Lost my do last week. I’m a 42 year old 200 pound man, and I cried for 2 days. No shame in grieving for your fur babies. I miss her more than I can stand.
First of, I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing your story, you have no idea how much I needed to hear this. I had to put down my 15 year old pup three months ago. I'm devastated but she inspired me, even after she is gone, and I'm am planning on making awareness of this topic. I'm cuently studying psychology and I've noticed that even in this field there is still not enough attention brought to pet's grief. Again, thank you for your words. You gave me reminded why I want to make my final thesis on this particular subject. RIP Sniffy 2004-2019, you will always be loved and remembered.
My childhood dog passed away last year during the height of the pandemic and it just felt wrong to be upset about her death (she was 12 almost 13 years old) when thousands of people were dying from Covid. I went to my online graduate school zoom class the next day, did not say anything even when people ask how my weekend was. I did not tell anyone for a long time. The only other people (my family) who understood and were also grieving lived far away. So I repressed and ignored all my feelings because it seemed insensitive and over blown to what was happening in world. Anytime I would start to feel things about her death, I would almost automatically feel guilty. I'm not sure if this is disenfranchised grief? but might explain this past year for me. Thank you.
In a strange way it makes it even harder when you've seen combat and you loose an animal. You've seen people who are less deserving to be on this planet than your dog but your dog is given such a short time here on earth. We had to put my service dog down and it nearly killed me. My heart genuinely goes out to you and your friends over the loss of your beloved fury friend. All dogs go to heaven 😭
Michael Caudle so true man!! In my opinion it hurts much worse. I lost my Buckee my 8 year old dachshund to renal failure back in September 2018. Making the decision to put him to sleep was the hardest thing I've ever dealt with. Living alone my dogs were always there for me, through the worst of times, even when my own human family members weren't. It was by far the hardest grief pain I've ever experienced.
Last night I lost my dog, Max. He was 12 years old and in 4 months would have been 13. This video really did help me feel not alone during my grieving process. Thank you so much
My dog died in 2016, a month after my sixteenth birthday and three monthss before his eighteenth birthday. He was older than me but younger than my sister and my family and I often joked that he was the middle child, my older brother. It truly felt that way. With his age his health obviously started getting worse and we've been trying to ready ourselves for his death for years prior to it. He finally got a fairly harmless stomach virus but because of his age it really got to him. He had trouble simply walking, he couldn't sometimes even get up by himself. We always spent so much money on him - the vet, items, food, medicine - because he was part of our family. We obviously tried our best to get him back to health but he was too old to survive this. So we decided to put him down because we knew just in how much pain he was even if he tried to hide it and keep on wagging his tail. I'm a person that doesn't really cry - it's not that I hold the tears in, I just simply don't react so strongly to negative emotions and I usually physically can't get out more than two tears. I never cried so much and so hard as in the moment our dad came back without him and telling us that he's resting now. I didn't even cry at any of the funerals of my other family members but after our dog's death I was crying nonstop for three days straight. I'm close to crying again as I'm typing this and I have cried many times before whenever I thought about him too much or had a dream with him in it. I think that it hit me so hard since he was the closest *person* in my life that I had left. My family could never give me the same level of comfort as he did and I never had any friends in real life ever since after we moved cities. People that never had pets or never had a strong connection with them can't understand what it's like when you're mourning the death of yours. They think it's so easy to just replace them or that all they were was a teddy bear that you had to feed and clean after. I never had the chance to properly deal with my grief which is probably why I'm still so emotional and sensitive to the topic. I can still remember the day when we put him down, just a few hours before that, he was laying on the carpet in my room while facing the mirror. He opened his eyes, looked up and saw my reflection and weakly wagged his tail. He was so happy to see me there with him, he loved me so much and I loved him equally as much back. I hope you, your wife and your friends can mourn Mwaji's death in peace and comfort and I hope you get better.
Thank you for sharing your experience, Cameron. I identify with a lot of what you experienced as well. A lot of people can also have a hard time with end of life care for dogs as there just aren't as many options as humans and so often the only option is putting them down. Mwaji might have benefited from heart surgery but that wasn't an option for her in New York City. I hope this video also brought back some fond memories of your dog. Thank you again for being so forthcoming in your comment. Reading it made me feel less alone.
Thank you for making this video. When my cat passed away a few years ago, my friends and family made my insufferable grief feel invalidated. Your video brought some peace to mind: pets really are family and it's perfectly normal to mourn for them.
@@drali Why do you say only losing a dog is like losing a family member? I lost my cat and my grief is painful beyond belief. Dogs are not the only kind of pet, you know.
I always heard that it's harder to lose an animal we love than a person because pets are givers of unconditional love. My husband and I lost our sweet kitty cat little bit after our daughter was born. My husband got hit with it way harder than me. It helped him navigate some repressed emotions of his grandmother who had passed earlier that year. We still in some ways grieve our Sterling and talk of him fondly. I hope your hearts are get some healing ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss as well. You're right - pets give such unconditional love AND they're so dependent and innocent. I'm glad to hear your husband was able to grow from the experience and also work through other grief he had been struggling with. Glad to hear you are keeping the memory of Sterling alive ❤
Going through that grief right now. Our beloved Coco passed away very suddenly. I found her on the floor, shaking as if she were having a seizure, and gasping for breath. This just happened a couple of weeks ago. Our hearts are completely broken. She was the greatest dog we have ever owned. She was our child, since we are empty nesters. I'm sorry for your loss. Listening to your story and your feeling of grief was like you knew my story, too. Thanks for sharing. It made me feel less alone to know someone truly understands.
Losing a pet is not "like" losing a family member. It just "IS" losing an immediate family member. Whether other people understands it, or not, does not matter. And the longer you have lived together, the more devastating losing them becomes. My condolences.
Brother I just lost my lady... 7 years together and today she was hit by a truck. My god my heart is broken... Thank you for sharing this. When people say dogs or cats don't have a soul... I can tell you that they do I saw the lights go out in her eyes... It was like her spirit left. We will see them again I believe...
Thank you for your rawness, honesty, and unmasked reality. My immediate reaction, within the first 3 minutes was to offer a hug...comfort. Perhaps not the best reaction from a clinical perspective, but the most human response I can muster without turning into a sobbing mess myself.
I lost my best friend Brooklyn on May 8, 2023 and he was the best dog ever. I cry several times a day and I lack sleep. It is hard to come home after work to an empty apartment. I am employed in the mental health field as well. We need to support our friends, family members and colleagues who have said goodbye to their pets. Companies need to include time off for employees when their trusted pet has died.
Put my dog down today. Looking for videos tonight to help me heal. I love your other videos and was so happy to watch this one. Thank you for your honesty.....we’re all in the same boat here, aren’t we? Much love to you, brother.
I feel your pain... we miss our Pennie every single day and it’s gonna be a year in June since she’s crossed the rainbow bridge. Hope you all get the comfort you need to get through at this tough time. Much much love.
Thank you so much! I'm sorry to hear we both share this pain. I don't think there's anything that will fill in the absence she's left behind. But I will do everything I can to keep her memory alive.
Thank you for validating the intense pain of losing someone who meant so much. Just last week we made the gut wrenching decision to spare our dog, Pooh the pain and suffering he was going through from dementia and terrible arthritis and neurological issues. Hardest decision of my life, so far anyway! No one asked when my brother died if I would get another one. I have another dog. I also have another brother. Though I love and adore them, the fact that I still have them does nothing to diminish the pain of losing the ones that are gone. They were both irreplaceable loved ones who will be missed forever.
Thank you. Needed this today. 😢 Lost my pet soul mate four days ago an so am struggling. Others do not understand my heartbreak or grief. I felt yours, connected with it and allowed mine to feel normal. 💔
I just came across your video. Thank you for the raw emotions and your heart felt love for Mawji. I just lost my dog of 14.5 years to a heart murmur and a failing liver because of the meds….he had a special diet which I cooked, had supplements and was as holistic as I possibly could be. The last 2-3 years were difficult as I was in denial…and had to muster up my strength to be there for him. He passed on May 2, 2023 in my home. This is what I wished for and he gave it to me….I cry everyday now especially in the mornings and at night. I am heavy in bereavement and wonder how long it will last….he was my baby in this lifetime for sure! 💕🐶💕
I feel this horrific grief after losing my 14 year old Maltese Shitzu a month ago tomorrow. I actually lost my father earlier this year but nothing feels as painful as losing my baby dog. Every thing I do - i think of her. Every step i take - I can see her standing there. She looked very much like Maji.
