In your 20's listen to your parents. That's only if you have good parents who are NOT toxic and crazy. Your parents love you and wants what's best for you. Parents see what we do not see. So don't put your parents advice in the trash. You may not always agree with your patents, but hold on to their advice.
I totally agree with this. Unfortunately, I have such a bad and toxic relationship with my parents and they aren’t in my life. Now, as an almost 22 year old, I advise anybody in their 20’s to listen to their parents if they are good and present parents. I would give anything to have parents who are involved in my life and advise me with any decision making I need.
I think take it with a grain of salt. Most parents are not ill intentioned. But I do believe that some parents have different life goals than their children, so their advice will come from a different place. But still I agree listen to it, and learn how to make educated decisions
So true 🙌🏽 I grew up being mostly obedient (sometimes begrudgingly 😂) and now that I’m older I really appreciate the things I’ve been spared simply because I listened to my parents
I’ve just turned 30 and I FEEL FREE! lessoned learnt, ups and downs, friendships come and go, your circle gets so small, you find yourself, you learn ALOT! and life’s just getting started, i thought at 21 I was SOOOO OLD and I’m looking back and laughing so hard, time goes VERY FAST, party, travel, date, find your passions, change careers if your not happy! I could go on and on xxx
30 is an awakening for real. I always heard people say they feel like it's just beginning at 30 I never believed them until I hit it. It's been an amazing feeling :)
Ain’t that the truth 😂😂😂 An elder has told me that my 30s will be an awakening for me and things that I thought were a big deal will suddenly be the least of my worries, and I will no longer give a F$%k 😂😂😂😂😂 and they didn’t lie. My circle of friends is so small it’s scary because I have finally learned to let people go when they wanted to go and not be a people pleaser and be miserable 😂😂😂 Praise God
I love that Israels daughter genuinely LOVES YOU Adrienne and that you love her too!! That's so heartwarming to see! You're gonna be a great mom one day! "It's part of the plot" :)
@@aidasa3791 I don't think she's obsessed! Adrienne said in a video a while ago that her and Mariah are great friends and she loves being around her as well! Adrienne also stated that's she very happy that they're as close as they are!
@@aidasa3791 haha so glad someone else noticed. She's imitating A as well but ok, I understand lack of self-esteem so fingers crossed for both of us 😅 And yeah, I'm also annoyed she's in these videos
You don’t necessarily have to date around a lot to find the perfect guy. You can also pay attention to your friends relationships to know what you do or don’t want. Being in a relationship means learning each others habits and likes/dislikes and how to make each other happy
I’m 25 and every time I think something is hard I look back at my life to see all the things I’ve already gone through to know it’s built strength for this moment & if I can go through that I can go through this. ❤️
I’m in my 50s. Great conversation, learn from your mistakes, don’t take things too personally so you can forgive and move on, don’t be a “perfectionist” bcuz that’s a sign of insecurity.
Your 20s are crazzzzyyy! I just turned 28 and I'm thinking back on it and it's hitting me that it's all about lessons and learning that nothing will break you. You get back up and keep going.
Watching these videos with Adrienne speaking life with Mariah gives me a glimpse of what kind of mother Adrienne will be - an understanding, loving, teaching mom ♥️♥️♥️
I’m coming up on my last year in my 20’s, and man have there been some plot twists and character development! I completely relate to Mariah in that I always use to get caught up in making mistakes, but I’ve definitely learned to not always see things as right and wrong. Sometimes neither choice is wrong or bad, and we just have to remember that ALL things work together for our good, including the bad. So even if it’s bad God is using it for our good.
I found Jesus when I was 23 and second I never gained weight. But other than that I would never want to go back to my 20s. Things I wish I knew in my 20s: more information about mental health
@@an67481 There’s nothing wrong with being 37 childless and single. Everybody’s journey is different and not everyone is going to get married and have children which is perfectly fine. Stop forcing one lifestyle on everybody.
@@an67481I kindly disagree. It’s not wise to push children and a husband on all women because we aren’t all meant to be wives and mothers. Some of us are better by ourselves and that’s okay. Nothing’s worse than knowing your parents didn’t want you or when they take all their frustrations out on you as if you asked to be here.
Your 20s are full of so many plot twists its exhausting. Being 26 has been the hardest year of my life. ‘What do i not know now that i will in 6 months time’ is the truest stuff i have heard and ive been feeling this way for a while and i thought i was the only one.
I love this. I just turned 30 this year and lately every time I think back on my mistakes in my 20s and how much I've grown since then, I'm always like "God sure did snap on my character development🔥" lol 😂
The setting, the discussion, the makeup, the fashion, the girls.. everything about this episode was incredible. You need to do a series with Mariah, she’s so adorable
I’m 28 and I totally relate to Mariah. Be patient with yourself, observe and learn from other peoples mistakes, surround yourself with people who bring you peace and joy, invest in yourself, and learn different things. Educate yourself on topics that will benefit you, learn about different cultures, become a worldly person
Thank you, Adrienne. Exactly, it's hard spotting those kinds of behaviors if you've never experienced them before. I beg women, men - anyone that's just getting back into the dating scene to please read up on narcissistic abuse! Check out books, read articles. Read up on psychopaths/sociopaths. Note exhibited behaviors and how it occurs and what it looks like. Do it before jumping into the dating pool. Though these kind of indivuals, you can run into them anywhere, your place of work, school etc. It's hard to spot in the beginning if you've never seen it before and you don't know what it is. It's real and the damage can unfortunately be fatal at times. When dating, always trust your gut. Cut ppl off real early. Think 3 strikes and you're out! You don't owe anyone anything. Don't ignore those red flags/explain them away. Listen to yourself and note what your body and intuition is telling you. Put your needs and wants first!!! If you're made to feel guilty, it may be manipulation. Be kind to yourself and know you're worthy of love and respect, always. I wish someone sat me down and explained at an early age, wish I knew before starting a relationship with a person lacking a soul.
