At 18, She Told Her Parents She Was Pregnant. Here’s How They Reacted | Underreported
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- She got good grades, was a member of a sorority, and ran on the track team. When she saw that pregnancy test, “My life is over,” she thought. Still, Kelly made a decision that today, few teens do-she would carry her baby to term, then place him-or her-for adoption.
But first, she’d have to tell her parents. In this video, Kelly shares how that conversation went, what it was like carrying a baby to term as a teenager, and the process of placing that baby for adoption months later.
In 2014, 18,329 women in the U.S. chose to place their children for adoption. That same year, more than 900,000 women chose abortion. According to the National Council for Adoption, a nonpartisan group that advocates adoption, for every 1,000 abortions and births to unmarried women, there were only 6.9 adoptions.
Kelly’s story illuminates the beauty and hardships that so many young women undergo when faced with an unplanned pregnancy, and adds perspective to the pro-life battle that's being waged throughout the country.
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Maybe there should be annual highly publicized statistics that show how many couples there are that want to adopt.
YES OH MY GOSH YES
She did the right thing. She put a new life above her own. A baby needs two parents, the father is a most important factor for the success of a child.
What a beautiful story, Kelly. I have friends that adopted twins two years ago and they've shared how emotional the moment was for them when they received their babies and realized that another person, their birth mommy, must have felt such pain in saying good bye. Thanks for sharing your heart.
Hey Kelly, your story is actually a lot like mine. I’m a little older than you, but was the same age when I went through this. Although I’m not a religious person, I made my decision based on a lot of the same reasons you did. Individual situations will always be different, but like you, I have no doubt I made the right choice at the time. I still keep in contact with my birth son and his family (we see each other about once a year) and am fortunate to have a great relationship with them! People like you and me are very fortunate to have had things turn out so well, and although everyone’s situation may be different, I think people need to hear about these very positive stories, too. There is a lot of naivety out there regarding unexpected pregnancy and adoption (as you can tell from a lot of the comments here 😉). Thanks for sharing your story!
I was younger & I had no one to be there for me. From day 1, my "family" basically destroyed me. And they still do.(Those people are no longer in my life.) But my baby is alive & has his own life now. He's alive because I would not totally erase my "mistake". I've went through hell. But I still wouldnt "erase" my mistake.
Thank you and God bless you for making the hard but right decision.
A chance at life is always 100% better than no chance at all.
What a wonderful story. I especially liked “we’ve got a big God with a big heart.” That is something we all need to be frequently reminded of, as he loves us and is always there just when we need him most. Thank you for sharing so openly and honestly.
She choose to spread her legs I'm not gonna feel sad fr her one night stands
@@tommyluio5509 i didn't hear her asking for your sympathy though
I am an adoptee from a closed adoption in reunion now for over 2 decades. I have relationships with one of my two birth-parents and both of my adoptive parents. I don't call my birth-parent "mom" or "dad" as respect for the ones who raised me. Kelly here did an "open adoption" which for the child and birthparents is far more healthy. I am glad Kelly did not decide to have an abortion. I am glad I was not aborted , however "Pro Life" is against "open records" here in California. I ran into this in 2001 when I sat in for a judiciary hearing for AB 1349 in California. Anyway, enough of politics.
If you Kelly or anyone wants emotional support, please check out a website and come to the meetings for CUB or just educate yourself. CUB stands for concerned united birth-parents and one of the many things it is is a support group for birth-parents, adoptive parents and adoptees. Here is the link and god bless for having the child, following thru with your commitments, and doing this video.
www.cubirthparents.org/index.php
Right many states seal original records and give adoptees amended birth certificates and it's totally unfair. Blessings
What a loving mother and father she had. ❤️ I’m literally bawling my eyes out. Thank you for sharing your story
Thank you for this video. I'm a birth mother my baby girl was born just a couple days ago. It gives me comfort knowing I'm not the only one that felt empty.
