Do Fathers of the Bride Still Pay for the Wedding?

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  • During Girl Chat, the hosts chat it up about who pays for the wedding these days. Does the father of the bride always pay? Is this a tradition that needs to stay or go away? Tune in to hear the ladies’ take.

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  • @tiffanymatsvai1929
    @tiffanymatsvai1929 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2757

    That person in the audience shouting "whai people" had me rolling on the floor 😂😂😂😂😂

    • @DaintyDoe84
      @DaintyDoe84 8 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      omg yes😂😂😂😁😅😆

    • @girl8295
      @girl8295 8 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      Why did she yell out like that?

    • @tiffanymatsvai1929
      @tiffanymatsvai1929 8 ปีที่แล้ว +171

      +Girl how am I supposed to know?

    • @FevenFekade
      @FevenFekade 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Lol

    • @cierrafuller2516
      @cierrafuller2516 8 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      LMAOOOOOOO

  • @Nul791
    @Nul791 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2420

    If my dad pays for my wedding I better not get a divorce any time soon!! LOL

    • @MARCHAUX
      @MARCHAUX 8 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      😂😂😂😂

    • @AngelLovv
      @AngelLovv 8 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      😹💀💀💀

    • @sharonoguta8589
      @sharonoguta8589 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      hahahahahahaa!!!!!

    • @megblue1
      @megblue1 8 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      as much as i would love my dad to pay for the wedding,I would feel like I own them so I rather paid for it with the Lord's help

    • @SkatesPraise
      @SkatesPraise 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      hahhah or you be hearing it all day right

  • @enjinks
    @enjinks 8 ปีที่แล้ว +821

    I think fathers used to pay because people married at a very young age so they had no money, and most women were housewives. So in this day and age, that's no more a necessity...

    • @CoCoGemel
      @CoCoGemel 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I AGREE

    • @ASmith-jn7kf
      @ASmith-jn7kf 8 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      No. Father's used to pay because women didn't work and the groom had to pay a bride's price and he had to pay to support the bride for the rest of his life, that is why the father paid. With women working, there is no reason for a father to pay. Do you seriously not know history and you would say something so silly as people getting married young was the reason???

    • @enjinks
      @enjinks 8 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      +April Smith I think you should have read my comment entirely, because I mentionned women not working ? And I don't want to sound patronizing, but maybe you would want to try to express yourself without being unnecessarily rude.

    • @ASmith-jn7kf
      @ASmith-jn7kf 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Enjinks Whoa.

    • @ndnaf3705
      @ndnaf3705 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Absolutely! That makes a lot of sense. I never really thought about it like that!

  • @kadinea.6376
    @kadinea.6376 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2181

    Didn't Tamera perviously said in an older episode that she paid for her whole wedding?...

    • @rochbramwell
      @rochbramwell 8 ปีที่แล้ว +163

      I think she did say that

    • @girl8295
      @girl8295 8 ปีที่แล้ว +193

      She did say that! 🤔😕

    • @giulia2098
      @giulia2098 8 ปีที่แล้ว +109

      You are so right.
      She changed her mind.

    • @kadinea.6376
      @kadinea.6376 8 ปีที่แล้ว +248

      +Giulia SoooCute I remember when she said it I felt bad for Adam, because it sort of implied that he couldn't afford to do more than helping her with her dress.... I love Tamera don't get me wrong, but she didn't even mention that both her and Adam's parents helped. I high-key think that's why she's giving them credit now, because there might have been some sort of drama with the family for her taking all the credit.

    • @akosuaopoku-berchie4768
      @akosuaopoku-berchie4768 8 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      she said she paid for her wedding dress not her whole wedding

  • @jchidi
    @jchidi 8 ปีที่แล้ว +213

    My dad is not spending thousands of dollars on my wedding, he's already spent enough on my college, car, and putting a roof over my head, thats more than enough for me.

    • @jessig9970
      @jessig9970 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      That's such a beautiful thing to say. Your dad would be proud to see he raised your right! 😊

    • @ayanour7
      @ayanour7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I agree 100%.

  • @chezzerehinojos9308
    @chezzerehinojos9308 8 ปีที่แล้ว +133

    Tamar acts like my Auntie lmao! "If I like her, I'll pay for it. If I don't, you on your own" hahahaha

  • @natalienicolaides8427
    @natalienicolaides8427 7 ปีที่แล้ว +280

    "Logan save up your money babyyy" haha loniii 😘😂

  • @Dr.Nellah
    @Dr.Nellah 8 ปีที่แล้ว +800

    Jeanie has actually become my favourite! SHE GIVES ME LIFEEE hahaha

    • @lolalove1208
      @lolalove1208 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I really like your videos! ❤️🧡💛

  • @thelavandarlife
    @thelavandarlife 8 ปีที่แล้ว +338

    I'm loving how Jeannie pronounced "Whiiii people" 😄😄😄😄😄

  • @lazylohan5355
    @lazylohan5355 8 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    5:08-5:15 "What does that have to do with?" - Loni & Tamar had me rolling 😂😂😂😂

  • @myhextixmind8632
    @myhextixmind8632 8 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    It was cute when Adrienne played with Jeannie's hair. I love their friendship.

