My son's 7th birthday was yesterday. He did great with all the decorations, presents, and having my mom and her partner over. I didn't sleep well last night, though, so today I'm going to try to take it easy. Have a great week, Claire and friends! 💞
First I have to congratulate the entire team for the production of the podcast very professional something to be proud of. (😂 and when I say team I mean Claire). I started Porch Coffee and then I stopped it because I forgot my beverage of choice. I’m watching from the garden en you’re on a Bluetooth speaker so the whole neighborhood can enjoy Porch Coffee. I’m currently busy weeding I have a lot of weeds to get rid of before I can start planting. I’m not burned out anymore but my energy is still low so it’s slow going but at least we’re going. Made it to Germany this week to get some more pipe tobacco. Was a little impulsive so now I also have cigars. Have already smoked the first ones memories of my grandpa smoking his cigars came back in a flash. It’s interesting how certain smells can trigger memories. Have a good week Claire and Friends. PS I can’t tell if those are your birds or mine lol.
Hi, Claire and everyone else!. Taking care of yourself and moving at your own pace….good for you! I’m so glad you’re doing better this week! My week had a concert at each end which was wonderful for me!( music is my special interest ) hope everyone has a good week!
Hello! Good to see your spirits up and hear of a better week. Self-care is important! My week was pretty good, too. Mostly navigated more things for my kids with school year winding up for my two youngest, sought to support my oldest as he reestablishes himself, and even dared to dip a toe back in to setting up my own website for art. Love Purple Ella. She has such a lovely presence. Will definitely check that out. Blessings on your week, friend. ❤
I hear you on the learning to go at your own pace and let go of perfection. It feels like a lesson I have to learn over and over. Something MOTS said on her channel recently about not having to use 100% of your energy everyday kinda blew my mind and I didn’t even realize I was thinking that way. It was another good reminder to go at my own pace. Have a great week internet friends!
Thanks for another great porch coffee! With birds! 🐦🦜🦅🦆🪗Yes, I agree with progress over perfection, just have to remind myself... Also, think it's important to stay curious, keep learning, question assumptions.📖Slowly making progress with my work. Some health challenges. Hope everyone has an awesome week!! ✨
Excellent video, Claire! I'm definitely hoping for a good week this week after the hectic week last week. I'm hoping for you to have a good week as well 😀
+woodshedtheory *Rather than hypervigilance, I've a tendency for **_hypovigilance._* Forget chores occasionally, much to the chagrin of fellow residents at the Byron Shops.
Hi! It’s crow egg season where I am, so they are protecting their nests. So. Much. Yelling. I haven’t been swooped on yet, but they also know my face so I get a pass (literally, they yell and then peer at me, then call off the alarm. They’re scary intelligent). This week I’ve been struggling, as always, with pacing myself. I’m a driven person normally and I feel weird without goals and a schedule to meet them. But I’m also burnt out and trying to recover. I oscillate from extremes of “I need to rest and not push myself” and “I can’t let myself wallow, so I need goals back.” The all or nothing thinking isn’t helping, but I can’t seem to turn it off. It’s a work in progress.
I'm struggling with my space at the moment. I have ADHD, so I really need stuff to be visible, but I get super stressed by visual clutter. And with two kids, a partner and a big poodle in a smallish space it's a struggle. Especially since I love to crochet and sew and have lots of supplies and no dedicated space for them!!
It has helped me tremendously to have my own creative place. Even if it's just a corner of the living room. With clear agreements. I won't be disturbed and nothing will be moved. Claim your own place!
@MrMetteko yes, I know that would help. We are constructing a studio in our backyard but it takes a while. I'm working from home out of our camper, but I can't move my stuff out there because he use it for camping!
Good morning Claire Watched your video with Purple Ella, very inspiring. I have seen some of her videos as well. She is wonderful as well. Learning a lot. You two had a great conversation. Perfection! Not one of my strong suits. Always admired good speakers. I hope you have a great week.
You also inspired me to start with you tube. Which I'm going to explore this week as well. In any case, a good tip to learn during the progress. You don't have to know everything in advance. In addition, there is still a lot of planting and sowing in the vegetable garden this week. Now I wait for drier weather.
I think an Autism self-diagnosis (which may then lead to a professional diagnosis) requires a platform like TH-cam and people like You who are willing to put themselves out there on the Tube so that people like us can relate to your content in such a way that we see many similarities, the cogs start turning, and we start self evaluating based on your shared experiences. Thank you for all of your efforts!
The learning thing has a name. The conscious competence model. I am helping a bunch of new hires at work and right now they are all at the stage where they just realize how much they dont know. It's a tough place to be! But it is a natural step in becoming competent.
Good morning! Thanks for sharing about learning new things and not needing to know everything up front. I have always had this strong desire to map everything out completely before I start. And obviously that makes starting things really difficult lol.
Hey Claire, getting to porch coffee late today, definitely my favorite part of Mondays, it’s actually decent weather in the Midwest today and yesterday finally Glad your week is better and taking things at your own pace. #slowandsteadywinstherace , The bird sounds are so nice, Have a good week
Claaaire! great birdsongs this AM. the past week was kinda crappy. dealing with insurance and getting the runaround, miscommunications with family, and just feeling low and self-critical. but, I'm more rested today and feeling better. wish you a great week!
I had already decided to make videos by time I saw your channel, but watching it grow along with your comfort being on camera has been a continuous source of encouragement.
Progress over perfection. I’m REALLY working to make this my new mantra. As well as being on the autism spectrum, I also have complex PTSD. I expect myself to always be happy 24/7, to never have bad days. To never cry and to grow out of crying altogether. To never feel sad, nervous, upset or angry. In order to be more human like everybody else, I expect myself to grow out of those things.
