The Benefits of Crying
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 พ.ค. 2020
- We often believe that the very worst and most immature thing to do might be to cry about our sorrows. In fact, the ability to go off for a while and have a very intense cry about how awful everything is is in fact a crucial bit of wisdom - and a very adult move as well. Being a crybaby isn't just something children should be afraid of being called, it's something every adult should be proud to remember about themselves.
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“One of the wisest things about young children is that they have no shame or compunction whatsoever about bursting into tears, perhaps because they have a more accurate and less pride-filled sense of their place in the world: they know they are extremely small beings in a hostile and unpredictable realm, that they can’t control much of what is happening around them, that their powers of understanding are limited and that there is a great deal to feel distressed, melancholy and confused about. Why not then, on a fairly regular basis, sometimes for only a few moments at a time, collapse into some highly salutary sobs at the sheer scale of the sorrow of being alive?...”
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If I had a bit more money but thats gonna take a couole of years😂 love your vids though
Research has found that in addition to being self-soothing, shedding emotional tears releases oxytocin and endorphins. These chemicals make people feel good and may also ease both physical and emotional pain. In this way, crying can help reduce pain and promote a sense of well-being.
Hi
I'd cry.
If I was even able to.
Not being able to cry is the norm for me. No matter how hard life strikes me down, I scrub the blood off my forehead, reset my broken bones, and keep walking.
I want to cry, I TRY to cry... but I can't.
And an inability to have vulnerability even when you actively try to have it... is just death being koy.
The saddest part about being sad is not being able to shed a tear.
YES! This is so true! That's literally what I feel like ALL THE TIME!
so we share the same level of emotional deprivation? bullied too much , or stressed too much to the point where you demand to shed some tears but your brain blocks them all, instead you get a runny nose; because your brain is completely convinced that nobody deserves to see your emotional breakdown because you reached a point where you realized that nobody around you deserves to see you vulnerable. it leads to depression with time, and to loathing and hatred towards oneself and the society a whole. i know it too well.
@@TrueInvisible yes, I once was like you, guys. I became able to cry again doing body scans. there are lots on youtube. body scans and then breathing medidations. just stay there with the body and eventually the suppressed tears will flow (it will not be pretty). but you will feel the best you've felt in years. have courage. stay there, where the pain is.
@@marceloz7894 after having not released a tear in 14 years now , i may try it.
That is depression my friend. I have had this for so long, but it’s all about surrendering and realizing it’s perfectly okay to be sad and cry for whatever you are sad about.
If you don’t cry right away, be patient with yourself - in my case, i was very dishonest with how i felt to the point of numbness, but when i showed love to myself, by being gentle with myself, i got tremendous progress.
Hope it helps and best of wishes to you :)
There is a reason why it hurts so bad to hold back tears and feels so good to just let the tears flow...
@@bruno_kunda You say maybe but you're completely right my man.
@@bruno_kunda Taoism has entered the chat
@@bruno_kunda What you've said is actually the philosophy of wu wei.
No pain no gain haha
There's also a reason why broccoli taste horrible and donuts tastes delicious.
I remember a therapist once said that crying can be a sign of a healthy emotional response
FU... I'm screwed, I do not remember the Last Time i Did cry seriously, even as a Kid the most would be red eyes, although when I recover some of My memories a small tear runs my cheek,I clean it and continue doing what i do.
Bernhard Von Barret theres probably nothing wrong with that.
@@bernhardvonbarret1729 dont worry, it doesn't mean that you HAVE to cry to be emotionally stable. It's just that crying can relieve a great deal of stress, anger or sadness with some people. Everyone has their own ways of doing that. For me it always used to be crying but now that I'm in puberty I cry less, not because I want to look tough but because I just have less the need to do it.
I miss it though, it was always very nice to cry. But now I just care less about the world around me and I'd most of the time listen to music. I don't like this, I wish I were as empathetic as I was as a child. Or maybe I still am but now because I'm in puberty I'm a bit less empathetic? And it will come back once I exit puberty? I don't know. What I do know is that I loved caring about the world and people around me, and crying was always very nice. :)
Do you think that I have lost my empathy or that it will return or that I still have it but don't notice it because of the coronavirus or still have it but don't notice it because of puberty or....?
