Why Are We so Easily 'triggered'?
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- Most of us are aware that, around certain topics, we're uncomfortably easily 'triggered', that is, we react with far too much emotion to situations that don't call for it. Learning not to be so swiftly triggered means looking back into our past to understand the origins of our behaviour - and being confident that what now feels 'automatic' is in fact very changeable once we grasp where it comes from.
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“If we were totally sane, we would respond to the present only on its own terms; we would worry or be angered or give way to anxiety only as much as the circumstances before us actually dictated.
But we are not - of course - most of us quite sane, as evidenced by the way that we respond with such disproportion to certain events in the here and now. We have occasional tendencies to get wildly more worried, angry and anxious than we should, if we were simply following the facts in front of us.”
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1. You have leftovers from the past you carry
2. You have found ways to survive that may later become harmful
3. Unhealthy ways of managing feelings
4. You're not taking the time to slow down
What do you mean by not taking the time to slow down?
Why are we so triggered? Conversely, why dont we just trust everyone wants to give us hugs and kisses and make all our dreams come true.
1. You're a feminist
2. You hate men
3. You're a snowflake
4. You're a libtard
5. You're a millennial
Edit : lol I was talking about sjws bc they always say they're triggered
Mark Brown Means you’re reacting instead of allowing yourself to observe and then respond in a more healthy and rational manner. Take time to observe the event, observe your emotions, feel the emotions and listen to what they have to say, think of all perspectives besides just your own. This takes time and repetition. Instead most people, more often than not, react automatically out of their childhood coping mechanisms which is a disaster and causes chaos or is just plain useless at best and self-sabotaging at the worst.
@@mastercarpenterltd yes, what HH said. Look up the Rosenberg 90 second reset for a better idea, and how to fix it:
th-cam.com/video/V94sqO0RRgs/w-d-xo.html
To quote the stoics “anger is just high hopes colliding with unforeseen reality”
Like the reality that there's only 2 genders
Or maybe not but still only 2 sexes
@@gamermapper is triggered by stranger's sexuality... or his own.
It's when you "must"-urbate and then "should" on everyone else.
I stride to remove all emotional reaction and suppress emotion to undetectable levels by onlookers. I never get, "triggered." Emotion is a primative reaction sourced in the primative limbic system of the brain. I believe emotional suppression should be exercised in all situations. I am so good at it that I would not know how to react to something in an emotional manner. I may feel the emotion but not react to it. I am clueless as to how some react to everything emotionally, without any thought. I believe I could not do that even if I tried to do so.
As it was mentioned in a previous video you did some years ago, an inner voice always used to be an outer voice. This also applies to how we support or approve others and their point of view.
Sometimes we jump and cheer when someone shares their opinion or believes. We attack when someone says something we don't like.
Or something I realized about myself very recently. I get (but I'm working not to) annoyed when someone states proudly something they believe. I discovered that I get annoyed because I was repressed harshly as a child, and it bothers me (like some kind of envy or jealousy) to see others not holding back their thoughts and expressing themselves.
It's quite soothing to learn why that was happening to me, and now I can work on it.
Thank you
@@skyrimshock For what?
+CDX1080 For not holding back your thoughts and expressing yourself!
@@Hovane5 I almost cried when I read your response. Thank you, I'm trying my best.
CDX1080 you’re welcome! I’m in a similar boat, so I get it. I’m trying my best too! That’s all we can do right? Don’t be too hard on yourself and good luck! I believe in you!
While this is quite true, it can also be quite difficult in the heat of the moment when you cannot get away from the situation/people that triggered you. The strong feelings are there, and as long as others keep attempting to interact with you, you'll struggle, because you just don't get time to have a look and release.
Look up the Rosenberg 90 second reset for an idea on how to fix that:
th-cam.com/video/V94sqO0RRgs/w-d-xo.html
the first step is to train your mind not to get triggered. Nothing they teach you in school for 15 years.
I think it is our duty to find out what our triggers are that caused us to feel fear and to face them head-on to help our minds get over that fear. Common example of this would be public speaking.
It shouldn't be a permanent thing. The whole point in the end is to overcome it, not overtly seeking sympathy and attentions. Otherwise in the end you'll wind up looking like a big pussy which is not close to being admirable if you're a man.
Oliver Eales Y R U SO FREAKING TRIGURED FOR NOO REASON
"if you're a man" ?
what does being a "man" look like?
@@ajanaya8055 I was with you at the first half of your comment the second half seems ignorant...
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You know, I am quite "triggered" (god i hate that word) right now thanks to a whole family sitiation that may lead to a confrontation with some close members of said family. I think this video just gave me some good advise to keep in mind in the following weeks. Thanks, School of Life.
Being around Parental family members is the biggest challenge of all.
Remember that sibling rivalry from eons ago?
Ignore it now, if you can!
The word "Triggered" is triggering. Smh
Oh, I thought I was the only one who hate the word 'trigger'.
Today people are so use to having and doing things fast. So we often react... to fast. We need to slow down, think and take our time before we react. When I was little we always said, turn your tongue seven times in your mouth before you speak. 🙂
@I Control My Fate Yes but I think it's most social media platforms, facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, even TH-cam... it's all of them. These tools are good... but often badly used.
