I was traumatized by how much my daughter cried and couldn’t be consoled no matter what. I will never get over it. My heart goes out to all parents of colicky babies.
How does it make you feel that one visit to a RMT or paediatric chiro would’ve fixed it instantly and avoided the PTSD? It’s hard when you’re in the middle of it. My son was extremely colicky for months and no one used to look toward a cure because we were just told “some babies just are colicky”.. looking back I think he was probably sensitive to the dairy I was consuming. Once weaned get was sensitive to casein for about six years. Live & learn 🤷🏻♀️
@@Puglover130 How does it make you feel making such a nasty comment? Like it was her fault for not going to a paediatric chiro, and when you actually have no idea it would have worked?
@@rachelcherrie1647 right!? WTH!? I was caught off guard when I read that. Super strange. Anyway, I came to say that I was also traumatized by it. So much so that I didn't even want to have any more babies. Luckily my second baby was so, so happy and content. ❤️ I never did find out why my daughter was in such agony for four months.
My son screamed for 3 months. I was walking the hall in our apartment and an old man told me he was in the war and it was a lot easier then dealing with his colicky baby. I will never forget how that made we feel so much better.
Same! He would stretch out in pain. We took him to the ER 3 times. I was nursing and changed my diet drastically. They gave us a prescription for something to give him. It was green and smelled like alcohol. It knocked him right out. This was 26 years ago and I can’t remember what it was. We were so stressed out. He was our first baby and we didn’t know what to do to help him. It eventually went away. It’s just so hard to see them in pain. Only the medication and his swing would work. It lasted about 3-4 months. Thankfully our other children didn’t have this problem.
My baby did cry the first 4 months as well. I also had a shit pregnancy and had post partum depression and post partum preeclampsia which almost killed me after birth. Yeah I am done with producing children. She is 1 now
Every baby is unique! My son was “stuck” for a long time (until emergency C-section) and cried nonstop until a family member who’s a chiropractor gave him a VERY mild adjustment at 3 weeks. He literally stopped crying instantly & was a happy baby. I was speechless! So, whatever works 🤷🏻♂️
I wish I knew this 13 years ago when my daughter was born. I had an emergency C-section after pushing for 3 hours. My daughter slept very little and cried so much. I swore I would never have another child because it was so hard.
My first-born had colic and absolutely screamed for three straight months. Family was thousands of miles away. He'd get so stiff, his arms and legs and he was in such pain. At almost exactly 3 months, it was like someone hit a switch and he became an absolute angel. Never another problem at all. Now he's a 3rd year PhD student in electrical engineering. But, good thing I'm a baby lover. I had 4 more, but no others had colic, thank God. But can we just take a second and say how doggone CUTE this little tyke is??? Beautiful!
Mine too… she finally stopped the colic at three months…it was hell for both her and us. She became a happy baby when she could sit up on her own. It’s like she wanted to be in control, and finally could do something for herself. She became a happy baby.
Please please consider food intolerances.... my baby's 6 weeks of constant screaming was due to milk and egg intolerance (coming through my breast milk). After trying everything else someone suggested I try stopping dairy and egg and within 24hours he visibly relaxed and fell asleep. Desperate for others to know this!
Please follow indian ayurvedic diet while breastfeeding and promote it , raising ur infant will be 100 times easier...i cant stressed it enough...you will find diet charts online and your infant might never get colic.
My baby was tremendously fussy and LaLeche League person suggested he could have issues with dairy. I stopped having dairy and he stopped the constant fussing and so many other things.
My friend’s daughter was the same- terrible colic if she ate any dairy. My daughter had to go to soy formula. It was like the difference between night and day.
My older boy would scream and cry so much. Turns out he was dairy allergic. So much so that he was troubled by any dairy that I ate and passed through my milk. We both went dairy free and that fixed the tummy trouble and severe excess he had been experiencing. After a while I realised that I didn't get migraine headaches anymore so I guess I can't handle c I was milk protein either.
Further proof that none of us are cows, therefore should not be drinking cows milk or eating any bi-products of cows milk. I seriously hope none of the parents that have experienced this thru breast milk make those children drink milk as they age.
My heart goes out to all the babies and parents out there going through this rough stage in life. Babies are precious and all we want is for them to be okay. The stress of being a parent takes a be toll on us, and I just pray to all for the strength to get through it together. Don't give up on your partners or baby's, this stage shall pass.
Yeah my daughter had colic - no gas issues, no reflux, nada. This was simultaneously the darkest stage of my mental health during this time. Wish we could have gotten this kind of help, literally anything wouldve been better than what I had to experience (complete overstimulation all alone without any assistance/guidance). To this day I still have anxiety and experience phantom cries, and my daughter is almost 2 (in about 4 months). And I still get physically/emotionally triggered hearing infants cry at the grocery store or mall. One of the most horrific experiences of my life.
It is a living nightmare. My daughter, who is now 31, had extreme Colic. I received so much criticism. The experience was devastating. I promise if my daughter has a baby with colic I will be there for her.
@@LoriJMarshall honestly, just hearing another mom understand what its like - is such a huge thing for me. And then hearing that same mama already knows if their own child experiences the same - that they will assist them? Wow. I am honestly blown away, and just amazed at humanity right now. I appreciate you as a human.
I still have PTSD because of this, and my daughter is 3,5 already. After her first year I needed pshychiatric treatment, as she would sleep only 5-20mins, constantly crying, nothing worked, absolutelly nothing, my brain and body was giving up… I wish I had help. Any help. She developed into a constantly fussy/tantruming toddler so for us it never really stopped just changed. We did not have a second baby and I think we never will and I feel so guilty about that but I dont think I could handle it again…
@@rekaberegi2511 oh I hear you. That’s pretty much where we’re at/ what it’s been like for us. You said it perfectly, and this is how you feel/what your experience has been - it’s okay to be honest with yourself about the realities of what you have faced and to have come to the decision of not having a second one. Honestly, we had some hard conversations about it - and came to the same conclusion. My body had other plans, and we found out I was pregnant and quite far along. Needless to say I have been through all of the emotions/thoughts and even though this was the farthest thing from planned - I am excited but cannot get over the seemingly insurmountable anxiety that he will also have colic. I don’t know if I can survive another bout, and a hypersensitive toddler. Not to mention my partner and I both recently changed jobs, so neither of us have an allotted parental leave. So the likelihood of me doing it all, and alone - is absolutely terrifying. Safe to say, from me at least, listen to what your mind and body are saying. It’s okay to not be ready for more. And i see you and hear you. You aren’t alone. And I applaud you for having gotten through everything you have thus far. You are an incredible human.
Torticollis= a kink in the neck. We've all had them, and some of us severely. Imagine being a newborn with a severe one. Poor kiddo. Watching him relaxing to the point of falling asleep in her hands in just the first minutes of the video...thank goodness for this woman helping him.
Kinda. She kept talking like "What what do you want to say to the cameras?" Like lady just cradle the base of the skull & massage the baby. Also the pillow she put him on made him scream again because it was pushing on the crown of the head. Then randomly at the end they talked about collic like...what in the world does this have to do with collic. I have had a mild form of adult Torticollis from sleeping wrong & have worked on clients with the same neck pain. A pain that ruins days & if stretched wrong can be excruciating. So to me they seemed more interested in their video & more infantilizing to even the parents. Poor baby indeed. I treat clients slowly with care. Support the base of the skull & do not push on the crown because ouch.
@@fairynuff167my last two were born sunny side up, no problems. I've raised 7 babies. Most of the time they're just hungry and parents think because they've just been fed that it can't possibly be that but some babies just want to eat small amounts all the time or suck for comfort. This baby wanted fed this entire video, it was very obvious. I get that he just reached a feeding time during the video but a lot of the time, they want fed.
For sure! Imagine having a kink in your neck and not having the strength to lift your head and stretch it on your own. Babies need so much love and care. ❤
THIS is why I only had one child. She came out screaming and didn’t stop for a year. She’s 21 now. Very happy and healthy. I still get anxiety when I hear a baby cry.
Well this baby was in excruciating pain. I've massaged adults who have the most aggravating kink in their neck, can't turn their head, & desperately needed a massage because it was ruining their day. To me watching this video was tough because this baby can't support his neck & I imagine the bouncing plus putting him on a pillow that pushed more on the crown of his head instead of just supporting the base of the skull was agonizing. At 3:00 is where she had it right. But then the movements got jolty, if I did that to an adult with mild Torticollis they would undoubtedly yelp or gasp in pain. But this baby can't talk so all the talking & infantilizing they are doing is annoying & then talking about the tummy in the end was a confusing random moment there.
I've been a pediatric nurse for almost 15 years and have obviously seen loads of torticollis babies (and colicky ones too!) I can't imagine how it must feel for them. That's flipping awesome that this clinic offers someone specifically to massage! When my own son was born, he cried for like an hour straight without any relief from what my husband and I. Then, one of our physicians came in on his newborn round (still in the hospital), picked him up, draped him over his arms (belly down), and was swinging/rocking him while talking to my husband and I... he was quiet as a mouse. That was amazing to us and my husband asked Dr Smith "can you come home with us?" 🤣 Yeah, the nurses all refer to him as being "The Baby Whisperer"
My parents often told me that I wasn't a particularly fussy baby, but hiccups were certainly a thing for the first few months. I have a friend whose daughter was so colicky and fussy, out of absolute exhaustion, she just sat and cried with her baby. Her daughter is a ray of sunshine now, a joy. It gets better. Hang in there mom!
My oldest son had six month colic and didn't sleep the night through until he was 9 months old. The lack of sleep was a personality changer, it was brutal. We survived and he'll be 40 this month.
My grandson had torticollis. His ped never found it. Luckily at 6 months he spent the day with me while momma & daddy had to attend a funeral & I took him to a friend's birthday party for her daughter. There was a friend of hers who was a ped nurse & spotted it instantly. She gave us exercises to do. Within a couple of moths it was resolved.
@@stormiweathered and lots of tummy time. My grandson was born with torticollis too. He didn't like being out down, always wanted to be carried around, but he wasn't really a very colicky baby. He had a lot of wind and would fling his legs around but he wasn't an all day screamer like my first child, or an all evening crier like my second. He absolutely hated tummy time, but it did the trick. it was resolved by the time he was three or four months old.
The massage lady absolutely rocks!! Every mum needs to hear how amazing they are but especially the way she said it with such confidence right at the mother! I wish more people were like that x
I love how the lady helping with all this advice and all, she tells the mother she's doing a great job (minute 7:50) in that especial way too... when I was discouraged with my first premature crying baby, this nurse lady I would go for help/advice she would tell me it's partly my fault, because babies can sense if we're tense and I needed to relax. Jeez, had forgotten that and remembered when I heard this nice lady saying those kind words of encouragement to a mother in need, it just brought tears to my eyes cause it's exactly what I needed to hear! So simple and beautiful! That's what needed, it's not too much to ask...
I will never forget the first year of my son’s life. He cried for 3 months, he “fussed” for every moment when he was not attached to me. The guilt, the fatigue and the frustration of everyone giving advice. I remember someone asking me if I was planning a second child. Well, my son is an only child and I still rarely sleep through the night. If a young woman asked me about motherhood I would not be the best advocate. Mothers are amazing but first and foremost human and deserve as much real support as we can give them.
I’m dealing with this right now, my baby is almost 10 months and I feel like he’s never going to settle down. Thanks for sharing! It helps knowing that I’m not the only one
Can so relate! Your experience is so similar to mine! My daughters five and I can't ever forget how hard it was and really don't want another child and the constant when are you giving her a sibling upsets the hell out of me.....
