never forget it, fight through the trauma bond and stay no contact...it's the only way to break the trauma bond, it's a psychological addiction so you have to withdrawal from the narcissist and the way your brain has been tricked, when you feel like texting or calling you think of your kids they are your strength...they love you and need you not the abusive narcissist, stay strong and fight for you and your kids you all deserve so much more, my thoughts and prayers are with you hun!
AND… boy they can hold a grudge! For years!! They don’t plan your demise.. they PLOT! Big difference. For the love of God and everything good we deserve.. DO NOT GO BACK! Your life depends on it.
I had thought things were finally looking up after the break up and blocking. Months had gone by then I found out he was working 3 houses away from mine and living with his newest at the end of my street. I decided to move and he stood there watching for a good ½ hr making it clear he was watching. Two weeks later he got engaged. Poor girl I feel for her cause she has no clue
My husband is a great dad to our kids, bought us a nice house, gifted me luxurious jewelry and car, but treated me like sh$t behind closed doors. My poor kids witnessed insults, screams, and even some violence. I am absolutely dependent on his money, but I am ready to go. I am ready to stay in the car, eat from garbage can, but never be with him again. What she describes about narcissistic person's reaction when victim is leaving. Is exactly my situation. A lot of gilt shaming, begging, then insults, then again gilt shaming and so on.
It's so crazy... I just left my common law husband of 3 years. During the end of the relationship he was either COMPLETELY dismissive and avoidant, or verbally/physically abusive. Everything I did was wrong while HE could do NO wrong. He would leave for work in silence and I would sit in this house for 10, 12, sometimes 16 hours waiting for an "I love you" text or phone call. Since I left him, he's called me and contacted me EVERY DAY "I love you, I miss you, are you ok?... Blah blah blah..." I'm like wow, it took breaking up for this man to treat me like I matter as a human being. So sad. He also is doing this thing where he's telling me he's sleeping in his car, I guess so I'll feel sorry for him. 🤷♀ When I remember the way I was treated for these past few years, it gives me the strength to be unbothered. He's at church right now releasing flying monkeys and launching a whole smear campaign against me with the Pastor and my church family 🙄 What a great guy. Thank you for the video. Pray my strength in the Lord.👣
Write a list of all the hurtful things he did to you and refer to it every time you start feeling sorry for him. Google "Fading affect bias" it might help you see why you are feeling sorry for him
I’ll suggest ( if I may ).. not even answering the phone. Block means BLOCK. Got kids? .. communicate via email or better yet like I did, he doesn’t get to co-parent AT ALL. Nope! Not subjecting these innocent souls to that regardless of what the judge said ( he got visitation one ☝🏾 day a week for 5 hours)..JUST NO! My final answer!
Raised by a narcissistic parent and learned the game. As an adult, got a narcissistic boss. First the love-bombing (she took this job because she knew who I was and she wanted to work with me - yeah, I'm THAT awesome...), then a month later she flipped to micro-managing me, actually worked on my files when I wasn't there (boundary much?), and revoked the "fun" projects until I got "back on track" to her satisfaction. I had been at this job 8 years without issue, including managing the department for several months before her arrival - I loved it, and the people loved me - but it wasn't worth dealing with her drama. Time to go. Through the grapevine, I heard the smear campaign (and some had turned against me for "who I really am"), how badly I had hurt her, how long it took her to get over my "abrupt" departure. (Sorry, not sorry, victim.) The truth is, I actually am good at what I do, and was quickly recruited to work somewhere else. Don't let these people into your life in ANY capacity - not relationships, not work, not anything. They're vampires, and you don't owe them your soul. Blessings and peace on your journey.
I had to cut off a friend of 30 years. Been battling stage 4 cancer for 2 years and this psycho went out of his way to piss me off. These people are garbage.
If you ever expose them and they trick you into trusting them again, you are putting you and your kids in great danger. On any level possible. They love telling your secrets. Thry love it when you "explain yourself". What are they? Our God?
All of this was absolutely spot on, it's like listening to a recap of my relationship of the last 2 years. The only thing missing from this list is VIOLENCE. Once I had not taken her back and accepted her crocodile tears or her plea's to my humanity and decency, she turned to physical violence. I can't even describe the look in her eyes.
Thank you for thís, my ex husband was an Narrisist and did everything to put me down wasn't prepared but now years later had 28yrs of abuse and now FREE and now look at him as BIG COWARD AND A BULLY just like his Father, I deserve better and he will never be accepted bk into my family he is a low life and don't mean to be rude or nasty in ANY WAY but he gave me HELL and now have PEACE AND HAPPINESS IN MY LIFE.
I knew him for decades and I thought I knew what could happen next. I was spectacularly wrong. You will wonder how they even thought of those things - and why people help them.
This woman is a treasure. I wish this was my wife instead of the cruel and heartless monster I married. I can’t even imagine how simple and good a relationship with a woman like this TH-cam lady would be when she’s so in tune with her emotional well-being and fantastic at communication. I’ve been through war as a child surviving a genocide, lived poor and even lived in a refugee camp with my mom as a child and yet as pathetic as it sounds, catching my wife in an affair has been more hurtful than all of that. Especially when everything seemed happy in the marriage and I had to argue with her for 5 hours just for her to admit the affair (with a married man too). I was even was mildly open to working things out only to find out the following 2 weeks that she didn’t actually drop all contact with her affair partner.