@Najoua El no it is about fast reactions sorry, you do have a good point but it's been proven people don't think these days and actually learn or ask they just assume. Hence why people mistake others for good people when they really are not
The older I get, the more I realize that I have a LOT of triggers. The thing is, I'm grateful to have a term for it. It doesn't mean that I can't face those triggers. It just means that I'm aware of them, so I can brace myself when I know that they're coming, and slowly, slowly, prepare a plan to get through them.
A lot of them are very silly. And yet, they justify a lot of my reactions.
Still, I wish others were more compassionate towards people with triggers. Whenever I try to tell someone about it... I get reactions similar to "get over it". I wish they could understand that I'm trying to - and succeeding, most of the time - but it's still a bigger obstacle for me than it is to the average person.
yeah. the get over it response is stupid and honestly ignores human nature.
I have found that allowing emotions to control a reaction serves no purpose. Thus, I have progressively reduced my emotional responses to near undetectable levels. I do believe I am human. Thus it is within human nature to be able to suppress all emotion and the display of it. I consider it a personal weakness and defeat if I demonstrate emotion or react to emotion. I have no emotional triggers at all because of the life long efforts to suppress all emotional reactions. I believe I can retain the exact same outward appearance through any emotional stimuli. Emotions are a product of the primative limbic system of the brain. I believe the higher functioning aspects of the brain can, and should, override the unneeded functions of the limbic brain. This is just my personal goal. I am not trying to influence anybody to suppress emotional reactions and to use cognition over emotion to react to outside stimuli. All can be as emotionally reactive or suppress emotions all they want. I have simply chosen early in life to disallow emotion to control any reaction or decision I make. It is within the human species' nature to disallow emotion to be displayed and to use emotion to be the decisive variable to making decisions.
Indrid Cold what is your way, because I always get angry when talking to my parents, and family In general, it’s so toxic and I always realise I was in the wrong straight after, I would try to tell myself “I’ll try to be calm next time” but as soon as the emotions come in, I completely forget to try and calm myself If that makes sense, I’d greatly appreciate it if you can help me out
@@indridcold8433 It is true that when dealing with other people and exterior stimuli that may frustrate you, emotions quickly becomes a weakness and can be a source of conflict hence it is true that when dealing with people especially does who shows annoying behaviour it is preferable to put your emotions aside. I understand that but emotions also have their utility. How can you enjoy things and profit from life if you don't have emotions. Things start to become boring if we do not have some emotional attachment to it. I think that it depends on the situation.
@@ayad3834 I'd suggest diving back into your childhood and find what triggers you to get angry today. Then use your adult mind to cognitively recognise that what happened back then doesn't affirm your strong emotions today. There's something called an "inner child", a part of you, that needs attending to. See what it whats to say about your family back then and why you're so hurt. This starts your healing journey. But I wouldn't suppress emotions in general, if you suppress "negative" emotions, you also suppress "positive" emotions such as happiness and joy. All emotions are meant to be felt, processed, and relieved. You just need to take control of your emotions, dont let them control you.
Fighting the triggers/fears is fighting a losing battle. The best thing to do is to dance with them--use them an indication for somethinng you must do. Your first time giving a speech may be very frightening, but it may also be the first step to unlocking your public speaking potential.
I love the videos but the comment section is always so toxic.
[Insert comment about 'snowflakes' here without watching the video]
@Oliver Eales ironic
Is it any surprise that basement dwellers are most popular in here? It’s likely they are literally spending all of their time on TH-cam.
Case in point
@Oliver Eales lmao
I love this video! It explains exactly what I've been working on the past 6 months. I decided to slow down and really get to know myself. I'll sit in a room by myself and just think about things that scare me or worry me and ask myself why they scare/worry me. It honestly feels like going through a second puberty because I have to take myself from my current self and go back into my past and teach my 5 year old self how to handle situations because my parents didn't teach me how when I was 5. Very hard to do, but I am growing more and more everyday!
Hey! 3 years later, how are you dealing with all this at the moment ?
@@iiPhynx my husband says I've grown a lot in the past couple of years and while I will occasionally still have mental breakdowns from anxiety/depression I am able to get myself out of those moods faster and they don't come on as often (or as easily) as they used to. So there's probably more things I could learn about myself but that's a good thing because the more I learn and process how/why my old ways weren't beneficial to me, the more I can learn what ways are beneficial to me and the people around me. Definitely has to be a conscious effort everyday!
Learning to tell the difference between triggers and actual threats has been a big part of my recovery. Fireworks are not bombs. Bursting balloons or dropped kitchen utensils are not gunshots. Strangers glancing at me in passing mean me no harm. Neighbours having a row have nothing to do with me or my life. It takes a lot of work to keep reminding myself that the past is not the present and retrain my brain, but it is working.
We're easily "triggered" because we're overwhelmed by all the information and attacks we're exposed to, especially on social media. So much going on in the world, so many social debates/disagreements/changes going on. It's very difficult to keep sane in today's socio-political climate.
Best solution is to avoid social media/the news as much as you can, or take a period of haitus when it gets too much.
I disagree. I think our mind and consciousness have evolved over millions of years enabling us to proactively choose which information to process or not. Many people can use social media as a stepping stone for greater things and shouldn't avoid the greatest gift our technological advancement has bestowed upon us and focus more on improving what we focus in our minds,0000
xin liao social media is the worst thing that has happened to society, IMO
@@nessieb8422 Why?
xin liao Nothing but a bunch of posers, SJW’s, narcissist’s. The way people have been treating each other on Twitter is very ugly. I think it has divided society rather than unite.
