How Do I Balance a Second Job with Family Life?

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  • How Do I Balance a Second Job with Family Life?
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  • @juanchoelparcero3562
    @juanchoelparcero3562 3 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    This call got right to the core of me. I got into a financial crisis some time back. I started working 80 hour work weeks and now I dont know how to turn it off. I love the money and the independence it signifies for my family. Being a man isnt easy. You try to sacrifice for your family and sometimes you sacrifice yourself.

    • @ismaeljrp1
      @ismaeljrp1 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Everyone sacrifices. Nothing to do with being a man. Your family is suffering more than you I can guarantee that.
      I hope you find a way because time is infinitely more valuable than money.

    • @rcfarmer4450
      @rcfarmer4450 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This country don't need no men.

  • @investinstyle-financeinves1181
    @investinstyle-financeinves1181 3 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    Most of the people that call into Dave's show are pretty irresponsible, but this guy's willingness to work for his family is certainly admirable.

  • @thefirespectrum
    @thefirespectrum 3 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    God, this is a MAN. He's working 13 hour days to get his family set up right, and he cares so much about the impact it has on his wife that he's going to do even MORE to help her at home with zero complaints or excuses. I'm gonna go fold some laundry and just reflect on this call, man.

    • @kara2162
      @kara2162 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      He's a keeper.

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@kara2162
      He’s also late to the game and missed out.
      Should have prioritized the things that matter from the beginning.

    • @jayritchie6596
      @jayritchie6596 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Great guy. Hope it all works out for him.

  • @cm5394
    @cm5394 3 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    If my man was working 12 hour days to take care of the family I would not be expecting him to do any housework on his one day off. Blue pill advice

    • @alexandru5369
      @alexandru5369 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yeah Ramsey is clearly a traditionalist i.e. a form of blue pill thinking usually

    • @stephenshapiro8404
      @stephenshapiro8404 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Totally relate. I worked EIGHT days per week when I had to for my family ... received not only zero respect but also contempt.

    • @heyzeus6149
      @heyzeus6149 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m in the middle of an 18hr shift, before I left home I did house cleaning and I’m even considering a second job. I’m not gonna say I miss treated at home, but reading these comments makes me kind of proud of myself.

  • @ChrisLevelsUp
    @ChrisLevelsUp 3 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    This is a tough call, but the fact that he's calling means he's under significant stress at home. I think he should pump the breaks on the side hustle before a figurative fire starts in his family. Even gazelles stop to drink water.

  • @financewithian2052
    @financewithian2052 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I’m glad I’m able to work the jobs I have now and do school. Once I have a family, that “free time” goes away

  • @DebtFreeDad
    @DebtFreeDad 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    It depends on a person's family situation, but my family understood my absence when I had to work extra jobs to get ahead. Now, I am just blessed to be able to make progress with one job. Even when you are hustling, you have to take occasional time off to enjoy your family. Tomorrow is not promised.

  • @2012misspink
    @2012misspink 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    It's hard being a single mother w two jobs and have time for family ! Do what you need now so you can have time when they are older and really need you !!!😁😁😁😁😁😁

  • @random-nz7dy
    @random-nz7dy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I wish they would ask what his income is and is the wife working.
    She could always pick up a once a week thing on the weekends so that he can spend a day with the kids

  • @CaseyBurnsInvesting
    @CaseyBurnsInvesting 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Family life will be better when those payments are gone.

  • @hugojuicevalladares8713
    @hugojuicevalladares8713 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Make her a to do list. She will appreciate it that you did all the thinking

  • @HeyaHoyah
    @HeyaHoyah 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I can relate to this guy, my fiance is hesitant to go gazelle intense to pay off debt because she thinks it'd waste our best years. It takes a lot to explain to her that 30 year old her will thank her for sticking through it. I'm bringing about 70k in student loans and the goal is to pay that off within 2-3 years or less if we make a great household income.
    Context: She hates the idea of working 80 hrs because her parents did the same when she was a kid (and still do because they're workaholics) and she doesn't want to wish that onto our future kids. Basically, she doesn't wanna feel like a single mom and she doesn't want to miss the baby years when we have kids because we have debt

  • @2012misspink
    @2012misspink 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Working to keep up
    A lavish lifestyle ! It cost to live like a boss !!!! Save save save and don't live above your means is what I learned ! ♥️💙💜😀

  • @b.cdrisk2035
    @b.cdrisk2035 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Move to New Mexico and meet a man named Walter. He can help you pay off your debt so long as you don't mind being around some shady characters

  • @brickinvesting
    @brickinvesting 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    hey man, gotta make that money.