Monet B I am also a birth mother. I was 18 at the time and the boy I had is now 17 years old! We did an open adoption and stay in touch about once a year, so I’ve had the opportunity to watch him become an amazing young man. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do, but I know I made a selfless decision to give him the best life possible, and it’s also been an amazing experience for us. I’m sometimes nervous to tell people I placed a baby for adoption when I was a teenager, because of the stigma that often surrounds adoption and birth parents, but people like you and I know we made the decision with our child’s well-being in mind. I applaud your courage and strength!
@@EC-rh6wv give ur self pat on the back fr being selfish mothers spreading ur legs and abandoning the baby
@@tommyluio5509 Those babies were NOT abandoned, they were given up for adoption to loving families. Statistically, that is better for both birth mother and her baby. Many times if a single mother keeps her child, they end up being in a low income situation. I have a couple of examples of that in my own family.
Strong woman. Beautiful story. God has a plan.
Dear Kelly, What an inspiring story for many other young and growing up girls to learn from. No one is perfect in this world, Kelly. Your loving, supportive and understanding parents impressed me much and that every life is precious! I wish you much love, peace, happiness and success that life has to offer!
Absolutely amazing story.
I can’t even begin to imagine the emotional trauma you were going through.
God bless you for doing the right thing. Every life is precious.
She happy wat abt the baby who was abandoned by a selfish mother
I am an adoptive Mom....thanks to this woman , and all women brave enough to give up their baby's in order for people like my husband and myself to become parents. What a true blessing!
This is one of the first stories that actually makes me rethink whether access to abortions should be so readily available (I'm a pro-choice conservative). There are situations when an abortion may be the preferred choice (pregnancy due to rape), but the statistic in the article that only 18,329 women gave up their child for adoption when 900k killed them in 2014 is alarming! As I've grown older my perspective has changed. I remember the horror stories of an unplanned pregnancy. However, I now know too many couples who've struggled to have a child. It's really a shame that more pregnant women don't opt for adoption over an abortion. 900,000 is a lot of children killed when there are capable parents who have homes who want them!
Abortion only adds to the trauma after conceiving threw assault and adds murder to rape being commited
I'm so grateful for Kelly's story. Real stories are so important to get out. We need stories of the horrors of abortion, the joys and heartache of adoption, and the joys and struggles of raising a child. We also need to hear from adoptive parents. From abortive fathers. When people hear the WHOLE STORY, they will learn to recognize Life as a really big deal, not something to be taken lightly. Life needs to be respected, and these stories help do that. Thank you!
This is the video I watched through it's entirety. I am so glad you are able to maintain a relationship with your "son", as this would be a void for both of you, and including your families!
You obviously have great feeling for your son. Take Care, I am glad it worked out this way for you.
God will bless her for her beautiful sacrifice.
The fact that there is only 7 adoptions for every 1000 abortions is depressing. Its heartbreaking to picture all those babies that didn't get a chance at life. I hope this video encourages some women to give their babies then gift of life. There are plenty of people out there that want to be parents but aren't physically capable. An adoption is not only a blessing for the child but for the parents as well. God bless you all 🙏 and stay strong.
Thank you Kelly for sharing your story. Thanks to DS for making this video.
Wow, such a beautiful story. This, Kelly & her parents, is what heroes are made of! 🙌♥️☝️
I still count you as him mom, not just his birth mom.
You gave up your kid to be a SCHOOL COUNSELOR? 🤔
So what if she did? It's better for both her and her child, in her situation.
@@elouise5593 “Don’t judge anyone until you have walked a mile in their shoes”.
Don Turnbuckle, right. And she could have most definitely still become a school counselor if she had chosen to keep her son with HIS MOTHER!! She had a supportive family. Acting like her life was over. I didn’t care for her holier than thou attitude to be honest.
At least she is not killer, thank you for that, Kelly
Kelly is one amazing human being. The guy who said if you don't chose abortion i will lose all respect for you should be ashamed of himself. The birth father especially. To get her pregnant and cheated on her and Kelly found that out from the best friend is very disrespectful and betrayal. Thankfully she had her parents and sister. Kelly i haven't went through what you went through but you have my complete respect and you're inspiring. All the best in your future and life. Hugs from Eastern Canada!!