My Beloved dog Forest died in February 2023. I am so grief stricken. Thanks for this video sharing your grief. It helped me to feel less crazy and alone.
It's been over a year now since my dog died and I thought things would be better over time. I don't think I've fully faced it yet, but seeing you tell your story has made me feel less alone in my situation. Thank you for posting this video.
We had to put our cattle dog down recently. I got him in 2012 at 2 months old. He was about to be 11. But suffered from seizures every few months. Was developing neurological issues so hind legs wouldn’t work right. Enlarged heart as well. He lived a long happy life and was smart and obedient. He was the best. But we look forward to getting another dog when we are ready. Have a baby on the way as well.
Thank You for sharing this. Our sweet Boxer Boy Mic passed away on Friday...he was 12 years and 9 months old to the day...most boxers only live 8-10 years, so we are VERY grateful for the extra time we got with him...but, man...we've been married 16 years and he was part of our family for nearly 13 of those. We moved into this house when we was a few months old...he was a HUGE part of this family...our history in this home always included him. My son said "Mic was our constant...if you moved the furniture or painted walls or people changed rooms, moved in and out(I have four sons and as they grew they fledged and things changed)...Mic would always be the same...always greeted us at the door when we came home...always there. As he got older he slowed down, but still...you could count on his presence...Now, every day I wake up and expect to hear his toenails at the top of the stairs waiting for us to come up...and he's not there. Our other pets are grieving...my younger kids are grieving. My heart hurts. Yet, tonight when cancelling(or rather just letting them know I would not be there) a typical weekly group we gather with...I felt silly telling them I just needed to be home and quiet. I'm grieving...honestly, in some ways this is WORSE than when I lost my Dad because I didn't LIVE with my Dad...we lived states apart and I didn't see him much...this is an every day constant loss. So hard. Anyway, thank you for sharing.
Thanks for sharing. I lost my fur baby this April only a few days after celebrating his gotcha day. It all happened so fast. My Samson was like Mwaji in that he loved people so much. He never met a person he didn’t love and get excited to see. He was with me for 12 years. I miss him so much.
Thank you, Ali for making this video. I know my comment is a little late compared to your video but your video just speaks to me on a personal level. Just today evening the 6th of September 2023 I lost my beloved 4-year-old toy poodle Joshua. Out of all the videos about pet loss I could find yours was the most detrimental and the most real for me. Joshua was my world ,he was my boy and I loved him like a mother would love her child. He was given to me as a gift on my 10th birthday and I remembered when I first got him he was the light of my life, when I first held him up in my hands I just knew it was love at first sight. Just this evening he had passed away because of a random out of nowhere illness and I am still in the process of grieving him. When he was taken into surgery, the Vets had warned us that the mortality rate would be very very low and the fact that his death is a very very real possibility ,and made sure that we would have to make mental preparations if the worst does happen. For the first couple of days after his surgery he was on track for a study recovery, but around the fourth day after surgery he had weekend significantly and the Vets had also told us that he was showing signs that his life might come to an end sooner or later. We went to visit him daily because we knew at the back of our heads that he wouldn't be on this Earth for maybe 2 weeks and it just broke me. On the day of his death I got a text from my father that Joshua had passed away in his sleep during one of my classes. Although I had already made some preparations for his death I was still somewhat shocked, I wouldn't say I was exactly sad or upset I just felt, at that moment, so, empty and Hollow. I wouldn't say his death was sudden but his illness did spread out of the blue it was at first quite a normal digestive problem that could be easily fixed but it turns out it was much, much worse than expected. When we drove him to the vet we really just expected to get him some medicine maybe let him stay there for a couple days and all would be fine and go back to normal. But now sitting here typing this 2 weeks later after his first vet visit and now 9 hours after his death. This is very very surreal. To say I am at peace or to terms with his death would be a lie because I am not. This might be the worst feeling I have ever experienced in my 14 years of living. Although I was prepared to expect that loss and grieving would be hard, I had never it would have imagined to it to be this empty and Hollow and the worst of all without my support with me. Out of all the videos about pet loss that I could find, your video, Ali spoke to me on a personal level especially about Mogi and your experience with her at the vet. Even though I'm aware that nothing could have possibly helped Joshua from his fate, I am still very upset at myself for letting him live such a short life. Most videos that I have watched were about childhood pets, which are usually 9 years old and above, which makes me doubt my ability as an owner and doubt my ability to love Joshua. Your video has still given me a small amount of closure about his death. I still have a long way on my journey to come to terms with the passing of my best friend but you has given me a small part of closure and for that I thank you so so much. Rest in peace ,Joshua , you will always be my sweetest boy
my dog died a year ago and my therapist told me to just get over it yiKeS her name was lilly she was 7 years old and so full of life she was diagnosed with leukemia and we were told that she wouldn’t have long left and we didn’t want her to suffer so we decided to put her down i remember it as if it was yesterday we tried to give her the sleep injection thing and it didn’t work because she was so energetic and full of life and we had to put 3 more in her to calm her down even a little bit my heart was literally broke the entire process and i remember her tail was wagging the entire time i remember when i used to get in fights with my parents or friends i used to go to her and she would calm me down almost instantly even just from being there i miss her so much still it’s been a year and i still say goodnight to her every night i miss you so much lilly 😔 fly high angel
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and raw emotions regarding pet loss 🤗 My sweet 12 yr old bunny passed a few days ago. He was the last survivor and sole companion that helped me get through the death of my husband and my other bunny that passed at the same time. It really bothers me how many people so easily dismiss my loss(s). The only thing that keeps me from feeling completely alone in my grief is the many spirit dream visitations and signs that I have received from my husband and our pets ❤️
Thank you so much. This hit really close because back in February I had to put my dog down after he got really unwell all of a sudden. It literally happened within hours. In the end he lost the use of his back legs and it was progressing up his body and the vet did give us an alternate option but it had a very low success rate so we decided to do what was best for him and relieve him of his pain and let him go. I stayed with him and the vet as the vet was injecting him. My mum and sister had to leave the room. He left us at exactly 2am. The journey home was basically me reflecting back on the 7 years I had spent with my dog. He had learnt to notify my mum when I was seizing all by himself. No-one taught him. He was so clever. Scooby I miss you buddy
I'm really sorry, Ali. I went through something similar with my sibling's cat last year, and it was one of the hardest things I've ever done. Obviously every situation is different, and I'm not saying I know what you're going through right now, but I know how much this can hurt, and I'm sorry.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you get better soon. I also started crying because I started thinking about my own dog. My boyfriend also started crying... I wish you and your wife and Mwaji’s owners all the best!
Thank you so much for making this video. I cried along with you. It’s been almost 2 weeks since I’ve lost my darling girl. She was 11.5 years old and the absolute love of my life. I am beyond brokenhearted and find every day so difficult to face without her. I appreciate your sensitivity and can completely empathize with how you feel. Thank you again.
Man I never thought I would cry so much in front of a TH-cam video... Losing a dog you love is truly devastating, thank you for putting words on this feeling.
We lost our 12 year old Lhasa Apso two days ago. He wasnt himself and we took him to the vet. They discovered an abnormal mass and during surgery we had to have him put to sleep. I can say it has been the single worst experience of my life. My last memory of seeing him alive is asking him from the car to stay strong. I'll never forget the wee guy, he was like my best friend. The grief is quite overwhelming at times and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
Thank you for this. I lost my dog two years ago and it hurt like hell for a really long time. If any of you has a pet, spend more time with them. They bring so much happiness and joy to our lives, while you bring so much more to theirs.
I thank you for this video more than you’ll ever know. I lost my chow/retriever mix around 1am a few days ago on June 1st. A lot of highlights that stood out in this video are the same that I’m going through right now. One of the main ones that caught my attention was the fact “my schedule would revolve around my dog”. No matter what I dealt with that day, good or bad, I always look forward to coming home to “buddy”. Now every time I hear the name “buddy” either in public or working, all I think about is loosing my best friend not even 4 days ago. Another part that stood out in the video was people asking me to get a new dog, & there’s no way I could bring myself to it for a very long time, if I ever do get another dog. I’ve had “buddy” since before I started high school back in 2015. I’m already half way through tech school now and no matter what I dealt with in school, he’d always bring an enlightenment in our home & myself. My concluding statement would be, “you don’t realize how much you appreciate something until it’s gone”. I haven’t gone one second with thinking about him, I can’t even sleep without reminiscing about him. I only think about how he’s in a better place now and try to better myself than what I was before when I was with him. Anyone could use this kind of video to remind them that they’re not along. Couple days ago I watched the first Marley and Me, bad idea but I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
I understand so well. We put Gizmo, our 17 year old rat terrier mix down yesterday. It's been one of the roughest 24 hours I've had in many years. Everywhere I go everything I do, I see and remember him. God gave us a wonderful gift. He brought so much joy into our lives. I miss him so very much.
