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But why spend ten times more money on the quince there party’s should both be an equal amount of money but she was still so immature acting like that

There is more to a romantic relationship than sex just like there’s more to a house than just a toilet, but if I bought a house then the previous owner removed all the toilets right after I moved in, I couldn’t live there

Why do ppl always feel bad for deadbeats but not the kid that's actually suffering is beyond me. Like for fvck sakes you could atleast call, do little outtings, solo vacations. But since the new wife is jealous the kid feelings don't matter the dad sucks and the parents(the moms parents)suck.

What you said was the truth it might hurt but it’s the truth. Nothing else matters. He’s being just like his dad and messing up his child’s life at this point. It’s better to totally break it off and never see his daughter again and for her to get someone else to be a father for the childhe’s a deadbeat he should give vasectomy because he should’ve never had a child in the first place if he’s not going to take care of his child, if he doesn’t even wanna see his child at all

No one should expect a family member to pay for a private school. That is not the parents. And I a hundred percent agree that paying for tutoring would be a better. Expenditure of money for a child who isn't doing well. The only exception to that would be is, if they're not do, we will do the bullying or some other issues at their current school. I know 2 children are the same. I've raised four, and I currently have two under ten. I treat none of them the same. There's no such thing as equal treatment to children, because they're different people.

Tell your brother, his wife and your nephew, that if they want you to pay for a private school, that your nephew has to show you how bad he wants it, terms like bring his grades up to B's or better and cut the misbehavior at school, no suspensions or detentions, no change. He has a school year to prove he wants this, it will rest on their shoulders. Only then will you help pay for private school.

Prior to any further discussion, Ryan's parents should meet with the private school and request a copy of their student handbook. If Ryan has already been expelled on multiple occasions, he may not be a good fit, as private schools have far more lee-way regarding student behavior and are not subject to state/federal legislation, e.g., Ryan has no "right" to a private school position and might not even be accepted, due to his current record.

NTA, I would agree to Shoulder the cost of ALL of the young ladies Private Schooling, that way THE PARENTS can pay for 100% of Ryans private schooling if they see such a Grand Future in him and not the failure he has shown thus far.

It’s ultimately the parent’s responsibility to pay… as an uncle you shouldn’t be expected, regardless. However, I wonder about the environment at home. If a kid hears “your sister never acted like this” or “why can’t you be smart like your sister” kind of stuff, it would make sense as to why he’s acting out and feels unworthy, and also why the school itself might truly be a good investment in turning him around. I think too often family and parents especially have a one-size-fits-all approach to kids. All kids are expected to accomplish the same things at the same age and have the same learning style. In reality, this kid could have a learning disability, ADHD, or any number of issues that’s making it completely impossible for him to be as focused and mature as his sister at the same age. So yeah, it’s ultimately the parent’s responsibility to make sure these kids get what they need. They need to focus on their son and find the root of the problem instead of throwing spaghetti and seeing what sticks. Once the parents have a diagnosis or game plan, they can re-approach the uncle who has already said he would pay for sports or a tutor or whatever he might need.

It's ok the parents should have been saving up for the boy just incase you wouldn't be able or willing to pay for their children education. They are not willing to pay for the boy's education their problem you are covering half of the girls education. They should have been responsible

This girls mom ruined her. She needed therapy years ago. Dad deserved to know he had a kid, she deserved to know her dad… and at the very least being introduced when she was 10 warranted a lot of family therapy. These people didn’t stand a snowball’s chance in hell of ever functioning like a family. Therapy feels too little too late for the siblings, but definitely do it as a father and daughter. Forcing it on the rest of the family now that she’s an adult just isn’t healthy or realistic though. Son def isn’t an asshole.

As somene who is poly nta especially considering Dave is a year older then you even if that wasn't the case. You dont want him there and since your parents can't fathom leaving him to go to your wedding is a red flag

If he is doing almost the same things, he should have someone pointing it out to him, it might have been bad timing, but the facts are, it was true, he needs to realize the results of his actions are possibly the same cycle he had as a child.

The fact that he went quiet on you means you hit a sore point by telling the truth about his behaviour towards his daughter . This could be the best possible way to make sure that he sees what he's been doing to you and your daughter , you could have went back to court and asked for supervised visits and if he misses more than three the courts come down on him hard by going to his commanding officer .

