Wow, I just realized my own mom is a toxic boy mom. I bought a house years ago and needed somewhere to stay for 60 days while I closed and asked my mom she sais no because my brother MIGHT want to come home. He was married by the way. And now that he's been divorced she still takes care of him financially and he is 56 years old!
Have you heard that joke about the Jewish woman that becomes president? At her inauguration, her mom whispers loudly to the person next to her, "you see that woman being sworn in? Her brother's a doctor." I mean I know it's about the fact that he's a doctor, but it's also a boymom thing...
My brother is a narcissist and I cut him off a year ago.. and I told my mom it is her fault that he is like this. Men are not held accountable, they are not “easier” to raise, it’s that no one wants to
@@pianokeys71 I’m not saying it’s a 100% my mothers fault, but she’s a big reason to why he is like this.. you can’t deny that. Men are not raised well or if at all and this video is about toxic boy moms
@@pianokeys71 no that's not are fault it's the mother fault. So don't just fucking sit there and blaming on her for not stopping her for being a"narcissistic". And she as the right to blame her mother, because I would to blame my mother for rising a narcissistic brother. And not held accountable for his actions he do. So in conclusion boys are "NOT" easier to raise.
@@pianokeys71 From the perspective that her mother cultivated that behaviour and created an upbringing where he developed those traits, yes she is accountable. She didn't say "entirely". Yes he is still accountable for his behaviour in his own right, too.
I mean you can't say "NO MEN ARE HELD ACCOUNTABLE" on account of some men. You wouldn't put all women in the same box either right? And if u believe "MeN aren't held accountable " then it does fall on mothers who raise them too. Thus toxic boy moms( women) are also accountable for not holding men accountable.
My mom was a toxic wannabe boy mom. My entire childhood was spent with her telling me how she always wanted a boy, how angry she was that I was a girl and the only child she ended up being able to give birth to. She even went as far as to dress me in boys clothes as baby and toddler until my aunts shamed her for trying to hide my gender. When she could no longer pretend I was a boy and I showed a strong natural alignment between my sex and gender as a girl, she became toxic towards me. When she found out my father had TWO sons with the woman he left her to marry, it was too much for her to handle. She really messed me up inside for years, had me feeling hated by her and she did not protect me from male predators in her family. She defended those men and turned a blind eye, while encouraging them. She actively favored her nephews and the sons of her friends. In her eyes, I was a failed attempt at her dream of motherhood. She could only feel like a proud mom if she had a boy. Funnily enough, I was a total mama's girl and craved her love and companionship. By the time she finally decided to give me a real chance, I was 14 and she died the next year. Now, I am grown and about to start my own family. I am glad my mother is dead because I would have had to deal with her playing favorites with my kids. The boy being seen as her second chance at FINALLY having a son, even though he would actually be MY son. I would have to fight to protect my daughter's heart from Grandma's toxic male favoritism. Also the fight about me being happy to have a girl, since I always wanted a daughter long before I developed a desire for a son. This is a nightmare I thankfully will not have to experience. I love both girls and boys equally now, so I will be happy as a mom either way. Both genders are fun and challenging in their unique ways. I look forward to parenting. 😊
Your mother lin law sounds like mine. She had an amazing love story with my husband's father (her husband) until he passed. Her relationship with my husband and now me is amazing and "normal".
Such a triggering topic for me! Fora very long time I dated a guy, who had a toxic boy mom, as I understand now. She always wanted to be a part of our relationship, she said to me a few times "before the man is not married, his mother is his wife" 🙃🙃 and she did a lot of many other things. And surprisingly he isn't raised as good as I thought he was. Anyway I was able to break free from these two people and now I feel so much lighter. I hope that when I meet a new man, his mom would be a good and kind human being.
Why do these women feel like the love for their son is the purest like do they do not give a s about their daughters. These girls/daughters deserve better mothers
Lemme tell you something. My first ex boyfriend's mom is a toxic boy mom. Especially since he's the baby. We got along at first but everything went downhill within a year. Fast forward to now... I was with a guy who has the BEST mom that I adore. Her and I are best friends since we worked together and she introduced me to him. We got closer after that and she still treats me like her own despite us being broken up. I still love the kid and that's one of the many reasons that I hope we work out in the end. The family makes a big difference in my book.
