DO NOT DATE MEN IN PRISON : Relationship advice
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Prison relationships face serious challenges, but can be a source of support after release. Making a relationship work is hard, but making a relationship work when one partner is in prison can be nearly impossible.
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Don't date men that left prison....they are sick
DEADLY and violent.
Very true, but now I’m seeing men telling other men to avoid women that are/were in prison also.
Amen!!!!
Word!!!! Straight truth!
Period, Christine!
Nope I don’t date prison men , halfway house mens, homeless, or married frfr 😂
Right.
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Clap for you girl
My Mom once dated a man in prison. She used to drive up the coast to visit him. When he got released he moved in with my family. It was a bad situation. He was physically abusive towards my Mom. And, he started sniffing after me. For my sixteenth birthday he bought my some underwear. I told my Mom how uncomfortable I was with that. One day when I was napping on the couch he kissed me full on the mouth. I let my Mom know what he did. She kicked him out. One day he called to talk to me on the phone and tried to apologize. My Mom heard the whole conversation on the other phone.
If all that weren't bad enough, that man was dealing pot from our house. One day when my Mom was out, he and his friend was cleaning a whole lot of weed on my Mom's kitchen table.
There's a happy ending to this terrible tale, my Mom went on to getting her BS RN degree.
@@JT-cl9np df?!?!?!?! Are u the creeper?
Creepy smh....
I wasted 2 years of my life doing this. I won't even speak to a man who has been in prison now.
So happy to hear your mom went on to do well in her career. I pray she got away from that guy too and lives a happy life now. ❤
Pamela...wow. They gradually see how much they can get away with. As soon as you were presented the underwear...your mom should have put him... and the underwear out that very day. And he had the nerve to still make contact...like most of these types do. He may try again...be careful...you guys are now on his list. ..
This beautiful seasoned lady is giving advice to women as a loving Grandmother. Speaking facts. Stay blessed everyone
Stay blessed miss Faye you the best!
She is the BEST. I listen almost everyday. She is dropping TRUTH but doing with with love and a gentle, humorous delivery that has me rolling and SMH that the world is so watched that we even NEED this advice.
My neighbor tried to set me up with a man in prison. I turned that down quick and was kind of offended at the fact that she thought that that's the best I can do is some man in prison. WTF?!
What's the matter with her? Yes, you deserve better than a jailbird. Some of these women are so messy.🤦🏽♀
Girl! I’d be offended af. Would give her the side-eye and frfr not even talk to her again
ikr.....most of these men are broken, broke and broke down
she ain't no friend... she is a hater. Drop her now.
😂😂😂 damn😂
Sounds like a great deal of us are lonely. Lonely leads to desperation. And, desperation means we'll accept any kind of trash. Be aware & take care.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💕
Yes, I've done it.
Here’s the other side of the coin. My friend was lonely, and got involved with a cop. He invited her to family gatherings and would stay over at her place, but never had Intercourse with her. He eventually ghosted her. She was devastated. Much later she was at a gathering with people who knew him, and they said he was gay. What a slap in the face.
U are correct Ms Faye!
In my early 20s I remained friends with someone who went to prison.
We dated in HS, but after that it was just strictly friendship and nothing more. We had a lot of friends in the same circle .
He never asked me to be there for him , I did it out the kindness of my heart bc that’s what I would want if someone called me a friend.
I didn’t do anything above and beyond, I simply wrote him , visited on occasion not often, and once in s blue moon put money on his books.
He came out and IMO dogged TF out of me.
I went through a mild depression bc I couldn’t understand how a friend would react like that towards someone who was kind.
I can’t imagine if we were in a relationship and he came out and did me that way , who knows I’d probably be the one in prison now 😂
So yeah, leave these men alone. Let their mamas visit them and be there for them , bc they won’t appreciate you at all.
Wow. He went out of his way to disrespect you. He didn’t respect you because you spent time, energy, and care on a felon. Then he made sure you knew it.
Our definitions of above and beyond are different 😂 to me, you def went above and beyond! Only thing I would do for a “friend” in prison is accept one collect call to let their family know what’s up. That’s it 😆 you’re a Saint!
Oh my goodness a great subject for me to share to many women. I was on the the Chaplaincy Advisor Council of Michigan Department of Correction which took me to be a part of the various prisons and camp. I tried to teach women all about everything you're saying. The women not only date but marry those men while in prison , which I try my best to advise an absolutely NO !!!! Yes Women listen to this!!! They come out and many times leave that so-called wife for other women. The women are so hurt because of their investments, time and energy. I am going to share share share.
You are right....!!!
Wow, so sad. Hopefully they listen
They reciprocate hurt. 😢
They also leave for the other man. My ex's brother was in jail since forever. He met a woman who took care of him and when he got out moved in with her and her children. She came home from work and he was laying up in their bed with his prison "wife" who had recently gotten out. He fully expected her to take care of them both and caught an attitude about it. She called my dude and was crying her eyes out. My dude told her to put them out and find someone else!
@@livefromtheground7274 the nerve of him. Some people are bold. Hopefully she stay away from prison men
When those men get out they aren’t fit emotionally to be in a relationship. They need to work on themselves and get emotionally right with themselves.