I was 20 when my mom died of cancer so i figured after that nothing that happens to me good, bad, or indifferent will even come close to the challenges i faced with losing my mother early in my adult years. I was just starting college when she got sick so i had to navigate my classes and helping where i could with caring for her because she had been diagnosed with cancer. I actually ended up not finishing college because through some solid advice from my grief counselor who later became a life coach for me said that perhaps i needed to find a different path to take since the one i was on wasn't working but i didn't know to get out of it. So i ultimately chose to leave school with no regrets because after awhile i realized i wasn't doing it for the right reasons. I was only in college because education was so important to my mom that i didn't want to disappoint her. But after she died i had this ah ha moment where i could finally be truthful to myself about what it was that i wanted to do. It took a few years but i finally got my life back together and i'm doing what makes me happy so that's what i wish i knew back then was that it is okay to do what i want even if it doesn't always match with what my parents wanted for me.
Thank you so much for sharing this, i lost my mum a year ago and it feels like my life has been falling apart ever since. I used to lean and depend her for just about everything that when i wake up everyday i genuinely sometimes dont know what im doing. I feel so helpless and depressed because i would like to somehow still prove myself to her but infact im still trying to prove myself to myself. I hope i get to the point where im genuinely happy again and when i feel like im on the right track. Its been tough without her .
@@jamieleeangela condolences to you on your mom it absolutely is a gut wrenching experience. My advice to you is continue leaning on your family and close friends who you are actually comfortable with being extremely vulnerable because grief is a hard emotion to express. Allow yourself to feel whatever your feeling and talk it out whenever it pops up cause it helped me so much when i had somebody sit beside me who i could trust and just listen and lent so much emotional support
Thank y'all so much for this 💕 I am about to turn 29 and have learned many of these lessons, but I had never had the mindset of mistakes and errors and unideal situations being "part of the plot". What you said Adrienne about God telling you that its part of what is going to make you stronger and make your story so much better and equip you to help others who go through the same situation really wowed me. Its so true! My current tribulation is being single. I've been single all my life and its really been getting to me lately, because I just really want to be loved and wanted and have that life partner so bad, but it helps to think when God finally brings me that man that he knows I need, its going to be that much sweeter after the long wait 💕
Hello Simar, It's good to be your own best life partner so that you can attract the best for you. Don't wait for someone else. Buy yourself flowers, gifts, do what you love doing you will find likeminded people💜
I just loved how Adrienne you described how deception can sharpen your intuition and enhance your ability to trust your instincts or discern when something is off. "you would never know unless you experienced it." very well explained Ade.
Yes when you’re in that chapter it is harder to see beyond. I can relate to Mariah so much as I too am very hard on myself when I do something wrong. I’m 35 going onto 36 and still struggle with this. ❤️ But I take one day at a time and learning to show myself grace.
The part where Adrienne said you will learn to trust your gut along the way was on point. That has been one of my biggest lessons. When I would get that gut feeling in my 20's I doubted myself or thought I was being too sensative. Now I know yes that was a red flag.
If I could give any advice it'd be that just because a man is interested in you doesn't mean that he respects, values or even likes you. Someone being interested in you isn't enough to build a relationship on. Also if someone belittles, berate, demeans or degrade you that person doesn't truly appreciate, like, value or respect you. Be with people who appreciate you. This goes for dating and actual friendships. There is a difference between someone tolerating you and someone celebrating you. Life is too short to spend it around negative people who degrade or belittle you just to make themselves feel better about their own shortcomings. And that's for anyone in their 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's or that has a pulse. I had a conversation with a woman in her mid 70's who said that her husband yells at her, puts her down and argues with her daily. She said that it was too late for her to start over. As long as you have a pulse it's not too late.
I love this!! I’m turning 30 this year and I’m scared about what my 30’s will bring but I definitely am excited about what they will bring. My 20’s were pretty hard because I had to take on the role of caretaker at 22, I became a first time Aunt (or Tia) at 24, I moved to a different state to do my masters at 25 (almost 26), I lost my dad at 26 1/2 and I didn’t get my drivers license until I was 28. My advice: Make sure you fill your own cup; It’s fine to help people but if you don’t fill your own cup then it’s not going to be good.
Becoming 30 was a blessing. My 20s was hard, confusing and I didn't feel confident in myself. In my 30s I am unapologetically myself and feel more comfortable In my skin.
Perfectionism is the personification of giving into fear of embarrassment/failure. It is an obsession with control that we deseparately cling to, trying to feel comfortable in every unknown situation. It is unsustainable and I have learnt the best way to avoid this is to remember it is not about ME, the criticism is about my work, my timeliness, my personability, my execution of a task or efficiency but it is never about me personally and that really helps put things in perspective for me. I think as a musician myself, I had to quickly develop an understanding of this!
In your 20s you're absolutely clueless but you learn a lot about yourself. You realize sometimes you won't be done with school or get you dream job. As longest you're doing the work and studying.
Confirmation is CRAZY. Was just talking to a friend of mine about these things today and hearing yall discuss so much of what's been troubling my mind for the last month has really settled my spirit. "It's for the plot" is being added to my many quotes that I live by!
Refreshing , grown classic women conversations that are relatable and healthy for all of us! It took me back into my 20’s; and now that I am my early 30’s I totally agree that your 20’s set the tone and make you the person that you need to be .
I’m 23 & I loved every second of this! 💕I struggle so much with being ok with failing bc I’m DEFINITELY a perfectionist & I’m so dang hard on myself! This video helped me to realize that there’s beauty in imperfection…it’s building character & teaching me something. Im literally just gonna live & trust God! Such wise advice 🙏🏾 Thank you Adrienne & Mariah! 💝
Love “it’s for the plot”! I’m 25 and loving this era of life. I just went on my first solo trip, I’m headed to grad school, loving Jesus, and committed to making memories!
