Dealing with Pet Loss - Talking about Guilt, Euthanasia and Grief
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💜 The hardest decision I've ever made was to have my dog put out out of his misery. It was horrible, they can't tell you how they feel. You kind of know when it's time. It's worse than losing a human relative. Non pet owners never get it.
You’re so right, Kirsty. I’m so sorry you had to go through this.
Dealt with this today.
Our Siamese was with us for 10 years and was such a lovable little bear. He was sure picky about who he would let near him, but I take comfort in knowing during his last moments, my husband and I were right there with him through every moment - the two people he would want there for him more than anyone.
He wrapped his claw around my arm like he’d do every night for bed and slowly went to sleep. Was so peaceful for him. He had been fighting hard for a week straight (on top of insulin injections, syringe feeding, and helping him with the litter box). He even fought sleep the last three days, and due to the holiday, we couldn’t get in anywhere sooner … so the poor thing pushed himself through 2 days of restlessness and pain while we did everything in our power to keep him comfortable until then. Now he’s resting in a beautiful spot here nearby my flowers, and when spring comes, he’ll have a lovely bouquet around him.
I’m glad I got to spend what time I had with him, though, and you’re right. I’ve lost family members before, and yes it hurts like crazy when it’s family you’re close with, but it hits a bit different when it’s a pet … and people who haven’t owned a pet simply won’t understand. They’re far more than just an “animal”. They have their own personalities, attachments, and even display emotions. They BECOME family. Sure, they’re not as easy to read as a human, but they’re pretty darn close.
My cat knew more about me probably than any family member. Seen me at my worst and my best and he was who I would talk to when alone, pouring my thoughts out to … and he’d just sit there and purr. Wonderful at-home therapist that I’m going to miss terribly.
Even though I commenting a year later, I am sorry for your loss with your dog. It’s hard to make the choice to end their suffering, but we do what we can to help them. I can emotionally deal with suffering over his absence just as long as I know he isn’t suffering physically, and I am sure any pet owner feels the same.
@@TwoBs Beautifuly said. I'm sorry for your loss. I had to do the same this past Tuesday for my cute Chihuahua girl Bailie. She was 18 ❤️❤️
So true, they can never get it.. i put my pet down yesterday which was at my parents home.. and you know my inlaws are not feeling the pain i have…they are normal but i am not…
Not only making that decision but being there watching them go, saying goodbye as it happens… it’s the most painful thing I’ve ever done. I when through this a couple days ago. But it’s true, you get a different feeling when you feel it’s time. Trying to hold on to that feeling to deal with the guilt. Hope y’all recover from your losses the best you can ❤️
I find comfort in being an old man, and knowing we'll be together again soon. I tell them to wait at the bridge until we,'re all together again, and we'll cross together. I bury them on my property,, and talk to them as I dig the grave. My ashes will be buried beside them. The cemetery is beside a pond, on the edge of a forest.
A few years ago, after the death of one of my guys, I told God that if my pets couldn't go with me, I wanted to go with them even into nothingness. I asked if we'll be together. I became aware that the sun was very bright. I looked up into what had been an overcast sky, and saw that the light was shining through a large, perfectly round hole in the clouds, I'm an old man and a retired Park Ranger, so I had spent much of my life outdoors. In all those years I had never seen anything like what I saw that day. I believe God had answered my question. We'll be together for eternity.
Such profound grief I have felt since putting my dog down 3 days ago. She was my constant companion and gave me unconditional love which is something any human cannot give.
My dog was my best friend, we had to put her down yesterday as her heart was failing her. I’ve never felt a sadness like this before, and I never anticipated that it would feel like this. My heart goes out to everyone who is dealing with this grief right now 💛 I’m just desperately hoping it gets better, I see her everywhere I look 😔
Sending you a warm hug Bethany, it will eventually get better ❤️
Thank you for this, and thank you for your video, it has been very helpful to normalise these feelings and find others who understand 💛
As brutal as this may sound
..many animals are far more deserving of our love and compassion than some people.... including, sadly the occasional family member.
A devoted , loyal pet provides us with a source of peace and tranquility that is difficult to explain to those who have never had a pet.
When the end comes... whatever the circumstances.. it is the good memories that help get us through the grief...but that grief... that emptiness will always be with us. That is the price we pay for loving... for being human. And yes.... it is worth it. Best.
Donald Teuber the thing is with humans we all have agendas, however big or small...A dog doesn’t, just wants food, water, love, shelter and exercise
i agree. this is why it makes me so angry when people hurt and neglect their pets. all their pets want to do is love them, and those people don't return it.
I don't want that grief to stay with me. I just want to forget everything. I feel so guilty. My kitten died on getting hit by a vehicle when I assumed it just ran off and would come back. I don't know how I should feel
@@VisionAssoc and to be loved and to give love.
So, so true! Thank you!
When my dog died of stomach tumors l was there when he took his last breath, my world fell apart he was my best friend loyal faithful and always there for me. The vets were wonderful the nurses also shed a tear with me and sent me a lovlely card on the loss of my dog. I couldn't get up what was the point without him my life was falling apart as we did every thing together, about 4 months later my ex wife wife said why didnt l get a rescue dog from Cyprus which l did. Now 4 years later ive now got a big family of pets 9 cats 1 dog chickens & ducks, l've taken in the cats which nobody wanted now there loved and wanted and most of all a home. I have'nt forgot about juke my dog or my other cats that have passed they all get a proper cremation and a casket, placed in my cabinate with the condolence cards from the vets and crematorium ready to be placed with me on my demise. Yes it does knock you for 6 when your pet dies but there is always a postive, my pets are my family
Beautiful story. I also just learned what the phrase knock you for 6 means and wow that’s a good way to explain losing a pet.