    • @kamvelihlenqezo
      @kamvelihlenqezo 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I know bruh I kept replaying that part😍

    • @SG12.27
      @SG12.27 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      when?

    • @MsMekia-dl3el
      @MsMekia-dl3el 23 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      She wasn't playing with it, she was fixing it.

  • @TheGabb1
    @TheGabb1 8 ปีที่แล้ว +677

    Tamera "Aw, Hell. Whatever." hahahaha

    • @MyidolGwen
      @MyidolGwen 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      They were so casual too when she said that I remember at one point she shared a story where she told her ex who rebounded her "what the hell!" and the girls all gasped and looked at Tamera like doth thou swearest

    • @trinigrl09
      @trinigrl09 8 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      lol I know…..I wish they had let her finish….she was actually on topic…..her point was that In-laws can like the bride….mothers of sons can like their daughter in laws so it is very possible that Logan could marry someone that meets Tamar's approval

    • @Lee-ii9mk
      @Lee-ii9mk 8 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I feel like they're strong personalities can make her feel like she being patronised

    • @realmnthrwknives
      @realmnthrwknives 8 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      +trinigrl09 Yeah but she kinda made everything about her lmao. They were specifically talking about Tamar and her son and she pops in "well Adams mom liked me" It just didn't fit well and was a very out of place statement for the moment.

    • @girl8295
      @girl8295 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      +trinigrl09 But we know that in general, Tamera didn't have to say that. That's why Loni was like .."Wait..what"
      Tamar was making the point that her mom didn't like her bro's girls and she believe she would take after her mom.

  • @97indianuk
    @97indianuk 8 ปีที่แล้ว +214

    Depends on who can afford it and on the situation. Also not everyone has a dad. Times have changed generally it should be both sides who should pay for it equally.

    • @christinam6663
      @christinam6663 8 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      "Times have changed generally it should be both sides who should pay for it equally."
      Also, with people getting married later and later in life, the people getting married should also contribute, if not pay for the entire (or almost the entire) thing.

    • @saggyjose8572
      @saggyjose8572 ปีที่แล้ว

      no it shouldn’t because it’s mostly women that want the wedding. it’s their dream day not the mans

  • @rileywrite2327
    @rileywrite2327 8 ปีที่แล้ว +424

    Well my dad aint in my life so guess im gonna need jeannies mama to help me get a discount wedding 😂

    • @adrianortega2478
      @adrianortega2478 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      LMFAO YOU MADE MY DAY!

    • @c.carlysilb
      @c.carlysilb 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I got the belly laugh I’m dead asf 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣This shouldn’t even be funny

    • @smokeofspades2974
      @smokeofspades2974 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Jeannie momma is phenomenal

  • @Somegirl10192
    @Somegirl10192 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1416

    Tamera said that she paid for her entire wedding in another video. So what's the truth? *cue Oprah gif*

    • @brittaneymichelle5110
      @brittaneymichelle5110 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      😂😂😂

    • @fatouceesay7688
      @fatouceesay7688 8 ปีที่แล้ว +120

      you're right.. she did say that before... she is lying...

    • @robinmay4838
      @robinmay4838 8 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      Yes she said she paid for her entire wedding 😑

    • @tierradavis2241
      @tierradavis2241 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      +You Tried It! no she not

    • @tierradavis2241
      @tierradavis2241 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Fatou ceesay nope

  • @writerspen010
    @writerspen010 8 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    I didn't realize this tradition was still a thing. I thought it ended more or less in the late 70s/early 80s at latest. Speaking as a woman, I would never expect or ask my father or my parents to pay for any future wedding of mine. If they want to contribute, GREAT! but right now, I'm totally expecting for my future husband and myself to be paying for it.

    • @helenatube
      @helenatube 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ikr? i'm honestly shocked how many people still expect someone else to fund their wedding. not saying that your parents or family can't make a generous contribution, but to outright expect my parents to pay for my wedding sounds just wrong. i don't think i have thick enough skin to expect that, then again my family is not super traditional or religious either.

    • @thisnaturalgirlislocd
      @thisnaturalgirlislocd 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Helena I agree with you both!

    • @jenniferwilliams5478
      @jenniferwilliams5478 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Back when fathers paid for the whole thing or half and had complete control over the wedding

    • @Shay45
      @Shay45 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I understand the parents paying if the couple is getting married young. Other than that “No” not necessary or should even be thought of.

  • @jholarkin7736
    @jholarkin7736 8 ปีที่แล้ว +323

    Loni : w-w-what that gotta do with this😂😂😂

    • @Cookie20244
      @Cookie20244 8 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      tamera self centered clearly

    • @cassandratype4
      @cassandratype4 8 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Owwhh!!!! She is sweet, lol, I don't think she is self centered

    • @julliananne157
      @julliananne157 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Jho Larkin Exactly!

  • @datswassup07
    @datswassup07 8 ปีที่แล้ว +207

    Anybody else like it when Adrienne says "papi"?