I just lost my sweet boy Max in Sunday morning to a tragic death, the neighbor’s Pitbull attacked him and I am devastated. Not only do I feel so much guilt because I feel to blame but I keep reliving the experience. He tried so hard to stay with us and made it through his surgery but shortly after passed away. I love Max so much, the pain is unbearable. He was the sweetest little dog I’ve ever known and didn’t deserve this. I don’t know what I’m going to do without him. :(
Thank you for giving words to the immeasurable pain and loneliness I feel losing my very best friend in the world, my beloved Ziggy, who was my joy, my comfort, my love and my stinker. I miss him so much it physically hurts.
I'm sorry for your lose. Im feeling the same way. My heart is so broken 💔 my pitbull was truly my best friends my old friends. We did everything together im greiving a hard. I miss him so so much
Thank you for this heartfelt video... I am grieving the loss of my Beloved baby too. Her name was Bella. She was my World... It is the worst pain ever & I miss her so desperately & Reading & Hearing of other people's stories, are helping me through my Grieving Process. Our Society should not put shame on Grieving for our Fur Babies... They are family members...This is an unbearable pain like no other. Sorry for your loss... 😢😢💔
Thank u for this video. My dog Eva died two days ago. I loved her so much. She was so beautiful. She was part of me. When she died a part me died too. I am so lonesome without her. I cry for her. I call out her name. I try to remember the person I was before. I try to think of who I am without her. I try remember who I was when she looked at me. I was connected to her. I knew what love was. I knew what joy was. I knew peace. Now, daily routines are aching, painful reminders of the person I’ll never be again.
I feel this so deeply. I lost my Brody 3 weeks ago and what you described is so similar to the thoughts and feelings I'm going through. I hope you're able to keep going with Eva in your heart. My consolation right now is that the love we shared with our sweet dogs will never die. No one can take that away from us.
Sadly I had to put my little doggie down 2 weeks ago. She was in my family for 16 years and I loved her so. I have been so sad not to have her in my life in the physical form anymore. I will never get over losing her. Thank you for posting this.
I'm very sorry for your loss. I just lost my 14 year old Chihuahua 6 days ago. She had kidney failure and I had to have her put to sleep. I never knew how hard it was to lose a pet until now. Like you said, it's just like losing a close family member. I feel devastated from it.
Thank you for this video. My childhood pet died almost 2 years ago now. The last picture I have of her is actually a selfie of me, she’s in the background, but she’s not looking at me. It’s like she was hiding the inevitable that she knew was coming. That picture was taken at 7:10 am before my college classes that day. I went to my parents that night, and that’s where her body started to give up. She died the next morning as I was rushing her to the emergency vet, at approximately 4am. This video almost brought me to tears because it reminded me of her so much. She was my best friend since childhood (she died when I was 19), she knew me better than anyone, and she was the only one that was always there for me. I still cry about her every now and then, more than I cry about the loved ones I’ve lost. It hurts so much more. I’m glad that you’ve made this video, it makes my feelings feel so much more valid. I had dealt with death my entire childhood, but nothing could have prepared me for losing her. I’m so sorry for your loss. Pets are our family, and our best friends. I hope you, your wife, and your friends can find peace. And again, thank you so much for this video.
Thank you so much! Your video helped me tremendously after losing my 8 year old dachshund Buckee, who passed away from renal failure back in September 2018. I felt a total disconnect from life after losing him, and struggled for many months. Luckily I had great family and friends who helped me through the massive grief.
I lost my snail a few days ago and i'm devastated she was my baby and its hard for people to understand, they say "Ooh is just a snail buy another" but she was so smart and full of personality, she used to make a pile of food so the aquarium wasn't messy she made her own schedule and loved to sleep in an apple. I took a lot of videos but now I can't see them and I've been crying a lot.
Thank you for this very beautiful expression of your pain. I find it helpful with my own grief, perhaps because grieving seems so terribly isolating. I had to put my sweet Bichon Frise down 3 weeks ago after a few months of complications from Cushings disease, then diabetes and finally, a turn for the worst which event threw the vets off. (The chief vet thought it was. probably cancer). We were together for 12 wonderful years, and what is even more precious about him (Bambi) is that he kept me going after the death of my husband just two years ago...Bambi was my lifeline, my connection to the world outside, as I have no other family, and few friends, after nursing a sick husband for years. I really expected Bambi to live at leas a few more years, which small dogs usually do, so I feel so cheated, and unfairly dealt with by the universe...two great losses in as many years is very challenging...not that I do not try to seek enlightenment and joy from appreciating what I do have. As you have indicated, there is not much support or understanding of pet loss in our culture. I am essentially alone with it, and my home feels so incredibly empty. I almost felt panicked about getting another dog, just so I would not have to bear the silence and emptiness anymore but right now I am too depleted to deal with it...the loss of a sick pet can bring many other secondary losses, especially financial ones, with oftentimes crushing vet bills.
I just lost my 14 yr old cat last Wed. I've been thru pet loss 2 other times. It has been so difficult and gut wrenching. I've had a ton of support, which is wonderful. Grief is so individual. In time, it does lessen but the pain is real and I think worse than losing a human, tbh.
My dog, my best friend, just passed away 3 days ago. I'm still grieving. I had him for 11 years and he helped me with sad moments. Thanks for the video, man.
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. The pain will ease with time but your love and their loss will always be there. You aren’t alone in this struggle.
I had to put my dog down four months ago... I had her ever since I was around 6-7 years old so it hurts so much more because I grew up with her and she's seen so me go through so many milestones in my life. I'm still hurting so much from it. I'll always love you Pepper. I miss you sweet girl
I lost my little Shy last night also from heart failure...the pain is enormous..my days evolved around her..because the last few months she was on alot of meds & too weak and had to be carried out to potty.. I could never cry in front of her over it, because she would get concerned about ME..she was the sweetest love I've ever known.
I love how vulnerable you are in this video, Ali. I cry watching it. I have an old cat and seeing her grows old already hurt me, because I really love her and I want her to be always healthy and well. Thank you so much for making this video and showing us that tears of loss is not weakness and the loss we feel is real. Rest in peace, Mwaji.
Thank you for making this video. My dog died almost two months ago and I am totally heartbroken. I feel like a shell of my former self. Like my entire heart is gone. I cry everyday and cry even harder when I think about my dog being gone forever. I must have a bit of disenfranchised grief because while I grieve, I grieve in private. And try to be "normal" in the presence of other people.
Totally understand. We lost our eight year old golden 10 days ago to cancer. My husband and I held her for another three hours and I felt exactly how she went from warm to cold. I cut some her fur and I need to touch the fur every day to ease the pain in my heart.
Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm so very sorry this happened to you and your extended family. It definitely hurts, and feels like you've lost a person. It's such a pure relationship. My husband and I lost our little "boy" 2 years ago and it was just devastating. Luckily, we have a wonderful animal hospice in our area and they came to our home to perform the euthanasia. They were amazing people who helped us through a horrible time. Eventually, we were able to adopt another little dog that needed us just as much as we needed her. Meanwhile, the grieving process is very hard; very hollow; very empty feeling. No other little soul can take the place of the one you've lost. My heart goes out to you. I understand. Thank you for your openess and honesty on this topic. So important! Best wishes! ❤
Hi. I watched only one video of yours before I saw this one, and I got very emotional watching this because I just lost my 17 year old dog a couple of months ago. I started crying almost as soon as you did. Thank you Soo much for making this video and sharing it with all of us!
I admire your strength for making this. This comforted me as it's easy to feel alone during these times. My boy of 14 years passed 1 week ago. It is the hardest experience of my entire life. God bless you, sir
Thank you so much for this! As is said, misery loves company, and to see someone share their grief like you have helps me deal with mine! 2 weeks now since euthanizing my best pal! So, so sad!