I totally get what you're saying, mine are my family too ❤️
Beautiful story, this moved me to tears.. i hope you live a long wonderful life full of love and family
@@user-et9mc6gv3y Thank you for your kind words. X
@Simon Howells Thank you so much for this comment and your story of grief. It really resonated with me because I too didn’t want to and often times couldn’t get out of bed (still can’t sometimes) after my dog tragically died because, yes, to me there’s no point of living without my beloved, precious girl. So your story and experience are very helpful during my forever changed life filled with painful and complicated grief from losing my best friend and daughter all in one. She is my soulmate and one of, if not the only, love of my life and purest love of my life. I’ll always love you so much and miss you so much, Ci. Always.🐕💗💖💔💙
And no matter how long it’s been, I’m still so sorry for your loss of Juke and all your other animal losses. The pain is with us forever. I also want to thank you for saving so many animals, even after Juke’s death. You’re a hero. I need to save your story/comment somewhere accessible so I can always read it when I need it.
Warm blessings to you and all your animals, here and deceased.💙💙
I have recently had to put my beloved dog to sleep ( she had cancer). The grief I feel, the random sobbing, the sense of loss, the loss of appetite, the actual physical pain I feel is no different from how I felt when my much loved step father died. Love is love.
Thank you for this video and sending love to anyone who is going through this too.
Grief is for pets too.
Yep. If a person doesn't care, maybe having a pet wasn't a great idea to begin with.....
My little Archie lived with his younger brother Toby. Toby is lost too, like me. We love you Archie!
If people were as loyal as a good pet,what a better world we have.
I had to put my dog to sleep yesterday. It was all really sudden, she was 15 years old but we were never expecting her to leave like this, she was reasonably healthy for a dog her age. I'm 19, we've had her since I was 3 years old so I barely remember life without her. I loved her all her life and I will miss her all mine. Currently writing this after crying my heart out, I wasn't able to sleep tonight knowing I won't wake up to see her. It's so hard and it feels impossible that it'll get better, I don't want to get used to a life without her. Thank you for this video though, I really needed to feel understood. It'll all be blue for a while and having someone who's experienced this pain too give this friendly yet honest talk was really helpful.
Ps: I so much agree with having something to carry them with you, I'm probably going for a tattoo once I'm strong enough not to cry everytime I think about it. Also portraits ofc.
I’m sorry, my friend. It’s been two years since you posted this, I hope you are feeling better. God bless you for loving and caring for your dog.
I had to have my little girl of 15 put to sleep a few days before Xmas. I know exactly how you feel. It is the most difficult decision I have ever had to make and the most devastating. I’m 69 years old and she was my closest and constant companion. No one tells you about losing them. We just go along as if they will be there with us forever. Then we lose them. I’m so sorry for your loss. I know the grief is incredibly painful but I’m realising it’s because they were the absolutely most wonderful friends we have ever had and probably will ever have. They deserve all those tears and all that emotion of loss simply because they were so freaking Amazing 💎💎💎🤍🤍🤍🕊🕊🕊🙏🏽🙏🏽🕊
My beloved dog Camila passed away ( I had to put her to sleep) 2 months ago. I cry every single day. She was my companion, best friend, daughter and it is so hard to live without her. I have her ashes with me at home and put her on a table with her picture. Thank you for this video. Only people who have loved a pet this much can understand the huge pain it is to let them go.
@Tere Avalos Thank you so much for this comment. It’s so helpful during my forever changed life filled with painful and complicated grief from losing my best friend and daughter all in one. She is my soulmate and one of, if not the only, love of my life and purest love of my life. I’ll always love you so much and miss you so much, Zuri. Always.🐕💗💖💔💙
@Tere Avalos And I’m so sorry for your loss of precious Camila. Just so sorry.💙
My beloved Camila also passed away almost 2 weeks ago. My precious and sweet friend for over 14 years. I'm so heartbroken and missing her deeply
I'm really glad to hear such a meaningful conversation on this subject. Like many others here, i had to put my cat down a month ago. She was 21. I am 42, so i had her half my life. I had initially adopted her as a rescue. I didnt have a boyfriend, a child, or many friends at that point in my life. My family lived 3,000 miles away. I needed her just as much as she needed me. She was laying in a clean litter box when i spotted her. The woman who worked for Best Friends organization told me that she was found inside a dumpster! Who would throw life away?! When i picked her up, she settled her tiny little 8 week old body on my collar bone and began to purr. Putting her down last month was so difficult. She remained loving through so many ups and downs of life. When rest of the world walked away, she purred in my face. She will forever be in my heart. God is good and blesses us with the honor of keeping care of his creatures!
Thanks for this video and all the thoughtful comments..
My pet turtle just died, and I cried so much... I know a lott of people would make fun of me, but that turtle was more important to me then many people that I know.
Humans can be attached to all different varieties of animals, nobody would make fun of you, all animals are precious.
I think a grief for a pet is the same as a loss of a loved one if not greater reason being they are constantly at our side and the bond is so much greater. But those are my thoughts x
My wife and I had the pleasure of having a beautiful little dog for 14 years. She got sick with heart problems. One morning she looked at both of us like she was saying goodbye. And that was it. She died in our arms. We had a very good vet who knew a pet cremation service. He said he was very trustworthy. After talking to him, we knew we could trust him. We have her ashes today sitting by our bed. We talk to her all the time. We never got another dog. We felt we would never get one to take her place. That was a heartfelt video. Love you.
I had to have my beloved cat Ms. Beatrice put to sleep one week ago. She was in kidney failure. She was 13 yrs old and she came to us a stray in the middle of winter when she was only on yr old. She was pregnant at the time. We kept all of her kittens and it has been a joy. We miss Ms Beatrice so very much.
This is very well timed for me. My much loved cat, my friend, has a tumour and only has a very, very short time left.
I have struggled already trying to make plans but making the most of our time together.
I really felt your loss of Odie, and it is comforting to hear you speak of him now.