    • @kevinjohnson4877
      @kevinjohnson4877 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me

    • @Mrszhersheyy
      @Mrszhersheyy 8 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Nope. It's what every Spanish speaking woman says. Nothing new

    • @briannaelizondo5757
      @briannaelizondo5757 8 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      No because I think she was referring to her dad when she said Papi and she's always callin men Papi, that's just weird

    • @bax2603
      @bax2603 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      wtf

    • @Denise-ob8dk
      @Denise-ob8dk 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      yeah...lol

  • @gottaluvpink89
    @gottaluvpink89 8 ปีที่แล้ว +230

    Adam must've gotten mad at the fact that she threw him under the bus the first time around that now Tamera is switching up her story.

    • @meymay11
      @meymay11 8 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      I figured the same thing with her saying she paid for the whole thing herself. Although I believe she probably paid for over 80% of it

    • @meymay11
      @meymay11 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I figured the same thing with her saying she paid for the whole thing herself. Although I believe she probably paid for over 80% of it

    • @introvertedoutgoing8
      @introvertedoutgoing8 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      +meymay11 she's rich

    • @serritawatkins8113
      @serritawatkins8113 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Right she definitely switched up the story

    • @ratedr9672
      @ratedr9672 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes! 😂

  • @christopherpate9560
    @christopherpate9560 8 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    I think it's ok for parents to pay for a simple yet beautiful wedding but not one of those over the top unnecessary wedding. They're your parents not your ATM.

    • @Mrszhersheyy
      @Mrszhersheyy 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I think that a parent should pay for their babies special day. It shouldn't be limited to cheap it's what the people getting married wants.

    • @introvertedoutgoing8
      @introvertedoutgoing8 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      +Mary Turner no if you trying to rent out the donald trump hotel than pay for your own damn wedding
      like she stated parents are not their kids ATM they raised your expensive ass for 18yrs after that kids are on their own

    • @helenatube
      @helenatube 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yup, or if your parents do what Adrienne suggested and set up a wedding fund for you to basically use as you please. I think I would like that for myself, and do that for my own kids. It just seems like a nice gesture. No way I'd ever expect my parents to just hand over their cards on any kind of wedding I want though, that is borderline disrespectful in my eyes.

    • @christengardner1466
      @christengardner1466 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agreed. Or maybe just the dress

  • @yanciarmani516
    @yanciarmani516 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I cried when tamera said “Adam mom likes me” 💀💀

  • @venusmoodie4874
    @venusmoodie4874 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I love when Jeannie talks about her family

  • @deem132
    @deem132 8 ปีที่แล้ว +456

    My Pops gon look at me crazy if I ask him to pay for my million dollar wedding, he African too he can't wait for my expensive ass to be somebody else's problem lol

    • @KWatsonMUSIC
      @KWatsonMUSIC 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Hahaha amen!

    • @helenatube
      @helenatube 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      lmbo i get the same feeling about my dad

    • @jamie9914
      @jamie9914 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lol!

    • @queensspace82
      @queensspace82 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      hahahaha...oh my goodness.. african dad...typical

    • @queensspace82
      @queensspace82 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      hahahaha...oh my goodness.. african dad...typical

  • @Christilayo
    @Christilayo 8 ปีที่แล้ว +191

    am i the only person who realised that tamera's stories don't match......I clearly remember her saying in another episode that she paid for her ENTIRE wedding. Now she said everyone chipped in?!??!! hmmmm

    • @tashaharris6960
      @tashaharris6960 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      She said she plaid for her wedding dress not the whole wedding

    • @tashaharris6960
      @tashaharris6960 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      *paid

    • @kianah544
      @kianah544 8 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      +Tasha Harris She said the exact words, "I paid for my entire wedding." In the wedding details video...

    • @clydejef6347
      @clydejef6347 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      +Tasha Harris she actually said she paid for the entire wedding cos she could afford it and Adam chipped in for the wedding dress.

    • @Christilayo
      @Christilayo 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      +Tasha Harris no said she paid for the entire wedding, listen to episode again.....I clearly remember it coz I thought WTH!?!

  • @aprilinparisxoxo
    @aprilinparisxoxo 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    “Daddy where my coin?” 🤣🤣🤣 I miss Tamar on this show 😩😩

  • @womanoflove4476
    @womanoflove4476 6 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Temara must have gotten into a fight with Adam for saying she paid for the whole wedding in the previous video. Now she is saying something else lol

  • @nobeautynobrains4003
    @nobeautynobrains4003 6 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    When Jeannie told tamar to shut up I was like “yaassss hunnayyyy”

  • @christabel87
    @christabel87 8 ปีที่แล้ว +140

    I swear tamera said she paid for her entire wedding in The Real’ Ladies Share Wedding Details

    • @giulia2098
      @giulia2098 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      "I paid for my own wedding"...

    • @chanyisme
      @chanyisme 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You're right, I just watched it. She said Adam helped with the dress, but she paid for everything.

    • @RLZDA1
      @RLZDA1 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      +chany85 Shes the one with the most money in the relationship. She upgraded him

    • @robinmay4838
      @robinmay4838 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      she definitely said that she paid for the entire wedding 😑

    • @cassandratype4
      @cassandratype4 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I doubt she has more money, Adam;s family has a winery.

  • @user-eh9vb5sv6i
    @user-eh9vb5sv6i 8 ปีที่แล้ว +697

    why is Tamera lying she previously sated in en episode she paid for everything

    • @97indianuk
      @97indianuk 8 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      I thought she said she said she paid for her dress?