I had a friend (an RN no less) who claimed all 3 of her children had colic. I was horrified and a bit incredulous. It is pretty rare to have 3 in a row with colic- what a nightmare Then she said it, "Yes all three cried all the time...unless I was holding them." I told her, "That is called normal. Babies cry so you will pick them up and hold them." My first was a perfect baby and never cried but she also demanded that I hold her 24/7 which I pretty much did. For a couple of months, she generously accepted substitutions (Daddy, Grandmother etc) but then at about 3 months or maybe 4 it had to be me and only me, and no one else. She wouldn't even sleep away from me so I slept with one eye open. She wouldn't let me "wear her" either. I had to hold her in my arms. Still she wasn't a colicky baby. She quieted the second I picked her up.
@pippadawg7037 unfortunately not everyone has that experience. Hold her or not my daughter cried for hours. I would be holding her, comforting her and walking around the room for hours losing my mind lol.
@@King_Anime528 Why would your best friend say, "Oh you are just probably not used to being a mom" when you already had another child? Plus didn't your best friend hear your baby crying and see that he wouldn't settle or quiet? When you say he didn't sleep, do you mean he wouldn't let you sleep or he fussed for long stretches at a time at night? All babies sleep. I had two "easy" babies but neither let me sleep. I remember thinking if I could just get 2 hours in a row I would be happy. I called a lactation consultant and I told her I would nurse, change her, and 45 minutes later she would wake up hungry again wanting to nurse and the cycle would repeat. She said the most devastating thing possible, "That is normal." Eventually she slept for 2 hours but never longer than 3 until she slept through the night at 18 months.
This rips my heart out! My first born wailed for the first 4 months of her life. It was so hard! She was a C section baby and is now 27. Those memories really never fade…..
Agree totally! First born c-section, so fussy all day then 1 to 2 hrs constant crying starting at 6 p.m. Switched formulas, had a couple adjustments but "grew out if it" more or less. He's 28 now!
My daughter hit the witching hour at roughly 4-5pm every day...the screaming crying would begin, and I just about lost my mind trying to soothe her until my husband got home about 6pm. At that point I would hand her over to him and go take a crazy long hot shower, where I would sit and cry. It was truly traumatic for all of us for 4-5 months.
My baby would begin crying at 11pm and go on till 4 am for 2-3 months..my mother was a godsend she and I would alternate in holding him and rocking him till he tired himself out..it was such a traumatic time...but it got easier around 5 months old....he s now 8 months old..💕🌸
Many, many children are fatigued and hungry at 4:00pm. If you're in a Mall, you can hear them all go off around that time: it means parents need to plan around your baby's needs --- and getting enough sleep, fluids, and food are the Big Three.
@@inaayatsingh8794, Thank God for your understanding and strong, motherly heart ❤️ clearly your mother shares your understanding that babies sometimes have difficulty transitioning from living in the bliss of pre-birth, to the sounds and new sensations of life outside the womb. Congratulations and much love to you from California. ❤️ Your baby will grow into a tender, strong, and wise parent! Namaste! 🙏💕
If only all newborn babies' parents could have access to this kind of intervention. Isn't it amazing watching how this team works? Best wishes to these lovely parents and their beautiful boy.
I was a bit sorry to see the Dad wasn’t included in this conversation. Dads need to be included and empowered to look after their children’s needs as well. 🙂💕
They do not have to either have the Child for that day or pay child support for that day. They aren’t held responsible- one way or another - in America. They just go out and make more babies
I am a firm believer that every newborn should be seen by a licensed professional massage therapist or chiropractor. We wouldn't expect grown-ups to pass through a 10 cm space without any damage to our skeletal systems. Childbirth, while natural, is a traumatic experience for babies. I'm so glad to see this baby get relief and to reassure the parents they aren't at fault.
I took my son to a chiropractor for his torticollis. It helped, but we later found out he needed eye alignment surgery. His head tilt was actually caused by his eyes not being aligned correctly. He tiltedhis head to compensate for his poor vision! Never quit advocating for your children. Even good drs can make mistakes. If your gut tells you differently, go with it!
I am a seasoned Granny...and raised over 4 of our own and a couple of fostered newborns. I guess I am also known for my "baby whispering" on colic babies! I tell all new parents that if baby has been screaming for 3 nights/days that it's ok to put baby down for a couple minutes....NEVER EVER SHAKE a baby! Call someone who you trust and take a break! 💖
Absolutely! Dealing with a screaming infant is stressful, constant, and makes you doubt your capabilities. Ask for help. All moms know how tough it can be alone. An hour break for a hot bath or a forest walk can work wonders. If you feel like you are losing control, put the baby in the crib and shut the door for a few minutes. Call someone who cares about you and get the cheerleading you need. Then go back to caring for your baby.
As much as I really don’t like social media now for my 13 year old , I wish I had this information for my other older children 25 years ago. This information would have come in handy. The endless information that is at your finger tips to help you is truly amazing and remarkable. Thank you for sharing. My heart goes out to all those moms who go through this. I will say it does get better.
After listening to all of these remarks, I realize just how lucky I have been with my two sons. They were easy all the way to when they left home and that was the hardest part for me.
I am 77 years old ñow, but I will never forget my daughter's constant screaming. Later in life, in her 20's, she was diagnosed with a Syrinx. I write this to u so that maybe u might watch for that. But beyond that, I wish I had had this knowledge. I was a Postpartum RN and we never learned these techniques. Of course, I graduated in 1969. That probably was not known then. Keep up the good work. And your baby is adorable. I am so pleased mom and dad has this help, Dr Paul.
My son had significant torticollis at four months. A pediatric PT made a house call, taught us some exercises, and he became beautifully balanced in all movements. It set the stage for a lifetime of coordinated skeletal and muscle movement, strength, skill and speed. Don’t underestimate the importance of getting an infant on the right track.
Honestly, I am a mother of 3 and grandmother of 8. Im also a nurse with extensive psych nursing experience. My youngest granddaughter was born addicted to drugs Dec 2022, ai have guardianship and honestly she has educated me on so many levels. So much of what she has experienced is beyond my skill set. I had to learn so much and different techniques to sooth and calm her. This alsonincluded a very strict feeding schedule as she was tiny 5# full term. Her pcp and I honestly believe that strict schedule is what helped her pull through. She is now almost 9months qnd altgough she still has episodes of withdrawal its less frequent anf less intense. IT HAS BEEN A STRUGGLE but she is an amazing child!
Wow my heart goes out to you all it must affect everyone in your family my eldest daughter caused us similar problem it is so so hard my grandson is 20 now and a fantastic young man keep strong and look after yourself as well as you are looking after your grandchild much love and blessing from Manchester England ❤
Dr. Paul, thank you for posting this. I'm a Neuromuscular Massage Therapist and have a Doctorate in Naturopathy. I have seen this a couple of times, and been impressed with the technique. Lots of times just the birthing process causes a misalignment in the spine. I'm glad you are able to capture it on video to show parents that there is hope when their babies are so uncomfortable. ❤
The lady is definitely a blessing to the baby and mom and dad! She knows her hands and babies reactions! She's AMAZING 👏 He's beautiful 😍 So much to learn from the minute their born for years to come! I know this video will help other parents!
The struggle is real. I just spent two months with my daughter and her newborn. The tension in the house was palpable because of all the fussiness, screaming and lack of sleep. Oh, and the baby was fussy, screaming and not sleeping either. 🤣 At 3 weeks old she began taking him to see a chiropractor who worked with babies. The day of the visit and the day after he would be able to poop and was less fussy. Then he would regress until the next visit, but with each subsequent visit we saw minor but positive improvement. Now at ten weeks he is a happy camper. Telling a new mom that “It will get better” only makes her want to throw something at you. Most pediatricians aren’t like you, Dr. Paul, and won’t recommend this type of wonderful massage therapy. Moms may have to search out a chiropractor in their area, or specifically ask about massage. Moms need to know that they are doing something to help their baby. At least rule out a structural problem before colic medicine is introduced. You’re right, grandma’s do know a lot about babies! When I became a grandmother I took cues from my own mother. She never offered advice unless l asked for it. She let me figure out my babies and trusted that since God gave the baby to me (and no one else!) that I would learn what was best for him. I wish I’d had a doctor like you 35 - 40 years ago when I had my babies. Good job!
Your daughter is soo blessed to have you by her side. So many mothers have no support. You're such an awesome mom and grandma. Glad to hear your new grandbaby is feeling better
He is adorable. My daughter who is now 22 years old was colicky and makes me wonder now if this would've helped her. I was at a lost as to what to do bc everything I was told to do wasn't working. I got very depressed and had post partum depression bc I felt like I was failing as a Mom. I would sit and cry right along with her. So happy to see these young parents getting him the help he needs.
I had my son as a single mom at 18 yrs old fresh out of high school. Lived alone with him in my own place. He cried and screamed the first 3 years of his life. I was mortified. I had to walk out of the room and compose myself and cry. Then one day I realized he was quiet. He is 36 now and he is great.
My grandson newborn, cried and cried, one month passed and then I came across a CD called sounds for silence. It was sounds of the mother’s womb. As soon as we put this on, loud, he stopped crying. It worked every time. Amazing
They hadn't heard of intolerance in my day. My baby was a 24hr screamer till she was around 5mnths old. They nearly carried me out in a straight jacket to the loony bin! 5 Specialists for her projectile vomiting. Didn't find out till years later she is Lactose Intol. She is sadly an only child...😪
My 2nd child for me. I had to set her down and take many 5 minutes breaks where I cried too. But after about 3 months, she became a brand new baby. I WISH we had TH-cam when I was a new mom.
It's so hard to realise that gad we just had experienced medical help we would not have got traumatised by the whole experience. Also the fact that husbands , in laws all believe as a woman you should know answers when you are literally going through the grinder. Very lonely experience that something inside you just doesn't want to repeat.
@@vl7175my parents said I couldn't tolerate the popular formulas, so I needed expensive goats milk formula. No problems once I switched to milk and solid foods later. It's interesting how our bodies react to different things.
Watching this was a little traumatic for me. I felt like I was reliving my sons infancy days. I would have flown across the country to see you guys had I known about you 6 years ago. God bless you.
Same! My first could not be soothed and did not sleep. I kept being told to "hang in there". We went to the pediatrician many times and a GI dr. No one helped. It was traumatizing. ( He is now 5.5 and the sweetest, happiest boy ❤️).
Yes, this. My daughter cried so much as a baby I would actually get her crying stuck in my head, like you would with a song. It was extremely hard. She has gotten much easier now at 3, but she's still a tough cookie. I'm so thankful that these parents are getting this sorted out, because you just can't live like that day after day.
My daughter who is now thirty five, cried when she was awake for seven months. Literally the only time she wasn’t crying was when she was asleep. It was tough!
@@Xtina4444 my first daughter was the same. She can't tolerate milk, which usually makes her vomit and affects her bowels if she has anything with milk in it, but it's not lactose intolerance as she can't eat hard cheese or lactose free products either. Unfortunately we didn't make the connection for a couple of years as the reaction wasn't that bad to begin with. It got worse as she got older.
@@mechaunejacobs2642 unpasteurised milk is not legal to be sold in a lot of countries because of the risk of other diseases you can get from it. Australia is one of those countries. You shouldn't be giving cows milk to babies under 12 months anyway, pasteurised or not.
I’ve had three babies that had constant colic! Screamed for hours no matter what I did. Months of screaming that literally made me think I was gonna lose my mind. I tried everything under the sun. From car rides to swings. Nothing worked. I felt like the worst mother ever! Thankfully they are all grown up now.