Thank you Marina.
doesnt matter if its an animal,they r stil a member of the family,which shud b well loved n respected n yes u defo shud b allowed to grievexxx
Thank you for making this video. I had to make that decision 2 weeks ago for my sweet baby dog of almost 13 years. He was funny, loving, loyal and a complete joy to love, more so than most people. While I am so thankful for every minute with him, my heart is so broken. My chest literally hurt so bad that day for a solid 8 hours and I almost hoped I could join him. Everything in our home reminds me of him and I pray this doesn’t last too much longer. He had the very best, but I can’t help but think if there was anything else we could have done. His little body was tired and wracked with pain in the last days. That morning I called a vet to come to our home that afternoon, so he and I went for a pup cup, a kolache and a final trip to the park where he watched the ducks, rather than run towards them this time. We held him and face timed with our grown child as he slipped out of his pain and went to Heaven. I took his little body to The crematory to oversee and get that closure, and keep his urn beside my bed.
May God bless all of our sweet fur babies🙏🏻 ‘Til we meet again. 🐾♥️🐾
I understand you, believe me it will get better but his memory will never fade. I know that you did everything you could and more. You ended his suffering it's a very brave and compassionate act. Lots of love to you ❤️
When I lost my dog, the first day I felt horrible and my stomach was feeling bad, I couldn't stop crying etc. I cried for almost 2 years after, everytime I thought about him. Now it's been 2,5 years and I can think about him eventually without crying and feeling sad. I think it's the normal process of grief. It's the same with pets, just like it is with people.
I put my dog to sleep yesterday, it has been the hardest thing I've ever made, we've been together around 16 years and I'm really experimenting this feeling of guiltiness. Thank you very much for yor video, it was very helpful. ❤️
You are the nicest person on the internet. I recall the viedo of you and Odie collecting sea glass....I ordered one of your seaglass necklace you handmade. I lost it body surfing in the ocean. So it went back to the sea. Thanks for sharing.
I just lost my Bonnie this Sunday evening. It is one of the worst things I’ve gone through in life and I’ve been through a difficult divorce. Animals are in some ways better than humans. They love with no strings attached, no conditions, nothing. They won’t flake on you or be moody. They won’t disappoint you or change their way of being because they’re trying to fit in. Animals in particular dogs are just amazing creatures. I miss my Bonnie so much. This video is very helpful- thank you.
Well my cats love me as long as I provide food and shelter so it is conditional
You're grieving for your loved one, Marina. Whether a human or a pet, it's real and painful. This quote by Winnie the Pooh helped me a lot in dealing with my grief;
"How lucky I am to have something that makes saying good bye so hard." (A.A. Milne)
I hope it helps you, too. Blessings! ♡
Bettina from Connecticut
@Bettina Youngs Thank you so much for this comment and your quote, which really resonated with me. It’s so helpful during my forever changed life filled with painful and complicated grief from losing my best friend and daughter all in one. She is my soulmate and one of, if not the only, love of my life and purest love of my life. I’ll always love you so much and miss you so much, Ci. Always.🐕💗💖💔💙
I need to save your quote somewhere accessible so I can always read it when I need it.
And I’m so sorry you also have lost a dear precious love. Warm blessing to you too.💙
thank you for that thought, it is helpful. I am lucky, even if I don't feel very lucky right now
Thank you for the quote. I think I will find someone to write it in script, frame it and keep it with my sweet girl's picture, paw print and ashes to remind me of, truly, how absolutely lucky I was to have shared this spot on this planet with Riley. R.I.P., Big Girl. Miss you so much. See you at The Bridge. Sugar Bear.
If someone cannot respect the grief we feel for our non human family they do not deserve our respect. I have been so lucky in sharing my life with three dogs and a bunny I have lost. I remember them all every day, they are part of me. I won't have children as, for my own reasons, I don't want them so they were my children. I was with them all as they went over the rainbow bridge telling them I loved them so they weren't afraid. They all did more for me than I could ever do for them 💕❤️💕
Thank you for your comment. It helps me a lot with mine. And I’m so sorry for your losses as well.💙
Pets can definitely be closer to you than your family. I have had several dogs but there were 2 that seemed so similar to each other in personality. Those were the ones that really hurt me to lose the most. I cried over the first for years. But the last , I am still crying so much over her and I felt like it was losing 2 dogs.
Thank you for the words, even though I am crying hard right now. You said so much I know but I needed to hear from someone else.
My heart goes out to all who loses a pet they loved. Let us live in the hope we WILL see them again!
@Karen P Thank you so much for this comment. It’s so helpful during my forever changed life filled with painful and complicated grief from losing my best friend and daughter all in one. She is my soulmate and one of, if not the only, love of my life and purest love of my life. I’ll always love you so much and miss you so much, Ci. Always.🐕💗💖💔💙
@Karen P and I’m so very sorry for your losses, just so sorry.💙
That's beautiful Marina. I agree with all you say. I have been rescuing animals for 20 years and have had to go through this situation many times. As you say, you never get over it or stop missing them, but you can return to happiness again. Animals give us unconditional love, so of course their passing can be as painful, often even more so, than the passing of a human. Also what you say about the more you love the more there can be pain. I think that is beautifully expressed in this quote which I often share with people who have lost a pet. Odie and your other dog are always with you in spirit.
"There is a cycle of love and death that shapes the lives of those who choose to travel in the company of animals. It is a cycle unlike any other. To those who have never lived through its turnings or walked its rocky path, our willingness to give our hearts with full knowledge that they will be broken seems incomprehensible. Only we know how small a price we pay for what we receive; our grief, no matter how powerful it may be, is an insufficient measure of the joy we have been given."
from 'Bones Would Rain From the Sky' by Suzanne Clothier
@Rozanna Herring Thank you so much for this comment and your quote, which really resonated with me. It’s so helpful during my forever changed life filled with painful and complicated grief from losing my best friend and daughter all in one. She is my soulmate and one of, if not the only, love of my life and purest love of my life. I’ll always love you so much and miss you so much, Ci. Always.🐕💗💖💔💙
I need to save your quote somewhere accessible so I can always read it when I need it.
@@dionharper4082 I am so sorry to hear of your heartbreak Dion. Those whose souls have left their physical bodies have just returned to pure spirit. They are not lost to us, they have merely changed form. We miss their physical form and touch, but it is just as though they have gone into the next room where they will wait for us. They are just as close to us as they ever have been, we just can't see them. The love we share with others can never be broken. Sending you love and support.
