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Watching this as a mom of boys and I clearly need to up my game on parenting because I have realised women are taught from an early age to be slaves and 'vumilia' nonsense but men are not taught to take care of their women. So sorry for what you went through 😢. Proud of you for the big move and choosing yourself 🎉
The best comment I have read! However kids take in so much from observing so if husbands also do not treat their wives, kids carry this behaviour forward into their future relationships.
how and why was this beautiful lady tolerating that man. she has the looks,the brains,the figure, the vibe and also wife material. any man worth his salt would know she is a gem
This lady was just there coz of money and what the man was providing for her coz i still don't understand how one can be so stupid to accommodate such a man even if u have kids with him
Forgive your self baby girl ...and kudos for having the courage to walk away. Sorry for everything you went through and thank you for sharing. You are young beautiful and you have your whole life ahead of you.
This is the woman who turns mere man into a King...if you find this kind honor her and love her the right way...i respect you Sandra..you didn't have to go through that..but am glad you took it positively.. Everything serves you for good in this life ❤
After nlipata mtoi he told me do you know what nawependa nyote na baby mama wake later on akanunuliwa plot akajengewa nikasubiri nyumba imalizwe mind you yenye nilikua naishi n 3bedroom yake two bedroom vile ilikuwa yafanyiwa finishings he told me ntakuwa naishi mara huku mara kule kwingine nikamwambia hamia kwa baby mama kabisaa uwe unakuja kutusalimia once in a while akajam mind you i was planning my exit nikajua house warming iko almost nilimove out sijui what happened baby mama pia hawako pamoja sai jamaa wangu ako confused with two houses ameziturn guess house anakula anything that is breathing 😅😅😅😅😅bt child support anatuma sai am typing this nikiwa kwa one bedroom happy n in peace jamaa analewa tuuu namhurumia but he never cared akifa ntawaita burial 😅
As a person who has dated a narcissist,am here not judging her... people have gone through shit in relationships ni vile people don't give their stories...unapata nguo za dem he apologizes u move..... some things don't make sense and are unbelievable until u go through them
Am in that relationship now am tired and now l know am dating narcissist l found clothes in her house last weekend and he was shouting to me saying kama unaona sikufai toka huende
@@judymulewa9302 through my experience I won't tell you break up because it took me time to say enough,we were in good terms when he woke up one day not picking my calls the next thing ni message saying "am sorry am now married move on" .......I know one day u will be able to feel it's ENOUGH, and the day that time comes it will be a proper GOODBYE....my goodbye came with no links with him at all...hakuna kufuatilia maisha yake ama sitaki mtu aniambie about maisha yake...no following him on social media.. with that it helps the process of healing and moving on
Sandra thank you for sharing. You are a living testimony of however bad it gets someone can make a comeback. There are many who feel they are too far gone and they have been in it too long to get out. Am sure it's not easy to lay your goofs bare like this. You are a gem.
This lady has a great heart. I hope she finds the love of her love. She probably is innocent loves sincerely. I cannot even say she is naive. She is just a great hearted and may God bless her.
I haven't finished watching but I really hope Sandra told us WHY she did this. I hope she has unpacked her issues and figured out why she allowed all this to happen to her, what was lacking? As a parent of a girl, I am so curious to know because this story makes me soooo sad and I Ould love to know what I should do as a mum to prevent this. Pole sana Sandra.
Not judging or anything but from looking at repetitive patterns if you lack the presence of a male figure (father) the girls tend to vumilia anything from any man that 1st shows them love.....(siko sure but my observation from many girls)
She was never shown the boundaries in a relationship. She had no good adult male role models in her youth. Narcissistic abusers also start by lovebombing you in order to get close to you and learn your insecurities and weaknesses. They later use them to manipulate you. They
Im really sorry,was in a similar situation.Exactly the same .It was so hard to detach myself from him.Narcissist they all share same traits.They never change !!