Thank you for such a great video! ❤ I’m not the only one who refers to myself as we?! I’m always saying we then I’m like why do I say that because it’s only just me. Maybe it has to do with masking so much my entire life that I feel like I’m more than just one person. I’m not quite sure.
So many new Club Muggers. Mudblooders. Mug Coppers. I feel you. Sometimes you just go with the best word you can find at a given moment in time. Really enjoyed the last podcast! I hope you have at least asked Struan, because I think you two would have a pretty good conversation. Also, I have the feeling that with the podcast you are already doing 150% of what a neurotypical person would be able to do. So.... you know... It's a new thing, you have to find a pace that works for you.
Greetings. Good pattern of doing things that you are talking about but from my experience it has not worked out when it comes to dealing with people but that may be a flaw on my end.
@@WoodshedTheory it is not the working with that i have issue with, it is the rest of it like what you have accomplished that escapes me. At my job i only have to deal with people in short bursts usually, i run the outside sandblaster by myself, so i can tolerate their laziness and dishonesty much better and not have to deal with the results when i push back on both of those traits. I do not get the luxury of showing who i am, what i am, as fully as you do and i do not mask, never have. The few times i tried to show a piece of myself i get more and more enemies more often than not and i would rather go silent for now than get everyone as my enemy. It kind of sucks, i get to see evidence of so many getting to have fun (relatively speaking of course) and i try to work the few things i can that i see others do and i get the exact opposite than what everyone else gets. That is the dealing with people i refer to and from what little bit i have seen anything of the autistic community i am an anomaly there as well. The more i learn of the others the more i see that i am truely alone in this world and there are things i would have liked to try my hand at that it looking more and more likely that i will never get an opportunity to do so. I really hope that is not the case.
hi Clarie. I am still waiting for you to do thimbles for woodshedtheory. ;) As an avid collector, I would love to have a woodshedtheory one on my shelves. ;)
@@WoodshedTheory If you google buying souvenir thimbles or something like that, some suppliers should come up. Maybe we just need the same as mug club, with tiny stickers and blank thimbles to make imposter thimbles. ;)
Good morning Claire, thanks for the video! Hopefully this week is better than last week for me. It was very stressful and I’m still trying to recover from it. Unfortunately it’s probably going to be another busy week.
Hey there Claire, You look much happier this week, that's nice to see. Not much going on here this week for me we have a Bank Holiday Monday today and it's been nice the past few days and yet today it's the usual grey and wet bank holiday weather as usual. I'm just going to see if I can get on and do some more of my cross stitch this week, and I have a few bits to tidy around the house and I thought I would see about getting the washing put away and anything after that is a bonus 😂. I really enjoyed your interview/talk with Ella you have a warm and welcoming interview/chat style technique, if you get what I mean. It makes for some lovely podcasts. I look forward to the next podcast, and have a great week.
152 videos in the PorchCoffee playlist! I’ve been hyper focused on starting a bullet journal and neglected a lot of house chores, so I’ll be trying to catch up on as much of those as possible. And I need to buy strawberry jam. Anyone got a favorite strawberry jam - or I guess, “spread” (no chunks but not jelly)?
Always strawberry. Nothing else. I experimented with strawberry vanilla or strawberry-rhubarb, wich is a common combo here in Germany, but it will always be strawberry if I have to pick one.
@@sarahleony nah, that´s too sweet for me. I buy Bio-products with less sugar. I grew up with a lot of homemade products out of the garden from grandmother and her sister, even after she died it lasted for years (and fruits, beans, pickled cucumbers, etc. Honey came from cousin of mother who was a beekeeper). It was very strange for me the first time buying some in a supermarket in my twenties, so I am a bit snobby with those things. And as common is has to be the similar taste and texture always, no change please... Grandmother had a lot of rhubarb in her garden too, so that was well known for me. The vanilla was a one-time try. It was tasty, but wrong.
I think when the podcast came out I was busy and couldn't watch it. It hasn't come back up and I forgot about it. I need to find it and watch it. My week was a bit better than the previous one.... not feeling that constant fight/flight feeling for no obvious reason. Feeling pressured by my neighbours to cut my lawn. I HATE yardwork... and can't stand the sound of lawn mowers. Apparently no one here does "no mow May". I'm in a semi-detached so it's a shared front lawn and he keeps doing his half, which makes me feel pressured to do mine. I always get ill after mowing the lawn (noise & sun?) so I'm reluctant to do it... but I probably have to. I wish I had the money to hire someone to do it.
@@Catlily5 I did look for one when I bought the current one YEARS ago.... and the push ones were more expensive! They were crazy expensive and I couldn't afford it. :( This one is nearly 20 years old now...well, probably about 15-16 years... when it dies, I'll get something else... I'll see what I can get.
Perfect episode title. (ha ha ha, see what I did there? 🙄🤣) But it's so true, it can be very difficult to to let go of the desire for perfection. Also, the fake birds were very amusing 🐦
I want to be a hospice chaplain, and to do so I have to apply for a particular kind of training/residency type of program. I have done the application before but never turned it in. The first question is to provide a reasonably full account of my life...and post diagnosis, so much of how I understand my whole life has changed I'm not sure I feel qualified to answer that question.
lisa i can see how that would be a challenge - i think i would struggle to answer that big question. I would tend to suggest trying to keep to the basics and if they have further questions they can always ask you.