I asked him to leave yesterday. He came back to get his stuff. Every time he came back he just had to keep trashing me. I thought "I don't have to care what he says anymore and I can just ignore him. Very freeing.
I just ended a relationship with a gal who was diagnosed with BPD & PTSD! It was a 10 year battle! I was lucky to find myself & now spending time healing from the abuse! #1 lesson was the importance of keeping your boundaries!
🦋She is perfectly describing my narcissistic sister. Saying all of the right things, "I love you. I should have never blamed you. The abuse wasn't your fault. We were both kids." She would be attacking within 24 hours. Got rid of her in 1998.
I dumped my husband 6 years ago. He threatened to hurt me, hurt my family, and he even started a fight at a family Christmas party. When I dumped him he went around telling everyone that I was abusing him and be ended up in a men's shelter because of me. He would never get me gifts for Christmas , but when he knew he was in trouble with me, he could not do enough. He even put on a show at the bus station I drove him to by come out to my car and crying really loud. He even had enough nerve to think that I would take him back. He even asked why I don't love him anymore. After I got rid of him, my son talked to me about how his dad was inappropriate with him. The detectives didn't believe our story and so nothing ever happened to him he was also having other women at the house while I was working
when they sense you are done with them and want to leave, they'll leave you first inorder to avoid getting their ego hurt or feeling even more worthless than they already are.
He moved onto the new girl in two days after controlling me and micromanaging me and manipulating me. I left because he wanted to ban me from going to the gym. He had already put so many restrictions on me and he was never happy. I felt voiceless and suffocated. Of course he had double standards, he was the one making the rules, never me. He wanted to still keep me there, though, while rubbing the new girl in my face, saying how loving and sacrificial she was. He started future faking saying we could be back together once he was back in his country. I had to cut him off completely. It was terrible. He even blamed me for starting a new relationship in only two days, saying that if I hadn't left, he wouldn't have moved on so easily, so it's my fault.
YOU NAILED IT HONEY, EVERY SINGLE THING, NO ONE CAN SAY IT BETTER OR DEFINE IT BETTER !!!!!!!! THANK GOODNESS FOR YOUR UNDERSTANDING AND HONESTY AND WISDOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR PAIN BUT ONLY THOSE ONES WHO KNOW IT FEELS IT AND CAN EXPRESS IT LIKE YOU HAVE, THANK YOU SO VERY VERY MUCH ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
That they care about what they were getting hits hard. Mine kept sending me emotional gifs with sad music and couples embracing. One in particular said "You were the first person I felt I could have everything with" Sounds different after hearing that lol
They can't take accountability for their actions. I got "you push my buttons" a lot from my narc soon-to-be-ex husband... Like I'm responsible for how he acts...
My ex would never talk about the relationship because it was his relationship. I was just a thing that was that was there. So I when I left after 40 years I knew I was gearing rid of him for good. The thing was he smeared me to everyone before hand, including my kids. Great tactic to make me stay because without him I had nobody left. Since you can guess my approximate age I will tell you he destroyed my life.
I'm so sorry, that sounds horrible. So...did you you stay? Is it better? Please step out and live your life, learn new things, meet new people, do charity work, build a strong relationship with a distant someone. I wish you happiness and freedom ypu deserve it.
I actually saw that with her.....she was always the victim and constantly had to blame me for everything that was wrong with the relationship. 4 years of misery with that creature up until the discard i got from her and also after she had borrowed $1200 dollars from me making me feel like a total fool. what sneaky little rat-snake thief. good Riddance looking back now. I really wish i had seen your videos early on soon after i had gotten entangled with thst creep. thank you
Wow, my ex narc borrowed that same amount. I played his so-called love games until i got back like 95 percent of what he owed me. The same day after i received the last pymt. I went no contact, i didnt even care any more about the rest of the money he owed me. Im ok
@Love me, I'm glad you got most of it back. The one I was with managed to get $700 out of me. Not to mention the time I wasted with him thinking we were bonding 😂😂😂
I work as a caregiver in a clients home, and I’ve often thought that either my physically disabled client, her mom or recent ex of 20 years is a covert or overt narcissist. I’ve been doing this job for 3 yrs, and I’ve stopped being a top tier employee that does more than 100% because I’ve been quiet quitting over the last few months, but I still do the essential daily routines and I never neglect my client. I’ve noticed some patterns that go from good to the same old behaviors directed at me over the years, I feel like I’m tiptoeing around this hair trigger family or walking on egg shells, I’m often rushed and forced to be productive while dehydrated and being cooked out in a 74-80 degree house year round which makes my indoor allergies worse and I become foggy due to lack of oxygen, I feel like I never get a break in 8 hrs unless I’m lucky or sneak it in, etc. At the very least, I know all of the adults are emotionally immature despite decent careers, and they’re stuck in the age of their trauma. I often internalize that my client feels like a toddler based on how quickly she wants something that isn’t an emergency due to lack of patience. She recently needed a breathing machine, and I thought based on gestures that her man was okay to hold it on her face while I was near the machine, and I’d power it on and off. He was dealing with a cold or something; he quickly became frustrated when she was impatient with his inability to do it properly. It happened within 30 seconds, so I wasn’t able to remedy anything. He just dropped the light silicone breather part on her chest and walked out of the house. He came back in and laid on the couch while she started expressing anger for his actions, but he never responded. She then drove electronic wheelchair to their island and knocked his medicine on the floor, ran into their full length mirror, and kept driving into their unoccupied couch so it’d move. She told me to bring all of her stuff back