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Hey guys! This is a short unfinished video. My laptop broke and I’m using my iPhone. It’s better quality but I need to get a camera for vlogging.

People prioritize who they want or feel is worthy. I know a bunch of people that pull the “I’m too busy” card but will text,hangout, and MAKE TIME for the ones they rather be with.

Great video! With all the violence that’s happening in NY, I am not surprised by this. The news usually have some story of a man committing some type of crime. I usually walk pretty fast when outside just to ensure I am ready to run if anything happens lol. I usually don’t like when others walk behind me either but if they are cute, they can tag along 👀😂

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I’m sorry you had these experiences. Honestly, I hate that society enforces gender based behavior. For me, I have no interest in them and whether others find me masculine. At the end of the day, I am just a human that was born a male and now living life. Even if I was born female, it wouldn’t change the fact that I am human with a brain. Thus, I should have every right to express myself and emotions with no shame. Why should we care if crying is deemed as being unmasculine. I am a human with emotions so wanting to cry is inevitable. Overall, I think we need to care less about how other perceives us and just learn to love and embrace ourselves. Caring about what other people think or whether we fit a “social type” creates so much unnecessary stress.

Thank you for video! Can relate. Good luck for you and for all of us!

don't be soo hard on yourself. is no wonder that many today are negatively surprised entering the job market upon all these promises, was also bad 10 years ago. career and money is quite important, so is a spiritual life. some years ago got into buddhism, meditation and such. is a very good way to expand your horizon.

you’re so interesting and relatable! love your openness, helps me feel comfortable with my own challenges & struggles. 💖✌️😎

I'm sorry this happened it's truly amazing your here today ❤

You're not a loser, bro. I know because I've met them and I've been one. You've been dealt a shitty hand yet you're clearly an above average human being. You're gonna be alright.

From a book I read, " If I must fall, I will rise each time a better man," learn from your experience and do better next time, don't blame your situation on anyone like you said. Pay attention to your habits and choose your friends carefully. Paraphrasing from the same book series " The most important step a man can take is always the next one". Journey before destination borther.

I just want to say, you're a good man

Went through the same experience with jobs as a late teen. Worked for four years doing retail and swore I never wanted to work with customers ever again. Was a huge learning experience.

Fair play for posting this. You will no doubt help a lot of people out.

Im so sorry you had to go thur this

I moved out at age 35 and also a late bloomer. It’s weird to live alone sometimes lol. I was also in the JW.. I feel behind in life because I followed their indoctrination. Oh my god the Trauma! I would love to talk to you

Don't feel like a failure. There is NOTHING wrong with multigenerational living. Don't fall for the capitalist brainwashing where everyone needs to be in debt and slaving full time living isolated and lonely lives. Enjoy your time with family, work the bare minimum, and explore new hobbies. I'm 32 and still living at home and know many others in my street and general area who do too. Many even have full time professional jobs (and not much of a life outside of that). The world is F'd up and we are on the brink of collapse so just take it easy and hope that things will change for the better someday and we can put this wage slave grind behind us.

i love your bravery to talk abt this! i can relate

Not always but frequently broken homes result in children having extra hard life. You are speaking for millions of people around the world. It's that relatable. Emulate a good example and move in that direction step by step. Also make sure to distance yourself from negative influences (acquaintances or blood relatives). Good luck!

I dont know why our parents didnt show us how to budget when my dad was good at that because we didnt have a lot of money. I learned later on. Our parents told us to live at home as long as we want to save money. Our parents told us credit cards are dangerous. Stay out of debt. Our parents made sure we saved. I knew about credit score.

Theres nothing wrong with you living at home again. Work to save and invest money for your future. Invest with a legitimate reputable company. Never feel like a failure. Know youre doing youre best. Im glad you were hired at 19. I wasnt exactly prepared to work at a job with different people, but i learned. I focused on doing the job. As kids, we got hand me downs, shopped at discount stores, didnt eat out alot, didnt get much gifts, and other savings things. Youre fortunate to have a parent that let you stay with them. I stayed with my parents until age 32. I paid my parents rent after college. I had part time jobs in hs and college. One college summer i had a part time and fulltime job. I also shouldve saved more money when i was younger. After working a bit after college, i realized i needed to save more.

I'm at home too but I don't see myself as unsuccessful, just late. I don't want to move in with a man just to save money and be at his mercy.. and I like my mom. It's hard out here. I think a lot of us are going through something similar right now. Just starting out at all is really hard. I can also relate to not feeling "verbally confident" and not being able to respond to people in the way I'd want. I've got 3.5 degrees, work at a hospital, and I still can't do it.

Sounds familiar grew up in a single family house hold. Moved back in 2019 when my relationship broke up, getting my self together back at home.

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Bro it ain't your fault . This is a two person economy now. You can't survive as a singleton. All homes and rents are priced for dual incomes. If you are not wifing up some poor lass then not much you can do. Don't stress it. Is what it is.

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You nailed it!

Facts. Being an introvert doesnt mean you have social anxiety although it is more common with introverts. Im an introvert but I can be an extrovert when the situation calls for it, but my default state is that I dont mind being alone, doesnt mean I dont enjoy company. Plus believing introversion means shy will not allow you to grow cause you make it your identity. Most people are ambiverts that lean more either way. And it's much flexible as well as you go through life your personality and mindset will change.

