Most relatable video I've watched in a while. Just remembering all the times he would pull this stuff on me. And I'm just sitting there confused like who is this cold, annoyed person who treats me like a huge inconvenience and what happened to the warm, affectionate, attentive man I thought I knew...? What have I done so wrong to deserve this? 🥺
U all cannot imagine my life of 50 years with this person.my203040506070yearsbeing with a person like that now only GODS MERCY on my life he left 1 year ago. I am 73.think about that like Andrew sats😢,
I feel exactly the same as you do. I told the narc that when he started spending all of his time with old friends from high school, especially the female "friend" he had dated, that his behavior drastically changed. I don't recognize this person that I was married to for 29 years, together 31. He was ice ice cold, judging me, never home, did not want to be around me at all. I also ruminate on what I did to deserve this treatment. The narc discarded me in the most hateful way and of course turned it around and blamed it on me. The difference is now I refuse to take responsibility for his actions. They are responsible for themselves period, no one else. Love and hugs to you!❤
Bad news for new supply, time doesn't stop for any of us... and the new supply gets to be with what? That's right...the aging narcissist. Much love Andrew.
But, Do you care? there was a time I was so worried about this horrific life she would have until she started throwing tantrums when i was near, the old narc trick of how badly i treated him bla bla bla! you cant feel anything for them, let things play out and keep a safe distance.
I honestly don’t care if there is a new supply.. I believe I’m so far removed at this point.. just waiting for a couple of loose ends to be tied up.. it took awhile to get here, but I did..if there is a new supply, I know they are not winning.. I just hope they figure it out sooner than I did..
My friend tried to warn the new supply. Then my friend took the wait and see approach. She { new supply } didn't believe her - until she did. Narc started treating her the same way. 😳 She called my friend for advice, my friend told her to unload him. 😉 Didn't hear much after that advice.
Believe me there was always many other supplies whether online or in person. They are masters at deception. At least the covert malignant (many years practice). I did not trust my own intuition and now I trust it immediately in every scenario in my life. Painful lesson.
Took the words right out of my mouth, your not alone. I'm finally seeing the truth but wow it took a long time and took a lot out of me and lost everything but I had to learn these lessons.
I didnt know about this kind of people untill i got that lightbulb moment when God gave me the knowledge about the existence of this type of people, i will always be greatfull.
Man the anger and rage in me towards my narc is so real and so ugly. The more time that passes and the more space I get from her, (because of NO contact, 100% through and through) the more angry I become. Now being able to look back on the relationship from a different perspective, I’m so ashamed and embarrassed of how delusional I was. I feel like I was straight up tricked. Faked. Scammed. The beauty in her lies were so intoxicating. And now seeing the truth.. it’s soooo ugly. I have a lot of healing to do and a long way to go, but everyday counts and adds up. No contact is literally the only thing that has ever worked.
Keep away, turn that anger into figuring yourself out,get therapy,,YOU ARE NOT ALONE !!! like Andrew says,,,its happening every day to unsuspecting empaths,,,,why did you pick that person?ask the serious questions,, .the narc is not worth it ,not worth your emotion..bad or good, shake it off..many get scamed..Our family friend is embroiled in an attempted assult rape situation, 62 y.o man with a woman he just said hello to.and took to SB a couple of times, it's cost him Ks approx 15 k.. Someone he never kissed, or even hugged, lawyer fees , he could have been sitting in jail waiting,,for trial, thank God he had the bail money,,the case has not even been tried yet,,he's spinning ,don't have a clue when the trial will be,His career might be destroyed...We believe him only because we know the type of person he is..she saw his car,knew his earning capacity ,she went after that, a total stranger that you never slept with,,just because he decided he was not interested in you,,you decide to unravel another's life with pure lies... You my dear woke up,thank the UNIVERSE...
Heh my bestee found letters in her x narc husband's man cave 30 years ago, When he walked out,,he did not realize he left stuff downthere,she still has them..over all those years she's trya figure out what time he had ,right after their son was born to have an affair with a woman from oversees, who came for a visit.The time line is daunting..the same week she came home with his son,the woman writing,(,no cell phones so many years ago ) that it was the best week of her life she had ever spent with someone.. 😮I tell her burn those letters..
I felt the same way a few months ago. Hang in there. Eventually, you'll burn off all that toxic energy and feelings. Then, you feel indifferent and that's what you have hold onto. It will pass, even though it's so bad at times. It's still better than being with the narc!
🎭 😢 when I left my narc husband it shocked me considering the work I put into that relationship, the chances I gave him how quickly he was going after new supply , when he realised it was not so easy to get grade A supply he tried to hoover me back. New supply will get no better even if she is Miss world
I totally agree with you onehundred , my ex narc was talking to other women one!! day after i left him , while i was heartbroken and even now, 6 weeks later, i am still not alright and it looks like i have never existed in his life ever , that really hurts😮😢
@TamikaTaylor-rl1im before watching these videos, I never believed my ex when I was married would have left me and the kids, Andrew said watch out for appearance changes, I was in the attic recently looking at old photos I had one while pregnant he had a typical Dad look, chino, check shirt, clean shaven, I set a boundary with him around that time, 4 weeks later there is a photo with me, new baby in my arms and my husband looking like a hipster dude with linen shirt, goaty beard, pale blue Jeans..trendy look at the time how did I not see it then 😉
You have described the narcissistic behaviour so well. Nobody is winning in a relationship with a narcissist. It’s losing from day one although it doesn’t seem so because of the infatuation and the narcissistic trans like fog that the target is pulled into. It’s evil’s workshop.
I am so busy with bible study and womens groups. Going horseback riding this weekend. It's very hard. The ex. NARC has a girl across the street from me. I stay focused on God. He is A Mormon...I am not. Thankful he's gone. He's a liar and cheater.