Nessie B Has it divides us or reveal how the true reality of our society. I mean we need to meet a standard of societal manners when greeted in flesh but behind the safe fortress of a computer, our true colors bursts. And u only mentioned the negatives. U sound like a immature teenager lol
'We must learn to believe a robust suspicion in our first impulses.' Wow that's huge.
I agree, I feel as though it is a part of me, not the whole self, is scared when confronted with something that was once a issue at a past time, like at a younger age. In fact I once had a bad experience being anxious and almost having a panic attack at a small party. Now looking back I realize that the experience from this is what REALLY gives me the anxiety, not that I am prone to do it everytime I want to have fun and enjoy new company. This was very helpful. I hope School of life and Wisecrack keeps making videos like this. ☺
What has gotten worse is with how we are connected online we are exposed to a lot more potential triggers, so the only reasonable thing to do is to disconnect as much as possible.If you work in an office with a large group of people around you and you can't just leave it makes it really hard to get the necessary distance to cool down once triggered.
My little sister is like this and I feel whenever I converse with her it feels like I am walking on eggshells because one wrong word that she might think it's inaccurate she gets triggered by almost everything. She is a very complex emotional person I've met In my life. It's exhausting.
my sister is the same
My girlfriend *always* jumps to the most negative interpretation of what she's being told that she can. It can be frustrating, but she's also the greatest person on Earth... so, meh.
This honestly sounds like me.
@@interdimensionalsteve8172 same with my sister, when she's calm and collected she's awesome and I love hanging around with her.
This is exactly what I’m going through with my sister and now it’s starting to seem like I’m losing her. She’s been distancing herself away from me and any question or concern I have for her, she immediately gets irritated and goes off on me. It’s like I have to tip toe around her so I won’t have the fear to get cussed out.
The fact that people are so insensitive to the things that I am triggered about sends me off the edge and that makes me feel bad for being vulnerable and opening up about my past experiences. My mental health isn’t the best right now and it sucks to be in a dark place in your mind and the depression behind it feels like you’re in a pit that you cannot come out of. The place I’m in feels extremely lonely…. I’m praying that I can find healthy ways to take those steps to move forward but healing can be ugly and every part of it cuts deep. I’m reflecting and unlearning toxic behaviors. I just want to feel safe and seen. I know that God will help me on this journey to heal from all the trauma I’ve been through. It’s a lot of hurt but in time I will be able to face all of it with boldness and move forward from the past experiences that have damaged me on the inside 🦋
On point animation as always
Over twenty years ago, a coworker remarked "We are all habit." I immediately understood what she meant; habits are not just physical habits, i.e. addictions. Our thoughts, our personality are also the result of habitual thinking.
This was one of the best videos. Excellent and truly enlightening. Thank you.
You appear to be easily triggered. Pun intended. If all you have time for is criticizing others, move along.
School of life, thank you so much for all your insightful and educational videos. I only wish that the the trolls who use the comment section as a means to ridicule and finger point could be muzzled. The consequence of free speach.
Your timing again is magical...I just left a marching band I've been in for 13 years. Some members critizised me so harshly and violently, because something I'm still not aware of was triggering them.
I think it's good to become aware of what triggers us, even though it becomes tough at times...because it seems that even the awareness can't help to work around such events most of the time
Also a similar story of leaving a band I was in. Other people's triggers can have huge consequences.
Something happened and this saves my sanity thank you so much. God bless!
So powerful --- If our reaction goes beyond 5 on a scale of 10, it is from childhood trauma. I agree. That angry reaction is so destructive. "We must learn to adopt a robust suspicion of our first impulses." Yes!
I have no words fr the logical, constructive way...this channel is bringing psychology to the world. Do much needed to understand what lies beneath.cause and effect connect, our patterns in a formative stage...! And ur emphasis..on childhood...in many settings is what was needed. Not as a one on mention. Triggers, attachment styles, singlehood, relationship issues all have...been tied to childhood which is very spot-on. This is a resource I will use in...my circle, my work as a professional social worker.🌻❤️🌻❤️
Definitely useful to have an understanding of oneself as a composite of competing parts, because this is the literal truth. But I think the source of these triggers ie the ‘why’, runs a bit deeper than just the psychology of childhood. It also involves the neurophysiology of learning and extends into the evolutionary history of our species. The reason for triggers would be analogous to the reason for committing logical fallacies or false positive behaviour. It’s a manifestation of our psychological architecture as evolved creatures, but can certainly be modulated through an understanding of these instincts and through mindfulness
Triggered= Emotionally unbalanced or overly emotional.
Air Em Out In the very narrow sense of the word, that may be true. But in the broader sense, which we need in order to fully understand the phenomenon; it is not sufficient to reduce it to mere emotional lability
@@paddydiddles4415 the engine of triggers are emotions. no emotions no triggers. balanced emotions, no triggers
And that’s why we have to be careful about how to apologize to a partner who had been easily triggered. It somehow makes us responsible not just for the thing we may have said or done, but also for their out of proportion response and failure to address the ongoing sensitivity or ownership for their triggers.
And then we are accused of failing to apologize - but they are failing to own their triggers. The two go hand in hand and often the correct path is not one option or the other but a more complex road somewhere inbetween where lies reconciliation.
If you're overreacting to something you're acting like a toddler and should reflect on why you've been triggered so you can grow as a human being and engage civilly with society.
I love your videos, this is a really insightful channel and this was a great video.
I would love you to do something on the loss of the inner child, as I find as adults we are so serious nowadays.