    • @mjlovahh12
      @mjlovahh12 8 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Damn if that's true we starting to find out a lot of fuckery about Tamera

    • @parisgriffin3334
      @parisgriffin3334 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      no she said she paid for her dress

    • @littleblushes
      @littleblushes 8 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      +Paris Griffin no I just rewatched the video she said she paid for everything

    • @MajesticMyronn
      @MajesticMyronn 8 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      she said Adam WANTED to pay for the wedding , but her family did, but she herelf paid for her wedding dress

  • @kelendria
    @kelendria 8 ปีที่แล้ว +130

    I love tamera but i sometimes wonder if she has her own identity outside being a mother and a wife. Y'all are right, she doesnt really talk about tamera the woman. Maybe the producers told her to be the mother/ wife of the panel, but if i was a mother i would like to hear how you can still be an individual, a woman when you are married with kids.

    • @Mrszhersheyy
      @Mrszhersheyy 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      There's a show where she spoke on having an identity

    • @helenatube
      @helenatube 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I feel you Jeanne, she sometimes seems so boring and 1-dimensional the way she doesn't talk about anything that isn't related to motherhood. I get that she's really into it though, good for her. It just seems like she could stand to have some independence as well.

    • @Godlywoman88
      @Godlywoman88 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Agreed!

    • @firebenderkitty313
      @firebenderkitty313 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @martinski but that's how she acts on the show. She only contributes a lot when it comes to conversations about family life.

    • @alishawalker405
      @alishawalker405 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sad truth.... A lot of moms/wives only identity is being a mom and wife. As a stay at home mom of young children there isnt much that i do that I dont do with my children. Because of that u generally have nothing else to tall about

  • @ntombenhleshange4683
    @ntombenhleshange4683 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    AWKWARD!!! "well Adams parents really like me, no they do" lmao and then they cracked up! im sure they kinda know how she LOVES talking about herself that much by now!

  • @liseebaby
    @liseebaby 8 ปีที่แล้ว +252

    Waittttttttt Tamera...who really paid?

    • @sandie4674
      @sandie4674 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      L M A OOOO! Bruh 😂😂😂😂

    • @girl8295
      @girl8295 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +OyemehS hahahahahahah😂😂😂😂

    • @myhextixmind8632
      @myhextixmind8632 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      I guess they all pitched in.

    • @Mochab001
      @Mochab001 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      She paid the most. What they gave probably couldn't buy a Happy meal. She did say many times, even on her own reality show that she paid for it. TAMAR MADE HER LOOK LIKE A FOOL ...for "paying" to marry a broke man". all vineyards aren't profitable. That's why he don't work there.

    • @Mochab001
      @Mochab001 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      THAT'S WHY SHE CHANGED HER STORY

  • @sxcgirlieox
    @sxcgirlieox 8 ปีที่แล้ว +168

    Freddie's family got coins 👀👀

    • @HEIRLESSful
      @HEIRLESSful 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      +You Tried It! Oh you tried it!!

    • @tiffanymatsvai1929
      @tiffanymatsvai1929 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +You Tried It! The shade 😂😂😂

    • @blackbutterfly233ify
      @blackbutterfly233ify 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      +You Tried It! Who cares what Freddie does for a living it doesn't hurt anyone

    • @mjracle7421
      @mjracle7421 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +You Tried It! Didn't his family own a farm or somethings? I saw Jeannie taking pictures with him and the horses.

    • @zora99ny
      @zora99ny 8 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      it hurts the animals obviously

  • @esetamyreelemanu8584
    @esetamyreelemanu8584 7 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    My husband and I paid for our whole wedding and my siblings pitched in here and there. It was such an achievement when we paid for our whole wedding.

  • @valerierenee7161
    @valerierenee7161 8 ปีที่แล้ว +142

    If Adrienne don't stop pursing her damn lips -_-

    • @clydejef6347
      @clydejef6347 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Like a damn duck !

    • @Notrequired4321
      @Notrequired4321 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Lol I was like what's wrong with her why is she fixing her lips like that 😆🐠

    • @melissablack1422
      @melissablack1422 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      OMG. IT irks the crap outta me. I wondered if I were the only person who noticed that

    • @truworship26
      @truworship26 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      lol u know what i commented on this already, she is always posing she never looks relaxed she is always watching the monitor to check how she looks

    • @user-cv5rb5cj1y
      @user-cv5rb5cj1y 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      lol i sometimes literally put my hand in front of the screen where adrienne is showing. i just cant look at her face when she does that, makes me so mad lol (im not a hater, i love her but she is annoying when she does that)

  • @thegoddess5300
    @thegoddess5300 8 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Oh Loni the shade at 2:46 haha "And they are what?"
    "The Whi people" haha.

  • @johannalouissaint3548
    @johannalouissaint3548 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    When Tamar tilted her head back and laughed, had me dying!!!!