We took our baby to a massage therapist at around 6 weeks old, and it made a world of difference! She heavily preferred looking and moving to only one side - and got extremely fussy when we tried to move her head. But after only one visit we saw massive improvements! It can also help with breastfeeding issues, because stiffness/tension also affects the baby's ability to feed/latch properly. I would recommend any parent with similar issues to find a good massage/physical therapist - it's truly worth it ❤
My son didn't stop crying unless he was nursing or sleeping for the first 10 months of his life. He nursed constantly because I didn't know how else to soothe him, it honestly saved my relationship with him. We went to chiropractors and tried traction adjustments, but he was the most distressed and fussy baby. He was my first baby and I hated being a mother, I never wanted to have another baby again after him. Now, he's almost 2, and we can tell that he has a sensory processing disorder. Do whatever you can to survive! It will get better. We are in a new phase of life, managing occasional epic meltdowns, but we are so excited for our son's success and progress. Keep up the good/hard work.
Mine was the same and he never slept longer than 20 minute bursts either and would even be crying in his sleep. Once he was awake for a solid 48 hours at only a few weeks old. He's 6 years old now and very highly intelligent with sensory and social issues. The toddler and preschool years were so rough with the meltdowns. Hang in there, it gets so much better.
Mine has SPD and autism. He had to sleep in his swing with the vibration on. Otherwise he would scream. We took turns sleeping on an air mattress in the living room where the swing was set up so we could keep an eye on him in the swing. He would sleep maybe 2-3 hours at a time. Then after eating he had HORRIBLE reflux to the point he looked like he was having a seizure. Now we just have sensory overload issues and a few autism related issues but I’m so glad we finally got through those months. If we hadn’t already had his older sister, we wouldn’t have had another one
@@JaneSmith0709That’s rather self-centered. The child was in constant pain. The parents were stressed but SO WAS BABY. The hell? Is this the pain Olympics??
My daughter cried for 4 years straight. We went through doctors like salt through a goose and not one ever suggested anything like this… now that she is a young woman she describes having episodes of ribs sliding over one another and has been frequently hospitalized. My heart is breaking because I think this could have really helped us. God bless this little family, I sure hope they find a solution and I think they are on the right track.
To see this 'hands-on'approach is so affective, I am moved to tears. Bless all Mums with newborns, especially those with fussy babies. My second born twin was extra fussy, I later was lucky enough to be told it was probably the trauma of being 2nd born and having gone through his sister's birth as well as his own. It is so understandable when an holistic practitioner points it out, just like this lady. I had to wait many y3ars to understand and be empowered by knowing I wasn't a terrible mother that could not soothe her child( despite using many of the techniques shown here).
I was born 33 years ago with my legs outside of the hip joints. My mom got the prospect of me being in a cast for one entire year, which shocked her so much that she went to a massage therapist and she fixed me quite quickly. It was only visible that I had some pain during the first sessions and then I just enjoyed it. Legs and hips perfectly fine ever since. Eternally grateful to that old lady who is probably in heaven now. She had learned from her mother, no professional teaching, but she juste had *The Hands* and she was a pro anyways. Awesome that poeple still see the value in such therapy and doing these jobs. 💖
@@marlenegold280 No, luckily I don't suffer from that. It is called developmental dysplasia (dislocation) of the hip (DDH), and is not so rare. It is also heritable, so anyone who had such cases in their families should best have an ultrasound of the hip performed on their baby after birth and during the first year of life (because it can also still dislocate during that period). My doctors noticed it as my legs didn't flip outwards like baby legs usually do, but it isn't always so visible, depending on the degree of the dislocation.
My oldest (now 18) had torticollis, which we "fixed" with the chiropractor in about 3 sessions. But, she cried constantly, all day, for nearly 9 months. Acid reflux was definitely an issue, severe eczema was another... followed by a litany of multiple allergies to foods, chemicals and even metals. By 1, she had several "specialists"... she narrowly avoided surgery for multiple things. As a toddler and preschooler, she was very easily over-stimulated, and was combative. I'm happy to say, she was the best teenager I could ever ask for...mature, responsible, smart, determined and respectful. But we have other issues like loose joints, chronic headaches (since age 2), postural orthostatic tachycardia, anxiety and mast cell... I feel like those things were always there and contributed to her issues as a little one. The first few years was HARD, but I always say that she broke me in for all the other kids... who were a cake walk next to her. I also think my anxiety with her being my first, didn't help. Hang in there mamas, it's all worth it!
This is a common experience for people with hypermobility syndromes. All I can say is: PHYSIO PHYSIO PHYSIO. Avoid the hype and horror of stories on social media- few people ever posts about good or manageable outcomes. It’s critical she stays conditioned. Do not let her decondition herself. If you can afford it, get an open water rowing machine, or loan one. The lungs and leg muscles of open water rowers are best for combating the impacts of POTS, OH and similar dysautonomic conditions. Keep up her social inclusion, face to face. It’s critical for teenagers especially. Get her working with a clinical psych experienced in chronic conditions in teenagers, to help her process and then embrace her differences. Focus on goal setting and routine. Both hard/challenging goals, and fun exciting goals! She’s a teenager and life should be fun. Avoid opiates, benzos, and if you can, gabapentin with everything you have. My love to you both
@@ScoobyDoozy thank you! My girl is actually a dancer, and has been since she was 2.5. I actually put her in dance because I noticed as a toddler that her foot began to rotate in (like mine did at that age). The ortho said her "leg was shorter than the other"...which I knew was crap. I knew her hip was out of alignment. I had her start dance and took her to the chiro, who gently kept moving the hip into place. Thankfully for her, she inherited her father's naturally athletic body, and she has amazing muscle tone.. There were no further issues with her joints until she got lyme at 13...and it was a crap-show after that. At the same time, one of my sons was involved in a sledding accident that caused all sorts of issues, including what may have been an autoimmune that effected his brain. Then we were mold exposed... Anyways, the loose joints became more obvious, I believe because the mass inflammation. All 4 of my kids have this, as do I. We also have mast cell. I've been working on diagnoses for the last 4 years, but no one is really receptive unless we present with a vascular issue. I definitely agree with you to avoid script meds like that... we do cranial sacral therapy, topical stuff like bio freeze and heat, and maybe ibuprofen, but even that tends to upset the stomach. I'm also a strong believer in supplements and herbs, so we do a lot of management of inflammation with those things. Thank you so much for responding and caring! Much love to you as well :)
@@andienantz, oh yes... I've been trying for about the last 2 years to get a diagnosis for her, and my other 3 kids. I have one dr who is convinced the 4 kids and I have it, but no one in my area wants to do anything unless you've had a vascular episode. Makes me mad because I'm in Massachusetts and I *thought* Boston had some of the best hospitals...
This therapist is such an angel. It made be cry. I wish we had help from professionals like this when my eldest daughter was colicky. She cried first 3 months of her life 12 hours a day no matter how you tried to sooth. We were just told "babies cry". Some people don't understand it before they've experienced it. I did keep hearing the baby crying inside my head for 2 solid years after it had stopped. It was traumatic. We visited even ER for children once because we just couldn't take it anymore and we were worried she is sick. Now with our 2nd daughter she basically NEVER cries (maybe for 15 minutes when switching diaper or when gas is stuck in the system). Just eats, sleeps. poops. She was also born faster than her big sister so probably the neck didn't get jammed as badly. She also got little bit of reflux symptoms but nothing as severe as with our firstborn. I was told I'm now "more experienced" with babies but I tell that's just not true. Babies are different. I wish parents were more directed to get proper help instead of suffering for months.
I can't imagine the stress of a fussy baby. He is so beautiful and perfect. I love your videos, they are so informative. I am good and knowledgeable when it comes to babies and hope for a couple of my own, but I know that I will always have something to learn.
That's the problem of modern parenting. It's very isolated, especially when it comes to young babies. Before the "nuclear family" became the norm, it was more of a community effort. Moms weren't alone so much. I've known lots of moms with these stories of fussy babies who were largely impossible to soothe, so they'd cry with the baby.
First of all, beautiful baby boy! This was fascinating to watch, she is a true baby whisperer! Such a hard time for new parents, God bless them. The time flies at this age, before you know it things will improve. Lovely parents, wanting the best for their baby, he will be fine.
Thank you so much for this video!! I’m a mama of 5, my youngest being 4 months and each baby has been so different. I wish our pediatrician had someone who did bodywork, all the kiddos she works with seem to feel so much better after! Love that you also give the parents the power to decide about masks- my baby cries when he sees me in one (only in the pediatrician’s office because they’re not required anywhere else) but as soon as I take it off he coos and smiles. It’s so nice that your patients get to make that choice- so glad for you!!!!!
This makes so much sense. I wish I would’ve known about this when my babies were born. Just the first one cried a lot and I was just 17. Was so sleep deprived and didn’t know what to do. But thankfully just lasted a few weeks. One of my granddaughters was worse and my poor daughter n law thought she wasn’t a good mother, but 15 years later she’s the best. ❤ BTW, my entire family just about didn’t wear masks , but in medical fields. Being forced into submission and do what the government says is not the way to go. You can’t go through life being scared all of the time. Hallelujah and thank you Jesus ❤️🙏❤️
My daughter was the same way. Screamed all day everyday. I switched her to alumentum formula. She changed overnight! Smiling happy baby. She had very bad issues with breast milk.
Or as some comments say above, it was something you were eating that came to her thru your breast milk. In other words, your diet 100% affected your child.
@@becreative2420 let's be kind to parents. It is a hard job. And if you have kids, I hope people are gracious with your parental choices. I don't know Leilani but she is a mom, I respect that. I respect people.
My 5 month old great granddaughter was constantly crying. She was switched to a sensitive stomach formula which helped minimally. When that was recalled she was put on Alumentum. She is a whole different baby. She has plumped up and is quite happy.
Unfortunately breastfeeding is pushed too much. My first of four got sick from breastmilk, turned out he was lactose intolerant, and for the first several days after bringing him home from hospital he screamed nonstop. All my calls to the nurses at the breastfeeding clinic were met with "just keep nursing that baby" and I was losing my mind. Finally my family doctor advised I try a special formula and after opening that can our suffering was over. We really have to advocate for ourselves if we have chosen to bottle feed because nobody else will. Consequently I toughened up. Each child after that I nursed a little for the first week or two for nutritional benefits to baby and boys were all on bottles immediately. I was able to sleep at night because my husband didn't mind taking a 3 a.m. feeding. I think forcing oneself to breastfeed a baby who is screaming hungry but not taking to the breastfeeding would drive Mother Teresa insane and it's not good for anyone, certainly does not assist with Mother baby bonding. And the child is severely suffering and very tense and appeals for help are met with impatient health nurses questioning whether I want what's best for my baby because their "just keep nursing that baby" instructions aren't working for us. I found once I was confident and emphatic about my choice to bottle feed, nurses caught my 'I am not backing down on this' vibe and became more supportive regarding our situation.
YOU AND YOUR TEAM ARE AMAZING!! HONEST AND GO BEYOND THE REGULAR MEDICAL TREATMENT. You are one of those what we saw when I was a child, dedicated and real.
This beautiful family have my respect as do all of you who have been through the same or worse, when I think how some 'parents' mistreat or worse, their babies/children my heart breaks. You are all amazing.
Beautiful Baby! I hope the parents know this is all temporary. Sleepless nights, diaper changing, baby cries. It's hard but it all goes so fast. Glad they got the help they needed. Cheers.