@@rozannaherring1578 I pray this is so...♥ As I am in the depths of grief that seem to swallow me
@@dragonfly9209 I am so sorry you are going through such a hard time. Grief can be overwhelming. For me nature is the greatest healer, being surrounded by beauty and peace calms the soul and demands nothing from us when we feel we have nothing to give. Whoever it is that you are missing, know that their spirit is always with you and look for signs. Birds and other winged creatures like butterflies are often messengers from those who have gone on ahead. If a bird or a butterfly behaves in a way that is out of the ordinary and catches your attention, this is often a message to bring you some peace from your beloved. You will find joy in your life again, even as you will always miss the physical presence of the one you love, but your love keeps you connected always until you meet again. Take gentle care of yourself. Your beloved wants you to be happy again.
@@rozannaherring1578 Thank you for your kind words. I have had some signs like the ones you mentioned, which have given me some comfort. I must remember what you've said--when I'm at my lowest. Thanks again ♥
I took my dog to the crematory myself and stood by during the process. I feel much better knowing I received my dog back..
Totally agree with documenting their last weeks/days. comparing these to pictures of my dog even a year before made me realise how old and ill he had become. It definitely helps with confirming I made the right decision.
I took video of my dog just hours before she had to go,when I look back I see how she had had enough,it hard.love never fades
Grief is for all of which you love. Be encouraged. Safe travels. Namaste.
This resonated heavily with me having said goodbye to my pal of nearly 11 years just 2.5 weeks ago... I completely agree the volume of love mirrors the sense of pain & loss - I read recently “when you take on a dog (pet) you take on their death” and I guess this is true - thank you I really appreciated this video right now ❤️
@Shona Smillie Thank you so much for this comment and your quote, which really resonated with me. It’s so helpful during my forever changed life filled with painful and complicated grief from losing my best friend and daughter all in one. She is my soulmate and one of, if not the only, love of my life and purest love of my life. I’ll always love you so much and miss you so much, Ci. Always.🐕💗💖💔💙
I need to save your quote somewhere accessible so I can always read it when I need it.
@Shona Smillie and I’m so very sorry for your loss. Just so sorry. Hoping you receive comfort and love and visits from your pal.💙
My dog has been by my side since I was 17, now he's 11 years old, and I can say that I'm trying to enjoy as much as I can now that he's with me, because I know that the day he won't be with me I will be super sad... so I totally understand you and agree with all you said in this video! ♥️
Savour all moments and make videos of you walking together. I promise it will make grieving a lot easier when you want something to look back on
I actually think it’s worse when a pet dies in my experience they give u unconditional love 💕
I said goodbye to my best girl just two months ago. This is all excellent advice. Miss seeing Odie in your videos, but he’s a rest now. All the good dogs are sleeping easy now, no more pain.
Saying goodbye to an animal that you love is the hardest part of pet ownership. Especially when you have had them from young, and have enjoyed watching them grow up from cute little fur balls, to adulthood. I have enjoyed 13 years with my dog. She has been an amazing part of my family. Her health has been deteriorating for a few months, and we had to schedule an appointment to say goodbye this coming Monday. She is not the only dog I have owned, but she has been with us all her life. It never gets easier. No matter how many times you go through it. Remember the good times, and be grateful for the time you had. All good things come to an end, but the love you share with a pet stays with you forever.
Dogs are living angels ❤️❤️❤️
Euthanasia is kindest and selfless act for sick and suffering pet that has no voice to express...
Miss oldie already
Oh, Marina. Did I break down into tears halfway through? Yup. But it was also heartwarming to hear someone describe how it feels. So thank you a million for this video. My pet rabbit, Fitz, died in November 2018 and I still cry whenever I think of her. I ended up leaving the flat we shared as it was unbearable to come home and not see her lionhead face. The guilt is still very strong, although my friends assured me upon her passing away that I had saved her life. But whatever we have done/did always feels too little. Fitz spent two years and a half in awful conditions and when I was told about her, I said I would adopt her right away. I'm a rabbit person, you see. It took time and work to gain her trust, but then she would follow me around and sleep at my feet like a dog. We'd spend Sunday mornings cuddling on my bed. She loved cuddles. She was diagnosed with a major tumour in April 2018 and while chemo helped, her health eventually deteriorated. As soon as I noticed she had lost her appetite, I brought her to the vet and she died there peacefully. The guilt mostly comes from the fact that I only gave her two years and a half of a better (?) life as a cage- free, organic-veggie-eating bunny. I wish she had had more happy time than bad. After she passed, I had my mind set on not adopting another pet for a while so as to give my heart time to mend. Ironically, two weeks after I moved into my new flat a stray cat showed up and literally moved in. He had been abandoned and a neighbour later told me he had had a rough time outside. I'm not spiritual in any way, but I did wonder whether it wasn't my Fitz sending someone else to help.
@Blandine DEMAILLY I’m so sorry about your loss of Fitz. From what you wrote, it sounds like you gave him the most exceptional life. I like to think that in cases where we rescue animals and give them amazing lives, but ultimately they leave us to what we think is too soon, I like to think maybe they were sooo happy with us and their new happy lives that they said to themselves, “Ok! I’m FINALLY at PEACE and immersed in LOVE, so I am ready to rest and leave because now I have lived the amazing life I deserve. I know I can’t prove that to you, but wouldn’t it be so helpful and comforting if it were true? It could still be true. We can’t prove that it isn’t or is. I hope that helps you like it did for me in one of my rescues. Also, Thank you so much for this comment of sharing your story. It’s so helpful during my forever changed life filled with painful and complicated grief from losing my best friend and daughter all in one. She is my soulmate and one of, if not the only, love of my life and purest love of my life. I’ll always love you so much and miss you so much, Ci. Always.🐕💗💖💔💙
and I think Fitz did send you your new companion.💙
Your dog is the soul of your life I left the UK in 2004 with my west highland white to move to Bulgaria he was 1 year old then I had him 15more years 24/7 he was with me where ever I went we toured around many countries in Europe I lost him nearly 2 years ago and still grief for him now those 15 years were the best of my life many ups and downs but when he parted there was no more fun for me even though my wife got another dog he will not replace my dudley.
