I wouldn't be surprised if they could figure out deleted stuff just by looking at the internet traffic logged on their networking hardware or using a similar method.
THIS HAHAHA, being stuck in an attick in 35c+ temperature so u have to choose between breathing insulation thats old has hell in or having one of those stupid masks on where you are just breathing in your own sweat. i remember i would finish the day and when i got home and would blow my nose it would just be straight black. probably was not healthy for me... did not enjoy that at 18 but hell was the pay good
yeah, this does not line up with anything I know about Electricians from seeing them work lol. I've had to go up into lofts in my old IT job to fish cables back through after renovations and etc. Was up in one on the hottest day on record for only about 10-15mins and the sweat was falling off me like a 10 mile run. Networking is much more comfortable.
I dunno how common it is in Hockeyland, but down here in Jesusland a lot of parents do in fact consider their kids property and not people, especially if they are certain types of Christians.
I've known he's a good father since the video of his kid being in a box carried around by his employees. The way he talks to and about his kids isn't normal, it's fantastic. So many adults treat kids worse than animals
He's right though. It's "hilarious" how people smother their kids, and once they turn 18, they expect them to suddenly excel. You got a bad grade? The teacher is just mean? That sucks, doesn't change the grade.
its facts, it empowers people greatly when you're upfront with them about how good they are now and how good they need to be to get to what their goal is youre giving them agency, most people have no way to assess themselves or how much work they need to put in to get to where they need to go
@@xmine08I told my daughters there is no such thing as Participation Trophies you either win or lose and if you lose get up brush the Dust off and try again
On the subject of neurodivergence, the “it’s a superpower” thing totally misses the point IMO. I can hyperfocus on code for a while, and while in that headspace, I’m unstoppable. The people around me don’t see the part where I go home, have no energy because I haven’t eaten all day, can’t focus enough to get anything done, and end up with piles of laundry and mess. It’s two sides of the same coin; one doesn’t exist without the other.
All superpowers have drawbacks, and unless you can manage those, you'll end up being debilitated. What helps me is having hard and fast rules: I must eat a basic breakfast (because I'll forget and starve), I must eat something when I get off work (because I'll forget and starve), the laundry basket cannot go past the top (because I know it means that it'll end up with clothes all over the floor), when the laundry is done it must be folded and put away (because it'll become a mound on a chair if it's not done _right_ _now_), the dishwasher cannot sit there clean (because dirty dishes will pile in the sink), the pans must be cleaned after cooking (because I won't have pans in 3 days), all tools must be put away when I'm done with them (otherwise, they get lost and I end up pissed when I need them next time), etc. Following these rules always pisses me off and exhausts me in the moment, but it keeps life running and the depression at bay.
It also ignores the cumilitive negative effects on your health from "using your superpower". I didn't realize how much harm I was doing until I suddenly couldn't keep up anymore. I was top of the club until I suddenly wasn't okay at all anymore. And now it's been years and I'm still not recovered.
As comedian Fluffy once put it, "You can watch their stuff but not their friends stuff," meaning that even if try to stop your kids from watching it, their friends will show it to them, now am I saying let them watch whatever? No, but what you can be is a buffer or someone they can talk to about what they saw if they have any concerns about it, cause I always felt parents being helicopters or over bearing tend to make kids very good liars which is a skill is good to have in certain situations isn't something you would want your kids to develop out spit or for others reasons at all.
Yeah, my parents raised me to be a great fucking liar due to being very controlling. So now I really struggle to form any meaningful bond with another person
I think I remember Linus saying in another clip that he knows he can't stop them from watching it and so, when the time is right, he is going to talk to them about it
100% They’re little humans, don’t know what’s appropriate. Neighbors kid 7 year old pulling out his iPod to show a 5 year old videos of people getting their heads chopped off. Quickly led to neighborhood agreement of no devices outside. Parent however you want to with technology. But there’s no way to prevent that stuff from happening
They often learn how to share information in a way that helps them avoid trouble. This can include bending the truth or keeping things to themselves. It’s all part of figuring out how to handle different social situations as they grow up.
As a "new" dad oldest is 4 and just wanting to get into learning Minecraft would love a video on how to put on good parental locks and stuff real features that work and help
Pihole as your primary DNS is simple and easy. W/ the phone app you can easily turn services, like TH-cam/Facebook/Minecraft, on and off. You can go much deeper w/ a managed router/switch. If you don’t want to setup Pihole set your routers primary DNS yo one of the parental control DNS services, Cloudflare has one. Rule number one is don’t give them a phone. Force them to use the WiFi in your house. You cannot control what they have access to once you give them a phone.
I put my kids on my Microsoft account as children and you can control a lot of things they look at and do online. MS family accounts will have only got better since I did this for my 5/6 yr old ten years ago. They had email alerts and history, screen time settings and other things, you can use this with Xbox and PC gaming too if your kids are logged in on a Windows PC/laptop/Xbox. I also used wifi plugs set on schedules that would turn off machines at a certain time, easy to do with the Tapo plugs(TP-Link back then.)
As for the Minecraft part, look into some small child-friendly custom maps and resource packs. That way you have some help with the educational part without risking them running into Creepers and never wanting to play again 😂
17:00 I remember some teachers in school dissing garbagemen or city workers...and in my head I was like, "you are so misinformed, and you're a teacher!"
One of the major flaws of the education system is that the vast majority of the educators and administrators have absolutely zero experience outside of said system.
The fact that Driver's Licence test is made in your own (or a rented) car in Canada and the US is wild to me. Here in Brazil, both classes and the test are performed on cars provided by the driving school and by the driving department, respectively. You are not required to have a car or to have access to one other than the one belonging to the driving school to learn to drive
Flip side is you should take the test in the car you will be driving. I’ve never heard of anyone renting a car to take the test. But I live in a rural area. A lot of people in urban areas never get a license because they don’t need one. So the government having a car for you to take a test would be pointless.
The only kind of rental that you can make in Canada for a licence test is a car from the driving school, while most car rental places are 21+ for regular cars, and I don't think the contracts would allow to use the car for a test.
there are driving schools that you can go to/send kids to in the US that give driving lessons in learner cars with a extra steering wheels in the instructors side that let you take the test in those as well
The only thing that gives me hesitation is the socialization aspect. Theres probably some kids out there who wont wanna be friends with someone with super strict parents. (Obviously you dont want to make friends with shallow people) But theres alot of pressure, especially peer pressure, that can lead to weird scenarios. Im not saying linus is a helicopter parent, im just saying i remember all the kids who had helicopter parents. Its memorable.
Frankly, given what we've seen of Linus's children, they would be the ones that have a lot of friends not just because of all the tech in their house but because they know some s*** and are just the kind of people you want to have in your life because they will be there for you when you didn't even know you needed them and they will pull the wildest crap out of thin air
One thing I will weigh in on, with this whole "do whatever you have to to win, hustle" etc discussion is don't lose perspective on work-life balance. You can't take any of your money or things with you when you die. Don't kill yourself to make bank. Have a good work ethic but also take time to enjoy life. It was given to us, in part, to enjoy. Also enjoy responsibly. Don't go crazy far the other way either.
This reminds me of a comedian, I can’t remember the name, but he was talking with Bert Kreischer and the dude had to start fighting back tears because he came to the realization that he was missing his children’s lives and living a life with his wife because of how much he was working. Sure he was providing and making a beautiful life for his family, but he wasn’t a part of theirs. Only funding it. I hope he stopped working as much so he could finally spend time with his family. Because that’s time he’s never going to get back
"You can be anything..." was the biggest lie we were told as kids. Setting so many kids up for failure and an inability to cope or understand when they do experience failure, while not making them understand that failure isn't necessarily a bad thing. Also, even in 2024... I would teach my kids to drive a manual transmission car.
I often tell my daughter that she should try and if she will succeed at the first attempt, then it is a missed opportunity to learn something. She is really hard for herself as she would not even try to attempt as she is convinced she will fail, which leads to the catch-22 situation where she doesnt want to practice as she can't yet do it perfectly. "You can achieve anything eventually, but only after you experienced the many ways how you can fail" You can only learn by experiencing failures, not just hearing or reading about them. @TheGameBench I never understood why people would never learn how to drive a manual transmission car, maybe apart from those who never learn to drive at all. Here in Europe you hardly see anything else.
I have never been told this, and it has a pretty dramatic effect until I build myself some confidence in being able to do more than what was expected by the dumbed down genitors i've had...
I only really learned how to drive stick for work. Beyond that, the numbers (for stick shift cars) are rapidly dwindling. (Even when I *do* drive stick, it's a race to see how soon I can hit top gear as that can be better for overall fuel economy, and stay there as long as possible.)
Meh, everyone I know had unsupervised access to the Internet from a young age, and we all turned out functional adults. Not normal - just functional. Although I do catch myself sometimes almost sending people inappropriate stuff, like graphic war footage, without asking whether they are okay with seeing it first - just because literally every single person that I talk to often is both okay with it and is usually interested in seeing it.
The best that we've been able to do is to put guidelines in place, especially about interacting with other people, via the internet. That's usually a bigger problem. Tiny humans haven't created situations where I have to be running wireshark 24/7 to monitor network traffic, at least not yet, but there are tools that are available for mostly secops that you can use for any future kids that you may (or may not) have.
5:50 I think the hard part is to let highly talented kids to learn to work hard. When your kids have to do very little effort to get grade A for everything, there's a risk that they never have to work hard for anything in school.
Right now I am at school learning to become a teacher and one thing that has been told multiple time is that teachers should let students that are performing higher than the rest of the class make more challenging assignments. In the Netherlands for example, if you have a class of kids where the requirement is that they need to be able to do A2 level English at the end of the year but have students that are beyond that. You let them make b1 assignments that are still relevant with a2's themes. Some course books here even offer that, having a section that is just a level higher. There is a sweet spot of too easy and too hard, and a teacher should be able to spot where the students sweet spot is. Because ONLY in that sweet spot, will they learn. Anyway, got carried away. Main thing is: let it be challenging, but not too hard. Otherwise nothing will be learned and the student will give no attention to said subject.
@@zeeko6836 I myself was one of those students (and now also on my way to becoming a teacher lol). I had subjects where i was just bored af (german class, i'm swiss so it's like english is for the canadians), and I had subjects where I was challenged by the teachers (maths, computer science, english for example). Guess which subjects I'll be (hopefully) a teacher for😅, It's not german, I can tell you that much...
I agree, but disagree with the whole him checking their video watch history and etc. Even though it might be tempting to check, I think it's important to give the kid privacy. My mom used to be like that until i was 14, and it was not fun... I had to watch over my shoulders all the time, having to rethink every decision i made and it has still stuck to me to this day, it's not enjoyable... I was scarerd to watch the videos I wanted to watch, i was scared to search up the thing that i wanted and scared to make decisions in general, it made me insecure and confused. Most of the things I wanted to watch or search up wasn't even that bad, but it still left me traumatized and scared. It's a good thing having to think twice before you act, but there is a point where it has gone too far. I shouldn't need to think twice about having to watch a god damn youtube video when I'm aware of the things that are in those videos or doing as something as simple as doing my shoe lases and etc... I must say it's important to at least have some knowlage of what your kid is doing online, but you don't need to go deeper into it.
