Why Koreans don't reply your messages
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 ก.ย. 2024
- Like I said in the video this is a personal guess based on personal experience & talks with other friends :)
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This video was so necessary. People started to object Koreans and suddenly they go for a stranger Korean account on Instagram and send messages to them as they were close, because they day dream about an Idol. Boundaries are needes. We are all human beings, with personalities and lives.
facts!!
Social media is like the wild wild west. protect yourself but expect to be ambushed.
I am old enough to be your mom, I respect and encourage you to keep this on for as long as possible as there are some rude and disrespectful people that need to hear your message! Well done🙂
PERIODT SIS
I'm enjoying your YT, and am planning to visit (or, was, ) on the next year. I've actually been studying Hangul for quite sometine. Now, I've watched a few YT pieces by foreigners who have moved to Korea, and the result is that I'm not so comfortable now. Also, a visitor was actually sorry she went. Stories of being made to feel like a foreigner, opinion about the looks and appearances (features) of foreigners. Scoffing at accents when hearing Korean spoken. Wow, not feeling so welcome anymore! Also, the vanity, materialism...sounds pretty negative. Is it really like this??
Very thoughtful arguments. I would say that this should apply to everyone. It’s nice to hear your perspective.
Well spoken! And nothing strange about anything you said , it’s just common sense. But people tend to forget when they don’t have the person in front of them.
This is a video for people to reflex on their attitude and be more polite. Everything he said it’s a FACT. a lot of people goes through certain things in their lives and in certain times you get fuzzed and cussed about it. I believe it’s not right. People has to understand that not everyone is the same. And you’re it obligated to answer to rude people nor strangers if you don’t feel comfortable.
Thank you 🙏🏼 this was very educational. Wow! It really helped me with a conversation I was having with a guy. Thank You
You are 100% correct. And it applies to people in all countries! This is just common sense! Glad you are being vocal about it. I’m not famous and get some of those in my simple useless social media and I just ignore them.
Thanks so much for making me understand and God be the right beside you all the way
You are absolutely right master dany😊😊 100 person i support you always❤❤😊😊
I don't have any real life friends because I have a different lifestyle and world view than people in my town, so it's hard when I get depressed with bipolar disorder because i try to hide it from my Korean and Asian friends online but I think they can tell and don't want to talk, but I try to put on a brave face out of respect but it seems they can tell, i need to find somewhere to go to fit in and can talk to in person friends so I don't bring bad energy to conversations with people overseas.
That flirting part killed me 😂😂😂😂😂
Great Informational Video 😇🙏 thanks
I’m so sorry that the person used that ploy to get your sympathy. “Crying wolf” is not the ethical way to get someone’s attention. When this person really does have suicidal tendencies they may discover no one is listening.😢
Anaeonghaseyo Danshi! first time watching your video and this is good massage for everyone love uhh ❤❤❤❤
lots of thankyou sir for your guidance lots of love from india
This video is the best,it really explain a lot to me,
It is logical. You can't write / reply to someone you don't know. Some call it rudeness but I see no reason why it should be called that. Not only Koreans, but we also do the same, right? It's just logical.
Good greetings to you Sir, i like your vlog so informative, i love watching and listen to this kind of content not only to Koreans but to some other nationalities. More power to you...
Im a Korean guy and I dont mind foreigners calling me oppa lol
Yea I know some Korean ppl find it cringy but I think it's cute cuz it tells me whoever called me oppa wanna learn our culture.
Yes, this video was so necessary to make, I just find it so annoying how people would just go under a random Asian guys video and say VERY weird things. They are just treating Asians (especially Koreans) like objects.
안녕하세요 단님! Hi Dan, nice to meet you and I'm glad I searched up 'How to find a Korean bf online'. Your video had popped up and I thought it was ver relative to me so I clicked on it. The amount of info and advice you shared, I've experienced before, and definitely agree with you. We should only create a friendship connection slowly, by getting to know each other first and find each others interests. I have followed your IG account and will continue to support you as a influencer and content creator.
I'm so happy he touched on this "Oppa" issue. This is getting on my nerves seeing how westerners keep on calling every man oppa. I'm not Asian and not a Westerner and I've seen they said is like calling a Sugar Daddy. Especially on Weverse 🙄
I don’t like that sugar daddy or even the word daddy have been used weirdly or when it doesn’t apply. People might call someone sugar daddy when there is no sugar (money and gifts) it is so weird. And just word daddy or mommy, It is making it weird for some parents.