@@V-D. To Be Honest do not know, since I do not know you in person nor I can see your quirks and determine your actions, as for that do not worry, It is QUITE hard to lose empathy if you have been raised properly like my Parents did with me, and I Hate it, iI want to be Full Chaotic Evil XD.
But the Injury I have is not in the frontal lobe so dunno, but still losing other faculties, except empathy, if you do yo can go full Psychopath Route XD, no, what you experience is normal, it is part of the "adult" world, meaning that you have to become a Monster like Peterson says to be able to survive this world and be able to defend yourself and not be Naive and Gullible so others take advantage of you.In some sense you need to adapt and incorporate your shadow, meaning the traits you dislike of your persona and that you shove quite deep so you can ignore them and feel in peace, which is an error, since that we ignore tends to grow bigger.
But aside from that no, I think not. it is quite Uncommon or even Rare for someone to lose Empathy when you are an adult, it is more of a trait you are born with due to genetic and environmental effects, that develops as time goes, if you feel bad kicking a puppy or a kitten or doing something that you acknowledge as bad then you are Ok, if you know it is bad and you do not feel anything or even pleasure then you are on a Bad path XD.Not Caring is Indicative you are shielding yourself because you can get hurt easily.Or you are an Stoic and do not know it XD.
@@bernhardvonbarret1729 wow, thanks for the long message. I saw you commenting on another comment that you had kidney stones... was that the injury you were talking about?
I want to thank you for taking your time by writing such a long piece, I do sincerely thank you. :)
I think that what you're saying is true, it's probably just because now I'm 16 and I feel different than when I was 13 it's because of puberty. But it does still TRULY feel like I don't care, not that I don't care because I don't want to get hurt....
And what's a stoic person? Stoicism is something from philosophy right?
I want to believe that it's puberty but I don't know exactly; no one does. The only way I can find out if it's puberty that causes me to be less empathetic is by waiting until it's over.... I still have moments where I feel empathetic for people, but I don't know exactly if that's always.
Another possibility that I think of now is that I know myself for 16 years now that the specialty of being empathetic hasn't changed in strength but because I'm so used to me having it, maybe it's so that I got used to me having it and so I don't notice it that much? I don't know, honestly. It feels different for me to have conversations. Saying sorry, etc. is all harder for me than before.
But, I did notice that I can control my anger better (I am not an angry person in general, but I used to get angry now and then like everyone does). For example, a few days ago I felt like a friend betrayed me because him and I decided to hang out, and then he texted me that he was going to play soccer with other people... So he wanted to play soccer and not hang out, which hurt me, and when I confronted him about it he accused me of something else... I felt rage coming up but I just left it and texted him calmly....
Dear School of life,
Thank you for giving us emotional support and advice. It really means a lot to people like us.
badal singh Yeah, I wish more people knew about this channel and can understand the meaningfulness of these videos.
@@cheese_6443 hahahaha thanks your tips.
@Guess What Animation Yes, it's sad that, only women can cry. According to society those men that cry are considered weak and are told to "Man up" and "Don't cry like girls".But when a women cry she is given emotional support and help. These kind of people fail to see that men have emotions too. But right now men just have to bury their emotions and their sadness. And I think this is why men commit more mass shootings, there is an ancient proverb related to this " A man who is not accepted in the village, will burn down the whole village just to feel it's warmth".
and dear school (like a real school)
fuck you for giving us depression
My grandfather passed away when I was 15. I was devastated! I was full of tears, but was afraid to cry. A minister at the funeral home appeared beside me, as he saw I was in distress. He told me...never be ashamed to cry. Tears are healing. I have remembered those words me entire life and I am now almost 60.
I remember when my 14 year old nephew died in May 13th of this year. I was devastated but I couldn't get my tears out yet. Took me a few minutes and I finally cried 3 times around night time. My stepdad called me the same night while he and my mother were driving 600 miles away. He was wondering if I was okay. Told him I was trying and after I hung up, I dropped my phone on the ground and cried really hard.
When we got to the funeral home, I let it out again after sitting by my nephews death bed. My dad came in the room, hugged me and told me to let it out. I wasn't ashamed to cry in front of my family. About one week after my nephews death, my 5 year old pet rabbit died at an animal clinic where my mom works. When my sister told me the news, I dropped my stuff I was holding and cried over her shoulder. I had a rough 2 weeks but I'm doing a little better. It's pretty hard to lose 2 family members like that. I believe God is taking care of them along with my grandparents.