I can't judge her ,, people pass through much in the name of maintaining a relationship/marriage.May we always find the courage to know we can thrive alone
Maan this sounds like a movie kwanza Nigerian.. Ati women tolerating each other.. The way this man was behaving like a king 👑.... Women should love themselves n choose yourself...Sandra you very pretty n you deserve better 💕..
sad story but funny. i can't judge Sandra coz i can relate. dealing with a naccisist can be stressing and confusing especially kama wewe nidem hapendi drama na uko always understanding. Ata ublock such guy they will still call you na different contacts and endless apologies na matharao and the cycle continues. Never sacrifice your mental health to meet anybodys expectations.
😂😂😂 Lydia vile unajishika in distress, siting in silence and the pauses you take to digest the content..Lakini hii story ata haifikii SCI-FI. Ata mimi sielewi HOW all this happened. Is it an age thing/naivety?.. need for financial support?, parental traumas..ama..??
This men know what they are doing and wen we can't voice ourselves we hurt alot and healing takes a toll on us and fear gets the better part of our lives.thanks for ur story and sorry for wat u went through
Lydia how many times have u been asked umeget na huget 😂😂😂coz nikama ata huamini woii,hii yote ju ya poverty coz hii yote ni ju ya financial issues kama ageweza kujiweza am telling u hage entertain huyu jamaa, another thing parental love pia ju wooi ju sandra alicorruptiwa mind na huyo mtu wa kwanza kumfanya achukie mum yake,sandra wherever u r uko beautiful sana u deserve the better nd lemmi tel u trur love exist nd utapata wako
I have cried juu Sandy reminds me of what i through the last two years. I lost my sanity but aa from December i walked out but sio easy. Mine had two baby mamas. I saw fire ... enyewe some of us have good heart but hardly get good men. I said to myself 2024 najipenda.
I admire Sandra's calm nature and willingness to share her story despite the unfortunate experience. God is still faithful and saved her in time. She is a jewel who deserves better
Pole for what yu went through sandra.. All i can say is this man is not done with you.. Be very careful .. May God keep you safe beautiful!!sending hugs and prayers.
Am so sorry Sandra... May God uplift you and help you encounter true love.. And most importantly let us all learn how to love ourselves more... I am still learning this too.. Hugs girl
I'm shocked that among all the pple she sent the notification, even the mom, all didn't show up throughout.. guys, love yourselves and leave these toxic relationships...don't die for anyone..
What you are doing Lydia will go a long way to bring light... Thank you Sandra for sharing, it is not easy but you gathered the courage to save another soul. May God continue to heal you. Wishing you a blissful life, God will repay you for every tear, every pain. At His appointed time, He will make things right.
This story is just shocking. Thought it had reached the end, then another twist and another. Really glad Sandra got out and is alive and is now well and thriving!
At least you were able to follow the story…Sandra kept breaking into your local dialect and even though I tried to follow, I got so lost! Please have your guests stick to English. Some of us don’t speak your language. After writing this comment I had to sign off. Quite discouraging. It’s one thing if the show is not in English.
Sandra was my classmate back in high school and if theres one thing i loved about her was her laughter ,we didn’t have much in common but that was her most beautiful trait and i hate what that guy did to her 🥹😭
Omg just watched this and can't believe that u went through all that and u still strived.It was kinda funny esp u n the baby mama having days to choose it was so sad and am glad u finally managed to come out looking better then before
Your a very beautiful and strong lady who didnt deserve that. But naelewa love is blind and the moment man knows you love him deeply he will really take advantage of you and will treat you like a dog. Regrets comes later when they have lost you. I been through a similar situation but now am doing better. Love ur self first dear.
I'm sorry girl for what you went through...thank God for giving me a small heart that can't accommodate much😀my patience is 0.01% i always give 1 chance,if no change najikata mapema mapema. I can't trade my peace with anything, my sanity and peace comes 1st.
The guy was a narcissist... and trauma bonding had grown hadi makosa she was willing to cover up for all his mistakes...sorry for what you went through and for taking such a decision of leaving
Waaaah inaitwaa mapenzii,,big up Sandy,, you've inspired me alot,,,"" you cannot change someone who is not willing to change by himself """ go go gurl ❤❤❤❤
Hii story it's unique..lakini from the word go sandra age toka Kwa hiyo relationship akomboe nyumba yake ..she made this guy see how desperate she was for him...this guy was a narcissist..and very selfish human
This is alot but I totally understand. In my case he told me that my family sent him to tell me to stop bothering them with my issues😢. He alienated me completely, physically and emotionally abused me. Took years to get out.