It seems like the person calling someone oppa is expressing a familiarity that isn’t there. Same with the dm’s you really don’t know each other and it seems too forward and creepy. I’m also over 50 and wouldn’t know how to dm someone.😂😂
I am a westerner and I feel the same way, I mean yes we hear the word in kdramas, kpop or wtv, but most people who are exposed to the korean culture know its meaning and how it can be interpreted, when people use it they know exactly what they are doing, they know they are crossing a line, also if they send messages in english WHY use a korean term especially when it could sound so invasive
Are you Nigerian?
I am also happy he explained more about using the word “Oppa”.
It’s such a cute sounding word to me it’s tempting to use.
Guess I’ll save it for my husband.
I know the feeling. I used to be a very popular author and I loved my fans to the moon and back. I felt so encouraged and uplifted whenever I chatted with my fans. But I think at some point the line between fan and friend got even harder to set boundaries on. People started to complain when I take too long to publish more of my stories and then some people really started to harass me with daily dm’s. I should have been writing my stories and replying to thousands of dm’s the same time. But the worst was those “please I’m in the hospital and I’m dying. My last wish is to read your story before I die.” Or those suicidal and depressive needy messages. I had a life outside of my job too. But it seemed me taking a breather means someone else’s life is ruined. At some point it all became so overwhelming I no longer had the time or mentality to even read my fanmail. It’s disappointing and the more I neglected my fans the more depressed I felt in my work progress as well. But I still tried my best to bring as much as stories I could. Until I burned out. So yeah. I’m sorry you have been pressured by these shallow people who only wish to drain you. What I learned was that I can’t befriend all my fans. I still have some old fans as my long lasting friends. I will never forget their support when I was only a beginner and nobody. But it’s a pity the more popular one becomes the harder it gets to communicate with strangers. I stopped. I deleted all my social media. The funny thing is. I only made this acc now to comment to this video. I just wanted to share my story for a reason unknown. It’s great you still keep going and doing the content you want. I know it’s not easy to face the attention popularity brings with. Thank you for speaking about this side too. Too many people forget that content creators have feelings and emotions too. Sorry for this long paragraph. I wish you all the best. 💛
I hope you will be alright 🫂
@@Ammu-fr5wq Wow, thank you for your care. 💛 I wish you the best.
Don't worry be happy
I understand you perfectly not every body is that demanding but for someone like me I would just wanna be a reasonable friend
Put your phone onto Do Not Disturb setting and put your favourite music on from Utube or Spotify and do your work...if you have great writing talent dont waste it for this! Filter it out and keep writing
Hooray…someone actually addressing the rudeness that the veil of anonymity has created. Well done content in todays video.
More koreans need to address how thirsty fans are
As a Korean female, I believe the problem is calling a stranger (I use the term loosely here as someone you don't have a relationship with) oppa. Because oppa has 2 feelings: 1. Just a normal older male-female relationship, or 2. an older male you date/are thinking of dating. It actually doesn't take much for me to call someone oppa, and I can call a sibling's friends oppa even if I don't know them personally, because there is a natural understanding that they fall into category 1. And that's not weird at all. But I would never call a stranger oppa because there is no common understanding of any relationship. Because of that, there is an implication of category 2 if you call them oppa (and that feels a bit... like you are available and easy..). There are two exceptions where it is socially acceptable to call strangers oppa. 1. Children call everyone a few years older oppa. This disappears as you get older, because you start having other terms you can call them (seonbae for school and ssi for work). 2. Celebrities. This is more acceptable because 1. A fan-celebrity relationship is actually quite close, even without a personal relationship (there's even a Fandom name to signify the relationship), and 2. saying that a celeb is hot/datable (even if it will never happen) is not seen as weird. So don't worry about calling your faves oppa, they won't find it weird (youtubers are a bit of a gray area because some are more like celebs but many aren't) - but refrain from calling random people on Instagram oppa
...except for JK who hated being called Oppa, at least in the first couple of years ;)
And If i say a game word like “what’s oppa! (Like “what’s up” :v
What’s the difference between oppa and hyung? Cause I thought hyung was for an older brother
@@BananaBreadLike males call older men hyung and females call older men oppa!
hi lee...your english is too good....
I always laugh at the 'Oppa' calling, because in Dutch we have 'Opa' meaning grandpa 🤣I always think about grandpa's first when I hear Oppa 😆
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂 same here in Switzerland 😁
Same in Germany :D
It just reminds me of people here using the term 'Daddy' and I want to vomit every time I hear it. I'm sorry but daddy means my father, the man whose dna I share half of, who raised me, etc. To use it in any sexual type of way, I will NEVER understand people and their gross fetishes. So 'Oppa' typically reminds me of the same thing and I cringe badly every time.
in our village we call our father "opa".:)
everything you said is 100% correct. being demanding because you follow someone is ridiculous. you have a right to privacy and boundaries just like the rest of us. you're smart for not replying. enjoying your content, keep it up. 👍🏾😊
Yes setting boundaries are kind of important! thank you for watching my contents!!!
