If you do choose to have some friends it's very important to choose your friends wisely and be careful who you trust and tell your problems to because everyone who smiles at you is not your friend
They’re probably watching tutorials on things that are easy to you. We’re all built different but we’re all ok, keep it up growing your friend circle 💪
I always feel like when I approach someone I’m going to be annoying and make everyone uncomfortable but this advice is a stepping stone towards a more social life. Thanks man
Same, man. It hard especially in high school right now, but the best way to have a better and happier social life" just keep trying! One person looks at you weird? They'll forget, and so should you. just keep trying. That's the best motto to live by.
One of the most important things to realize and accept is that you won't connect with everyone you meet...AND THAT'S OK. Most people you meet understand this instinctively, you just have to live in the moment of each interaction and make the most of it. Learn from the worst moments and embrace the good ones, no matter how brief, as stepping stones towards the great moments with the people you'll eventually meet that you truly connect with. Every moment can grow you to become a better and better socialite if you let it. I know it's easier said than done, but you gotta train yourself to not worry about whether people find you annoying. Part of putting yourself out there is unapologetically putting your genuine personality of display, because people can't connect with you if you refuse to let them see you.
I never realised until I was 28 that I have really poor social skills. I thought I was ok but moving and starting again really highlights your strengths and weaknesses.
Every time I think of a certain topic and I question why I can't have it like the rest have it eg having friends and stuff, this guy drops a video of the very same thing that's bothering me deep down. He is him!
I don't know if anyone is going to see this but I wanted to provide some comfort to people that may be in my situation. I've been somewhat isolated for the past 3ish years. I toughed it out at first but over time I got more and more depressed. Today I learned that being lonely is a big problem that many people have. It's NEVER too late to change. You're not a lost cause and you can do anything you put your mind to. Baby steps are OKAY. Talk to more and more people. Practice conversations by writing it down, talking to someone available, etc. I don't have much more advice other than you got this!
This is very comprehensive, friendships can be complex, especially when you're first thinking about friends, it's not always a good idea to make friends, you might feel lonely but do you feel lonely because you feel pressured to make friends when you have none? Or do you feel lonely because you're not in a good place to meet people or make friends? Sometimes it's fine to hold back and not make friends right away. You'll be ready when the time comes.
What you said is true. Trying to make friends with everyone will wear you thin. But I think there’s a nuance to it. Some people, especially Introverts may get stuck in their comfort zone, and have trouble getting out of it.
One piece of advice that will always stick with me is to get out of my head. Just get out of your head, stop overthinking, genuinely live in the moment, it’s easier said than done but it really works, trust me. Also this is a great video btw ❤
yo bro tysm for doing what ur doing man ive been struggling to have the motivation to even talk to people ever since highschool, but ur videos rlly helped me man and i want u to know how many other people feel the same way you rlly out here changing lives fr
If you do choose to have some friends it's very important to choose your friends wisely and be careful who you trust and tell your problems to because everyone who smiles at you is not your friend
Seriously, this might be the best video on making friends I’ve ever seen. The advice sounds simple and obvious, but I’ve watched it three times now, and it’s deceptively insightful. I need to stop it every 30 seconds and unpack what I just heard, because it’s so full of value. All the other videos are like, “plan an activity night” or “bring a list of 100 conversation starters.” Those tips are so stiff and forced, I cringe every time I think of them. I don’t want to do any of that. I just want to hang out with people, and this video gives great advice on how to do that. Thank you.
If you do choose to have some friends it's very important to choose your friends wisely and be careful who you trust and tell your problems to because everyone who smiles at you is not your friend
Can we appreciate, this guy Shimon. Really taking all of his knowlegde, and giving it to us, who are not that Well known with these topics but tryna improve, In life. Thank you Shimon, for Helping out it means alot.