I’m glad this is being talked about more.. I feel like lots of these toxic moms are too far gone but these kinds of videos could help someone about to marry into this or SOMETHING
I need a recovered toxic boy mom to share how you end up in that role and whether or not those toxic MIL’s know/or care the way they make daughter in laws feel? It’d be wild to know that women are okay with hurting the woman their baby boy loves…a very twisted mindset for sure
It makes a lot of the men uncomfortable as well. Sometimes they're totally normal until their sonsband gets married, or the DIL has a baby, and the son is shocked too
First 2 years of my marriage, yep. Through much persistence, I'm lucky my husband eventually came around and so did my Mil. They meant well, but it took 2 years until that boundary could finally be set and actually honored. It did kinda fracture my relationship with my in laws though. We moved away this past year and its given me the opportunity to really build up my relationship with my husband while slowly rebuilding that relationship with my in laws.
I dealt with the most toxic boy mom as a mother-in-law. While dating my husband was so attentive to me I never saw what was coming. In reality he was in an emotional incestuous relationship with his mother. She came first Always 24/7/365. She told me she "was there first", called me horrific names, when ever we had plans to go out or on vacation she became "deathly ill and needed him by her side"; actually believed my husband was her husband first and to top it off wanted to take my newborn claiming it was "Her daughter - Her kid!" My husband would do nothing to straighten her out. Nothing! Divorce.
I pray for a good relationship with my future MIL. Happy to hear you have that 😁. I almost married a man who is enmeshed with his mother. It’s kind of sad because she’s married but her relationship with her husband is so dead. They just stay married just because. I remember during their 25 wedding anniversary asking her what is the secret to their long marriage and she said “I only stay for the kids.” 😵💫 Now that it’s been years later, I think she stays because she couldn’t survive financially without her husband. Sad 😞
It's crazy how the male worshipping culture treats women like independent people and men like children when it comes to holding them accountable. Women who come from male worshiping cultures and misogynistic are not protected and expected to be servants. But when it comes to making decisions about your love life, and career they are inclined to treat women like children. It's like women are not wanted unless they serve someone. You described my paternal family. My father is from a toxic evil boy mom who is male worshiping. So my dad can't do basic chores. Thinks he is more amazing than he really is. And doesn't hold him accountable. Neèdless to say that he is psychopath. But they work like witches to protect their sons. But not the same energy for their daughters.
Uummm, the "boy mom" in the South Asian or Asian context are on a whole different level. It's not even boy moms. It's most moms. The ones who treat their daughters equally are the rare ones. Tbf, I've noticed that their sons only have daughters. And then these women are totally lost. It's a little funny.
I just made a comment but my husband is one of two kids, both boys. His brother has one child, a girl. We have one, a girl, and another girl on the way lol Oh but she's not a toxic boy mom. She loves the feminine energy and wanted a granddaughter so badly that I was worried to have a boy lol. My husband and I did want a girl, as well, so happy for everyone
@@xletragedyx na, in my family, the ones obsessed with boys only got girls. I'm the only one that got a brother, my parents didn't care either way. My mom actually had to fight to have me (pre 1994). My cousin who was brainwashed by his own boy mom, has one daughter. His brother, who remained sane and a supportive husband has a son and a daughter. And his wife is not a boy mom. My neighbour aunty hated her own daughters. Now her 2 daughters have two daughters each and her son just had twin daughters and doesn't plan to have more kids. So...yeah. I think people obsessed with lineages and family names and such nonsense...karma says, I'm ending your line myself. Incidentally, my brother, the only male descendant on my dad's side doesn't even use the family name. Actually , we both just go by our first names.
@@simransimran9339 goes to show how stupid the south asian elders are. A womans Mitochondrial dna gets passed from mother to son and daughter. But only the DAUGHTER can pass her mito dna to her kids. So basically, a boy moms genetic lineage DIES with her son.