I just had a cry after my nap yesterday then i laughed for the rest of the day
Nicely done ✅ lol I wish I was so organised
this touched me, for real. thanks.
Fucking cutest comment I’ve ever read
RiRi Jane Millz sometimes there is no logical reason for crying. Your brain just knows when you need a release. The point is not to strangle it thinking it’s a form of weakness.
@@ImprovementisGrowth
Yup
I remember once crying for no reason or over dumb reasons that aren't coming from sadness
It's weird but sometimes feels good
If we would look at the world accurately and honestly, and with an open heart, we would start sobbing and never stop.
I usually fall asleep after a while.
I think that we should remember that there is also beauty and love in the world. Life just has both sides and yes there is a lot of sorrow but nature, love, compassion, and much more things are a big force too. This is hard to see sometimes but this is just as real like all the hard things
I cry easily, and was hated for being over dramatic, weak, childish, fake, spoilt..etc by my ex. Now I cry when no one is looking. No one has to see my vulnerabilities, they don’t deserve it.
part of becoming an adult is hardening to reality. at least you aren't brainwashed into church philosophy where they keep people thinking childish and taking on life's problems. that is so fricken stupid.. oh woah is me, some mythological being will handle it all i dont have to think or worry just be a 5 year old. Well congradu-fckin-lations for you having human emotions it's signs you are experiencing life unlike those nutcases. You are the normal person !
I was the opposite. In the past I only cried by myself... now I have a lovely fiance since over a year and lots of difficult things happen in that time and I cried a lot in front of him (my mom fighting against cancer etc.) And now she seems to recover although it doesn't look good in the beginning and she had her last therapy this week and yesterday I start crying, when I realized that she will be healthy again and my fiance hold me and told me to let it out and I felt realised. What I want to say is that you must find a good guy... I know not easy, but a great guy would never take your weakest moments against you... wish you all the best.
@@ireefree2024 ah... wish you the best with your mom. It's always okau to cry, I would never judge you!😇🙂
Just don't care what he thinks! It's so relieving to cry in front of others! Others only say that it's weak to cry because they don't have the power to do it. "The best characteristics come from a place that is often seen by most as weak, insecure and immature." 😘
Irena K. But it’s totally fine to cry over your mother having cancer, it’s normal even for men, and certainly appropriate. If you cry every time someone is remotely rude to you that’s different but it sounds like you cried over real problems.
Crying is one of the BEST ways of letting go. Let yourself cry ❤️🍀🌸
Can't even when tried
The fuck is up with those emojis?
no
Crying is good
Trust me
I was feeling so much pain in my heart
But after crying
I feel so good 🥰🥰
this channel is single handedly carrying me through all my quarantine breakdowns
Whats causing you to breakdown? Just the cabin fever and lack of socialising?
ZSaSzquatch tell em bro, still don’t get why people are going crazy over this quarantine thing
ZSaSzquatch basically, it’s definitely not helping my already fragile mental health
@@ruyax4390 lol same
Mr Anderson cry it out hahah
Crying is actually good for you, there's scientific evidence that it's really good for mental health
That makes sense
oh so "science". The phrase "scientific evidence" has become a cliche and trigger point for me now.
Yash Pal Goyal Well for me, I think back to my own experiences of holding something in that’s been troubling me. I felt stressed. So it’s probably good to just let your feelings unknot.
@@cheese_6443 Thanks for reply. I was not saying that crying doesnt help. I just was saying that the reliance on scientific shit for everything has to be lowered for things related with emotions. Like why do have to be fucking machines, let us be what we were - emotional humans.
Reliance on data can rather maybe upped for other things where it matters more.
(ps: I am not rude or whatever... just being informal)
Only when the tears come out from stress/distress. Removes some toxins/produces good chemicals.
If you look closely enough... grown-ups are all just a bunch of toddlers with bills
r/iam14andthisisdeep
This isn’t fake deep, this is pretty true
@@Dfoskdty hehe thisisdeep leddit sub!!! comment is actually super dumb!!! xDDDD i am SOO SMART!!!!!
@@ponponpatapon9670 bruh your replying to a 9 month-old comment do you honestly believe that I didn't change in those 9 months.