If you do choose to have some friends it's very important to choose your friends wisely and be careful who you trust and tell your problems to because everyone who smiles at you is not your friend
Aint nothing wrong with that tho some ppl can be alone there hole life others cant but being alone most of the time trust me you gain something really precious
I moved to a new school 6 months ago and ended up becoming friends with people i don't want to be friends with. (Not saying their bad people, they're actually good friendly people its just something about them doesn't feel right) So i effectively have had no friends to actually talk to for the past 6 months. I left all my old friends behind and now i rarely talk to them which i think is the worst part because they are amazing people that i love to hang around. Thank you for this video, i may have had to do the sad part of actually needing to search up this video but thank you. Thank you so much.| God Bless.
It’s crazy cause I was talking to a friend about a friend I got into an argument with and I got the notification that you posted a video about making friends…..idk if that’s a coincidence or not 😂 but I’m here for it
I told a guy I liked his shirt and he said just laughed at me and said "Okay?". Maybe I'm unapproachable because I'm ugly and socially awkward but that really hurt my feelings. I don't think having friends is for me but I did try guys so that's gotta be worth something right? I'm 20 years old right now and after getting out of a super toxic relationship where she made me leave all of my friends; things have been hard. I wish I had a better personality. Now I'm suicidal and no I'm not looking for internet points. Sometimes I just rant because there's nobody else to talk to.
I’ve been there before, some people are just rude and don’t want to talk and it’s not you’re fault. If you want friends than say something small and see how they respond and go from there, if they are not interested than just move on
Please take care of yourself! I often compliment people and some just react that way i doubt he wanted to hurt your feelings. Maybe you could reach out to your old friends and tell them about your situation
If we do choose to have some friends it's very important that we choose our friends wisely and be careful who we trust and tell our problems to because everyone who smiles at us is not our friend
I go out around people. I give out compliments. I am being myself. But, I don't think people find me interesting. I will never be able to make people feel me interesting. I wish I can reincarnated into someone completely different when I die.
Hey man, this is super helpful. Aside the great contents, I've been wondering your setup as per camera and so.. I really like the simplicity of your videos also.
I have a half funny quote that I always say that is: Life is like a half cut apple, one way it looks like a heart, and the other way it looks like some cheeks. You have to see both sides to enjoy it.
great video brother , you are saving lives here. you help a lot of people including me and giving good feeling and energy and hope to me. thanks my man. i appriciate it
"you are not gonna make friends if you are in your bed room", Damn that really hit me hard! i used to have friends in the neighboorhood, after moving to another Place when i started highschool, the village was empty coz it was brand new appartment, my family also become strict not wanting me to spend time outside,so i learned how to stay at home, 2 years passed i was mentally, emotionally weak, even it affected my school life, last year i started going out to betting shops and i met people in my age even some in my school, i got gym member ship and made friends got familiar withe the thugs im my neighboorhood, but i started staying outside late so my dad stope giving me money for gym, so i stopped, also my family got strict again, i always sthought its me, not having social skill making me friendless, nahh it wasnt its just i am spending my time at home, justblaming my fam for everything. If you really need friends just take action.
I was born in Sweden. Im 3/4 quarters Egyptian with the last quarter being Moroccan. Me and my family moved to Morocco two years ago from place to place. I didn’t go to school, I still don’t (prolly not start) I was 14 when we left Sweden and I’m 16 now. I can barely speak the language and I feel like a foreigner. My mother keeps telling me I’m not but I still feel like one. I feel like I want to have a friend. I’ll try do what you said shimon, I love you.
I like your channel, just got introduced to it. You’re real chill and it’s the vibe. I wanted to see if compliments could help me make friends. Is it working?
A lot of this is true just have to include that you give them money or gifts to take home being yourself isn’t enough and don’t expect any gifts in return just keep giving
Know who you are and go towards that - shared activities and shared interests. compliment people , or make some type of initiative do not force yourself into friendships because you are lonely. listen to people add value to peoples life = could add up to best friends -uplift their spirit - follow up.. contact people.
I'm an introvert, I don't have friends and I feel like I'm stuck in one place without moving forward. People keep telling me to go out more often and make friends, but how do I start? I can't just go to a public place and be like, "Hey can we be friends?" That's awkward.
I recommend to start with the basic inner-work, like taking care of your health and reducing stress. Then you should find a hobby you like and are good at, for example for me it was basketball. In that hobby try to become better and that will help your confidence. From there you just gotta get experience, I am still on the becoming better at your hobby.