Agreed and there are lots of needy clingy people who has ulterior motives, and dont care invading someone elses privacy. You can compare it to someone who invades your personal space, that is rude making you uncomfortable. I hate needy, clingy, rude people.
Thanks so much for your words and make us understand
Thanks so much for making understand
they should juist warn us.
I feel like this is great info for all cultures. I’ve had to block people because of DM’s from people from several counties including Korean men 😳 it’s important to remember that even though we feel like we may know the person we have been watching on youtube, we really don’t
I agree with you 💯 , I love to find out about different things, types,people, and
Culture s But you should know you boundaries and always show respect, especially their home. My good bye is always love ❤ cuz goodbye seems so permanent.
But blocking if someone says hi is unrespectful , and shows bad attitude ;)
Most guys I've spoke to have get this pretended to be Korean ,and American,it when they tell me they live in England and I ask where that it then they tell me they working on an oil rig ,yes and I work for mi5,🤣 I don't work for mi5
@@Leeknowswife_82 omg! Yes! So many soldiers and guys working on oil rigs 🤣🤣
@@kelleysimpson9490 hello
You have set some really great bounderies for when interacting on social media, Danny. After I followed you on ig, I quickly understood that not anwsering dm's was your boundery, and found it to be a reasonable thing to do, to protect yourself from all those rude actions, that you are talking about in this video. And I feel comfortable to cheer on you in your dm, like birthdays greetings or laughing with you about a history you have posted, without the anxiety of what your reply might be.
And Happy new year Danny💙 it might be to early to say, but wanted to wish you a happy new year anyway ☺️
This is why I love you sky. Although he's a "social influencer" he has the right to set boundaries that make him comfortable.
100% do the same thing too... I even send random questions, but they are not intended to get a reply. If he chooses to reply to them in a comment I've left on a post, that's awesome... but they are mostly just my inner thoughts on things in his life or my life or Korean culture in general.
thank you for understanding! This is exactly why I made this video so that people can understand I'm not just ignoring them! I love interacting with people but just like to do it in the comments where its public :) Happy new year to you also!!!
@@Krystal109 You're so sweet Krystal ❤️ I also enjoy seeing your comments, because they always seem so sincer to me ❤️
We all deserv to have our bounderies respected
That's great...I've only ever communicated with Danny through comments and support... I never wanted to bombard him with dms cause it can be hard when someone forces themselves on You! Trust me I know 🤦🏻♀️
This! 100%
I am a 77-year old grandmother of three and live in Germany. The corona confinement made me reorganizing my day, since I live far from my son’s family. That’s how I became familiar with k-pop groups (my favourite one is Astro) and K-dramas (I guess I have already watched more than 200). Thanks to the latter I learned a lot about the Korean history (with the help of Wikipedia), way of life and mentality, an experience that I had been missing before, since Germany had hardly any historical contacts to Asian countries. I even started to learn some Korean to keep my grey matter working. I appreciate your contents very much, all the more as your stay abroad made you understand what information Western people need to better understand your culture. I will not pester you with unnecessary questions, but are looking forward to your blogs. (I do not think that you need any information from me, but if this unlikely case should happen, feel free to contact me.)
The same situation, I am 66 and during pandemic found and fell in love with K-dramas and KPOP, my favorite group is Shinee. Nice meeting you:)
ASTRO!!
@@nadiakaplan4416 great taste!!!
I have too many favourites to mention!!
Thank you:)
Oh, I imagine I would not like anyone calling me the equivalent of 'oppa' in my own language... it's beyond cringe!!! Thanks for explaining to everyone the reality of things. I agree 100%
I would feel uncomfortable calling someone oppa- just in general...
but i'm glad i know what the word actually means now
Lol ..
Just dey play 😢
@@csprinkle54why’s that? I love calling my 오빠 that because he told me to do it so it’s nice that he considers us close to where he wants me to say it :3
3) Regardless of knowing a person or not... messaging someone and saying you feel depressed or suicidal in an attempt to get attention is NOT okay. If you guys know anyone who does this in real life I suggest you contact their loved ones to try and get them help or get out of that toxic relationship / friendship.
I think it's ok to not reply to personal DMs. This is non negotiable for me. I'm a journalist and a writer so I'm very aware of how words can be put out of context. BTW Dan you got yourself a new subscriber because you have interesting content and you have a lovely personality.
