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  • @everettturner4269
    @everettturner4269 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2382

    For some reason I only pack at like....formal events. Can’t be fancy without a dong, I guess?

    • @grey8288
      @grey8288 4 ปีที่แล้ว +188

      Only if you put a tie on it.

    • @arajczewski9253
      @arajczewski9253 4 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      bro s a m e

    • @christalcavanaugh
      @christalcavanaugh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      Oh so that’s why I never feel fancy enough! Thanks for the tip 😉 😂

    • @_absolutelyflawless_8575
      @_absolutelyflawless_8575 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      @@grey8288 lol now I'm thinking of the musical Heathers, in the song Blue, "they'll wear a suit and tie. And a fancy collar!" (Referring to that area)

    • @everettturner4269
      @everettturner4269 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Christal C always here to help, my friend 😌✌🏿

  • @leoeatslemons5233
    @leoeatslemons5233 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1910

    its,,,, its because the socks fall down ur jeans at school and everyone looks at you so you say its a prank and then go home sick. not speaking from experience it just happens-

    • @khoury6791
      @khoury6791 4 ปีที่แล้ว +83

      A little tip for that is, grab another sock, and cut it till its around 10-13cm (visually) long, and put your sock packer inside it and just pin it to your underwear
      I hope this helped, works perfectly for me. Good luck💫

    • @VM-zo7it
      @VM-zo7it 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      Maybe wear tighter underwear such as briefs?

    • @airairaie
      @airairaie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      i feel your pain - something similar happened to me lmao

    • @rx_swe
      @rx_swe 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Leo eats lemons your profile picture aww bakugou 💞💗💕💓

    • @hanna-ewr1330
      @hanna-ewr1330 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I feel sorry for you, but I also laughed

  • @karalinell9736
    @karalinell9736 4 ปีที่แล้ว +969

    My son(trans) was hanging out with a bunch of his friends when he was 14. They were watching a movie and every one was squeezed onto two couches. My son couldn't get comfortable and kept shifting. The friend next to him noticed and said,
    "Oh sorry, are you being poked? My packer was uncomfortable. I can move it to my other pocket." He pulled his packer out of his sweatshirt pocket and moved it to the pocket on the other side. I love how comfortable these kids are with one another.

  • @madirocks700
    @madirocks700 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1176

    " fully happy willies "
    im gonna say that for the rest of my life

    • @eclipseofdawn5
      @eclipseofdawn5 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      i almost spit out my drink when i heard that

  • @aalbatwrs
    @aalbatwrs 4 ปีที่แล้ว +765

    It's just hearing "hello underachievers" and my day is fixed. LIKE HOW

    • @spider._.b0y504
      @spider._.b0y504 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Alba Torres same omg , also i love your profile pic

    • @annnee6818
      @annnee6818 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It's one of the funnier greetings on all of yt

    • @aalbatwrs
      @aalbatwrs 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@annnee6818 it iss

    • @cameurysm
      @cameurysm 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      666th like 💪😈

  • @yeyeimaw33b3
    @yeyeimaw33b3 4 ปีที่แล้ว +688

    danny devito just sitting in the corner listening to Noah talk about fake pp for 8 minutes and 30 seconds

  • @stutter._.bug16
    @stutter._.bug16 4 ปีที่แล้ว +797

    “And like”
    “And like”
    “And like”
    He literally sounds like me

    • @TheGreatHomunculus
      @TheGreatHomunculus 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Azi_ Playz I realized how much he said and like

    • @nhmooytis7058
      @nhmooytis7058 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Azi_ Playz why Millenials sound LIKE morons, every 4th woes is LIKE.

  • @xoxowena
    @xoxowena 4 ปีที่แล้ว +246

    Ok as a trans woman i totally get the being dysphoric from stuff that alleviate other people's dysphoria, stuffing a bra makes me absolutely miserable and just the thought of like a fake breastplate makes me sick like having it on me just reminds me i dont actually have it

    • @Lekos992
      @Lekos992 ปีที่แล้ว

      you'll have tits one day, even if they take 5 years to grow or if you just go get surgery. Do you have tits yet? you wrote this 3 years ago.

  • @coolkid-fm2cx
    @coolkid-fm2cx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +517

    Someone saw my packer at school once.. that was a fun explanation to make in the changing rooms.. to a transphobe...

    • @torrinashley6076
      @torrinashley6076 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      I hope you were safe

    • @coolkid-fm2cx
      @coolkid-fm2cx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      @@torrinashley6076 Yeah they just said some dumb stuff and continued to misgender me lol. The teachers did nothing was the problem

    • @kitchristopher7
      @kitchristopher7 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      U n K n o W N B l e A c H that sucks dude I hope you find people who are more supportive of you

    • @coolkid-fm2cx
      @coolkid-fm2cx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      @@kitchristopher7 Thanks fellow human.

