"Be still, and know that I am God..." Psalm 46:10. He wants us to turn to Him, rest in his presence, trust Him to provide the answers, but He wants us to wake up, stop striving to do it all on our own. We need to acknowledge him for Who and What He is, and allow Him to do what only He can do. We are His children, He knows our every need, and only He can provide for these needs. TRUTH
When did I meet the narcissist? I met the narcissist when I was happy, innocent, single and enjoying life; then a female friend asked me if I wanted to meet her best friend who was single. Turned out she was introducing me to a narcissist. It was 8 months of everything Andrew discusses here on this channel. I searched “rage fits” gaslighting, and here I am single and happy again, but now I know what NPD is. And I am glad I experienced the narcissist because now I have wisdom and discovered the empath in me; AND I also learned that I had indeed been exposed to other narcissists as a child and never realized it till I learned from Andrew to look back.
Only wish...is why didn't I leave a long time ago.... So free! Like a weight off my shoulders..yet them and re the family still listens 🎧 to all my calls and reads text message.. Sometime men and women just get obsessed and think that you can't get over them... # over it ...! #peace...😊 Blessings 💖
10 weeks since I left, 3 weeks no contact. Getting physically, mentally and emotionally stronger every day cultivating the third and best version of myself. ❤ thank you for your service
My shrink on my first visit told me a story of a patient who he counseled to never speak to family. He said 15 years later she returned to thank him as it was the best advice she ever received.All correspondence went through her husband. Many sessions later when it became obvious I needed to go no contact I asked him how he knew on my first visit?! His reply "50 years and I've seen most everything " Folks been no contact 4 months .trust me I am better for it.
Thank you Andrew. When you are silent, you take the time to reflect. When you are away from the chaos and drama of the narcissist, you can look back and try to understand and learn from the dysfunctional relationship. We here on the channel are fortunate. We now know what narcissism is. We know it was NOT our fault. We need to heal. We need to protect ourselves. We need to thrive. We can do this.
Thank you I am married to a narcissistic man for thirty two years never know what narcissistic was until recently when I stumbled on this site my eyes open we are American citizen but now leaving in Africa to establish a business I don't know ow if there is a psychiatric I could take him to for nor he does not want to return I am forwarding all your tapes but he does not want to look at them
"Your silence speaks volume. Your silence is empowering. Not giving the narcissist your energy is the key, its the path. Let them shrivel up and fade away into the darkness. Into the quagmire of low vibrational people. That's were they belong. That's were they've always been. The thing is that they wanted to vibrate high with you, they did and they then slowly took you down into their vibrational level and that's what they wanted to keep you. They wanted to exchange vibrational levels. They wanted to steal your high vibrational level and to keep you kept in the pit of Darkness on their low vibrational level and it did work. Until it didnt." -Andrew NarcDaily
My comment got erased? Wow.. Anyway I am an oldie. I have gone no contact for almost a year now. I never understood "WHY" do I pick these toxic people. For the first time in my life I know WHY... Patterns of behavior growing up. Narcissism in my family. I have repeated this mistake over and over again. I was an enabler, people pleaser... you name it and it was me. I couldn't figure out the WHY.... I am intelligent. I have a psychology degree hoping I would get my answer. Still I picked toxic people. Now I know "Why". My favorite word in the English language is NO. I HAVE BOUNDARIES NOW. I Am 72 years old and for the first time feel free as a bird. This will happen to you if you learn from Andrew and others on you tube regarding narcissists. I am a thriver and survivor. I have reached indifference. I am proud of everyone who has blocked the person and got rid of flying monkeys. I understand it is difficult. It is well worth it. Don't worry about the smear campaign, cyberbullying and stalking. It is something the narcissist has to do. It is like breathing air. Once you ignore it and get rid of flying monkeys you will reach your goals. If this message gets erased again, I realize, my toxic person can't live without me. I on the other hand can and am living proof you don't deserve this behavior. Be good to yourself. Love yourself. I do now and deserve love back.
Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom. ❤ Im a late learner too, i got out of one ladting 29 yrs & a few yrs later went right back into another one! Both were covert, But out of it a few wks thanks to Andrew's very real messages & journaling. I went silent mirroring him and he didn't like it one bit, and said he'd delete me. It's very depressing facing my own empath stupidity. But the silent treatment he began ended really well for me. Deleted everything and msybe his memory in my mind will someday be deleted too.
You sure are ! Took my whole life from 6 years old to me at 60 with Andrew's help to wake up, leave and put my life back together. I'm still in the middle of just leaving and trying to heal. I don't think I would have figured this out without Andrew laying it out for me. Talking a deep breath now and moving forward.
Becoming silent, going 100% no contact, blocking all flying monkeys, getting rid of all memories... This is when we discard the narcissist, and break those trauma bonds🎉❤
Everything you said is true. When you go silent, the answers will appear. Silence is beautiful and empowering. It provides comfort for our spirit in the process of grieving all those casualties of the narcisistic relationships. I find it hard to believe how many. Thank you Andrew. God bless you❤
The rabbit hole, for me, is as deep as the one Alice In Wonderland fell into. Many unexpected memories and light bulb moments, introspection, journaling, and education about toxic and narcissistic people have been an eye-opening experience. It's not an easy journey, but it's well worth it.
@winnebagolakefly you are here, and that is good. You will make it. If I can, I know that you can. Welcome to the healing path... like Alice, you will grow and one day awaken to discover your true self at some point in your journey.
Someone who truly loves u will want to bring out the best in u....not the worst. They won't try to make u miserable. Narcs don't want u to be happy. They are tornadoes , it's hard to be calm, peaceful.creative, content and all good feelings while having all that chaos surrounding a person . Great video as usual Andrew 🙂 Namaste 🙏
Wow! This is another great lesson on the powerful impact of silence. Thank you Andrew! During the narcissistic relationship the abused was conditioned to be silent. However, when we escape that phase of tyranny we can then turn that disposition of being Silent AGAINST the narcissist and moreover, we can now CHOOSE to practice the discipline of ‘silence,’ as a means of self empowerment. Loving it Andrew! Thank you!🙏♥️🙏
I was awaken from a deep sleep with loud music this morning. It was an unknown phone number. They use other people's phones. Childishly behavior. Let everything go to voice mail first. Stay safe everyone. Thanks Andrew for all your help.