I have a suggestion, please do allow yourself to branch out and make vids on the things that interest you. They don't have to be Korea related. You can do reaction videos, or vlog, or even talk about something topical that interests you. In any case just do you. People are on your channel because they like YOU.
Annyongsayo Sophie oopa ❤️
@@chinavirus841 LMFAO PLS SAY THATS WAS SATIRE…
@@chinavirus841 "china virus" wdym by this? do you have any proof that china made this virus?
@@00l80 the virus did originate from Wuhan, China, that’s just a fact. They didn’t “make” the virus but it did come from there
@@alskarmode ok i dislike being liberal but there are several viruses coming from america or brazil as well. but at that time why didn't u said american virus or brazil virus.
Wait so people just randomly message random Koreans? Thats so strange.
I love this video! I'm from Argentina and I'm studying Korean and it's really important to know the culture of every country to learn better their language. Politeness is the clue of everything and you have expressed your personal opinion so nicely that it's a pleasure to watch. Thanks for your video.
Hii
Politeness and respect!!!! Brazil 🇧🇷
I read the title and I am interested in what you have to say about this topic.
Edit: This is a nice PSA( Public service announcement) I’m sorry you had to go through those things. Mad respect to content creators y’all have to deal with a lot of crazy people. Also people forget that content creators are people too and have feelings. Stay safe out here in these streets
there will always be these kinds of people but there are also people who give support :) thank you for understanding!
Me too.. i am really curious. Now I understand.. thanks to you Mr. Dan
This is a great video! I wouldn’t even feel comfortable using the word “Oppa”, maybe because I’m not Korean, so I think it would be strange for someone like myself to use it. I think we should try and be sensitive to other cultures as well as be respectful in general.
I agree with you. Too personal.
There are some reasons "Why Koreans don't reply your messages" as follows:
1. Because of the word "Oppa"? 1:33
2. Don't know anything about you... 4:51
3. Making wrong use of the chats 6:05
4. Rudeness 8:32
5. Asking obvious things 9:48
6. People come and go 11:15
Hi Danny, I'm a girl of Italian origin, I just wanted to take this opportunity to thank you: you share with the world one of the most fascinating cultures I've ever found. I've been following you for a short time, but I always find your content very interesting and exciting! I recently got to know a person of Korean origin, and listening to your advice and suggestions often helped me to communicate better! so thanks again! You are really a good and deep guy. I really appreciate your sensitivity.
Lmao OmG who is random dming random dudes with oppa?! So cringe 😂
These are all excellent points, all completely reasonable, and I think this sounds like great boundaries. Seriously - the analogy of someone coming up to you on the street covered up and saying they want to be friends was a perfect example. Some people forget basic manners just because it's an online interactions. People aren't entitled to replies from you. I'm sorry to hear you've been getting rude messages too. Great boundaries Dan, and this was a very genuine conversation. Happy new year and thanks for your videos!
Some people might see this and be like "He's just saying all the things he hates about DMS", but he's also saying that not everyone doesn't reply because they don't care about your messages. It can also be seen as reassurance that our heartfelt messages - the ones NOT represented in this video - are seen and appreciated.
Hi there, sorry to bother you but i wondered if i could ask a little advice:- what does DMS mean? Afraid i'm pretty rubbish at modern abbreviations! If you don't feel comfortable answering i fully understand. Thank you :-)
@@amy-janefoster982 DMs (Direct Messages) and PMs (Private Messages)
The salution is to stop sending randome DMS. To people you don't know in REAL life. Simple!
This issue really needs to be talked about. I remember being really nervous about calling my Korean friend 언니. She is my good friend and helps me a lot with learning Korean. After seeing this video, I actually asked her about her take on foreigners using these titles and her response really warmed up my heart. She literally said: Oh I hate it when foreigners use these titles not knowing what they mean. But I am happy every time you call me 언니 because you are my precious 동생 and you know exactly what it means. I guess this response sums it up really well for me. Also I realized how lucky I am to have such an amazing friend.
how did you become friends with her?
As a Filipino😊...i heard about this term "Oppa" a dozen times since this K-pop erupted out of the blue. But never I used this word in any conversation since I heard it...why? Because I don't have any idea what it mean and what is the proper way to say it specially if he/she a Korean...grateful for such honest opinion and comment! 😁💗
Omg, I never thought people would send you awful photos, that is out of order.
you are right as politeness is the way to go!
I like the way you explain things and admire your standard. Well done !
I completely agree with what you said. Also, I believe that every healthy relationship should have boundaries set by both parties, no matter what kind of relationship is it about. People nowadays often give themselves the right to say or do certain things just because they support a person. We’re all humans and should be supportive and respectful towards each other.
