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Good manners is always high-status.
Well said.
That’s right
Actually looking like you may be mannerly and decorous helps even more.
@@c16621like self confidence? Also making yourself you are handsome 😂
Unless you live in Yorkshire or any other part of Northern England, they're not.
“And if the British guy is calling you out for having bad teeth, you’ve got a problem.” Brutal. 😵
That was good!
If I had thousands of pounds my teeth would look like some Hollywood stars gob as well but the council tax needs paying along with everything else.
"If you want to be rebellious dont get tattoos." Ozzy Osbourne
Haha. I love Ozzy
I would add to that:
-People who talk about money all the time
-Wearing poorly fitted clothes
-Swearing every sentence.
-Someone who doesn’t at least acknowledge a waiter, Uber driver, shop assistant, etc.
-Wearing sports clothes when they clearly aren’t going to the gym or playing sport.
You’re right about confidence. You can tell a high status person a mile off as they command a room and you can tell they feel comfortable in their own skin. A low status person either tries way to hard to fit in or looks at the floor is if they’re embarrassed to be in public.
I full agree with your points. Especially about discussions of money and not being kind to service workers.
Agreed. Money is a tool, not a virtue
High Status = Manners.
Begins with common courtesy,
and ends with sincere kindness.
Absolutely.
I’m a mom and found your channel when trying to help my 22yr old son with loafer selection. I’ve since shared these videos with him. He’s now subscribed. Keep up the great work! I wish more men would tune in.
Good posture and a nice smile is high status. :)
@@boundtosea thank you. Comments like this make my day!
I've watched several dozen of your videos now. It occurred to me that you're doing a real public service in offering really insightful and positive advice targeted at younger men. I'm not a young man; I'll be 60 in just a couple of months, but I see so many indicators that "young men are failing" for a variety of societal reasons. What you provide here is a very welcome and rare positive contrast to all this. Clearly you're earning a living with this, but I really see a greater good being done here, so kudos to you!
Thank you, Scott. That means a lot to me. I actually only just was able to leave my 9-5 to focus on this, and I’ll be sharing more about that journey in an upcoming video.
Agreed. I have commented on another video that I think James is providing a really valuable service. I am also in my early 60s and enjoy watching this channel.
I fully agree. I am in my late fifties and I enjoy watching him and it is great to see someone that age who still understands what style and social grace is. Thank you very much, I am looking forward to future videos.
I'm glad that you mentioned the fact that tattoos and piercings make people look low status. I see TONS of people at my gym, job, and out in public with very visible tattoos. It's become so trendy among the younger generation that NOT having a tattoo makes you rebellious.
Funny, I don't see tattooed individuals feeling like they need to twist arms on those not getting them. As per usual sounds like a "you" problem...
Never get a tattoo where the judge can see it. -Brian Setzer
I think well spoken - good grammar and vocabulary, no swearing - is high status along with good manners. When I encounter someone who appears low status, when they speak well and have good manners, it has more positive impact than their appearance.
high status factor #1: having lots of interests
having little to no interests or hobbies indicates that you are either lazy or lack any intention
I've been a truck driver for 25 years. The High Status delivery guy bit was on point! I can't tell you how many truckers I see, young and older, dressing terribly and looking slovenly. It's disgraceful. I don't wear a suit to work (though I own a couple casual ones), but you can still look high status, even in just the right t- shirt (True Classic for me, plain, no graphics and perfect slim fit) and proper pants or jeans. The hygiene goes without saying; Just say no to the hoodies and baggy anything!
I’ve actually recently had more thoughts on this because of online discussions. I learned that Buccees doesn’t allow 18-wheelers in their gas stations in order to be more family friendly. I saw discussions in the comments for these posts and was surprised that many truck drivers joined in saying even THEY agreed and they dislike how gross and disrespectful truck drivers can be. They said the profession has very much lost its pride over the last decade or so.
Nothing has more impact on status than posture and manners.
