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That was some useless advice.

We'll see about that..

Excellent.

So why am I still unable to kill myself when I already have suicidal thoughts due to deep loneliness?

So why am I still unable to kill myself when I already have suicidal thoughts due to deep loneliness?

I dont know if you or anyone will reply but the lonely I feel is not really because I am alone what trigger this feeling is my husband of almost 10 years ended up in the hosptial and everyone is concerned but everyone else seems to be managing but they all have other people around them I am in my place with my dogs but still feel alone I do not really get along with my mother in law she just rubs the wrong way

Thank you, i found this very helpful 🙂

Useless video get vetter at your job

I am going through a lonely time lately and I guess this is why I watched this video. to all the lonely people out there - I hope you can find something to hang on to and keep going and you find relief one day. Loneliness can come particularly from Western societal structures and attitudes that encourage independence and avoid sharing vulnerabilities or weaknesses. It can also come from illness (both physical and mental health issues or the impact of trauma which results in an inability to be around others maybe not being able to trust or share feelings or perhaps not being able to leave the home. There is shame attached to feeling and admitting loneliness because it can open you up to judgment about your lack of social skills or being too needy. The full responsibility seems lies on the shoulders of the lonely one to fix their loneliness because there is a tendency in society to blame the individual for being lonely in the first place. I think the fact we have an alarming rise in serious chronic loneliness is a sign of our society's poor health as a system that is fractured and disconnected. I guess I tend to see it as a societal health issue rather than an individual issue. It is also a very serious risk factor in the prevalence of suicide. So having said all that, I think the greatest obstacle to coping with and finding a way to reduce loneliness is to try not to take on the shame about being lonely and reach out for help. at the very least make use of LIFELINE phone service so you at least have regular human connection and support if nothing else is an option. Be kind to yourself.

The problem is I hate small talk.

10:52 Thank you so much, ma'am! Much love!

5:23 yes happened yesterday and that was an incredibly draining situation.

At 32, gay and very lonely I am coming to the end, a date is in sight. That's the scary thing

I’m looking forward to more of your videos. I need some help.

Thanks for the great tips! I enjoy working from home and having flexibility. I do struggle with loneliness but I have been able to overcome it by working from different places (coffee shops, with a friend, etc) and also going to gym. I know the gym isn't for everyone but try going for a run or even doing stretches in the morning. Staying active really helps me release stress and anxiety. I also have a journal, I try my best to start my day by being grateful and appreciative.

I don’t see how it’s helpful to begin the video with telling me that loneliness is as bad as smoking 15 cigarettes per day. Why bring more anxiety to my loneliness? “I feel bad so let’s watch a vid on how to feel better. Oh so it’s actually killing me 🙃”

"You are not alone," Then why am I all alone when I eat lunch at school? Why is it that no one stays long as my friend? Why am I walking all by myself around the campus? Why do I have no one to talk about my problems with? Why is no one listening to me? Why is everyone ignoring me? Outside or inside the house. I have no one, no one beside me, no one who supports me. My parents could care less if my grades went down or if I got hit by a bus and died. Friends? Where are those friends? Where are the people that makes me "not alone" ??? I hate it, how does people say those words as if they care. Then, after saying it, they will leave my life and forget about how I told them what I'm struggling with. I am always chosen last in p.e and the least child to be worried of because I'm the eldest and I'm automatically responsible and independent to take care of myself and my sibilings from a VERY young age. What's the point of living to be honest.

appreciate your suggestions in response to fatigue, before your fatigued especially😂: SCHEDULE REST & take BREAKS🎉 thank you😅

what you have said makes sense oish. loneliness has been kicking hard and yhoo i felt sorry for myself when you said it is as bad as smoking 15 cigars. it sucks

Oh Yes ! Being Shy Can Make You Feel Lonely In A Crowd. Most Of The Time When I'm Used To, & Get To Know You I Open Up. But Lets Face It. MOST Times You Meet People On Occasion And Wonder Why You're Even There ? You Still Feel Lonely In The Crowd And Feel Like. "If There Was A Better Way To Have Spent Your Time ?"...... Mmmmmm ......

