“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others. ” ― Jacob M. Braude Powerful!
A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be.“
Very good. Thank you for sharing! I was ghosted by a husband of 5 years, but I realize I was not placing enough value on myself by staying after red flags. I liked hearing the athlete recovery method. Thank you.
So true, from experience, people are humble and supportive if you fall flat on your face or they don’t even notice/care. People are so wrapped up in their own lives they’re not analysing your success or failures. I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve failed. My family are inspired by it. I’ll never stop trying. I’m not afraid anymore. I don’t care about losing or failing or falling, tripping, hitting the deck and losing everything. I lost everything 18 months ago. I got back up and I’m thriving.
Pretending your perfect makes it hard to connect - wow very interesting bc I always held back so I don’t burden people with my problems. Now I know that’s the wrong way :)
One fear I had is I knew that our intimate relationship was the best for 15 years. They say " if there isnt good communication" ... During the last 2 years we lost something somewhere and when communication was so important we failed. Its weird because I noticed he had great conversation with the waitress, with my mom and I wondered why there seemed to be so much disinterest in conversation with me. So many things changed in our lives the past year I know I am a different person, some good, some not so good. Thank you for helping me remember to cherish what was good and forgive what just isnt working any more because I only want to be with someone who truly wants to be here not someone that has to be convinced. ❤
Haha the two people I love to listen to. I really appreciate finding Marissa Peer. She really helped me start to believe that I have always been enough. I love listening Matthew Hussey because he helped teach me that I should base someone on their investment not on how much you like them.
Marisa really talks to me as a 56 year old woman. I didn’t know my worth or really understand boundaries ( or rather they were chipped away over the years). in my marriage. Thanks ❤️ xx
I'm an agony aunt too. Love these guys for different reasons. Main one, they are both passionate about spreading love and making sure you bring the best you to the table ;) ♡♡
Thank you both, Marisa and Mathew! That’s a great gift you’ve given your audience! I personally got so much wisdom and understanding of the things I didn’t realise were important for me.
I was wishing for this collaboration! You both taught me that I am enough and that I am worth having standards and sticking to them. You two genuinely elevated my life and I can't thank you enough!
Firstly, thank you both for a very interesting and insightful conversation. I want to point out three things that you, Ms Marisa, mentioned during the conversation: 1. You practice what you preach 2. About the rejection, which often loses its influence on us when we get older 3. The importance of having standards and boundaries. Secondly, I'd like to say that I had an opportunity for an offline conversation with Matthew quite some time ago. I noticed some behavioural issues with him in relation to the three points mentioned above. On the topic of boundaries and rejection. Matthew is prone to misinterpret the answer "no" as rejection. He doesn't deal the best way when he faces a boundary; e.g. in my experience, he suggested a thing that I disagreed with (it was my boundary), and he became offensive. My communication standard is to have a polite conversation with a person despite the possible difference in our opinions and views. But I don't tolerate disrespect. There is one of his thoughts I like "A woman who values herself has no problem confidently walking away from a situation in which she is undervalued." I implement this when required. In my opinion, Matthew gives excellent and very insightful speeches. He understands many things on the intellectual level or "how things should be". But when he faces a real-life situation himself, he doesn't perform that well with the knowledge he possesses. There is still a gap he needs to work on between the " intellectual understanding of an issue", "internalising it", and "applying it in practice", which is a part of the maturation process and gaining life wisdom. This brings me to the point, practising what he preaches. This would provide him with greater credibility and trustfulness. If he works on these issues, he won't be just a good communicator but also a better and happier person.
It's such a powerful concept that your problem is someone else's dream. I needed this reminder. It's so true and valid not only in the field of relationship, but also in any other area of your life. I sometimes even realise that not only my problem is someone else's dream, but it was once my own dream. I prayed for getting into uni and having the stressful exams I eventually felt so done with, and for the job that's now stressing me out, and for the big city, in which transport is "a nightmare". Such a powerful concept.
What you said about falling in love too fast is so true. When someone comes on too strong immediately I see it as a huge red flag. Learned the hard way when I was younger
Thank you ! You both are so genuine and down to earth! Years ago I would find it hard to listen to this , now I’m enjoying so much about what you’re saying. Both of you are sooooo good!!!
Matthew Hussey led me to change my life at age 58 and I became a Practitioner of Marisa Peer's RTT! I am so excited to see these two very important people in my life talking together! So great!!!! This is so powerful to see them together finally.
