Dr. Ablon, Great Talk! I've been employing the CPS method (Plan B) for 5 years with my 22, 16, 10 and 8 yr old. We have all become more compassionate and connected to each other. Please continue to soldier on and to publish more of your talks.
So wonderful! Absolutely beautiful. Empathy and love, Hand and hand. So incredible! Hope this video spreads more. It Absolutely should have more views!! ♡♡♡♡
I hope this video is seen by more people. Thank you Dr Stuart, you gave those behavior challenging kids a voice, a very important one. We as adults are responsible to do everything we can to understand their development delay, to educate ourselves, and to better assist them.
Wow! This really resonated with me in so many ways, and brought up memories of my own upbringing and how I brought my kids up (logical and natural consequences were the be all and end all of child management back in the day). Brilliant presentation, lots of food for thought and ideas on how to explore a different way of building relationships with others. Bravo!
I am curious about how the approach (or IF the approach) works to address that "impulse control" challenge. Is it possible that some kids will always struggle with impulse control because of brain differences that cannot be changed? Or perhaps the approach isn't meant to change impulse control, but to at least assist with finding solutions for the ways in which impulse control negatively affects a person and others.
All this physiology is perfect. Because it’s love. Compassion and patience. Knowledge and understanding working hand and hand to build relationships...Jesus Christ taught all of these things. Forgiveness and love. Jesus Christ has the authority and power to help those whom seek Him. He is Gods Son. He was made flesh to teach us and give us life. There is no reason why science psychology and realism wont line up with God. Infact they all compliment each other. Actual science and realism point to a creator. He is love, wisdom, power. He created us to behave how this teaching suggests.
How do you teach them coping skills and learning adapt to life and working with people in public/ school setting if you have to baby step them through why they are not cooperating with other people and doing what they need to do to accomplish tasks assigned and if their way does not accomplish what needs to be done and results in them falling farther behind . So Plan B will result in a Half Baked Solution that allows them to limp along and not be successful in life.
so if you do the CPS model correctly, you will mainly be using Plan B. Plan B is working with the child to solve specific problems. Using this technique long-term actually builds the skills that the child is lacking. So at the start, there might be (for example) a list of 10 specific problems, behaviours and the associated skills that are lacking. Over time that list of problems gets smaller as the skills are increased as the better skills the kid has lead to fewer problems that lead to challenging behaviour. A long-term goal is that it also teaches the child how to self-reflect so they can eventually work out and solve problems without the need for a parent, educator etc. They will end up being more compassionate to other people they encounter who are clearly having issues in life. If all we do is continue with Plan A (imposing our will on them) to meet our expectations then what happens when they are adults without clear expectations from people around them. You end up with adults who are lost in life, need a dominant partner to lead them, and need a boss at work to impose their will on them. They have severe problem-solving issues as an adult. Why, because they were not taught to problem solve. Plan B doesn't result in a half-baked solution if done correctly. If the traditional methods worked then challenging behaviour in schools would have decreased over the last 3 decades. Instead, it has increased. For schools, plan B long-term means fewer resources being spent on individual kids. They develop the skills they are lacking. They can solve problems easier. They need much less support from staff, classes aren't disrupted and teachers suffer from far less stress. The CPS model is a win-win for everyone involved.
I think the speaker should consider studying operant learning more than just by dusting off an old textbook or reading Alfie Kohn's Punished by Rewards book. His superficial dismissal of operant learning is surprising given it uses the scientific method and has considerable research that demonstrates its effectiveness for basic and more complex tasks, sensitization, etc. This approach also has a philosophy and it is behaviorism.
Do you deal with a child who is a Dr. Ablon subject?? His methodology helps me in dealing with my child whereas I don't think behaviorism would work...
In the longer trainings given by Dr. A and others from his organization, we spend a good deal more time unpacking operant approaches. He doesn't totally dismiss them, rather suggests that when you look at their intention/design, it's clear that people use operant approaches in the wrong ways, expecting outcomes that aren't very likely. No flaw of operant approaches, just a misapplication.
Dr. Ablon, Great Talk! I've been employing the CPS method (Plan B) for 5 years with my 22, 16, 10 and 8 yr old. We have all become more compassionate and connected to each other. Please continue to soldier on and to publish more of your talks.
So wonderful! Absolutely beautiful. Empathy and love, Hand and hand. So incredible! Hope this video spreads more. It Absolutely should have more views!! ♡♡♡♡
Wonderful way to think about a troubled kid. Kids do well if they can!! I learn so much from this video. Thank you so much for sharing!!!