I'd also like something on the pull of nostalgia and wanting to relive our childhood/youth. I don't know if it's unique to a few people but I certainly wish I could leave the adult and just be a kid where I am just free to dream and be imaginative and not have to worry about boundaries or realities.
Keep up the good work👍🏾
Learning to remind myself to breathe helps me a lot
Thank you for this. I didn't get the exam results I wanted a few days ago, but I'm now less worried that my future isn't doomed thanks to this video. Keep up the great work.
*I think we should become aware of our fears and solve it STEP BY STEP*
Winny out... _for now_ 😉
Yes, anxiety triggers are me. Disproportionate responses that aren't in line with the facts. This has kept me from meeting with people and getting more upset than I should have while making no beneficial difference in my course of action. This sucks, but fortunately is not my whole story.
1. We should all watch Alain's wonderful documentary " Seneca on Anger": It is full of wisdom and it is very funny as always. I especially love the scene where Alain accompanies a van driver who gets mad at the traffic every single day. Alain very kindly asks him one very simple question that could indeed solve his problem forever. Don't miss it!
2. That reminds me of the most crazy story of anger I have ever heard- This time the one who offers consolation is not our Alain, but a PARROT!
It is about this man who lives with a parrot. He regularly loses his temper and always talks to himself to calm down.
At some point his parrot learns the phrases too and when he feels that the man is about to flip out the bird on his shoulder says:
"Calm down, calm down, it's not that bad, it 's not that bad"...
This is a real story! Isn't that wonderful ?? To find it, just search for this episode of the RADIOLAB podcast:
" A Flock for two".
I wish I lived with a parrot here, who got his entire emotional education at TSOL! A wise bird who would always ask me the right questions at the right moment...
I have no trouble with anger, but rather with all the melancholy and despair triggers. I would be happy around a parrot who keeps saying things like:
" This too shall pass, this too shall pass"
" Go get some sleep, go get some sleep"
3. One of our most beloved poets in Turkey, Orhan Veli, says that whenever he gets angry, he would say names of flowers, trying to get to 100 names of flowers!
It is a terribly romantic idea, but why not try??
May be I would teach my parrot all those flower names too :- )
4 . I got addicted to an excellent psychology podcast called " Shrink Rap Radio". There you have a 75 year old shrink, who always has another shrink as a guest.
There is an episode called:
"Managing Anger Through Compassion, with Russel Kolts"
You can also visit Russel Kolts's website "Compassionate Mind" and click on " Working with anger".
He says that we are always very kind towards people when they are sad, but we find them appalling when they are angry. What they need the most is compassion though...Because the anger is there, just covering their sadness.
So I guess we could also say that " anger is sadness that doesn't know itself" .
5 . " We don't see the world as it is, we see it as we are". ( Mark Williams )
Our past is a huge part of who we are and unfortunately , as the Irish say:
"The thing about the past is it's not the past".
So we must be always aware of how much of it is still a burden to us, in order to recognise the triggers that are related to it.
6. One more very simple idea that helps is this:
" Do NOT believe everything you think".
thanks for this comment. it's really nice and honestly underrated
This is great, thank you. All the best to you!
@@MichL_71 You are most welcome Michelle! Thank you for your time. I would love to take the opportunity to recommend you the latest podcast I have discovered:" The Happiness Lab."
It is made by the most beloved psychology professor at Yale University, Laurie Santos. After seeing how many of the students were suffering from depression and anxiety, she decided to offer a class called " How to be happy" and it soon became the most visited class at Yale. On her podcasts, she shares all the insights she offers her students on those lectures.
In these days she offers several episodes on how to deal with the issues of the pandemic. It is a very tender, wise and uplifting podcast.
Stay safe! Best wishes and lots of love :- )
@@worldofcyn Hello there! Very sorry for replying one year too late!! But notifications of youtube often don't work, so I just saw your message now, as I came back to this video. I hope you are doing well and you and your family are in good health. Take care! Best wishes!
@@bolivar1789 i'm doing well thanks for asking. no apologies needed
We are all triggered by some things.. I think the differnce is when we start working on them start thinking of “new ways” of doing things. A way to work on this is to learn from others that react differently to the same thing.. maybe they learnt a different way and so could you
The shadows of the past greatly impact the future.
It's okay to think Irrationally. It's a human concept. If you were never Irrational, you aren't human.
Whit that attitude, humanity would crumble.
No. This is literally why humanity is humanity. Emotions, values, beliefs, sentiments, empathy, these are what define our species.
If Rationalism and Empiricism took over completely, we would be left sterile, emotionless, and essentially robotic.
@Aku
None of those are necessarily illogical.
Strictly speaking, many of them are. In Philosophy, thought is easily divided into Empirical, Rational, and Irrational (notice the capital letters).
Empirical thought deals with quantifiable data and hard facts. This form of thought is nonartistic in argument, so we'll ignore this for now.
Rational thought deals with things that can be reasoned with, such as one's values, or duties, which are rooted in logos, one of the three arms of oratory.
Irrational thought is far messier, and from the Aesthetics point of view, more interesting in my opinion. The internal concepts of faith, emotion, and human connection. This is the home of pathos, which is the emotional appeal of an argument, seemingly popular nowadays.
The issues today aren't that one is better than the other, but there must be a balance in Logos and Pathos to establish Ethos, which is the arm of oratory that deals with credibility and merits.
Forgive the long message.
