3 Coping With Dog Loss: Dealing With Feelings Of Guilt
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 เม.ย. 2019
- Peggy Haymes is back with us for a FB Live discussion on Coping with Dog Loss. Today's topic is learning how to cope with guilt. We're so glad you're here.
We recently created a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through this grief.
Here is the link to sign up: houndhuggerdiy.com/dog-loss
You're welcome to give it a try to see what it's all about. Again, there's nothing to purchase to access the guide, we just want to give back to our dog loving community - and would be honored if what we created helps you in your journey of healing. Hugs.
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I wish I had a shoulder to cry on right now, but I am all alone. Rest in peace my little Sue. I'll see you again someday. I love you.
Oh, we are truly sorry to hear of the loss of your dear little Sue. It can be very difficult to go through such a heartbreaking time - and the hurt can be so painful you feel as though no one could possibly understand. Everything you're feeling - the loneliness, guilt, and whirlwind of emotions - are completely normal. It's easier said than done, but try to be gentle with yourself. Your dear sweet pup would not want you to be sad or want you focusing your energy on how things ended. Instead, now might be a good time to start a journal. Perhaps you can start writing stories of all the wonderful times you had together, the adorable little quirks, her favorite snacks - any memory that helps you change the sad story you're focusing on now. It's clear that her love still lives inside you and you carry Sue in your heart. That will never change. But you do need to allow your brain to focus on the positive to help you heal. Please know you are in our thoughts and send you warm wishes daily.
@@HoundHuggerDIY Thank you for your kind words. I guess I am feeling a tad bit better today. It's weird, but I feel like I should keep feeling bad because I want her to know how much I care. Thank you for all you do.
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My little dog Zeusy was put to sleep on 09-23-2021. When we took her to the vet we had no idea she would never come home again. Zeusy was with me through two heart procedures and the pandemic. She was my best friend during all of those lonely months at home. On the night before I was return to work she passed over. I'm a big, tough guy but losing her has hurt me deeply. Zeusy-Girl, I love you.
I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Zeusy-Girl. Please be patient with yourself as you are going through this. We know how traumatic it can be to go to the vet and find out that you wont all be going home. Your beloved Zuesy sounds so precious and it's clear you had the most amazing connection with one another. Please accept our warmest condolences. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
To be honest this is the best position to be in...in my case its a comete disaster...i rescued pup with almost no chance of survival...but with care and love she survived and thrived...she turned 1 year old we celebrated her birthday and i had to travel.. so i jeot her with care taker in kennel and on 25th december i got a call stating she expired...its so so so so horrifying to hear this news ..and 2 days has passed by..i am still in complete disbelief...and deep regret that I should have brought her with me while travelling...i am the baddest dad for her...this regret will stay with me in my entire lifespan...god bless my darling angel Siya...
Siya...I luv you my baby...i miss you... i am in tears as I type this...😭😭😭
We had a Zeusy too. She was a big girl who passed from lung cancer. 😢
@@kissofmeditation8419no matter how things end there's always more we wish we could do, I share guilt as well. Rescuing a sick dog says alot about who you are! Do not give up
@@michael7144 been more than a year and I still miss her... I would say to everyone... wherever you go if possible always take your pet with you...they too miss you they too have feelings...thanks buddy for reading this ... 🙏
Regarding the 'Guilt'
I've had to wrestle with this one.
I had to remind myself -
Q: Did you purposefully choose to do ______?
Did you purposefully forget to do_______?
Did you purposefully want to cause your pet pain?
A: OF COURSE NOT !!!!!!!!
Give yourself a break. Stop punishing yourself. You are human. Forgive yourself..
Your pet, your beloved boy or girl, if they could come back for a few minutes..would STILL BE IN LOVE WITH YOU and LICK YOUR FACE telling you..It's Ok Mom, It's ok Dad.
Thank you so much for sharing! What an excellent way to put things in perspective, and remind ourselves that our intentions were never to cause pain or suffering.
I know is being a year from this comment But is so reconforting 🙏 I Just lost my fur baby Tiger ❤️ he was kill in a hit n run, and I already experience signs 🙏 Is only 2 days and We Miss him sooo much ❤️ hoping for him to come back as another 🙏 at This moment we gonna take time to heal 🙏
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I went through this yesterday and let me tell you our dog took my heart with him. My heart is broken and I’ve never felt such a loss in my entire life and I am devastated. My life would never be the same 💔💔😭😭😭
We're truly sorry your beloved boy is no longer with you. The pain and hurt your heart feels is completely normal and a reflection of the deep love you shared together. (The greater the love, the greater the hurt.)
You are bravely facing the first step: acknowledging your grief and giving yourself permission to express it. Continue to find people you can communicate with and open up to about your feelings. The more you are able to express and work through them, the more you will continue to heal, which is what your best furfriend would want for you.
Perhaps you can start a journal - writing stories of all the wonderful times you had together, his adorable little quirks, his favorite snacks - any memory that helps you change the sad story you're focusing on now. Know that our hearts are with you and your family during this difficult time.
I feel the same.
I've been through that pain, the feeling of you want them back is strong, but time does heal even though you will never forget them. My little JJ was suffering at the end and I promised him I wouldn't let him suffer. So I held him tight and he went peacefully, but it tore my heart out.
I never believed in counseling. I used to think i could handle anything on my own. Until my dog died. Now i found myself searching the web for help. Im glad there are other people who talk about these things out loud.
I had to make the decision to put my dog down. He was a rescue. I have had him for 8 years. He had anxiety and was scared of everything. He started to become aggressive towards other people and dogs.
But he was NEVER mean to me. He was my baby. We had such a loving connection. I miss him so much. I will love him forever and I can't wait to see him again. Mama's Baby Bruno 1/25/2024
Lindrea, we are truly sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved boy Bruno. He obviously felt safe and secure in your company. You gave him such a good life. Bruno's soul is forever connected to yours because you two have a bond that can never be broken. The years of laughter and love and joy...know that your pup is always with you, guiding and cheering you on in whatever comes next in your life. Sending warm hugs of healing your way. 💔
I lost my girl four months ago and it is still incredibly painful. I miss her terribly... even people close to me think I should be over her by now....But she was the love of my life... how can I be over the loss already....
Also... having listened to this whole session, thank you for pointing out that euthanasia can be the ultimate gift. Letting Bell’s go was the hardest thing I have ever done (including having had cancer myself) but it was my gift to her... because I loved her so.... that perspective really helped me....
@@mellyo7262 I am so very sorry for your loss. It sounds like you and Bell had an incredible bond. Please be patient with yourself and remember there is no "right amount of time" or "right way" to heal. I am so glad that you were able to take some solace in the perspective that you really did the most generous thing that you could do for your beloved pup. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
I'm truly sorry for your loss. I'm two weeks in and I'm devastated... My 16 yo companion, Minie is gone. I miss her presence around the house and her love... 💔
@@VeraCasaca Oh my lovely… I am very sorry your baby has gone. It’s incredibly painful I know. I’m thinking of you
You can get a cuddle clone of your pet! I'm getting a Cuddle Clone of my late dog, Nala. She's in my pfp. Cuddle Clones are on Instagram and Google (of course.) She passed away due to parvo, and I was pretty sad. Nala was an American Bully, (a type of Pitbull) but she looked more like a Pitbull Terrier to me. I miss her everyday
My sweet lucy passed away 3 wks ago and it's almost unbearable. When she was a babe - smaller than an avocado - i promised i would never leave her alone - and i kept my promise - for 16 yrs, she was at my side ALL the time. We travelled abroad and across the country several times per year. I miss her so much. i can't stand it.
Hi, thanks so much for sharing you and Lucy's story. We are so very sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved girl. It sounds like you gave her a wonderful life of adventure during the time you had together. And the connection you shared with one another sounds amazing.
If you're interested... we created a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through this grief.
Here is the link to sign up: houndhuggerdiy.com/dog-loss
You're welcome to give it a try, if you'd like. Again, there's nothing to purchase, we just want to give back to our dog loving community - and would be honored if what we created helps you in your journey of healing. Hugs.
I do know this same feeling. My sunshine every day is gone.
My Papillon died of old age, at home, in her bed. After a wonderful life of runs in the park, chasing squirrels, very healthy, never alone. A very happy pup. I let nature take its course. No regrets. Only my pain remains. I will miss her forever, a truly perfect dog.
Sounds like you both had a beautiful bond and she surely will be missed. We can only imagine how lonely it must feel with her gone. Please know you have our most sincere condolences and we wish peace and comfort from all the wonderful memories you both shared. 💔
I found this video because I was feeling intense guilt about having to euthanize my cat. She had terminal cancer, but you are so right that you fixate on those last moments--it is so hard to watch a member of your family die. To hold them down while they are injected with poison. You feel like a murderer, even though you know there was no hope--that she might have a few more good days, but eventually you would find yourself in the same position. I am trying to take your advice of thinking about the good times, and trying to stop re-playing the same horrible moments in my mind, over and over. Thank you.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Please be gentle with yourself as you are going through this. Try to remember that you really did the most generous thing that you could do for your beloved cat. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
On May 3, 2024, My beautiful dog Braddock passed with hands of love stroking him into the loving arms of his Creator. He died peacefully. He just turned 12 years old two weeks ago. My heart is breaking.
Dear Lydia, it deeply saddens us to learn of your Braddock's passing. The feelings of loss can be overwhelming especially when you lose your soul dog. We both lost our dogs around 16 years of age - and it does our hearts good to know we were able to love and spoil them for so many, many years. You gave your boy the best life possible and he gave you so much love in return - hopefully that is something that can start to heal your heart. Please accept our deepest condolences for your loss. You are in our thoughts and we send warm hugs of hope and healing your way. 💔
I put my 12 year old dog Cody down on January 31, 2022, after he endured a 2+ months battle with cancer. This video and Peggy’s book are a blessing. Almost immediately after Cody passed, I realized that Cody’s lesson for me is that life is a gift to be embraced and enjoyed no matter the weather or challenge. He loved being alive and showed up 110%, eager and curious to see what was waiting for him around every corner. He gave his best right up to the end. I miss him terribly. Your wisdom will help me to move forward with space in my heart for his spirit to continue to soar. Thank you so much.
Hi, thank you so much for sharing Cody's story with us. We are so very sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved boy. It sounds like he had the most incredible spirit! And the connection you shared with one another sounds amazing.
And thank you also for your kind words. It really does warm our hearts to hear that this video series provides some comfort. Please accept our warmest condolences and know that you are certainly not alone. May you find peace and comfort on your journey of healing.