I really like the content that you’re creating and as someone who is not yet very familiar with the terminology in Korean, I find some of the things that you’re explaining very useful. Keep up with the good work! Greetings from Serbia!
I'm so glad you said this. I see waaaaaay too many foreigners calling Korean guys on TH-cam "oppa" for no reason. I just find it so cringe when people feel the need to use this when they have no relationship with that person at all.
Also, it's really weird when foreigners comment on TH-cam videos that feature Koreans, and constantly compare them to this kpop idol or that kpop idol. "Oh you look like Jiselle" or "you look like Jimin".. it feels very objectifying and obsessive . I see this all the time and wonder why people think this is okay.
Hi Dan, this was a really good message. Just keep doing what you're doing cos I think your channel is really great and we love it. 👌
I think this video is important not just about Korean content creators but ALL content creators worldwide. I have Korean friends, both here in the US and in Korea and try to use the correct honorifics in my conversations with them and referring to them. Yes, it was Dramas and K-pop that got me interested, but it has taken a lot of research and getting to know them on a personal basis before calling them 오빠" (oppa) or"언니" (eonni) as well as making sure that is how they want you to address them. Thank you for your wonderful content, new subscriber here. 감사합니다.
12:55 As a content creator I agree here. Even though I only do YT and therefore usually only have conversations with people in the comments section about the content, I feel close to them when I recognize their username.
In fact, I remember that when my father got really ill and I had to take care of him - and couldn't post videos often - some of the commenters that I recognized were very sweet and supportive when I apologized and explained it. This was really heartwarming, so it would hurt to see those people vanish or unfollow even if we aren't best friends.
I love K-drama and K-pop and have enrolled in Korean language classes at the end of the month. I find your explanations really helpful and your manners very reassuring. The Oppa advice was a great opening.
i wish Dan read ur msg and appreciate ur efforts😂🎉
Same here.
As an American who lived in Korea, I don’t think other Korea spectators realize the depth of the stranger vs. friend aspect. I can speak for Americans, we become “friends” very quickly. I can become friends with a coworker after 8 hours of working together on our first shift lol. But the end of a few shifts together we’ll make plans to hang out and we’ll have shared many things about ourself and have inside jokes and have shifted to light convo. I learned that Koreans keep strangers at a distance for a long time. Even if they’re getting closer they don’t change their titles and speech quickly. In dramas I’ve seen the main couple still call each other ~씨 or 팀장님 by the end of the show even though they’re together. So if you’re planning to visit Korea, stay polite and don’t overestimate your friendships with acquaintances . It’s difficult and awkward for me to keep people at a distance, that’s MY culture, to immediately be warm and relax formalities. But when I’m speaking Korean I should abide by their rules so that there’s no misunderstandings.
I guess online is a bit different then? Me and my 오빠 got close very fast.
Maybe it’s because of online culture
Hi Dan! This was such a good message. Social media these days is more scary than reality. It's difficult to trust people. Thankyou for highlighting this point. You have amazing content. Keep posting!
Agree100%! I ignore about 95% of my DMs because you do not know who's behind the name. Love Danny's post & love learning what not to do.
This is the first time that I came across your account and this was a very intresting topic especially because not many people speaks about this issue. I know that the upcomming hype around Koreans and kpop,... is good but to a certain extend. I am glad that you adressed this issues in a very polite and respectful way and I will gladly want to follow you in the future of what you want to show to the world with respecting your own privacy and boundaries.
I've just realised this video is quite old, but still want to say I completely understand your perspective and support your choices. Social media can create an illusion of relationship that people can exploit - sometimes they might be doing so from their own neediness, sometimes they have a malicious agenda. You are wise to set your boundaries, and it's a good thing to make them clear like this.
At the same time, relationships rooted in, and perhaps conducted entirely on social media can be both honest and real, and can in fact be genuine friendships. I have friends who I met through their TH-cam channels. I'll never meet them - they're on a whole other continent, but they are still real friends to me.
I only recently met your channel, but have very much enjoyed your videos so far. I like your style of simply talking to us as if you're talking to friends - well, that's what it feels like to me. Thank you.
That's an awesome insight into why sometimes, even when all someone does, is express appreciation, they don't hear back. It goes with the territory a bit too, it is humanly impossible to respond to thousands of comments and folks. Thank you, for sharing!
Hi. This is my first time watching you and i just want to say that i completely agree and you explained boundaries and manners and basic human decency to the people who takes content creators for granted very well. Its necessary to tell people when they are crossing a line. Just because you have access to someone doesn't mean you are entitled to be entertained by them just because you follow them. This doesn't only applies to a single culture but overall in general too. People should understand that.