I’m 50… and learnt loads… my tip is don’t dress down at work if it’s smart casual! Dress up
Bro, people think I'm odd for wearing actual pajamas to bed every night, so glad to see you wearing an evening uniform!
Low status: Obsessing over looking "high status"
Agree
Exactly. Its not about how you dress. Its about the character and your treatment towards others. Have a great day
Hard agree here
@@mr.zooomyno you need to have both. Lets be real we ALL judge people over their appearance.
So what is high status?
One thing that I would call high status and something that I always live by is standing by and staying true to your core values and what you believe in.
You are correct. The overwhelming majority of people will judge you on your external appearance before you open your mouth or interact with them. This is what I did to ‘learn’ how to dress for myself and gain ‘status’. I wear what is comfortable. Jeans and t-shirt. I am always clean and tidy. Now, I have a ‘slight’ advantage over most very young adult guys. My parents gifted me a Day Date Rolex as a grad present. So, I walk into very high end dept stores, shops etc. Ask for items to look at and try. Initially, I got cold and negative responses. Literally no help. At the end of the session, I pull my shirt sleeve up to reveal my solid gold watch. Look at the time and thank them. I constantly did this, refining my behavior and actions until I was unconciously comfortable with social interactions where it didn’t matter how I dressed but how I carried myself. I ‘learned’ to be my own gentleman with what worked for me and my set of attributes.
Great video once again, Sir!
Another way to improve selfesteem and confidence: work as a bartender for a while.
I did this in my early 20s (I'm 30 now). I was very shy and had no confidence 10 years ago. This changed quickly when I worked in a cocktail bar.
You have to talk to hundreds of people every day, entertain them and make them happy. You also have to deal with disrespectful and angry people, take responsibility for your mistakes and apologize when you mess up an order. And sometimes, other than a waiter, you can and have to stand your ground against annoying customers who complain about nonsense.
Bartenders have a certain standing. You're expected to be cool, confident and entertaining. If you lack confidence, this job will boost it.
I would add to that:
- being an affiliate on TH-cam
- taking sponsers from "high status" Influencers
Good manners.
Good manners as taught by our parents carries one far in life,women, jobs,can Evan keep one from being arrested ! individuals that have much difficulty in life have poor or no manners DUGH !!!
Pride in one's work regardless of what it is.
Not wearing ear pods all the time=high status.
Constantly wearing ear pods in public tunes you out from your environment. You ought to be engaged in your environment. Be aware of the surrounding traffic, the kids nearby you who are about to rashly run out in front of it, the weird sudden loud sound to your left, the loudspeaker announcing your train is running late; not missing that important information in your environment because you're all wrapped up in your private audio world and oblivious to street life and potential danger.
Also, those ear pods make you appear rude when you are inadvertently ignoring someone who is addressing you, maybe simply saying hello, or telling you that you look nice today, or trying to get your attention about something serious occurring a few feet away from you---but you miss all that because your ear pods are sending you into your own little audio world.
Save the ear pods for quiet time in a safe, calm, appropriate environment, not for the street where you must be alert, or--worse--for when you're at your job.
1. Body language: He knows to walk on the right side of the street, use the right door. He does not strut like he is a King, doesn't have a menacing stare, 2. Voice: Professional and polite voice to everyone he speaks to regardless of their status. Does not use a lot of slang or gets over the top anger even when frustrated,
By "right side of the street" you mean facing traffic (when there is no sidewalk), not the side with traffic coming from behind you. Right ??
@@mtlicq No. In North America we drive on the right and walk on the right.
@@CanadaFree-ce9jn No. if there's no sidewalk and have to walk on the street, you're supposed to walk FACING traffic so you can see what is coming and you can respond as necessary by getting closer to the curb (or jumping out of the way if necessary) or simply signaling your presence more visibly by an arm movement, or aiming eye-contact to the driver or cyclist. In North America, and continental Europe, drive on right, walk on left.