The narcs envy the high vibrations of empaths and they seem to think that it is something they can steal. They are delusional. Have a great afternoon Andrew. ❤😊
I used to shake my head wondering how cult followers could be so duped , indoctrinated and so willing to follow a leader who was really a wolf in sheep’s clothing…. Guess what? This was my life 30 years with a narcissist and just woke up 2 months ago! I came out of the fog and opened my eyes! I’ve deprogrammed on my own with the help of these videos and grateful for the help and mental affirmation telling me I’m on the path to recovery. Was I blind and a fool? Yup pers. I am forgiving /saving the rest of my life for a peaceful future.
Andrew I will check back later to see if my message was erased. I know who did it. I don't care. I will continue to help others survive and thrive. Yeah. Checking back it is still up. I am stronger than ever.
When I was first able to become silent (after discarding the narcissist and finalizing the divorce), I took the time to calm down and understand that I was safe and free. I started being able to breathe, to take a calming shower, savor a cuppa coffee. Then I searched into myself and the answers started to come.
I have gone no contact with 3 narcissistic family members for 7 months. I have gotten stronger and smarter with your help. The big challenge is in a week. There is a wedding I must attend. I will take your lessons with me and I will return to my no contact approach. I certainly believe every minute of exposure to them is treacherous! Thank you for your help!
They absolutely hate it when you give them the silent treatment, ignore them and block them Expect hoovering and stalking during this period and the key to success is to block them and go absolutely no contact.
@@Tigers_Eye_Lady I hope you gain the courage to realise that Narcs are not genuine people. Every time your emotional thinking activates, this corrupts your logical thinking. Remember the wrongs and abuse that you received from him.They are love frauds and don't forget that. One particular self confessed Narc on TH-cam gives this advice... Once you know you go, you get out and stay out. Keep listening to Andrew and others, this helps moving on.
As long as ego intervenes, we can't be silent. It's in the silence that we can hear and think. Seems to me that we need to overcome ego in order to make any recovery happen. Silence is one of the most potent weapons we have if used wisely. Thanks, Andrew. Blessed afternoon to you. 🙏❤
I need to go gray rock. I have a relative who is so condescending to me: "I didn't misunderstand, you didn't explain it right", "I'm not wrong you are and you can't communicate so we can't communicate" then more blah, blah, blah - then hangs up on me. Dismissed! It's like being run over. So hurtful because I don't even talk to this person in that manner. Going gray rock is all I can do. I have Panic/Anxiety disorders and ADHD - I'm not stupid and don't need to be looked down on like that. This stress effects me physically. Being an empath is not always easy but I still believe it is a good thing.
It took decades for me to see clearly, I pray for all of you who have or are going through this, it is a journey but you can do it 💝🙏🏼 Grey Rock has eliminated the drama and peace has followed. 🤝Andrew bless you brother 🙏🏼
The silence used to bother me and still does occasionally. It has become solace now as I move forward. Reading books, fixing cars and electronics again. Silence in it all as I toil away. Nobody there telling me to hurry up not that I was allowed to follow my hobbies. Serenity in small doses.
Roll under the radar, gray rock like, work hard for yourself, follow your heart ❤️, passions and dreams. Make moves, goto to school, get training, start a new hobby, find something to put your energy into. Something you enjoy or could be proud of.
After 6 years, FINALLY, I Went No Contact April 26,2023. Instantly, I felt free. I'm taking it one day at a time rebuilding myself spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, psychologically, socially, and financially. no more gaslighting no more narcissistic rage no more walking on eggshells no more sleepless nights, unless I choose to be awake. no more isolation from friends and family no more trying to prove my loyalty and love. no more sickness no more disregard for my feelings no more to so much more.
I’ve had it with being silent for years! I’m very angry now and I’m going to fight for my justice. I’m so sick of the abuse even with this journey I’ve lost faith! Thanks God your such an awesome God 😉
Hi. I am in the same place as well. I am angry as hell. I am still digging out of the financial, medical, health, and issues. It's a nightmare only we can understand. No friends left. I thank God I am alive! Bless you! 😢😂❤
I hear you, im right their right now, fed up just sick to death of the mind games from my narcissistic family, I just cut ties, with them, I want justice as well but the justice I think we get is nothing they will ever know or understand as they justify their behaviour and back each other up, I know im very isolated at present but im prepared to just meet me with who I am and what I want and where and what I want to be doing without persecution or put downs.
This is the best narc channel on the planet. I am divorcing one and was just discarded. They are vile evil charlatans who prey on everyone. But we all know once you stop caring and stop pleasing they fold
Character assasination, they love. I can clearly see, by remaining silent and observe. It's so pathetic, to see and experience. Namaste, strength, love and light.❤🙏💪
A student is this video targeting a certain age of people because I’ve never watched a person that’s giving advice now so much stuff in my experience in life, as the same as what you say, like word for word, and even the same flow and stuff that I knew was going on but Wondering why is it happening not everybody else is living like this but when you talk, it’s like you have mapped out exactly everything that I’ve experienced
I am delirious with the amount of time i have! He took every ounce of energy and i was exhausted. I'm booked w/a therapist, and it's difficult to stand up for you and only you - but oxygen mask rule; you can only help others when you are living your best life. Stop rescuing adults.
Binge watching Andrew's videos while purge crying. Binge and purge haha. So much truth and it is purposefully coming from a place of love and light. Let us all vibrate higher and stick together. We are comrades no matter what stage we are in, it is the trenches of the abuse... then army crawl through the tunnel towards healing. Thank you, Andrew and to the crew on the channel.
Hi Gina, I've been separated 2 years after 23 years with her. Still it's really difficult but I hope you can find some peace within and some solace. there's lots of us out here going through the same thing.
Very, very poweful video. Thank you. I can taste the freedom now, after getting education and going silent. The only thing that works with narcissits. 🙏
I have been there ,it's heavy and very toxic But people need to note that not all difficult and selfish individuals are narcissists. Narcissist personality disorder got very especific traits.