+Aku
in the Real World, Irrationality/Rationality are at opposite ends of the spectrum which come with opposite consequences. as a Rationalist, this doesn't mean that I have become a Robot with no emotions. it just means that I choose to navigate and understand the World using anything that seeks to present the honest, factual, objective Truth as my guide. to try and understand how the World actually works and not how Humans have conceived it to be.
I still deal with sentiments, emotions but I just don't let it lead me to any final decisions, beliefs, behaviors etc. I'm not perfect either but always open to learn and grow which is something that we should never stop pursuing in life. I believe that the more you learn about Everything, the more Rational you can become. but the problem today is that people stop learning outside of their own bubble and become stagnant in this area of Biological growth.
so then the problems only get worse where we have Humans today not only behaving Irrational in their daily personal lives but also in ways that affect the greater Society and World. especially those who are in positions of power, very Scary stuff indeed.👀 so the problem with the World today is not that it's Irrational per se but that it's simply just too Irrational for anything Sane to come out of it in the Future..
I think what I have learned about triggers. We allow to be Triggered. We do it to ourselfs. People and things don't trigger you. You Trigger you.
honestly now it is getting worse. I wake up = I am triggered . I breathe = I am triggered . I get notified to watch this video = I am triggered.
it happens when to much wrong happens to you , some of it you don’t even realize , than you become sensitive
Some of us know too well what it means to have their child-self completely overriding their adult one, leading to all sorts of disproportionate emotional reactions..
Thanks for this video. At over 40, i fear its going to be difficult to overcome this triggers 😢. But I'm willing to do the work. Also learned a lot from the comments section. lots of helpful advice. A big thanks to all.🎉❤
The best way i think I’ve said this in the past to make it clear is “the second we realize that people do what they do bc they hate themselves, is the second we will love ourselves and have compassion for others”. I came to this insight after a very hard 6 months search into psychology, philosophy, physics, religion and myself, combined with the 37 yrs of my life experience
I get upset over everything and that also makes me upset. For example people talking coming into my room and asking me things I usually just run away
This was somewhat helpful, thank you ☺️
250,000 views for this video.
Simply underwatched and under appreciated.
(Personally, I think this video has done an excellent job in summarizing and advising the viewer.)
I honestly think I’m going slightly insane. Haven’t been able to talk to anyone other than my family for the past month and now I’ve gotten super super fidgety and I get super super angry really easily. When I hear any sort of repetitiveness, whether someone is pacing back in forth, someone repeats the same joke, or someone stutters, I just want to punch something. Or when I get stressed I just start bullying myself. I’ve been crying every single day because a few months ago I felt heartbreak for the first time. The worst part is that I can’t talk to anyone about it because I’ve been raised in which crying makes me a crybaby and that speaking about my problems means that I’m whining and they immediately make me stop talking. I don’t know what to do and the stress of trying to get good grades isn’t helpin.
Hey I’m sorry about what your feeling and I understand. for the past couple of years and I get so pissed and angry at small things. Like a weight of stress or anger comes out of no where and there is no way to deal. The best advice is to breathe and write out what your feeling and let yourself feel what’s going on. Even if over something small like a pencil falling, it’s ok to feel and it’s ok to be upset. Your not alone and you’ll be ok.
Ps I also like your thumbnail and TH-cam name “Waterloo”😂
@@theweirdoag2277 Thank you :)
I am going through the same thing.
This was so helpful, compassionate and intelligent. Thank you.
I hate the way that people use "Trigger" now. It pisses me off. I have actual mental illnesses and actually get triggered. When I'm triggered I can react violently towards someone/something that triggered me or I shut down and have horrible panic and anxiety attacks. Saying someone is triggered when they aren't triggered and they are just being babies who want their own way is so annoying. I had a horrible experience where I was actually triggered and I started sobbing. My boyfriend said "are you triggered" and I thought he was making fun of me when he wasn't because of how the word has been twisted and destroyed by people pinning it to SJWs and crap. They aren't triggered 9/10 times.
so the way people treat the word trigger triggers you lol
Def's triggered.
@@ThePowerpointMaster You literally just proved my point. I'm not triggered. I'm pointing out how stupid you all are.
@@ThePowerpointMaster you don't know the actual meaning of triggered. You're ignorant and you are boasting your ignorance with pride. You look like a fool.
+Kimmy Paige don't drag me into this nonsense madness all I'm doing is leaving my memey joke on serious comments just for fun I don't really understand this ''triggered'' thing maybe its because im 14 and not even in my early 20s
Disproportionate response is both a consequence of and seemingly necessary trait to social visibility. We ignore each other in casual conversation, under represent our pain and struggle to keep social interaction "comfortable" for others, then wonder why when our pain and struggle become overwhelming we react way over the top. When your society blows you off for your calm request for help you're left with no choice but to go ballistic or fade into non-existence.
I also find that growing older seems to have a lot to do with conquering fears and anxieties, particularly once you've learned how to face them down. You fight battles, you survive personal disasters, and you eventually discover that it wasn't that difficult to do, after all. I found that even my dreams had been influenced. Whenever I had one of those classic anxiety dreams (such as finding myself about to take a final exam for a course I had forgotten to attend, for example,) I would find some sort of solution during the course of the dream itself (realizing that I had been reading everything I could find all my life and could probably bs my way through any test by now).
Got a really bad sunburn earlier this year for the first time in my life. Ever since then, the mention of the word “sunburn” or “uv damage” or “skin cancer” has caused me extreme anxiety, I beat myself up, “why did I lie out in the sun for so long? You’ll get melanoma for sure!”.