Be extremely careful in that situation,,keep you head on a swivel,,when it comes to that situation,,Move away if you can,,no one likes INYOURFACE stuff,walk with a tazer,pepper spray,gun,anything for protection, put up a doorbell camera folks are off the chain..
@@MattyNelson-rs3ikhmm, I’m in the same situation. He has 2 new girlfriends (supply) on the next street over. The flying monkey, lives 3 steps away from my apartment . I feel so violated, scared and harassed
Excellent video as always!!! You are so spot on with EVERYTHING!!! 2 years out. Doing so much better, enjoying life again. Divorced in January 2024. So happy to be finally free. What this evil demon did to me is unimaginable! Called the police on me with false accusations- I ended up in jail overnight....its unreal!!! He's getting his Karma! Thank you Andrew, I'm following you for many years now- couldn't have made it without your help! Forever grateful. Greetings from Germany ❤
God bless the next supply. I am out of the npd cycle of abuse 7 months now. I was hoovered 4x. I trust there are 4 new victims since the reverse discard. Thanks Andrew everyday without the narc is a good day, even though there were many difficult days they're fewer and farther between now.❤🎉😊
The worst part of being in a relationship with a lying, fraudulent narcissist is that when it's over... we often see who they really are, but we miss the person they pretended to be.. the person we fell in love with who never existed. Meanwhile, they move on as if we never mattered because they detached from you months or years prior... they just didn't tell you they abandoned relationship emotionally and we spin our wheels trying to fix it. They've already done whatever grieving they're gonna do (if any) before we even know it's over.
Thank you Andrew for this video. Absolute truth‼️ I do not care if the new supply wins or lose. I am done awaiting a court date for the divorce. I'm at peace 🤗
The narcissist is a devious elusive game player. Great video Andrew. All truth. Thank you for what you do. Love your background 🪴 God bless ☀️ Stay strong everyone
He nails things constantly. He made me remember the first time the narcissist devalued me, I was thinking devaluation started in like 2 years, nope, within a couple months after moving in, the narcissist brought a dog home without asking me if I wanted a dog as well. Andrew literally called it in a video from a while ago that I watched of his.
I'm so thankful for the new supply so I could be freed from his grip. She can deal with him now. I do not feel bad because she is a narc like him. The universe looked after me with this one.
I was the new supply. Even though every classic narc sign was there, and I had been through it before, I rationalized that since he was the highest elected official in the region, no way could he be a narc. I only now understand why the old supply looked at me so knowingly.
A very accurate account of a day in the life of falling for the bait of a narcissist 🎣 🥕 Best to get out. It really is the best thing. Wishing all a great night 💖🙏
Theres is nothing like filling up your cup of wisdom, and the hard work will always benefit you in this lifetime and in the next , God bless you Andrew , Gratitude and Blessings 🙌 ❤
This is true for the new supply with an exception: if they are more deeply pathological with narcissism than the narc you know. The new supply becomes an even bigger and better narcissist getting what they want. The new supply isn't always an innocent themselves. They are just a bigger, smarter, more experienced player who's getting everything they want. The new supply is getting more than they ever did previously from other people who were unsuspecting and innocent. Even a narcissist can find an even worse narcissist than themselves. That's real darkness.
Your analysis on the phone scenario is absolutely 💯 spot on. My daughter and sons went over to their dad's place, his wife called him about 7 times and he wouldn't pick up the phone or message her to say he was busy or tell her why he wasn't picking up. On the 8th ring my daughter turned to him and said why don't you just answer it. His answer was she can wait. It's nothing important. He lives abroad he was living down the road from us for a few months to be stay relevant I suppose.
Such a accurate video Andrew. Sounds like me waiting for a text or phone call that became less and less. So heartbreaking to go through when you thought this person had your best interest. I am so grateful to be done with this relationship. That is the trama bond. I am greatful to be free of this toxic relationship. I still have work to do. I am proud of how far I have come. Never accept bread crumbs from anyone. Such a crazy cycle. Thank you for your wisdom Andrew. God bless you.
Andrew you have a God given gift to express in words what is so hard to express and understand about the narcissistic disorder , you uncover and strip them from their many layers of lies and manipulations and help people to come back to their normal self. You are giving directions and explanations and hope for a normal beautiful life after such horrible mental emotional and physical trauma.and as a former “victim “ i can applaud you and say an enormous THANK YOU. Never stop talking and exposing the evil in disguise! God help you ! You are a blessing.
@@alionamarina7061 I totally agree. Andrew has an exceptional gift for public speaking and especially with speaking and educating us on narcissism. Breaks my heart when I think of what was done to him, the pain seen in his early videos, but he certainly has shown us what can be overcome when we go no contact and put ourselves 1st, 2nd & 3rd as he says in just about every video. He is the best.
Thank you Andrew. I still need to work on my healing, because I still want the new supply to hurt worser than me. They don't understand how hurtful they were to me with the narcissist.
11 months since i walked away after 5 years of being gas lit mental abuse took for granted and finacnially abused and i feel sorry for the next source of supply my narccisist love bombed me to the degree i literally felt amazing and it drew me in it took 15 months before devaluation stage started she was patient i give her that great video again andrew toxic mind draining future faked got nothing out the relationship apart from her take take take and then take more never felt myself in that relationship glad its over almost feels like a nightmare
Ones fresh out of a Narc relationship, their thoughts will turn to imagining a "new supply." Along with sadly ruminating about the love bombing good times, the new supply thought(s) is like a 2nd dagger in the heart. Will your ex be happier ( implying something wasn't adequate on your part )? They had the problem! It wasn't you! Andrew painted the picture that the new supply will suffer in the same way you did. As you heal, everything associated with the ex, including their successes, new supplies, etc., will go into your internal file, marked, "Trash."Your job- Press "Empty Trash." Your time on Earth is finite.Create all the personal Peace you can!🕊 Namaste.🙏
My ex husband is on the second New supply and I feel like I am watching an accident in slowmotion now that he will move in her house as his business went bancrupt and he has only a small retirement payment to expect. I know he will fail once he has to play the nice guy every day, it was exactly what happend with supply no.1. So glad I have built my own life post divorce. Best decision ever🎉
Doesn’t matter what pieces of trash they are they can find a new woman in a second, all women want to be married and have children They tell them anything. To get what they want It’s a man’s world and it will never change
Omg. I needed this! This literally happened to me at the 3 month mark on his first interstate work trip … he disappeared on a bender overnight and I couldn’t get hold of him until 1pm the next day. It totally confused me. I never thought he would do that. Little did I know I was in for a world of pain of him starting arguments every few months and blaming me and disappearing on benders that got worse and longer … then blame me for the benders. Two weeks no contact! Longest time ever 🎉 And omg yes the smart phone in the toilet! Mine started to be so cold and make nasty remarks to me over a month and wanted to go out, but would keep ducking into the toilet with his phone… eventually when I called him on it, he just learned to text on his smart watch. Needed this. Thank you for all you do! Helps me and others stay away and change their life.
