He's going to need years of therapy to overcome his childhood trauma. As a survivor (myself) of parental neglect and subsequent abuse by predators who took advantage of my vulnerability, it has taken me years to stabilize. My heart goes out to him - he is showing classic signs of PTSD. Chude, please if you are reading this, assure Ifan that it is a sign of strength NOT weakness to seek professional help. If he doesn't deal with his foundation now, his 'success' might be short-lived. I've been there; my successes kept crashing until I stepped aside to revisit my past trauma.
I suffered a lot of neglect too. Rejection and a lot of false allegations from those that were meant to protect me. Painful but a lot of it was from and in the church... Tongue speaking Christians..
Thank you Chude. This is one of a program that will help both young men and women who were sexually abuse in their tenage age to come out and speak up. Because many of them are living in pains. Myself am one . Was sexually molested by my Uncle and even at 37yrs, I still feel that pain. And I intend to open a radio station in my Country and be the voice for many of those that couldn't speak up for themselves.
just wanna take this moment to say, Lord thank you for giving me the best parent in the world looking out for my ungrateful ass, Hope he gets all the healing
This is a very heartbreaking story. I’m happy he’s been able to turn his pain to something positive ( film making). He still needs to see a therapist. It’s very important even though he may think otherwise. God bless him. Well done Chude!🙌🏽
In my career life, I have been opportune to work with a lot of young people in the sex work and gay community and I can say categorically that poverty, parental neglect and abuse more often drives young people into being continuously sexually abused. It's a sad reality but unfortunately it will get bigger in our society. What I struggle to understand is the extent of inhumanity, hypocrisy and callousness of adults in our society. Why can't people just help children for the sake of helping?
He still needs to go for therapy....he is still very vulnerable... please uncle Chude ..he needs to. He is hiding under work and achievement...he is yet to heal ..God bless you uncle Chude!
This is the story of so many other children and young adults in Africa. Extensive therapy will be needed for a long time. I am in tears just watching. Praying for continue healing ❤️🩹
I am so confused. How is a 10 yr old doing all these. Something is missing in this story. I get the impression this Obi was also in the Nigerian film industry.
Ifan, your are a survivor and not a victim. You are a star like you said. I must say that this interview was therapeutic but you still need to see a professional therapist. It is not a sign of weakness but it will help you heal further. The sky is your starting point.
I appreciate your journey and truth, Ifeanyi. You're truly a survival and thanks for helping others walk through life challenges. Even, the chidima girl who assisted Ifeanyi has a good heart to have accommodated him against the odds of her profession. Chidima was also a victim o circumstance, who couldn't tell her success storieslike Ifeanyi an probablydidn't get help to comeout of her helpless circumstances. Chude, thanks for helping others to tell their stories and strengthening others to accept that volunerability is part of our humanity.
Mr chude I really appreciate what you do,always their for those neglected, I really feel for IFAN,I'm still passing through healing myself been neglected by my family at a very young age,saying I'm worthless,had to run away from home travelled to a far away country were I was sold for sex,had to give in to any man promising marriage,just for an escape out of camp.And till now still finding it hard to love anyone even myself.i pray we all heal.
Thanks for this intensive and patient interview Mr Chude, but I feel this young man is still trying to protect his abusers. He needs to be free by voicing out completely and then get a therapist. I hope he's still not dweling in his past life style thinking its beyond him. He can conquer this journey of pain yes its possible. Such a heart breaking story. #thanksforhelpingpeoplehealfromtheirhurts.
I cried watching him talk about what he went through at that young age… So much pain is bottled up inside of him that he doesn’t even know… He still needs therapy,I hope he accepts therapy to reduce his pain and heal because he is still vulnerable and he thinks he can do this on his own but he still needs so much help and positive support to heal completely
My own is, that wicked & evil uncle Obi needs to be arrested; that's if he's still alive, hopefully not preying on anyone... I noticed he dodged the question about him, maybe somewhat still protecting him, somewhat expected & understandable. I also know he said he's over it but we all saw how he broke down and I get it, we always have to respect people's boundaries. He has to come to that decision of seeking professional help himself. I pray he finds peace. Shalom
This is deep!!! People goes through stuffs... so sorry ifeanyi for all u ve been thru..... Weldon Jude ......I suggest maybe you have a qualified therapist at hand on any of ur shots to support these guys. I'm sending my love❤❤❤❤❤
Hmmmm no words to describe what IFAN had been through from the age of 10, very heartbreaking ❤️🩹 for someone to abuse a minor just because the child can’t help himself ??? It beats me honestly. If he had helped this young man by giving him a decent life/future wouldn’t he be proud of the man IFAN has become today! He would be mentioned in his success story. God bless you IFAN for sharing your story, I was very emotional throughout the interview. Chude pls pls pls he needs therapy, he sees you as a mentor pls talk to him to see a therapist so that he can heal properly. He used his talent and work to heal, but I think he needs help, professional help. Love ❤️ and light 💡 IFAN you are indeed a STAR ⭐️
I am traumatised!!! I wish I can tale a legal action against that good for nothing guy that violated this minor at the time.please Chude, that "brother" whatever can't just go free!!why!!
