The hypocrisy is astounding in the first like 2 minutes of that woman talking. OMFG. You can't be upset about men not wanting you and in the same breath say "well I shouldn't have to settle for a man who..." 🙄 I hate the word "settle" when it comes to relationships in general because its very "oh i'm too good for them" which is 🤮 but when it is coming from somebody who is complaining about people not settling for them its like so its ok for you to have standards that exclude guys that might be interested in you but its not ok for the guys you want to date to have standards that exclude you? hypocrisy.
This is the mentality of the terminally insecure! That’s why typically “giving them a chance” really doesn’t work, men or women. Because rather than be loving and devoted because you love their soul or whatever, the insecure person ends up looking down on you for giving them a chance and sometimes lashing out at YOU! It’s crazy. It’s that mentality of “I’d never join a club that had me as a member”, very self sabotaging
settling makes complete sense in the context of treatment. like settling for someone that treats you like garbage because you don't think anyone else will want you. I don't think people tend to use it that way though which really is just weird
8:27 my sister would almost be offended when people would compliment her because her self esteem was so bad. I used to tell her that you’re insulting people when you downplay their compliments or if they’re interested in you. Just say thank you even if you don’t believe them
Food for thought: my ex was fat when we got together and I did love him and found him attractive even though I’m not usually attracted to fatness in general. He lost weight during our relationship (a lot, almost 100 pounds) and got absolutely jacked and physically, I loved it BUT he was emotionally very very immature, eschewed responsibility for his life and he was very anxious about me leaving him. I’m a libra, aries rising. So you know what I’m going to tell ya. He gave me an ick so big, I could not get over it. Moral of the story: weight or weightloss might not be the heart of the matter when a relationship dies, but it might make it tougher.
I had a friend years ago who was SMO and lost weight with Weight Watchers and became a skinny irresponsible party girl. She torpedoed her marriage and caused a rift with her children. All because she never actually dealt with the underlying insecurity she had had while SMO. She used to insist to me that I never tell any of her newer friends that she was ever fat (why would I even do that lol?) but that’s how cripplingly insecure she was
The original Catfish was Angela Wesselman, an obese older woman who pretended to be thin young woman online, so I dunno why she's acting like the term is being misappropriated.
If I was ever single again, I would not persue a relationship ever again. I am grateful for my boyfriend, I love him. If we broke up I would be done with relationships. Not from a broken heart, but from how time consuming it is to find someone...
So I recently learned the term "kitten fishing", which is literally what Abby is describing, where someone will use photos that make them look better (ie when they were smaller, flattering angles etc) with the intention of deceiving potential dates, they're not using someone else's pics, so it's technically not catfishing, but it comes close
Alex, hope is out there. I met my fiance when he was very large and we're still very much in love now, even 55lbs down and in that mid range you keep talking about. You're right about both appearance and substance mattering. The strongest bonds are between partners who are physically and mentally attracted to each other.
She wants catfishing to be about fat women so bad. It also for women wearing a lot of makeup or men who don't disclose their height. The reach to make it all about fat women 🙄
She could have responded to the first question in so many good ways because thats an experience many young people go through But she decides to talk about how smart and good and great she is Dobt get me wrong, we should see the good and special things in ourselfs that are more than weight But here it just comes off weird, narcissistic and main charactor syndrom like
It’s funny she left out that women put photos of themselves that lie Makeup Super Younger And That ground photo where a guy can’t tell which one is you
i just don’t get it. why wouldn’t you want people to know so that only those who are interested pursue you. i don’t use dating apps but if i did i would mention my health problems so i don’t have to deal with wasting time on those who don’t have compassion/time for it. wouldn’t it be way better to just be out there with everything? maybe it’s because i’m not as confident as she is and i expect rejection. i’ve been class 1 obese (which most people don’t think of as obese) i didn’t think there was something wrong with those who were interested in me i just thought that was their type. maybe i just don’t get it because i already accepted a limited dating pool because of health issues
Eh. With a lot of these apps you only really convey who you are through a few pictures and a couple of statements about yourself. If you use that small area to focus on a negative it will look like you're defined by that health issue. Also... Do you really have to tell everyone you meet about something potentially personal? So it depends, I think it's usually fine to disclose them once you have a rapport. I wouldn't expect someone to warn me that they have anxiety since it's common and manageable. But I'd be very surprised to discover my date was a quadriplegic.
@ it’s good to just get things out of the way, i always mention it when i’m talking to potential dates because like you said you’d be really surprised if your date turned out to have a huge issue that controls their life. i wouldn’t bother telling someone that i have anxiety but one day i will need a lot more support than the average partner would. there is a lot of space between being a quadriplegic and having anxiety. there’s a lot of conditions that control your life and will affect your partners life in that space
Alex, you are looking fantastic. You’re borderline radioactive, the way you’ve been glowing.