  • @Hi.Shadow
    @Hi.Shadow 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This topic hits home for me, I got engaged last year and currently am in the process of planning a wedding for the end of this year but my parents are on a fixed income, my father said he would contribute but till this day he hasn't been able to help. I don't feel comfortable asking my fiances parents for money since it is traditionally the bride's parents that pay for the wedding, and they haven't offered to help me not one time. This has been a stressful ordeal as at least 90% of the costs are coming out of my pocket alone. My fiance gave me some funds but even so when I think about how this is going, it is not all I perceived it to be, sometimes I cry but I gotta do what needs to be done to make my dream wedding happen. When I have children I will do whatever in my power to help them and their spouse have a great wedding.

    • @lifewithsim7953
      @lifewithsim7953 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Don't answer till u get married how did the wedding go

    • @janercherry
      @janercherry 8 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      maybe you should just take a step back wait another year save more money thats your day it shouldent be that stressful. If every things already payed for I hope every thing go smooth. Good Luck

    • @SparklingJuice247
      @SparklingJuice247 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      U could talk to your fiancée about helping more, or getting his family to help.

    • @ro3554
      @ro3554 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      If a wedding is stressing you out this much then either you should wait and save up or have a small intimate wedding, even if it's not at all the dream wedding you'd want. Remember, you still gotta live after the wedding.....

    • @__Queen_of_Hearts__
      @__Queen_of_Hearts__ 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I honestly don't think that that tradition holds fast anymore. Given the high costs now associated with weddings, the bride and groom should have primary responsibility for funding it but I also think that it's great for both families to also assist in whatever way that they could. It doesn't necessarily have to be any grand funding- it could also be something small but meaningful.

  • @beamerbenz546
    @beamerbenz546 7 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    My dad payed for my entire wedding as both me and my husband were quite young but madly in love! It was a beautiful wedding his parents paid also and we are forever grateful to them.

  • @Nadirqm
    @Nadirqm 8 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Omg I love Tamar it'll be so boring without her, she's realllll

  • @ayeshah.6234
    @ayeshah.6234 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Adrienne fixing Jeannie’s hair is #friendshipgoals

  • @lenmaldita3247
    @lenmaldita3247 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I spent a chunk of my savings for my brothers wedding just a week ago. Here in the Philippines the grooms family usually pay for the wedding but since we don't have parents anymore i help my brother pay for his wedding. It was a beautiful wedding, unfortunately i couldn't attend because of some travel restrictions which sucks btw.

  • @GraceRoberts4
    @GraceRoberts4 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    When they said the average cost of a wedding is $30,000 and they were like “woah” but you could tell from their eyes and reaction they can afford way more than that 😂😂

  • @pinkp939
    @pinkp939 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    That quick "stare and laugh" at 5:09 that Tamar gave Tamera for inserting that self centered irrelevant info😆😩

  • @elizabeth.1905
    @elizabeth.1905 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    love their centerpiece + it looks so good with jeannie's hair

  • @kendraroberts7113
    @kendraroberts7113 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    On an older episode/clip, Tamera said she paid for the wedding herself and Adam paid for her dress.

  • @ellllyjm
    @ellllyjm 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    2:25 the lady in the audience has me rolling 🤣🤣

  • @rharinzala5739
    @rharinzala5739 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Tamara first said on a previous episode Adam helped with the dress and she paid for the entire wedding but now she is changing it to everyone chipped in to help. and all of a sudden she gets defensive(@5:4 where she state that Adams mom likes her so it could happen) when Tamer says she wouldn't pay her son's wedding if she doesn't like the bride.

  • @cookiesncream789
    @cookiesncream789 8 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Adrienne is shocked with Tamar's logic. She was like 😱

  • @MrGodismypower
    @MrGodismypower 8 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    The bigger the wedding, the shorter the marriage. Keep it simple folks

    • @MegaCadette55
      @MegaCadette55 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      same with the ring lol

    • @AccessoriesAddict5528
      @AccessoriesAddict5528 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      👏👏👏👏

    • @ACCOMPLISHEDSHEIS
      @ACCOMPLISHEDSHEIS 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I agree. Pay what your budget allows. If true love is there then the price of the wedding shouldn't matter.

    • @MrGodismypower
      @MrGodismypower 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +ME-Tube Your Space! Exactly

    • @jaspreetdhaliwal4953
      @jaspreetdhaliwal4953 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Indian people would beg to differ 😏

  • @angelderilli
    @angelderilli 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    If my father pays for my wedding I would be so surprised! It'll be a surprise if he even shows up. But on another note. Jeannie looks so beautiful, I love her hair!

  • @bendytheinkdemon2995
    @bendytheinkdemon2995 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I would NEVER let my dad pay for my wedding! Even if he offered, it would feel disrespectful tbh, he’s been taking care of me since I was a baby so now as I’m an adult I’m the one who should be taking care of him

  • @marieelisabethm
    @marieelisabethm 8 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    i don't have a father...

    • @marieelisabethm
      @marieelisabethm 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      ***** nop I never had the chance to meet him

    • @crybabykermit8651
      @crybabykermit8651 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why ? Where is he ?

    • @TheSisi4ever
      @TheSisi4ever 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      solves the problem! He aint paying!

    • @teresaguzman9167
      @teresaguzman9167 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      +TheSisi4ever 😂😂

    • @marieelisabethm
      @marieelisabethm 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      lavender cupcake I don't know i he's dead or alive

  • @AranzaMtz
    @AranzaMtz 8 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    So weird to see Tamera telling lies, lol.