This story is horrible but Ifeanyi needs therapy so he can heal and change his mindset. He should learn to have boundaries. His parents failed to give him that and this makes him very vulnerable.
Wow?!.. This is our Nigeria where there are so many creatives yet so many damaged & broken souls but, our society teaches us to get on with it, move on, keep hustling and gain "accolades" without a "safe space" to share and without judgment. Chude, you are truly a gift to this generation and beyond. You gave Ifan his first "therapy session" without him realising. .. Sometimes therapy for our community comes in the form of friends, family, mentors and even strangers. The most important things are being able to share, not bottling it all up and not letting the trauma define us.
My only suggestion would be to take off the background music. Also, I would love to hear the interviewees speak more BUT I appreciate the delicate subject matters you allow your guests to share
heart breaking !!!despite the lack of accuracy in the age he's giving . I mean if the condition back home with his parents was this bad , how then was he at 10 able to afford to buy a cellphone, own a number , that he couldn't use eventually to reach out to the so called marketer who invited him to Lagos??.. ..
It seems you did not listen to the story correctly. Nigeria moved from the days of phone booths and it was much later everyone could afford phones. He never mentioned that he owned a phone but clearly mentioned that the marketer's phone was switched off. Please try and show more empathy to someone who has come on air to say 'his truths'. I am also a molestation(no sex) survivor and could only speak up about it to family after 14years(2021). The person denied it but my cousin also went through same in the house. I wish I had spoken up earlier as it would have helped saved sibling and mother rivalry/strife now . But there was no evidence and it would just have been brushed off as 'can't your brother-in-law be caring again' especially for a quiet person like me. I am just saying let's be sensitive with our comments. Thank you.
Chude, this young man needs help. Watching this interview was really difficult, there's so much bottled up in him, please encourage him to speak with a therapist.
Imagine the level of respect that man would have earned if he helped that little boy. That is why I don't pity some people when I see them suffering because most times it's karma that has caught up with some of these people you see suffering. I pray God heals his heart and soul,more blessings.
Who’s gon interview chude??? I’m interested in hearing chude’s story, I know deep down he has a story he has never shared!! I love you chude ,I love how therapeutic your interviews re to this persons!!!! TELL us your story ♥️
You have made it and that is the most important thing. God will continue to see you through. You need to go to rehab counseling and therapy for healing. Wishing you the best. Do not lose focus. So sad.
The guy is full of emotions. This is a sign that he is yet to heal from those traumatic experiences he went through. He needs a therapist because he hasn't moved on as he made said. Because of his emotions, Chude wasn't totally in control of the interview. Yes he wanted to hear him out but the guest ended up repeating himself over and over again. He messed up the interview with his frequent emotional outbursts. So many questions begging for answers here. His parents separated and he wasn't able to follow either of them, why? Why did he run away from home? After OPC guys, what happened? How many years did you stay with Bros Obi the Barber? At what point in your life did you meet Chude that gave you a rare opportunity to showcase yourself? Where are your parents now? Etcetera etcetera.
I honestly think Ifan needs help. It’s good he’s talking about it because that’s a step. That trauma was too much mehnnnn... I’m so proud of him and I hope Chidinma sees what he’s doing and she’s proud too. God bless you Ifan
But IFAN need a therapist. Help him get one . He need to be heal. Untill you go through sexual abuse, You will not understand the deep hurt this young man is feeling
I pick many inconsistencies in this story, the story does not add up in many parts. Sorry if you had this aweful abuse, i hope he is getting professional help too.
I agree with you. Sad story but at 10 he travelled to Enugu. he had a phone? he travelled to Lagos? he had a film story? ..its a sad story but confusing
I agree with the comments that he still needs therapy. If he is this emotional. He got jealous now the guy is sleeping with a woman! So much happened because once he was introduced into that kind of lifestyle, he continued!! How is his life now!! This guy needs help Chude. The interview is great but he needs to get back into normal life!!
