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Ken Reid
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I'm a Counsellor. Subscribe to my channel for practical relationship advice to help you understand more about yourself and others, and help you better understand how to approach relationships.
I help high-achieving men and women who have come from difficult families and toxic relationships to heal, find peace, create boundaries, and be able to create healthy relationships.
My aim is to help the people I work with to be able to connect with their authenticity in order to create healthier relationships with others.
We need to work through our baggage so our baggage doesn't deal with us.
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I help high-achieving men and women who have come from difficult families and toxic relationships to heal, find peace, create boundaries, and be able to create healthy relationships.
My aim is to help the people I work with to be able to connect with their authenticity in order to create healthier relationships with others.
We need to work through our baggage so our baggage doesn't deal with us.
▸ Book a Session | www.kenreidcounselling.com.au/book-a-session
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KEN READS | EPISODE 25: SHE MADE ME WALK ON EGGSHELLS
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Ken Reads should not be considered a substitute for professional counseling or therapy. It serves as a platform for validation, psychoeducation, and entertainment. Ken's approach to letter readings differs from traditional counseling sessions.
In his capacity as an Australian counselor, Ken will not provide advice or offer diagnoses. While he may suggest potential issues, he cannot provide official diagnoses.
Whilst attachment styles are not formal diagnoses, Ken can share his opinion on whether a particular attachment style seems evident based on the information in the letter.
Letters submitted should be around 500 words, with a +/- 10% margin. If a letter falls outside of these parameters, Ken reserves the right to decline reading it and will issue a refund to the letter sender.
Ken Reads will accept submissions based on availability.
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Ken Reads should not be considered a substitute for professional counseling or therapy. It serves as a platform for validation, psychoeducation, and entertainment. Ken's approach to letter readings differs from traditional counseling sessions.
In his capacity as an Australian counselor, Ken will not provide advice or offer diagnoses. While he may suggest potential issues, he cannot provide official diagnoses.
Whilst attachment styles are not formal diagnoses, Ken can share his opinion on whether a particular attachment style seems evident based on the information in the letter.
Letters submitted should be around 500 words, with a +/- 10% margin. If a letter falls outside of these parameters, Ken reserves the right to decline reading it and will issue a refund to the letter sender.
Ken Reads will accept submissions based on availability.
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KEN READS | EPISODE 24: WAS SHE EVER IN LOVE WITH ME?
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KEN READS | EPISODE 23: BLINDSIDED
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KEN READS | EPISODE 22: HE BROKE UP WITH ME BECAUSE HE SAID HE NEEDED MORE PERSONAL GROWTH
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KEN READS | EPISODE 21: WHY YOU ATTRACT AVOIDANT PARTNERS
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QUESTION: COULD ATTACHMENT STYLES BE BIOLOGICAL?
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Could our attachment styles be neurobiological? Could it be that ‘secure’ is not in fact an actual attachment style but the mild version of one predisposed attachment. The fact is that attachment is something that affects us in areas well outside of relationships, it can impact our relationship with money, work, health, etc. We also know that attachment is something that is not defined by gende...
KEN READS | EPISODE 20: THEY'RE STILL ACTING LIKE A PLAYER IN THEIR 50'S!
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KEN READS | EPISODE 19: I THINK HE HAD AN UNDIAGNOSED BPD
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KEN READS | EPISODE 18: EMOTIONAL UNAVAILABILITY
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AVOIDANT ATTACHERS CAN BE REPULSED BY KINDNESS
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Many avoidant attachers do not do well with consistency, words of kindness and civility. Even though they might complain about the drama of their ‘crazy’ ex’s, their subconscious minds and nervous systems are often repulsed by acts of kindness as it can feel like control. ▸ Book a Session | www.kenreidcounselling.com.au/book-a-session ▸ Tiktok | www.tiktok.com/@kenreid.co ▸ Facebook | facebook....
KEN READS | EPISODE 17: THEY ASKED ME TO MOVE STATE FOR THEM THEN THEY BROKE UP WITH ME
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KEN READS | EPISODE 16: I DATED A WOMAN WHO IDENTIFIED AS FA (FEARFUL AVOIDANT) - AUDIO ONLY EPISODE
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KEN READS | EPISODE 15: MY FATHER HAD JUST PASSED AND SHORTLY AFTER THEY LEFT ME
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KEN READS | EPISODE 14: THEY BROKE UP WITH ME 22 TIMES!
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KEN READS | EPISODE 13: HOW DO I STOP BLAMING MYSELF FOR TRIGGERING THEM
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KEN READS | EPISODE 12: THEY LOST FEELINGS FOR ME
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KEN READS | EPISODE 9: WERE THEY USING ME?