    • @raptordan6851
      @raptordan6851 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Silly girl , you will never be a man

  • @jennifervasquez
    @jennifervasquez 4 ปีที่แล้ว +389

    Im sorry is that a lil danny devito in the bottom left corner

    • @jaxmlarker
      @jaxmlarker 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Omg. I think so.

    • @jaxmlarker
      @jaxmlarker 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Haha

    • @Alex-fv2qs
      @Alex-fv2qs 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I'm pretty sure that's just a regular sized Danny

  • @marvelboy2021
    @marvelboy2021 4 ปีที่แล้ว +400

    hearing you tell me “hello underachievers” and “have a good day or don’t, see you later losers” makes me feel really good and happy for some reason lol

  • @mikabrandhofer2511
    @mikabrandhofer2511 4 ปีที่แล้ว +237

    5:00 I really feel this, I used to pack regularly at school about a year ago because the feeling of something being there lessened my dysphoria but I always wore huge shirts that would cover it because I didn't want anyone to know. The same thing happened when I first started binding (and I still feel like that around people I just recently came out to). Like I want to hide my chest but I don't want them to know I'm hiding my chest if that makes any sense at all

    • @NOAHFINNCE
      @NOAHFINNCE  4 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      RELATE

    • @paulp334
      @paulp334 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Same, I started binding two month ago and I'm not out to my family, so when I wear a binder around them I puff my chest for it to not look flat. Happy to know I'm not alone feeling this weird thing ♥

    • @eani3boy37
      @eani3boy37 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      My parents don't know I own a binder, and when I came back from a school trip my mum found it. I told her it was a vest, even though it was a half one. She believed me though.

    • @mattydeisley6533
      @mattydeisley6533 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Mika Brandhofer I gat it bro

    • @goldfishimpact736
      @goldfishimpact736 ปีที่แล้ว

      Relate

  • @irinavaglenarova4182
    @irinavaglenarova4182 4 ปีที่แล้ว +226

    That one strand of hair on your face gives me life

    • @whitenoise3447
      @whitenoise3447 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      me looking in the mirror every morning explaining to myself why I am not going to shave my "beard"

    • @mariesmith6924
      @mariesmith6924 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@whitenoise3447 I am SO glad that I clicked to see what this reply was 😂

  • @reidisdoodling
    @reidisdoodling 4 ปีที่แล้ว +323

    i went to disneyland with my family and i was packing (i don’t do it often, but when it’s a large place that i can try to pass better in i’ll pack) and my mom didn’t know what packing was/that i packed. and my packer slipped so it looked very odd in my pants and my mom questioned me about it and i told her my pants were being weird and i shoved it back into place. i was kinda embarrassed because it probably looked weird and now i rarely pack because it makes me uncomfortable to think that someone can tell its not real

    • @tinyybiceps
      @tinyybiceps 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      reidisdoodling same here, i'd pack and i've TRIED but i can tell it's not real and if somebody else could tell that i think i'd die

    • @tinyybiceps
      @tinyybiceps 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lil RE bro i just got this like underwear meant for packing it comes with this foam thing to use as a packer and THE FOAM THING THEY SENT IS TOO BIG BUT THE UNDERWEAR FITS PERFECTLY why can't anything be easy

    • @eugeneder7484
      @eugeneder7484 ปีที่แล้ว

      Put it in a sock, and sew the sock to your underpants. And then he will not slip anywhere.

    • @sand_eater101
      @sand_eater101 ปีที่แล้ว

      I mean I want to, but I feel silly and I’m also afraid that people will notice and ridicule me or just indiscreetly make a face that says “you’re disgusting” (cus in my country people are generally just bad at being discreet when they think something is odd)

  • @sophie4304
    @sophie4304 4 ปีที่แล้ว +555

    Me and my friend who packs went swimming and his packer fell out in the pool and i had to awkwardly hug him and grab his packer from behind me at the same time, it was a mr limpy aha, well he doesn't pack anymore after that

    • @t0kerrr
      @t0kerrr 4 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      Mine fell out while playing softball in PE smh, still everyday pack tho

    • @sophie4304
      @sophie4304 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      @@t0kerrr Awh i hope no one noticed

    • @lucasgreenford5276
      @lucasgreenford5276 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Jay Fleming same although it was table tennis for me aha, I just wouldn’t pack on Tuesdays and Wednesdays to avoid PE. Pack everyday now that I’m in college and don’t do PE anymore

    • @Usernotfound-q3m
      @Usernotfound-q3m 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      ur pfp im sorry😍x

    • @lunawolfheart336
      @lunawolfheart336 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@t0kerrr thats why i dont pack while exercising

  • @rubberduck302
    @rubberduck302 4 ปีที่แล้ว +178

    Your actually so brave Noah, like you literally will speak about anything openly and I really respect that 💙💙

    • @KingQueerio
      @KingQueerio 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Rubber Duck same!

