My mother has done them all and continues and even does it with my kids. Don’t ever be afraid to go no contact with a Narcissistic parent. Their slander and gossip, can destroy your marriage, your children and your livelihood. Thank you for using your voice to free souls. This information is so valuable for healing the inner child and not ending up in a loop of Narcissistic relationships
@Pixie_damsel and TheloveAlchemist I can 100% relate to you. I experienced very similar and even worse experience. I kept my child away from her. Going "no contact" was the only option for me to keep my sanity. She destroyed both my brothers' lives, very talented ones. But sadly they don't realize that as they are her enablers. I learned to keep next generation kids away from her so she cannot damage them. She is trying to stalk me in many ways, but that is not helping her get to me 😃I am bullet proof now. Thanks to God🤲🏼😂🤣 Wishing you all the very best to become the strongest version of you. This is the way to go as they cannot stand confident strong willed people.
@Pixie_damsel she sounds so much like my so called mother, she also discarded her own mother. Keep your son away from her, as you probably already are. My father finally got to be free by dying. I cant prove it but think she may have slept with my ex husband, and i think she would try to sleep with my boyfriends when i was younger. I will only be free when she dies.
Yes this is my parents for sure.i have gone no contact with my father and I only talk to my mother on the phone and I dread these because she always has something underhanded to say I would prefer not to speak to her but I see it is her on my phone and feel like I have to speak to her the last time she rang she said I was very bitter because I was slagging off my father who I think she is still in love with her husband number 3is so much like him it's un real she once said that husband 2was just a marriage of convenience.whicho thought was horrendous I also watched her treatment of him until she kicked the poor fella out and then divorced him he wasn't such a bad fella.she blanked him like she did too me IAM frightened that I can be like her.if we have a row I will not back down and after she writes me a shitty letter trying to make me feel guilty.i hope IAM not a narcissist but I can be very cold for protection.so maybe I am you learn from your parents.but I am am not like them in so many ways I rebelled by leaving home at 15 and I have had a chaotic life so does that make me a narcissist.
@@ashbyanil2195 it wasn’t easy. I wanted to have a loving relationship with her. This is the second time I’ve gone no contact with the devil. The first time was for 8 years. I let her back in, thinking that she had evolved as a human being. No, she only became better at being evil. I went no contact this time after I learned that she had been waging a smear campaign against me after I went no contact the first time. It’s been two years since I’ve had any contact with her or my brother, the golden child who participated in the smear campaign. I feel sad that these people are family.
Sorry To hear well both mine has been narcs my whole life they think they deserve medals for doing basics or that they super special for doing these kinds of Thighs
Yep. Like I said, this needs to be taught in a sermon or lesson. I had wondered why people were asking me random questions, kicking me out of places, and then my mom was freaking out on me, when I was trying to get a new job because I had become a pariah in my town. This video is making it all click. It wasn’t until today, that I had realized that had gone through all this. Someone need to be explaining this to people. Like there needs to be sermons on this.
@@stephanieg3554hey you don't clap for short bus riders . They might know a skill or trade but that's just to make money the fact they can't have real relationships isn't a good look good job but no cigar.
As an only child my narcissistic mother has hurt me more than anyone in my life. To the outside world she presents herself as if shes perfect but when nobody's around she tears me down and makes me feel worthless. Who does that to their child??? She has no feelings ,no empathy, no sympathy, no emotions. I had to cut ties with her. I cant do toxic ☠️. Nobody should be made to feel like they are worthless. No matter how old you are.
Me too, I am the only child, but hey for covert narcissist it doesn’t matter. I don’t think the person “mother “ exist, it’s demons controlling their soul. Otherwise how can a mother do this to her only child? It’s beyond imagination. It’s not human experience. Last year Mother’s Day I arranged a lunch for us just to appreciate her despite her abuse but she canceled the appointment last minute saying she is busy at work. It’s been almost two years I haven’t seen her, she just like to call every 6 months just to see how I am doing. When I want to meet her she makes her self unavailable or I have to beg her. Anyway I talk to her here and there, just to do my duty. I am child of light.
@@wedibarkatesseney7230I'm also the single Girl Child of my narcissistic mom... My god she tries to isolate me.... Now she's trying to ruin my relationship with my partner.... My dad doesn't have his opinion or stand against anything he just agrees to whatever my mom tells... To put the cherry on top... I'm living in the same house can't really avoid them .. They don't want me to become independent they slanders my self esteem confidence by tell me that I'll do nothing in life.. I'm wasting my dad's money on my worthless education... She hates me literally.
Its the same wd me...jz pain and so much more pain...she keeps hurting me ..her words feel like daggers..and now when since last 7 years I stopped most contact wd her ...and don't feel like talking wd her..she feels bad...but establishing any sort of contact wd her jz kills me...she keeps hurting..her words are like poison or acid..she is an expert in twisting my words and tries her best to make evryone else a villain..but slowly slowly her shit show is being recognised and all our relatives are hating her..her own brother has stopped talking to her since last 14 years years
So true. They will also bash your partner but the moment they realize you won’t “choose” them over your partner then they start bashing you and will suddenly feign concern over your partner having to “deal with somebody like you!” It’s insanity.
Yeah. Except I don’t remember my mom bashing my husband at least not to his face. They got along so well that this thanksgiving, I had my husband drive my mom two states over to visit family, while I drove a separate car, because my mom doesn’t drive, and I could no longer deal with her. My husband hasn’t spoken with her since the trip though so idk if something happened. 🤷♀️ Anyway, it made it easier for me to cut her off after that, so I’m glad.
@@annaburns2865narcissist can't say it to you're face they don't make any sense like imagine being a psychopath you're brain is so scattered that having conversations are impossible that's why they stonewall people because they know you are smarter than they are and could never win an argument against a empathetic person. See having empathy is not only emotional intelligence it's real intelligence empath wins Everytime against narcissist because our brains work enough to word things right and pierce their soul. Ever heard a narc bash somebody it won't make any sense lol so they bash behind closed doors and only if they can wedge in-between you're relationships if you're relationships is very transparent narcs can do nothing.
This happened to my neice,with my sister it was a mess, my sister wanted her daughter for herself,,sad I was stuck in the middle, then lost my neice and her children in the process, my neice lost relationship with her brother.over something that was never his moms business, I was never my sisters flying monkey..my daughters lost relationship with their 1st cousin my neice,and their 2 second cousins .her children..
@annaburns2865 she probably dogged you out to your husband,,I would not have taken a chance with my husband and narcissists mom,in the same car.,wonder if she tried to come unto him,,?narc moms are capable of that..jealous of their daughters happiness .
I am strong!! Which is why I no longer fear my narcissistic mother, her tactics or her actions. Turning family members against me was one of the hardest feelings I've had to deal with but in the end as long as I'm breathing I can't be broken!! I am proud of who I am & accept me (and all my faults) for who I am...sensitive, emotional, and caring. These aren't weakness, these are strengths!!!
Amazing to hear. I'm glad to hear you've found a way through this. It's an awful feeling. My partners mother has turned everyone against us aswell, but it really says a lot about them as nobody has ever reached out and have simply believed her!
@@Jamie_A1They do such a good job of it, that nobody will ever ask for your side of the story, for your truth. Indeed, it shows those believers up as simple people that are shallow & probably just as low-down dirty players as the one who started the smear campaign. We are infinitely better off without them.
@@The_Dogman_ yup, it totally sucks. Alarming how well their desperate smear campaign works & how much you lose as a result. Don't worry, they may not pay in this life, but I believe that they certainly will in the next. Keep the Faith, dude. One:LOVE.
Spot on! It is mind bending to realise that the people who are closest to you are really your biggest enemies and they operate from the stand point of malicious evil. Thank you
All of the above. Maybe even in that order on repeat! Its amazing after they smear your name and try or successfully ruin your relationships with other people, they still want YOU to feel bad for THEM.
lol. i don't even bother trying to make anyone understand anymore. if they have a current relationship with the narcissist: our relationship will be casual or will fade.
So smart and true! I introduced my narc brother to all my “old friends” now I don’t even want to be around them because of how my brother has treated me
Number 1 was my mother’s weapon of choice. Me being a people pleaser, she knew that the thought of having people speak badly of me would destroy me. She held her control over me until my late 30’s when I worked hard on not caring what other people think. After that, she quickly moved to #2 and #3. I’m so glad to be out of it all, my life has been nothing but peace since I cut ties.
My word!. My mother did all three to me! Im currently in a year or two of no contact! And not giving out my address to anyone not even her relatives.. i achieved a good amount of peace like i had never before
True. Mine even deserves an Oscar or Emmy. She does it so well, I’m surprised Hollywood hasn’t contacted her. 45 years of this and it’s making anxious all the time . I need help
My mom tried to pretend she had breast cancer to get me to quit college. I’ve caught her in so many lies and all her bs abuse will never bring me down. She is not in my life and it’s how my life has been. Great without abusers.