Your videos of Odie were very special and I miss them. We shared in your grief when he passed away. When you scattered his ashes on that hill that was an incredible moment, about you, about Odie, about all of us, and about life.
Where is that? I missed it.
Thanks for this, I’ve had to go through this too many times in my long life. I have been honoured to share my time with many dogs, cats and horses, saying goodbye is never easy but it is the last great thing we can do for our friends. 2 weeks ago I had to let my lovely little cat Foxy go, she was very sick and because Covid 19 I was unable to hold her at the end which I have always done in the past, which made it even harder. Only cowards let there animals die in misery to save there own feelings.
That must have been very hard, Twa. My son and daughter-in-law recently had to take their beloved cat to the vets as she was very ill and couldn't be helped medically. It broke their hearts to hand her through the car window to the vet, as if they were just giving her away. The vet came back later and said she was very comfortable and not at all worried about being there, passing peacefully, but they still suffer dreadfully from the guilt. My own gorgeous cat died 5 yrs ago and I only managed to take her basket of toys out earlier this year...just out of the living room for now. I washed the toys and plan to give them away eventually. :)
Gosh I couldn’t imagine my cat dying alone at the vet. I’m really sorry for your loss!
You’re right, we know when it’s the right time. Keeping them alive longer when they can no longer enjoy life is only a selfish act. I euthanized my cat because she wouldn’t want to suffer more and I don’t want to see her suffer anymore.
The comment about only cowards letting their animals suffer in order to satisfy our feelings helps me reinforce making the right decision for my dog of 22 years. It was and always should be about what's best for the creatures that gift us with so much love. I could never let my pet suffer. Ending the suffering is the most selfless act, and it's also the most difficult due to our bonds and love
@Twa Westies I’m so sorry. That must have been one of the hardest things to do. I’m so sorry you couldn’t be there. You are still a wonderful animal parent and your baby loves you for that.
I appreciate this video. I had to put my sweetheart down yesterday and I feel guilt
I have lost 9 dogs and a cat over my lifetime. (6 of the dogs were all owned at one time over 16 years) One thing i will say is you will know in your own mind when the time is right and for what needs to be done. My thoughts have always been that I do not want my dogs (cat) suffering for the sake of it. I have been with all of mine when the time has come and it never gets any easier to do. Only thing i will say is its quite a peaceful way for the pet to go. I have had them cremated and always had the ashes back and spread them in a special area.
Never ask me to choose between my dog or a person :o)
I feel for you my dog passed away 2 years ago and I am still grieving him I will miss him forever he was my best friend and he was always there for me
Our pets r our family! 💞
I had to put my beautiful black lab, Becca, to sleep 2 days ago. She had inoperable cancer. The very saddest thing is it was colorectal cancer, and right up until the day she passed, she still wanted to eat (less lightly) and drink normally. She went for a walk that day even though the mass caused her to completely lose her back left leg mobility and had a harness on for me to help her walk for almost 2 years. She was 8 1/2 years old. The mass grew so big inside that she could no longer go to the bathroom and for the last 2 weeks I had her catheterized and added mirilax so she could go potty through the small opening left in her intestine. I couldn't see anything at all on the outside of her body. The last catheter, the vet told me there was blood, and she thought she was going through the mass, and if I waited, her body would tear inside. So I had no choice. I think my guilt is because it was so tough watching her NOT show any normal signs of illness other than the potty situation. But that was very tough watching her try. My videos of her last days are of her barking at squirrels, watching Animal Planet and barking at bears, eating a huge chicken chewie, drinking a large bowl of ice water, and playing with my other dog. It is devastating to me because she showed clear signs of wanting to live, but her body just couldn't go on. i'm crying nonstop, but I'm glad I had enough time to talk to her about how we all pass away, but we are souls before our bodies and we are still still souls afterwards, except afterwards its all perfect with total love and how exciting it will be. I told her not to worry at all because it will be great, and all the people and animals we knew that are no longer with us here on earth are going to be with us again but in a much better place, and it'll feel like total wonderment and complete love, with excitement. I am grateful to explain to her that my sadness and extreme tears were because I love her so dearly that I'll miss her here on earth, but I'll be extra excited to see her again in our spiritual soul life when it's my time. And that it'll be forever then! Thank you for this video, so very much. I'm still crushed, and still feel guilt, but I know we are the animals guardians, and that includes deciding some very difficult questions. Whatever decision we make for them, if it is done with love, we did the best we could. We need to learn to forgive ourselves if the decision we make is done with love for them in our hearts.
My dog has kidney disease and the vet told me he doesn't have very long. We're doing everything we can still but she told me to prepare to make this decision. I'm devastated and exhausted. I adopted him only four years ago but he's my best friend in the world.
Thank you for your tips.
😢 I've been thru this a few times, sometimes natural sometimes euthanasia. It's terrible either way. I always still think about and miss my doggos. Idt the guilt ever goes away but you have to remember it was for the best.
Ppl should give their pets the best life possible. Be nice to them, spend time with them, let them be your pal. Take good care of them physically and mentally so they have a happy life. Knowing and remembering they had a fun, loving, happy life will definitely help later when they are gone. ❤
Hey. Thank you so much for this video. Yesterday we’ve euthanised our cat, my companion of almost 14 years, as his lymphoma took over him. I too feel the guilt. I know that I did what was best, but I feel it. So I’m grateful for the video you’ve made. I’ll keep remembering Tiko, he was such a special soul... I will be burying him today, near his favourite spot in our garden. Stay strong.
Hi Marina! I just recently found your channel and I am glad I did. I live in the states and worked as a Veterinarian technician for 15 years. The crematoriums that I have worked with respected their responsibilities to the families they served. The group cremations were placed in a memorial garden on their property and the private cremations were done separately and then returned to the families. There may be places around the world that do not respect the work which is unfortunate.
So sorry for your loss. Grief is a roller coaster of emotions. It is love with nowhere to go. It never ends but it does get easier.