  • @ynnckx5508
    @ynnckx5508 4 ปีที่แล้ว +186

    5:20 main point why I don't pack. It's just a worse feeling than just not packing at all

    • @khoury6791
      @khoury6791 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Samee!!
      I have this
      And body hair shame (?)
      And im also scared to have top surgery in the future and being topless.......... Cuz, same concept.. altho I'd be so fucking happy.. but it's just... Ugh idk nvm

    • @khoury6791
      @khoury6791 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@jaiden4393 SAME MY MOM KEEPS SAYING THAT MY CURVES ARE......... AND IM LIKE UGH GOSH PLEASE STOP AND MY DYSPHORIA JUST SPIKES UP...
      I have really bad top dysphoria and hips dysphoria.. also my voice and my face and my arms and my hands and my fingers and my fricking fingernails and my thighs and my butt, and just EVERYTHING like gosh I wish I could just be cis or at least just a bit taller and more boxy and veiny and idk... I wish my chest was smaller so binding wouldn't be that hard and that I just looked and sounded a bit more masculine........
      (Not saying that you gotta be masculine to be a guy, it's just that *I* wanna be a more stereotypically masculine looking guy...)

    • @khoury6791
      @khoury6791 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jaiden4393 im so sorry dude :( i feel you..
      I rlly hope everything gets better for all of us.

  • @uncannydani1281
    @uncannydani1281 4 ปีที่แล้ว +145

    His look when he looks at his hair is adorable lol

  • @Finn-js1ce
    @Finn-js1ce 4 ปีที่แล้ว +225

    My mom saw my sock packer once and she didn't know I packed occasionally and she asked me if it was a sex toy and I was like Bruh it's a sock do you think I would put that up something

    • @tshred666
      @tshred666 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      S Ward lol, before I learned how to properly masturbate I used to use socks, latex gloves, golf balls, and pillows to fashion myself a makeshift fleshlight. It was an awkward moment when my sister saw me using that once.

    • @candelariamartin5599
      @candelariamartin5599 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@tshred666 ok but golf balls...?

    • @tshred666
      @tshred666 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Candelaria Martin I used it to simulate what I thought it felt like when someone flexed their kegels. Surprisingly I wasn’t far off.

    • @minksrule2196
      @minksrule2196 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tshred666 what's a kegel?

    • @tshred666
      @tshred666 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Minks Rule your pelvic floor muscles.

  • @Emi-kp7wu
    @Emi-kp7wu 4 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    That one piece of hair isn't gonna give up until you just can't see.

  • @lg5872
    @lg5872 4 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    when i first got a bank account, i bought a mr limpy off amazon and i was so nervous my parents were gonna find out lmao

    • @Scott-on2er
      @Scott-on2er 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      dude i want to do that but im so scared my mom or dad is gonna confront mr

  • @noorjongeneel9485
    @noorjongeneel9485 4 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    Thanks for explaining these kind of things! I’m so grateful that I understand the lgbtq+ community so much better than I did before. I always supported it, but never knew a lot about it! So really, thank you Noah!

    • @segiitaff6421
      @segiitaff6421 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      same! i learned so much about other people’s experiences and lgbtq+ stuff in general :)

    • @jw5386
      @jw5386 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for being a good ally! Never stop learning!

    • @noorjongeneel9485
      @noorjongeneel9485 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      James White aww thank you so much! I won’t!

  • @mari014
    @mari014 4 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Babes out there that need to hear this, if you’re packing, PEOPLE CANNOT TELL ITS PACKING, literally I used to worry so much and it took my cis het female friends to tell me “I don’t know why you worry so much, you can’t tell, No one ever looks down there long enough to tell, and if it they did it would be awkward” and idk why I let myself get immersed in the idea that everyone was looking, when no one wants to look down there.

    • @Shannon_Robbie
      @Shannon_Robbie ปีที่แล้ว

      Actually I saw a video that showed a psychological experiment where they could trace eye movement. They showed cis-het men and women a picture of a male and then showed an image of a shitload of red dots on the groin indicating that's where either the men or women were looking. Most people assumed it was the women but in reality, it ended up being the cis-het men that were looking at the groin area of the male pictures they were shown. Mind blown!