Strong self-sufficient woman is fully aware of that that has been her career working with people like that in the local government and she just so happens to meet somebody like that eventually by total I hate the word coincidence but by chance and you guys hit it off and start speaking almost all day every day and you have the time opportunity to really get to know each other and the person’s been down for 23 years and he’s at the door just a couple months after you meet them is it still a bad idea to get to know them I’m self-sufficient I don’t need anybody and I did everything possible to push them away once I started catching feelings I want him to know that but right away he sent me 2000 longstem roses directly from my friends shop in Columbia and we live in California but he decided to support my friends shop in Columbia he sent me a teddy bear that says that I am the one and then after that he sent me these really expensive chocolate covered strawberries and he said so many that I could share with all of my family he’s never asked me for anything he doesn’t need to he has plenty of money he’s never asked me for anything not even a visit he’s super patient with me and Rose where I stand I’m very solid with my boundaries somebody give me some advice he gets out in November and as much as I feel like I’m falling for him I still have my guard up however he is amazing he’s an amazing human being he’s highly educated he’s never done drugs I totally researched him as a government employee myself never in 1 million years did I ever think I would be in this situation this was totally by chance because my younger cousin was talking to somebody inside and she was FaceTime in and I was talking stuff in the background and he overheard and her man and there was like hey don’t judge and I was like how could I charge I help everybody in my community this is what I do I work with people that just got out I help them get free vocational training etc. I could never judge I love working with people who start from the bottom up that everybody tries to tear them down I see the good in everybody and then all of a sudden this guy put himself in front of the FaceTime video and I’m a woman who never shuts up I am the most confident strong woman ever and when I saw his face it wasn’t because of physical attraction it was some thing about him that made me stay quiet and that has never happened in my life that made me put my face down into the pillow and I could hardly make iContact and it’s been a few months now and I’m in love like I said he wants nothing from me he doesn’t need me I don’t need him we just enjoy each other‘s company and he’s out the door in two months he has everything set for himself somebody tell me am I doing something wrong and if I am I have no problem I’m waiting for that red flag because I’m one of those people I don’t need more than one I’m out all I need is one and I’m out I’m not a dumb girl one red flag I’m done I’m too old for that I’ve been through too much after being married for 23 years to the wrong person I’m done. I should also add I have never heard him swear I’ve researched him because I have that advantage to do so I did all of his prime I’ve read his records I’ve seen his mug shot because I’m privy to that I know his crime inside and out he’s never done drugs he doesn’t even smoke cigarettes I know all about him I know his entire record inside while he’s done the past 23 years I know about his two children and his grandbabies I know where they live I know everything that’s the beauty of working for where I work I didn’t have to search my fellow government employees when they found out when I disclose to them who I was talking to starting with my daughter she overheard she start researching and she found him in the media on news That he saved a woman’s life last year when he was at fire camp and they were working outside and this woman was getting murdered by being stabbed to death and he ran it and rescued her and save her life and unfortunately a police officer it was his first day he was panicking didn’t know what to do and the man that I am talking to and he saved her life he went after that man stopped him from stabbing her to go die for way assault him just enough to get him some dude literally the CEO threw his handcuffs at him and said cut him off because he was too afraid to even intervene he’s never been experienced with that by the time the cops showed up the cop that was his first they didn’t know how to properly provide medical attention to the gal but my guy did I and he put a tourniquet where can you be an applied pressure to the proper wounds until the ambulance got there he saved her life she would be dead if it were not for the men that I am now with and speaking to I don’t visit him and I will not visit him and that I am taking these months to get to know him on an intellectual level I will not visit him while he is in there he comes home in November I will be picking him up and at that point we will go out to eat we will spend time together and then I will take him where he needs to go and after that we will get to know each other more outside and if it progresses and I see how well he is doing then I will move forward I don’t fall for words but he is amazing and I’m very proud of him and I believe in him and I encourage him and I have given him tons of resources thankfully I have that at my disposal through the government and it’s a bit of a different situation with us he’s been awarded special honors in California because of what he did him into other inmates and also to officers and the EMTs it’s all over the news in the Internet actually filed for clemency for him however he’s so close to the gate he’s not gonna get that before leaving so in our situation I would love some feedback I’ve never been in this situation before I’ve only been married to my first love for 23 years I’ve been separated since 2011 legally the only reason why we never totally finished our divorce is because we owned so many properties and it’s much easier for us to keep each other on our medical insurance and our living trust for our children and should I die first or he dies first we can still keep all our properties for our children it’s very easy to intertwine things he’s not with anybody I’ve not been with anybody for years but now things are changing and should this person and I proceed then we can revisit that however he knows exactly where I stand I’ve been legally separated since 2011 I don’t date I don’t go out I take care of my family I continue to keep building best for them and so does my ex we barely speak except when it comes to the children and investments for them that is all he has his own new significant other who hates the fact that he won’t marry her but it is what it is we care more about what is best for our children and this man understands it as well I have a lot of health issues I need his insurance it’s phenomenal I have a lot