Love this!! Two of my favorites together 🙌💞🌟 it really does seem that nowadays with the dating app people are more likely to skip and swipe and give up without giving a chance. I agree with Mathew in that ghosting after just chatting or a few dates is probably easier and less confrontational and more closure than taking a chance of getting told off or guilted. Times sure have changed. Too many are people pleasing and staying in toxic relationships too if they don't feel worthy of being treated better, feeling if they are twin flames then it's meant to be and take the abuse. We all just need to learn to love ourselves and know we are worthy and deserving of true love
I wish. Men could see the good in a woman: me. Included; after divorce and having 4 sons I lost one on my birthday and the other one 19 years old in a tragic car accident : it is always like the movie saving private Ryan, having 4 great guys I miss my two2 but I’m grateful to god to still have 2: it’s so hard to recover, I don’t r drink or smoke and go to church with 2300 members, try to look; at the best person could bring out the best of you , god bless u
I noticed l have been look down on because l divorced my ex , for none support & cheating , he never had love nor respect for me , so l free myself from that toxic relationship after my kids grew up
What a pleasure to listen to you both. Ach! My evening was saved! A few key points/associations for me from your conversation: 1. You get hurt and you heal in relationships. 2. My problem is somebody's fantasy (considering partner's flaws) 3. Am I in love with someone's presence or their absence? 4. To look for someone for the long run {Like bying a Posche vs. a Jeep - what makes more sense, according to your plans, obviously} 😇🙏 THANK YOU for your presence Matt, Marisa💖💖
How many men are listening this how to find a right woman? The truth is that it's mainly women who work on quality of life, not based only on materialistic aspects.
AGREED 100%. All the dating advice geared towards men are how to become “alphas” and adopt narcissistic traits because “women find it attractive” and then go on to teach men how to get laid
In so far as ghosting, how I came across and understand the term, is in a marriage or communion relationship residing together even raising children together, and your partner literally treats you like you don’t exist in various behavioral ways. Although I came to terms with this dynamic in my own life, I think expanding on that aspect of “ghosting” for people experiencing it, could really be helpful for them, as it was for me through other coaches/therapists, since the 2 of you are brilliantly eloquent in the relationship deep dive. So grateful discovering the both of you recently, good work 💕
Ghosting stings not because of lack of explanation but about not knowing if it's a pause for whatever reason or they left and it creates inner anxiety of not knowing
I totally agree with Mathew regarding the importance of sharing our vulnerabilities. All of us have them. It is really difficult to believe in someone who says he/she don't have them.
You are such a phenomenal woman. I first saw you in a commercial and that was the best one that I actually watched until the end, not because the commercial people did such a marvellous job ( perhaps they did ) but just because you were in it. Wishing you a great happy life full of laughter and joy.
Wonderful conversation! I believe the best thing is to show some interest not necessary initiating.. but after you have done that… lean back and let him pursue you. Then validate and receive any effort of his initiation. In general Men add to their masculinity when they initiate and pursue and if women do that it does not add to our femininity. That’s why for us women it does not feel good to be the pursuers… the subject is way deeper than wanting him to do the job. For me polarity is important and beautiful! This if you are looking for a man with strong masculine energy :) and you want to be in your strong feminine energy!
Matt, this is so true. My last relationship all I did was babysit my ex like I was his mother & girlfriend. I refuse to be another caretaker to my next relationship. He has a mother already🙄. Never again.
Ms. Peers I love to see you on task… you’re incredible… Great interview and incredible auditing…I love seeing Matthew on the awareness… This is beautiful😍
Totally love this conversation! Matthew and Marisa thank you for this beautiful video! I like all of it being more compassionate, authentic and the athlete recovery, teammates theory -diamonds that Matthew is spreading to us. Information we need so much nowadays.
This conversation is a treasure, I really appreciate it. Thank you. I'll try to always keep in mind those points you both mentioned, I wish a better relationship with myself and with a partner. I identify myself in some of the situations, a lot and I think that to find the "bliss point" Mathew mentioned is one of the keys to win a good relationship. Thank you to you both 😇😇
The whole rejection conversation does not correlate to true Narcissists that definitely judge and take all the good they did and reverse and “ pack that up” for you. It’s important bc so many perpetrators out there.
Do you know how many guys I’ve had ask to cook for them on the first date or just come over to hang out at my place. What’s even crazier are guys asking to borrow money or move-in after the 3rd month of dating. I haven’t even asked my friends of 30 years to borrow money, what makes you think I’m going to take you seriously as a partner or mate? Dating is so crazy these days & it’s actually really sad.
I’m with 32 meet up groups & swim daily my fall back fuly Solvent for now I notice red flags, thanks, communicate,build together be honest, be organic,shared vision,values,beliefs,& independence, No Offence Thanks
Love listening to both of you ❤ and have done so for many years. I always wondered how come you haven't done a project together yet. After partially watching this, I get it. Marisa, you are coming across as you totally dislike him and disagree with him, however on many occasions it was pretty clear that you have not listened to too much of what he had to say - on this podcast but also his previous work! Watching this felt really uncomfortable! I am a bit disappointed as expected so much out of this interaction! Matthew was so polite and kind, especially in comparison to Marisa's arrogant and dominating attitude ... 😔
Bravo Bravo you two really nailed it. You really brought new insight to the table. My best friend is a widower and I respect that he doesn’t want to date. But some of the things that you two have covered made me realize that our friendship is more than a boy girl thing it’s very special. It doesn’t have to be put into category that everyone needs to feel is correct but needs to function as humans works them. Again I say thank you for sharing your insight and wisdom.