Same @emacarvalho7889. 42 years of it here. Did EXACTLY word for word what this video described. It was like he made this just for me. Lol. Just know you’re not alone and IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT! Went from a six figure salary, wife, 2 kids, lots of friends and family to fully disabled and fighting the past 2 years for joint custody (which I finally won) and not a friend or family member 1 that will speak to me from my mother’s or ex wife’s family. They had been planning this for years unbeknownst to me. When I lost my physical health due to cancer, they unleashed their premeditated attack and basically destroyed my reputation with lies. I live in a small town so it doesn’t take much. I spiraled into the pits of rock bottom and am still slowly trying to climb out. I’ve made a couple new friends that are AMAZING people and they, too, are “black sheep” in this community. My friendships with them have been more satisfying and rewarding in just a short time than the ones that stuck around only while it was beneficial to them. One thing that really helped was I started trying to think of what my own children would have to do that is bad enough for me to treat them the way my mother treated me. The answer is there is nothing they could do. If they ran off and lived a life full of sin, you better believe when that phone rings, Daddy is picking it up and will jump in the truck and run help them NO MATTER WHAT. That made me realize my mother is extremely dangerous and must be miserable in her own life. Keep the chin up and know that you can break the cycle with your own kids! I have been parenting my girls with love, conversation, trust, teamwork, and talking to them like human beings. I don’t yell at them and I don’t spank them. I don’t want them associating a man’s love with physical or verbal abuse. My ex is the opposite. I have had this guilt in my gut since the divorce as I have been worried I wasn’t being hard enough on them and feared it would cause problems in the future. Nope. Exact opposite. I even found out they have been telling their friends and friends’ parents how amazing their daddy is and how much he loves them (that’s me!!). They also mention how miserable they are when they have to stay with their mom. When I had 2 mothers pull me aside (different times different places) and shared that with me, it gave me SO MUCH STRENGTH! I hope this little snippet of my story gives you strength. Reach out anytime.
my father is a Master Class Covert Narcissist, ive never know these things until JESUS has revealed it for me now in my adult years, even when you confront them in what they did wrong, they gaslight and refuse any wrong doing, and you feel confuse and feel bad to confront them, its your parent but people like this destroys your life, and they look innocent to the publick , and every think they are so good person and you look like the bad and crazy one, thank you for helping people in this terrible emotional abuse
I told them it’s not even their inheritance to give it’s grandma and grandpas lol! That got them shaking in their boots! I told them I straight up don’t care! Because it’s going to cost more money in therapy to fix the damage from being around you waiting for inheritance
@@vlogcity1111 Bravo 👏!! LoL 😂 I said something similar to my mother and the look of defeat and confusion on her face was priceless! Once she composed herself she couldn't contain the anger. After that she ghosted me... nothing left to control me with so I am a bad source of supply
exactly! I am middle aged and he still says I don't listen. LOL. Listen to what? Shouldn't have bullied me my whole life then maybe I would have listened. IDGAF anymore.
My mother did this to me and now everyone in the family, even my relatives, not to left out every soul I knew hates me for no reason. Now I'm all alone
Late mother was one and did exactly that. She passed in '07 and I was NOT sad in fact felt grateful and yes I know how that sounds like but it's the truth. These humans latch on like a leech never letting go for malicious purposes only
I moved out at 15... and she actually just abandoned me (thank goodness) and she focused 100% on my brother, who was her favorite. Was like i didn't exist (WIN🎉) but what she did to my brother was criminal, if there is a hell, shes front and center! She fked up his head so bad, it ended up killing him!
I am going through this right now it feels like a movie to discover that my own mother has been sabotaging so many things in my life. And only now I can see the real intentions😢 it’s so unreal
Yes. 100% all 3 are what my mum does. She’s 85, I’m 55 and the level of rage she threw when I began putting boundaries in and saying no. And then she’d bad mouth my wife and blame her for why I was not speaking to her. And then the pity party was lots of tears and calling my brother to ask why I am treating her so badly. He’d get the tears, I’d get the rage and bully.
Wow . My mom 85. I am 60 . No contact . She wrote me a letter 5 years ago including 15 years of all the things I had failed to do to please her . No letter to my brother and sister . 💔 now k ow she is a complete narc Covert Has been all my life . Has smeared my name . Great actress. Her and my sister talking about me . All of these 3 above. Gone no contact.
You just described both my parents’ behavior. We were subjected to full-spectrum abuse and cruelty. They made sure they checked all the boxes with me - physical, verbal, emotional, and sexual abuse. They broke all of us. Then, they divorced, remarried, and played their tiny little King Lear violins. As our adult lives were plagued with substance abuse, aka, self-medication, sexual and relationship disasters, and intense emotional pain, they became martyrs. They didn’t raise us that way, they would say, but that’s exactly how they raised us. They raised us to all wish we’d never been born. Yet she and my father were good people, and martyrs to their immoral, ungrateful children. Everyone believed that. It was a long saga of cruelty and rejection, and it took a terrible toll on us.
Omg 😱 you just described my situation! WOW I’m not alone! My parents decided to get back together after being divorced 10 years. My brother so messed up from them he moved away and bought land but he has a drinking problem. My mother sat down beaming with happiness to tell me they are back together. AFTER ALL THE CRAP THEY DID TO US?! I asked her to leave and I’ll call when I’m ready to talk. NEVER AGAIN! The last month she’s been getting off the phone with me fast, quiet during the conversation, and claim she’s not getting my text messages. Dirty sneaky evil mother! I’ve been helping her financially, emotionally, and physically. All of a sudden she don’t need me anymore. My dumb behind didn’t see this coming AT ALL. I guess because my washer, dryer, and water heater went out I couldn’t help her fast enough so she went back to the person she knows has money. I’m done with them before i mentally loose it !
@@kimpossible3914 Back in the 50s, they had to get married to have sex. This was before the pill, and a lot of people just got married because they were horny. It was not a good reason to get married.
@@tamarar.4642 I’m sorry you’re going through this! My mother actually did something very similar to my brother. She used equity on her house, which was due to my brother’s work on it, to get the evil little man she married out of bankruptcy. He’d been parentified, in that she depended on him and his work. It was so sad and infuriating. Step people are always a mixed bag, and ours were like the Beverly Hillbillies, but evil. On both sides.
Sadly every single one of these things. It shook me up right now, I'm sobbing. Since I've moved out, this has been going on. When I lived there, you can imagine how it was. There was corporal punishment for things that were not even close to "being a bad kid" or even my fault in general. And she wanted me to have straight As, nothing else or else there were punishments. Also, no matter where I went, always controlled by her. Manipulation, gaslighting and most hurtful guilt tripped every single day. I am a VERY thankful person in general and I tried to show her every day but it wasn't enough... Thank you so much for for channel. Thank you so, so much! Now I have to think very hard to make a decision what to do next. No contact is no option for me, my respect and gratitude is too big to go no contact, despite all the things she put me through.
❤ much respect to you! I’m in my 50’s and I’m just realizing who my mom is. Everything this man said is soooo true! If you don’t consider yourself first you will be delayed in life. Narcissist hold you back from being you! Thank GOD FOR HIS CHANNEL
❤ much respect to you! I’m in my 50’s and I’m just realizing who my mom is. Everything this man said is soooo true! If you don’t consider yourself first you will be delayed in life. Narcissist hold you back from being you! Thank GOD FOR HIS CHANNEL
@@daugustushenry7718 Thank you SO MUCH for your reply!! You are wonderful and I am absolutely sure that you are going your own path, no matter what! Strong and independent - most importantly being healthy and happy! That's what I wish you, from the deepest bottom of my heart!!! Much love from the Croatian girl in Germany 🤗♥️
@@Chy-vs7en oh my God, I am beyond thankful for your comment! You are such a sweet soul, asking if I'm okay! And yes, I am not worse than before, meaning, I am still working on my skills to be able to cope and deal with it. Thank God! You have no idea how much I appreciate you!! Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart!!!!! People like you are what keeps me going Because I LOVE LOVE LOVE people in general! Again, I really hope you can see how thankful I am! Your loved ones are blessed with being a part of your life! You are a blessing and I wish you and your loved ones a happy, wonderful, healthy, and safe new year full of joy and peace!! From the bottom of my heart - from the Croatian girl in Germany 🤗
Not only have I had to be the adult to my father my whole life but he asked me to move into my home, with my husband and children “just for 6months until I can get on my feet and find a place.” His words of course. That was 14 years ago you guys!!!! 14 years! It’s been brutal everyday. I finally am moving him into an assisted living home and you have nooo idea how badly he’s treating me over it. Even though I’ve allowed him in for this long. I’ve basically been his care giver for this many years! I’m finally taking my life back and I can’t wait!!!!! The punishment he’s giving me is unmatched. He’s treating me like a stranger, worse then a stranger. Silent treatment. I would hope he changes once there (it’s nice) but I’ve seen how he’s cut off his extended family so I’m expecting the same. I choose. Me! I choose my life my family now. It’s been far too long 😭 sending my love to anyone that’s had to deal with this. I feel like I’ve been in prison in my own home. Freedom!!!!! 🎉
Glad your finally doing it. My mom whom I never let in my house except for the occasional 'i'm sick, please lemme stay with you' tantrums still keeps trying everything in her power to destroy my peace!
Yes I was kicked out when sick and I only came back for a few months and they were so worried they have too after they abused me daily asked me to leave and later told ppl all kinds of things. I was isolated for 5 years lost friends relatives family friends. Only a few close ppl who really knew me. They act like so called impt ppl so they went all out on the smear campaign saying I’m crazy disrespectful and what not when I was actually victim and sickly to boot. These ppl are evil
I'm so sorry. You deserve to have good caring people in ur life. It's truly insanity. Un c unconscionable behavior. There is absolutely no excuse. It's inhumane. Wishing love & light surrounds you.!
Yep. 100% true. Exactly what my mother has done & continues to do to me. I am so damaged because of my own mother's cruel, narcissistic abuse. It's pure evil a mother would abuse her own child... Thank you so very much Danish for your wonderful videos. It makes such a difference when a professional has experienced narcissistic abuse. Some of the professionals I've seen did not believe me when I told them about my mother's abuse. It's so destructive...
My parents have done all three. Extremely abusive childhood. Went no contact a few years ago. They send private investigators or show up at my door. I refuse to communicate. I am married and living my best life.
Spot on. Manipulation is there Forte. Remember, never react. INDIFFERENCE They can not deal with not getting a reaction. They will continue on a rampage, desperate to make u react. It is most rewarding when you actually take your power back. YOU DESERVE IT!
All of them, at least two or threes times. My mother is evil. I paid her to babysit and she took my place as a mother. When my kids got older, she brainwashed them into thinking I was a bad parent. Told everyone she was raising her grandkids like I wasn't even there.
@@vlogcity1111 maybe I said it wrong. She didn't raise my kids. She babysat for me when I worked. I only left them for work. She went around our community telling everyone she was raising them. Lies.
@@deana8202 yea that’s not fair! If your kids spent that much time with your mom growing up of course their going to be attached to her. But for her to lie to them and her friend she sounds like my aunt. Told me that she raised me more than my mom which is complete bullsht
@@deana8202 your kids would have been better off with an actual babysitter. Don't ever trust a Narc. They may look like a mother but inside their heart their insecure and jealous.