So accurate,I know my ex and the new supplies all have alot in store for them..glad I'm free..hugs to you Andrew,your teachings pulled me out of the fog
Everyone is a narcissist’s pawn at some point. An empathetic soul feels nothing but sorrow for anyone who falls prey because they are used without conscience. It’s revolting business Andrew. What an insightful video ❤️🌷 thank you again. 🇬🇧
Wow your so accurate I’m can’t believe it amazing, now I don’t feel guilty for wondering what the heck was happening to me but the crazy thing is I see him doing the exact same thing to a few more women while he’s married to me maybe if im lucky one of the new supplies will snap him up and I will get peace finally 😅
No one wins, no one is safe if involved with a narcissist. Even the friendly, useful slaves known as "Flying Monkeys" get annihilated at the end. I am free and never again will a narc get their way with me. Blessings to all!❤
The new supply isn’t winning for the same reason I didn’t win while in the relationship: they’re intertwined with a devil. Untangling is agonizing, but completely necessary to survive. No Contact is possibly the most important weapon. It’s not immature. IT IS TAKING BACK YOUR LIFE! You can do it!
Future faking. He asked me to marry him the week before I ended it on seeing with the new supply, I finally found my strength. I didn't get the meal out or the holiday he promised. I went above and beyond for an empty vessel. I'm still hurting 3 months later. I have never got my head around the games. If you like someone, you want to be with then, not make their life a misery. It's incomprehensible.
Hey Nicola, I'm so sorry you had to endure that horrendous pain. Like all of us here we have gone through similar things as you, and it soul destroying 😢. Hang in there ok, each day will get better, and as time passes you will eventually heal. Pls remember, your ex narcs new supply is not getting it any better than you did. These insidious creatures belong in a sess pool of togetherness so they can destroy each other with their venomous dark energy. Remember evil eats its own, and that is what will happen to these monsters. Be strong, and remember when he houvers pls don't respond, just give him the finger and block him. They honestly take up air on the planet 🤨. Take care, your with like minded people who have been through the same thing as you❤️❤️❤️💞❤️🤗
@Jenfromtheblock63 ❤️ thank you. It's the worst headmash I've ever been through. Hope you and everyone here are doing good today. I'm painting some canvas to hang in my home before I go to work. Keeping busy helps x x
Excellent video Andrew....and the motives and traits of narcissists wonderfully explained with compassion and gentleness......must be of great help and value to everyone.
I hope and pray for justice for myself and all the abused victims of narcissistic manipulators that these predators meet their match! Thank you Andrew for your advice and wisdom. 🙏☺
Hi Andrew..unfortunately the new supply is going to have to heal from that relationship just like we had to. It's how it works. Healing doesn't mean the damage never happened, it means the damage no longer control your life. Have a great afternoon and evening coach and Kiss the beautiful dogs where you are at this week for me ☺️🐶🐶😘💜
GOOD morning Andrew🖐🙏🥰🌿🌿🇫🇷I / we had Our Shocking treatment of the NARC/SISTER, it has made me very aware of people I see & meet,,, in other words!! Only want true friends in my life!! 1ST 2ND & 3D ,,, this is my LIFE NOW!! SO,, GLAD I carried on with my LIFE🥰🌿🇫🇷✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️
In general, narcissists group together to give themselves a sense of belonging, but only out of fear and insecurity, because they are unable to connect with self - therefore unable to connect with others. There's no love at all within these groups. They only use one another to enable each other and therefore feel better about their own behaviours and insecurities. Most within the group are usually offspring or parents. The narcissist will either die with this group, or die alone. Either outcome is grim. They'll remain in denial until their last breath. Most die of dis-ease.
Hey Andrew, that was a good video, I needed to hear how they treat the new supply, and the different scenarios they put them through. What you said in your new supply scenario , is pretty much the same as what my ex narc was doing to me, until he ghosted me last weekend. Just disappeared. 😠. It'd be great if you could do more of those new supply scenario's it makes me feel, ( and others as well) not so alone in this washing machine journey. Thanks so much Andrew. ❤❤❤
No sympathy for the new supply. Let chaos enter their life like it did for mine. I would never give them the heads up to the impending doom. Let them search the internet like we all did.
I got no sympathy for new supply because he seen me before I seen him. Then when I told her I know, he blocked, me she didn't. Like damn dude you're in for it already acting like that. Heck no, I'm on the narcissistic abuse subreddit and see people posting on there about how they want to "warn new supply" and "expose the narcissist" I'm like, yeah y'all don't watch Andrews videos, you found out this person was a narc and just stopped educating yourself. Those are 2 things you don't do. Then people commented like "I did, didn't change a thing, waste of time and energy" uhhh yeah. It is..