Never believe a woman that says she can’t attract the guys she wants. It usually means that she doesn’t want to regardless of what she says. Believe their actions not words. If a woman constantly finds herself dating “bad boys” but keeps talking about wanting to meet “good guys” she doesn’t want good guys.. the guys she attracts IS THE GUY SHE WANTS
Many good points covered though not really specific to attracting the right person and many people don't have the kind of life for everything to work so smoothly as we're working through our traumas and setbacks.
OMG so this is why men think I'm interested in them when I literally am *just* asking for help with something. That's always really annoyed me when they think I'm interested in them and I'm really REALLY not!!!
I luv this tutorial. You both have so much knowledge and your so right when you talk about your own relationships, this really highlighted some very important factors Thank you. I really luv kiindness aswell ♡
Hi, that is great to hear. Please see the following links for more information on RTT, including our course prospectus, that you may find useful! For more info on the RTT method see: rtt.com/whatisrtt/ Here's a link for you to download a copy of our RTT course prospectus: bit.ly/RTT-brochure-download and another to an article on becoming a hypnotherapist: bit.ly/Become-a-Therapist-AH We also have a masterclass for those interested in training in the RTT method, which can be found here: bit.ly/AH-RTT-BreakthroughTips. If you wanted to book a call with an Application Support Advisor you can do so via this link & pick a time suitable for your schedule: bit.ly/RTT-book-call Let me know if you have any other questions :) Marisa Peer Team
Enjoyed listening to the discussion. Learnt something from it. Thank you, appreciate it. Looking forward to more meaningful and insightful discussions.
Why some people assume that only men enjoy being admired and we have to "play to their ego"?! As a woman, I also enjoy that! (And I'm talking about that 'healthy ego'). Everyone likes to be appreciated and complimented etc. Just because women don't addmit that they like it and don't express what they want as men directly say, doean't mean they don't want the same!
Patty Roy God bless you and you’ll see your sons again I lost my sister last year I lost my dad when I was 22 I lost my mom and just God bless you you have two sons life focus on that and you’ll see your other two when you pass over and God bless you stay strong God bless you I love you Laurafahey in PA
I honestly believe that modern dating is harder for men, unless you are a top 1% man in terms of attractiveness, status and confidence. I am a guy who struggles to get a date whilst single, even though I am a decent looking tall guy in shape, women either treat me as if I am a ghost and dont exist, or reject me 99% of the time I try and talk to them and ask them out, I have had 1 long term relationship that lasted for 4 years, but it took me 2 years of building up my confidence to get to the stage a woman like that would give me the time of day as my confidence and self esteem with women was so broken, there are so many good guys out there who feel utterly invisible in the dating market and a lot of them are not even physically unattractive, they just lack status, and are not postioned high enough in the social hierachy, we have this horrible class and status system the UK which I despise to my core.
Yep you’re absolutely right Matthew it took me literally and I am and it took me eight years to get over someone for real I’m not gonna lie because that’s how deeply attached and love and plus we dated for a long time anyway you’re so right you know you gotta go through the that feeling and you know whatever it takes but you know the old saying goes Time heals all wounds and it really does just a matter of how long you gonna stay in
Hello to the both of you Marisa and Matthew. Thank you for this absolute vital video for my journey right now. I recently just cut ties with someone really great. But who was not willing to meet me half way when it comes to compromising on our own busy lives. Both of us are extremely busy, but having to make time to meet up for a few hours. Was too much to ask for. At a time when we made plans but it never fell through i felt a little neglected. So a few days later i communicated this when things were 'normal' shall i say. The response to this. "Was first of all, you are aware that we with have busy schedules, and on that day off..he said "you initiated to meet up. When i already had plans." But this is something he did not communicate for over 6 hours. Instead he said. "I would let you know when im home". So i ended up going to the place where we were meant to meet up. But i felt so stood up..as he did not pitch up. On the other hand he was giving me excuses about Why he could not come..as he ended up being asked to stay with the guys whom he was with the afternoon..as they ended up having a barbeque. So he could not just break away. Bottom line of the story. I was vulnerable, i was up front, i also put myself out there with the little time i had available. But having to get that response back broke something in me. To the extent that a voice in my head said "get out of this relationship before you ended up having to compromise so much of yourself for the sake of keeping him happy". Upon evaluating this situation. I felt that he does not see the value i bring to the relationship. But deep inside i feel terrible for ending things. Please tell me if i did the right thing by cutting ties ans cutting my losses ?