Thank You for making this video, because right now our family is feeling the pain of loss. We are about to go to the veterinary hospital to have our poor 16 year old little soulmate put to sleep. The pain is overwhelming, I lost my Mother only a month ago and my husband was made redundant two months ago. If life is meant to teach you lessons and make you stronger, at the end of all this I will be able to face anything. Right now all we can do is take one step in front of us. The pain of losing a cherished little dog is equal to the pain of a human. They're there for us through all our moods, all our bad times, they really do have unconditional love, and it's the tiniest of everyday things we will miss. I'm feeling double the pain watching my heartbroken daughter, who has grown up with him, utterly inconsolable. Thank you for expressing this heartfelt emotion in this video, it really does help to connect in this way, and sorry you had the same pain of loss, it's heart wrenching Xx
I agree totally this pain is real. I feel the same pain as if a person died and to be honest this hurts alot more ... pets are not just a human death they are part of you every single day . Thank you your video helped me so much 😔💕
I am sorry for your great loss and thank you with all my heart for making this video showing the very raw emotions we can feel at the loss of our most precious companions - helped greatly to know there are others who have felt the same as i did when my iwn dogs passed 🙏⚘❤
Thank you for making this video and being so openly vulnerable with your pain. I just lost the beloved cat yesterday that was part of my life for the last ten years. I had pets before which I loved dearly, but something about this connection was so unique and pure, I can't stop crying. Just today my best friend told me "to get over it" and that "it's just a cat". The video is helping to get some sense it the grief and that the emotions are legitimate
Thank you for this video. I lost my best friend my American Bulldog Solomon this past Thursday. I'm heartbroken and miss him dearly. Connecting with those who have gone through this weather it be directly or through TH-cam has definitely helped. I know its been a bit of time but I'm sorry for your loss. I hope the time has brought some healing. Thanks again
i have experienced a lot of close family dying. my cat squeaky died yesterday morning unexpectedly at the young age of 9 and the grief i’m experiencing is incomparable. i am so heartbroken i don’t know what to do. he gave me unconditional love for 9 years. rip squeaky
I just lost my best little furry friend for about 12 years and the pain is unbelievable it’s worse then a break up in my opinion (ZOE🐶❤️ rip I love you )
I lost my dog a little over two weeks ago, and it's amazing how some people really don't get it. I even had a help hotline worker tell me that it's an animal and that's different from a human, they understand it's a family member and you can grieve, but you need to understand that it's not like a human. And then they suggested that I just get another puppy. I think some people really just think it's the same as telling someone when their computer breaks to just get another computer. They don't understand the bonds that we form with these amazing creatures. They might as well just tell a mother who has just lost her baby to just have another one. I think it would be entirely appropriate to call these people out when they display insensitivity and ignorance like this. The fact that they can't understand the grief of animal lovers upon losing a pet doesn't mean that the grief is invalid. It just means that those people don't get it and are ignorant.
justmerosie : I don’t think it’s really ignorance but it definitely is a loss of empathy in them. Maybe they just can’t relate to someone else’s grief unless it affects them. People that love animals have a special gentleness about them that these people will probably never understand. So just dismiss them,& maybe we should feel sorry for them, because I’ve heard it written that. “ until one experiences the unconditional love of a dog, there is a part of their soul that has not been awakened “ I believe that 😪
I'm so touched you've shared your pain with us. Take good care of yourself. If you find make videos helps to distract you away from the pain and that is helpful, do that. Equally, if your grief means making videos hinders your journey through it, then do not worry about us. Do what you need to endure the motions. You know best how to manage it and to not fall in the therapist trap where one knows enough about it so doesn't seek colleagues support and goes through it alone. All is impermanent. Much love ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your story. This helps a lot with my grieving, and I also cried for your loss as well. There’s not enough videos out there that share these same feelings.
I'm so glad I stumbled across this video. A few months ago on my birthday I lost my first dog. She'd been in my life for 15 years - I was 7 when we got her, I don't remember life without her. Now, 4 months later, I'm losing my cat of 10 years. To lose both of my pets in such a short timeframe (and where I'm not in a position to get another) is breaking my heart. I'm constantly being asked why I'm so sad, they were just a dog/cat. The pain is real, there's an empty space in my life where they were.
I just lost my best pal Bandit yesterday he was born on my bed and gave me 13 wonderful years im devastated, it helps to know im not the only one deeply greaving, i cant eat or sleep thanks for the video and god bless and comfort everyone going through this
Thank you. My baby boy, Whistler (in my photo), died Friday. We took him to be cremated today. This has been the single most difficult loss of my life.
Losing a pet is one of the hardest and loneliest challenges in life. My heart goes out to you and your family as you heal. Thank you for sharing so openly.
Thank you, Doctor Ali. I'm sorry for your loss. Moji seemed like a really sweet soul. I'm losing my dog sometime this week, and the grieving process has been extremely hard. I've mostly felt depressed, sad, confused, disbelief and numb. Frankie, the sweet sweet dog you see on my pfp, has cancer. It's extremely special, the bond you have with your pet. Especially dogs, who just are pure love.
Watching your dog die while you tell him it’s all right is the one of the worst things that a pet owner will ever have to go through. I remember a week after my dog was put down I heard my dad jingle his keys and I got so exited I thought it was my dogs collar.
Today I lost my beloved best friend, pet dog, after having him for 17 years. It was expected of course, at his age. But the end came so suddenly, I'm in shock. He got a prolonged seizure, and didn't recover from it. I am heartbroken.
It's an awful feeling. I can relate. Lost my boy of 14 years 1 week ago. It's hard to function but we must move forward for them. I dont know who you are or where you're from but you are in my prayers. Be strong.
Wow! So touching, so true. Brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for being brave enough to share this, and thank you for bringing awareness to the disenfranchised grief of losing a very special bond.💞 When our family dog passed, with me living out of state now, our family shared the grief together over the phone as a group. It is real and they are real family members. Peace to you and your family.
We let out Mimi go last night (Friday). She was in the hospital since 4 am on Tuesday. She lost so much blood and had 3 transfusion already. The doctor gave her some opiates to ease the pain yesterday. I got a call at 5pm that she had a massive blowout right after the 3rd transfusion. I gave the instructions to do not resuscitate and gave the go ahead for another emergency transfusion. We rush to the hospital and they let us see her. My wife made the call because I did not have the strength to do it. Hope, in reality, is the worst of all evils, for it, prolongs the torment of men. However you can’t live with out hope.
I just want to thank you for making this video. I had it in my "watch later" list for two months but I watched it today, I really regret I didn't do it earlier. This video contains so many important things. First it showed a psychologist is also a human who can cry and break down. Sometimes I think that people have this weird delusion that we psychologists are perfectly fine with our emotions and nothing can get to us which is a lie. We're all humans, we cry. I'm glad you showed how important it is to not bottle up and cry when you need to. I'm glad you showed that losing a pet can hurt just as much as losing a close person. It's not just an animal, a pet. It's also a family member. They feel and understand so much more than some people think. I teared up few times during watching it and everytime I did I went to my beautiful 10 yo pupper whom i almost lost two times. These were one of the most difficult times in my life and i cant even imagine how much it hurts when you actually lose them... Thank you. Just thank you. You're amazing person, empathetic, I love your approach to life and what you tell people. I hope you're doing better now, blessings for you and your family
I feel your pain I just lost my beloved Tuffy this week we had to put him down after 15 years of loyal companionship it's very heartbreaking I still can't get over it I wish you well
Lost my do last week. I’m a 42 year old 200 pound man, and I cried for 2 days. No shame in grieving for your fur babies. I miss her more than I can stand.
So sorry for your loss, does it ever get better? I just lost my best friend two days ago and I can’t stop crying my heart is completely broken.
If you are struggling with the loss of a dog, please look at the resources in the description to this video.
First of, I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing your story, you have no idea how much I needed to hear this. I had to put down my 15 year old pup three months ago. I'm devastated but she inspired me, even after she is gone, and I'm am planning on making awareness of this topic. I'm cuently studying psychology and I've noticed that even in this field there is still not enough attention brought to pet's grief. Again, thank you for your words. You gave me reminded why I want to make my final thesis on this particular subject. RIP Sniffy 2004-2019, you will always be loved and remembered.
I’m fixing to have to put my baby to rest. I am a nervous heartbroken wreck. He’s been by my side for the last 13 years. Idk what to do
My childhood dog passed away last year during the height of the pandemic and it just felt wrong to be upset about her death (she was 12 almost 13 years old) when thousands of people were dying from Covid. I went to my online graduate school zoom class the next day, did not say anything even when people ask how my weekend was. I did not tell anyone for a long time. The only other people (my family) who understood and were also grieving lived far away. So I repressed and ignored all my feelings because it seemed insensitive and over blown to what was happening in world. Anytime I would start to feel things about her death, I would almost automatically feel guilty. I'm not sure if this is disenfranchised grief? but might explain this past year for me. Thank you.
