Seeking Romance With ADHD: Assortative Mating?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 ส.ค. 2024
- Assortative mating is the tendency for people (or other animals) to seek out individuals similar to themselves as romantic/procreative partners. In other species, body size and coloration are characteristics subject to assortative mating. In humans, both physical traits (height) and socio-cultural traits (religion, ethnicity, income level) have been shown to be subject to assortative mating. Is ADHD one of these traits?
Of the tiny number of studies directly addressing this subject, we have some evidence that supports that those with ADHD are more likely to choose other individuals with ADHD as their partners. If assortative mating truly exists regarding ADHD partner choice, this has implications for individuals with ADHD, their relationships, any potential offspring, and for research on the genetics of ADHD.
Some couples therapists claim that in addition to assortative mating, they see disassortative mating - an increased likelihood that someone with ADHD will choose a partner very unlike themselves, who will bring complementary traits to the relationship. There is even less research addressing this question, and the implications it holds.
References:
Birds of a Feather: An Examination of ADHD Symptoms and Associated Concerns in Partners of Adults with ADHD (2022)
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Patterns of Nonrandom Mating Within and Across 11 Major Psychiatric Disorders (2016)
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Comparing Within- and Between-Family Polygenic Score Prediction (2019)
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One versus two biological parents with mental disorders: Relationship to educational attainment in the next generation (2023)
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agreed...i feel like folks are missing out-especially those of us that crave specific information as opposed to most speakers/doctors/therapists/psychs that all seem to be following the same topics... cheers
@@foxybyproxy Thank you. I know I won't match everyone's tastes.
I appreciate the support!
Thanks for covering this, it's super interesting and a new idea to me, but makes sense on so many levels with my partner, mostly I think in relation to being outside-the-norm, which could have been the result of us being perceived as being different as we were growing up, and not fitting in.
oh, gosh! all i know for sure is that after 20 years of treatment i still can't find or attract anyone lasting...in fact, i am currently on an 'apology tour' with the partners i was lumped in with before i was medicated (and during) ...to try and explain why i was such a freak, emotionally and intimately. i just didn't know what i didn't know, ya know? so far, the response has been good! i suppose they figured something was up with me...and then, because the response is so warm, i dig them again. hahahah- jesus, what a mess.
I'm curious about how to assess my own mental health and the likelyhood of success with different treatments with with more accuracy. Specifically, I'm wondering if there is a way in psychiatry/psychology to use statistical analysis/clustering to find other patients like me and see what worked for them, rather than looking at only one DSM entry and seeing what works for that general group of people who meet that criteria. I feel like the constellation of my problems/diagnoses as a whole is a more accurate descriptor of what my neurodivergence is specifically, and what treatments are most likely to be effective based on past patients. For example, I have ADHD, BFRBs (excoriation disorder worse than trich), major depression, generalized anxiety disorder, substance abuse disorder, and gender dysphoria (I'm a trans woman) - though most of these oscillate severity-wise in and out of the clinical range over the course of months or years. I've also had a single bout of psychotic depression and non-suicidal self-injury disorder several years ago. This probably doesn't exist but i'm imagining a node-linked map database where you can see an array of disorders and the strength of connections in terms of comorbidities, successful treatments, unsuccessful treatments, prognosis, etc. One could enter in some health data and mental diagnoses and see where they fit in this topological space to get a more granular picture of their health, see likely genetic variations, and see what helped others like me. If this doesn't exist do you think something like this will be common/possible in the near future? Thanks for your videos! I really appreciate the ones on LGBTQ and BFRBs lately since excoriation and being trans have been the two biggest hurdles i've faced, and with incredibly little research relative to their prevalence and impact on people.
Really good question. I'm not aware of any such databases being set up so far, in part because so much academic psychiatric research is condition specific and/or funded by drug companies. On the other hand, I would be extremely surprised if the Big Data Google/Apple/Microsoft/Amazon.... companies aren't already collecting and analyzing information along these lines, and making fairly accurate predictions from it.... but won't let us know until their projected profits exceed the costs of protecting them from invasion of privacy lawsuits. (And I think that there is actually something hopeful, and not just completely cynical, in what I just wrote.)
Self authoring, Jordan Peterson, check it out.
@@DrJohnKruse I see the grounded hopefulness. We live in a timeline where stockholders can sue corporations responsible for our health for maximizing anything other than profit, which says a lot about how the legal system reflects societal values. But when that profit-maximization zombie force aligns with something positive in the world I'll toast to it!
@@myr8902 I've read and watched plenty of Jordan Peterson. Not impressed anymore - he's gone off the deep end. Not to mention it's a guy who's entire rise to public awareness stemmed from a dumb semantics hang-up that showed his ignorance and an undercurrent of malice towards trans people like me. Not to mention being a complete hypocrite not taking responsibility at all in owning up to his own addictions issues, blaming his doctors and playing a fool. Are you really going to tell me a psychologist who taught at Harvard and did years of research/paper-writing on the GABAergic effects of alcohol intoxication/alcoholism did not understand that benzos carry any addiction risk!? What a clown.
@@AnnularFrisson thank you!
Intersting research. Can we do one that covers male vs female rate on marry partner with adhd vs non adhd?