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I’m sorry that you stopped posting videos, which I can only assume was related to this event. No pressure to start up again, but I do hope you’re doing well.

Thank you! This really struck a chord. I commend you for your impeccable attitude - understanding yourself, and not giving up ❤ Being self-aware, being kind to yourself, and removing yourself from situations is a great approach. Tough to know how much to push. Whe. tears come, youve already crossed the line.😢 Challenges help us learn and grow, but overdoing it is counterproductive. It's a beautiful thing when you find the right balance! 😊

This is meant to be helpful, but rather is harsh and hard. Why do ND have to attune to NT? I do not like the way it sounds, judgemental in a way

I cried every day age 9 at school for a year and became physically ill through stress ! If overwhelmed today I cry Things get too much and I cry ! I also cry when I’m laughing ! I’m 53. Diagnosed with asd as adult . Can relate to everything u said ! In 70s. Nobody knew what to do 🙏☺️

To be fair his adhd advice was also god aweful. Ppl keep worshipping him despite the fact he pushes his religion on ppl every time he does these interviews and also i think claimed depression isn‘t real wich was certainly a take. But in general, this guy is shady to a certain extent. I mean, his adhd advice was literally just: „push through it until you hit burnout lol“ like, his take was literally „just hustle harder lol“ it‘s now what an adhd expert would say. Cause anyone knows who knows adhd well that burnout is a big issue with hyperfocus that leads to self sabotage. Not to mention also that he keeps playing the a-political game wich is to be fair a bigger issue in therapy as a whole. And mind you I say this as someone who‘s been trained in that field for a while. There‘s a video about that I‘ve seen recently that‘s called „Is therapy under capitalism just professional gaslighting?“ and that really resonated with me. Cause that‘s what you‘re doing if you gaslight patients about the fact that the world is making you sick especially the neurodivergent ppl that are forced into a world lacking accessibility on a huge scale. It‘s just a bigger issue with this field though. Dr K being a online celebrity trying to sell you a course by fostering a online community that white knights for him so hard they shout down any ppl online critisizing him much like a cult would. This is why DR K doesn‘t always sit right with me. Cause you can‘t play this game of „it‘s not a therapy session we‘re just talking lol“ while also very much using that only as a shield to save himself from legal issues. But what he does is a lot like therapy. But broadcasted and profitted off without any protection given to the client cause dr K is hiding behind „it‘s not therapy guys!“ wich u know, is certainly a way to shield yourself from reaponsibility. But that‘s what is working for him. Like a more sophisticated dr phil. Turning healthcare into entertainment. And dangling something in front of poor ppl to monetize their issues with public pseudo therapy. It‘s not that ethical is it? But tell that to his minions. They‘ll treat you like a sinner for not worshipping the god emperor dr K. That‘s the issue I think. He‘s using therapy to profit off of the same system that is making ppl sick. But so is normal therapy to be fair. Dr K‘s version is just a lot more dodgy and blatant in it‘s exploitation than a regular therapist getting their paycheck for doing a session.

I believe Orion Kelly has been in radio and broadcasting his whole adult life. Maybe that's why his speech patterns are the way they are.

I agree with you. I don’t understand why autistic content creators try so hard to appear neurotypical. It is painful for me to watch. You can feel the disconnect and too much over the top expression.

I’ve had a “meltdown” at work two days ago. I was just overwhelmed by sudden changes and complications that happened. I’ve felt dizzy and like I couldn’t handle anymore. so I took myself to the office, where I was on my own, sat on the floor, started sobbing then crying out loud, rocking and hitting head. I remember what I was doing but I just couldn’t stop, couldn’t help it. My manager came and held me to prevent me from hitting self. I have a massive bruise on my thigh, don’t even know how it happened. I had to take the next day off and I slept nearly all day, I was mentally and physically drained. I remember crying in lots of different situations, crying and running around the park when something was not right, crying when couldn’t do something. Once I took a wrong train and started crying and approached train workers for help because I panicked and didn’t know what to do. I don’t know if I’m autistic and these were meltdowns or I am just hysterical woman who cannot cope with stress/wrongdoing/new situations. I’m 35, was recently referred for ASD diagnosis.