The guilt is wild 😞🖤
I had to put one of my cats down last week and am experiencing the guilt from it. It was one of the hardest things I ever had to do and am struggling with whether or not I made the right choice. This can really mess up your head and weigh heavy on you as it is to myself. Be easy on yourselves, everyone, and thank you for posting this video. I know it's hard.
I live in the Lake District and I have visited the Peak where you put your dog's ashes. I sat for a while in respect. It's a beautiful place. Nature never wastes anything and love never dies. Enjoy your new home, it's such a special place. Peter
Thank you for this video. Over the years I have lost several pets , dogs, 1 cat, a few horses and a Donkey. I lost my beloved Chihuahua last week. Let me tell you it never gets easier. Each and everyone I loved so much and yes the pain is proportional to the love. It's our duty to end their suffering when there is no hope of recovery or quality of life. Never regret your decision to euthanize , it's the right thing to do. 😪💔🐶🐈⬛🐎
Thank you for this video♡ I cried remembering my dog that I had to let go of 2 months ago after 14 years together. From time to time tears may come when we think of them but it's okay to grief because we know we loved deeply and will always still love. Take care.
Sunshine will cast a shadow, that's just the way it is. You were lucky to have the sunshine.
Thank you, it’s incredible how hearing someone else’s experience can bring so much comfort.
Dear Marina.
Can I just say that I agree with all that you have said in this video, I had a dog for the first 14 years of my life, ( I'm now 72 .5 year old ) we did everything, and I mean Everything together, I even had to endure punishment from my parents for stealing chocolate from the Xmas tree when in fact it was my dog stealing it all the time, but there was Never had a cross word between him and me, I know that in a short space of time I will be with him again enjoying our time playing and walking in the fields like we used to so many years ago, but I do and always will have good and fond memories of him to this day, good Memories never die, he was the One and Only friend I ever had in this life of mine, to everyone else, you will have memories come flooding back now and then, embrace them they Are there in your mind, just look for them......take care...
Dear Roger..such a beautiful Comment and reply to Marina and her followers ..sending you a virtual hug and all best wishes from the Appennino here in Italy ..Cheerio and you take care too..Ciao 🙋🏼♀️🙋🏻♂️🐶🐱x 12
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Thank you for your comment, but all so very true, maybe at my age I should not admit this to anyone but to this day it brings a tear to my eyes when I think of all the fun and friendship him and I had together, my older brother made Him a toy gun out of wood which the dog kept in his toy box and imagine a six year old playing cow boys and Indians in the fields and me telling him I had just shot him ( with the sounds) and him laying down supposedly shot, or last thing at night he would get up on my bed beside me ( unknown to me at the time) and lay there all night, when my mother used to look in on me last thing at night she would tell him to get off the bed and she told me much later in life he would softly growl at her as if to say " Back off, I'm looking after him now," or him at 4-30 p.m.in the afternoons him Not letting an ice cream van leave our area before he had his own ice cream cone, but it had to have strawberry flavoured juice on it otherwise he wouldn't eat it and would lay down in front of the van UNTILL he got what he wanted, people might not want to believe any of this but I swear to god All of this is true.....there is nothing in this world that could ever make me forget him.....not that I would want to anyway hopefully we soon will be together again enjoying the love only the two of us had together....Don't ever forget the good memories of them....
Good video Marina. I know you cried at the end. Just remember the good times. Odie had a great life with you. I held my last dog while she was euthanased. Then i took her home and buried her in the garden under a hedge. I know where she is for ever. I just knew she had had enough when she looked at me one morning. I will never forget that look. I knew I had to do it, so I have no regrets. I did the best for her. I like to think she would have done the same for me. Love is painful.
I love chatty Marina, you are so wise ! You had an amazing time with Odie and he wasn’t your pet he was your best friend.
You did great for each other. I say hi to him when I go to the Lakes. He’s in an amazing spot. Stay safe.
Putting my dog down in a week... He's 13 1/2. Crazy how much this hurts. Been with us for almost 13 years. We was a rescue pup. Best on the spot decision I made. He started our family with my wife and I. He was there right from the start of our fresh relationship to marriage, watching my kids grow up, getting two other dogs. Watching our family grow, while he got older.
I've lost relatives, friends, but this hurt is like no other. I know the guilt will set in.
What was more important than taking the time to give a belly rub? Why didn't I stop what I was doing to get on the floor more often? This guilt, will go away, I know.... Just remember Dogs live in the moment. They don't hold grudges. It's that unconditional love they show you, that is why this hurts so much. His last week will be all about him and how we can spoil him. We will show him how much we love him, and how much he meant to everyone of us. I will thank him for all the happiness he has brought into our lives.
I will make sure I am there by his side, to be his comfort his security as he was ours
He will always be in my heart and by my side, watching me grow old, until I see him again.
Love you Parker. Love you ol' Man.
This is a well timed video for my family and I. Our dog has recently been diagnosed with dementia and we're facing the fact that we will most likely have to say goodbye sooner rather than later. Thank you for your advice.
I know this video is from a year ago but is very sweet and very helpful. Just under a week ago I had to face putting my beautiful little elderly Pomeranian girl to sleep after a battle with an eye ulcer whilst also having dementia and a heart condition. Still crying with grief and guilt daily. Thank you for that.
Thank you so much for this. I wish I watched this before I had to put my kitty to sleep but I’m dealing with a lot of guilt even though I know it’s irrational.
When I realised I had to put my cat down (due to cancer), my initial response was not to be present at the end. I guess I was trying to dodge the pain of it. But in the end, I felt I was duty bound to be next to her at the end. It was the most traumatic thing I have ever experienced. To this day, I don't know if it was a good move, because the vision of those last moments are seared into my brain. I also elected not to keep her ashes, as another strategy to move past it as quickly as possible.
Well after she passed in late 2017, I broke down multiple times a day and bawled like a baby. Every day for some 9 months. Even now, in late 2021, I still cry all the time when I think of her. I've never experienced anything so traumatic before. The euthanasia just makes it that much worse. But on a positive note, I must admit the intensity of the grief is definitely lightening up. The process took such a long time though, and I suspect it will actually never end.