@@mtlicq What is your IQ? We are not talking about walking on the damn road, get it through your head. We are talking about walking on the damn sidewalk, I've said it three times now!
@@mtlicq Same in South America
Another high status thing is being well educated and knowledgeable. My father always said that if you want to have success with people, be interesting. Know a lot. Be able to tell an interesting story. So instead of watching funny videos, watch something about history, or science, or technology. It will always pay off.
You're spot about the phone see it everywhere I mean everywhere
High status: do not use too shiny and big accessories, for example big golden neckchains or lots of rings. A high status person keeps their accessories simple and elegant. For instance, they minimalize their jewelery to a high quality, yet understated wristwatch and their wedding ring.
Fully agree!
Debate team / Toastmasters! Both great ways to develop confidence. As a fellow Toastmaster, I highly recommend this to anyone looking to elevate their status. Being able to confidently join in on a conversation, start a new one, or provide a meaningful opinion in a well spoken, organized manner will always elevate your status to those around you.
Absolutely. And as you will know, total beginners are welcome in the group. It’s a fantastically encouraging environment for growth.
Good of you to pass this along. I was in a "club" similar Toastmasters. It was one of the most edifying experiences of my life. It takes dedication & some hard work but the returns are invaluable.
As an ubereats driver, I dress well because some of the women working at the restaurant are cute. Making a good impression on them could lead to something romantic
You’re a wise man.
Always look good for the ladies. It's always fun to get a lil acknowledgement from the females.
Having tattoos and piercings doesn’t make you low status unless you don’t know how to hide them when in situations that require a professional image .
I am a professional chauffeur with military past and have plenty of ink under my custom suit , shirt and tie .
It’s not the ink that makes you low status , it’s the way you show it off in public
Exactly Sir.
Physical shape. You can wear the cheapest T-shirt and look better than someone with a dad bod in an expensive shirt
Speaking for the "inked". Lol.
For men,tattoos work best when they are earned,and reflective of authenticity.
Years ago,as a young cityboy-turned-military man,I got tattoed. But even back then,I knew my life would take me into professional spaces where body art is frowned upon.
So I got tattoos that are easily covered by a t-shirt.
They have never been a hinderance,personally or professionally. And women are intrigued to discover them,and entranced by the stories behind them.
Agreed about the covering :
1. My Grandad had a tattoo on his arm, and when he got older, it didn't look good;
2. A chap I met once had half his face tattooed ( he claimed his dad was Maori- but I met him in New Orleans and his accent wasn't kiwi..) and admitted he could never work front of house. An opportunity cost.
That’s a wise move, Sam. Indeed, the stigma around tattoos in the workplace is definitely on its way out. But if you’re a young man on your way up, there’s no benefit to them (professionally.) As for women, there’s certainly a benefit to them. If I had tattoos I’m sure there would be some rewards 😅
Same. I have 4 tattoos that I got many years ago but are easily covered. It always saddens me a bit when I see young people with facial tattoos. They’re making life so much more difficult for themselves than needed.
@@hoozat007 facial tattoos will indeed limit your opportunities. My dad has two tattoos, one on each arm but both covered with a short sleeve. My personal reason to never get one is more down to the aesthetics and the fact that there is nothing I desire to ink on my body.
Ohhh!! this tough love is necessary. Thank you for doing this!! Much needed
Wearing quality and well-cared for shoes are essential for making the best impression. Don't wear cheap shoes--people do notice and it's a dead give away of your status (or how you think of yourself). One does not need to wear expensive shoes rather quality shoes. A conservative stlye with proper care is a good investment. E.g. I've been an Allen-Edmonds fan for years--quality but reasonable pricing. There are plenty such brands out there, just look for them. Also, this is one place, especially with sneakers, where the maker puts an ostentatious, over-sized logo on the sides. Buy some good quality, attractive sneakers that aren't advertising for the maker.
You walk into a store, where all the clerks are wearing the same uniform, but one person is rumpled, shirt isn't tucked in, looks like they just rolled out of bed, and the other person is groomed, clean, confident looking, clothes are pressed, whom are you going to approach first?