Thanks for sharing. It helps me. My mother in law was narcissistic, and she did this with her son's dog. Overtook care of the dog and then claimed the dog as her own, locked the dog inside the bedroom with her at night, then denigrates her son when he takes the dog to the beach, because of course hes not capable of looking after the dog like she can, and shes just making sure nothing happens to "her" dog, when it was her son's dog! Its unbelievable! Then of course she did the same thing to her son, and took her son away from our relationship. So now he doesnt have his dog, or his partner! They are sad and f**ked up! What and who will be next?
All of these happened to me, including threatening to report me to my state counselor licensing board for "not dealing with my problems". They do not care
My mother is a master at the pity party. It is horrible to go through as her child. Thankfully the only person in my life that hasn't seemed to notice is my father.
My mother - in her later year's YES and she tried sooo very hard turning my nieces against me talking secrets to the nieces and secret whispers while around me. My mother tried so hard to get me under her thumb and when none of her shenanigans worked - suddenly it was like I disappeared right before her eyes. Like she just disowned me and turned her back on me for the rest of her life until her passing. My mother tried to discredit me, give me a bad name, just totally try to wreck me. It became a verbal battle field constantly and it was not good between my mother and I. So much arguing on "her part". For no reason my mother would wait... When I came out to visit with my mother (I lived with her) she would wait 5 minutes then start in on me about the most immature mediocre thing's, when I would ignore her and continue watching tv she would stop talking and stare at me for 30 minute's just staring. I'm sure in her mind if she could wish me to explode she'd do it. With my mother it was alllll about CONTROL 😵💫
Your mom sounds like a crazy person - stare at you for 30 minutes straight? Wtf? Was she trying to read your mind? No she was trying to intimidate you. What a weirdo.
My mother is elderly, and tried doing the whispering thing like you mentioned to my nephew. I dont know what she said but he looked at me like "how awful you are." The next time i saw him, he was so loving and nice that i think my brother must have told him she's a crazy liar. She also does the arguing like a mean 5 year old kid would do, and i found that grey rocking really works to stop this.
They have done all of these. This is exactly what they do! All the things they do go against everything a mother is supposed to represent! Keep putting the word out!
You speak the truth. I went through severe narcissistic abuse since childhood which stunted my development as a person, whether psychologically or physically. They always undermined me as a child, teenager, and young adult. I always had anxiety and the abuse was far worse as I always had ADHD symptoms and perhaps I am autistic, I have the traits, but my parents always refused to have me diagnose. They had narcissistic reasons as they used my behavior to justify their brainwashing that I was not normal and mentally ill and they have always told this to close relatives. They always wanted me to be isolated but I think that narcissism runs in my family as relatives were the same and wanted me to believe this as well to the satisfaction of their gloating. As a result, I did not grow as an adult. I started to change the course of my life after falling into depression which they use to sicken me even more and abuse me mentally, that is when they have threatened me to report me to the police and inform the people at my work or the people I know that I am mentally ill. My father is a psychopath, alcoholic and narc and had an obsession to take me to court or had me in an asylum.
Seriously.. thank god my parents r not like this.. I have seen mostly boys parents are like this .. because that generation wanted male child to take care of them at old age.. that’s they try to control boys most..
Yes. And thank you for laying this out so clearly. I’m going through it right now with my father…and I’m 40. I need to gain control back over my emotions, because I’ve allowed him over my life to run me into the ground with his abuse. I’m not nearly where I should be or want to be at my age. He’s driving a wedge between me and my family, and my circle has gotten so small. He continues to want to hurt me and I’m trying so hard to keep my chin up. I get the logic, it makes sense. I just don’t know how to make it not hurt inside.
I have experienced all of them and much worse! I have chosen no-contact with my birth family for my own personal safety and well-being. Thank you Danish! You are helping me more than you could possibly know! ❤
Spot on. My mom did all of these. Turned my entire family and oldest against me. He will talk to me now after years of not but he still believes her lies so it feels like the abuse hasn’t stopped even though I went no contact with her almost 5 years ago
Cut off all the flying monkeys, they do not give a sh*t about you at all.. They are gas lighting you About the abuse you went through. And they will never change. Live your best life with people who actually LISTEN to You, and believe you...
After making it clear I was done caving into their demands, (long story short) they called 911 on me and tried taking me to court for “assault”. I never laid a finger on tht bastard
My mother has done all these things. She isolated me from my sister's and all family member by smear campaign against me..She destroyed every relationship with a man I had to this day obliging me to stay single for the rest of my life. She threw me out of the house she owned at 25. She stopped.me from my studies cause she said she won't give me anymore.money to study. And she tried her best so i fail in my job. She tried her best so i would fail in life. And she succeeded I can say. After a break up that she provoked where I lost someone I loved a lot and for who I made a lot of sacrifices I realized she was doing this in all my relationships and I cut her off completely. She now sees me in the street she looks very scared and she avoids me because she fears what I will do to her as pay back for what she did to.me for 40 years.
The best payback is you live your life for you and only you now. 40 years here too although it’s been an awakening for the last 10, finally accepted the unrepairable state of my family’s drama. Was a golden child but turned scapegoat when I revealed my mother has stolen millions from the estate following my fathers death. This has been going on for years and I cannot believe I drank her cool aid, defended her as if that is her money (she says no will yet no disbursement of funds is taking place), and even punished poor-performing siblings. Once my moral code got the best of me, I shared the truth and gave my older siblings the information to pursue litigation to get what they are owed (they are older siblings, step children to my birth mother) but now they are too cowardly because it would mean owning up to the fact that they have been victims this whole time and our father (same dad) did squat to protect any of us. Thankfully I don’t need the money but my my siblings do and they have no choice in the matter but to hope on a prayer that they get something after she dies. She’s only fkn 9-10 yrs older than them, what good is that money going to do when they’re just about to die too? Exactly. Nobody is getting a damn thing except her birth children and birth grand children. She is evil and EVERYONE is under her spell. Make a lot of money my friend and keep it for yourself. NEVER depend on anyone for anything!
@@sirrantsalott I hate money because my mother loved them so much. She did not even let me marry people I loved because they did not have money. These narcs psychos adore money like devil does because they are demonically possessed creatures and they need to burn in hell like the demons they are. God is gonna ask apology from the people who assemble money and use them on themselves cause with those money many poor people could have been saved many women would not have been prostitutes. Money is a cursed thing when you assemble it. You need to have money as much as it serves your needs. The rich are gonna give apology to God when they die for what they did with that money. I am gonna live my money by loving those around me, travelling as much as I can, stop injustices when I see them, and grow plants and eat my recolt if I can in a farm that s the meaning of life. Nature gives us what to eat and live. All the rest is devil s trap. Your mother need someone who will teach her a lesson and put her own her place. She has no right to steal other people s money. You have done the right thing. The evil triumphs when the good people do nothing to stop it. The devil posses the bad people so he uses them as organs against good people in order to desesparate them and break them and make them commit suicide in order to take their souls . So stay strong and do what s right.
@@sirrantsalott I am not an angel I have sins too. But i try not to harm other people. It s wrong. Thank you for your message. Just stand up for yourselves and your siblings. Narcs when they see people stand up and fight them back, narcs just run cause they are cowards. They do evil things only when they think there will be no consequences for them and after great calculation. When they know you are out to get them and pay them back they just run. Just like devil run in front of God. Devil cant attack God so he uses humans to harm other humans because humans are the creation of God. Surely what a pathetic looser devil is just like his narcs lol. Btw my mother does not dare to talk to me anymore she fears what I will do to her now that I have unmasked her. And also a narc I dated and later I took him to courts he changed countries in order to escape jail. So I tell you that s what narcs are a bunch of pathetic loosers and cowards who only do stuff where they think they won't be caught redhanded cause they think lol they are so clever. So delusional they are. They can't grasp other people wont deal with them because it s a waste of time and because normal people wont fall to their level. But sometimes some unlucky narcs cross pathways with someone like you and me and then they run . That s what they deserve anyway for being the devil's instruments.
This sounds like a replica of my mother. She's sabotaged me all my life, tried to ruin my education by not letting me study, calling her friends over constantly so I wouldn't focus, and favouring my brother. She never paid for my university, thankfully I got a bursary. She's ruined every relationship I've had, feeding lies about them to me or smearing their name so they don't want anything to do with me because of her. Then later praising them to show she never had any ill will towards them. I couldn't literally haven't written everything you wrote. I'm so sorry for what you've been through...life has been good to me, regardless of her attempts but I do fear I'll end up alone too because of her constant games
My mother is exactly this. Not only does She do all of these things but She will also gaslight me about things that I never did. Accuse me that I'm high on drugs, call the police on me and lie to them to try and get me in trouble. Purposely take and destroy my stuff. Call and lie to my family and tell them things that are untrue. Get extremely violent, then when police get there act like she was the victim of my aggression. It's by far the hardest struggle I've ever had to deal with in my life.
hope teens learn this too and you make it more clear for younger people so they really get the picture , i pray for all of your children that they be emotionally strong and grow up healthy
My fostermother did all of them. Gave back to a childrenshome and then tried to get me locked up in a mental institution. Thankfully they didn't believe her!
All of the above has happened to me. The penny finally dropped for me this year when I turned 51 years of age that I was dealing with a narcissistic mother, it was a revelation and an eye opener for me. My only regret is not realising the behaviours beforehand 😢 and as a mother myself; I pray I’m not like them towards my daughter. I’m slowly getting over feeling as though I’m the ‘bad person’ thanks to a great support system of my friends.
The fact that you’re able to even consider the fact you might be a narc means you’re probably not! You’re conscious and aware of how you interact with the world. Narcissists are only aware of how the world reacts to them
Omg relationship is true my cousin brother was supportive of me to move out, my parents demonised him, and my narc father turned everybody against me! Good god I have finally moved out
I've protected myself by sharing my life very minimally with my narc mom. I share very basic things about my relationship to my mom and I've blocked her on my social media so she has no hold on any information about my life . Its really what that had to come down to. Because they use anything against you.