Thank you very much for doing this for all of us.
For anyone currently going through the loss of your furry baby, sending love and prayers your way.
Thank you very much for your kind words. Please accept our condolences.
Not sure if this is something you'd be interested in or not...but we recently created a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through this grief.
Here is the link to sign up: houndhuggerdiy.com/dog-loss
You're welcome to give it a try to see what it's all about, if you'd like. Again, there's nothing to purchase to access the guide, we just want to give back to our dog loving community - and would be honored if what we created helps you in your journey of healing. Hugs.
Thank you. I stumbled upon this. I am lost and actually want to continue suffering in my guilt because my baby means so much to me and I lost her in a very traumatic and sudden way. I think it's so kind of you to provide a resource for pet loss grievers for free. Maybe I can find some peace for my baby and me in this.
I just lost my baby in a very traumatic way as well... I feel very alone and full of guilt. If you are comfortable would you quickly share with me what happened to your baby.
@@nicollettemckeown8494 hi nicolette, I'm so sorry for your loss. Just so sorry. At the moment, I am not comfortable sharing the story of how my baby died. It's still very traumatic for me and putting it out on public platform like this is too much. I'm sorry I cannot share. But it's been so long since the tragedy and I still cry every day. And I still feel extreme guilt and extreme grief. I'd honestly have killed myself by now, but I have other animals who that would be unfair to. Something else that somewhat helps is trying to communicate with our deceased pets on the other side. Honestly, it's because of that possibility that I haven't called it quits yet. Look into animal communicators if you're open to it. It could help give you answers. My spiritual journey is the main thing giving me hope right now. Again, I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss.💔💙💙 maybe in the future we can share stories in a more direct and private manner. I want to help you, because I know how much pain I feel every damn day I'm alive.
@@nicollettemckeown8494 would you like to get in contact somehow to share our stories with each other/provide each other some comfort/healing?
@@nicollettemckeown8494 I just lost my baby boy on Feb 17th in a traumatic and unfortunate incident. I would be happy to share my story with you privately. Please let me know should you want to communicate. Our boy would’ve been 3 on March 21st. It’s been such a traumatic event. Miss him and love him so so much.
@@MicheLle-zy3xu no need to be sorry. I totally understand. I hope you can forgive yourself and start to heal. It's so hard but no matter what happened our fur babies loved us and would never Iike to see us so upset and blaming ourselves. My girl hated when I cried she would get so worried. So I try to stay strong for her because I know she's watching over me just like your baby is watching over you. Stay strong love. The world needs people like you that care so much for animals.♥️
I lost my fur daughter yesterday. She was a 13-year-old Shih tzu. I thought she would be with me for at least 15 years, after seeing my friend's dog of the same breed died at 15. So, when she turned 13 this year, I didn't think it would be her last birthday. In 2017, I moved to another city alone and entrusted her to my parents' care. I came home once in two weeks. I really thought that she would stay long, so when I came back to my city for good on Christmas 2019, I would finally get to spend more time with her. But then in 2020, I started having other issues in my life. For the last 3 years I felt that I wasn't a good pawrent for her because I paid more attention to my life's problems than I did to her. Sure I would take her to her favorite salon sometimes, I would take her to my car and she would get excited to see things from the window (her favorite thing to do when she was on my car), I would give her snacks but it was not as often as I did before I started having problems. For the last 3 years, I had been focusing on other things than her. When she was by my side, I was busy playing video games and watching anime without even looking at her just because I was trying to entertain myself (because I got tired of my problems), not noticing that the only thing I should have done was came to her, hugged her and made myself happy with her. But no, Instead, I chose video games and movies over her. Sometimes I hugged her and sometimes I pat her head but it wasn't as often as I used to before. A week before she passed away, I finally realized my mistake. She grew weaker due to her old age and fleas that I didn't take care of completely because I had no money. The vet suggested that we do some blood test lab on her to find the right way to treat her once we knew the root cause of her illness, but it was so expensive and I didn't have money to cover for that, so I chose to give her medications at home followed by the vet's instructions. But it only last for a day. On her last night, she was struggling to breathe and I did everything I could to save her and took her to a 24-hour vet clinic. The vet told me to let her stay there because she needed more oxygen. The vet also told me that she was not that sick, but she was old and her breath was too deep. And when I left her there for the night, she passed away in the morning and I was not by her side when that happened. Now after her passing, I'm not only consumed by grief but also by this huge guilt and regret. I regret not paying attention to her every day. I regret moving to another city for almost 3 years and having less time to meet her during those years. I regret not saving money for her. I regret not spending money for her. I regret neglecting her most of the time. I regret ignoring her when she slept by my side. I regret not playing with her more. I regret not realizing her presence in my room when I was busy entertaining myself with games and movies. Now that she's gone, I'm a disaster and all those games I play and movies I watch are meaningless and less entertaining for me. My favorite food doesn't taste the same and I am in so much pain. That's because I know, deep down inside, I love her so much even when I was drown in my own problems, I knew my fur daughter was all I needed. The pain of losing her and the pain of the guilt and regrets are unbearable. I wish I could meet her again and did the right thing. But it was too late and i miss her already. 😭
Oh we are so very sorry for your loss. It’s heartbreaking to lose a pup - especially a heart dog. The guilt and emotions you are feeling are completely normal. We all go through a list of “what ifs” and beat ourselves up about things we can’t change. But it sounds like you did the best you could under the circumstances. You put her in the care of your parents and never stopped loving her.
Life can be overwhelming at times, and just like our true friends and loving family members, our pups understand they might not be the center of attention as we try to figure out next steps. As devastating as it is to lose your sweet furbaby, they would never ever want you to beat yourself up like this. You took good care of your dog in many other ways; try not to dismiss all that you did for her.
There are lessons we can learn from our pups, not only while they are with us, but also after they’re gone. If you choose to share your life with another pup again, now you know to focus more attention on him/her because life is short and we never know what tomorrow will bring. It’s the pain we all go through in life that allows us to be more loving, compassionate and helpful to others. You are in our thoughts and we send warm hugs of hope and healing your way.
I can feel your pain...I often neglected him too, being vain with Tik Tok ...our stories have much in common, I cry every day, I can't find anything to console me
Thank you for this video, I wish it never ended just listening to anyone talk about their experience and love for their babies is comforting me I hold on.to every word...my baby transitioned a week ago and I feel guilty like I could've done so much more I know I could...she was my girl for 12 years my soul mate I love her forever...my hope is that she'll reincarnate and find me again so I can get a next lifetime with her this time I'll do it right...if she as much as gets a paper cut I'm on it....if she sneeze I'm.on it I'm.gonna be on her like white on rice...I would dedicate my life to ensuring I never have to say what if...because she is my life...I'll wait for her till my last breath.
yep, as soon as I see or hear something that brings me a pleasant feeling , Im flooded with guilt. I dont want to just "get over it" I said my goodbyes, life goes on etc This is the hardest thing I have ever been thru at 57 years old. He was with me for over 18 year. very very hard.
Lost my 14 year old furry baby Barry. What helps me is visiting all the parks, beaches, mountains we hiked, ererywhere we went together as kind of closure. Imagine i have lots of walking ahead
I want to Thank You All for this talk.
My dearest Maximillian has just passed on Tuesday December 19th very unexpectedly and my husband and 4 wonderful kitties have all passed in the last 4 years. Maximillian has been the last one and it is particularly difficult because he gave me such purpose and hope.
But you have helped in the horrible time. I have limited support.
Thank you for you support.
Nancy Paris
Oh dear Nancy, our hearts go out to you - not only for your loss of Maximillian - but for so many lost loved ones in recent years. That's just heartbreaking. It's clear that their love still lives inside you and you carry them in your heart. Our hope is that the love and fond memories give you the strength to carry you on your journey of healing. You may never get over the grief, but you will get through it.
We are honored and humbled to know our videos have helped in some small way. Please know you are not alone. You have touched our hearts and we send you strength, comfort and warm wishes daily.
@HoundHuggerDIY Thank you for your kindness and support.
It has really helped me in my grief. Your talks have been very comforting. I felt understood and not so alone. I actually found myself talking with you all as I watched the sessions. Thank God for you all in this TH-cam session's .
Nancy
Oh Nancy, that's so nice of you to say. You continue to be in our hearts and we wish you much comfort and strength on your journey of healing. Hugs 💔
My girl Flo (Lab mix) was put down 2 weeks ago, and it's been very difficult- grief, GUILT, depression, extreme sadness- the whole nine yards in spades! I adopted her not quite 3 years ago as a rescue who was captured running loose on the street and in very bad condition with skin infections, massive hair loss etc.. This was about 5 months after losing my previous sweet girl through euthanasia due to liver failure. Another awful time in my life! When I saw Flo (named for my grandmother) at the Humane Society, it just broke my heart as she had recently given birth and she'd lost her pups due to the capture. No-one knew where she had stashed them. She just kept staring out through the wire fence when I visited her, and I knew she was hurting. I adopted her that day and brought her home! She had many health issues from that time on, which I gladly dealt with as best her vets and myself were able, until they worsened to the point of her becoming miserable and unhappy during her last few months. Putting her down was like losing a child! She gave me so much love and was my constant companion during our time together. I miss her so badly, and the pain in my heart and my lonely emptiness is horrible! I've cried so much I could water a large garden! I just keep trying to focus on how much joy and pleasure she brought me with her love and devotion to me. She was awesome! So sweet and gentle, just a super good doggie! I will love her, and my previous 4 rescue girls, forever and a day! They now rest together under a big fir tree in my front yard!
Thanks so much for this video, it has helped me a lot! Watching and listening to you guys lets me know I'm not alone in my sorrow, and is a true comfort!
Hi, thanks so much for sharing you and Flo’s story with us. We are so very sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved girl. It sounds like you gave her a wonderful home during the time you had together. And the connection you shared with one another sounds amazing.
Thank you so much for your kind words. It really does warm our hearts to hear that this video series provides some comfort. Please accept our warmest condolences and know that you are certainly not alone. May you find peace and comfort on your journey of healing.
R.I.P. Chase. I miss you like crazy. We had to put him to sleep today, 4/9/2024. My heart is 💔.