Yes I feel the same way. He went through a lot,I am so angry that someone as young as that could go through that much and his parents didnt even care to know if he was alive. He is still healing but I feel he needs therapy but I know he can never be a straight man again because he is gay.
This is tough to watch, i have always wondered why great people always suffer greatly before they achieve success....you can name them oprah winfrey, tyler perry Joseph in the bible etc even our own brother Shaggi....it just goes to prove that the law of averages is always at work in all our lifes....it simply says, things would have to get worse before it gets better
Oh my God! Ifan needs to get professional help to go through his past pain. The reason his parents are still alive today and his relationship with them seems scared. I pray he heals.
My late parents told me, as a child growing up, we always have a choice but may not want to choose that choice. It is sad he has to endure what he did, and I do hope he receives therapy. Him being molested did not make him gay, there must have been some subconscious tendencies there to even agree sleeping with another male from the get go. He expressed his jealousy after discovering Obi resorted to sleeping with a female. My heart bleeds for him, abandoned by useless parents and failed by the other adults around him. I deal with cases as such daily. Please get help and continue living your best life Ifan!
I hope the guy overcomes the trauma..he should reconcile with God to find total.peace and eliminate that feeling of guilt he is still having..most people that are abused are damaged psychologically and either become gay/lesbians due to the trauma..Wicked people including child molesters will never go unpunished
Sorry to say the video edit is bad the jump cut in between shots while speaking isn't working for those of us with glasses.Just an honest feedback from 3:10-4:18 thanks you chude for this interview
Ifan pls talk about it, open up. Tell ppl close 2u about it ,maybe seek help professionally, get it out of ur mind. It helps with healing.May God help u. I wish u were my friend. How cud any sane parent abandon a 10yr old 4any reason ? Imagine not going 2sch, yet u dey manage 2speak well lik dis. U try my brother. Imagine how hurt he is, evn after all diz years ! Fuck mehn !!
This is more like an eye opener to parents and parents to be, if you can't raise a child don't bring dem into d world. This guys still need to see therapist, and I pray God heal his pain because this is alot to bear for a child and now his a man and still feeling the pain.
How does a 10yrs old child head all the way to lagos with no one accompanying him hey guys am I the only one thinking this is too heavy to understand?I think this guy needs a strong therapeutic help honestly i see him living in a strong childhood trauma he might not know it but he needs help.
Some parents are so irresponsible. I see kids less than 10 years selling and begging in traffic in Accra. Every evening they sleep at different parts of the city. It happens so much
This guy clearly was not really ready for this yet. He should have been fully briefed that you are more interested in his childhood trauma than in his present success and given him a choice of which one he prefers to talk about on camera. He wanted to talk more about his achievements and he clearly bottled up a lot inside. To be honest, I felt he was Ill-prepared and he should have been shielded from the toxic Shame he felt. Secondly, I think due to the abuse, his lifestyle is somewhat distorted. He doesn’t feel much of a sense of guilt because he has normalised the situation as something to be expected from the life of a hustler. Through no fault of his, he might still be indulging in that type of lifestyle as it’s addictive, hence, talking about it made him feel extremely uncomfortable. In actual fact Chude should have picked this up and stopped completely. It’s very much unlike other free-flowing interviews because the others seem to have dealt with their trauma and were prepared to use it to help others. They have been able to heal, detach themselves from it and seen the perpetrators as the villains but he sees his abusers as helpers. That speaks volumes. I just pray that he sees this for what it was and gets help. Also for him not to think it’s okay to carry on in that path as a means of success and a quick-door opener to fame. Saying “he has gone past that” for him can be interpreted as he has adapted to such lifestyle not necessarily that he has left that lifestyle behind I truly hope he finds all the help that he needs. Especially divine help for total deliverance and liberation. He has done so well for himself though and clearly a very gifted and talented. Clearly being watched over by God who needs him and his life story to help others. I pray that through his full story, closure and total healing with come to him and everyone who reads/hears his story. Let’s carry on praying for him pls
Yeah he wasn't ready. And I feel chude was pushing him too much. He has a sense of respect for Chude so I guess he had to keep going. He's probably going to get home and cry more from the past he just opened forcefully.