My abuser, sons mother went to jail a month ago after attacking me, domestic violence. Someone bailed her out sadly yet after 12 years of batshyt craziness I finally have peace in my life. Your channel has helped me more than anything! I never wished ill for her or anyone but enough is enough and I am so glad I was able to get out with my life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Needed to hear this today. Soon to be ex today is bragging about her new boyfriend and how she is really in love, and I was unable to give that to her. I knew it was a line and realized about a few weeks ago she never loved me, because she's not capable. It hurt but I didn't react emotionally. The guy is 60, she's 45. The guy is wealthy and I see him falling for the same moves I fell for when we started our toxic courtship. I feel bad for him and the world of hurt he will discover. She's crazy the mother of two of my kids and I am still grieving losing her and our family. She's also trying to destroy me in a divorce but she cant really harm me. You lose a liability and a drag on energy its only freedom going forward.
I had been listening to Andrew for awhile: Triangulation you with her new supply. Nasty and low! Praying for you and the children 🙏🙏🙏we do get stronger and wiser 💜💐
I just feel so sad for all the women he has abused and I'm sure the cycle continues for him...on and on. Education and empowerment is critical. Heal with love and purpose....there is a life of enrichment out there for us all 💜🙏😊
Some time has been taken from my age for narcissists to realize : they cannot receive help to build up being together, but I am expected to provide help ,offer it :without expecting anithing in return and still as a perpetrator of inconvenience is indicated. All this for someone who is lazy and stupid . I don’t care for narcissists anymore. ✍️ because I live on another part of the planet,I use translation to write sentences. Maybe sentence structure difference. 🙏 have a good day . We are doing a good thing 🥇
So true and mirrors the last 6 months of my marriage with my ex wife. That was the turning point to healing. My ex just repeats the same patern in relationship, after 20 years she's still alone, complaining. Karma
I’m reaching the pinnacle of indifference and I’m thankful that I’ve hung on and kept pushing through the darkness and the nightmares and the worst of the worst and thank you Andrew for everything you are doing. I’m sharing this wisdom with others 😊
I don't feel sorry for the new supply. Me and the narc was still together when they hooked up so f-em both! Now she stalking me in his car! I'll never entertain that dried up piece of shi$! I'm healing and have moved on with a beautiful soul!
Hey Andrew, what a beautiful background in your video, this is not ! Carolina lol right, anyways you are right the new supply will have a good time mostly in the very beginning but soon, very soon they will see glimpses of impatience and grey rock or simply ghosting etc. , they never change their original self, why would they? It works perfectly for them until it doesn’t but by that time there will always be another supply … my ex narc boyfriend is currently hoovering me , telling me that he truely loved / loves me and that i was/ am the one and only for him… i cried , and honestly i am sooo tempted, here in my new life , i guess i still have feelings for him, sooo dangerous for me i know, what to do?😮😢❤Thank you , Andrew , for another good video,you are my reminder to not go back !!Just have to remember what he did to me , weird that i keep forgetting that i went through hell😡👿
Most relatable video I've watched in a while. Just remembering all the times he would pull this stuff on me. And I'm just sitting there confused like who is this cold, annoyed person who treats me like a huge inconvenience and what happened to the warm, affectionate, attentive man I thought I knew...? What have I done so wrong to deserve this? 🥺
Thank you for sharing..😌😌💜🙏
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you did nothing wrong sorry to say its part of the grooming process been there myself its horrible you lose your idenity you lose yourself i did
U all cannot imagine my life of 50 years with this person.my203040506070yearsbeing with a person like that now only GODS MERCY on my life he left 1 year ago. I am 73.think about that like Andrew sats😢,
I feel exactly the same as you do. I told the narc that when he started spending all of his time with old friends from high school, especially the female "friend" he had dated, that his behavior drastically changed. I don't recognize this person that I was married to for 29 years, together 31. He was ice ice cold, judging me, never home, did not want to be around me at all. I also ruminate on what I did to deserve this treatment. The narc discarded me in the most hateful way and of course turned it around and blamed it on me. The difference is now I refuse to take responsibility for his actions. They are responsible for themselves period, no one else. Love and hugs to you!❤
Bad news for new supply, time doesn't stop for any of us... and the new supply gets to be with what? That's right...the aging narcissist. Much love Andrew.
That’s why no contact works and helps with healing. Life is so much better without them.
I really don't care about the narc. The new supply is putting out the fires I used too. Sad
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Being with a narc is a waste of time …. Run they ain’t bout nothing…
As Andrew said: They collect ppl... Unbelievable 🙈
Yes, trauma bond is a very bad place to be, I don't want to ever be there again. Thanks Andrew❤
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The new supply will soon find they've bitten into a bitter lemon 😝.....
and there's no making lemonade out of this one!
Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
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Got that right.🥵🍋
The new supply is getting it just as bad, if not worse !
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Worse because the narc becomes more and more professional at gaslighting, lying , betrayal etc. !😢😮
But, Do you care? there was a time I was so worried about this horrific life she would have until she started throwing tantrums when i was near, the old narc trick of how badly i treated him bla bla bla! you cant feel anything for them, let things play out and keep a safe distance.
Just got my life back after 17 years because of this channel 🎉I learned so much to walk away
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I honestly don’t care if there is a new supply.. I believe I’m so far removed at this point.. just waiting for a couple of loose ends to be tied up.. it took awhile to get here, but I did..if there is a new supply, I know they are not winning.. I just hope they figure it out sooner than I did..
My friend tried to warn the new supply. Then my friend took the wait and see approach.
She { new supply } didn't believe her - until she did. Narc started treating her the same way. 😳 She called my friend for advice, my friend told her to unload him. 😉
Didn't hear much after that advice.
Great to believe so.
May god bless those effected by these demons
Believe me there was always many other supplies whether online or in person. They are masters at deception. At least the covert malignant (many years practice). I did not trust my own intuition and now I trust it immediately in every scenario in my life. Painful lesson.
Took the words right out of my mouth, your not alone. I'm finally seeing the truth but wow it took a long time and took a lot out of me and lost everything but I had to learn these lessons.
@@watcher5729you got that right when you used the term demon.