We are deeply sorry for your loss. It's hard to lose our pups - they are such a big part of our lives. All of those years of laughter, adventure and love...Chase will always be with you. Please accept our deepest condolences. Hugs 💔
I lost a dog (Mister) from an accident on labor day 2014, it forced us to set him free as he declined from the injury the following day. No amount of $ would have saved him. In this year 2021, I lost my Lucy to heart failure the day after father’s day, after all attempts to save her the vet said we needed to let her go. I was able to manage the grief a bit better as I had her and my other older boy (Moco) for the best 15 years of my life. Still having Moco allowed me to cope. Then not a month later we had to put him down. His kidney failure and dementia got worse. He was also blind, incontinent, and mostly deaf. We’re moving out of state and having him learn a new temporary home then our final home would make him stress out and us too. We decided to let him go on Friday 7/23/2021. The grief is not any different between losing Mister. In fact losing him allowed the feelings I was able to control from losing Lucy to flow uncontrollably. We got them both as puppies months apart. They are in all my memories and pictures with my human kids. The pain, guilt, second guessing, emptiness and heartache was just as intense as losing Mister traumatically. Losing Mister put me into a depression for the better part of a year. Moco and Lucy helped me get thru his loss. I don’t have them to help me cope with their loss. They were my therapy, my medicine, my anti-deppressants. I miss them dearly. I don’t question why god took them from me, I thank him for giving them to me and protecting them for me for over 15 years. Great love = Great pain when it is gone, the context from which they’re taken away from you, does not matter. There is no love greater than that of an animal companion.
Thank you so much for sharing Mister, Moco and Lucy's stories with us. We are so very sorry to hear of your loss. It sounds like your babies had a wonderful home during the time you had together. And we couldn't agree more, great love = great pain but we wouldn't trade that love for anything.
Not sure if this is something you'd be interested in or not...but we recently created a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through this grief.
Here is the link to sign up: houndhuggerdiy.com/dog-loss
You're welcome to give it a try to see what it's all about, if you'd like. Again, there's nothing to purchase to access the guide, we just want to give back to our dog loving community - and would be honored if what we created helps you in your journey of healing. Hugs.
I sm sorry for your loss , and I agree there is no bigger loss than your animal companion, I lost my dog to a Glioma is was so hard to watch him deteriorate fior 18 months
Yes he same for me
I lost my boxer Christmas Eve 12-24-23 of heart condition he was my best friend he gave me so much love we did everything together he loved going on 🚗 ride I miss him so much he takes my heart with him Rip Xizom your dad
Oh no no no, that is so sad to hear. We are so very sorry for your recent loss of your beloved boy this holiday. Thanks so much for taking the time to share your story with us. Sounds like you brought out the best in each other... a bond such as yours is such a treasure. All of those years of laughter and love and travel...your pup is a part of your soul and will remain in your heart forever.
If you're interested, here are a couple of articles you might find helpful.
houndhuggerdiy.com/the-moment-after/
resources.bestfriends.org/article/grieving-loss-pet-during-holidays
Please accept our deepest condolences for your loss. Our hearts are with you.
My sweet muppet Chewy passed away from mast cell cancer (grade 3) last week after being diagnosed 6 months ago. She had surgery and chemo, but it wasn't enough and chemo stopped a month ago. I'm a wreck. I actually was recovering from my own cancer surgery 3 days before she left. A weird rare sarcoma on my foot. She was my heart and I'm having a hardtime with guilt in going about my life as it was before. I have this feeling of not wanting her to fade away and me having a smile will be the start of her fading. Thank you for this video. I've been writing down all the fun times and what she showed me. I took her to the beach 3 months ago when she was still feeling good and I have those fond memories to hold onto. She would want me to be happy. I try to imagine the rainbow bridge, but it won't bring back the years of the normal days and an era of her in my life as it ilwas for 10years. It is raw. I miss her.
Oh gosh, we are deeply sorry to hear about Chewy's passing. Cancer is such a terrible disease.
The feelings of guilt you have are totally normal. Give yourself some grace to be or to feel normal from time to time, because good days or bad, Chewy will forever be in your heart. If there’s one thing our pups teach us it’s to live life fully with joy in our hearts, just like they do - so please try not to be too hard on yourself. You're right, Chewy would want you to find joy again.
It’s good to know that journaling the fun times you’ve had together has helped. And we’re grateful you have found some tips in this video series to help with your journey. You have our most sincere condolences and may you find peace with all the wonderful memories you both shared.
We've been nursing a 1-month old kitten. He has a special condition wherein he has no control over his front and rear legs (paralysis symptoms). Dragging his body, inability to move his legs. It has been our routine to provide him with the proper care, and lots of love and attention so that he can still live a long and happy life. I am so traumatized and devastated as we lost him yesterday due to a possible heart failure. I can still remember his eyes looking at me as he struggled to breathe. From time to time, tears will come out of my eyes. I feel so drained and depressed. I can't stop but put the blame on myself thinking that I should have done more to extend his life. 😭😭😭💔💔💔
I am so very sorry for your loss. Please be gentle with yourself as you are going through this. It sounds like you provided an incredible amount of care and a wonderful home for your sweet kitten. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
Your a good look ❤ you d your best as the lady on the video said
I lost my boy yesterday and I’m devastated. I know in my heart it was the right decision but I still feel so guilty. Was it the right time? Does he know how much I loved him and that I did what I thought was best for him? 😢
I am so sorry for your loss. You really did the most generous thing that you could do for your boy. I am sure he knows how much you love him and all he would want for you is peace about the decision. Please be patient with yourself as you are going through this. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
At I feel the same way . Sorry
I sing to my dog Rocky every day 😗
It's been less then a week since I had to put down my sweet girl Ruby. I have never met a cat as sweet as her. She was so gentle and sweet and anybody that met her knew that about her. Originally I never wanted any pets, I had taken her and her brother in after a family member asked me to "temporarily" look after them while they sorted out something in their life. The family member never came back for them and it's been 10 years since then. She was 14 when she was passed. About 5 years ago she started over-grooming her arms and legs and she was constipated which caused her pain when she had to poop. We called a home visit vet for her comfort and she was healthy physically except for the constipation. We put her onto a high fibre diet which she stayed on for the rest of her life. Ruby was a shy cat and had always been a cat that could stay tucked away for most of the day and was also scared easily. It was when she started over-grooming that she also became closer to me - I think she came to me for comfort from what ever it was that was causing her this anxiety. At the time we didn't realize she had developed a form of PTSD from the trauma of the pain when she was constipated. As time went on the over-grooming got worse and she started soiling outside the litter box on an inconsistent basis. She usually soiled beside me (hoping I would protect her from the trauma of pooping) when she had these episodes. This meant that the furniture took a beating during these times. We went through a few dining chairs, rugs, a couch and a bed during those 5 years. When we replaced the couch we went with the cheapest option knowing she would eventually soil on it. We also got a spill proof mattress cover that took a beating but it was working to protect the mattress. These were things we weren't happy about but they were compromises to keep her in our lives.
Something would trigger these episodes and we never knew exactly what it was. We had several visits and calls with the vet and she was always physically healthy - the vet said it was purely behavioural. There was a couple of times where she picked up on my stress over something, or it was windy outside, but we couldn't figure out the other times. What was consistent is she was triggered by things that weren't within our control which made it more difficult to help her. There were times when we thought she was getting better because it had been several weeks or even months since the last episode. When it happened, these episodes would last for 1 to 2 days at a time and then she would snap out of it and be her normal cuddly self. But, she always showed signs that she was afraid of pooping. She would go to her litter box and would sometimes run out mid poop and finish on the floor. We tried meds and other strategies to help her but we couldn't make her better. As time went on it was taking more of a toll on the household. We stopped inviting people over because of this underlying "embarrassing" mess that we were dealing with. We also noticed that her brother wasn't happy with her. He's a very clean guy and was starting to show aggression towards her. We discussed rehoming her and the vet said this would be nearly impossible due to her messy nature and her age - she was over 10 years old at the time. We decided we would keep her and care for her but also realized that there will come a point where we may have to put her down over this behaviour if it got worse.
Last week we had gone out for a few hours and came back to 2 messes on the couch. The day before I had run out of her usual food and resorted to some high quality wet food until her vet opened the next day because we could only get the high fibre food from the vet. I knew she loved wet food so I thought this would be fine. Could this small change be what pushed her over the edge? This was the beginning of the week from hell. The next day she stopped using her litter box altogether and also wasn't eating and just hid under her blanket all day. After 4 days she was still going washroom on the couch and the bed while we were sleeping and she was barely eating. We couldn't endure this anymore and I called the vet in the morning to enquire about putting her to sleep. The vet agreed that it was probably best. The appointment was set for later that day and all day she was hiding under a small table in the corner until about an hour before the appointment when she came out and began purring and cuddling with me. It broke my heart but I knew this had to be done.
On the way to the vet's office she was terrified. The vet asked me if I wanted to be with her and I did. I don't think I sobbed so much in my life. As she passed I told her I loved her, I called her my sweet girl, I told her I'll miss her and... I apologized to her if I ever made her upset or didn't do enough for her. Since she passed I have been struggling to stop thinking about her. I've been overcome with guilt. Every time I think of her I think of the times she was sweet and cuddly and it kills me. "Did I try hard enough to help her" "did I kill an otherwise healthy cat" "did I make this decision out of anger and frustration vs compassion and maturity". This guilt is consuming me. I don't know anybody that had to put down a pet for behavioural issues so finding someone that can relate to me is hard. The vet and my wife both told me I didn't do anything wrong - this was the right thing to do. I asked the vet for her ashes which I will spread when I'm ready. I also have her favourite blanket which I'll burn when I'm ready. I know these two things will give me closure but right now I need to get past this overwhelming feeling of guilt. Her passing hit me harder than I ever imagined. I miss my sweet girl with all of my heart. I never understood why pet owners were so upset after their beloved pet died. Now I can relate.
From what I've read and heard there seems to be a consistent theme - it's never ideal when our beloved pet passes away. I just wanted to share my story and what I'm going through right now.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with Ruby. It sounds like you two had an amazing relationship. Please know that you did the most generous thing you could do for your sweet girl. You are not alone, and our thoughts are with you.
Although this video was two years ago, I just found you here as I have been through a hard grief process for the lost of my baby girl Simy 7 weeks ago.... It's been the hardest part of my life and so painful to go on without her... She was my companion and was only 8 yrs... I was trying to do everything for her she had a tumour, but I couldn't get on time to the vet the night she got worse and she simply flew from my arms at home among her family for some seconds.... But k feel so guilty I should have taken her earlier or noticing in time she was losing blood... It's so hard xis painful that we had this path through 10 months since the tumour was discovered and then... All in a sudden she was passed away in my arms...
I know I must be thankful for these last time, these last minutes with us, wit no more struggle or pain, but it's my doubts what if this and that... And then it also breaks my heart deeply thinking of her our last care with each other, feeling like she didn't want to leave us...