Absolutely. It’s human nature.
The logos are so fake that hurts. Even if they are real, you look the face, body language and you have no doubt what kind they are.
It sounds as if you and Emily Post or similar etiquette organizations would get along splendidly. You share the same values.
Speaking a greeting in a place such as an elevator with a warm smile gives the impression of confidence and good upbringing.
I'll be 58 in eleven days and I learn a lot from your videos. Most of the time I dress casually but sometimes I like to kick it up a notch or two, and I like the ideas I get from your videos.
I want to add another point. Being present. Not allowing yourself to get lost in thought, vigilance. It shows others that you are ready for any eventuality, just like a soldier preparing for battle. Well, it's better to be a warrior in the garden than the other way around. This relates strongly to the point about using your phone, as scrolling consumes your presence.
In addition, it allows you to control your surroundings and stay calm. As an example, we can imagine the image of a revered sage, calm, always present
I always try to keep in mind the Golden Rule. Most of the time, people will reciprocate.
Very true, i remember i met someone with low self esteem which is interesting because i also had it at the time but tried to communicate better.
She later did the same thing to me and she told me she felt she was changing even if it was awkward for her to do so.
So you can help other people while changing yourself and it can even make them feel it's possible for them too.
My cousin was a coal miner in Pitson PA
He would go to work in a white suit
And come home in it
SPOTLESS!
Good emotional regulation is high status -- staying calm when being angry would be understandable, for example.
Logo loco was everywhere in Italy from 90's to early 2000's
The high status and confident man always wears a watch.
Not really
@@LittleTimmyO
@@TheCrusher72 lol because I’m not agreeable?
@@LittleTimmyO No, because you are in the Air Force.
A pocket watch works for me and of course there's always my phone, yea?...................................................................
I still love this tie/square combo
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This dude has factual information ! I’m 79 and was fortunate enough to have a father that taught me me these rules of functioning in society Well MOM ALSO HELPED MY VERY MUCH THANKS MOM AND DAD
I’m glad to hear it. I owe a great debt to my mom and dad too.
Important comment. I too was fortunate enough to have parents who taught me what was proper. We were way ahead on this challenge and we must pass along the things we've learned.
For any gentleman to have high status he must acknowledge and appreciate the importance of having self-respect!
Every word you speak is absolute truth
I consider men to look high status if they either are clean shaven or have neatly groomed short beards. Walking around with a few days of stubble or with a long bushy beard makes a man look like he doesn't care about his grooming. He looks like he just got out of bed if he doesn't shave off the stubble, and he looks like he's been stranded on a deserted island if his beard is long and out of control.
A correction. About the Middle Eastern and Asian logo locos. They wear the brands because they cannot distinguish class from cost, and having logos all over its a way to distinguish themselves from their poorer compatriots.
"pointing out low status traits may be a bit too snobbish for me....but im gonna do it anyways" lmao, i just love your detachment sometimes. And really good video with a lot of truth.
i would really like a “Get ready with me” kind of video so we can see how you put yourself together so well
Admittedly, I am pretty broke. I'm working food jobs right now as I try to get into a trade. In the meantime, I'm doing my best to look good with the clothes I have. I've got a few sweaters, henleys, and casual button up shirts that I really like. On top of making the effort to look good with what I have, I also use a friendly demeanor, and a kind attitude to get people's respect. I'll get on my feet eventually. For now, I'm making do with what I do have, and that's what counts.
Gent Z, always the perfect reference for that “provincial financial advisor” chic.
On the tattoo thing, I believe it was Bill Murray who said: "The reason I don't have a tattoo is for the same reason you don't put a bumper sticker on a Ferrari". Women and tattoos...whole different discussion.
damn😂
I’ve heard a few variations of the same aphorism, and I agree. Although, most people are not Ferraris 😅
I see it the other way around. Your body is your temple. Ever been in a house of worship that wasn't decorated?