Hey shimon im autistic high functioning and Ive been worrying about people not talking to me because they thinking im weird but Im really not I was gonna ask if you can make any videos of that type of stuff and see the world and get out more if you can and I hope you have a blessed Day :)
If someone think ur weird because ur autistic trust me bro there's a 99% chance they will be a bad friend anyways. Although I get what you mean I feel the same all the time.
2:12 remembers me how I met a good Friend of mine: I just said I like ur hat. But honestly he was 1 person of 999 I complimented in public but he was the only one who came out as a friend..
There is a genuine and honest wisdom in what you say. I'll watch this video several times and take note and structure its content. Thank you for being a modern sage.
Hey Shimon I’m starting a TH-cam channel and I was wondering if you would let me know what microphone you use for your videos, I would appreciate the help and your videos along with other factors have given me a sense of inspiration to create my own life and reality, thank you 🙏
I’ve come to realize that I don’t actually like my friend group and only slightly relate to like two people in it with the only reason ive been with them through middle school and highschool being that I got no other options
making friends isnt hard but theres a lot of other factors, like its harder to make friends with someone having a shit day then it is to make friends with a dude enjoying life.
How can you go out alone? It is so stupid to go at a cafe alone. And i know that at the end no one will aproach. I am also a hijabi, so in real life and in social media its difficult for pp to aproach me. I am also not going to interrup a group of friend to talk with them. What if they want to.
Man, ive tried.. ive gonne every where i can go with a bike, and no one, ive tryied everything at this point, my friends are jerks. They think they can keep getting away with stuf..... life sucks for me rn...
1-Go out, be around people
2-Give out compliments
3-Be open
4-Don`t force friendships
5-Add value to their lifes
6-Quality is better than quantity
@Int-sumthen get that figured out !
If you do choose to have some friends it's very important to choose your friends wisely and be careful who you trust and tell your problems to because everyone who smiles at you is not your friend
I swr whenever Im in the bin God sends this brother to pick me back up
Real bro
Yeees, same!
this is my third time of this happening 😭😭
Yes :) ❤❤
amen brother
I genuinely don't understand how people just make friends and I'm stuck here watching tutorials on how to make friends.
They’re probably watching tutorials on things that are easy to you. We’re all built different but we’re all ok, keep it up growing your friend circle 💪
Same
What do you do for fun? How often do you go out to be amongst people?
I always feel like when I approach someone I’m going to be annoying and make everyone uncomfortable but this advice is a stepping stone towards a more social life. Thanks man
Same, man. It hard especially in high school right now, but the best way to have a better and happier social life" just keep trying! One person looks at you weird? They'll forget, and so should you. just keep trying. That's the best motto to live by.
One of the most important things to realize and accept is that you won't connect with everyone you meet...AND THAT'S OK. Most people you meet understand this instinctively, you just have to live in the moment of each interaction and make the most of it. Learn from the worst moments and embrace the good ones, no matter how brief, as stepping stones towards the great moments with the people you'll eventually meet that you truly connect with.
Every moment can grow you to become a better and better socialite if you let it. I know it's easier said than done, but you gotta train yourself to not worry about whether people find you annoying. Part of putting yourself out there is unapologetically putting your genuine personality of display, because people can't connect with you if you refuse to let them see you.
"What do you have that you can add to somebody's life?". Damn, that's a deep question, straight up!
"What's up bro?". That absolutely IS a cheat code for dudes😅
I never realised until I was 28 that I have really poor social skills. I thought I was ok but moving and starting again really highlights your strengths and weaknesses.
Every time I think of a certain topic and I question why I can't have it like the rest have it eg having friends and stuff, this guy drops a video of the very same thing that's bothering me deep down. He is him!
I don't know if anyone is going to see this but I wanted to provide some comfort to people that may be in my situation. I've been somewhat isolated for the past 3ish years. I toughed it out at first but over time I got more and more depressed. Today I learned that being lonely is a big problem that many people have. It's NEVER too late to change. You're not a lost cause and you can do anything you put your mind to. Baby steps are OKAY. Talk to more and more people. Practice conversations by writing it down, talking to someone available, etc. I don't have much more advice other than you got this!