  • @yboy317
    @yboy317 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Wearing a binder actually made me more dysphoric when I wear it, just made me 10x more aware about the straps, some shirts you can tell theres soemthign there, and not being able to breathe. I'd constantly be adjusting it, and a lot of people didnt quite understand why I wouldn't wear one but it's just very difficult to wear and it would never be flat enough so it just made me more aware instead of just going on day to day "normal". Now I just wear more layers and its usually "fine" the dysphoria is still there but at least I can breathe. (I also work a lot, so it isnt ideal if I'm working 12-16 hrs. Just wasn't safe.) Dunno if its just me who feelt that way.

  • @kaelin8775
    @kaelin8775 4 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    im nonbinary and i feel similar. i mostly get top dysphoria so I cant wait to get a binder and stuff, but I don't really get bottom dysphoria that often. i do sometimes get a feeling of wanting to pack, and I tried it once and I felt confident and good but also wrong (cause I knew it wasn't a part of me which made me uncomfortable etc.) so yeah

    • @trans_boy_kole7640
      @trans_boy_kole7640 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      In non binary gender fluid. And I get you. My binder is my lifeline. But recently I got my right nipple pierced... Now I can't ware my binder for another 4 moths. So it's back to baggy ass hoddies on my masc days

    • @sorinsantos6802
      @sorinsantos6802 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm not sure what i am at the moment (I just know that my gender assigned at birth is WRONG) but I'm looking to get a binder soon and I'm hella excited 😎😎

  • @ProFriend
    @ProFriend 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Gawd, I love this kid! Smart, funny, and clear-minded.

  • @sophie4304
    @sophie4304 4 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Noah always explains something at the beginning of every video, today he brings up his shirt 😂

  • @uncannydani1281
    @uncannydani1281 4 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    Noah is awesome and I wish I was his friend. He's so down to earth and open? Idk if that's the right word but like he's just great and you can't disagree.

  • @lamename6624
    @lamename6624 4 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    Running with boobs is possibly the worst feeling for me 😑

  • @lucynoseworthy2988
    @lucynoseworthy2988 4 ปีที่แล้ว +125

    Noah: “your bad at climbing”

    • @CJ-eg4ok
      @CJ-eg4ok 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      you're

    • @lucynoseworthy2988
      @lucynoseworthy2988 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      trash rat yes.

    • @pyro2809
      @pyro2809 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      trash rat why?

    • @CJ-eg4ok
      @CJ-eg4ok 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@pyro2809 wdym, why?

    • @pyro2809
      @pyro2809 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      trash rat it’s just a simple spelling mistake

  • @keiths2902
    @keiths2902 4 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    Real talk: why are all the packers so huge????? Even the small ones!

    • @Eeben93
      @Eeben93 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Bestboi packer is pretty nice!

    • @orangesfortropicana4585
      @orangesfortropicana4585 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Probably the same reason condoms have such a wack sizing system

    • @lunawolfheart336
      @lunawolfheart336 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      becuse people think trans guys want giant dick for some reason and forget that theres such thing as small humans

    • @trans_boy_kole7640
      @trans_boy_kole7640 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm 5 foot 9 and I found meany packers your supposed to chart it to your hight and not your body shape or anything... Well I ended up with two that were to big so I went to a different company and guess what... Huuuge. I may be tall for a born femail in Wales but I'm also biult like a bean cane. So it looks sooo out of place. In the end I gave up and made my own 😅

    • @nhmooytis7058
      @nhmooytis7058 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Keith S created by size queens?

  • @Ryan-ci6ni
    @Ryan-ci6ni 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    i was gonna say the ‘it gives me more dysphoria’ thing for the same reason on twitter but thought it would be a stupid thing to say so it’s great to know i’m not the only ones that feels that

  • @cjb4127
    @cjb4127 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I don't really have bottom dysphoria but I like to wear a small sock packer sometimes because I feel like it changes the way you walk. Having something in there makes you take wider strides and it personally helps me when I want to pass better.

  • @pipscarlett3183
    @pipscarlett3183 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    A cis female here just to let u know I appreciate u and thank you for making educational and entertaining videos, I learn a lot from your videos and want to continue learning! Thank you!

  • @Helpfulmelon
    @Helpfulmelon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    So, this is the first video of yours that I've watched, my only other contact with you has been through Evan's channel. And I hope this isn't upsetting or offensive, but I genuinely thought you were MTF Trans that just didn't pass very well. Turns out it's the opposite and you pass so fucking well, holy shit.
    Thank you for the informative video. Keep ballin'

    • @sowhatwearedoomed
      @sowhatwearedoomed 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes , sort of like a flat chested girl . No body hair , no muscle , voice could be male or female . He likes guys . I see a girl . Maybe more T is needed . Or maybe that is the look he is going for . Not trying to put anyone down . Just don’t see much of a change other than losing breast .