My mom has done all three of these. I moved out with my boyfriend 3..almost 4 years ago, and she has done nothing but make up stories about my bf not being good enough and break us up so many times, and guilt trip me over and over again. So thank you for making me feel like it's not my fault for her crazy issues.
My mother asked me five minutes ago something quite controlling that wasn't even her business. I refuse to answer. Her answer: "you just lost your mother". Which is funny because it's the family version of the "you just lost one customer".
The narcissist will try to destroy you since you’re a child. Little by little chipping away at your esteem. She’ll claim to love you then she’ll tell you you’re doing whatever it is wrong, you’re lying, she’ll build you up, then break you down again. Occasionally she’ll tell you she’s proud of you because you’re an extension of her. When people compliment you because of you’re talent’s she give you a back handed compliment right in front of them. She’ll reduce you to tears & you’ll be looked at like your Mother is crazy & really smart people will tell you in one ear & out the other don’t listen to her. Sometimes, she will be nice & take you shopping, to nice places to make up for her bad Mothering & her guilt. When you do well, she’ll sometimes be generous then she’ll tell you you’re costing her way too much money. She will bang the phone like a child, give you the silent treatment, act like a lunatic, she will cut you down like no other. You bring home a lawyer, a Doctor, an engineer, she will question if they really are who they say they are. She will tell you that you should get married because, that’s what she did. You get tired of her manipulating & constantly questioning & controlling youre whereabouts so, you move away pursuing a career. No matter what you do according to her if you didn’t have bad luck you wouldn’t have any. If she hears an incorrect rumour about you getting a certain car on Instagram she’s calling you screaming at you for no reason. If she thinks you came into town because, someone thought they saw someone that looked like you she wants to know why you didn’t call her.
Mine to + more. I ended up moving 150 miles away to escape it- 26 years later, distance and no communication, i still get blamed for everything. Dad died earlier this year and my mum was trying through my kids to send me a birthday gift, all my kids said she feels guilty and refused to help her.
@@mskipling5655 my mother reported me to police station and turned all of my relatives against me , she scared my gf and broke her from me, sold my father's house after he died and expelled me to streets 👍🏾,also she made me marry a woman who is chronically ill with rheumatoid
@@mskipling5655 Sometimes, if you have siblings,, even after they die, the dynamic won't change; your siblings will still blame you for everything and will try to destroy you. That's their legacy, their minions getting their roles plus C-PTDS for your whole life to come. It's a generational curse.
@@Lyrielonwind i have 2 brothers. They both know what she is but are to frightened to walk away like me, having watched what shes done to me and my kids. We are all much older ourselves now and basically none of us see or care about each other. I must admit i do wonder if either of them will attend her funeral- I obviously wont. unfortunately i didnt get to say buy to my dad , sometimes i think 70 years - he deserved a medal- then think he was a very weak man who didnt protect us ( I include my siblings) from her.
Co- dependant enabling father's to abusive narc mother's are the worst. Especially for daughters dealing with narc mother's. They never protect you at all and they leave you abandoned. Looking to other older men for protection and guidance...
All of them especially coming from my Biological family and my Great Aunt. I just continued walking away from the Narcissistic Drama and I'm still here!! Let the pigs wallow in their muck!! Your real friends will always be there for you!! ♥️😊
Exact thing happened to me.. spot on 100% video no lie!! My relationship my cars my homecalled me disgusting names and my wife and sold all my things.. narcissistic mother of mine for sure.. and them I abandoned her supposedly..I'm done!!!! I've moved on now...my wife helped me wake up to it..thanks God I'm doing better now
My mommy dearest in a nutshell. She's in phase 3 now. Poor pitiful Linda. I've been no contact since Easter 2022. Side note...she lives literally 3 minutes from me. I have a feeling she's going to "drop by" one day when she knows I'm here by myself. Lord, I pray she don't.
Same exact scenario here. I really don't expect here to ever reach out to me again. And that's all right. I have grieved the loss of us and have no intentions to return.
I FACED THE WORST SHE AND HER FAMILY TRIED TO KILL ME FROM BIRTH AND TRIED EVERYTHING IN THEIR EVIL POWER TO DESTROY ME BUT GOD SAVED MY LIFE HE PROTECTED ME AND NOW THEY ASK THEMSELVES HOW AM STILL ALIVE WHILE THEY ARE MISERABLE LIKE HELL NOT KNOWING THAT GOD SAID IN HIS WORD TOUCH NOT MY ANOINTED AND DO MY PROPHETS NO HARM ,STAY PRAYED UP AND FORGIVE THEM
SHE just did this A SEC ago. Another drama started by her, using me as the scapegoat and her being backed up by my sister who is another one of her golden child whilst my little bro is the silver. SHE IS JEALOUS of my FUTURE relationships and ALWAYS TRIES TO TURN HIM AGAINST ME IN SUPPORT OF HER, knowingly that he would stand up for her by using religious guilt trip and 'filial piety' as a means of self entitlement to save her own face and regain control and isolate me as 'THE ONE WITH THE ISSUE'
My dad is constantly on a pity party for one. 🥳 I do my best not to take any notice of it now. I live in the present moment and do what I can to enjoy my life. He doesn't control me anymore ( but oh how he tries) I tore up that contract long ago. Keep trying dad I'm more stronger than you'll ever know. 💪💪
My parents are toxic😢My parents have done everything you said ....My parents broke my relationship of so many yrs by telling lies..I want justice and my partner back...I want to go far far away from my parents from where they will never find me...🙂
Well at least you recognise it and want your partner back. I hope you dont mind me saying, but if appropriate, pls acknowledge the manipulation to your former partner! It might mean something to them. You probably know this, but i thought i would say it out loud here, cause i am the former partner of a man with a narc mum, and in the end we did break up. However, it would mean the world to me to have him come back and acknowledge the harm his mother did to us. Xx good luck. I hope things work out for you both.
My mother has done them all and continues and even does it with my kids. Don’t ever be afraid to go no contact with a Narcissistic parent. Their slander and gossip, can destroy your marriage, your children and your livelihood. Thank you for using your voice to free souls. This information is so valuable for healing the inner child and not ending up in a loop of Narcissistic relationships
@Pixie_damsel and TheloveAlchemist
I can 100% relate to you. I experienced very similar and even worse experience. I kept my child away from her. Going "no contact" was the only option for me to keep my sanity.
She destroyed both my brothers' lives, very talented ones. But sadly they don't realize that as they are her enablers. I learned to keep next generation kids away from her so she cannot damage them. She is trying to stalk me in many ways, but that is not helping her get to me 😃I am bullet proof now. Thanks to God🤲🏼😂🤣
Wishing you all the very best to become the strongest version of you. This is the way to go as they cannot stand confident strong willed people.
If you have decided AS AN ADULT, that this person is harmful, do not allow them around your children.
@@Keys7 I second this👍🏼
@Pixie_damsel she sounds so much like my so called mother, she also discarded her own mother. Keep your son away from her, as you probably already are. My father finally got to be free by dying. I cant prove it but think she may have slept with my ex husband, and i think she would try to sleep with my boyfriends when i was younger. I will only be free when she dies.
Yes this is my parents for sure.i have gone no contact with my father and I only talk to my mother on the phone and I dread these because she always has something underhanded to say I would prefer not to speak to her but I see it is her on my phone and feel like I have to speak to her the last time she rang she said I was very bitter because I was slagging off my father who I think she is still in love with her husband number 3is so much like him it's un real she once said that husband 2was just a marriage of convenience.whicho thought was horrendous I also watched her treatment of him until she kicked the poor fella out and then divorced him he wasn't such a bad fella.she blanked him like she did too me IAM frightened that I can be like her.if we have a row I will not back down and after she writes me a shitty letter trying to make me feel guilty.i hope IAM not a narcissist but I can be very cold for protection.so maybe I am you learn from your parents.but I am am not like them in so many ways I rebelled by leaving home at 15 and I have had a chaotic life so does that make me a narcissist.
My mother did all three. So much destruction. I will never allow contact of any kind with that evil again. She was never a mother to me. Only a devil.
Oh I feel you. How did you move out?? I really wish I had that boldness
I'm experiencing that with my Mother 😕
@@dineriaruffin-cb4ui same man, hang in there!
She literally laughs when I'm crying🤮🤮🤮. What a demon💀💀
@@ashbyanil2195 it wasn’t easy. I wanted to have a loving relationship with her. This is the second time I’ve gone no contact with the devil. The first time was for 8 years. I let her back in, thinking that she had evolved as a human being. No, she only became better at being evil. I went no contact this time after I learned that she had been waging a smear campaign against me after I went no contact the first time. It’s been two years since I’ve had any contact with her or my brother, the golden child who participated in the smear campaign. I feel sad that these people are family.
Anyone else have narcissistic parents?
One is bad enough but when your father and mother are both narcissists, it is a living hell
Yesss the weak cannot survive this hell
Yes
Feel you😢
narcissistic familys structures and cooperations etc arsholes replace natural loving cultures fthat hellish wickednes
🙋♀️You're not alone! It's been a very challenging journey with these two my whole life
True. The fact that my mother did all three finally convinced me that she was truly a narcissist.
wow
sorry
Sorry
To hear well both mine has been narcs my whole life they think they deserve medals for doing basics or that they super special for doing these kinds of Thighs
Yep. Like I said, this needs to be taught in a sermon or lesson. I had wondered why people were asking me random questions, kicking me out of places, and then my mom was freaking out on me, when I was trying to get a new job because I had become a pariah in my town. This video is making it all click. It wasn’t until today, that I had realized that had gone through all this. Someone need to be explaining this to people. Like there needs to be sermons on this.
@@stephanieg3554hey you don't clap for short bus riders . They might know a skill or trade but that's just to make money the fact they can't have real relationships isn't a good look good job but no cigar.