Hi. Thanks for the lovely interview with Sandy, very insightful. I hope young ladies out there are learning a thing or two from this story about self-worth and not settling for less. Also glad that she survived and has overcome the trial of her previous relationship. Just some constructive feedback to you Lydia, please try and avoid touching that microphone while in the midst of an interview. You did so a couple of times (not sure why) and it was distracting. Otherwise, continue with the good work.
This was so hard for me to watch. Like what the fuck???? Sandra you are really strong for enduring all those shenanigans. Thanks for sharing but most importantly for walking out of that situationship
Have learned we should never make excuses for a man also we should never let a man disrespect us,love our self more so that we know what we can't tolerate, hugs mama
Wuuueeeeeeehh! Pole sana Sandra! This man injured you emotionally and psychologically and made you lose your sense of pride. I am glad you managed to step out of that entanglement. You are lucky there was no baby, he is/was a toxic man. I also hope you sought therapy.
Baby gal....huyo msee knew how far he could go. No matter how much you love msee...Fu.....ng. another woman is disrespect of the highest order. Some women stay because ya watoto....others because hawana finances. Hiyo yako.....hapana.😮😮😮
Ohh God, that man is sick.His friends should make him realise that and get help.Sorry Sandra for what you went through.You were trapped with a mentally sick person.😢
Men are the worst friends ever. As long as the guy is buying drinks for them, they don't care. Number 2 narcissist are two-faced. One personality for his friends and family another the women in his life.
Thank God you didn't get pregnant for him.Would have been harder to get out. Thank God for your mom for standing by you even when you disrespected her. Take your time to love thyself first. Wiser with experience! Hugs girl ❤
U are such a beautiful soul..❤ thanks for the interview.i have dated Him 4years..i never saw the red flag after i went abroad he proposed to another woman.. apart from the gf i used to know when i asked him weeeeh..akaanza kua rude..nkafeel bt sahii ataj nlimsahau...
Hehehe Hiyo ni narcissistic 💯. Hangemuacha haraka because of the trauma bond. Yaani all the traits za narc like manipulation, hyper sexuality, isolation, love bombing 😂😂😂
I think Sandra was very naive in the matters concerning marriage or so... that was so hard... I also went through such but mimi ni wa madrama😅...gather yourself again you deserve much much better, you're a gem gal
Hi Lydia, wow I am so happy seeing you progressing in your endures. More Grace and God's blessings are on your way coming darl❤. We are here to support you gal. Good work.
Lydia am watching this episode and am just like 'waah, the odesity of that man' but Sandra is a warrior woman and full of kind heart ❤️ loving this episode totally
The audacity of this man was just mind blowing. We all invite what we allow. Ladies, hata kama wewe ni mpole, jipende kwanza. Vuruga mapenzi fake fake kama haya. Nenda zako dada. Hata Jesu alivuruga virago pale hekaluni. Again, the audacity of such guys is a result of what we allow. Let’s not give in to people pleasing nature of being a nice person hadi ata you pick up the phone of a coward like this dude after amejaribu kukumaliza. That’s the day mtu atakula block, then I get a new number. What is meant for me will find me. BOTTOM LINE: Ladies, tafadhali tujipende kuliko hii mapenzi ya kata na shoka!
I am sorry for what you had to go through. Do not blame yourself for staying too long in a relationship that wasn't serving you anymore. Understand that childhood trauma or your inner child wounds will have you overstaying in situations just to try and prove you are loved. Your inner child was in control here and your adult self(who is rational) was just an observer. Forgive yourself and foster awareness. Hope you are healing from all this. All the best.
From agreeing to date him along his baby mama to getting beat almost to death the same day he proposed to her, what happened and how did @sandy_touches_ escape?