  • @bindingcurve
    @bindingcurve 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    How much of that work is to sustain the lifestyle his family is used to? Sometimes less material things means more sanity.

    • @leod.4401
      @leod.4401 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      "Fewer" material things. But yes you have a point.

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I know too many married people with 2-5 kids debt free and living within means home schooling, traveling, camping, hiking, etc. with their kids.
      Even the home is close to being paid off or already paid for. Husband works 3-4 days a week and/or taking off work without pay with healthy emergency fund.
      Been watching these people doing this for up to 30 years as there kids grow. One of these kids is my primary care physician.
      The thing all of these people had in common was kids being priority.
      They also never watched or or even heard of Dave Ramsey.

    • @larrybud
      @larrybud 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If he's working the debt snowball, he shouldn't be doing anything lavish at this point anyway.

  • @prkzoomin6994
    @prkzoomin6994 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Good Quote, Don't compare yourself with anyone in this world, if you do so, you are insulting yourself.

  • @stephenshapiro8404
    @stephenshapiro8404 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    When I was a kiddo (lonnng ago) my Father told me if a man can't make a living in 40 hours there is something wrong. I see in the world there is plenty wrong.

    • @fc7307
      @fc7307 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Your father is correct, however sometimes things are out of our control.

    • @juliettezea9507
      @juliettezea9507 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I think it’s really hard for single moms working 40 hours

  • @jrrambo2097
    @jrrambo2097 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    If you dont make enough. She will leave. If you work to much to provide. She leaves.

    • @marieabner
      @marieabner 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      No she won't!

    • @nateswaggin9827
      @nateswaggin9827 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@marieabner yah see does woman want attention

    • @staceystrukel1917
      @staceystrukel1917 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah, its not because of you at all.

    • @nateswaggin9827
      @nateswaggin9827 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@staceystrukel1917 🤡

  • @ModernRelic69
    @ModernRelic69 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    2-3 jobs, that's the American dream right there. Amirite?

    • @veryincredibly
      @veryincredibly 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Glorified slavery.

    • @graysonk363
      @graysonk363 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@veryincredibly nothing close to slavery. He chose to have those jobs. He gets paid. The reason he needs the jobs is cause of bad decisions he made getting into debt.

    • @veryincredibly
      @veryincredibly 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@graysonk363 I wasn't referring to the dude in the video. I was referring to the American dream.

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@graysonk363
      Met too many coworkers like this.
      No choice but to work multiple jobs. No choice but forced paid labor whether he likes it or not.

    • @isaacannanjr2371
      @isaacannanjr2371 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Modern day slavery. Burnout is too real. It ain't worth it. Health over wealth. 💵💯

  • @alexander15551
    @alexander15551 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Or, push to get some overtime at the day job so you get time and a half or double time. It would add up quick on a welder’s pay

  • @timbaze5207
    @timbaze5207 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I would rather be in debt and not miss those precious moments with family and work till I’m 80 than miss those moments that you can never have back and retire at 65

  • @six-hp4yb
    @six-hp4yb 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good question im in the same position.

  • @Ja50nkAt
    @Ja50nkAt 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The scary thing is she could easily leave him and he still would be be working for a family he never sees anyways.

  • @jimroscovius
    @jimroscovius 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    We worked fulltime and went to school part-time while we had two kids. Just do it.

  • @savageelle9077
    @savageelle9077 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    R.i.p Chrls H0g@n 😥

    • @teralhebertgriffin7681
      @teralhebertgriffin7681 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      He was a good man, I think Dave needs to give him a second chance. To show the people that people make mistakes and can grow from them.

  • @Sexy40baby1
    @Sexy40baby1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Sell the car and go be home.

  • @adilenesanchez5715
    @adilenesanchez5715 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I don’t think that I’m mentally stable to have a second job

  • @DHFlip18
    @DHFlip18 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    How about giving her the opportunity to contribute financially by getting a job as well, so he can be a dad and get some much needed rest.

    • @positivevibes709
      @positivevibes709 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Best comment right there yup her lazy A- needs a job! Period no wonder men get miserable 😖

    • @tavesantel234
      @tavesantel234 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      They have two small kids! I wouldn’t call her lazy!!

