I feel for you.. heartless.. abuse.. i seriously hope you understand and will not allow that or similar again. Been there myself, i was so ignorant in the matter. Now i understand i finally am able to protect myself from these horror.. 🍀
What's so hard is that by the time we realize they're Avoidant, we're in love. Ouch. Then comes the painful work of detaching from them, looking at why we fell for them in the first place, and examining our own trauma that allowed it. Honestly it's so grueling. I wish there was an "avoidant test" before we invest our heart and future with these folks who break us wide open and then walk away as we bleed out.
This sounds like my last relationship. Same words even.😖 Some people are horrible..! Thanks for confirming how I feel about the experience, it makes a big difference to hear it from someone else Btw I sent a letter, telling him I was hurt. The response I got was 'ok, sorry' Wow..
I had a "just friends" experience with my ex DA for 2.5 years. Treated me 100% like a gf, but repeatedly told me we were just friends. So confusing. He ended up meeting someone else while we were still together, but invalidated me when I had concerns about their relationship. Finally, he told me they were just friends who were sleeping together and he wanted to stay friends with me. I went no contact in June. Have never been happier without his confusion in my life.
I feel for you.. heartless.. abuse.. i seriously hope you understand and will not allow that or similar again. Been there myself, i was so ignorant in the matter. Now i understand i finally am able to protect myself from these horror.. 🍀
What's so hard is that by the time we realize they're Avoidant, we're in love. Ouch. Then comes the painful work of detaching from them, looking at why we fell for them in the first place, and examining our own trauma that allowed it. Honestly it's so grueling. I wish there was an "avoidant test" before we invest our heart and future with these folks who break us wide open and then walk away as we bleed out.
This sounds like my last relationship. Same words even.😖
Some people are horrible..!
Thanks for confirming how I feel about the experience, it makes a big difference to hear it from someone else
Btw I sent a letter, telling him I was hurt. The response I got was 'ok, sorry'
Wow..
I had a "just friends" experience with my ex DA for 2.5 years. Treated me 100% like a gf, but repeatedly told me we were just friends. So confusing. He ended up meeting someone else while we were still together, but invalidated me when I had concerns about their relationship. Finally, he told me they were just friends who were sleeping together and he wanted to stay friends with me. I went no contact in June. Have never been happier without his confusion in my life.
Oh god…just from the title I just know this one is going to hit me like a truck
Fiona reeks of insecure attachment as well, pursuing the love and attention of someone who won't give them to her.
Yup. Agree.