My grandma was the mother of four sons and she had a loving relationship with my grandpa. She was a far away from a toxic boy mom as you can be, she loved her daughters in law like they where her own childern and praised them often. ❤❤❤
Lots of things to think about. I never even considered that toxic boy moms could be pickmeishas of their days. I had been thinking that they had their claws in their sons strictly coz of traumatic reaction to not having any support of their own by their fathers and other menfolk of the family. Now I want to look into what creates a pickmeisha. What environment she grows up in that mould her thinking, personality and attitudes. I have to watch this clip a number of times. 💛💛💛💛💛
As a man raised by one, only by God’s help have I been able to distance myself and be an independent husband and father. As hard as it is, loving detachment from these types of mothers has to be done if a victim wants to break the cycle.
Wow I’ve been a pick me and a toxic boy mom but didn’t know it at the time. In 2020 I overhauled my entire life and through therapy I let go of internalized misogyny. This is so interesting to watch thanks for posting it!
As an Indian girl bonr in America with 100% Indian parents, I would like to say... my father was so angry that I was a daughter, but my mother always wanted a daughter. And my uncle hit me because I wasn't traditional enough,
Unfortunately even some women who were given attention and love by her husband end up being toxic boy mums cos outside their marriage they are still a pick me and are male centred
I'm soooo glad my husband's mom is awesome, welcoming and loving. But my former mother in law of my ex-husband made it her mission to break us up and it worked.
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My mother tried to seek the validation she wanted from my father in my brothers, and when all else failed she turned her attention onto me (the only daughter). I live with CPTSD because of the things she did to me, trying to take her anger and feelings of rejection out on me. I will never be a boy mom and will never compete with a grown ass woman ✌️ I've done too much healing to resort to that nonsense.
I remember my mother in law disrupt my marriage. My husband and I came on the same ground and began fixing our marraige at that time I was pregnant. He was also going through anxiety and having pretty bad anxiety attacks. We lived with her for a few months because we were out of a job in the height of covid. She always told my husband aggressively that I am the wife and he is the head so I should listen to him and obey him and I was not a push over I always stood my ground so she hated that I was strong headed. She wanted to control us. What we eat, what we did, our religion, how i cooked. She wanted my husband to work and give her money while he was taking care of me She was in constant competition with me and her daughter especially. .I remembered eavesdropping and hearing her asking my husband " How can you choose her over me'" i found it disgusting. I opened the door and shouted "enough is enough" my husband was sitting silently having an anxiety attack and I ask her "why are you turning my husband against me, i understand you supported your son when he needed the help but you need to let him go" she said "He is my son, i am not letting go of my son" she cussed me out and I told her "nothing you say will hurt me I forgive you" surprisingly she got more upset. The next morning I packed up my things and went over my father. I told my husband I will not grow my child in that environment and he needs to choose, his mother or his family. The next day he found a place and rented it and we moved in. Honestly I feel more peaceful. The only person I have disagreement with is my husband and I prefer it that way. Now he as less anxiety attacks and is more full of life and working more harder. From that we got alot of counselling.
Good on you for sticking up for yourself, it sounds like you did both your husband and you a favor! I hope things are going well for you and your family 🤗
I'm glad you talk about history and how women have been devalued for centuries. It has to affect today's mindset because history echoes down to us. Women's existence was completely dependent on men's attitudes. Men are fixated on sons. Women saw then and some still do see their value as dependent on producing boys. It's a damaging mindset to have, but it is understandable.
My MIL sounds a lot like yours. Only two sons, but she loved my FIL so much and he cherished her as well. She was actuality looking very forward to her sons getting married, is so sweet and generous to us, and was thrilled to have a granddaughter, then another, and later this year, another :) My BIL and SIL didn't want kids for the first 10 years they were together, so I was so nervous I wouldn't give her the granddaughter she wanted lol.
Ur videos are amazing. I was working on making a channel like yours and came across this. Almost feel like I can't possibly say anything on this now. You've hit it out of the park! Amazing video. All of your essays are brilliant. So much respect.