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Please make this story a series😅 can you please interview the girlfriends and baby mama 🙏🏾🙏🏾
The hardest thing is forgiving yourself for accepting trash 😢 Much love ❤
Watching this as a mom of boys and I clearly need to up my game on parenting because I have realised women are taught from an early age to be slaves and 'vumilia' nonsense but men are not taught to take care of their women. So sorry for what you went through 😢.
Proud of you for the big move and choosing yourself 🎉
Makes sense, right!
So wise of you
The best comment I have read! However kids take in so much from observing so if husbands also do not treat their wives, kids carry this behaviour forward into their future relationships.
Very well said.
how and why was this beautiful lady tolerating that man. she has the looks,the brains,the figure, the vibe and also wife material. any man worth his salt would know she is a gem
We live and we learn ❤️
Daddy issues mixed up with wutoto
This lady was just there coz of money and what the man was providing for her coz i still don't understand how one can be so stupid to accommodate such a man even if u have kids with him
Stupidity
And she's so cute, humble and understanding.
I agree ❤️
Forgive your self baby girl ...and kudos for having the courage to walk away. Sorry for everything you went through and thank you for sharing. You are young beautiful and you have your whole life ahead of you.
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I don't know why I'm crying....I'm not judging you girlfriend I went through almost the same thing but God has been Ebenezer to this far.
What a lovely strong lady. So beautiful . So graceful. Glad that you chose yourself and your life.
Sandra is my client i cant imagine with the good heart she has sm1 made her go thru all that..hugs my gal God will restore u❤
She is a sweet soul she deserves better🙆🏿♀️🙆🏿♀️🙆🏿♀️
This is the woman who turns mere man into a King...if you find this kind honor her and love her the right way...i respect you Sandra..you didn't have to go through that..but am glad you took it positively.. Everything serves you for good in this life ❤
For the fast time nimewatch confession 1:35:00 without forwarding, great job Lydia..
After nlipata mtoi he told me do you know what nawependa nyote na baby mama wake later on akanunuliwa plot akajengewa nikasubiri nyumba imalizwe mind you yenye nilikua naishi n 3bedroom yake two bedroom vile ilikuwa yafanyiwa finishings he told me ntakuwa naishi mara huku mara kule kwingine nikamwambia hamia kwa baby mama kabisaa uwe unakuja kutusalimia once in a while akajam mind you i was planning my exit nikajua house warming iko almost nilimove out sijui what happened baby mama pia hawako pamoja sai jamaa wangu ako confused with two houses ameziturn guess house anakula anything that is breathing 😅😅😅😅😅bt child support anatuma sai am typing this nikiwa kwa one bedroom happy n in peace jamaa analewa tuuu namhurumia but he never cared akifa ntawaita burial 😅
As a person who has dated a narcissist,am here not judging her... people have gone through shit in relationships ni vile people don't give their stories...unapata nguo za dem he apologizes u move..... some things don't make sense and are unbelievable until u go through them
I totally agree 💯
Am in that relationship now am tired and now l know am dating narcissist l found clothes in her house last weekend and he was shouting to me saying kama unaona sikufai toka huende
@@judymulewa9302 through my experience I won't tell you break up because it took me time to say enough,we were in good terms when he woke up one day not picking my calls the next thing ni message saying "am sorry am now married move on" .......I know one day u will be able to feel it's ENOUGH, and the day that time comes it will be a proper GOODBYE....my goodbye came with no links with him at all...hakuna kufuatilia maisha yake ama sitaki mtu aniambie about maisha yake...no following him on social media.. with that it helps the process of healing and moving on
@@judymulewa9302na mbona hukutoka after kuambiwa Ivo?
@@getnakedwithlydia
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Sandra thank you for sharing. You are a living testimony of however bad it gets someone can make a comeback. There are many who feel they are too far gone and they have been in it too long to get out. Am sure it's not easy to lay your goofs bare like this. You are a gem.
She truly is a gem 💎❤️
This man will never find such a gem.