Thanks for reaching out. If you wish to seek therapeutic support/self development, I would advise booking an RTT session with one of our specialist therapists who can discuss your concerns further. You can book this using the link below: rapidtransformationaltherapy.com/findaspecialisttherapist/bookingform/ Marisa Peer Team
Girl if you were feeling neglected in the relationship, then their is a reason. Go with your instincts. "He says he has no time, but I see him doing all of these fun things. Well guess what? That is what he is choosing to do with his time." Matthew Hussey. Sweet girl if you have already had this communication with him and he still chose to do it...... Now, it's okay that he has friends and wants to spend time with them, but if he isn't making you a priority I don't think that is good enough. Now, if you both haven't communicated much and you want to give it a try then take a chance but I think you should focus on you and go create what you want.
Inez, im a guy. First of all ignore the girly advice below. Stop feeling sad. Understand some men are like animals. Can be very inconsiderate. What stands out to me from this is that he will be difficult to communicate with and you need a communicator, but manly at the same time, find the balance in the right man OR have the courage to "tweak", (not change because you can't in a few years, take decades) , so tweak their understanding, maybe you have to communicate too and see if your potential man has emotional intelligence. It is difficult to find masculinity and emotional intelligence. You need an experienced man in life for that, possible even someone with a strong childhood. You did the right thing letting him go. Get over it and be happy, stop seeking approval. You'll be alright, be content and grateful for all you have, be whole! You'll become a magnet.
@@milaalt1141 thank you for your advice. I appreciate it very much. I've decided to keep to my standards and value what i bring to this world. Although my heart hurts from this experience. Its been over a week and he has not reached out or said anything. So that speaks louder than words itself. I'll be focusing on me. Thanks girl🌸
“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others. ”
― Jacob M. Braude
Powerful!
A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be.“
Very good. Thank you for sharing! I was ghosted by a husband of 5 years, but I realize I was not placing enough value on myself by staying after red flags. I liked hearing the athlete recovery method. Thank you.
So true, from experience, people are humble and supportive if you fall flat on your face or they don’t even notice/care. People are so wrapped up in their own lives they’re not analysing your success or failures. I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve failed. My family are inspired by it. I’ll never stop trying. I’m not afraid anymore. I don’t care about losing or failing or falling, tripping, hitting the deck and losing everything. I lost everything 18 months ago. I got back up and I’m thriving.
BOSS!!
These 2 are the best, I follow both of them. So glad to see their collaboration
Pretending your perfect makes it hard to connect - wow very interesting bc I always held back so I don’t burden people with my problems. Now I know that’s the wrong way :)
There’s no amount of words that can describe how much these 2 people changed my life
One fear I had is I knew that our intimate relationship was the best for 15 years. They say " if there isnt good communication" ... During the last 2 years we lost something somewhere and when communication was so important we failed. Its weird because I noticed he had great conversation with the waitress, with my mom and I wondered why there seemed to be so much disinterest in conversation with me. So many things changed in our lives the past year I know I am a different person, some good, some not so good. Thank you for helping me remember to cherish what was good and forgive what just isnt working any more because I only want to be with someone who truly wants to be here not someone that has to be convinced. ❤
Your voice is so soothing I could hear it all day
Me too!
Haha the two people I love to listen to. I really appreciate finding Marissa Peer. She really helped me start to believe that I have always been enough. I love listening Matthew Hussey because he helped teach me that I should base someone on their investment not on how much you like them.
Marisa really talks to me as a 56 year old woman. I didn’t know my worth or really understand boundaries ( or rather they were chipped away over the years). in my marriage.
Thanks ❤️ xx
That’s sad future good health & Undisturbed sleep blessed be future good luck
I'm an agony aunt too. Love these guys for different reasons. Main one, they are both passionate about spreading love and making sure you bring the best you to the table ;) ♡♡
Thank you both, Marisa and Mathew! That’s a great gift you’ve given your audience! I personally got so much wisdom and understanding of the things I didn’t realise were important for me.
You’re welcome Irina, we're glad you found value in this ❤️
Marisa Peer Team
Good video. If you're not improving your life and developing yourself, you're likely going in the opposite direction.
I was wishing for this collaboration! You both taught me that I am enough and that I am worth having standards and sticking to them. You two genuinely elevated my life and I can't thank you enough!
Thank you for your lovely comment ❤️ So glad to hear you enjoyed. 💖 Marisa Peer Team
Firstly, thank you both for a very interesting and insightful conversation.
I want to point out three things that you, Ms Marisa, mentioned during the conversation:
1. You practice what you preach
2. About the rejection, which often loses its influence on us when we get older
3. The importance of having standards and boundaries.
Secondly, I'd like to say that I had an opportunity for an offline conversation with Matthew quite some time ago. I noticed some behavioural issues with him in relation to the three points mentioned above.
On the topic of boundaries and rejection. Matthew is prone to misinterpret the answer "no" as rejection. He doesn't deal the best way when he faces a boundary; e.g. in my experience, he suggested a thing that I disagreed with (it was my boundary), and he became offensive. My communication standard is to have a polite conversation with a person despite the possible difference in our opinions and views. But I don't tolerate disrespect.