Thanks for the Birds, I enjoyed that a lot. :) Also for sharing, we expand our minds together. I had to pause 2x just because we also get noisy birds here. :)
Yep! I’m a new channel and I use my phone to record. I like learning all the stuff about being a content creator…I think it’s because the ADHD part of my brain loves all the multi-focus needed. But I also work full time as an elementary school teacher..and that is COMPLETELY overstimulating for me. Editing my videos is solitary, creative, and calms me down. The thing I still can’t, for the life of me get right , is holding the phone horizontally to film long form! I’m so used to holding it vertically. Whenever I decide to spurge on a camera, this will be a challenge. Btw…I LOVE all the birds. Makes me happy!
So glad your week went well! That is a good point to ponder about focusing on progress instead of perfection. I need to hear that for sure. Week here was good. We had a weekend getaway which was a good balance of relaxation and fun. This week hopefully will be relaxing.
Two questions: 1) am a subscriber of Purple Ella too, but never heard something about pronouns on her or their channel, just that she or they is bisexual too. So it's she or they? Don't wanna go on misgendering not knowing. 2) I don't know what kind of birds live where You live. If this would have happened here and it is spring time I would have guessed that a squirrel or craw came to hunt eggs or chicks and the birdies were outraged. At other seasons that a falcon came to hunt smaller birds. So nothing good. Or that You live in rain forest now.
Simone is correct! As for the birds - there was def some sort of battle going on while i was filming this, i hope there is peace in the bird world soon
@@SimoneEppler ah. Then I missed them. I always watch the shorts of my subscribed channels, but not always the longer ones. So thanks for the info, I think I should check their channel then and watch those videos. Wusste gar nicht dass Du auch hier bist, Simone. Sorry dass ich bei Deinen letzten Sachen stumm war. 1) ich habe keine abgeschlosse Ausbildung/Studium, ergo keinen Beruf 2) ich musste meinen Kater euthanasieren lassen, der mein Lebensmittelpunktsgeschöpf war und die längste Beziehungsperson, mit der ich bewusst zusammengelebt habe. Das war am Freitag vor zwei Wochen und am Abend davor ist er aus dem nichts schreiend zusammengebrochen, ich bin panisch in die Tierklinik, die zufällig nebenan ist und es wurde ein sehr schnellwachsender Tumor festgestellt der höchstwahrscheinlich inoperabel gewesen wäre. Er hatte schon länger altersbedingt einige chronische Dinge, deshalb ist es nicht so aufgefallen, er hat viel gefressen, ist gesprungen, hatte glänzendes Fell, etc. Der Tierarzt in der Klinik hat mir einen Bericht geschrieben, weil er meinte dass ich sonst Probleme mit einer*m mobilen vet bekommen würde, weil er sonst so gut aussehen würde (so war es auch und jetzt fühle ich mich sehr schuldig und habe Angst, dass ich einen fatalen Fehler gemacht habe). Findus wäre also sehr wahrscheinlich bei der OP gestorben oder er hätte danach auch nur noch einige Wochen mehr gehabt (ich wollte zuerst eine OP, aber wenn eine Tierklinik mir abrät, die die maximale OP-Erfahrung hat und gut daran verdient habe ich es geglaubt.) Es war maximal schlimm und es ist immer noch furchtbar. Ich konnte nicht einmal mehr sprechen für über eine Woche, geschweige denn YT schauen oder gar kommentieren, auch wenn das seit einer Weile meine einzigen sozialen Kontakte sind wie für andere Menschen eine Familie, Partnerpersonen oder reale Freunde. Und wenn irgendwo etwas Katzen beinhaltet werde ich das wahrscheinlich noch länger nicht anschauen können. Also, bei Deinen nächsten Videos bin ich wahrscheinlich wieder dabei und es hatte nichts mit Dir/Deinem Kanal zu tun. Ich würde mir generell etwas zum Thema Trauer und Autismus wünschen, da ich in den letzten drei Jahren noch fünf menschliche Todesfälle hatte und besonders seit dem Tod meines Papas vor etwas über zwei Jahren sehr damit zu tun habe und es sehr verwirrend für mich ist. Entweder ich fühle gar nichts, sondern es ist eine Tatsache, die ich auf intellektuelle Weise verstehe, aber keine Gefühle assoziiert, oder es ist extrem schlimm. Und das in nicht logisch erfassbaren oder vorhersagbaren Zeitabständen. Ich fühle es wahrscheinlich latent, da ich sehr angespannt, gereizt bin und sehr offen für "fremde" Gefühle, also bei YT-videos über an Krebs gestorben Kinder langanhaltend in Tränen ausbreche oder bei fiktionalen Serien/Filmen. Was mir eher fremd ist und ich unheimlich finde. Ich habe mich jedenfalls komplett von realen "Freundschaften" zurückgezogen, weil ich mich sehr fremd von denen gefühlt habe und entweder zu blöd bin mitzuteilen was ich fühle oder wenn ich es versucht habe mitgeteilt bekommen habe dass das "falsch" sei, "Angst mache", etc. Ich glaube ich habe vorher nicht gewusst wie massiv ich gemaskt habe, wie anders mein inneres Erleben von meiner äußeren Repräsentation war. Scheißmoment im autistischen burnout rauszubekommen, dass man Autistin ist, das dann irgendwann mitzuteilen und auf Ablehnung und Befremden zu stoßen. Wurde eigentlich gerade besser. Das ist alles so frustrierend schwierig, auslaugend, kompliziert. Kennst Du das Gefühl, dass Du zwar eigentlich weißt, was die Realität ist, es sich aber gleichzeitig irreal anfühlt? Oder Du z.B. weißt, dass es keine Zeitreisen gibt, die Vergangenheit abgeschlossen ist, es sich aber so falsch anfühlt wenn Personen aus der Vergangenheit alt sind oder sich anders sehr verändert haben, seitdem Du sie das letzte Mal gesehen hast, oder auch Orte. Ich