This is very comprehensive, friendships can be complex, especially when you're first thinking about friends, it's not always a good idea to make friends, you might feel lonely but do you feel lonely because you feel pressured to make friends when you have none? Or do you feel lonely because you're not in a good place to meet people or make friends? Sometimes it's fine to hold back and not make friends right away.
You'll be ready when the time comes.
What you said is true. Trying to make friends with everyone will wear you thin. But I think there’s a nuance to it.
Some people, especially Introverts may get stuck in their comfort zone, and have trouble getting out of it.
One piece of advice that will always stick with me is to get out of my head. Just get out of your head, stop overthinking, genuinely live in the moment, it’s easier said than done but it really works, trust me.
Also this is a great video btw ❤
yo bro tysm for doing what ur doing man ive been struggling to have the motivation to even talk to people ever since highschool, but ur videos rlly helped me man and i want u to know how many other people feel the same way you rlly out here changing lives fr
I am learning a lot.
If you do choose to have some friends it's very important to choose your friends wisely and be careful who you trust and tell your problems to because everyone who smiles at you is not your friend
I been watching and rewatching your videos daily for the past three weeks and I can’t state how much they been helping me out 🙏🏿
Seriously, this might be the best video on making friends I’ve ever seen. The advice sounds simple and obvious, but I’ve watched it three times now, and it’s deceptively insightful. I need to stop it every 30 seconds and unpack what I just heard, because it’s so full of value. All the other videos are like, “plan an activity night” or “bring a list of 100 conversation starters.” Those tips are so stiff and forced, I cringe every time I think of them. I don’t want to do any of that. I just want to hang out with people, and this video gives great advice on how to do that. Thank you.
i dont have trouble making friends but everything you say just makes sense, Your a beautiful person and thanks for those beautiful words as always :)
If you do choose to have some friends it's very important to choose your friends wisely and be careful who you trust and tell your problems to because everyone who smiles at you is not your friend
Can we appreciate, this guy Shimon. Really taking all of his knowlegde, and giving it to us, who are not that Well known with these topics but tryna improve, In life. Thank you Shimon, for Helping out it means alot.
you don't even know how much you've helped me in the past 3 months.
Bro I haven’t had friends in 5 years
Me too:(
If you do choose to have some friends it's very important to choose your friends wisely and be careful who you trust and tell your problems to because everyone who smiles at you is not your friend
@omarmateengaming1 nah fam I’m good
Aint nothing wrong with that tho some ppl can be alone there hole life others cant but being alone most of the time trust me you gain something really precious
9 years
Hey man thanks for the help this is exactly what I needed as a incoming freshman it means a lot thx bro and keep up the good wirk
I moved to a new school 6 months ago and ended up becoming friends with people i don't want to be friends with. (Not saying their bad people, they're actually good friendly people its just something about them doesn't feel right) So i effectively have had no friends to actually talk to for the past 6 months. I left all my old friends behind and now i rarely talk to them which i think is the worst part because they are amazing people that i love to hang around. Thank you for this video, i may have had to do the sad part of actually needing to search up this video but thank you.
Thank you so much.|
God Bless.
This is one of the best video I have seen in my whole life
Does this dude have a podcast!? Honestly has such a soothing voice 👏
you talk like a preacher, the tone and your voice got power
It’s crazy cause I was talking to a friend about a friend I got into an argument with and I got the notification that you posted a video about making friends…..idk if that’s a coincidence or not 😂 but I’m here for it
First also I love you vids your my favorite TH-cam and you have really made me think about things
You're so wise! God bless you 🤍
I told a guy I liked his shirt and he said just laughed at me and said "Okay?". Maybe I'm unapproachable because I'm ugly and socially awkward but that really hurt my feelings. I don't think having friends is for me but I did try guys so that's gotta be worth something right? I'm 20 years old right now and after getting out of a super toxic relationship where she made me leave all of my friends; things have been hard. I wish I had a better personality. Now I'm suicidal and no I'm not looking for internet points. Sometimes I just rant because there's nobody else to talk to.