So sorry for your loss. I only saw couple of your videos and fell in love with Odie not knowing he is gone. I will talk to my dogs in doggie haven to take care of him. I lost many of my pets and I am still missing them a lot. The last it was a little budgie and I cried all the way to the vet and then all the way to my favourite tree in a forest near where I use to leave. I put him into a beautiful box with a partially cut away scarf which was my Fathers. Then I dug a grave and put him under the tree (Mr Tree). Every time I drove pass I knew Mr Tree taking good care of him. Since than Mr Tree passed so they are together in Mother Earth. I kept his cage with a pot of flower in it and a drawing of him cut out and hangin in my bedroom. So yes need to take your time to say good bye. My first dog passed 42 years ago and I am still talking to him.🐶🐕🐱🐮🐄🐹🐰🐨🐼🐿🐔🐧🐥 I love all animals.
Thank you for this vlog, my best friend Poppy passed away a few weeks ago and I am struggling with the grief.
Thanks so much Marina for sharing from your heart about your Odie. It is a form of unconditional love we receive from our pets. I lost my Eli over 50 years ago and feel the loss to this day and still have his collar. Beaujangles. 🐾❤️✌️
@John Sparkman Thank you so much for this comment. It’s so helpful during my forever changed life filled with painful and complicated grief from losing my best friend and daughter all in one. She is my soulmate and one of, if not the only, love of my life and purest love of my life. I’ll always love you so much and miss you so much, Zuri. Always.🐕💗💖💔💙
Really good video. Grief affects so many people. We followed you and Odie from your Scottish diaries all the way to his end. We cried for you loss even though we never met you or Odie. Strangely, today is 33 years since our son died in 1987. But you know, so much of what you said about love and grief applies universally to people and animals we have loved. I’d go further, we can grieve seasons of our own lives, relationships, so many things. The grief is all the love we still have, but the person / pet / relationship/ etc is no longer there to receive it. Thanks for doing this video. I know it will have been hard to do. Also it was good to hear where you are in the grief process after losing Odie. Guilt is difficult to shake off but clearly you did your very best for Odie right to the end. God bless you.
@Walks and wanders Thank you for this comment. It helps me not only with my most tremendous grief of losing my most precious animal, but also for the other losses in my life, whether that be human, non-human animal, relationship, certain time of my life or life in general, etc.
And even though it’s been a long time since your son’s passing, that pain of someone you love dying never goes away. I’m so sorry for your loss.💙
Your comment is just so true, accurate, compassionate and wise.
@@dionharper4082 Thank you. Sadly grief and loss have been a bit of a hallmark of my life. Thankfully I’m in a much better place now but I have empathy for those grieving loss of any kind.
You can get a paw print or prints. We did & then had our fav pic of our Archie & his paw print framed & hung in a place of honor in our home.
Thank you for this! You are truly helping! ❤️
“The amount of pain we have = the amount of love we had for our pet” You’re so right!
I just lost my cat/sister/best friend of 18 years 2 weeks ago and the pain is still very present. I feel guilty, not for euthanizing her, but for not loving her enough and not being there when she needed my help. I’ll forever remember the last night I spent with her on the floor, I slept 3h that night afraid of losing her if I closed my eyes. When the vet told me all the possible outcomes the next morning, I knew my cat wouldn’t want to suffer more and I made the decision. I have NOT thought about myself at all, I was focused on my cat, taking decisions she would take herself if she could talk. It felt like our souls have connected during the last few hours of her life. On her last night at home, I slept next to her and told her the story of her life: from the day I got her as a kitten when I was a teen to now. Then I somehow understood that she wanted to visit the house one last time so I carried her in my arm, showed her all the rooms and her favorite places. I have NO regret/guilt for the last week I’ve spent with her.
My guilt is that I didn’t play with her enough, didn’t love her enough and I wasn’t there when she got sick. Almost her whole life I was busy with studies, performing well in everything I do, getting good grades and finally becoming a doctor. Then I was busy with work. I should have spent more time playing with her and loving her. Even tho I’ve spent a lot of my free time with her, it just doesn’t feel enough to me now. Then when she got sick, I was away for work and left her at my parents’. My parents didn’t tell me anything until I got back, they lied to me on the phone cuz they didn’t want me to worry. BECAUSE I WAS AWAY, I DELAYED THE MEDICAL ATTENTION SHE NEEDED! If I had brought her to the vet on day 1, she would still be here. She was happy and healthy when I left her 😢
That guilt is definitely eating me alive now. I know I treated her well and loved her more than anything, but I could have done better. I know it’s too late and the guilt will only destroy me, but it just keeps coming back 😢😢
I’m so sorry Mickie, I miss you and I love you. RIP ❤️
I am consumed with guilt now thinking maybe I could do more to cure him or spend more time with him. The pain will never go away.
@@Yukai-ep2dv I’m so sorry for your loss! You are absolutely right. People say “the pain will go away with time”, but after 2 years, the pain never left. It feels like a permanent scar on my heart. I think about my cat every single day since I lost her. I just read my comment and cried… every time I go near that “scar”, it bleeds 😢.
Idk how long you’ve lost your baby, but things do get better eventually. For me it took over a year to get back to my usual self. You blame yourself because you are a good person. I’m sure you’ve done your best and your baby does not blame you. He will ALWAYS be there by your side even tho you cannot see him. It was an emotional rollercoaster for me, but it ended up being the best spiritual journey. My cat visited me many times during the first 6 months, it was so comforting to see her happy and healthy.
Take it easy on yourself. Your pet just moved to a better world, but he will always be there with you spiritually.
I Wacth the video is horrible pain grief, but Watching someone like you and listening to it helps some relief. I’ve been with pain for loosing my dog I still miss her everyday. ❤
Sending you a hug Jorge!