bekomme dann richtig Herzrasen, und es ist ein überwältigenden Gefühl von "das ist falsch das ist falsch das ist falsch" in panikartig sich hochfahrender Geschwindigkeit, wie hochpotenziert dieses Gefühl wenn Menschen meine Dinge falsch hinstellen und ich weiß ich darf nichts sagen bis ich irgendwann schreiend um mich schlagen möchte oder auf die zurennen, zur Seite stoßen, alles "richtig wieder aufräumen" und sie anbrüllen das entweder richtig zu machen oder nichts mehr anzufassen. Meine Vorstellung, wie es sein wird wenn mein Papa stirbt z.B. hat sich so sehr nicht erfüllt, dass es mich komplett hilflos und wütend in einem sehr schwer aushaltbaren Dauerschwebezustand hinterlässt, weil ich kein alternatives Konzept finde, um es zu ersetzen. Es ist nur eine sehr bedrohliche Fehlermeldung. Und ich sollte etwas machen, wie wenn in Filmen ein Zeitzünder langsam runterzählt, aber ich fange an in Ruhe zu bügeln, weil ich das auch erledigen muss und genau weiß was ich tun muss, aber es mir unmöglich ist, unter Zeitdruck zu entscheiden was das Wichtigste wäre, was ich jetzt einpacken müsste für eine Evakuierung, also gar nichts tue und blöderweise dann gesprengt werde. Es ist einfach so viel so falsch und ich möchte das gefälligst korrigieren! Oh fuck! Das war aus Versehen ganz schön viel. Ich sende das jetzt trotzdem, weil ich genauso lange bräuchte, wenn ich das jetzt durchlese und versuche auf den Punkz zu bringen, aber Du musst nichts antworten.
@@katzenbekloppt_mf Hey, mein tiefstes Beileid wegen deiner Katze. 😢😢 Das tut so weh und ich glaube dir sofort, dass du in einen Shutdown gingst. Und dann geht es nicht mit dem Reden. Du hast dich selbst geschützt. Fühl dich gedrückt, falls du möchtest. Das wird auch noch ne Weile dauern, lass dir Zeit und fühl dich niemals schlecht wegen den Videos bei mir. Ich hab dich schon vermisst, also gemerkt, dass du nicht da warst, nehme dann aber immer an, dass was Wichtigeres dazwischen kam. Das mit der Irrealität kenne ich nur zu gut und habe ich exakt auch, wenn ich in Trauer bin oder sonst total im Stress. Dann dissoziiere ich total. Auch ein Schutzmechanismus von unserer Psyche, die Realität tut gerade zu fest weh! Du bist also nicht alleine. 🤗🤗🤗
@@SimoneEppler Ich danke Dir! Irgendwie sendet YT gerade nicht alle Benachrichtigungen, habe es eben erst in den mails gesehen. Heute kam die Urne. Ist auch etwas irreal, weiß gar nichts damit anzufangen.
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My son's 7th birthday was yesterday. He did great with all the decorations, presents, and having my mom and her partner over. I didn't sleep well last night, though, so today I'm going to try to take it easy. Have a great week, Claire and friends! 💞
Oh goodness! I hope that's today is significantly more calm 😀
Thank you!! @@ZSchrink
The birds are like that on my back porch too this morning! 🩵
Glad his birthday went well. I can well imagine needing a good rest after all that. Hoping you can get that and be refreshed. ❤
@@marisa5359 thank you! 😊
First I have to congratulate the entire team for the production of the podcast very professional something to be proud of. (😂 and when I say team I mean Claire).
I started Porch Coffee and then I stopped it because I forgot my beverage of choice. I’m watching from the garden en you’re on a Bluetooth speaker so the whole neighborhood can enjoy Porch Coffee.
I’m currently busy weeding I have a lot of weeds to get rid of before I can start planting. I’m not burned out anymore but my energy is still low so it’s slow going but at least we’re going.
Made it to Germany this week to get some more pipe tobacco. Was a little impulsive so now I also have cigars. Have already smoked the first ones memories of my grandpa smoking his cigars came back in a flash. It’s interesting how certain smells can trigger memories.
Have a good week Claire and Friends.
PS I can’t tell if those are your birds or mine lol.
lol you got me on that first bit. 😂
Your entire team are doing an excellent job #GoTeam 🎉
Hi, Claire and everyone else!. Taking care of yourself and moving at your own pace….good for you! I’m so glad you’re doing better this week! My week had a concert at each end which was wonderful for me!( music is my special interest ) hope everyone has a good week!
Love spring concerts
I love the birds! I have one headphone on so I can hear the birds in real life as well as yours. So relaxing.
Good luck on your week!
Agree! Love that the birds decided to join in.
Double the birds nice lol
Good morning, the song is always brilliant, beautiful voice 🎶
Thanks friend
Don't aim for perfect, aim for good.
Good advice
Hello! Good to see your spirits up and hear of a better week. Self-care is important! My week was pretty good, too. Mostly navigated more things for my kids with school year winding up for my two youngest, sought to support my oldest as he reestablishes himself, and even dared to dip a toe back in to setting up my own website for art. Love Purple Ella. She has such a lovely presence. Will definitely check that out. Blessings on your week, friend. ❤
Thank you for the encouraging porch coffee! Starting Monday off better than last week - just got to keep moving forward. Have a great week everyone!
Thank you! You too!
I hear you on the learning to go at your own pace and let go of perfection. It feels like a lesson I have to learn over and over. Something MOTS said on her channel recently about not having to use 100% of your energy everyday kinda blew my mind and I didn’t even realize I was thinking that way. It was another good reminder to go at my own pace. Have a great week internet friends!