  • @prettienini
    @prettienini 8 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    My parents paid for a large chunk of my wedding (they wanted to), me and my husband paid for what we could like the DJ and photographer, one of my bridesmaids paid for all the flowers and my in laws paid for our honeymoon. My aunt and uncle had a timeshare so we didn't have to pay for hotel stay.

    • @santriciajones2579
      @santriciajones2579 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That's awesome. You're blessed or lucky.

    • @prettienini
      @prettienini 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Santricia Jones yes very blessed. We didn't have any debt. Wedding venues are so expensive. It's literally a down payment on a home but I felt like since i'm never getting married again, why not go all out lol.
      The only thing I kind of regret is a destination wedding because they're cheaper.

  • @freakyeah95
    @freakyeah95 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    My dad would be like "Y'all better take y'all ass down to the courthouse." 😂😂 especially since my parents got married at his parents house. I'd also feel bad for making him pay because my wedding is gonna be lit!

  • @hxrleydanielle
    @hxrleydanielle 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Paying for the wedding is like the last contribution as the main man in the daughter's life. I love that tradition. I fully expect my husband to abide by such when my daughter gets married. My father couldn't afford it, but he took part in every peice of production...

  • @Drfeelinu
    @Drfeelinu 8 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    Lmfao ! The white people got money, they pay😂

  • @faresaiaulualo5992
    @faresaiaulualo5992 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Can we like take a moment to watch where it starts at 2:19 where you can hear the lady in the background scream “ WHIIIIII PEOPLEE!!!” 🤣🤣🤣 I was dying at work 💀🤣🤣

  • @ItsHannahMarieC
    @ItsHannahMarieC 8 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I want a intimate destination wedding and then a huge party once I get back to celebrate. I would ask my parents to chip in on the party, but not the whole wedding. I feel like that's a lot to ask for when my parents have paid for school, living, and anything I ever needed my whole life. I think the wedding should be the couples responsibility

  • @mrkendoll7995
    @mrkendoll7995 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    5:08-5:15 had me weak Loni “ what that gotta do with” and ((Tamar ))face had me on the ground crying

  • @MarkLaw13
    @MarkLaw13 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Tamera lied in this video. She said she paid everything for her wedding in the video clip "Ladies share wedding details" now two years later she's changed her story. Her husband would have been ticked off.

  • @ladymay7789
    @ladymay7789 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If I ever get married my wedding will be small (immediate family). I might splurge on my dress and the cake. Even a small wedding can cost alot but if you work with a budget and stick to it it can be be beautiful and economical. I've seen alot of DIY weddings that were really beautiful on a budget.

  • @moniquezapata5682
    @moniquezapata5682 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When I got married, I payed for ALOT of my wedding. My dad payed a little, my dad payed a little, and my mother in law paid for some. I just hope whenever we have kids, we are in the position to help out a lot more than my parents were.

  • @Natz682
    @Natz682 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Jeannie said Tamar shut up!!!! that was funny😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @cindywongsuna5033
    @cindywongsuna5033 8 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    if I can recall correctly, Tamara said in another episode that she paid for her entire wedding, now she is saying everyone pitched in what they can.. so which is it Tamara?

    • @williamk7035
      @williamk7035 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      ha I just watched that clip

  • @juanangelom.moralescicala6502
    @juanangelom.moralescicala6502 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If you want to get married, you should pay it yourself. Help will come from family and friends , but it’s your responsability ❤️

  • @gracechica8182
    @gracechica8182 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is absolutely CRAZY. How can the father of the bride pay? If a man wants to marry someone's daughter, he has to carry the responsibility for it and pay the bill. Or at least part of the bill.

    • @saggyjose8572
      @saggyjose8572 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      that’s stupid. the wedding is the womans dream day/wedding not the mans. that’s why the womans family pay for it

  • @lindsaydrawn5746
    @lindsaydrawn5746 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The tradition for the father of the bride paying for the wedding started b/c a wife was a “financial burden” to the grooms family b/c the wife would go live with the groom and his parents since they would marry young. And so they’re “giving her away” and paying for the wedding in exchange. I believe now a days since its more common to get married when you’re an older adult they are paying for their own wedding because they can.

  • @MyidolGwen
    @MyidolGwen 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I was just saying a couple Girl Chat vids ago that Tamar never brings up her brother, it's about time she finally had something to say about Michael Braxton Jr

  • @sophiarodriguez3706
    @sophiarodriguez3706 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This clip makes me want a Vietnamese wedding, and I'm neither of Vietnamese descent, nor am I sure I'll ever get remarried. That just sounds like such a great and budget-friendly way to celebrate a marriage!

  • @JLenox
    @JLenox 8 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I thought on an earlier season of The Real Tamera said SHE paid for her wedding..She never said anything about Adam chipping in then. 🤔🤔

    • @allthingscreative1631
      @allthingscreative1631 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      i thought i heard her say she paid for the bulk of the wedding lol

  • @anntoinetteangrum555
    @anntoinetteangrum555 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Tamara is hilarious!!! Tamara.... you once complained about being called the funny twin, and I feel you, but you are naturally funny, and with you bouncing off these sister's, especially Jeannie, Loni, and Tamar, your hilarious! I've been home sick for a month, and you have kept a smile on my face!!!!