Dr Paul you are the best! Such a great and informative video for new parents. Appreciate your massage therapist (not sure of her title) as well. She knows her stuff! Loved the ending as well! Keep fighting the fight Dr Paul! I’m behind you 100%!
We are dr Paul’s patients for 11 years. Our 7 year old daughter was this baby. Dr Paul didn’t have this lady at my appointment!!! Lol. We are getting an appointment now as she still is a bit crooked. Shriners said it wasn’t skeletal. Dr Paul thought maybe I wasn’t getting her off my breast and I was overfilling her to discomfort. Now this is so real to me!!!! I’m glad he has her now. He didn’t when we went thru this. Great job on growing and finding more helpers into your tribe dr Paul.
Isn't he great - knowledge and experience but also common sense. Lovely guy. Reminds me of my health visitor who retired when my daughter was a few months old. The one after was all about charts and statistics. As a new parent you really need these people to gently guide you.
I worked in chiropractic for over 10 years and went to school for trigger point therapy acupressure and I did the same thing on my babies and it made a difference.. my son would get constipated so bad as a baby and I would do acupressure in different trigger points and within 10 mins he got relief.. Babies get their first subluxations (misalignment of the vertebrae) at birth and it makes the difference!!! Bless his heart!
My 9 lb baby boy had torticolis. He didn't cry that much but the massaging and exercise tips the therapist gave us really works . He grew out of it and has no problem now . He is fine and just as handsome as could be . For parents out there with same problem just listen to your PT and everything will work out fine . You have to do this several times a day. Probably everything you hold them do some kind of massage for them . Feels good and makes them happier. 😃Goodluck and hang in there .❤👍
I work for an Osteopath who holds a post-doctoral specialty in newborns with birth trauma. He's treated babies this young, and also works on new moms as well. it's only part of his practice, as he treats people up to and including 90+ years old, but don't forget to check out an Osteopath if you can find one - it's a very gentle hands-on technique.
I wish TH-cam was available when my first was born! He was stuck in the birth canal, heavy duty damage from forceps and I just know he was in pain at least the first 6-8 weeks of life. All the methods explained make sense. I often watch the “first bath” in hospitals and wonder why parents post that on TH-cam. My last of five was born at home in water. Night and day baby. Everything was calm and peaceful. From being weighed to first bath. I wonder why as new parents more people don’t take care to tune into the trauma of transitioning from Womb to world.. It’s something I only now REALLY begin to appreciate Hmm. I love watching these sweet baby’s and OH how I wish I could do it just one more time!!
I'm so glad someone is helping these babies. My son cried and screamed non-stop for months. He rarely slept for more than an hour or so. I was exhausted, and I know it wasn't good for him either. A baby needs to sleep! I couldn't get doctors to take his problems seriously and never found a solution.
I had the one daughter at 42, I was so worried I might have a crying baby and heard horror stories of constant stress and crying. I was very blessed in that my baby didn’t have any problems with colic. We took her to a chiropractor to check her out as an infant. She 19 now and a trainee nurse, she always seems to be unwell, she recently had quinsy but as a baby she never had colds, or sickness
Wish doctors where I live would be more understanding and listen to new mums. Unfortunately a lot of friends and family have been called neurotic new mums when the baby is in obvious distress. Luckily they pushed and pushed and didn't give in. I love your videos especially about new mum and new babies you listen to mum and genuinely care we need more doctors like you x
Wow I cannot believe I'm like the first viewer of your video! I still cannot find an awesome doctor like you here in South Africa. All my love and support here from South Africa 🌍❤️
My firstborn son had the worst colic just like that and you could set your watch by him, every evening and no one could console him. He was not nursed, but bottle fed formula which I believe caused the digestive issues. After age of 3 months, that colic issue just went away. He is now 55 years old and healthy, praise God!
Oh how i wish I'd have had yall when my son was a baby. That baby & parents are blessed by yall! My son would scream for 10 hours & I'd go to bed with his scream ringing in my ears. At 3 months he woke one day & never screamed like that again & was an easy happy baby from there on. He's a 25 yr old Marine veteran now. He's always been a tough cookie. And he was so worth it. I'm just happy to see parents getting the support & help they sincerely need, so they never feel like bad parents or failures. This is a beautiful thing!
When my first daughter was born in 1974 I'd had no prior experience of taking care of a baby. She cried for 6 weeks. The only time she wasn't crying was when she sleeping, eating, or riding in a car. Her father and I went on many drives in the wee hours to get her to sleep. Usually even this didn't work because as soon as her head hit the mattress she was wide awake and screaming again. We lived over a hundred miles from the rest of our family so I had no help. I honestly thought all newborns were like this. Fast-forward five years and I was pregnant again. I was distraught, wondering how I'd manage to care for a newborn and a very busy, very clever 5 year-old. I needn't have worried. My second little daughter rarely cried and began sleeping through the night on the second night after we brought her home. She had an entirely different personality than her big sister. Today they're both my pride and joy. Seems hard to imagine when as a parent to a fussy newborn, but this does pass.
My experience was vice versa yours. My now 5 year old was the sweetest, calmest infant and toddler. Sooo I figured the next baby would be the same- nope. God bless him but my 4 month old cries about 80% of his waking hours. We’ve been assured he’s perfectly healthy and this phase will pass. Like your daughter, unless he’s eating or riding in a car, he’s crying. I’ve almost felt resentful towards him because I have to turn down my 5 year old’s requests to play or go outside simply because his brother won’t allow it. Luckily when I do get a break for a few minutes I can re-focus myself and remember it will pass one day….hopefully soon. ☺️
@@bburgess5003 yes and please ask for help from grandparents or other trusted loved ones. Its inportant for your 5 year old to also have time with you where its just HER time with you as well as important for you to have time for YOU. My babies were never colicky or rrally criers but I will day my daughter LOVED sleeping in her fisher price swing. Its the one that is very close to the floor and swings with lullaby music. That thing was a blessing for us! There were times when we had to drive around to get one of our kids to fall asleep and we would bring the carseat inside and let them sleep in the carseat once we were home.
Grandma says - that is all great advice. Many of us have dealt with the stress of crying baby. We all can learn new helpful techniques. Thank you for this video.
Perfect video to watch after discovering I’m pregnant with baby #2! Hahaha. Poor little man, poor mom and dad. I love how in tune the therapist was with him, he looked so relaxed and relieved.
Not only is it exhausting for parents, it’s exhausting for the baby ! Him laying there with his head back, mouth open and in a deep sleep is just so heartwarming ❤ Thank you
I was blessed to have had three boys and never had any problems with them but one or my grandsons boy did he cry all the time I felt sorry for his mother I had him one day and was going to a different town and I ended up stopping at a church waiting for the preacher to come and pray for him and I never had a problem with him after that
I realize this video is 2 years old but what an adorable baby boy! I have spasmodic Torticollis, was finally diagnosed in 2000 after trying to get answers since 1992. When my first grandson was born , I told my daughter that I thought he had Torticollis. She brought him to the doctor and he was diagnosed with that. He had very similar care and has done amazing! He’s now 8 and perfect!
This baby looks identical to my first in mannerisms. My first had a severe neck and back injury. At one day old if you stroked her spine she would lift her head all the way up and shriek. She never stopped screaming. An adjustment helped but she generally just screamed for a year. Whew. I didn’t want a second and I’m so glad my husband encouraged me that it won’t happen again. Our second and third were angels.
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I was traumatized by how much my daughter cried and couldn’t be consoled no matter what. I will never get over it. My heart goes out to all parents of colicky babies.
How does it make you feel that one visit to a RMT or paediatric chiro would’ve fixed it instantly and avoided the PTSD?
It’s hard when you’re in the middle of it. My son was extremely colicky for months and no one used to look toward a cure because we were just told “some babies just are colicky”.. looking back I think he was probably sensitive to the dairy I was consuming. Once weaned get was sensitive to casein for about six years.
Live & learn 🤷🏻♀️
@@Puglover130 How does it make you feel making such a nasty comment? Like it was her fault for not going to a paediatric chiro, and when you actually have no idea it would have worked?
@@rachelcherrie1647 right!? WTH!? I was caught off guard when I read that. Super strange. Anyway, I came to say that I was also traumatized by it. So much so that I didn't even want to have any more babies. Luckily my second baby was so, so happy and content. ❤️ I never did find out why my daughter was in such agony for four months.
@@rachelcherrie1647 I don't think she meant it that way. I think she was genuinely asking.
@@Melissa-is-a-Raincloud yeah idk, she should have read it again before she hit send 🤦
My son screamed for 3 months. I was walking the hall in our apartment and an old man told me he was in the war and it was a lot easier then dealing with his colicky baby. I will never forget how that made we feel so much better.
Thanks for this comment, this made my day!:)
Same! He would stretch out in pain. We took him to the ER 3 times. I was nursing and changed my diet drastically. They gave us a prescription for something to give him. It was green and smelled like alcohol. It knocked him right out. This was 26 years ago and I can’t remember what it was. We were so stressed out. He was our first baby and we didn’t know what to do to help him. It eventually went away. It’s just so hard to see them in pain. Only the medication and his swing would work. It lasted about 3-4 months. Thankfully our other children didn’t have this problem.
My baby did cry the first 4 months as well. I also had a shit pregnancy and had post partum depression and post partum preeclampsia which almost killed me after birth. Yeah I am done with producing children. She is 1 now
Hahaha facts!
Why would you disturb your neighbors like that anyway?!
Every baby is unique! My son was “stuck” for a long time (until emergency C-section) and cried nonstop until a family member who’s a chiropractor gave him a VERY mild adjustment at 3 weeks. He literally stopped crying instantly & was a happy baby. I was speechless! So, whatever works 🤷🏻♂️
Hello 👋 dear, how are you doing?
I wish I knew this 13 years ago when my daughter was born. I had an emergency C-section after pushing for 3 hours. My daughter slept very little and cried so much. I swore I would never have another child because it was so hard.
Same thing with my niece!
Yes I took my babies in the first few days of being home to get adjusted and both slept hours more that night!
Chiro helps me so much,love it
My first-born had colic and absolutely screamed for three straight months. Family was thousands of miles away. He'd get so stiff, his arms and legs and he was in such pain. At almost exactly 3 months, it was like someone hit a switch and he became an absolute angel. Never another problem at all. Now he's a 3rd year PhD student in electrical engineering. But, good thing I'm a baby lover. I had 4 more, but no others had colic, thank God.
But can we just take a second and say how doggone CUTE this little tyke is??? Beautiful!
Same. He cried for 2 1/2 Months 19 hours a day. Slept from 12-5am.ugh. Then the easiest boy ever all,the way to adulthood!
Mine too… she finally stopped the colic at three months…it was hell for both her and us. She became a happy baby when she could sit up on her own. It’s like she wanted to be in control, and finally could do something for herself. She became a happy baby.
Mine too!!
Not my son, he didn't stop till almost 9 months old
@@jesusislife9259 Oh my, I am so sorry you had to go through that. Couldn't imagine. Blessings to you.
Bless the physical therapist. You can tell she loves what she does. She’s so gentle and caring.
The doctor said massage therapist
Please please consider food intolerances.... my baby's 6 weeks of constant screaming
was due to milk and egg intolerance (coming through my breast milk). After trying everything else someone suggested I try stopping dairy and egg and within 24hours he visibly relaxed and fell asleep. Desperate for others to know this!
Please follow indian ayurvedic diet while breastfeeding and promote it , raising ur infant will be 100 times easier...i cant stressed it enough...you will find diet charts online and your infant might never get colic.