What a sweet person she is. Yes, she is definitely part of God's plan.
Im glad she didn’t murder her kid
Beautiful!
Absolutely beautiful story ❤️❤️❤️
God bless you for making the right decision.
I’m really struggling to understand why she gave him up. She couldn’t give him what she thought he needed? Ok she broke up with the father. So what? There are single parents everywhere. It’s not like she was on her own. She had the support of her family. What a baby really needs is love and care. And it’s not like she didn’t anything to offer him. She dressed him in a Ralph Lauren onesie. So why?
Comments like yours are the exact reason why these women feel alone. They fear they will receive the judgment like yours. Consider yourself lucky if you don’t understand depression. If you’re asking “why” after watching a video where she clearly and thoroughly explained her reason then you’re not looking to hear her. You’re just here to place judgments on people who aren’t making decisions that YOU feel is right for their personal situation.
Statistically, moms in her situation who choose to keep the child end up low income. I have 2 situations like that in my own family, so don't judge. It is much harder for a single mother to be able to complete an education, so many single mothers give up and end up in low paying jobs. She did the best thing she could for both herself, and her baby.
@@bidibidi1338 beautifully said, thank you. I was looking for the right words myself but you said it for me.
I guess you missed the point. Hopefully after 3 years from this comment, you understand. Everyone has to make their own decisions based one what is best for themselves and the child. And times have changed tremendously since those days.
I am so glad that she chosen life. My question is where was the father?
watch more of the video.
Think before you give your body away as if it was a cheap commodity and easily replaced. Your body is your most prized possession, a gift from Father God Almighty and not to be treated with no regard. One can never replace this pristine gift. So think, soberly, before acting in haste.
Never say never because anything could happen
God bless you, lovely lady, you are beautiful in body soul and spirit, you have brought joy to the hearts of Jesus and Mary - and the whole of Heaven - you chose life. and brought a wonderful happy boy into the world, Our Lord is so proud of you! - beautiful, beautiful lady
where is the father of the child ? doesn't he get a say in any of this? doesn't he want to see his son? i guess men just get thrown under the bus in this day and age .... so sad - i am glad she chose life tho ....
He was cheating on her when she was pregnant with his child, she said it in the video if you did not notice so he was asshole who did not give a damn about his child first, so no in this case he did not have right to say anything in any of this.
@@Arianeria she said she'd known him for 8 yrs, during those years did she not realise the type of person he was. It's good to know tho that she's met her son n keeps in touch. Personally speaking, unless my situation was one of utter hopelessness, with no help or support, l could never give my child up. Just my opinion.
Guess you didn't watch the whole video.
I'm glad she placed him for adoption.
Adoption 50 50 chance of being abused by foster parents yh great job !
@@tommyluio5509 abortion, 100% percent of being killed. By the way, where do you get your statistics?
@@lorenz117 I mean he isn't really lying, foster care is trash.
@@tommyluio5509 50-50 chance of being abused and killed by biological parents also.
@@badazzweirdoSome is, lots isn't. So how many children have you adopted?
How contrived. This poor woman is so brainwashed. I hate that there was so much shame surrounding her humanity. I hope if this precious woman is reading this she reaches out to me or someone that understands that she was coerced by a very inhumane religious system. She did not deserve to have her child taken away at birth because of the guilt and shame that her parents religion installed in her before the very conception of her child. She must be experiencing unimaginable grief and pain.
Rebecca Hatfield That is not what she said. She said she has just as much respect for single mothers who choose to keep their child, but she was moral enough to put her child’s needs before her own wants. She said he would be happier with a male role model in his life, and a happy family that could provide for him. She has more humanity than I have seen in a while
You must not have watched the video. It was HER OWN choice to give the child up for adoption.
Oh my god here we go again with another one who wants to judge rather than honoring this woman's choice and the life as a Christian she's chosen. She was lucky her parents honored her choice, religious or not. It took her tremendous courage to share this with us. You're entitle to your opinion but most commenting here do not share it with you.