I advise against silence if you can already see the answers with your eyes. In short, they will accuse you of the things which they're guilty of doing.
Hi Andrew and my beautiful family! This message speaks volumes....when I finally start getting knowledge and learning about narcissist it was more easier to give the silent treatment to find my Escape route and once you go silence that really changes there game plan!! And things changes.....you can detach and let go all emotions!! And then nothing they can say will hurt you... none of the gaslighting and none of the shame you and putting you down or disrespecting you!! At that point you have tooken your power back!! I hope everyone is enjoying a day and stay blessed! Namaste 🙏🏽 💖
Thank U for callings us Family ❤🥰 This why I'm here, living alone after No contact w/ the Narc Mom & her Flying Monkeys.....Thank U, Hugs! I needed to hear thus 🥰 God Bless U & Hello Bro Andrew!
Thank you Meka Love, I so enjoyed your wonderful message! That's so true, I started making hats for the Chemo department after my Dad passed and it was in a different room than my narc spouse and his bromance were with the TV. I had a quiet place to plan and sort out my feelings and gai. Some semblance of control with the yarn and it settled my mind.
I've went silent on my narcissist ex husband but still have to communicate because we have small children. I am like an emotionless robot when I communicate or text him. He tried to do thing to get reactions and I just calmly get in my car and drive away. When he violates the restraining order I reported it so he doesn't do as much as he uses to. When he has the kids I unblock my number and when they are home he goes back on block because he still hoovers me when him and the new supply are fighting
After being in a life long toxic relationship. Eye realize eye don’t even speak up in public anymore. The conditioning affects me even to this day. Have to stay conscious and tell my self speak your mind your free now
Narcissism seems far more spread than we ever imagined could anybody try to even estimate the amount of the population that behaves in such a manner. Dementia the root form of the word is demon, what are the seven things that the Lord DETESTS? There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community. So I'm resolved to thinking it's a form of dementia maybe it's a mental illness inflicted by social environment
Yes. The organization was AA. And no one goes there because they’re well, and I’m no exception. That fellowship saved my life but it’s also where I met the narc.
Exactly what happened. Left a narc contaminated social circle. One friend tracked me down. He was unaware he was in a fog and post communication, I had to end that relationship. Bittersweet, but ya gotta do what ya gotta do. My impetus for a change in direction and a reality based attitude came from this channel. Am I grateful? Is the sky blue?👍🙏🌅
🐬✨I am consuming this video safely from my new abode, a refuge. I have finally escaped from narc-a-traz!!!😉😏after 26 years in captivity!! Oh lordy free at last!! Thank you my healing freinds on this channel You know who you are and that I love you, the world's biggest hug coming at ya!!🤗🫂💕💪🐾🐾🙏🐢🦭🐬🦋🕊️💫🌼💐🌸🌿
Hi Maria, I'm so happy and relieved that you're in a refuge. Love you, Maria, my soul sister, and sending you a great big hug! Have a wonderful day today on Friday! I'm praying for you for permanent housing and for getting accepted to receive the benefits.❤️ 🙏 😇 😇 😇 🌷 🌻
@@hollylorn131 hi Holly. Thank you for your message. I went to a benifit's meeting today and my support team member came with me, I really needed her as my head was swimming. Couldn't take all of it in. Due to stress. But I got an emergency payment up front and I have a meeting again in a month. I will be meeting with my support team member again today to talk a few things over. I had a good sleep last night but after dealing with things before I feel a bit drained again. How are you, I hope you are well. How is the temperature? Have you got a purifier yet. It is pretty hot here and I find heat doesn't compliment stress. I hope you are getting the sleep and rest that you need and feel comfortable. Is it safe to go out for walks now ( air pollution ). Are there still fires in the us? Please let know how your doing In general. I am thinking of you always. Thank you for all you have helped me with . You are worth your weight in gold. And I hope you know that. You are one of my dearest friends and I want you to know this. You are such a shining light in this world. Every thing you do is magic, becouse you are angelic!!! FACT!! Sending you all the great stuff. Have a beautiful day my dear freind Holly soul sister.🙏🫂🌺💐🌿🐬🐚🕊️🐢🔥🧚🌸💖🐾🐾🌹😊😘🤗🫂🙏
@@artluvr6170 Thank you. I will have to take a listen sometime. "Heavenly Eyes 1111hz Make It Happen" is the one I just started listening to, incase you ever want to check it out.
The title alone is awesome!! I tell people often sometimes doing nothing is doing something!! To anyone hurting due to a narcissistic abusive relationship Andrew’s one on ones are really helpful! He is worth paying he really helped me in the beginning and I am sincerely grateful for the hand up out of the depths of hell
@@jeanetteshawredden5643 we went from the patient to the doctor!! Those of us that have come out and did the healing needed!! I remember when I left the narc situation I went to the grocery store one day and sat in my car and ate jelly beans savoring MY freedom and the sweet taste of yummy jelly beans! That day and moment is a beautiful memory!!
It’s important during this time that you really think about what it is that would make you happy… in life, in a romantic relationship, write these things down. Know the red flags of the narc relationship and use them as your guideposts for other relationships. If you SEE them in other relationships, don’t wait until you’re too invested in the relationship to get out of it. 🎯💯🙌 🚩🏃♀️🏃🏻♂️💨 GREAT video Andrew!!! Hope you’re having a WONDERFUL afternoon 😌😇🙏😉☀️😁👍
Definitely met the Narc…..during an unhealthy time. Cost me 16 years. But I’m so proud of myself for making it out alive…..with 3 beautiful children. God is faithful!