@@kimjong-un4253when you set up a TH-cam kids account you as the adult CAN see the history that's just how it works. He never mentioned if he actually looks at the history all that often afaik but rather just screen time.
@kimjong-un4253 I'm genuinely curious about what age group this person is in with a comment like that and if their view would change given another 10 years or so. Children shouldn't have free, unsupervised reign on the internet until 16 years of age at the very least.
@@kimjong-un4253 CHILDREN don't get to have privacy from their parents! Period. So long as the parents are legally responsible for the kids' actions then EVERYTHING they do can and should be absolutely under parental supervision and guidance. Anything else and you are a bad parent who should not have had kids.
This is among the most unnerving parts of Linus' parenting to me. I don't want people, no matter who they are, to be under constant surveillance and no matter what it is. If it's impacting your life, people around will notice and they don't need to see it happening, the effects are enough and you can absolutely notice before bad stuff happens. Surveillance causes trust issues
My neighbour is a postal worker - that's also completion-based. He walks his kids to school, goes to work, -hustles- and is reliably home in time to pick his kids back up from school. It's a good gig.
As a father of 2 young kids, I’m so very grateful for Linus being a handful of years ahead of our family. Especially since I’ve tried very hard to be an intentional parent. Thanks a ton for these sorts of videos, they really go a long way towards affecting positive change in the lives of others!
I dont have a drivers License, because i live in the center of a City (Leipzig, Germany) and a License would cost me 3500-4000€ (5200-6000CAD), what is absolutely insane. Public Transport costs 49€ per month and i can allmost drive everything with it.
Yeah that's insane, here in the states it cost me around 120 dollars. Even easier if you are over the age of 18. You can just show up at the dmv take the test and be good. No permit wait or anything.
I mainly use the public transport system but I also have a license. Snice my parents payed for it it never crosed my mind that I can use all of the Regional public transport in Germany for about 5 years for the cost of a driving license. Some people don't understand that I don't drive more often because it is faster to get from A to B. But what is the point of that if I can spare ten or twenty minutes by driving when I can use all the time in public transport learning, working or just watching something
I remember when my parents blocked my device from the router I figured out that I can bypass that by changing my device’s MAC address and surprisingly it worked. So the lesson learned here is if your children reach this level of bypassing parental control methods then they should be allowed to do whatever they want. haha
I feel there's a difference between "winning" and "succeeding". Winning implies competition, and despite what some people think - life isn't a competition. Everything isn't a competition. You know how you can tell? Because there's not just one winner. Most actual competitions don't fundamentally matter. "Winning" in itself is worthless unless it allows you to do something you otherwise wouldn't, "being a winner" isn't a reasonable goal in itself. Personally, I hate competitions. I want to do well, and get better at stuff, but absolutely not because I want to "beat" someone else. Getting an A in a class is not about beating your classmates, at least not in any sane grading system. If you're grading on a curve, your grading system is idiotic. Getting an A is, or should be, showing the level of competence and knowledge that's required for an A. If every student in a class is at that level, they all get an A. At least in my classroom (I'm a high school programming teacher). So grades is about "succeeding", it's not about "winning". Spending your life always chasing that high of being "the best" sounds exhausting at best and extremely detrimental to your mental health at worst. Strive to do good, but, like, don't be an obsessive about it. Choose your battles, decide on reasonable goals, pursue them, give them up and choose others if you don't feel they're worth it anymore. Life shouldn't be more of a truggle than it absolutely has to.
Well it is a competition to a certain extent. We all have a finite amount of time and grades matter for who will take you in later. In other words: depending on your goals you are competing against your classmates. That said I agree with "winning" itself not being a sufficient or healthy motivator on its own.
@@inevitableAnpu In what way are you "competing against your classmates" if everyone can get an A? The only way there's competition for grades is if the teacher is grading on a curve, and grading on a curve is idiotic and means the grades will not reflect the students' abilities. In any sane grading sysstem, all students can get the highest grade.
Life is competition. There's a limited amount of resources. If you have something, someone else can't have that exact something as well. Any grading system is ultimately on a curve, just not in any given class, rather for everyone participating in it. That criteria for getting an A depends on what an average person can be expected to get. I definitely agree with the last paragraph.
@@ForOne814 I have a great job as a teacher. My colleagues also have great jobs. In most cases, we absolutely can have the same things. Add to that the fact everyone has different goals in mind etc… I mean, you can *choose* to see everything as a competition. But that's ultimately a pretty stressful and unhelpful mindset, unlikely to win you much comfort or peace of mind. I prefer seeing things in terms of cooperation, myself. If we have limited resources, then those resources should be shared, and we should decide together how best to use those resources. And your point on grading systems is pretty irrelevant, given the topic was whether students compete against their classmates. (Students who cooperate with their classmate, help eachother, tend to learn more and reach further, which also leads to higher grades for all involved. Like I said, a competitive mindset is often pretty unhelpful)
@@jmacd8817 I'm the same at 56, started in horticulture, went into arable farming, then livestock, learnt to be a chef, started a business repairing laptops, retired, went back to work this year as a part time gardener. Full circle🤣🤣🤣🤣
It's not about what you want to be, it's about what you want to achieve (lifestyle etc) and basing your decision of what to do on that. Worry less about the means and more about the ends.
As a 10 year old i remembering just deleting random files from the parental control app until it stopped working. From what i know now its not as easy (hey kids, on pcs you can get a bootable linux usb stick, and on mobile you can enable split windows in android developer settings. Good look with developing your own workarounds)
6:30 I didn't get to this point until Christmas 2022. I was lazy (maybe depressed) at the time, my diet was terribly unhealthy, I had gained a lot of weight, and i was on the verge of failing out of university. On my last final exam of the semester, I needed a 72% to keep my grade in the class, and if my grade dropped, my GPA for the semester would have dropped below the threshold for academic probation, meaning I wouldn't be able to keep my financial aid, so effectively i would have failed out of university. I got a 68% on that exam... but since other students did poorly, the professor added a 5 point curve, which gave me a 73. I barely got out of bed for the 3 days while i was waiting for the grade to be put in because I was just imagining how my entire life was about to change, and how I had screwed everything up. I don't think anyone has ever been as happy about a 73% as I was when I saw that grade, I literally got out of bed and started dancing. I vowed to use this extreme stroke of luck to turn everything around. I started taking the maximum number of credit hours in the following semester, started taking summer classes, and started studying like crazy. I've improved my GPA a ton and made a huge comeback since then. I also lost 80lbs and have gotten into the best shape of my life. I've made new friends, started enjoying a lot of my hobbies again, found new hobbies, and have been working on passion projects.
@11:20 this was what happened to me when I took Calc based physics last year, I hated it, I wasn’t good at it, and the tutor I had basically asked me why I was taking this class, and I said it was because I wanted to be a Mechanical engineer, he basically just point blank told me “you hate physics, mechanical engineering is mostly physics, therefore you will hate engineering” and told me that there was a reason so many people can’t do engineering, opened my eyes to realize my passion was straight up math, so now I’m an applied mathematics major and I haven’t regret it ever since
2:00 my parents put a screen time app on my tablet, but i realized I could create another user on the tablet and the screen time didn't count for that user, so every time I used it, I just switched to the other user & had unlimited time.
The chat on nerodivergence is something I needed to hear today. In the UK and they have stopped diagnosing and medicating new patients for ADHD, and people who have been on medication for years are having to go without because there's a shortage. I was doing my degree in software development and have had to stop and put my life on hold till I can get support. I've been on the waiting list for 4 YEARS! That's 4 years of studying something I love and being heartbroken that I can't keep up with everyone else. I have tried SO fudging hard to harness the hyper focus and work round all my little brain quirks (4 years is a long time to do your homework on ADHD) but there's only so far "trying harder" gets you. This week has been particularly crappy, so hearing you guys talking about your experiences was exactly what I needed to hear right now. "maybe you should do a slightly different thing" is something I'm going to go away and have a think about. Thank you :)
@@swilson5320 I've heard waiting lists in some parts of the country are getting that long, 8 years is ridiculous. There is a way you can look up the length of waiting lists in your area and how many people are waiting but I didn't save the links. It's too depressing to look at lol As soon as I'm in a position that I can afford it I'll be going private too!
Im learning to drive in the uk, i can confirm our tests are very difficult nowadays, but my grandma was telling me that "i passed my test first time, i just needed a bit of brandy to calm my nerves first".
I never made excuses and have lived very poorly because I never knew when to ask for help. I wasn't too proud at all, I just didn't know when I could. It turns out that I have a learning disability that they still can't decide on. I'll be retirement age in a few short years so it's kind of late for me but other people are now getting the support that I needed and still need. I'm glad they are getting that support.
I hadn't even realized Linus had ADHD lol, I just chalked it all up to his hyperactive persona. As a fellow ADHDer your success story is kind of inspiring! :)
14:45 I love that you mentioned survivorship bias! Way too many successful people have too big an ego to even consider that possibility, let alone saying it out aloud.
as someone who grew up with overprotective and incredibly asshole parents, a lot of this makes me feel iffy at first but then I realize the relationship Linus has with his kids is way better lol but in reality, he seems like a pretty damn good dad
When I was a kid parental control on computers were practically just a glimmer in some programmer’s eye. One of the ones My dad used was a timer to prevent the internet from functioning to keep me offline late at night. But it turns out, it used the system clock to determine that. Unfortunately at the time you could only set the clock to a time zone in the region you purchased your computer in (this was an early OS X thing probably because of the region locking of DVDs and Apple always complying with DRM rules.) However, I’m on the east coast of the US so I just set the System clock to Hawaii time and bing bang boom I had several more hours of internet. Then he put the feature on the router with a complex password so I couldn’t change it. But then I just factory reset the router. When my kid becomes as clever as I was, I’m screwed… 😂😂😂
Personally I think parental controls are a horrible idea I will never employ such awful tactics onto my children, any form of parental controls will backfire later in life it creates far more problems than it solves and it doesn't actually solve anything if you're technically capable, you either teach your children to navigate and understand the world they live in while giving them freedom or you fail as a parent.
I work in the arena of IT, and I know that I could probably be better at it than most and keep doing it for another 20 years and get a lot of money. The issue is that I don’t don't like it. IT, at least the kind of IT work I can generally choose from in my profession, is all maintenance, troubleshooting, and admin. I want to design things. I want to come up with solutions and actually implement them, and I dont want to have to keep dealing with the same boring, uninteresting issues over and over again caused by other people. Some people are okay with that, but not me. I have noticed that I have a very hard time caring about what I do, and I am pretty sure it's not because I am lazy in general. It is because I have really high standards, and I am tired of inefficient systems and other people getting in the way, and not even being able to fix the bigger issue by the end of it. I want to create long lasting solutions, not follow other people's rules and deal with their shit my whole life. That is why I am seriously considering being an architect after I get my pension and doing that until I decide to quit. My point is that what works for some people doesn't work for others. I don’t care about looking like a winner on somebody else's score chart if it means that I am losing on my own chart.