Mimi ata missed call am done😂
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You never know till you lose it
😂,if I don't have peace everyone will have no peace, you will bounce out of my territory
Weeeh i can't go beyond apo kwa hosi, parents let's teach our kids kujipenda hii ata si low self-esteem ni ujinga of the highest order
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Wueh aty kulala watatu...kwani ni threesome. This can't be me 😂😂
@@rachelwambui4459 it's cringe, for a sane person to condone such nonsense ,
Atakama ni mapenzi, kwani our beautiful ladies have lost common sense all in the name of love??
@@andrewkifee381 ni urimu
This lady has a great heart. I hope she finds the love of her love. She probably is innocent loves sincerely. I cannot even say she is naive. She is just a great hearted and may God bless her.
We live and we learn ❤️
She’s so beautiful, glad you realized yourself girl. Just be careful, narcissistic people don’t change.
She’s very fat and chubby and not wise at all
Sandra you're beautiful, you didn't deserve this madness. But your story gives us lots of lessons
Thank you so much❤️
I salute the lady in the way she handled the situation. That's an exemplary act of maturity in this age
she is soo beautiful 😍😍 hugs to her and to us who loved the wrong people 💔💔 but made it out safely even if we got kids
Hugs 🫂
Hats off to all people who fell in love with the wrong people
And didn’t lose their life 🙏
Hats off...😂😂😂😂 That did it for me
@@getnakedwithlydiammmm this is painful jamani can I get this lady's contact please
I have met Sandra once, such a sweet lady, I couldn't imagine she has gone through so much. God bless her, she deserves the best. More Grace Sandra.
I haven't finished watching but I really hope Sandra told us WHY she did this. I hope she has unpacked her issues and figured out why she allowed all this to happen to her, what was lacking? As a parent of a girl, I am so curious to know because this story makes me soooo sad and I Ould love to know what I should do as a mum to prevent this. Pole sana Sandra.
Very valid question/concern. Why did she stomach all that?
At the beginning she said she had teenage issues
Asking the same am a mother of two girls
Not judging or anything but from looking at repetitive patterns if you lack the presence of a male figure (father) the girls tend to vumilia anything from any man that 1st shows them love.....(siko sure but my observation from many girls)
She was never shown the boundaries in a relationship.
She had no good adult male role models in her youth.
Narcissistic abusers also start by lovebombing you in order to get close to you and learn your insecurities and weaknesses.
They later use them to manipulate you.
They
This story is entertainment🙆🏾♀️😅🔥weuh!! PLEASE LYDIA we want this to be a series. Please bring the other girlfriends & baby mama for the same.
Unfortunately that is not possible!
Siunipee huyu nioe
Im really sorry,was in a similar situation.Exactly the same .It was so hard to detach myself from him.Narcissist they all share same traits.They never change !!
They don’t!
Lets educate our daughters not to take rubish!
Lydia I love your silent face expressions. The things love makes us do wee
Sandra deserves the best ❤️❤️❤️ she got a big heart
She’s a gem 💎
Maan .,.hizi streets ni chafu....never allow a man to disrespect you this much!
We live and we learn ❤️
He has money and that's why he could manipulate them
Why not leave?
I can't judge her ,, people pass through much in the name of maintaining a relationship/marriage.May we always find the courage to know we can thrive alone
And there’s no shame in being alone!
Maan this sounds like a movie kwanza Nigerian.. Ati women tolerating each other.. The way this man was behaving like a king 👑.... Women should love themselves n choose yourself...Sandra you very pretty n you deserve better 💕..
Ive learnt alot by watching this video am only 22 yrs old na nafeel nimegain kitu apa
Don’t let your guard down 💯
This is too much😢😢 people have gotten big hearts thanks Lydia we always learn new things 🙏🏼
You’re welcome ❤️
sad story but funny. i can't judge Sandra coz i can relate. dealing with a naccisist can be stressing and confusing especially kama wewe nidem hapendi drama na uko always understanding. Ata ublock such guy they will still call you na different contacts and endless apologies na matharao and the cycle continues. Never sacrifice your mental health to meet anybodys expectations.