Loneliness turns me into a monster

I feel great in my solitude. At times, I even go into a nocturnal phase in order to get a sufficient amount of quality alone time. I feel lonely amongst most people. When I moved away from the city to a suburb/town environment with my partner, my first impulse was to sign up for some classes in order to make sure I would have some regular social exposure. Because, if I didn't commit to it, I wouldn't. I "accidentally " self-isolate a lot, because I don't notice that I haven't met up with anyone until I suddenly realize that months have gone by. And the people there aren't bad; they're pretty nice. But I feel so alien during those days, and even worse when I finally get to go home. I don't understand why this is such a problem for me when everyone else seems satisfied with the exchange. I do have some friends I feel a better connection to, but no one lives close, so there's no opportunity to build more consistent relationships outside of scarce opportunities like annual events or a rare visit. Sometimes I wonder if I'm so unsatisfied with my attempts at connection because I'm too much of an idealist and care too much, or if I'm somehow hard to relate to, or something.

Nights days hardnot easy❤

When u are old can't worm HEALTH problems. to old get work & sick.

Thunks sweetie doc.good advice hard work hard on this.❤

Thanx last night was rough I need to figure out how to make friends. Waiting in my locked apartment for them to arrive isn’t working

You should never be vulnerable with others. Trust me.

Seems to me the real obstacle isn't the struggle with loneliness but the struggle to make the moment count in every could be grand moment you find yourself in. Yes, you may have a suck life. Yes, you may have suck people to share it with. At the end of those moments though the only one who really controlled the outcome though and how I will see it is me. Forces of opposition are real, oh most definitely. Still though that's merely the shaping of the moment which I move into; the final outcome is mine alone to narrate. Mine and God's (a.k.a. the Power to turn any and every obstacle around).

what if i’m already crying in the way to my first session? i really don’t want to walk in ALREADY SOBBING

At 16 I'm beginning to realize just how fucked I am

Everyone feels lonely from time to time but what about people who feel lonely all the time for as long as they can remember?

I quit smoking n then my best n only friend has had to go into hospital now I'm totally alone not got anybody 😐

Hi I’m curious how you go with finding rentals in both places - do you own your own place in LA / Lisbon, both? Thank you 😊

I can trace back my feelings of loneliness due to social media/lack of real life interaction. I see other artists having big sucesses and I feel I haven't progress much. Or this intense feeling to help others, to feel like I accomplish something. It's interesting to learn that it can also be felt even when around friends and people.

Isn't it wonderful how this therapist is happily grinning when she talks about loneliness and death and suicidal thoughts? How can anyone speak about loneliness if they haven't experienced it for years? Just reading from a dictionary a definition of the words "loneliness" and "solitude" doesn't help at all.

I've been working remotely for three years! These tips were on point - the most helpful ones for me are taking care of my body and connection. If I focus too much on my schedule, I feel overwhelmed - but working on my bedtime routine and getting up early has been game-changing. Thank you!!

I’m super comfortable being alone to the point I’m not seeking friends, new acquaintances, Idc if someone dies it’s just part of life, idc if all left me. I don’t like small talk, im not interested to hear other people’s story. Is it bad to feel this way?

I feel lonely because I trust people very fast and they just use me for my body,and when I have friends on social media they ignore me everytime I don't know what is wrong about me

This seems to be a very undisabled point of view. Many of us out here have illnesses and/or disabilities that mean we can't go out and do things like the 'beach clean-up' she suggests. We can't get out and do 'acts of service'. I don't see many insightful suggestions in this video for undisabled people, but I see even fewer for people with disabilities/illnesses that pretty much keep us housebound - which is just symptomatic of the ableist society we exist in. 🤷‍♀️

I recently joined an organisation. It has everything that I was looking for quite a long time. But I have been at home for 2 months while I was looking out for jobs. But here after joining the organisation, other than my teammates, I’m not able to communicate or build relations with anyone else. I felt so weird and lonely today. And how I’ve been trying to engage in some conversation at lunch table but couldn’t say that out loud. Just trying, smiling and eating but couldn’t pass my thoughts. I’m feeling so baadd

Found this video and am trying to figure out how to combat loneliness. I want to give up. I've been through too much.