I’m 25 and seeing the first video really inspired me to start being more confident in a lot of things. To no be so low in my self esteem. I take all of this into consideration and need to apply it every day. Thank you adrie you have definitely changed so much in my life 💕💖💙✨
This video came right on time! I recently turned 24 and I'm really trying to figure out my life, my career and myself as a person. I've been reflecting and creating more positive habits to help myself be a better me. I'm taking notes from this chat!
You better come through w part 3!!!! Most excellent advice! I'm 48 yrs old and everything you covered is solid and true! If I had a chance to talk to my 20 yr old self...I would tell...start therapy asap...stay in it! Boundaries! Boundaries! Boundaries! Spend time solo...learn you!
I just love Mariah! I most definitely am in my “for the plot” sitcom era. I just keep learning and having my own opinions and I am UNMOVABLE in my boundaries. Friend break ups, new relationships, moving back in with my parents to save more money, talking to my siblings more is all FOR THE PLOT!!
Sitting down with my stepdaughter to just talk about life and future expectations for her is the best feeling ❤️ For me, being part of that and to watch a young lady grow up, and somehow bei g responsable for how she turned out, is awesome! Not all stepmoms are awful or rude, not all stepdaughters are little brats... Some of us, are really greatful for each other. This is some good content!
Born and raised in Hawaii were fortunate to have so many diversity here. It also helped me experience so many things and learn. I’m 29 and still trying to find myself. It’s never too late to know who you are and never too late to change who you want to be 💕
Im 19 going to be turning 20 in like 8 months, I really haven’t been thinking about what my 20s is going to be or how or why, but I’ve been feeling lost, unsure, mentally not okay, and insecure, with a relationship, myself, my future, friends, and family recently. But I saw this video and I clicked on it and it helped me get an insight on how I should not worry and to be gentle with myself, thank you so much, I love this video, this video felt real and encouraging. 😊
In 20's wow those were days of different experiences but now I am so wise like I see through a lens of life and I utilize my past experiences to not repeat anything wrong or anything that would hurt my inner. Made it so far. 🙌
I’m in my 40’s and I needed to hear some of this!! LUUUVVVV these segments with the two of you 💕 Literally one of my favorite things to watch! So real and applicable and “ah-ha” moments 💖 Keep ‘em coming🙏🏽👍🏽
Can relate to all of this! In my 30's now and realizing the amount of stress when trying to have it all together or from being so hard on yourself is not worth it! Interviews from the longest living people always have one thing in common WORRY LESS! It's for the plot, y'all. I love that!
My favorite one yet! A 25 year old here and everything you said was soo true! I’m so glad I got through the tough times and heartbreak because it made me so much stronger today and it taught me what I want for myself in the future. Thank you for this!
I’ll be 21 later this yr so these videos are right on time 💕😭✨ I love how Mariah mentioned she’s a Virgo - ergo a perfectionist 💅🏽 - in the last 20s ATA vid. I’m a Virgo-Libra so I relate so much to all the questions she asks about wanting real friendships, great dating life, fulfilling career, etc - balance & perfection all at once 😭😂. (Also, the equipment of these new episodes of ATA make them feel so intimate🥰! And Mariah & Ade look beautiful as always 💕💕✨)
I'm the same age as Mariah and I relate to the messing up part! 😭 What you said about relationship is exactly what I've been going through! I feel like I've outgrown my 7 year relationship... It's like I'm clinging onto a relationship that I feel that maybe doesn't serve us anymore and I want the best for him. But I feel a bit guilty about It... I've tried to bring it up to my boyfriend a couple of times but I always chicken out. And he wanted yo propose and I had to tell him not to because I wasn't ready... When honestly I kinda want out but I don't want to hurt his feelings..
Hey!! I understand it’s a difficult decision but you’re not doing him any favours by staying with him when you want out. It might be better that you put an end to it sooner rather than later, so that you can both move on. Wishing you the best. ❤️
@@arigrande2647 I know it's not fair to him. But I feel so bad about hurting his feelings when he's a good person. When I tried to talk to him, I told him that lately the relationship has been a bit like a burden or a chore that I have to do. And he quickly told me that I must be feeling that way because I've been stressed with college and I just lost my grand-mother as well. And that obviously plays a role as well but he also told me that he's not going let me break up with him. And that kinda freaked me out a little bit because he's super chill so that surprised me !
I have just turned 32 things I wish I new and felt in my 20s are...time flys appreciate your youth. YOU are enough heck more than enough. REJECTION IS PROTECTION. Start saving sooner x
Yo! Please make a part 3 …. I love love loveeeeeeeeee these tips! I just turned 30 and let me tell you, I don’t want to repeat my 20’s! Love you both so very much! Thank you for being so candid! 💗💗💗
I’m 26 years old and I loved all the advices in this video, I will definitely but implementing them into my life especially the ones about taking risks and making mistakes in order to learn and grow.
Yessss!!! @4:44 I love these conversations that you two have! Especially about thanking God when things don’t go as planned…. That’s him gearing us onto the path that is meant for us! ❤️💕
I read this book called Mastery of Self & it talks about how we play roles in people lives and we let those roles define who we are. Like I'm a mother so I'm super woman. Or I'm a wife so I'm modest & classy. & We let those titles & how we show up for them define us. & Adrienne you reiterated to get to know yourself. I'm also 25 & I started realizing a lot of things I was doing, buying, whatever just wasn't who I was. So I started this journey of getting to know me.
I'm 68 yrs young and I still deal with trying to be perfect! This started in my late teens and has continued... not to be better than others just to be my perfect self that others will be want to be around and my home will be inviting!!
Just from personal experience, I don’t believe you have to date different people to find what you are looking for, I don’t believe you need to experience the bad to appreciate the good, that might of been her experience but it doesn’t have to be for all, when you have a close relationship with God and you pray for God’s desires to be yours, He will absolutely 💯 lay out the man He has for you.. and will also give you discernment to know! Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4
Echoing here... PERFECTION is IMPOSSIBLE!!! I definitely be feeling some anxiety sometimes of trying to not mess up or say the wrong thing or trying to be the right vibe so everything in my life can go well, but then I remember and sometimes have to remind myself real quick that I am a muh'f***in catch and am amazing and I can channel this anxiety in a good way to make sure I cover all of my bases for an interview or a date or a hang or a reunion, as long as I remember to be myself and trust my instincts of being authentically me cus that has worked out for me before. Love what you guys said about being able to laugh at yourself. That right there is so important. Major key for being able to enjoy life, even the little or even big embarrassing things. Like if no need to beat ourselves up over something, then let's not waste our energy on that and conserve it, then use it on much more enjoyable and beneficial things/moments in our lives.