    • @queenjohnson5097
      @queenjohnson5097 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​Yeah he said that they have a kid under 1 😂​ They could have switched off though but he also wants to be with his wife too. Wouldn't it be counter productive for her to work on his only day off when they both want to spend time together@@tavesantel234

  • @kekejefferson9219
    @kekejefferson9219 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Respect Gary Vee, that he said he only sees his kids on the weekends.

  • @kelseycoca
    @kelseycoca 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    this is very solid advice, it's all about the end goal! keep up the good work!

  • @marcusgray2799
    @marcusgray2799 ปีที่แล้ว

    Let the guy talk

  • @1flash3571
    @1flash3571 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Simple answer. You can't balance the second job with family life.

  • @BRENT3143945
    @BRENT3143945 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Keep the episodes this short I'll stop watching.

  • @smokedogbaby6263
    @smokedogbaby6263 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You don’t

  • @louisprice6413
    @louisprice6413 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Nice video!! Very engaging from beginning to end. Nevertheless, businesses and investment are the easiest way to make money irrespective of which party makes it to the oval office.

  • @crazykaitlyn
    @crazykaitlyn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I feel more with the wife though if she feels single that is a huge red flag she is learning to live without you

    • @milesmeralis5334
      @milesmeralis5334 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Easy to feel that way when you have a man breaking his back to provide everything. She sounds horrible. Why can't she work then and he get a break at home.

    • @kaelaleedaley
      @kaelaleedaley 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It's a tricky balance, isn't it? I grew up in a home where my Dad was working away a LOT or was always working from dawn til' dusk and I know my Mother felt like a single parent. This wasn't a short-term thing, this was the majority of my childhood and I remember playing house and dolls as a Single-parent family. Short term, this is sustainable but long-term is terminal for the relationships involved. I didn't have a relationship with my Dad until my Mum died when I was 28. All relationships are different, too. Some partners really rely on and draw strength from their spouse and some, like my Mum was, are more independent. I couldn't be parted from my Husband like my Mother was from my Father xx

    • @christinawarner8653
      @christinawarner8653 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@milesmeralis5334 Do you know how expensive childcare is? They might barely break even if she's working plus paying for babysitting. She's saving them money by being with the kids, cleaning and making meals so they are going out.

    • @emperorfancypants2512
      @emperorfancypants2512 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      So unfair for the husband, he is sacrificing his back and 75% of his life working trying to provide for his family. If the wife is unhappy she should try to do a side job and also bring in some money, what more can he do? Does the wife want her kids on the street?

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@christinawarner8653
      Child care was expensive and more expensive since the 70s.
      Nothing new.

  • @tokroni
    @tokroni 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You dont deserve family life. You worth as a man is based on your jobs. Companies love you more than your family. After all, they are the ones paying you

  • @Ml4zobass
    @Ml4zobass 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Arkanas

  • @teeduck
    @teeduck 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Ramsey:. Work and rice and beans. Do not enjoy life. Period

    • @cm5394
      @cm5394 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ummm no you work when you’ve gotten yourself into debt by spending money you didn’t have

    • @teeduck
      @teeduck 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@cm5394 really, I'm in debt. Been in debt my whole life. I even still have 10 years left on my morty debt. So what. I'm still well off.

    • @larrybud
      @larrybud 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@teeduck If you think so..... Have fun working til you're 80.

    • @raymckigney2118
      @raymckigney2118 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Enjoying life = enjoying food? Interesting.

  • @christofl6523
    @christofl6523 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Never get a 2nd job. Work to live don't live to work.

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I prefer less work,paid more money, and time away from work doing what I want.

    • @fc7307
      @fc7307 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sometimes people don't have a choice.

    • @christofl6523
      @christofl6523 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@fc7307 You always have a choice.

    • @talyahr3302
      @talyahr3302 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Never get a 2nd job sounds like a terrible blanket rule. There's many circumstances when that's the best option. Not forever, but for a little bit to get to a goal faster or to open up more opportunities if it's in an industry you're trying to break into. Time is money, if you wanna put in more time to make more money it's a choice you can definitely make. Especially if you're single no kids.
      Never say Never.

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    @jakevalinho9911 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    pogchamp

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    @darrylhodge6708 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

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      @jamesliamedward5915 3 ปีที่แล้ว

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      Please how can i be able to reach out to your broker, my income stream is in a mess.

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      @andymclain2117 3 ปีที่แล้ว

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      @andymclain2117 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

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