of specialist taking care of me I had to retire early so our situation is very special however I don’t give a shit about a real divorce I give a shit about if we really move forward having commitment ceremony because back in the day you don’t have to file paperwork with the county clerk you could be somebody’s wife by being somebody’s wife and that is it I could file legal paperwork that he could have everything that I own but right now it belongs to my first son everything legally my living well my trust all goes to my first son not my ex-husband and if by God for bid my first son passes before me it goes to his godmother and my ex-husband signed off on all of it so there’s nothing he can do to contest it so this situation is different let me know your stance on that this is exceptional I’m not a dumb woman. I will certainly am not going to put at risk all the houses that we own together that are in the living trust for our five children together no way in hell can a new person come in and take what we have worked so hard for I’ve known him since I was 16 married at 18 and we busted our asses especially me he was a stay at home dad for a few years when he got laid off from the city and took care of our three little ones as best he could while I was at work. Then I left I couldn’t take it anymore and he stayed with my house in my name and I offered to give it to him I didn’t give a shit but he refused to pay the lousy $900 mortgage because I put so many hundreds of thousand dollars down of my money But he’s from Mexico and I’m gonna tell you right now those stereotypes nine times out of 10 are true but this time no Mexican this beautiful black man 6 foot two takes care of his self lifts weights probably can pick my fluffy ass up it doesn’t matter to me I don’t look at him like a sexual being I look at him like my intellectual partner he enlightens me and vice versa we read intellectual books together and people have no idea how different this is. His sister that he is super close with already knows me we are only in contact I love her I love her
My man and I just showed each other our std test all negative for literally everything possible and above all that even thyroid test cholesterol test everything you can imagine because we are older so miss me with all that he’s coming home very soon we are good not one size fits all and it’s really sad to see a black man put his own people in the same category I thought that’s only what white people do and I’m a fucking white and I don’t do that shit
So I have a 28-year-old and a 25 year old blessing their fucking asses both were tremendous careers making way more money than I ever did with my career and the government supporting helping me support this family because their punk ass dad doesn’t i’ve never asked him for help but I’ve always been there for my entire family not just for my family that lives in my house but for my entire extended family and they’ve seen that their entire life so they have a strong family value they are Hella old-school they don’t even let me get into their cars without opening my door I’m not allowed to get out of the car without them opening my door they are old-school like that that’s the way it supposed to be because my grandfather taught me if a man does not open your door for you drop them and drop them fast so I raise my son like that that’s the way it’s supposed to be because I was raised by my grandparents and I’m happy that my son listens to me because their father well I won’t disrespect him because I appreciate him for giving me these children and I’ll leave it there I won’t speak bad on him because I have to be a bad person to speak bad on the person who gave me these beautiful children I’ll leave him alone on that one
@@kaysjoy2570 that's most convicts including yours they always say "that's not my man" lol naive
@@Denzelswife-rb7qzAaaaaaand you’re right I dropped him before he was released I chose not to be one of “those” women. I was naive
Ladies! Ms. Faye is correct. Please pay attention!!!. I want to say the following as kind and thoughtful as possible. I worked in corrections for 10 years; further, I worked in a male classification center and I just want emphasize, a portion of new arrivals into the prison system can be violated and it does not take a year. Unfortunately, violations can occur within a week or less. Sometimes this activity becomes a life-style for some. Imagine the shock when his dual life-style is finally discovered. However, I want to clarify all incarcerated men do not encounter such activity, but, it occurs more often than one may think. His physical demeanor doesn't always display the facts. Everyone deserves a second chance; however, I would not consider dating a man who has been in prison for obvious reason I just discussed. Of course, that is a personal choice for everyone. Thank you Ms. Faye for bringing this topic to the fore-front of conversations.
I think the prison system should change, it’s about money and keeping the money in the pockets of those that run it. The system doesn’t do any good for these men, it only makes them worse and turns them into animals, making a worse human and worse for society.
I remember saying this out loud to a room full of women in a beauty shop.
60% of them were offended 😂
Sad thing is i was only 23 and everyone else was 30 and up
Hey Ms Faye how are y'all doing I am well watching replay great topic I need some suggestions police officer always had something to say about me when I shopped at store to his co workers what shall I do leave down comment section we love you Ms Faye wisdom stay safe and strong blessings ❤️
It's the culture
This is so embarrassing. To not desire men from prison is considered offensive to some women now? The absurdity of it all makes me want to hide. The bar can't be this low, right ?
Truth hurts that’s why
You too?? Im 30 and the woman i know is 50 and she will FIGHT to death for her man who ab to be on his way back to prison bc he sells drugs. And he cheats all over her and almost got her thrown in jail bc she started fighting his gf. Im like are u kidding me?! Say something critical ab him and she’ll fight you. I refuse to get involved on helping her atp
These men are master manipulators. If they weren’t when they went in, they are when they come out. It’s a requirement for survival.
He just went to prison on Friday. We were already done, because he is a narcissist and discarded me. I'm glad he did, therefore I'm not waiting on him while he's locked up. Did me a great favor.
Stay strong! He is in there for a reason. Miss ma'am is speaking truth. Do something nice for yourself today. ❤
@@kjjune8603 ♥️
Well, they definitely aren't "dating". They're "talking", like we used to say. 😂😂😂
Nowadays “talking” means s3x. The world has been turned on it’s head.
🗣️🗣️🗣️ lol
Right
“… he has that one man he gives noodles to…” 😂😂😂😂😂.
Prison currency. Instant ramen that clogs arteries and causes diabetes.