  • @takecaretiff2919
    @takecaretiff2919 8 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    Damn man, some of these comments on these Father's day girl chat clips are makin' me sad 😕
    It's almost like you're unique if you grew up with your dad in your life 😞

    • @MarieB114
      @MarieB114 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's tuff, we gotta hang in there!!

    • @angelderilli
      @angelderilli 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It's like that. If you have a good relationship with your father, that's great! Cherish those moments because a lot of people don't have that.

  • @cristinasolano6487
    @cristinasolano6487 8 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    For the third time, I now understand why Tamar left.

    • @rochbramwell
      @rochbramwell 8 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Adrienne was laughing as well but it only tamar considered as the bad one 🤔

    • @rochbramwell
      @rochbramwell 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      +Rochelle B also tamera was as well

    • @chanyisme
      @chanyisme 8 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      +Rochelle B I'm over the comments, I saw it as friendly and everyone on the panel was laughing, even Jeannie. I don't get why people are saying she's mean to Jeannie.

    • @skywalker6327
      @skywalker6327 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      😂😂 im lowkey glad

    • @rochbramwell
      @rochbramwell 8 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      +chany85 I feel the same people are just over analysing everything she does

  • @gigglyfitzgirl
    @gigglyfitzgirl 8 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Father was never in my life.
    Mother was abusive and is no longer in my life.
    Godmother is ill and not well off financially.
    And I'm broke. 😂
    So even if I was to get married (it's not happening anytime soon anyway) idk how it would be paid for but God always has a way of working things out.

    • @nrw7734
      @nrw7734 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      So happy to see that in spite of all you have been through you express faith in God! He loves you and I pray that He will give you a double portion of blessings all the days of your life in Jesus Christ's name AMEN!

    • @MegaCadette55
      @MegaCadette55 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +NRW Amen!

    • @gigglyfitzgirl
      @gigglyfitzgirl 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      NRW Thank you so much! ❤💜 God bless you 💕

    • @helenatube
      @helenatube 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      bless you girl, my heart feels for you *hugs* 💜

    • @gigglyfitzgirl
      @gigglyfitzgirl 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Helena Thank you 💕😌 *hugs back*

  • @itsacrystalcreation
    @itsacrystalcreation 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    I will forever be grateful for my husband, He worked his ass off to bless us with a great wedding! We had very little help, and the only bummer was... a 200 people guest list, only about 50 showed!

  • @MsMaxine29
    @MsMaxine29 8 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    i thought tamera said before that she paid for her entire wedding. sideeeeee eye 👀👀👀👀👀 why you lying tamera?! 🐸

    • @jackie_0221
      @jackie_0221 8 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      This isn't the first lie she's told though. In one of the most recent episodes where the girls asked "what can't you leave your house without to look good" she said she doesn't care what she looks like cause she's too worried about taking care of her kids and that's it's difficult at times cause shes "never had a nanny". But in the previous season she mentioned something about Aden loving their nanny and even on Instagram she's posted about having an assistant. - I dunno I feel like Tamera is one of those people who says something in the moment to look good, and what's worse is that actually sounds very sincere when she tells her stories lol.

    • @girl8295
      @girl8295 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      +Jackie Alvarez yeaaaaaa I was like I thought Tamera have a nanny... What is she talking about

    • @abigailj2485
      @abigailj2485 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      that nanny really isn't a NANNY though. It's just an assistant guys. I don't think she's lying, why she gotta lie??

    • @MsMaxine29
      @MsMaxine29 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      +Abigail Jones she defo used to have a nanny though, she said it before

    • @tiffanymatsvai1929
      @tiffanymatsvai1929 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      +max munch yeah she did ! Because I think they were talking about Mariah Carey's nanny and how she's getting too close to Mariah's children. And Tamera said something in the line of ; Aden has the best bond with his nanny and she thinks it's beautiful. Idk why the show is called the real when they be making up stories like this smh 😒

  • @angelicadelgado3066
    @angelicadelgado3066 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    4:27 Tamara said Adam helped pay for the dress but she payed for the entire wedding on another episode and now she says everyone pitched in? I’m confused

  • @Jan-bc3ed
    @Jan-bc3ed 8 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    in the indian culture the bride's parents usually pay for the whole wedding, even indians that get married in america follow the same tradition. I didn't even know americans/christian cultures did that too!

    • @jaspreetdhaliwal4953
      @jaspreetdhaliwal4953 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Mostly they do that because the parents are the one's who invite all the random people. So they better pay for it lol. If it was up to me I would only have like 80ish people at me wedding.but my mom and in laws increased the damn guest list to 600 people ffs

    • @lolarosario8796
      @lolarosario8796 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No Christian ppl don't pay for weddings lol. I'm a Christian, I'm paying for my wedding next year lol. We cheap! lol jk. my parents helping out with a few things but I prefer I pay for it.

    • @cassandratype4
      @cassandratype4 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Corina Carmona Our generation does, same thing for me

    • @ASmith-jn7kf
      @ASmith-jn7kf 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Traditional biblical culture yes and there are still some traditional folks who do the same, I would if my daughter wasn't going to work and be a housewife. But if she's not I don't see a point to it. My father is a Christian and my husband and I eloped, I would never even think of having him pay for my wedding but I would have loved to have a father who cared about me that much.