@She Goes Wild
Dear Marina and Dear Everyone Who Shared Their Experiences and Loving Stories or Advice/Support in the Comment Section:
Thank you so much for this video and for you sharing your sad experience of losing precious Odie. This video is helpful and it also brought about what was just as helpful, if not more helpful to me, a plethora of people grieving the loss of their beloved animals and sharing their experiences, some offering help, some not, but the mere act of sharing their experiences is probably the most helpful, comforting, supportive thing. You and Odie brought together a whole community of people who are hurting but still loving and trying to get through this terrible time of being without our precious, beloved animals. So thank you, so very much wonderful Marina, wonderful Odie, and all the wonderful people who shared in the comments section. Thank you so much. 💙🙏🏽
Thank you for sharing all of your traveling times with precious Odie, as well. He was the reason why I was drawn to your channel. I stumbled upon your basket weaving video and that’s how I found out about your previous life of van living and traveling with Odie, and later fostering other dogs. It’s for these dog reasons why I explored your channel and subscribed and want you to know you have an online community (myself included) who just thinks the best of you and want to support and help you because you help the most vulnerable in this world, which are animals.
Your experiences and video on pet grief are necessary and so helpful to all those experiencing the same loss because there’s not as much out there for us grieving animals. Thank you for your video and the comments caused by your video because they are all so helpful during my forever changed life filled with painful and complicated grief from losing my best friend and daughter all in one. She is my soulmate and one of, if not the only, love of my life and purest love of my life. I’ll always love you so much and miss you so much, Ci. Always.🐕💗💖💔💙
I am saving this video and all it’s comments so I can always read them and watch the video when I need it.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. My 20 year old dog Piccolo is asleep in my lap right now...we are letting him go tomorrow at 11am. My heart is breaking but he’s so ready. I’m so sorry you lost your dogs. Thank you for sharing. ❤️💔🐶🌈💖
How do you feel now 2 years later after this decision? Mine is tomorrow and I’m so torn in making this decision myself when he still has the will to wake up and see out his days, even though they are hard. This decision is killing me. I don’t know what to do.?:(
It's only been 2 days but I can't stop crying! My dog had heart problems. Last July I took her to vet and she told me just watch her and give her the medicines. She couldn't go up the stairs anymore and was in heart failure..I had her for 10 years The change happened in the last few weeks. She would just stand and stare for hours. I knew it was coming but doctor said she needed to be in a hospital and on oxygen. It might run into thousands of dollars. Even if I was rich and went ahead how much longer could she live. So now I feel so horrible! I truly loved her!
The loss of any loved one is so hard. I losed my boy Monty 5 years ago and there is not a day passes that I do not miss him. We did such great things and climbed together some great big hills in Scotland. Our finest day was reaching the summit of Ben Lawers at 05.30 in mid summer, my boy was beside me every step of the way. Stay strong everyone x
@Mark Stapleton Thank you so much for this comment. It’s so helpful during my forever changed life filled with painful and complicated grief from losing my best friend and daughter all in one. She is my soulmate and one of, if not the only, love of my life and purest love of my life. I’ll always love you so much and miss you so much, Ci. Always.🐕💗💖💔💙
It's very evident you loved Oddie so its hard when he leaves. He was a gorgeous boy.
Thank you so much for making this video! You are spot on.
Thank you. I needed this.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on a hard subject. I think as a single person, loss of companion pet is grief in a whole different realm as we may not have people close to us who can understand or in some way share our grief. Watching you & Odie in your lives together & traveling brought me joy. Thank you for being you! 🐾
I lost my beautiful boy last month. Like your dog, he had a massive seizure, completely out of the blue. He was thirteen, and from the start of the seizure to when he was put to sleep was only an hour and a half. All those years of fun and love, how could they all be over in just an hour and a half? There is no pain greater than losing a pet, they are with you and closer to you than a lot of people. This hurts so much. And everything you said in your video resonates so much as well - the guilt that I took his life..oh my god, what have I done?
I didn't get chance to video him when he was ill, it all happened so quickly. I think it would have helped me if I could look back and see just how poorly he was.
Thank you for an absolutely spot on video. Everything you said is what happens..You just have to go through the grief and cry until you have no tears left.
Sending love to anyone else who is going through this suffering. All we can do is keep the little phrase in our heads - 'This too shall pass'.
And then we get to keep the wonderful memories x❤️💔
Sending you a very warm hug ♥️
@@WildSheGoes Thank you. And thinking of you and your loss too x❤️💔
So terribly sad and I posted so much for him in earlier comments without realizing this,but maybe my comments will help others in the future,certainly he was blessed with being able to see the world...
Thank you for making this VDO. This is really helping me with my pet lost. 🙏🙏🙏
Aww you're such a lovely sweet kind person. Bless you 💞
Thank you for talking about this. I'm looking for something to help me through this and your video was nice to hear.
Thank you for this video!
Thank you Marina! This video is amazing, you speak from the heart, as you always do
Thank you so much for your words. Really helpful for me during this time.
Thank you, I found it very comforting to listen to this ✨
Thanks for posting this
Thank you so much for this video.
Grazie mille per questo video Marina ❤
Hello Marina. I kept your video in the "watch later" list... I was planning to watch it only the day i will lose my beloved big dog "Ighor". And this day was today... after almost 13 years together, I had to make the toughest decision, and decide that he didn't have to suffer any longer. He could barely walk for some weeks, and today he couldn't stand at all anymore... i waited for a couple of hours and called the vet. It all went fast. Watching your video tonight helped a lot, I couldn't thank you enough Marina... Odi was lucky to have you.
Thank you for making this video.
Thank you so much for this video. I made this decision for my boy 2 weeks ago and it's been so painful, but so much you said vocalise my thoughts and feeling xx
Thanks for sharing more than just your travels, and for being you. Be Well and Safe :)
Thank you for this lovely video! Also the place where you recorded it is so peaceful and beautiful with the flowers. Your tips help me to deal with the pain I have over losing my cat and dog. All the best for you
Rip Odi. My experience of grief is that time is a great teacher and they never leave us in spirit. Just found your channel this week and your adventures resonate deeply. You are really inspiring and the videos are wholesome. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Thank you for this video.