As an only child my narcissistic mother has hurt me more than anyone in my life. To the outside world she presents herself as if shes perfect but when nobody's around she tears me down and makes me feel worthless. Who does that to their child??? She has no feelings ,no empathy, no sympathy, no emotions. I had to cut ties with her. I cant do toxic ☠️. Nobody should be made to feel like they are worthless. No matter how old you are.
Same
Me too, I am the only child, but hey for covert narcissist it doesn’t matter. I don’t think the person “mother “ exist, it’s demons controlling their soul. Otherwise how can a mother do this to her only child? It’s beyond imagination. It’s not human experience. Last year Mother’s Day I arranged a lunch for us just to appreciate her despite her abuse but she canceled the appointment last minute saying she is busy at work. It’s been almost two years I haven’t seen her, she just like to call every 6 months just to see how I am doing. When I want to meet her she makes her self unavailable or I have to beg her. Anyway I talk to her here and there, just to do my duty. I am child of light.
@@wedibarkatesseney7230I'm also the single Girl Child of my narcissistic mom... My god she tries to isolate me.... Now she's trying to ruin my relationship with my partner.... My dad doesn't have his opinion or stand against anything he just agrees to whatever my mom tells...
To put the cherry on top... I'm living in the same house can't really avoid them .. They don't want me to become independent they slanders my self esteem confidence by tell me that I'll do nothing in life.. I'm wasting my dad's money on my worthless education...
She hates me literally.
Its the same wd me...jz pain and so much more pain...she keeps hurting me ..her words feel like daggers..and now when since last 7 years I stopped most contact wd her ...and don't feel like talking wd her..she feels bad...but establishing any sort of contact wd her jz kills me...she keeps hurting..her words are like poison or acid..she is an expert in twisting my words and tries her best to make evryone else a villain..but slowly slowly her shit show is being recognised and all our relatives are hating her..her own brother has stopped talking to her since last 14 years years
I'm exactly in the same situation but I'm still a teen, I will try to live ad far from her in the future
So true. They will also bash your partner but the moment they realize you won’t “choose” them over your partner then they start bashing you and will suddenly feign concern over your partner having to “deal with somebody like you!” It’s insanity.
Yeah. Except I don’t remember my mom bashing my husband at least not to his face. They got along so well that this thanksgiving, I had my husband drive my mom two states over to visit family, while I drove a separate car, because my mom doesn’t drive, and I could no longer deal with her. My husband hasn’t spoken with her since the trip though so idk if something happened. 🤷♀️
Anyway, it made it easier for me to cut her off after that, so I’m glad.
@@annaburns2865narcissist can't say it to you're face they don't make any sense like imagine being a psychopath you're brain is so scattered that having conversations are impossible that's why they stonewall people because they know you are smarter than they are and could never win an argument against a empathetic person. See having empathy is not only emotional intelligence it's real intelligence empath wins Everytime against narcissist because our brains work enough to word things right and pierce their soul. Ever heard a narc bash somebody it won't make any sense lol so they bash behind closed doors and only if they can wedge in-between you're relationships if you're relationships is very transparent narcs can do nothing.
This happened to my neice,with my sister it was a mess, my sister wanted her daughter for herself,,sad I was stuck in the middle, then lost my neice and her children in the process, my neice lost relationship with her brother.over something that was never his moms business, I was never my sisters flying monkey..my daughters lost relationship with their 1st cousin my neice,and their 2 second cousins .her children..
@annaburns2865 she probably dogged you out to your husband,,I would not have taken a chance with my husband and narcissists mom,in the same car.,wonder if she tried to come unto him,,?narc moms are capable of that..jealous of their daughters happiness .
Narc mothers are hateful and evil to the core.
I am strong!!
Which is why I no longer fear my narcissistic mother, her tactics or her actions. Turning family members against me was one of the hardest feelings I've had to deal with but in the end as long as I'm breathing I can't be broken!!
I am proud of who I am & accept me (and all my faults) for who I am...sensitive, emotional, and caring. These aren't weakness, these are strengths!!!
Amazing to hear. I'm glad to hear you've found a way through this. It's an awful feeling. My partners mother has turned everyone against us aswell, but it really says a lot about them as nobody has ever reached out and have simply believed her!
@@Jamie_A1They do such a good job of it, that nobody will ever ask for your side of the story, for your truth. Indeed, it shows those believers up as simple people that are shallow & probably just as low-down dirty players as the one who started the smear campaign. We are infinitely better off without them.
@@The_Dogman_ yup, it totally sucks. Alarming how well their desperate smear campaign works & how much you lose as a result. Don't worry, they may not pay in this life, but I believe that they certainly will in the next. Keep the Faith, dude. One:LOVE.
Same.
This is so inspirational. Thank you so much ❤ Best wishes to you from another human on planet earth.
My mother went behind my back to call my husband up at work and tell him bad things to break our marriage. She hurt my kids too.
Can u imagine?your mom..
Someone is going to hurt your mother physically if she keeps doing that.
Omg
Same she is always gossiping ….
Oo God😢
This not only applied to parents, this applies to friends.
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Yes but you're usually stuck in the house with the parent
Classmates especially
They really want to see you lose
@@FC-hj9ubI was referring to hj9 mostly
And siblings.
Spot on! It is mind bending to realise that the people who are closest to you are really your biggest enemies and they operate from the stand point of malicious evil. Thank you
Oh my gosh. Very true!
It’s true yet heart breaking cause they’re supposed to love you unconditionally…what a cruel joke
truth
Im a psychologist and I approve of this message.
then how do i break through.
All of the above. Maybe even in that order on repeat! Its amazing after they smear your name and try or successfully ruin your relationships with other people, they still want YOU to feel bad for THEM.
Oh yes.
truth
lol. i don't even bother trying to make anyone understand anymore. if they have a current relationship with the narcissist: our relationship will be casual or will fade.
Luna, you are very discerning!! Nailed it!
I'm starting to realize this......sucks but necessary
So smart and true! I introduced my narc brother to all my “old friends” now I don’t even want to be around them because of how my brother has treated me
Agree
I should do this
Number 1 was my mother’s weapon of choice. Me being a people pleaser, she knew that the thought of having people speak badly of me would destroy me. She held her control over me until my late 30’s when I worked hard on not caring what other people think. After that, she quickly moved to #2 and #3. I’m so glad to be out of it all, my life has been nothing but peace since I cut ties.
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I am glad you cut ties. You do not need that nonsense in your life.
My word!. My mother did all three to me! Im currently in a year or two of no contact! And not giving out my address to anyone not even her relatives.. i achieved a good amount of peace like i had never before
Good keep it that way and don't let them back. Live a guilt free life
Yes!
True. Mine even deserves an Oscar or Emmy. She does it so well, I’m surprised Hollywood hasn’t contacted her. 45 years of this and it’s making anxious all the time . I need help
My mom tried to pretend she had breast cancer to get me to quit college. I’ve caught her in so many lies and all her bs abuse will never bring me down. She is not in my life and it’s how my life has been. Great without abusers.
I call it blunt force drama. They have to behave in some outrageous way and let it be known.
Same @emacarvalho7889. 42 years of it here. Did EXACTLY word for word what this video described. It was like he made this just for me. Lol. Just know you’re not alone and IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT! Went from a six figure salary, wife, 2 kids, lots of friends and family to fully disabled and fighting the past 2 years for joint custody (which I finally won) and not a friend or family member 1 that will speak to me from my mother’s or ex wife’s family. They had been planning this for years unbeknownst to me. When I lost my physical health due to cancer, they unleashed their premeditated attack and basically destroyed my reputation with lies. I live in a small town so it doesn’t take much. I spiraled into the pits of rock bottom and am still slowly trying to climb out. I’ve made a couple new friends that are AMAZING people and they, too, are “black sheep” in this community. My friendships with them have been more satisfying and rewarding in just a short time than the ones that stuck around only while it was beneficial to them.
One thing that really helped was I started trying to think of what my own children would have to do that is bad enough for me to treat them the way my mother treated me. The answer is there is nothing they could do. If they ran off and lived a life full of sin, you better believe when that phone rings, Daddy is picking it up and will jump in the truck and run help them NO MATTER WHAT. That made me realize my mother is extremely dangerous and must be miserable in her own life. Keep the chin up and know that you can break the cycle with your own kids!
I have been parenting my girls with love, conversation, trust, teamwork, and talking to them like human beings. I don’t yell at them and I don’t spank them. I don’t want them associating a man’s love with physical or verbal abuse. My ex is the opposite. I have had this guilt in my gut since the divorce as I have been worried I wasn’t being hard enough on them and feared it would cause problems in the future. Nope. Exact opposite. I even found out they have been telling their friends and friends’ parents how amazing their daddy is and how much he loves them (that’s me!!). They also mention how miserable they are when they have to stay with their mom. When I had 2 mothers pull me aside (different times different places) and shared that with me, it gave me SO MUCH STRENGTH!
I hope this little snippet of my story gives you strength. Reach out anytime.
my father is a Master Class Covert Narcissist, ive never know these things until JESUS has revealed it for me now in my adult years, even when you confront them in what they did wrong, they gaslight and refuse any wrong doing, and you feel confuse and feel bad to confront them, its your parent but people like this destroys your life, and they look innocent to the publick , and every think they are so good person and you look like the bad and crazy one, thank you for helping people in this terrible emotional abuse
Same here ! Jesus gave me an epiphany.. any update on your situation? Did you leave from the problem ?
Damn bro! The same thing happened to me today.
@@Thegoodloficommunity only way out is to get away
Yup my father abuses me and.then gaslights me.
Threaten to not give you inheritance as a way of getting you to do what they want
That's a classic 👍
That's there go-to
I told them it’s not even their inheritance to give it’s grandma and grandpas lol! That got them shaking in their boots!
I told them I straight up don’t care! Because it’s going to cost more money in therapy to fix the damage from being around you waiting for inheritance
@@vlogcity1111 Bravo 👏!! LoL 😂 I said something similar to my mother and the look of defeat and confusion on her face was priceless! Once she composed herself she couldn't contain the anger. After that she ghosted me... nothing left to control me with so I am a bad source of supply
😂 it only works on non-financially independent children 🤣
Every now and then. My father is only polite when he wants to puppet me and when that doesn't happen, he is again abusive and narcissist.