into the room, and she said don’t worry if you hear things being knocked down. She then went to the room talking smack to him loudly while she told me to put her in bed. She never requested to use the breather machine again once she was mad, and she seemed like she had normal speech. She let me leave early, said that nothing that happened had to do with me, and I told her I won’t help her cause physical harm to the items in their home. I don’t know whether or not she caused more damage in their living room and kids room, but I came back and he’s been gone for like 10 days. It’s been 22 days since the first incident. She told her 19 yr old that she’s going to rent out her kids room and dad’s room because she heard what they said about her, so she’s punishing her for making a mistake. I want her child to know that her parents behavior aren’t an indication of her worth, and I wish she experienced a safer upbringing. My client was crying whenever she was awake over the weekend. I felt like I was managing her, her dogs, and guests because they all needed my help at different times. Her mom asked how’s my daughter over and over, so the last time I said that I don’t neglect your daughter, and I’m just trying to help her and I won’t always have time to update you. She said some passive aggressive thing under her breath, and then when I passed her she said we don’t need another problem with an angry tone. I gave my client water then told her that her mom is stressing me out. She said I don’t have the energy to deal with my mom, you’ll just have to talk louder, hold it together because I can’t, and it’s not a big deal. I apologized and told her mom I was overwhelmed because I realized I made a mistake. I don’t feel like I deserved her telling me that we don’t need another “problem” because I have shown grace to this family. Mind you that’s the first time I said something off putting in three years despite their passive aggressive remarks, grumpy behaviors, deferred anger directed at me, and emotions based on physical annoyances. I’ve been fed up for too long and it’s all a big deal to me. I don’t see any of this clearly, but I apologize when I mess up and I’m wrong yet it’s unlikely that I’ll receive the same respect. I might just ask for another client when I turn in time sheets before I go on vacation or put in my notice. I can tell the divorce is triggering me, and I don’t want to quit in an unprofessional manner or start behaving in ways that are beneath me. I just want us all to heal, but that’s God’s job. We’re also responsible for our own healing as adults, and I can’t deal with their chaotic household anymore. I don’t agree with how they treat their child either. She shouldn’t be punished for not understanding the proper way to handle stress or weird situations. Her mom doesn’t like to be told how to raise her child, so I keep my mouth shut. Before I quit, I do want to attempt to let her kid know that I hope she doesn’t internalize any unfair punishment or treatment she received growing up, and that she deserves healthy and safe connections.
Wow. That's exactly what happened. I wanted to leave the relationship but he told me "im not throwing anything I did for you in your face , but it seems like you forgot ." Like what??? So , basically I dont have the right to leave/end the relationship bc you "did" things for me ?? Interesting 🙄🙄
I have been dealing with a narcissist who discarded me for new supply after a few years and then returned for online sexual conversations after three months. About 7 months later, he moved on to yet another new supply, even sending me pictures to ask for my opinion about her compared to the supply he had previously discarded me for-and whom he was now ready to discard as well. This behavior is indeed quite disturbing and totally unhealthy already. Now, this situation arose around the same time I met a new man. When I told my narcissistic ex that I had found someone new, he showed NO reaction to my new partner, changing the subject. Interestingly, he never wished me well or acknowledged my happiness. Instead, he focused on discussing how great his new supply was, even positioning himself as her "spiritual teacher." His lack of regard for my feelings was striking; he seemed primarily concerned with justifying his choices and maintaining control. Is this a typical reaction from a narcissist? Not wishing you the best and focusing only on themselves while failing to react to your happiness after they discarded you? In my view, a healthy person would wish the best to his ex when she meets someone new, after he discarded her... So, is this a sign?
You have such beautiful hair!! It was a few weeks then it was relentless undermining everything, there is no hope, not at our age, we are mature girls now but this is someone i never knew, but i caught glimpses, a sister i didn't grow up with, didn't see much of her until we got older, i had no idea she was npd like my other sister and mother, thats the trifecta, i should write a book!❤❤❤
Sometimes they simply let you walk away - and they never look back, as they've already got their new supply lined up already. Their apathy stings worse than any revenge they might inflict....
I’m hoping and praying that my narc just lets me go peacefully. I’m really scared of him, I’m not worried about what he tells others and I’ll never take him back. I’ve had enough of him and this joke of a relationship. I’m 57 years old and starting over , I just want peace and my dignity back .
I wonder why narcissists actually think that everyone is out to get them, even when we could hardly care. Back in the last narcissistic relationshit, yes, sh*t, I gave gifts such as a box of red ginseng extract to the ex, on noticing tiredness and asked how it worked. It was just a gesture of concern on my part, but that ex said a week or two after, "I gave it away to another female friend." ?!?!?!? What, you didn't even try and you just gave presents away and then acted as if they are yours to give to others?!??? The discard was even funnier, because the narc ex actually accused me of being potentially dangerous by saying, "I am afraid of what you would do to me." They really live as if someone is out to get them all the time, and that narc doesn't even share deepest and darkest secrets with 'close friends', whom I suspect are actually sex buddies under another name.
Don't forget out And out Rage. But all described is rage. Please, if we looking behind the mirror. Please stop 🛑 saying "PROBABLY" With a narcissist it is and/or isn't. Also, pain is growth, grow in pain. Like the bodybuilder, they go through physical and mental pain. In the end it's growth and development. Same with that after narcissistic abuse.