I didnt know about this kind of people untill i got that lightbulb moment when God gave me the knowledge about the existence of this type of people, i will always be greatfull.
Who cares how they treat the new supply? Be glad you are free of all that. Blessings gang.❣️
We care because if we don't, we are no better than the cold , heartless narc.
As @RugbyMom says, hopefully they get out sooner than we did.
Man the anger and rage in me towards my narc is so real and so ugly. The more time that passes and the more space I get from her, (because of NO contact, 100% through and through) the more angry I become. Now being able to look back on the relationship from a different perspective, I’m so ashamed and embarrassed of how delusional I was. I feel like I was straight up tricked. Faked. Scammed. The beauty in her lies were so intoxicating. And now seeing the truth.. it’s soooo ugly. I have a lot of healing to do and a long way to go, but everyday counts and adds up. No contact is literally the only thing that has ever worked.
Thank you for sharing..😌💜🙏
Keep away, turn that anger into figuring yourself out,get therapy,,YOU ARE NOT ALONE !!! like Andrew says,,,its happening every day to unsuspecting empaths,,,,why did you pick that person?ask the serious questions,, .the narc is not worth it ,not worth your emotion..bad or good, shake it off..many get scamed..Our family friend is embroiled in an attempted assult rape situation, 62 y.o man with a woman he just said hello to.and took to SB a couple of times, it's cost him Ks approx 15 k.. Someone he never kissed, or even hugged, lawyer fees , he could have been sitting in jail waiting,,for trial, thank God he had the bail money,,the case has not even been tried yet,,he's spinning ,don't have a clue when the trial will be,His career might be destroyed...We believe him only because we know the type of person he is..she saw his car,knew his earning capacity ,she went after that, a total stranger that you never slept with,,just because he decided he was not interested in you,,you decide to unravel another's life with pure lies... You my dear woke up,thank the UNIVERSE...
YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY NOT ALONE😢
Heh my bestee found letters in her x narc husband's man cave 30 years ago, When he walked out,,he did not realize he left stuff downthere,she still has them..over all those years she's trya figure out what time he had ,right after their son was born to have an affair with a woman from oversees, who came for a visit.The time line is daunting..the same week she came home with his son,the woman writing,(,no cell phones so many years ago ) that it was the best week of her life she had ever spent with someone.. 😮I tell her burn those letters..
I felt the same way a few months ago. Hang in there. Eventually, you'll burn off all that toxic energy and feelings. Then, you feel indifferent and that's what you have hold onto. It will pass, even though it's so bad at times. It's still better than being with the narc!
I had again a wonderful day today , spend two hours in Nature with my dog baby,s ❤I,m healing
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🎭 😢 when I left my narc husband it shocked me considering the work I put into that relationship, the chances I gave him how quickly he was going after new supply , when he realised it was not so easy to get grade A supply he tried to hoover me back. New supply will get no better even if she is Miss world
I totally agree with you onehundred , my ex narc was talking to other women one!! day after i left him , while i was heartbroken and even now, 6 weeks later, i am still not alright and it looks like i have never existed in his life ever , that really hurts😮😢
@TamikaTaylor-rl1im before watching these videos, I never believed my ex when I was married would have left me and the kids, Andrew said watch out for appearance changes, I was in the attic recently looking at old photos I had one while pregnant he had a typical Dad look, chino, check shirt, clean shaven, I set a boundary with him around that time, 4 weeks later there is a photo with me, new baby in my arms and my husband looking like a hipster dude with linen shirt, goaty beard, pale blue Jeans..trendy look at the time how did I not see it then 😉
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You have described the narcissistic behaviour so well. Nobody is winning in a relationship with a narcissist. It’s losing from day one although it doesn’t seem so because of the infatuation and the narcissistic trans like fog that the target is pulled into. It’s evil’s workshop.
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I am so busy with bible study and womens groups. Going horseback riding this weekend.
It's very hard. The ex. NARC has a girl across the street from me.
I stay focused on God. He is A Mormon...I am not. Thankful he's gone. He's a liar and cheater.
Be extremely careful in that situation,,keep you head on a swivel,,when it comes to that situation,,Move away if you can,,no one likes INYOURFACE stuff,walk with a tazer,pepper spray,gun,anything for protection, put up a doorbell camera folks are off the chain..
@@MattyNelson-rs3ikhmm, I’m in the same situation. He has 2 new girlfriends (supply) on the next street over. The flying monkey, lives 3 steps away from my apartment . I feel so violated, scared and harassed
@@Onlyforagoodtime Matty above has the right ideas. Better safe then sorry 🙏
"People cannot stay in these relationships." Hold that thought.
Excellent video as always!!! You are so spot on with EVERYTHING!!!
2 years out. Doing so much better, enjoying life again.
Divorced in January 2024. So happy to be finally free.
What this evil demon did to me is unimaginable! Called the police on me with false accusations- I ended up in jail overnight....its unreal!!!
He's getting his Karma!
Thank you Andrew, I'm following you for many years now- couldn't have made it without your help!
Forever grateful.
Greetings from Germany ❤
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God bless the next supply. I am out of the npd cycle of abuse 7 months now. I was hoovered 4x. I trust there are 4 new victims since the reverse discard. Thanks Andrew everyday without the narc is a good day, even though there were many difficult days they're fewer and farther between now.❤🎉😊
The narcissist can sail away and never return as far as im concerned ❤i love the peace now they have gone...what harm they did.
The worst part of being in a relationship with a lying, fraudulent narcissist is that when it's over... we often see who they really are, but we miss the person they pretended to be.. the person we fell in love with who never existed. Meanwhile, they move on as if we never mattered because they detached from you months or years prior... they just didn't tell you they abandoned relationship emotionally and we spin our wheels trying to fix it. They've already done whatever grieving they're gonna do (if any) before we even know it's over.
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Basically it. Good overview and you see it clearly.👍
It was all a game with an expiration date (like aaaaall the others...)