Absolutely!!
Thanks for another great porch coffee! With birds! 🐦🦜🦅🦆🪗Yes, I agree with progress over perfection, just have to remind myself... Also, think it's important to stay curious, keep learning, question assumptions.📖Slowly making progress with my work. Some health challenges. Hope everyone has an awesome week!! ✨
Hope you have a great week too
I watched you on my birthday morning!
Happy birthday!
Happy birthday 🎁
Happy birthday 🎂🎈🎊
@@madberry aww thanks!!
Good Monday morning, Claire!
Morning!
Excellent video, Claire! I'm definitely hoping for a good week this week after the hectic week last week. I'm hoping for you to have a good week as well 😀
Thank you! You too!
+woodshedtheory *Rather than hypervigilance, I've a tendency for **_hypovigilance._* Forget chores occasionally, much to the chagrin of fellow residents at the Byron Shops.
Kudos for referencing Hitchcock's The Birds.
A classic
Hi! It’s crow egg season where I am, so they are protecting their nests. So. Much. Yelling. I haven’t been swooped on yet, but they also know my face so I get a pass (literally, they yell and then peer at me, then call off the alarm. They’re scary intelligent).
This week I’ve been struggling, as always, with pacing myself. I’m a driven person normally and I feel weird without goals and a schedule to meet them. But I’m also burnt out and trying to recover. I oscillate from extremes of “I need to rest and not push myself” and “I can’t let myself wallow, so I need goals back.” The all or nothing thinking isn’t helping, but I can’t seem to turn it off. It’s a work in progress.
I struggle with all or nothing thinking as well
Good morning Claire
Greetings from the Netherlands
Always nice to see a fellow Dutchman in the comments. Welcome to the party.
Good morning!
I'm struggling with my space at the moment. I have ADHD, so I really need stuff to be visible, but I get super stressed by visual clutter. And with two kids, a partner and a big poodle in a smallish space it's a struggle. Especially since I love to crochet and sew and have lots of supplies and no dedicated space for them!!
It has helped me tremendously to have my own creative place. Even if it's just a corner of the living room. With clear agreements. I won't be disturbed and nothing will be moved. Claim your own place!
Oh yes I can see how that would be a struggle. I need space as well.
@MrMetteko yes, I know that would help. We are constructing a studio in our backyard but it takes a while. I'm working from home out of our camper, but I can't move my stuff out there because he use it for camping!
Yes, I experience this too. The more you know, the more you know you don’t know! Yup!
You are so encouraging! Thanks Claire!
Glad I’m not alone
I love the travel mug! Its the only mug I use all day every day. :) Anyone else?
That’s amazing thank you
Good morning Claire
Watched your video with Purple Ella, very inspiring. I have seen some of her videos as well.
She is wonderful as well. Learning a lot. You two had a great conversation. Perfection! Not one of my strong suits. Always admired good speakers.
I hope you have a great week.
You also inspired me to start with you tube. Which I'm going to explore this week as well. In any case, a good tip to learn during the progress. You don't have to know everything in advance. In addition, there is still a lot of planting and sowing in the vegetable garden this week. Now I wait for drier weather.
Best of luck!
I think an Autism self-diagnosis (which may then lead to a professional diagnosis) requires a platform like TH-cam and people like You who are willing to put themselves out there on the Tube so that people like us can relate to your content in such a way that we see many similarities, the cogs start turning, and we start self evaluating based on your shared experiences. Thank you for all of your efforts!
Good point
I lost it at "It's very birdy" LOL
it was so birdy lol
The learning thing has a name. The conscious competence model. I am helping a bunch of new hires at work and right now they are all at the stage where they just realize how much they dont know. It's a tough place to be! But it is a natural step in becoming competent.
Also the Dunning-Kruger effect graph is useful
Thanks for sharing
@WoodshedTheory yeah just think, your simple self reflection and observation was so impressive someone gave it a fancy name!!
It's late Monday evening here in Australia
Hi there from Perth! 👋🦘
Happy Monday!
It was great sharing space with you this morning! I've been redoing my schedule to work best for me and my energy. Selfcare is the best care!
Great job!
Good morning! Thanks for sharing about learning new things and not needing to know everything up front. I have always had this strong desire to map everything out completely before I start. And obviously that makes starting things really difficult lol.
I hear you
Hey Claire, getting to porch coffee late today, definitely my favorite part of Mondays, it’s actually decent weather in the Midwest today and yesterday finally
Glad your week is better and taking things at your own pace. #slowandsteadywinstherace ,
The bird sounds are so nice,
Have a good week
Morning!
They're only pigeons. Watch out for aerial pooing accidents. Oh, and what birds ARE these? I can't tell from the sound.
I think it was a healthy mix
Happy Monday, Claire! 👋😀
Happy monday
Claaaire! great birdsongs this AM. the past week was kinda crappy. dealing with insurance and getting the runaround, miscommunications with family, and just feeling low and self-critical. but, I'm more rested today and feeling better. wish you a great week!
I’m sorry I’m terrible with that kind of stuff too
@@WoodshedTheory Thank you! c'est la vie I guess. but you're helping me and others immensely. maybe one day I'll be brave enough to make vids
Lol Claire, holding fluid, so literal! Have a great week
Haha yep holding liquid
I had already decided to make videos by time I saw your channel, but watching it grow along with your comfort being on camera has been a continuous source of encouragement.
Your comments def inspired me to keep going
Progress over perfection. I’m REALLY working to make this my new mantra. As well as being on the autism spectrum, I also have complex PTSD. I expect myself to always be happy 24/7, to never have bad days. To never cry and to grow out of crying altogether. To never feel sad, nervous, upset or angry. In order to be more human like everybody else, I expect myself to grow out of those things.