I dont know what to think anymore… i thought i was the supply, but perhaps i am the narcissist…. I do react a lot and go into uber-introspection to consider his rigjt to get an apology for his hurt, whatever i did… and i do feel the need to pull up the things i have sacrifice dand clnsidered sinxe our divorces, in order to put him, his family, his business ahead of mtself…but also, i get the silent treatmwnt and pullback… so how can i straitwn it all out… i used to be a prominent businesswoman and now ive accepted to be a sahm, taking care of him abd his kids rather than building myself and build a legacy for MY son
Beaware : nuance for the 1rst ; It can also be exactly how the narc's victim react when the narc discard them (break up with them). For the people that don't understand, search about "trauma bound"
I told her I'm done with her ass then she repeated everything I said then confronted what she did she wouldn't acknowledge anything and kept trying to say something else then only twice I left photos on her porch the first week once then the second week I found the last photo book left it on her porch then left a bit and said this is all of it has a good life won't see me again then she texted me trying to escalate to call the cops getting restraining order like I'm harassing her and texting me I told you I'm done with you I'm like actually I dumped you but if you want to thank that I dumped you or you don't me I don't care here's some pictures. You'd want pictures of your baby back have a good life kept trying to escalate it for some reason all I did was drop off a photo book did even talk or see anyone
No fine someone it's HIV out here who wants someone like this jeopardize your life and health a peace of mine with Jesus pray that you're not dying from some sickness from having so many partners no one talk about this all about lust and sex life is more
@@franco2b145he has already slept with worse than a rock he is gutter trifling piece of dirt he's the lowest of the low a rock for him would be a come up
@@LookingBehindtheMirror for sure. I used to wear glasses because contacts didn’t work for me. People are now friendlier when they can see my eyes. Lauren’s glasses are a stage prop, hoping that it will make her look like she can read.
My favorite part of any bullsh# relationship.....ahhhhhhh. Once I've confirmed someone is a toxic sack of caustic tar based on their consistent toxic behaviors, that's it... PLUG GETS PULLED. BARRIERS UP, Gundam suit is in full effect. Minimal contact, no contact, etc... Blocked, ghosted and deleted from my mainframe... OUT LIKE TROUT! No do over, no 2nd chances, no f#cks given.... after 40 yrs of narcy douchebags f#cking with my life.... didn't Even have to marry one... just toxic sh#thead relatives, friends, in laws, co workers, you name it..... My time is precious to me. So anyone actively wasting it immediately pisses me off. I know the signs... I end it. END OF STORY. 📙
Most narcissist like the overt narcissist will never tell you they messed up with a relationship???because it seems like the overt narcissist have to much pride to tell you they messed up???
You can't reason with narcissists. The only solution is to leave them high and dry. No explanation. No nothing. They know what they're doing.
One of the best lines I ever heard was a narcissist being called a hobo-sexual. Because nobody falls in love faster than a narcissist who needs a warm bed to sleep in. Haha 😂
Oh you never take a narcissist back, ever! Once you make that decision to leave then you make sure that you aren't going back because if you do the abuse will escalate and they will have a whole plan to destroy your life (often things with permanent consequences) all while smiling in your face saying they love you and stabbing you in the back! Never take them back ever!
After 23 years I moved 250 miles with my kids to find myself and brake the bond but I still feel the need to text call see him been apart 5bweeks and I'm finding it so hard
@@x13afluffycloud31 I know it's hard...but don't go back whatever you do or you will live to regret it, he wants revenge now...one of the biggest narcissistic injuries you can ever cause is abandonment/rejection and he will make you pay for that I promise, he will make sure you never forget it, fight through the trauma bond and stay no contact...it's the only way to break the trauma bond, it's a psychological addiction so you have to withdrawal from the narcissist and the way your brain has been tricked, when you feel like texting or calling you think of your kids they are your strength...they love you and need you not the abusive narcissist, stay strong and fight for you and your kids you all deserve so much more, my thoughts and prayers are with you hun!
Thank you don't know how much more fight I have in me but I'm being strong
Exactly what’s happening to me
But I did take him back after 2 years.
You are right it's awful. I have to leave again I'm worried.
For a narcissist "No such thing like amicable break up"
In my own personal experience, this is a fact.
AND… boy they can hold a grudge! For years!! They don’t plan your demise.. they PLOT! Big difference. For the love of God and everything good we deserve.. DO NOT GO BACK! Your life depends on it.
They are such a waist of precious time...
No.
We learned valuable lessons during that time, luv.
Remember that❤
Christi
True! They can’t tie their shoes without someone cheering them on while they tie their shoes lol
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They can't be alone for one second.
I had thought things were finally looking up after the break up and blocking. Months had gone by then I found out he was working 3 houses away from mine and living with his newest at the end of my street. I decided to move and he stood there watching for a good ½ hr making it clear he was watching. Two weeks later he got engaged. Poor girl I feel for her cause she has no clue
I left all my social medias (not youtube though) some years ago......
My best decision ever....after deciding to go "no contact"
I will never go back!! Had enough abuse!!