Best advice I was given as a kid: It will be hard to find anyone who will care about your learning disabilities or excuses. You will have to work 10x harder than most kids, I became a cyber specialist and am very happy that I sacrificed. If you love crafts, then hyper focus on that, you like cleaning, then use your OCD to start a business cleaning, etc. Just use your quirks as a way to thrive!
as a CDL-A holder (that's the licence to drive semi trucks) it's amazing how much more money i could make than non-cdl employees while working in the same non-driving roles. simply having the option makes you more valuable to a lot of companies. the company i currently work for will pay for most staff to get their cdl and give them a raise while staying in their current position and never even touching a truck. there's a serious shortage of drivers, and the threat of autonomous trucks is only making it worse. i'm the swing driver, which means i fill in for the other drivers when they have the day off. i've been running the same route for the past couple months because we cant find a new driver who meets the requirements (we transport controlled substances).
Do you transport controlled substances as in like pharmaceuticals or controlled substances as in narcotics for like the DHS/CBP to bring to their incineration facilities?
@@nejatia8745 currently alcohol, but there's an established plan for when/if pot gets decriminalized on a federal level. with the current political climate, that could be next month, or never.
it's incredible the relationships good parents have with their kids just by being open, honest, trusting and approachable. Tell them why you don't want them accessing certain things. Tell them why you think something isn't good for them. Tell them they never have to hide ANYTHING from you.
yeah, the best way to really screw up the relationship is to make the kids feel like they have to hide themselves from the parents, or that they have to keep secrets to be love/accepted
Im dyslexic, have ADHD, and a little Aspergers. I just started my bachelor Applied Mathematics, and I never really had to work really hard for highschool. So right now i do have to do way more than im used to and im struggling, even though im incredibly blessed with great parents, i just have to get my shit together and study my *ss off. Hope ill make it
yo im a dyslexic ADHD'r, I am a geophysics grad, i started in pure maths and physics, but found University the first time i could chase my hyper focuses, now Im a geologist. Go with the dopamine and it wont feel like studying, but learning :). Also I found uni alot easier on my dsylesxia as I could avoid classes with long form essays. Good luck, you wont need it ;)
4:57 good enough is good enough, excelling wont get you anything, most of the time. except if you really want to, but even then its still good enough is good enough.
No it's not, good enough gets you the base level, excelling is what puts you ahead of everyone else and gives you the opportunities. If your just good enough your like everyone else
@@coldshock5181and excelling isn't necessary for things you don't care about doing. You don't need to excell at math when you're tryna be a liberal arts artist. You don't need math beyond basics and spreadsheets for finances. You don't need to understand tech beyond a base level as almost any person. Using an iPhone and windows is fine for anyone who doesn't care for it beyond their job. Excelling at everything all the time is exhausting asf
I know Linus wont see this, but I think it's an important lesson to teach your kids that we can't completely control whether we win or lose. You can do everything you possibly can and still lose, and that is always okay. I think the first thing was right, like, what matters is your try. I say this as someone who lived in a lot of stress, because all my self value was tied with winning.
08:32 It's easy for someone that was dealt a better hand to say that. I crashed hard during high-school, and for all my efforts I was only rewarded with not dying and living already close to two decades in nearly a constant growing state of burnout just from the effort of daily tasks at home. As Captain Picard once said, it is possible to do everything right and still lose. There is a point where telling people with disabilities that they're just not trying hard enough makes you an asshole and does them no good; it's not motivational, it's just another kick in the nuts. edit: Ok, a little bit of self-awarenes came into them a little after in the vid
So, at one point Linus boldly claims that even if he'd dedicated his life to becoming an astronaut from when he was 2, he say's he wouldn't possibly be able to do it. But 5 minutes later, they're talking about armless drift car drivers? How does that make any sense, claim that it's simply impossible for him to have done some things but then talk about people overcoming legitimate physical obstacles?
My generation (same as Linus) got a slightly different lecture: Do you want to go to university or do you want to be a loser? Irony is that if i went into the trades I'd be out earning my entire high school graduating class (aside from one doctor and one formula 1 driver)
I'm 22 without a drivers license. Because here in germany it costs 2000€ if you do it at a cheap driving school with the minimum amount of lessons required and ace both tests on the first try (written and practical). Most people nowadays have to spend something around 2500€ and 3500€ and i just couldn't afford that at 18 (neither could my parents). And while i am in the financial position now, where i can pay that in cash right now, i just don't see the need for my own car. I make due with asking my peers and using public transport (which is pretty shit, but still miles ahead of north america). I don't think having a license is a required life skill. Maybe in north america but most defintey not in germany (or many other european countries).
It doesn't feel like a limitation until it becomes one. Then it becomes one fuck of a limitation. Do yourself a favour. Get your license. That way, no matter what happens in life you won't miss an opportunity for lacking it (moving to new places for a good job or something like that)
Location and other life situations are going to matter so much, even in Europe where public transport tends to actually exist enough you can get to many places no more than a few hours slower (and often actually faster with the relatively good high speed trains) than if you drove directly point to point there are places public transport isn't good enough, or as is the case in the UK ruinously expensive (though that varies so much across the nation last time I really looked) much of the time. Not everyone lives in a city/town large enough to have public transport worth having anyway, or could afford it as often as they would actually need to use it. Then even when it exists and they can afford it there are some serious practical limits - not going to the hardware store, IKEA, garden centre etc and bringing back most purchases on public transport, but in many cases delivery isn't all that practical or possible either - got to be in on whatever day it happens to arrive (which may or may not be the day expected) to accept the delivery, yet you also have to be at work to afford whatever you wanted in the first place... Not that a personal vehicle is necessarily cheap either, so...
definitely is required in Wales. Honestly outside of the big 3 English cities public transport really doesn't cut it. I had a lesson per week for about 6 months to pass in the UK but there's no requirement for this. Just pass your Theory and practical test and you're good to go. Motorbike licenses are the expensive one here. Recently passed the Motorcycle theory and I just bought a book for £10, did some hazard perception on a £5 app and then £23 for the test to pass, so fairly cheap so far. However, CBT at around £150 followed by a direct access course for around £700-800 means you're definitely shelling out compared to car driving where a relative can just help you get practice for free.
Polish guy here. Driving license with decent skill of driving variety of cars, small trucks and VAN-s is a must-have to be truly independent. The more vehicles you can drive the better for you, because now you will not need to hire/ask anybody with driving license and car for help when doing some major activities, for example moving your furniture with equipment from one apartment to another, buying materials and supplies during renovation of flat / house, or just driving asap to hospital with somebody (maybe your wife in labor?) instead of calling ambulance and waiting. This skill is crucial in modern world, many things depends on it.
If you tried your best and didn’t win, that isn’t the end 90% of the time. You just try again, until your best is enough to win if you really want that win. However, a lot of the time you realize you actually don’t care if you win or not, because that win isn’t meaningful enough to you. Your quality as a person is defined by choosing what to focus on and working towards that, and hopefully you win. If you don’t, then you can honestly die happy because you know you gave it your all. If someone says you aren’t worth anything because you haven’t won something they deem to be substantial, fuck them.
I think the driving opinions are very america / Canada centric. In a lot of European countries you can get by without a car very well. Especially in an emergency, public transport and biking are always faster, than a car
That’s one of the best things my mom told me “you can ether use your disorder to make excuses or you can use it to motivate you to do better and work harder” and I think about that constantly and every time I think about something not being fair or life is harder for me, I ask myself if “I’m gonna use it as an excuse or to work hard harder”.
I had to take my driver's test in an old junky SUV with way more power than I was used to, was way heigher up than I was used to, and had brakes so bad I had to get out of my seat and stand on the brake to make it stop
The cost of a driver license is very differently priced in countries. In Denmark it costs over 4K USD for the license, so it's not just a small cost that everyone just pays if they don't plan on driving in the near future.
I'm 19 rn and have my learners license, but here in Australia we have to do 100 hrs driving and get through a really gruelling test in order to be able to drive on an open license. We only have 1 car, and my Mum doesn't drive. Dad's always working, so it's just so difficult for me to get hours up consistently (so I don't get rusty) that I don't even wanna bother. Having a car and paying for a license is so expensive too, not to mention the cost of fuel. Public transport here is literally $0.50
I mean, in north America being able to drive is important for sure, but if you are a european who is not part of the 20 percent rural population, chances are you will be completely fine without one. As a bonus you will have saved yourself the hefty price that driving licences cost here, at the age were you could make most use of that money for other things like travel.
I had a parental control thing on the computer of my parents which was the only one I was allowed to use. I learned pretty early that the program could be shut down by killing a process in the task manager, which caused the program to not do anything anymore.
This conversation brings be back to why I think children's media needs to include an element of discomfort. Like movies from the 80s that had scary moments in otherwise happy or impactful stories. When I was growing up in the mid 2000s, we were told all the time we could be anything we wanted to be. And I remember the last year I did the Pinewood Derby in scouts was the first year that everyone got a participation trophy. And I was upset about that as a child. Children need to experience loss and failure and coming up short despite trying their best. That way they experience those feelings and learn how to deal with them. Otherwise we become toddlers with credit cards where every negative experience is "trauma".
Fascinating that driving is a fundamental skill needed in Canada. In Ireland you can happily get away without it for a long long time. But then again. Public transport is famously bad in Canada/America lol
So what is it that people learn in business school, everything that was mentioned, communication, pitching, how to sell a product/idea, how to hold a meeting, all of that I learned while getting an engineering degree in addition to the specialized knowledge i would need to be an engineer. And every time there was an interdisciplinary project, the business school people were always worse at doing actual work, both in terms of motivation and actual ability to accomplish work in the project than any other discipline, STEM or humanities. So what do they learn, because in my experience they dont seem to do anything at all.
Business degrees are mostly just something to get for your resume. I learned business topics in my STEM degrees as well, particularly in my Masters degree. I now work as a consultant in an engineering/science industry, which gives me a good mix of both worlds.
The best advice my dad ever gave me was telling me "I wasn't hungry enough". I didn't necessarily get it as a sophomore or junior in highschool or whenever but it never left my mind.
for me personally i had to end up going to a MULTITHOUSAND DOLLAR PAID (grandma paid for it i am fucking blessed) after school help program because my grades were so bad from my adhd, i hated but i made it though and im GENUINELY SO GLAD I PUT THE TIME IN NOW. I WON.
As someone in business school my classes cover the science behind a business function. My Marking and Distribution class covers marketing obviously but also why companies market the way they do, the different channels, the evolution, whats on the horizon. And how the customer fits into the equation as the person companys market to.
Yeah, the issue in my area is, while licensed tradespeople are in high demand, apprentices are not. Every tradesperson who is training apprentices has a waiting list a mile long.
I spent elementary without internet and high school without mobile internet. That made me it easy to be good student, curiosity was satiated at school, and curated books and television. And during the high school years, the internet was not available to entertain during class, so to not be bored, I happily interacted with the lessons. I cannot imagine the challenges for parents and schools now. I just missed the transition of "Wow, knowledge is at your fingertips" to "Wow, what bullshit is out there, we need to start curating again". Internet use was fun, exciting, encouraged, not perceived to be as dangerous or harmful yet.