Nope not at all

He knows she’s right. I think she was too kind to him. Seeing your kids so few times is being an absentee dad. I honestly hope the dad gets his stuff together or the therapy helps and she doesn’t grow up to be someone with daddy issues. How heartbreaking. Good for her for standing up for her daughter.

Not necessarily true? Bro copied and paste with your ex

They might want to think about their own fathers. Both of whom abandon them and is the reason they went into foster care.

A man who expects better from him would also highlight the pattern. Like its not cruel to traumatize your child in the way you claim broke you????

Can't they just use this energies to find their actual dads? Why the hell are they so fixated on blaming yours for?

He deserved to hear that.

Nope

I get that they need someone to blame for their terrible upbringing, in order to process it, but he was not their father period. I wonder what lies the mother spread about the dad to them

Cruel and unnecessary....maybe. true, yes

No, it absolutely needed to said to point out how he was acting.

Truth and reality are bitter pills to swallow but they are good.

Jealous of a five year old. Sorry not absolute BS, it’s so ridiculously common for a new wife to be jealous of any attention given to anyone that is not her or hers, so the absolutely make life hell for a dad trying to be a dad to any kids that aren’t hers, even if they’re not his too. Hypocrisy? Absolutely, but man if it doesn’t happen everyday. So the choose for him is be a dad or be a husband, she won’t let him be both, and if they too have kids he will lose them too. He really should tell his new wife to kick rocks, but “love” is stupid. Is OP TA? I think she was justified, the ex is TA, but it’s not as cut and dry as she wants to believe.

I don’t like the “women who broke up their marriage” bit The dad is solely responsible for his relationship and decisions to cheat. She probably wasn’t the only one

You should have told him that 4 years ago

Look like u gave him the reality check he needed let him process and pray he fixes his mistakes god bless

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I've got a bridge spanning California to England for sale. YAEH that's as believable as you getting the house. Go out and get your own now NTA

"Your too money obsessed!"... now give us money!

Accept the new offer, but get it in writing. If she tries to back out, sue her

Your mom basically said "good riddance" at the death of a baby. I dont like what they did either, but thats just evil. Really stooped herself down to their level and kept digging. Hazel gonna see earths core with the hole shes digging 💀

Contract time! If OP is paying the mortgage, OP should be on the title of the house.

I say oh no you put it in a contract how much I get snd I put a lien on the house. They say no and I say yeah because you know you're scamming me. Bye

First, good for you. Second, good for you and remember, family always likes to throw that we're family and we need to be there for each other whenever they need something. So unless they're all in agreement to sign a really detailed contract with a lawyer. Yeah, I'd back out.

Nah she just gave him a reality check

Sounds to me that OP is the only successful one! Tell me your sister is the golden child without telling me your sister is the golden child!! Your parents might have paid for your collage but that doesn’t make them entitled to your money for the rest of your life!

Get a new therapist. I think OP was mild in her outrage of someone being happy a person was suffering so badly they took their own life. I would call CPS and tell them that she was saying this in front of other foster parents and the kids.

OP's got a lot of grace, but it shouldn't come at the cost of her daughter. If the ex wants to see her, he better fight for it, otherwise he can get bent.

Those parents are delusional and insane op should stop paying for anything straight away

No he ditched you both for a nother woman made no effort if you act like that you deserve it and tbh the fact he is choosing his disgusting wife over his child just because she gets jealous only makes me think you did the right thing sometimes the cold harsh truth is needed

I’m not understanding where she was cruel. This man literally said my wife is jealous of my daughter so I can’t spend time with her. That is cruel. This child unfortunately is going to have to come to terms that her father does not love her. That is cruel. Calling him a 2nd generation deadbeat isn’t cruel when it’s what he chose. BFFR.

Another parent focusing more on the comfort of their partner’s kids and not their own. Also once the 10 year old girl hits puberty she can’t be in a room with the boys - siblings or not. That’s CPS call waiting to happen.

My ex always said he didn't want to end up like his dad and sure enough... he ended up just like his dad, cheated on me and everything 😅

Him and his sister were innocent too but that didn't stop him from disowning themwhen they were children

Dont get involved with people with brats