I’ve been there before, some people are just rude and don’t want to talk and it’s not you’re fault. If you want friends than say something small and see how they respond and go from there, if they are not interested than just move on
Please take care of yourself! I often compliment people and some just react that way i doubt he wanted to hurt your feelings. Maybe you could reach out to your old friends and tell them about your situation
I love your videos so much, they help me with life GWORLLL YOURE SO WISE
You got a like and a sub from me bro. Straight into the action, no 10 minute intro. I feel like me and you would be real deal best friends.
& I love you too btw champ 💪 that necklace fly af
I really enjoy watching your videos. They are calming and at the same time give great lessons for your life. Keep it up ❤🔥
I actually started tearing up. Thank you man
The fact that 28K people watched this vid is soo… I can’t explain. We all here should be friends LOL.
If we do choose to have some friends it's very important that we choose our friends wisely and be careful who we trust and tell our problems to because everyone who smiles at us is not our friend
I go out around people. I give out compliments. I am being myself. But, I don't think people find me interesting. I will never be able to make people feel me interesting. I wish I can reincarnated into someone completely different when I die.
Don’t say that mane
You're such a relief man.
Hey man, this is super helpful. Aside the great contents, I've been wondering your setup as per camera and so.. I really like the simplicity of your videos also.
I have a half funny quote that I always say that is: Life is like a half cut apple, one way it looks like a heart, and the other way it looks like some cheeks. You have to see both sides to enjoy it.
great video brother , you are saving lives here. you help a lot of people including me and giving good feeling and energy and hope to me. thanks my man. i appriciate it
This guy is the type od person I want to be friends with, but I have yet to see one irl
"you are not gonna make friends if you are in your bed room", Damn that really hit me hard!
i used to have friends in the neighboorhood, after moving to another Place when i started highschool, the village was empty coz it was brand new appartment, my family also become strict not wanting me to spend time outside,so i learned how to stay at home, 2 years passed i was mentally, emotionally weak, even it affected my school life, last year i started going out to betting shops and i met people in my age even some in my school, i got gym member ship and made friends got familiar withe the thugs im my neighboorhood, but i started staying outside late so my dad stope giving me money for gym, so i stopped, also my family got strict again, i always sthought its me, not having social skill making me friendless, nahh it wasnt its just i am spending my time at home, justblaming my fam for everything. If you really need friends just take action.
How old is this brotha, because he is too wise dammit.
I think he said once that he was like 20
The way you talk is so poetic bro
it kinda hurt to feel the need to look this up..but truly, thank you so much for this video 💗
hello,can we be friends?
@@bibergales thanks so much, but i don’t prefer to talk to people online but thank you
@@iluvbeingdelulu it's okay,i washing you good day eary day!
Getting out is okay
But to meat people is too much😌
I don't how I found your page. One thing I know for sure is I'm blessed. Love you bro
9/10 of my friendships came from them approaching me but I never really understood why they wanted to be friends with me
You are so cool man thank you, you got me smiling from ear to ear ❤️
Great video, Man!
I was born in Sweden. Im 3/4 quarters Egyptian with the last quarter being Moroccan. Me and my family moved to Morocco two years ago from place to place. I didn’t go to school, I still don’t (prolly not start) I was 14 when we left Sweden and I’m 16 now. I can barely speak the language and I feel like a foreigner. My mother keeps telling me I’m not but I still feel like one. I feel like I want to have a friend. I’ll try do what you said shimon, I love you.
Amazing video bro. Keep up the great work 👍💯
Good content. Nice soothing voice, relaxing background music.. Dope 👌👍I love it
ur videos help me alot.. seriously. i cant help but ask what music you include in your videos? theyre very calming and moody
The perfect video! Needed this, thank you
I like your channel, just got introduced to it. You’re real chill and it’s the vibe. I wanted to see if compliments could help me make friends. Is it working?
Gotta always be making time when bro drops a video, and actually really needed this one
You clearly my brother in Christ. Thank you for your wisdom.
A lot of this is true just have to include that you give them money or gifts to take home being yourself isn’t enough and don’t expect any gifts in return just keep giving
I really enjoyed this video!