23:15 How expensive is it even to get a regular car license in Canada anyway? I Norway, roughly 10 years ago when I took the license, it wasn't uncommon to be spending around 5000 CAD for your license, and I don't see that having gotten any cheaper now if I were to check the prices now. As for trucks, the first "Truck" license would have easily cost up to around 19k CAD 10 years ago, too.
Driving stick is the only way to drive a car. It's so much more engaging and gives you a much better feel and understanding of the transmission. It sucks in traffic to be constantly having to depress and release the clutch, just to move a couple of meters and then have to do it all over again, but otherwise it is the superior driving experience.
I mean he addressed that very point in the clip, kids will inevitably lie and at least attempt workarounds and having proper conversations with them about it instead of just punishing them is definitely the right move
That's a valuable life skill though. You don't do it to an extreme of course, but understanding the large gray area is something that if you have to learn it later on you'll have a lot of trouble with it. Being too nice just makes you a victim.
as a teenager that had to deal with my dad who liked trying to control everything i found SO many workarounds and exploits in family link(the software my dad put on my phone) including using the emergency call feature to access the contacts menu to access settings through another menu where i could then access system apps including google,until my dad found it and fixed it,i then found other small exploits and abused them to high hell,i eventually learned a lesson from it,if you find an exploit that you want to use for personal gain,dont abuse it in an obvious way,do not let your hubris be your downfall
when i was in high school few years ago i was in the "special classes", there was a teacher aid that would help the kids that had a learning deficiency. but she would talk to them like babies. i made it clear that you wont talk to me like that, but like a normal human being.
The number one thing parents should learn (if they didn't already know) is that there's no use trying to protect your kids from the real world and instead teach them how to protect themselves (and others) about the dangers and pitfalls that are out there in the real world! Shielding your kids is all good and well but you don't want to shield them to he point they don't know how to deal with the world on their own! It's like the saying, give a man a fish and he eats for a day, teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime! 🤔
@@phillyjones3028 That's the point! Instead of trying to keep your children away from what lurks out there, teach them about it and how to stay as safe as they can be from it! Linus does just that, he makes sure they know what's going on and that makes them trust him and he can trust them in return! The number one rule about any type of relationship with another human being is, if you want a good relationship with someone, be open and clear in your communication! That is by far the most important thing and it sounds pretty straight forward because it actually is! If you trust someone, you're far more likely to feel comfortable telling that person things that you find hard to talk about and having that kind of trust and connection with your own children is paramount if you want them to grow up and be well equipped to face the world! 🤔
The 'it matters if you win' thing is actually extremely important. I find it concerning that you bring up a sports game, where the top sports psychologists say that trying your best is the most important thing, otherwise it will hurt your psychology. Teaching your kids that winning is more important than trying might make them more successful materially but it will harm their psychology. You need space to fail or you won't try. A life of peace and prosperity is as much a success as being a millionaire.
Depends on where you live, a LOT. In Germany there are many places where you can't get most jobs without a license. And its getting worse politicians are obviously in the pocket of the local car industry and they are slowly ruining public transport. Rails for example peaked in the 80s. Yeah, that bad.
@@fgregerfeaxcwfeffece hearing stuff like that always make me happy that I live in Russia. The public transport here is amazing, especially in Moscow. Plus you often don't even need any transport, as it is common to have several supermarkets and pharmacies in the same city block (for pharmacies specifically you often have several in the same building for some reason). There's usually also several cafes, restaurants, more specialized shops in a 15 minute walking radius. I live in a smaller city and I just walk everywhere.
@@kaitek666 nuh-uh. Also cheap electricity and other utilities, cheap, fast and stable Internet, way better gun and self-defense laws than on average in Europe, probably the best digital state services, and also just more FREEDOM™ than in EU.
I get where Linus is coming from about driving, and I respect it. My parents thought the exact same as him. But I do think times are super different here in the UK. I did get my license, but I hugely regretted it. It cost me time and a huge amount of money at a time when I needed resources the most. I ended up passing my test without the ability to get a car cos of the cost. For me, just the insurance would have stopped from being able to get my apartment. (£4500/yr). I never drove again after the day passed my test. I was so excited not to drive, just because it was over and I could get on with my life. I know that many will have a totally different experience, especially in NA. My city is super walkable, for example.
I am 27 years old, always wanted a driver's license, but I grew up to poor to afford one (I am from Norway), and now I have bad tourette so I can't get one. Please please please, don't take things for granted, If you have the ability to get a certification, a license , an education, something other people can't afford or obtain easily for some reason, get it. Don't let opportunists go because you couldn't bother
In the USA, even someone with learning disabilities can get a Driver's License as long as they are 16 yrs old. For FREE. It is different here. You do not need to pay anything.
@@LeftJoystick It was the opposite for my father in my formerly socialist country. He had to pay but he only learned how to drive after he had passed the test. There's a Russian Reversal in there somewhere.
Yeah, Nordic and Western European countries are basically anti car nowadays, even if they don't provide any other means of *reliable* transportation *(I'm looking at you Germany)*
I think the better conversation with kids is, you can do anything you want to do, if you are also willing to make the required sacrifices. With very little exceptions anybody can be capable of doing anything, but almost everybody is not willing to make the sacrifices that would be required.
Gavin has said on the RT pod he decided against driving in America partly cause if he ever got into a serious accident he wouldn’t want to end up getting his green card/visa pulled from him and sent back to the UK.
The best piece of advice that was told me from an older male friend of mine before he got hit by a bus is life is nor easy nor hard, it’s what u make of it. If u make it hard then it’s going too be hard or if u make it easy then it will be easy for u. So make is easy on urself not any harder then it needs to be. Linus u r a great dad and his wife is a great mom. Lots of love from a fellow Canadian
24:20 Wait they don’t have special learning cars in America to take your driving exam in? In the eu you drive in a learning car with 2 sets of pedels one for the driver and one for the examinator so is something goes wrong he can intervene!
In germany a divers license costs over 3000€. You have to drive with a professinal teacher for many hours. And the theoretic and practical Tests are hard and can add additional cost if you fail the first time
It's nice to hear that Linus actually talks to his kids' about issues, well, without really knowing how .. but so many parents I've seen just openly admit to lying to their kids, advocating for dishonesty and disrespect, then being mad when their kids return the favor. Kids should be able to talk to and trust their parents to respect them.
Linus. Fren. Even if you have ADHD it's not your place to tell other people with ADHD what their capabilities are, that they need to just decide to win. You don't know them or their condition to make those judgements. It's entirely valid for it to be much worse or different for them in ways that can't be worked with the way you do. You're engaging in the equivalent of saying "Just stop being sad" when you yourself should know better.
I think part of the reason many people arent getting their liscences right away is covid disrupting everything. Around me a bunch of driving instructors quit, and test centres shut down. So now, if you want to learn there is a waitlist for instructors, months of waiting for the test, and lessons are £40+ an hour. Itd gonna take a long time to get back to baseline.
8:00 linus forgetting a disablity is some times debilitating and cant just be "get over it"' not actually that mad or really care but just saying people need to stop confusing excuses's and explanations
11:00 wow, you guys took that way too seriously... The point was that statistically you all had a chance, and for those who wanted something so bad, they should work toward that. Oh, and by the way, that could be you on the moon next. And clearly, that person has been born and was taught by people.
No matter what you do, no matter how hard you try, you will never become a top athlete if you don't have good genetics for it. And that's just one example where it's both well-researched and obvious.
I love my parents so much, but they didn’t have these conversations with us. I can absolutely SEE where it has affected me, especially just working in the family business. I’ve run off of natural talent for so long and was never REALLY pushed to work incredibly hard on stuff. It’s slow to build, but super important.
Linus' son when he sees this video and realizes his dad can't see what he deleted.
Unless it’s a trap…
@@SamWilkinsonn But is it? 🤔*VSauce Sound starts playing
I wouldn't be surprised if they could figure out deleted stuff just by looking at the internet traffic logged on their networking hardware or using a similar method.
@@Strange_Bard Yep. THis is linus. Watch history is already logged at the router.
@@JamesR624 *Linus' son's mobile data usage suddenly skyrockets for some reason*
(Or he could also just use the pre internet methods)
Linus: if you don't wanna get dirty be an electrician.
Me stuck in an attic with insulation so old it's black lol
I just finished crawling around a drill floor on an oil rig. Average mechanic would look pristine next to me right now.
THIS HAHAHA, being stuck in an attick in 35c+ temperature so u have to choose between breathing insulation thats old has hell in or having one of those stupid masks on where you are just breathing in your own sweat. i remember i would finish the day and when i got home and would blow my nose it would just be straight black. probably was not healthy for me...
did not enjoy that at 18 but hell was the pay good
yeah, this does not line up with anything I know about Electricians from seeing them work lol.
I've had to go up into lofts in my old IT job to fish cables back through after renovations and etc.
Was up in one on the hottest day on record for only about 10-15mins and the sweat was falling off me like a 10 mile run.
Networking is much more comfortable.
Most, if not all, trades have dirty parts to get through. Not to demean them at all. It's hard work for a reason.
if you do building stuff, you never clean, you full of concrete powder stuff all over you.. i quit for my health..
linus addressing his kids as people is awesome because so many parents see their kids as their property. linus genuinely seems like a great father
I dunno how common it is in Hockeyland, but down here in Jesusland a lot of parents do in fact consider their kids property and not people, especially if they are certain types of Christians.
I know right? I would have needed so much less therapy if my parents where like him lmao
I've known he's a good father since the video of his kid being in a box carried around by his employees. The way he talks to and about his kids isn't normal, it's fantastic.
So many adults treat kids worse than animals
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why not both?
Linus unironically told his kids “skill issue” 🤣
"git gud" 😂
He's right though. It's "hilarious" how people smother their kids, and once they turn 18, they expect them to suddenly excel. You got a bad grade? The teacher is just mean? That sucks, doesn't change the grade.
its facts, it empowers people greatly when you're upfront with them about how good they are now and how good they need to be to get to what their goal is
youre giving them agency, most people have no way to assess themselves or how much work they need to put in to get to where they need to go
@@xmine08I told my daughters there is no such thing as Participation Trophies you either win or lose and if you lose get up brush the Dust off and try again
@@AbeYousef yes this!
On the subject of neurodivergence, the “it’s a superpower” thing totally misses the point IMO. I can hyperfocus on code for a while, and while in that headspace, I’m unstoppable. The people around me don’t see the part where I go home, have no energy because I haven’t eaten all day, can’t focus enough to get anything done, and end up with piles of laundry and mess. It’s two sides of the same coin; one doesn’t exist without the other.
Also, I sometimes hyperfocus but not on command. I often found myself hyperfocused when not needed and unfocused when needed.
All superpowers have drawbacks, and unless you can manage those, you'll end up being debilitated.
What helps me is having hard and fast rules: I must eat a basic breakfast (because I'll forget and starve), I must eat something when I get off work (because I'll forget and starve), the laundry basket cannot go past the top (because I know it means that it'll end up with clothes all over the floor), when the laundry is done it must be folded and put away (because it'll become a mound on a chair if it's not done _right_ _now_), the dishwasher cannot sit there clean (because dirty dishes will pile in the sink), the pans must be cleaned after cooking (because I won't have pans in 3 days), all tools must be put away when I'm done with them (otherwise, they get lost and I end up pissed when I need them next time), etc. Following these rules always pisses me off and exhausts me in the moment, but it keeps life running and the depression at bay.