I almost can't go out and face the same walks we use to make together... I see her everywhere....
I'm trying to help a local shelter with the dogs there but it's not easy...
Tk u so much ❤️ 🤗
Hi, Joana... Thank you kindly for reaching out to us and sharing your story. We're so so very sorry to hear of your loss. 💔 Please be gentle with yourself and know that Simy would not want you to beat yourself up for things that you can't change. She knows how much you loved her.
Your beloved girl sounds so precious and it's clear you had the most amazing connection with one another. Please accept our warmest condolences...and not sure if this is something you'd be interested in or not...but if you're feeling up to it, we recently created a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through all of this grief.
Here is the link to sign up: houndhuggerdiy.com/dog-loss
You're welcome to give it a try to see what it's all about, if you'd like. Again, there's nothing to purchase to access the guide, we just want to give back to our dog loving community - and would be honored if what we created helps you in your journey of healing. Hugs.
@@HoundHuggerDIY Tk u.... I didn't notice your answer... And I still feel the same after 4 months now.... 😢😢
It's been soooo deeply hard, very difficult to accept....
Tk u, I just sent you my email information.
@@joanafelixmachado I am so very sorry for the difficult time you are going through, please be patient with yourself. I hope that our guide can help with the healing. Please know that you are not alone, sending you healing thoughts and virtual hugs.
@@HoundHuggerDIY I thank from the bottom of my heart.... 💔😢💗🙏 Hugs and love from Portugal as well 💖
I lost my little man two weeks ago. He was around 12 when we adopted him and had him for 8 years. He was such a great dog. He had some bowel issues and then some diarrhea for a few days. Then he acted funny and slow, we thought his shoulder was bothering him again. He had no other age related items. The tummy issues was over a few weeks. He ate dinner at 11 pm one night then at 1 am he was in distress. He had a spleen tumor that was bleeding, we took him home but it didn’t stop bleeding. At noon the next day he was having a hard time breathing. . In less than 13 hours he was gone, it was gut wrenching so I know what your talking about. Horrible. So little warning. I am heartbroken.
I lost a part of myself, when I lost my dog 3 months ago, ..I have had so many relationships with pets over the years.. but Sam was my rock , the 8 years she was here, the timing of her life with me & her presence was my saving grace , I never imagined it would be this hard, I feel blessed to know & have felt such acceptance & love.. I’m still learning from her even though she’s gone. I only hope this hole in my heart can be healed ..in time , or with another dog. I don’t know, Sam surprised me , after the loss of my horse, I swore I’d never get attached again..but she did it, so hopefully someday God, will send me another hero & companion.. honestly, animals have been my best companions, & I’m so lonely now, I’m hopeful yet sceptical that there’s a future companion.,just like before..but I try to hang onto a purpose or belief that it wasn’t for nothing.I just want that feeling in my life, once you know that love it’s so hard to let go. I miss you so much Sam ❤️
We are so very sad to hear about your grief and the loss of your beloved Sam. Even when we share our lives with them for many years, it's never long enough. It doesn’t matter how much time goes by, we still miss them with our whole heart. And that’s ok. It just means we love them fully - they are a part of our soul - they shape our lives and they remain forever with us.
Pups have a special way to teach us even after they're gone - our memories of them remind us to live free, full of joy and with peace in our hearts. Sam will be there with you in spirit every step of the way to guide you in your journey of healing. Hugs 💔
I had to help my girl cross the bridge last week. She had a tumor in her paw that unfortunately spread and never healed. This has helped me understand I’m not alone and I helped her no longer be in pain
We are so very sorry for your loss. 💔 Please know that you did the most generous thing you could do for your sweet girl. You are not alone, and our thoughts are with you.
I know this was made a while ago but I am currently dealing with the loss of my beloved greyhound just yesterday...this really helped thank you for sharing your story's and love x
I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for your kind words and please know our thoughts are with you during this difficult time ❤️
I'm sorry for your great loss. How are you coping now?
Still difficult, but we rescued another greyhound and it has helped she is a genuinely loving girl. I do miss my Ebba daily though and I hope she is still with me in some way…
I’m so sorry for your loss Judy 🐶🌈❤️I just came across this video , it’s helped more than all the others I’ve found in my search for healing. I lost my best friend, Cupcake this past March . She was a 13 yo beagle, she was very sick the last year. I’ve been suffering n struggling with heartache , loneliness and so much guilt. The ladies in these videos have helped my heart with their words and experiences. I’ve watched it 4xs because I missed so much each time bev was use I’d start crying. I know Cupcake doesn’t want me to be sad like this , I pray and meditate going n praying she’ll come to me in a dream and just lmk she’s at peace and ok ❤️??! Would love to know if anyone’s had a dream like that ????
My little boy here in the photo passed away a week ago today. It was the worst day of my life. Myself and the vet made the decision. I'm still not able to get past the guilt. He was my constant companion for 10 years. He was about 6 when I adopted him from a shelter. He had many health issue over the years mostly from being a toy pomeranian. Seizures, Collapsing trachea, enlarged heart, congestive heart failure etc. I gave him meds several times a day, every day, I was his caregiver and that was my life. I was glad to do anything to make him better. He was a tough little man and never complained. Even when he had a seizure I would just hold him close and talk him through it. We always adjusted to whatever was wrong and found a way to be okay with it. Suddenly over a couple of weeks he lost his sight to cataracts but at the same time lost his hearing and even seemed not to be able to smell much. He had allergies too though, I gave him nose drops to help with it. Anyway, I knew he was nearing the end. He like I said was a tough little man but he was struggling with being lost, not knowing where he was or where I was even. He couldn't find his potty pads even when I put him on them he couldn't tell where he was. I discussed this all with his vet of 10 yrs. He told me it was only going to get worse because of all Morts underlying conditions. I decided to let my baby go in peace rather than in a traumatic situation. I prayed over my decision, for it to be the right one for him. It was selfish for me to keep him alive just because I'd miss him. At that point it was me that needed him desperately. It took all my strength to drive him to the vet that last time. Crying all the way, telling him how much I loved him and that it was all going to be okay soon. I had to keep telling myself I was just taking him for a checkup even to get through it. When I for there the nurse took him from me and said she'd be with him every mom. I didnt want him to be afraid so didnt let him hear me cry. I wasn't able to be with him. I couldn't get the strength. I'm still traumatized by that day. I feel I betrayed him. I just came home and cried like never in my life. I still stull cry, I am barely able to eat and can't sleep. I miss him so much.
I am so sorry for your loss. You really did the most generous thing that you could do for your boy. I am sure he knows how much you love him and all he would want for you is peace about the decision. Please be patient with yourself as you are going through this.
Please accept our warmest condolences...and not sure if this is something you'd be interested in or not...but if you're feeling up to it, we recently created a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through all of this grief.
Here is the link to sign up: offer.wehearthounds.com/dog-loss
You're welcome to give it a try to see what it's all about, if you'd like. Again, there's nothing to purchase to access the guide, we just want to give back to our dog loving community - and would be honored if what we created helps you in your journey of healing. Hugs.
It's August 29, 2023 and I had to say goodbye to my little mini poodle Chiko exactly one week ago on August 22. I've felt guilt about a number of things and your video has been very helpful and comforting to me. I'm getting counselling which really is important and keeping busy at work and at home has also been beneficial. Thank you to all of you - sending my love to all the pet parents that are dealing with loss.❤❤
So very sorry to hear about the loss of Chiko - this time can be just devastating. We’re grateful you have found some tips in this video series to help with your healing journey. You have our most sincere condolences for your loss. Our hearts are with you. 💔
Glad to have been 'sent ' this via the TH-cam algorithm...had to send my beautiful fur baby over the rainbow brigde last Saturday..my heart and soul are in pieces 😢😢😢😢💔
Deb, we are deeply saddened by your loss, but it's so nice to hear our videos help. Please know you are in our thoughts and we send warm hugs of hope and healing your way. 💔
I lost my Staffordshire bull terrier 5 days ago her name was Stella my heart is breaking 💔 I loved her so much the house doesn't feel the same when will this pain ease so hard to carry on without her thanks
We're so so very sorry to hear of the loss of your sweet Stella. 💔 We know how empty and silent the house can feel without our babies. To help work through these powerful emotions it may be helpful to reach out to a professional, here is a link to a document that we created that has a list of free resources for grief support wehearthounds.com/assets/GriefSupportKit.pdf I truly hope that you find this helpful and that you can begin the process of healing.
I definitely relate to you sharing about your 16 year old and the last 3 years being hard with the meds and feedings etc. I have had similar situation with a 16 year old and the last 3 years being really hard. The guilt you described at feeling some relief and then offering that we miss our dog AND can feel relief. Appreciate you making this video , very helpful .
Thank you very much for your kind words. Please accept our condolences on the loss of your senior. It is such a challenging thing to work through that mix of guilt and relief.
Not sure if this is something you'd be interested in or not...but we recently created a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through this grief.
Here is the link to sign up: houndhuggerdiy.com/dog-loss
You're welcome to give it a try to see what it's all about, if you'd like. Again, there's nothing to purchase to access the guide, we just want to give back to our dog loving community - and would be honored if what we created helps you in your journey of healing. Hugs.
@@HoundHuggerDIY Thank you so much for your condolences. I will definitely check out the resources you provided and sign up. I appreciate you all very much. Thanks again!
This video is very helpful. This is such a difficult and painful time when we lose our beloved pet. But our compassion and presence with them in their last moments on Earth is the love they need from us in return for tons of love we have received from them.
Yes we need to be there fir them because we are all they have
I have been searching for help with exactly what is being discussed here we just went through this a few days ago and have been struggling with guilt, extreme sadness, anger, doubt. My beautiful baby girl was almost 13 she was loving, loyal my best friend she calmed me and I her the grief is the hardest I have ever experienced . Peace to those who love so deeply that pain is what goes along with it in the end.
We are so very sorry for the loss of your sweet girl. Please accept our deepest condolences. And thank you very much for your kind words. It means the world to us to hear that these videos are helpful.
I needed to hear this! I just recently put my 16 year old Furbaby to rest in our home on August 18 2022 and it was the HARDEST Decision I had to ever make!!! But hearing you say that you dont need to feel guilty especially when I know in my heart I did what was right to end his suffering. I was by his side through the entire process❤ The pain is truly HEARTBREAKING! For me my Comfort is having his Urn with me and Magic will ALWAYS be a significant part in my HEART. I talk to him everyday 🙏🙏❤❤ AWESOME PODCAST🙏❤
Thank you so much for sharing your story and kind words with us. We are honored and humbled to know our video/s on dog loss have helped in some small way. Please accept our heartfelt condolences for your loss. You are in our thoughts and we send warm hugs of hope and healing your way. 💔
@@HoundHuggerDIY Thank you very much❤
This video has been very helpful while I grieve. I had to put down one of my babies just a few days ago. He had pneumonia and we just caught it too late. I've let myself cry while trying to honor my dogs life/memory best I can. I wrote several letters to him and spend time around other people who care about me and cared about him.