In a strange way it makes it even harder when you've seen combat and you loose an animal. You've seen people who are less deserving to be on this planet than your dog but your dog is given such a short time here on earth. We had to put my service dog down and it nearly killed me. My heart genuinely goes out to you and your friends over the loss of your beloved fury friend. All dogs go to heaven 😭
Michael Caudle so true man!! In my opinion it hurts much worse. I lost my Buckee my 8 year old dachshund to renal failure back in September 2018. Making the decision to put him to sleep was the hardest thing I've ever dealt with. Living alone my dogs were always there for me, through the worst of times, even when my own human family members weren't. It was by far the hardest grief pain I've ever experienced.
Last night I lost my dog, Max. He was 12 years old and in 4 months would have been 13. This video really did help me feel not alone during my grieving process. Thank you so much
My dog died in 2016, a month after my sixteenth birthday and three monthss before his eighteenth birthday. He was older than me but younger than my sister and my family and I often joked that he was the middle child, my older brother. It truly felt that way.
With his age his health obviously started getting worse and we've been trying to ready ourselves for his death for years prior to it. He finally got a fairly harmless stomach virus but because of his age it really got to him. He had trouble simply walking, he couldn't sometimes even get up by himself.
We always spent so much money on him - the vet, items, food, medicine - because he was part of our family. We obviously tried our best to get him back to health but he was too old to survive this. So we decided to put him down because we knew just in how much pain he was even if he tried to hide it and keep on wagging his tail.
I'm a person that doesn't really cry - it's not that I hold the tears in, I just simply don't react so strongly to negative emotions and I usually physically can't get out more than two tears. I never cried so much and so hard as in the moment our dad came back without him and telling us that he's resting now. I didn't even cry at any of the funerals of my other family members but after our dog's death I was crying nonstop for three days straight. I'm close to crying again as I'm typing this and I have cried many times before whenever I thought about him too much or had a dream with him in it.
I think that it hit me so hard since he was the closest *person* in my life that I had left. My family could never give me the same level of comfort as he did and I never had any friends in real life ever since after we moved cities.
People that never had pets or never had a strong connection with them can't understand what it's like when you're mourning the death of yours. They think it's so easy to just replace them or that all they were was a teddy bear that you had to feed and clean after. I never had the chance to properly deal with my grief which is probably why I'm still so emotional and sensitive to the topic.
I can still remember the day when we put him down, just a few hours before that, he was laying on the carpet in my room while facing the mirror. He opened his eyes, looked up and saw my reflection and weakly wagged his tail. He was so happy to see me there with him, he loved me so much and I loved him equally as much back.
I hope you, your wife and your friends can mourn Mwaji's death in peace and comfort and I hope you get better.
Thank you for sharing your experience, Cameron. I identify with a lot of what you experienced as well. A lot of people can also have a hard time with end of life care for dogs as there just aren't as many options as humans and so often the only option is putting them down. Mwaji might have benefited from heart surgery but that wasn't an option for her in New York City. I hope this video also brought back some fond memories of your dog. Thank you again for being so forthcoming in your comment. Reading it made me feel less alone.
Thank you for making this video. When my cat passed away a few years ago, my friends and family made my insufferable grief feel invalidated. Your video brought some peace to mind: pets really are family and it's perfectly normal to mourn for them.
It means a lot to me that this video brought you some peace. Thank you for sharing this in your comment!
@@drali Why do you say only losing a dog is like losing a family member? I lost my cat and my grief is painful beyond belief. Dogs are not the only kind of pet, you know.
I lost my cat last week he was only 3 from a blood clot I’m so upset sad lost heartbroken 💔
@@mcmlxii4419lost my beloved cat 🐈 can’t go on without him
I always heard that it's harder to lose an animal we love than a person because pets are givers of unconditional love. My husband and I lost our sweet kitty cat little bit after our daughter was born. My husband got hit with it way harder than me. It helped him navigate some repressed emotions of his grandmother who had passed earlier that year. We still in some ways grieve our Sterling and talk of him fondly. I hope your hearts are get some healing ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss as well. You're right - pets give such unconditional love AND they're so dependent and innocent. I'm glad to hear your husband was able to grow from the experience and also work through other grief he had been struggling with. Glad to hear you are keeping the memory of Sterling alive ❤
Going through that grief right now. Our beloved Coco passed away very suddenly. I found her on the floor, shaking as if she were having a seizure, and gasping for breath. This just happened a couple of weeks ago. Our hearts are completely broken. She was the greatest dog we have ever owned. She was our child, since we are empty nesters. I'm sorry for your loss. Listening to your story and your feeling of grief was like you knew my story, too. Thanks for sharing. It made me feel less alone to know someone truly understands.
Losing a pet is not "like" losing a family member. It just "IS" losing an immediate family member. Whether other people understands it, or not, does not matter. And the longer you have lived together, the more devastating losing them becomes. My condolences.
Brother I just lost my lady... 7 years together and today she was hit by a truck. My god my heart is broken... Thank you for sharing this. When people say dogs or cats don't have a soul... I can tell you that they do I saw the lights go out in her eyes... It was like her spirit left. We will see them again I believe...
Losing a beloved pet is no different to losing a human being that you love, the pain is exactly the same & it never goes away.
Thank you for your rawness, honesty, and unmasked reality. My immediate reaction, within the first 3 minutes was to offer a hug...comfort. Perhaps not the best reaction from a clinical perspective, but the most human response I can muster without turning into a sobbing mess myself.
Thanks for your support and the virtual hug, Michael!
I think hug is one of the response! Hug Ali!
I lost my best friend Brooklyn on May 8, 2023 and he was the best dog ever. I cry several times a day and I lack sleep. It is hard to come home after work to an empty apartment. I am employed in the mental health field as well. We need to support our friends, family members and colleagues who have said goodbye to their pets. Companies need to include time off for employees when their trusted pet has died.
Put my dog down today. Looking for videos tonight to help me heal. I love your other videos and was so happy to watch this one. Thank you for your honesty.....we’re all in the same boat here, aren’t we? Much love to you, brother.
Oh my god... I tried to not cry... It didn't work... This is beautiful. Sending love and positive vibes.
I feel your pain... we miss our Pennie every single day and it’s gonna be a year in June since she’s crossed the rainbow bridge. Hope you all get the comfort you need to get through at this tough time. Much much love.
Thank you so much! I'm sorry to hear we both share this pain. I don't think there's anything that will fill in the absence she's left behind. But I will do everything I can to keep her memory alive.
Thank you for validating the intense pain of losing someone who meant so much. Just last week we made the gut wrenching decision to spare our dog, Pooh the pain and suffering he was going through from dementia and terrible arthritis and neurological issues. Hardest decision of my life, so far anyway! No one asked when my brother died if I would get another one. I have another dog. I also have another brother. Though I love and adore them, the fact that I still have them does nothing to diminish the pain of losing the ones that are gone. They were both irreplaceable loved ones who will be missed forever.
When I lost my dad it didn’t hurt like when I lost my pup. I would trade anyone for me
Thank you. Needed this today. 😢 Lost my pet soul mate four days ago an so am struggling. Others do not understand my heartbreak or grief. I felt yours, connected with it and allowed mine to feel normal. 💔
I just came across your video. Thank you for the raw emotions and your heart felt love for Mawji. I just lost my dog of 14.5 years to a heart murmur and a failing liver because of the meds….he had a special diet which I cooked, had supplements and was as holistic as I possibly could be. The last 2-3 years were difficult as I was in denial…and had to muster up my strength to be there for him. He passed on May 2, 2023 in my home. This is what I wished for and he gave it to me….I cry everyday now especially in the mornings and at night. I am heavy in bereavement and wonder how long it will last….he was my baby in this lifetime for sure! 💕🐶💕
I feel this horrific grief after losing my 14 year old Maltese Shitzu a month ago tomorrow. I actually lost my father earlier this year but nothing feels as painful as losing my baby dog. Every thing I do - i think of her. Every step i take - I can see her standing there. She looked very much like Maji.
My Beloved dog Forest died in February 2023. I am so grief stricken. Thanks for this video sharing your grief. It helped me to feel less crazy and alone.
❤sorry for your loss, we had to say goodbye to our fur baby recently, listening to you has helped. The grief is REAL! 😢
It's been over a year now since my dog died and I thought things would be better over time. I don't think I've fully faced it yet, but seeing you tell your story has made me feel less alone in my situation. Thank you for posting this video.
I know the pain . I’m sorry for your loss. Love has a price and that’s grief. She’s in doggy heaven watching over you.