Every time you break no contact with the narcissist, you’re opening yourself up to more abuse. You do it only because you crave for closure and validation, something you’ll never get from the narcissist, their pride and ego won’t let them admit the truth. You feel violated, contaminated, every time you break your silence, until you eventually figure out that your silence is golden and the path to healing 🙏
They know and hate when you figure them out!! That moment when it all comes together and you have done your homework... SILENCE is a key component in the narc antedote!! The fog ~the sinking ship~the loop is all such a waste of precious time and energy. Learn from it and keep moving forward. This helps me when the rage fits come..I visualize a child having a tantrum in an adult body. Im off the hamster wheel~still in the cage BUT the door is open! If I can do this I know others can too :) Love & Blessings to all of you. Thank You so much Andrew❤️🤗🙏
Gray Rock ROCKS....a must in our toolbox. Yes Andrew, through silence the answers have come. I recognize that I had to exam my part in getting caught up in the Narc's Web.......never again!!! Cheers to awareness & growth 🎀😘
He could always out yell me. I did not argue with him, and he loved it. A silent verbal punching bag. Yes, I was in a fog. And stuck. All of my money was stolen by him. He is evil and very smart. I may heal emotionally, financially is another story. P.S. Andrew, all phones today can become 'ghosts ' phones.
I left my narcissistic husband, who had been mistreating me and abusing me for the past few years, in December of 2022. I reached the 6 month mark this month. When that day came, I realized that I wouldn't go back no matter how charming the manner nor how sweet the words. I appreciate your compassionate insights, Andrew, and I appreciate all I've learned from this channel and from Dr. Carter and Dr. Ramani. God bless you for your assistance in needed healing, Andrew.
Excellent message, thank you for sharing Andrew 🙏 Silence is indeed where the gold is. We have all of the wisdom we need already inside of us, we just need to stop and listen. One rare moment that I was listening during the relationship, I heard clearly "You're done here". Little did I know at the time the magnitude of that statement, across my entire life 💞🙏
I also heard the statements "We are done" and "You get nothing". The silence really is golden, peaceful and freeing. Thanks again everyone for the wisdom.
Silence is the key. No contact no matter what. The narcissists lose their power and Silence in the only way to get away from these parasites. The only way to heal is to remain silent.
One way I found to flip the switch and Short circuit the narcissist is, after the character assassination and smear campaign, is to simply say to them "Thank you for the closure!"
I left over a year ago and still watch your videos to remind me and encourage me; They also help me to make sense of things., Even now. Thank you so much Andrew!!!! 🙏🙏🙏
I have gone silent, peace of mind and spirit has returned. Thank you Andrew for all your videos.
Welcome..💜🙏😌
Oh yes...
Empaths are the most patient people on Earth....but when the worse comes to worst...they'll move and not look back
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So true
There comes that’ point’ that you just say “ that’s it”.
The more silent you become, the more desperate the narcissist gets. Become the quiet achiever, sit back afar with popcorn and enjoy the psycho show.
Really?
For sure
"Be still, and know that I am God..." Psalm 46:10. He wants us to turn to Him, rest in his presence, trust Him to provide the answers, but He wants us to wake up, stop striving to do it all on our own. We need to acknowledge him for Who and What He is, and allow Him to do what only He can do. We are His children, He knows our every need, and only He can provide for these needs. TRUTH
Amen! One of my favorite Bible verses that I refer to often. Thank you for sharing. It was very thoughtfully written.🙏❤️
Amen❤❤❤
When did I meet the narcissist? I met the narcissist when I was happy, innocent, single and enjoying life; then a female friend asked me if I wanted to meet her best friend who was single. Turned out she was introducing me to a narcissist. It was 8 months of everything Andrew discusses here on this channel. I searched “rage fits” gaslighting, and here I am single and happy again, but now I know what NPD is. And I am glad I experienced the narcissist because now I have wisdom and discovered the empath in me; AND I also learned that I had indeed been exposed to other narcissists as a child and never realized it till I learned from Andrew to look back.
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same
Only wish...is why didn't I leave a long time ago....
So free! Like a weight off my shoulders..yet them and re the family still listens 🎧 to all my calls and reads text message..
Sometime men and women just get obsessed and think that you can't get over them...
# over it ...!
#peace...😊
Blessings 💖
Exactly!!! They hook us at our best!
🎯Spot on Andrew, as always a Hero to many.Keep up the good work...
🤸🏞️🌄@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
10 weeks since I left, 3 weeks no contact. Getting physically, mentally and emotionally stronger every day cultivating the third and best version of myself. ❤ thank you for your service
3 weeks since I've seen him, limited texting only, so far so good here, too. ❤
Welcome 💪😌🙏💯
Haven’t seen my covert in 45 days, and day 7 no contact.
Take it a day at a time, try and understand you had a very lucky escape.
My shrink on my first visit told me a story of a patient who he counseled to never speak to family. He said 15 years later she returned to thank him as it was the best advice she ever received.All correspondence went through her husband. Many sessions later when it became obvious I needed to go no contact I asked him how he knew on my first visit?! His reply "50 years and I've seen most everything " Folks been no contact 4 months .trust me I am better for it.
Thank you Andrew. When you are silent, you take the time to reflect. When you are away from the chaos and drama of the narcissist, you can look back and try to understand and learn from the dysfunctional relationship.
We here on the channel are fortunate. We now know what narcissism is.
We know it was NOT our fault. We need to heal. We need to protect ourselves. We need to thrive. We can do this.
Welcome 😌🙌🙏💯
Amen to that Nikki
So very true. I've been silent and journaled and I've been healing!
Thank you I am married to a narcissistic man for thirty two years never know what narcissistic was until recently when I stumbled on this site my eyes open we are American citizen but now leaving in Africa to establish a business I don't know ow if there is a psychiatric I could take him to for nor he does not want to return I am forwarding all your tapes but he does not want to look at them
indeed my friend ;She used chaos and distortion ALL the time to keep me weak and sleep deprived
"Your silence speaks volume. Your silence is empowering. Not giving the narcissist your energy is the key, its the path. Let them shrivel up and fade away into the darkness. Into the quagmire of low vibrational people. That's were they belong. That's were they've always been. The thing is that they wanted to vibrate high with you, they did and they then slowly took you down into their vibrational level and that's what they wanted to keep you. They wanted to exchange vibrational levels. They wanted to steal your high vibrational level and to keep you kept in the pit of Darkness on their low vibrational level and it did work. Until it didnt." -Andrew NarcDaily
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Wow!! This is ALL so true!