@@Dfoskdty tbh? yeah. i expect nothing but the worst out of people online
"That we have one and a half good friends on the planet" that hit home
I just had a mental breakdown and decided to look up "benefits of crying" and I'm so glad for finding this video
Thank you so much, School of Life, you have no idea how much you guys mean to me
i've just cried for 4 hours this afternoon and now this video appears in my recommendation like WTF HOW COULD U READ MY MIND?! Anyway, thank you School of Life u r the most understanding channel ever im gonna cry again ok
ok so how can I cry?
Take care of yourself ♥️
Are you a pisces zodiac sign?
your google phone heard you crying
@@Design_errorr thanks! you too❤
Sometimes I need a "10 Minute Breakdown" (TMB). I'm able to calmly tell everyone I need a TMB, and I either retire to my bedroom, or a friend may hug me while I sob quietly. I only need 10 minutes, now and then, and I always feel better afterwards.
That's interesting I think I need to try this method👌
That soumds like a really healthy way to do it, good job.
Wow i wish i was able to do that, For me its hard to adress why i need to cry and that makes it hard to start.
I lost my friends, don't have a tub, last time I had a physical contact with a person was two months ago and I felt quite suicidal for many years. Oh! And I can't cry. Last time I cried was 7 years ago. But I'm going to therapy on Saturday, which is good
All the best to you! :)
seems like you have many repressed feelings. once you manage to shed the first tear, you won’t be able to stop. it’s good, be sure to allow that.
How are you doing now?
@@angryalientv4964 thank you, still pretty shitty, like nothing good is going to happen to me
As a child I was a huge crybaby, and it unfortunately led to my family scolding me every time they so much as noticed me sobbing. I never learned to hold back tears and I grew up depressive, so it was kind of... hell. Stunted me a lot in learning to deal with myself and my emotions. It's been a tough road, but I'm trying my best to unlearn that.
In therapy, my psych would just tell me to cry it all out. It felt healing. Liberating, in a way.
I’ll take this into note. I’m 13 and I’m also a huge crybaby with my parents firmly telling me to stop crying. I at least now know that crying is good for me. I’m crying over a research topic cause I don’t know what to do for it, but my breakdown right now gave me inspiration. Thanks!
I can relate to your response; my parents, mainly my mother, often kept saying 'you're too sensitive' when ever I got upset and well, yeah, I do think I have some form of depression now because of this and maybe a few things from my childhood.
I do my best to cry when ever I feel I should, but I should look into some kind of afforadable therapy in the future to help explore my underlying issues.
@@shelbiewilliams4027 Most sensitive ppl are emotionally intelligent, and are strong empaths. That is why they are kind because they know to treat ppl the way you'd like to be treated. How ever they can be very defensive if they feel misunderstood, spiking their emotions. But! Talking it out usually fixes it.
It's interesting and nothing to be a shamed about.
@@ex-x7079 you've put this so clearly. This is who I am and what I feel when someone takes these emotions as being "too sensitive" or "weak" . And I've often been portrayed as someone who's overdramatic, to gain attention.
But I'm glad there are people who feel the same as I do and I'm happy to come across them and this video.
Researchers have proven what many caregivers have already figured out on their own: Sometimes there’s nothing like a good cry to make you feel better. While society often callously considers shedding tears to be a sign of weakness, it is a cathartic experience and highly evolved behavior.
Crying is not only a human response to sorrow and frustration, it’s also a healthy one. It is a natural way to reduce stress that, if left unchecked, can have negative physical effects on the body, including increased risk of cardiovascular disease and other stress-related disorders. In addition to the physical benefits, research shows that 85 percent of women and 73 percent of men feel less sad and angry after shedding some tears.
i love that when you post that's what I'm literally feeling..
Everytime!
Same, they are big brother of the emotions
Crying really helps us out in venting out our feelings and it's pure science that it relieves us from the emotional load. And the moment, we let go of that emotional load, we start making sense of the reality and then we can make better decisions.
Research has found that in addition to being self-soothing, shedding emotional tears releases oxytocin and endorphins. These chemicals make people feel good and may also ease both physical and emotional pain. In this way, crying can help reduce pain and promote a sense of well-being.