  • @nathan_cooper47
    @nathan_cooper47 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I used to be uncomfortable with packing whenever i tried and it would give me more dysphoria just as you said but just recently i got a packer that actually works for me and makes me feel better!!

    • @etherealether
      @etherealether 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wait woah. Can you tell me what packer it is?

    • @nathan_cooper47
      @nathan_cooper47 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ray its the packer gear ultra soft stp. Its super easy to pee with and not heavy and big like a lot of other ones. Also its super cheap so it’s definitely worth trying i think its like $30 or something. I use it with the ‘multi colour packer harness’ on transguy supplys site.

    • @etherealether
      @etherealether 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Nathan Cooper thank you so much!

    • @nathan_cooper47
      @nathan_cooper47 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ray no worries! 😊

  • @nancypaul3524
    @nancypaul3524 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    really glad that you don’t feel dysphoric every day!! it’ll get better ❤️

  • @kai5227
    @kai5227 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I am non binary, so I either pack or bind. I aim to confuse and make the cis-het people not be able to check off the female or male list

  • @Maria-jl7ql
    @Maria-jl7ql 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I am not part of the LGBT+ community but Noah, I love these videos! I am so glad you have grown up in a more open (not fully open yet) world so you can share your experiences with others online. I had no idea what a packer was so thank you for, once again, educating me!

  • @galeforce3192
    @galeforce3192 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Oh, Christ, your comparison to breasts bouncing up and down when you’re running just makes me think of how painful that can get. My breasts are big and sensitive anyway, so that’s just me. Info that no one needed to know but I felt I needed to share anyway because despite being a cis woman, I’m apparently just that uncomfortable about my breasts.
    Anyway, I’m glad that I came across your channel. I’m getting educational videos and perspectives that I’m not getting on other trans channels. I’ve got several FTM and MTF friends and acquaintances, so I love learning about this stuff.

  • @briananderson1739
    @briananderson1739 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    That shirt looks great on you!!!

  • @rei9392
    @rei9392 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I've been binge watching your vids for 3 days now and I think that I'm in love

  • @vivienwhite8362
    @vivienwhite8362 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Sidenote; I seriously love Noah's hair.

  • @kayliniesen
    @kayliniesen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    OKAY YOU HAVE AMAZING TASTE IN MUSIC. I LOVE THOSE ALBUMS IN THE BACK OMFG

  • @WolfSpiritAD
    @WolfSpiritAD 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    OMG You described how I feel so completely. Although I am a bigger guy I also get bottom dysphoria and get a lot of the same feeling about packing. I tried for a time but I am to sensitive down there and having something that wasn't part of my body bouncing around unrealistically, and rubbing and chaffing.. actually made the dysphoria worse. Know that your not alone, and it is good to hear from another who feels a bit similar on that. Although there are time I have considered it, like I would love to be able to go to a pool again and not have worry about looking to flat down there under wet clothing. But for day to day. Most people don;t notice that am missing anything. Also had problem of course where most harnesses didn't sit right on my body shape. Also have had the phantom-dick feeling as early as probably around 5 or 6... I know weird... I didn't know about transgender but I had heard about intersex and was almost convinced that must be what was going on, until the soul crushing puberty hit. Always felt like that would be easier to explain to why I felt this way, than something even I in my logic had trouble understanding at the time.

  • @vyrmu
    @vyrmu 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    We've had pretty similar experiences haha!
    I think once you get far enough in your transition you become more comfortable in yourself and might not need or feel the want to pack. I used to pack every day and now out of a mix of laziness, comfort in myself, and the discomfort of packing itself I just... don't. I used to feel people would clock me if there was nothing there, turns out no-one notices really. Passing, in general, I've stopped fussing over, I'm male and finally don't feel I have to crop my hair super short to not confuse people. Sadly still looking perpetually 16 at 26 though!

  • @atransguy8159
    @atransguy8159 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I hear a lot of you guys talking about your packers falling out and things like that, the answer to that is wearing tighter underwear ESPECIALLY when swimming but what I find that helps is wearing a specific brand of underwear when swimming(PSD) it doesn't have a pouch but I usually just put the packer right on top of my area and then I put my trunks on, but what's important is making sure it has that net and it's tight enough against your thighs, I have been swimming in crazy waters and have had absolutely no problem with it even shifting out of place when swimming. As for exercise I usually do almost the same thing, I wear tight underwear with the hole in it since it provides a resting place and it's not rubbing against my legs and then I put PSD underwear over it and it doesn't shift at all and I probably have to move it like once or twice(and I play pretty street basketball). While I use PSD underwear it might not be an option for all as one pair is $25 but if you buy it during sales they can go down to as low as $5-15. The underwear is 100% comfortable and I definitely suggest you get it but if not there are other types you can buy as long as it's compressed. Another thing if you play sports or run you can get compression shorts or compression tights which is almost the same as what I was saying. If you have any questions or anything like that in the comments I can be of help as I tried almost everything to find a comfortable fit for me.