My husband is a great dad to our kids, bought us a nice house, gifted me luxurious jewelry and car, but treated me like sh$t behind closed doors. My poor kids witnessed insults, screams, and even some violence. I am absolutely dependent on his money, but I am ready to go. I am ready to stay in the car, eat from garbage can, but never be with him again. What she describes about narcissistic person's reaction when victim is leaving. Is exactly my situation. A lot of gilt shaming, begging, then insults, then again gilt shaming and so on.
I wish I had known this before it happened to me.
Don't feel bad u r not alone... I had to come to the net to find out I was living with a Covert narc based on her actions..
...💜💜💜
@@orrainecephas844...me too! I had heard of the word, but finally looked at videos!
AMEN
My narcissist dosen't cry. In 20 years I've never seen him cry.
He don't care about my tears.
I have never seen my narcissist sister cry either.
I've never known a narc to make me laugh out loud either.
It's so crazy... I just left my common law husband of 3 years. During the end of the relationship he was either COMPLETELY dismissive and avoidant, or verbally/physically abusive. Everything I did was wrong while HE could do NO wrong. He would leave for work in silence and I would sit in this house for 10, 12, sometimes 16 hours waiting for an "I love you" text or phone call.
Since I left him, he's called me and contacted me EVERY DAY "I love you, I miss you, are you ok?... Blah blah blah..." I'm like wow, it took breaking up for this man to treat me like I matter as a human being. So sad. He also is doing this thing where he's telling me he's sleeping in his car, I guess so I'll feel sorry for him. 🤷♀ When I remember the way I was treated for these past few years, it gives me the strength to be unbothered.
He's at church right now releasing flying monkeys and launching a whole smear campaign against me with the Pastor and my church family 🙄 What a great guy. Thank you for the video. Pray my strength in the Lord.👣
Write a list of all the hurtful things he did to you and refer to it every time you start feeling sorry for him. Google "Fading affect bias" it might help you see why you are feeling sorry for him
I’ll suggest ( if I may ).. not even answering the phone. Block means BLOCK. Got kids? .. communicate via email or better yet like I did, he doesn’t get to co-parent AT ALL. Nope! Not subjecting these innocent souls to that regardless of what the judge said ( he got visitation one ☝🏾 day a week for 5 hours)..JUST NO! My final answer!
Amen sister ✝️❤
Raised by a narcissistic parent and learned the game. As an adult, got a narcissistic boss. First the love-bombing (she took this job because she knew who I was and she wanted to work with me - yeah, I'm THAT awesome...), then a month later she flipped to micro-managing me, actually worked on my files when I wasn't there (boundary much?), and revoked the "fun" projects until I got "back on track" to her satisfaction. I had been at this job 8 years without issue, including managing the department for several months before her arrival - I loved it, and the people loved me - but it wasn't worth dealing with her drama. Time to go. Through the grapevine, I heard the smear campaign (and some had turned against me for "who I really am"), how badly I had hurt her, how long it took her to get over my "abrupt" departure. (Sorry, not sorry, victim.) The truth is, I actually am good at what I do, and was quickly recruited to work somewhere else. Don't let these people into your life in ANY capacity - not relationships, not work, not anything. They're vampires, and you don't owe them your soul. Blessings and peace on your journey.
I had to cut off a friend of 30 years. Been battling stage 4 cancer for 2 years and this psycho went out of his way to piss me off. These people are garbage.
That’s terrible. I hope you are kicking cancers butt! May god bless you with great health again!
They are gutter
If you ever expose them and they trick you into trusting them again, you are putting you and your kids in great danger. On any level possible. They love telling your secrets. Thry love it when you "explain yourself". What are they? Our God?
Narcs are vindictive and professional ghosters narcs trash their erstwhile partner proactively - their malice has no bottom ☹️
I've lived with 1 for 7 years didn't find out she waS a narc till 2years ago 🤮her silence is defining I'm only needed wen she see it fit no intimacy
All of this was absolutely spot on, it's like listening to a recap of my relationship of the last 2 years. The only thing missing from this list is VIOLENCE. Once I had not taken her back and accepted her crocodile tears or her plea's to my humanity and decency, she turned to physical violence. I can't even describe the look in her eyes.
Hell Hath No Fury like a Woman Scorned
@@angeldsf3575 You mean like a narcissist that got busted.. 🥷
...Devilish!
@@angeldsf3575that doesn't compare to a narcissist scorn, I understand women scorn, but the Narcissist is far far far worse.
Thank you for thís, my ex husband was an Narrisist and did everything to put me down wasn't prepared but now years later had 28yrs of abuse and now FREE and now look at him as BIG COWARD AND A BULLY just like his Father, I deserve better and he will never be accepted bk into my family he is a low life and don't mean to be rude or nasty in ANY WAY but he gave me HELL and now have PEACE AND HAPPINESS IN MY LIFE.
Exactly
For 38 years it was pure hell
I knew him for decades and I thought I knew what could happen next. I was spectacularly wrong. You will wonder how they even thought of those things - and why people help them.
This woman is a treasure. I wish this was my wife instead of the cruel and heartless monster I married. I can’t even imagine how simple and good a relationship with a woman like this TH-cam lady would be when she’s so in tune with her emotional well-being and fantastic at communication.
I’ve been through war as a child surviving a genocide, lived poor and even lived in a refugee camp with my mom as a child and yet as pathetic as it sounds, catching my wife in an affair has been more hurtful than all of that.
Especially when everything seemed happy in the marriage and I had to argue with her for 5 hours just for her to admit the affair (with a married man too). I was even was mildly open to working things out only to find out the following 2 weeks that she didn’t actually drop all contact with her affair partner.