It’s a journey that takes time :) you got this
Thank you for such a great video! ❤ I’m not the only one who refers to myself as we?! I’m always saying we then I’m like why do I say that because it’s only just me. Maybe it has to do with masking so much my entire life that I feel like I’m more than just one person. I’m not quite sure.
I’m not sure why I do that either - i think maybe it’s like the idea of me as an entity? Maybe?
Morning Claire ☕️. Love hearing the baby starlings in your video. 💞👊
It was a real zoo
So many new Club Muggers. Mudblooders. Mug Coppers. I feel you. Sometimes you just go with the best word you can find at a given moment in time.
Really enjoyed the last podcast! I hope you have at least asked Struan, because I think you two would have a pretty good conversation.
Also, I have the feeling that with the podcast you are already doing 150% of what a neurotypical person would be able to do. So.... you know... It's a new thing, you have to find a pace that works for you.
Hi I’m trying to reach out to people as they are requested but I also don’t want to schedule things too far out! What is Struans channel name?
@@WoodshedTheory He's at @amineurodivergent
Greetings. Good pattern of doing things that you are talking about but from my experience it has not worked out when it comes to dealing with people but that may be a flaw on my end.
I also find working with people difficult for me
@@WoodshedTheory it is not the working with that i have issue with, it is the rest of it like what you have accomplished that escapes me. At my job i only have to deal with people in short bursts usually, i run the outside sandblaster by myself, so i can tolerate their laziness and dishonesty much better and not have to deal with the results when i push back on both of those traits. I do not get the luxury of showing who i am, what i am, as fully as you do and i do not mask, never have. The few times i tried to show a piece of myself i get more and more enemies more often than not and i would rather go silent for now than get everyone as my enemy. It kind of sucks, i get to see evidence of so many getting to have fun (relatively speaking of course) and i try to work the few things i can that i see others do and i get the exact opposite than what everyone else gets. That is the dealing with people i refer to and from what little bit i have seen anything of the autistic community i am an anomaly there as well. The more i learn of the others the more i see that i am truely alone in this world and there are things i would have liked to try my hand at that it looking more and more likely that i will never get an opportunity to do so. I really hope that is not the case.
I always dislike hearing my own voice back on video or audio. It sounds so different from how it sounds in my head.
Yes, I can relate!
🤣the birds
They were something else today
@@WoodshedTheory It was so funny, it made my day !
hi Clarie. I am still waiting for you to do thimbles for woodshedtheory. ;) As an avid collector, I would love to have a woodshedtheory one on my shelves. ;)
well karianne i am glad you said something because i have never even considered a thimble - but i don't know how i would make something like that!
@@WoodshedTheory If you google buying souvenir thimbles or something like that, some suppliers should come up. Maybe we just need the same as mug club, with tiny stickers and blank thimbles to make imposter thimbles. ;)
Good morning Claire, thanks for the video!
Hopefully this week is better than last week for me. It was very stressful and I’m still trying to recover from it. Unfortunately it’s probably going to be another busy week.
You got this!
@@WoodshedTheory Thank you, I appreciate the support!
Hey there Claire, You look much happier this week, that's nice to see. Not much going on here this week for me we have a Bank Holiday Monday today and it's been nice the past few days and yet today it's the usual grey and wet bank holiday weather as usual. I'm just going to see if I can get on and do some more of my cross stitch this week, and I have a few bits to tidy around the house and I thought I would see about getting the washing put away and anything after that is a bonus 😂. I really enjoyed your interview/talk with Ella you have a warm and welcoming interview/chat style technique, if you get what I mean. It makes for some lovely podcasts. I look forward to the next podcast, and have a great week.
Thanks Helen - have fun cross stitching
152 videos in the PorchCoffee playlist!
I’ve been hyper focused on starting a bullet journal and neglected a lot of house chores, so I’ll be trying to catch up on as much of those as possible. And I need to buy strawberry jam. Anyone got a favorite strawberry jam - or I guess, “spread” (no chunks but not jelly)?
I don’t have a favorite but I do like strawberry jam/spread
Always strawberry. Nothing else.
I experimented with strawberry vanilla or strawberry-rhubarb, wich is a common combo here in Germany, but it will always be strawberry if I have to pick one.
@@katzenbekloppt_mf ah, in Germany I love the Schwartau “Samt” jams 🤤
@@sarahleony nah, that´s too sweet for me. I buy Bio-products with less sugar. I grew up with a lot of homemade products out of the garden from grandmother and her sister, even after she died it lasted for years (and fruits, beans, pickled cucumbers, etc. Honey came from cousin of mother who was a beekeeper). It was very strange for me the first time buying some in a supermarket in my twenties, so I am a bit snobby with those things.
And as common is has to be the similar taste and texture always, no change please...
Grandmother had a lot of rhubarb in her garden too, so that was well known for me. The vanilla was a one-time try. It was tasty, but wrong.
Those mugs are flying off the shelf which is great ☕✈️. You should definitely be in an ad with your impressive acting chops 🎭😊
I think when the podcast came out I was busy and couldn't watch it. It hasn't come back up and I forgot about it. I need to find it and watch it.
My week was a bit better than the previous one.... not feeling that constant fight/flight feeling for no obvious reason.
Feeling pressured by my neighbours to cut my lawn. I HATE yardwork... and can't stand the sound of lawn mowers. Apparently no one here does "no mow May". I'm in a semi-detached so it's a shared front lawn and he keeps doing his half, which makes me feel pressured to do mine. I always get ill after mowing the lawn (noise & sun?) so I'm reluctant to do it... but I probably have to. I wish I had the money to hire someone to do it.