Fact ! 😊 I'm out...
The flying monkeys are the narcissist friends don't talk to them because they go back and tell The narcissist everything you said.
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Yes they will, 💯 🙈 🙉 👀
My siblings, the narc's(sibling), flying monkeys, take it up another notch. Every conversation with me is recorded. Grossly disfunctional.
My comment got erased? Wow.. Anyway I am an oldie. I have gone no contact for almost a year now. I never understood "WHY" do I pick these toxic people. For the first time in my life I know WHY... Patterns of behavior growing up. Narcissism in my family. I have repeated this mistake over and over again. I was an enabler, people pleaser... you name it and it was me. I couldn't figure out the WHY.... I am intelligent. I have a psychology degree hoping I would get my answer. Still I picked toxic people. Now I know "Why". My favorite word in the English language is NO. I HAVE BOUNDARIES NOW. I Am 72 years old and for the first time feel free as a bird. This will happen to you if you learn from Andrew and others on you tube regarding narcissists. I am a thriver and survivor. I have reached indifference. I am proud of everyone who has blocked the person and got rid of flying monkeys. I understand it is difficult. It is well worth it. Don't worry about the smear campaign, cyberbullying and stalking. It is something the narcissist has to do. It is like breathing air. Once you ignore it and get rid of flying monkeys you will reach your goals. If this message gets erased again, I realize, my toxic person can't live without me. I on the other hand can and am living proof you don't deserve this behavior. Be good to yourself. Love yourself. I do now and deserve love back.
Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom. ❤ Im a late learner too, i got out of one ladting 29 yrs & a few yrs later went right back into another one! Both were covert, But out of it a few wks thanks to Andrew's very real messages & journaling. I went silent mirroring him and he didn't like it one bit, and said he'd delete me.
It's very depressing facing my own empath stupidity. But the silent treatment he began ended really well for me. Deleted everything and msybe his memory in my mind will someday be deleted too.
You sure are ! Took my whole life from 6 years old to me at 60 with Andrew's help to wake up, leave and put my life back together. I'm still in the middle of just leaving and trying to heal. I don't think I would have figured this out without Andrew laying it out for me. Talking a deep breath now and moving forward.
It is so healing to realize I’m not alone in the horrors of these relationships!
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Thanks. I'm not well with her 😢🤧
Becoming silent, going 100% no contact, blocking all flying monkeys, getting rid of all memories... This is when we discard the narcissist, and break those trauma bonds🎉❤
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And in today’s day and age, they might contact with a Burner number or something, but we never respond. Never ever ever.
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@@unelectedleader6494 true!🙏💞
Everything you said is true. When you go silent, the answers will appear. Silence is beautiful and empowering. It provides comfort for our spirit in the process of grieving all those casualties of the narcisistic relationships. I find it hard to believe how many. Thank you Andrew. God bless you❤
Welcome 🙌😌❤️
Beautifully written
The rabbit hole, for me, is as deep as the one Alice In Wonderland fell into. Many unexpected memories and light bulb moments, introspection, journaling, and education about toxic and narcissistic people have been an eye-opening experience. It's not an easy journey, but it's well worth it.
Same here…and I’m just getting started!
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@winnebagolakefly you are here, and that is good. You will make it. If I can, I know that you can. Welcome to the healing path... like Alice, you will grow and one day awaken to discover your true self at some point in your journey.
@@marybarton5651❤❤❤❤ ALLLL of that!!! A-MEN!!! ☝️☝️☝️
Same here! Totally understand. It's not easy or fun to accept the truth, but it is far better than the horror of the lies.
Someone who truly loves u will want to bring out the best in u....not the worst. They won't try to make u miserable.
Narcs don't want u to be happy. They are tornadoes , it's hard to be calm, peaceful.creative, content and all good
feelings while having all that chaos surrounding a person . Great video as usual Andrew 🙂 Namaste 🙏
Good description ~ tornados 😊
Bask in the silence of being...just being.
That is enough.
YOU are enough.
No need to do...just be.
Love this, Andrew!
God bless you and all!
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Wow! This is another great lesson on the powerful impact of silence. Thank you Andrew! During the narcissistic relationship the abused was conditioned to be silent. However, when we escape that phase of tyranny we can then turn that disposition of being Silent AGAINST the narcissist and moreover, we can now CHOOSE to practice the discipline of ‘silence,’ as a means of self empowerment. Loving it Andrew! Thank you!🙏♥️🙏
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Amen!
I was awaken from a deep sleep with loud music this morning. It was an unknown phone number. They use other people's phones. Childishly behavior. Let everything go to voice mail first. Stay safe everyone. Thanks Andrew for all your help.
The narcs envy the high vibrations of empaths and they seem to think that it is something they can steal. They are delusional. Have a great afternoon Andrew. ❤😊
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I love your comment!
So interesting to think of them trying to steal something they can’t actually possess.
@@annastone5624 I am glad you like it. 🙏 thank you for your message. Grately appreciated. Have a great day. 😌🙌💜
They want to extinguish that light in you because misery likes company. They don't want to be better but to bring you down with them.
@@basicinfo2022 exactly 😉💯🙌🙏
Keep rising everyone….keep rising!! 🕊️🕊️🕊️🌟🌟🌟
I used to shake my head wondering how cult followers could be so duped , indoctrinated and so willing to follow a leader who was really a wolf in sheep’s clothing….
Guess what? This was my life 30 years with a narcissist and just woke up 2 months ago! I came out of the fog and opened my eyes! I’ve deprogrammed on my own with the help of these videos and grateful for the help and mental affirmation telling me I’m on the path to recovery. Was I blind and a fool? Yup pers. I am forgiving /saving the rest of my life for a peaceful future.
It's amazing when your creativity comes back. ❤
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Andrew I will check back later to see if my message was erased. I know who did it. I don't care. I will continue to help others survive and thrive. Yeah. Checking back it is still up. I am stronger than ever.
Becoming silent was the best way to keep my kids safe.