I cry alone but I can never cry in front of others. My parents treated negative emotions from me like taboo, not intentionally but they were always saying I was too sensitive. I never hardened, but I learned to sob completely silently by the time I was nine. To anyone who’s a parent... tough love has its place, but nurturing does too. Sometimes your kids need it.
I cry alone but I can never cry in front of others.
Trust issues. I have it too.
Crying can be a great release of stress,
There’s a quote from the movie Dear Zindagi it says "If you dont cry wholeheartedly how will you laugh wholeheartedly?" letting all kinds of emotions to be expressed freely is really important no matter how vulnerable it makes you.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about letting go of emotions..
It’s okay to cry it’s okay to show emotions it’s going to be okay just hold in there after all you made it this far don’t give up
Thank you. I really needed this.
Benefit of crying for tough men: It's a way to sweat from your eyes to get more swol!
ha ha
Yeah, but don't cry in front of women, they don't like that.
"the need for a cry"
when you cheat on a test and still manage to fail
I once googled the WHOLE ANSWERS and wrote like a lot. So I had a very Good feeling before getting the results but guess what, I failed :)
Seth Colby our online exam’s answer sheets were leaked. School didn’t know it
This channel seems to always know exactly how I’m feeling
I cried a few days ago and it was months or even a year since I cried, it felt relieving
I find your channel to be very comforting and helpful. The narrator's voice is quite soothing. Also I love the sense of self acceptance which is there in your videos.
I have this weird feeling if I haven't cried within a week or two, which is why I take time to listen to some sad music or watch a touching movie so I could shed a tear. Makes me feel more connected with my inner longings.
I love this channel so much! Thank you for being so consistent with your content. Each one of your videos feels like a gentle hug.
I only cried if someone else crying in pain, if only all human sincerely want to help each other.
Crying in front of others of course embarrassing but I think it heals me for some reasons 😂😊
It's been made terribly apparent I'm not allowed to cry. Because I'm a man. Not even allowed to be less than my usual outgoing self. Even though I had suffered some of the hardest losses that befall humans in their lifetime in a very short span. I wept in front of my girlfriend of multiple years, I couldn't help it, no one could. She was put off and hesitant to comfort me. Which I never expected considering I had comforted her many times in the past. I quickly stowed the rest of my outburst when I noticed and never did that again. But our relationship had taken on a new dynamic partially because I was griefstricken and more reticent but partially because her view of me had dimmed. Relationship fell apart shortly thereafter. Even my male friends did not respond with sympathy and patience despite knowledge of the events, I only outwardly displayed a less cheery than normal countenance and less talkative demeanor. Which again confused me because they had gone through hard times and I had always tried to help them and be sympathetic. Being abandoned while enduring terrible grief is like drowning and someone tossing you a cinderblock instead of a life preserver. Logically, I'd like to write it off as bad luck and surrounding myself with bad people, But the experience was searing enough that logic will not erase it. Maybe through your videos more people will learn emotional maturity and won't treat the people they care about like lepers when they endure trauma.
I love you're video intro. Please don't ever change it. It prepare me to feel positive.
One and a half good friends on the planet? You overestimate my social circle.
Out of control, this world is scary, one need to cry.
I don’t know how to cry anymore. My identity is so confused and manipulated.
Andy Peterson this
Great video. I think if you don't acknowledge yourself and your limits, then you'll often find that circumstances that push beyond those limits will sneak up on you, leading to potentially catastrophic results.
thank you, really truly answers the grief, how can we or are we allowed to even ever cry. i adore school for life!
THIS CHANNEL IS LIKE MY PHILOSOPHY CLASS BUT ENTERTAINING ❤️
...... no words for u SoL. U have changed my life for better, and have shed many of my doubts away with ur videos. I wish u nice days :)
"moments of losing courage belong to a brave life"
I love to cry when it's needed
'Sobbing like an adult!' So good :D
Really love this! I've always been an emotional person. I always cry at films and all that. But over the last few years due to a situation with my childhood, I've always struggled to process negative emotions. So even when sad things happen, it doesn't really come out of me until something really triggers it. So working towards being free flowing with my emotions is something I am really striving for! Thank you for the video
it's been 6 yrs since I had to put my cat to sleep...it's something I've continued to struggle with to this day and when I think about it I'm overwhelmed with grief and cry uncontrollably...
We need you now more than ever ..