My baby was tremendously fussy and LaLeche League person suggested he could have issues with dairy. I stopped having dairy and he stopped the constant fussing and so many other things.
My friend’s daughter was the same- terrible colic if she ate any dairy. My daughter had to go to soy formula. It was like the difference between night and day.
My older boy would scream and cry so much. Turns out he was dairy allergic. So much so that he was troubled by any dairy that I ate and passed through my milk. We both went dairy free and that fixed the tummy trouble and severe excess he had been experiencing. After a while I realised that I didn't get migraine headaches anymore so I guess I can't handle c I was milk protein either.
Further proof that none of us are cows, therefore should not be drinking cows milk or eating any bi-products of cows milk. I seriously hope none of the parents that have experienced this thru breast milk make those children drink milk as they age.
My heart goes out to all the babies and parents out there going through this rough stage in life. Babies are precious and all we want is for them to be okay. The stress of being a parent takes a be toll on us, and I just pray to all for the strength to get through it together. Don't give up on your partners or baby's, this stage shall pass.
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In Jesus name amen!!!
I was told that my older sister was a colicky baby. Also, she wasn’t smiling in her official baby picture.
Amen in Jesus name ! 🙏🏼🙌🏻
So true 👍
Yeah my daughter had colic - no gas issues, no reflux, nada. This was simultaneously the darkest stage of my mental health during this time. Wish we could have gotten this kind of help, literally anything wouldve been better than what I had to experience (complete overstimulation all alone without any assistance/guidance). To this day I still have anxiety and experience phantom cries, and my daughter is almost 2 (in about 4 months). And I still get physically/emotionally triggered hearing infants cry at the grocery store or mall. One of the most horrific experiences of my life.
It is a living nightmare. My daughter, who is now 31, had extreme Colic. I received so much criticism. The experience was devastating. I promise if my daughter has a baby with colic I will be there for her.
@@LoriJMarshall honestly, just hearing another mom understand what its like - is such a huge thing for me. And then hearing that same mama already knows if their own child experiences the same - that they will assist them? Wow. I am honestly blown away, and just amazed at humanity right now. I appreciate you as a human.
I still have PTSD because of this, and my daughter is 3,5 already. After her first year I needed pshychiatric treatment, as she would sleep only 5-20mins, constantly crying, nothing worked, absolutelly nothing, my brain and body was giving up… I wish I had help. Any help. She developed into a constantly fussy/tantruming toddler so for us it never really stopped just changed. We did not have a second baby and I think we never will and I feel so guilty about that but I dont think I could handle it again…
@@rekaberegi2511 oh I hear you. That’s pretty much where we’re at/ what it’s been like for us. You said it perfectly, and this is how you feel/what your experience has been - it’s okay to be honest with yourself about the realities of what you have faced and to have come to the decision of not having a second one. Honestly, we had some hard conversations about it - and came to the same conclusion. My body had other plans, and we found out I was pregnant and quite far along. Needless to say I have been through all of the emotions/thoughts and even though this was the farthest thing from planned - I am excited but cannot get over the seemingly insurmountable anxiety that he will also have colic. I don’t know if I can survive another bout, and a hypersensitive toddler. Not to mention my partner and I both recently changed jobs, so neither of us have an allotted parental leave. So the likelihood of me doing it all, and alone - is absolutely terrifying. Safe to say, from me at least, listen to what your mind and body are saying. It’s okay to not be ready for more. And i see you and hear you. You aren’t alone. And I applaud you for having gotten through everything you have thus far. You are an incredible human.
@@MoviesAreMyThing I day. Just 1 day at a time. Be kind to yourself.
That nurse is an angel!!! I almost cried when she was encouraging the mom. 💝
I cried and I never even had fuzzy babies, even tough I had twins 😭😭😭
She is a genius. Years of experience and so much knowledge. The baby responded to her immediately.
As a mom seeing a relaxed little nugget is soooo beautiful and pleasing. Watching him relax is ASMR to me
Same here
Nugget??
Little nugget is crazy 💀💀💀
Torticollis= a kink in the neck. We've all had them, and some of us severely. Imagine being a newborn with a severe one. Poor kiddo. Watching him relaxing to the point of falling asleep in her hands in just the first minutes of the video...thank goodness for this woman helping him.
Kinda. She kept talking like "What what do you want to say to the cameras?" Like lady just cradle the base of the skull & massage the baby. Also the pillow she put him on made him scream again because it was pushing on the crown of the head. Then randomly at the end they talked about collic like...what in the world does this have to do with collic. I have had a mild form of adult Torticollis from sleeping wrong & have worked on clients with the same neck pain. A pain that ruins days & if stretched wrong can be excruciating. So to me they seemed more interested in their video & more infantilizing to even the parents. Poor baby indeed. I treat clients slowly with care. Support the base of the skull & do not push on the crown because ouch.
Wondering if being born face up gives baby a kink in the neck. My son screamed at teatime for 12wks
@@fairynuff167my last two were born sunny side up, no problems. I've raised 7 babies. Most of the time they're just hungry and parents think because they've just been fed that it can't possibly be that but some babies just want to eat small amounts all the time or suck for comfort. This baby wanted fed this entire video, it was very obvious. I get that he just reached a feeding time during the video but a lot of the time, they want fed.
For sure! Imagine having a kink in your neck and not having the strength to lift your head and stretch it on your own. Babies need so much love and care. ❤
@@CannabrannaLammer
So you don’t think he was fed between segments?
THIS is why I only had one child. She came out screaming and didn’t stop for a year. She’s 21 now. Very happy and healthy. I still get anxiety when I hear a baby cry.
Same here😄
Nope never been maternal whatsoever. My animals will do me!
Well this baby was in excruciating pain. I've massaged adults who have the most aggravating kink in their neck, can't turn their head, & desperately needed a massage because it was ruining their day. To me watching this video was tough because this baby can't support his neck & I imagine the bouncing plus putting him on a pillow that pushed more on the crown of his head instead of just supporting the base of the skull was agonizing. At 3:00 is where she had it right. But then the movements got jolty, if I did that to an adult with mild Torticollis they would undoubtedly yelp or gasp in pain. But this baby can't talk so all the talking & infantilizing they are doing is annoying & then talking about the tummy in the end was a confusing random moment there.
Me too! I can't stand the screaming...for nothing sometimes!
Me too, and she is only five month old. But she will be our first and last child 😅
I've been a pediatric nurse for almost 15 years and have obviously seen loads of torticollis babies (and colicky ones too!) I can't imagine how it must feel for them. That's flipping awesome that this clinic offers someone specifically to massage! When my own son was born, he cried for like an hour straight without any relief from what my husband and I. Then, one of our physicians came in on his newborn round (still in the hospital), picked him up, draped him over his arms (belly down), and was swinging/rocking him while talking to my husband and I... he was quiet as a mouse. That was amazing to us and my husband asked Dr Smith "can you come home with us?" 🤣 Yeah, the nurses all refer to him as being "The Baby Whisperer"
My parents often told me that I wasn't a particularly fussy baby, but hiccups were certainly a thing for the first few months. I have a friend whose daughter was so colicky and fussy, out of absolute exhaustion, she just sat and cried with her baby. Her daughter is a ray of sunshine now, a joy. It gets better. Hang in there mom!
My oldest son had six month colic and didn't sleep the night through until he was 9 months old. The lack of sleep was a personality changer, it was brutal. We survived and he'll be 40 this month.
Good job, Mom! 👍💐
Same with my son. He is now 52
I hear ya. Sleep deprivation was used as a form of torture for a good reason.😱
Just want to say, my daughter is 14 months and still doesn’t sleep through and is nowhere near to it 😀
Sounds like my first. Even not sleeping all night until 9 months. He'll be 45 in Dec.
My grandson had torticollis. His ped never found it. Luckily at 6 months he spent the day with me while momma & daddy had to attend a funeral & I took him to a friend's birthday party for her daughter. There was a friend of hers who was a ped nurse & spotted it instantly. She gave us exercises to do. Within a couple of moths it was resolved.
It takes a village........lovely to hear the solution, and that you were open to it!!
What type of exercise??
@@Itsme8002-v8p turning his head the opposite of how he held it. Put toys to that opposite side for him to turn to grasp & lots of neck massage
@@stormiweathered and lots of tummy time. My grandson was born with torticollis too. He didn't like being out down, always wanted to be carried around, but he wasn't really a very colicky baby. He had a lot of wind and would fling his legs around but he wasn't an all day screamer like my first child, or an all evening crier like my second. He absolutely hated tummy time, but it did the trick. it was resolved by the time he was three or four months old.
@@warpedweft9004 yes!! I think that having them in their backs so much these days makes it worse!!
The massage lady absolutely rocks!! Every mum needs to hear how amazing they are but especially the way she said it with such confidence right at the mother! I wish more people were like that x
My son had this problem and a pediatric chiropractor fixed it like a charm! Blew my mind (and I’m sure his too when he got some much needed relief)
Doesn't surprise me the right chiropractor can be amazing
I love how the lady helping with all this advice and all, she tells the mother she's doing a great job (minute 7:50) in that especial way too... when I was discouraged with my first premature crying baby, this nurse lady I would go for help/advice she would tell me it's partly my fault, because babies can sense if we're tense and I needed to relax. Jeez, had forgotten that and remembered when I heard this nice lady saying those kind words of encouragement to a mother in need, it just brought tears to my eyes cause it's exactly what I needed to hear! So simple and beautiful! That's what needed, it's not too much to ask...
New parents need that ❤
I will never forget the first year of my son’s life. He cried for 3 months, he “fussed” for every moment when he was not attached to me. The guilt, the fatigue and the frustration of everyone giving advice. I remember someone asking me if I was planning a second child. Well, my son is an only child and I still rarely sleep through the night. If a young woman asked me about motherhood I would not be the best advocate. Mothers are amazing but first and foremost human and deserve as much real support as we can give them.
I’m dealing with this right now, my baby is almost 10 months and I feel like he’s never going to settle down. Thanks for sharing! It helps knowing that I’m not the only one
Can so relate! Your experience is so similar to mine! My daughters five and I can't ever forget how hard it was and really don't want another child and the constant when are you giving her a sibling upsets the hell out of me.....
I had a friend (an RN no less) who claimed all 3 of her children had colic. I was horrified and a bit incredulous. It is pretty rare to have 3 in a row with colic- what a nightmare Then she said it, "Yes all three cried all the time...unless I was holding them." I told her, "That is called normal. Babies cry so you will pick them up and hold them."
My first was a perfect baby and never cried but she also demanded that I hold her 24/7 which I pretty much did. For a couple of months, she generously accepted substitutions (Daddy, Grandmother etc) but then at about 3 months or maybe 4 it had to be me and only me, and no one else. She wouldn't even sleep away from me so I slept with one eye open. She wouldn't let me "wear her" either. I had to hold her in my arms. Still she wasn't a colicky baby. She quieted the second I picked her up.
@pippadawg7037 unfortunately not everyone has that experience. Hold her or not my daughter cried for hours. I would be holding her, comforting her and walking around the room for hours losing my mind lol.
@@King_Anime528 Why would your best friend say, "Oh you are just probably not used to being a mom" when you already had another child? Plus didn't your best friend hear your baby crying and see that he wouldn't settle or quiet?
When you say he didn't sleep, do you mean he wouldn't let you sleep or he fussed for long stretches at a time at night? All babies sleep. I had two "easy" babies but neither let me sleep. I remember thinking if I could just get 2 hours in a row I would be happy. I called a lactation consultant and I told her I would nurse, change her, and 45 minutes later she would wake up hungry again wanting to nurse and the cycle would repeat. She said the most devastating thing possible, "That is normal." Eventually she slept for 2 hours but never longer than 3 until she slept through the night at 18 months.