You did a good job here.
Have a nice day ✌🏻
Do you still watch him?
Your whole video was " Spot On". In this crazy mixed up world that we are all living in now days, we are totally loosing the old ways , we stopped being polite to each other, we have no respect toward each other, and we simply have let ourselves forget to respect the boundaries of others.
This was a great video. Its great to see some insights about the reality. And keep making more contents like these. I'm glad I stumbled upon this channel.
Thank you for explaining yourself so well, you speak with great diction and vocabulary, I hope this leads to better respect towards you and others 😊
honestly, this was my first time ever watching one of your videos Danny and my first thought after starting to watch the video was 'it's so sad how people have to go through such horrible experiences simply because others weren't educated well enough to respect other people's time but especially their feelings!' so I am really grateful that this is the first of many of your videos that I've come across!!!! Keep working hard you're doing a great job!!!
I had the exact same feeling
Hey, new subscriber here. Thank you for sharing your advice on this video. I've been able to talk to some strangers on IG. But that's because I said hi to them and they were willing to talk to me. I do this because I genuinely want to know Koreans. And after watching your video I'll be more careful. I agree with you common ground is very important. Thanks again, Dan.
Alternate Title: "All the things I do wrong when I DM Danny"
Edit: By the way, the title choice is really good clickbait. I'm sure this video is gonna blow up.
haha yes I'm learning
Randomly got recommended this on TH-cam and was curious. But the kind of thing you described is the exact reason I don't post pictures of myself online. At least on social media sites that are public and not locked down to people I know or am comfortable with. There are a lot of good people out there, but there are a lot of really creepy people too. At least in my experience and I'm just a regular person and not a content creator, so I can only imagine. Nor am I Korean, so it happens all over the Internet I think. Seems a smart thing to do! Also it really disturbs me when people use fake mental health problems and threaten to off themselves to get attention. That's really not okay. Enjoyed your video!
I love how genuine and open you are in your videos! It's nice to hear about everyday life in Korea in a balanced way that discusses the positives and negatives. You do a great job on your channel.
A personal experience that I have faced a lot when talking to individuals from Korea. They ghost you out of NOWHERE! Like there have been a lot of times when I'd talk to someone for weeks or months then all of a sudden, they're just gone! Idk why this happens or what could be causing it but it does hurt a lot.
Could be a you issue idk
Wow watching this clip really made me feel so naive. I could never have imagined some of the ways that people have interacted with you in DMs. It was such an eye opener.
Thank you Danny for explaining the issues so well and still being so considerate of the motivations behind these behaviours. I hope a lot of people see this clip as it is so easy to forget on social media that behind every account is a human being. Even if we don’t exhibit the kind of extreme behaviour that you described, I think it is very easy to overburden someone without realising.
I think it all boils down to respecting people's privacy, watching what you say, and knowing when to stop
It’s because Koreans want to avoid conflict. It’s better not to reply to crazy people haha
2) I'm actually really good at talking to random strangers, especially when standing in line with them waiting for something, but it's totally different online. I am actually MORE uncomfortable online with random messages because I have no idea who that person is... in the sense that at least in real life I can look at a person and know their gender, ethnicity, general appearance, and body language, etc. You actually know more about a stranger you meet in real life than online.
The only people I talk with online are people that I've approached or met through other people.
I’ll agree with you. I’m the same way as you 😇
@@sameerasultan2028 Yea, catfishing is a HUGE issue online. The whole making fake accts and stealing someone else's identity is insane... and something I at least don't have to deal with irl.
I actually don't mind that in real life if I can tell who the person is. but like if they are covered like the picture and look sus... might be kind of hard. but sometimes online.. you know nothing.
👏👏👏 Completely reasonable and makes perfect sense! I don’t see how anyone could have an issue with this. It’s nice to see someone setting boundaries that are perfectly reasonable and being open about it and why. I hope more content creators feel free to do this as well. Keep being yourself and doing what you need to do to live peacefully and be happy. Hope you have a wonderful 2022!😀🎉
after watching this video and 10 things you are wrong about korea , i became your newest subscriber.🎉🎉🎉🎉..
Hello Dan,
I've discovered recently your YT channel (despite I'm following you on Instagram since quite awhile).All the issues addressed by you in this video are common not only for a korean influencer but for everywhere influencer. Once you become "a public figure " there are a lots of persons that think you "belong " somehow to them..that it's "your job" to endure all negative thoughts or aspects of being "a celebrity "..
I wish you strength to find and keep your good balance in this YT jungle...and looking for your next videos.