A lot af aspies find looking people into the eye creepy.

A great analysis and very helpful for NT's like me to understand. Thanks for the video.

This is the funniest video I have ever seen

16:09 is more like overcommitment to the truth to the point you go blunt.

Rand's entire speech makes me think of Ron Swanson (character from the series "Parks and Recs", very fun), it's a good example of how absurd it can be to take the idea of ​​self-sufficiency or individual freedom to the extreme (and that imperative need to limit the importance of emotions)

Just don’t do it.

My mum who i list last year to Asperger's severe ms heds had this related to ocd what i have do you have fybromyalgia i have heds autism adhd and do does my son great work in your videos

As I am, she was most likely an INTP or INTJ personality type. We see through bullshit like it's a pane of clear glass. If Objectivism attracts people on the spectrum, then that's good for them because Objectivism is true.

I love Jordan Peterson. I've seen him several times and have even met him. I was just blessed to catch him a couple weeks ago. Have followed him for years.

I was, and still am, a very sensitive person. I related to a lot of what you said. Especially about crying at work and wanting to be able to show more confidence

You can tell he has adhd and her having autism, its beautiful they harmonize.

Ich hatte gerade einen "Aha"-Moment. In Indonesien wird mein Verhalten so oft mit "ach du bist doch schon sehr deutsch geworden" (Oder so ähnlich, natürlich auf Indonesisch) kommentiert, aber ich war in allen angesprochenen Punkten schon seit meiner Kindheit vor dem Umzug so.

I know this is an old video, but doctor k doesn't do therapy with these people. These are supposed to be conversations so even if he knew about the Autism he would not tell the caller about it. It might not be that he is oblivious to the autism, but that it would cross a line to where this would no longer just be a guiding conversation but straight up therapy. It's nice to hear your perspective, but it seems like you misunderstand the purpose of these conversations, and what they are supposed to be.

btw its not like dr k. is necessarily NT, seeing as what some comments seem to believe, from his adhd videos it gives off the vibe that he's talking about his own personal experiences.

I know you have hundreds of hours into this, but this wig looks pretty good. You might want to consider your "wig" being your brand and wear a dozen totally different looks. Have fun with it!

Enjoyed your original videos and now just vegging out on some of your more recent non-autistic topics. After your early ones, you seem like an old friend. One suggestion, I use closed captions (do aspies have a hard time hearing syllable differentiations?) and I'm not a fast reader, so if you add comments on the screen, please leave them up there at least 3x longer than you do and put them in the upper right so they aren't blocked by other screen junk. When you pause TH-cam they cover the bottom third of the screen. Thanks for all you have been to us!

But the real question is. Is she right?

Rand might have had some of the traits of an aspy, but she was no aspy.

32:13 Philosophy is NOT the science that studies the basic nature of existence. That would by physics, not philosophy.

Rand didn't give up on humanity, she gave up on people.

Ayn Rand doesn't sound autistic in that letter, she sounds Jewish.

As an autistic person, there is no such thing as 'high-functioning' or 'low-functioning' autism. Those terms, while I get what you mean, are misleading, because as someone with level 1 autism according to my DSM diagnosis, there some specific moments and situations where I can't function well at all, and calling it high-functioning makes it sound like we don't really struggle. It's kind of invalidating. Jumping to conclusion with diagnoses and making so many assumptions can also be risky. People who have experienced trauma can also present with neurodivergent traits, so you can't assume that everyone presenting differently is neurodivergent. That's why we have specialists to diagnose these things (not Dr K, he isn't an autism specialist) who carry out what's known as a differential diagnosis to find the most likely root cause before using labels. The term Asperger's also doesn't exist anymore (unless you're diagnosing with the ICD - it's ASD to honour the fact that everyone autistic can present uniquely and still be autistic. It would be innappropriate for Dr K to try and diagnose someone with anything in a short public call - diagnoses for autism are complex and long for a reason.

it's crazy to me how real the double empathy problem is. even people i'd sort of expect to try to understand end up saying things like, "you really dropped the ball!" i've heard similar things from my family during my burnout, and that stuff *hurts*. i mean, you try to explain what you're going through in specific terms to people who should care & they just... don't, no matter how many times you try to explain.