We had to put our cattle dog down recently. I got him in 2012 at 2 months old. He was about to be 11. But suffered from seizures every few months. Was developing neurological issues so hind legs wouldn’t work right. Enlarged heart as well. He lived a long happy life and was smart and obedient. He was the best. But we look forward to getting another dog when we are ready. Have a baby on the way as well.
Thank You for sharing this. Our sweet Boxer Boy Mic passed away on Friday...he was 12 years and 9 months old to the day...most boxers only live 8-10 years, so we are VERY grateful for the extra time we got with him...but, man...we've been married 16 years and he was part of our family for nearly 13 of those. We moved into this house when we was a few months old...he was a HUGE part of this family...our history in this home always included him. My son said "Mic was our constant...if you moved the furniture or painted walls or people changed rooms, moved in and out(I have four sons and as they grew they fledged and things changed)...Mic would always be the same...always greeted us at the door when we came home...always there. As he got older he slowed down, but still...you could count on his presence...Now, every day I wake up and expect to hear his toenails at the top of the stairs waiting for us to come up...and he's not there. Our other pets are grieving...my younger kids are grieving. My heart hurts. Yet, tonight when cancelling(or rather just letting them know I would not be there) a typical weekly group we gather with...I felt silly telling them I just needed to be home and quiet. I'm grieving...honestly, in some ways this is WORSE than when I lost my Dad because I didn't LIVE with my Dad...we lived states apart and I didn't see him much...this is an every day constant loss. So hard. Anyway, thank you for sharing.
I lost my little Prince Louie -toy poodle -5 week ago….im crying every day and can’t stop…I miss him so so much.
Thanks for sharing. I lost my fur baby this April only a few days after celebrating his gotcha day. It all happened so fast. My Samson was like Mwaji in that he loved people so much. He never met a person he didn’t love and get excited to see. He was with me for 12 years. I miss him so much.
Thank you, Ali for making this video.
I know my comment is a little late compared to your video but your video just speaks to me on a personal level.
Just today evening the 6th of September 2023 I lost my beloved 4-year-old toy poodle Joshua. Out of all the videos about pet loss I could find yours was the most detrimental and the most real for me.
Joshua was my world ,he was my boy and I loved him like a mother would love her child. He was given to me as a gift on my 10th birthday and I remembered when I first got him he was the light of my life, when I first held him up in my hands I just knew it was love at first sight.
Just this evening he had passed away because of a random out of nowhere illness and I am still in the process of grieving him.
When he was taken into surgery, the Vets had warned us that the mortality rate would be very very low and the fact that his death is a very very real possibility ,and made sure that we would have to make mental preparations if the worst does happen. For the first couple of days after his surgery he was on track for a study recovery, but around the fourth day after surgery he had weekend significantly and the Vets had also told us that he was showing signs that his life might come to an end sooner or later. We went to visit him daily because we knew at the back of our heads that he wouldn't be on this Earth for maybe 2 weeks and it just broke me.
On the day of his death I got a text from my father that Joshua had passed away in his sleep during one of my classes. Although I had already made some preparations for his death I was still somewhat shocked, I wouldn't say I was exactly sad or upset I just felt, at that moment, so, empty and Hollow.
I wouldn't say his death was sudden but his illness did spread out of the blue it was at first quite a normal digestive problem that could be easily fixed but it turns out it was much, much worse than expected. When we drove him to the vet we really just expected to get him some medicine maybe let him stay there for a couple days and all would be fine and go back to normal. But now sitting here typing this 2 weeks later after his first vet visit and now 9 hours after his death. This is very very surreal. To say I am at peace or to terms with his death would be a lie because I am not. This might be the worst feeling I have ever experienced in my 14 years of living. Although I was prepared to expect that loss and grieving would be hard, I had never it would have imagined to it to be this empty and Hollow and the worst of all without my support with me.
Out of all the videos about pet loss that I could find, your video, Ali spoke to me on a personal level especially about Mogi and your experience with her at the vet. Even though I'm aware that nothing could have possibly helped Joshua from his fate, I am still very upset at myself for letting him live such a short life. Most videos that I have watched were about childhood pets, which are usually 9 years old and above, which makes me doubt my ability as an owner and doubt my ability to love Joshua. Your video has still given me a small amount of closure about his death. I still have a long way on my journey to come to terms with the passing of my best friend but you has given me a small part of closure and for that I thank you so so much. Rest in peace ,Joshua , you will always be my sweetest boy
my dog died a year ago and my therapist told me to just get over it
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her name was lilly she was 7 years old and so full of life
she was diagnosed with leukemia and we were told that she wouldn’t have long left and we didn’t want her to suffer so we decided to put her down
i remember it as if it was yesterday
we tried to give her the sleep injection thing and it didn’t work because she was so energetic and full of life and we had to put 3 more in her to calm her down even a little bit
my heart was literally broke the entire process and i remember her tail was wagging the entire time
i remember when i used to get in fights with my parents or friends i used to go to her and she would calm me down almost instantly even just from being there
i miss her so much still
it’s been a year and i still say goodnight to her every night
i miss you so much lilly 😔
fly high angel
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and raw emotions regarding pet loss 🤗 My sweet 12 yr old bunny passed a few days ago. He was the last survivor and sole companion that helped me get through the death of my husband and my other bunny that passed at the same time. It really bothers me how many people so easily dismiss my loss(s). The only thing that keeps me from feeling completely alone in my grief is the many spirit dream visitations and signs that I have received from my husband and our pets ❤️
Thank you so much. This hit really close because back in February I had to put my dog down after he got really unwell all of a sudden. It literally happened within hours. In the end he lost the use of his back legs and it was progressing up his body and the vet did give us an alternate option but it had a very low success rate so we decided to do what was best for him and relieve him of his pain and let him go. I stayed with him and the vet as the vet was injecting him. My mum and sister had to leave the room. He left us at exactly 2am. The journey home was basically me reflecting back on the 7 years I had spent with my dog. He had learnt to notify my mum when I was seizing all by himself. No-one taught him. He was so clever. Scooby I miss you buddy
I'm really sorry, Ali. I went through something similar with my sibling's cat last year, and it was one of the hardest things I've ever done. Obviously every situation is different, and I'm not saying I know what you're going through right now, but I know how much this can hurt, and I'm sorry.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you get better soon.
I also started crying because I started thinking about my own dog. My boyfriend also started crying... I wish you and your wife and Mwaji’s owners all the best!
Thank you so much for your support. Give your dog a big hug from me!
You’re very welcome! And I will I promise :-)
Thank you so much for making this video. I cried along with you. It’s been almost 2 weeks since I’ve lost my darling girl. She was 11.5 years old and the absolute love of my life. I am beyond brokenhearted and find every day so difficult to face without her. I appreciate your sensitivity and can completely empathize with how you feel. Thank you again.
Man I never thought I would cry so much in front of a TH-cam video... Losing a dog you love is truly devastating, thank you for putting words on this feeling.
My dog died last week. Thankyou for showing me what Im going through is normal. I had a shih tzu x maltese so this was a tear jerker.
We lost our 12 year old Lhasa Apso two days ago. He wasnt himself and we took him to the vet. They discovered an abnormal mass and during surgery we had to have him put to sleep. I can say it has been the single worst experience of my life. My last memory of seeing him alive is asking him from the car to stay strong. I'll never forget the wee guy, he was like my best friend. The grief is quite overwhelming at times and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
Thank you for this. I lost my dog two years ago and it hurt like hell for a really long time. If any of you has a pet, spend more time with them. They bring so much happiness and joy to our lives, while you bring so much more to theirs.
I thank you for this video more than you’ll ever know. I lost my chow/retriever mix around 1am a few days ago on June 1st. A lot of highlights that stood out in this video are the same that I’m going through right now. One of the main ones that caught my attention was the fact “my schedule would revolve around my dog”. No matter what I dealt with that day, good or bad, I always look forward to coming home to “buddy”. Now every time I hear the name “buddy” either in public or working, all I think about is loosing my best friend not even 4 days ago. Another part that stood out in the video was people asking me to get a new dog, & there’s no way I could bring myself to it for a very long time, if I ever do get another dog. I’ve had “buddy” since before I started high school back in 2015. I’m already half way through tech school now and no matter what I dealt with in school, he’d always bring an enlightenment in our home & myself. My concluding statement would be, “you don’t realize how much you appreciate something until it’s gone”. I haven’t gone one second with thinking about him, I can’t even sleep without reminiscing about him. I only think about how he’s in a better place now and try to better myself than what I was before when I was with him. Anyone could use this kind of video to remind them that they’re not along. Couple days ago I watched the first Marley and Me, bad idea but I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
I understand so well. We put Gizmo, our 17 year old rat terrier mix down yesterday. It's been one of the roughest 24 hours I've had in many years. Everywhere I go everything I do, I see and remember him. God gave us a wonderful gift. He brought so much joy into our lives. I miss him so very much.