Happy New Year's Eve 🎉
I can't say I'm an influencer or a public figure yet but I guess it applies to everyone who is active on social media! I can survive this TH-cam jungle!! thank you and happy new year!
Yup, better to ignore those dm's. One should be nuts to get upset about you not replying them. I've always wondered how public people handle all these messages. I am a nobody, still getting rude,entitled and disgusting dm's from strangers, can't imagine how bad it is for someone with thousands of followers and more. On another note, know there are lots of people who apreciate you and are here with you from the beggining. Stay positive and stay safe!
Hey hey, I'm here because your video popped up with this interesting topic, but it's not what made me write this comment. Honestly, the way you speak english is soo clear and beautiful. I've been living in england for 8 years so far (I'm hungarian) and hearing you've been here too gives me a guestion. How did you polish this beautiful english of yours?^^ I know it's a weird thing to ask, but I could use some advices if you will ever see this comment😀
It's so strange to see people overstep boundaries and not understand that setting boundaries is actually a normal thing to do. Just because you're comfortable with being approached a certain way it doesn't mean everyone is. We have to be more empathetic to other people's feelings and respect their requests regarding their personal space. Great video. New subbie
This is my first time listening to Danny. Spelled right? I thought this video was important for listeners of blogs and channels period. Certain etiquettes have been ignored across the social media sphere. This approach was gentle and respectful to those stepping over the lines. I must say I want to listen to more of his content and decide if I will keep his work in my library.
As an Indian, I feel that a lot of those stupid girls would be Indian teens. I mean in Indian culture, yes we call strangers as brother and sister and it's completely normal for us but they don't understand it's not the same everywhere. What's more annoying is they won't use their native language or English (in which they would message because they don't know korean) but use Korean or Chinese honorifics/titles for you as if they were born there.
I have literally seen girls growing a dream of finding their "Korean lover". It's both cringey as well as concerning.
Hi Dan, this is your first ever video that i have watched and i feel that each and every point that you have mentioned is quite genuine . You have done the right thing by setting your boundaries, as it is very important for the sanity of mind and also because sometimes people tend to take advantage and use it the wrong way. Also a very happy new year, a new follower here 😊
Same here a very sensible young man, definitely following such good advice 🤗
Ps how come with such clear boundaries on politeness for Koreans, do so called 'fans' treat Artists so badly, just because they are unhappy about something? So sad.
This is my first time seeing one of your videos, and I think it's great that you feel comfortable enough to set boundaries with your audience. I think it's a great start to forming a community! Also, I couldn't agree more about your comments regarding "oppa." I have been living in Korea for 3 years, and I've date my boyfriend for one year. When I was asked what I wanted to call him as we became closer, I refused to call him "oppa" simply because I couldn't bare the thought of me, a foreigner, calling my Korean boyfriend that. I don't want to be seen in a negative light just because of the stereotype surrounding that word...
I love the fact that you mentioned that people known on social media got feelings, that's a great point lots of the time people forget that ure human just like them and honestly that's so absurd. but I like the fact you let them know and ure always positive. love your work by the way. all the best.
Yes, yes, yes and YES!! I could not agree more with it all. As I tell my nine year old: manners cost nothing! No excuse for rudeness, especially to a stranger. Some people think the world owes them something Danny. Greetings from England 🙋😊😊
I have a question, is there a cultural correlation as to why a Korean friend / acquaintance might suddenly ghost you? I sometimes wonder if it is to avoid confrontation or not to lose face or coz nothing inside them cares enough to continue the friendship e.g. they just grew apart from you.
For someone whom used to get really hurt by it (I know not just Korean do it), especially when unexpected but a saying helped me, that their absence/not responding is their answer and that's your closure.
The few times I have ghosted or blocked someone was after they repeatedly crossed my boundaries despite me asking them politely not to, e.g., being vulgar, using sexual innuendos when I'm not into that.
There was a friend I had, whom I could understand why they ghosted me coz it happened after they dismissively told me "racism doesn't exist in Korea".
As a Swede, I can't believe it took me over 10 minutes to notice how it says "Stockholm" on your shirt (capital of Sweden) lol
So weird that this was posted on the 1 yr anniversary of my father's passing. I actually sent a DM asking Danny about Korean culture on death anniversaries since my family is coming over, but I ended up deleting it because I didn't want him to feel obligated to reply. I DO THIS A LOT!
Edit: And yes I can Google, but I was more curious if Danny's family also does anything, which I can't Google.
Oh I didn't know. but you can also ask me in the comments or tell me to see the message haha....We do it every year. we have a ceremony. you can copy and paste this word and check the pictures " 기제" or "제사"
@@ThizisDanny It's not like you missed the message, I just unsent it because I didn't want to burden you.