Thanks
I literally needed this and its crazy how this just came out in my during my situation, thank you guys One million times over ❤️
keep up the amazing work!! thank you so much for educating us!!!
Perfect timing I would like to say. I just sobbed an hour ago and this video popped up. Great
As I become older, I discovered how HEALTHY is was to cry. Holding the emotions end that causes you to cry can lead to ulcers, heart attacks, or violently striking out. It’s those who hold it in ,who praise themselves on not showing emotions are dangerous.
I just want to say that you have a really nice and calm voice and you should continue doing what you have started.
Incredible! Thank you 🙏🏽 Keep doing what you do ❤️🙏🏽
I needed this video so much, School of Life gets me
Bruh I balled my eyes out at the end of an audiobook, its called city of thieves and I just let go of my deep repression of negative emotions. Never felt better than after I was done crying.
I literally was looking for a crying tutorial, to help me cry. Its so important to me to evacuate, but I am in a society where men don't cry and as a dad to young children, I don't want to cry in front of them, but maybe I should. Anyways, had a panic attack with chest pains and the whole lot, went to cry, much better. We have more power within us than we can ever imagine
Tears are the physical expression of emotional cleansing. Love a good cry.
I like how the beginning of the video explained the reason why babies are crying, and how they are exactly the same reason for adults to cry. That just made all the sense.
Valuable information, thank you sir
Your uploads are surprisingly mind reading!
my grandma passed away 3 days ago and someone i love is leaving for someplace far far away very soon. it's been very hard holding back tears. i don't think i will ever run out of tears.
Thank you for all you do.
I talked about this yesterday with a friend. This video is made for us.
Seeing so much disparity around, homeless people , stray animals , loss of my parents - foster and biological...the hurt and grief I have gone through ..well, one thing is constant -The more I cry the more I pray for everyone and myself and work on bettering my karma.
Sometimes I watch a drama whenever I feel like crying so I'll think that I cried because of what I watched.
I thought I was the only one did that! I cry often when I'm watching something sad, and I think it's partly so that I have an "excuse" to cry.
I’m actually jealous of people that can cry, I never seem to ever and worry there’s all this bad juju built up inside I can’t let out 🤷🏼♀️👀👀👀
same :/
It will eventually come out. Try taking acid? Maybe ur too good at burying the thought and emotions and the neuron pathways in ur brain have become accustomed to doing that. Acid forces new neuron pathways in the brain and literally opens ur mind up to thinking in ways you’ve never thought before. My first acid trip brought a lot of the insecurities and other buried emotions to the surface. During the trip it was rough and I broke down crying, ugly crying in the days that followed. Friends that I didn’t realize would care stepped up and I realized this was exactly what I needed. New clinical research suggest there are a vast array of benefits that can come from the controlled use of psychedelics.
Same, I feel the deep sadness and I wanna cry but nothing comes... I feel like I’m not a human being anymore.
Its okay you can learn to be more in touch with your emotions, Its a proces.
Great video man
I used to hide whenever I cried so no one would ever find out and think of me as ‘weak’ but vulnerability is all part of the human bonding experience. Hearing the words “it’s ok to cry” is very comforting and this video was a great reminder. (Perfect timing, as today was the first time I’ve cried in months ahah.) In all seriousness, even though ppl tend to say “aww don’t cry!” while comforting someone, crying can be a much needed cathartic release.
"All humans are vulnerable"
⭐️It is so much meaningful info and true fact. I always try to remember this feelings and feel so much free. I meditate all the time owing to having positive energy and emotions. thanks :) ⭐️
Perfect timing ❤️
I heard that women cry on average 30-60 times A YEAR.. even if it’s 60.. that’s like 5 times a month.. dude sometimes I cry 5 times in a freaking day. I’ve always been a huge crybaby since I was a child and I’m 20 now. Sometimes crying feels like a burden because it makes me so tired and gives me headaches :(
Is there a video a video about controlling your tears, to make one less likely to cry? I feel like I cry way too often for a 31 year old human.
This channel is so insightful and helpful, keep em coming! 🙂
I’d be proud of such vulnerability. Your emotions are probably important to you - I wouldn’t let that go personally.
@@bigh012345 that's so sweet thank you... Im thinking of taking acting lessons to help control them a little more
I can't cry anymore
Crying releases mental stress af.