Humans are simply just Irrational
Yet they are making better decisions though.
Irrational isn't bad in principle. It's a fact of humanity. Rational thought is grounded in logic and empiricism. Irrational thought is that but grounded in faith, emotion, and sentiments. I fail to see why one is better or worse than the other.
speak for yourself lol
@@LemSportsinterviews if you tell yourself you aren't Irrational, either you're a liar, or a robot.
Humans are a horrible species. Primitive, even.
There are people who have been trained to believe everything they think. They have no impulse control and zero emotional maturity. They are subject to their own twin demons of self-loathing and narcissism. I personally credit two generations who have been farmed out to daycare situations where "early child development" was the rule of the day instead of parental love and common sense. (And this is from an EARLY CHILD DEV MAJOR)
I always thought as a child that when adults were in constant stress or had an overreaction it was completely valid and meant that they had a lot of experience/passion or something hence it couldn't possibly hinder their productivity or growth. Actually, I even thought it was a vital sign of productivity and growth. Funny how I don't believe in that or peacefully cultivating happiness nowadays at 17. whata dirtbag lmao
Too many people believe stress is a good thing because it means they work hard and are passionate about their job, while stress really means they are not in control of what they are doing.
If they had control, they wouldn't have stress.
I remember my manager calling me in his office and complaining how everyone else was always running around stressed except me-note how he actually thought being stressful was a good thing.
So i calmly said: "Thanks for the compliment."
He gave me this confused look and asked what i meant, so i explained to him that stressful people don't have control, and that i must have been better at my job for always keeping a calm composure."
He looked at me like i was crazy.
Your collection of videos have doing me much greater good than therapy. thanks
I look forward to a productive comments section
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If people were more kind and considerate, I wouldn't be so triggered. Bullies ruin people.
What matters most I find is the ability to find beauty and serenity in the outside world, through, and despite the inner anger, panic, or anixety. Although perhaps disproportionately rooted in childhood it's all part of the adventure of life; being alive and learning to cope with it, is better than being not alive at all.
Ive been working relentlessly on retraining myself to not be triggered so easily for the sake of my relationship with my man. Watching this video helped me realize the reason i get so triggered when he doesnt have time for me is cuz I was often the "forgotten ghost child" growing up.
A few days ago I reacted horribly to a situation. I was in a meeting with my family and a few other people... i felt like my questions were not answered thoroughly so I got upset and said if im not heard I will leave the meeting.... everyone was shocked..... then their shock got to me.... then there was a silence... they were waiting for me to be heard .... that made me think that whatever i say wont justify my reaction and I lost my breath and just froze, i could not get a reasonable word outta my mouth..... then my brother broke the awkward silence and said he got emotional and carried on with conversation.
I did not like how I reacted and how I was speechless.... normally i am well spoken but something triggered that weird reaction.... I think it has to do with my family.
and then your family clapped at how woke you are
if people weren't answering your questions, it means they were either out of place or plain boring, drama queen.
@@kozlorog What if OP have a mental illness or something? What if they experienced a traumatic event or something? Hm? You don't know shit about this so bugger off.
Props for the courage to be vulnerable in a TH-cam comment section.
Albania Kosovo How frustrating :/ How much heads up do you have before your family calls a meeting like that? It might be a good idea to go to the next one with a notebook, with written bulletpoints of questions/concerns, and leave space to write the responses under each one. That way, you have a physical reminder of what you want to say/ask and you'll have a record of the responses. That also could be helpful later, if someone tries to say, "I didn't say that." You have a record of it.
I'm not good at speaking when all the attention is on me, either. Especially in a controversial or confrontational setting. But we all have just as much of a right to have our points heard as anyone else does.
If you have a little advance notice, rehearse what you want to say and how you want to say it. (You can even write that down to practice it. I don't know that I'd read it aloud word for word to them, unless you think that'd help.) When you've got someone in your family who'll disrespect you for showing emotion, practice (even silently, behind a locked door) until you can say in it the mirror and watch yourself keep your emotion out of it. (Not easy, I know.) Present it like you're an attorney, this is the situation, and these are the facts. Envision the potentially upsetting things that could be said, and practice how you'd react to them.
Or appeal to their emotions, without getting "emotional" -- "When this does or doesn't happen, it makes me feel like this..." Ask them to put themselves in your shoes. Sometimes, people don't even realize they're not being empathetic. That goes both ways, too. Before you walk into one of those situations, try to envision where your other family members are coming from, and maybe why they might feel the way they do, too.
This is why meditation is so important: it teaches us to be present in the moment and to not buy in to our triggered responses.
I totally agree. Meditation is the key to disolving these triggers, otherwise one keeps going around in circles.
how do the videos i need pop up on my recommended at the EXACT moment i need them
Good one! Thankfully after dealing with many "triggers" in the past, I've gotten rid of most of them! I don't watch the talking head news networks anymore, I just read about the news from as reliable sources as I can find, I left FB which has become a mostly toxic political forum and I never give public speeches, never have and never will says this HSP, creative empathetic, introverted, professional artist/composer! "know thyself', ancient wisdom, rule of thumb~ Thanks for sharing~
Alpha guys in the comment section: this video isn't made for liberals or sjw's specifically. It's meant for everybody, because every human is prone to be triggered. Liberals, conservatives, men, women, millenials and senile people alike.