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100% this. Nobody cares why you lost. Good habits help you win even when executive functions fail you.
It also ignores the cumilitive negative effects on your health from "using your superpower".
I didn't realize how much harm I was doing until I suddenly couldn't keep up anymore. I was top of the club until I suddenly wasn't okay at all anymore. And now it's been years and I'm still not recovered.
@@yakovdanomg this
As comedian Fluffy once put it, "You can watch their stuff but not their friends stuff," meaning that even if try to stop your kids from watching it, their friends will show it to them, now am I saying let them watch whatever? No, but what you can be is a buffer or someone they can talk to about what they saw if they have any concerns about it, cause I always felt parents being helicopters or over bearing tend to make kids very good liars which is a skill is good to have in certain situations isn't something you would want your kids to develop out spit or for others reasons at all.
Yeah, my parents raised me to be a great fucking liar due to being very controlling. So now I really struggle to form any meaningful bond with another person
I think I remember Linus saying in another clip that he knows he can't stop them from watching it and so, when the time is right, he is going to talk to them about it
100%
They’re little humans, don’t know what’s appropriate.
Neighbors kid 7 year old pulling out his iPod to show a 5 year old videos of people getting their heads chopped off.
Quickly led to neighborhood agreement of no devices outside.
Parent however you want to with technology.
But there’s no way to prevent that stuff from happening
They often learn how to share information in a way that helps them avoid trouble. This can include bending the truth or keeping things to themselves. It’s all part of figuring out how to handle different social situations as they grow up.
I've seen this so many times over
As a "new" dad oldest is 4 and just wanting to get into learning Minecraft would love a video on how to put on good parental locks and stuff real features that work and help
Pihole as your primary DNS is simple and easy. W/ the phone app you can easily turn services, like TH-cam/Facebook/Minecraft, on and off. You can go much deeper w/ a managed router/switch. If you don’t want to setup Pihole set your routers primary DNS yo one of the parental control DNS services, Cloudflare has one. Rule number one is don’t give them a phone. Force them to use the WiFi in your house. You cannot control what they have access to once you give them a phone.
I put my kids on my Microsoft account as children and you can control a lot of things they look at and do online. MS family accounts will have only got better since I did this for my 5/6 yr old ten years ago. They had email alerts and history, screen time settings and other things, you can use this with Xbox and PC gaming too if your kids are logged in on a Windows PC/laptop/Xbox. I also used wifi plugs set on schedules that would turn off machines at a certain time, easy to do with the Tapo plugs(TP-Link back then.)
As for the Minecraft part, look into some small child-friendly custom maps and resource packs. That way you have some help with the educational part without risking them running into Creepers and never wanting to play again 😂
There's literally THOUSANDS of guides and videos my brother, all you gotta do is type it in.
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17:00 I remember some teachers in school dissing garbagemen or city workers...and in my head I was like, "you are so misinformed, and you're a teacher!"
Wild how instructors will disrespect essential roles in society. I understand why they do, but it's still wild as an instructor.
I had a guidance counselor basically said I wasn't gonna make it anywhere in life because I wasn't going to college
One of the major flaws of the education system is that the vast majority of the educators and administrators have absolutely zero experience outside of said system.
The fact that Driver's Licence test is made in your own (or a rented) car in Canada and the US is wild to me. Here in Brazil, both classes and the test are performed on cars provided by the driving school and by the driving department, respectively. You are not required to have a car or to have access to one other than the one belonging to the driving school to learn to drive
same in Italy
Flip side is you should take the test in the car you will be driving. I’ve never heard of anyone renting a car to take the test. But I live in a rural area. A lot of people in urban areas never get a license because they don’t need one. So the government having a car for you to take a test would be pointless.
I don't know of a place in the US that allows rental cars on tests.
The only kind of rental that you can make in Canada for a licence test is a car from the driving school, while most car rental places are 21+ for regular cars, and I don't think the contracts would allow to use the car for a test.
there are driving schools that you can go to/send kids to in the US that give driving lessons in learner cars with a extra steering wheels in the instructors side that let you take the test in those as well
When 25min of WAN-Show are more valuable and cheaper than a visit to your local therapist.
Amazing comment
The only thing that gives me hesitation is the socialization aspect. Theres probably some kids out there who wont wanna be friends with someone with super strict parents. (Obviously you dont want to make friends with shallow people) But theres alot of pressure, especially peer pressure, that can lead to weird scenarios. Im not saying linus is a helicopter parent, im just saying i remember all the kids who had helicopter parents. Its memorable.
Absolutely this
Frankly, given what we've seen of Linus's children, they would be the ones that have a lot of friends not just because of all the tech in their house but because they know some s*** and are just the kind of people you want to have in your life because they will be there for you when you didn't even know you needed them and they will pull the wildest crap out of thin air
One thing I will weigh in on, with this whole "do whatever you have to to win, hustle" etc discussion is don't lose perspective on work-life balance. You can't take any of your money or things with you when you die. Don't kill yourself to make bank. Have a good work ethic but also take time to enjoy life. It was given to us, in part, to enjoy. Also enjoy responsibly. Don't go crazy far the other way either.
Yeah Linus wouldn't agree with this lmao he's the last guy to talk about work life balance
@@bullydungeon9631 Linus and Work Life Balance is like Dark Milk or something an Oxymoron in itself.
@@the_mastermageOxymoron, like "British People"
This reminds me of a comedian, I can’t remember the name, but he was talking with Bert Kreischer and the dude had to start fighting back tears because he came to the realization that he was missing his children’s lives and living a life with his wife because of how much he was working. Sure he was providing and making a beautiful life for his family, but he wasn’t a part of theirs. Only funding it. I hope he stopped working as much so he could finally spend time with his family. Because that’s time he’s never going to get back
Work life balance? That's woke communism
"You can be anything..." was the biggest lie we were told as kids. Setting so many kids up for failure and an inability to cope or understand when they do experience failure, while not making them understand that failure isn't necessarily a bad thing.
Also, even in 2024... I would teach my kids to drive a manual transmission car.
I often tell my daughter that she should try and if she will succeed at the first attempt, then it is a missed opportunity to learn something.
She is really hard for herself as she would not even try to attempt as she is convinced she will fail, which leads to the catch-22 situation where she doesnt want to practice as she can't yet do it perfectly.
"You can achieve anything eventually, but only after you experienced the many ways how you can fail"
You can only learn by experiencing failures, not just hearing or reading about them.
@TheGameBench I never understood why people would never learn how to drive a manual transmission car, maybe apart from those who never learn to drive at all. Here in Europe you hardly see anything else.
@@TD-erhere in na I haven't seen someone drive a manual transition car since like 2010 so that's why.
I have never been told this, and it has a pretty dramatic effect until I build myself some confidence in being able to do more than what was expected by the dumbed down genitors i've had...
@@TD-er The majority of cars sold in Europe over the last 5 years have been not been manual transmission. Relativly soon the won't be on sale at all.
I only really learned how to drive stick for work.
Beyond that, the numbers (for stick shift cars) are rapidly dwindling.
(Even when I *do* drive stick, it's a race to see how soon I can hit top gear as that can be better for overall fuel economy, and stay there as long as possible.)
I'm honestly terrified of having kids in the future, because I know EXACTLY how bad the internet can be for unsuspecting victims...
I have no idea if I’m going to have a lot of parental controls, or have none.
@@eggegg6101 I honestly don't know which is more effective, as someone who had them and knows they work... only sometimes, to be generous
I am very afraid of having children because I know how hard parents can fail at their job first hand
Meh, everyone I know had unsupervised access to the Internet from a young age, and we all turned out functional adults. Not normal - just functional. Although I do catch myself sometimes almost sending people inappropriate stuff, like graphic war footage, without asking whether they are okay with seeing it first - just because literally every single person that I talk to often is both okay with it and is usually interested in seeing it.
The best that we've been able to do is to put guidelines in place, especially about interacting with other people, via the internet.
That's usually a bigger problem.
Tiny humans haven't created situations where I have to be running wireshark 24/7 to monitor network traffic, at least not yet, but there are tools that are available for mostly secops that you can use for any future kids that you may (or may not) have.
5:50 I think the hard part is to let highly talented kids to learn to work hard. When your kids have to do very little effort to get grade A for everything, there's a risk that they never have to work hard for anything in school.
Right now I am at school learning to become a teacher and one thing that has been told multiple time is that teachers should let students that are performing higher than the rest of the class make more challenging assignments. In the Netherlands for example, if you have a class of kids where the requirement is that they need to be able to do A2 level English at the end of the year but have students that are beyond that. You let them make b1 assignments that are still relevant with a2's themes. Some course books here even offer that, having a section that is just a level higher.
There is a sweet spot of too easy and too hard, and a teacher should be able to spot where the students sweet spot is. Because ONLY in that sweet spot, will they learn.
Anyway, got carried away. Main thing is: let it be challenging, but not too hard. Otherwise nothing will be learned and the student will give no attention to said subject.
me! I barely made it through university and still struggle to learn new things today because high school was so easy
@@zeeko6836 I myself was one of those students (and now also on my way to becoming a teacher lol). I had subjects where i was just bored af (german class, i'm swiss so it's like english is for the canadians), and I had subjects where I was challenged by the teachers (maths, computer science, english for example). Guess which subjects I'll be (hopefully) a teacher for😅, It's not german, I can tell you that much...
Linus sounds like a great dad.
I agree, but disagree with the whole him checking their video watch history and etc. Even though it might be tempting to check, I think it's important to give the kid privacy. My mom used to be like that until i was 14, and it was not fun... I had to watch over my shoulders all the time, having to rethink every decision i made and it has still stuck to me to this day, it's not enjoyable... I was scarerd to watch the videos I wanted to watch, i was scared to search up the thing that i wanted and scared to make decisions in general, it made me insecure and confused. Most of the things I wanted to watch or search up wasn't even that bad, but it still left me traumatized and scared.
It's a good thing having to think twice before you act, but there is a point where it has gone too far. I shouldn't need to think twice about having to watch a god damn youtube video when I'm aware of the things that are in those videos or doing as something as simple as doing my shoe lases and etc...
I must say it's important to at least have some knowlage of what your kid is doing online, but you don't need to go deeper into it.
@@kimjong-un4253when you set up a TH-cam kids account you as the adult CAN see the history that's just how it works. He never mentioned if he actually looks at the history all that often afaik but rather just screen time.
@@kimjong-un4253Children should not be on the internet unsupervised. End of story.
@kimjong-un4253
I'm genuinely curious about what age group this person is in with a comment like that and if their view would change given another 10 years or so.
Children shouldn't have free, unsupervised reign on the internet until 16 years of age at the very least.
@@kimjong-un4253 CHILDREN don't get to have privacy from their parents! Period. So long as the parents are legally responsible for the kids' actions then EVERYTHING they do can and should be absolutely under parental supervision and guidance. Anything else and you are a bad parent who should not have had kids.
As a kid, I'd rather tell my parents I was a drug dealer than give them access to my search history.
Nah but like unironically. Mom my is hella homophobic and I would rather have told her I’ve smoked weed than give her my search history
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@@ThePimpinator um, yeah?