Im the therapist friend. Im expecyed to remain composed so i can help others, and support them. I often feel extremely lonely and rlly sad. But i cant let it out bc i dont want to bother people and instead of comforting me, people get frustrated at me for crying bc i cant get my wprds out it hurts too much. I bottle it all up until i cant take it and then i cry at night when no one hears, and no one judges, and no one consistently asks what wrong rather than comforting. But recently my bestfriend who i always support, asked me how i was so strong during tough times for her, for me, for my family. And I immediately began sobbing stupidly, and i explained how i wasnt. But if no ones going to be that person, then i will. So i block out those emotions until i feel safe to let them go. That was the best cry of my entire life. And i cry on a regular basis because not only does it make me feel better. It allows me to continiue supporitng the people i love so strongly.
I love your content! Thank you!
People need to understand that just because you are a grown up doesn't mean you've got everything put together. Also the animation is simple and good.
I love School of Life. Keeping it real.
Dear School of Life, I love ur video a lot, helps me every time. I was thinking, what about making audiobooks??
i cried harder than i ever have (at least in a long long time) yesterday when all my housemates moved out of our college house for the last time, and I had to spend the night alone.
Though I’m doing it again tonight, I don’t feel as crushingly lonely, so it must’ve helped. These and Psych2Go’s videos are always exactly what I need at exactly the right time :)
Crying means your week in that moment, but strong enough to keep going
When I had a nervous breakdown a few years ago, I cried multiple times a day for months. Honestly, I’d say the bulk of my days were spent trying to not cry at work, and then finding a place at work or home to really sob it out. It was so intense, such a relief, it was the emotional equivalent of sprinting uphill, and then cooling off at the top. But, I kept crying. Month after month. I couldn’t tell if this was healthy or not, so I finally started taking medicine and began my recovery.
It hurts more when you can't even shed tears anymore as an adult.
Is this some adult thing that no one directly says or something? This and many of these comments lead me to believe that some people just lose the ability to cry when they get older or something
@@starrynight1165 no, we didn't lose our ability to cry. The point is we choose to stop crying over things as time passed by. We all tried to become emotionally strong and it affects us unconsciously which causes the inability to shed tears even when we wanted to breakdown sometimes.
@@pamhoihlian1129im 26 and I've held back my tears for years but.. I feel like if I really wanted to cry. I could .
@@cardoone6091 I'm happy to know that. I also realised that it's definitely okay to cry(˘⌣˘ )
When you are early but cant come up with jokes.
thanks. much needed
A lot of times, watching school of life videos, gives me a sense of longing.
Even if I wanted to cry I can't do it.
I can't remember the last time I cried for myself. I usually cry for others.
Your an empath. That's not a bad thing. But learn to cry for yourself. Even infront of people. It's a strong ability.
as a trans man, i thought for the longest time i had to stop being emotional in order to be perceived as strong and masculine. for the longest time, i held back tears so i’d be seen as strong, but i now know that real strong people aren’t afraid to show their emotions and be openly vulnerable. thanks school of life, you’ve saved me :)
I write daily about how I feel, I find that emotions like these come up frequently from the most bizarre places. But I feel writing and letting your emotions out is key to real happiness, not that happiness is the goal.
This just relates to me..I am a student and all call me crybaby just because I cry a lot ..yes I do cry a lot because I cant hide my emotions and feelings inside trapped Ijust allow them to flow through tears and that is what makes me lighthearted,refreshing and happy..once I am done with crying over things which hurted me ...later I never even think about it. It just goes into oblivion.Thank you for this cool video❤😍👌👌
It's easy to understand the need of crying, explained beautifully here. But what about the how?
How do we cry, men and women that grew up hearing that crying was a bad thing. How do we let it flow?
During my time in my first semester of college, I wasn't emotionally prepared for the things I was going to go through. But thankfully, I had a friend would always allow me to be open with crying in front of her whenever I was stressed.
A saying she always consistently told me (and has been stuck in my mind till this day) was this:
"Don't feel bad about wanting to cry. Crying is just the emotional orgasm we need every now and then!"
This channel looks helpful. I started learn English this morning. I'll comeback if my English skills improve! :3 ❤
That's life, we grow up and we cant cry and express some feelings, cause it means weakness. :(
I've been crying almost every day these days... Glad I'm doing something right