We live and we learn ❤️
Such a sweet soul you are Sandra,thanks for having the courage to share this,ave really learnt alot,may God continue protecting you gal❤❤
That guy will never move on because he knows he will never find a woman like you.
Exactly ,
😂😂😂 Lydia vile unajishika in distress, siting in silence and the pauses you take to digest the content..Lakini hii story ata haifikii SCI-FI. Ata mimi sielewi HOW all this happened. Is it an age thing/naivety?.. need for financial support?, parental traumas..ama..??
It’s just abuse!
This men know what they are doing and wen we can't voice ourselves we hurt alot and healing takes a toll on us and fear gets the better part of our lives.thanks for ur story and sorry for wat u went through
I agree 💯
Lydia how many times have u been asked umeget na huget 😂😂😂coz nikama ata huamini woii,hii yote ju ya poverty coz hii yote ni ju ya financial issues kama ageweza kujiweza am telling u hage entertain huyu jamaa, another thing parental love pia ju wooi ju sandra alicorruptiwa mind na huyo mtu wa kwanza kumfanya achukie mum yake,sandra wherever u r uko beautiful sana u deserve the better nd lemmi tel u trur love exist nd utapata wako
We live and we learn ❤️
I have cried juu Sandy reminds me of what i through the last two years. I lost my sanity but aa from December i walked out but sio easy. Mine had two baby mamas. I saw fire ... enyewe some of us have good heart but hardly get good men. I said to myself 2024 najipenda.
Very true
Was yours a Luo?
I admire Sandra's calm nature and willingness to share her story despite the unfortunate experience. God is still faithful and saved her in time. She is a jewel who deserves better
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Is this true😢..ngai..I can't.. you are one of a kind😮
Strong woman.i salute you...its like a movie
It’s a lot!
Girl you got patient... Am glad you realized your worth. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
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@@getnakedwithlydia could have napped like... 😔😔😔😔😔😔😏😏😏
Pole for what yu went through sandra.. All i can say is this man is not done with you.. Be very careful .. May God keep you safe beautiful!!sending hugs and prayers.
Yes safety is necessary 💯
Aaaw l have learnt so much from her. Thank you Sandra for sharing your story. Sending you lots of love and hugs 🫂 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
She’s a gem 💎❤️
Am so sorry Sandra... May God uplift you and help you encounter true love.. And most importantly let us all learn how to love ourselves more... I am still learning this too.. Hugs girl
Agreed ❤️
I'm shocked that among all the pple she sent the notification, even the mom, all didn't show up throughout.. guys, love yourselves and leave these toxic relationships...don't die for anyone..
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What you are doing Lydia will go a long way to bring light... Thank you Sandra for sharing, it is not easy but you gathered the courage to save another soul. May God continue to heal you. Wishing you a blissful life, God will repay you for every tear, every pain. At His appointed time, He will make things right.
Wow, thank you
I had a boyfriend who used to behave the same way. I thank God I managed to leave him it is 7 months now.
You did well 👏👏👏
Congratulations
Congrats
Yho! No amount of daddy issues should make any woman to allow themselves to go through this kind of nonsense!! WTF
I agree but we live and learn ❤️
@getnakedwithlydia yeah. When you know better you do better
Exactly what am thinking... This lady had mental problem to accept such a man
My heart is broken.. i cant 44:02... Sandra i am so sorry. Thank you for sharing your story and the courage to help so many others heal
This story is just shocking. Thought it had reached the end, then another twist and another. Really glad Sandra got out and is alive and is now well and thriving!
We live and we learn ❤️
At least you were able to follow the story…Sandra kept breaking into your local dialect and even though I tried to follow, I got so lost! Please have your guests stick to English. Some of us don’t speak your language. After writing this comment I had to sign off. Quite discouraging. It’s one thing if the show is not in English.
Sandra was my classmate back in high school and if theres one thing i loved about her was her laughter ,we didn’t have much in common but that was her most beautiful trait and i hate what that guy did to her 🥹😭
May God give you the favor and dignity you deserve...you are a heroine be blessed always 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Omg just watched this and can't believe that u went through all that and u still strived.It was kinda funny esp u n the baby mama having days to choose it was so sad and am glad u finally managed to come out looking better then before
Lydia you are naturally beautiful even without makeup 🥰 good content.
