How We Avoid Crisis In Life By Preparing For Death | Judy Butler | TEDxPurdueU
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- Judy Butler is a therapist and counselor who wants to encourage individuals to plan their death and the interactions they must have with their families, friends, and others in order to be completely prepared and feel at peace with their life before death. Dr. Judy Butler is a certified Pastoral Psychotherapist in private practice, who consults with, counsels and coaches Adult Children of Aging Parents, members of the “Sandwich Generation”, Caregivers, and Senior Adults interested in creating a Legacy Experience through 2nd half and end of life planning.
On October 31, 2018 -- Butler Counseling & Consulting, LLC received the 2018 Best of Mebane Award in Religious Counseling. Dr. Butler holds a doctorate in psychotherapy from The Graduate Theological Foundation, a Master of Divinity degree from Campbell University and is a member of both Epsilon Pi Eta and Phi Kappa Phi honor societies. Judy is a member of the American Association of Pastoral Counselors, Triad Retirement Living Association, HealthCare Industry Professionals Serving Seniors, a certified Spiritual Director, ordained clergy, a speaker, and a teacher with years of experience and many thousands of hours of practical application. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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I was born when my mum was 22 and my father was 63. So I grew up with the shadow of my fathers death and the undoubtful certainty that I'd lose him while young. He knew that, my mum knew that, so he prepared me for his death my whole life. As a kid is no fun to hear your father say "Look, when I die, all my documents are here in this briefcase. You just have to open this to solve everything needed."
Every month after paying bills, getting his pension or any other important document he would get, he'd put it in that briefcase, and then the same warning: " Mari, don't forget, all the documents are here for when I die. "
When I was 24 he started showing first signs of dementia, he aged sooo fast, and my energetic, youthful father was not that anymore 😔
My mum took care of him until the last day of his life, she was the support I couldn't be, since I was living in another state for work.
After 6 months of him slowly getting worst, a severe pneumonia took his life.
My mum took that briefcase, traveled to me and in 1 day all burocracy was dealt with, cause he left everything prepared for us. He prepared everything for his own death.
(our whole life we never liked funerals, that's why my mum traveled to me and not the opposite. He died, he was buried and only then did my mum travel to tell me in person.)
I am sorry for your loss. It sounds like a beautiful story of preparation and protection for you.
@@theguardiansgift it was. He cared, and loved me most in life. So even tho it was hard to hear, I'm sure he had only good intentions.
Generally, a great presentation!
My circumstances were different. My mother had power of attorney on behalf of my father, who had Alzheimer's. I asked her one night while were sitting at the kitchen table what the combination was to her safe, in case something should happen to her. She got up and walked away. I asked a very practical question. I have always told my parents that their money is theirs. I have no designs on it. From that day on, I have never concerned myself with her financial matters, nor with end-of-life wishes nor funeral arrangements. I wash my hands of those matters with her, and I simply keep my occasional visits with her in the moment, and all is well. So, not every family's children can play an involved role regarding end of life and after they pass on. It's best not to force a cube into a circle, as they say. You offered, that's all you can do.
That's wonderful. Thank you for sharing.
What is most important in the end is how we lived our lives and how we touched the lives of others. Compared to that, none of these material things matter at all in the end.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 Very well stated!
You can offer...or start nagging them until they give in. My parents do that to me growing up, so if they get stubborn to the point of crazytown like that, Ill nag nag nag. They didn't give up on me, I couldn't bring myself to let them down due to their senility.
@@jade4897 Not my style
@@mikeq5807 not sure why you watched this video then lol
Im not afraid of my own death but of the ones i love. I think i cant bear living without them.
if someone wanted to shoot you right now with a gun, would you be scared of death? I certainly would be scared to die even though I'm suicidal.
That is a deep love and hard to think about.
@@craydogdog1530 well thats the violent process that leads to death that could be frightening. But death itself wouldnt make me scared
@@cooclidoo I have suicidal thoughts on a regular basis, but the thing that's stopping me is the fact that the process of death is scary. It's a weird contradiction that makes me want to passively live.
Certainly a life changing opportunity to help. Wonderful gift to understand. Very encouraging speech! I also know Judy well and can tell you she is the real deal. So very caring! David Haynes, Long Term Care Insurance Specialist, Greensboro NC
Dr. Butler I loved your TedX presentation. I am going through this now and hope to hear you again soon.
Tony, I hope you have the support you need. Hang in there because it is not easy. Thank you for watching.
What a wonderful and much needed discussion. Rest In Peace to her Dad. 🙂❤️👍🙏
Thank you Amy. He used to say, "One of these days the sun will shine in my back door." I believe it finally is!
Judy Butler ❤️😍🙏👍
This is so insightful. How we overlook planning for death and yet, it always comes when we least expect
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Thank you for this comment. Even though we know it's coming; we are never truly prepared. Like I said, I thought I was prepared!
Thank you, Very informative advice…In addition to the regular legal docs….I’ve even given my attorney POA to set up a safety deposit box where he is storing the legal docs & letters to my children. I wish my father had done a personal letter before he passed away. Should I meet an untimely death with no time to say goodbye I wanted my children to have personal goodbye letters including life advice about difficult life experiences & regrets/mistakes I made so they can avoid them. I’m only 53yrs “young” 😂 & hope to live another 30 yrs “God Willing” 🙏but it’s never too early to plan so that you’re death is easier for your loved ones especially your spouse & children.❤
Wow, what an inspirational speech, life changing.