Same he even hid my document and even adhar card pan card
@@alexxbloomworkmine stole my birth certificate it's just the little weird things.
exactly! I am middle aged and he still says I don't listen. LOL. Listen to what? Shouldn't have bullied me my whole life then maybe I would have listened. IDGAF anymore.
My dad is the same . I feel your pain
@@user-qc1if1ko8nI feel the same way towards my mother. She hates it, lol.
Used everything I ever shared to try and destroy me.... "Thanks dad"
My mother did this to me and now everyone in the family, even my relatives, not to left out every soul I knew hates me for no reason. Now I'm all alone
you're not alone you're free
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How to overcome it if you know please tell 😢
@@Cabans__ bro I replied to you but it got deletd😥
@@janaikharkongor5706 phir se likh sakte ho?
Late mother was one and did exactly that. She passed in '07 and I was NOT sad in fact felt grateful and yes I know how that sounds like but it's the truth. These humans latch on like a leech never letting go for malicious purposes only
Me. I experience all of those. Literally had the cops called on me for defending myself. I really have to go no contact.
I moved out at 15... and she actually just abandoned me (thank goodness) and she focused 100% on my brother, who was her favorite.
Was like i didn't exist (WIN🎉) but what she did to my brother was criminal, if there is a hell, shes front and center! She fked up his head so bad, it ended up killing him!
That's heartbreaking! May his soul RIP and may God give strength to all such children suffering from abuse and show them the way to freedom and love🌻
They show up at your house and keep on ringing until you threaten to call the police. they make your siblings cancel you.
That part
My parents are literally stalking me too. I went no contact two years ago. And every few months they show up or send a private investigator
My mother doesn’t know where I live and I plan to keep it that way.
Dam wtf
I am going through this right now it feels like a movie to discover that my own mother has been sabotaging so many things in my life. And only now I can see the real intentions😢 it’s so unreal
This isn't just what narcissistic parents do, this is exactly what narcassist do in general.
Yes. 100% all 3 are what my mum does. She’s 85, I’m 55 and the level of rage she threw when I began putting boundaries in and saying no. And then she’d bad mouth my wife and blame her for why I was not speaking to her. And then the pity party was lots of tears and calling my brother to ask why I am treating her so badly. He’d get the tears, I’d get the rage and bully.
They love to act like temperamental toddlers who don’t get their way, don’t they?
Wow . My mom 85. I am 60 . No contact . She wrote me a letter 5 years ago including 15 years of all the things I had failed to do to please her . No letter to my brother and sister . 💔 now k ow she is a complete narc
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Has been all my life . Has smeared my name . Great actress. Her and my sister talking about me . All of these 3 above. Gone no contact.
You just described both my parents’ behavior. We were subjected to full-spectrum abuse and cruelty. They made sure they checked all the boxes with me - physical, verbal, emotional, and sexual abuse. They broke all of us.
Then, they divorced, remarried, and played their tiny little King Lear violins. As our adult lives were plagued with substance abuse, aka, self-medication, sexual and relationship disasters, and intense emotional pain, they became martyrs. They didn’t raise us that way, they would say, but that’s exactly how they raised us. They raised us to all wish we’d never been born. Yet she and my father were good people, and martyrs to their immoral, ungrateful children. Everyone believed that. It was a long saga of cruelty and rejection, and it took a terrible toll on us.
Omg 😱 you just described my situation! WOW I’m not alone! My parents decided to get back together after being divorced 10 years. My brother so messed up from them he moved away and bought land but he has a drinking problem. My mother sat down beaming with happiness to tell me they are back together. AFTER ALL THE CRAP THEY DID TO US?! I asked her to leave and I’ll call when I’m ready to talk. NEVER AGAIN! The last month she’s been getting off the phone with me fast, quiet during the conversation, and claim she’s not getting my text messages. Dirty sneaky evil mother! I’ve been helping her financially, emotionally, and physically. All of a sudden she don’t need me anymore. My dumb behind didn’t see this coming AT ALL. I guess because my washer, dryer, and water heater went out I couldn’t help her fast enough so she went back to the person she knows has money. I’m done with them before i mentally loose it !
I am so sorry. 😢 What they did is inexcusably and evil. Some people are not fit to be parents.
@@kimpossible3914 Back in the 50s, they had to get married to have sex. This was before the pill, and a lot of people just got married because they were horny. It was not a good reason to get married.
@@tamarar.4642 I’m sorry you’re going through this! My mother actually did something very similar to my brother. She used equity on her house, which was due to my brother’s work on it, to get the evil little man she married out of bankruptcy. He’d been parentified, in that she depended on him and his work. It was so sad and infuriating. Step people are always a mixed bag, and ours were like the Beverly Hillbillies, but evil. On both sides.
Sadly every single one of these things. It shook me up right now, I'm sobbing.
Since I've moved out, this has been going on.
When I lived there, you can imagine how it was.
There was corporal punishment for things that were not even close to "being a bad kid" or even my fault in general. And she wanted me to have straight As, nothing else or else there were punishments.
Also, no matter where I went, always controlled by her. Manipulation, gaslighting and most hurtful guilt tripped every single day.
I am a VERY thankful person in general and I tried to show her every day but it wasn't enough...
Thank you so much for for channel. Thank you so, so much!
Now I have to think very hard to make a decision what to do next.
No contact is no option for me, my respect and gratitude is too big to go no contact, despite all the things she put me through.
❤ much respect to you! I’m in my 50’s and I’m just realizing who my mom is. Everything this man said is soooo true! If you don’t consider yourself first you will be delayed in life. Narcissist hold you back from being you! Thank GOD FOR HIS CHANNEL
❤ much respect to you! I’m in my 50’s and I’m just realizing who my mom is. Everything this man said is soooo true! If you don’t consider yourself first you will be delayed in life. Narcissist hold you back from being you! Thank GOD FOR HIS CHANNEL
Hey you fine now ?? I hope you are ...!! My prayers with you ...god bless you and I wish you an advance happy new year !!
@@daugustushenry7718
Thank you SO MUCH for your reply!!
You are wonderful and I am absolutely sure that you are going your own path, no matter what! Strong and independent - most importantly being healthy and happy!
That's what I wish you, from the deepest bottom of my heart!!!
Much love from the Croatian girl in Germany 🤗♥️
@@Chy-vs7en oh my God, I am beyond thankful for your comment!
You are such a sweet soul, asking if I'm okay!
And yes, I am not worse than before, meaning, I am still working on my skills to be able to cope and deal with it. Thank God!
You have no idea how much I appreciate you!!
Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart!!!!!
People like you are what keeps me going Because I LOVE LOVE LOVE people in general!
Again, I really hope you can see how thankful I am! Your loved ones are blessed with being a part of your life!
You are a blessing and I wish you and your loved ones a happy, wonderful, healthy, and safe new year full of joy and peace!!
From the bottom of my heart - from the Croatian girl in Germany 🤗
Not only have I had to be the adult to my father my whole life but he asked me to move into my home, with my husband and children “just for 6months until I can get on my feet and find a place.” His words of course. That was 14 years ago you guys!!!! 14 years! It’s been brutal everyday. I finally am moving him into an assisted living home and you have nooo idea how badly he’s treating me over it. Even though I’ve allowed him in for this long. I’ve basically been his care giver for this many years! I’m finally taking my life back and I can’t wait!!!!! The punishment he’s giving me is unmatched. He’s treating me like a stranger, worse then a stranger. Silent treatment. I would hope he changes once there (it’s nice) but I’ve seen how he’s cut off his extended family so I’m expecting the same. I choose. Me! I choose my life my family now. It’s been far too long 😭 sending my love to anyone that’s had to deal with this. I feel like I’ve been in prison in my own home. Freedom!!!!! 🎉
Glad your finally doing it. My mom whom I never let in my house except for the occasional 'i'm sick, please lemme stay with you' tantrums still keeps trying everything in her power to destroy my peace!
I am going thru this smear campaign- and it’s my mom who is doing this. It hurts so bad
Yes I was kicked out when sick and I only came back for a few months and they were so worried they have too after they abused me daily asked me to leave and later told ppl all kinds of things. I was isolated for 5 years lost friends relatives family friends. Only a few close ppl who really knew me. They act like so called impt ppl so they went all out on the smear campaign saying I’m crazy disrespectful and what not when I was actually victim and sickly to boot. These ppl are evil
I'm so sorry. You deserve to have good caring people in ur life. It's truly insanity. Un c unconscionable behavior. There is absolutely no excuse. It's inhumane. Wishing love & light surrounds you.!
Omg thank you for sharing. That is what they are doing to me now. Trying to get me to leave the house
You do not deserve to be mistreated by those hateful people. You’re not the problem, they are.
Yep. 100% true. Exactly what my mother has done & continues to do to me. I am so damaged because of my own mother's cruel, narcissistic abuse. It's pure evil a mother would abuse her own child... Thank you so very much Danish for your wonderful videos. It makes such a difference when a professional has experienced narcissistic abuse. Some of the professionals I've seen did not believe me when I told them about my mother's abuse. It's so destructive...
This is why it is important to have friends the narc doesnt know. It enables people to go somewhere else and escape the noise.
The strongest "weapon" against all kind of narc parents is your gratitude they never did anything for the sake of your best...Thank You!!:))!!
My parents have done all three. Extremely abusive childhood. Went no contact a few years ago. They send private investigators or show up at my door. I refuse to communicate. I am married and living my best life.
Bravo! 👏
Spot on. Manipulation is there Forte. Remember, never react. INDIFFERENCE They can not deal with not getting a reaction. They will continue on a rampage, desperate to make u react. It is most rewarding when you actually take your power back. YOU DESERVE IT!
All of them, at least two or threes times. My mother is evil. I paid her to babysit and she took my place as a mother. When my kids got older, she brainwashed them into thinking I was a bad parent. Told everyone she was raising her grandkids like I wasn't even there.
Why would you let your mom raise your kids instead of you???