WuWei1967 this! Oh god thank you
Did the video's creator tell you that or are you speaking on his behalf because you're a narcissist?
'Alpha guys' 😂😂😂
@@EsotericOccultist I figured I needed to tell this because some people don't seem to understand thr point this video is trying to bring across. How does that make me a narcissist?
Let's be honest. it's mostly liberals and SJW's.
Always love and appreciate your videos! Such great starters for my groups at the facility I work for. Thank you 🙏🏽
It's glaring fact that there are many "parts" of us and not a unitary self. We might forget, but on many occasions we deal with things differently as though on the basis of different personal principles (sometimes we are mature, other times we use an empathetic side of us, on social media we have a different persona etc..) However, to mitigate the easiness with which we get triggered by doubting our impulses isn't that helpful a strategy to me. :(... Sometimes the situations are too triggering that I get overwhelmed... So, I'm wondering, couldn't we, perhaps, get further reading/insightful education about the nature of this personality's multiplicity? I think if the individual fosters a deeper and more intelligent understanding that you are not "one" person, then all the shame and guilt resting on the shoulders of the thinker will appear "impersonal" and not really yours, since if you are indeed many parts, the guilt cannot sensibly be attached to you at the moment, for it's another part of you, and thereby you will look at that part from an impersonal vantage point. It could make the management of emotions and feelings quite efficient. What do you think? Anyone?
You may try focusing/mindfulness. It's a first step to know what actually is in your mind, you start to get to know you with a physical approach. No one can teach you how to get to know you, it's like self-made-path. Every person is a universe, and we are in a multiverse.
Yup! This is the basis of Internal Family Systems therapy 😀
Integrating the contradicting aspects of the self is an interesting video topic.
I think looking at it impersonally alleviates guilt but it also relinquishes responsibility.
People might act in contradictory ways but we each hold a hierarchy of values.
A big part of knowing oneself and also reducing shame inducing behavior is to figure out, ahead of time, which values we prioritise highly, then using that info to guide our behavior and decisions.
That way we act more in line with who we want to be and it's more cohesive.
I guess if the sides are too separate, there's almost a form of amnesia, and that's why it's necessary to really pre-think and consolidate a stable base from which to act.
Auramyna I don't think that what I offered automatically relinquishes responsibility. If you are a moral person who understands his social role and the consequences of his actions on his well-being and the well-being of others, you will act responsibly even if you are not made ashamed easily by your actions...
@@rayepenber6446 I thought a bit more and what you said fits with having self-compassion. I was looking at it as externalising the responsibility, but it's actually assigning it to the correct place eg. the immature part or the impulsive part etc. rather than our entire being, and that allows us to be compassionate towards that aspect of ourselves.
I am triggered so easily bc I'm so sick of dealing with the same shit every day. It's ridiculous how I explain things and somebody doesn't get it and then asks the same thing over and over and I explain until I'm sick of it, so I start giving the silent treatment. Stupid thing is most people realize they're being given the silent treatment, and stop talking, but this somebody doesn't realize it and keeps asking the same questions. It makes me so pissed that if I spend time generating an answer or I ignore them completely the result is the same. And the person I'm talking to is not even mentally disabled! I'm so sick of never being understood and being berated for being inpatient when I have been nothing but patient till the point I cannot be patient anymore. It aggravates me to no end knowing that no matter how patient I'll be, the same questions will always be asked, and no matter if I explain it perfectly every damn time, the same questions will be asked again. It's so hard living with a normal person and never feeling any understanding. If this somebody was disabled and verbally unabusive I could tolerate repeating myself but this somebody IS NOT. And this somebody is verbally abusive when I don't reply. Why should I bother replying when my answer will either be laughed at, or not understood? It's always do things this somebody's way, or I'm being disagreeable. Yes, I'm so triggered now every time this somebody does anything because this person literally says the same couple of things every day for the last 10 years and I can't deal with it anymore. How can a NORMAL human being say the same things for years. I never hear this person offering compassion, it's always getting me to do something, and always the same few things, and this person never understands it when I can't do it the moment they ask me to, no matter how I explain why I can't.
I totally ranted here. Sometimes I feel like my youth is being robbed away physically and mentally. Every day I get triggered so many times. I'm already suffering from hair loss and am trying to meditate and live healthy but I can't leave and get away from this person. Soon I will be bald and I'm still so young, and I'll be ugly and old, and half driven mad inside.
And I know when I go outside everyday I will be judged for how I appear and act, and I will never be able to get anyone to understand the issues I go through, the very same issues that make my appearance so poor
When this person does of old age I will be physically past my prime, and even though I should be at my prime.
I just can't understand how a normal person can just ignore what u say or never understand. Those are signs of a mental disability, but this person isn't. Just right now this person told me that if I need to use the bathroom I should use it now, because later this person will be using it for a long time, and I said I don't need to use it, and this person said go now or else, and I said its fine I won't have to use the bathroom and this person said I will have to use the bathroom for a very long time and I said again just go ahead and use the bathroom and this person said when I'm in the bathroom you won't be able to use the bathroom and I didn't reply because I already said I won't be using it and nicely said go ahead and was patient, and this person said are you listening to me do you understand? Gosh the last 5 minutes spent on an aggravating repetitive convo could have been a simple "do u need the bathroom?" "No I don't, go ahead." BUT IT WASNT. What's the point of this needless stress?