I just lost my sweet boy Max in Sunday morning to a tragic death, the neighbor’s Pitbull attacked him and I am devastated. Not only do I feel so much guilt because I feel to blame but I keep reliving the experience.
He tried so hard to stay with us and made it through his surgery but shortly after passed away.
I love Max so much, the pain is unbearable. He was the sweetest little dog I’ve ever known and didn’t deserve this. I don’t know what I’m going to do without him. :(
Thank you for giving words to the immeasurable pain and loneliness I feel losing my very best friend in the world, my beloved Ziggy, who was my joy, my comfort, my love and my stinker. I miss him so much it physically hurts.
I'm sorry for your lose. Im feeling the same way. My heart is so broken 💔 my pitbull was truly my best friends my old friends. We did everything together im greiving a hard. I miss him so so much
Thank you for this heartfelt video... I am grieving the loss of my Beloved baby too. Her name was Bella. She was my World... It is the worst pain ever & I miss her so desperately & Reading & Hearing of other people's stories, are helping me through my Grieving Process. Our Society should not put shame on Grieving for our Fur Babies... They are family members...This is an unbearable pain like no other. Sorry for your loss... 😢😢💔
Thank u for this video. My dog Eva died two days ago. I loved her so much. She was so beautiful. She was part of me. When she died a part me died too. I am so lonesome without her. I cry for her. I call out her name. I try to remember the person I was before. I try to think of who I am without her. I try remember who I was when she looked at me. I was connected to her. I knew what love was. I knew what joy was. I knew peace. Now, daily routines are aching, painful reminders of the person I’ll never be again.
I feel this so deeply. I lost my Brody 3 weeks ago and what you described is so similar to the thoughts and feelings I'm going through. I hope you're able to keep going with Eva in your heart. My consolation right now is that the love we shared with our sweet dogs will never die. No one can take that away from us.
Thank you having the courage to show grief of which I'm too frightened to express with the loss of my pet now.
Sadly I had to put my little doggie down 2 weeks ago. She was in my family for 16 years and I loved her so. I have been so sad not to have her in my life in the physical form anymore. I will never get over losing her. Thank you for posting this.
I'm very sorry for your loss. I just lost my 14 year old Chihuahua 6 days ago. She had kidney failure and I had to have her put to sleep. I never knew how hard it was to lose a pet until now. Like you said, it's just like losing a close family member. I feel devastated from it.
Thank you for this video. My childhood pet died almost 2 years ago now. The last picture I have of her is actually a selfie of me, she’s in the background, but she’s not looking at me. It’s like she was hiding the inevitable that she knew was coming. That picture was taken at 7:10 am before my college classes that day. I went to my parents that night, and that’s where her body started to give up. She died the next morning as I was rushing her to the emergency vet, at approximately 4am.
This video almost brought me to tears because it reminded me of her so much. She was my best friend since childhood (she died when I was 19), she knew me better than anyone, and she was the only one that was always there for me. I still cry about her every now and then, more than I cry about the loved ones I’ve lost. It hurts so much more. I’m glad that you’ve made this video, it makes my feelings feel so much more valid.
I had dealt with death my entire childhood, but nothing could have prepared me for losing her. I’m so sorry for your loss. Pets are our family, and our best friends. I hope you, your wife, and your friends can find peace. And again, thank you so much for this video.
Thank you so much! Your video helped me tremendously after losing my 8 year old dachshund Buckee, who passed away from renal failure back in September 2018. I felt a total disconnect from life after losing him, and struggled for many months. Luckily I had great family and friends who helped me through the massive grief.
I lost my snail a few days ago and i'm devastated she was my baby and its hard for people to understand, they say "Ooh is just a snail buy another" but she was so smart and full of personality, she used to make a pile of food so the aquarium wasn't messy she made her own schedule and loved to sleep in an apple. I took a lot of videos but now I can't see them and I've been crying a lot.
Sorry for your loss 💛
Thank you for this very beautiful expression of your pain. I find it helpful with my own grief, perhaps because grieving seems so terribly isolating. I had to put my sweet Bichon Frise down 3 weeks ago after a few months of complications from Cushings disease, then diabetes and finally, a turn for the worst which event threw the vets off. (The chief vet thought it was. probably cancer). We were together for 12 wonderful years, and what is even more precious about him (Bambi) is that he kept me going after the death of my husband just two years ago...Bambi was my lifeline, my connection to the world outside, as I have no other family, and few friends, after nursing a sick husband for years. I really expected Bambi to live at leas a few more years, which small dogs usually do, so I feel so cheated, and unfairly dealt with by the universe...two great losses in as many years is very challenging...not that I do not try to seek enlightenment and joy from appreciating what I do have. As you have indicated, there is not much support or understanding of pet loss in our culture. I am essentially alone with it, and my home feels so incredibly empty. I almost felt panicked about getting another dog, just so I would not have to bear the silence and emptiness anymore but right now I am too depleted to deal with it...the loss of a sick pet can bring many other secondary losses, especially financial ones, with oftentimes crushing vet bills.
I just lost my 14 yr old cat last Wed. I've been thru pet loss 2 other times. It has been so difficult and gut wrenching. I've had a ton of support, which is wonderful. Grief is so individual. In time, it does lessen but the pain is real and I think worse than losing a human, tbh.
My dog, my best friend, just passed away 3 days ago. I'm still grieving. I had him for 11 years and he helped me with sad moments.
Thanks for the video, man.
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. The pain will ease with time but your love and their loss will always be there. You aren’t alone in this struggle.
@@drali thank you. I had him memorialized too
I had to put my dog down four months ago... I had her ever since I was around 6-7 years old so it hurts so much more because I grew up with her and she's seen so me go through so many milestones in my life. I'm still hurting so much from it.
I'll always love you Pepper. I miss you sweet girl
I lost my little Shy last night also from heart failure...the pain is enormous..my days evolved around her..because the last few months she was on alot of meds & too weak and had to be carried out to potty.. I could never cry in front of her over it, because she would get concerned about ME..she was the sweetest love I've ever known.
I love how vulnerable you are in this video, Ali. I cry watching it. I have an old cat and seeing her grows old already hurt me, because I really love her and I want her to be always healthy and well. Thank you so much for making this video and showing us that tears of loss is not weakness and the loss we feel is real. Rest in peace, Mwaji.
I’m really sorry for your loss. I wish you and your loved ones peace as you move forward and reflect on your happy memories.
Thank you so much for your video. I just lost my dog and this video helps a lot. Thank you
Thank you for making this video. My dog died almost two months ago and I am totally heartbroken. I feel like a shell of my former self. Like my entire heart is gone. I cry everyday and cry even harder when I think about my dog being gone forever.
I must have a bit of disenfranchised grief because while I grieve, I grieve in private. And try to be "normal" in the presence of other people.
Totally understand. We lost our eight year old golden 10 days ago to cancer. My husband and I held her for another three hours and I felt exactly how she went from warm to cold. I cut some her fur and I need to touch the fur every day to ease the pain in my heart.
Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm so very sorry this happened to you and your extended family. It definitely hurts, and feels like you've lost a person. It's such a pure relationship. My husband and I lost our little "boy" 2 years ago and it was just devastating. Luckily, we have a wonderful animal hospice in our area and they came to our home to perform the euthanasia. They were amazing people who helped us through a horrible time. Eventually, we were able to adopt another little dog that needed us just as much as we needed her. Meanwhile, the grieving process is very hard; very hollow; very empty feeling. No other little soul can take the place of the one you've lost. My heart goes out to you. I understand. Thank you for your openess and honesty on this topic. So important! Best wishes! ❤
I can’t thank you enough for this video.
Hi. I watched only one video of yours before I saw this one, and I got very emotional watching this because I just lost my 17 year old dog a couple of months ago. I started crying almost as soon as you did. Thank you Soo much for making this video and sharing it with all of us!
Thank you for this video. 2 days ago my mother lost her beloved cat. Thanks to you we can go through this time with more wisdom. Thank you.
thank you for resonating my feelings. pets are so much like our family and the loss is irreplaceable
I admire your strength for making this. This comforted me as it's easy to feel alone during these times. My boy of 14 years passed 1 week ago. It is the hardest experience of my entire life. God bless you, sir
Thank you so much for this! As is said, misery loves company, and to see someone share their grief like you have helps me deal with mine! 2 weeks now since euthanizing my best pal! So, so sad!