Know who you are and go towards that - shared activities and shared interests.
compliment people , or make some type of initiative
do not force yourself into friendships because you are lonely.
listen to people
add value to peoples life = could add up to best friends
-uplift their spirit
- follow up.. contact people.
Thank you for the video🥰
I follow you from Gaza genocide, I learn English through your wonderful videos, thank you!
I'm an introvert, I don't have friends and I feel like I'm stuck in one place without moving forward.
People keep telling me to go out more often and make friends, but how do I start?
I can't just go to a public place and be like, "Hey can we be friends?" That's awkward.
I recommend to start with the basic inner-work, like taking care of your health and reducing stress. Then you should find a hobby you like and are good at, for example for me it was basketball. In that hobby try to become better and that will help your confidence. From there you just gotta get experience, I am still on the becoming better at your hobby.
If you have nothing interesting about you, it's no point.
Ok I'll see to it
@@MattDaGamer21 thats why first get a hobby right?
@@MattDaGamer21 everyone has something interesting about them though you probably haven't found it or clocked how interesting it is
Use to be shy, but interacting isn't that hard seeing great progress. 👍🏽
Hey shimon im autistic high functioning and Ive been worrying about people not talking to me because they thinking im weird but Im really not I was gonna ask if you can make any videos of that type of stuff and see the world and get out more if you can and I hope you have a blessed Day :)
If someone think ur weird because ur autistic trust me bro there's a 99% chance they will be a bad friend anyways. Although I get what you mean I feel the same all the time.
2:12 remembers me how I met a good Friend of mine: I just said I like ur hat. But honestly he was 1 person of 999 I complimented in public but he was the only one who came out as a friend..
Great advice ur full of wisdom
tbh i try my best to make friends but i feel like we always fall out really quick and I don’t know how to even start a convo
Can you make a video on how to be a good friend and what to look for in a friendship
There is a genuine and honest wisdom in what you say. I'll watch this video several times and take note and structure its content.
Thank you for being a modern sage.
life is beautiful depending on how you look at it
Hey Shimon I’m starting a TH-cam channel and I was wondering if you would let me know what microphone you use for your videos, I would appreciate the help and your videos along with other factors have given me a sense of inspiration to create my own life and reality, thank you 🙏
I’ve come to realize that I don’t actually like my friend group and only slightly relate to like two people in it with the only reason ive been with them through middle school and highschool being that I got no other options
making friends isnt hard but theres a lot of other factors, like its harder to make friends with someone having a shit day then it is to make friends with a dude enjoying life.
i have autism and i be getting pick on all my school life and i never have a real friend before it kinda hard to make friends
Why do I have to initiate tho how comes nobody wants to initiate the conversation with me?
Thanks man I needed that
I like your subtitles.
Hope I can find one day.
Thank you brotha ❤ ily
Whats the background music called?
love your hair bro
The problem about this is that I am nobody. I’m an empty shell of a person with zero personality.
thanks, good video
you doing these subtitles by yourself? cause they a lil weird sometimes. love the video just like alls your videos
What song is playing in the background?
How can bro be so wise a such a very young age
How can you go out alone? It is so stupid to go at a cafe alone. And i know that at the end no one will aproach. I am also a hijabi, so in real life and in social media its difficult for pp to aproach me. I am also not going to interrup a group of friend to talk with them. What if they want to.
Well said bro 😎
Thanks man 🙏
Man, ive tried.. ive gonne every where i can go with a bike, and no one, ive tryied everything at this point, my friends are jerks. They think they can keep getting away with stuf..... life sucks for me rn...
Crazy how bad shits going i gotta look this up 😂😂😂
Do people still leave the house tho? The house is boring af but I don’t see people anywhere
✊
been rotting in my house for 2 years
Thank you ❤
thats nice and all but nobody, fkin nobody answers the Question WHERE do i find new people????? a cafe? Where do i need to go?!
Thank you!
I have started having conversations but asking for their contact seems weird to me. Is there a way to go about that
what's the music plz ?
Gods creation
@@AskShimon thanks man
Thank you.