As her age mate, I totally relate to everything Mariah is saying! So relatable! So real! And when you are in it, you really do literally feel like that chapter is all there is to you… Thanks for this ladies Ade, I am a fan of yours😍
Thank you guys 😍I’m 25 I totally relate to everything your saying Have learnt to forgive myself and love myself more and more importantly discovering my relationship with God
Hi ladies, this was a good conversation. 🙌🏾 I think when you’re in your 20’s, some people don’t know how to take advice. You’re still learning yourself and trying not to make mistakes. As we get more mature, we start to realize that those mistakes are learning curves. And that’s okay! A, I love how you talked about holding hands in a relationship. I never thought of it that way. I really enjoyed this video, more please! ❤️🥰 Tfs, great tips from the viewers too.
1. How to fight and stand up for yourself just as much as you do others? 2. How to not be your own worst enemy? 3. Learning/reinventing yourself? 4. Self reflection and how to identify your own toxic trates?
Ladies you once again nailed it!💜💕 This was aaamazing to watch and coming from a woman in her late 30’s these are all on point. “It’s part of the plot” really stuck by me. God bless your relationship ladies!🥰🙏🏽
I am turning 30 in months but honestly I loved my 20’s and I thank God for my 20’s and thank God for family, the elderly and most of all the Bible for impacting wisdom into me. Cheers to more learning, greater blessings and fulfillment.🙏🏽🙏🏽😊
I'm 33 and I know I haven't gone further in life because I'm scare of failing and not to fail I just don't go forward with certain jobs or goals. I hate it because I know I'm going to regret it.
When you are no longer feeling a relationship, especially with your friends, don't be afraid to say that YOU need space. How someone feels about you setting your boundaries, is not your concern. Make yourself a priority to preserve your mental health. "I love you, but...." saying "but" just negates everything you said prior to that. There's no "but" in love. Either you do or you don't. Love is complete acceptance. "The hardest lesson everyone has to learn in their 20's, you are NOT the main character in everyone else's story. You are the main character in your own story." - Halsey from a 50 yr old, with love❤
I’d love to see a video featuring Mariah’s mom, I remember she posted something on Instagram thanking Adrienne for her friendship. I’d love to hear more about blending families
I am 22 and A is such a role model for me in my walk with the lord and in the business Word. These veidos are great. A you should totally do a video and you walk with God. Love you guys ❤❤
OML! Mariah is so beautiful and sophisticated at just 25. I was a bull dog pushing boundaries in my career at 25… At 32, I’m now learning to enjoy life and live. Not to pressure myself and recognize that what’s for me is for only me. Mariah is poised and sooo intelligent- so in tune with life. You guys are so fucking dope. What a lovely family. Can I come to thanksgiving dinner this year???? Lol!!
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In your 20's listen to your parents. That's only if you have good parents who are NOT toxic and crazy. Your parents love you and wants what's best for you. Parents see what we do not see. So don't put your parents advice in the trash. You may not always agree with your patents, but hold on to their advice.
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So beyond true!!!!
I totally agree with this. Unfortunately, I have such a bad and toxic relationship with my parents and they aren’t in my life. Now, as an almost 22 year old, I advise anybody in their 20’s to listen to their parents if they are good and present parents. I would give anything to have parents who are involved in my life and advise me with any decision making I need.
I think take it with a grain of salt. Most parents are not ill intentioned. But I do believe that some parents have different life goals than their children, so their advice will come from a different place. But still I agree listen to it, and learn how to make educated decisions
So true 🙌🏽 I grew up being mostly obedient (sometimes begrudgingly 😂) and now that I’m older I really appreciate the things I’ve been spared simply because I listened to my parents
I’ve just turned 30 and I FEEL FREE! lessoned learnt, ups and downs, friendships come and go, your circle gets so small, you find yourself, you learn ALOT! and life’s just getting started, i thought at 21 I was SOOOO OLD and I’m looking back and laughing so hard, time goes VERY FAST, party, travel, date, find your passions, change careers if your not happy! I could go on and on xxx
30 is an awakening for real. I always heard people say they feel like it's just beginning at 30 I never believed them until I hit it. It's been an amazing feeling :)
@@FayesFood 100% agree, I’m ready for this chapter for sure xx
Ain’t that the truth 😂😂😂 An elder has told me that my 30s will be an awakening for me and things that I thought were a big deal will suddenly be the least of my worries, and I will no longer give a F$%k 😂😂😂😂😂 and they didn’t lie. My circle of friends is so small it’s scary because I have finally learned to let people go when they wanted to go and not be a people pleaser and be miserable 😂😂😂 Praise God
Yes I just turned 30 too 🎉🎉🎉 I feel you. Going to apply to teachers college … switching that career path 👏🏼
I love that Israels daughter genuinely LOVES YOU Adrienne and that you love her too!! That's so heartwarming to see! You're gonna be a great mom one day! "It's part of the plot" :)
She’s obsessed and it’s a bit annoying that she’s in eve eh other video but then again they’re not very far off when it comes to age could be sisters
@@aidasa3791 I don't think she's obsessed! Adrienne said in a video a while ago that her and Mariah are great friends and she loves being around her as well! Adrienne also stated that's she very happy that they're as close as they are!