Thank you so much 🤗
Your a very beautiful and strong lady who didnt deserve that. But naelewa love is blind and the moment man knows you love him deeply he will really take advantage of you and will treat you like a dog. Regrets comes later when they have lost you. I been through a similar situation but now am doing better. Love ur self first dear.
"sisi wote tunaitwa babe, unajua ni wewe akikuangalia"😩😩😩laaawd
😂😂😂😂 T for tuff
@Sandra you are a strong woman, thanks for sharing.sorry for what you went through
Shes so pretty aki...pole sana Sandy for going thru that....may God give u a very good person ❤❤
She’s awesome ❤️
I have gone through shit in relationships lakini ya Sandra is heartbreaking...I'm glad she walked out❤ lots of love to my fellow women ❤
It is horrible 😪
I'm sorry girl for what you went through...thank God for giving me a small heart that can't accommodate much😀my patience is 0.01% i always give 1 chance,if no change najikata mapema mapema.
I can't trade my peace with anything, my sanity and peace comes 1st.
Resist the urge to chest thump.
The guy was a narcissist... and trauma bonding had grown hadi makosa she was willing to cover up for all his mistakes...sorry for what you went through and for taking such a decision of leaving
Absolutely 💯
Waaaah inaitwaa mapenzii,,big up Sandy,, you've inspired me alot,,,"" you cannot change someone who is not willing to change by himself """ go go gurl ❤❤❤❤
Exactly!
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Wueh 😢 woiii girls, usikubali such shit. Mtu anakuletea mwingine na unakaa tu. See how it ended. Thank God though she is well
We thank God no life was lost!
And the way she is beautiful aki...hawezi sema amekapitia.wanaume mnatakanga Nini surely
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That part of telling someone they are being abused and they refuse to leave.. so exhausting wueh!
Hii story it's unique..lakini from the word go sandra age toka Kwa hiyo relationship akomboe nyumba yake ..she made this guy see how desperate she was for him...this guy was a narcissist..and very selfish human
Very selfish and abusive!
This is alot but I totally understand. In my case he told me that my family sent him to tell me to stop bothering them with my issues😢. He alienated me completely, physically and emotionally abused me. Took years to get out.
Ooh dear glad you are now ok ❤️🫂
@@getnakedwithlydiahi Lydia can I get connection with this lady I like he she have big heart.
I'm so sorry for what you went through
Sandra you're so smart and humble its the guy and baby mama who are idiots,,,,
Sandra you have a good heart, kama ingekuwa Mimi, ningeacha tu akufe, Kuna madharau siwez vumilia
He lost such a nice heart,you pretty Sandra...you chose the right path..enjoy your carrier...greatness will find you.
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Wow my Namcy 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉good job tuko hapa nyuma supporting
Thanks 😊
Hi. Thanks for the lovely interview with Sandy, very insightful. I hope young ladies out there are learning a thing or two from this story about self-worth and not settling for less. Also glad that she survived and has overcome the trial of her previous relationship. Just some constructive feedback to you Lydia, please try and avoid touching that microphone while in the midst of an interview. You did so a couple of times (not sure why) and it was distracting. Otherwise, continue with the good work.
It had an issue so I was abit stressed but thanks 🙏
@@getnakedwithlydia We could hear you well, so also want sure what was up..
I cannot judge you. I was once a delulu too.
This was so hard for me to watch. Like what the fuck???? Sandra you are really strong for enduring all those shenanigans. Thanks for sharing but most importantly for walking out of that situationship
Me too, the number of WTFs I said while watching this wuueh
It was a lot but we thank God ❤️
Have learned we should never make excuses for a man also we should never let a man disrespect us,love our self more so that we know what we can't tolerate, hugs mama
Sandra has been a sweet soul since we were in highschool am happy to see her still glowing
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Proud of this girl. Greatness is with her. May God open new doors. New begging.