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KEN READS | EPISODE 8: ARE THEY JUST NOT THAT INTO ME?
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KEN READS | EPISODE 7: CONFUSING AND MANIPULATIVE BEHAVIOUR
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KEN READS | EPISODE 6: EMOTIONAL WHIPLASH
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KEN READS | EPISODE 5: FEAR OF COMMITMENT
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KEN READS | EPISODE 4: ARE THEY AVOIDANT OR AN A**HOLE?
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KEN READS | EPISODE 3: AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT BREAKING A MARRIAGE
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KEN READS | EPISODE 3: AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT BREAKING A MARRIAGE
Wow, incredible. Thank you for your wise words!❤
Buddy you’re sooooooo spot on!! Best person on TH-cam on the subject!!!! Getting over a long term relationship and this helps tremendously
This is so helpful. I've been insanely in love with a woman who pulls away from me whenever we get close. I've finally found it helpful to see this relationship with your insight.
I haven't met a DA who has actual charisma or self-control. My DA ex is a basket case, always fearful/anxious - nervous, lashing out when stressed - and she was ALWAYS stressed.
Oh please do and call out these POS coaches that spread false information about getting an ex back. The money grab of it all is embarrassing! Also the techniques of people who have to contort themselves like they are employed by Cirque de Solei to handle with care getting this emotionally immature exes is aggravating! I'm 3 weeks outs of dealing with a DA and I am trying to heal and give myself grace for giving the best of me to be discarded and disrespected due to their lack of healthy communication skills. Why would I want to have that back!
Yes please do the ex back coach smackdown
42:45 - "what are you gonna do, go mute?" That's pretty much where I ended up with my avoidant person. And not only did it crush my sense of self-esteem (feeling like anything I had to say was of no interest and just a burden to them) but it didn't improve the relationship one bit.
Ken, Have u read about DMM model and latest research in Attachment Style and do u already integerate all that in your work?
I realized mine wasn’t going to fight for me when he told me after a year together that he now has urges to be with men. I accepted that graciously I was glad he was being honest with himself and with me about it, but made me question if our relationship/ his feelings for me were even real.
I suspect this lady may have been somewhat embarrassed of integrating him into all of her social activities as a couple. There is also her being reluctant to be a step mother.
Thank you ❤
I get what u mean about coaches. Do ur thing
We used to always message each other in the morning, wishing each other a nice day. As an AP this was so nice. Towards the end of the relationship with my DA, this, of course, completely stopped to the point I wouldn't hear from them all day. When I brought this up, they completely denied we ever did that, and messaging just wasn't important to them.. Well, it always was for me. It's hard to see signs that are not there 😕
I got a letter waiting for u my dude.
Take care of yourself, Ken. Thank you again for another amazing analysis. I especially appreciate the comments regarding ex back coaches and content. I share your perspective. ❤️
My ex ask me when we broke up about the relationship that “do you think this is going to last forever?” Is he avoidants? He said that we have a different thought that the reason why we broke up.
Bravo again, Ken! ♥️
Been together for 20 years she’s been telling me encouraging me to do books love languages seven hours we’ve been doing good, but I haven’t been really full attention to what’s going on with her. Didn’t know she was dismissive avoid it until recently. She pulled back and now talking to other people wanted to marriage 20 yearsfor her to open up to express how she feels I don’t know what to do. We’re about to get divorced.
Yep. My avoidant seemed 110% in and even planned possible dates in the future. I met her friends and mom one day and she just kinda seemed distant and wouldn’t open up to me about a family member passing. I asked to be official, she said yes. She went on a trip for a week and we didn’t talk much and when she got back she told me we couldn’t do this. Just said we rushed into it and we both had more maturing to do. Only 3 weeks but they seemed perfect.
its always things that represent the growth of closeness that trigger their fears of vulnerability. Mine discarded me exactly like yours, after a trip herself. Its because during the trip they actually have 'free time' unlike their usual routine (filled to the brim) and then they suddenly realise that the shit got real (if they really liked you) and their fears get triggered.
@@johndoe8923-k2d yeah she seemed so into me and she probably was. Got scared by actually feeling something for someone and someone caring for her. We texted like everyday before that and the breakup was pretty much just a cut off for no good apparent reason
I attempted suicide because of rejection. Theres so much apathy towards a lot of gay men. Especially us older men
Fakebook is horrible, causes depression and mental stress. Bars are not a place to meet another man especially if you are over 55 like me.
Ken, are you planning on furthering your studies in attachment?
this is exactly how me and my FA of 1 year ex broke up 4 weeks ago. biggest mind f*ck ever. worst is she was my first gf
8:50 12:22 powerful statements there describing the end of my relationship with an FA.