Chelsea, it's so nice to hear our videos help. Your words have touched our hearts. We're very sorry to hear about your beloved boy. The loss so incredibly difficult because time with them is never long enough. Your sweet pup would be so proud of how strong and brave you are - opening your heart to healing and remembering how precious your time together was. Please accept our most heartfelt condolences. May you find comfort in all the precious happy memories you have together. 💔
Thank you again for this video series. It's helping me process and understand the grief I continue to feel.
My beloved dog Mochi ultimately passed from kidney disease at the end of August 2021 via euthanasia, just a month short of turning 15. She was diagnosed in March 2020, and it was in the last month or two of her life that she degraded, in her last week of life losing interest in food and being so weak that she couldn't walk. I knew she was in pain. The guilt I feel is incredible. I actually gave birth to my first (human) daughter at the beginning of this year, which was traumatic for me, and the entirety of 2021 I barely remember doing anything with Mochi because I was so preoccupied and stressed with being a working mother. When I brought her for the last time to the vet, and they told us the kidney flush wasn't bringing down the numbers, all I could think about was Mochi sleeping alone at night, without me showing the affection she deserved, for these past months.
My husband had to remind me that we did do a lot to show we loved her. We gave her subcutaneous fluids every night, which was always followed by treat and play time. I would meal prep a special homemade kidney food diet for her every weekend, going so far as to research the exact phosphorus content of the foods I would cook and make sure the other macro and micronutrients were appropriate. I bought her various strollers so that she could rest as we walked to the park and then be able to expend her energy there, as she had arthritis. I specifically bought a baby stroller that could take on two bassinets so that Mochi could ride in one when we walked our daughter (after having already bought other dog transportation devices). I took her to the vet every 3 weeks because she needed an injection for Addison's disease. I was fortunate to be able to afford all of this but would've taken on debt otherwise. I included her in both my wedding and maternity photoshoots! I think the "mom brain" made me forget it all, and I still struggle to remember when she was her energetic self, our little barbarian angel.
I am working on a memorial space in our backyard as well as within our home and am trying to remember her in a positive light. The pain in my heart is immense but I will cherish every memory I have of her.
Thank you kindly for reaching out and sharing Mochi's story with us. We're so so very sorry to hear of your loss. 💔 You are clearly an amazing dog mom, please be gentle with yourself right now. I am certain that Mochi knows how much you love her and the last thing she would want is for you to beat yourself up.
She sounds so precious and it's clear you had the most amazing connection with one another. Please accept our warmest condolences...and not sure if this is something you'd be interested in or not...but if you're feeling up to it, we recently created a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through all of this grief.
Here is the link to sign up: houndhuggerdiy.com/dog-loss
You're welcome to give it a try to see what it's all about, if you'd like. Again, there's nothing to purchase to access the guide, we just want to give back to our dog loving community - and would be honored if what we created helps you in your journey of healing. Hugs.
Sorry for your loss. My Camila was almost this same story one week ago. I’m in that horrible dark place of guilt right know 😔
my baby Bruno, lost him yesterday and I can't with this pain, he was the most beautiful, kindest, playful little dog, only 6. I love you Bruno... forever. I miss you being by my side, waiting for me when I got home, I am sorry for not taking you to vet sooner, I am so sorry :( I wish it would have been a different story. My baby, i love you
Oh, Maria, we are so sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved Bruno at such a young age. It's hard to lose our pups - they are such a big part of our lives. 😥 Our hearts are with you at this sad time. May you find comfort in all the loving memories you hold dear.
My dog is dealing with mass cell tumors. It’s a stressful time right now. The chemo drugs are tough on her. I’ve been watching these videos to help me deal with if/when she transitions. I’m still hoping for a miracle, while also being realistic. While she is still here I’m already preparing for her loss. I fear I might not be strong enough for this
We are so very sorry you are going through this. Cancer is such a stressful diagnosis, and the treatments can be so tough. Please know that you are not alone, and you are stronger than you think. If you're interested, you might check out facebook.com/petcancerbites it's a great facebook page with pet cancer support resources.
This past Saturday we decided it was time to let our furry family member Daime. He lived a long 15 years. It was hard because we wanted him to go naturally. But we had to free him of his pain. He was my baby. I’m currently feeling gilt because he kept barking on the way to the animal clinic. I keep thinking he was telling me to turn the car around. My schedule is so empty without him. I worry about my son because it was his dog. I find myself thinking I could have done more to help with his cries at nights. We did everything to make him comfortable. I just want this guilt to go away. Watching this video really help to put things in prospective. Thank you
Hi, Dara... Thank you kindly for reaching out and sharing your story. We're so very sorry to hear of your loss. 💔 You really did the most generous thing that you could do for your Daime. I am sure he knows how much you love him and all he would want for you is peace about the decision. Please be patient with yourself as you are going through this. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
Not sure if this is something you'd be interested in or not...but we have a free Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. One of the ebooks is 'Helping Kids Cope With the Loss of a Dog' that may be helpful to help you and your son work through this grief together.
Here is the link to sign up: offer.wehearthounds.com/dog-loss
You're welcome to give it a try to see what it's all about, if you'd like. Again, there's nothing to purchase to access the guide, we just want to give back to our dog loving community - and would be honored if what we created helps you in your journey of healing. Hugs.
The guilt with euthanizing your pet is very real. I just dealt with this yesterday. I’ve never had a pet euthanized. My sweet little Chloe had CHF and was struggling to breathe. Oh how I wanted more days with her but after seeing her sitting straight up for 24 hours no sleep I knew it was time. She kept her sweet little head back staring up at me. I knew she was staying like that because if she laid down her lungs were filling up with fluid. I wanted just one more day but knew that was selfish of me so I even paid an extra $100 to have it done yesterday and the guilt is tremendous. I feel like I betrayed her 15 years of love and loyalty but I couldn’t imagine watching her possibly choking in pain and dying I don’t know why I have so much guilt. It’s just been about a day and a half and I can’t sleep. I see her pillow with her not on it and my heart melts. I pray we will meet again. I love you Chloe Bell 💙
Please know how heartbroken we are to hear that you have lost a little loved one in your life. You put your dog’s needs for peace above your own needs to hold on. And as painful as that is, it's a true kindness. No matter where you go, Chloe will be loving, protecting and guiding you from the other side. Her soul is forever connected to yours because you two have a bond that can never be broken. As you heal and begin to bring happiness back into your heart, you are bringing happiness back to hers. All Chloe wants is for you to be happy, living life to its fullest... just as you wanted the same for her when she was here. You have our most sincere condolences and may you find peace with all the wonderful memories you both shared. 💔
Socializing with people you must force yourself even if you are thinking about your pet clean closets cabinets, cooking, gardening stay busy it helps it is okay to stop and cry and keep moving go for walks watch help videos such as this it helps . One of the hardest grief to manage you need to continue living somewhat normally your beloved pet would want that for you.
This is wonderful advice, sometimes just doing something to keep busy can make a huge difference.
These videos help, thanks. Some of us find it tough ask for help out loud so listening to videos like these help alot.
Been 20 hrs since we had a tragic accident to Beau, it's so damn hard.
Thank you.
That’s awful and heartbreaking news about Beau. So very sad. 😢 We are honored and humbled to know our video/s on dog loss have helped in some small way. Please accept our heartfelt condolences for your loss. You are in our thoughts and we send warm hugs of strength and comfort your way. 💔
@@HoundHuggerDIY thank you. Appreciate it, really do.
It's really important what the lady said about the second guessing yourself being part of the bargaining phase of grief.
This really helped. I had to let go of my precious little guy a few days ago. I wasn't perfect but I loved him immensely. Now just walking around the house without his presence is tough. I wish I had hugged him more. Feelings of guilt is hard to get through. Wish I could go back to when I first saw him as a puppy and do it all again. His name was Odie
We are truly sorry to hear the news about your dear Odie. The first days, weeks and months are the hardest - the silence of a quiet house and the weight of guilt can be very tough to deal with. It means a lot that this video series has helped. Please know you are in our thoughts and we send our deepest condolences for your loss.
This video helped.. I just had to put my dog who was only 6 down Friday unexpectedly due to emergency health reasons and the last image I had was of her in the ER as I tried to save her. I’m traumatized as this was my entire world. This has been the hardest experience I’ve ever gone thru
We are terribly sorry for your loss and to hear that those last moments for you and your sweet girl were so rough. It’s devastating to lose a pup - especially a dog that holds such a dear place in your heart. The only comfort is knowing that the level of sadness you feel is equal to the amount of love you two shared. And although you will never get over the loss, you can get through it. It just takes time....
You have our most sincere condolences. Our hearts are with you during this difficult time. 💔
I lost my Bella, Monday evening. She was 16. Hardest decision I have ever made. Her arthritis in her hips was getting very bad. Falling down, the limping. God knows I want her forever. I just did not want her to be in pain anymore. They came to my house. Bella was so comfortable. Pain of her not being here is unbearable. I love her and miss her so much.
Oh we are so truly sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved sweet Bella. It's heartbreaking and unbearable for sure. You clearly put her needs above your own - and she was very lucky to have you. Your time together was truly special. May you find comfort in all the loving memories you hold dear. 💔
11 years ago I knew this day would come, this is exactly why I would play with her and hug her every time we were together. We made sure she flew first class the whole way through. I would unleash her at the parc and let her do laps until the security guards chased us away. I hate humans, she was my one true friend , she sang to the blues when i played guitar, stole my heart right there and then. The love of a boxer is unmatched. This has been the hardest thing ive ever had to deal with. Thank you for this i wasn't there at the very end and the guilt has been killing me but i made sure she knew how much i loved her when i was with her. R.I.P. Casey, I love you.
Thanks so much for taking the time to share your story with us. Sounds like you brought out the best in each other... a bond such as yours is such a treasure. All of those years of laughter and love and music...your pup will always be with you.
Please know how sorry we are for your loss. Try not to beat yourself up about not being there at the end. You gave your whole heart to Casey every time you were together and she loved you for that. Completely. No matter how we lose our dogs, every single person blames themselves. There is always guilt....so know that you are not alone. Our hearts are with you.