You heard this wise woman, ladies. DON’T EVER DATE A MAN IN PRISON! It’s a bad idea…
Why are some women so desperate and gullible. It’s sad
💯 Sad to hear some of them even have to ask Miss Faye certain questions.🙏
My father and uncle were professional jailbirds. I learned very young what type of males to avoid which were ones like them. I watched them mistreat BW in every way possible that you can think of. My uncle had several women at all times in and out of prison. Those women knew about each other too. They "knew their place" as he would say. His main woman was with him ever since he was 15 yrs old and she was 20 yrs old until his death in his 40s (he presented as older in appearance than he actually was and lied about his age too, he hung out with the adult males) was listed as his sister on his visitation list for prison so that his other women could come to visit him as his wife or whatever.
He was never married to any of them either. The main woman was pregnant with his child early on but the child died as an infant. He would beat, bite her, and threaten her when she wanted to leave. I tried to intervene once as a child because what he was doing to her was wrong and it hurt me to see. He hit me too and dragged her out of my grandparent's house. I honestly believe he was psychotic. I didn't fear him, I disliked him though along with my father.
My uncle never worked a day in his life but always had the best of everything with cars, trucks, clothing, shoes, cologne, money in his pockets etc... The women bought and paid for everything along with my grandparents. They would send him care packages in prison from the list of things he would tell them he wanted. He stayed sugar sharp just like a pimp. He even had manicured long nails and what our people call "a good grade of hair (black, thick, wavy, and long when he let it grow out)" beautiful brown flawless skin with a well-groomed beard. He wasn't scared of anybody male or female. He jumped on males just like he did women. He was the devil in the flesh and a complete menace.
Thanks for sharing. Your relatives sound toxic and mean. Hope things are going well for you now.
Wow... Fascinating and sad that women can be so desperate they'll settle for anything....glad to see you made it through....blessings to you....😊
@K. Uqdah that was the times that they grew up in. That is the same generation that would say, "A piece of a man is better than no man at all. They had that struggle love music like "No pain, No Gain" by Betty Wright. We get pushback now for not wanting to date BM in 2023. Now imagine the pushback in the 60's, 70's, 80's, 90's etc. I grew up in the 90's and in 2021- present times I have had old and younger BW get mad when I tell them my preferences for males or thoughts on having kids. Even though my life decisions don't effect them they still get fighting mad. It's completely insane.
@@truthhurts...6574 i aint mad atcha!
@cath tf Yes, things are going well for me. I limited my contact and eventually cut them off completely over the years. Some people will never change.
Totally agree! It's all true! Bcuz I've seen lots of examples of it up close over the years, from my childhood on up through out my adult years. I never went with a guy who been in jail, but seen lots of women who did and seen how it goes up close. So all that you've said is spot on Ms. Faye! These women support them with money, goes to visit and so on, and when these guys get out they are not true to that woman.
And the reason women goes for incarcerated men has to do with wanting a man to stay. Women want steady companionship and know that a lot of men are not candidates for that bcuz they want to hang out and run wild with their friends and what not. So, they dig at the bottom of the barrel or pudding cup, for a man who has nothing and nowhere to go, and also shut out from society as an ex con, bcuz they see it as an opportunity for him to stay. He'll stay if he has nothing and nowhere to go. That's the real reason women flock to prisons looking for a man.
Meanwhile some of these ladies would walk right past a stable man that is interested in her🤷🏿♂️
@@aarongray1981 Yes, women walk past unappealing men on the outside too. Too bad that bothers you. Maybe check your mental health incel.
@@aarongray1981 It depends on how a man approaches and communicates with a woman. In my experience, I found that men, the stable men as you say, I don’t consider, and live celibate, bcuz of the way they approach. In a shallow way. The shell of a woman, and not the actual woman herself as a person is his why they approach. Having no intention on getting to know her, and expects to get with her automatically. And offers to spend money. To buy her something. To get this automatic getting together going. Using money to speak for them. That’s how they communicate. With their wallet.
And many women refuse, bcuz after some experience in the world of men, women learn to distinguish the difference between real and shallow. Seeing that men are not truly interested and expect women to be auto-responsive to them. Like, if I throw out a cue she’s supposed to grab it and choose me. And, “he’s just another waste of time.” Is what women think. So, stable men must learn to demonstrate being stable and show a real interest in a woman. Not just expecting quick, autopilot behavior.
As a legal professional, I would also caution women & others in general about even supporting prisoners with things like mobile phones & other restricted items. You could become involved in a federal crime surrounding that type of supply. Items like cell phones, etc., are every day items to us here in the outside world, but they could be considered contraband to a federal or regular prisoner.
Even a greeting card with a chip that plays a song.
I never understood why people do this. I don't want a man I can't touch. I won't even date a man out of my state. It's all talk and no action. I don't have time for a pen pal and that's all it is.
I’m starting to realize that some of our women are just confused about relationships. My heart is getting sore. Now…she’s 50 and believes she’s in a “long distance relationship” and she’s in love with a person she never met. When actually what she has is a PEN PAL. And NO!…He’s NOT real!😢…Not in the sense that she’s feeling. I thought only teenagers felt this way. How are you in a “relationship” with a person that you never met? And don’t you take your butt out there to AFRICA looking for him!!!! You can visit with a group or friends and but don’t go alone looking for him!
This woman is so gullible. She thinks she is in love. She put her life on hold for 3 years, meanwhile this man is trying to scam other women. He’s getting money from other gullible women. Lady forget this man and move on.
Never again! They will you YOU! They have that prison mentality even when they’ve been out for years. No Mam!