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Thank you Andrew for this video. Absolute truth‼️
I do not care if the new supply wins or lose. I am done awaiting a court date for the divorce. I'm at peace 🤗
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The narcissist is a devious elusive game player.
Great video Andrew. All truth. Thank you for what you do. Love your background 🪴 God bless ☀️
Stay strong everyone
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Thank you Andrew for sharing your wisdom and knowledge, and your beautiful garden 🪴
The phone checking story and the phone call example you gave was CRAZY ACCURATE
I totally agree it’s been done to me and I see him doing it to other supplies all the time
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He nails things constantly. He made me remember the first time the narcissist devalued me, I was thinking devaluation started in like 2 years, nope, within a couple months after moving in, the narcissist brought a dog home without asking me if I wanted a dog as well. Andrew literally called it in a video from a while ago that I watched of his.
I'm so thankful for the new supply so I could be freed from his grip. She can deal with him now. I do not feel bad because she is a narc like him. The universe looked after me with this one.
Be careful out there... it's not so easy to get away. Blessings to all. Thank you Andrew.
I believe my narc ex wife met her match with a new supply and from what I hear he just as toxic as her . God bless them they deserve each other .
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I was the new supply. Even though every classic narc sign was there, and I had been through it before, I rationalized that since he was the highest elected official in the region, no way could he be a narc. I only now understand why the old supply looked at me so knowingly.
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A very accurate account of a day in the life of falling for the bait of a narcissist 🎣 🥕
Best to get out. It really is the best thing.
Wishing all a great night 💖🙏
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@@ESSIEMARIE1998 wonderful! Enjoy that walk 👣 ❤️
There is a lightness of spirit about you in this latest video Andrew. You really have reached that pinnacle of indifference 🙌
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I don’t know how I would have survived without this channel. Thank you, Andrew.
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Because of you Andrew I am healing and I thank you with all of my heart
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Theres is nothing like filling up your cup of wisdom, and the hard work will always benefit you in this lifetime and in the next , God bless you Andrew , Gratitude and Blessings 🙌 ❤
Be vigilant, try not to equate missing, with simple familiarity. You don't miss your TRASH when it's taken away!.....
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This is true for the new supply with an exception: if they are more deeply pathological with narcissism than the narc you know. The new supply becomes an even bigger and better narcissist getting what they want. The new supply isn't always an innocent themselves. They are just a bigger, smarter, more experienced player who's getting everything they want. The new supply is getting more than they ever did previously from other people who were unsuspecting and innocent. Even a narcissist can find an even worse narcissist than themselves. That's real darkness.
Ha! That's exactly what my now X husband found, another narc😂 Kudos to that mess
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Hope so, the subject deserves it.
Your analysis on the phone scenario is absolutely 💯 spot on. My daughter and sons went over to their dad's place, his wife called him about 7 times and he wouldn't pick up the phone or message her to say he was busy or tell her why he wasn't picking up. On the 8th ring my daughter turned to him and said why don't you just answer it. His answer was she can wait. It's nothing important. He lives abroad he was living down the road from us for a few months to be stay relevant I suppose.
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I had broken wings, but they are healing, thank you Andrew.
Such a accurate video Andrew. Sounds like me waiting for a text or phone call that became less and less. So heartbreaking to go through when you thought this person had your best interest. I am so grateful to be done with this relationship. That is the trama bond. I am greatful to be free of this toxic relationship. I still have work to do. I am proud of how far I have come. Never accept bread crumbs from anyone. Such a crazy cycle. Thank you for your wisdom Andrew. God bless you.
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Andrew you have a God given gift to express in words what is so hard to express and understand about the narcissistic disorder , you uncover and strip them from their many layers of lies and manipulations and help people to come back to their normal self. You are giving directions and explanations and hope for a normal beautiful life after such horrible mental emotional and physical trauma.and as a former “victim “ i can applaud you and say an enormous THANK YOU. Never stop talking and exposing the evil in disguise! God help you ! You are a blessing.
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@@alionamarina7061 I totally agree. Andrew has an exceptional gift for public speaking and especially with speaking and educating us on narcissism. Breaks my heart when I think of what was done to him, the pain seen in his early videos, but he certainly has shown us what can be overcome when we go no contact and put ourselves 1st, 2nd & 3rd as he says in just about every video. He is the best.
Thank you Andrew. I still need to work on my healing, because I still want the new supply to hurt worser than me. They don't understand how hurtful they were to me with the narcissist.
If the new supply knew about you then she deserves everything she has coming.
Keep the focus on the healing. We come first, second and third💯 💜💐
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11 months since i walked away after 5 years of being gas lit mental abuse took for granted and finacnially abused and i feel sorry for the next source of supply my narccisist love bombed me to the degree i literally felt amazing and it drew me in it took 15 months before devaluation stage started she was patient i give her that great video again andrew toxic mind draining future faked got nothing out the relationship apart from her take take take and then take more never felt myself in that relationship glad its over almost feels like a nightmare
IT IS A NIGHTMARE,,,YOU WOKE UP..
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13 years waking up in an insane world...
Ones fresh out of a Narc relationship, their thoughts will turn to imagining a "new supply." Along with sadly ruminating about the love bombing good times, the new supply thought(s) is like a 2nd dagger in the heart. Will your ex be happier ( implying something wasn't adequate on your part )? They had the problem! It wasn't you! Andrew painted the picture that the new supply will suffer in the same way you did. As you heal, everything associated with the ex, including their successes, new supplies, etc., will go into your internal file, marked, "Trash."Your job- Press "Empty Trash."
Your time on Earth is finite.Create all the personal Peace you can!🕊 Namaste.🙏
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Exactly, in a nutshell! 👍👍👍💥
Go buy yourself a slice of banana creme pie & a delicious cup of coffee & Enjoy! ☕❤
@@marieeakin8534 Hah! The voice of online temptation rains down from above.