Same 🥲
I even tend to forget that I sent a message or left a comment
My condolences to your family and have a good new year
I found this video surprising on so many levels, other than how people act with social media figures, I really appreciate that you took the time and effort to speak honestly about how this makes you feel. It shows how considerate you are to your followers and that you take what you do seriously. You have set good boundaries for yourself and I hope people can learn from you and respect other social media figures.
Sending you best wishes!
I’m glad you talked about this because that’s not what I expected as a beginner learning Korean. I haven’t talked to many Koreans yet and I don’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable, so I’m glad I learned this early!
this is my first time coming across your channel and i really appreciate that you addressed this because most creators don’t. maybe they’re worried about the reaction it would get but it’s so so important to set boundaries and make everybody feel safe & comfortable at the same time. you’re doing so good and seem very genuine and down to earth
I have watched a couple of your videos and enjoy them. I am a 57 year old canadian/hungarian woman who retired recently to budapest. Now that I live in Europe and have time to travel Asia has been on my bucket list. I would like to visit Japan and South Korea. If anyone on here on youtube would like to share if or any tips as an older woman and her husband is it easy to travel around as an older person, safety wise, etc. My husband and I are fairly fit and we like to walk a lot. I am not a computer person just started googling these things and really the internet is not something I like to be on in general.
I'm really glad I came across this video. Finally I can get to follow a Korean guy on youtube who shows sincere videos and topics while bridging the Korean ways to the world from a male perspective. Looking forward to more of your videos.
Great remarks! I hope someday you will talk about why you feel K-drama became international. I watch it all the time. The acting, cinematography, directing, etc. are top rate. Also, the majority of stories either in films or series are exceedingly well done. Has Korea been developing schools that teach acting and all aspects of filmaking? Also very impressed by K-pop. Music is catchy and staging from sets to electronics and dancing has no pier anywhere on earth !
This is why you make videos about yourself on TH-cam. Your REAL self. Then, and ONLY then, esp. if the other person is doing the same thing, you can chat for real.
Do most people do this? No.
This is one of the FUNDAMENTAL problems with ALL social media...
This was actually nice. Great content 👍. I hope whoever is affected or was affected by this ( having there messages not replied) I hope they somehow understand why.
Way to go explaining that. I totally understand and relate to that 💯
Hi Dan,
This is my second time to have read your contents, and honestly I can feel the honesty you are conveying to us.. I am totally impressed with how you express your points of views on delicate matters, and I am grateful 😊 I have come across your account.. thank you for all these personal views of yours.. you are sooo eloquent in the English language, knowing not a lot of Koreans can speak it..and you are sooo genuinely nice and respectful of your views.. keep it up, and I will keep on following you and your views.. 🙏👍👏😍☀️💕🌈
Was it difficult for you to learn English? It's really fluent 🥰 and this video was so relevant😊
I'm super early wow. I just discovered your channel a few days ago and I am really enjoying your videos. You personality is really great too lol good vibes here.
Respect to you for addressing this topic so calmly because I can imagine at times it is probably frustrating to receive such DMs. I hope people see this video and can learn from it.
Glad you are here!!! these DMs can be frustrating but there are tons of DMs that are sweet also :) thanks for watching!
You are so patient and nice to explain all of these things. It's too bad it's not just common sense to people. I just came across your channel, and wanted to say, good job. You're helping people to become more thoughtful towards others, and that's always something to be commended.
Actually nobody care about korean if they answer or nop ..
Idk why i found this video on youtube
Best line on the video… let’s RESPECT each other!! You are sooo right! I’m Colombian and you can imagine how we get all sorts of cultural nasty comments, “jokes”. As you say we cannot judge all the population of a country based on kdramas or in my case bad news. You got a great point. Also let’s be considerate, public people, celebrities, influencers, etc, are not obliged to be friends with every follower or fan. I LOVE that you are mature, well spoken, open minded and most important you talk about FEELINGS … I wish all young people were like you. 👍💪🏼🥰
I just found this video in my recommendations and I clicked out of curiosity. I really appreciate the fact that you take time to explain all these things in such detail. I’m into K-pop lately, so I have an interest in Korean culture. Moreover, I would like to thank you for explaining about the “oppa” word, because I didn’t know that it could be used in a wrong way from a foreigner and make someone feel uncomfortable. Fortunately, I have never used this word, however now that I’m aware of this, I will be even more careful. I would also like to say, that you seem a really considerate and polite person.
Sorry for my bad English. I’m not a native speaker. ☺️
Actually you don't have to be Korean to have that kind of principle.