  • @stutter._.bug16
    @stutter._.bug16 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    I use a sock or a water balloon when I get really dysphoric

    • @molliebuckley8357
      @molliebuckley8357 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I can just imagine the water balloon popping sorry

    • @stutter._.bug16
      @stutter._.bug16 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Mollie Buckley it did, it got a tiny hole and it felt so weird

    • @whitenoise3447
      @whitenoise3447 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Azi_ Playz u peed ur pants lol

    • @lunawolfheart336
      @lunawolfheart336 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      a watter balloon sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. imagine it randonly popping.

    • @stutter._.bug16
      @stutter._.bug16 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      luna Fairywolf aha it did but I was desperate and cuz it had water in it felt like the closest thing to what I was aiming for

  • @loganryan5478
    @loganryan5478 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    OH BOY the last reason really hit hard, i feel this way about everything related to trans issues being pre-op + only on T for a couple of months

  • @mallord7625
    @mallord7625 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    5:20 is the main reason I don’t pack too often. It’s so unfair, to want something you feel that’s missing, but when you try to fix it you only feel worse.

  • @becklong5111
    @becklong5111 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    My dyslexic ass looking at his T-shirt:
    La mé? Like French? What....

  • @quill9301
    @quill9301 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I stopped packing when my sock bulge ended up falling out while I was doing yard work
    In front of the neighbors...

  • @Felixiroflife28
    @Felixiroflife28 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I’m exactly the same, I’ve been transitioning for over 5 years and packing always makes me MORE dysphoric. I haven’t ruled out bottom surgery at some point in the future but I’m low key worried that if I can’t pack bottom surgery isn’t something I should consider 😅

  • @judexxxxxx
    @judexxxxxx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel exactly the same. I even bought underwear with a packer in already & that's much more comfy and less awkward but the fact that other people who know I'm trans would see that makes me feel WEIRD.

  • @LiamMagan
    @LiamMagan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I mostly stopped packing because I realized that I was just doing it for other people... I'd only wear it when I left the house and immediately took it out when I got home. It stopped helping my dysphoria and started creating it. Another thing that always made me self conscious of it was being around people who knew I was trans and/or knew me before transitioning and having them see it or feel it when we hugged and them knowing it was fake.... that really made me the weirdest about it. I was also always so insecure about how it looked or if it looked unnatural. Way too much anxiety about it. Now it's been over two years since I wore one and I feel ten times better about myself.

  • @meganhulings9670
    @meganhulings9670 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have a lot of bottom dysphoria, too, I'm relieved to hear I'm not the only one who feels weird about that area and about packers, too.

  • @brookea.harris5199
    @brookea.harris5199 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    wow noah your form has changed so much you are so masculine your arms and shoulders dang you look amazing

  • @mariom6884
    @mariom6884 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Noah,your true is always there for us.You’re just a wonderful human being,helping and informing us like nobody else in this matter.Thank you so much.Love you and respect you from Brazil.

  • @moondragon8491
    @moondragon8491 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Noah I was looking so forward to the play-doh story and you didn't tell it ;)

  • @felixdraconic
    @felixdraconic 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    7:39 Supernumerary Phantom Limbs, its when someone believes and receives sensory information from body parts that where never there, it sometimes happens to people after they have a stroke, and therians and otherkin also experience supernumerary phantom limbs, which is super interesting to me.

  • @joliencazaux2620
    @joliencazaux2620 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think it is great you talk about this, i can imagine there are a lot of really really young trans man feeling like they are supposed to do it just bc, while in reality think the samee way as you. this could make them see it is okay

  • @ssg2689
    @ssg2689 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    HOLY shit, remember when Corry injected him that one time?- HOW IS THAT THE SAME SHIRT???

  • @leoosafernandez7246
    @leoosafernandez7246 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hello Mr Finnce,
    This was a really interesting video, i personally don't have bottom dysphoria but i was thinking to start packing lately, like how you sayed, make myself more confortable so thank you very much for the information!

    • @sobennison7344
      @sobennison7344 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Omg he talks like a boomer writing a letter.

    • @leoosafernandez7246
      @leoosafernandez7246 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sobennison7344 i kinda did not gonna lie

  • @leahhakem7156
    @leahhakem7156 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ive tried sock packing it was uncomfortable and i had to adjust it too often and but it did make me less dysphoric, the thought of me doing it gave me dysphoria because its a constant reminder that its not an exiting limb i was born with.