Seems like something you shouldn't need to say but I know better. There were so many women in my church "involved" in the prison ministry who were looking for "husbands". One women married a convict and she lost everything and he left her when there was nothing left to get. So sad.
Alot of BW will look for love in the prison system because the black church played a hand in telling BW that we should settle and marry down.
Bingo! It was said because it was needed to be said, because dating felons is popular.
I knew someone who was dating a man in prison and they got married and when he finally got out he gave her AIDS
@@ebonylady I tell people all the time, these "churches" gonna get a lot of people murt. Women suffering from domestic violence for years are often told: "Stay with your husband" by the preacher and their family members. CRAZY!!!!
Scary that a 40 minute video needed to be made about this obvious point.
Exactly.
You would think it should be obvious. Some of these women need therapy
@@bee12355 Agreed. Being with a guy who's in prison is a lot to take on.
You would think it would be super obvious.
To me this video should be common sense, along with other things she has talked about🤷🏿♂️
I had an acquaintance who was always shady. Eventually his dirty dealings sent him to prison. I decided to not be judgemental and wrote to him, he wrote back regularly, said he'd changed and found religion. When he came out of prison I assumed he would be reformed, not at all. He went back to his old life and I stopped communicating with him. Love ❤ from 🇦🇺 Australia Miss Fay.
Ladies...Listen to MISS Faye..She is telling the truth..A coworker of mine who is now deceased went to visit the man at the prison for 8 years and put money on his account for 8 years. When he got out he went and married someone else immediately...My deceased coworker asked him how could you do me like that and I drove over 6 hours 2 see you every 2 weeks and put money on your account while you were locked up..He told my deceased coworker..You came up 2 see me on your own and I didn't ask you to put money on my account again you did that on your own...I remember she came back 2 the job telling coworkers of what this man told her and 1 coworker told my deceased coworker to her face in front of everybody at the job you were stupid as hell 2 be driving to see him anyway. For 8 years and putting money on his account???,She ran 2 the bathroom crying after the coworker told her that 2 her face..Me and another coworker went to the bathroom 2 help because she was very upset..My coworker told her you shouldn't have told nobody from the job in the 1st place that you were dating a man from prison and you're asking coworkers 2 drive 6 hours with you 2 go and see him every 2 weeks and everybody told her NO...She is deceased now..I still remember..My coworker who is now deceased put her life on hold for 8 years for this man and wouldnt date nobody else...But just what Miss Faye said..Dont date nobody who is locked up in prison...Miss Faye is telling the TRUTH....
Sad. And another aspect of it is that your employer was paying all of you to participate in this drama instead of working.
i met my sons father 4 months after my ex got locked up for murder, i told him i cant do that time with you..bye boo
Keep your standards high ladies. We all deserve love and respect and men in prison or with record are not worthy of our time.
You can't build with them
No jail birds! Their mental is off.
Was a pen pal once to a male childhood friend prisoner, he made a lot of promises. I was warned by friends to leave him alone. When he got out, he never sent a letter. Best decision I’ve ever made.
I've been talking to my prison Bae for three years now. We were engaged about 20 years ago but broke up. His mother helped him to locate me 3 years ago, and we ended up getting back together. I guess I have some reservations, but I've decided to wait for him. Hopefully, things will work out for us.😅
I was one of them for 11 year's I married him with a life sentence long story short I never knew what a narcissist was until last year watching TH-cam I went through mental distress my advice a any woman I think she found the one he is not the one it was a rollercoaster ride I was spinning in circles I was on fast spend and didn't know it until I was ejected from California to Seattle I thought he really loved me and cared about me until I became ill and I couldn't take care of him anymore he threw me away like a dishrag that was dirty I was in love but he wasn't now I have a message to deliver to all women don't do it
How you women get duped like this, just baffles me….
My cousin did this, she thought this guy was going to marry her. She was in her thirties and had five children, and to top it off she put a giant neck tattoo that looked absolutely awful!! It was his first name,I tried to tell her not to even go through that nightmare. Long story short on after two years he finally came out and of course he stayed with her not even a month! This guy really used my cousin for money in sex, place to live when he come out. She really believed that jerk, well she's 53 and now living with a man who mistreats her verbally, physically, emotionally. Kids are all gone doing their own thing, he lives in one of those silver trailers from the 50s. His dad let's him live on property but my cousin pays the rent,not him. Well I told her to help her mom instead of this jerk. Her mom my aunt is 80 yrs old and starting to get dementia. I'm 62 now and been celabite since 2015, I don't miss sex but I miss a good conversation with a man. God bless you Faye I'm thank you for your messages
Men do not hold women down that go to prison. They just don’t. Women can be so dumb it’s ridiculous.
Facts
Excellent advice Ms. Faye.. you said it direct and to the point.. Ladies where is your self esteem.. we are better than that.. thank you Ms. Faye.. best wishes going forward..🙏🏽🙏🏽🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷
Won't touch a man in prison. Come on ladies, you deserve better. Please get in the Word of God and HE will lead and guide you towards the right man, not a trouble man. Don't do men on the down-low. No mam...