@@vlogcity1111 maybe I said it wrong. She didn't raise my kids. She babysat for me when I worked. I only left them for work. She went around our community telling everyone she was raising them. Lies.
@@deana8202 yea that’s not fair! If your kids spent that much time with your mom growing up of course their going to be attached to her. But for her to lie to them and her friend she sounds like my aunt.
Told me that she raised me more than my mom which is complete bullsht
@@deana8202 your kids would have been better off with an actual babysitter. Don't ever trust a Narc. They may look like a mother but inside their heart their insecure and jealous.
Thanks for sharing. It helps me. My mother in law was narcissistic, and she did this with her son's dog. Overtook care of the dog and then claimed the dog as her own, locked the dog inside the bedroom with her at night, then denigrates her son when he takes the dog to the beach, because of course hes not capable of looking after the dog like she can, and shes just making sure nothing happens to "her" dog, when it was her son's dog! Its unbelievable!
Then of course she did the same thing to her son, and took her son away from our relationship. So now he doesnt have his dog, or his partner! They are sad and f**ked up!
What and who will be next?
All of these happened to me, including threatening to report me to my state counselor licensing board for "not dealing with my problems". They do not care
Yep. This type of threat happened to me too, as well as them being carried out many times against me.
Any parent that does something like that to their own child shows there is something seriously wrong with them.
My mother is a master at the pity party. It is horrible to go through as her child. Thankfully the only person in my life that hasn't seemed to notice is my father.
My mother - in her later year's YES and she tried sooo very hard turning my nieces against me talking secrets to the nieces and secret whispers while around me. My mother tried so hard to get me under her thumb and when none of her shenanigans worked - suddenly it was like I disappeared right before her eyes. Like she just disowned me and turned her back on me for the rest of her life until her passing. My mother tried to discredit me, give me a bad name, just totally try to wreck me. It became a verbal battle field constantly and it was not good between my mother and I. So much arguing on "her part". For no reason my mother would wait... When I came out to visit with my mother (I lived with her) she would wait 5 minutes then start in on me about the most immature mediocre thing's, when I would ignore her and continue watching tv she would stop talking and stare at me for 30 minute's just staring.
I'm sure in her mind if she could wish me to explode she'd do it. With my mother it was alllll about CONTROL 😵💫
Your mom sounds like a crazy person - stare at you for 30 minutes straight? Wtf? Was she trying to read your mind? No she was trying to intimidate you. What a weirdo.
My mother is elderly, and tried doing the whispering thing like you mentioned to my nephew. I dont know what she said but he looked at me like "how awful you are." The next time i saw him, he was so loving and nice that i think my brother must have told him she's a crazy liar. She also does the arguing like a mean 5 year old kid would do, and i found that grey rocking really works to stop this.
The pity party is on even though I do and do and do it's never enough. I am taking charge of me now
good job
They have done all of these. This is exactly what they do! All the things they do go against everything a mother is supposed to represent! Keep putting the word out!
Sounds just like my mother or the person that gave birth to me because I'm pretty sure,a " mother " couldn't behave like that!
Sometimes I feel like I was adopted....
@@simonehawthorne2647 I asked my mother,why did you have me!!
Some individuals should never have children but my God I'm glad I'm here!
My mother doing it with my kids, my sister and some friends.
You speak the truth. I went through severe narcissistic abuse since childhood which stunted my development as a person, whether psychologically or physically. They always undermined me as a child, teenager, and young adult. I always had anxiety and the abuse was far worse as I always had ADHD symptoms and perhaps I am autistic, I have the traits, but my parents always refused to have me diagnose. They had narcissistic reasons as they used my behavior to justify their brainwashing that I was not normal and mentally ill and they have always told this to close relatives. They always wanted me to be isolated but I think that narcissism runs in my family as relatives were the same and wanted me to believe this as well to the satisfaction of their gloating. As a result, I did not grow as an adult. I started to change the course of my life after falling into depression which they use to sicken me even more and abuse me mentally, that is when they have threatened me to report me to the police and inform the people at my work or the people I know that I am mentally ill. My father is a psychopath, alcoholic and narc and had an obsession to take me to court or had me in an asylum.
My life story unfolded
it's sad how in many of our families, they actually call narcissism and gaslighting as "pyaar", "sanskaar" and "tumhara khayal rakhna"
Seriously.. thank god my parents r not like this.. I have seen mostly boys parents are like this .. because that generation wanted male child to take care of them at old age.. that’s they try to control boys most..
Yes. And thank you for laying this out so clearly. I’m going through it right now with my father…and I’m 40.
I need to gain control back over my emotions, because I’ve allowed him over my life to run me into the ground with his abuse. I’m not nearly where I should be or want to be at my age.
He’s driving a wedge between me and my family, and my circle has gotten so small. He continues to want to hurt me and I’m trying so hard to keep my chin up.
I get the logic, it makes sense. I just don’t know how to make it not hurt inside.
I have experienced all of them and much worse! I have chosen no-contact with my birth family for my own personal safety and well-being. Thank you Danish! You are helping me more than you could possibly know! ❤
ALL..and have now caught myself imparting these things on my child...I am determined to be the end of this victious cycle
Cut you out of the will for inheritance
I’m an only child I am scared it may happen unless I do what they want me to do
Spot on. My mom did all of these. Turned my entire family and oldest against me. He will talk to me now after years of not but he still believes her lies so it feels like the abuse hasn’t stopped even though I went no contact with her almost 5 years ago
Cut off all the flying monkeys, they do not give a sh*t about you at all.. They are gas lighting you About the abuse you went through. And they will never change. Live your best life with people who actually LISTEN to You, and believe you...
What baffles me is how they don't realise how evil they really are.
I regularly get called stupid. Very hurtful to me but this is helping me to heal. Love to you all.
After making it clear I was done caving into their demands, (long story short) they called 911 on me and tried taking me to court for “assault”. I never laid a finger on tht bastard
Mine told the cops my husband "kidnapped " me cops warned them of repercussions of filing fake police report they didn't see that one coming.
My mother has done all these things. She isolated me from my sister's and all family member by smear campaign against me..She destroyed every relationship with a man I had to this day obliging me to stay single for the rest of my life. She threw me out of the house she owned at 25. She stopped.me from my studies cause she said she won't give me anymore.money to study. And she tried her best so i fail in my job. She tried her best so i would fail in life. And she succeeded I can say. After a break up that she provoked where I lost someone I loved a lot and for who I made a lot of sacrifices I realized she was doing this in all my relationships and I cut her off completely. She now sees me in the street she looks very scared and she avoids me because she fears what I will do to her as pay back for what she did to.me for 40 years.
The best payback is you live your life for you and only you now. 40 years here too although it’s been an awakening for the last 10, finally accepted the unrepairable state of my family’s drama. Was a golden child but turned scapegoat when I revealed my mother has stolen millions from the estate following my fathers death. This has been going on for years and I cannot believe I drank her cool aid, defended her as if that is her money (she says no will yet no disbursement of funds is taking place), and even punished poor-performing siblings. Once my moral code got the best of me, I shared the truth and gave my older siblings the information to pursue litigation to get what they are owed (they are older siblings, step children to my birth mother) but now they are too cowardly because it would mean owning up to the fact that they have been victims this whole time and our father (same dad) did squat to protect any of us. Thankfully I don’t need the money but my my siblings do and they have no choice in the matter but to hope on a prayer that they get something after she dies. She’s only fkn 9-10 yrs older than them, what good is that money going to do when they’re just about to die too? Exactly. Nobody is getting a damn thing except her birth children and birth grand children. She is evil and EVERYONE is under her spell. Make a lot of money my friend and keep it for yourself. NEVER depend on anyone for anything!
@@sirrantsalott I hate money because my mother loved them so much. She did not even let me marry people I loved because they did not have money. These narcs psychos adore money like devil does because they are demonically possessed creatures and they need to burn in hell like the demons they are. God is gonna ask apology from the people who assemble money and use them on themselves cause with those money many poor people could have been saved many women would not have been prostitutes. Money is a cursed thing when you assemble it. You need to have money as much as it serves your needs. The rich are gonna give apology to God when they die for what they did with that money. I am gonna live my money by loving those around me, travelling as much as I can, stop injustices when I see them, and grow plants and eat my recolt if I can in a farm that s the meaning of life. Nature gives us what to eat and live. All the rest is devil s trap. Your mother need someone who will teach her a lesson and put her own her place. She has no right to steal other people s money. You have done the right thing. The evil triumphs when the good people do nothing to stop it. The devil posses the bad people so he uses them as organs against good people in order to desesparate them and break them and make them commit suicide in order to take their souls . So stay strong and do what s right.
@@carykaradasia4568 Your message genuinely allowed me to shed tears for humanity…you’re an angel and your message is what I needed to hear. Thank you.
@@sirrantsalott I am not an angel I have sins too. But i try not to harm other people. It s wrong. Thank you for your message. Just stand up for yourselves and your siblings. Narcs when they see people stand up and fight them back, narcs just run cause they are cowards. They do evil things only when they think there will be no consequences for them and after great calculation. When they know you are out to get them and pay them back they just run. Just like devil run in front of God. Devil cant attack God so he uses humans to harm other humans because humans are the creation of God. Surely what a pathetic looser devil is just like his narcs lol.
Btw my mother does not dare to talk to me anymore she fears what I will do to her now that I have unmasked her. And also a narc I dated and later I took him to courts he changed countries in order to escape jail. So I tell you that s what narcs are a bunch of pathetic loosers and cowards who only do stuff where they think they won't be caught redhanded cause they think lol they are so clever. So delusional they are. They can't grasp other people wont deal with them because it s a waste of time and because normal people wont fall to their level. But sometimes some unlucky narcs cross pathways with someone like you and me and then they run . That s what they deserve anyway for being the devil's instruments.