Yard work is so hard!
@@WoodshedTheory yes
Can you get and old push lawn mower? You get a lot more exercise but they are very quiet.
@@Catlily5 I did look for one when I bought the current one YEARS ago.... and the push ones were more expensive! They were crazy expensive and I couldn't afford it. :(
This one is nearly 20 years old now...well, probably about 15-16 years... when it dies, I'll get something else... I'll see what I can get.
@@ashleyien1222 I never would have guessed that they were more expensive! But the two I know of are very old
Perfect episode title. (ha ha ha, see what I did there? 🙄🤣) But it's so true, it can be very difficult to to let go of the desire for perfection. Also, the fake birds were very amusing 🐦
I really needed to hear “ you don’t need to know everything to start “ thank you ❤
Glad it was helpful!
The bird battle 🤣🤣🤣
I want to be a hospice chaplain, and to do so I have to apply for a particular kind of training/residency type of program. I have done the application before but never turned it in. The first question is to provide a reasonably full account of my life...and post diagnosis, so much of how I understand my whole life has changed I'm not sure I feel qualified to answer that question.
I think your experience will be valuable in helping others. I hope the process of writing about it, even if difficult, helps you too 🙏
lisa i can see how that would be a challenge - i think i would struggle to answer that big question. I would tend to suggest trying to keep to the basics and if they have further questions they can always ask you.
I still love your porch coffees every week Claire! Thank you for your online friendship and community. I'm really enjoying your podcasts too! 😊
It's Monday! 🙌
I definitely overworked myself when I was younger and now can't do what I trained to do 😔
Take care of yourself y'all!
You are certainly impactful - not least because you are real, and you are relateable.
thank you Molly
Thanks for the Birds, I enjoyed that a lot. :) Also for sharing, we expand our minds together. I had to pause 2x just because we also get noisy birds here. :)
I’m glad you’re feeling better 😊. I hope you have a great week.
Purple Ella is a long term fave of mine, I've also recently been doing some training with them, so I hope to listen to the podcast soon.
Yep! I’m a new channel and I use my phone to record. I like learning all the stuff about being a content creator…I think it’s because the ADHD part of my brain loves all the multi-focus needed. But I also work full time as an elementary school teacher..and that is COMPLETELY overstimulating for me. Editing my videos is solitary, creative, and calms me down. The thing I still can’t, for the life of me get right , is holding the phone horizontally to film long form! I’m so used to holding it vertically. Whenever I decide to spurge on a camera, this will be a challenge. Btw…I LOVE all the birds. Makes me happy!
Glad to hear about your new channel! That is great!
I can learn a lot from you,Suga. I'm 73 and so enjoy you❤
thanks for your support
So glad your week went well!
That is a good point to ponder about focusing on progress instead of perfection. I need to hear that for sure.
Week here was good. We had a weekend getaway which was a good balance of relaxation and fun. This week hopefully will be relaxing.
Sounds so relaxing
I ❤ the podcasts
Good Porch Coffee!😁
Thanks good morning
you can drive miles with headlights that only shine two feet ahead of you ;)
My Fiance insists that I should put all my irrational thoughts in a notebook so that we can go over it later. What should I do ?
Two questions:
1) am a subscriber of Purple Ella too, but never heard something about pronouns on her or their channel, just that she or they is bisexual too. So it's she or they? Don't wanna go on misgendering not knowing.
2) I don't know what kind of birds live where You live. If this would have happened here and it is spring time I would have guessed that a squirrel or craw came to hunt eggs or chicks and the birdies were outraged.
At other seasons that a falcon came to hunt smaller birds.
So nothing good.
Or that You live in rain forest now.
It’s they. 😊 Ella posted a couple of videos on this topic a couple of months ago.
Simone is correct! As for the birds - there was def some sort of battle going on while i was filming this, i hope there is peace in the bird world soon
@@SimoneEppler ah. Then I missed them. I always watch the shorts of my subscribed channels, but not always the longer ones. So thanks for the info, I think I should check their channel then and watch those videos.
Wusste gar nicht dass Du auch hier bist, Simone. Sorry dass ich bei Deinen letzten Sachen stumm war. 1) ich habe keine abgeschlosse Ausbildung/Studium, ergo keinen Beruf 2) ich musste meinen Kater euthanasieren lassen, der mein Lebensmittelpunktsgeschöpf war und die längste Beziehungsperson, mit der ich bewusst zusammengelebt habe.
Das war am Freitag vor zwei Wochen und am Abend davor ist er aus dem nichts schreiend zusammengebrochen, ich bin panisch in die Tierklinik, die zufällig nebenan ist und es wurde ein sehr schnellwachsender Tumor festgestellt der höchstwahrscheinlich inoperabel gewesen wäre. Er hatte schon länger altersbedingt einige chronische Dinge, deshalb ist es nicht so aufgefallen, er hat viel gefressen, ist gesprungen, hatte glänzendes Fell, etc. Der Tierarzt in der Klinik hat mir einen Bericht geschrieben, weil er meinte dass ich sonst Probleme mit einer*m mobilen vet bekommen würde, weil er sonst so gut aussehen würde (so war es auch und jetzt fühle ich mich sehr schuldig und habe Angst, dass ich einen fatalen Fehler gemacht habe). Findus wäre also sehr wahrscheinlich bei der OP gestorben oder er hätte danach auch nur noch einige Wochen mehr gehabt (ich wollte zuerst eine OP, aber wenn eine Tierklinik mir abrät, die die maximale OP-Erfahrung hat und gut daran verdient habe ich es geglaubt.) Es war maximal schlimm und es ist immer noch furchtbar. Ich konnte nicht einmal mehr sprechen für über eine Woche, geschweige denn YT schauen oder gar kommentieren, auch wenn das seit einer Weile meine einzigen sozialen Kontakte sind wie für andere Menschen eine Familie, Partnerpersonen oder reale Freunde.