Same as men who are in the army etc
I had a prison relationship for a year, I knew him from high school. It was a lot to deal with but I stood by him. When he got out we moved in together and I got pregnant. He went right back to the streets, wasn’t coming home, committing crimes. He left me when the baby was 5 months old and I was dealing with postpartum depression. I take responsibility for being that dumb and believing his lies. We coparent with our 2 year old but he brings a lot of drama. He is still in and out of jail, he’s 39 and I doubt he will ever change.
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So true I agree lovely Queen I'm glad I didn't make that mistake my ex went to prison for 3 yrs he wanted to continue the Realationship after he went to prison I broke up 3 months later my spirit told me don't waste any more time I moved on with my life. He was angry, oh well. Peace and ❤
They don't have to be in prison to be gay Mrs Faye, they could be living next door with their wives with children and grandchildren and still be gay trust me. I respect your opinions however you don't know just how sneaky males are pretending to be ladles men.
There went my last beacon of hope to find a decent man...😔
Wait I say, on the Lord. IJS
Keep in mind I didn't say a man in church. Wait on the Lord.
BE ENCOURAGED
@@twinsma14 Look anywhere you go on earth 🌎 gay people are around you, Mrs Faye do a good talk as if she knows it all however she could be with a man all her life and never find out he is gay and living a double life. Please pay attention 🙏 to the "ladies men" and men calling other men gay they themselves are gay it's call deflecting.
@@itzkimzstuff Church is loaded with gay men sitting there with their wives as a front 😳.
She also has a video on down low men.
This attraction by women to prison inmates has been studied by various learned researchers, & yet this phenomenon can't be reasonably explained. My sister worked in a maximum security prison & looked after many notorious & gruesome psychopathic serial killers, violent rapists, repeat child molesters etc. The more horrific the crimes, the more the women went after them. Mail by the sackful, driving hundreds of miles to meet them, wanting to marry them and have their babies. These women were mostly well-educated with a profession, had a good income & lived a comfortable lifestyle. Quite often in the helping professions. Just puzzling to many. Hope your advice saves a few women from disaster. ❤
If I had to sum up the attraction for prison inmates. It begins with a woman feeling sorry for them and being fascinated by them. Prison men have a certain allure to them that the average regular man on the street just don't have. It's really no different with men who find themselves attracted and involve with strippers and prostitutes. A woman whose nice, respectable, goes to church, works a decent job, educated ect. are simply boring. Same thing when it comes to women and the hard working nice guy - boring.
She cares about our happiness and wellbeing. Lovely person!
I think it's important to realize a man who hates particular women, hates all women. He just has not deeply examined his real issues with women. Some do have preferences and that's fair, but often this is in alignment with the relationship they have with the women in their families and how they feel in their own lives and the investment they have made into themselves. When they genuinely have preferences, they don't need to put any group down. Thry have internal peace and gice peace to others. It's very clear to see. Always know that how he treats one women is how he will treat all women. It's that simple. You don't want a man who isn't deep enough to encompass an indepth understanding of the value of a woman, period. Its not that deep. These men are broken and running. Let them run and know that they will leave a trail of tears and collateral damage. There are healthier men to choose from. Focus on the kind of man you mirror.
And people from prison come out are controlling and abusive. They also can be very loving and say beautiful kind things while in prison, but as soon as they get out they will call you every bad name in the book. The kind sweet words go out the door.
I really needed to see this video I had a friend that I used to date 18 years ago I was 19 when he went to prison and he did 18 years he just got out almost three years ago I was 36 when he got out & I was the first person that he asked about when he got & he reached out to me quite a few times but I was already in another relationship he claimed that he wanted to be back with me but now that I’m older what I wanted it back then is not what I want now and I tried explaining that to him I told him that I could never be in a relationship with a man that was in prison or just got out mind you he did 18 years so it’s a whole bunch of shit that he’s going through mentally and I don’t have the time nor do I have the energy or the patience to go through any of that he had a job but after his background check came back he was terminated I feel like dating someone that’s in prison or someone that’s just getting out of prison that’s just too much I told him that he needed to get his self together before he even considers on being in a relationship with me or anybody else he says that he was just looking for somebody to love him because he felt like when he was released he didn’t have anything to live for so I told him if you didn’t love yourself how could you possibly love anybody else for that matter I wish him nothing but the very best I wish that he gets his self together and he gets the help that he needs..... A lot of women need to watch this video
you not 18 anymore...my ex found me on FB he did time for murder..i was 17 when we met, i gave him NO hope , i moved on 4 months after he got locked up in the 80s....
@@peacefaith560 But at least he got murder out of his system.
A part of me feel that time stopped for them when they go inside and they want to go back to what they knew. By not accepting that time moved on 🙏
@@angeltexas3208 right I agree with you it’s like they trying to play catch up on the time that they missed
It's really sad that anyone has to be told this.
Hi Miss Faye you're looking absolutely beautiful as always and I hope that these young ladies listen to you, have a wonderful and blessed day everyone 😊❤
Every time I want to go back to talk to him I watch this video and it gets me right . Why did I have to fall in love w a felon ! NO I DESERVE BETTER . Thank you miss Faye !!! ❤❤❤
This message is not directed at me at all, because I would never EVER date a man in prison, going into prison, or out of prison, my desperation meter is not that high. But I just like to listen to Mrs. Faye, she reminds me of my grandmother that passed in 2020, (she lived a long life, passed at 99, I could only be so lucky).