@@aidasa3791 haha so glad someone else noticed. She's imitating A as well but ok, I understand lack of self-esteem so fingers crossed for both of us 😅
And yeah, I'm also annoyed she's in these videos
@@indigo_blue_s2830 maybe we should have you in them instead😂 ugh
@@aidasa3791 annoying? family doing things together is annoying? Ugh
We need more of these little “GIRL CHATS” - reminds me so much of the topics we may have heard on the Real. 😁
Right?? 😁 Love this
Agreed!
Yes the early days
You don’t necessarily have to date around a lot to find the perfect guy. You can also pay attention to your friends relationships to know what you do or don’t want. Being in a relationship means learning each others habits and likes/dislikes and how to make each other happy
I’m 25 and every time I think something is hard I look back at my life to see all the things I’ve already gone through to know it’s built strength for this moment & if I can go through that I can go through this. ❤️
Girl why is this my life! It’s how you get through the broke days too!
I’m in my 50s. Great conversation, learn from your mistakes, don’t take things too personally so you can forgive and move on, don’t be a “perfectionist” bcuz that’s a sign of insecurity.
Your 20s are crazzzzyyy! I just turned 28 and I'm thinking back on it and it's hitting me that it's all about lessons and learning that nothing will break you. You get back up and keep going.
Watching these videos with Adrienne speaking life with Mariah gives me a glimpse of what kind of mother Adrienne will be - an understanding, loving, teaching mom ♥️♥️♥️
And she's had her son 😭😭😭😭😭
I’m coming up on my last year in my 20’s, and man have there been some plot twists and character development! I completely relate to Mariah in that I always use to get caught up in making mistakes, but I’ve definitely learned to not always see things as right and wrong. Sometimes neither choice is wrong or bad, and we just have to remember that ALL things work together for our good, including the bad. So even if it’s bad God is using it for our good.
I found Jesus when I was 23 and second I never gained weight. But other than that I would never want to go back to my 20s. Things I wish I knew in my 20s: more information about mental health
In the words of Carrie Bradshaw “Enjoy yourself that what your 20s are for. Your 30s are to learns lessons. Your 40s are to pay for the drinks” 💜
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If you only learn in your 30s you may come to be 37 and childless and single. 👎Maybe should start learning a bit earlier I say ❤❤
@@an67481 There’s nothing wrong with being 37 childless and single. Everybody’s journey is different and not everyone is going to get married and have children which is perfectly fine. Stop forcing one lifestyle on everybody.
@@an67481I kindly disagree. It’s not wise to push children and a husband on all women because we aren’t all meant to be wives and mothers. Some of us are better by ourselves and that’s okay. Nothing’s worse than knowing your parents didn’t want you or when they take all their frustrations out on you as if you asked to be here.
Your 20s are full of so many plot twists its exhausting. Being 26 has been the hardest year of my life. ‘What do i not know now that i will in 6 months time’ is the truest stuff i have heard and ive been feeling this way for a while and i thought i was the only one.
I love this. I just turned 30 this year and lately every time I think back on my mistakes in my 20s and how much I've grown since then, I'm always like "God sure did snap on my character development🔥" lol 😂
The setting, the discussion, the makeup, the fashion, the girls.. everything about this episode was incredible. You need to do a series with Mariah, she’s so adorable
I’m 28 and I totally relate to Mariah. Be patient with yourself, observe and learn from other peoples mistakes, surround yourself with people who bring you peace and joy, invest in yourself, and learn different things. Educate yourself on topics that will benefit you, learn about different cultures, become a worldly person
Thank you, Adrienne. Exactly, it's hard spotting those kinds of behaviors if you've never experienced them before. I beg women, men - anyone that's just getting back into the dating scene to please read up on narcissistic abuse! Check out books, read articles. Read up on psychopaths/sociopaths. Note exhibited
behaviors and how it occurs and what it looks like. Do it before jumping into the dating pool. Though these kind of indivuals, you can run into them anywhere, your place of work, school etc. It's hard to spot in the beginning if you've never seen it before and you don't know what it is. It's real and the damage can unfortunately be fatal at times.
When dating, always trust your gut. Cut ppl off real early. Think 3 strikes and you're out! You don't owe anyone anything. Don't ignore those red flags/explain them away. Listen to yourself and note what your body and intuition is telling you. Put your needs and wants first!!! If you're made to feel guilty, it may be manipulation.
Be kind to yourself and know you're worthy of love and respect, always.
I wish someone sat me down and explained at an early age, wish I knew before starting a relationship with a person lacking a soul.
I was 20 when my mom died of cancer so i figured after that nothing that happens to me good, bad, or indifferent will even come close to the challenges i faced with losing my mother early in my adult years. I was just starting college when she got sick so i had to navigate my classes and helping where i could with caring for her because she had been diagnosed with cancer. I actually ended up not finishing college because through some solid advice from my grief counselor who later became a life coach for me said that perhaps i needed to find a different path to take since the one i was on wasn't working but i didn't know to get out of it. So i ultimately chose to leave school with no regrets because after awhile i realized i wasn't doing it for the right reasons. I was only in college because education was so important to my mom that i didn't want to disappoint her. But after she died i had this ah ha moment where i could finally be truthful to myself about what it was that i wanted to do. It took a few years but i finally got my life back together and i'm doing what makes me happy so that's what i wish i knew back then was that it is okay to do what i want even if it doesn't always match with what my parents wanted for me.
Praying for you& Thank you for sharing your story it inspires more than you might know!
We wish you well.
Thank you so much for sharing this, i lost my mum a year ago and it feels like my life has been falling apart ever since. I used to lean and depend her for just about everything that when i wake up everyday i genuinely sometimes dont know what im doing. I feel so helpless and depressed because i would like to somehow still prove myself to her but infact im still trying to prove myself to myself. I hope i get to the point where im genuinely happy again and when i feel like im on the right track. Its been tough without her .