This rips my heart out! My first born wailed for the first 4 months of her life. It was so hard! She was a C section baby and is now 27. Those memories really never fade…..
That's heartbreaking
Agree totally! First born c-section, so fussy all day then 1 to 2 hrs constant crying starting at 6 p.m. Switched formulas, had a couple adjustments but "grew out if it" more or less. He's 28 now!
My daughter wailed for 12 months, up to twelve hours each night. Often I sang and sometimes I cried while walking up and down rocking her.
My daughter hit the witching hour at roughly 4-5pm every day...the screaming crying would begin, and I just about lost my mind trying to soothe her until my husband got home about 6pm. At that point I would hand her over to him and go take a crazy long hot shower, where I would sit and cry. It was truly traumatic for all of us for 4-5 months.
Been there .....feel u mate
My baby would begin crying at 11pm and go on till 4 am for 2-3 months..my mother was a godsend she and I would alternate in holding him and rocking him till he tired himself out..it was such a traumatic time...but it got easier around 5 months old....he s now 8 months old..💕🌸
Many, many children are fatigued and hungry at 4:00pm.
If you're in a Mall, you can hear them all go off around that time: it means parents need to plan around your baby's needs --- and getting enough sleep, fluids, and food are the Big Three.
@@inaayatsingh8794,
Thank God for your understanding and strong, motherly heart ❤️ clearly your mother shares your understanding that babies sometimes have difficulty transitioning from living in the bliss of pre-birth, to the sounds and new sensations of life outside the womb.
Congratulations and much love to you from California.
❤️ Your baby will grow into a tender, strong, and wise parent! Namaste! 🙏💕
Same. Made making dinners so stressful.
If only all newborn babies' parents could have access to this kind of intervention. Isn't it amazing watching how this team works? Best wishes to these lovely parents and their beautiful boy.
I was a bit sorry to see the Dad wasn’t included in this conversation. Dads need to be included and empowered to look after their children’s needs as well. 🙂💕
They do not have to either have the Child for that day or pay child support for that day.
They aren’t held responsible- one way or another - in America. They just go out and make more babies
@@katefish3754what?😂
@@Neza1234pay her no mind LMAO, she must be on drugs
Maybe he didn’t want to be filmed?
Shutup😒 @@katefish3754
I am a firm believer that every newborn should be seen by a licensed professional massage therapist or chiropractor. We wouldn't expect grown-ups to pass through a 10 cm space without any damage to our skeletal systems. Childbirth, while natural, is a traumatic experience for babies. I'm so glad to see this baby get relief and to reassure the parents they aren't at fault.
@@melmel007 😁
Osteopathic treatments are also a godsend.
I took my son to a chiropractor for his torticollis. It helped, but we later found out he needed eye alignment surgery. His head tilt was actually caused by his eyes not being aligned correctly. He tiltedhis head to compensate for his poor vision! Never quit advocating for your children. Even good drs can make mistakes. If your gut tells you differently, go with it!
@@amberjoy533 I always tell my friends that, go with your gut, nothing is better than a mama or Dad's intuition.
No. Baby arent even developed. Psuedoscience aint science.
I am a seasoned Granny...and raised over 4 of our own and a couple of fostered newborns. I guess I am also known for my "baby whispering" on colic babies! I tell all new parents that if baby has been screaming for 3 nights/days that it's ok to put baby down for a couple minutes....NEVER EVER SHAKE a baby! Call someone who you trust and take a break! 💖
Absolutely! Dealing with a screaming infant is stressful, constant, and makes you doubt your capabilities. Ask for help. All moms know how tough it can be alone. An hour break for a hot bath or a forest walk can work wonders. If you feel like you are losing control, put the baby in the crib and shut the door for a few minutes. Call someone who cares about you and get the cheerleading you need. Then go back to caring for your baby.
@@laurachapin204 I needed this when my daughter was teething . I still remember the terrible ness of constant screaming and nothing working
❤thank you..info was great...love your take on masks🙏👍
@@HosCreatesUgh! I hate that our bodies are designed this way. We all need to cut teeth, so it's not fair that it hurts.
Poor parents must have been so stressed all the time. I would be panicking 24/7 thinking there is something wrong with my little one❤️.
As much as I really don’t like social media now for my 13 year old , I wish I had this information for my other older children 25 years ago. This information would have come in handy. The endless information that is at your finger tips to help you is truly amazing and remarkable. Thank you for sharing. My heart goes out to all those moms who go through this. I will say it does get better.
After listening to all of these remarks, I realize just how lucky I have been with my two sons. They were easy all the way to when they left home and that was the hardest part for me.
Social media is absolutely amazing, it’s all about what you show your children is available on it, and monitor
I am 77 years old ñow, but I will never forget my daughter's constant screaming. Later in life, in her 20's, she was diagnosed with a Syrinx. I write this to u so that maybe u might watch for that. But beyond that, I wish I had had this knowledge. I was a Postpartum RN and we never learned these techniques. Of course, I graduated in 1969. That probably was not known then. Keep up the good work. And your baby is adorable. I am so pleased mom and dad has this help, Dr Paul.
It was so precious to see that little mouth wide open breathing deeply and so relaxed.
Mom's face says it all. When she heard he is feeling better or he's out, she just had that look of relief.
My son had significant torticollis at four months. A pediatric PT made a house call, taught us some exercises, and he became beautifully balanced in all movements. It set the stage for a lifetime of coordinated skeletal and muscle movement, strength, skill and speed. Don’t underestimate the importance of getting an infant on the right track.
Honestly, I am a mother of 3 and grandmother of 8. Im also a nurse with extensive psych nursing experience. My youngest granddaughter was born addicted to drugs Dec 2022, ai have guardianship and honestly she has educated me on so many levels. So much of what she has experienced is beyond my skill set. I had to learn so much and different techniques to sooth and calm her. This alsonincluded a very strict feeding schedule as she was tiny 5# full term. Her pcp and I honestly believe that strict schedule is what helped her pull through. She is now almost 9months qnd altgough she still has episodes of withdrawal its less frequent anf less intense. IT HAS BEEN A STRUGGLE but she is an amazing child!
God Bless you, and God bless this child
Bless you....
Oh wow! Thank you for doing that!
Wow my heart goes out to you all it must affect everyone in your family my eldest daughter caused us similar problem it is so so hard my grandson is 20 now and a fantastic young man keep strong and look after yourself as well as you are looking after your grandchild much love and blessing from Manchester England ❤
Dr. Paul, thank you for posting this. I'm a Neuromuscular Massage Therapist and have a Doctorate in Naturopathy. I have seen this a couple of times, and been impressed with the technique. Lots of times just the birthing process causes a misalignment in the spine. I'm glad you are able to capture it on video to show parents that there is hope when their babies are so uncomfortable. ❤
The lady is definitely a blessing to the baby and mom and dad! She knows her hands and babies reactions! She's AMAZING 👏 He's beautiful 😍 So much to learn from the minute their born for years to come! I know this video will help other parents!
The struggle is real. I just spent two months with my daughter and her newborn. The tension in the house was palpable because of all the fussiness, screaming and lack of sleep. Oh, and the baby was fussy, screaming and not sleeping either. 🤣
At 3 weeks old she began taking him to see a chiropractor who worked with babies. The day of the visit and the day after he would be able to poop and was less fussy. Then he would regress until the next visit, but with each subsequent visit we saw minor but positive improvement. Now at ten weeks he is a happy camper.
Telling a new mom that “It will get better” only makes her want to throw something at you. Most pediatricians aren’t like you, Dr. Paul, and won’t recommend this type of wonderful massage therapy. Moms may have to search out a chiropractor in their area, or specifically ask about massage. Moms need to know that they are doing something to help their baby. At least rule out a structural problem before colic medicine is introduced.
You’re right, grandma’s do know a lot about babies! When I became a grandmother I took cues from my own mother. She never offered advice unless l asked for it. She let me figure out my babies and trusted that since God gave the baby to me (and no one else!) that I would learn what was best for him.
I wish I’d had a doctor like you 35 - 40 years ago when I had my babies. Good job!
What beautiful wisdom! Glad your daughter and grandbaby found relief
Yes, Sage advice, Thank You!
Thank you. My son was so fussy and soooo many people say "it gets better". My son had reflux. It needed a diagnosis . It wasn't going to "get better"
@@TheArtofThings I hope he did much better after his diagnosis!
Your daughter is soo blessed to have you by her side. So many mothers have no support. You're such an awesome mom and grandma. Glad to hear your new grandbaby is feeling better
He is adorable. My daughter who is now 22 years old was colicky and makes me wonder now if this would've helped her. I was at a lost as to what to do bc everything I was told to do wasn't working. I got very depressed and had post partum depression bc I felt like I was failing as a Mom. I would sit and cry right along with her. So happy to see these young parents getting him the help he needs.
I had my son as a single mom at 18 yrs old fresh out of high school. Lived alone with him in my own place. He cried and screamed the first 3 years of his life. I was mortified. I had to walk out of the room and compose myself and cry. Then one day I realized he was quiet. He is 36 now and he is great.
I don’t know how you single mothers do it honestly. You guys are incredible
My grandson newborn, cried and cried, one month passed and then I came across a CD called sounds for silence. It was sounds of the mother’s womb. As soon as we put this on, loud, he stopped crying. It worked every time. Amazing
They hadn't heard of intolerance in my day. My baby was a 24hr screamer till she was around 5mnths old.
They nearly carried me out in a straight jacket to the loony bin! 5 Specialists for her projectile vomiting. Didn't find out till years later she is Lactose Intol. She is sadly an only child...😪
My 2nd child for me. I had to set her down and take many 5 minutes breaks where I cried too. But after about 3 months, she became a brand new baby. I WISH we had TH-cam when I was a new mom.
It's so hard to realise that gad we just had experienced medical help we would not have got traumatised by the whole experience.
Also the fact that husbands , in laws all believe as a woman you should know answers when you are literally going through the grinder.
Very lonely experience that something inside you just doesn't want to repeat.
Such small babies is never lactose intolerant. They could have a milk protein allergy but never lactose intolerance at such a young age
@@vl7175my parents said I couldn't tolerate the popular formulas, so I needed expensive goats milk formula. No problems once I switched to milk and solid foods later. It's interesting how our bodies react to different things.
I feel very bad for what you went through and I completely understand why you were one and done! The toll it takes is tremendous!
Watching this was a little traumatic for me. I felt like I was reliving my sons infancy days. I would have flown across the country to see you guys had I known about you 6 years ago. God bless you.
Same! My first could not be soothed and did not sleep. I kept being told to "hang in there". We went to the pediatrician many times and a GI dr. No one helped. It was traumatizing. ( He is now 5.5 and the sweetest, happiest boy ❤️).
@@kerbell1 mine is actually almost exact 5.5 too. Maybe it was something in the water. Haha
Yes, this. My daughter cried so much as a baby I would actually get her crying stuck in my head, like you would with a song. It was extremely hard. She has gotten much easier now at 3, but she's still a tough cookie. I'm so thankful that these parents are getting this sorted out, because you just can't live like that day after day.
Same... Bless you all for getting through it!!
Same here ugh
My daughter who is now thirty five, cried when she was awake for seven months. Literally the only time she wasn’t crying was when she was asleep. It was tough!
Was it lactose intolerance too?