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When I was first able to become silent (after discarding the narcissist and finalizing the divorce), I took the time to calm down and understand that I was safe and free. I started being able to breathe, to take a calming shower, savor a cuppa coffee. Then I searched into myself and the answers started to come.
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Well said.
@@jeanetteshawredden5643 Thank you, Jeanette. I hope that you are well.
SOOOOOO TRUE!! SOOOOO PEACEFUL EVENTUALLY!!😅🎉😂❤❤❤😂🎉🎉😂😅😅😅😅❤❤❤ BIG THANK YOU!! YEEESSS!!
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"He who speaks does not know.He who knows does not speak". Lao Tzu... true 2000 years ago and sadly still is today.
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I have gone no contact with 3 narcissistic family members for 7 months. I have gotten stronger and smarter with your help.
The big challenge is in a week. There is a wedding I must attend.
I will take your lessons with me and I will return to my no contact approach.
I certainly believe every minute of exposure to them is treacherous!
Thank you for your help!
They absolutely hate it when you give them the silent treatment, ignore them and block them
Expect hoovering and stalking during this period and the key to success is to block them and go absolutely no contact.
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Yep he keeps finding a way to come back as if nothing happened…..telling me I need to be ‘nice’ to be with him!? 🤷♀️
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I hope you gain the courage to realise that Narcs are not genuine people.
Every time your emotional thinking activates, this corrupts your logical thinking. Remember the wrongs and abuse that you received from him.They are love frauds and don't forget that.
One particular self confessed Narc on TH-cam gives this advice...
Once you know you go, you get out and stay out.
Keep listening to Andrew and others, this helps moving on.
As long as ego intervenes, we can't be silent. It's in the silence that we can hear and think. Seems to me that we need to overcome ego in order to make any recovery happen. Silence is one of the most potent weapons we have if used wisely. Thanks, Andrew. Blessed afternoon to you. 🙏❤
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I need to go gray rock. I have a relative who is so condescending to me: "I didn't misunderstand, you didn't explain it right", "I'm not wrong you are and you can't communicate so we can't communicate" then more blah, blah, blah - then hangs up on me. Dismissed! It's like being run over. So hurtful because I don't even talk to this person in that manner. Going gray rock is all I can do. I have Panic/Anxiety disorders and ADHD - I'm not stupid and don't need to be looked down on like that. This stress effects me physically. Being an empath is not always easy but I still believe it is a good thing.
It took decades for me to see clearly, I pray for all of you who have or are going through this, it is a journey but you can do it 💝🙏🏼
Grey Rock has eliminated the drama and peace has followed.
🤝Andrew bless you brother 🙏🏼
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The silence used to bother me and still does occasionally. It has become solace now as I move forward. Reading books, fixing cars and electronics again. Silence in it all as I toil away. Nobody there telling me to hurry up not that I was allowed to follow my hobbies.
Serenity in small doses.
Good for you! I am going to do the same, arts and crafts version. 😂
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Roll under the radar, gray rock like, work hard for yourself, follow your heart ❤️, passions and dreams. Make moves, goto to school, get training, start a new hobby, find something to put your energy into. Something you enjoy or could be proud of.
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Amen Jess!!! 👍
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After 6 years, FINALLY, I Went No Contact April 26,2023. Instantly, I felt free. I'm taking it one day at a time rebuilding myself spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, psychologically, socially, and financially.
no more gaslighting
no more narcissistic rage
no more walking on eggshells
no more sleepless nights, unless I choose to be awake.
no more isolation from friends and family
no more trying to prove my loyalty and love.
no more sickness
no more disregard for my feelings
no more to so much more.
@lakish: EXACTLY!!!
Yep the silence and long long thought process brings nonstop revelations and intuitive unanswered answers
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"The quagmire of low vibrational people" 😂😂😂 That made me laugh! Ty❤
yes yes yes refRAMEing the picture on the wall is telling us all in BOLDS
Silence and distance is needed to see through, contact is self destruction
Silence is teaching me a lot about the last 50 years. I was easy for her. The naivety that comes with Asperger’s made me an easy mark.
I’ve had it with being silent for years! I’m very angry now and I’m going to fight for my justice.
I’m so sick of the abuse even with this journey I’ve lost faith!
Thanks God your such an awesome God 😉
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Hi. I am in the same place as well. I am angry as hell. I am still digging out of the financial, medical, health, and issues. It's a nightmare only we can understand. No friends left. I thank God I am alive! Bless you! 😢😂❤
Remember to block, and get rid of flying monkeys. People the narcissist knows.
I hear you, im right their right now, fed up just sick to death of the mind games from my narcissistic family, I just cut ties,
with them,
I want justice as well but the justice I think we get is nothing they will ever know or understand as they justify their behaviour and back each other up, I know im very isolated at present but im prepared to just meet me with who I am and what I want and where and what I want to be doing without persecution or put downs.
Yes, it takes time to heal. Being silent is something that we need to gain clarity.
im a huge fan of silence when dealing w narcs/non narcs alike.
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Angel's exist & I thank you so much enjoy your day
This is the best narc channel on the planet. I am divorcing one and was just discarded. They are vile evil charlatans who prey on everyone. But we all know once you stop caring and stop pleasing they fold
Thank you for sharing 💯🙏🙌☀️
Character assasination, they love. I can clearly see, by remaining silent and observe. It's so pathetic, to see and experience. Namaste, strength, love and light.❤🙏💪
Namaste ☀️🙏😌
A student is this video targeting a certain age of people because I’ve never watched a person that’s giving advice now so much stuff in my experience in life, as the same as what you say, like word for word, and even the same flow and stuff that I knew was going on but Wondering why is it happening not everybody else is living like this but when you talk, it’s like you have mapped out exactly everything that I’ve experienced
I am delirious with the amount of time i have! He took every ounce of energy and i was exhausted. I'm booked w/a therapist, and it's difficult to stand up for you and only you - but oxygen mask rule; you can only help others when you are living your best life. Stop rescuing adults.
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Very true, silence speaks volumes 😂
Andrew you’re a life saver for all of us. The clarity we all sought for so long.
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That’s a great point. I wouldn’t of had as much awareness without this channel, I don’t think. 🤩
Its a must!! Silent and observe they have patterns.