Sad that adoption is so traumatizing and woman feel the only other answer is abortion
If she had stayed true to Christian principles, she would have had a planned family i.e one that comes along in the right time. Screwing around before marriage with no financial or relational security does not make you a statistic; it makes you a sinner, as we all are in one way or another. Real maturity says "I screwed up and did wrong," It doesn't claim a victim mentality. I'm sorry for your situation. I pray that you'll emerge from it with much wisdom!
Blessings.
There is also the principle of repentance. Take that huge log out of your eyes before trying to take that speck out of anothers eye. Are YOU perfect? NO!
Jesus is happy with how things turned out - why can't you be the same, she chose life
@@jesusloveshismum She could have chosen better life.
PS How do you know that Jesus is happy with this situation????
Just say no, if you are strong enough to do so.
@@seanonel because of the incredible love of Jesus, and that she obeyed the voice of his Spirit and got up out of that road, and she chose life - for her and her baby, she brought joy to Jesus and his Mother Mary
This reminds me many years ago, I went to a Friday evening healing mass in St Augustine's Catholic church in Manchester UK, where a profound true testimony of an ex prostitute was read out, for her by, I think it may have been the deacon, it was a long time ago, can't remember it word for word, but it went something like this
"I was in my usual area looking for "custom", it was cold, raining, and a wretched night, and as there was no "business", I decided to take a walk to the church in the distance for no other reason than to get some warmth , I went in through the doors into a foyer area separated from the main church, and was stood there just getting warm, not really thinking about anything, when I heard a voice calling me by my name , I looked round and no-one was there, the voice continued in the most kind compassionate way, again spoke my name, saying "you don't know how much I love you, and how long I have waited for this moment, to welcome you back, she turned to look through the large window into the church, and at the back of the altar was a large figure of Jesus with his arms outstretched, actually moving towards her, lovingly welcoming her enveloping her in his peace and incredible love, she then told of how this real experience transformed her life
, in ways that she could have never imagined.
Believe me Braaidude - no-one is beyond the love of God, Jesus loves all sinners profoundly, and is eagerly waiting for the moment when they too will wander into his space where he can minister to them, welcome them home and transform their lives
we must also keep praying for the Ladies that for whatever reason, did not choose life, and had abortions, Our Lord loves them just as deeply as he loves this young lady, and intensely yearns for them to be reconciled with him, and accept his Grace, healing and peace he wants to give them, and one day at his appointed time, he will be with them in their glorious reunion with the children they had lost,
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@@seanonel Watch some videos of NDE's and you will see that there is no judgement in the afterlife about this, only LOVE. Jesus and God love all of us more than we can ever imagine. You sound very bitter, not Christian-like.
Come on. No one is take away you pro-life position. But ultimately this is people’s own choice. You don’t dictate people’s life based on certain religion.
@@MaFTB I agree. We can learn to respect each other.
There are two issues here. One is that pro-life is not an exclusively religious position, though I imagine it is easier to argue for abortion in an atheist view. The other is whether the unborn have rights. The rights of the unborn should not depend on whether mothers happen to think their unborn children have rights. Either the unborn have rights or don't. The pro-choice movement claims to be about women's rights, but that is only part of the picture. There is a separate individual in the woman's body.
@@glurp1 Yes, it is an exclusively religious position. "Separate individual" and "unborn have rights" only make sense under certain religious practices. I respect people's religious affiliation but globally most of the population does not believe in Christianity. This idea that pro-life should be promoted and dictating women's life is a remnant of the colonial mindset. "I assume everyone is the same and shall hold the same belief." If people do believe "pro-life", they probably should stop consuming any meat because they are literally slaughtering others' babies and eating them. The double standard here is clear. My belief system and my people are superior and we should make it into legislation. No one is taking away your pro-life position but please step back and respect others at the same time. Also, why people choose not to wear a mask when most countries on earth require a mask mandate to protect the elderly population? Go to public gatherings and spread diseases are not "pro-life". It sounds pretty like "against-life" to me.