@@Xtina4444 my first daughter was the same. She can't tolerate milk, which usually makes her vomit and affects her bowels if she has anything with milk in it, but it's not lactose intolerance as she can't eat hard cheese or lactose free products either. Unfortunately we didn't make the connection for a couple of years as the reaction wasn't that bad to begin with. It got worse as she got older.
Pasteurized milk was the trigger for mine. Raw made all the difference.
@@mechaunejacobs2642 unpasteurised milk is not legal to be sold in a lot of countries because of the risk of other diseases you can get from it. Australia is one of those countries. You shouldn't be giving cows milk to babies under 12 months anyway, pasteurised or not.
I’ve had three babies that had constant colic! Screamed for hours no matter what I did. Months of screaming that literally made me think I was gonna lose my mind. I tried everything under the sun. From car rides to swings. Nothing worked. I felt like the worst mother ever! Thankfully they are all grown up now.
How did you have 3 kids especially with those issues! God bless you!
We took our baby to a massage therapist at around 6 weeks old, and it made a world of difference! She heavily preferred looking and moving to only one side - and got extremely fussy when we tried to move her head. But after only one visit we saw massive improvements! It can also help with breastfeeding issues, because stiffness/tension also affects the baby's ability to feed/latch properly. I would recommend any parent with similar issues to find a good massage/physical therapist - it's truly worth it ❤
My son didn't stop crying unless he was nursing or sleeping for the first 10 months of his life. He nursed constantly because I didn't know how else to soothe him, it honestly saved my relationship with him. We went to chiropractors and tried traction adjustments, but he was the most distressed and fussy baby. He was my first baby and I hated being a mother, I never wanted to have another baby again after him. Now, he's almost 2, and we can tell that he has a sensory processing disorder. Do whatever you can to survive! It will get better. We are in a new phase of life, managing occasional epic meltdowns, but we are so excited for our son's success and progress. Keep up the good/hard work.
Also, try baby wearing when naps are just not happening. It really helps when baby is getting some rest between the long, endless hours of crying.
I'm so glad that nursing helped you stayed bonded :)
Mine was the same and he never slept longer than 20 minute bursts either and would even be crying in his sleep. Once he was awake for a solid 48 hours at only a few weeks old. He's 6 years old now and very highly intelligent with sensory and social issues. The toddler and preschool years were so rough with the meltdowns. Hang in there, it gets so much better.
Mine also was like that and she also has this sensory issue. What do you do to improve that? I would love to hear some advice!
Mine has SPD and autism. He had to sleep in his swing with the vibration on. Otherwise he would scream. We took turns sleeping on an air mattress in the living room where the swing was set up so we could keep an eye on him in the swing. He would sleep maybe 2-3 hours at a time. Then after eating he had HORRIBLE reflux to the point he looked like he was having a seizure. Now we just have sensory overload issues and a few autism related issues but I’m so glad we finally got through those months. If we hadn’t already had his older sister, we wouldn’t have had another one
Poor baby he’s probably more exhausted than his parents. He’s finally relaxed and able to sleep deep.
No damn way!!! How offensive to the parents! Babies can be uncomfortable but they don’t have real world problems lol 🤣
@@Ging3rs I would say not being able to talk and being in constant pain is a real world problem for a baby. Poor thing.
@@Ging3rs I agree with you! I know the baby is stressed, but more stressed than me? I think not!
@@JaneSmith0709That’s rather self-centered. The child was in constant pain. The parents were stressed but SO WAS BABY. The hell? Is this the pain Olympics??
@@germyw I'm not saying the baby wasn't suffering, I'm just saying so was the parent(s).
My daughter cried for 4 years straight. We went through doctors like salt through a goose and not one ever suggested anything like this… now that she is a young woman she describes having episodes of ribs sliding over one another and has been frequently hospitalized. My heart is breaking because I think this could have really helped us. God bless this little family, I sure hope they find a solution and I think they are on the right track.
To see this 'hands-on'approach is so affective, I am moved to tears. Bless all Mums with newborns, especially those with fussy babies. My second born twin was extra fussy, I later was lucky enough to be told it was probably the trauma of being 2nd born and having gone through his sister's birth as well as his own. It is so understandable when an holistic practitioner points it out, just like this lady.
I had to wait many y3ars to understand and be empowered by knowing I wasn't a terrible mother that could not soothe her child( despite using many of the techniques shown here).
Brought tears to my eyes hearing the mother talk about having her baby back. Thank you for educating
Such good info. Parents need this help badly!
I was born 33 years ago with my legs outside of the hip joints. My mom got the prospect of me being in a cast for one entire year, which shocked her so much that she went to a massage therapist and she fixed me quite quickly. It was only visible that I had some pain during the first sessions and then I just enjoyed it. Legs and hips perfectly fine ever since. Eternally grateful to that old lady who is probably in heaven now. She had learned from her mother, no professional teaching, but she juste had *The Hands* and she was a pro anyways.
Awesome that poeple still see the value in such therapy and doing these jobs. 💖
Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome?
Google it.
@@marlenegold280 No, luckily I don't suffer from that. It is called developmental dysplasia (dislocation) of the hip (DDH), and is not so rare. It is also heritable, so anyone who had such cases in their families should best have an ultrasound of the hip performed on their baby after birth and during the first year of life (because it can also still dislocate during that period). My doctors noticed it as my legs didn't flip outwards like baby legs usually do, but it isn't always so visible, depending on the degree of the dislocation.
My oldest (now 18) had torticollis, which we "fixed" with the chiropractor in about 3 sessions. But, she cried constantly, all day, for nearly 9 months. Acid reflux was definitely an issue, severe eczema was another... followed by a litany of multiple allergies to foods, chemicals and even metals. By 1, she had several "specialists"... she narrowly avoided surgery for multiple things. As a toddler and preschooler, she was very easily over-stimulated, and was combative. I'm happy to say, she was the best teenager I could ever ask for...mature, responsible, smart, determined and respectful. But we have other issues like loose joints, chronic headaches (since age 2), postural orthostatic tachycardia, anxiety and mast cell... I feel like those things were always there and contributed to her issues as a little one. The first few years was HARD, but I always say that she broke me in for all the other kids... who were a cake walk next to her. I also think my anxiety with her being my first, didn't help. Hang in there mamas, it's all worth it!
This is a common experience for people with hypermobility syndromes. All I can say is: PHYSIO PHYSIO PHYSIO. Avoid the hype and horror of stories on social media- few people ever posts about good or manageable outcomes. It’s critical she stays conditioned. Do not let her decondition herself. If you can afford it, get an open water rowing machine, or loan one. The lungs and leg muscles of open water rowers are best for combating the impacts of POTS, OH and similar dysautonomic conditions. Keep up her social inclusion, face to face. It’s critical for teenagers especially. Get her working with a clinical psych experienced in chronic conditions in teenagers, to help her process and then embrace her differences. Focus on goal setting and routine. Both hard/challenging goals, and fun exciting goals! She’s a teenager and life should be fun. Avoid opiates, benzos, and if you can, gabapentin with everything you have. My love to you both
@@ScoobyDoozy thank you! My girl is actually a dancer, and has been since she was 2.5. I actually put her in dance because I noticed as a toddler that her foot began to rotate in (like mine did at that age). The ortho said her "leg was shorter than the other"...which I knew was crap. I knew her hip was out of alignment. I had her start dance and took her to the chiro, who gently kept moving the hip into place. Thankfully for her, she inherited her father's naturally athletic body, and she has amazing muscle tone.. There were no further issues with her joints until she got lyme at 13...and it was a crap-show after that. At the same time, one of my sons was involved in a sledding accident that caused all sorts of issues, including what may have been an autoimmune that effected his brain. Then we were mold exposed... Anyways, the loose joints became more obvious, I believe because the mass inflammation. All 4 of my kids have this, as do I. We also have mast cell. I've been working on diagnoses for the last 4 years, but no one is really receptive unless we present with a vascular issue.
I definitely agree with you to avoid script meds like that... we do cranial sacral therapy, topical stuff like bio freeze and heat, and maybe ibuprofen, but even that tends to upset the stomach. I'm also a strong believer in supplements and herbs, so we do a lot of management of inflammation with those things.
Thank you so much for responding and caring! Much love to you as well :)
Look up elhers Danlos syndromes.
@@andienantz, oh yes... I've been trying for about the last 2 years to get a diagnosis for her, and my other 3 kids. I have one dr who is convinced the 4 kids and I have it, but no one in my area wants to do anything unless you've had a vascular episode. Makes me mad because I'm in Massachusetts and I *thought* Boston had some of the best hospitals...
@Francine Mitchell Ehlers Danlos maybe?
This therapist is such an angel. It made be cry.
I wish we had help from professionals like this when my eldest daughter was colicky. She cried first 3 months of her life 12 hours a day no matter how you tried to sooth. We were just told "babies cry". Some people don't understand it before they've experienced it. I did keep hearing the baby crying inside my head for 2 solid years after it had stopped. It was traumatic. We visited even ER for children once because we just couldn't take it anymore and we were worried she is sick.
Now with our 2nd daughter she basically NEVER cries (maybe for 15 minutes when switching diaper or when gas is stuck in the system). Just eats, sleeps. poops. She was also born faster than her big sister so probably the neck didn't get jammed as badly. She also got little bit of reflux symptoms but nothing as severe as with our firstborn.
I was told I'm now "more experienced" with babies but I tell that's just not true. Babies are different. I wish parents were more directed to get proper help instead of suffering for months.
"It's been a hard month?"
You have no idea, doc!
Thank you for your compassion and gentleness with these little ones.
I can't imagine the stress of a fussy baby. He is so beautiful and perfect. I love your videos, they are so informative. I am good and knowledgeable when it comes to babies and hope for a couple of my own, but I know that I will always have something to learn.
Both my preemies had horrible torticollis. They hurt so bad. Really wish they’d had TH-cam back then. This sweet lady is a lifesaver!!❤️
This grandma is all about learning new things. My daughter is a massage therapist and is pregnant with her first baby. I am so excited
I'd like to thank everyone for sharing your experiences. I was feeling a little alone in the trauma of having a child like this.
That's the problem of modern parenting. It's very isolated, especially when it comes to young babies. Before the "nuclear family" became the norm, it was more of a community effort. Moms weren't alone so much. I've known lots of moms with these stories of fussy babies who were largely impossible to soothe, so they'd cry with the baby.
My son just turned 1 last week and his cries still trigger me as he had GERD and screamed 24/7. Wish we had someone like you
Wow! A baby whisperer! so sweet when a baby is relaxed and content.
First of all, beautiful baby boy! This was fascinating to watch, she is a true baby whisperer! Such a hard time for new parents, God bless them. The time flies at this age, before you know it things will improve. Lovely parents, wanting the best for their baby, he will be fine.
Thank you so much for this video!! I’m a mama of 5, my youngest being 4 months and each baby has been so different. I wish our pediatrician had someone who did bodywork, all the kiddos she works with seem to feel so much better after! Love that you also give the parents the power to decide about masks- my baby cries when he sees me in one (only in the pediatrician’s office because they’re not required anywhere else) but as soon as I take it off he coos and smiles. It’s so nice that your patients get to make that choice- so glad for you!!!!!
Thanks for watching!!! I sure love what I do!
His little facial expressions are priceless. The blissed-out face when she's massaging him at the beginning... love it!