Anyone who isn't willing to stand up to his toxic family members for you doesn't deserve you. If he keeps choosing his mother (or anyone else) over you, you should choose yourself over him. "Spousification" is a term that's existed in psych for YEARS, and it describes this to a T.
Apples dont fall far from the tree... If your man has a toxic boy mom (or just toxic mom in general), chances are he has mommy issues. And trust me when I say, you need to stay far away from the both of them. Only way I'd date a guy with a toxic mom is if he was already low/ no contact when we met
many view servitute the same even if never had it, common enough. you teach cook & clean for the individual without any forced mumbo they'll want to learn.
I love being a boy mum and my son is my entire world but that’s because he’s my kid not because he’s a boy like I’d love a daughter just as much because I love being a MUM. Toxic mil are not itttt🤢🤢
I'm single and never going to be in a relationship with a man I don't have any desire for romance I'm perfectly happy being nonamorus and I identify as aromantic if that helps I don't have any desire to get married also
umm rather than good relationship with husband being why healthy with son maybe because she was never batshit she found a good relationship in the first place.
Wow, I just realized my own mom is a toxic boy mom. I bought a house years ago and needed somewhere to stay for 60 days while I closed and asked my mom she sais no because my brother MIGHT want to come home. He was married by the way. And now that he's been divorced she still takes care of him financially and he is 56 years old!
Wow!
56...
Yuck smh
Have you heard that joke about the Jewish woman that becomes president? At her inauguration, her mom whispers loudly to the person next to her, "you see that woman being sworn in? Her brother's a doctor."
I mean I know it's about the fact that he's a doctor, but it's also a boymom thing...
love your son, sure. but how is this even beneficial for him. selfish womean.
If there's anything I've learned, it is that no man is worth his toxic mom. Women deserve peace, too
Never worth it. Let his mother have him
This!! Ladies learn to walk away and know that you’ll be okay!
Some moms use their sons as their emotional husbands; Absolutely sickening!🤢
Eww gross,
my mother in law used to do that. she literally was like gemma from sons of anarchy and tony sopranos mom, lydia, on the sopranos.
You're right. Mommy's marriage didn't turn out the way she wanted so Sonny is her substitute.
My brother is a narcissist and I cut him off a year ago.. and I told my mom it is her fault that he is like this. Men are not held accountable, they are not “easier” to raise, it’s that no one wants to
But if you’re entirely blaming your mother, you are also not holding your brother accountable.
@@pianokeys71 I’m not saying it’s a 100% my mothers fault, but she’s a big reason to why he is like this.. you can’t deny that. Men are not raised well or if at all and this video is about toxic boy moms
@@pianokeys71 no that's not are fault it's the mother fault. So don't just fucking sit there and blaming on her for not stopping her for being a"narcissistic". And she as the right to blame her mother, because I would to blame my mother for rising a narcissistic brother. And not held accountable for his actions he do. So in conclusion boys are "NOT" easier to raise.
@@pianokeys71 From the perspective that her mother cultivated that behaviour and created an upbringing where he developed those traits, yes she is accountable. She didn't say "entirely". Yes he is still accountable for his behaviour in his own right, too.
I mean you can't say "NO MEN ARE HELD ACCOUNTABLE" on account of some men. You wouldn't put all women in the same box either right? And if u believe "MeN aren't held accountable " then it does fall on mothers who raise them too. Thus toxic boy moms( women) are also accountable for not holding men accountable.