I thought my relationship with a man in prison was different because I knew him when we were young. He did tell me before he went back, You don't have to wait for me. I was 54, 57 when he got out. Everything you've said is true. Besides that, he wasn't mentally present when we had sex. I know he wasn't telling me everything. He threw away all the letters I wrote him while he was in prison. He was this free sprited person when we were young but he wasn't that person anymore. I suspected when he was in for 7 years once that he might've had "relationships" in there. I'm so glad I'm seeing your video now. I need this knocked into my brain because I still entertain the idea of being with him.
he been with men ..let it go gurl don't do it
This should be a no-brainer but I’m glad you’re passing along wisdom and knowledge!
I needed this advice 15 years ago , boy do they lie , and I ate it all up …. 😢 dummy me
The difference between love and hate is: INDIFFERENCE !
Good morning Miss Faye, it's your consistency and on point topics for me ❤! I look forward to you sharing your wisdom with the ladies, young and older.
It's called being gay for the stay. I did a video about it on my channel. There is a whole science behind it. People do this bc they can feel secure knowing where that person is 24/7. They may have come from abusive relationships and they feel safe knowing they won't be hurt again. The only way I would hold somebody down is if he was truly innocent and I was married to them. If not...✌️
Gay for the stay 🤮. Helllll naw ain’t no way. I think those men were already like that & prison was just an excuse for them to be with men.
Miss Faye, I look forward to your videos, it feels like I'm sitting down to get some life advice from the grandma I never had :)
Miss Faye, I would like to answer the question about BM . It's not a preference, but rather they really believe that it hurts BW but it's not our job to help them and understand their issues. They say it because they really do dislike us and younger BW are finally waking up and realize that we don't want their issues or problems. Yes, my parents are married and my father would always be honest when it came to BM pathology and why alot of older BW never got married and struggled with single motherhood.
Hello Miss Fay. Our Divine asked me to give you a donation and the amount so, I did. Just to let you know he is looking out for you……..❤️
Good morning Miss Faye’s ❤nice to see u can’t wait for this topic 🤩thanks ms Faye’s ❤
1:15 Do ppl really need reasons not to date men in prison? 😆
Yes
Anyone considering a prison relationship needs to watch the TV show Love after Lockup. It doesn't work. It is hard to be in a relationship with a free person! Know your worth and realize that you deserve better!
Thank you Ms Faye with another great one again. definitely I’m sharing this with my family members and friends
This here is the truth. I seeing a man in prison and he had other women coming and sending him money. I just got out of a toxic relationship with a man who just got out of prison living in a Transitional home and it was hell.
Don’t make their problems your problems. Who needs the drama. Stay away.
They don't wanna be tied down to anyone , they been tied down long enough & some of them won't ever get out , especially if they in for murder , they looking for money
They are very dangerous Run🏃
He's giving his noodles 🍜 to a man 🤣🤣🤣 So many of them have access to illegal cellphones and are all over dating sites grooming multiple women to benefit from money on their books and a whole lot of other stuff they're asking for (stamps, attorney fees, commissary, cellphones, smuggling contraband, etc.) And a lot of these women end up de@d or severely abused once these guys are released. Most of them think low of any woman needing to settle for somebody locked up and doesn't value herself so he figures nobody in the outside world does either. Some of them are making more money a week than free men because they're hustling so many women AND MEN at the same time that you'll never know about.
The sad part is most women 😢gotta find out the hard way 💔
A make believe relationship? Tee-Hee-Hee and they lived “Happily Ever After”
Sister, Miss Faye.....you are spot on ! HE going to ask her for money ax soon as she says " I love you" .... Miss Faye your gut is working !! Thank you for your Channel. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐❤⚘⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️📰🇬🇧
I came from abusive relationships and felt nothing wrong with being with this man I knew as kids but didn’t get to know the person he grew up to be he had me mentally and because I been celibate for years I felt safe he even went so far to say he would give me a kidney or a heart transplant if I needed it in my heart I was like aww but in my head I knew better he wants me to throw my life away tryna rush getting married and has 7 years left I’m about to leave I have kids he has kids and he now wants me not only to support him financially saying he can help with money too but empty promises to get what he wants psychological mind games and I feel like this is a whole nother level of abuse so thank you mama Faye ❤❤❤I’m definitely leaving and I felt like he could be doing things desperately for things he wants in prison
I was married 2 a covert narc FOR 7 YRS I didn't know BETTER I WAS TICK but I do know I'm not messing w/no man n JAIL🙄 not even when he get out NO WAY HE WILL B A DIFFERENT PERSON I GOT JESUS✌️😇 👑🙏TRUE FACTS 💯 2 D VIDEOS MOVING FORWARD ⚘️
Had a friend that married an African man. He came to the states and after 6 months sent for his sister and moved her into my friends house. Needless to say, not his sister, was his WIFE! 😳
Wow! That's crazy!
they don’t give a fuq when they scamming! Geesh! 😮
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yup same happened to my cousin..but he moved his daughter in, her boyfriend, and they had 2 babies, so my cousin left him and gave them her apt now shes living off her truck
That was a red flag right there a man from Nigeria
Dont date men that are in an out of prison..and or have done long term time
Youre absolutely on Point💯
16:56 “Long distance relationship with a man from Nigeria”. You might as well just stop right there..😩
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Don’t let your man lie to you .. talking about I didn’t have sex with no man ! The guys in prison {2or3} will literally hold down the new comer’s n have sex with them in the beginning ! Eventually they get conditioned.. the abuser offer protection, food , snacks , affection etc. Plus when they come home .. they began to desire your son’s!!