Are the decorations cheap and tacky, or are they skillfully done and beautiful? Therein lies the difference.
@@markanstrom2981 but what are we worshipping, the decorations??? not the substance for which the temple was built??? God forbid! Some of the best houses-of-worship distinctly insist on pure substance, no distractions. There is beauty and class in focusing on what counts, not on cartoon figures.
it is just paint after all, not the same as swearing or having bad manners @@mtlicq
A gentleman never harasses other people for their appearance or their social status.
Yes.
A gentleman never judges a person's professionalism by anything other than the quality of their work and their attitude towards performing it.
@@markanstrom2981 Yes, one should judge it by the content itself. The actual message.
Doing for someone who won’t be able to return the favor, is high status.
Your list is 💯 correct
I agree about Logos free walking billboards
I like to buy Armani and Tom Ford suits but don’t want big logo on them to scream look how much I spend
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Great outfit today
Makes little sense to present yourself as a low quality person when with little effort you could do the opposite.
I joined toastmasters once.
It was all people who couldn’t speak well or ESL.
Massive waste of time because you’re surrounded by people who can’t speak well and even the teacher was okay at best lol
Best ways to level up is to be around people on a higher level than you.
In such a situation, yes, you're better off not joining such a club.
There's a saying: Eventually, you become the sum average of the people you hang out with.
Appreciate your videos and advice, thank you
Im just shocked the british word for hot dog is still "hot dog" haha
Joking aside- debat or in my case mock trail is a game changer.
Also college or amateur theatre. Being onstage becomes addicting . . .
Definitely, good manners can go a long way.
This is an opinion I personally share but of which many do not share. This is simply my personal perception, and which has to do with grooming. I believe (in my opinion, once again) that being clean shaven at the appropriate times or just in general everyday, is a sign of appearing to be more caring of their grooming habits. Although my opinion has softened on this matter as there definitely is gentlemen out there with brilliant facial hair and that my main reason for being clean shaven is personally because I have quite uneven facial hair. Furthermore, as I plan to be a lawyer, my father has always told me to be presentable when in court as it shows respect to others present. Just my opinion on this matter, feel free to answer. Thank you.
Mr. Gent Z, thanks for sharing this informative vid. In the US, I wish we could stop seeing so many Women with tattoos from their neck to their feet.
However, the US & Canada are free countries that aren’t being run like a police state. This is unlike places like Iran, Saudi Arabia, other Middle Eastern countries and North Korea
Ink error, yeah i can relate all people i know nowadays all of them have tattoos, it more rare to meet people without then with a tattoo.
I know lots of British people and they all have stunning smiles. M
Gent Z, have you read the book Class by Paul Fussell? It's a bit dated now. But I think many of his humorous observations of American class differences in taste are still relevant.
A good book, except for the (unnecessary) last chapter.
Polite, grammatically correct language spoken in a clear, understandable volume wins lots of points.
Agree with your topic reviews. I am in South East Pennsylvania, USA. Tatoos here go by the zip code: no tats in the wealthy areas and lots of tats in the lower wealth areas. Attire: Lets say I know three guys net worth over $15M, each. When they are out for lunch w/ friends, they seem to be dressed the most plain, maybe even worn jeans. Their counterparts will be wearing brand new everything. These are the same ones who will always use a credit card, if it is not declined. Great video, thank you!
Polished shoes. Make a big difference.
Avoiding eye contact is low status.
Years ago the manager of my real estate office told the story of how she was with a friend and was meeting a potential client. When they arrived the potential client stated that he thought the Realtors friend was the realtor and it was all because of how she was dressed. I'll never forget that.
Nothing says ‘Mediocrity’ louder than a tattoo.
This goes for all us males, but especially seniors, like me. Trim those nose hairs, and when you're getting your hair cut, have the stylist trim your eyebrows. Plus, after shaving, apply some facial lotion, smooths out the wrinkles!