I don't know if Objectivism could be attractive to some autistic person but the point is Objectivism is not autism friendly. Many studies are showing that a significantly higher number of autistic persons compared to neurotypicals are unemployed or under employed and, as a result, need Welfare benefits. What would happen to them if Ayn Rand ideas became widespread? Moreover, I think it's insulting to those on the spectrum to suggest that they are more egoist than the general population. Being less able to communicate empathy doesn't mean they have less empathy. Objectivism is more a philosophy appealing to sociopaths. Unfortunately, sociopaths are also more common than autistic people in the upper class and more money driven, which is more in line with Rand philosophy.

Uh.. so? After 10 min of listening to this , no word or tip or help or hint as to how to date people with A. ...

The question isn't does my happiness matter, it's does my happiness "objectively" matter more than other people?

You are genetically adapted to flee famine, it is an evolutionary response to perceived famine and need to migrate, so it makes you feel virtuous and strong for moving and ignoring hunger pangs, and guilt for eating which feels guilty and shameful so that you will keep migrating and allow your children to eat on the journey instead of you when you find scraps (hence anorexics love cooking for other people or watching others eat) but not getting distracted by foraging because if you do you won't migrate fast enough to reach abundant land. It also happens in mice and pigs who lose weight but more easily in female than male mice and more easily in their adolescence, just like in humans. Ths proves that the social cultural theories are wrong, it is a survival instinct that makes you terrified of stopping to eat while migrating by making you feel greedy and guilty for self-indulgence. Some people with anorexia, but not all, associate greed with getting fat, which is why some anorexics say they hate the idea of getting fat, it simply represents their REAL aversion, which is of feeling greedy. The process is triggered by any weight loss of any cause, which triggers this famine response. It is a migration "keep moving and feel guilty for eating so the tribe can reach new land before your children starve" gene, which in humans only a minority of people have, whereas most mice have it. Most humans do not have the same physiological response to starvation that anorexics have, because most humans have instead "wait for the famine here to pass" genetic variants that makes their brain send "rest and eat whatever you find without any guilt" signals. The migration gene members of the tribe, being a minority, probably helped push the rest of the tribe to finally migrate, and boosted morale with their physiologically unique response to starvation (that includes heightened energy and delusional optimism about how not-starving you are, not being able to see the emaciation and so not despairing) whenever famine did not pass quickly enough.

I cry at work. I cannot handle the overhead light- i feel out of control after work- I sometimes hit my head and I can’t stop moving

Isn't everyone like this? They just hide it better

I've had the same thought about "Karens". Some of them are clearly entitled, though.

Thanks for the video on this fascinating topic that affects everyone.

Being autistic and being happy wow, the way that you said that. was absolutely perfect. yes I agree a million percent and that's why they dislike her because when you're happy and you do things for yourself and for others out of your own choice people think you're an a****** no matter what always an a****** No matter how kind you are supportive you are or understanding you are no matter how helpful you are no matter what you do. the moment you put a boundary up or say no. people think you're an a******. but you're always saying your boundaries. just when they want to cross it, they think you're an a******. I will never sacrifice myself for others but I will always choose to sacrifice a little bit of myself to assist and help with those around me and thoseI love I have a Vast sea of ability within me so giving a Little 2 others is still giving a lot. But I only give that piece of myself away willingly and so I have no reason to give that away either. But I have to be given a reason otherwise I give fully of myself in that space to them. But people don't like when you tell them that you don't want to or you don't think you're going to do that or when you say that's gonna be somebody else doing that or whatever it is doesn't matter when you tell them something other than what they want to hear they think you're an a****** because they want to violate that boundary and you're not alive in them.... Life Anyhow that was a really great quote sorry I rambled on as you can tell I'm on the spectrum too I hope you have a great day thank you so much for making this video

im 20 yrs old and not diagnosed with autism but i relate so much to this experience and it overwhelms me so much especially in my relationship where the other person is confused as to why i react a certain way to something that is not super significant for most people/something most would brush of, yet i cant even explain it myself. and i feel like i cant even physically speak to explain myself and it becomes more overwhelming. it manifests for me as both crying easily and getting extremely angry easily and both are so overwhelming and hard to deal with. its such a huge struggle everyday and like you said i keep beating myself up about it bc i understand the social repercussions of it… i just wish i knew what exactly causes it or some way to manage or control it :/ this video was very comforting to me thank you

I've watched body cam videos of men getting caught impersonating police officers and firefighters. Please, be careful out there on dating sites.