Honestly as difficult as it was for him to relive that childhood trauma that has been bottled up for so long. He wanted to talk about it and that's why he did. Chudi stopped twice and I'm sure there must have been conversations behind the scene to check on his ability to continue with the disclosure. What he did right there isn't shame, it is called release, he finally could release all the pain he has bottled up. It was a difficult session but it os the beginning of his healing, with the right help and with tiime he will speak with no more tears, he will be able to straighten his distorted view of why the abuse occurred. I pray his journey to recovery is not long. I pray he continues to do well in life and forgive all who took advantage of him. His ability to speak this publicly is grace that will give hope to others. He was only a child, I pray the perpetrators also see this interview and see the pain they've caused others. Thank you Ifan for the courage to speak your pain and share that part of your life, I belive you are healed spirit, soul and body in Jesus name.
Hmmm, honestly am worried really do. Finding it turf to learn that Nigeria is this bad and morally rotten. I find it hard to wrap my head round all he said that all these artrocities are in naija. Short of words. That is to say there are several gays in Nigeria than you can imagine
Rather unfortunate, men go through all this and hardly talk about it. They suffer in silence and turn it on other women because they didn’t receive any psychological treatment to deal with the void created. As a result, they end up liking sex but hating women. It’s time to get the abused men to also speak 🗣 out.
He's going to need years of therapy to overcome his childhood trauma. As a survivor (myself) of parental neglect and subsequent abuse by predators who took advantage of my vulnerability, it has taken me years to stabilize. My heart goes out to him - he is showing classic signs of PTSD. Chude, please if you are reading this, assure Ifan that it is a sign of strength NOT weakness to seek professional help. If he doesn't deal with his foundation now, his 'success' might be short-lived. I've been there; my successes kept crashing until I stepped aside to revisit my past trauma.
Me too it still hunts me till now 😪 😔 my parents neglected me
I suffered a lot of neglect too. Rejection and a lot of false allegations from those that were meant to protect me. Painful but a lot of it was from and in the church... Tongue speaking Christians..
This interview was actually therapeutic for Ifeanyi. Sometime the best way to heal is to talk about the pain.
This interview blew my mind. No education, no mentor and yet he became a star. Amazing!
I like how Chude was so compassionate and patient in listening, everyone needs that❤
Thank you Chude. This is one of a program that will help both young men and women who were sexually abuse in their tenage age to come out and speak up. Because many of them are living in pains. Myself am one . Was sexually molested by my Uncle and even at 37yrs, I still feel that pain. And I intend to open a radio station in my Country and be the voice for many of those that couldn't speak up for themselves.
Bless you for sharing and wanting to share more to help other. You are loved
Please do for the sake of others, God bless and heal you ❤
Yvette, which country are you from?
@@reinettenamanya850 God bless you. I'm a Cameroonian but reside in Dubai UAE
No one ever comes to Chude and leaves same. Oga Chude, this is clearly a ministry. Thank God for your life. 😍
just wanna take this moment to say, Lord thank you for giving me the best parent in the world looking out for my ungrateful ass, Hope he gets all the healing
Well said.
Well Said...Me too...Thank You Lord
This is a very heartbreaking story. I’m happy he’s been able to turn his pain to something positive ( film making). He still needs to see a therapist. It’s very important even though he may think otherwise. God bless him. Well done Chude!🙌🏽
The breakthrough he had during this interview was so powerful. He has had God strengthening his spirit through so many obstacles
In my career life, I have been opportune to work with a lot of young people in the sex work and gay community and I can say categorically that poverty, parental neglect and abuse more often drives young people into being continuously sexually abused. It's a sad reality but unfortunately it will get bigger in our society.
What I struggle to understand is the extent of inhumanity, hypocrisy and callousness of adults in our society. Why can't people just help children for the sake of helping?
He still needs to go for therapy....he is still very vulnerable... please uncle Chude ..he needs to. He is hiding under work and achievement...he is yet to heal ..God bless you uncle Chude!
Respect ✊
Praying that the young man heals completely.
Thanks for the work you do Chude!
This is the story of so many other children and young adults in Africa. Extensive therapy will be needed for a long time. I am in tears just watching. Praying for continue healing ❤️🩹
IFAN, thank you for speaking out. You’re truly a survivor. Chude awesome job.
I wish I could just hug this guy.he's really been through a lot.
Hmmm! I cried watching this😭😭😭
This is so painful, Emotional but inspiring.
All the best IFAN! You are an inspiration. Thanks for telling your story.