  • @rubyrudd1502
    @rubyrudd1502 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So glad to hear that other people experience more dysphoria while packing :'^)
    Just the feeling of it down there and how fake it feels is just so upsetting sometimes
    I basically only pack with soft cup packers, and only when my pants are tight enough in public lmao

  • @nindigo2038
    @nindigo2038 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just wanted to let you know that my man doesn't sport any noticable pack outside of intimate situations, but it grows to a proper beast that I can only just take, when it needs to. I really appreciate how that works. Cheers!

  • @sebastian-elias804
    @sebastian-elias804 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If anything I'm struggling to find a smaller packer. I love packing and it makes me feel great and confident but I'm very small so even a 5" packer is too big sometimes.

  • @lvca1140
    @lvca1140 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    First like then watch! love you 💙

  • @intessign543
    @intessign543 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    i feel big pp by being here early except im not which is the problem im watching a video about packing

  • @maxcruz5936
    @maxcruz5936 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone talk about why they won’t put something in their pants.....was great video

  • @Nyanwroo
    @Nyanwroo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I realised after half a second of my brain comically halting with a scratched record noise that you said "for some people it's a crutch" not "for some people it's a crotch" x'D

  • @DeadChannelLol
    @DeadChannelLol 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It’s 1:30 am
    I have a 3 hour art exam in the morning
    I’m AMAB
    Why am I watching this

  • @Hannah-se1uw
    @Hannah-se1uw 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm a trans guy and I pass pretty well to people idk. I'm out to nobody tho so it's a pain... especially when I go to public toilets, as I'm not out, I go to the women's bathroom and girls always look at me weird... idk what to do, I hate going too girls rest rooms cuz I'm a dude but I've also never been into a male bathroom so... I'm scared that they might stair or know that I'm a "girl" and idk how to act or I don't want awkward stuff to happen... help me please hahaha

    • @zyrota4295
      @zyrota4295 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ya same ever time I am afraid that someone will call me out.

    • @Hannah-se1uw
      @Hannah-se1uw 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jamesb4898 Who are u to speek over us??

  • @user-gt6oh5jx6l
    @user-gt6oh5jx6l 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That feeling of it falling out, or people knowing its fake, is how I feel when I pack bras and go in public.

  • @LexxSun
    @LexxSun 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "ima be talking about having boobs right now" 4:02 he says, giving me like two milliseconds to scramble to push the pause, I mean I appreciate the warning dude but like still gave me a near heart-attack

  • @shenlee2781
    @shenlee2781 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel odd that I've never had those embarrassing packer moments. Never had it fall out or look unrealistic. Also never understood why guys buy such big packers to use daily.

  • @lijstoneee5869
    @lijstoneee5869 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Wow! Didn’t have a clue that you’re trans, the change is amazing

  • @marik818
    @marik818 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    4:35 I dont pack for the same reason... bc it makes my dysphoria worse, like you said, it reminds me constantly of what I dont have

  • @LGBTR3naissance
    @LGBTR3naissance 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for the video Noah. Even though I can't relate to it, it's great you talk about this stuff as it is relevant and certainly needs to be understood. Keep going strong mate!

  • @lucassmith7726
    @lucassmith7726 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    You saying "have a good day or don't" reminded me that I said that to Jude Law on a dream yesterday. Now I know why I said goodbye to him that way.

  • @Levi_is_Smol
    @Levi_is_Smol 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    If someone wants a packer that doesn't have a chance falling out, I recommend the one from Tranpa himself, Buck Angel. He made a packer that can't fall out because you can attach it to your body, or something. Just go to his website. I really wanna buy that packer, but I don't have the money at the time.

    • @Oliver-nh9oo
      @Oliver-nh9oo ปีที่แล้ว

      Have you got it yet just wondering if it's any good

  • @jungebuecher
    @jungebuecher 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey Noah! I have the same issue with packers that they increase my dysphoria, because you can literally FEEL that there is something fake in the pants. But I found a good solution for me: I use foam inserts that were designed for cis-guys and their swimming trunks. I don't feel that they are there and when I look down, everything looks they way is should look. Maybe you would like to give it a try. I feel so much better now that I found them. :)

  • @MissterClown
    @MissterClown 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Never felt that good with a packer , i felt so self conscious and when my friends made ´´dick jokes´´ i felt exposed ... i couldnt really walk normally, or run or just like be there xD , i had alot of sleepovers in the time i did pack so i used to sleep with the damn thing ... it was horrible in a lot of levels

  • @leowest4623
    @leowest4623 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Heavily suggest buying a gendercat self adhesive packer. I went from socks (safety pinned at the top and the bottom) to the gendercat and it is awesome!