@@HoundHuggerDIY Thank you so much.
Thank you for the video. I was looking for relieve and understanding.. i put down my 15 yo Gidget yesterday, she is my child. She was in so much pain, and tears in the last 3 days. we tried medicines for months, and her body keep deteriorating. Last 3 days, her yelps become sharper and deeper. I finally understand that i need to let her go. Putting her down is my last act of love I can do for her, and i hope she understand that in the dog heaven.. But now I continue to feel this guilt and not able to shake off.
We are truly sorry to hear of the loss of your dear pup. Unfortunately it is all too easy to second guess those last moments and play them over and over in your mind. It is important to be kind to yourself right now. The gift of peace is a profound act of love for a dog who is suffering. The feelings you have about making that final decision are completely normal. Everyone questions their decision to let go. Deep in your heart you knew it was time - your girl was telling you in her own way. Please accept our most heartfelt condolences for the loss of your sweet girl. May you continue to find comfort in all the precious memories of the beautiful life you shared together.
Everything that I have been going through now is covered here. I am glad I found this video. I am going crazy with heart break. We had to put down my pet dog of 17 years 2 weeks ago. I wanted to take care of her and let her die naturally like we did with her sister. But then she started having breathing problem. The vet said she is in the final stages of dying. I just could not accept that I need to pay someone to end her life. Its terrible. Although I tell myself, if I am suffering I would ask someone to end my life but I couldn't do it for another. It was very painful. Last minute, I am still hanging on her. When it was done and we When we went to the car to go home, it was sunny but we felt raindrops. when we were inside the car, we saw raindrops on the windows .. It felt like the rain only pour on our car. It was very weird. Now with no dog in the house or backyard, I feel like I am in another world. Very empty ... My life will never be the same.
Thank you kindly for reaching out to us and sharing your story. We're so so very sorry to hear of your loss. 💔 Please be gentle with yourself and know that your sweet girl would not want you to beat yourself up. She knows how much you loved her. You really did the most generous thing you could do for her.
Your beloved girl sounds precious and it's clear you had the most amazing bond. Please accept our warmest condolences.
@@HoundHuggerDIY Thank you. I appreciate your kind words and especially I appreciate the efforts your group put on this video. i watched it a number of times.
@mr369 walters Thank you, it means the word to hear that these videos are helping. And not sure if this is something you'd be interested in or not...but if you're feeling up to it, we have created a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through grief.
Here is the link to sign up: houndhuggerdiy.com/dog-loss
You're welcome to give it a try to see what it's all about, if you'd like. Again, there's nothing to purchase to access the guide, we just want to give back to our dog loving community - and would be honored if what we created helps you in your journey of healing. Hugs.
I absolutely understand what you went through
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Mine was hit by a car right in front of me. He was killed right in front of me. He was only 2½ & was my ESA for anxiety. My sons are grown up. Joey was my baby. I wailed & screamed and I keep crying as though I lost a child. This guilt is seems different.
Oh my heart is breaking for you. It can just be so devastating to lose your pup so suddenly. Please be patient with yourself as you go through the shock of this situation. To help work through these powerful emotions it may be helpful to reach out to a professional, here is a link to a document that we created that has a list of free resources for grief support wehearthounds.com/assets/GriefSupportKit.pdf I truly hope that you find this helpful and that you can begin the process of healing.
We also recently created a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through this grief.
Here is the link to sign up: houndhuggerdiy.com/dog-loss
You're welcome to give it a try to see what it's all about, if you'd like. Again, there's nothing to purchase to access the guide, we just want to give back to our dog loving community - and would be honored if what we created helps you in your journey of healing. Hugs.
My dog was ran over by my daughter. Her back legs and hips bd back were broken. We found out that she had stones in her bladder. She was 12 years old and had a lot of accidents. I feel guilty because I didn’t realize how bad it was . I took to a veterinarian just before I got Covid in October 2021. Iam upset because they didn’t find the stones. My bill was about 500 dollars They should have found it.
Omg its like you narrated my story with Tiger was 2 years🙏 He was with my husband he saw him being crash by a evil men who have time to stop and he didnt, I will send the video to the news this week cause , My husband was not alone. Was alot of neighbors outside and they witness 😭 my husband cry out loud and me, is only be 2 days and we miss him soo much running the house, he was bilingual he understand english n spanish, kind, love to play ❤️ he was our baby 😭 it make me feel better that am not alone in this 🙏❤️ Thank you ❤️
I can't get over letting the vet put her to sleep. It's still haunts me. One of my dogs had cancer and we waited until she stopped eating. Our next dig had a massive infection. The most recent had multiple issues related to old age but on that day she was mentally aware. I whispered to 'Go with Skyler'. But feel like I betrayed her 😭 The one who I have left will be my last dog. It's expensive and I can't go through euthanasia again.
Please know how heartbroken we are to hear that you have lost little loved ones in your life. You put your dog’s needs for peace above your own needs to hold on. And as painful as that is, it's a true kindness. No matter how prepared you are, it's the most difficult thing anyone can do. You are in our thoughts and send you strength, comfort and warm wishes daily.
I feel this way. I keep saying "we did it too soon" 💔
Yes he was sick but I wanted to wait a little more
My sweet Taz had diabetes since age 6. He lived to 11. The level of care involved twice daily insulin shots and vet visits for nausea, urinary tract infections and in the last months I knew he was declining yet I was in denial thinking I knew how to care for him. Vet did blood work and saw a problem... I scheduled a visit with an internist but instead of bringing him in for a closer look he declined and went into kidney failure. So I totally get that strange odd feeling of being unencumbered. I look at the clock still at 7:00 his dinner time. I made a photo book documenting our incredible journey together. I get to see it all. So much fun!! Such an epic adventure. I miss him so much and I know he's still with me.
Thank you dearly for sharing your story with us - and please accept our heartfelt condolences. 💔 Taking care of a dog with health issues is a huge commitment. What a lucky pup to have such a devoted and selfless caregiver like you. Betcha he showered you with lots of love right back! Remembering all of those good times and being grateful for the life you shared together - these are some of the best ways to move through the healing process. May love and grace and gratitude - and the wonderful memories of Taz - be in your heart wherever life may take you.
Thank you for this. I lost my beloved Pete 6 days ago. He was 14, a Black and Tan dachshund. Ive been dreading losing him for several years and finally it happened and now I’m forced to live without him. I had to get him euthanized at the emergency vet on a Sunday after he suddenly went “over the cliff” Friday night. Respiratory failure.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Please be gentle with yourself as you are going through this. Try to remember that you really did the most generous thing that you could do for your beloved Pete. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
I totally get what you’re feeling. Said goodbye to my little black n tan dachshund 4 days ago.
She was the sweetest thing. I don’t think I’ll ever get over this. There’s nothing like a dachshund to make you laugh.
Hugs to you
@@dyannesharp7343 You won’t get over it, but you will find peace. I am now able to function without agony, but it doesn’t take much to bring it all back. I’m crying after reading your comment. Hugs to you too ❤️
26:41 This happens all the time and it's something I've been experiencing in relation to grief since I was a child. The guilt associated with those moments where we forget we are in pain or for whatever reason we actually don't feel bad momentarily and then we catch ourselves and feel awful as though we have betrayed our beloved by getting over them so quickly.
I appreciate the CBT reminder of challenging our thoughts in terms of the grief and guilt.
I have framed a lot of his pictures and I got a portrait of him sketched and painted by an artist, her name is Lenny Arifin. We put bird feeders and chimes at his grave and I wrote him little letters and put them in plastic eggs and put them in a basket for him for Easter. We got him a little red truck and some Tennis balls and I even put a little Bunny that blows bubbles in his basket because he loved to chomp on bubbles and chase them. He loved truck rides. We got him a memorial plaque and planted a calla lily on top of him. We built a bone shaped mulch pit with bricks on the grave as well. It's beautiful there now and when I am sad I sit out there and talk to him. We miss him so much. Ralphy 2010 to 2024 best German Shepherd boy. He loved kids too.
You're so right. The grieving process is not a straight line - our feelings ebb and flow from one to another along this journey. Ultimately, it's important to remember our beloved pups would not want us to continue life carrying the weight of guilt, sadness and grief for the rest of our days. Our pets teach us so much - that we are our best selves when we embrace love and joy and hope for brighter days ahead. Our thoughts are with you at this sad time.
@@HoundHuggerDIY Thank you kindly.
The heart connection it's so true regardless if it was afew months or years as Peggy stated
This is such an old video, but felt like it was made just for me after putting Sophie, my pug, the sleep two days ago. Thank you for making this video.
Please accept our condolences on the loss of your beloved Sophie. And thank you so much for the kind words. It means the world to hear the video was helpful.
Not sure if this is something you'd be interested in or not...but we have created a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through this grief.
Here is the link to sign up: houndhuggerdiy.com/dog-loss
You're welcome to give it a try to see what it's all about, if you'd like. Again, there's nothing to purchase to access the guide, we just want to give back to our dog loving community - and would be honored if what we created helps you in your journey of healing. Hugs.
Thank you so much! I had nowhere to turn with this overwhelming pain and this series has literally saved me. I can’t thank you enough. Your love and compassion means the world to me.❤️
Oh Stephanie, our hearts ache for you and the loss you are dealing with. We are honored and humbled to know our videos on dog loss have helped in some small way. Please accept our heartfelt condolences and may you find comfort in all the precious memories of the beautiful life you shared together.
Thank you so much for considering this tough topic. You helped me a lot. God bless you.
Thank you so much for the kind words. It means the world to hear it was helpful.
Thank you so much for this.
You are so very welcome! It means the world to know that this series is helpful. ❤️
Thank you so much for this episode. 🐶 ❤️ 🙏
I really appreciate your insight. Put my little Yorkie down yesterday and can't stop crying. Guilt over not trying the medicine for a 15 year old dog with cognitive dysfunction. Maybe I should have tried it for a month. Not sure vet was pushing it enough, and I was also very tired of all the care he needed. But guilt is awful.
Oh we are soooo very sorry for your loss. It's clear your love was deep and losing your beloved boy has put a big weight on your heart. No matter how we lose our dogs, every single person blames themselves. There is always guilt....so please know that you are not alone. Our hearts are with you. And if you're interested, we created a 6-part email series with all kinds of resources on grief support that's totally free: houndhuggerdiy.com/dog-loss
@@HoundHuggerDIY THANKS - you ladies are great. keep up the good work
This was so very helpful for me. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for the kind words. We're so glad you found the video helpful.