My mom was a toxic wannabe boy mom. My entire childhood was spent with her telling me how she always wanted a boy, how angry she was that I was a girl and the only child she ended up being able to give birth to. She even went as far as to dress me in boys clothes as baby and toddler until my aunts shamed her for trying to hide my gender. When she could no longer pretend I was a boy and I showed a strong natural alignment between my sex and gender as a girl, she became toxic towards me. When she found out my father had TWO sons with the woman he left her to marry, it was too much for her to handle. She really messed me up inside for years, had me feeling hated by her and she did not protect me from male predators in her family. She defended those men and turned a blind eye, while encouraging them. She actively favored her nephews and the sons of her friends. In her eyes, I was a failed attempt at her dream of motherhood. She could only feel like a proud mom if she had a boy. Funnily enough, I was a total mama's girl and craved her love and companionship. By the time she finally decided to give me a real chance, I was 14 and she died the next year. Now, I am grown and about to start my own family. I am glad my mother is dead because I would have had to deal with her playing favorites with my kids. The boy being seen as her second chance at FINALLY having a son, even though he would actually be MY son. I would have to fight to protect my daughter's heart from Grandma's toxic male favoritism. Also the fight about me being happy to have a girl, since I always wanted a daughter long before I developed a desire for a son. This is a nightmare I thankfully will not have to experience. I love both girls and boys equally now, so I will be happy as a mom either way. Both genders are fun and challenging in their unique ways. I look forward to parenting. 😊
The best people recognize problems and go out of their way to end the cycle.
I see and hear you, may you experience happiness with your children. May you always communicate love ✨
when that lady said, "i remember our last sleep over" i was like : no ma'am!!!!👀👀
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Your mother lin law sounds like mine. She had an amazing love story with my husband's father (her husband) until he passed. Her relationship with my husband and now me is amazing and "normal".
Such a triggering topic for me! Fora very long time I dated a guy, who had a toxic boy mom, as I understand now. She always wanted to be a part of our relationship, she said to me a few times "before the man is not married, his mother is his wife" 🙃🙃 and she did a lot of many other things. And surprisingly he isn't raised as good as I thought he was. Anyway I was able to break free from these two people and now I feel so much lighter. I hope that when I meet a new man, his mom would be a good and kind human being.
This is why we date in the dead moms club.
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"I'm so sorry for your loss! I can't imagine..." (🤩😈👹 HWAHAHAHHAHA)
If you’re in a situation where you’re going to have a toxic mother-in-law, run!🚩🚩🚩 The stress will ruin your health and your quality of life.
Imagine having a daughter/female child too but always prioritising your son when you’re a female too like make it make sense.
Why do these women feel like the love for their son is the purest like do they do not give a s about their daughters. These girls/daughters deserve better mothers
Lemme tell you something. My first ex boyfriend's mom is a toxic boy mom. Especially since he's the baby. We got along at first but everything went downhill within a year.
Fast forward to now... I was with a guy who has the BEST mom that I adore. Her and I are best friends since we worked together and she introduced me to him. We got closer after that and she still treats me like her own despite us being broken up. I still love the kid and that's one of the many reasons that I hope we work out in the end.
The family makes a big difference in my book.
I’m glad this is being talked about more.. I feel like lots of these toxic moms are too far gone but these kinds of videos could help someone about to marry into this or SOMETHING
Yep - it's one of those patterns we all observed growing up but didn't have a name.
I need a recovered toxic boy mom to share how you end up in that role and whether or not those toxic MIL’s know/or care the way they make daughter in laws feel? It’d be wild to know that women are okay with hurting the woman their baby boy loves…a very twisted mindset for sure
Because they don't have a present man in their lives and makes the son fill the gap. It's called emotional incest.
It makes a lot of the men uncomfortable as well. Sometimes they're totally normal until their sonsband gets married, or the DIL has a baby, and the son is shocked too
@@xletragedyx sonsband ☠️ 😂
First 2 years of my marriage, yep. Through much persistence, I'm lucky my husband eventually came around and so did my Mil. They meant well, but it took 2 years until that boundary could finally be set and actually honored. It did kinda fracture my relationship with my in laws though. We moved away this past year and its given me the opportunity to really build up my relationship with my husband while slowly rebuilding that relationship with my in laws.
I dealt with the most toxic boy mom as a mother-in-law. While dating my husband was so attentive to me I never saw what was coming. In reality he was in an emotional incestuous relationship with his mother. She came first Always 24/7/365. She told me she "was there first", called me horrific names, when ever we had plans to go out or on vacation she became "deathly ill and needed him by her side"; actually believed my husband was her husband first and to top it off wanted to take my newborn claiming it was "Her daughter - Her kid!" My husband would do nothing to straighten her out. Nothing! Divorce.