I am also crying not sure whether to close it or what
@@dikolizaskk5847 It's better to watch it till the end. Despite the pain it is inspiring
I am so confused. How is a 10 yr old doing all these. Something is missing in this story. I get the impression this Obi was also in the Nigerian film industry.
Please, can you explain more😮
I sympathize with him thou. But I am with you on this..
I wish he sees a Therapist because he is hurting and dealing with the aftermath. I pray he heals completely 🙏🙏🙏🙏.
Ifan, your are a survivor and not a victim. You are a star like you said. I must say that this interview was therapeutic but you still need to see a professional therapist. It is not a sign of weakness but it will help you heal further. The sky is your starting point.
I appreciate your journey and truth, Ifeanyi. You're truly a survival and thanks for helping others walk through life challenges. Even, the chidima girl who assisted Ifeanyi has a good heart to have accommodated him against the odds of her profession. Chidima was also a victim o circumstance, who couldn't tell her success storieslike Ifeanyi an probablydidn't get help to comeout of her helpless circumstances. Chude, thanks for helping others to tell their stories and strengthening others to accept that volunerability is part of our humanity.
God is your strength Ifeanyi. Felt touched by this interview
Mr chude I really appreciate what you do,always their for those neglected, I really feel for IFAN,I'm still passing through healing myself been neglected by my family at a very young age,saying I'm worthless,had to run away from home travelled to a far away country were I was sold for sex,had to give in to any man promising marriage,just for an escape out of camp.And till
now still finding it hard to love anyone even myself.i pray we all heal.
♥️
Thanks for this intensive and patient interview Mr Chude, but I feel this young man is still trying to protect his abusers. He needs to be free by voicing out completely and then get a therapist. I hope he's still not dweling in his past life style thinking its beyond him. He can conquer this journey of pain yes its possible. Such a heart breaking story.
#thanksforhelpingpeoplehealfromtheirhurts.
You can clearly see “regression” when he recalls all the trauma.
Yes, he was living it right before our eyes.🥺🥺🥺
I cried watching him talk about what he went through at that young age…
So much pain is bottled up inside of him that he doesn’t even know…
He still needs therapy,I hope he accepts therapy to reduce his pain and heal because he is still vulnerable and he thinks he can do this on his own but he still needs so much help and positive support to heal completely
My own is, that wicked & evil uncle Obi needs to be arrested; that's if he's still alive, hopefully not preying on anyone... I noticed he dodged the question about him, maybe somewhat still protecting him, somewhat expected & understandable. I also know he said he's over it but we all saw how he broke down and I get it, we always have to respect people's boundaries. He has to come to that decision of seeking professional help himself. I pray he finds peace. Shalom
This is deep!!! People goes through stuffs... so sorry ifeanyi for all u ve been thru..... Weldon Jude ......I suggest maybe you have a qualified therapist at hand on any of ur shots to support these guys. I'm sending my love❤❤❤❤❤
Hmmmm no words to describe what IFAN had been through from the age of 10, very heartbreaking ❤️🩹 for someone to abuse a minor just because the child can’t help himself ??? It beats me honestly. If he had helped this young man by giving him a decent life/future wouldn’t he be proud of the man IFAN has become today! He would be mentioned in his success story. God bless you IFAN for sharing your story, I was very emotional throughout the interview. Chude pls pls pls he needs therapy, he sees you as a mentor pls talk to him to see a therapist so that he can heal properly. He used his talent and work to heal, but I think he needs help, professional help. Love ❤️ and light 💡 IFAN you are indeed a STAR ⭐️
I am traumatised!!!
I wish I can tale a legal action against that good for nothing guy that violated this minor at the time.please Chude, that "brother" whatever can't just go free!!why!!
This story is horrible but Ifeanyi needs therapy so he can heal and change his mindset. He should learn to have boundaries. His parents failed to give him that and this makes him very vulnerable.
My heart bleeds for you.You are a star.Keep shinning son.God bless you
Umhhh thank u Mr Chude for all u do.This was such a sad but inspirational story
Very touching story... the camera man was just moving here and there. It was disturbing my sight .
This is really sad. I pray he seek for help and get the right people to help him HEAL 🙏
💔🥺So heartbreaking this life is so hard for so many in this life . I can’t imagine the pain he went through all these years .