Und wenn irgendwo etwas Katzen beinhaltet werde ich das wahrscheinlich noch länger nicht anschauen können.
Also, bei Deinen nächsten Videos bin ich wahrscheinlich wieder dabei und es hatte nichts mit Dir/Deinem Kanal zu tun.
Ich würde mir generell etwas zum Thema Trauer und Autismus wünschen, da ich in den letzten drei Jahren noch fünf menschliche Todesfälle hatte und besonders seit dem Tod meines Papas vor etwas über zwei Jahren sehr damit zu tun habe und es sehr verwirrend für mich ist.
Entweder ich fühle gar nichts, sondern es ist eine Tatsache, die ich auf intellektuelle Weise verstehe, aber keine Gefühle assoziiert, oder es ist extrem schlimm. Und das in nicht logisch erfassbaren oder vorhersagbaren Zeitabständen.
Ich fühle es wahrscheinlich latent, da ich sehr angespannt, gereizt bin und sehr offen für "fremde" Gefühle, also bei YT-videos über an Krebs gestorben Kinder langanhaltend in Tränen ausbreche oder bei fiktionalen Serien/Filmen. Was mir eher fremd ist und ich unheimlich finde.
Ich habe mich jedenfalls komplett von realen "Freundschaften" zurückgezogen, weil ich mich sehr fremd von denen gefühlt habe und entweder zu blöd bin mitzuteilen was ich fühle oder wenn ich es versucht habe mitgeteilt bekommen habe dass das "falsch" sei, "Angst mache", etc.
Ich glaube ich habe vorher nicht gewusst wie massiv ich gemaskt habe, wie anders mein inneres Erleben von meiner äußeren Repräsentation war.
Scheißmoment im autistischen burnout rauszubekommen, dass man Autistin ist, das dann irgendwann mitzuteilen und auf Ablehnung und Befremden zu stoßen.
Wurde eigentlich gerade besser.
Das ist alles so frustrierend schwierig, auslaugend, kompliziert.
Kennst Du das Gefühl, dass Du zwar eigentlich weißt, was die Realität ist, es sich aber gleichzeitig irreal anfühlt?
Oder Du z.B. weißt, dass es keine Zeitreisen gibt, die Vergangenheit abgeschlossen ist, es sich aber so falsch anfühlt wenn Personen aus der Vergangenheit alt sind oder sich anders sehr verändert haben, seitdem Du sie das letzte Mal gesehen hast, oder auch Orte. Ich bekomme dann richtig Herzrasen, und es ist ein überwältigenden Gefühl von "das ist falsch das ist falsch das ist falsch" in panikartig sich hochfahrender Geschwindigkeit, wie hochpotenziert dieses Gefühl wenn Menschen meine Dinge falsch hinstellen und ich weiß ich darf nichts sagen bis ich irgendwann schreiend um mich schlagen möchte oder auf die zurennen, zur Seite stoßen, alles "richtig wieder aufräumen" und sie anbrüllen das entweder richtig zu machen oder nichts mehr anzufassen.
Meine Vorstellung, wie es sein wird wenn mein Papa stirbt z.B. hat sich so sehr nicht erfüllt, dass es mich komplett hilflos und wütend in einem sehr schwer aushaltbaren Dauerschwebezustand hinterlässt, weil ich kein alternatives Konzept finde, um es zu ersetzen.
Es ist nur eine sehr bedrohliche Fehlermeldung. Und ich sollte etwas machen, wie wenn in Filmen ein Zeitzünder langsam runterzählt, aber ich fange an in Ruhe zu bügeln, weil ich das auch erledigen muss und genau weiß was ich tun muss, aber es mir unmöglich ist, unter Zeitdruck zu entscheiden was das Wichtigste wäre, was ich jetzt einpacken müsste für eine Evakuierung, also gar nichts tue und blöderweise dann gesprengt werde.
Es ist einfach so viel so falsch und ich möchte das gefälligst korrigieren!
Oh fuck! Das war aus Versehen ganz schön viel. Ich sende das jetzt trotzdem, weil ich genauso lange bräuchte, wenn ich das jetzt durchlese und versuche auf den Punkz zu bringen, aber Du musst nichts antworten.
@@katzenbekloppt_mf Hey, mein tiefstes Beileid wegen deiner Katze. 😢😢 Das tut so weh und ich glaube dir sofort, dass du in einen Shutdown gingst. Und dann geht es nicht mit dem Reden. Du hast dich selbst geschützt. Fühl dich gedrückt, falls du möchtest. Das wird auch noch ne Weile dauern, lass dir Zeit und fühl dich niemals schlecht wegen den Videos bei mir. Ich hab dich schon vermisst, also gemerkt, dass du nicht da warst, nehme dann aber immer an, dass was Wichtigeres dazwischen kam.
Das mit der Irrealität kenne ich nur zu gut und habe ich exakt auch, wenn ich in Trauer bin oder sonst total im Stress. Dann dissoziiere ich total. Auch ein Schutzmechanismus von unserer Psyche, die Realität tut gerade zu fest weh! Du bist also nicht alleine. 🤗🤗🤗
@@SimoneEppler Ich danke Dir!
Irgendwie sendet YT gerade nicht alle Benachrichtigungen, habe es eben erst in den mails gesehen.
Heute kam die Urne. Ist auch etwas irreal, weiß gar nichts damit anzufangen.