Blessed
Wuuueeeeeeehh! Pole sana Sandra! This man injured you emotionally and psychologically and made you lose your sense of pride. I am glad you managed to step out of that entanglement. You are lucky there was no baby, he is/was a toxic man. I also hope you sought therapy.
Agreed 💯
😮Three some is real madness of highest level aki.. No integrity , no self love no self worth even self value
Baby gal....huyo msee knew how far he could go. No matter how much you love msee...Fu.....ng. another woman is disrespect of the highest order. Some women stay because ya watoto....others because hawana finances. Hiyo yako.....hapana.😮😮😮
We live and we learn ❤️
This is someone y'all should mention his name for the purposes of warning ⚠️ other girls in future.....this is so painful 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Unfortunately we can’t for legal issues!
Ohh God, that man is sick.His friends should make him realise that and get help.Sorry Sandra for what you went through.You were trapped with a mentally sick person.😢
He needs to seek help!
Men are the worst friends ever.
As long as the guy is buying drinks for them, they don't care.
Number 2 narcissist are two-faced.
One personality for his friends and family another the women in his life.
Thank God you didn't get pregnant for him.Would have been harder to get out. Thank God for your mom for standing by you even when you disrespected her. Take your time to love thyself first. Wiser with experience! Hugs girl ❤
You are so kind ❤️
You’re smart, beautiful and going places. Make right choices, for life is too short
Yes! Thank you!
U are such a beautiful soul..❤ thanks for the interview.i have dated Him 4years..i never saw the red flag after i went abroad he proposed to another woman.. apart from the gf i used to know when i asked him weeeeh..akaanza kua rude..nkafeel bt sahii ataj nlimsahau...
Glad that you chose to walk away for your own peace!
Hehehe Hiyo ni narcissistic 💯. Hangemuacha haraka because of the trauma bond. Yaani all the traits za narc like manipulation, hyper sexuality, isolation, love bombing 😂😂😂
It was a lot!
This Sandra is good in story telling,i have re-watched this like 50times
Aki Sandy is super calm.
Sorry you went through all that.
She’s a gem 💎
Sadly it's the calm ones that fall victim
I think Sandra was very naive in the matters concerning marriage or so... that was so hard... I also went through such but mimi ni wa madrama😅...gather yourself again you deserve much much better, you're a gem gal
She does!
Hi Lydia, wow I am so happy seeing you progressing in your endures. More Grace and God's blessings are on your way coming darl❤. We are here to support you gal. Good work.
Thank you 🙏
Sandra u have a golden heart that i can't have it,my baby dad is of the same character but i stood on No and i moved on with my boy
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I have heard many stories but this one is another level…
Lessons ❤️
Me too😢I had tears watching this till the end
Madame si mnapitia huku nje. Poleni. Know that you are the PRIZE
This is called trauma bonding,once you get out, you feel great and happy. Its not easy though
True 💯
Lydia am watching this episode and am just like 'waah, the odesity of that man' but Sandra is a warrior woman and full of kind heart ❤️ loving this episode totally
The Hoe-dacity of that Luo
Thanks 😊
The audacity of this man was just mind blowing. We all invite what we allow. Ladies, hata kama wewe ni mpole, jipende kwanza. Vuruga mapenzi fake fake kama haya. Nenda zako dada. Hata Jesu alivuruga virago pale hekaluni. Again, the audacity of such guys is a result of what we allow. Let’s not give in to people pleasing nature of being a nice person hadi ata you pick up the phone of a coward like this dude after amejaribu kukumaliza. That’s the day mtu atakula block, then I get a new number. What is meant for me will find me.
BOTTOM LINE: Ladies, tafadhali tujipende kuliko hii mapenzi ya kata na shoka!
I am sorry for what you had to go through. Do not blame yourself for staying too long in a relationship that wasn't serving you anymore. Understand that childhood trauma or your inner child wounds will have you overstaying in situations just to try and prove you are loved. Your inner child was in control here and your adult self(who is rational) was just an observer. Forgive yourself and foster awareness. Hope you are healing from all this. All the best.
She is healing ❤️🩹
This is so well said. 🎉