This is among the most unnerving parts of Linus' parenting to me. I don't want people, no matter who they are, to be under constant surveillance and no matter what it is. If it's impacting your life, people around will notice and they don't need to see it happening, the effects are enough and you can absolutely notice before bad stuff happens. Surveillance causes trust issues
@@I.want.toji.in.me.oml.ughhhhh what does homophobia have to do.....OHHHHHHhhhhhhh
My neighbour is a postal worker - that's also completion-based. He walks his kids to school, goes to work, -hustles- and is reliably home in time to pick his kids back up from school. It's a good gig.
As a father of 2 young kids, I’m so very grateful for Linus being a handful of years ahead of our family. Especially since I’ve tried very hard to be an intentional parent.
Thanks a ton for these sorts of videos, they really go a long way towards affecting positive change in the lives of others!
I dont have a drivers License, because i live in the center of a City (Leipzig, Germany) and a License would cost me 3500-4000€ (5200-6000CAD), what is absolutely insane. Public Transport costs 49€ per month and i can allmost drive everything with it.
Yeah that's insane, here in the states it cost me around 120 dollars. Even easier if you are over the age of 18. You can just show up at the dmv take the test and be good. No permit wait or anything.
Same situation for me (also living in the city centre of Leipzig)
@@MrJcTTK thats nuts
Same situation here, really want to get my license but I don't have that kind of money sitting here
I mainly use the public transport system but I also have a license. Snice my parents payed for it it never crosed my mind that I can use all of the Regional public transport in Germany for about 5 years for the cost of a driving license. Some people don't understand that I don't drive more often because it is faster to get from A to B. But what is the point of that if I can spare ten or twenty minutes by driving when I can use all the time in public transport learning, working or just watching something
I remember when my parents blocked my device from the router I figured out that I can bypass that by changing my device’s MAC address and surprisingly it worked. So the lesson learned here is if your children reach this level of bypassing parental control methods then they should be allowed to do whatever they want. haha
I feel there's a difference between "winning" and "succeeding". Winning implies competition, and despite what some people think - life isn't a competition. Everything isn't a competition. You know how you can tell? Because there's not just one winner. Most actual competitions don't fundamentally matter. "Winning" in itself is worthless unless it allows you to do something you otherwise wouldn't, "being a winner" isn't a reasonable goal in itself.
Personally, I hate competitions. I want to do well, and get better at stuff, but absolutely not because I want to "beat" someone else.
Getting an A in a class is not about beating your classmates, at least not in any sane grading system. If you're grading on a curve, your grading system is idiotic. Getting an A is, or should be, showing the level of competence and knowledge that's required for an A. If every student in a class is at that level, they all get an A. At least in my classroom (I'm a high school programming teacher). So grades is about "succeeding", it's not about "winning".
Spending your life always chasing that high of being "the best" sounds exhausting at best and extremely detrimental to your mental health at worst. Strive to do good, but, like, don't be an obsessive about it. Choose your battles, decide on reasonable goals, pursue them, give them up and choose others if you don't feel they're worth it anymore. Life shouldn't be more of a truggle than it absolutely has to.
Well it is a competition to a certain extent. We all have a finite amount of time and grades matter for who will take you in later. In other words: depending on your goals you are competing against your classmates.
That said I agree with "winning" itself not being a sufficient or healthy motivator on its own.
@@inevitableAnpu In what way are you "competing against your classmates" if everyone can get an A?
The only way there's competition for grades is if the teacher is grading on a curve, and grading on a curve is idiotic and means the grades will not reflect the students' abilities. In any sane grading sysstem, all students can get the highest grade.
Life is competition. There's a limited amount of resources. If you have something, someone else can't have that exact something as well.
Any grading system is ultimately on a curve, just not in any given class, rather for everyone participating in it. That criteria for getting an A depends on what an average person can be expected to get.
I definitely agree with the last paragraph.
@@ForOne814😂 just stop typing
@@ForOne814 I have a great job as a teacher. My colleagues also have great jobs. In most cases, we absolutely can have the same things. Add to that the fact everyone has different goals in mind etc…
I mean, you can *choose* to see everything as a competition. But that's ultimately a pretty stressful and unhelpful mindset, unlikely to win you much comfort or peace of mind. I prefer seeing things in terms of cooperation, myself. If we have limited resources, then those resources should be shared, and we should decide together how best to use those resources.
And your point on grading systems is pretty irrelevant, given the topic was whether students compete against their classmates.
(Students who cooperate with their classmate, help eachother, tend to learn more and reach further, which also leads to higher grades for all involved. Like I said, a competitive mindset is often pretty unhelpful)
My 30th birthday is just over the horizon and I'm still hoping someday I'll figure out what I want to be when I grow up
I just turned 55, and still have that struggle. 😱
@@jmacd8817 I'm the same at 56, started in horticulture, went into arable farming, then livestock, learnt to be a chef, started a business repairing laptops, retired, went back to work this year as a part time gardener. Full circle🤣🤣🤣🤣
At 23 with 4,5 years of working experience I know I want to be retired when I grow up
It's not about what you want to be, it's about what you want to achieve (lifestyle etc) and basing your decision of what to do on that.
Worry less about the means and more about the ends.
Im 37 and uhhh i flip between 7 different jobs of being like, hey i wana do this when i grow up
Helicopter parenting is crazy when your father is basically pulling a Big brother is watching .
i heard of a kid screen recording the parent code 😂👏🏼
That would be me in 2019
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As a 10 year old i remembering just deleting random files from the parental control app until it stopped working. From what i know now its not as easy (hey kids, on pcs you can get a bootable linux usb stick, and on mobile you can enable split windows in android developer settings. Good look with developing your own workarounds)
6:30 I didn't get to this point until Christmas 2022. I was lazy (maybe depressed) at the time, my diet was terribly unhealthy, I had gained a lot of weight, and i was on the verge of failing out of university. On my last final exam of the semester, I needed a 72% to keep my grade in the class, and if my grade dropped, my GPA for the semester would have dropped below the threshold for academic probation, meaning I wouldn't be able to keep my financial aid, so effectively i would have failed out of university. I got a 68% on that exam... but since other students did poorly, the professor added a 5 point curve, which gave me a 73. I barely got out of bed for the 3 days while i was waiting for the grade to be put in because I was just imagining how my entire life was about to change, and how I had screwed everything up. I don't think anyone has ever been as happy about a 73% as I was when I saw that grade, I literally got out of bed and started dancing.
I vowed to use this extreme stroke of luck to turn everything around. I started taking the maximum number of credit hours in the following semester, started taking summer classes, and started studying like crazy. I've improved my GPA a ton and made a huge comeback since then. I also lost 80lbs and have gotten into the best shape of my life. I've made new friends, started enjoying a lot of my hobbies again, found new hobbies, and have been working on passion projects.
@11:20 this was what happened to me when I took Calc based physics last year, I hated it, I wasn’t good at it, and the tutor I had basically asked me why I was taking this class, and I said it was because I wanted to be a Mechanical engineer, he basically just point blank told me “you hate physics, mechanical engineering is mostly physics, therefore you will hate engineering” and told me that there was a reason so many people can’t do engineering, opened my eyes to realize my passion was straight up math, so now I’m an applied mathematics major and I haven’t regret it ever since
2:00 my parents put a screen time app on my tablet, but i realized I could create another user on the tablet and the screen time didn't count for that user, so every time I used it, I just switched to the other user & had unlimited time.
If you had admin rights to create a user then the tablet was already msiconfigured.
The chat on nerodivergence is something I needed to hear today.
In the UK and they have stopped diagnosing and medicating new patients for ADHD, and people who have been on medication for years are having to go without because there's a shortage. I was doing my degree in software development and have had to stop and put my life on hold till I can get support.
I've been on the waiting list for 4 YEARS! That's 4 years of studying something I love and being heartbroken that I can't keep up with everyone else. I have tried SO fudging hard to harness the hyper focus and work round all my little brain quirks (4 years is a long time to do your homework on ADHD) but there's only so far "trying harder" gets you.
This week has been particularly crappy, so hearing you guys talking about your experiences was exactly what I needed to hear right now. "maybe you should do a slightly different thing" is something I'm going to go away and have a think about. Thank you :)
damn i got diagnosed 3 or 4 years ago and somehow i still get my meds, im in the uk too
I went private but I was put i a literal 8 year wait list for nhs
@Joshthetwitchguy I'm glad someone's having better luck than me! I'm still waiting and hoping 🤞
@@swilson5320 I've heard waiting lists in some parts of the country are getting that long, 8 years is ridiculous. There is a way you can look up the length of waiting lists in your area and how many people are waiting but I didn't save the links. It's too depressing to look at lol As soon as I'm in a position that I can afford it I'll be going private too!
Im learning to drive in the uk, i can confirm our tests are very difficult nowadays, but my grandma was telling me that "i passed my test first time, i just needed a bit of brandy to calm my nerves first".
I never made excuses and have lived very poorly because I never knew when to ask for help. I wasn't too proud at all, I just didn't know when I could. It turns out that I have a learning disability that they still can't decide on. I'll be retirement age in a few short years so it's kind of late for me but other people are now getting the support that I needed and still need. I'm glad they are getting that support.
I hadn't even realized Linus had ADHD lol, I just chalked it all up to his hyperactive persona. As a fellow ADHDer your success story is kind of inspiring! :)
"it's hard to learn to work hard, when you don't have to" is such a vibe
14:45 I love that you mentioned survivorship bias! Way too many successful people have too big an ego to even consider that possibility, let alone saying it out aloud.
Linus sounds like a good dad.
Definitely
Ahhhhh man I have the same stress everyday, having kids is tough.
Looks like is tough when you are a good parent
especially in this day and age
restricted wifi and parents looking over their serach history is horrible for a child
@square7935 No it isn't. It's called parenting.
True. That's why many shouldn't. It's insane: you need a license to drive a car but you don't need any to raise a fing human being.
as someone who grew up with overprotective and incredibly asshole parents, a lot of this makes me feel iffy at first but then I realize the relationship Linus has with his kids is way better lol
but in reality, he seems like a pretty damn good dad
When I was a kid parental control on computers were practically just a glimmer in some programmer’s eye. One of the ones My dad used was a timer to prevent the internet from functioning to keep me offline late at night. But it turns out, it used the system clock to determine that. Unfortunately at the time you could only set the clock to a time zone in the region you purchased your computer in (this was an early OS X thing probably because of the region locking of DVDs and Apple always complying with DRM rules.) However, I’m on the east coast of the US so I just set the System clock to Hawaii time and bing bang boom I had several more hours of internet. Then he put the feature on the router with a complex password so I couldn’t change it. But then I just factory reset the router. When my kid becomes as clever as I was, I’m screwed… 😂😂😂
Personally I think parental controls are a horrible idea I will never employ such awful tactics onto my children, any form of parental controls will backfire later in life it creates far more problems than it solves and it doesn't actually solve anything if you're technically capable, you either teach your children to navigate and understand the world they live in while giving them freedom or you fail as a parent.
@ Spoken like someone without any children and without any experience of what’s on the internet.