I hope this video is seen by more people. Thank you Dr Stuart, you gave those behavior challenging kids a voice, a very important one. We as adults are responsible to do everything we can to understand their development delay, to educate ourselves, and to better assist them.
Wow! This really resonated with me in so many ways, and brought up memories of my own upbringing and how I brought my kids up (logical and natural consequences were the be all and end all of child management back in the day). Brilliant presentation, lots of food for thought and ideas on how to explore a different way of building relationships with others. Bravo!
Understanding what's getting in the way is a good way to determine solutions to misbehavior.
Loved this seminar! So much info! 😊👍👏
Wow. What a talk. You have become one of my favorite speakers. This should be made compulsory viewing for all parents. Thank You.
This was amazing!!!
Sensational talk. Is there a PDF to go with this?
Brilliant!
Thank you
Marking 1:19 in video
Collaborating thinking
I am curious about how the approach (or IF the approach) works to address that "impulse control" challenge. Is it possible that some kids will always struggle with impulse control because of brain differences that cannot be changed? Or perhaps the approach isn't meant to change impulse control, but to at least assist with finding solutions for the ways in which impulse control negatively affects a person and others.
I work with kids who have intellectual and developmental disabilities. Would this approach need to be different or appropriate for them?
Everyone should really go support the actual creator of this model: Dr Ross Greene. His intellectual property was stolen by MGH.
All this physiology is perfect. Because it’s love. Compassion and patience. Knowledge and understanding working hand and hand to build relationships...Jesus Christ taught all of these things. Forgiveness and love. Jesus Christ has the authority and power to help those whom seek Him. He is Gods Son. He was made flesh to teach us and give us life. There is no reason why science psychology and realism wont line up with God. Infact they all compliment each other. Actual science and realism point to a creator. He is love, wisdom, power. He created us to behave how this teaching suggests.
Jesus taught humility. This parenting lesson is on humility. All relationships require humility to build and accomplish productive harmony.
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How do you teach them coping skills and learning adapt to life and working with people in public/ school setting if you have to baby step them through why they are not cooperating with other people and doing what they need to do to accomplish tasks assigned and if their way does not accomplish what needs to be done and results in them falling farther behind . So Plan B will result in a Half Baked Solution that allows them to limp along and not be successful in life.
so if you do the CPS model correctly, you will mainly be using Plan B. Plan B is working with the child to solve specific problems. Using this technique long-term actually builds the skills that the child is lacking. So at the start, there might be (for example) a list of 10 specific problems, behaviours and the associated skills that are lacking. Over time that list of problems gets smaller as the skills are increased as the better skills the kid has lead to fewer problems that lead to challenging behaviour. A long-term goal is that it also teaches the child how to self-reflect so they can eventually work out and solve problems without the need for a parent, educator etc. They will end up being more compassionate to other people they encounter who are clearly having issues in life. If all we do is continue with Plan A (imposing our will on them) to meet our expectations then what happens when they are adults without clear expectations from people around them. You end up with adults who are lost in life, need a dominant partner to lead them, and need a boss at work to impose their will on them. They have severe problem-solving issues as an adult. Why, because they were not taught to problem solve. Plan B doesn't result in a half-baked solution if done correctly. If the traditional methods worked then challenging behaviour in schools would have decreased over the last 3 decades. Instead, it has increased. For schools, plan B long-term means fewer resources being spent on individual kids. They develop the skills they are lacking. They can solve problems easier. They need much less support from staff, classes aren't disrupted and teachers suffer from far less stress. The CPS model is a win-win for everyone involved.
I think the speaker should consider studying operant learning more than just by dusting off an old textbook or reading Alfie Kohn's Punished by Rewards book. His superficial dismissal of operant learning is surprising given it uses the scientific method and has considerable research that demonstrates its effectiveness for basic and more complex tasks, sensitization, etc. This approach also has a philosophy and it is behaviorism.
Chris Sturm "operant learning?" Or "operant conditioning?"
Do you deal with a child who is a Dr. Ablon subject?? His methodology helps me in dealing with my child whereas I don't think behaviorism would work...
In the longer trainings given by Dr. A and others from his organization, we spend a good deal more time unpacking operant approaches. He doesn't totally dismiss them, rather suggests that when you look at their intention/design, it's clear that people use operant approaches in the wrong ways, expecting outcomes that aren't very likely. No flaw of operant approaches, just a misapplication.
Why are police in school with children?