All the toxic boy moms need to re-watch the Skinner episodes of the Simpsons. Is this what they really want to grow up to be??
I pray for a good relationship with my future MIL. Happy to hear you have that 😁.
I almost married a man who is enmeshed with his mother. It’s kind of sad because she’s married but her relationship with her husband is so dead. They just stay married just because. I remember during their 25 wedding anniversary asking her what is the secret to their long marriage and she said “I only stay for the kids.” 😵💫 Now that it’s been years later, I think she stays because she couldn’t survive financially without her husband. Sad 😞
It's crazy how the male worshipping culture treats women like independent people and men like children when it comes to holding them accountable.
Women who come from male worshiping cultures and misogynistic are not protected and expected to be servants.
But when it comes to making decisions about your love life, and career they are inclined to treat women like children. It's like women are not wanted unless they serve someone.
You described my paternal family. My father is from a toxic evil boy mom who is male worshiping. So my dad can't do basic chores. Thinks he is more amazing than he really is. And doesn't hold him accountable. Neèdless to say that he is psychopath. But they work like witches to protect their sons. But not the same energy for their daughters.
Uummm, the "boy mom" in the South Asian or Asian context are on a whole different level. It's not even boy moms. It's most moms. The ones who treat their daughters equally are the rare ones.
Tbf, I've noticed that their sons only have daughters. And then these women are totally lost. It's a little funny.
I just made a comment but my husband is one of two kids, both boys. His brother has one child, a girl. We have one, a girl, and another girl on the way lol
Oh but she's not a toxic boy mom. She loves the feminine energy and wanted a granddaughter so badly that I was worried to have a boy lol. My husband and I did want a girl, as well, so happy for everyone
@@xletragedyx na, in my family, the ones obsessed with boys only got girls. I'm the only one that got a brother, my parents didn't care either way. My mom actually had to fight to have me (pre 1994).
My cousin who was brainwashed by his own boy mom, has one daughter. His brother, who remained sane and a supportive husband has a son and a daughter. And his wife is not a boy mom.
My neighbour aunty hated her own daughters. Now her 2 daughters have two daughters each and her son just had twin daughters and doesn't plan to have more kids.
So...yeah. I think people obsessed with lineages and family names and such nonsense...karma says, I'm ending your line myself.
Incidentally, my brother, the only male descendant on my dad's side doesn't even use the family name. Actually , we both just go by our first names.
@@simransimran9339 goes to show how stupid the south asian elders are. A womans Mitochondrial dna gets passed from mother to son and daughter. But only the DAUGHTER can pass her mito dna to her kids. So basically, a boy moms genetic lineage DIES with her son.
This issue is not generational. It’s eternal.
My grandma was the mother of four sons and she had a loving relationship with my grandpa. She was a far away from a toxic boy mom as you can be, she loved her daughters in law like they where her own childern and praised them often. ❤❤❤
Lots of things to think about. I never even considered that toxic boy moms could be pickmeishas of their days. I had been thinking that they had their claws in their sons strictly coz of traumatic reaction to not having any support of their own by their fathers and other menfolk of the family.
Now I want to look into what creates a pickmeisha. What environment she grows up in that mould her thinking, personality and attitudes.
I have to watch this clip a number of times.
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As a man raised by one, only by God’s help have I been able to distance myself and be an independent husband and father. As hard as it is, loving detachment from these types of mothers has to be done if a victim wants to break the cycle.
Wow I’ve been a pick me and a toxic boy mom but didn’t know it at the time. In 2020 I overhauled my entire life and through therapy I let go of internalized misogyny. This is so interesting to watch thanks for posting it!
As an Indian girl bonr in America with 100% Indian parents, I would like to say... my father was so angry that I was a daughter, but my mother always wanted a daughter. And my uncle hit me because I wasn't traditional enough,
Unfortunately even some women who were given attention and love by her husband end up being toxic boy mums cos outside their marriage they are still a pick me and are male centred
I'm soooo glad my husband's mom is awesome, welcoming and loving. But my former mother in law of my ex-husband made it her mission to break us up and it worked.
i know it’s a very serious matter but referring to arthur’s seat as a ‘region’ gagged me 💀
Another thing that I’ll thankfully avoid since I’ve chosen not to get married. 😌
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My mother tried to seek the validation she wanted from my father in my brothers, and when all else failed she turned her attention onto me (the only daughter). I live with CPTSD because of the things she did to me, trying to take her anger and feelings of rejection out on me. I will never be a boy mom and will never compete with a grown ass woman ✌️ I've done too much healing to resort to that nonsense.