My dog passed away 1 month ago and I have major guilt. I didn’t have the funds to afford the medication and should have gotten him to vet early enough. Finally could take him to vet to find out he has was in congestive heart failure. Feel like I killed my dog. He was my baby as I don’t have children. He helped me get sober. My ex and I split up 4 years ago and I got the dog. Ex was retired so Harley was constantly with us and I couldn’t do that anymore. Then day he passed away in my arms in backyard I got a little frustrated with him that morning and he passed away that evening. I can’t believe I did that. I will never know if he was in pain and it kills me.
Rebecca we are so sorry for your loss. Please be patient with yourself as you are going through this. Your beloved Harley sounds so precious and it's clear you had an amazing connection with one another. All he would want for you is peace. Please accept our warmest condolences. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
I have lost 3 dogs tru euthanasia. All 3 had different issues. Its been the most painful times and I dont think I can go through it again.
Jack was put to sleep April 19 2022, and I am so sick in my heart I let him suffer too long, but I honestly didn't know the sickness would go so fast and hard on him. I should have put him down sooner. I hate me so much right now. I just did not know! I ave lived most of my years with depression, and he was the light in my VERY DARK WORLD. He was my love and therapy.
We're so so very sorry to hear of your loss. 💔 Please be gentle with yourself and know that Jack would not want you to beat yourself up for things that you can't change. He knows how much you loved him. To help work through these powerful emotions it may be helpful to reach out to a professional, here is a link to a document that we created that has a list of free resources for grief support wehearthounds.com/assets/GriefSupportKit.pdf I truly hope that you find this helpful and that you can begin the process of healing.
Thank you for this video. I lost my baby today. He was the best dog.
I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for your kind words and please know our thoughts are with you during this difficult time ❤️
Yes your dog was the best is true because all rhe dogs are the best
thank you for this xx
You are very welcome! ❤️
Thank you, we made a stepping stone, with her hair lock, and baby teeth, and yes, very tough thing to go through, im grieving , going on two months, hope it subsides, you helped very much! God bless you!!
What a wonderful tribute to your girl. Thank you so much for the kind words. Hugs to you!
This video automatically started playing after another one I was watching from someone else; and it was exactly what I needed to hear. My guilt over deciding to say good-bye to my adored fur baby of 14.5 years has been eating up my heart for three weeks. It is comforting to know it is normal. Thank you soo much for this!
Oh, Paula, it does our hearts good to know that this video appeared for you at the time you needed it most. We are so very sorry for your loss😥 It's hard to lose our pups - they are such a big part of our lives. The hurt and pain is so real - but it's truly a reflection of the depth of love you shared together. And what a blessing to be able to experience something like that. Things do get better over time. You are in our thoughts and we send warm hugs of hope and healing your way.
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. Pet loss is a very deep but lonely type of grief and I am grateful for your kind sentiment and words. 🙏
This video was so helpful, I was feeling so guilty..it's just good to know. That I'm not the only one who went through this 😇
You are certainly not alone. We are so sorry for your loss. Thank you for your kind words and please know our thoughts are with you during this difficult time ❤️
This video is really amazing, it stressing a lot of situations and experiences that normally do not get any mention at all, and how the guilty can come so differently just depends on the situation. I literally went through every emotions you mentioned without having a real explanation for them and just feeling pure guilty about that. Thank you for this video, it does help a lot.
Thank you very much for your kind words. Guilt can be such a challenging emotion to work through.
Not sure if this is something you'd be interested in or not...but we recently created a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through this grief.
Here is the link to sign up: offer.wehearthounds.com/dog-loss
You're welcome to give it a try to see what it's all about, if you'd like. Again, there's nothing to purchase to access the guide, we just want to give back to our dog loving community - and would be honored if what we created helps you in your journey of healing. Hugs.
@@HoundHuggerDIY My pet was a cat but I believe the guides can apply to all pet lovers with loss. Thank you so much for your care and kindness.
@@cundien10294 I am very sorry for the loss of your beloved cat. And yes I believe the advice provided can be helpful for any pet lover. All the best to you!
thank you for sharing your story on Clover mine is similar xx
I am so glad I found this today. I put my dog down a few days ago. It was clear he was dying when I brought him him. I have guilt because I started crying and it made him frightened. If I hadn’t cried he would not have been worried. The vet said it was the right time. He died 6/22/23. These suggestions are so helpful
Please know how heartbroken we are to hear that you have lost a little loved one in your life. We are honored and humbled to know our videos have helped in some small way. It's easier said than done, but try not to beat yourself up for showing your emotions. It is an expression of true love and nothing really makes those last moments easy. No matter how prepared you are, it's the most difficult thing anyone can do. You are in our thoughts and send you strength, comfort and warm wishes daily.
The content of this talk is filled with many helpful gems on how to handle this. Great information weaved into this chat.
Thank you for your kind words, it means the world to us that you've found this series helpful.
Just seeing this video from 3 years ago, we just had to make the excruciating decision to say goodbye to our 15 year old lab coco a few days ago. After watching this, all of you have said several things that have resonated with me, from feeling the immense grief of the loss or the guilt of having to make the decision we made or the guilt of feeling like we don’t deserve to be feeling happiness about anything right now. So many things that are covered in this video that are helpful. I can’t imagine anyone who watches this and has lost a dog or any other pet who wouldn’t appreciate seeing this. Thank you
You are so dearly welcome. It's so sad to hear about your dear beloved Coco. Patti grew up with labs as a kid, so they will always hold a special place in her heart. Please know you are in our thoughts and send you strength, comfort and warm wishes daily.
Thank you ❤️
You are very welcome! We hope it was helpful.
This really help me, thanks very very much for the talk, I really appreciate 🙏
We are so glad it was helpful! Hugs to you.
I said goodbye to my soulmate Amaya, my breathtakingly beautiful and gentle Japanese Spitz boy just over a week ago. He was 15 and a half. Over the years and with a great deal of veterinary treatment he overcame mystery immune mediated haemolytic anaemia, double cruciate ligament failure resulting in two metal knees, leptospirosis with hepatitis, an allergy where he went bald in patches, a dental abscess and a growth that turned nasty. I'd learned so much about biology and veterinary treatments over the years and had him on a specialist homemade diet for his last four years. I'd managed to keep him fit and well and enjoying his life until this year when he lost energy. The vets thought it was arthritis but I always felt it was systemic. I treated him for arthritis and got him a wheelchair but then the dementia started. After a few episodes that seemed like hypoglycemia and chronic diarrhoea he had an ultrasound scan that found an 8cm tumour in his liver. We couldn't find out whether it was cancerous or benign as that would involve sedation which he wouldn't survive. The vet gave him some meds to make him more comfortable and he seemed to improve for a few weeks. Then he went downhill again. I read that his dementia and all of his symptoms could be caused by his failing liver but the vet recommended euthanasia. I asked him to give us 24 hrs on a new treatment but it didn't improve my boy's condition so I hugged him and told him how much I loved him as the vet administered the fatal dose. It was simultaneously the most peaceful but the most violent experience.
My boy was the bounce-back king and I'm now wondering if I should have asked for 24 more hours. I think about what we missed and how it could have been handled differently. I feel like I failed my boy. We'd overcome everything in the past so perhaps we could have overcome this?
It feels so cold, brutal and empty without him. He was the Big Love of my life and my partner in crime.
Jill, thank you dearly for sharing the story of your beloved Amaya. It's clear you had such a close and loving relationship together. And Amaya was truly lucky to have you care for so many of his health challenges for so many years. Unfortunately it's all too easy to second guess those last moments and play them over and over in your mind. It's important to be kind to yourself right now. The gift of peace is a profound act of love for a dog who is suffering. The feelings you have about making that final decision are completely normal. I don't know anyone who doesn't second guess their decision to let go... and the internet is not the best place to look for answers on what might have been. Deep in your heart you knew it was time - Amaya was telling you in his own way. Please accept our most heartfelt condolences for the loss of your dear boy. May you continue to find comfort in all the precious memories of the beautiful life you shared together.
Thank you all for this video,I've just had my beautiful boy put to sleep yesterday.he was 11 and my soul mate and shadow.the empty house is aweful.i feel such pain,but I do realise I did the right thing because he lost the use of his back legs,wasn't eating and had cancer. But still my mind goes round and round with the guilty thoughts that I could have done more,it's obviously early days and can't seem to stop crying.
We're truly sorry your beloved boy is no longer with you. Our hearts are hurting for you and your family. 😥 It's hard to lose our pups - they are such a big part of our lives. The feelings of guilt you have are completely normal. And because you were so attentive to his needs, you recognized your sweet fella was telling you it was time. Please accept our heartfelt condolences for your loss. May you find comfort in all the loving memories you hold dear. 💔
watching this from the loss of my cat. thank you very much. fast and unexpected loss, one i feel if i was faster helping could maybe have been prevented.
We are so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved cat. Please try not to beat yourself up over things that can't be changed and be patient with yourself as you are going through this. Please accept our warmest condolences. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
Thank you...
You are very welcome. Hugs!
Thanks!
Thank you so much for your generous support. We are honored and humbled to know our video/s on dog loss have helped in some small way. Please accept our heartfelt condolences for your loss.
Also if you’re interested we have email series on dog loss with lots of additional resources. There is nothing to buy, we just wanted to give back to our dog lovin’ community. You can check that out at houndhuggerdiy.com/dog-loss
what that woman says from 6:07 to 6:55 THANK YOU for saying this. Ive been what if & what if for 3 days since I lost my dog & the guilt is just unbearable & so heavy .
We are so very sorry for your loss. The guilt and second guessing can be so incredibly difficult. Please be patient with yourself and remember your pup would not want you to beat yourself up for things that you can't change. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time. ❤️
I lost my girl to a car accident after she ran out in the street after greeting my friend in the front of our door. She was only two years old and I feel extremely guilty that I did not just have her greet him inside. She some times would greet him inside and other times just out front the door. She went looking for the mailman when a car that was speeding on our quiet street hit her, I believe he might have been on his phone. I feel like a negligent pet owner despite what friends and family have told me. She was with me all day everyday during my year and a half of being with her, she has left a gaping hole in my heart and I constantly feel guilt for not keeping her in the house when people enter our home.
Oh, Ricky, that's just heartbreaking. We are truly sorry to hear you lost your beloved girl in such a tragic accident. The most important thing to remember is that you did NOT purposely cause your dog’s passing. It's easier said than done, but try to be gentle with yourself. It was an accident, and it's clear you would have done things differently if you had known what would happen. It takes effort, but try to remember all the things you did right and forgive yourself.