„One minute you stay in the toxic relationship is one minute to Long.“👏💯!!!!
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Sometimes you have to be quiet in order to hear the voice of truth.
The wound is where the light shines through.
Rumi
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Such an underrated topic 😌 🌬️ 🧘🏻♂️ ☀️ 🌲
Binge watching Andrew's videos while purge crying. Binge and purge haha. So much truth and it is purposefully coming from a place of love and light. Let us all vibrate higher and stick together. We are comrades no matter what stage we are in, it is the trenches of the abuse... then army crawl through the tunnel towards healing. Thank you, Andrew and to the crew on the channel.
Welcome 😌💯🙏🙌
Hi Gina, I've been separated 2 years after 23 years with her. Still it's really difficult but I hope you can find some peace within and some solace. there's lots of us out here going through the same thing.
Very, very poweful video. Thank you. I can taste the freedom now, after getting education and going silent. The only thing that works with narcissits. 🙏
I have been there ,it's heavy and very toxic
But people need to note that not all difficult and selfish individuals are narcissists.
Narcissist personality disorder got very especific traits.
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I advise against silence if you can already see the answers with your eyes. In short, they will accuse you of the things which they're guilty of doing.
So impowering. Thank you. It makes such good sense .😊
Welcome..🙏💯😌
Comeback story💪. -- no disrespect to the narc, it’s not about them, it’s about ourself-- and it’s amazing to be yourself again.
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Awesome....high five!!! 👍
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GRIEVE thru PAIN
GROW with CHANGE
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Hi Andrew and my beautiful family! This message speaks volumes....when I finally start getting knowledge and learning about narcissist it was more easier to give the silent treatment to find my Escape route and once you go silence that really changes there game plan!! And things changes.....you can detach and let go all emotions!! And then nothing they can say will hurt you... none of the gaslighting and none of the shame you and putting you down or disrespecting you!! At that point you have tooken your power back!! I hope everyone is enjoying a day and stay blessed! Namaste 🙏🏽 💖
Thank U for callings us Family ❤🥰
This why I'm here, living alone after No contact w/ the Narc Mom & her Flying Monkeys.....Thank U, Hugs!
I needed to hear thus 🥰
God Bless U & Hello Bro Andrew!
Thank you Meka Love, I so enjoyed your wonderful message! That's so true, I started making hats for the Chemo department after my Dad passed and it was in a different room than my narc spouse and his bromance were with the TV. I had a quiet place to plan and sort out my feelings and gai. Some semblance of control with the yarn and it settled my mind.
@@janetroberts5140 my condolences and sorry for your loss🙏🏽
Namaste 🙏❤️😌
I've went silent on my narcissist ex husband but still have to communicate because we have small children. I am like an emotionless robot when I communicate or text him. He tried to do thing to get reactions and I just calmly get in my car and drive away. When he violates the restraining order I reported it so he doesn't do as much as he uses to. When he has the kids I unblock my number and when they are home he goes back on block because he still hoovers me when him and the new supply are fighting
After being in a life long toxic relationship. Eye realize eye don’t even speak up in public anymore. The conditioning affects me even to this day. Have to stay conscious and tell my self speak your mind your free now
No matter what time you post 📯 you're never late and always on time🎉
Narcissism seems far more spread than we ever imagined could anybody try to even estimate the amount of the population that behaves in such a manner. Dementia the root form of the word is demon, what are the seven things that the Lord DETESTS?
There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.
So I'm resolved to thinking it's a form of dementia maybe it's a mental illness inflicted by social environment
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My Dear Sweet Andrew,
My heart and soul have suffered and now endured. Thank you. I am 70 years old in one week and I feel reborn 😊❤
Welcome 😇❤️😌
Yes. The organization was AA. And no one goes there because they’re well, and I’m no exception. That fellowship saved my life but it’s also where I met the narc.
Exactly what happened. Left a narc contaminated social circle. One friend tracked me down. He was unaware he was in a fog and post communication, I had to end that relationship. Bittersweet, but ya gotta do what ya gotta do. My impetus for a change in direction and a reality based attitude came from this channel. Am I grateful? Is the sky blue?👍🙏🌅
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You're very strong.
FACTS! Listen to him!🎉Be Still!
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🐬✨I am consuming this video safely from my new abode, a refuge. I have finally escaped from narc-a-traz!!!😉😏after 26 years in captivity!!
Oh lordy free at last!!
Thank you my healing freinds on this channel
You know who you are and that I love you, the world's biggest hug coming at ya!!🤗🫂💕💪🐾🐾🙏🐢🦭🐬🦋🕊️💫🌼💐🌸🌿
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone yipppeeeeeeeeeeeee 😃😸
Thank you for your magic.🌹🫂💕🙏🥳🐬
Hi Maria, I'm so happy and relieved that you're in a refuge. Love you, Maria, my soul sister, and sending you a great big hug! Have a wonderful day today on Friday! I'm praying for you for permanent housing and for getting accepted to receive the benefits.❤️ 🙏 😇 😇 😇 🌷 🌻
@@hollylorn131 hi Holly. Thank you for your message. I went to a benifit's meeting today and my support team member came with me, I really needed her as my head was swimming. Couldn't take all of it in. Due to stress. But I got an emergency payment up front and I have a meeting again in a month. I will be meeting with my support team member again today to talk a few things over. I had a good sleep last night but after dealing with things before I feel a bit drained again.
How are you, I hope you are well. How is the temperature? Have you got a purifier yet. It is pretty hot here and I find heat doesn't compliment stress.
I hope you are getting the sleep and rest that you need and feel comfortable. Is it safe to go out for walks now ( air pollution ).
Are there still fires in the us?
Please let know how your doing
In general. I am thinking of you always. Thank you for all you have helped me with . You are worth your weight in gold. And I hope you know that. You are one of my dearest friends and I want you to know this. You are such a shining light in this world. Every thing you do is magic, becouse you are angelic!!! FACT!!
Sending you all the great stuff.