NO LIE! A male correction officer of 20 years said it best: "Ladies, DO NOT believe the lies men tell you when they first get in prison "I held on to my manhood". He said within 2 weeks, he is either "serving or being served." He is watching too much "action" going on around him to not want to participate. Doesn't matter if he's single or married.
I've Never and Never Will Friend, Date, Marry or anything else with anyone incarcerated... I could never understand how a few of my friends, family members, colleagues church members would even do this... It's sad to see our women so desperate just to have someone in their lives... Smh
It's not always about women being desperate. It's more about being fascinated by men in prison. Prison men have a certain allure to them that the average man on the street just doesn't possess.
Yea I don't understand it either. When I was alone I never considered man in prison.
You're on point Miss Faye! Someone tried to set me up with a man in the cell next to tje man she would eventually marry. She even sent me a letter from him! Oh hell to the naw! She had the audacity to be offended because I refused to get involved....6 years later, she's talking divorce because he was denied parole...again....what an idiot...😵
In a conscious mind like the one I have, I NEVER have and never will date a man in prison or ex former prisoners.
Your are a treasure 🤍Thank you!
In an old singles magazine I used to read one awhile just for fun, there was whole section dedicated to inmates looking for love.
I'm a c/o and it's sickening how these guys in prison be on the phone with their women controlling them behind the wall smh..
I agree with you Queen of knowledge... I do not recommend dating anyone about to go prison, in prison or ever been to prison. The letters are way too long Queen. Thanks for asking them to be short and direct to the point. Blessing 🇯🇲
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Miss Faye it's a shame you had to tell them this my my my 😪
So true Miss Faye your advise is on 👍🏾 point. It is suspect that in 3 years the guy in Nigeria never asked to meet up with her friends who live in Nigeria to express his interest in her. Yes, not good don't do it❣️
Young ladies this is what you call a gem 💎 a real OG real genuine knowledge this is the queen that you take notes from
Miss Faye...tell the lady who sent the letter...to request the court document numbers of that civil case because she has a friend who is an attorney and can help him with his case. If he says it's not public documents, he's lying. He may say "ok" and then she will never hear from him again. Ask for the people's names who he is in this civil case with. Ask what is the name of the court where the case is being adjudicated. He may continue to give excuses why he can't give her any of the civil case document numbers or info to stall her out. There you go, she has her answer. A flat out liar!
Also these men have cellphones 📱 in prison and have social media accounts
Auntie this was a TUFF subject to have to post But this is Correct u are Right a relative of my done prison tlme a I don't like being around him a I am 65 years old man
Thanks.
Perfect advice for the woman with the Nigerian boyfriend!! Let him go!! He's a heartbreak waiting to happen!
About the last letter. Why hasn't he divorced his wife? They have been together for 8 years and he's only separated? I don't believe he loves her at all, even with all the money he has spent on her. Some women like to hear "I love you" it makes them feel special and secure and it's just nice to hear the words once in awhile. I have a gut feeling he's still somehow involved with his wife on some level maybe because he would lose a lot in a divorce. Also, she can't be his woman, he's married! I agree she needs to break it off completely, she certainly doesn't deserve a controlling still married man. How do I know this? Because I could have written that letter myself! (but I didn't) Exact same situation I was in for 10 years also! I would advise a woman who is "dating" or a better word would be "seeing" a separated man is give them a time limit on when they need to be divorced by and if he still hasn't budged when that time is up it's time to make a decision about the relationship. There's something fishy going on there.
SHE IS 100!! AS REAL AS IT GETS.. I could not date a man thats has been in prison for allll the reason she mentioned! Hell Naw! She on point!🙅🙅
Take N🚫 Prisoners.
It is a sad state of affairs when someone like Ms. Faye have to explain this concept to women. Common sense is no longer common. Heaven help us, Lord!
The woman who been with (the married) man for 8 years and he’s NEVER said he loves her…then he don’t. When a man really loves you..he WILL verbally say so. The gifts don’t mean anything. A man with money can buy several woman gifts AT THE SAME time and still not love them. He may only have love for his wife. This side woman needs to break it off with him at this point.
That letter sounds catfish , the lady dating the Nigerian guy (she never met )
I get people trying to talk to me on Instagram all the time
And I know it’s fake
This one guy told me he was in the navy I knew it was a lie
I have a now-ex-female friend who is constantly dating men in prison. She was a very attractive, although mentally and emotionally damaged woman. She even married a man who was incarcerated at the Vacaville Medical Correctional Facility [for the crazies] for sexual assault, and was doing a 3-year sentence! The saving grace was that his family was well-to-do. Initially, she misrepresented to me that a female cousin of hers was incarcerated, and she had me take her all the way up there from San jose, CA, to visit her / him.
Jesus🙏🏽
Thank you for the facts.
Exactly what I was thinking. As you said it.They come out living that mindset. Beware.
I told my mother the same damn thang.She tells me about meeting some african.First off,they don't respect women.They look at women as property.They also marry more woman in their country & yes it's legal to marry multiple women in africa.Are yall seirous?This african man can 't possibly love just one woman...WAKE UP!