I can communicate with a bunch of people and still feel lonely if I'm not deeply connecting with them. It's the same thing with being in a room with a lot of people. If I'm just having small talk with those people I can feel lonely. Right now I'm feeling very lonely. Was laid off of work a few months ago, and that has led me to feel lonely and isolated. Wish I had more deeper connections on top of that. Sending lots of love to anyone who is feeling loney.

I feel like i’m doing all these. I feel like i’m a good, warm person that you can break through with just a smile but nobody does smile or say hello. I feel like life is not worth living cause i keep doing is loving myself in order to show up for the world and yet i have no one. If I don’t go out I wouldn’t hear another person’s voice. No texts from anyone unless i first text them and they wouldn’t even take me seriously when i say i think I’m depressed or lonely. I invite people out so i can hear new stories besides the one i feed my mind but they don’t show up. Nobody cares my ego would keep telling me. Or they do something and don’t ask me out or include me. I’m just tired living in this pain.

I live a very isolated existence. I live alone and am at home alone 99% of the time. I have no social life and I feel more and more disconnected as time goes on. The only time I leave the house is if I have some essential business to take care of like grocery shopping or bill paying or medical appointments.

Well...the thing is... after 10 years of loneliness and girls psycopath bullying, I tried putting myself out there, got high school friends wich I NEVER were truly vunreable to, never told my inner toughts and darknes to wich also made me feel lonely around them.... and so the year after graduating I went to this lovely school with outdoors hiking life typa gang I got better connections, but not quite...because I truly never could let myself free bc of trauma. And now I have lost all of them. I also wirked a job I was so confident in first...but ended up quitting after 5 colleagues quit the same day because my other collegue got called a bully by this psycopath collegue where the boss only believed this person and never spoke to me or my collegues abt anything.(It's a super long and complicated unfair story). That broke me. And I even tried to be vunreable to this psycopath collegue only to get laughed at by her.... yeah now I self Isolate and so badly want to get a life but I am too scared. Idk, felt like being open to you guys and I have nothig else to do rn.... but I have reflected, and are seeing a therapist, that helps a tiny bit, but I feel so fuckig broken and SCARED. Welp. Wow I am impressed you read that far ...

"You may feel sone discompfort" now, where have I heard that before? 😊 oh ya, the doctors!

Thanks for this wonderful video

Almost every videos I saw talking about loneliness always referring to pandemic as an example. For someone who has been experiencing it since forever, they don't feel any difference pandemic or not for sure.

Just once I would love to open a video about loneliness and not be bombarded by these people reminding me of how it’s killing me ffs I’m trying to cope I don’t need the incessant reminders of death

Toxic productivity has messed me up. Ever since I was a kid, I was accepted into the Gifted program and was invited into various social circles where working hard was the MO. Even now, all my friends are incredibly hard workers to the point where we have to schedule months in advance to see each other. Then, in college, I studied hard for 3 years (although I fell a year behind due to personal reasons, so my Bachelor's is going to take 5 years instead of 4). One day (like yesterday), I just collapsed and started crying nonstop. And I couldn't pinpoint why. Until my boyfriend said that I could slow down if I wanted to. Nobody ever told me that before. As soon as he said that, I just started crying nonstop. (Not to mention that due to toxic productivity, I never actually slowed down and took time to feel any human emotion, which triggered the nonstop crying.) So I'm just trying to have as much unstructured time as possible (because earlier, even when I wasn't studying or working, I was doing everything I could to be productive, like job hunting or auditing online classes). Today, I slept in, went on a run, did some art, and that's about it. I think I'm healing. Hopefully, I am.