I’m covered in tattoos, including neck and I work a very professional job. While I get stares here and there, I treat everyone with respect and that’s all that matters.
Thank you for yours perfect advices .
posture and their "forward look", i think men that walk with a purpose - have purpose, and thus I am more attentive to them
Could you do a video on how to fix your posture and what good posture actually looks like according to you?
This is actually something I’m working on myself. As a tall man and a laptop-worker, mine could be better. As I learn more about this topic I will share it with you.
@@Gent.Z Chaps, if I could make a recommendation: I recently bought a Schiara Posture Corrector and have been wearing it every evening for about 30-60 minutes over the last month. Pretty cheap & it has made a noticable difference to my posture.
Thank you kindly for your response, I will look forward to it.
Please allow me to respectfully note that not all people who resort to a superfluity of ostentatious / tasteless logo usage are indeed Asian or Middle Eastern. I am sorry but this comes across as rather presumptuous. I believe that excessive logo display is inappropriately done by people from all races and cultures. It just depends on one’s social and cultural strata to resort to such vapid means, but just because a chap is plastered in logos, we should not assume that he is Arab or Asian. Thank you.
Good posture = confidence
This is correct. I always walk tall and move deliberately. Women want the D wherever I go.
Great Video 💯
That is a great and helpful video, thank you. I´ll add that texting with bad grammar and shortcuts like "ngl" is low status too. I belive that those shortcuts just make people feel unworthy of the few more seconds it takes to write a word properly. Still, of course this is not really for a first impression thing like you described in the video.
Mate, that part from the bathroom looks better than the regular setup. Again, only my opinion. But I'm hopeful you'll consider this.
Great content as always. ❤
Someone who is too much concerned about some kind of "high status checkpoints" is actually "low status" in my eyes. Its just another unnecessary fake game that matters only for certain type of people I donest care about. Imo there is nothing wrong in taking good care about ur self, as long as u are doing it just for u, not for "stage"
Plot Twist: The high status delivery guy is actually a Hitman
Wearing suits in formal occasions clearly make you look classy
It is said that the way you treat someone says a lot about you as a person. also, being polite and pleasant can make a difference in how you value your appearance and status. Finally, men, always give a man a firm handshake and look him in the eye. I have more confidence in my ability as a man if I can show him respect.
Agreed. Also, standing up when possible to shake someone's hand shows respect.
@@Norvaal3 a friend was about to meet ZZ Top once backstage…I told him to stand when they walked into the room…to shake their hands….He told me later,that he was the only one who did that…
@@Formula-602 wow! Being a sharp dressed man is important, but honorable behavior is even more important. Props to your friend
@@Norvaal3 There were maybe 8 tall chairs right up front by the door they were about to walk in..Maybe people in the back of the room stood..i dont know…but..he said out of the 8 seated by him…..he was the only one to stand…..
I got tattoos when I was a teenager. Now, as an adult, I regret them.
Absolutely right on all points. A grown man (over the age of 12) wearing a hoodie (unless actively playing a sport) is very low status and very immature.
The uniform of slovenliness! I vow to never own one.
Also, it’s what young criminals wear.
They are excellent for a relaxing day at home
Does this apply to women as well? Men have just as much right to wear hoodies provided their hood stays down in places where women are also wearing these; otherwise, this is sexist gender discrimination which I detest and oppose regardless
@@cliffcaverley2377 Who said anything about rights? All that’s been said is that hoodies are not an article of clothing for looking well-dressed
Ha! Not sure I would consider a full time You Tuber one of high status!
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Bad manners, lack of education and culture and aggresivity are definitively symbol of low status.
Also caring so much about status.
I don't know what Status is and how it can be low or high from what you told here. I think you are speaking about self-respect and basic discipline.
Nothing screams low status like obsessing over status.......
As the person that may have to run down the 60 floors to meet a caller, or a delivery, or get coffee around the corner....quick errands...how do you look good on a casual lazy errand filled day? A suit and tie would not be my go to.
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