  • @Mary-sh2bp
    @Mary-sh2bp 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Asian culture, it’s the groom’s side that pays. My parents were 50:50. Today, it depends on the couple now. I’m Asian btw.

  • @jellybeankisser
    @jellybeankisser 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yes...TRADITION, TRADITION, TRADITION!! This is part of having children...you need to plan for ALL of their life expenses, not just through age 18 or so. The bride's family should be financially responsible for the wedding.

  • @commonerror420
    @commonerror420 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Weddings are getting more expensive and divorces are more common.

  • @LaCandy
    @LaCandy 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I agree with Tamar lol i aint paying for something that might not even last i rather pay for a nice gift lmaoooooo

  • @mechaelalapuaho226
    @mechaelalapuaho226 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololol😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 omg!!! LOL! LMBO!!!!! My throat is hurting!! I’m crying!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Do you know how many times I watched 5:02 on repeat??!! And then Loni getting confused with everyone else like, “what’s that got to do with anything?” I’m dead. I’m SO dead. I am deceased!

  • @jchidi
    @jchidi 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    LMFAO Adrienne at 5:20!!!

  • @kellz47
    @kellz47 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    2:25 the lady that screamed "WHAI PEOPLE" Tamar dieddd laughing 😭

  • @mjlovahh12
    @mjlovahh12 8 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    "Wypipo" lmaooo

  • @alexiscarrillo781
    @alexiscarrillo781 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m weak Tamar said “I really am monster in law “ 😂

  • @Stephyyii
    @Stephyyii 8 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Love Tamar and Tamera they´re so funny and cute

  • @santriciajones2579
    @santriciajones2579 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Wayment! Tamera is definitely gonna have to explain herself after this one! Now who paid for your wedding? You or EVERYONE? LOL

  • @CarlyEH11
    @CarlyEH11 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The tradition of the bride's Dad paying is long gone. The couple getting married should expect to pay for the wedding themselves.

  • @Melissaj-s1j
    @Melissaj-s1j 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    "Tamar shut up" that was lovely to hear coming from Jeannie and was music to my ears 😂😭😭🙌

  • @KimaAli
    @KimaAli 8 ปีที่แล้ว +373

    Tamera always steering the conversation towards her husband/kids. It's getting beyond old! 😓

    • @AlwaysLM2011
      @AlwaysLM2011 8 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Well most of the conversations link to her family. Her love is strong, more people need to embrace their loved ones more often because you never know when some crazy person will come up on your ass and start shooting. So let her talk about her family all she wants.

    • @Cookie20244
      @Cookie20244 8 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      +wwe creative 5:06 she started to talk about her self suddenly it didn't even make sense

    • @VONiiE8
      @VONiiE8 8 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      then you should have a problem with everyone except for Loni on this panel then??? Bc they all speak from experience??? they state an opinion and use their things that have happened in their life to explain why this is their opinion. I'm just really lost as to what the problem is???

    • @KimaAli
      @KimaAli 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      +VONiiE8 please reread what the initial comment stated above.

    • @VONiiE8
      @VONiiE8 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      +Kima McGaughy and Adrienne with her sister/parents. And Jeannie with her mom and husband. And Tamar with her entire family. Like, my point still stands. ?????

  • @charmariska
    @charmariska 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel like decades ago it made sense when typically people were much younger getting married so they didn’t have much savings. But nowadays I don’t think it should be set in stone that the brides family will cover the entire wedding

  • @PaulaMelissaXX
    @PaulaMelissaXX 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    JEANIE IS MY SPIRIT ANIMAL forreal lool

  • @loliloli6582
    @loliloli6582 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I thought on another show Tamara said I made the money, I could afford it, I wanted to do it and paid for my entire wedding, here she said everyone pitched in hmmm

  • @GonexWithxAxTwinge
    @GonexWithxAxTwinge 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    What the hell guys?!?! I didn't even know that was a thing. I think the couple should pay on their own but if they need help then BOTH sides of the parents could be used.

  • @heidifoster4022
    @heidifoster4022 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    At 1st, my dad..(i cried and cried..lol) said the most he could give was $500. Again, I cried and I cried lol I THANK GOD for my step mom (at the time she was my dads gf) I KNOW she IS the reason my Dad ended up funding 1/2 of our wedding. (My Mother is deceased) We did the other half. My in laws paid for the rehearsal dinner. All together I'd say our wedding was around $10,000. We did a lot of DIY. Our wedding was actually quite nice! We got married at an old plantation house (old santee canal park) if you're up for a southern destination wedding its a GREAT inexpensive place to do it! Its $2,500 and can seat up to 300ppl. When we got married in 2010 it was only $1,000.

  • @MMFtoo
    @MMFtoo 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Tamera was born in Germany but her mother side is from the Bahamas! She did pay a pretty coin for her wedding I think those tents were 20,000 dollars themselves because of rain in Napa! I watched the reality show and yes I love her dearly! As for her wedding dress she was really sensitive about Tia leaving it in the back of the car/truck! She says it was under 5,000 dollars! She was going over her budget so she had to cut flowers she wanted!