He’d better watch out! Soon the FA’s will be coming for him because of his pretty privilege! 😂
The hypocrisy is astounding in the first like 2 minutes of that woman talking. OMFG. You can't be upset about men not wanting you and in the same breath say "well I shouldn't have to settle for a man who..." 🙄 I hate the word "settle" when it comes to relationships in general because its very "oh i'm too good for them" which is 🤮 but when it is coming from somebody who is complaining about people not settling for them its like so its ok for you to have standards that exclude guys that might be interested in you but its not ok for the guys you want to date to have standards that exclude you? hypocrisy.
This is the mentality of the terminally insecure! That’s why typically “giving them a chance” really doesn’t work, men or women. Because rather than be loving and devoted because you love their soul or whatever, the insecure person ends up looking down on you for giving them a chance and sometimes lashing out at YOU! It’s crazy. It’s that mentality of “I’d never join a club that had me as a member”, very self sabotaging
settling makes complete sense in the context of treatment. like settling for someone that treats you like garbage because you don't think anyone else will want you. I don't think people tend to use it that way though which really is just weird
8:27 my sister would almost be offended when people would compliment her because her self esteem was so bad. I used to tell her that you’re insulting people when you downplay their compliments or if they’re interested in you. Just say thank you even if you don’t believe them
Bold of these people to think they're interesting, creative, or smart. 1:54
Food for thought: my ex was fat when we got together and I did love him and found him attractive even though I’m not usually attracted to fatness in general. He lost weight during our relationship (a lot, almost 100 pounds) and got absolutely jacked and physically, I loved it BUT he was emotionally very very immature, eschewed responsibility for his life and he was very anxious about me leaving him. I’m a libra, aries rising. So you know what I’m going to tell ya. He gave me an ick so big, I could not get over it.
Moral of the story: weight or weightloss might not be the heart of the matter when a relationship dies, but it might make it tougher.
I had a friend years ago who was SMO and lost weight with Weight Watchers and became a skinny irresponsible party girl. She torpedoed her marriage and caused a rift with her children. All because she never actually dealt with the underlying insecurity she had had while SMO. She used to insist to me that I never tell any of her newer friends that she was ever fat (why would I even do that lol?) but that’s how cripplingly insecure she was
The original Catfish was Angela Wesselman, an obese older woman who pretended to be thin young woman online, so I dunno why she's acting like the term is being misappropriated.
Lmfao I feel like all catfishing was originally fat women doing that too 😅
If I was ever single again, I would not persue a relationship ever again. I am grateful for my boyfriend, I love him. If we broke up I would be done with relationships. Not from a broken heart, but from how time consuming it is to find someone...
Don't search for love - find it! No time required!
So I recently learned the term "kitten fishing", which is literally what Abby is describing, where someone will use photos that make them look better (ie when they were smaller, flattering angles etc) with the intention of deceiving potential dates, they're not using someone else's pics, so it's technically not catfishing, but it comes close
wow i love in depth videos and your humour is really funny
Alex, hope is out there. I met my fiance when he was very large and we're still very much in love now, even 55lbs down and in that mid range you keep talking about. You're right about both appearance and substance mattering. The strongest bonds are between partners who are physically and mentally attracted to each other.
Pseudoactivism has a membership set point.
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She wants catfishing to be about fat women so bad. It also for women wearing a lot of makeup or men who don't disclose their height. The reach to make it all about fat women 🙄
Idk I think people who think like this are sooooo afraid of rejection they do everything to make rejecting someone like a crime or something
24:13 enabling someone’s delusion is not a moral accomplishment. Pretending that we’re not visual creatures isn’t virtuous… it’s lying.
She could have responded to the first question in so many good ways because thats an experience many young people go through
But she decides to talk about how smart and good and great she is
Dobt get me wrong, we should see the good and special things in ourselfs that are more than weight
But here it just comes off weird, narcissistic and main charactor syndrom like
It’s funny she left out that women put photos of themselves that lie
Makeup
Super Younger
And
That ground photo where a guy can’t tell which one is you
i just don’t get it. why wouldn’t you want people to know so that only those who are interested pursue you. i don’t use dating apps but if i did i would mention my health problems so i don’t have to deal with wasting time on those who don’t have compassion/time for it. wouldn’t it be way better to just be out there with everything? maybe it’s because i’m not as confident as she is and i expect rejection. i’ve been class 1 obese (which most people don’t think of as obese) i didn’t think there was something wrong with those who were interested in me i just thought that was their type. maybe i just don’t get it because i already accepted a limited dating pool because of health issues
Eh. With a lot of these apps you only really convey who you are through a few pictures and a couple of statements about yourself. If you use that small area to focus on a negative it will look like you're defined by that health issue. Also... Do you really have to tell everyone you meet about something potentially personal?
So it depends, I think it's usually fine to disclose them once you have a rapport.
I wouldn't expect someone to warn me that they have anxiety since it's common and manageable. But I'd be very surprised to discover my date was a quadriplegic.
@ it’s good to just get things out of the way, i always mention it when i’m talking to potential dates because like you said you’d be really surprised if your date turned out to have a huge issue that controls their life. i wouldn’t bother telling someone that i have anxiety but one day i will need a lot more support than the average partner would. there is a lot of space between being a quadriplegic and having anxiety. there’s a lot of conditions that control your life and will affect your partners life in that space
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