  • @theviewfromthesummit
    @theviewfromthesummit 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Yay it's Noah.😊

  • @BellySausage1965
    @BellySausage1965 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yeah!!! Packing makes me way more dysphoric because it’s like,,,,, I wouldn’t have to do this. Exactly!

  • @TheDorkEvilOne
    @TheDorkEvilOne 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I only have mild top dysphoria (wish they were smaller/less noticable not totally gone) but I do have bottom dysphoria, & I have yet to find the most comfortable way to pack. When I was younger, I went too thick with a roll of socks & it was painfully digging into my pubic bone & gave me a disproportionately massive bulge. & it felt unsafe since I didn't pass in any other way. Now I'm 36 & I'd prefer something small & hardly visible to other people, bc it's solely for my comfort.

  • @henryhoorray
    @henryhoorray 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh damn this video describes all the reasons why I don't feel like packing, I can totally relate.
    Except for the fact that I don't always pass as a guy, especially when I start speaking;-;
    Pls let me vent about my stepdad saying that he doesn't think I'm trans and not boyish enough, which pisses me off cuz it's already pretty hard without him telling me that. He's not a bad guy, I swear but he can't understand the feelings of others.
    Sorry again for venting, it's just really frustrating because I feel super comfortable and confident identifying as a guy and he's like "Are you sure you wanna be a dude, cuz for me you're not really a boy and maybe you should just be smth in between. "

  • @ellis1034
    @ellis1034 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your hair really looks so good in this video

  • @quinn--as--in--he--him
    @quinn--as--in--he--him 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    me and my therapist spent 20 minuets in one of my sessions discussing and laughing about the possibility of my packer falling out whilst i was walking down the street. was a very good session- 20/10! humor is great!

  • @oliviamooy1205
    @oliviamooy1205 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really care about you and am so glad that you are being youre authentic self

  • @farmboytoby245
    @farmboytoby245 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Hio
    I DM ed u earlyer You should react to homophobia’s meet LGBTQ’s
    Love ur confidence on cam and content

  • @PocketSizedOwlHikari
    @PocketSizedOwlHikari 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I go through phases where I pack all the time, and other phases where I only pack when I'm wearing tighter jeans. Sometimes it makes me feel comfortable and confident and feel like it's the one thing that would give me away if I wasn't packing, then other times where... the fact I can feel it as a separate object in my pants touching me makes me feel more dysphoric.

  • @algriffin7630
    @algriffin7630 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Noah standing makes me more nervous than my anxiety makes me

  • @MissJazz004
    @MissJazz004 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Completely unrelated: Who is the cardboard cutout between the guitars in the background? Kinda looks like Danny DeVito.

  • @kieranrussell3507
    @kieranrussell3507 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey noah, can you cover My love - Sia again? I'd love to hear a full version with your low voice!

  • @nadineduran3806
    @nadineduran3806 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    There’s these boxers that kalvin Garrah wears wear you put the packer inside the pocket of the boxers. It’s secure and you don’t have to adjust it every time u use the restroom. It’s also comfortable.

  • @DJ-lc5wy
    @DJ-lc5wy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I tried to pack my freshman year of college for a part that I played in a musical. I absolutely hated it, and only did it for one scene in the musical. Much like Noah, it made me feel more dysphoric to wear the packer than it made me feel to not wear it. Also, I'm nonbinary, so while I'm not in love with my genitals, I also don't want a dick. Also, I don't pass, even when I try my hardest to present masculinely, so a packer wouldn't help me and might actually harm me. Sooooooo yeah, thanks for validating my feelings Noah!

    • @dumbass_pml1199
      @dumbass_pml1199 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      D J nice pfp my friend

    • @etherealether
      @etherealether 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I thought you were going to say it fell out during the musical and I got REALLY scared. Anyways, what musical was it?

    • @DJ-lc5wy
      @DJ-lc5wy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@etherealether It was Spring Awakening. I played Otto.

    • @etherealether
      @etherealether 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      D J oh wow that’s really cool!

  • @nicholasalmonte3254
    @nicholasalmonte3254 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    i'm quite short so even the reelmagik soft packer just feels HUGE for me and I get so self-conscious. If I move too much or squat, the packer just does a backflip and it makes me INCREDIBLY UNCOMFORTABLE to have to adjust my dick constantly and in public. I just wish there was better stuff for us short guys and better packers that you can stick to yourself.

  • @heal7441
    @heal7441 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    You should do stand up! You're hella funny and the way you deliver your story is very good! 🔥🔥