@@jamieleeangela condolences to you on your mom it absolutely is a gut wrenching experience. My advice to you is continue leaning on your family and close friends who you are actually comfortable with being extremely vulnerable because grief is a hard emotion to express. Allow yourself to feel whatever your feeling and talk it out whenever it pops up cause it helped me so much when i had somebody sit beside me who i could trust and just listen and lent so much emotional support
Now this is life lessons learned ! Very powerful 👏🏽🙏🏽
Thank y'all so much for this 💕 I am about to turn 29 and have learned many of these lessons, but I had never had the mindset of mistakes and errors and unideal situations being "part of the plot". What you said Adrienne about God telling you that its part of what is going to make you stronger and make your story so much better and equip you to help others who go through the same situation really wowed me. Its so true! My current tribulation is being single. I've been single all my life and its really been getting to me lately, because I just really want to be loved and wanted and have that life partner so bad, but it helps to think when God finally brings me that man that he knows I need, its going to be that much sweeter after the long wait 💕
Hello Simar,
It's good to be your own best life partner so that you can attract the best for you. Don't wait for someone else. Buy yourself flowers, gifts, do what you love doing you will find likeminded people💜
I just loved how Adrienne you described how deception can sharpen your intuition and enhance your ability to trust your instincts or discern when something is off. "you would never know unless you experienced it." very well explained Ade.
What I've learned: be yourself; don't beat yourself up; and don't be afraid to take risks/go after something you believe in wholeheartedly!!
Yes when you’re in that chapter it is harder to see beyond. I can relate to Mariah so much as I too am very hard on myself when I do something wrong. I’m 35 going onto 36 and still struggle with this. ❤️ But I take one day at a time and learning to show myself grace.
The part where Adrienne said you will learn to trust your gut along the way was on point. That has been one of my biggest lessons. When I would get that gut feeling in my 20's I doubted myself or thought I was being too sensative. Now I know yes that was a red flag.
If I could give any advice it'd be that just because a man is interested in you doesn't mean that he respects, values or even likes you. Someone being interested in you isn't enough to build a relationship on. Also if someone belittles, berate, demeans or degrade you that person doesn't truly appreciate, like, value or respect you. Be with people who appreciate you. This goes for dating and actual friendships. There is a difference between someone tolerating you and someone celebrating you. Life is too short to spend it around negative people who degrade or belittle you just to make themselves feel better about their own shortcomings. And that's for anyone in their 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's or that has a pulse. I had a conversation with a woman in her mid 70's who said that her husband yells at her, puts her down and argues with her daily. She said that it was too late for her to start over. As long as you have a pulse it's not too late.
i’m 24 and in the last video I learned to know how to pivot, now i’m learning certain things are just “for the plot” 😩 this was AMAZING 💕
I love this!! I’m turning 30 this year and I’m scared about what my 30’s will bring but I definitely am excited about what they will bring. My 20’s were pretty hard because I had to take on the role of caretaker at 22, I became a first time Aunt (or Tia) at 24, I moved to a different state to do my masters at 25 (almost 26), I lost my dad at 26 1/2 and I didn’t get my drivers license until I was 28. My advice: Make sure you fill your own cup; It’s fine to help people but if you don’t fill your own cup then it’s not going to be good.
Becoming 30 was a blessing. My 20s was hard, confusing and I didn't feel confident in myself. In my 30s I am unapologetically myself and feel more comfortable In my skin.
Perfectionism is the personification of giving into fear of embarrassment/failure. It is an obsession with control that we deseparately cling to, trying to feel comfortable in every unknown situation. It is unsustainable and I have learnt the best way to avoid this is to remember it is not about ME, the criticism is about my work, my timeliness, my personability, my execution of a task or efficiency but it is never about me personally and that really helps put things in perspective for me. I think as a musician myself, I had to quickly develop an understanding of this!
In your 20s you're absolutely clueless but you learn a lot about yourself. You realize sometimes you won't be done with school or get you dream job. As longest you're doing the work and studying.
Confirmation is CRAZY. Was just talking to a friend of mine about these things today and hearing yall discuss so much of what's been troubling my mind for the last month has really settled my spirit. "It's for the plot" is being added to my many quotes that I live by!
Refreshing , grown classic women conversations that are relatable and healthy for all of us! It took me back into my 20’s; and now that I am my early 30’s I totally agree that your 20’s set the tone and make you the person that you need to be .
I’m 23 & I loved every second of this! 💕I struggle so much with being ok with failing bc I’m DEFINITELY a perfectionist & I’m so dang hard on myself! This video helped me to realize that there’s beauty in imperfection…it’s building character & teaching me something. Im literally just gonna live & trust God! Such wise advice 🙏🏾 Thank you Adrienne & Mariah! 💝
Love “it’s for the plot”! I’m 25 and loving this era of life. I just went on my first solo trip, I’m headed to grad school, loving Jesus, and committed to making memories!
I’m 25 and seeing the first video really inspired me to start being more confident in a lot of things. To no be so low in my self esteem. I take all of this into consideration and need to apply it every day. Thank you adrie you have definitely changed so much in my life 💕💖💙✨
This video came right on time! I recently turned 24 and I'm really trying to figure out my life, my career and myself as a person. I've been reflecting and creating more positive habits to help myself be a better me. I'm taking notes from this chat!
You better come through w part 3!!!! Most excellent advice! I'm 48 yrs old and everything you covered is solid and true! If I had a chance to talk to my 20 yr old self...I would tell...start therapy asap...stay in it! Boundaries! Boundaries! Boundaries! Spend time solo...learn you!
True!
I just love Mariah!
I most definitely am in my “for the plot” sitcom era.
I just keep learning and having my own opinions and I am UNMOVABLE in my boundaries.
Friend break ups, new relationships, moving back in with my parents to save more money, talking to my siblings more is all FOR THE PLOT!!
I love their conversations, how they explain it, Mariah's maturity, and communication skills. Keep these coming please! you're a great team!!
Sitting down with my stepdaughter to just talk about life and future expectations for her is the best feeling ❤️ For me, being part of that and to watch a young lady grow up, and somehow bei g responsable for how she turned out, is awesome! Not all stepmoms are awful or rude, not all stepdaughters are little brats... Some of us, are really greatful for each other. This is some good content!