Thank you Margo. I appreciate it very much.
This video shows me how is the life in a different sense, right! 👍🏼
Thank you for your wisdom Sista, an amazing talk 🙏
I appreciate you watching and commenting. It means so much.
Only way to prepare for anything is seeking the Lord and accepting Jesus into your heart, with all the chaos in the world we need to seek God even more diligently. 💞 Be blessed everyone.
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If he exists then he would save all the innocents
True.
Great Information. Thank you
Very nice. One should always be prepared for death and do good. This world is short lived
Thank you for watching. You are so right.....this world is short lived.
Very good talk. Thank you Judy.
Steve, the talk was my pleasure.
Try to add English subtitles on videos please 😞😞
Click the gear icon on the bottom right of screen. It's not so easy to figure out, but it is there in many different languages too.
Learned something new n also something which is very different from the topic is discussed here. ..thanq so much🙏🙃
I'm glad you found something new. Thank you for watching.
I didn't know that this conference can be motion captured! ;-)
What a terrible place to stop the picture! What's a lady to do???? ;D
We all die(for now), there's no point in being cowardly, tweak the nose of death and laugh at the absurdity of life, have a great day!!!!!
Thank you Darren. "Tweaking the nose of death"....funny image!
لاإله إلا أنت سبحانك إنا كنا من الظالمين
دعاء بها عبدك يونس فأذنت لهُ بالفرج ونجيته من ثلاث ظُلم؛ اللهم إنا ندعوك في ظلمة الهم و في ظلمة الليل و في ظلمة البلاء والكرب أن ترفع عنا البلاء إنا مؤمنون.
اللهم فرجك ورحمتك
لاتنسون أنفسكم ووالديكم وأحبابكم والمسلمين وغير الملسلمين من دعواتكم.
لا تنسى أي شخص آخر ليس مسلمًا أيضًا. نحن جميعا بشر وكلنا جديرون بالاحترام والكرامة إذا
أعطينا الاحترام والكرامة للآخرين. السلام عليكم يا صديقي.
Sorry for the google translation. I wish I knew more languages like Arabic, but I am doing all that I can to help bring peace to us all. Be good to each other people. We are all one family. ^-^
@@aylbdrmadison1051 شكرا على الملاحظة و هو كذلك طبعاا
Brilliant!
Wendy, Thank you.
Very good topic ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you. It is a topic I'm very passionate about.
Purdue in the name is proof that humanity is screwed.
Great!
Thank you Emanuela.
Acts 2:24
But God raised Him from the dead, releasing Him from the agony of death, because it was impossible for Him to be held in its clutches.
Congratulations
Thank you. I appreciate you watching.
There's literally 0 reason to be afraid of death.
how can you convince someone of that!? my friend wants to know
@@haSHAH1 Just think about what it felt like before you were born. Were you happy? Sad? Angry? Scared? Bored? No. There was no you to feel anything. Complete oblivion.
@Mike probably nothing. The universe doesn't owe us another one. The universe is indifferent to our wants and hopes. We're lucky to get one. And one is more than enough.
@MrJamesdryable : Easy to say there's nothing to fear until you've personally had to stare death in the face. And it's egotistical and absurd at best to *claim you know* what was before, or even to *assume* what comes after, unless you actually do remember something that came before, witch by your own admission, you do not. Perhaps you are correct, but you do not know, and so it's ridiculous for you to preach such things.
MrJamesdryable only the moment it happens you don’t wanna suffer .
Amazing
Thank you!
اذا كانو أجدادنا كذا احنا كيف بنطلع يا رب رحمتك علينا يارب اللهم أخرجنا من الطلمات إلى النور😳🙁
*💪BREAK THE CHAIN💪*
..stay home..stay safe
We will survive..
..Like from kerala, INDIA..
..കമന്റോളികൾക്ക്..............ജയ്
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Now World Accept that "We are Mortals"
We are mortals! That's exactly why we should prepare for death. I believe preparation makes the living sweeter.
That title had me laughing and i don't know why !
Humor is sometimes how we deal with painful things. No worries, you are just being human. ^-^
@@aylbdrmadison1051 okay
@@aylbdrmadison1051 You're wholesome i checked your channel bio, i love u !
@@Gakki_Aniki Glad to bring some humor to a rather "down" subject. Love your avatar!
12 mistakes weren't mentioned?
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I don’t want to die 🥺
Well you're gonna. So you might as well face it find some peace I have it can be done
Wendy White ik it’s a sad reality that everyone in this comment section is going to soon or later be 10 feet under ground 😃
Anonymous yes I would rather not die because I am very nosey and want to see(experience) the next instalment, but one day the universe will just be infinite space(all atoms decay) with photons zipping around and that would be so boring I would wish I was dead, have a great day!!!!!
Me either. At least not yet. That's why I suggest we have as much fun as possible while we're here and plan for our deaths in a way that fits for us. Planning it makes it less scary! How would you like for your family to celebrate your life when the time comes? How creative and fun can you make it?
darren.davis you sound like a scientist or a science fiction fan????
Great
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How can I help U
U inspire me
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2 Timothy 2:8 Remember Jesus Christ, raised from the dead, descended from David, as proclaimed by my gospel,
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