Sorry that happened to you. Take extra gentle care. There’s good people still out here.
I asked him to leave yesterday. He came back to get his stuff. Every time he came back he just had to keep trashing me. I thought "I don't have to care what he says anymore and I can just ignore him. Very freeing.
... Throw his crap outside!
Put it in a garage bag 😂
I just ended a relationship with a gal who was diagnosed with BPD & PTSD! It was a 10 year battle! I was lucky to find myself & now spending time healing from the abuse! #1 lesson was the importance of keeping your boundaries!
What’s sad is I think most people especially women if they use social media a lot are all messed up in the head
Their Instagram will tell you a lot. If they post a lot of selfies with filters run the other way haha
3 hour arguments in the middle of the night, never a resolution...lying, stealing, hiding your stuff, crazy
No guilt, no trip.
Im so afraid. He is spreading terribly things to my church my mother's work my family. Im so so afraid of what he might make up next.
🦋She is perfectly describing my narcissistic sister. Saying all of the right things, "I love you. I should have never blamed you. The abuse wasn't your fault. We were both kids." She would be attacking within 24 hours. Got rid of her in 1998.
I left my narcissist today took him back twice. But keept blaming me for everything that wasant my fault . But he liked to sulk alot
I dumped my husband 6 years ago. He threatened to hurt me, hurt my family, and he even started a fight at a family Christmas party. When I dumped him he went around telling everyone that I was abusing him and be ended up in a men's shelter because of me. He would never get me gifts for Christmas , but when he knew he was in trouble with me, he could not do enough. He even put on a show at the bus station I drove him to by come out to my car and crying really loud. He even had enough nerve to think that I would take him back. He even asked why I don't love him anymore. After I got rid of him, my son talked to me about how his dad was inappropriate with him. The detectives didn't believe our story and so nothing ever happened to him he was also having other women at the house while I was working
I’m sorry. Believe your child, may I suggest therapy for both of you? Find someone who’s well versed in narcissism. Happy that you left. Blessings
when they sense you are done with them and want to leave, they'll leave you first inorder to avoid getting their ego hurt or feeling even more worthless than they already are.
He moved onto the new girl in two days after controlling me and micromanaging me and manipulating me. I left because he wanted to ban me from going to the gym. He had already put so many restrictions on me and he was never happy. I felt voiceless and suffocated. Of course he had double standards, he was the one making the rules, never me. He wanted to still keep me there, though, while rubbing the new girl in my face, saying how loving and sacrificial she was. He started future faking saying we could be back together once he was back in his country. I had to cut him off completely. It was terrible. He even blamed me for starting a new relationship in only two days, saying that if I hadn't left, he wouldn't have moved on so easily, so it's my fault.
Digest NON of that! The boy is and will always be delusional. Go in peace sis. 🙌🏿
@@franco2b145 I wrote this five months ago, and he was back because new relationship failed 🤯
...yea they're crazy!
excellent video. I think you probably did a better job than any licensed professional, explaining how it really is
YOU NAILED IT HONEY, EVERY SINGLE THING, NO ONE CAN SAY IT BETTER OR DEFINE IT BETTER !!!!!!!! THANK GOODNESS FOR YOUR UNDERSTANDING AND HONESTY AND WISDOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR PAIN BUT ONLY THOSE ONES WHO KNOW IT FEELS IT AND CAN EXPRESS IT LIKE YOU HAVE, THANK YOU SO VERY VERY MUCH ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
That they care about what they were getting hits hard.
Mine kept sending me emotional gifs with sad music and couples embracing. One in particular said "You were the first person I felt I could have everything with"
Sounds different after hearing that lol
They can't take accountability for their actions. I got "you push my buttons" a lot from my narc soon-to-be-ex husband... Like I'm responsible for how he acts...
So familiar..
My ex would never talk about the relationship because it was his relationship. I was just a thing that was that was there. So I when I left after 40 years I knew I was gearing rid of him for good. The thing was he smeared me to everyone before hand, including my kids. Great tactic to make me stay because without him I had nobody left. Since you can guess my approximate age I will tell you he destroyed my life.
I'm so sorry, that sounds horrible. So...did you you stay? Is it better? Please step out and live your life, learn new things, meet new people, do charity work, build a strong relationship with a distant someone. I wish you happiness and freedom ypu deserve it.
When I gave the narcissist her keys back, I pulled up with the police. Cause un un, don't try it.
So true it's all about winning
Very insightful, great technical breakdown.
Keep doing the good work!
Thank you!
Do not look at them on social media.
I actually saw that with her.....she was always the victim and constantly had to blame me for everything that was wrong with the relationship. 4 years of misery with that creature up until the discard i got from her and also after she had borrowed $1200 dollars from me making me feel like a total fool. what sneaky little rat-snake thief. good Riddance looking back now. I really wish i had seen your videos early on soon after i had gotten entangled with thst creep. thank you
Wow, my ex narc borrowed that same amount. I played his so-called love games until i got back like 95 percent of what he owed me. The same day after i received the last pymt. I went no contact, i didnt even care any more about the rest of the money he owed me. Im ok
@Love me, I'm glad you got most of it back. The one I was with managed to get $700 out of me. Not to mention the time I wasted with him thinking we were bonding 😂😂😂
Believe me the 1200 was worth it
@@1010QUEEN7 Thank you.....i fully agree.