Well you have to work two job because if you want to get ahead AND accomplish anything. Yes things were cheaper before for example im 36 and for 90% of my life i lived with my parents. In fact i recently moved two years ago because my parents decided to retire overseas since America is going to shit! Personally im successful because im literally always working from my day job to my businesses. And if you want to increase your income you NEED to increase your skills

I agree that no one should use labels as an excuse to stop growing, however I always see the rhetoric "Everybody thinks they're--" followed by a trait that's deemed "Trendy" like introversion or on a more serious note autistic. I think that it's important to allow people the freedom to try to understand themselves through labels as long as they don't become an excuse. But also, I think just complaining about the worst of the worst and wasting your time being offended about something like someone being vulnerable and honest about their limits is stressful. There's a fine line between people making up "excuses" versus actually just being self-aware. In America we also have such a massive "politeness" culture which can be draining and fake. I'd rather someone be completely honest with me and tell me they're drained then hold resentment within themselves and then suddenly snap because I've pushed them too far. (Without even realizing it.) I realize that's not necessarily what this video was attempting to address, but I think when we have conversations about things like introversion and extroversion especially, operational definitions and scientific research backing videos like these would give a take like this more depth and meaning. Personally I've been told I'm an ambivert by some, extremely introverted by others, and then sometimes I even surprise people by displaying uncharacteristically extroverted takes. Introversion, extroversion, MBTI, cognitive functions, archetypes, whatever, they should be utilized as a tool for self discovery and not another way to punch down on people who are just trying to figure themselves out. Absolutely not saying that you are doing that but it's just something I've noticed that happens over the years. TL;DR, I think you're on the right track, but don't waste your energy letting comments like theirs offend you. Realistically they're perfectly reasonable comments but if you take them personally, it can become a problem. But hey, have a good day man. I wish it was snowing where I lived. It was a beautiful atmosphere.

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Grinder here is so gross and rife with mental illness. It’s all so transactional and there’s a total lack of emotional connection. Have had stalkers, 💩 eaters, pedos, MAGA fanatics and more. Where all the sane cute geeky guys at?

Thats exactly my point. Especially when people online claim that they are introverts when more often then not they are uncomfortable/afraid of meeting new people and socializing

Honestly, you’ve got to pave your route to financial freedom and work towards that goal. Identify what you want to be in life and outline the baby steps you need to take to get there. The sooner you start, the better you’ll be because time can never be gained back. The cost of living in NY today unfortunately, requires one to have a 6 figure salary or more. This is why many people consider moving out at some point. I believe you mentioned liking to learn languages so I would explore more about other translator career options if that’s your passion. Another effective way to increase your salary is to job hop. There may be other companies that pay more for the same position you are doing. If you find one, why not apply. Stay with them for about 6 months and repeat the process again. In one year, I was increase my salary by 250% doing this. LinkedIn is also great for networking as well. Connect with recruiters and go from there.

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Great Vid! Overall, sexuality is very complex so I am glad we have apps that cater to it.

I thought my life would be a lot different too. It's really hard to find a reason to keep going when everything is so hard

I guess the issue on gay dating apps is the same all around the world. It's the same on blued, the Chinese version of grindr, which really makes me wonder maybe this thing isn't normal in the first place. Back when we didn't have the concept of lgbtq, we would tend to communicate in a deeper and meaningful way in order to really know the person. But now, considering all that's been going on, the best way is to quit the dating apps and to focus on ourselves.

Awe I think this has to be my favorite video of yours so far. Love the positive message you sent. I agree that you are very eloquent, intelligent, and special. I am sorry that you were bullied when you were younger. I am glad that you turned those negatives into positives by becoming a better version of yourself. I myself was bullied in elementary school and it had such an impact on my self esteem. As I got older, I’ve learned more how to love and embrace myself. I used to be shy about singing but recently got over my fear of being judged by others. Now I have a separate music channel where I am starting to post demo tracks. It would be cool to meet up one day in NY as I feel we have a lot in common.

I feel you when you said, "i thought my life would be different". *hug* i hope you find some sparks of joy

Don't base anything off Grindr. It's dangerous and just stay off it. Trust me.

Awe you should going to a local bar to make new friends. This time of the year is perfect due the the holidays. Happy New Years Eve! 🎉

grindr is very very very very very usually regarded as a hookup app so a lot of what you described is par for the course. I think people also hide age becuase ageism is wildly rampant in the gay community. As is racism, xenophobia, transphobia etc so I think some individuals also protect themselves by hiding some vital identifiers at first and not from a malicious or deceiving standpoint.

As a non-binary trans person, I have a hard time existing in public anymore after putting my face out there. It feels like everyone in the grocery store is investigating me.

I think the worst is when you do put your face out there and you express your preferences, and then every gay guy in the area now knows who you are and what you like. Then they take it upon themselves to *cough* harass you out in public. It's a dangerous amount of visibility, and people don't tell you that before you get on there and it is too late and you've built yourself a reputation.

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Grindr has ruined the gay culture. They should be held accountable. I have never and probably will never be in a real relationship because the gay culture had been destroyed

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