Your dear sweet girl would not want you to be sad or want you focusing your energy on how things ended. Instead, try to focus on all the wonderful times you had together, her adorable little quirks, her favorite snacks - any memory that helps you change the sad story you're focusing on now. It's clear to see her love still lives inside you and you carry her in your heart. That is her heartwarming legacy.
You may never get over the grief, but you will get through it. Please know you are in our hearts as you continue on your journey of healing.
I just found you ladies tonight...this is the 2nd video of yours I have watched...I said on the other video what I feel guilty about so I won't repeat it but I just wanted to acknowkedge you 3 ladies....I can hear and see and even feel your love for your pets, they were so loved, so lucky and they know it. God Bless you all.
Thank you so much for your kind words, I think you saw right to our hearts. We truly hope this video series provides some comfort. If you're feeling up to it, we also have a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey of healing. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through your grief.
Here is the link: offer.wehearthounds.com/dog-loss
@@HoundHuggerDIY Ty I will most certainly check into this.
Guilt Is where I'm stucked at. I lost 2 dogs within 2.5 months apart. The 1st one I was able to plan and schedule. The 2nd one not so much. But I'm guilt ridden with both. I am so mad at myself and feel like I could've done better. Thanks for the discussion. It help to hear the discussions/thoughts
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. We are heartbroken to hear that you have lost 2 pups so close together. Can only imagine the hurt and numbness you are living through. Loss is never easy and it can be so difficult to pull your way up and out of the pain. Sometimes the best thing to do is flip the script in your head - try as best you can to think good thoughts. Remind yourself that you can and will survive the guilt and pain. You are worthy of relief from guilt. You are strong, brave and capable of achieving anything you put your mind to.
It's easier said than done, but try to be gentle with yourself. Your dear sweet pups would not want you to be sad or want you focusing your energy on how things ended. Instead, now might be a good time to start a journal. Perhaps you can start writing stories of all the wonderful times you had together, the adorable little quirks, favorite snacks - any memory that helps you change the sad story you're focusing on now. It's clear that their love still lives inside you and you carry them both in your heart. That will never change. But you do need to allow your brain to focus on the positive to help you heal. Please know you are in our thoughts and send you warm wishes daily.
I Said goodbye to My 12 year old chihuahua today. I’m in so much pain🥲😭😭
Please know how sorry we are for your loss. It’s heartbreaking to lose a pup - they are family. If you'd like to check it out, we have an article on our website that helps with those first overwhelming moments: houndhuggerdiy.com/the-moment-after/
In time, we hope you're able to remember all of the wonderful times you had together, the adorable little quirks, favorite snacks - any memory that helps you change the sad story you're focusing on now. Our hearts are with you. 💔
@@HoundHuggerDIY Thank you, so much. I will do that.
After reading the comments, are there conversations of guilt after losing a pet in a tragic accident. I have extreme guilt about not getting to my baby in time, or not noticing when she disappeared. Not calling loud enough or demanding the people around me shout and look for her too immediately. Not going away for the weekend. Spending more time with her. Not being able to give her her last treat or steak. Not taking her swimming before she died. All these actions could have saved her life.
Miche don't do this to yourself. I beat myself up years ago over my Ellies death. Today my little darling Jonny died. I have learnt over the years to allow myself to just feel grief, without layering over it with guilt. It was an accident, how could you know? Go easy on yourself, hindsight is a wonderful thing, but we must not crucify ourselves over what we could, should and did not do. Much love to you xx
@@maewest4098 thank you Mae. It's hard but I should try. For her. Her loss should not be about me and grief and guilt.
I'm so incredibly sorry about your Ellie and nose your Johnny. I'm so so sorry
@@MicheLle-zy3xu Thank you, grief is about us Miche. They are happy now, I truly believe this. We are linked you and I with our loss. Be kind to youself, I am being careful with myself also x take care sweetheart
@@maewest4098 you take care too, caring one. I find comfort and love in our exchange and knowing we are linked now. Thank you
@@MicheLle-zy3xu xx
I had to let my sweet 12 year old poodle to the Good Place yesterday. It has hit me like a sledgehammer. I am so grateful to have had wise counsel that encouraged me to help him. He had mobility trouble and cardiomyopathy. We had already experienced two hospital visits in less than a year and the thought of having to euthanize him in an emergency situation was something I did not want to do. A local vet came to the house and it was very peaceful and sweet. He seemed happy all the way until fell asleep and then it was over. ❤ I have been resting on the bed where he took his last breath. It gives me comfort. I hope my own heart can be strong.
Lisa, it deeply saddens us to learn of your beloved poodle's passing. He was a brave fella who battled a lot - and he was so lucky to have you at his side caring for his every need. Sounds like you both had a beautiful bond and he surely will be missed. We can only imagine how lonely it must feel now that he's gone. Just remember, he taught you how to be brave and you will get through this. His soul is forever connected to yours -- you two have a bond that can never be broken. Please know you are in our hearts and we send our warmest condolences for your loss.
@@HoundHuggerDIY Thank you so much for your kind words ♥️🐩
We lost our beautiful Kaia Our mastiff Nov 21/2021 😭 we lost our old girl my lily our 10 yr old rottie to cancer Jan 4/2022 and her twin sister Shiloh is probably not far off😭😭😭 this is beyond painful and I don’t think my heart will ever heal…
We are so very sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved girls Kaia and Lily. Please accept our warmest condolences and know that you are certainly not alone. May you find peace and comfort on your journey of healing.
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I had to let my baby girl go last night… I feel a huge part of me died with her. My dogs were my kids, and my only family members in this country. It hurts everywhere.. and the emptiness in my house is so excruciating. But I firmly believe I’ll see them (and other animals I’ve had) in heaven someday.
That is just heartbreaking. We are so very sorry to hear of your loss, Leona. The first hours, days and weeks are the hardest. And it is normal to feel alone or lonely without our beloved pet by our side. It doesn’t matter how much time goes by, we still miss them with our whole heart. And that’s ok. It just means we love them fully - they are a part of our soul - they shape our lives and they remain forever with us. You are in our thoughts and we send you strength, comfort and warm wishes daily.
@@HoundHuggerDIY Thank you so much for your kind words!❤️ So true.. no matter how much time passes, the love for our furry little angels stays in our hearts forever! I am devastated, but very grateful to you for these series, because in them I’ve found comfort and acceptance! I finally felt fully understood by human beings about the way I feel toward my pets. They are helping me heal. I am truly grateful! ❤️
I found this video because my dog passed away this monday and I felt so guilty because I was ignoring the signs I thought he just had the flu and was feeling sick for the past few days and then on Monday he woke me up in the middle of the night a few times to potty and then his last potty in the morning he just stopped walking after he went and then when I brought him in, he just laid in his bed and I can see his stomach breathing oddly but he was just tiredthe whole day he was there he won’t get up. He was whimpering really silently. I petted him and went to do some things and when I came back, a few minutes later his eyes were already closed and he was breathing really slow. I see his tongue and gums were blue and I panicked. I called the vet to see what I can do and when I came back next to him, he was just looking at me and then he took his final breath. 😢😢 last few last few moments I felt so guilty that I could’ve done more. I could’ve done something but I felt so hopeless so I felt like I wasn’t a good dad to him. I love him so much this last few days. I feel this unbearable, pain and guilt.
We are terribly sorry for your loss. Dogs are experts at hiding pain and weakness - it's an innate instinct passed down from their ancestors to help them survive in the wild. Please know you are not at fault and your dog would never think poorly of you. What you're feeling is normal.. we all go through a list of "what ifs" and beat ourselves up about things we can't change.
As devastating as it is to lose your sweet furbaby, they would never ever want you to beat yourself up like this. You took good care of your dog in many ways; try not to throw that away. You are in our thoughts and we send warm wishes of healing your way.
@@HoundHuggerDIY thank you so much i appreciate it🫂
I just cannot forgive myself! How could I 😭😭😭😭 my poor baby 😭😭😭
We are soooo very sorry for your loss. The guilt you feel is completely normal. I don't know anyone who doesn't second guess their decision to let go. It takes effort, but try to remember all the things you did right and all the wonderful memories you shared.
As devastating as it is to lose your sweet furbaby, they would never ever want you to beat yourself up like this. You took good care of your dog in many ways; try not to throw that away. You are in our thoughts and we send warm hugs of hope and healing your way.
I had to put my soul dog to sleep 3 weeks ago and i can´t deal with the pain and the guilt. She was diagnosed with Kidney Disease a year ago and it was controlled for a year, but all of a sudden one month ago she went downhill in a matter of 3 days, and we had to leave her in the vet clinic for 10 days day and night with fluids. she was also extremely anemic, she didn´t eat for 2 weeks. So in the beginning of her stay in the clinic she was improving but then she stopped responding and she was very weak couldn´t barely stand, the anemia was so bad she was having issues breathing, so i took her home and had my goodbye with her for 2 days, sleeping with her and we put her to sleep at home, with me by her side and telling her how much i love her and thanking her for everything she did for me during the 10 years we´ve been together since i rescued her. I had dogs all my life but she was something else, we had a real connection. I can´t deal with the guilt of having her spend those 10 days in the hospital, without me by her side, except for the 2 daily visits i was allowed to go. Even if she was at home with me her last 2 days. I feel like i let her down having her in the clinic with needles and meds and everything. I should have took her out before and take her home to spend more time with me before she left. I only wanted her to get better but I can´t stop thinking that she was sad or upset for having her there and it´s killing me.
We are so very sorry to hear about the loss of your dear girl. She sounds like a very brave soul - fighting kidney disease for so long. And it sounds like you did everything you could to turn things around. Unfortunately it is too easy to second guess those last days and play them over and over in your mind. It is so important to be kind to yourself right now to help with healing. You are a good person with a loving heart and your sweet girl would not want you to be sad. Consider the real ways you loved your dog and remember all the wonderful times you had together. It’s not denying the loss. It is just changing the way we think about her life and the love you shared. Please accept our most heartfelt condolences for the loss of your sweet girl. May you find comfort in all the precious happy memories you have of her.
Sometimes too holding on to guilt can become a form of punishment to ourselves for missing or not doing something for them while they were still with us.. It’s not healthy thinking, but can nevertheless take place - as when we think we deserve that punishment.
That is very true. Holding on to guilt can also turn into feeling sorry for ourselves in a way to avoid dealing with the pain of loss. It is important to be kind to yourself and continue working on a path to healing. Our little pups would want us to find peace - to live fully again and to find joy. When we do, it is a wonderful way to honor their memory and all the love they shared with us during our time together.