This is amazing what a great vid idea. 🤗🤗🤗

Maybe it's a stupid question, but could it be that extremely religious persons have a lifelong limerence with Jesus? The pedestal, the fantasies about the happy ever after, not being able to live without, not allowing to skip church for even once a year, etc. Or is it just me connecting these dots (???)

Great video! Keep up the content creation!

Horrible. It’s horrible. The end

I had that impression, that she is on the spectrum...

Ghosting is still devastating, I strongly suspect, it is one of the main reasons, why there are several times more suicides among men, then among women. So, please, if your former partner is not a violent asshole, do TELL him DIRECTLY and CLEARLY that this is it! To this day (it was almost 25 years ago) I'm grateful to my first girlfriend, for opportunity to meet and to talk, I'd never would imagine, that hearing "I just don't love you" will be the best thing I will ever hear in my life, since before that I was blaming myself, I was horrified, that I might have hurt her feelings somehow. Of course I could not stay together with a person, who doesn't love me, could not force myself onto her, I wanted her to be happy, obviously, not with me, but someone else (and she did find the right person mere couple months later, while I was recovering for almost 3 years). It was still hard, I cried pretty much daily for a year or more, but at least it was bearable, so I recovered... for the most part, I was not the same after that. Now, decades later, it turns out I got ADHD and likely ASD too, so I take everything very literally. Yes there were clear hints, that she does not intend that relationship to last, as she was a very nice peoples person and meant no harm, but, of course, I missed them all and only realised, what she really meant only after we parted. And I guess, this is what makes me safe - I will not get angry and upset with you, when refused, I might get angry at myself for being a failure, maybe some slight self harm with no lasting consequences (like banging my head or fist against a wall a couple of times), but one of my absolute core beliefs is "you can not force one to love you", just being with a person is not what I crave for, I want her to want to be with me, I want to be accepted, to be admitted to be worthy of lifetime companionship, to be loved, not tolerated. Funny, but 20 years after that parting, had a little message exchange with her, and she literally wrote "you were in love with some imaginary, idealised image, not the real me, and that felt like a burden, I never felt comfortable" (pardon, English is only my 3rd language, thus phrasing might be a bit off). Well, no shit, the most normal person I've ever known felt weird next to neurodivergent me! 😆 Sure, I did not know it back then, as I got diagnosed only at age 46. I also met the right person for me, seems we both have neurodivergent ancestors at least two generations into past, maybe more; we've been together for over two decades so far.

I am unsure if I could identify an autistic person only from their speech patterns. It seems like certain autists don't have any trouble with verbal and non-verbal communication, but can still struggle with social communication and relationships. I propose that there are multiple independent causes for what is diagnosed as Autism Spectrum Disorder, because the diagnostic criteria can only be based on external observations. What if it isn't ASD that causes these speech patterns, but these speech patterns being the reason for an ASD diagnosis? Consider that some autistic people have alexithymia, a reduced ability to identify and process their own emotions, while others do not. Could it not be possible that alexithymia causes some autists to have a flat affect¹, which is the reason why they have trouble with social interactions and miscommunication? Personally speaking, that is exactly why I have to explicitly analyze vocal tone and body language, since I can't rely on my own feelings as a guide. This is also how alexithymia can lead someone to send the wrong message, if the recipient reads an emotional subtext that isn't there.

Great video; actually Reba McIntre’s song “she thinks his name was John” was about a woman dying from AIDS. This I knew the first time I ever heard this song as a child; it’s a very sad song but I don’t think she had Limerance for him haha.