I remember my mother in law disrupt my marriage. My husband and I came on the same ground and began fixing our marraige at that time I was pregnant. He was also going through anxiety and having pretty bad anxiety attacks. We lived with her for a few months because we were out of a job in the height of covid. She always told my husband aggressively that I am the wife and he is the head so I should listen to him and obey him and I was not a push over I always stood my ground so she hated that I was strong headed. She wanted to control us. What we eat, what we did, our religion, how i cooked. She wanted my husband to work and give her money while he was taking care of me She was in constant competition with me and her daughter especially. .I remembered eavesdropping and hearing her asking my husband " How can you choose her over me'" i found it disgusting. I opened the door and shouted "enough is enough" my husband was sitting silently having an anxiety attack and I ask her "why are you turning my husband against me, i understand you supported your son when he needed the help but you need to let him go" she said "He is my son, i am not letting go of my son" she cussed me out and I told her "nothing you say will hurt me I forgive you" surprisingly she got more upset. The next morning I packed up my things and went over my father. I told my husband I will not grow my child in that environment and he needs to choose, his mother or his family. The next day he found a place and rented it and we moved in. Honestly I feel more peaceful. The only person I have disagreement with is my husband and I prefer it that way. Now he as less anxiety attacks and is more full of life and working more harder. From that we got alot of counselling.
Good on you for sticking up for yourself, it sounds like you did both your husband and you a favor! I hope things are going well for you and your family 🤗
I'm glad you talk about history and how women have been devalued for centuries. It has to affect today's mindset because history echoes down to us. Women's existence was completely dependent on men's attitudes. Men are fixated on sons. Women saw then and some still do see their value as dependent on producing boys. It's a damaging mindset to have, but it is understandable.
My MIL sounds a lot like yours. Only two sons, but she loved my FIL so much and he cherished her as well.
She was actuality looking very forward to her sons getting married, is so sweet and generous to us, and was thrilled to have a granddaughter, then another, and later this year, another :)
My BIL and SIL didn't want kids for the first 10 years they were together, so I was so nervous I wouldn't give her the granddaughter she wanted lol.
Ur videos are amazing. I was working on making a channel like yours and came across this. Almost feel like I can't possibly say anything on this now. You've hit it out of the park! Amazing video. All of your essays are brilliant. So much respect.
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No one will ever hold a candle to my Joey Jr! I’ve graduated to Man Mom and he is WONDERFUL
Anyone who isn't willing to stand up to his toxic family members for you doesn't deserve you. If he keeps choosing his mother (or anyone else) over you, you should choose yourself over him. "Spousification" is a term that's existed in psych for YEARS, and it describes this to a T.
Apples dont fall far from the tree... If your man has a toxic boy mom (or just toxic mom in general), chances are he has mommy issues. And trust me when I say, you need to stay far away from the both of them. Only way I'd date a guy with a toxic mom is if he was already low/ no contact when we met
many view servitute the same even if never had it, common enough.
you teach cook & clean for the individual without any forced mumbo they'll want to learn.
I love being a boy mum and my son is my entire world but that’s because he’s my kid not because he’s a boy like I’d love a daughter just as much because I love being a MUM. Toxic mil are not itttt🤢🤢
I'm single and never going to be in a relationship with a man I don't have any desire for romance I'm perfectly happy being nonamorus and I identify as aromantic if that helps I don't have any desire to get married also
And that’s why you don’t pick them
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Say Alhamdulillah for your husband sis ❤
i love your content but the slightly head tilt when your speaking is making my ocd head furious
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umm rather than good relationship with husband being why healthy with son maybe because she was never batshit she found a good relationship in the first place.
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