Tears in my eyes...I agree with everyone who says the guy needs therapy...this is too much please! People are wicked 😭
The wickedness of Bros Obi😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Wow?!.. This is our Nigeria where there are so many creatives yet so many damaged & broken souls but, our society teaches us to get on with it, move on, keep hustling and gain "accolades" without a "safe space" to share and without judgment.
Chude, you are truly a gift to this generation and beyond. You gave Ifan his first "therapy session" without him realising. .. Sometimes therapy for our community comes in the form of friends, family, mentors and even strangers. The most important things are being able to share, not bottling it all up and not letting the trauma define us.
A lot of child neglect, how can a 10 year old decide what was good for him. Leaving from the care of an adult!! Scary!!
Ifan you're truly a survivor.
My only suggestion would be to take off the background music. Also, I would love to hear the interviewees speak more BUT I appreciate the delicate subject matters you allow your guests to share
Situations like this bred more gays and lesbians in our society today….this is just sad, I hope he heals completely
Poor him, he is going to be needing loads of therapy to get through this!
heart breaking !!!despite the lack of accuracy in the age he's giving . I mean if the condition back home with his parents was this bad , how then was he at 10 able to afford to buy a cellphone, own a number , that he couldn't use eventually to reach out to the so called marketer who invited him to Lagos??.. ..
It seems you did not listen to the story correctly. Nigeria moved from the days of phone booths and it was much later everyone could afford phones. He never mentioned that he owned a phone but clearly mentioned that the marketer's phone was switched off. Please try and show more empathy to someone who has come on air to say 'his truths'. I am also a molestation(no sex) survivor and could only speak up about it to family after 14years(2021). The person denied it but my cousin also went through same in the house. I wish I had spoken up earlier as it would have helped saved sibling and mother rivalry/strife now . But there was no evidence and it would just have been brushed off as 'can't your brother-in-law be caring again' especially for a quiet person like me. I am just saying let's be sensitive with our comments. Thank you.
He called d marketer but his line was not going through. Pls watch nd listen to the video.
This is purely a case of parental neglect. How does a 10 year old boy travel from Enugu to Lagos without the parents knowing?
May God ALMIGHTY heal you completely Ifan. You are a star that cannot be dimmed.
Chude, this young man needs help. Watching this interview was really difficult, there's so much bottled up in him, please encourage him to speak with a therapist.
💯 with your comment ifan should pls get a professional help 😢💔💔
Thank you for the difficult conversations you have.
Ify,God hands are on you.Chude you are a blessing,and for the Chidinmas out there,you are a light in a tunnel.
I commend him so welll.He never went to school but speaks well.He is a great voice for others.God is on his side and would help him heal.
Imagine the level of respect that man would have earned if he helped that little boy. That is why I don't pity some people when I see them suffering because most times it's karma that has caught up with some of these people you see suffering. I pray God heals his heart and soul,more blessings.
Who’s gon interview chude??? I’m interested in hearing chude’s story, I know deep down he has a story he has never shared!! I love you chude ,I love how therapeutic your interviews re to this persons!!!! TELL us your story ♥️
You have made it and that is the most important thing. God will continue to see you through. You need to go to rehab counseling and therapy for healing. Wishing you the best. Do not lose focus. So sad.
The guy is full of emotions. This is a sign that he is yet to heal from those traumatic experiences he went through. He needs a therapist because he hasn't moved on as he made said. Because of his emotions, Chude wasn't totally in control of the interview. Yes he wanted to hear him out but the guest ended up repeating himself over and over again. He messed up the interview with his frequent emotional outbursts.
So many questions begging for answers here. His parents separated and he wasn't able to follow either of them, why? Why did he run away from home? After OPC guys, what happened? How many years did you stay with Bros Obi the Barber? At what point in your life did you meet Chude that gave you a rare opportunity to showcase yourself? Where are your parents now? Etcetera etcetera.
I think so too. Chude was not in control of this interview. But thank God he played a pivotal role in his life.
I was about saying the same. I think there should be a part 2 to this interview.
This interview is traumatizing 💔💔😢😢
This is really powerful
Please always check up on him
To know how him is god be with him through this
He hasn’t fully healed I feel like he’s just running away from it and using his successes as a getaway. I pray he heals for real
You can still feel the anger! 😭🥺 it's palpable!
Abuse is really horrible.
How can I be so successful in a sense and still feel this inadequate about my story.