Love your videos and I just gotta say.. you are absolutely beautiful!
Thank you Very good advice that I needed, they make delusional excuses that they won or are the perfect ones
That covered alot...but it covered alot about normal people too. In depth presentation.
I work as a caregiver in a clients home, and I’ve often thought that either my physically disabled client, her mom or recent ex of 20 years is a covert or overt narcissist. I’ve been doing this job for 3 yrs, and I’ve stopped being a top tier employee that does more than 100% because I’ve been quiet quitting over the last few months, but I still do the essential daily routines and I never neglect my client. I’ve noticed some patterns that go from good to the same old behaviors directed at me over the years, I feel like I’m tiptoeing around this hair trigger family or walking on egg shells, I’m often rushed and forced to be productive while dehydrated and being cooked out in a 74-80 degree house year round which makes my indoor allergies worse and I become foggy due to lack of oxygen, I feel like I never get a break in 8 hrs unless I’m lucky or sneak it in, etc. At the very least, I know all of the adults are emotionally immature despite decent careers, and they’re stuck in the age of their trauma. I often internalize that my client feels like a toddler based on how quickly she wants something that isn’t an emergency due to lack of patience. She recently needed a breathing machine, and I thought based on gestures that her man was okay to hold it on her face while I was near the machine, and I’d power it on and off. He was dealing with a cold or something; he quickly became frustrated when she was impatient with his inability to do it properly. It happened within 30 seconds, so I wasn’t able to remedy anything. He just dropped the light silicone breather part on her chest and walked out of the house. He came back in and laid on the couch while she started expressing anger for his actions, but he never responded. She then drove electronic wheelchair to their island and knocked his medicine on the floor, ran into their full length mirror, and kept driving into their unoccupied couch so it’d move. She told me to bring all of her stuff back into the room, and she said don’t worry if you hear things being knocked down. She then went to the room talking smack to him loudly while she told me to put her in bed. She never requested to use the breather machine again once she was mad, and she seemed like she had normal speech. She let me leave early, said that nothing that happened had to do with me, and I told her I won’t help her cause physical harm to the items in their home. I don’t know whether or not she caused more damage in their living room and kids room, but I came back and he’s been gone for like 10 days. It’s been 22 days since the first incident. She told her 19 yr old that she’s going to rent out her kids room and dad’s room because she heard what they said about her, so she’s punishing her for making a mistake. I want her child to know that her parents behavior aren’t an indication of her worth, and I wish she experienced a safer upbringing. My client was crying whenever she was awake over the weekend. I felt like I was managing her, her dogs, and guests because they all needed my help at different times. Her mom asked how’s my daughter over and over, so the last time I said that I don’t neglect your daughter, and I’m just trying to help her and I won’t always have time to update you. She said some passive aggressive thing under her breath, and then when I passed her she said we don’t need another problem with an angry tone. I gave my client water then told her that her mom is stressing me out. She said I don’t have the energy to deal with my mom, you’ll just have to talk louder, hold it together because I can’t, and it’s not a big deal. I apologized and told her mom I was overwhelmed because I realized I made a mistake. I don’t feel like I deserved her telling me that we don’t need another “problem” because I have shown grace to this family. Mind you that’s the first time I said something off putting in three years despite their passive aggressive remarks, grumpy behaviors, deferred anger directed at me, and emotions based on physical annoyances. I’ve been fed up for too long and it’s all a big deal to me. I don’t see any of this clearly, but I apologize when I mess up and I’m wrong yet it’s unlikely that I’ll receive the same respect. I might just ask for another client when I turn in time sheets before I go on vacation or put in my notice. I can tell the divorce is triggering me, and I don’t want to quit in an unprofessional manner or start behaving in ways that are beneath me. I just want us all to heal, but that’s God’s job. We’re also responsible for our own healing as adults, and I can’t deal with their chaotic household anymore. I don’t agree with how they treat their child either. She shouldn’t be punished for not understanding the proper way to handle stress or weird situations. Her mom doesn’t like to be told how to raise her child, so I keep my mouth shut. Before I quit, I do want to attempt to let her kid know that I hope she doesn’t internalize any unfair punishment or treatment she received growing up, and that she deserves healthy and safe connections.
absolutely spot on
Wow. That's exactly what happened. I wanted to leave the relationship but he told me "im not throwing anything I did for you in your face , but it seems like you forgot ." Like what??? So , basically I dont have the right to leave/end the relationship bc you "did" things for me ?? Interesting 🙄🙄
I have been dealing with a narcissist who discarded me for new supply after a few years and then returned for online sexual conversations after three months.
About 7 months later, he moved on to yet another new supply, even sending me pictures to ask for my opinion about her compared to the supply he had previously discarded me for-and whom he was now ready to discard as well. This behavior is indeed quite disturbing and totally unhealthy already.
Now, this situation arose around the same time I met a new man. When I told my narcissistic ex that I had found someone new, he showed NO reaction to my new partner, changing the subject. Interestingly, he never wished me well or acknowledged my happiness. Instead, he focused on discussing how great his new supply was, even positioning himself as her "spiritual teacher." His lack of regard for my feelings was striking; he seemed primarily concerned with justifying his choices and maintaining control.
Is this a typical reaction from a narcissist? Not wishing you the best and focusing only on themselves while failing to react to your happiness after they discarded you?