This makes so much sense. I wish I would’ve known about this when my babies were born. Just the first one cried a lot and I was just 17. Was so sleep deprived and didn’t know what to do. But thankfully just lasted a few weeks. One of my granddaughters was worse and my poor daughter n law thought she wasn’t a good mother, but 15 years later she’s the best. ❤ BTW, my entire family just about didn’t wear masks , but in medical fields. Being forced into submission and do what the government says is not the way to go. You can’t go through life being scared all of the time. Hallelujah and thank you Jesus ❤️🙏❤️
dee dee seems like a very sweet and caring person
Thank you!
My daughter was the same way. Screamed all day everyday. I switched her to alumentum formula. She changed overnight! Smiling happy baby. She had very bad issues with breast milk.
Or as some comments say above, it was something you were eating that came to her thru your breast milk. In other words, your diet 100% affected your child.
@@becreative2420 let's be kind to parents. It is a hard job. And if you have kids, I hope people are gracious with your parental choices. I don't know Leilani but she is a mom, I respect that. I respect people.
@@snowwhite3794it's called information, she could pass this info to her daughter, i bet it will help a lot, who knows?
My 5 month old great granddaughter was constantly crying. She was switched to a sensitive stomach formula which helped minimally. When that was recalled she was put on Alumentum. She is a whole different baby. She has plumped up and is quite happy.
Unfortunately breastfeeding is pushed too much. My first of four got sick from breastmilk, turned out he was lactose intolerant, and for the first several days after bringing him home from hospital he screamed nonstop. All my calls to the nurses at the breastfeeding clinic were met with "just keep nursing that baby" and I was losing my mind. Finally my family doctor advised I try a special formula and after opening that can our suffering was over. We really have to advocate for ourselves if we have chosen to bottle feed because nobody else will.
Consequently I toughened up. Each child after that I nursed a little for the first week or two for nutritional benefits to baby and boys were all on bottles immediately. I was able to sleep at night because my husband didn't mind taking a 3 a.m. feeding.
I think forcing oneself to breastfeed a baby who is screaming hungry but not taking to the breastfeeding would drive Mother Teresa insane and it's not good for anyone, certainly does not assist with Mother baby bonding. And the child is severely suffering and very tense and appeals for help are met with impatient health nurses questioning whether I want what's best for my baby because their "just keep nursing that baby" instructions aren't working for us. I found once I was confident and emphatic about my choice to bottle feed, nurses caught my 'I am not backing down on this' vibe and became more supportive regarding our situation.
YOU AND YOUR TEAM ARE AMAZING!! HONEST AND GO BEYOND THE REGULAR MEDICAL TREATMENT. You are one of those what we saw when I was a child, dedicated and real.
This beautiful family have my respect as do all of you who have been through the same or worse, when I think how some 'parents' mistreat or worse, their babies/children my heart breaks.
You are all amazing.
This woman is an effing priceless, genius human being! God Bless these parents and their precious lil sweetheart❤😊
Dr. Paul is such an awesome pediatrician, I wish he was my children's doctor
Beautiful Baby! I hope the parents know this is all temporary. Sleepless nights, diaper changing, baby cries. It's hard but it all goes so fast. Glad they got the help they needed. Cheers.
Dr Paul you are the best! Such a great and informative video for new parents. Appreciate your massage therapist (not sure of her title) as well. She knows her stuff!
Loved the ending as well! Keep fighting the fight Dr Paul! I’m behind you 100%!
I remember when my sister dealt with a fussy baby. She went from being a pretty brutal person to someone too exhausted to be mean. It was awesome 😂.
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We are dr Paul’s patients for 11 years. Our 7 year old daughter was this baby. Dr Paul didn’t have this lady at my appointment!!! Lol. We are getting an appointment now as she still is a bit crooked. Shriners said it wasn’t skeletal. Dr Paul thought maybe I wasn’t getting her off my breast and I was overfilling her to discomfort. Now this is so real to me!!!! I’m glad he has her now. He didn’t when we went thru this. Great job on growing and finding more helpers into your tribe dr Paul.
Isn't he great - knowledge and experience but also common sense. Lovely guy. Reminds me of my health visitor who retired when my daughter was a few months old. The one after was all about charts and statistics. As a new parent you really need these people to gently guide you.
This is hands down the cutest baby video I have ever seen. I am melting over here. I need another grandbaby. God Bless all of them JUST PRECIOUS 💕💕💕
Whoa were was this video 18 years ago for my first son! You guys do very special work! ❤️
I worked in chiropractic for over 10 years and went to school for trigger point therapy acupressure and I did the same thing on my babies and it made a difference.. my son would get constipated so bad as a baby and I would do acupressure in different trigger points and within 10 mins he got relief.. Babies get their first subluxations (misalignment of the vertebrae) at birth and it makes the difference!!! Bless his heart!
Adjusting this age can be incredibly light touch. And the neurological alterations are immense. Great work.
My 9 lb baby boy had torticolis. He didn't cry that much but the massaging and exercise tips the therapist gave us really works . He grew out of it and has no problem now . He is fine and just as handsome as could be . For parents out there with same problem just listen to your PT and everything will work out fine . You have to do this several times a day. Probably everything you hold them do some kind of massage for them . Feels good and makes them happier. 😃Goodluck and hang in there .❤👍
I work for an Osteopath who holds a post-doctoral specialty in newborns with birth trauma. He's treated babies this young, and also works on new moms as well. it's only part of his practice, as he treats people up to and including 90+ years old, but don't forget to check out an Osteopath if you can find one - it's a very gentle hands-on technique.
I wish TH-cam was available when my first was born! He was stuck in the birth canal, heavy duty damage from forceps and I just know he was in pain at least the first 6-8 weeks of life. All the methods explained make sense.
I often watch the “first bath” in hospitals and wonder why parents post that on TH-cam. My last of five was born at home in water. Night and day baby. Everything was calm and peaceful. From being weighed to first bath. I wonder why as new parents more people don’t take care to tune into the trauma of transitioning from Womb to world.. It’s something I only now REALLY begin to appreciate Hmm. I love watching these sweet baby’s and OH how I wish I could do it just one more time!!
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I'm so glad someone is helping these babies. My son cried and screamed non-stop for months. He rarely slept for more than an hour or so. I was exhausted, and I know it wasn't good for him either. A baby needs to sleep! I couldn't get doctors to take his problems seriously and never found a solution.
Poor little guy, but the noises he makes are so adorable, from the whimpering to the hiccups 😭
I had the one daughter at 42, I was so worried I might have a crying baby and heard horror stories of constant stress and crying. I was very blessed in that my baby didn’t have any problems with colic. We took her to a chiropractor to check her out as an infant. She 19 now and a trainee nurse, she always seems to be unwell, she recently had quinsy but as a baby she never had colds, or sickness
Teachers and nurses often get their most sick in the beginning of their careers! That’s for sure
I was the same. But I was born at 23 weeks, with lots of issues, but never cried. I have 2 autoimmune diseases now I’m 22
@@retroreceptionist7571she has been very unwell, she’s nearly 21 now and had quinsy and had her tonsils out. She’s had a lot of colds. You were right
Wish doctors where I live would be more understanding and listen to new mums. Unfortunately a lot of friends and family have been called neurotic new mums when the baby is in obvious distress. Luckily they pushed and pushed and didn't give in. I love your videos especially about new mum and new babies you listen to mum and genuinely care we need more doctors like you x
Wow I cannot believe I'm like the first viewer of your video! I still cannot find an awesome doctor like you here in South Africa. All my love and support here from South Africa 🌍❤️
You are not the first to view or post LOL! you are 6th to post
@@tijay8507 Yeah... I noticed, but when I was watching it literally had 0 views... and that's why I said "like the first" Anyway, was still cool
My firstborn son had the worst colic just like that and you could set your watch by him, every evening and no one could console him. He was not nursed, but bottle fed formula which I believe caused the digestive issues. After age of 3 months, that colic issue just went away. He is now 55 years old and healthy, praise God!
Oh how i wish I'd have had yall when my son was a baby. That baby & parents are blessed by yall! My son would scream for 10 hours & I'd go to bed with his scream ringing in my ears. At 3 months he woke one day & never screamed like that again & was an easy happy baby from there on. He's a 25 yr old Marine veteran now. He's always been a tough cookie. And he was so worth it. I'm just happy to see parents getting the support & help they sincerely need, so they never feel like bad parents or failures. This is a beautiful thing!
When my first daughter was born in 1974 I'd had no prior experience of taking care of a baby. She cried for 6 weeks. The only time she wasn't crying was when she sleeping, eating, or riding in a car. Her father and I went on many drives in the wee hours to get her to sleep. Usually even this didn't work because as soon as her head hit the mattress she was wide awake and screaming again. We lived over a hundred miles from the rest of our family so I had no help. I honestly thought all newborns were like this. Fast-forward five years and I was pregnant again. I was distraught, wondering how I'd manage to care for a newborn and a very busy, very clever 5 year-old. I needn't have worried. My second little daughter rarely cried and began sleeping through the night on the second night after we brought her home. She had an entirely different personality than her big sister. Today they're both my pride and joy. Seems hard to imagine when as a parent to a fussy newborn, but this does pass.
My experience was vice versa yours. My now 5 year old was the sweetest, calmest infant and toddler. Sooo I figured the next baby would be the same- nope. God bless him but my 4 month old cries about 80% of his waking hours. We’ve been assured he’s perfectly healthy and this phase will pass. Like your daughter, unless he’s eating or riding in a car, he’s crying. I’ve almost felt resentful towards him because I have to turn down my 5 year old’s requests to play or go outside simply because his brother won’t allow it. Luckily when I do get a break for a few minutes I can re-focus myself and remember it will pass one day….hopefully soon. ☺️
@@bburgess5003 yes and please ask for help from grandparents or other trusted loved ones. Its inportant for your 5 year old to also have time with you where its just HER time with you as well as important for you to have time for YOU.
My babies were never colicky or rrally criers but I will day my daughter LOVED sleeping in her fisher price swing. Its the one that is very close to the floor and swings with lullaby music. That thing was a blessing for us! There were times when we had to drive around to get one of our kids to fall asleep and we would bring the carseat inside and let them sleep in the carseat once we were home.
Grandma says - that is all great advice. Many of us have dealt with the stress of crying baby. We all can learn new helpful techniques. Thank you for this video.
Perfect video to watch after discovering I’m pregnant with baby #2! Hahaha. Poor little man, poor mom and dad. I love how in tune the therapist was with him, he looked so relaxed and relieved.
Not only is it exhausting for parents, it’s exhausting for the baby ! Him laying there with his head back, mouth open and in a deep sleep is just so heartwarming ❤
Thank you
I was blessed to have had three boys and never had any problems with them but one or my grandsons boy did he cry all the time I felt sorry for his mother I had him one day and was going to a different town and I ended up stopping at a church waiting for the preacher to come and pray for him and I never had a problem with him after that
This is awesome, so glad he's getting relief 💚❣️
Dr Paul, you are one awesome doctor! What a huge blessing you are to your patients!
What a beautiful baby! So glad he has that help.
I realize this video is 2 years old but what an adorable baby boy! I have spasmodic Torticollis, was finally diagnosed in 2000 after trying to get answers since 1992. When my first grandson was born , I told my daughter that I thought he had Torticollis. She brought him to the doctor and he was diagnosed with that. He had very similar care and has done amazing! He’s now 8 and perfect!
This baby looks identical to my first in mannerisms. My first had a severe neck and back injury. At one day old if you stroked her spine she would lift her head all the way up and shriek. She never stopped screaming. An adjustment helped but she generally just screamed for a year. Whew. I didn’t want a second and I’m so glad my husband encouraged me that it won’t happen again. Our second and third were angels.