This has to be a subliminal ad hack from the banana creme pie industry! 🙄
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hi Essie, I see this a lot from you… 🌀 … curious what this represents?
My ex husband is on the second New supply and I feel like I am watching an accident in slowmotion now that he will move in her house as his business went bancrupt and he has only a small retirement payment to expect. I know he will fail once he has to play the nice guy every day, it was exactly what happend with supply no.1. So glad I have built my own life post divorce. Best decision ever🎉
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Doesn’t matter what pieces of trash they are they can find a new woman in a second, all women want to be married and have children
They tell them anything. To get what they want
It’s a man’s world and it will never change
Omg. I needed this! This literally happened to me at the 3 month mark on his first interstate work trip … he disappeared on a bender overnight and I couldn’t get hold of him until 1pm the next day. It totally confused me. I never thought he would do that. Little did I know I was in for a world of pain of him starting arguments every few months and blaming me and disappearing on benders that got worse and longer … then blame me for the benders.
Two weeks no contact! Longest time ever 🎉
And omg yes the smart phone in the toilet! Mine started to be so cold and make nasty remarks to me over a month and wanted to go out, but would keep ducking into the toilet with his phone… eventually when I called him on it, he just learned to text on his smart watch.
Needed this. Thank you for all you do! Helps me and others stay away and change their life.
So accurate,I know my ex and the new supplies all have alot in store for them..glad I'm free..hugs to you Andrew,your teachings pulled me out of the fog
accurate its crazy how accurate, brilliant
Everyone is a narcissist’s pawn at some point. An empathetic soul feels nothing but sorrow for anyone who falls prey because they are used without conscience. It’s revolting business Andrew. What an insightful video ❤️🌷 thank you again. 🇬🇧
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Wow your so accurate I’m can’t believe it amazing, now I don’t feel guilty for wondering what the heck was happening to me but the crazy thing is I see him doing the exact same thing to a few more women while he’s married to me maybe if im lucky one of the new supplies will snap him up and I will get peace finally 😅
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It really is exactly how you tell.
No one wins, no one is safe if involved with a narcissist. Even the friendly, useful slaves known as "Flying Monkeys" get annihilated at the end. I am free and never again will a narc get their way with me. Blessings to all!❤
The new supply isn’t winning for the same reason I didn’t win while in the relationship: they’re intertwined with a devil. Untangling is agonizing, but completely necessary to survive.
No Contact is possibly the most important weapon. It’s not immature. IT IS TAKING BACK YOUR LIFE!
You can do it!
Another great video Andrew. Thank-you for sharing and thank you for being apart of my up hill journey. God bless.
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Future faking. He asked me to marry him the week before I ended it on seeing with the new supply, I finally found my strength. I didn't get the meal out or the holiday he promised. I went above and beyond for an empty vessel. I'm still hurting 3 months later. I have never got my head around the games. If you like someone, you want to be with then, not make their life a misery. It's incomprehensible.
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Hey Nicola, I'm so sorry you had to endure that horrendous pain. Like all of us here we have gone through similar things as you, and it soul destroying 😢. Hang in there ok, each day will get better, and as time passes you will eventually heal. Pls remember, your ex narcs new supply is not getting it any better than you did. These insidious creatures belong in a sess pool of togetherness so they can destroy each other with their venomous dark energy. Remember evil eats its own, and that is what will happen to these monsters. Be strong, and remember when he houvers pls don't respond, just give him the finger and block him. They honestly take up air on the planet 🤨. Take care, your with like minded people who have been through the same thing as you❤️❤️❤️💞❤️🤗
@Jenfromtheblock63 ❤️ thank you. It's the worst headmash I've ever been through. Hope you and everyone here are doing good today. I'm painting some canvas to hang in my home before I go to work. Keeping busy helps x x
That is imperative. Most do not realize this was not a normal relationship breakup
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Excellent video Andrew....and the motives and traits of narcissists wonderfully explained with compassion and gentleness......must be of great help and value to everyone.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneYou’re welcome…..great work Andrew 🙏💜😌
Im free free free free free❤
Exactly my question...
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I hope and pray for justice for myself and all the abused victims of narcissistic manipulators that these predators meet their match! Thank you Andrew for your advice and wisdom. 🙏☺
Be content in the knowledge they do eventually meet their march.
God may let you 👀 it or maybe not but be assured it does happen to them.
Accurate in every way❤
Perfect timing for this
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Those Relationships Never Do benefit You
Great video on the new supply and your backyard is just awesome! Beautiful! Love it!
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🙏🇳🇴 - hard to find the words- so profound this video- I have so much love and compassion for this new victim ❤
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That's when the new supply should BLOCK
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I wish I kept him blocked the first time. It turned into a 1 year situationship.
Thank you so much for the video Andrew , Namaste 🙏💜🐶
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Hi Andrew..unfortunately the new supply is going to have to heal from that relationship just like we had to. It's how it works. Healing doesn't mean the damage never happened, it means the damage no longer control your life. Have a great afternoon and evening coach and Kiss the beautiful dogs where you are at this week for me ☺️🐶🐶😘💜
Great comment Marie!!!
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@@chazbickel4518 thank you sincerely ☺️🙌🙏
GOOD morning Andrew🖐🙏🥰🌿🌿🇫🇷I / we had Our Shocking treatment of the NARC/SISTER, it has made me very aware of people I see & meet,,, in other words!! Only want true friends in my life!! 1ST 2ND & 3D ,,, this is my LIFE NOW!! SO,, GLAD I carried on with my LIFE🥰🌿🇫🇷✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️
All true. That was me.
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Grateful for awareness and learning that this is the time to heal after the break up and avoid entanglement.
Stockholm syndrom
For sure 🧐
In general, narcissists group together to give themselves a sense of belonging, but only out of fear and insecurity, because they are unable to connect with self - therefore unable to connect with others. There's no love at all within these groups. They only use one another to enable each other and therefore feel better about their own behaviours and insecurities.