There is one of his thoughts I like "A woman who values herself has no problem confidently walking away from a situation in which she is undervalued." I implement this when required.
In my opinion, Matthew gives excellent and very insightful speeches. He understands many things on the intellectual level or "how things should be". But when he faces a real-life situation himself, he doesn't perform that well with the knowledge he possesses.
There is still a gap he needs to work on between the " intellectual understanding of an issue", "internalising it", and "applying it in practice", which is a part of the maturation process and gaining life wisdom.
This brings me to the point, practising what he preaches. This would provide him with greater credibility and trustfulness. If he works on these issues, he won't be just a good communicator but also a better and happier person.
It's such a powerful concept that your problem is someone else's dream. I needed this reminder. It's so true and valid not only in the field of relationship, but also in any other area of your life. I sometimes even realise that not only my problem is someone else's dream, but it was once my own dream. I prayed for getting into uni and having the stressful exams I eventually felt so done with, and for the job that's now stressing me out, and for the big city, in which transport is "a nightmare".
Such a powerful concept.
💖 Marisa Peer Team
What you said about falling in love too fast is so true. When someone comes on too strong immediately I see it as a huge red flag. Learned the hard way when I was younger
I love Marissa’s questions with Matthew. Fantastic
Thank you for your lovely comment ❤️
Love and light … YOU are the best ❤️
Thank you for your lovely comment ❤️
Thank you ! You both are so genuine and down to earth! Years ago I would find it hard to listen to this , now I’m enjoying so much about what you’re saying. Both of you are sooooo good!!!
You are very welcome, I'm so pleased that you enjoyed our discussion 💜
Matthew Hussey led me to change my life at age 58 and I became a Practitioner of Marisa Peer's RTT! I am so excited to see these two very important people in my life talking together! So great!!!! This is so powerful to see them together finally.
Thank you for your lovely comment ❤️
Love this!! Two of my favorites together 🙌💞🌟 it really does seem that nowadays with the dating app people are more likely to skip and swipe and give up without giving a chance. I agree with Mathew in that ghosting after just chatting or a few dates is probably easier and less confrontational and more closure than taking a chance of getting told off or guilted. Times sure have changed. Too many are people pleasing and staying in toxic relationships too if they don't feel worthy of being treated better, feeling if they are twin flames then it's meant to be and take the abuse. We all just need to learn to love ourselves and know we are worthy and deserving of true love
I wish. Men could see the good in a woman: me. Included; after divorce and having 4 sons I lost one on my birthday and the other one 19 years old in a tragic car accident : it is always like the movie saving private Ryan, having 4 great guys I miss my two2 but I’m grateful to god to still have 2: it’s so hard to recover, I don’t r drink or smoke and go to church with 2300 members, try to look; at the best person could bring out the best of you , god bless u
Brave lady🧚♀️
I noticed l have been look down on because l divorced my ex , for none support & cheating , he never had love nor respect for me , so l free myself from that toxic relationship after my kids grew up
:) Have faith in God. This world is a mess! There is definitely a new world to come :)... where we can see our loved ones who have passed.
Gg be
What a pleasure to listen to you both. Ach!
My evening was saved!
A few key points/associations for me from your conversation:
1. You get hurt and you heal in relationships.
2. My problem is somebody's fantasy (considering partner's flaws)
3. Am I in love with someone's presence or their absence?
4. To look for someone for the long run
{Like bying a Posche vs. a Jeep - what makes more sense, according to your plans, obviously}
😇🙏 THANK YOU for your presence Matt, Marisa💖💖
How many men are listening this how to find a right woman? The truth is that it's mainly women who work on quality of life, not based only on materialistic aspects.
AGREED 100%. All the dating advice geared towards men are how to become “alphas” and adopt narcissistic traits because “women find it attractive” and then go on to teach men how to get laid
@@spajas8092 the question is how many men read it
@@TheMonalisa1976 they have a surprising number of followers. TH-cam watchers is 80% men
recently I discovered how much important for me is to have a good conversations with my partner
So brilliant to see the two of you together here! Both my absolute favourites!🥰
It's amazing to listen to both of you, very wise people, doing a great job in their calling, you were meant to share your knowledge. Thanks!
Hi Marisa! I’m delighted to see you an Mathew together on this topic! Thank you for your Valuable insight and sending love 💕 to you and Jon.