In my view, a healthy person would wish the best to his ex when she meets someone new, after he discarded her... So, is this a sign?
So on point! Kudos
I subscribed because of this video 👍🏼
Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it!
Me too!❤
You have such beautiful hair!! It was a few weeks then it was relentless undermining everything, there is no hope, not at our age, we are mature girls now but this is someone i never knew, but i caught glimpses, a sister i didn't grow up with, didn't see much of her until we got older, i had no idea she was npd like my other sister and mother, thats the trifecta, i should write a book!❤❤❤
Thank you so much for this ❤️
Sometimes they simply let you walk away - and they never look back, as they've already got their new supply lined up already. Their apathy stings worse than any revenge they might inflict....
I’m hoping and praying that my narc just lets me go peacefully.
I’m really scared of him, I’m not worried about what he tells others and I’ll never take him back.
I’ve had enough of him and this joke of a relationship.
I’m 57 years old and starting over , I just want peace and my dignity back .
I wonder why narcissists actually think that everyone is out to get them, even when we could hardly care. Back in the last narcissistic relationshit, yes, sh*t, I gave gifts such as a box of red ginseng extract to the ex, on noticing tiredness and asked how it worked. It was just a gesture of concern on my part, but that ex said a week or two after, "I gave it away to another female friend." ?!?!?!? What, you didn't even try and you just gave presents away and then acted as if they are yours to give to others?!??? The discard was even funnier, because the narc ex actually accused me of being potentially dangerous by saying, "I am afraid of what you would do to me." They really live as if someone is out to get them all the time, and that narc doesn't even share deepest and darkest secrets with 'close friends', whom I suspect are actually sex buddies under another name.
Don't forget out And out Rage.
But all described is rage.
Please, if we looking behind the mirror.
Please stop 🛑 saying "PROBABLY" With a narcissist it is and/or isn't.
Also, pain is growth, grow in pain.
Like the bodybuilder, they go through physical and mental pain.
In the end it's growth and development. Same with that after narcissistic abuse.
I dont know what to think anymore… i thought i was the supply, but perhaps i am the narcissist…. I do react a lot and go into uber-introspection to consider his rigjt to get an apology for his hurt, whatever i did… and i do feel the need to pull up the things i have sacrifice dand clnsidered sinxe our divorces, in order to put him, his family, his business ahead of mtself…but also, i get the silent treatmwnt and pullback… so how can i straitwn it all out… i used to be a prominent businesswoman and now ive accepted to be a sahm, taking care of him abd his kids rather than building myself and build a legacy for MY son
Listen to her!!
Thank you
Beaware : nuance for the 1rst ; It can also be exactly how the narc's victim react when the narc discard them (break up with them). For the people that don't understand, search about "trauma bound"
😂 ppl win the lottery…. 😂😂😂
I deeply feel like i do all the narcissistic shit, but alwso live it…. How can i differentiate
Absolutely amazing and informative video xx
Thanks so much for your time xx
Thank you!
🙌🏾 💯 so true
Thank you it helped. Thank you
I will block him on my contracts list, and FB, and Messager.
I told her I'm done with her ass then she repeated everything I said then confronted what she did she wouldn't acknowledge anything and kept trying to say something else then only twice I left photos on her porch the first week once then the second week I found the last photo book left it on her porch then left a bit and said this is all of it has a good life won't see me again then she texted me trying to escalate to call the cops getting restraining order like I'm harassing her and texting me I told you I'm done with you I'm like actually I dumped you but if you want to thank that I dumped you or you don't me I don't care here's some pictures. You'd want pictures of your baby back have a good life kept trying to escalate it for some reason all I did was drop off a photo book did even talk or see anyone
That is all they care about totall yti
No fine someone it's HIV out here who wants someone like this jeopardize your life and health a peace of mine with Jesus pray that you're not dying from some sickness from having so many partners no one talk about this all about lust and sex life is more
Facts! They would sleep with a ROCK if it can supply them with something.
@@franco2b145he has already slept with worse than a rock he is gutter trifling piece of dirt he's the lowest of the low a rock for him would be a come up
I think a makeover is in order, I thought I was accidentally watching Lauren Bobert.
Lauren is a lot of things, but she isn’t ugly, so I think I’ll take that as a compliment.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror for sure. I used to wear glasses because contacts didn’t work for me. People are now friendlier when they can see my eyes. Lauren’s glasses are a stage prop, hoping that it will make her look like she can read.
Trump
My favorite part of any bullsh# relationship.....ahhhhhhh.
Once I've confirmed someone is a toxic sack of caustic tar based on their consistent toxic behaviors, that's it...
PLUG GETS PULLED. BARRIERS UP, Gundam suit is in full effect.
Minimal contact, no contact, etc...
Blocked, ghosted and deleted from my mainframe...
OUT LIKE TROUT!
No do over, no 2nd chances, no f#cks given.... after 40 yrs of narcy douchebags f#cking with my life.... didn't Even have to marry one... just toxic sh#thead relatives, friends, in laws, co workers, you name it.....
My time is precious to me. So anyone actively wasting it immediately pisses me off. I know the signs... I end it.
END OF STORY. 📙
Most narcissist like the overt narcissist will never tell you they messed up with a relationship???because it seems like the overt narcissist have to much pride to tell you they messed up???
So much deep wisdom spoken. Very clear communication. Respect ✊