Born and raised in Hawaii were fortunate to have so many diversity here. It also helped me experience so many things and learn. I’m 29 and still trying to find myself. It’s never too late to know who you are and never too late to change who you want to be 💕
Im 19 going to be turning 20 in like 8 months, I really haven’t been thinking about what my 20s is going to be or how or why, but I’ve been feeling lost, unsure, mentally not okay, and insecure, with a relationship, myself, my future, friends, and family recently. But I saw this video and I clicked on it and it helped me get an insight on how I should not worry and to be gentle with myself, thank you so much, I love this video, this video felt real and encouraging. 😊
In 20's wow those were days of different experiences but now I am so wise like I see through a lens of life and I utilize my past experiences to not repeat anything wrong or anything that would hurt my inner. Made it so far. 🙌
I’m in my 40’s and I needed to hear some of this!! LUUUVVVV these segments with the two of you 💕
Literally one of my favorite things to watch! So real and applicable and “ah-ha” moments 💖
Keep ‘em coming🙏🏽👍🏽
Can relate to all of this! In my 30's now and realizing the amount of stress when trying to have it all together or from being so hard on yourself is not worth it! Interviews from the longest living people always have one thing in common WORRY LESS! It's for the plot, y'all. I love that!
I'll be 19 tomorrow and I'm so grateful for this advice beforehand ❤️
Happy birthday!🎉 God bless and guide you ❤
Please include your mom in part 3, would love to hear the wisdom of even more years lived😍
I hope she's included loni, grace and Ray 👍👍
My favorite one yet! A 25 year old here and everything you said was soo true! I’m so glad I got through the tough times and heartbreak because it made me so much stronger today and it taught me what I want for myself in the future. Thank you for this!
I’ll be 21 later this yr so these videos are right on time 💕😭✨ I love how Mariah mentioned she’s a Virgo - ergo a perfectionist 💅🏽 - in the last 20s ATA vid. I’m a Virgo-Libra so I relate so much to all the questions she asks about wanting real friendships, great dating life, fulfilling career, etc - balance & perfection all at once 😭😂. (Also, the equipment of these new episodes of ATA make them feel so intimate🥰! And Mariah & Ade look beautiful as always 💕💕✨)
Same, I'm a virgo-libra too. Yo, the comment section is 🔥🔥🔥😎
We’re definitely going to need a part 3! Love listening to the two of you talk
I'm the same age as Mariah and I relate to the messing up part! 😭
What you said about relationship is exactly what I've been going through! I feel like I've outgrown my 7 year relationship... It's like I'm clinging onto a relationship that I feel that maybe doesn't serve us anymore and I want the best for him. But I feel a bit guilty about It...
I've tried to bring it up to my boyfriend a couple of times but I always chicken out. And he wanted yo propose and I had to tell him not to because I wasn't ready... When honestly I kinda want out but I don't want to hurt his feelings..
Hey!! I understand it’s a difficult decision but you’re not doing him any favours by staying with him when you want out. It might be better that you put an end to it sooner rather than later, so that you can both move on. Wishing you the best. ❤️
@@arigrande2647 I know it's not fair to him. But I feel so bad about hurting his feelings when he's a good person.
When I tried to talk to him, I told him that lately the relationship has been a bit like a burden or a chore that I have to do. And he quickly told me that I must be feeling that way because I've been stressed with college and I just lost my grand-mother as well.
And that obviously plays a role as well but he also told me that he's not going let me break up with him. And that kinda freaked me out a little bit because he's super chill so that surprised me !
I have just turned 32 things I wish I new and felt in my 20s are...time flys appreciate your youth. YOU are enough heck more than enough. REJECTION IS PROTECTION. Start saving sooner x
Mariah is such an amazing speaker. She can articulate her feelings so quickly, it’s pretty great.
Girl same! I had a life defining moment a few days ago and my anxiety has been THOUGH THE ROOF!
Same here, but time, patience, my prayers and I utilize positive affirmations, and meditation helped me get through major anxiety much at peace now.
Yo! Please make a part 3 …. I love love loveeeeeeeeee these tips! I just turned 30 and let me tell you, I don’t want to repeat my 20’s! Love you both so very much! Thank you for being so candid! 💗💗💗
In 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's and on just ... Live Your Life.
I’m 26 years old and I loved all the advices in this video, I will definitely but implementing them into my life especially the ones about taking risks and making mistakes in order to learn and grow.
YES!! Your word life heavily informs your thought life. And I absolutely love the theme “it’s for the plot”, lolz 😂. It’s adorable!
Yessss!!! @4:44 I love these conversations that you two have! Especially about thanking God when things don’t go as planned…. That’s him gearing us onto the path that is meant for us! ❤️💕
I read this book called Mastery of Self & it talks about how we play roles in people lives and we let those roles define who we are. Like I'm a mother so I'm super woman. Or I'm a wife so I'm modest & classy. & We let those titles & how we show up for them define us. & Adrienne you reiterated to get to know yourself. I'm also 25 & I started realizing a lot of things I was doing, buying, whatever just wasn't who I was. So I started this journey of getting to know me.
“It’s for the plot.” So heartwarming
I'm 68 yrs young and I still deal with trying to be perfect! This started in my late teens and has continued... not to be better than others just to be my perfect self that others will be want to be around and my home will be inviting!!
Just from personal experience, I don’t believe you have to date different people to find what you are looking for, I don’t believe you need to experience the bad to appreciate the good, that might of been her experience but it doesn’t have to be for all, when you have a close relationship with God and you pray for God’s desires to be yours, He will absolutely 💯 lay out the man He has for you.. and will also give you discernment to know! Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4
Yes but we also need to practically put ourselves out there. Just saying
I love these life lessons from Adrienne. At 35, I've learned a lot from your channel. Thank you Adrienne.
Echoing here... PERFECTION is IMPOSSIBLE!!!