I honestly think Ifan needs help. It’s good he’s talking about it because that’s a step. That trauma was too much mehnnnn... I’m so proud of him and I hope Chidinma sees what he’s doing and she’s proud too. God bless you Ifan
But IFAN need a therapist. Help him get one . He need to be heal. Untill you go through sexual abuse, You will not understand the deep hurt this young man is feeling
I have been sexually abused multiple times @ 11 and I never spoke about it until year ado after I was 35 when I told my my best friend
I pick many inconsistencies in this story, the story does not add up in many parts. Sorry if you had this aweful abuse, i hope he is getting professional help too.
I agree with you. Sad story but at 10 he travelled to Enugu. he had a phone? he travelled to Lagos? he had a film story?
..its a sad story but confusing
Same here I found his stories a bit confusing...not really flowing...
Same here.
@@khadigwen Exactly
Try recalling a traumatizing event you have tried to drown and suppress over the years. The specifics get blurry.
I agree with the comments that he still needs therapy. If he is this emotional. He got jealous now the guy is sleeping with a woman! So much happened because once he was introduced into that kind of lifestyle, he continued!! How is his life now!! This guy needs help Chude. The interview is great but he needs to get back into normal life!!
Yes I feel the same way. He went through a lot,I am so angry that someone as young as that could go through that much and his parents didnt even care to know if he was alive. He is still healing but I feel he needs therapy but I know he can never be a straight man again because he is gay.
@@amaratobi811 hmmm! What makes you so sure he can never be a straight man again?
To make your impact complete, jail that abuser. You are still suffering as a result of his abuse.
This is tough to watch, i have always wondered why great people always suffer greatly before they achieve success....you can name them oprah winfrey, tyler perry Joseph in the bible etc even our own brother Shaggi....it just goes to prove that the law of averages is always at work in all our lifes....it simply says, things would have to get worse before it gets better
Why will his parents just abandon him like this??? Even when parents divorce, their child should be their priority !!! This is so heartbreaking!!!
This is really sad story. But please help him he needs more professional help Chude
Oh my God! Ifan needs to get professional help to go through his past pain. The reason his parents are still alive today and his relationship with them seems scared. I pray he heals.
Me....I don't even know what to say...was just 😭 crying all through... Life's hard...butt there's light after the tunnel....is his story.
This is so horrible... So so horrible. My God
The story is touching, this ifan behaves like a gay, bros obina transfered the spirit of homosexual to him, Ifan may God heal u
he's gay already. With all his expressions, those are gay attributes. And no one can blame him honestly.
C d way he behaves, even his dressing on IG. d way he speaks too. Omo! Like serious gay.
Interesting interview, but I feel something doesn't add up....
This man needed this to be out....same city but we see her differently
It was really hard to watch this.. Really hard.
My late parents told me, as a child growing up, we always have a choice but may not want to choose that choice. It is sad he has to endure what he did, and I do hope he receives therapy. Him being molested did not make him gay, there must have been some subconscious tendencies there to even agree sleeping with another male from the get go. He expressed his jealousy after discovering Obi resorted to sleeping with a female.
My heart bleeds for him, abandoned by useless parents and failed by the other adults around him.
I deal with cases as such daily. Please get help and continue living your best life Ifan!
I pray he heals. Kindly encourage him to talk to a professional
That's why his marriage fell apart. So much garbage/ unhealed wounds in his past.
Unfortunately, this is the issue with most broken homes!!!
The editor 😡 switching cameras is hypnotizing 😵💫 us. It’s so distracting
Abeg na who edit this video
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I hope the guy overcomes the trauma..he should reconcile with God to find total.peace and eliminate that feeling of guilt he is still having..most people that are abused are damaged psychologically and either become gay/lesbians due to the trauma..Wicked people including child molesters will never go unpunished
Sorry to say the video edit is bad the jump cut in between shots while speaking isn't working for those of us with glasses.Just an honest feedback from 3:10-4:18 thanks you chude for this interview
I believe that Chude wanted for many people to watch this video. It should’ve been among the members only view, but he obviously left it open for all.
Please God heal him please God he needs help
Ifan pls talk about it, open up. Tell ppl close 2u about it ,maybe seek help professionally, get it out of ur mind. It helps with healing.May God help u. I wish u were my friend.
How cud any sane parent abandon a 10yr old 4any reason ? Imagine not going 2sch, yet u dey manage 2speak well lik dis. U try my brother.
Imagine how hurt he is, evn after all diz years ! Fuck mehn !!
Ifan don’t beat yourself up for agreeing to do that to survive you were just 10 it’s not fault please know that, it wasn’t your fault
I can't stop crying
Very intelligent unique, strong young man...