Rob Frye : Same here .I would just love someone to tell me when the crying stops. .😪
Thank You for making this video, because right now our family is feeling the pain of loss. We are about to go to the veterinary hospital to have our poor 16 year old little soulmate put to sleep. The pain is overwhelming, I lost my Mother only a month ago and my husband was made redundant two months ago. If life is meant to teach you lessons and make you stronger, at the end of all this I will be able to face anything. Right now all we can do is take one step in front of us. The pain of losing a cherished little dog is equal to the pain of a human. They're there for us through all our moods, all our bad times, they really do have unconditional love, and it's the tiniest of everyday things we will miss. I'm feeling double the pain watching my heartbroken daughter, who has grown up with him, utterly inconsolable. Thank you for expressing this heartfelt emotion in this video, it really does help to connect in this way, and sorry you had the same pain of loss, it's heart wrenching Xx
I agree totally this pain is real. I feel the same pain as if a person died and to be honest this hurts alot more ... pets are not just a human death they are part of you every single day . Thank you your video helped me so much 😔💕
I am sorry for your great loss and thank you with all my heart for making this video showing the very raw emotions we can feel at the loss of our most precious companions - helped greatly to know there are others who have felt the same as i did when my iwn dogs passed 🙏⚘❤
Thank you for making this video and being so openly vulnerable with your pain. I just lost the beloved cat yesterday that was part of my life for the last ten years. I had pets before which I loved dearly, but something about this connection was so unique and pure, I can't stop crying. Just today my best friend told me "to get over it" and that "it's just a cat". The video is helping to get some sense it the grief and that the emotions are legitimate
Thank you for this video. I lost my best friend my American Bulldog Solomon this past Thursday. I'm heartbroken and miss him dearly. Connecting with those who have gone through this weather it be directly or through TH-cam has definitely helped. I know its been a bit of time but I'm sorry for your loss. I hope the time has brought some healing. Thanks again
i have experienced a lot of close family dying. my cat squeaky died yesterday morning unexpectedly at the young age of 9 and the grief i’m experiencing is incomparable. i am so heartbroken i don’t know what to do. he gave me unconditional love for 9 years. rip squeaky
I just lost my best little furry friend for about 12 years and the pain is unbelievable it’s worse then a break up in my opinion (ZOE🐶❤️ rip I love you )
I lost my dog a little over two weeks ago, and it's amazing how some people really don't get it. I even had a help hotline worker tell me that it's an animal and that's different from a human, they understand it's a family member and you can grieve, but you need to understand that it's not like a human. And then they suggested that I just get another puppy.
I think some people really just think it's the same as telling someone when their computer breaks to just get another computer. They don't understand the bonds that we form with these amazing creatures. They might as well just tell a mother who has just lost her baby to just have another one.
I think it would be entirely appropriate to call these people out when they display insensitivity and ignorance like this. The fact that they can't understand the grief of animal lovers upon losing a pet doesn't mean that the grief is invalid. It just means that those people don't get it and are ignorant.
justmerosie : I don’t think it’s really ignorance but it definitely is a loss of empathy in them. Maybe they just can’t relate to someone else’s grief unless it affects them. People that love animals have a special gentleness about them that these people will probably never understand. So just dismiss them,& maybe we should feel sorry for them, because I’ve heard it written that. “ until one experiences the unconditional love of a dog, there is a part of their soul that has not been awakened “ I believe that 😪
I'm so touched you've shared your pain with us. Take good care of yourself. If you find make videos helps to distract you away from the pain and that is helpful, do that. Equally, if your grief means making videos hinders your journey through it, then do not worry about us. Do what you need to endure the motions. You know best how to manage it and to not fall in the therapist trap where one knows enough about it so doesn't seek colleagues support and goes through it alone. All is impermanent. Much love ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your story. This helps a lot with my grieving, and I also cried for your loss as well. There’s not enough videos out there that share these same feelings.
I'm so glad I stumbled across this video. A few months ago on my birthday I lost my first dog. She'd been in my life for 15 years - I was 7 when we got her, I don't remember life without her. Now, 4 months later, I'm losing my cat of 10 years. To lose both of my pets in such a short timeframe (and where I'm not in a position to get another) is breaking my heart. I'm constantly being asked why I'm so sad, they were just a dog/cat. The pain is real, there's an empty space in my life where they were.
I just lost my pet 4 days ago, and I am just feeling lost and depressed... it was a heartwarming video... I felt your pain... and relate totally...
My little LuWee passed over on May 27, 2023. My life will never be the same.
I just lost my best pal Bandit yesterday he was born on my bed and gave me 13 wonderful years im devastated, it helps to know im not the only one deeply greaving, i cant eat or sleep thanks for the video and god bless and comfort everyone going through this
Such a great video. Thank you for making it. Going through tremendous loss as well. We're not alone. Stay strong.
That was PERFECT!!! Thank you SOOO much. I am broken but seeing you broken too has helped.
I'm so happy this was healing for you in some way.
I lost my dog, im a psychiatric nurse and since Monday I have been in bits! He was there for me when life was shit, miss you Murphy dog!
Thanks for sharing man. I just lost my beloved dog. I’m mourning very badly. I’m sorry about your loss as well. This shit sucks.
Thank you! I lost my precious yorkie poo two days ago and I can’t stop crying.
Thank you. My baby boy, Whistler (in my photo), died Friday. We took him to be cremated today. This has been the single most difficult loss of my life.
Losing a pet is one of the hardest and loneliest challenges in life. My heart goes out to you and your family as you heal. Thank you for sharing so openly.
Thank you, Doctor Ali. I'm sorry for your loss. Moji seemed like a really sweet soul. I'm losing my dog sometime this week, and the grieving process has been extremely hard. I've mostly felt depressed, sad, confused, disbelief and numb. Frankie, the sweet sweet dog you see on my pfp, has cancer. It's extremely special, the bond you have with your pet. Especially dogs, who just are pure love.
Watching your dog die while you tell him it’s all right is the one of the worst things that a pet owner will ever have to go through. I remember a week after my dog was put down I heard my dad jingle his keys and I got so exited I thought it was my dogs collar.
Today I lost my beloved best friend, pet dog, after having him for 17 years. It was expected of course, at his age. But the end came so suddenly, I'm in shock. He got a prolonged seizure, and didn't recover from it. I am heartbroken.
It's an awful feeling. I can relate. Lost my boy of 14 years 1 week ago. It's hard to function but we must move forward for them. I dont know who you are or where you're from but you are in my prayers. Be strong.
@@the_k_space thank you.
Wow! So touching, so true. Brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for being brave enough to share this, and thank you for bringing awareness to the disenfranchised grief of losing a very special bond.💞
When our family dog passed, with me living out of state now, our family shared the grief together over the phone as a group. It is real and they are real family members. Peace to you and your family.
I feel you , I felt like the world ended, when I have to give the dog back to its owner, I’m heart broken
We let out Mimi go last night (Friday). She was in the hospital since 4 am on Tuesday. She lost so much blood and had 3 transfusion already. The doctor gave her some opiates to ease the pain yesterday. I got a call at 5pm that she had a massive blowout right after the 3rd transfusion. I gave the instructions to do not resuscitate and gave the go ahead for another emergency transfusion. We rush to the hospital and they let us see her. My wife made the call because I did not have the strength to do it. Hope, in reality, is the worst of all evils, for it, prolongs the torment of men. However you can’t live with out hope.
I just want to thank you for making this video. I had it in my "watch later" list for two months but I watched it today, I really regret I didn't do it earlier. This video contains so many important things. First it showed a psychologist is also a human who can cry and break down. Sometimes I think that people have this weird delusion that we psychologists are perfectly fine with our emotions and nothing can get to us which is a lie. We're all humans, we cry. I'm glad you showed how important it is to not bottle up and cry when you need to. I'm glad you showed that losing a pet can hurt just as much as losing a close person. It's not just an animal, a pet. It's also a family member. They feel and understand so much more than some people think. I teared up few times during watching it and everytime I did I went to my beautiful 10 yo pupper whom i almost lost two times. These were one of the most difficult times in my life and i cant even imagine how much it hurts when you actually lose them... Thank you. Just thank you. You're amazing person, empathetic, I love your approach to life and what you tell people. I hope you're doing better now, blessings for you and your family
I just lost my 13 year old Boston Terrier today. This video has truly helped me so much. Thank you.
I feel your pain I just lost my beloved Tuffy this week we had to put him down after 15 years of loyal companionship it's very heartbreaking I still can't get over it I wish you well
I'm sorry for your loss.