I definitely be feeling some anxiety sometimes of trying to not mess up or say the wrong thing or trying to be the right vibe so everything in my life can go well, but then I remember and sometimes have to remind myself real quick that I am a muh'f***in catch and am amazing and I can channel this anxiety in a good way to make sure I cover all of my bases for an interview or a date or a hang or a reunion, as long as I remember to be myself and trust my instincts of being authentically me cus that has worked out for me before.
Love what you guys said about being able to laugh at yourself. That right there is so important. Major key for being able to enjoy life, even the little or even big embarrassing things. Like if no need to beat ourselves up over something, then let's not waste our energy on that and conserve it, then use it on much more enjoyable and beneficial things/moments in our lives.
I love that "it's for the plot"!! I just turned 28 and I can relate to a lot of this.
As her age mate, I totally relate to everything Mariah is saying! So relatable!
So real! And when you are in it, you really do literally feel like that chapter is all there is to you…
Thanks for this ladies
Ade, I am a fan of yours😍
Thank you guys 😍I’m 25 I totally relate to everything your saying
Have learnt to forgive myself and love myself more and more importantly discovering my relationship with God
Hi ladies, this was a good conversation. 🙌🏾 I think when you’re in your 20’s, some people don’t know how to take advice. You’re still learning yourself and trying not to make mistakes. As we get more mature, we start to realize that those mistakes are learning curves. And that’s okay! A, I love how you talked about holding hands in a relationship. I never thought of it that way. I really enjoyed this video, more please! ❤️🥰 Tfs, great tips from the viewers too.
1. How to fight and stand up for yourself just as much as you do others? 2. How to not be your own worst enemy? 3. Learning/reinventing yourself? 4. Self reflection and how to identify your own toxic trates?
Adrienne you are sooo wise!! I love your advice! And I love how you are so chill! You give us hope! 🙏🏻❤️
Ladies you once again nailed it!💜💕 This was aaamazing to watch and coming from a woman in her late 30’s these are all on point. “It’s part of the plot” really stuck by me. God bless your relationship ladies!🥰🙏🏽
This feels like a podcast/hanging out with your best friends, I feel like I’m in the “room” and I absolutely love it 💗💗💗
Lol through the years is cute to see
How much Mariah admires you to the point she seats, dresses, sounds, uses her hands like you ❤️.
Miss Thing, I so enjoy your style of realness. Please continue on this path of exploration. It can be appreciated at all ages!
Thank you for another sweet girl chat. We’ll get through our 20’s and come out wiser and better!
I am turning 30 in months but honestly I loved my 20’s and I thank God for my 20’s and thank God for family, the elderly and most of all the Bible for impacting wisdom into me. Cheers to more learning, greater blessings and fulfillment.🙏🏽🙏🏽😊
I'm 33 and I know I haven't gone further in life because I'm scare of failing and not to fail I just don't go forward with certain jobs or goals. I hate it because I know I'm going to regret it.
It’s never too late! Take a leap of faith 💛 you can do it!
I love the wisdom Adrienne has OMG. God bless you.
I am 29 .lots of lessons learnt and I am looking forward to my 30 I feel like life is going to get better ..thank you for this talk show ❤️❤️
I'm 25 too and WOW. Thank God I learned from it all. Nothing gets passed me anymore.
When you are no longer feeling a relationship, especially with your friends, don't be afraid to say that YOU need space. How someone feels about you setting your boundaries, is not your concern. Make yourself a priority to preserve your mental health.
"I love you, but...." saying "but" just negates everything you said prior to that. There's no "but" in love. Either you do or you don't. Love is complete acceptance.
"The hardest lesson everyone has to learn in their 20's, you are NOT the main character in everyone else's story. You are the main character in your own story." - Halsey
from a 50 yr old, with love❤
Maria is a young sister Adrianne never thought she needed. I love you guys so much 💕
I’d love to see a video featuring Mariah’s mom, I remember she posted something on Instagram thanking Adrienne for her friendship. I’d love to hear more about blending families
IT'S FOR THE PLOT -- wow that is a sermon! Thank you girlies! Love it when you two get together. Missed Mariah 🙂
The “it’s for the plot” concept just changed the trajectory of my life. Love you ladies ❤
Our 20s define who we’re going to be in our 30s. I’m literally learning that every single day. Lessons on lessons! No pressure 😮💨
I'm also 25 and can totally relate when it comes to dating. No commitment = time to move on.
I really appreciate this series! A lot of what I’m learning now isn’t what I thought I would learn in a million years.
MARIAH SPEAKING TO MY SOUL. Wow I’m so happy I came across this at THE MOST aligned time🙏🏼💘 love these thank you queens👑
I love y’all’s relationship ❤️ we need more videos of the two of you together 🙌🏼
And don't just have boundaries... communicate them
NEEDED this. freshly 20 and i sometimes feel like a deer in headlights. you are an inspiration to so many, keep doing you girl❤️
Great conversation! Loved the beautiful relationship between stepmom & stepdaughter! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Love love love love these 20s life hacks! Part 1 helped me in some ways and i just watched part 2 at the right time
I struggle with perfection. It's actually a form of pride and like you said you need mistakes to grow. We can change 💕❤
Exactly, as a teacher, I tell all my students, “Practice makes better. That “Perfect” is not realistic or real.” 💕
The Queen is back. I missed her so much
Thank y'all so much for these videos. I'm 21 and they feel like a hug from the big sister I always wished I had. Thank you thank you!
I am 22 and A is such a role model for me in my walk with the lord and in the business Word. These veidos are great. A you should totally do a video and you walk with God. Love you guys ❤❤
So happy you’re giving yourself more grace & embracing failure Mariah!
I loved this lil episode so much ❤️. Adrienne and Mariah are so authentic.
OML! Mariah is so beautiful and sophisticated at just 25. I was a bull dog pushing boundaries in my career at 25… At 32, I’m now learning to enjoy life and live. Not to pressure myself and recognize that what’s for me is for only me. Mariah is poised and sooo intelligent- so in tune with life. You guys are so fucking dope. What a lovely family. Can I come to thanksgiving dinner this year???? Lol!!