This channel and your insight is such a goldmine! Sometimes your insights slip into conversations and it makes me feel like the smartest person in the room! You are officially on my binge worthy list!
How do I send you a letter Ken?
100% you are constantly walking on eggs shells thinking if you say too much or aren’t perfect they will bolt and discard you
I can relate too well to this, unfortunately. Great analysis. Thanks Ken
100% Heal, heal, heal first - then IF they do come back, you're in your best heart space to make a clear decision.
Thank you ❤
This was well-balanced Ken. Very often an avoidant does feel very deeply, and is able to see and feel much more deeply than other people, so it can be totally true that the connection you have had with them was completely real, but they simply cannot 'stay' in the fire for too long, because it burns them too much. They have to escape and shut down, so you get this maddening feeling of someone drifting in and out of a shared paradise, before their demons rise up, and claim them, forcing them back into hiding, the only place they know. Truly heart-breaking.
My ex did this to me, but worse. We were together for a year. Travelled in 3 countries together, flew to his native country for New Year, stayed with his parents, had dinners with the families of his siblings. Met each other's friends. We did more during that 1 year than most people do in 10. He also started to withdraw sexually at some point, and claimed it's just age (he was 40), stopped initiating. I thought it was because of work stress because he had a lot going on in that area of his life. He was also very prone to stress in general. But we still talked every single day, said "I love you" etc. He'd finish every phone call with "goodnight, my love". He was always very good to me, kept his word, was generous, had a great sense of humour, etc. Then one day he suddenly blew up at me over text about something trivial. I didn't know what to make of it, never saw that behaviour before. He didn't call me that night (first time ever), and the next day discarded me during a short phone call. I was shellshocked. He NEVER mentioned any issues before. Sounded like a completely different person, cold and distant. I can't even describe how shocked I was. Wtf happened to my person? He gave some bullshit reasons that just didn't make sense. It's been over 3 months and I'm still in shock. How can you just discard your closest person like that, without even showing your face, and be OK with going from daily interaction for a whole year to complete no contact, in a split second? I felt worse than garbage, because even garbage people take out in person. He'd told me about his history of dumpster fire relationships, but his view of events was that he was always treated badly by his exes, at least in the end. He was always the victim of some highly toxic and even abusive behaviour. I believed everything and thought he was just very unlucky before. I'm now seriously wondering if I've also become part of that story that he's now telling to somebody else and looking for sympathy...
@@trupinys1979 my ex withdrew sexually, also claiming age…..we were 20.
@@trupinys1979 The major banner is his revelation of dumpster fire relationships. He sabotages and blows up the relationships. Never doubt patterns. AKA the track record. You're lucky to be safe from him. ♥️ His karma is losing you. He can tell his "woe is me story " as a pick up line."
@@trupinys1979 LDR's can be a recipe for disaster. Sending you the light. 🙏
@@SherriFlemming Thank you. Why did you think this was a LDR?
@@trupinys1979 The mention of flying to his native country. I think he has a definite pattern of sabotaging relationships. Dumpster fire.
This channel is excellent for personal development. Ken is a voice of sanity and wisdom! ♥️
Some of the best content on all of social media! I absolutely love and look forward to listening to everything you share. Thank you Ken for giving all of us exactly what we need.
Over the last 5 years ive been dumped almost every month. I am totally exhausted and a shadow of my former self.
Ken thank you for the video. How do you heal the feeling of being alone? I have attempted through deep presence, processing all my emotions, spirituality, and meeting my needs directly or attempting with people that are healthier. Although they still don't feel like my 'tribe',( More or less just using what I have and giving love) I know there's not a shortage of good people in this world.. But It has been challenging finding people who can truly hold that space or give a danm. I don't blame them but rather how the dysfunction of our society operates. So how do you do it? Thank you in advance 😊
Do you accept letters from North America?
Morning great info,just discovered your channel. Avoidants in my experience are not to be poked with. They are very simular to a narc in the end it will only lead to snot and tears. The focus is on the healing the self. Often Anxious types get entangled cause we dont focus on our own lives, and dont know how to focus on ourselves. Avoidants dont change they pretend. Be glad you escaped with your heart and mind semi in tact cause you are susceptible to abusers. Forget them heal daily.
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I feel I may write a letter, if anything, for my own benefit of writing it out.
Definitely do it. I wrote a letter to my avoidant. Never going to send it to him. I was brutally honest about how he made me feel and put emphasis on the choices HE made, then tried to shift the blame onto me.
Its cathartic and theraputic to write unsent letters. Also to have a feelings journal.