I work in the arena of IT, and I know that I could probably be better at it than most and keep doing it for another 20 years and get a lot of money. The issue is that I don’t don't like it. IT, at least the kind of IT work I can generally choose from in my profession, is all maintenance, troubleshooting, and admin. I want to design things. I want to come up with solutions and actually implement them, and I dont want to have to keep dealing with the same boring, uninteresting issues over and over again caused by other people. Some people are okay with that, but not me.
I have noticed that I have a very hard time caring about what I do, and I am pretty sure it's not because I am lazy in general. It is because I have really high standards, and I am tired of inefficient systems and other people getting in the way, and not even being able to fix the bigger issue by the end of it. I want to create long lasting solutions, not follow other people's rules and deal with their shit my whole life. That is why I am seriously considering being an architect after I get my pension and doing that until I decide to quit.
My point is that what works for some people doesn't work for others. I don’t care about looking like a winner on somebody else's score chart if it means that I am losing on my own chart.
Best advice I was given as a kid: It will be hard to find anyone who will care about your learning disabilities or excuses. You will have to work 10x harder than most kids, I became a cyber specialist and am very happy that I sacrificed. If you love crafts, then hyper focus on that, you like cleaning, then use your OCD to start a business cleaning, etc. Just use your quirks as a way to thrive!
parttaking matters. self-improvement is more important than winning.
as a CDL-A holder (that's the licence to drive semi trucks) it's amazing how much more money i could make than non-cdl employees while working in the same non-driving roles. simply having the option makes you more valuable to a lot of companies. the company i currently work for will pay for most staff to get their cdl and give them a raise while staying in their current position and never even touching a truck. there's a serious shortage of drivers, and the threat of autonomous trucks is only making it worse. i'm the swing driver, which means i fill in for the other drivers when they have the day off. i've been running the same route for the past couple months because we cant find a new driver who meets the requirements (we transport controlled substances).
Do you transport controlled substances as in like pharmaceuticals or controlled substances as in narcotics for like the DHS/CBP to bring to their incineration facilities?
@@nejatia8745 currently alcohol, but there's an established plan for when/if pot gets decriminalized on a federal level. with the current political climate, that could be next month, or never.
Linus controls his kids like Kim Jong Un
it's incredible the relationships good parents have with their kids just by being open, honest, trusting and approachable. Tell them why you don't want them accessing certain things. Tell them why you think something isn't good for them. Tell them they never have to hide ANYTHING from you.
yeah, the best way to really screw up the relationship is to make the kids feel like they have to hide themselves from the parents, or that they have to keep secrets to be love/accepted
yea idk how old linuses son is but at some point like at age 16-17 he shold just drop the parental control
Im dyslexic, have ADHD, and a little Aspergers. I just started my bachelor Applied Mathematics, and I never really had to work really hard for highschool. So right now i do have to do way more than im used to and im struggling, even though im incredibly blessed with great parents, i just have to get my shit together and study my *ss off. Hope ill make it
good
yo im a dyslexic ADHD'r, I am a geophysics grad, i started in pure maths and physics, but found University the first time i could chase my hyper focuses, now Im a geologist. Go with the dopamine and it wont feel like studying, but learning :). Also I found uni alot easier on my dsylesxia as I could avoid classes with long form essays. Good luck, you wont need it ;)
A great example that no one else cares, and that you're on ur own. Proud of your journey, bro
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4:57 good enough is good enough, excelling wont get you anything, most of the time. except if you really want to, but even then its still good enough is good enough.
No it's not, good enough gets you the base level, excelling is what puts you ahead of everyone else and gives you the opportunities. If your just good enough your like everyone else
@@coldshock5181and excelling isn't necessary for things you don't care about doing. You don't need to excell at math when you're tryna be a liberal arts artist. You don't need math beyond basics and spreadsheets for finances. You don't need to understand tech beyond a base level as almost any person. Using an iPhone and windows is fine for anyone who doesn't care for it beyond their job. Excelling at everything all the time is exhausting asf
I know Linus wont see this, but I think it's an important lesson to teach your kids that we can't completely control whether we win or lose. You can do everything you possibly can and still lose, and that is always okay. I think the first thing was right, like, what matters is your try. I say this as someone who lived in a lot of stress, because all my self value was tied with winning.
08:32 It's easy for someone that was dealt a better hand to say that. I crashed hard during high-school, and for all my efforts I was only rewarded with not dying and living already close to two decades in nearly a constant growing state of burnout just from the effort of daily tasks at home. As Captain Picard once said, it is possible to do everything right and still lose. There is a point where telling people with disabilities that they're just not trying hard enough makes you an asshole and does them no good; it's not motivational, it's just another kick in the nuts.
edit: Ok, a little bit of self-awarenes came into them a little after in the vid
So, at one point Linus boldly claims that even if he'd dedicated his life to becoming an astronaut from when he was 2, he say's he wouldn't possibly be able to do it. But 5 minutes later, they're talking about armless drift car drivers? How does that make any sense, claim that it's simply impossible for him to have done some things but then talk about people overcoming legitimate physical obstacles?
My generation (same as Linus) got a slightly different lecture: Do you want to go to university or do you want to be a loser?
Irony is that if i went into the trades I'd be out earning my entire high school graduating class (aside from one doctor and one formula 1 driver)
this is a myth, university educated people far out earn people in trades on average
@@AbeYousef what ever you need to tell yourself
@@adamblyth9972 it's just a fact they're also talking about biz majors too lol
The irony is that you SHOULD NOT got to uni, you should go to a community college.
@@AbeYousef especially in todays age! (lol!)
5:48 the curse of all gifted kids
Honestly for me it’s just like “I don’t wanna do this shit it was easy then I fell apart cuz I gave up on caring”
I'm 22 without a drivers license. Because here in germany it costs 2000€ if you do it at a cheap driving school with the minimum amount of lessons required and ace both tests on the first try (written and practical).
Most people nowadays have to spend something around 2500€ and 3500€ and i just couldn't afford that at 18 (neither could my parents). And while i am in the financial position now, where i can pay that in cash right now, i just don't see the need for my own car. I make due with asking my peers and using public transport (which is pretty shit, but still miles ahead of north america).
I don't think having a license is a required life skill. Maybe in north america but most defintey not in germany (or many other european countries).
It doesn't feel like a limitation until it becomes one. Then it becomes one fuck of a limitation.
Do yourself a favour. Get your license.
That way, no matter what happens in life you won't miss an opportunity for lacking it (moving to new places for a good job or something like that)
North America has very little transit so it’s more of one here
Location and other life situations are going to matter so much, even in Europe where public transport tends to actually exist enough you can get to many places no more than a few hours slower (and often actually faster with the relatively good high speed trains) than if you drove directly point to point there are places public transport isn't good enough, or as is the case in the UK ruinously expensive (though that varies so much across the nation last time I really looked) much of the time.
Not everyone lives in a city/town large enough to have public transport worth having anyway, or could afford it as often as they would actually need to use it. Then even when it exists and they can afford it there are some serious practical limits - not going to the hardware store, IKEA, garden centre etc and bringing back most purchases on public transport, but in many cases delivery isn't all that practical or possible either - got to be in on whatever day it happens to arrive (which may or may not be the day expected) to accept the delivery, yet you also have to be at work to afford whatever you wanted in the first place...
Not that a personal vehicle is necessarily cheap either, so...
definitely is required in Wales. Honestly outside of the big 3 English cities public transport really doesn't cut it.
I had a lesson per week for about 6 months to pass in the UK but there's no requirement for this. Just pass your Theory and practical test and you're good to go.
Motorbike licenses are the expensive one here.
Recently passed the Motorcycle theory and I just bought a book for £10, did some hazard perception on a £5 app and then £23 for the test to pass, so fairly cheap so far.
However, CBT at around £150 followed by a direct access course for around £700-800 means you're definitely shelling out compared to car driving where a relative can just help you get practice for free.
Polish guy here. Driving license with decent skill of driving variety of cars, small trucks and VAN-s is a must-have to be truly independent. The more vehicles you can drive the better for you, because now you will not need to hire/ask anybody with driving license and car for help when doing some major activities, for example moving your furniture with equipment from one apartment to another, buying materials and supplies during renovation of flat / house, or just driving asap to hospital with somebody (maybe your wife in labor?) instead of calling ambulance and waiting. This skill is crucial in modern world, many things depends on it.
If you tried your best and didn’t win, that isn’t the end 90% of the time. You just try again, until your best is enough to win if you really want that win. However, a lot of the time you realize you actually don’t care if you win or not, because that win isn’t meaningful enough to you. Your quality as a person is defined by choosing what to focus on and working towards that, and hopefully you win. If you don’t, then you can honestly die happy because you know you gave it your all. If someone says you aren’t worth anything because you haven’t won something they deem to be substantial, fuck them.
Luke has such huge uncle energy at 1:34, I love it!
Going through math and being taught you can only substract using a smaller number. Then learning that was a lie and that negative numbers exist lol
I think the driving opinions are very america / Canada centric. In a lot of European countries you can get by without a car very well. Especially in an emergency, public transport and biking are always faster, than a car
That’s one of the best things my mom told me “you can ether use your disorder to make excuses or you can use it to motivate you to do better and work harder” and I think about that constantly and every time I think about something not being fair or life is harder for me, I ask myself if “I’m gonna use it as an excuse or to work hard harder”.
I had to take my driver's test in an old junky SUV with way more power than I was used to, was way heigher up than I was used to, and had brakes so bad I had to get out of my seat and stand on the brake to make it stop
The cost of a driver license is very differently priced in countries. In Denmark it costs over 4K USD for the license, so it's not just a small cost that everyone just pays if they don't plan on driving in the near future.
I'm 19 rn and have my learners license, but here in Australia we have to do 100 hrs driving and get through a really gruelling test in order to be able to drive on an open license. We only have 1 car, and my Mum doesn't drive. Dad's always working, so it's just so difficult for me to get hours up consistently (so I don't get rusty) that I don't even wanna bother.
Having a car and paying for a license is so expensive too, not to mention the cost of fuel. Public transport here is literally $0.50
Linus being a good dad was not what I expected. Good job.
I mean, in north America being able to drive is important for sure, but if you are a european who is not part of the 20 percent rural population, chances are you will be completely fine without one. As a bonus you will have saved yourself the hefty price that driving licences cost here, at the age were you could make most use of that money for other things like travel.
Very true.
I had a parental control thing on the computer of my parents which was the only one I was allowed to use. I learned pretty early that the program could be shut down by killing a process in the task manager, which caused the program to not do anything anymore.
This conversation brings be back to why I think children's media needs to include an element of discomfort. Like movies from the 80s that had scary moments in otherwise happy or impactful stories. When I was growing up in the mid 2000s, we were told all the time we could be anything we wanted to be. And I remember the last year I did the Pinewood Derby in scouts was the first year that everyone got a participation trophy. And I was upset about that as a child. Children need to experience loss and failure and coming up short despite trying their best. That way they experience those feelings and learn how to deal with them. Otherwise we become toddlers with credit cards where every negative experience is "trauma".
Pinewood derby it's probably best to do participation trophies
Raingutter makes more sense to have actual trophies
Fascinating that driving is a fundamental skill needed in Canada.