How do you feel if Buddhists want everyone in the state to stop eating meat? How do you feel if Islamists asked all women in the state to cover their faces all the time? Will you support their position since a large group of people has been practicing these rules for thousands of years?
Why people can't stop the impulse to "educate" women on their own life?
@@Ray-sz6ks www.secularprolife.org/
@@glurp1 I am sorry but the rationale you gave contradicts what you claim. I want to remind you that the western colonialist brutally invaded other continents, killed men and women, and eradicated other cultures. Besides, colonialists cant resist the temptation to brain-wash other people. Look at what happened to indigenous people in America and you realize this "pro-life" claim is a joke. This is about power at its core because you want the power to influence and control other people's life. That's 100% colonialism.
She looks to me like somebody who puts herself first. A baby is too much disturbing. Really. You come from a family that has the possibilities to raise a child. Why is getting pregnant 'parents worst nightmare? Give me a break. You had sex so take also the consequences.And the crazy thing at the end to let the boy thank her for the adoption.
This story goes beyond you personal opinion of the situation. Adoption in my opinion would be a hard choice, but way better than abortion To play your card, why don't you judge less and love more?
It is in this case a selfish decision. I raised my adopted son. I saw what it meant for him being left by his mother.
some birth mothers can't keep their children, what is wrong with you?
some aren't just as ready as your insensitive ass to be a parent. too bad some folks go the whole pregnancy thinking everything will be fine and then finding out being a parent isn't for them AFTER THE BABY HAS BEEN BORN. and what does her family have to do with this? not everyone wants to raise a family members child and some may not even be physically, mentally, or financially ready to be a parent to someone else kid at that! and besides, whats wrong with giving a couple a family they desired? you're a real piece of BITTER work, go knit a sweater or something.
@Elly thank goodness you aren’t our God. You’re one bitter, judgmental and snide soul. Her child is safe, happy, and healthy. She blessed a couple and created a family for another. That is a gift. She doesn’t have to but she chooses to still be in that child’s life. The pain and hurt in her eyes, in her soul is transparent and is evidence it was a traumatizing and painful decision for her. Your heavily-despising remark counteracts your point and only displays your heart that is absent of compassion and empathy. In short, you are a cruel person.
Can I be that guy?
Fuck the God shit, but still a beautiful story which I hope inspires others.
why not keep the child?
you would have judged her then too, stop complaining and mind your own business
Adoption is a brave, loving choice. We are grandparents through adoption, and we thank God every day that a scared young lady made that courageous decision.
Wait, she Said she knows the father of the baby for 8 years and they were talking about getting married. Then why did she immediately decide to give the baby away?
Mother spreads her legs abandons baby I'm not going to feel sad fr u . u made the choice spread ur legs
@Meri lupa I don’t think you should comment unless you’ve watched the video with genuine attention. He cheated, that’s why. She went into details about that for a good 3-5 minutes. @Tommy Luio I don’t think anyone cares or expect any empathy from a misogynist. That child is happy and healthy and so are the families. Your opinion won’t change what has already been done and been done gracefully and lovingly. Hopefully you never have daughters because they probably won’t be valued very much by you. Or maybe they may just open your eyes and make you realize how ignorant you used to be towards women.
Surely the father of the baby should have been the first person she called.
I imagine she probably told that cheating jerk!
did you watch the entire video?
I mean glad she didn't get an abortion but honestly do kids these days not know about contraceptives & condoms...
Why is she talking like a little girl, she's 28.
the parents are proud.....for what? for not taking the consequences for her behavior?
Elly De Heus, because she didn't choose abortion 5:00 and I'm sure they weren't overjoyed she got pregnant, but she explains why she chose adoption@ 11:26 . There are still consequences: she was unprepared, no husband/boyfriend support, she didn't get to raise her first child and be called "mom". I believe she made a mature decision out of a non ideal situation
What are the consequences you would want her to take? Adoption is a brave, loving choice.