I'm just ranting and I know this won't be read, but it feels good to get everything out to the universe because it's better than speaking to a brick walled human. I can imagine understanding and compassion from the universe, but when I'm speaking to this person it doesn't feel like I'm speaking to a human being. It's ridiculous that even speaking to no one, an imaginary someone, makes me feel more human connection than speaking to a human
It is amazing how this life and universe work. The video is basically giving us attributes of subconscious mind. One might wonders why do we need subconscious mind? The answer basically becomes that if we don’t have subconscious mind, then we have to learn, for instance, how to use stairs everyday we wake up in the morning 😂
Im pausing 24 seconds into the video to say tht i dont think us not reacting w/ out context or triggers make us less sane. The fact tht we can even be triggered is an evolutionary tool of self defense for us to not keep being harmed by something over and over again.
Yep.
I tried to calm down myself all the time, but as i watch like a psychopath, i just wanted the world to burn. Just like my favorite villain from the movie
I get triggered by everything around me that move....and thats ruin everything
Is it a good idea to equate "triggers" -- vocabulary most commonly used in the psychological realm solely within the context of PTSD and CPTSD -- with more mundane (but still therapeutically important) sets of reactions based in the past? Getting angry at an email isn't the same as the intense re-experiencing, dissociation, fury, and numbness that trauma triggers can bring to people diagnosed with PTSD. I wonder if there is some other vocabulary we could use to talk about the (still valid) reactions that get brought up based on unpleasant experiences in our past, but that don't arrive on a mental nor physical level to traumatic triggering.
Quite helpful reflection on extenuating circumstances & our reactions. Thank you.
Omg he's the voice of headspace
I’m saving this to send to some co- workers later who have “issues”
instead of embracing adulthood, new generations are instead learning to wrongfully survive as children disguised of adults. The more complex and elaborate the disguise, the more entitled they feel.
the media and entertainment in general, tell us how to view each demographic of person, they gives us buzz words/trigger words, ideas and how to view things, a false reality of fear and illusions, trauma based control, programming the masses as to control them.
I get triggered by trigger warnings.
People getting triggered by trigger warnings is actually my trigger :D
@@lieberte well people who got triggered by seeing a person got triggered by looking at someone who got triggered by a triggered warning actually triggers me.
+Oliver Eales r/wooosh
Oliver Eales woooooosssshhhh
Dead asf
"only as much as the circumstances before actually us dictated" - Reaction to anything other than physical sensation is necessarily built on prior experience. Circumstances don't "dictate" anything.
And anger /outrage is often due to the social approval it gets (see the comments about trigger warnings here - craving the approval of those in agreement) or that someone has learnt it get's them their way.
Lol..the one thumbs down got triggered..
P36 Hawk it’s okay to disagree.
These video resonate viscerally, to the point where I am ambivalent to watch.
Perhaps it's the narrators voice. Either way. Good show
The comment section is gonna misinterpret this to 'sjws', 'liberals', 'jews', etc, etc
Thank you, this is super helpful. I've been enduring triggers my whole life, trying to figure out what triggers me, why, and what I can do to mitigate negative reactions I might have. I still get caught up in them, and still don't fully understand them, but I'm trying and I'm glad I came across this video to get a few more clues.
I disagree with the first two sentences of this video, if it's implying that out outer circumstances must dictate our inner feelings. People are more capable of self-control. It takes maturity.
Feelings are instinctive. It's the thoughts and behavior that come from it that we can control.
And vice versa, we can also influence our feelings by using thoughts and behaviour but that's more applicable before or after the instinctive reaction.
this is how am its scary how spot on it was
5:08 when you let out a nasty. silent fart
My past is full of peace and reminiscence of good old days
1. Hard times create Strong men
2. Strong me create Good times
3. Good times create Weak men
4. Weak men create Hard times
We are currently in between 3 and 4
Thank You.
Triggered specifically references things that cause flares of mental illness like fireworks to veterans with PTSD. I wish people didn't use it like it simply means "upset". It makes it so people can't use it for the real reason. This whole video isn't even about what being triggered actually means. Disappointing.
And why can we not learn in our school systems ? That it could help the students ? To help all of us at an earlier age.
For me, I prefer to be alone and lock inside my bedroom so that I won’t get triggered to anybody and say hurtful things. When I get irritated and angry, I go to my room until I cooled down.
God my elder cousin is like this... she keeps grudges tight and gets triggered and speaks very rude.. most of the times I dont even know why she is so mean when its just a normal chatty conversation 🤷🏻♀️
Triggered by reading comments on TH-cam.
Spot on. Thankyou. Alain b. Got such kind voice.
Most people are psychotic these days. Just under a calm surface lays a complete nutter!
And to you who keeps saying "You have anger management issues, chill out and get some help." My response is " You need to learn how to diffuse an angry person." If my anger bothers you and you want the easy way out, then get lost
Childhood trauma. There are pictures of brains on the internet for those interested.
there are pictures of everything on the internet you are reminding me of that one video on a gore website of a guy getting his head cut off ewww!
Wow, thanks for this nice presentation. Can you please also make a video on the stupidity of job interviews nowadays, for example, several times they have asked me how do you deal with stress, and I want to point out that we humans are troubled creatures and most of us including me are not completely sane! I know this can not be an excuse to perform badly at work and one might argue accordingly: there is no need to bring this issue up in the first place while at the interview. However, I still cannot see the point of asking this question by the recruiter if they expect to hear a lie. In general, I found it absurd to attend a meeting that people expect me to lie.