In Ireland you can happily get away without it for a long long time. But then again. Public transport is famously bad in Canada/America lol
So what is it that people learn in business school, everything that was mentioned, communication, pitching, how to sell a product/idea, how to hold a meeting, all of that I learned while getting an engineering degree in addition to the specialized knowledge i would need to be an engineer. And every time there was an interdisciplinary project, the business school people were always worse at doing actual work, both in terms of motivation and actual ability to accomplish work in the project than any other discipline, STEM or humanities. So what do they learn, because in my experience they dont seem to do anything at all.
Business degrees are mostly just something to get for your resume. I learned business topics in my STEM degrees as well, particularly in my Masters degree. I now work as a consultant in an engineering/science industry, which gives me a good mix of both worlds.
The best advice my dad ever gave me was telling me "I wasn't hungry enough". I didn't necessarily get it as a sophomore or junior in highschool or whenever but it never left my mind.
for me personally i had to end up going to a MULTITHOUSAND DOLLAR PAID (grandma paid for it i am fucking blessed) after school help program because my grades were so bad from my adhd, i hated but i made it though and im GENUINELY SO GLAD I PUT THE TIME IN NOW. I WON.
As someone in business school my classes cover the science behind a business function. My Marking and Distribution class covers marketing obviously but also why companies market the way they do, the different channels, the evolution, whats on the horizon. And how the customer fits into the equation as the person companys market to.
lol. My problem is that even if I try to join a high demand trade in my area, I still can't seem to get hired
Yeah, the issue in my area is, while licensed tradespeople are in high demand, apprentices are not. Every tradesperson who is training apprentices has a waiting list a mile long.
So many people started flocking to them.
So even trades are now getting congested as well.
I spent elementary without internet and high school without mobile internet. That made me it easy to be good student, curiosity was satiated at school, and curated books and television. And during the high school years, the internet was not available to entertain during class, so to not be bored, I happily interacted with the lessons. I cannot imagine the challenges for parents and schools now. I just missed the transition of "Wow, knowledge is at your fingertips" to "Wow, what bullshit is out there, we need to start curating again". Internet use was fun, exciting, encouraged, not perceived to be as dangerous or harmful yet.
23:15 How expensive is it even to get a regular car license in Canada anyway? I Norway, roughly 10 years ago when I took the license, it wasn't uncommon to be spending around 5000 CAD for your license, and I don't see that having gotten any cheaper now if I were to check the prices now. As for trucks, the first "Truck" license would have easily cost up to around 19k CAD 10 years ago, too.
5:33 "Raw creative dragon energy?!😂😂😂" Linus channeling his inner Lucy? 😅
0:56 tool reference
Driving stick is the only way to drive a car. It's so much more engaging and gives you a much better feel and understanding of the transmission. It sucks in traffic to be constantly having to depress and release the clutch, just to move a couple of meters and then have to do it all over again, but otherwise it is the superior driving experience.
I'd argue that people drive much better in a manual because of how much more moving parts that you're responsible for
Oh Linus. Being strict just makes sneaky kids. You caught him, sure, but he’ll find other work arounds.
I mean he addressed that very point in the clip, kids will inevitably lie and at least attempt workarounds and having proper conversations with them about it instead of just punishing them is definitely the right move
That's a valuable life skill though. You don't do it to an extreme of course, but understanding the large gray area is something that if you have to learn it later on you'll have a lot of trouble with it. Being too nice just makes you a victim.
as a teenager that had to deal with my dad who liked trying to control everything i found SO many workarounds and exploits in family link(the software my dad put on my phone) including using the emergency call feature to access the contacts menu to access settings through another menu where i could then access system apps including google,until my dad found it and fixed it,i then found other small exploits and abused them to high hell,i eventually learned a lesson from it,if you find an exploit that you want to use for personal gain,dont abuse it in an obvious way,do not let your hubris be your downfall
when i was in high school few years ago i was in the "special classes", there was a teacher aid that would help the kids that had a learning deficiency. but she would talk to them like babies. i made it clear that you wont talk to me like that, but like a normal human being.
The number one thing parents should learn (if they didn't already know) is that there's no use trying to protect your kids from the real world and instead teach them how to protect themselves (and others) about the dangers and pitfalls that are out there in the real world! Shielding your kids is all good and well but you don't want to shield them to he point they don't know how to deal with the world on their own!
It's like the saying, give a man a fish and he eats for a day, teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime! 🤔
Rather than shielding, whatever Linus did is also amazing
@@phillyjones3028 That's the point! Instead of trying to keep your children away from what lurks out there, teach them about it and how to stay as safe as they can be from it! Linus does just that, he makes sure they know what's going on and that makes them trust him and he can trust them in return!
The number one rule about any type of relationship with another human being is, if you want a good relationship with someone, be open and clear in your communication! That is by far the most important thing and it sounds pretty straight forward because it actually is! If you trust someone, you're far more likely to feel comfortable telling that person things that you find hard to talk about and having that kind of trust and connection with your own children is paramount if you want them to grow up and be well equipped to face the world! 🤔
The 'it matters if you win' thing is actually extremely important. I find it concerning that you bring up a sports game, where the top sports psychologists say that trying your best is the most important thing, otherwise it will hurt your psychology. Teaching your kids that winning is more important than trying might make them more successful materially but it will harm their psychology. You need space to fail or you won't try. A life of peace and prosperity is as much a success as being a millionaire.
the driving thing is 100% only for americans/canadians. its just not that important in Europe.
Depends on where you live, a LOT.
In Germany there are many places where you can't get most jobs without a license.
And its getting worse politicians are obviously in the pocket of the local car industry and they are slowly ruining public transport. Rails for example peaked in the 80s. Yeah, that bad.
Ireland wants to have a word.
@@fgregerfeaxcwfeffece hearing stuff like that always make me happy that I live in Russia. The public transport here is amazing, especially in Moscow. Plus you often don't even need any transport, as it is common to have several supermarkets and pharmacies in the same city block (for pharmacies specifically you often have several in the same building for some reason). There's usually also several cafes, restaurants, more specialized shops in a 15 minute walking radius. I live in a smaller city and I just walk everywhere.
@@ForOne814you just officially listed every advantage of living in Russia 😂
@@kaitek666 nuh-uh. Also cheap electricity and other utilities, cheap, fast and stable Internet, way better gun and self-defense laws than on average in Europe, probably the best digital state services, and also just more FREEDOM™ than in EU.
I get where Linus is coming from about driving, and I respect it. My parents thought the exact same as him. But I do think times are super different here in the UK.
I did get my license, but I hugely regretted it. It cost me time and a huge amount of money at a time when I needed resources the most.
I ended up passing my test without the ability to get a car cos of the cost.
For me, just the insurance would have stopped from being able to get my apartment. (£4500/yr).
I never drove again after the day passed my test. I was so excited not to drive, just because it was over and I could get on with my life.
I know that many will have a totally different experience, especially in NA. My city is super walkable, for example.
I am 27 years old, always wanted a driver's license, but I grew up to poor to afford one (I am from Norway), and now I have bad tourette so I can't get one. Please please please, don't take things for granted, If you have the ability to get a certification, a license , an education, something other people can't afford or obtain easily for some reason, get it. Don't let opportunists go because you couldn't bother
In the USA, even someone with learning disabilities can get a Driver's License as long as they are 16 yrs old.
For FREE.
It is different here. You do not need to pay anything.
@@LeftJoystick I had to pay for mine in PA
@@LeftJoystick It was the opposite for my father in my formerly socialist country. He had to pay but he only learned how to drive after he had passed the test.
There's a Russian Reversal in there somewhere.
Yeah, Nordic and Western European countries are basically anti car nowadays, even if they don't provide any other means of *reliable* transportation *(I'm looking at you Germany)*
that laugh luke gave after the little man figured out a clever work around was pure pride in little man
i paused it in his laugh only to hear him come right out and say hes proud lol
I think the better conversation with kids is, you can do anything you want to do, if you are also willing to make the required sacrifices. With very little exceptions anybody can be capable of doing anything, but almost everybody is not willing to make the sacrifices that would be required.
No. You still can't do stuff you can't do. Not everyone can be a top-performing body-builder. Genetics matter in general, but especially in sports.
Bullshit
Gavin has said on the RT pod he decided against driving in America partly cause if he ever got into a serious accident he wouldn’t want to end up getting his green card/visa pulled from him and sent back to the UK.
Honest?
Just one example: linus installs new tv.
-did you sit on this tv?
-No! *just sat on tv*😂.
Gullible linus.😊
The best piece of advice that was told me from an older male friend of mine before he got hit by a bus is life is nor easy nor hard, it’s what u make of it. If u make it hard then it’s going too be hard or if u make it easy then it will be easy for u. So make is easy on urself not any harder then it needs to be. Linus u r a great dad and his wife is a great mom. Lots of love from a fellow Canadian
24:20 Wait they don’t have special learning cars in America to take your driving exam in? In the eu you drive in a learning car with 2 sets of pedels one for the driver and one for the examinator so is something goes wrong he can intervene!
In germany a divers license costs over 3000€. You have to drive with a professinal teacher for many hours. And the theoretic and practical Tests are hard and can add additional cost if you fail the first time
22:28 me convincing my girlfriend to get her license.
It's nice to hear that Linus actually talks to his kids' about issues, well, without really knowing how .. but so many parents I've seen just openly admit to lying to their kids, advocating for dishonesty and disrespect, then being mad when their kids return the favor. Kids should be able to talk to and trust their parents to respect them.
Linus. Fren. Even if you have ADHD it's not your place to tell other people with ADHD what their capabilities are, that they need to just decide to win. You don't know them or their condition to make those judgements. It's entirely valid for it to be much worse or different for them in ways that can't be worked with the way you do. You're engaging in the equivalent of saying "Just stop being sad" when you yourself should know better.
1:35 Luke is such a good "Uncle" figure lol
(~) 7:30 I had great teachers in my schooling years, except for 3rd grade.
I think part of the reason many people arent getting their liscences right away is covid disrupting everything. Around me a bunch of driving instructors quit, and test centres shut down. So now, if you want to learn there is a waitlist for instructors, months of waiting for the test, and lessons are £40+ an hour. Itd gonna take a long time to get back to baseline.
14:27 another great moment that cemented these two's relationship
8:00
linus forgetting a disablity is some times debilitating and cant just be "get over it"'
not actually that mad or really care but just saying people need to stop confusing excuses's and explanations
oh thats for sure, i HATE that you are just making excuses attitude.
@@SimonBauer7 what?
A lot of this is so on point. Especially the, "You can be anything," while showcasing only a minimal amount of professions.
11:00 wow, you guys took that way too seriously... The point was that statistically you all had a chance, and for those who wanted something so bad, they should work toward that. Oh, and by the way, that could be you on the moon next. And clearly, that person has been born and was taught by people.
No matter what you do, no matter how hard you try, you will never become a top athlete if you don't have good genetics for it. And that's just one example where it's both well-researched and obvious.
I love my parents so much, but they didn’t have these conversations with us. I can absolutely SEE where it has affected me, especially just working in the family business. I’ve run off of natural talent for so long and was never REALLY pushed to work incredibly hard on stuff. It’s slow to build, but super important.