This is more like an eye opener to parents and parents to be, if you can't raise a child don't bring dem into d world. This guys still need to see therapist, and I pray God heal his pain because this is alot to bear for a child and now his a man and still feeling the pain.
How does a 10yrs old child head all the way to lagos with no one accompanying him hey guys am I the only one thinking this is too heavy to understand?I think this guy needs a strong therapeutic help honestly i see him living in a strong childhood trauma he might not know it but he needs help.
Some parents are so irresponsible. I see kids less than 10 years selling and begging in traffic in Accra. Every evening they sleep at different parts of the city. It happens so much
How could someone molest a child
Tell him that we all love him plenty....thank God bad people couldnt destroy him...
At age ten this grown and articulate am still thinking,........
Yooh this is so sad
Oh Ifan I am so sorry you are a Star bro
Hmmmmmm.... this guy is messed up🥺 it seems as though people aint get no mercy for mankind, how could you flog a child that you see on the street😫.
Wow! No words at all
Chude too need to come out and talk about his own.
I swear cause he’s gay too
@@hardcopysexyvideo7005 he's gay???😳
No wonder Nigeria is going through a lot,the nation is swallowed in sin of immortality and sodomy
No, Ifan. You haven’t moved past it.
You’re steeped in it.
Get help.
Biko.
I like him, he is a sweetheart.
Look here young man! You need the therapy because you are not seeing yourself
This guy clearly was not really ready for this yet. He should have been fully briefed that you are more interested in his childhood trauma than in his present success and given him a choice of which one he prefers to talk about on camera.
He wanted to talk more about his achievements and he clearly bottled up a lot inside. To be honest, I felt he was Ill-prepared and he should have been shielded from the toxic Shame he felt.
Secondly, I think due to the abuse, his lifestyle is somewhat distorted. He doesn’t feel much of a sense of guilt because he has normalised the situation as something to be expected from the life of a hustler.
Through no fault of his, he might still be indulging in that type of lifestyle as it’s addictive, hence, talking about it made him feel extremely uncomfortable.
In actual fact Chude should have picked this up and stopped completely. It’s very much unlike other free-flowing interviews because the others seem to have dealt with their trauma and were prepared to use it to help others. They have been able to heal, detach themselves from it and seen the perpetrators as the villains but he sees his abusers as helpers. That speaks volumes.
I just pray that he sees this for what it was and gets help. Also for him not to think it’s okay to carry on in that path as a means of success and a quick-door opener to fame.
Saying “he has gone past that” for him can be interpreted as he has adapted to such lifestyle not necessarily that he has left that lifestyle behind
I truly hope he finds all the help that he needs. Especially divine help for total deliverance and liberation.
He has done so well for himself though and clearly a very gifted and talented. Clearly being watched over by God who needs him and his life story to help others. I pray that through his full story, closure and total healing with come to him and everyone who reads/hears his story. Let’s carry on praying for him pls
Yeah he wasn't ready. And I feel chude was pushing him too much. He has a sense of respect for Chude so I guess he had to keep going. He's probably going to get home and cry more from the past he just opened forcefully.
Honestly as difficult as it was for him to relive that childhood trauma that has been bottled up for so long.
He wanted to talk about it and that's why he did. Chudi stopped twice and I'm sure there must have been conversations behind the scene to check on his ability to continue with the disclosure. What he did right there isn't shame, it is called release, he finally could release all the pain he has bottled up. It was a difficult session but it os the beginning of his healing, with the right help and with tiime he will speak with no more tears, he will be able to straighten his distorted view of why the abuse occurred. I pray his journey to recovery is not long. I pray he continues to do well in life and forgive all who took advantage of him. His ability to speak this publicly is grace that will give hope to others. He was only a child, I pray the perpetrators also see this interview and see the pain they've caused others.
Thank you Ifan for the courage to speak your pain and share that part of your life, I belive you are healed spirit, soul and body in Jesus name.
This guy needs help
Hmmm, honestly am worried really do. Finding it turf to learn that Nigeria is this bad and morally rotten. I find it hard to wrap my head round all he said that all these artrocities are in naija. Short of words. That is to say there are several gays in Nigeria than you can imagine
Rather unfortunate, men go through all this and hardly talk about it. They suffer in silence and turn it on other women because they didn’t receive any psychological treatment to deal with the void created. As a result, they end up liking sex but hating women. It’s time to get the abused men to also speak 🗣 out.