In so far as ghosting, how I came across and understand the term, is in a marriage or communion relationship residing together even raising children together, and your partner literally treats you like you don’t exist in various behavioral ways. Although I came to terms with this dynamic in my own life, I think expanding on that aspect of “ghosting” for people experiencing it, could really be helpful for them, as it was for me through other coaches/therapists, since the 2 of you are brilliantly eloquent in the relationship deep dive. So grateful discovering the both of you recently, good work 💕
Thank you for your lovely comment ❤️
What a fascinating chat. Thank you for having him on. ❤
Ghosting stings not because of lack of explanation but about not knowing if it's a pause for whatever reason or they left and it creates inner anxiety of not knowing
Yeah not knowing sux...but as Matt says closure can be over rated and that sometimes it's enough evidence that they left🧚♀️
I totally agree with Mathew regarding the importance of sharing our vulnerabilities. All of us have them. It is really difficult to believe in someone who says he/she don't have them.
You both are amazing coaches and I have learned a lot from both of you. Thanks a lot!
Two of my favorite experts together providing valuable content! Thank you!
You’re welcome ❤️
Love Matthew Hussey... he makes more sense than many so called 'Experts' who advises on relationship topic!
This is the best collab I couldve asked for! You are my two top youtubers
Amazing video, thank you xx
Cool hair🧚♀️
@@RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light Cool username 🙂
That's a cool name too Kovartina.... I use to be Hardcore Fairy, buuut people got the wrong idea!!! My name is Rae, and I love fairies 🧚♀️ ❤️ 💕
@@RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light That's a beautiful name! My name begins with the same 2 letters, too! 😁
@@RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light 💕💕💖
You are such a phenomenal woman. I first saw you in a commercial and that was the best one that I actually watched until the end, not because the commercial people did such a marvellous job ( perhaps they did ) but just because you were in it. Wishing you a great happy life full of laughter and joy.
That’s really kind of you to say ❤️ And thank you for your wonderful feedback. It is good to know. 💖 Marisa Peer Team
Wonderful conversation!
I believe the best thing is to show some interest not necessary initiating.. but after you have done that… lean back and let him pursue you. Then validate and receive any effort of his initiation.
In general Men add to their masculinity when they initiate and pursue and if women do that it does not add to our femininity. That’s why for us women it does not feel good to be the pursuers… the subject is way deeper than wanting him to do the job. For me polarity is important and beautiful!
This if you are looking for a man with strong masculine energy :) and you want to be in your strong feminine energy!
I can't agree more
Can't wait to check this out. Matthew is always such a treat to listen to. 🙌🏻
Enjoy! 💖 Marisa Peer Team
Two accents I absolutely adore....wow
Matt, this is so true. My last relationship all I did was babysit my ex like I was his mother & girlfriend. I refuse to be another caretaker to my next relationship. He has a mother already🙄. Never again.
Ms. Peers I love to see you on task… you’re incredible… Great interview and incredible auditing…I love seeing Matthew on the awareness… This is beautiful😍
That’s really kind of you to say ❤️
Totally love this conversation! Matthew and Marisa thank you for this beautiful video! I like all of it being more compassionate, authentic and the athlete recovery, teammates theory -diamonds that Matthew is spreading to us. Information we need so much nowadays.
Blessings to Mathew and Marisa both.
Love this woman..she is so funny genuine down to earth.. feel so at home listening to her..
Thank you for your lovely comment ❤️
Such a wonderfull conversation you both have!
I think,it would be much easier for us all if we could be more open and honest with each other.
This conversation is a treasure, I really appreciate it. Thank you. I'll try to always keep in mind those points you both mentioned, I wish a better relationship with myself and with a partner. I identify myself in some of the situations, a lot and I think that to find the "bliss point" Mathew mentioned is one of the keys to win a good relationship. Thank you to you both 😇😇
Glad to hear you found value in this :)
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Perfect notes, perfect talks. You guys are fantastic. Thanks a million 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I love hearing both of your perspectives! Let's keep talking about this! Relationships and communication are so important.
OMG I love the story for the little kitten! Amazing man! That is so kind! It is so important indeed to have kindness in our lives. 💖
It really is. 💖 Marisa Peer Team
The whole rejection conversation does not correlate to true Narcissists that definitely judge and take all the good they did and reverse and “ pack that up” for you. It’s important bc so many perpetrators out there.
This guy knows his stuff! Really good insights and a very interesting conversation. I enjoyed this video. Thank you!👍
Do you know how many guys I’ve had ask to cook for them on the first date or just come over to hang out at my place. What’s even crazier are guys asking to borrow money or move-in after the 3rd month of dating. I haven’t even asked my friends of 30 years to borrow money, what makes you think I’m going to take you seriously as a partner or mate? Dating is so crazy these days & it’s actually really sad.
I’m with 32 meet up groups & swim daily my fall back fuly Solvent for now I notice red flags, thanks, communicate,build together be honest, be organic,shared vision,values,beliefs,& independence, No Offence Thanks
Thank you for this, it was fantastic listening to two great minds coming together over such a complex subject.
Glad you found it interesting Clare :)
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Thanks for this amazing conversation. You both are my two favourite experts in relationships and personal growth. This has been a dream coming true 💞
You are most welcome 💖
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Love listening to both of you ❤ and have done so for many years.