Have a beautiful day my dear freind Holly soul sister.🙏🫂🌺💐🌿🐬🐚🕊️🐢🔥🧚🌸💖🐾🐾🌹😊😘🤗🫂🙏
Yes high alert and exhausted. It's pathetic and you sure do realize once stepping back and becoming silent it really puts things into perspective.
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So good to be free of them. To regain your confidence and independence. You can do it.
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Truth all words maximum. Thx!
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❤☝️❤☝️❤ 😁 Hello Ruby and Andrew!!! 🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗
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Began meditating to 1111hz meditation music the past couple evenings. What a healing experience.
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I like the Tibetan throat singing monks. There are great videos on TH-cam.
@@artluvr6170 Thank you. I will have to take a listen sometime. "Heavenly Eyes 1111hz Make It Happen" is the one I just started listening to, incase you ever want to check it out.
@@Divinely_Guided444 I'll check it out.
Yes
Grey rocking drives it nuts
Went gray rock, no contact, dead to me. He doesn't even know where I am.
They come looking for trouble . You go silent . !!!
Silence is golden sometimes you gotta use your mind😎
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100 % correct...
Every day devalued.
Hi Andrew, this is so true. I am not in a narcissistic relationship anymore. I haven’t been for two years and it feels fantastic.
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Yea, the narcissist may be your history but he or she does not have to be your destiny.
Sometimes you have to give up on people. 🙏🏽
The title alone is awesome!! I tell people often sometimes doing nothing is doing something!! To anyone hurting due to a narcissistic abusive relationship Andrew’s one on ones are really helpful! He is worth paying he really helped me in the beginning and I am sincerely grateful for the hand up out of the depths of hell
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Mphd: when you have escaped the N relationship - there is nothing like the safe feeling and amazing peace that comes as you heal!
@@jeanetteshawredden5643 we went from the patient to the doctor!! Those of us that have come out and did the healing needed!! I remember when I left the narc situation I went to the grocery store one day and sat in my car and ate jelly beans savoring MY freedom and the sweet taste of yummy jelly beans! That day and moment is a beautiful memory!!
It’s important during this time that you really think about what it is that would make you happy… in life, in a romantic relationship, write these things down. Know the red flags of the narc relationship and use them as your guideposts for other relationships. If you SEE them in other relationships, don’t wait until you’re too invested in the relationship to get out of it. 🎯💯🙌 🚩🏃♀️🏃🏻♂️💨
GREAT video Andrew!!! Hope you’re having a WONDERFUL afternoon 😌😇🙏😉☀️😁👍
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Thank you 🙏🙌💯😌
THANK YOU ANDREW 😊👋 NEWBYS LISTEN TOO ANDREW ENLIGHTENMENT 😳
Welcome 😌😊🙌
Definitely met the Narc…..during an unhealthy time. Cost me 16 years. But I’m so proud of myself for making it out alive…..with 3 beautiful children. God is faithful!
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Stand up foryourself people dont understand silent when you just dont show emotions ,they judge couse they dont understand what it means
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Planes, trains and automobiles..always a gooD time for sage advice from Andrew! 😄
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❤Thank you Andrew ❤
Welcome..❤️😊🙏
Every time you break no contact with the narcissist, you’re opening yourself up to more abuse. You do it only because you crave for closure and validation, something you’ll never get from the narcissist, their pride and ego won’t let them admit the truth.
You feel violated, contaminated, every time you break your silence, until you eventually figure out that your silence is golden and the path to healing 🙏
Sounds like a Richard Grannon quote. He has lived experience too. As does Dr Ramani. And Kevin @ The Royal We ❤
Hey there Andrew! Good afternoon! 😌☀️😇🌹🩷
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They know and hate when you figure them out!! That moment when it all comes together and you have done your homework... SILENCE is a key component in the narc antedote!! The fog ~the sinking ship~the loop is all such a waste of precious time and energy. Learn from it and keep moving forward. This helps me when the rage fits come..I visualize a child having a tantrum in an adult body. Im off the hamster wheel~still in the cage BUT the door is open! If I can do this I know others can too :)
Love & Blessings to all of you. Thank You so much Andrew❤️🤗🙏
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Gray Rock ROCKS....a must in our toolbox.
Yes Andrew, through silence the answers have come.
I recognize that I had to exam my part in getting caught up in the Narc's Web.......never again!!!
Cheers to awareness & growth 🎀😘
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Yes! Let's hear it for gray rock! ✌️
Thank you Andrew,for counseling me . God Bless
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He could always out yell me. I did not argue with him, and he loved it. A silent verbal punching bag.
Yes, I was in a fog. And stuck. All of my money was stolen by him. He is evil and very smart. I may heal emotionally, financially is another story.
P.S. Andrew, all phones today can become 'ghosts ' phones.
Thank you, I did my best, there was nothing I could do differently
I left my narcissistic husband, who had been mistreating me and abusing me for the past few years, in December of 2022. I reached the 6 month mark this month. When that day came, I realized that I wouldn't go back no matter how charming the manner nor how sweet the words. I appreciate your compassionate insights, Andrew, and I appreciate all I've learned from this channel and from Dr. Carter and Dr. Ramani. God bless you for your assistance in needed healing, Andrew.
Excellent message, thank you for sharing Andrew 🙏 Silence is indeed where the gold is. We have all of the wisdom we need already inside of us, we just need to stop and listen. One rare moment that I was listening during the relationship, I heard clearly "You're done here". Little did I know at the time the magnitude of that statement, across my entire life 💞🙏
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I also heard the statements "We are done" and "You get nothing". The silence really is golden, peaceful and freeing. Thanks again everyone for the wisdom.
Silence is the key. No contact no matter what. The narcissists lose their power and Silence in the only way to get away from these parasites. The only way to heal is to remain silent.
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One way I found to flip the switch and Short circuit the narcissist is, after the character assassination and smear campaign, is to simply say to them "Thank you for the closure!"
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This IS a very powerful message Andrew. Yes, got the message ❤🙏
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I left over a year ago and still watch your videos to remind me and encourage me; They also help me to make sense of things., Even now. Thank you so much Andrew!!!! 🙏🙏🙏
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