@@jdprettynails Its a great purge to get all of the venom out by epressing exactly how you feel. Remember why the relationship ended. Relationshp autopsy. They know exactly what they've done. Lather, rinse, repeat.
@@SherriFlemming I was raised by a narcissistic mother so I grew up making all kinds of excuses to justify her awful behaviour. “No she does love me, she’s just forgetful…” “She has three other kids to take care of” “She doesn’t mean to be mean, she’s just being honest” So of course I do this in romantic relationships too! I’m so conditioned to only see the good. My friends: he hurt you so bad, how can you still love him? Me: because he’s so sweet when he wants to be and I’m so happy when he’s around Friends: what about when he ghosts you? Me: yeah that hurts…. Friends: gaslights you? Me: yeah…
@@jdprettynails I understand. Have you read this book? Toxic Parents by Susan Forward
She was asking Why was her DA ok with her thinking that he had cheated when he actually had not. Why are they ok with leaving you confused… I’d love the answer too!
I've been through most of the stories you've read and it's quite striking how similar they are in terms of patterns, excuses and outcome, also to my own most recent story with DA ex. They are quite predictable, aren't they? The circumstances might be different, and the relationship/situationship might take anywhere between months and many years, but it's always sooo similar. How it started, how we felt that we had finally found someone who really saw us, that the connection was great, and then the trigger, stonewalling, abrupt breakup, sometimes ghosting. Red flags that we chose to ignore. Oh, and the pain. The pain of a breakup that happened when you thought everything was just great and the relationship seemed as strong as ever, the pain of blaming ourselves that we must have done something wrong, the pain of questioning if it was real. Thank you! I discovered your channel 7 months after the breakup and finally understood what happened. I no longer blame myself for how difficult it was to process. Now, I can move on.
i can relate to what you said and i'm glad to hear you were able to move on. i'm 7months post breakup myself, but i'm still working through the pain. these letter reading videos help a lot.
@@spiritwanderer777 I had to understand that I'm not missing him, but a connection and my vision of what could have been. That there was nothing I could have done to prevent this from happening, and that he did, in fact, love me. Since it wasn't a normal breakup, although we had only been together for a couple of months, it hit me much more than any other before, and it was okay for me to need more time to process it. I stopped talking about it to anyone else because they have never been through that thus they were not able to understand why it was so hard for me to process a breakup after such a short relationship. Validation like that works wonders, I'm sure you'll experience it, too. Good luck!
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Sending you the light. 🙏
After almost 5 years , my ex gave me the same “needs to work on themselves talk” but in reality they had been cheating with someone else for months.
omg, that's awful, so sorry to hear :(
That sucks. Compartementalizing. Sending you the light 🙏
Compartementalizing . Sending you the light. 🙏
Ken - you are a breath of fresh air, a voice of clarity in the dark. You have helped me so much in healing from a heartbreaking relationship - thank you ❤ from the Republic of Ireland 🇮🇪
holy shit 28:10 is literally identical to my situation..21 years 3 kids and out of the blue we get in an arguement and she ends it and doesnt seem like even trying to fix it but i am still living in the house shes allowing me till i get on my feet and wants to stay friends for the kids etc....she has been cold and "avoidant" like she doesnt even see me walk by or say hi in the same fucking house except when she feels like it sometimes overly firendly..its fucking crazy. hot and cold and i never know when only she decides when she wants to be normal and nice...its fucking with my head, i feel like im going insane.,
Phenomenal work, Ken. As someone who has suffered emotionally significantly at the inept hands of a very wounded, extremely avoidantly (fearful and dismissive) attached woman who I have loved very much since inception, and of whom appears to love me very much as well (the best they can maybe, maybe not), I am amazed at how accurate ALL of your content has been on the subject and how illuminating your analysis and background as a great therapist is in terms of wholistic strategy and cohesive analysis. Eternally grateful, and metaphysically indebted....
Thank you Counselor
My avoidant ex could only hold eye contact talking about superficial things. During sex despite being almost possessed by it (dopamine hit) she couldn't hold eye contact for more than 1 sec.
I found that the guy I dated presented as an intellectual. He was very well-read and seemed to put on more of a facade when triggered.
I literally couldn’t eat and sleep, and took days off work while in a relationship with a DA person due to constant silent treatment, snowballing and disappearances. I attempted several breakups but for some reason couldn’t let them go. I was abruptly broken up with over Messenger and blocked me after an argument about wanting to talk and not dismissing the conversation. Sometimes I would cry but this time I got angry and said things that made them shut down the relationship. While sad, I can eat and sleep again! I’m kind of in a confused state about how I feel but my body is certainly healthier now.