I always wondered how come you haven't done a project together yet.
After partially watching this, I get it.
Marisa, you are coming across as you totally dislike him and disagree with him, however on many occasions it was pretty clear that you have not listened to too much of what he had to say - on this podcast but also his previous work!
Watching this felt really uncomfortable!
I am a bit disappointed as expected so much out of this interaction!
Matthew was so polite and kind, especially in comparison to Marisa's arrogant and dominating attitude ...
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@@LouiseJosephine I recommend you to listen to Matthew and Esther Perel. Well, that is a huge difference!
Bravo Bravo you two really nailed it. You really brought new insight to the table. My best friend is a widower and I respect that he doesn’t want to date. But some of the things that you two have covered made me realize that our friendship is more than a boy girl thing it’s very special. It doesn’t have to be put into category that everyone needs to feel is correct but needs to function as humans works them. Again I say thank you for sharing your insight and wisdom.
Thank you for sharing PJ ❤️
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Never believe a woman that says she can’t attract the guys she wants. It usually means that she doesn’t want to regardless of what she says. Believe their actions not words. If a woman constantly finds herself dating “bad boys” but keeps talking about wanting to meet “good guys” she doesn’t want good guys.. the guys she attracts IS THE GUY SHE WANTS
Many good points covered though not really specific to attracting the right person and many people don't have the kind of life for everything to work so smoothly as we're working through our traumas and setbacks.
Beautiful message. Give up the idea that I can change anyone. Let go.
It isn't down to you to change anyone. Only yourself as you want to be. 💖 Marisa Peer Team
Absolutely fabulous, insightful thought provoking discussion, perfect timing for me, thank you so much
Thank you for your lovely comment ❤️
OMG so this is why men think I'm interested in them when I literally am *just* asking for help with something. That's always really annoyed me when they think I'm interested in them and I'm really REALLY not!!!
It is so beautiful that you are both sharing and thank you for this!
That’s really kind of you to say ❤️
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My biggest takeaway from this is that people treat you the way you allow them to treat you.
So many fantastic points here. Thank you!
I luv this tutorial. You both have so much knowledge and your so right when you talk about your own relationships, this really highlighted some very important factors Thank you. I really luv kiindness aswell ♡
This was very wonderful advice !! Thank you both 😊🙏💕
Love this conversation. It is all about compromise for us all to get along.
Thank you for this beautiful conversation.
MP and MH 😁 what a great combination. I can see myself taking RTT soon. My dream would be meeting MP in person . ❤️❤️
Hi, that is great to hear. Please see the following links for more information on RTT, including our course prospectus, that you may find useful!
For more info on the RTT method see: rtt.com/whatisrtt/
Here's a link for you to download a copy of our RTT course prospectus: bit.ly/RTT-brochure-download and another to an article on becoming a hypnotherapist: bit.ly/Become-a-Therapist-AH
We also have a masterclass for those interested in training in the RTT method, which can be found here: bit.ly/AH-RTT-BreakthroughTips.
If you wanted to book a call with an Application Support Advisor you can do so via this link & pick a time suitable for your schedule: bit.ly/RTT-book-call
Let me know if you have any other questions :)
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Beautiful interview - thank you, Marisa and Matthew! I watched it until the very end.
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Enjoyed listening to the discussion. Learnt something from it. Thank you, appreciate it. Looking forward to more meaningful and insightful discussions.
Hi Jenny, glad you enjoyed :)
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Why some people assume that only men enjoy being admired and we have to "play to their ego"?! As a woman, I also enjoy that! (And I'm talking about that 'healthy ego'). Everyone likes to be appreciated and complimented etc. Just because women don't addmit that they like it and don't express what they want as men directly say, doean't mean they don't want the same!
I loved this talk ! thank you to both of you
Always so amazing listening to you together
Yay! I love these two teachers so glad they decided to collaborate! 💜💋💜
That’s really kind of you to say ❤️
Patty Roy God bless you and you’ll see your sons again I lost my sister last year I lost my dad when I was 22 I lost my mom and just God bless you you have two sons life focus on that and you’ll see your other two when you pass over and God bless you stay strong God bless you I love you Laurafahey in PA
I love you both so much! So many “ah ha” moments, thank you for the insights.
I know I’m late but this collab is very welcomed, surprising, but welcomed x
I honestly believe that modern dating is harder for men, unless you are a top 1% man in terms of attractiveness, status and confidence. I am a guy who struggles to get a date whilst single, even though I am a decent looking tall guy in shape, women either treat me as if I am a ghost and dont exist, or reject me 99% of the time I try and talk to them and ask them out, I have had 1 long term relationship that lasted for 4 years, but it took me 2 years of building up my confidence to get to the stage a woman like that would give me the time of day as my confidence and self esteem with women was so broken, there are so many good guys out there who feel utterly invisible in the dating market and a lot of them are not even physically unattractive, they just lack status, and are not postioned high enough in the social hierachy, we have this horrible class and status system the UK which I despise to my core.