This sounds like a replica of my mother. She's sabotaged me all my life, tried to ruin my education by not letting me study, calling her friends over constantly so I wouldn't focus, and favouring my brother. She never paid for my university, thankfully I got a bursary. She's ruined every relationship I've had, feeding lies about them to me or smearing their name so they don't want anything to do with me because of her. Then later praising them to show she never had any ill will towards them. I couldn't literally haven't written everything you wrote. I'm so sorry for what you've been through...life has been good to me, regardless of her attempts but I do fear I'll end up alone too because of her constant games
Yes, all 3, compliments of mommy dearest. then she pushed me against the wall and tried to choke me.
did she then tell everyone that *you* attacked her? 🤣 #mylife
@@lunamoondrop omg that’s happened to me !!!!!!
do yall still live with your mom ?
@@ruthiefrost im sorry and i agve it a thumbs down cause thts horrible it happened
Probably called the cops on you after right?
My mother is exactly this. Not only does She do all of these things but She will also gaslight me about things that I never did. Accuse me that I'm high on drugs, call the police on me and lie to them to try and get me in trouble. Purposely take and destroy my stuff. Call and lie to my family and tell them things that are untrue. Get extremely violent, then when police get there act like she was the victim of my aggression. It's by far the hardest struggle I've ever had to deal with in my life.
I’ve experienced and still experience all of these every day
hope teens learn this too and you make it more clear for younger people so they really get the picture , i pray for all of your children that they be emotionally strong and grow up healthy
My entire life and it’s still going on
My fostermother did all of them. Gave back to a childrenshome and then tried to get me locked up in a mental institution. Thankfully they didn't believe her!
Yes very true. I've been there. My parents are like this everyday. They used to talk bad about me to ex gfs etc
All of the above has happened to me. The penny finally dropped for me this year when I turned 51 years of age that I was dealing with a narcissistic mother, it was a revelation and an eye opener for me.
My only regret is not realising the behaviours beforehand 😢 and as a mother myself; I pray I’m not like them towards my daughter.
I’m slowly getting over feeling as though I’m the ‘bad person’ thanks to a great support system of my friends.
The fact that you’re able to even consider the fact you might be a narc means you’re probably not! You’re conscious and aware of how you interact with the world. Narcissists are only aware of how the world reacts to them
I Im 49 and finally stood up for myself to my dad AND mom. They both abuse me.
Omg relationship is true my cousin brother was supportive of me to move out, my parents demonised him, and my narc father turned everybody against me!
Good god I have finally moved out
Spot on! My mother lives this and it’s pathetic and very disturbing. The woman brings up things I “said” that hurt her feelings when I was child 😂
This gives me chills, it’s exactly like my parents. All these 3 things.
Thank you, sir, you have gave me the strength to stand up to my mom and not be scared of her anymore.
I've protected myself by sharing my life very minimally with my narc mom. I share very basic things about my relationship to my mom and I've blocked her on my social media so she has no hold on any information about my life . Its really what that had to come down to. Because they use anything against you.
Yes. Absolutely the 3 points are spot on.
Your each and every line is correct. I am the victim and under mental trauma. Still suffering
My mom has done all three of these. I moved out with my boyfriend 3..almost 4 years ago, and she has done nothing but make up stories about my bf not being good enough and break us up so many times, and guilt trip me over and over again. So thank you for making me feel like it's not my fault for her crazy issues.
Exactly! This is exactly what they did!
My mother asked me five minutes ago something quite controlling that wasn't even her business. I refuse to answer. Her answer: "you just lost your mother".
Which is funny because it's the family version of the "you just lost one customer".
Become so powerful that nothing can control you except yourself.
The narcissist will try to destroy you since you’re a child. Little by little chipping away at your esteem. She’ll claim to love you then she’ll tell you you’re doing whatever it is wrong, you’re lying, she’ll build you up, then break you down again. Occasionally she’ll tell you she’s proud of you because you’re an extension of her. When people compliment you because of you’re talent’s she give you a back handed compliment right in front of them. She’ll reduce you to tears & you’ll be looked at like your Mother is crazy & really smart people will tell you in one ear & out the other don’t listen to her. Sometimes, she will be nice & take you shopping, to nice places to make up for her bad Mothering & her guilt. When you do well, she’ll sometimes be generous then she’ll tell you you’re costing her way too much money. She will bang the phone like a child, give you the silent treatment, act like a lunatic, she will cut you down like no other.
You bring home a lawyer, a Doctor, an engineer, she will question if they really are who they say they are. She will tell you that you should get married because, that’s what she did. You get tired of her manipulating & constantly questioning & controlling youre whereabouts so, you move away pursuing a career. No matter what you do according to her if you didn’t have bad luck you wouldn’t have any.
If she hears an incorrect rumour about you getting a certain car on Instagram she’s calling you screaming at you for no reason. If she thinks you came into town because, someone thought they saw someone that looked like you she wants to know why you didn’t call her.
Wow, my mom is exactly like that, she’s been mad at me for the past 3 days for no reason at all, I want to move out so bad…
My mother did all of them
Mine to + more. I ended up moving 150 miles away to escape it- 26 years later, distance and no communication, i still get blamed for everything. Dad died earlier this year and my mum was trying through my kids to send me a birthday gift, all my kids said she feels guilty and refused to help her.
@@mskipling5655 my mother reported me to police station and turned all of my relatives against me , she scared my gf and broke her from me, sold my father's house after he died and expelled me to streets 👍🏾,also she made me marry a woman who is chronically ill with rheumatoid
@@rudramohesh sounds like we both have real nice mums. Our stories don’t differ much. Sounds awful i know but one day we will have proper closure
@@mskipling5655
Sometimes, if you have siblings,, even after they die, the dynamic won't change; your siblings will still blame you for everything and will try to destroy you.
That's their legacy, their minions getting their roles plus C-PTDS for your whole life to come.
It's a generational curse.
@@Lyrielonwind i have 2 brothers. They both know what she is but are to frightened to walk away like me, having watched what shes done to me and my kids. We are all much older ourselves now and basically none of us see or care about each other. I must admit i do wonder if either of them will attend her funeral- I obviously wont. unfortunately i didnt get to say buy to my dad , sometimes i think 70 years - he deserved a medal- then think he was a very weak man who didnt protect us ( I include my siblings) from her.
All I can say is wow! Big eye opener for me. My mom has constantly done these things for as long as I can remember.
All of them I have a lot of experience with narcissists and it was the ones closest to me that made me realize I deserve better
My Dad throws me under the buss every minute of his life . My Mom copies him and my sis and husband are the same person evil
On Thanksgiving Day about 5 years ago, my mom took some food I had baked and threw it all over the lawn. My dad' didn't do anything about it
Co- dependant enabling father's to abusive narc mother's are the worst. Especially for daughters dealing with narc mother's. They never protect you at all and they leave you abandoned. Looking to other older men for protection and guidance...
@@incognito3599 True
@@incognito3599So true, that's my experience too.
All of them especially coming from my Biological family and my Great Aunt. I just continued walking away from the Narcissistic Drama and I'm still here!! Let the pigs wallow in their muck!! Your real friends will always be there for you!! ♥️😊
Exact thing happened to me.. spot on 100% video no lie!! My relationship my cars my homecalled me disgusting names and my wife and sold all my things.. narcissistic mother of mine for sure.. and them I abandoned her supposedly..I'm done!!!! I've moved on now...my wife helped me wake up to it..thanks God I'm doing better now
My mommy dearest in a nutshell. She's in phase 3 now. Poor pitiful Linda. I've been no contact since Easter 2022. Side note...she lives literally 3 minutes from me. I have a feeling she's going to "drop by" one day when she knows I'm here by myself. Lord, I pray she don't.
Same exact scenario here. I really don't expect here to ever reach out to me again. And that's all right.
I have grieved the loss of us and have no intentions to return.
I FACED THE WORST SHE AND HER FAMILY TRIED TO KILL ME FROM BIRTH AND TRIED EVERYTHING IN THEIR EVIL POWER TO DESTROY ME BUT GOD SAVED MY LIFE HE PROTECTED ME AND NOW THEY ASK THEMSELVES HOW AM STILL ALIVE WHILE THEY ARE MISERABLE LIKE HELL NOT KNOWING THAT GOD SAID IN HIS WORD TOUCH NOT MY ANOINTED AND DO MY PROPHETS NO HARM ,STAY PRAYED UP AND FORGIVE THEM
SHE just did this A SEC ago. Another drama started by her, using me as the scapegoat and her being backed up by my sister who is another one of her golden child whilst my little bro is the silver. SHE IS JEALOUS of my FUTURE relationships and ALWAYS TRIES TO TURN HIM AGAINST ME IN SUPPORT OF HER, knowingly that he would stand up for her by using religious guilt trip and 'filial piety' as a means of self entitlement to save her own face and regain control and isolate me as 'THE ONE WITH THE ISSUE'
My dad is constantly on a pity party for one. 🥳 I do my best not to take any notice of it now. I live in the present moment and do what I can to enjoy my life. He doesn't control me anymore ( but oh how he tries) I tore up that contract long ago. Keep trying dad I'm more stronger than you'll ever know. 💪💪
My parents are toxic😢My parents have done everything you said ....My parents broke my relationship of so many yrs by telling lies..I want justice and my partner back...I want to go far far away from my parents from where they will never find me...🙂
Well at least you recognise it and want your partner back. I hope you dont mind me saying, but if appropriate, pls acknowledge the manipulation to your former partner! It might mean something to them. You probably know this, but i thought i would say it out loud here, cause i am the former partner of a man with a narc mum, and in the end we did break up. However, it would mean the world to me to have him come back and acknowledge the harm his mother did to us. Xx good luck. I hope things work out for you both.
Why can't you go to college here. There's a community College just down the road. If you go away to college I WILL DIE!
😂 give your parent an academy award 🏆
Same
Yup, Sounds exactly like my mother.
Whatever you said matches with my mother😢
I have nothing to say. God bless. Im moving on.
"Weaponize Sympathy" Wow...I needed to hear that
Yup, I've experienced them from certain family members. I went no contact and my physical and mental health has improved
Yes all of these👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💯
So perfectly mentioned. Thanks Dear👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼 You indeed know the insider secrets of narc.
Have you been speaking to my mom?!