Most within the group are usually offspring or parents.
The narcissist will either die with this group, or die alone.
Either outcome is grim.
They'll remain in denial until their last breath.
Most die of dis-ease.
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Hey Andrew, that was a good video, I needed to hear how they treat the new supply, and the different scenarios they put them through. What you said in your new supply scenario , is pretty much the same as what my ex narc was doing to me, until he ghosted me last weekend. Just disappeared. 😠. It'd be great if you could do more of those new supply scenario's it makes me feel, ( and others as well) not so alone in this washing machine journey. Thanks so much Andrew. ❤❤❤
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No sympathy for the new supply.
Let chaos enter their life like it did for mine. I would never give them the heads up to the impending doom.
Let them search the internet like we all did.
I agree, especially when the new source knew about you like my X husband's coworker did. She deserves everything she gets
@@ladyvirgo013 Yup he knew about me
I got no sympathy for new supply because he seen me before I seen him. Then when I told her I know, he blocked, me she didn't. Like damn dude you're in for it already acting like that. Heck no, I'm on the narcissistic abuse subreddit and see people posting on there about how they want to "warn new supply" and "expose the narcissist" I'm like, yeah y'all don't watch Andrews videos, you found out this person was a narc and just stopped educating yourself. Those are 2 things you don't do. Then people commented like "I did, didn't change a thing, waste of time and energy" uhhh yeah. It is..
Right. The laughing third... Is she still laughing? I don't care, but one thing is sure, I do 🤣🤣🤣
@@Siegefya exactly
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The Narcissist always wanted to drive my car. Never his ever!
Mine was a grown man who never learned how to drive and refused! Me: the chauffeur!
The informed and grateful community that your selfless tutelage supports love you too Andrew. PEACE ;]
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I feel so bad for new supply, because she is not aware that she is going to end up with monster ☹️
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Love your background Andrew!! It's a wonderful change 🥰 Excellent video as usual, thank you!!! Love you Andrew 🙌🕊️🕊️ God bless you!
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❤Thank you Andrew ❤
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My abuser, sons mother went to jail a month ago after attacking me, domestic violence. Someone bailed her out sadly yet after 12 years of batshyt craziness I finally have peace in my life. Your channel has helped me more than anything! I never wished ill for her or anyone but enough is enough and I am so glad I was able to get out with my life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
💯We don’t have to live like that. Peace is priceless 🙏💜💐
rhank you Andrew ... Salute
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Obden missing letters here , not a troll. Salute.
Wow, this is soooo spot on!
Needed to hear this today. Soon to be ex today is bragging about her new boyfriend and how she is really in love, and I was unable to give that to her. I knew it was a line and realized about a few weeks ago she never loved me, because she's not capable. It hurt but I didn't react emotionally. The guy is 60, she's 45. The guy is wealthy and I see him falling for the same moves I fell for when we started our toxic courtship. I feel bad for him and the world of hurt he will discover. She's crazy the mother of two of my kids and I am still grieving losing her and our family. She's also trying to destroy me in a divorce but she cant really harm me. You lose a liability and a drag on energy its only freedom going forward.
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I had been listening to Andrew for awhile: Triangulation you with her new supply. Nasty and low! Praying for you and the children 🙏🙏🙏we do get stronger and wiser 💜💐
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I just feel so sad for all the women he has abused and I'm sure the cycle continues for him...on and on. Education and empowerment is critical. Heal with love and purpose....there is a life of enrichment out there for us all 💜🙏😊
Some time has been taken from my age for narcissists to realize : they cannot receive help to build up being together, but I am expected to provide help ,offer it :without expecting anithing in return and still as a perpetrator of inconvenience is indicated. All this for someone who is lazy and stupid . I don’t care for narcissists anymore. ✍️ because I live on another part of the planet,I use translation to write sentences. Maybe sentence structure difference. 🙏 have a good day . We are doing a good thing 🥇
Great video Andrew!!
Wishing everyone clarity and peace....
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Facts! Thank you 🙏 Andrew.
This was so good and detailed. Best video i have come across
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It is crazyyyyyyyyyy how spot on this man is, I mean every single word, scenario, convo, and situation 😱!
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So true and mirrors the last 6 months of my marriage with my ex wife.
That was the turning point to healing.
My ex just repeats the same patern in relationship, after 20 years she's still alone, complaining.
Karma
I’m reaching the pinnacle of indifference and I’m thankful that I’ve hung on and kept pushing through the darkness and the nightmares and the worst of the worst and thank you Andrew for everything you are doing. I’m sharing this wisdom with others 😊
I don't feel sorry for the new supply. Me and the narc was still together when they hooked up so f-em both! Now she stalking me in his car! I'll never entertain that dried up piece of shi$! I'm healing and have moved on with a beautiful soul!
👍 Let her laugh until she doesn't 😶
Hey Andrew, what a beautiful background in your video, this is not ! Carolina lol right, anyways you are right the new supply will have a good time mostly in the very beginning but soon, very soon they will see glimpses of impatience and grey rock or simply ghosting etc. , they never change their original self, why would they? It works perfectly for them until it doesn’t but by that time there will always be another supply … my ex narc boyfriend is currently hoovering me , telling me that he truely loved / loves me and that i was/ am the one and only for him… i cried , and honestly i am sooo tempted, here in my new life , i guess i still have feelings for him, sooo dangerous for me i know, what to do?😮😢❤Thank you , Andrew , for another good video,you are my reminder to not go back !!Just have to remember what he did to me , weird that i keep forgetting that i went through hell😡👿
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These narcs DON’T change! Run for the hill and don’t look back 🏃🏻♀➡🙏💜💐
Imagine the next hell would be worse ☝️😮
Your are spot on
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This is a great video. Thank you
I feel bad for the woman he keeps going back to. She's brainwashed by religion to just absorb everything. "Long suffering", "Endure". It's so sick.
so true