Marisa with Matthew ... well, I hope he learn from YOU as much as he can ;-). LOVE YOU MARISA
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I enjoyed this video soooo much. You are both amazing at what you do. Thank you!
Thank you for saying so. 💖 Marisa Peer Team
All the two are my big blessings , Marissa you made me such a strong lady and am blessed to have heard from you lols.
That’s really kind of you to say ❤️
U 2 r great together. U cover all the bases. Ty. My day is so wonderful now
Yep you’re absolutely right Matthew it took me literally and I am and it took me eight years to get over someone for real I’m not gonna lie because that’s how deeply attached and love and plus we dated for a long time anyway you’re so right you know you gotta go through the that feeling and you know whatever it takes but you know the old saying goes Time heals all wounds and it really does just a matter of how long you gonna stay in
Hi Marisa, Very incredible information. Thanks for sharing. Much love. ❤🤗💞
Glad you found it useful :)
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So interesting and helpful. Thank you 🦋🥰
You’re welcome ❤️
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Kindness is key.
Absolutely. Be Kind Always 💖
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Wow! I ABSOLUTELY LOVED THIS!! THANK YOU!!
Oh my word. You too are the absolute best. What a sacred interview of minds 🙌🏻🙏🏻💛🧡💚🕉☯️
Thank you for saying so. 💖 Marisa Peer Team
You're both wonderful here, so helpful. Thank you.
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Hello to the both of you Marisa and Matthew. Thank you for this absolute vital video for my journey right now. I recently just cut ties with someone really great. But who was not willing to meet me half way when it comes to compromising on our own busy lives. Both of us are extremely busy, but having to make time to meet up for a few hours. Was too much to ask for. At a time when we made plans but it never fell through i felt a little neglected. So a few days later i communicated this when things were 'normal' shall i say. The response to this. "Was first of all, you are aware that we with have busy schedules, and on that day off..he said "you initiated to meet up. When i already had plans." But this is something he did not communicate for over 6 hours. Instead he said. "I would let you know when im home". So i ended up going to the place where we were meant to meet up. But i felt so stood up..as he did not pitch up. On the other hand he was giving me excuses about Why he could not come..as he ended up being asked to stay with the guys whom he was with the afternoon..as they ended up having a barbeque. So he could not just break away.
Bottom line of the story. I was vulnerable, i was up front, i also put myself out there with the little time i had available. But having to get that response back broke something in me. To the extent that a voice in my head said "get out of this relationship before you ended up having to compromise so much of yourself for the sake of keeping him happy". Upon evaluating this situation. I felt that he does not see the value i bring to the relationship. But deep inside i feel terrible for ending things. Please tell me if i did the right thing by cutting ties ans cutting my losses ?
Thanks for reaching out. If you wish to seek therapeutic support/self development, I would advise booking an RTT session with one of our specialist therapists who can discuss your concerns further. You can book this using the link below:
rapidtransformationaltherapy.com/findaspecialisttherapist/bookingform/
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Girl if you were feeling neglected in the relationship, then their is a reason. Go with your instincts. "He says he has no time, but I see him doing all of these fun things. Well guess what? That is what he is choosing to do with his time." Matthew Hussey. Sweet girl if you have already had this communication with him and he still chose to do it......
Now, it's okay that he has friends and wants to spend time with them, but if he isn't making you a priority I don't think that is good enough. Now, if you both haven't communicated much and you want to give it a try then take a chance but I think you should focus on you and go create what you want.
Inez, im a guy. First of all ignore the girly advice below. Stop feeling sad. Understand some men are like animals. Can be very inconsiderate. What stands out to me from this is that he will be difficult to communicate with and you need a communicator, but manly at the same time, find the balance in the right man OR have the courage to "tweak", (not change because you can't in a few years, take decades) , so tweak their understanding, maybe you have to communicate too and see if your potential man has emotional intelligence. It is difficult to find masculinity and emotional intelligence. You need an experienced man in life for that, possible even someone with a strong childhood.
You did the right thing letting him go.
Get over it and be happy, stop seeking approval. You'll be alright, be content and grateful for all you have, be whole! You'll become a magnet.
@@MarisaPeer thank you for your recommendation. I will look into that. 💕
@@milaalt1141 thank you for your advice. I appreciate it very much. I've decided to keep to my standards and value what i bring to this world. Although my heart hurts from this experience. Its been over a week and he has not reached out or said anything. So that speaks louder than words itself. I'll be focusing on me. Thanks girl🌸
You should have asked him about Camila Cabello 😂
Great conversation. Thank you.
Lots of great points, but what’s the “attraction formula”?
Taking care and loving yourself
True, folks are way to passive. I was never attracted to that
Amazing my 2 favourite people to listen to, wow this was so interesting x
Todd Pillen of Horace ND ghosted me after a year! Careful ladies !!